Isn't the new boyfriend at the end saying "it's not about what's on the outside, it's what's on the inside that counts" totally implying that he also finds her unattractive? Which he's also saying in front of her. Good job man.
Yeah, it's a response to fatshaming that is still implicitly fatshaming. The goal (for me) is body positivity. Acceptance that chronic illness and disability are a normal part of life and not humans are 100% healthy and some NEVER CAN BE and that's fine. Some people are fat and that's fine. If you are a wheelchair user with a degenerative neuromuscular condition being treated with harsh corticosteroids, ya gonna be fat. The steroids make you gain and retain weight and your body literally killing your muscles will greatly limit your ability to exercise. Other people are genetically predisposed to carry weight. Have other medical conditions that lead to weight gain and retention or immobility. Are on medications that cause weight gain and retention. But beauty is subjective and tons of people find fat people attractive. Tons of people find disabled people attractive. In a way that recognizes our humanity and not a creepy fetish-y way. If a guy told me it's what's on the inside that counts, I would take all this body elsewhere.
It's such a black and white portrayal, she can't just be fat she also has to be downing burgers and fries instead of eating salads to imply if she just ate differently she could totally turn things around. There's never any point where she's like "No, I'm going to eat what I want" or something, it's literally just "You did this to yourself but he's the badman so he needs to stop while you find a guy who also doesn't like the way you look but is the good man."
@@janeeyre1990 The thing is 99% of fat people don't have some disease or genetic predisposition keeping them fat, just an extremely unhealthy lifestyle. And being fat is by itself unhealthy, the human body can't handle those kinds of proportions. I'm talking about obesity here though, not being chubby or whatever and beauty and attraction is a whole other topic.
"He started missing the way Ashley used to treat him." Okay, but if he doesn't find her attractive then he'd only be with her because she treats him well. It's still a shitty relationship.
What? I thought your girlfriend was like a mate you just enjoy hanging out and that magically fixes you not being sexually attracted. Isn’t everyone situationally asexual
“He started missing the way Ashely used to treat him...” and then I wanted the narration to say “... and the way he used to treat her.” And then he realized what he wanted and needed in his life was a low self esteem person who was nice to him that he could treat like crap in return.
@Random Username The amount of times I've seen athiests barrage a post for slightly referencing Jesus is borderline parody I actually thought the "Reddit athiests" thing was a joke but after the fourth time seeing it I realized, it really isn't. They're just actually like that LMAO I theorize it's probably a autism thing where they don't pick up on social cues (not insulting or anything)
@@almond3066 every social media like reddit has people like that because the idea of a community away from the real world will draw in or create people with zero social skills. It’s why Twitter is bad as well.
Just gonna point out, we do learn her name (the character's at least). I don't wanna be an ass about it, just saying referring to her as "the fat chick" isn't really very cool. Also, just gonna put it out there A) She really isn't that heavy, and B) Big girls are hot, this whole thing is dumb XP IMHO Ashley > Violet
This would literally only make sense if it was a blind date. He’s constantly surprised that she wears clothes and is fat and she’s constantly surprised he doesn’t like that she’s fat
Because like with all Dhar Mann videos, there is a really potentially deep and nuanced message underneath the sketches but the sketches themselves ruin all subtlety and nuance and realism that it doesn't have anything to offer. Imagine if she was skinny when they got together. That little detail alone would have made the sketch so much more compelling.
You would be absolutely blown away at the amount of fat fetishists there are who are too insecure to be seen in public with the people they are attracted to. I honestly believe fat fetishists are almost if not just as common as foot fetishists, the only difference is foot people are more likely to admit it.
Dharr Mann lives in a similar world but everyone is good/evil literally black and white morality, no grey zones or edge cases, instantaneous vilification and heroism
Also let's not forget that the good guy most of the times ends up rich with an expensive car and a super sexy girlfriend while the bad guys are still poor feeling jealous
@@henryhammond7393 At least Cool Cat and Breen are charming due to their low quality and suprising amount of soul. These videos are just soulless, corporate, shit disguised as wholesome entertainment for the whole family
It’s a really lovely message. If you’re fat then you can’t be attractive in any way and have to rely on your personality alone for a partner. You might be nice but they will despise how you look. Thanks Darr Mann, cool beans:)
Well... your personality SHOULD be the most important aspect. And there is literally nothing wrong with disliking a person's appearance while being in a relationship with them, what matters is respect and understanding. If a person likes obese people, more power to them, but the reality is that being fat does put you at a disadvantage in terms of attractiveness and you can either work on the weight problem or find people who are willing to accommodate your condition
@@coletrainhetrick "and there is literally nothing wrong with disliking someone's appearance while being in a relationship with them" While true, it's incredibly uncommon Like yes, you can cherrypick examples online. But the vast majority of people won't date someone they aren't physically attracted to Sadly I've seen stories like this alot with disabled people, I've seen many times disabled people talk about how difficult it is to date if their appearance isn't considered "attractive"
@@almond3066 yes and that's something that falls on people needing to expand their minds to see if they can be comfortable in a relationship with someone they don't consider attractive. I don't disagree with you, you simply are bringing up a different part of the conversation separate from why I was commenting on this person
It's funny how the characters in the Dhar Mann Universe go from 0% to a 1000% self-awareness and/or instantly realize the errors of supposedly their entire lives. Sometimes you get hit by a realization real hard, but these characters just instantly change and it's unrealistic beyond words
I mean, my problem is that everything in these videos is unrealistic, not only the "realisation" moment. Bad acting doesn't help, of course. I always wonder how do these vids are supposed to "change lives", while being so disconnected from reality?
You cannot have a character be the sort of confident person who gifts her own swimsuit like “hey babe, happy birthday! This is what I’ll be wearing later hehe ;) “ while also taking her bf’s constant verbal abuses, like she would not stay with him long enough to buy him birthday dinner lmao
Could you imagine meeting a guy who you suspect is the ex-boyfriend of your current girlfriend and then he asks you if you are embarrassed about dating her in front of her? Yeah, that would warrant a different reaction than what happened here lol
RIGHT? id imagine the "are you serious?" sentence like he first said but then it should prolly follow with a "fuck you" or something along the lines of that
What would be hilarious would be if that comment awakened something in the other guy and poisoned the relationship, and from that point on he started treating her like her old boyfriend.
So basically the moral wasn’t that big people are beautiful the way they are, but that if you like them enough, being fat is something about them you have to tolerate. What a great message, Dharr Mann
It's so weird how there's absolutely no nuance at all with these videos, at first I thought they were harmless and they had dumbed down yet valuable messages but this is just so weird, unrealistic, counterproductive and childish. They literally make dozens of thousands of dollars in revenue with each video and it looks, sounds, and feels so unbearably unprofessional. How could you not feel embarrassed about making these?
I lol'd when the guy says "I miss how you used to make me feel". The narcissism that makes itself felt through this guy's writing is so palpable. These sketches always end up painting people as valuable only when they have money, fame, etc. which is pretty unfortunate
Dhar Mann lost the chance for a wonderful joke! The waiter comes with the food, says "sorry for the wait" and he answers "yeah, I am sorry for her weight!" come on, this stuff writes itself...
These videos are like if people 10000 years in the future were trying to reenact what life was like in the past, but all they had to go on was daytime television
Now all I can think about is imagining what it would be like if thousands of years from now, people were to look at these videos and assume this is what society used to be like. 😂
I know I said it in the last video but I saw a job listing for Dhar Mann as a video editor. I wouldn’t be able to handle that shit, I’d be laughing at the footage, especially without that music
I love how the "nice" boyfriend calls his girlfriend ugly to her face. - Aren't you embarased of being seen with her in public - It's what's on the inside that counts
@@LenOnTheDoor0000 you could throw the question back to him “why would I be embarrassed?” In a tone that implies his question was stupid. Or you could say something like “it can’t be that embarrassing if you are here trying for a second chance”
i like how the social structures in these videos are so artificial that it starts out with a couple at "maximum health" and then one character just insults the other for 5 consecuitive minutes until the "natural real world state" of the relationship is reached where they cant possibly be together anymore beacuse they just hate each other^^
"Was she skinny when they first started dating?" This is another huge question that isn't addressed. He could be going through a crisis of loving her but losing the attraction as she got bigger (albeit being horribly rude and disrespectful to her). But nah; black/white, no grey area. Preferences don't exist!
I mean either way he would be a bad boyfriend because if your partner is gaining weight, you should probably check in with them. Sometimes weight gain/overeating is symptomatic of mental/emotional issues. Some people are just bigger forever, some people are thin forever, but if you see a change from fat to skinny or skinny to fat, you should just make sure they are okay, especially if they are your significant other. You don't have to be a dick about it either. "Hey, I noticed your weight is changing, is everything okay? You should schedule another visit with the psychologist." Other times weight change can signal something serious in the physical department, like cancer. It's just a good idea to check in and make sure the other person is okay for a WHOLE lot of reasons actually. If you see your partner getting fatter and all you can think about is how mad or disappointed it's making you, maybe you should stop being so selfish. That's all I'm saying.
@@randomperson8571 You do have a big point and I agree with you at the end but this generation basically made it so people believe "oh you can be healthy at any weight" or "you can be fat and healthy" or if people actually are concerned about your weight, either if you are over or underweight, then it can be deemed as offensive.
@@icychoiceclaw1908 You don't just decide to become a Sumo Wrestler. It's an immensely rigorous and challenging lifestyle choice that some people spend their entire lives aspiring to be. Also, there's a huge difference between bulk and fat.
I'm not too familiar with Dhar Mann, but from what little I have seen I feel like just about all of his videos would be almost exactly the same, except with the thing the person is being made fun of for swapped out.
I said this in a comment earlier, but he has a video that plays out exactly like this, just replace "fat" with "tall". Cr1TiKaL watched it which is where I saw it
The funny thing about the message at the end that I was surprised Adam didn't pick up on was that the new boyfriend saying "it's not about what's on the outside, it's about what's on the inside" basically just called his girlfriend ugly.
This guy went from being a broke nerd, to owning a company after saving his money, to having an totally awful car, to being a therapist, to fatshaming his girlfriend. He’s got a lot going on for him. P.S. All of the antagonists in these videos are so cartoonishly evil.
There is something fishy about Darr Mann. He comes off as an Instagram type. Someone who portrays them self as “wholesome and perfect” when in reality they are fake and just smart business people. I already know he was convicted of fraud in 2014, but my gut keeps telling me something else is going on... might just be me being paranoid. Either way, the cringe levels are too high to watch even a reaction of those videos
He really couldn’t just say that he finds her attractive and appreciates her as a person and everything she does? Instead he still technically calls her ugly lmao wtf
Make Adum watch the one where a man rejects his tall gf, and the one where a woman rejects her short bf. They are almost the exact same video as this one
Maybe I'm alone in this, but I've seen this kind of dynamic a lot in relationships. The term is pulled from those creepy pickup artist guys, but it's called "negging." You shame a person, usually for who they are or things they can't change, to keep their self-esteem low so they become dependent on your approval and unable to leave the relationship. It's a means of control. I saw my dad use it on my mom, I had boyfriends try it on me when I was young and insecure. I would say it's actually quite common.
@@janeeyre1990 pickup artists are literally just "how to manipulate your partner into a realtionship they can't leave", like are there any that actually give good advice?
To be fair, the waitress is screwed either way. Give her the salad the girlfriend thinks she's fatshaming her. Give her the burger she gets mad because she assumed the girlfriend wanted the burger because she's thicc.
dhar manns videos are like SPAWNING a lion and a sheep together in a box, watch the lion eat she sheep. and then dhar mann comes and blames the lion for eating the sheep and claims that he changed anyones life.
It's SO weird how they completely disregard the woman's appearance. She is pretty and many people would find her attractive. _Only_ talking about "what's on the inside" makes it seem as if the douche is completely right about her weight making her hideous but "it doesn't matter what's on the outside", as if that was his only sin and not like.. constantly verbally abusing and putting her down, being ashamed of her. He'd be a douche about _something_ even if she wasn't heavy. Even the new boyfriend at the end said the reason he doesn't mind her weight is her personality. It would've been better if he had said "WTF are you talking about, she is so hot, I like curvy girls", showing that preferences vary. But I know Dhar Mann is too simplistic for that. They didn't even care to explain why those two were together in the first place, it wasn't believable and there was nothing about her gaining weight so she must've always looked that way. In reality, you're completely allowed to be with someone you find physically attractive - nothing wrong with that. Usually, a person's face and body and personality and confidence and intelligence and kindness and humor all blend into one clear attraction. Cruel or self-centered or aggressive attributes can make someone actually look _physically_ offputting, while being super funny or intelligent or kind will make people more attracive, even if they are average or below in terms of "conventional attractiveness". Just look at how many comedians have really hot spouses! But it's not just about settling for their looks in exchange for personality or other traits - they form a sort of package, and there's genuine attraction. Obviously there are exceptions and sometimes people just go for looks, but assholes with good looks either don't get very far with their relationships or they just attract other assholes, so don't feel bitter about that "unfairness". I've been in relationships with all types of people, appearance-wise, but they tend to share similar attributes. I like people I feel totally safe and comfortable with, intelligent people who are curious and have passion towards _something,_ who are compassionate and generous without always expecting something in return, who have a sense of humor, and are a little different. Of course I need to feel attraction too and sex matters a lot - I've made the mistake of getting into a relationship where I didn't find them attractive AND they didn't even try to satisfy my needs, despite me talking openly about them. I just figured I should to give him a chance, and not judge based on appearances, but if the attraction isn't there, it's not gonna magically appear after 2 months. I really don't know why I stayed (even after some behavior I don't like slowly became apparent, too, so I didn't like him much in any way), it wasn't fair for him, nor me. I'm actively working on it and figuring myself out, tho. On the other hand, my ex who I lived together with, was already very much balding when he was 20, but at the same time he had such a nice face and smile and he was so chill and humorous, he always made me laugh and feel good with his goofiness. He was musically inclined, liked outdoorsy stuff. And he did have a pretty nice body, especially later when he got more into running and weights. My point is that even though strictly outwardly he was sort of average looking or little above, he was glowing with charm and wit and a chill yet confident attitude, which made him certifiably *hot.* How attractive you find him (or anyone) depends on what kind of person you like, but certain things (like humour and confidence) tend to charm most people. So it's not just about what's on the inside _or_ outside, they both matter and influence each other. You might think you don't want to date someone overweight, but then find yourself being very attracted to one who just has all the other attributes that charm you. If you feel doomed by your appearance and resign to the "fact" that it's the _only_ thing why people don't want to date you, it's very possible that people pick up on that attitude and generally your behavior. Do what you can in terms of hygiene and other things that you can affect, and then act interested in the other person, listen, and be confident in who _you_ are, don't fake it or try to be and say whatever you think they want. I just saw sixteenleo's video about Skippy, the virgin who once appeared on TV and is somewhat known for that. He does TH-cam now and filmed a first date for that (not secretly), which is already a terrible move. The whole time, he kept making very self-deprecating jokes about how nobody wants him. He also acted openly desperate, kept bugging the girl about if she's gonna kiss him (he eventually "stole" a kiss from her, that's the nicest way I can put it) and bragged about kissing like 40 girls (but no sex). He kept talking endlessly and never seemed interested or focused on her, and didn't even really listen to her - when he did ask something, it was either inappropriate (how many people she has been with - and remember, he's filming this so it's even worse!) or just used it as a segue to talk more about himself or make some obscure reference that he then explained (like, oh, you don't know the name of some random golfer? Well let me explain so you get my clever joke...). It should be taught in classes as everything NOT to do on the first date. Since he's been trying to get laid for so long, you'd think he would've gotten better at that, but it seems like he has only regressed and learned all the wrong lessons. He even proudly displayed and gave the girl "Skippy merch" which were all about his virginity, and had a freaking r*pe whistle in his car that he joked about that she could use if needed. No, Skippy. No. No no no. Thank you for coming to my TED talk. You are the chosen one, _the one who reads._
Honestly the video just implicated even more that fat people aren't attractive??? Like "yeah I know you're fat but it's not what's on the outside that matters" Thats so shady I get that personality is very important on (most) relationships, but it probably should be normalized that other body types are attractive too. And I love that even the new boyfriend kinda addmitted that he didn't think his girfriend wasn't attractive. Like why not just make him say "yeah I don't mind her being hevier" or smth idk Just kind of a weird message imo
There's a good This American Life episode on a topic similar to this. Its about an "extremely handsome guy" describing his relationship with a woman who he felt was extremely unattractive. It's act two of the episode title "You are so beautiful... to me."
That actor says 'burger' weirdly. 'Burjer.' Also Dhar Mann sounds like Chills and I hate it. "Ashley didn't like it when her boyfriend put his feet in her lettuuuuuce."
I’ve lived in Hawaii for 2 years. The only thing right about this whole thing is his being unimpressed with the tickets to Hawaii. Like, it’s a very pretty place but you get kinda sick of it really quickly. ( if you have a lot of money, maybe it can work, but we definitely did not)
Relationships in the Dhar Mann universe are so weird, ones like this where one person is so uninvested in the relationship to the point they go into negative numbers on the chart and hurt the partner who is actually interested in continuing this, and others where they don't seem to know anything about eachother like that one where the girl thinks her mom's fiance is cheating and it turns out it was his sister he was meeting that they didn't know about for 6 months Edit: Oh thank goodness I thought at the end she was gunna lose a lot of weight and glow up like the other broken relationship videos of his
the only reason i can see the boyfriend dating the girlfriend at first was that maybe when they first started dating, he didnt really mind seeing her as fat, but slowly became self-conscious of it in a selfish manner, like all this or maybe a friend of his gossiped about it and he slowly fell into it or maybe some active activities he tried to do with her couldn't work because maybe she has less stamina than he does due to her weight and it started to bother him 👏 CONTEXT 👏 MATTERS 👏
These stories could only work in a vacuum. These couples have no history, they have no reason to exist in the first place, these characters have no past… It’s ridiculous.
I hate how it's got to be such revenge porn, like you'd think a video where bad man actually realise something and chose to be better would show a better moral. Like "hey I realised I've been an ass to you and it's not ok! I'm sorry about it and hope you can forgive me or something" if you really want the *get fucked moment* have the new boyfriend and all and maybe have the actor realise he's lost something good. The way this is copy pasted for every video is just so cringe to me...
I'm waiting for the phone torture scene, where Dhar Manns' hand is constantly pierced through by the PS5 ಠ◡ಠ Pikau: "Dhar Mann videos look like they take place in the Life is Strange universe"
Unsurprisingly, this video is the exact same as another Dhar Mann video, just replace "fat" with "tall" and it's almost word for word. I'm 100% convinced he has several template scripts that he fills out like Mad Libs
Isn't the new boyfriend at the end saying "it's not about what's on the outside, it's what's on the inside that counts" totally implying that he also finds her unattractive? Which he's also saying in front of her. Good job man.
Yeah, it's a response to fatshaming that is still implicitly fatshaming.
The goal (for me) is body positivity. Acceptance that chronic illness and disability are a normal part of life and not humans are 100% healthy and some NEVER CAN BE and that's fine.
Some people are fat and that's fine. If you are a wheelchair user with a degenerative neuromuscular condition being treated with harsh corticosteroids, ya gonna be fat. The steroids make you gain and retain weight and your body literally killing your muscles will greatly limit your ability to exercise.
Other people are genetically predisposed to carry weight. Have other medical conditions that lead to weight gain and retention or immobility. Are on medications that cause weight gain and retention.
But beauty is subjective and tons of people find fat people attractive. Tons of people find disabled people attractive. In a way that recognizes our humanity and not a creepy fetish-y way.
If a guy told me it's what's on the inside that counts, I would take all this body elsewhere.
Right?
It's such a black and white portrayal, she can't just be fat she also has to be downing burgers and fries instead of eating salads to imply if she just ate differently she could totally turn things around. There's never any point where she's like "No, I'm going to eat what I want" or something, it's literally just "You did this to yourself but he's the badman so he needs to stop while you find a guy who also doesn't like the way you look but is the good man."
@@janeeyre1990 The thing is 99% of fat people don't have some disease or genetic predisposition keeping them fat, just an extremely unhealthy lifestyle. And being fat is by itself unhealthy, the human body can't handle those kinds of proportions. I'm talking about obesity here though, not being chubby or whatever and beauty and attraction is a whole other topic.
He should have said something "she ain't a looker but got a heart of gold". And then she'd go like "awwwww, thanks babe".
"He started missing the way Ashley used to treat him." Okay, but if he doesn't find her attractive then he'd only be with her because she treats him well. It's still a shitty relationship.
What? I thought your girlfriend was like a mate you just enjoy hanging out and that magically fixes you not being sexually attracted. Isn’t everyone situationally asexual
“He started missing the way Ashely used to treat him...” and then I wanted the narration to say “... and the way he used to treat her.” And then he realized what he wanted and needed in his life was a low self esteem person who was nice to him that he could treat like crap in return.
How did they even end up in a relationship in the first place lmao
Shallow relationship for shallow people and Dhar's shallow audience.
Dhar Mann's videos are made specifically for people who are frequent commenters in r/AmItheAsshole
@Random Username The amount of times I've seen athiests barrage a post for slightly referencing Jesus is borderline parody
I actually thought the "Reddit athiests" thing was a joke but after the fourth time seeing it I realized, it really isn't. They're just actually like that LMAO
I theorize it's probably a autism thing where they don't pick up on social cues (not insulting or anything)
@@almond3066 every social media like reddit has people like that because the idea of a community away from the real world will draw in or create people with zero social skills. It’s why Twitter is bad as well.
Imagine this guy doing therapy. "Put your hat back on, you look depressed without it"
the depression hat.
@@wespauls9020 So this is after his character development or before?
"I'm sorry I thought my wife was a hat"
"But I bought it for my depression dinner!"
Actual plot point in Danganronpa: V3. 😆
I feel bad for the slightly heavy set woman cause she's literally the BEST actress Dhar Mann has ever had.
fr she's really good
And she’s generally not that bad look
@@AngelsDoArt yeah she’s beautiful, I love her hair too
Just gonna point out, we do learn her name (the character's at least). I don't wanna be an ass about it, just saying referring to her as "the fat chick" isn't really very cool. Also, just gonna put it out there A) She really isn't that heavy, and B) Big girls are hot, this whole thing is dumb XP IMHO Ashley > Violet
@@gruenenator You will get me to eat shit before you guilt me into bothering to remember a character's name on a god damn Dhar Mann video.
I cannot engage this concept, my mind is stuck at WHY IS HE DATING HER IF HE IS ASHAMED OF BEING SEEN WITH HER
This would literally only make sense if it was a blind date. He’s constantly surprised that she wears clothes and is fat and she’s constantly surprised he doesn’t like that she’s fat
Manaay
Pretty much it.
Because like with all Dhar Mann videos, there is a really potentially deep and nuanced message underneath the sketches but the sketches themselves ruin all subtlety and nuance and realism that it doesn't have anything to offer. Imagine if she was skinny when they got together. That little detail alone would have made the sketch so much more compelling.
You would be absolutely blown away at the amount of fat fetishists there are who are too insecure to be seen in public with the people they are attracted to. I honestly believe fat fetishists are almost if not just as common as foot fetishists, the only difference is foot people are more likely to admit it.
Dharr Mann lives in a similar world but everyone is good/evil literally black and white morality, no grey zones or edge cases, instantaneous vilification and heroism
Also let's not forget that the good guy most of the times ends up rich with an expensive car and a super sexy girlfriend while the bad guys are still poor feeling jealous
so basically he lives in the internet
Fits right in with Cool Cat and Neil Breen then. No wonder Adum is so drawn to him...
@@henryhammond7393 At least Cool Cat and Breen are charming due to their low quality and suprising amount of soul. These videos are just soulless, corporate, shit disguised as wholesome entertainment for the whole family
Like Neil Breen films
It’s a really lovely message. If you’re fat then you can’t be attractive in any way and have to rely on your personality alone for a partner. You might be nice but they will despise how you look. Thanks Darr Mann, cool beans:)
Well... your personality SHOULD be the most important aspect. And there is literally nothing wrong with disliking a person's appearance while being in a relationship with them, what matters is respect and understanding. If a person likes obese people, more power to them, but the reality is that being fat does put you at a disadvantage in terms of attractiveness and you can either work on the weight problem or find people who are willing to accommodate your condition
Also, beautiful people are never nice, because that's just not possible.
@@coletrainhetrick "and there is literally nothing wrong with disliking someone's appearance while being in a relationship with them"
While true, it's incredibly uncommon
Like yes, you can cherrypick examples online. But the vast majority of people won't date someone they aren't physically attracted to
Sadly I've seen stories like this alot with disabled people, I've seen many times disabled people talk about how difficult it is to date if their appearance isn't considered "attractive"
@@almond3066 yes and that's something that falls on people needing to expand their minds to see if they can be comfortable in a relationship with someone they don't consider attractive. I don't disagree with you, you simply are bringing up a different part of the conversation separate from why I was commenting on this person
@@coletrainhetrick ah, I get what you mean, in which case I agree
I mostly just misunderstood your point lol
If "Dhar Mann" doesn't sound like a stereotypical Sith lord name then I don't know what does
Have you ever heard of the tragedy of Dhar Mann The Wholesome?
@@comixproviderftw_02 I believe "self-righteous" would be more accurate than wholesome
Dr. Basilisk Crow Idk. I think a not super accurate title would make more sense probably.
@@SomeOne-vf1rs not sure, can't see anyone unironically seeing him as wholesome. Darth Plagueis on the other hand was pretty wise
Dr. Basilisk Crow Perhaps
It's funny how the characters in the Dhar Mann Universe go from 0% to a 1000% self-awareness and/or instantly realize the errors of supposedly their entire lives. Sometimes you get hit by a realization real hard, but these characters just instantly change and it's unrealistic beyond words
They had a *change of heart*
@@skydiamsteam6005 It was the Phantom Thieves all along!
@@donnylurch4207 The Phantom Thieves were after their Twitter clout all along
@@donnylurch4207 Damn Brats!
*I'll sue!*
I mean, my problem is that everything in these videos is unrealistic, not only the "realisation" moment. Bad acting doesn't help, of course. I always wonder how do these vids are supposed to "change lives", while being so disconnected from reality?
You cannot have a character be the sort of confident person who gifts her own swimsuit like “hey babe, happy birthday! This is what I’ll be wearing later hehe ;) “ while also taking her bf’s constant verbal abuses, like she would not stay with him long enough to buy him birthday dinner lmao
Could you imagine meeting a guy who you suspect is the ex-boyfriend of your current girlfriend and then he asks you if you are embarrassed about dating her in front of her? Yeah, that would warrant a different reaction than what happened here lol
RIGHT? id imagine the "are you serious?" sentence like he first said
but then it should prolly follow with a "fuck you" or something along the lines of that
What would be hilarious would be if that comment awakened something in the other guy and poisoned the relationship, and from that point on he started treating her like her old boyfriend.
I’m pretty sure he would get a “what the fuck did you just say?” and a possible punch in the face.
Dhar Mann's videos are the short film equivalent of facebook minions motivational images.
But MUH LIFE LESSONS :(
i believe he makes a lot of money off these vids on facebook and sort of formats them for facebook especially so youre kinda right
If weight is THAT much of an issue for him, why is he even dating her in the first place?
Alcohol and a few bad decisions is all it takes
....for Vjay?
Because of her personality and supportiveness towards him.
I have to assume she's rich and he's a gold digger
I think he just gets off on shaming her
So basically the moral wasn’t that big people are beautiful the way they are, but that if you like them enough, being fat is something about them you have to tolerate. What a great message, Dharr Mann
It's so weird how there's absolutely no nuance at all with these videos, at first I thought they were harmless and they had dumbed down yet valuable messages but this is just so weird, unrealistic, counterproductive and childish. They literally make dozens of thousands of dollars in revenue with each video and it looks, sounds, and feels so unbearably unprofessional. How could you not feel embarrassed about making these?
Real question, are Dhar Mann videos made for toddlers? They feel like they're made by someone who has no concept of real human interactions.
If you don’t believe that these are supposed to be for kids, go watch SSSniperwolfs reaction to them.
@@comixproviderftw_02 I'd rather jab a chopstick into my eardrum than watch a SSSniperwolf video
@@heliopyre she really that bad? Never seen but now I’m curious.
People have a thing for poorly written trash entertainment with melodramatic, insane plot turns.
Once upon a time, those were called Soap Operas.
I lol'd when the guy says "I miss how you used to make me feel". The narcissism that makes itself felt through this guy's writing is so palpable. These sketches always end up painting people as valuable only when they have money, fame, etc. which is pretty unfortunate
The way Dhar Mann talks reminds me of Rick & Morty's interdimensional cable
Yeah they would be way better if they were improvised.
man vs a regular old, uh... car
It always feels like he’s talking slow to talk down to the people watching. It’s so off putting. I’ve heard that it’s a speech impediment?
Dhar Mann lost the chance for a wonderful joke! The waiter comes with the food, says "sorry for the wait" and he answers "yeah, I am sorry for her weight!" come on, this stuff writes itself...
These videos are like if people 10000 years in the future were trying to reenact what life was like in the past, but all they had to go on was daytime television
Now all I can think about is imagining what it would be like if thousands of years from now, people were to look at these videos and assume this is what society used to be like. 😂
I know I said it in the last video but I saw a job listing for Dhar Mann as a video editor. I wouldn’t be able to handle that shit, I’d be laughing at the footage, especially without that music
"Video editor QUITS JOB working for Dhar Mann, INSTANTLY Regrets It"
Keep us updated
There are videos without music and it really highlights how awkward it all is.
I love how the "nice" boyfriend calls his girlfriend ugly to her face.
- Aren't you embarased of being seen with her in public
- It's what's on the inside that counts
I’m dumb but if I were the “nice” boyfriend in this case, what could/should I respond with instead?
@@LenOnTheDoor0000 you could throw the question back to him “why would I be embarrassed?” In a tone that implies his question was stupid.
Or you could say something like “it can’t be that embarrassing if you are here trying for a second chance”
@@JoseRuiz-yh2eh Or even better: I'm sexually attracted to "big girls."
@@LenOnTheDoor0000 "Sorry you don't have taste."
Just saying what she said lol
i like how the social structures in these videos are so artificial that it starts out with a couple at "maximum health" and then one character just insults the other for 5 consecuitive minutes until the "natural real world state" of the relationship is reached where they cant possibly be together anymore beacuse they just hate each other^^
"Was she skinny when they first started dating?" This is another huge question that isn't addressed. He could be going through a crisis of loving her but losing the attraction as she got bigger (albeit being horribly rude and disrespectful to her). But nah; black/white, no grey area. Preferences don't exist!
I mean either way he would be a bad boyfriend because if your partner is gaining weight, you should probably check in with them. Sometimes weight gain/overeating is symptomatic of mental/emotional issues. Some people are just bigger forever, some people are thin forever, but if you see a change from fat to skinny or skinny to fat, you should just make sure they are okay, especially if they are your significant other. You don't have to be a dick about it either. "Hey, I noticed your weight is changing, is everything okay? You should schedule another visit with the psychologist." Other times weight change can signal something serious in the physical department, like cancer. It's just a good idea to check in and make sure the other person is okay for a WHOLE lot of reasons actually. If you see your partner getting fatter and all you can think about is how mad or disappointed it's making you, maybe you should stop being so selfish. That's all I'm saying.
@@randomperson8571 You do have a big point and I agree with you at the end but this generation basically made it so people believe "oh you can be healthy at any weight" or "you can be fat and healthy" or if people actually are concerned about your weight, either if you are over or underweight, then it can be deemed as offensive.
They did that concept, in a cody ko thats cringe vid. I was also expecting something like that.
@@paulbouchard4918 No..? Some fit people can be chubby. Just look at sumo wrestling. I think you should get off of twitter.
@@icychoiceclaw1908 You don't just decide to become a Sumo Wrestler. It's an immensely rigorous and challenging lifestyle choice that some people spend their entire lives aspiring to be. Also, there's a huge difference between bulk and fat.
If this will eventually lead to another dedicated "Adum reacts"-channel, I won't be mad
Adum reacts to The Lion King 2019 remake.
I'm not too familiar with Dhar Mann, but from what little I have seen I feel like just about all of his videos would be almost exactly the same, except with the thing the person is being made fun of for swapped out.
I said this in a comment earlier, but he has a video that plays out exactly like this, just replace "fat" with "tall". Cr1TiKaL watched it which is where I saw it
"I don't want him knowing that I'm dating a BIG GIRL"
"For U"
The girl's jacket had more of an arc than any other character.
With more practice I'm sure Dhar Mann's videos will reach Workplace Safety video level quality.
Yep. I can see it. Hell I'd love for Dhar Mann to do safety videos, would be hilarious 😂
The funny thing about the message at the end that I was surprised Adam didn't pick up on was that the new boyfriend saying "it's not about what's on the outside, it's about what's on the inside" basically just called his girlfriend ugly.
A few months later and it’s still too hot for that jacket.
What a strange thing to focus on. Maybe they live in Florida.
@@Trollololololful Issa joke man
It's always hot in the bizarro fancy bar/parking lot dimension.
Every time I see Dhar Mann’s name I think of the Pokémon Darmanitan
Darmanitan is cool, he doesn’t deserve this
Just searched to see what the Pokemon looks like....I think they both share a similar smile though lol
Just realized dhar mann videos are the situations I imagine in my head to hurt my own feelings for no good reason
This guy went from being a broke nerd, to owning a company after saving his money, to having an totally awful car, to being a therapist, to fatshaming his girlfriend. He’s got a lot going on for him.
P.S. All of the antagonists in these videos are so cartoonishly evil.
Actual cartoon villains aren’t even this cartoonishly evil.
Livin’ the good life
What’s more offensive, assuming the fat person ordered the salad or the burger?
Burger probably. At least if you order a salad you're trying to lose weight
There is something fishy about Darr Mann. He comes off as an Instagram type. Someone who portrays them self as “wholesome and perfect” when in reality they are fake and just smart business people. I already know he was convicted of fraud in 2014, but my gut keeps telling me something else is going on... might just be me being paranoid.
Either way, the cringe levels are too high to watch even a reaction of those videos
I love how he resources to voice over to progress or end the story instead of actually filming it
Dhar Mann's weird documentaries on his parallel universe sure are entertaining.
These characters aren't human, it's utterly bizarre.
Dhar Mann’s voice sounds exactly like the Burger King Foot Lettuce guy.
@@TheRealSantaGaming like we already have the captions and the other characters aren’t taking slowly, why does he have to?
Oh my gosh you're right, was wondering what you meant and then he started narrating 😆
Number fifteeeeeen... A man fatshames his girlfriend, he then lives to regret it...
Thank god I'm not the only one who just hears Chills everytime I watch these videos
That’s what I thought too
I saw the title and was like "which one" because he's done several fatshaming ones lol. I was hoping it would be the one in the clothes shop
It's like a Neil Breen Anthology Educational Soap Opera.
if you go to the description of the fatshaming video, it credits the girlfriend of his friend as "hot girl", and the overweight girl as "girlfriend".
really needed this extra upload tonight, hate that I can never catch my favorite content creator streams cus they're all opposite side of the world
He really couldn’t just say that he finds her attractive and appreciates her as a person and everything she does? Instead he still technically calls her ugly lmao wtf
but for real; ashley is so damn pretty and cute ..
also, love the "skinny girls are bitches"-approach - so nuanced lol
Make Adum watch the one where a man rejects his tall gf, and the one where a woman rejects her short bf. They are almost the exact same video as this one
Hell, this video is pretty much the same as the gold digger one Adum already watched.
I'm growing more and more convinced that Dhar Mann is an alien machine learning program who has never actually seen humans interact with each other.
The “IS GETTING FAT, AND YOU CAN’T ADVOID IT!” bit always cracks me up.
Adum's genuine glee at these plots points is hilarious
Man's eating a SALAD for his birthday dinner. What a nerd
Why would you be with a big girl if you don’t like them? 😂👌
Maybe I'm alone in this, but I've seen this kind of dynamic a lot in relationships.
The term is pulled from those creepy pickup artist guys, but it's called "negging." You shame a person, usually for who they are or things they can't change, to keep their self-esteem low so they become dependent on your approval and unable to leave the relationship.
It's a means of control. I saw my dad use it on my mom, I had boyfriends try it on me when I was young and insecure. I would say it's actually quite common.
Someone’s gotta get them fatties in shape, even if means taking one for the team and dating one until they finally shed the weight
@@psmstr Surely there's more efficient ways than that
@@janeeyre1990 pickup artists are literally just "how to manipulate your partner into a realtionship they can't leave", like are there any that actually give good advice?
To be fair, the waitress is screwed either way. Give her the salad the girlfriend thinks she's fatshaming her. Give her the burger she gets mad because she assumed the girlfriend wanted the burger because she's thicc.
Dhar Mann video is like motivation quotes generated by emotionless AI.
dhar manns videos are like SPAWNING a lion and a sheep together in a box, watch the lion eat she sheep. and then dhar mann comes and blames the lion for eating the sheep and claims that he changed anyones life.
And then the lion proceeds to eat Dhar Mann
I wish someone made a Parody Video:
"Slimy TH-camr made bland Videos to sell merch, instantly regrets it"
Derp Man has never spoken to another human being, I’m convinced. He doesn’t know what a conversation is
That was without a doubt Dhar Mann’s garage that they decorated to look like some kind of outside bar.
I just realized that the cars indoors is a clever metaphor for what's really important.
It's SO weird how they completely disregard the woman's appearance. She is pretty and many people would find her attractive. _Only_ talking about "what's on the inside" makes it seem as if the douche is completely right about her weight making her hideous but "it doesn't matter what's on the outside", as if that was his only sin and not like.. constantly verbally abusing and putting her down, being ashamed of her. He'd be a douche about _something_ even if she wasn't heavy. Even the new boyfriend at the end said the reason he doesn't mind her weight is her personality. It would've been better if he had said "WTF are you talking about, she is so hot, I like curvy girls", showing that preferences vary. But I know Dhar Mann is too simplistic for that. They didn't even care to explain why those two were together in the first place, it wasn't believable and there was nothing about her gaining weight so she must've always looked that way.
In reality, you're completely allowed to be with someone you find physically attractive - nothing wrong with that. Usually, a person's face and body and personality and confidence and intelligence and kindness and humor all blend into one clear attraction. Cruel or self-centered or aggressive attributes can make someone actually look _physically_ offputting, while being super funny or intelligent or kind will make people more attracive, even if they are average or below in terms of "conventional attractiveness". Just look at how many comedians have really hot spouses! But it's not just about settling for their looks in exchange for personality or other traits - they form a sort of package, and there's genuine attraction.
Obviously there are exceptions and sometimes people just go for looks, but assholes with good looks either don't get very far with their relationships or they just attract other assholes, so don't feel bitter about that "unfairness".
I've been in relationships with all types of people, appearance-wise, but they tend to share similar attributes. I like people I feel totally safe and comfortable with, intelligent people who are curious and have passion towards _something,_ who are compassionate and generous without always expecting something in return, who have a sense of humor, and are a little different. Of course I need to feel attraction too and sex matters a lot - I've made the mistake of getting into a relationship where I didn't find them attractive AND they didn't even try to satisfy my needs, despite me talking openly about them. I just figured I should to give him a chance, and not judge based on appearances, but if the attraction isn't there, it's not gonna magically appear after 2 months. I really don't know why I stayed (even after some behavior I don't like slowly became apparent, too, so I didn't like him much in any way), it wasn't fair for him, nor me. I'm actively working on it and figuring myself out, tho. On the other hand, my ex who I lived together with, was already very much balding when he was 20, but at the same time he had such a nice face and smile and he was so chill and humorous, he always made me laugh and feel good with his goofiness. He was musically inclined, liked outdoorsy stuff. And he did have a pretty nice body, especially later when he got more into running and weights. My point is that even though strictly outwardly he was sort of average looking or little above, he was glowing with charm and wit and a chill yet confident attitude, which made him certifiably *hot.* How attractive you find him (or anyone) depends on what kind of person you like, but certain things (like humour and confidence) tend to charm most people.
So it's not just about what's on the inside _or_ outside, they both matter and influence each other. You might think you don't want to date someone overweight, but then find yourself being very attracted to one who just has all the other attributes that charm you.
If you feel doomed by your appearance and resign to the "fact" that it's the _only_ thing why people don't want to date you, it's very possible that people pick up on that attitude and generally your behavior. Do what you can in terms of hygiene and other things that you can affect, and then act interested in the other person, listen, and be confident in who _you_ are, don't fake it or try to be and say whatever you think they want. I just saw sixteenleo's video about Skippy, the virgin who once appeared on TV and is somewhat known for that. He does TH-cam now and filmed a first date for that (not secretly), which is already a terrible move. The whole time, he kept making very self-deprecating jokes about how nobody wants him. He also acted openly desperate, kept bugging the girl about if she's gonna kiss him (he eventually "stole" a kiss from her, that's the nicest way I can put it) and bragged about kissing like 40 girls (but no sex). He kept talking endlessly and never seemed interested or focused on her, and didn't even really listen to her - when he did ask something, it was either inappropriate (how many people she has been with - and remember, he's filming this so it's even worse!) or just used it as a segue to talk more about himself or make some obscure reference that he then explained (like, oh, you don't know the name of some random golfer? Well let me explain so you get my clever joke...). It should be taught in classes as everything NOT to do on the first date. Since he's been trying to get laid for so long, you'd think he would've gotten better at that, but it seems like he has only regressed and learned all the wrong lessons. He even proudly displayed and gave the girl "Skippy merch" which were all about his virginity, and had a freaking r*pe whistle in his car that he joked about that she could use if needed. No, Skippy. No. No no no.
Thank you for coming to my TED talk. You are the chosen one, _the one who reads._
TL;DR
Your comment in the Twitch chat at 7:09 is hilarious:
"Is this what dating Onision is like?"
Been loving these videos of Adum reacts to Dhan Mann, pure epic fun. Thank you.
The bar with cars just looks like a part of Dhar Mann’s house
Honestly the video just implicated even more that fat people aren't attractive??? Like "yeah I know you're fat but it's not what's on the outside that matters"
Thats so shady
I get that personality is very important on (most) relationships, but it probably should be normalized that other body types are attractive too.
And I love that even the new boyfriend kinda addmitted that he didn't think his girfriend wasn't attractive. Like why not just make him say "yeah I don't mind her being hevier" or smth idk
Just kind of a weird message imo
It’s true, they’re not. You just can’t sugarcoat that fact ‘cause they’ll eat that too.
@Random Username if that’s too edgy for you, God help you if ever you hear anything from George Carlin
@@psmstr ?
while this PSMSTR guy is saying some stupid shit, i do think we shouldn't normalize being fat, considering how unhealthy it is
The official Dhar Man review channel now lol. Daddy Cool Cat is probably hurt right now
0:33 was my assumption, "Guy tells fat girl to do the right thing and lose weight. We're changing lives"
I don't know why but this one seemed like the most easy to digest of all the dhar mann video I have seen. It felt shorter.
There's a good This American Life episode on a topic similar to this. Its about an "extremely handsome guy" describing his relationship with a woman who he felt was extremely unattractive. It's act two of the episode title "You are so beautiful... to me."
That actor says 'burger' weirdly. 'Burjer.'
Also Dhar Mann sounds like Chills and I hate it.
"Ashley didn't like it when her boyfriend put his feet in her lettuuuuuce."
Dhar Mann reactions fukin sustain me man
That narrator is dangerously close to sounding like Chills.
I’ve lived in Hawaii for 2 years. The only thing right about this whole thing is his being unimpressed with the tickets to Hawaii. Like, it’s a very pretty place but you get kinda sick of it really quickly. ( if you have a lot of money, maybe it can work, but we definitely did not)
Relationships in the Dhar Mann universe are so weird, ones like this where one person is so uninvested in the relationship to the point they go into negative numbers on the chart and hurt the partner who is actually interested in continuing this, and others where they don't seem to know anything about eachother like that one where the girl thinks her mom's fiance is cheating and it turns out it was his sister he was meeting that they didn't know about for 6 months
Edit: Oh thank goodness I thought at the end she was gunna lose a lot of weight and glow up like the other broken relationship videos of his
I love how even after he tried getting her back, he asks the new bf ‘man ur not embarrassed to be w her?’
It would of been more realistic if arthur just punched him in the face lmao
I love that this and the tall girl video are identical in the third act lol.
"I got myself a new dress and a Hawaiian vacation and a new bikini for your birthday. Here's some trunks, you can come too."
With a therapist like that, no wonder that rich lady was so depressed.
the only reason i can see the boyfriend dating the girlfriend at first was that maybe when they first started dating, he didnt really mind seeing her as fat, but slowly became self-conscious of it in a selfish manner, like all this
or maybe a friend of his gossiped about it and he slowly fell into it
or maybe some active activities he tried to do with her couldn't work because maybe she has less stamina than he does due to her weight and it started to bother him
👏 CONTEXT 👏 MATTERS 👏
My fucking jaw is on the floor from watching that video. Holy Christ.
Oh my god, mini YMS on Dhar Mann please, Adam loves em and they're a great, wholesome short project
"Boyfriend fatshames his girl" sounds like a video I've already seen outside TH-cam...
i love these so much, so direct and wholesome
And so it continues.
Insert Sid Haig saying “more cushion for the pushin”
These stories could only work in a vacuum. These couples have no history, they have no reason to exist in the first place, these characters have no past… It’s ridiculous.
It physically hurt to watch these videos
What if Dhar Mann's channel were the only traces of humanity left in the universe?
7:23 lol Adum's getting invested
The narrator of the DM videos is so fucking hilarious.
using "its not about whats on the outside its whats on the inside" is such a backhanded message
I love that fanboy just puts a bunch of their laughing raccoon emote in chat lmfao
It's a wolf. Fanboy's fursona (Dusk) is a wolf.
@@YMSHighlights omfg that makes way more sense
@@mothernyxious7097 🐺 ;)
Dhar Mann creates half a script then just doubles it. It’d be so hilariously easy to recreate these.
Thanks for even more of these lmao
I hate how it's got to be such revenge porn, like you'd think a video where bad man actually realise something and chose to be better would show a better moral.
Like "hey I realised I've been an ass to you and it's not ok! I'm sorry about it and hope you can forgive me or something" if you really want the *get fucked moment* have the new boyfriend and all and maybe have the actor realise he's lost something good.
The way this is copy pasted for every video is just so cringe to me...
I'm waiting for the phone torture scene, where Dhar Manns' hand is constantly pierced through by the PS5 ಠ◡ಠ
Pikau: "Dhar Mann videos look like they take place in the Life is Strange universe"
As a feeder and big fan of overweight women, i fucking hate the "fat acceptance movement". There's nothing less fucking sexy than being a victim.
She booked him two tickets to a surprise trip to Hawaii.
To watch a Sumo competition!
Unsurprisingly, this video is the exact same as another Dhar Mann video, just replace "fat" with "tall" and it's almost word for word. I'm 100% convinced he has several template scripts that he fills out like Mad Libs
Why date what you hate
Because it can be fun screwing what you hate