I was taken aback the other day when my husband professed his repressed shame to me about his career... "I should have done this, I could have done that..." He had drank some alcohol earlier that evening, so I saw a different side of him, as he usually doesn't drink. As you say all the time, denial is rampant in our society. Easier to identify it in other people than in ourselves.
Exactly, you knew of your hubbies shame because like most women you probably thought subconsciously that you could fix him We all need a close introspective of who we are and who we rely on.
I was in my best Be-ing mode is when i used to be with my companion dog Tenzin and we both hosted other dogs as well when their humans went on vacation. It was bliss!!! Once Tenzin passed, i went into the rabbit hole of addressing my past childhood trauma. Your video tells me to get back to my BE ing mode...
Yes, my experience is that we are ignorant, to then suffer in ignorance, to then learn and not be ignorant anymore, to then suffer knowing the reason we suffer. My experience is that healing trauma is not about the lack of pain or negating pain, it is more about the lack of ignorance about what causes us pain to balance it out and understand that is the human experience
I cannot visit or make friendly contact without giving them something, i know i feel inadequate. I think i dont know how or why as im always the odd one out and though im drawn to people they are not drawn to me
Kenny, you're dead on, right. Yes, it started in childhood. However, it has been widely adapted throughout our entire culture all the way into politics. If you watched any news in the Las few years, what do you hear. Those terrible kids that were born here refuse to work -( do ) , and now we need immigrants more than ever so the successful will still get served. And if that one minimum wage job isn't cutting it, we'll, you better work two of those jobs.
I´m having a hard time, not to see my physical, mental as well as emotional abusive father not as a bad person. Sure, I know a lot of that reflects on his own childhood trauma. BUT he had a choice, not to abuse me all the years.
Yes there can be guilt/shame confusion in childhood for most anyone, but that in no way means that all parenting is equally flawed. We should know better than that. I was always weighing my parent's emotional state when they were interacting. Animals can instinctively do much of the same. Animals come with 'instinctual' emotions. Humans, have some fears pre-wired. Twins studies have proven genetic components to behaviors. Mind blowing things like what car you drive, and even what your wife's name is, have genetic components.
It’s funny that you mention they point the finger…my last interaction with my dad, after he raged at me for nothing, started to ask me, you really need to get that under control right? That’s always been your problem. I replied, “you always imply that there’s something wrong with me but have never gotten anymore specific than that, what is it, exactly that you think is wrong with me?” And he pointed his finger right at me and replied, “that right there.” 😂
I need to send this to my dog, he really has a tendency to project his deep inner sense of shame when I try to hold him accountable for peeing in the house. I’ve had many sit downs with him about his impulsively, and shameful behavior and he just doesn’t get it!
I was taken aback the other day when my husband professed his repressed shame to me about his career... "I should have done this, I could have done that..." He had drank some alcohol earlier that evening, so I saw a different side of him, as he usually doesn't drink. As you say all the time, denial is rampant in our society. Easier to identify it in other people than in ourselves.
Exactly, you knew of your hubbies shame because like most women you probably thought subconsciously that you could fix him
We all need a close introspective of who we are and who we rely on.
Be-ing in my opinion should and is the only reason we're be-ing here and is the way of and to be-ing.🙏 Great video Kenny 👍
I was in my best Be-ing mode is when i used to be with my companion dog Tenzin and we both hosted other dogs as well when their humans went on vacation. It was bliss!!!
Once Tenzin passed, i went into the rabbit hole of addressing my past childhood trauma. Your video tells me to get back to my BE ing mode...
Yes, my experience is that we are ignorant, to then suffer in ignorance, to then learn and not be ignorant anymore, to then suffer knowing the reason we suffer. My experience is that healing trauma is not about the lack of pain or negating pain, it is more about the lack of ignorance about what causes us pain to balance it out and understand that is the human experience
This is powerful and accurate as hell. New sub and saved. I will listen often. Wonderful. Ireland.
Enjoy the beauty of being rather than doing...Very Profound!! Thank you so much!
You are so welcome!
Important on so many levels, thank you for this video.
This is an excellent video. Its great that this is being discussed openly. It needs tone out there! Thank you Kenny!
Love the 'doer' vs 'be-er' analogy! Oh the bliss when i am able to be in the 'Be' mode ❤😅
This is so eloquently explained, thank you for helping others guide themselves through this
You are right ❤❤
You have so many beautiful suits. I love this one. You dress beautifully.
Thank you for explaining things so clearly and to the point. You are so helpful!
You are so welcome!
I cannot visit or make friendly contact without giving them something, i know i feel inadequate. I think i dont know how or why as im always the odd one out and though im drawn to people they are not drawn to me
Some of us don't live like that anymore. 😊
Kenny, you're dead on, right.
Yes, it started in childhood.
However, it has been widely adapted throughout our entire culture all the way into politics.
If you watched any news in the Las few years, what do you hear.
Those terrible kids that were born here refuse to work -( do ) , and now we need immigrants more than ever so the successful will still get served. And if that one minimum wage job isn't cutting it, we'll, you better work two of those jobs.
I´m having a hard time, not to see my physical, mental as well as emotional abusive father not as a bad person. Sure, I know a lot of that reflects on his own childhood trauma. BUT he had a choice, not to abuse me all the years.
Yes there can be guilt/shame confusion in childhood for most anyone, but that in no way means that all parenting is equally flawed. We should know better than that. I was always weighing my parent's emotional state when they were interacting. Animals can instinctively do much of the same.
Animals come with 'instinctual' emotions. Humans, have some fears pre-wired.
Twins studies have proven genetic components to behaviors. Mind blowing things like what car you drive, and even what your wife's name is, have genetic components.
It’s funny that you mention they point the finger…my last interaction with my dad, after he raged at me for nothing, started to ask me, you really need to get that under control right? That’s always been your problem. I replied, “you always imply that there’s something wrong with me but have never gotten anymore specific than that, what is it, exactly that you think is wrong with me?” And he pointed his finger right at me and replied, “that right there.” 😂
Back from my holiday. Me and my siblings do need some healing. I am the youngest ,they in there 70...
I need to send this to my dog, he really has a tendency to project his deep inner sense of shame when I try to hold him accountable for peeing in the house. I’ve had many sit downs with him about his impulsively, and shameful behavior and he just doesn’t get it!
You are deflecting
niceeeeeeeeeeeeeeee man 😀
Bro. Teal swan is a nut job grifter.