“People either want to get away from or establish dominance over me.” OH MY GOD that hit me right in the heart. The way you’re able to vocalize these really specific qualities and experiences makes me feel so seen and heard. Thank you ❤️
Within the first few words of speaking I can see why Kevin is your best friend, you two share such an amazing energy when you're together. I'm glad y'all found each other
Nice to have you back! On today’s episode I’m deeply grateful to be able to introduce my best friend Kevin to you guys. We both met and became quick friends and I cannot express how much his companionship has inspired me over the last few years. Soulmates can be friends too-that cannot be anymore true! We were both diagnosed with ADHD around the same time separate from each other and didn’t even realize it until we finally got together one day and realized we were diagnosed at the same time. Navigating our neurodivergency is an ongoing journey that isn’t always easy or beautiful. Some days it’s hard to find something to be grateful for on this journey. There are some days where you can even hate that part of yourself that makes it so hard to get by as simply as it can seem for others. Discovering your neurodivergency late in life and with little to no support from family can make that journey really difficult. Although we joke quite often about our mental health, it is a very seriously state of being that is worth acknowledging. It’s important for us to show that although life is so beautiful and there is so much to laugh about-it also doesn’t mean that there aren’t really dark days where the depression and anxiety take over. As Kevin said, we are navigating this life the best we know how. Sometimes we don’t have the answers. But that’s okay because that’s how life is. Be gentle to us. Be gentle to him. We are all sensitive beings with a lot of love to give. I hope you guys grow to understand, love, and appreciate Kevin as a human as much as I do! The world, or at least my viewers deserve to get to know someone like him. Cheers.☯️
seeing you n kev made me think of shye and I(getting married 6/7/24 it's so amazing! tho' shye has tourettes on top! of ADHD and severe OCD lol overtime things can settle down n be more grounded structured grounded in the friendship like the picture over Kev's shoulder the two pictures mean something too the simple halo peachy behind yours you are a really sweet girl woman strong I wrote all that I could feel cos I respect you your friend lily sky xx 🏵️🏵️🏵️🏵️🏵️🏵️🏵️🌻🌻
I smiled from ear to ear the entire time! Not only is Kevin a gem, but your vibe sparks up in an endearing way when you're with him. Watching this reminds me of how much I treasure my friendships as well and how they bring a different side of my personality out when I'm with them. Thanks for posting such wonderful content 🦋
the more i gradually watch your videos, the more in love i fall with your personality. it’s like i can feel your authenticity and i love how accurately you articulate neurodivergent people’s experiences. i connect a lot with your content and it helps me feel so valid. thanks!
even though I’m not diagnosed with autism and it’s still a big question in my life, I HEAVILY relate to feeling awkward in groups of women. I feel like the emphasis on non-verbal communication and comforting one another is something that I’m just not wired for
I relate to remembering extreme detail. I can see everything in my mind’s eye particularly in relation to the physical space an event happened in. Kev has a cool voice, btw. Enjoying this kind of content! Edit: I’m living for the edits! Edit2: “sometimes social situations don’t really have logic”. This is so profound to me. I need this to be on a sweatshirt as merch. Literally having been ostracized by groups women all my life, I just watch it play out in slow motion. The difficulty is they are often so mean or superficial it makes me more indifferent to the lowkey bullying than to want to make an effort to get to know them.
This was so satisfying to watch. I’m an undiagnosed autistic, and I don’t have many people who understands the daily struggle much less able to joke about 💗💖
I'm only 26 mins into this video but just *have* to say, "I totally get where Irene is coming from and it's so nice to hear someone else being so similar to myself." 🙂 I'm also learning, from Kev, a strategy for making connections with others. I think he's so cool about things.
Can I be your third musketeer? Your friendship is so pure, deep, and admirable. Kevin listens to Irene with full interest and is so empathetic and fun. I have only had a few friends take interest in me as well. I’m usually the one listening to others with interest. I share a similar world view in that I believe everyone has something about them that is interesting and endearing. I wish I had friends who looked at me in this way. Thanks for sharing your dynamic Irene & Kevin. ❤
I relate to you Irene a lot even as a man. I’m autistic. I notice lots of women give dirty looks or silent treatment in past jobs. I get on better with other men but also usually don’t get on with most of them. Men are the ones that usually express the taking dominance behaviour you speak about although some men can be catty like women. I have been able to get on with a few people but because it’s so rare I immediately suspect that they are likely also neurodivergent and a lot of times they seem to be.
You guys are so funny together and have great balance! He definitely seems more considerate than most other ESFP's I've met. I've really struggled with ESFP's in my life, finding that they're not very considerate and aren't super great at giving space to others, so I mostly avoid them. So, it's great to see one that can be more attentive and chill.
You two are so adorable together. I love your friendship dynamic. Thank you, Irene, for this wonderful video. I felt like you were describing me when talking about socializing with Neurotypical people. I am grateful for your channel as it provides a safe space for us Neurodivergents. I am a cancer so I would vibe with both of you.
30:10 I feel that. Like they either want to feel superior or avoid me. Like a lot of people want to 'put me in my place' when it comes to them having a level of authority. Groups of females (in the sense of all ages ect) I have had a lot of issues with too. I'm very guarded myself and that does come off as a red flag to the people with a mindset of social rules over logic (Si/Fi over Ti/Ni all Introverted functions because it is all internal processes)
I heavily relate to your stories and life journey as I get to understand many people in my circle who might have ADHD and perhaps being autistic; but,never been diagnosed. Keep up with the good work as a coach Irene.
This was amazing...love the energy exchanges between you guys. I definitely relate to Irene more, and appreciate both of your honest comments about these deep and important topics! It shouldn't be stigmatizing or taboo to talk about social interactions which it seems like in neurotypical settings.
LMAOOOOOO I do the funny crying face screen shot when my sister in law NEVER picks up lmaoooooo. No one wants someone to be like "you never pick up whenever I call you, can you tell me why?" like ...uhhhh...maybe stop calling lmao. This just made me so happy. I need a Kevin.
OMG! You two are adorable, and very much, kindred spirits. 1 more week left until the assessment. But I swear, I am both of you combined--including every single life detail other than ethnicity.
Yes me too To hear you feel like I find someone like me I have dyslexia and trying to find out weather I’m autistic and have adhd. I’m Chinese too but my family speaks Cantonese so they don’t understand my learning difficulties plus I’m Pisces too so thank you I really want to thank you even though I’m 46 it like I’m not alone anymore
I would totally talk to you about the things you think about before going to sleep Irene. They might be uncomfortable things, but that's missing that you are there being supportive and trying to help because you've had those experiences too, or similar ones. And that's really beautiful of you 💙💙💙💙 And it might be an intense and draining process, but it's also feeling light afterwards or feeling like a weight is lifted 💙💙 I LOVE the bright colorful clothes 😁, why have a few colors, when you can have them all!
Loved this video! When you mentioned about the sound having textures and taste and feelings being associated to colors... have you heard about synesthesia? It reminds me of that.
I relate to you both. Still not officially diagnosed, but i relate as a high masking women. Yet being style like Kev, ... but I am gemini, so outgoing introvert! ❤
Shit---I relate to this friendship so much and love your friendship with Kevin :D I too am an Asian, AuDHD, Pisces woman; can we be friends? lol Love your stuff, Irene! Thank you for sharing your content. We need more POC autistic women sharing in the autistic community.
43:04 Not a Pisces and don't have it dominantly in my chart and I feel like I am the type to just bring people to confront their shadows with just interacting with them. As an INTP Sag (arguably I would seem to be INFJ but that Ne function? idk trying to work myself out. All I know is Carl Jung and I would have been besties) I will say, I have a self sacrificing friend who loves to dive deep into other people and talk about their traumas (in a non judgmental way) and she is a Pisces with I think Cancer and Capricorn placements. I used to push her too in a way. Not in a way that crossed boundaries but in a way where I really cared about her so I couldn't let her bad habits go un-commented. I of course focused more on giving her reassurances and self love. I really miss her, she's alive but a hermit case and so am I so like even though she lives close I don't want to seek her out uninvited. We used to live together. but yeah point was the Pisces connection. You two are totally different than each other but have that similarity of really getting to know the depths
I'm a Pisces too. I have often been told that I'm a great listener. When my best man asked me how I wanted to have my bachelor party I told him that I wanted to have friends over to my house to just talk. We could have gone to a club but clubs are too loud. We could have hired a dancer but I really just wanted to talk. I was diagnosed with Bipolar and you'd think that if that were actually true I'd want to do something a little bit naughty but I just wanted to talk to some friends at my own house.
Ugggh i wanna see you often . My trigger is that one sweet service waiters and sellers being sweeter to me . I want to stop fantasize youtubers Irene and kev friendship. Enneagram personality is genuine. 13:11 20:01 im trying to be more straightforward, im making new mistakes.
24:44 this is exactly why I don’t pursue friends anymore lol. I’m so direct and will ask “are u good? Are u upset with me?” And they will say no. Then later it turns out there is a problem and they act super weird about it. Then when I call them out, I get gaslit/ told all sorts of things. I have a hard time with ppl who can’t be accountable for their behavior/admit they are wrong. It’s always passive aggressive weird asses. I’ve had to burn many bridges because I won’t accept being treated that way and that made them upset 😳🙄🤣🤣🤣 Edit: this video was so good! Like I would watch this multiple times lol. I love Kevin’s view on getting to know ppl. I often wish I can feel that free but like I said above, ppl really suck lol. I keep trying as much as I can tho 🥺
13:46 Yo, ok so I have been unable to shut up in your comment section for like 3 videos now. ( I AM an introvert believe it or not lmao) The visual thing! I totally get that. I usually see colors in my mind for people, I see shapes and colors with music mentally if I focus on it (like a visualizer in my head of neon lights and lines on a black background) but those things can be my imagination. What isn't my imagination is how I feel sounds and it gets so annoying especially when it is a door not even if it is slamed but you know how people close doors heavily or it's just the door? I feel that along the left side of my spine starting from my neck and it just eeechkkk. It can be cool with music, I'll hold a bluetooth speaker to feel the bass if I'm over stimmed, but when it is random every day noises it gets overwhelming.
No No No don't say that all Woman are Like that...i had These Kind of experiences too. But i also experienced the opposite. Yes, with a click of Woman. They went out of their way to Connect with me and include me,cause i was unable 😂 so yeah It's Not women It's kindness or Lack of kindness, which is very Common sadly.
I suck at parties. That's why I drink, but I still can't engage even if I'm drinking. I get tired and would like to just go home. Its a double edge sword.
@@thethoughtspot222 aw yay! I’m from the bay too ☺️ do you still have the information of the clinician who diagnosed you? Love your content( and all the visual inserts lol) love that!
Haven’t even watched the video yet but My best friend is also a guy !!! We’ve been besties since 2nd grade and we’re 25 now. He’s an Aquarius and I’m a Virgo!!!
I also had totally unreal experiences with those “random” persons who just keep up pop up at the most unlikely place… really funny. One of them I avoided though because her vibe was very very unhealthy. Others were amazing people to know.
4:46 Also a huge this with Ne function (MBTI) KEvin, as far as ESFP: functions are [ Se Fi Te Ni ] BUT you do give me ENFP vibes which the functions are Ne Fi Te Si so look into the cognitive functions if you're willing to. I don't ever want to tell someone who they are but there are a lot of common mistakes with MBTI, the test can usually be a bit off - usually by one letter - I literally had to self-type through a long internal journey because I'm hard to pin with an assessment.. Like you, the details and variables matter because they rule out the possibilities of misinterpretation and every situation is different. This is my activation subject so I'll cut it shorter than I want. I don't know the S types super well and the archetyping for the general public is helpful and easier to digest but ultimately can lead to some incorrect assumptions so if the interest takes you it can be a beautiful and helpful journey of self. Side note, I've been working on a theory called "bridge functions" where it can appear for a person to have a function that otherwise wouldn't be on their primary function stack and this is because as we develop we usually try to make up for something we feel isn't there as well as combinations of other functions would work together to supplement for a function that isn't developed well. The bridge function I visualize as sitting in between the dominant and auxiliary function but off to the side a bit. One can seem to have Ne but have a stacked Ni if their primary function is extroverted and they need to connect to their abstract thinking often. In this case ADHD (watched the other video) would be a catalyst for activating bringing Ne up higher into the equation even after your personality has fully developed into ESFP (age 7-9 MBTI doesn't change unless you unlocked the DID DLC (sorry about that joke, I take DID very seriously but those that understand the concept I hope get a giggle out of it - I'm a dissociative disorder non identity so this isn't me making fun) Ok I said I would shut up before I went on a tangent but I did anyway. Disclaimer this was just for fun and conversational and I"m in no way trying to inappropriately analyze or diagnose or anything like that I just love talking about cognitive functions and the possibilities of the mind. Edit: swinging back to personality and Ni/Ne, ENFJ and ESFJ are known for making a lot of friends and taking care of them. Here is where simplifying archetypes may come in handy for diving deeper. ENFJ have Ni function. So it might just be that Fe function that does this but again ESFP doesn't have Fe so I'm a bit confused. (you can figure out the function stack with the letters so I'm not memorizing all these but ENFJ would have Fe Ni Se Ti and I really feel like this function stack makes sense. Child function (3rd) can often flip flop with the dominant function in tests because that function becomes our playgound and thus may even develop more than our dominant function. Lo and behold ENFJ has Se in child function and ESFP has it in dominant. Same functions in a different arrangement. If my theory and playful analysis is correct than this would mean that it is a classic case of a person being reverse-typed. See Frank James's videos for more detail (or Love who or various other channels that do NOT have a computer reading off a script lol) Again, this is just for fun 😅 and I'm self conscious because I really hyper focused but, DUDE, these two are just so fascinating. I don't know what her type is but I feel like she has the INTJ tendency to love being playfully picked on? INTJ's usually type correctly due to their Te+Ni combo. but this is just a guess. INFJ's I don't know many of, but it would make sense with asking people how they are doing and I jsut saw the thumbnail for another video mentioning INFJ so.... I'd say that would be accurate but I still laugh at that INTJ trait of having to be accurate and loving to be teased lmao. (as far as INFJ I may be one? I also have a disjointed personality that never fully formed due to instability in childhood and neglect so I'm not saying this to be unique but I might not be hard formed to a personality like I should be idk. my Ne/Ni battle each other for control.
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“People either want to get away from or establish dominance over me.” OH MY GOD that hit me right in the heart. The way you’re able to vocalize these really specific qualities and experiences makes me feel so seen and heard. Thank you ❤️
I love Kevin, not even halfway through the video
Within the first few words of speaking I can see why Kevin is your best friend, you two share such an amazing energy when you're together. I'm glad y'all found each other
Kev is such a mood lol
Nice to have you back! On today’s episode I’m deeply grateful to be able to introduce my best friend Kevin to you guys. We both met and became quick friends and I cannot express how much his companionship has inspired me over the last few years. Soulmates can be friends too-that cannot be anymore true! We were both diagnosed with ADHD around the same time separate from each other and didn’t even realize it until we finally got together one day and realized we were diagnosed at the same time. Navigating our neurodivergency is an ongoing journey that isn’t always easy or beautiful. Some days it’s hard to find something to be grateful for on this journey. There are some days where you can even hate that part of yourself that makes it so hard to get by as simply as it can seem for others. Discovering your neurodivergency late in life and with little to no support from family can make that journey really difficult. Although we joke quite often about our mental health, it is a very seriously state of being that is worth acknowledging. It’s important for us to show that although life is so beautiful and there is so much to laugh about-it also doesn’t mean that there aren’t really dark days where the depression and anxiety take over. As Kevin said, we are navigating this life the best we know how. Sometimes we don’t have the answers. But that’s okay because that’s how life is. Be gentle to us. Be gentle to him. We are all sensitive beings with a lot of love to give. I hope you guys grow to understand, love, and appreciate Kevin as a human as much as I do! The world, or at least my viewers deserve to get to know someone like him. Cheers.☯️
seeing you n kev made me think of shye and I(getting married 6/7/24 it's so amazing! tho' shye has tourettes on top! of ADHD and severe OCD lol overtime things can settle down n be more grounded structured grounded in the friendship like the picture over Kev's shoulder the two pictures mean something too the simple halo peachy behind yours you are a really sweet girl woman strong I wrote all that I could feel cos I respect you your friend lily sky xx 🏵️🏵️🏵️🏵️🏵️🏵️🏵️🌻🌻
I smiled from ear to ear the entire time! Not only is Kevin a gem, but your vibe sparks up in an endearing way when you're with him. Watching this reminds me of how much I treasure my friendships as well and how they bring a different side of my personality out when I'm with them. Thanks for posting such wonderful content 🦋
the more i gradually watch your videos, the more in love i fall with your personality. it’s like i can feel your authenticity and i love how accurately you articulate neurodivergent people’s experiences. i connect a lot with your content and it helps me feel so valid. thanks!
btw, i enjoyed your friendship dynamic lol
even though I’m not diagnosed with autism and it’s still a big question in my life, I HEAVILY relate to feeling awkward in groups of women. I feel like the emphasis on non-verbal communication and comforting one another is something that I’m just not wired for
You two are hilarious and I love your friendship ✨
I like genuine people like these two😻. I am happy they found each other. 💜💜
Seeing you guys together makes me want to try to make friends again! I gave up on having close friends two years ago..
I hope you've had some luck in making friends! 🤗 You deserve it~
THIS MADE MY NEURODIVERGENT HEART AND HUMANITY FOCUSED SPIRIT SMILE SO BIG
thank you ✨💙💙
it’s so healing to see two neurodiverse friends like you, who are so sweet & intuitive of each other!!
I relate to remembering extreme detail. I can see everything in my mind’s eye particularly in relation to the physical space an event happened in.
Kev has a cool voice, btw. Enjoying this kind of content!
Edit: I’m living for the edits!
Edit2: “sometimes social situations don’t really have logic”. This is so profound to me. I need this to be on a sweatshirt as merch.
Literally having been ostracized by groups women all my life, I just watch it play out in slow motion. The difficulty is they are often so mean or superficial it makes me more indifferent to the lowkey bullying than to want to make an effort to get to know them.
Kevin is such a great listener I loooove him! What a great human
This was so satisfying to watch. I’m an undiagnosed autistic, and I don’t have many people who understands the daily struggle much less able to joke about 💗💖
I'm only 26 mins into this video but just *have* to say, "I totally get where Irene is coming from and it's so nice to hear someone else being so similar to myself." 🙂 I'm also learning, from Kev, a strategy for making connections with others. I think he's so cool about things.
Can I be your third musketeer? Your friendship is so pure, deep, and admirable. Kevin listens to Irene with full interest and is so empathetic and fun. I have only had a few friends take interest in me as well. I’m usually the one listening to others with interest. I share a similar world view in that I believe everyone has something about them that is interesting and endearing. I wish I had friends who looked at me in this way. Thanks for sharing your dynamic Irene & Kevin. ❤
I relate to you Irene a lot even as a man. I’m autistic. I notice lots of women give dirty looks or silent treatment in past jobs. I get on better with other men but also usually don’t get on with most of them. Men are the ones that usually express the taking dominance behaviour you speak about although some men can be catty like women. I have been able to get on with a few people but because it’s so rare I immediately suspect that they are likely also neurodivergent and a lot of times they seem to be.
You guys are so funny together and have great balance! He definitely seems more considerate than most other ESFP's I've met. I've really struggled with ESFP's in my life, finding that they're not very considerate and aren't super great at giving space to others, so I mostly avoid them. So, it's great to see one that can be more attentive and chill.
You two are so adorable together. I love your friendship dynamic. Thank you, Irene, for this wonderful video. I felt like you were describing me when talking about socializing with Neurotypical people. I am grateful for your channel as it provides a safe space for us Neurodivergents. I am a cancer so I would vibe with both of you.
I love your dynamic!
Kev is a great human being
YES!!! Yall are yin and yang and y’all are SO REAL for real yall Strongg
30:10 I feel that. Like they either want to feel superior or avoid me. Like a lot of people want to 'put me in my place' when it comes to them having a level of authority. Groups of females (in the sense of all ages ect) I have had a lot of issues with too. I'm very guarded myself and that does come off as a red flag to the people with a mindset of social rules over logic (Si/Fi over Ti/Ni all Introverted functions because it is all internal processes)
I need a Kev in my life 😅
I heavily relate to your stories and life journey as I get to understand many people in my circle who might have ADHD and perhaps being autistic; but,never been diagnosed. Keep up with the good work as a coach Irene.
You have such a beautiful friendship and you complement each other so well!
Kevin is delightful. ❤
This was amazing...love the energy exchanges between you guys. I definitely relate to Irene more, and appreciate both of your honest comments about these deep and important topics! It shouldn't be stigmatizing or taboo to talk about social interactions which it seems like in neurotypical settings.
LMAOOOOOO I do the funny crying face screen shot when my sister in law NEVER picks up lmaoooooo. No one wants someone to be like "you never pick up whenever I call you, can you tell me why?" like ...uhhhh...maybe stop calling lmao. This just made me so happy. I need a Kevin.
OMG! You two are adorable, and very much, kindred spirits. 1 more week left until the assessment. But I swear, I am both of you combined--including every single life detail other than ethnicity.
This healed me . I hope I can find neurodivergent friends !
Yes me too
To hear you feel like I find someone like me I have dyslexia and trying to find out weather I’m autistic and have adhd. I’m Chinese too but my family speaks Cantonese so they don’t understand my learning difficulties plus I’m Pisces too so thank you I really want to thank you even though I’m 46 it like I’m not alone anymore
His voice is so soothing !
I need a kev ❤️😂
I would totally talk to you about the things you think about before going to sleep Irene.
They might be uncomfortable things, but that's missing that you are there being supportive and trying to help because you've had those experiences too, or similar ones. And that's really beautiful of you 💙💙💙💙
And it might be an intense and draining process, but it's also feeling light afterwards or feeling like a weight is lifted 💙💙
I LOVE the bright colorful clothes 😁, why have a few colors, when you can have them all!
What a cool friendship! ❤️
My stories are like a roller coaster, weaving in and out, up and down and often with an abrupt end. 😂😂
You are such wonderful souls 💖🥹
you guys are so lovely ❤
Beautiful souls! 💞
Loved this video! When you mentioned about the sound having textures and taste and feelings being associated to colors... have you heard about synesthesia? It reminds me of that.
I related to this video in so many ways thank you 🙏 😎😎😎😎😎
Thank you so much for this Irene ❤
Awh I love the vibe between you two 💖 such a chill and fun video, thanks for that 😁
I relate to you both. Still not officially diagnosed, but i relate as a high masking women. Yet being style like Kev, ... but I am gemini, so outgoing introvert! ❤
Shit---I relate to this friendship so much and love your friendship with Kevin :D I too am an Asian, AuDHD, Pisces woman; can we be friends? lol Love your stuff, Irene! Thank you for sharing your content. We need more POC autistic women sharing in the autistic community.
43:04 Not a Pisces and don't have it dominantly in my chart and I feel like I am the type to just bring people to confront their shadows with just interacting with them. As an INTP Sag (arguably I would seem to be INFJ but that Ne function? idk trying to work myself out. All I know is Carl Jung and I would have been besties)
I will say, I have a self sacrificing friend who loves to dive deep into other people and talk about their traumas (in a non judgmental way) and she is a Pisces with I think Cancer and Capricorn placements. I used to push her too in a way. Not in a way that crossed boundaries but in a way where I really cared about her so I couldn't let her bad habits go un-commented. I of course focused more on giving her reassurances and self love. I really miss her, she's alive but a hermit case and so am I so like even though she lives close I don't want to seek her out uninvited. We used to live together. but yeah point was the Pisces connection. You two are totally different than each other but have that similarity of really getting to know the depths
I love this so much yall are hilarious together and I’d love to see more content just like this!!
I'm a Pisces too. I have often been told that I'm a great listener. When my best man asked me how I wanted to have my bachelor party I told him that I wanted to have friends over to my house to just talk. We could have gone to a club but clubs are too loud. We could have hired a dancer but I really just wanted to talk. I was diagnosed with Bipolar and you'd think that if that were actually true I'd want to do something a little bit naughty but I just wanted to talk to some friends at my own house.
Ugggh i wanna see you often . My trigger is that one sweet service waiters and sellers being sweeter to me . I want to stop fantasize youtubers Irene and kev friendship. Enneagram personality is genuine. 13:11
20:01 im trying to be more straightforward, im making new mistakes.
I swear to god I ❤you both.😊😊😊😊
Awww, Kevin makes me want to cry. What a great person. How wonderful for both of you that you found each other. 🩵
I need a Kev in my life 😊
24:44 this is exactly why I don’t pursue friends anymore lol. I’m so direct and will ask “are u good? Are u upset with me?” And they will say no. Then later it turns out there is a problem and they act super weird about it. Then when I call them out, I get gaslit/ told all sorts of things. I have a hard time with ppl who can’t be accountable for their behavior/admit they are wrong. It’s always passive aggressive weird asses. I’ve had to burn many bridges because I won’t accept being treated that way and that made them upset 😳🙄🤣🤣🤣
Edit: this video was so good! Like I would watch this multiple times lol. I love Kevin’s view on getting to know ppl. I often wish I can feel that free but like I said above, ppl really suck lol. I keep trying as much as I can tho 🥺
Omg I've dealt with this too! It's so exhausting!! >:0
I love Kevin
13:46 Yo, ok so I have been unable to shut up in your comment section for like 3 videos now. ( I AM an introvert believe it or not lmao) The visual thing! I totally get that. I usually see colors in my mind for people, I see shapes and colors with music mentally if I focus on it (like a visualizer in my head of neon lights and lines on a black background) but those things can be my imagination. What isn't my imagination is how I feel sounds and it gets so annoying especially when it is a door not even if it is slamed but you know how people close doors heavily or it's just the door? I feel that along the left side of my spine starting from my neck and it just eeechkkk. It can be cool with music, I'll hold a bluetooth speaker to feel the bass if I'm over stimmed, but when it is random every day noises it gets overwhelming.
Loved listening to you both🫶🏼
No No No don't say that all Woman are Like that...i had These Kind of experiences too. But i also experienced the opposite. Yes, with a click of Woman. They went out of their way to Connect with me and include me,cause i was unable 😂 so yeah It's Not women It's kindness or Lack of kindness, which is very Common sadly.
I suck at parties. That's why I drink, but I still can't engage even if I'm drinking. I get tired and would like to just go home. Its a double edge sword.
Awww you guys are so cool. What area of the country did you guys grow up? I'm from the Philly area but I can't really pick up on accents.
We were both born and raised in the Bay Area🧡
@@thethoughtspot222 aw yay! I’m from the bay too ☺️ do you still have the information of the clinician who diagnosed you? Love your content( and all the visual inserts lol) love that!
This was so funny I love yall 😂❤
Yes, I have a really good memory
i love this video & it makes me want to be friends with both of you
Haven’t even watched the video yet but My best friend is also a guy !!! We’ve been besties since 2nd grade and we’re 25 now. He’s an Aquarius and I’m a Virgo!!!
I loved this 😂😂😂😂
I also had totally unreal experiences with those “random” persons who just keep up pop up at the most unlikely place… really funny. One of them I avoided though because her vibe was very very unhealthy. Others were amazing people to know.
Everyone should have a katelyn :,)
I love being lost in the sauce ❤
does kevin have a youtube channel?
21:43 lmaooo 😂😂😭
Hahaha, Kevin is the funniest person ever. Love his bad memory and enthusiasm, it's so heart warming to me. 😄🫶🏻✨
Kevin has similar traits to my ex, even astrologically. Thankfully kevin isn’t a psychopath like my ex though
Sounds like a U2 SONG, eg syn-es-the-sia
Showing my age, meant communication is your superpower
4:46 Also a huge this with Ne function (MBTI)
KEvin, as far as ESFP: functions are [ Se Fi Te Ni ]
BUT you do give me ENFP vibes which the functions are Ne Fi Te Si so look into the cognitive functions if you're willing to. I don't ever want to tell someone who they are but there are a lot of common mistakes with MBTI, the test can usually be a bit off - usually by one letter - I literally had to self-type through a long internal journey because I'm hard to pin with an assessment.. Like you, the details and variables matter because they rule out the possibilities of misinterpretation and every situation is different. This is my activation subject so I'll cut it shorter than I want. I don't know the S types super well and the archetyping for the general public is helpful and easier to digest but ultimately can lead to some incorrect assumptions so if the interest takes you it can be a beautiful and helpful journey of self.
Side note, I've been working on a theory called "bridge functions" where it can appear for a person to have a function that otherwise wouldn't be on their primary function stack and this is because as we develop we usually try to make up for something we feel isn't there as well as combinations of other functions would work together to supplement for a function that isn't developed well. The bridge function I visualize as sitting in between the dominant and auxiliary function but off to the side a bit. One can seem to have Ne but have a stacked Ni if their primary function is extroverted and they need to connect to their abstract thinking often. In this case ADHD (watched the other video) would be a catalyst for activating bringing Ne up higher into the equation even after your personality has fully developed into ESFP (age 7-9 MBTI doesn't change unless you unlocked the DID DLC (sorry about that joke, I take DID very seriously but those that understand the concept I hope get a giggle out of it - I'm a dissociative disorder non identity so this isn't me making fun)
Ok I said I would shut up before I went on a tangent but I did anyway. Disclaimer this was just for fun and conversational and I"m in no way trying to inappropriately analyze or diagnose or anything like that I just love talking about cognitive functions and the possibilities of the mind.
Edit: swinging back to personality and Ni/Ne, ENFJ and ESFJ are known for making a lot of friends and taking care of them. Here is where simplifying archetypes may come in handy for diving deeper. ENFJ have Ni function. So it might just be that Fe function that does this but again ESFP doesn't have Fe so I'm a bit confused. (you can figure out the function stack with the letters so I'm not memorizing all these but ENFJ would have Fe Ni Se Ti and I really feel like this function stack makes sense. Child function (3rd) can often flip flop with the dominant function in tests because that function becomes our playgound and thus may even develop more than our dominant function. Lo and behold ENFJ has Se in child function and ESFP has it in dominant. Same functions in a different arrangement. If my theory and playful analysis is correct than this would mean that it is a classic case of a person being reverse-typed. See Frank James's videos for more detail (or Love who or various other channels that do NOT have a computer reading off a script lol)
Again, this is just for fun 😅 and I'm self conscious because I really hyper focused but, DUDE, these two are just so fascinating. I don't know what her type is but I feel like she has the INTJ tendency to love being playfully picked on? INTJ's usually type correctly due to their Te+Ni combo. but this is just a guess. INFJ's I don't know many of, but it would make sense with asking people how they are doing and I jsut saw the thumbnail for another video mentioning INFJ so.... I'd say that would be accurate but I still laugh at that INTJ trait of having to be accurate and loving to be teased lmao.
(as far as INFJ I may be one? I also have a disjointed personality that never fully formed due to instability in childhood and neglect so I'm not saying this to be unique but I might not be hard formed to a personality like I should be idk. my Ne/Ni battle each other for control.
Omg that’s me haha 8:35
Lol!!
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Good video yeah?