i'm a man and i give much respect to this woman, because what she is saying is true for a lot of these deadbeat fathers out here....much respect to her....
There’s a finish line. I walk one everyday, kids over 21. All have degrees, have managerial and Director Status. One has her own business (entrepreneur ) and doing very well. We made it work. We’re good!
I'm sure she meant they're almost all of an age to where she wouldn't have to even consider contacting him for anything that one parent would contact the other parent about
@@KoiStewart-r6d”won’t let them” you sound weak dude. The excuses are pathetic. No court will deny visitation or custody unless you are a violent criminal or drug user, and even then you still can…just be honest, you don’t want to be bothered and you don’t like your child’s mother, so the kid has to suffer 🤡
My personal experience as a man that grew up without his father seeing my mother and choosing the wrong man multiple times came to the conclusion it was her bad decisions. I’m fifty two years old now and every time I her the complaining from women I reflect back to my own personal experiences with my mother.
my deadbeat dad did the same ignored us when we was young, no xmas birthday presents no acknowledgment from him, only when we was grown did he want to know us, i said kick rocks, we never left our home growing up, so he can not say, mom left the area and left no following address, he was just not bothered, so when he passed i could not be bothered
sorry you went through that, I have a kid with a man who behaves the same way, it really stinks but it taught me to be very careful who I have children with, and I now have a lot of trust issues because of dealing with this person.
I agree, but adult children end up knowing for themselves what their parents have done and not done for them during the major child rearing stages. I knew someone’s father who tried to suddenly come around after she had reached the age of 21 and was already in her final year of college. By that point, she was focused on really starting her adult years and had no space or interest to add him into her life.
For sure it is over. Remember they aren’t children anymore. You can’t run their life and have control over them like you use to. The best you as parent can do is to give them advices but the choice to make either they listen to you or not belong to them.
Not once did I hear her call him her ex husband...next time pick a guy to have access to your body that's willing to build a home for a family....and not just a temporary boyfriend at best
And those watching will learn this from her experience which is the point of the video. She can't change her situation but she can help someone else who might be as hard headed as her when she was young
We've had 30+ years praising the AB single mother and denigrating the AB father. There DOES NOT need to be a balancing of the scales - as the scale is broken, burnt and marred beyong recognition.
I agree with you. People are unrealistic nowadays. She is right. My deadbeat father (and mother) didnt raise me or do anything for me. I was in the foster care system being moved from placement to placement unprotected. BUT ALL OF SUDDEN, I turn 18, join the military, start doing good for myself, ALL OF SUDDEN its "my daughter this", "my daughter that", and trying to be on life. After everyone else did the work.I was "NAW!" not having it. I know whats up. Where was all that "my daughter this and that" when I needed you the most. My father couldnt tell me my favorite color 😒
Naah, i hold judgement. 1. She said he didn't contribute, women dont consider child support contribution to children, even if thats all he did he contributed. 2.she said it herself, the kids are grown now, now the man coming around. Did she kept the kids from him, now that the kids are adults she cant stop them from being around him. 3. She said phones, was he always able to call or just recently. Now that he can see his kids, hes finding out things and she knows why he wants to talk to her and shes avoiding the confrontation. 4. Need to hear both sides, im not condemning no man on a womans world, even if shes family. She may have not bad mouth him to the kids, but that doesn't mean he had access to his kids either!
As a man who is going thru this myself... It hurt to hear Phil just take her side ... No proof or anything about the brother...just what she say is the word...smh
I was about 7. I saw my mother 1 day and I didn't see her again until I was 16 years old. we had two conversations over the phone. My father would have never .Allowed me to ignore my mother when she came back around. Parents are human beings too, and they make mistakes, but if they're trying to make things right you should give them the opportunity to make things right. Because that's what family actually does for each other. What my dad would say honor thy father and mother. I Didn't have a dead beat dad I had a dead beat mom. She wasn't around when I was growing up, But we have a relationship now, and that's extremely important
This is one of the reasons I don't date a single mother if you can put your business for the world to see speak on the children father is no go zone for me
Some people want to show up for the light lifting and not the heavy duty work. Although parenting doesn’t end just because the child is grown, I get what she is saying.
She sounds like a good parent, but, society has changed her. If she was trauma free she wouldn’t be on TikTok airing her business, unless, he’s done it?
@@dr.robertbennett3452 did you listen to what she said? She’s on the Internet destroying this man’s reputation that we’re supposed to believe that she never said nothing negative about him to her children. The fact that she asked her kid what hos or her dad wanted tells you how she talks about the man to the kids.
But why were they separated and why did she continue to have children with him if he wasn't suitable? Did she leave or did he leave? There are too many questions to ask. I need to hear the other side
I cut my children’s Dad out completely. No. 1, when we divorced, he told the judge he wasn’t their father. No. 2, he refused to show up for the blood test. And No. 3, he was abusive. So I moved without notice and he had no idea where we were. And he hasn’t seen them since they were 2 and 6 months. Here he comes after they’re grown, I don’t know how he knew to find me and sends me a message via Facebook. Talking about “Hi you doing?” And I was like “why are you contacting me? Kids are grown, don’t need you and are successful, educated, contributing adults! There’s no need to contact me now.” Little did he know, because he didn’t show up, they made him the Dad anyway and I got sent $225 for 2 kids for child support. $225 was a pair of shoes for one. We’re good, don’t call me ANYMORE!! 😉
@@joelbreezy3116 correction, he decided to to tell judge he wasn’t their father, then decided after the kids took the blood tests and decided not to show up. Furthermore? He was not a great father or role model. Kids should not live in an abusive household where my Sons and Daughters see that behavior and think that’s how family are and it’s okay when Dads put their hands on Mothers. They grew up in a great environment, in a beautiful home, traveling all over the world and got a great Dad. Someone who actually wanted them and is adding his name to their birth certificates and adopting them as his legal children. Their Bio had the chance and blew it. They don’t ask about him, my Man is their Dad!
I one hundred percent agree with her. He is her pass the children are grown now he can talk to them directly himself. The problem is the kids do not want to talk to him and he wants her to convince the kids to talk to him. Because he realizes in his old age he has no one to take care of him. Its all a game. Until they realize time waits on no one. Now his kids do not want anything to do with him. This is with every absent parent that I know of. My friends had absent Farther's. Their Farther's trying to come back old and sick in their lives they told them to go to hell left their absent Farther's to die alone in a nursing home.
There are men who simply can’t be faithful. They never bond fully with their children. I know some personally. It’s not an attack on all black men. These are the conversations that need to be had. Our community is nuanced. We are all not one thing or the other.
It’s called grwm or get ready with me. We women watch it. It’s a woman thing. I watch a couple women who do their makeup while speaking on historical topics.
Unc Phil, we hear you but she and they CONSCIOUSLY chose that man and men. They open themselves up to these men and have children with them all while knowing better before hand. So there is no excuse at this point.
This is only one side of the story. I can’t believe anything she would say until I heard his side. She probably moved and he just found out where those kids are, If she’s been keeping them away from their father. The fact that she even made this video sounds like damage control to me.
@user-li1te2mh4k This is not about her being a woman. It’s not about what sex you are. I don’t believe in going off one half of ANY story. So are you saying HIS side of a story is not important because he’s a Man?
The starting point is the choice people make. She preferred to make babies with him out of the guys that were interested in her, if at all the children belong to the same man she is talking about (these slay queens do multiple all the time), stayed with him to get 3 kids, and now she is venting while saying she's not venting. Very subtle baby mama!
How do you know that? Were you her best friend? Neighbor? .. Phil is speaking TRUTH and he is not biased. I definitely can tell by comments who are the type of people to lack accountability 😂 sad and it gets them nowhere..smh
At the end of the day she sounds bitter and she CHOSE him. That was not the hand that she was dealt she again made the decision to lay down with him not once but THREE times. She has to take half of the blame for the situation.
When we are young we all make bad decisions. Especially went we are not taught properly by our parents. We as young women and men needs to be taught how to choose the right person for us.
I relate to her I’ve been raising my sister kids since the were 3 and half now thy are 16(twins) and 15. My sister is trying to get herself together and comeback in their lives and I’m helping her the best I can but they had been kinda rejecting her but they are becoming more accepting of her after time. But as of last week the father of the twins who seen them once before in their life when they were 10 is trying to come back in their life and they want nothing to do with him. They both feels like I’m their father and they lack for nothing and needs nothing from him. As a man who doesn’t even know my father’s name I’ve tried to push them to think about trying to build a relationship with him they were not having that. Not going to lie apart of me want to say bump him but I know I have to help them accept him so I guess that’s my next journey.
This was more speculating about the father based on the mother's version of the story.She was doing her make up talking about how she raised the kids and paid the bills.That's what the custodial parent does.
She possibly has been keeping him away the whole time! All she keeps saying is we have nothing to talk about! So she had 3 kids with a deadbeat? Whose fault is that?
You missed the part he contacted the teen about speaking to the mother, and the teen relayed the message to her, the mother. So, that destroys your argument that he's been kept away. Both, don't be the guy caping for a bum. She stepped up and did what she had to do. When she said "we" meant she and the deadbeat. Apparently, he has spoken to the youngest one, and there are 2 grown kids.
Exactly these women be keeping the man away or creating an atmosphere that is chaotic for the man.. then wanna blame the man because he still wants to be in his children's life.. news flash.. this will ALWAYS be his kids as long as he's alive
We need to hear about single fathers as well.tgere are women who have children ,and decide to leave and not do anything for nor see the child while dad raises and nourishes said child.
Yes and No. some of these mom be holding the children at the start of a young age LITERALLY!! To hurt the man so when they disappear what do you expect for them to do.
I totally understand. Their dad is in their life but due to circumstances that he has done to me physically, we have nothing to talk about. I forgive but will not return to foolishness. Peace and Blessings though. Nailed it Phil 3:31
I left my sons mother when he was an infant because she was physically and verbally abusive to me. I was not raised to fight women, so i left. We co-parent well now, but a man should not have to deal with abuse or the threat of police involvement to see their kid(s).
Just given the information given, she is well within her right to feel the way she does. Now I'm sure there is a side to his story, but the proof is in the pudding. You got to be there and deal with the woman you made children with, unfortunately.
Being the son of a single mom, I got one of the good ones. Only child, never had multiple men in and out of her home, and she was in the army... so there was a decent amount of discipline on her end. The other single moms in the hood made my mom look almost like mother Theresa 😂
Phil, I see your point, but here is my disagreement. No matter what she says, she was a participant with the man before and after they had kids, so what does that say about her?
Men gotta realize there's WAAAAAYY too many dead beat dads in our community. Y'all favorite episode of Fresh Prince is when Will is telling Phil about him not needing his father in his life, YET Y'ALL DON'T GET THE MESSAGE!!! We joke about the dad never coming back from the store AND NEVER ADDRESS IT!!!
That's why I don't understand why these b m hop in the comments acting like deadbeats disappeared off the face of earth 🌎. Those of us working with children know that there are way too many children of single moms whose pappy is blaq. Including biracial children. So b m are the common denominator leaving not just b w, but others left to raise kids alone. And I know for a fact they will hop in these spaces pretending to be childless.
Stop it Phil It's always the men with daughters, expecting Men to put up for those single mothers who have destroyed the relationships lett them struggle with their bad behavior, & attitudes I'm calling cap with this lady with the Du-rag
@@angelgray8899yea because yall choose dead beats. Those single mother's are dead beats also. I guess you a single mom and your babydad a deadbeat. You chose a deadbeat because you a deadbeat. If I'm wrong then I apologize but to just say deadbeat with no context makes me believe what I said.
I'm glad the men on here are not throwing on their simp capes just because she's telling a fantastic story. Phil, get the WHOLE story before you pander.
You should never find out what kind of person you a dealing after you have a child. Men and Women do uour research on you partner before you make a life altering decision. Be safe
Sometimes men will put their best foot forward and present themselves a certain way just like some women do, but they turn out to be bums. My ex husband was very hard working in the beginning but started being lazy and became a verbally abusive cheater. I had to leave him so my daughter didnt grow up in a toxic environment. Unfortunately stuff like this happens.
I hear you but what would he say in these comments about YOU. Better yet, I’ll make it easy for you… Instead of mentioning any everything that he did wrong, what did you do? What did you contribute to?
@@aprilwagner8172They don't care. A lot of these dudes are the children of a deadbeat. They are dangerous and hate all b. W. They want to pretend like deadbeat b. .m. Don't exist.
I definitely have to hear his side of the story. I'm not believing her just based off of emotion. But ultimately it's the childs decision whether they want to see their dad once they're adults.
i'm a man and i give much respect to this woman, because what she is saying is true for a lot of these deadbeat fathers out here....much respect to her....
There's no finish line. As long as your child is breathing there is no finish line.
Facts 💯
Pay that bs no mind… You know women have no problem with an accepting all of the glory except when things go wrong.
FACTS@@lilbfrom094princeton8
There’s a finish line. I walk one everyday, kids over 21. All have degrees, have managerial and Director Status. One has her own business (entrepreneur ) and doing very well. We made it work. We’re good!
I'm sure she meant they're almost all of an age to where she wouldn't have to even consider contacting him for anything that one parent would contact the other parent about
Any father that do that don’t deserve to reap no benefits of the child
What about the dad's that want to see there kids but as usual the mom won't let them ill go missing in action to if I was him
@@KoiStewart-r6d”won’t let them” you sound weak dude. The excuses are pathetic. No court will deny visitation or custody unless you are a violent criminal or drug user, and even then you still can…just be honest, you don’t want to be bothered and you don’t like your child’s mother, so the kid has to suffer 🤡
My personal experience as a man that grew up without his father seeing my mother and choosing the wrong man multiple times came to the conclusion it was her bad decisions. I’m fifty two years old now and every time I her the complaining from women I reflect back to my own personal experiences with my mother.
You're a wise man
Two sides of the story. One is called crazy, one is called selfish.
my deadbeat dad did the same ignored us when we was young, no xmas birthday presents no acknowledgment from him, only when we was grown did he want to know us, i said kick rocks, we never left our home growing up, so he can not say, mom left the area and left no following address, he was just not bothered, so when he passed i could not be bothered
Amen 🙌🏿🙏🏿🙌🏿
sorry you went through that, I have a kid with a man who behaves the same way, it really stinks but it taught me to be very careful who I have children with, and I now have a lot of trust issues because of dealing with this person.
I heard that!!!!!
Absolutely!💯
My sister is a Pickmeisha, with a BUM who is in arrears, not paying child support is financial abuse to me
Got divorced in 2013 have four kids stayed in their lives never left.
They will not mention a standup Dad like yourself because you don't fit the narrative plus salute to you blackman ✊
@@georgeclark2554who is “they” 😂
After they grow up your job as a parent isn't over
I agree, but adult children end up knowing for themselves what their parents have done and not done for them during the major child rearing stages. I knew someone’s father who tried to suddenly come around after she had reached the age of 21 and was already in her final year of college. By that point, she was focused on really starting her adult years and had no space or interest to add him into her life.
For sure it is over. Remember they aren’t children anymore. You can’t run their life and have control over them like you use to. The best you as parent can do is to give them advices but the choice to make either they listen to you or not belong to them.
It isn't completely over but you sure as hell ain't legally responsible for them and that's a fact.
@@LMLification Good for her.
@@lydiakapten Exactly.
Not once did I hear her call him her ex husband...next time pick a guy to have access to your body that's willing to build a home for a family....and not just a temporary boyfriend at best
Exactly‼️
This🎯🎯🎯
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And those watching will learn this from her experience which is the point of the video. She can't change her situation but she can help someone else who might be as hard headed as her when she was young
...and that's my point exactly.
We've had 30+ years praising the AB single mother and denigrating the AB father.
There DOES NOT need to be a balancing of the scales - as the scale is broken, burnt and marred beyong recognition.
@@NoFreedoms-f1dExactly 🎯
We single people with no kids can't relate to none of this. The majority of us have been on leisure mode all weekend.
I’ve been preparing for the solar eclipse 😂
Yet, the majority of the comments are from single people who don’t have children 😢
Facts 👌🏾⭐
I agree with you. People are unrealistic nowadays.
She is right. My deadbeat father (and mother) didnt raise me or do anything for me. I was in the foster care system being moved from placement to placement unprotected. BUT ALL OF SUDDEN, I turn 18, join the military, start doing good for myself, ALL OF SUDDEN its "my daughter this", "my daughter that", and trying to be on life. After everyone else did the work.I was "NAW!" not having it. I know whats up. Where was all that "my daughter this and that" when I needed you the most. My father couldnt tell me my favorite color 😒
It was never intended for men and women to have children out of wedlock!! It has created a broken, chaotic and dysfunctional situation for everyone!!
Greetings you did everything as a parent as you should, congratulations. This goes both ways . Apparently you have been a great parent to your kids.
Naah, i hold judgement.
1. She said he didn't contribute, women dont consider child support contribution to children, even if thats all he did he contributed.
2.she said it herself, the kids are grown now, now the man coming around. Did she kept the kids from him, now that the kids are adults she cant stop them from being around him.
3. She said phones, was he always able to call or just recently. Now that he can see his kids, hes finding out things and she knows why he wants to talk to her and shes avoiding the confrontation.
4. Need to hear both sides, im not condemning no man on a womans world, even if shes family.
She may have not bad mouth him to the kids, but that doesn't mean he had access to his kids either!
Bingo
Most likely he didn't
As a man who is going thru this myself... It hurt to hear Phil just take her side ... No proof or anything about the brother...just what she say is the word...smh
She chose him. No matter how good or bad he was.
If she is online talking about it, she isn’t past it.
Exactly.
Losers always talking shyt and saying nothing. She should have chosen better. H3ll she thought he would stand by her. Be a pphhucckking man.
she is educating. without education the same mistake is repeated over and over
Facts. She's bitter.
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I was about 7.
I saw my mother 1 day and I didn't see her again until I was 16 years old. we had two conversations over the phone. My father would have never .Allowed me to ignore my mother when she came back around. Parents are human beings too, and they make mistakes, but if they're trying to make things right you should give them the opportunity to make things right. Because that's what family actually does for each other. What my dad would say honor thy father and mother.
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Didn't have a dead beat dad I had a dead beat mom. She wasn't around when I was growing up, But we have a relationship now, and that's extremely important
Yeah, I'd like to hear HIS side of the story too, thank you....
This is one of the reasons I don't date a single mother if you can put your business for the world to see speak on the children father is no go zone for me
She can’t keep the personal drama to herself.
Red flag.
Not all though ....I can tell by the way they act
@@robertmarley8852 keep hope alive 🤣😂 I am not straps sexual.
Im a single mom and i keep to myself
Some people want to show up for the light lifting and not the heavy duty work. Although parenting doesn’t end just because the child is grown, I get what she is saying.
She sounds like a good parent, but, society has changed her. If she was trauma free she wouldn’t be on TikTok airing her business, unless, he’s done it?
No accountability just like the democratic party😂
How is she a good parent by keeping the children away from their father?
@@lilbfrom094princeton8what??? Did you actually listen to what she said?
@@dr.robertbennett3452 did you listen to what she said? She’s on the Internet destroying this man’s reputation that we’re supposed to believe that she never said nothing negative about him to her children. The fact that she asked her kid what hos or her dad wanted tells you how she talks about the man to the kids.
@dr.robertbennett3452 Did you!!!
But why were they separated and why did she continue to have children with him if he wasn't suitable? Did she leave or did he leave? There are too many questions to ask. I need to hear the other side
We will never hear the whole story.
At the end of the day, not raising your children is the only thing that should be looked at sideways regardless of
Exactly
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@@jacubtscorpio5084 So we shouldn't consider why he couldn't raise his children or what she did or said?
Thank you brother. We needed these truths to be revealed and discussed.
I cut my children’s Dad out completely. No. 1, when we divorced, he told the judge he wasn’t their father. No. 2, he refused to show up for the blood test. And No. 3, he was abusive. So I moved without notice and he had no idea where we were. And he hasn’t seen them since they were 2 and 6 months. Here he comes after they’re grown, I don’t know how he knew to find me and sends me a message via Facebook. Talking about “Hi you doing?” And I was like “why are you contacting me? Kids are grown, don’t need you and are successful, educated, contributing adults! There’s no need to contact me now.” Little did he know, because he didn’t show up, they made him the Dad anyway and I got sent $225 for 2 kids for child support. $225 was a pair of shoes for one. We’re good, don’t call me ANYMORE!! 😉
It's probably an ego thing because nobody asked for that negro to contact anyone.
You allowed your hate for the other parent stop them from having a relationship with their father. Shame on you smh
@@joelbreezy3116 correction, he decided to to tell judge he wasn’t their father, then decided after the kids took the blood tests and decided not to show up. Furthermore? He was not a great father or role model. Kids should not live in an abusive household where my Sons and Daughters see that behavior and think that’s how family are and it’s okay when Dads put their hands on Mothers. They grew up in a great environment, in a beautiful home, traveling all over the world and got a great Dad. Someone who actually wanted them and is adding his name to their birth certificates and adopting them as his legal children. Their Bio had the chance and blew it. They don’t ask about him, my Man is their Dad!
@@joelbreezy3116 speak on what you know.
I hear yah Sis. My sentiments exactly 👍🏾
I hear at least two absent fathers in her story, she might just be the problem
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She never bashed the other parent. That is a lie
I one hundred percent agree with her. He is her pass the children are grown now he can talk to them directly himself. The problem is the kids do not want to talk to him and he wants her to convince the kids to talk to him.
Because he realizes in his old age he has no one to take care of him. Its all a game. Until they realize time waits on no one. Now his kids do not want anything to do with him.
This is with every absent parent that I know of. My friends had absent Farther's. Their Farther's trying to come back old and sick in their lives they told them to go to hell left their absent Farther's to die alone in a nursing home.
As we know..... THERE ARE EXCEPTIONS!!
I can relate to every single word th at came out her mouth. I’m a single dad. Same exact situation just reversed. Literally just with 1 child not 3.
No, why do POOKIE wants to come into the picture when it's done.
There are men who simply can’t be faithful. They never bond fully with their children. I know some personally. It’s not an attack on all black men. These are the conversations that need to be had. Our community is nuanced. We are all not one thing or the other.
Yt men are the original absent/abusive dads/husbands, so you're right it isn't an all BM thing.And there are also bad BW. So ......
Shot out to her. What she said was very well presented.
The fact that you can have an opinion of the dad while knowing nothing about him is crazy
Agreed!
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BINGO.....for all we know the father has BEEN reaching out and she could've been denying him...
These make up while telling a story videos are annoying just speak 🤦🏾♂️
I noticed a lot of these women have makeup and filters already on before putting on makeup. I’m not fooled.
It’s a good way to keep the viewers attention.
just wait until they start putting on and taking off their bras on Camera while venting, if it's not already happening...
Make up generates a lot of views. They do it with crime stories too.
It’s called grwm or get ready with me. We women watch it. It’s a woman thing. I watch a couple women who do their makeup while speaking on historical topics.
Unc Phil, we hear you but she and they CONSCIOUSLY chose that man and men. They open themselves up to these men and have children with them all while knowing better before hand. So there is no excuse at this point.
She still chose him.
They always do, they pick losers and then want a trophy for being a single mother.
That’s all you have to say… He still could have chose to help her with their kids.
And he is still a deadbeat bum. You cry about accountability, then don't let a sorry man, off the hook by hollering, you chose him.
Exactly!
And he chose to have a baby, yes? And he chose not to take care of his children, right?
Under NO circumstances society should celebrate bad behaviors and mindsets promoting baby momma/single motherhood!!
it is never too late for a father to involve in his children lives. they need their father.
The job is never done.
Another issue is when the guy who the mom says hasnt been around for 20 years ( allegedly ) suddenly wants to see his kids when the new guy shows up .
It’s goes back to who you lay down with and if the kid is interested in want to know his father
Maybe he just wanted to give you your flowers. Remember, you chose him
There's 3 sides to a story in this case the guy side,her side and the truth😌
It's crazy you mentioned Jody but that's who they usually like tho 💀☠️
She isn’t past it. You can tell. I can’t blame her.
Strange she will mention all the red flags in that Man to begin with. Yet she still chose him. That part. Go figure.
3 times too 😂
This is only one side of the story. I can’t believe anything she would say until I heard his side. She probably moved and he just found out where those kids are, If she’s been keeping them away from their father. The fact that she even made this video sounds like damage control to me.
Facts, she had how many kids by the dude. She picked him. KS👑🫡
Exactly 💯 why make a video about it if you don't care.
Nomsayin. ABW love to play victim
lol... ok
@user-li1te2mh4k This is not about her being a woman. It’s not about what sex you are. I don’t believe in going off one half of ANY story. So are you saying HIS side of a story is not important because he’s a Man?
Shoutout to the father he dodge a bullet 😂
He didn’t dodge a bullet!! He has 3 kids with her!!
The starting point is the choice people make. She preferred to make babies with him out of the guys that were interested in her, if at all the children belong to the same man she is talking about (these slay queens do multiple all the time), stayed with him to get 3 kids, and now she is venting while saying she's not venting. Very subtle baby mama!
How do you know that? Were you her best friend? Neighbor? .. Phil is speaking TRUTH and he is not biased. I definitely can tell by comments who are the type of people to lack accountability 😂 sad and it gets them nowhere..smh
At the end of the day she sounds bitter and she CHOSE him. That was not the hand that she was dealt she again made the decision to lay down with him not once but THREE times. She has to take half of the blame for the situation.
Playing a ps5 all day how a lazy person can afford a ps5
INDUBITABLY!!!!
She doesn’t owe him nothing.💯If you make your bed hard, you have to lie down in it.🤷🏽♀️
Phil u getting these one sided stories and making a conclusion
Because, It’s Content.
@@One_of_Many750 bad content and he knows better
When we are young we all make bad decisions. Especially went we are not taught properly by our parents. We as young women and men needs to be taught how to choose the right person for us.
I relate to her I’ve been raising my sister kids since the were 3 and half now thy are 16(twins) and 15. My sister is trying to get herself together and comeback in their lives and I’m helping her the best I can but they had been kinda rejecting her but they are becoming more accepting of her after time. But as of last week the father of the twins who seen them once before in their life when they were 10 is trying to come back in their life and they want nothing to do with him. They both feels like I’m their father and they lack for nothing and needs nothing from him. As a man who doesn’t even know my father’s name I’ve tried to push them to think about trying to build a relationship with him they were not having that. Not going to lie apart of me want to say bump him but I know I have to help them accept him so I guess that’s my next journey.
Two sides to every story but too often we sympathize with the mom ignoring fathers completely.
This was more speculating about the father based on the mother's version of the story.She was doing her make up talking about how she raised the kids and paid the bills.That's what the custodial parent does.
True not every single mother or father is bad but there are a lot of them that don't care and we need to change that within our own community.
As a father I’ll never abandon my children, the Lord Jesus Christ had allowed me to have them therefore I’ll be there for them 💯.
She possibly has been keeping him away the whole time! All she keeps saying is we have nothing to talk about! So she had 3 kids with a deadbeat? Whose fault is that?
You missed the part he contacted the teen about speaking to the mother, and the teen relayed the message to her, the mother. So, that destroys your argument that he's been kept away. Both, don't be the guy caping for a bum. She stepped up and did what she had to do. When she said "we" meant she and the deadbeat. Apparently, he has spoken to the youngest one, and there are 2 grown kids.
facts.
Exactly
Exactly these women be keeping the man away or creating an atmosphere that is chaotic for the man.. then wanna blame the man because he still wants to be in his children's life.. news flash.. this will ALWAYS be his kids as long as he's alive
She let him it hit it raw now she's a single mom...... a single mom..... 😂😂
Stop having children out of wedlock and with people you don't even know
80% of children in the black community born out of wedlock
I'm not believing shyte she's saying. In fact, I believe she's lying. There are two sides to every story.
Most of these women lying. Im done with blk women lying on blk men. Im done with single mothers done.
Three honestly. Hers, his and the absolute irrefutable truth.
Facts
We need to hear about single fathers as well.tgere are women who have children ,and decide to leave and not do anything for nor see the child while dad raises and nourishes said child.
If anyone woman ever says "We don't have nothing to talk about" 100 times... Ya'll definitely have a lot to talk about
Need to hear his side.
Yes and No. some of these mom be holding the children at the start of a young age LITERALLY!! To hurt the man so when they disappear what do you expect for them to do.
I totally understand. Their dad is in their life but due to circumstances that he has done to me physically, we have nothing to talk about. I forgive but will not return to foolishness. Peace and Blessings though. Nailed it Phil 3:31
I left my sons mother when he was an infant because she was physically and verbally abusive to me. I was not raised to fight women, so i left. We co-parent well now, but a man should not have to deal with abuse or the threat of police involvement to see their kid(s).
I’m just at 46 seconds and I get so tired of women putting on make up while they’re talking in a video.
They want the easy part of having a kid/kids
Most modern Women don't take Character in Consideration when choosing a Man.
Just given the information given, she is well within her right to feel the way she does. Now I'm sure there is a side to his story, but the proof is in the pudding. You got to be there and deal with the woman you made children with, unfortunately.
If Her Children See This, Will They Set The Record Straight?
Guaranteed
I don't believe her Phil😩😂
There are some good single mothers who raised their children right
One in every city.
Hahahahahahahaha
TRUE
The women who came a mother's from 1989 to present day are the worst single mothers, date a girl raised by a father completely different.
Being the son of a single mom, I got one of the good ones. Only child, never had multiple men in and out of her home, and she was in the army... so there was a decent amount of discipline on her end. The other single moms in the hood made my mom look almost like mother Theresa 😂
Phil, I see your point, but here is my disagreement. No matter what she says, she was a participant with the man before and after they had kids, so what does that say about her?
The point of her video is that she doesn't want him reaching out to her. There's really nothing for them to talk about.
except the fact they have 3 kids together
You are Absolutely Right Phil and so is the woman in the video💯
I respect you Queen
We already understand that there are some unique situations. This is not the case for the majority of single mothers, and you know that.
We’ve only heard one side of the story too
Men gotta realize there's WAAAAAYY too many dead beat dads in our community. Y'all favorite episode of Fresh Prince is when Will is telling Phil about him not needing his father in his life, YET Y'ALL DON'T GET THE MESSAGE!!! We joke about the dad never coming back from the store AND NEVER ADDRESS IT!!!
Only 13% of BM are deadbeats in the black community.
Amen 🙌🏿🙏🏿 I agree there's too much deadbeat fathers out there in our Black communities.
Yeah, but they won't admit it. It's always the women's fault... even when they choose the wrong woman. Then women are evil and they're the "victim".
No. They're no where near the amount of "dead beat" dads that they make it out to be.
That's why I don't understand why these b m hop in the comments acting like deadbeats disappeared off the face of earth 🌎.
Those of us working with children know that there are way too many children of single moms whose pappy is blaq. Including biracial children. So b m are the common denominator leaving not just b w, but others left to raise kids alone. And I know for a fact they will hop in these spaces pretending to be childless.
Stop it Phil It's always the men with daughters, expecting Men to put up for those single mothers who have destroyed the relationships lett them struggle with their bad behavior, & attitudes I'm calling cap with this lady with the Du-rag
Deadbeat 🥱
@@angelgray8899 I don't have any kids wench
Facts bruh😂💯
@@angelgray8899yea because yall choose dead beats. Those single mother's are dead beats also. I guess you a single mom and your babydad a deadbeat. You chose a deadbeat because you a deadbeat. If I'm wrong then I apologize but to just say deadbeat with no context makes me believe what I said.
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I'm glad the men on here are not throwing on their simp capes just because she's telling a fantastic story. Phil, get the WHOLE story before you pander.
You’ll Never Hear Phil Speak On Deadbeat Mothers.
@@One_of_Many750 I actually think you're right.
Simp capes????.....😂😂😂😂
You should never find out what kind of person you a dealing after you have a child. Men and Women do uour research on you partner before you make a life altering decision. Be safe
The kids have only heard one side of the story all of their lives.
She wasn't talking crap while talking crap.
I just want to know his side of the story.
But she hasn’t mentioned collecting child support thou 😂😂
Sometimes men will put their best foot forward and present themselves a certain way just like some women do, but they turn out to be bums. My ex husband was very hard working in the beginning but started being lazy and became a verbally abusive cheater. I had to leave him so my daughter didnt grow up in a toxic environment. Unfortunately stuff like this happens.
I hear you but what would he say in these comments about YOU. Better yet, I’ll make it easy for you… Instead of mentioning any everything that he did wrong, what did you do? What did you contribute to?
@@lilbfrom094princeton8 I wasn't a verbally abusive cheater I can tell you that much!
@@NoFreedoms-f1d no Sir, fit and friendly!!
@@aprilwagner8172They don't care. A lot of these dudes are the children of a deadbeat. They are dangerous and hate all b. W. They want to pretend like deadbeat b. .m. Don't exist.
We don’t care😹😹😂🫵🏾
YOU’RE NEVER DONE RAISING YOUR CHILDREN
I don't care what she says. It's always the women fault.
At least you’re honest.
I Love it, I am going thru that now and I laugh when he ask to speak to me and get sick😅
Let’s remember SHE LAID DOWN WITH THIS MAN NOT ONCE BUT MULTIPLE TIMES
Exactly 💯
my friend took her baby daddy back AFTER she got her baby thru college ..he was never around !!
Exactly 💯 💯 💯 💯 💯 💯
Theirs three sides to the story. Yours, his and the truth!! An put that dang war paint away.
I definitely have to hear his side of the story. I'm not believing her just based off of emotion. But ultimately it's the childs decision whether they want to see their dad once they're adults.
You can bever believe anything women say.. always seek the full story
@@rogerblewett5595 Exactly! They speak from emotions not logic.
She got 3 kids maan.. play the single mother song please 😂
He probably feels guilty but it's complicated
Didn't like her energy so I skipped what she was talking about