I don’t drink but I am a medical professional and have come across addiction many times in my career. What you describe is alcoholism which is an addiction like any other. What I can vouch for is that people believe they can control it, especially after they have been sober for a while. 9/10 people can’t control it and will sooner or later fall back into the addiction. I’ve been watching your perfume channel for years, you are an intelligent and so accomplished woman. You do not need alcohol to make you feel better. The odds of falling back into this addiction are high even when one is disciplined. Drinking here and there will lead you back to the same path. You will feel miserable, angry at yourself and disappointed. You don’t want to feel like this and forever be caught in this situation. Going cold turkey is the only way for a truly sober person. I wish you nothing but success! And by the way, you come across as a very likeable person ❤
You are spot on and I hope she reads your comment. May I also add one more very important point and that is to surround yourself with like minded people. This will help you in your journey of staying sober. Hang with folks that do not drink and build your support system. It is already proven that this works. My husband is an alcoholic. He only drank 2 drinks a day but it HAD to be everyday. That in of itself is a problem. Just because you are not getting plastered doesn’t mean it’s ok. He used this as a shield for his many defects of character that he is now working on having been away from the bottle. He has been sober for almost a year and has never been happier and will hopefully never go back to the bottle. Much love and hope for you to stay on your path of sobriety. For some, it most be this way. ❤ and a big virtual hug. Take care.
Demi it takes real strength to be so vulnerable. ❤ Your courage will only make you stronger. You are such a thoughtful, intelligent, articulate and inspiring yet humble person. You don’t need alcohol. You are more than enough. 🌸💜🌸
If you’ve made it this far sober, do not feel pressured or let yourself talk yourself back into the “special occasion “ BS. Eventually every day will be a “Special Occasion “. Celebrate your 5 months of sobriety by going for a year!
Thank you so much for sharing your story…I’ve never had a drink before in my life. I’ve never been high, and I’ve never smoked. So I don’t know how much I can speak to all of this. But what I can say is that being sober, life is a beautiful beautiful thing. You have a beautiful, amazing life you’ve built for yourself on your own. Be proud, and enjoy it, however you please. With or without alcohol. There’s a lot to your personality. Embrace yourself for all that’s beautiful in you.🙌🏾
I wish I never tried an alkohol, I don’t drink anymore but when I was teenager I did tried and always felt sick. This is legal drug in liquid form. It should be illegal the same like A type drugs. Same effect like other drugs. I pray for my children that they will never try this but I know it will challenging where I live. Sobriety is strength, and people who don’t drink are strong to me
I think the smartest thing to do is to find a good therapist who specializes in this sort of thing, because talking on social media and podcasts is nice and feels relieving but having a professional is something else. Yes, it is pricey but it's the best investment, once you spend some time sober and realise how many nice things there are to do while sober, you'll start loving yourself the way you deserve💕
So much I can relate to here. I stopped drinking in October 2021 and it’s been one of the best decisions I’ve ever made for myself. I drank every weekend for years. I get emotional thinking about it. Congratulations on quitting and sticking to it. I have so much respect for you!
Good for you, Demi for your transparency I struggled with alcoholism for 30 years. And then got sober for good after I met Jesus. I even wrote a book called summoned out of Darkness to help others in their walk . Praying for you ❤❤❤
Congratulations 🙌🙌 I had my five year sobriety birthday January 10th. My faith was instrumental in my sobriety. I truly believe I could not have come this far without divine intervention. Keep moving forward
Demi, you're underestimating yourself - sharing your story is very brave of you. I probably would never be able to share what's on my heart as you did. Your opennes and vulnarability touched me. You are young, beautiful, talented and an inspiration for many. You are so passionate about your job and I appreciate it. Demi, wishing you success with the challenges that you set for yourself!
Demi, I am a 68 year old alcoholic. I’ve been 100% sober for 5 years. Going cold turkey is the only tried and true way I have found to stay that way. I think you are an amazing, intelligent, and very brave woman. I’ve been watching your fragrance channel for years. You impress me as a very likable person. You are stronger than what you give yourself credit for. You’ve got this. When I stopped drinking I couldn’t imagine how I could possibly continue without ever having another drink. But I did, and I will. So can you.
I was an alcoholic for 10+ years. Hard alcohol waking up drinking. It's the devil man. Thanks for sharing, what a blessing. Keep going, Demi. So great your man is an encouragement too.
Demi quitting alcohol is unbelievably difficult. I went through it myself and I am so proud of you. When I first quit I told myself it would just be temporary. I guess it was a thought process to make it less daunting on me. However, after a few months sober and seen the benefits of abstaining from alcohol, I don't ever want to go back to my old self. One day at a time
Thank you for sharing this most private and personal part of your life. I think you are a beautiful person inside and out, why I love your videos so much. Coming from a former Addiction Counselor I’m so proud of you for 1. recognizing that alcohol was a problem. 2. For making the decision to be sober. It’s a hard thing for people to do. So good on you. Just take it a day at a time and lean on your support like Pierre. He seems like a great guy!It’s true that drinking a bit here and there is a slippery slope. Think of it like “I’m one drink from becoming an alcoholic”. Onward and upward for you! I too have never been one to have close friends for similar reasons. I suffer with depression and anxiety as well. I’m way, way 🙄 older than you but if you ever need to talk with someone, I’m here. I know people always say that, but I mean it.
Drinking alcohol is so normalized in our society, that being an alcoholic is also normalized. Most of us don’t realize what being an alcoholic is. BUT, the sober life is the very best life. And you will become the best version of who you really are. Congrats on beginning the journey! 💕
I've never drunk but I have to say you are an awfully brave young lady to share intimate details of your life and this bravery will carry you far. As a mum of 2 I'm always proud to see a young person's achievement and milestone, and even without sobriety, you have achieved a lot that any mum will be proud of. Hang on to these achievements however small they may seem and hang on to the people that you love. Congratulations! You take care sweetheart. ❤
As someone who heavily binge drank in college to avoid dealing with my own problems, this really resonated. Actually 2019 was also my worst year where I really had to reevaluate what I was doing. Although I'm not completely sober now, I very rarely drink and waking up every day without a hangover really is a blessing. Everyone's relationship with substances is personal though, so you'll have to figure out what works best for you. It's great that you have such a supportive partner, that can make the process so much better :) Wishing you the best on your journey, wherever it takes you!
Congratulations on your sobriety Demi and thank you for sharing your story! My girlfriend, Kimberley and I started our sober journey just over a year ago now and we have not looked back since. Your story resonates with me completely and on so many levels it is actually quite scary. Continue taking things one day at a time, that feeling of accomplishment at the end of the day gives me the added boost to continue with my sober journey. I have followed you now for a little over 3 years and it is amazing to see how much you have grown. You truly seem so much happier and it is actually inspiring to see. I wish you continued success and happiness, it is all very much deserved Demi. Sending love to you and Pierre from Kimberley and I. Vicky x 🫶🏽❤️🥰
Demi, it is so brave of you to share this personal aspect of your life, thank you! I have been a follower for I believe 4-5 years and I always found you charismatic and likeable and of course beautiful and still do. We have the same age and I always found it so inspirational how you built something for yourself throughout the years at such a young age, you should be proud! You are so strong! I know it can be hard sometimes, but do not forget self-compassion throughout your journey. I really look forward to your podcast.
Hi Demi, this video was an emotional rollercoaster for me.. where do I start. 1- You should be so proud, your courage and vulnerability is so beautiful. I truly admire and adore you. 2- It breaks my heart to hear you say you're not likeable. I flashback to 2019 when I found your channel, I was 2 months post partum with my 3rd child and your videos brought me so much joy. I would binge watch hours worth of your videos because your sheer joy and lightness would light me up as well. In my truth, you are so lovable and I adore you. 3- You are so bright, creative, intelligent and unique. I know you will be incredible at anything you do. I can't wait to hear your podcast. Also just know you have a friend/fragrance loving soul sister here in the US. Sending you so much love, so much healing and so much peace. Xo Lily
Thank you so much for sharing this. 100 % relatable. I was lying to myself for ages regarding alcohol, just as you say : “Everyone does that, I only do this on weekends, bla bla” and then after a few incidents where I literally drink myself to an absolute psychosis I had to rethink my attitude towards it. It’s amazing how cunning addictions can be. As a binge drinker I have realised I should NEVER have alcohol in the house, I avoid people who drink and stay away from it as much as I can. Also noticed a massive improvement in my mental health (+ exercise of course).
Wow, that took a lot of guts. I am amazed at your honesty and have had similar experiences. I have toned myself way down, but still drink on occasion . I am hoping to stop completely, Thank you for the honesty and the inspiration. Praying that you will continue on your path to being sober.
Thank you for sharing your sober journey. The reasons that lead you to sobriety, the past traumas that shaped your experience , the coping , the insane mistakes, the hangover, the frustration, the failure, the human experience... it's all so relatable. I had tears , and a heart full of hope for your journey. I've been sober since 2017. For me that means no alcohol and no marijuana. I'm totally sober, and it feels totally normal for me to be this way. I am able to enjoy my journey of growth so much more now, even though it isn't always rainbows & sunshine. I'm so happy for you. You are likable. I'm glad you're working on self worth, and I have been too!! I love that it really seems like so many of us are searching for personal growth & healing... over the old traditional ways of dealing with life!
This might be the most beautiful YT video I have ever seen. Thank you for being so open and transparent. I don't know you but I am proud of you. Without getting into a lot of detail, my background is remarkably similar to yours with respect to parents, trauma, depression, and lack of friends. I compensate with backbreaking amounts of work and a constant striving for success. The best advice I can give you is to continue to stay away from alcohol (it's not good for you), stay away from the people who make you want to drink (they are not good for you, and that includes family), and look into Complex PTSD, I am not a mental health professional but I live with it and I think if you learn about it you will be likely to have a number of "aha" moments. I greatly enjoy your fragrance channel, yet this is the best video you have ever made and I am so thankful for your raw honesty.
I love that you are sharing this demi 💖 I think you have so much potential to help other people by sharing your story and experiences. You are so well spoken! Thank you for being vulnerable, I wait for your podcast! So proud of you🥰
Thanks for sharing. Your story is my story and it was so nice to hear others talk of it. For myself it will be 4 years sober July 1st. Been a long road. Well done to you and I look forward to more of your vlog and podcast. ❤
It takes so much courage to share one’s personal struggles to those close to them, and strength beyond measure to share it to the public. Being open and raw to others is very difficult, you should be very proud for all that you’ve done to overcome the struggles. Thank you for sharing your experiences and journey with us ❤
I heard so much of my story in your story. You are not alone in how you feel. I never thought I would be able to get sober. I tried and failed a hundred times. The blackouts, the embarrassment, the fights, the really bad things… I felt trapped and broken. I can’t believe that I have over 7 years sober now, and I never really think about it that way. I just don’t drink today. Being sober becomes the new habit. Everything becomes more manageable. You’re amazing for sharing your story and I know great things are to come for you.
Very brave of you to both embark on your sober journey as well as being willing to share your story with us. The more you listen to your inner guidance and stay true to that, the stronger your self esteem will be. That’s a lesson that took me a while to learn myself, so I speak from experience. I would love to hear more about your own experiences, in whatever medium you prefer and feel the most comfortable with. This is very personal to you, so really I think how you choose to share it should be up to you. Big hug to you for your strength! ❤
This is very powerful Demi. Thanks for your courage and allowing yourself to be so vulnerable for the world to see. This will help many people who need encouragement and are in a dark place.
This is very brave sharing such a personal story with us and I’m grateful you have because I’m sure there are a lot of us that can somewhat relate to having personal struggles and having a form of addiction to cope. I think most of your viewers would love listening to a podcast! ☺️ how exciting, can’t wait. And as always, love your fragrance videos and loving the Discovery set (2) xx
Thank you for being so brave to share your story. I wish you much success in your journey to stay sober. God Bless you for all the people you have helped by telling your story.
Demi this is the most important video you have ever done. Because you have such credibility with your fragrance reviews and are such a genuine person I know that someone will gain the confidence to become inspired to choose sobriety from your story. I decided not to drink in March and am so glad I did. I feel incredible and don’t know where this journey will take me but for now I am not counting down to April 1 to have a drink and am enjoying every minute of my experience. Please continue to share your story and successes in this area. God bless
Alcohol killed someone very dear to me. She was 36. It wasn't the cause of death, but her problems led her down that path. She was also a binge drinker. I think about her all the time, and I hope that you stay with this path. You have your entire life ahead of you and there is no reason to give any more of it to that substance. Good luck and stay strong.
Love your honesty Demi. I have also struggled with alcohol over the years, not to an extreme degree but it can become a crutch that you rely on to cheer you up or distract you from worries. Thanks for sharing your story, I’m sure it will help many people.
I loooooove this ❣️❣️❣️ thank you so much for sharing, I feel like you’re describing my relationship with alcohol at the moment, and I’ve been trying to cut back with an app also, so seeing where you’re at it’s really inspiring! I’m here for the podcast!
So proud of you for sticking to it! I’ve found that the uncomfortableness being sober in social situations eases up with time. My lifestyle puts me in the sphere of heavy drinkers and it’s difficult to make a change when everyone around is pushing it on you. I’ve found that when I push back and say no, people are almost upset with me because I’m not partaking with them/doing what they want me to do. I don’t know if you deal with this, but putting yourself first and not giving in gets easier too! Keep going!! Also, you *are* a very likable person, just the way you are! ❤
Wow, so much respect to you for sharing this, it’s so very relatable! I’ve struggled in the same way for so many years and finally realized I just can’t dabble in drinking, I can’t put the brakes on. Every day I wake up without a hangover is a gift. It’s been 1.5 years now and I’m not looking back. I listened to a book called “ This Naked Mind” that was transformative back then, highly recommend! Hugs ❤️❤️
Loved this raw honest side of you. Brave. Thank you. I reckon no one goes through life not either experiencing or being exposed to our fallibility WRT alcohol dependency. You are truly beautiful inside and out.
Thank you for sharing your story. Someone in my family is struggling with alcohol. It's so sad to see him decline and there is nothing I can do because he will never stop no matter what I say. Your transparency will help a lot of people. You are so awesome and unique. I love your personality. I don't have many friends either; You have a friend in me from afar. We are all praying for you to find peace and happiness and to finally see yourself worthy of friends. All of us followers see your worth and hope you can see yourself the way we all see you, you are so likable!!!
Can’t believe the bravery and courage it must take to speak out like this. I’ve known people in your situation and you feel powerless that you can’t help them see it. I’ve never been addicted but would occasionally take it too far. Only drink occasionally now and as you say, i can meet friends for coffee, for walks, for dinner and still have a great time. Wishing you all the luck in the world. ✌️
Hi Demi, I really respect your honesty... We all have something that we can improve on or ditch completely from our lives to make things better.... Congratulations on your sobriety... You got this sister girl xox
Congratulations, Demi. This is an absolutely wonderful video. Thank you for having the courage to share this. You are inspiring and encouraging others to give up alcohol while sharing some deeply personal reasons for your brave, life-altering decision. The results are clearly showing already. A great deal of people look up to you, and I can assure you that you will receive a mountain of blessings. God bless you. Stay healthy and happy always.
Hi Demi, I’m a fellow binge/closeted drinker. You look very happy with your progress which is great! You are a beautiful person and I enjoy watching your content and listening to your fragrance recommendations. For me, it was hard to stop on my own after so many attempts. I felt despair whenever I ended up having the first drink again. I went to rehab in 2016 and stayed sober for 3 ½ years only to end up in a toxic relationship which started in that Rehab facility. Big no no. I relapsed and kept drinking for a couple years just secretly struggling (or so I thought). I couldn’t figure out my path in life. The struggle was real. I had to really listen internally to how I was feeling and decided I needed to go back to a Rehab just last April 2022. It was a different facility and this time around I absorbed all the help and information I was given, taking this addiction more seriously. Also, keeping my hands to myself of course (no new romantic relationship). The one on one therapy there was definitely valuable. I discovered I was finding work going against who I knew I was, being a Salesperson. I was miserable but kept at it. My counselor said I was trying to be someone I’m not. Mind blowing because I knew that was true once I heard it. I have an introvert personality and tried really hard to do a job best suited for extroverts. I remembered a time I was happiest and it was as a caregiver for the elderly. About two months in being sober, I went to CNA training School. Wish I had done that a long time ago but I’m happy that it’s what I do for work now. It finally feels right. I was doing what I thought someone I liked years ago would find me as attractive in sales type of work. I wasted days and wasted nights. I’m now taking my days one day at a time following my intuition to guide me. I started to see my intuition as my internal True North to keep me moving in the right direction in life and to help me on days if I ever feel lost… like a compass. Today I have 11 months 3 weeks & 1 day. -Much love, Kat.
First of all, it’s not possible that you don’t have friends or somebody doesn’t like you😳you are so down to earth/nice/smart/interesting🔥so don’t ever say again that you need something to have friends😊❤ second I like vlogs, it’s nice to look at you and listen to your thoughts ❤ 3th I’m super happy that you’re in this sober journey👏🏻 thank you for sharing ❤
First of all, thanks so much for sharing this. Much respect, truly. I'll try to be brief, but it's a large topic. I've been sober since 11/12/2019. Most of my adult life (age 21-35) revolved around an insidious and progressive drinking habit, until I simply couldn't bear the weight of suffering, severe anxiety, or losing any more than I had already; namely: relationships, self-esteem, a career in music I worked my entire life for... the list goes on, but the one thing I didn't lose was my actual life (although there were so many times I could have). Today, I couldn't be happier with the decision to be sober, but alcoholism is sneaky. You mentioned a "slippery slope," and that's precisely what it is for anyone who would diagnose their relationship to drinking as an addiction. Nobody gets to decide that but the individual, even if signs may seem obvious to the outsider. To be honest though, a person will probably know, sooner or later. The last stint of drinking I had started after 7 months of abstinence, with one beer, after a long day, and I had a "fun" night out with friends. What followed were probably the most difficult and painful 7 months of my life. It went from bitters and soda, to wine with dinner, to wine after dinner, to drinking in the mornings, to drinking around the clock, to I literally couldn't leave my home without it, in just a matter of months. The lesson I learned was that removing alcohol merely paved the way for healing; and although abstinence was undoubtedly requisite, there was still a path to walk. I had to work through the reasons I drank the way I did to begin with, as alcohol addiction was purely a symptom of the underlying issues. Not that I believe I could safely go back to drinking normally, but the real question is: even if I could, why would I want to? All of that said, I believe we can all have a life so beautiful that we wouldn't want to spend a moment of it lacking the clarity that sobriety brings. Sobriety of the mind and body, to be sure, but also of the emotions. Facing fears, challenges, and hardships head-on, and the inner feeling (finally) of looking the world "in the eye." Not to mention all of the wonderful things one would miss by being hungover, or worse. There isn't a moment of this life worth letting slip by. So, all the best to you on the journey. P.S. Fragrance has been an invaluable outlet for me as an alternative for the deep dives I used to do into wine; I'm extremely grateful for your channel and what you contribute to the community. It's carried me through some difficult times, and enriched so many of the good ones. Be well. -Andrew
Great Job Demi!!!👍 So proud of you that you’ve made it for 5 months!!! That’s so great!!! 👍😃 Love yourself and treat your body with love and be kind to yourself! 🙏❤️ And yes alcohol is the enemy for those who suffer from anxiety , It makes it much much much worse!!! 🙄 You are amazing and beautiful soul ❤ Don’t blame yourself and don’t judge yourself! Just take care of yourself with love and kindness. ❤️Without judgement or shame!!!🙏❤️🤗Truly loving yourself will help you to get rid of this addiction! ❤
This video just popped up as I watch your perfume-related videos and I was intrigued, so I watched it. I am 54 years old and can relate to everything you’re saying. Thank you for sharing your story. I have done all the things you have also and for the same reasons as you. I rarely drink anymore and feel better for it. You’re a success and inspiration.
I'm so proud of you for opening up and sharing your story. You are a strong, beautiful, intelligent, elegant, and determined woman. I like the idea of podcast format for this type of content. I think not having a camera with a bright light in your face allows you to relax more and go deeper in yourself. I just downloaded Sniff, and it's fantastic. Congratulations. Hugs from Argentina.
Thank you for sharing, for being all real ♥️ You are such a beautiful person and also so talented. I would love both vlogs and a podcast, either way follow what your heart tells you.
Way to go! It’s awesome that you’ve been able to make this change and that your life is so much better because of it. My advice, as far as occasional drinking in the future goes, would be that it’s easier to stick with something 100% of the time than 99% of the time, especially when it comes to something that can be addictive or destructive. Easier to just skip it every time because if you make allowances for special events, it’s easier to excuse yourself at other times as well, or to begin seeking out opportunities to make exceptions, etc. Especially if you have a tendency to go really hard when drinking, it will be much easier not to start, than it would be after a drink or two to try to stop yourself before you get to that point where you’ll regret things you do or say, etc. Best of luck to you, and congratulations again!
I get such a strong sense of sincerity from you whenever you talk about issues you might be having (and in general, really, even with the lighter, fun topics). I saw the little tears welling up and your hands shaking. You are doing so great with all this, honestly. Shame is inevitable but it means you have self-awareness and accountability. I think there's a lot of people that don't have friendships like you've described, myself included. Nothing wrong with that, maybe you just haven't found them yet, I think it's a lot like finding a romantic partner. If you ever want a pen pal, let me know, we need to bring the lost art of letter wrting back into popularity 🤗 I wish you the best in all your endeavors, I can't wait for the podcasts ❤
I wish you personal success and lots of quality friendships.The more social experiences you get through without drinking, the more confident you will become. You are such a beautiful young lady and Demi, you are enough!!!
Congrats Demi :) Thats so nice you shared. I can tell you when I stopped smoking, which was a huge thing for me, I felt unstoppable too. And that feeling is so powerful that you dont want to loose it. So I never went back. Hang on to that feeling. :)
Demi, thank you for sharing such a personal & private story. I would love to see you start a podcast. I think you are beautiful inside & out and you show strength and intelligence. You’re an entrepreneur who’s passion for fragrance has found so many people following you. I think you can make a difference in people’s lives with your podcasts. I know I love watching your vlogs & TH-cam. Thanks again for sharing your story. 😊❤️
Congratulations!! Recovery looks great on you. I’ve been sober for many years, one day at a time. I wouldn’t trade a single day of sobriety for when I drank. My best day while drinking, is nowhere near as good as my worst day in sobriety. So happy for you. Keep going. Easy does it, but DO IT.😊🙌🏾❤️
I'm not subscribed to this channel but was just recommended this video and I am so happy to hear you are on a sobriety journey. This past Tuesday, I lost a friend of 20 years to the grips of severe alcoholism. He had been trying to quit the past few months. I have been trying to help him for years to cut back but the past several years were hard on him and I understood his struggles..just wished i helped more. He passed away trying, and I'm so very proud of him. I don't tell you this for sympathy or to make anyone sad, I tell you this because I wish my dear friend had tried sobriety a long time ago. I'm sad that he won't have that chance...so now, I deeply wish that for others who are struggling - no matter what that struggle may be. Wishing you well! You can do this
I am so very sorry. It is such a tragic loss, and, it hurts my heart whenever one of my own passes...we lose many. I have five years sobriety and it took everything I had and more, to get here. I've lost several very close friends to the disease. I hope you know that you couldn't save him..there was absolutely nothing that you could have done differently. We have to cross that threshold when we are ready . Sending prayers for healing
I am so sorry for your loss it must be so hard on you may god rest his soul in peace 🙏🏽 I just want you to know that you couldn’t have helped more it is super hard I learned the 3c’s in alanon which is you didn’t cause it you can’t cure it and you can’t control it . Your presence and being there for your friend was all you could have done really and I’m sure he knows 🙏🏽
So brave of you to share this and congratulations! Funny that I found your page because I’ve turned to perfume, kind of an obsession that filled that place alcohol once had. I’ve been sober almost 3 years now. Life is much richer, brighter and sweeter without it for me. Food taste better, music is more beautiful and the sunrise is brighter. I too went through many traumatic things that alcohol helped numb but it came to a point where that’s all I wanted to do and it dulled everything else. I want to say since I’ve been sober I lost my son to suicide and I remained sober and I am so glad I did. I think if I was drinking then I would have never faced it and became lost in the pain. Life is better without alcohol. You are so beautiful and so passionate, this is why I love watching your channel. Stay your lovely beautiful self!! Look forward to more video’s!!❤❤
Amazingly raw honesty, that’s where it starts. I was sober for 11.5 years & I relapsed. I have been struggling ever since because everyone drinks, but not like me. Those 11.5 years were the best time of my life. I can totally relate to what you are going through. I have purchased many fragrances over the years watching your vids. To here that an intelligent & beautiful woman still struggles, wow, I had no idea! You are not alone. I am inspired by your story & you helped me, hearing it. I cried. I feel I had an spiritual awakening for myself. Thank you for your honesty…. Truly mind blowing! Keep on your path, I hope to join you!😘🙏🏽💕
God Bless You Demi R.-It's not easy battling personal issues but you're a strong woman who will persevere in the end. You're Cologne TH-cam Channel is awesome and so informative 👍
Thanks for posting. Hope you are meeting with others who have shared the same issue, it's important to a lot of us. 5 years on March 18th, very grateful. Happy for you Demi!
Demi what a transparent and intimate vlog ❤️. 5 months of sobriety… Brava Demi 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 I’m very proud of You! Myself I haven’t had a drink since January, not that it was a big issue for me but I’ve noticed how much it affects my mood, gives me a brain fog, some days an anxiety even a little amount of wine with dinner from time to time so I agree with you strongly that not drinking alcohol at all is very beneficial for you and for me it also opened other door of consciousness and to be fully present in the moment. It’s wonderful that Pierre supports you on this journey. Believe me You are so lovely, charming and friendly, intelligent and down to earth at the same time that you don’t need a drink to make a better impression on people during social events! Every time I see you on the screen I’m blown away with your beauty and warm personality. Looking forward to hear more of your stories. You are well spoken and have a pleasant voice so I reckon your podcast will be a success. Stay Strong Girl 💫. P.S Gozo and Unue are wonderful, I have to try Siberian Rose and Chiron.
I was so surprised to learn these things about you. You are so accomplished for someone in her 20s. As I push 40 and struggle with my own independent hustle, the thing you’ve built has elicited a lot of awe and a little bit of envy. This is a reminder that we all can have struggles and pain off stage. Good on you for going sober. From loved ones who have done the same, it seems that usually there is no moderation for those who are susceptible to alcoholism - one has to go completely and persistently dry. I don’t completely understand it, as I’ve always been a moderate and self-limiting drinker - but that’s the account I’ve heard and witnessed many times now. Proud of you, Demi - keep on healing and growing. You’re amazing.
So proud of you Demi! It is difficult to abstain but you know yourself so trust your gut and do whats best for your overall health ❤️ I would LOVE to listen to your podcast I’m sure your content would be interesting!
Thank you for sharing your story. I have to say that I'm at the crossroads right with my drinking and the effects that it has on my life. I think it's time for me to take a similar approach to stop drinking. And please speak more about your life issues because we all have them. You're not alone. You never know who your helping.
My sister was a really bad alcoholic and it killed her also.years of watching her struggle was horrible and heartache. Myself now I don't drink at all.watching her made me hate alcohol. Thank God.whenever I'm around drinkers I'm very uncomfortable because of how much I hate alcohol. So sorry you struggled with this.glad you are being strong and have some support.keep it up!nice of you to share your story.❤😊
congrats Demi! This is a massive step in your healing process and the evolution of your life. a chapter has closed and a new one is opening.I am going through a similar transformation with my relationship with alcohol. Although i personally have never faced alcohol addiction, it does run in my family, and i myself have definitely been a binge drinker. slowly the past 6-12 months i have greatly reduced (have not managed to completely stop) my drinking. I have gone a few months without drinking. I am not sure if i want to quit permanently, but I do want it to be very occasional and for the right reasons (a drink at a special occasion).What i want to stop is the mindless drinking. So many memories are impaired in my life because alcohol was a factor. I want to change that and lead a healthier, happier life and be the best version of myself.
Wish you all the best in your journey in staying sober. This was touching to watch. I like the way you told your story in a no nonsense way. I am sure you helped people struggling with mental health and alcohol addiction with telling your story. Jan Jansson drumteacher Sweden
One day at a time! You know something, your story of your life was so ...I don't know how to explain it, but I didn't care about the perfumes. I can hear you for what you are. A big hug from Puerto Rico. And remember everyday is a fresh start. ❤❤❤
You are such a beautiful and talented person. I love to watch you videos and the way you can describe Frangrances is true talent. Stay strong, you don’t need alcohol in your life. I worked as a counselor at several rehabs and once you identify you have a problem, you can’t just have a little drink. That will set you up to failure. Quit totally alcohol. It will always lead you to the same point. I totally admire and respect your honesty! You are amazing! Beautiful! And incredibly talented in what you do! Best of luck! You got this Demi! ❤️❤️❤️
Just wanted to say that it is incredibly brave of you to open up like this. I am so thrilled that you are going from strength to strength. Any time you are feeling down and feeling tempted to binge drink, always remember how far you have come and how important it is to keep looking forward.
Love the Vlogs even if it's not as common, but a Podcast would be really cool to expand beyond the fragrance universe. Congratulations on being sober! I've been straight edge my entire life and I don't see anything wrong with people who want to enjoy some alcohol, but it's great to hear that you're heading toward that cleaner life. I agree it's rare to find anyone who doesn't drink even as straight edge becomes a more popular thing to do with many wrestlers going the same way as CM Punk and more bands having outspoken straight edge members. I have developed other addictions which have been fairly controllable (fragrance collecting is the most recent wallet breaking addiction I've had) so I understand that psychological impact because it all boils down to the most basic instincts and emotions within. Glad to hear Piere has been supportive. It's sometimes tough to find someone supportive and I often end up being one of those people around my friends. I'd love to just sit over coffee and have these conversations about anxiety, alcohol, and layer in the fragrances, too. This is the real life most people skip when doing anything social media which is why I'm not social media active. I feel you on so many levels from few friends, lack of advice (which has hurt my dating life a bit, but that's another topic), and everything. Honestly, though, if you ever needed anything from a small town Midwestern you find me and let me know. That's what I do these days, coffee and conversations (and support).
Thank you for sharing your story Demi and I would love to hear more on your podcast. I can relate to a lot of what you said, stay strong girl we support you!
You don't need alcohol Demi, well done and keep going!, Your body and mind will thankyou for it. I haven't had alcohol for about 7 years, I don't miss it, there's plenty of things to drink instead lol. Also get into yoga! That will help you immensely, both mentally and physically! It's done wonders for me 🙏
I can’t remember the last time I related to someone’s words so much. The alcoholism, the anorexia, the mental health, the feeling that I’m unlikeable. I’m sorry you went through this and possibly are still struggling. I still have pretty poor mental health and I’m sure I always will, but alcohol will only ever exacerbate that. I’ve been almost 8 years sober and I don’t miss the blackouts, the times I almost died, the embarrassment and shame. The best thing is to stop completely. If I didn’t stop, I’m sure I’d be dead or in a terrible place right now. Even if you weren’t as extreme as that- imagine all that you can accomplish sober vs struggling. I know that’s harder said than done. But it only takes one drink to spiral. Sounds like you’re on a good path or at least asking for help. Stay healthy. Virtual hug.
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I don’t drink but I am a medical professional and have come across addiction many times in my career. What you describe is alcoholism which is an addiction like any other. What I can vouch for is that people believe they can control it, especially after they have been sober for a while. 9/10 people can’t control it and will sooner or later fall back into the addiction. I’ve been watching your perfume channel for years, you are an intelligent and so accomplished woman. You do not need alcohol to make you feel better. The odds of falling back into this addiction are high even when one is disciplined. Drinking here and there will lead you back to the same path. You will feel miserable, angry at yourself and disappointed. You don’t want to feel like this and forever be caught in this situation. Going cold turkey is the only way for a truly sober person. I wish you nothing but success! And by the way, you come across as a very likeable person ❤
You are spot on and I hope she reads your comment. May I also add one more very important point and that is to surround yourself with like minded people. This will help you in your journey of staying sober. Hang with folks that do not drink and build your support system. It is already proven that this works. My husband is an alcoholic. He only drank 2 drinks a day but it HAD to be everyday. That in of itself is a problem. Just because you are not getting plastered doesn’t mean it’s ok. He used this as a shield for his many defects of character that he is now working on having been away from the bottle. He has been sober for almost a year and has never been happier and will hopefully never go back to the bottle. Much love and hope for you to stay on your path of sobriety. For some, it most be this way. ❤ and a big virtual hug. Take care.
%100 agreed to each word of yours.❤
Demi it takes real strength to be so vulnerable. ❤ Your courage will only make you stronger. You are such a thoughtful, intelligent, articulate and inspiring yet humble person. You don’t need alcohol. You are more than enough. 🌸💜🌸
If you’ve made it this far sober, do not feel pressured or let yourself talk yourself back into the “special occasion “ BS. Eventually every day will be a “Special Occasion “. Celebrate your 5 months of sobriety by going for a year!
I don't trust people like you.
Thank you so much for sharing your story…I’ve never had a drink before in my life. I’ve never been high, and I’ve never smoked. So I don’t know how much I can speak to all of this. But what I can say is that being sober, life is a beautiful beautiful thing. You have a beautiful, amazing life you’ve built for yourself on your own. Be proud, and enjoy it, however you please. With or without alcohol. There’s a lot to your personality. Embrace yourself for all that’s beautiful in you.🙌🏾
Wow…thank you so much Jonathan 🥹 I truly appreciate your comment. It means the world ❤
I wish I never tried an alkohol, I don’t drink anymore but when I was teenager I did tried and always felt sick. This is legal drug in liquid form. It should be illegal the same like A type drugs. Same effect like other drugs. I pray for my children that they will never try this but I know it will challenging where I live. Sobriety is strength, and people who don’t drink are strong to me
Cheers to you fella I don’t drink I don’t smoke and I don’t do drugs same here 👍🏻👋🏻
Same for me. And life is beautiful when you are free❤
I think the smartest thing to do is to find a good therapist who specializes in this sort of thing, because talking on social media and podcasts is nice and feels relieving but having a professional is something else.
Yes, it is pricey but it's the best investment, once you spend some time sober and realise how many nice things there are to do while sober, you'll start loving yourself the way you deserve💕
agreed
So much I can relate to here. I stopped drinking in October 2021 and it’s been one of the best decisions I’ve ever made for myself. I drank every weekend for years. I get emotional thinking about it. Congratulations on quitting and sticking to it. I have so much respect for you!
Good for you, Demi for your transparency I struggled with alcoholism for 30 years. And then got sober for good after I met Jesus. I even wrote a book called summoned out of Darkness to help others in their walk . Praying for you ❤❤❤
Hello, Is it on Amazon ?
Wasn‘t Jesus the guy that turned wine into water? how exactly did he help haha
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Congratulations 🙌🙌 I had my five year sobriety birthday January 10th. My faith was instrumental in my sobriety. I truly believe I could not have come this far without divine intervention. Keep moving forward
@@colonelroymustang3529 no, he turned water into wine.
Demi, you're underestimating yourself - sharing your story is very brave of you. I probably would never be able to share what's on my heart as you did. Your opennes and vulnarability touched me. You are young, beautiful, talented and an inspiration for many. You are so passionate about your job and I appreciate it. Demi, wishing you success with the challenges that you set for yourself!
Demi, I am a 68 year old alcoholic. I’ve been 100% sober for 5 years. Going cold turkey is the only tried and true way I have found to stay that way. I think you are an amazing, intelligent, and very brave woman. I’ve been watching your fragrance channel for years. You impress me as a very likable person. You are stronger than what you give yourself credit for. You’ve got this. When I stopped drinking I couldn’t imagine how I could possibly continue without ever having another drink. But I did, and I will. So can you.
I hope you have a good day, know that JESUS died for you and loves you so very much!
I was an alcoholic for 10+ years. Hard alcohol waking up drinking. It's the devil man. Thanks for sharing, what a blessing. Keep going, Demi. So great your man is an encouragement too.
It sounds like AA meetings would be of great value for you , hearing others share their stories and at the same time helping yourself . Best of luck
Demi quitting alcohol is unbelievably difficult. I went through it myself and I am so proud of you. When I first quit I told myself it would just be temporary. I guess it was a thought process to make it less daunting on me. However, after a few months sober and seen the benefits of abstaining from alcohol, I don't ever want to go back to my old self. One day at a time
Thank you Demi for being open, honest. You will absolutely help others
Thank you for sharing this most private and personal part of your life. I think you are a beautiful person inside and out, why I love your videos so much. Coming from a former Addiction Counselor I’m so proud of you for 1. recognizing that alcohol was a problem. 2. For making the decision to be sober. It’s a hard thing for people to do. So good on you. Just take it a day at a time and lean on your support like Pierre. He seems like a great guy!It’s true that drinking a bit here and there is a slippery slope. Think of it like “I’m one drink from becoming an alcoholic”. Onward and upward for you! I too have never been one to have close friends for similar reasons. I suffer with depression and anxiety as well. I’m way, way 🙄 older than you but if you ever need to talk with someone, I’m here. I know people always say that, but I mean it.
Drinking alcohol is so normalized in our society, that being an alcoholic is also normalized. Most of us don’t realize what being an alcoholic is. BUT, the sober life is the very best life. And you will become the best version of who you really are. Congrats on beginning the journey! 💕
Being an alcoholic is not and has never been normalized.
Yes, it is its sold openly everywhere, including bars, pubs as well as clubs. It's normalized as far as I can tell.
I've never drunk but I have to say you are an awfully brave young lady to share intimate details of your life and this bravery will carry you far. As a mum of 2 I'm always proud to see a young person's achievement and milestone, and even without sobriety, you have achieved a lot that any mum will be proud of. Hang on to these achievements however small they may seem and hang on to the people that you love. Congratulations! You take care sweetheart. ❤
As someone who heavily binge drank in college to avoid dealing with my own problems, this really resonated. Actually 2019 was also my worst year where I really had to reevaluate what I was doing. Although I'm not completely sober now, I very rarely drink and waking up every day without a hangover really is a blessing. Everyone's relationship with substances is personal though, so you'll have to figure out what works best for you. It's great that you have such a supportive partner, that can make the process so much better :) Wishing you the best on your journey, wherever it takes you!
Congratulations on your sobriety Demi and thank you for sharing your story! My girlfriend, Kimberley and I started our sober journey just over a year ago now and we have not looked back since. Your story resonates with me completely and on so many levels it is actually quite scary. Continue taking things one day at a time, that feeling of accomplishment at the end of the day gives me the added boost to continue with my sober journey. I have followed you now for a little over 3 years and it is amazing to see how much you have grown. You truly seem so much happier and it is actually inspiring to see. I wish you continued success and happiness, it is all very much deserved Demi. Sending love to you and Pierre from Kimberley and I. Vicky x 🫶🏽❤️🥰
So glad you are doing better and working so hard to stay sober. Praying for you 🙏🏼. Thank you for bringing so much joy to the fragrance community!! ❤
Demi, it is so brave of you to share this personal aspect of your life, thank you! I have been a follower for I believe 4-5 years and I always found you charismatic and likeable and of course beautiful and still do. We have the same age and I always found it so inspirational how you built something for yourself throughout the years at such a young age, you should be proud! You are so strong! I know it can be hard sometimes, but do not forget self-compassion throughout your journey. I really look forward to your podcast.
Hi Demi, this video was an emotional rollercoaster for me.. where do I start. 1- You should be so proud, your courage and vulnerability is so beautiful. I truly admire and adore you. 2- It breaks my heart to hear you say you're not likeable. I flashback to 2019 when I found your channel, I was 2 months post partum with my 3rd child and your videos brought me so much joy. I would binge watch hours worth of your videos because your sheer joy and lightness would light me up as well. In my truth, you are so lovable and I adore you. 3- You are so bright, creative, intelligent and unique. I know you will be incredible at anything you do. I can't wait to hear your podcast. Also just know you have a friend/fragrance loving soul sister here in the US. Sending you so much love, so much healing and so much peace. Xo Lily
Thank you so much for sharing this.
100 % relatable.
I was lying to myself for ages regarding alcohol, just as you say : “Everyone does that, I only do this on weekends, bla bla” and then after a few incidents where I literally drink myself to an absolute psychosis I had to rethink my attitude towards it. It’s amazing how cunning addictions can be.
As a binge drinker I have realised I should NEVER have alcohol in the house, I avoid people who drink and stay away from it as much as I can. Also noticed a massive improvement in my mental health (+ exercise of course).
Wow, that took a lot of guts. I am amazed at your honesty and have had similar experiences. I have toned myself way down, but still drink on occasion . I am hoping to stop completely, Thank you for the honesty and the inspiration. Praying that you will continue on your path to being sober.
Love just how truthful you are! Congrats on getting sober ❤
Pursue the podcast! Thank you for sharing your experiences and being open❤️
Ok! I will ❤ thank you for your feedback 🙏🏻
Thank you for sharing your sober journey. The reasons that lead you to sobriety, the past traumas that shaped your experience , the coping , the insane mistakes, the hangover, the frustration, the failure, the human experience... it's all so relatable. I had tears , and a heart full of hope for your journey.
I've been sober since 2017. For me that means no alcohol and no marijuana. I'm totally sober, and it feels totally normal for me to be this way. I am able to enjoy my journey of growth so much more now, even though it isn't always rainbows & sunshine.
I'm so happy for you. You are likable. I'm glad you're working on self worth, and I have been too!! I love that it really seems like so many of us are searching for personal growth & healing... over the old traditional ways of dealing with life!
Thank you for your transparency Demi. You put yourself first to be sober🎉congrats! I've been sober for three years now🎉 send you love❤
This might be the most beautiful YT video I have ever seen. Thank you for being so open and transparent. I don't know you but I am proud of you. Without getting into a lot of detail, my background is remarkably similar to yours with respect to parents, trauma, depression, and lack of friends. I compensate with backbreaking amounts of work and a constant striving for success. The best advice I can give you is to continue to stay away from alcohol (it's not good for you), stay away from the people who make you want to drink (they are not good for you, and that includes family), and look into Complex PTSD, I am not a mental health professional but I live with it and I think if you learn about it you will be likely to have a number of "aha" moments. I greatly enjoy your fragrance channel, yet this is the best video you have ever made and I am so thankful for your raw honesty.
I love that you are sharing this demi 💖 I think you have so much potential to help other people by sharing your story and experiences. You are so well spoken! Thank you for being vulnerable, I wait for your podcast! So proud of you🥰
Thanks for sharing. Your story is my story and it was so nice to hear others talk of it. For myself it will be 4 years sober July 1st. Been a long road. Well done to you and I look forward to more of your vlog and podcast. ❤
It takes so much courage to share one’s personal struggles to those close to them, and strength beyond measure to share it to the public. Being open and raw to others is very difficult, you should be very proud for all that you’ve done to overcome the struggles. Thank you for sharing your experiences and journey with us ❤
I heard so much of my story in your story. You are not alone in how you feel. I never thought I would be able to get sober. I tried and failed a hundred times. The blackouts, the embarrassment, the fights, the really bad things… I felt trapped and broken. I can’t believe that I have over 7 years sober now, and I never really think about it that way. I just don’t drink today. Being sober becomes the new habit. Everything becomes more manageable. You’re amazing for sharing your story and I know great things are to come for you.
Very brave of you to both embark on your sober journey as well as being willing to share your story with us. The more you listen to your inner guidance and stay true to that, the stronger your self esteem will be. That’s a lesson that took me a while to learn myself, so I speak from experience. I would love to hear more about your own experiences, in whatever medium you prefer and feel the most comfortable with. This is very personal to you, so really I think how you choose to share it should be up to you. Big hug to you for your strength! ❤
This is very powerful Demi. Thanks for your courage and allowing yourself to be so vulnerable for the world to see. This will help many people who need encouragement and are in a dark place.
This is very brave sharing such a personal story with us and I’m grateful you have because I’m sure there are a lot of us that can somewhat relate to having personal struggles and having a form of addiction to cope. I think most of your viewers would love listening to a podcast! ☺️ how exciting, can’t wait. And as always, love your fragrance videos and loving the Discovery set (2) xx
Demi you got this girl, you are such a beautiful person on the outside and inside ❤️
Thank you for being so brave to share your story. I wish you much success in your journey to stay sober. God Bless you for all the people you have helped by telling your story.
Demi this is the most important video you have ever done. Because you have such credibility with your fragrance reviews and are such a genuine person I know that someone will gain the confidence to become inspired to choose sobriety from your story. I decided not to drink in March and am so glad I did. I feel incredible and don’t know where this journey will take me but for now I am not counting down to April 1 to have a drink and am enjoying every minute of my experience. Please continue to share your story and successes in this area. God bless
Thank you for sharing this. Sharing our experiences is how we help ourselves and others. Proud of you! ❤
Alcohol killed someone very dear to me. She was 36. It wasn't the cause of death, but her problems led her down that path. She was also a binge drinker. I think about her all the time, and I hope that you stay with this path. You have your entire life ahead of you and there is no reason to give any more of it to that substance. Good luck and stay strong.
I hope you have a good day, know that JESUS died for you and loves you so very much!
Love your honesty Demi. I have also struggled with alcohol over the years, not to an extreme degree but it can become a crutch that you rely on to cheer you up or distract you from worries. Thanks for sharing your story, I’m sure it will help many people.
I loooooove this ❣️❣️❣️ thank you so much for sharing, I feel like you’re describing my relationship with alcohol at the moment, and I’ve been trying to cut back with an app also, so seeing where you’re at it’s really inspiring! I’m here for the podcast!
Awh I love you!! You’ve got this beautiful 🙏🏻❤️
So proud of you for sticking to it! I’ve found that the uncomfortableness being sober in social situations eases up with time. My lifestyle puts me in the sphere of heavy drinkers and it’s difficult to make a change when everyone around is pushing it on you. I’ve found that when I push back and say no, people are almost upset with me because I’m not partaking with them/doing what they want me to do. I don’t know if you deal with this, but putting yourself first and not giving in gets easier too! Keep going!!
Also, you *are* a very likable person, just the way you are! ❤
Wow, so much respect to you for sharing this, it’s so very relatable! I’ve struggled in the same way for so many years and finally realized I just can’t dabble in drinking, I can’t put the brakes on. Every day I wake up without a hangover is a gift. It’s been 1.5 years now and I’m not looking back. I listened to a book called “ This Naked Mind” that was transformative back then, highly recommend! Hugs ❤️❤️
Loved this raw honest side of you. Brave. Thank you. I reckon no one goes through life not either experiencing or being exposed to our fallibility WRT alcohol dependency. You are truly beautiful inside and out.
Thank you for sharing your story. Someone in my family is struggling with alcohol. It's so sad to see him decline and there is nothing I can do because he will never stop no matter what I say. Your transparency will help a lot of people. You are so awesome and unique. I love your personality. I don't have many friends either; You have a friend in me from afar. We are all praying for you to find peace and happiness and to finally see yourself worthy of friends. All of us followers see your worth and hope you can see yourself the way we all see you, you are so likable!!!
So needed and appreciated. I’m 7 mos sober. Good luck to you❤
Can’t believe the bravery and courage it must take to speak out like this. I’ve known people in your situation and you feel powerless that you can’t help them see it. I’ve never been addicted but would occasionally take it too far. Only drink occasionally now and as you say, i can meet friends for coffee, for walks, for dinner and still have a great time. Wishing you all the luck in the world. ✌️
Demi, Awesome job! I am now just a little over 3 years sober. You got this!
Hi Demi, I really respect your honesty... We all have something that we can improve on or ditch completely from our lives to make things better.... Congratulations on your sobriety... You got this sister girl xox
Congratulations, Demi. This is an absolutely wonderful video. Thank you for having the courage to share this. You are inspiring and encouraging others to give up alcohol while sharing some deeply personal reasons for your brave, life-altering decision. The results are clearly showing already. A great deal of people look up to you, and I can assure you that you will receive a mountain of blessings. God bless you. Stay healthy and happy always.
Hi Demi, I’m a fellow binge/closeted drinker. You look very happy with your progress which is great! You are a beautiful person and I enjoy watching your content and listening to your fragrance recommendations. For me, it was hard to stop on my own after so many attempts. I felt despair whenever I ended up having the first drink again. I went to rehab in 2016 and stayed sober for 3 ½ years only to end up in a toxic relationship which started in that Rehab facility. Big no no. I relapsed and kept drinking for a couple years just secretly struggling (or so I thought). I couldn’t figure out my path in life. The struggle was real. I had to really listen internally to how I was feeling and decided I needed to go back to a Rehab just last April 2022. It was a different facility and this time around I absorbed all the help and information I was given, taking this addiction more seriously. Also, keeping my hands to myself of course (no new romantic relationship). The one on one therapy there was definitely valuable. I discovered I was finding work going against who I knew I was, being a Salesperson. I was miserable but kept at it. My counselor said I was trying to be someone I’m not. Mind blowing because I knew that was true once I heard it. I have an introvert personality and tried really hard to do a job best suited for extroverts. I remembered a time I was happiest and it was as a caregiver for the elderly. About two months in being sober, I went to CNA training School. Wish I had done that a long time ago but I’m happy that it’s what I do for work now. It finally feels right. I was doing what I thought someone I liked years ago would find me as attractive in sales type of work. I wasted days and wasted nights. I’m now taking my days one day at a time following my intuition to guide me. I started to see my intuition as my internal True North to keep me moving in the right direction in life and to help me on days if I ever feel lost… like a compass. Today I have 11 months 3 weeks & 1 day.
-Much love, Kat.
First of all, it’s not possible that you don’t have friends or somebody doesn’t like you😳you are so down to earth/nice/smart/interesting🔥so don’t ever say again that you need something to have friends😊❤ second I like vlogs, it’s nice to look at you and listen to your thoughts ❤ 3th I’m super happy that you’re in this sober journey👏🏻 thank you for sharing ❤
First of all, thanks so much for sharing this. Much respect, truly. I'll try to be brief, but it's a large topic. I've been sober since 11/12/2019. Most of my adult life (age 21-35) revolved around an insidious and progressive drinking habit, until I simply couldn't bear the weight of suffering, severe anxiety, or losing any more than I had already; namely: relationships, self-esteem, a career in music I worked my entire life for... the list goes on, but the one thing I didn't lose was my actual life (although there were so many times I could have). Today, I couldn't be happier with the decision to be sober, but alcoholism is sneaky. You mentioned a "slippery slope," and that's precisely what it is for anyone who would diagnose their relationship to drinking as an addiction. Nobody gets to decide that but the individual, even if signs may seem obvious to the outsider. To be honest though, a person will probably know, sooner or later. The last stint of drinking I had started after 7 months of abstinence, with one beer, after a long day, and I had a "fun" night out with friends. What followed were probably the most difficult and painful 7 months of my life. It went from bitters and soda, to wine with dinner, to wine after dinner, to drinking in the mornings, to drinking around the clock, to I literally couldn't leave my home without it, in just a matter of months. The lesson I learned was that removing alcohol merely paved the way for healing; and although abstinence was undoubtedly requisite, there was still a path to walk. I had to work through the reasons I drank the way I did to begin with, as alcohol addiction was purely a symptom of the underlying issues. Not that I believe I could safely go back to drinking normally, but the real question is: even if I could, why would I want to? All of that said, I believe we can all have a life so beautiful that we wouldn't want to spend a moment of it lacking the clarity that sobriety brings. Sobriety of the mind and body, to be sure, but also of the emotions. Facing fears, challenges, and hardships head-on, and the inner feeling (finally) of looking the world "in the eye." Not to mention all of the wonderful things one would miss by being hungover, or worse. There isn't a moment of this life worth letting slip by. So, all the best to you on the journey. P.S. Fragrance has been an invaluable outlet for me as an alternative for the deep dives I used to do into wine; I'm extremely grateful for your channel and what you contribute to the community. It's carried me through some difficult times, and enriched so many of the good ones. Be well. -Andrew
Great Job Demi!!!👍
So proud of you that you’ve made it for 5 months!!!
That’s so great!!! 👍😃
Love yourself and treat your body with love and be kind to yourself! 🙏❤️
And yes alcohol is the enemy for those who suffer from anxiety ,
It makes it much much much worse!!! 🙄
You are amazing and beautiful soul ❤
Don’t blame yourself and don’t judge yourself! Just take care of yourself with love and kindness. ❤️Without judgement or shame!!!🙏❤️🤗Truly loving yourself will help you to get rid of this addiction! ❤
You should be so very proud of yourself ❤ Thank you for sharing something so private and personal with us. I have so much respect for you ❤
This video just popped up as I watch your perfume-related videos and I was intrigued, so I watched it. I am 54 years old and can relate to everything you’re saying. Thank you for sharing your story. I have done all the things you have also and for the same reasons as you. I rarely drink anymore and feel better for it. You’re a success and inspiration.
I'm so proud of you for opening up and sharing your story. You are a strong, beautiful, intelligent, elegant, and determined woman. I like the idea of podcast format for this type of content. I think not having a camera with a bright light in your face allows you to relax more and go deeper in yourself. I just downloaded Sniff, and it's fantastic. Congratulations. Hugs from Argentina.
Thank you for sharing, for being all real ♥️ You are such a beautiful person and also so talented. I would love both vlogs and a podcast, either way follow what your heart tells you.
Way to go! It’s awesome that you’ve been able to make this change and that your life is so much better because of it. My advice, as far as occasional drinking in the future goes, would be that it’s easier to stick with something 100% of the time than 99% of the time, especially when it comes to something that can be addictive or destructive. Easier to just skip it every time because if you make allowances for special events, it’s easier to excuse yourself at other times as well, or to begin seeking out opportunities to make exceptions, etc. Especially if you have a tendency to go really hard when drinking, it will be much easier not to start, than it would be after a drink or two to try to stop yourself before you get to that point where you’ll regret things you do or say, etc. Best of luck to you, and congratulations again!
Thank you for sharing your story Demi takes guts to do that! I’ve been there so I feel ya! Keep doing you and march ahead w your podcast! ✌️❤️
I get such a strong sense of sincerity from you whenever you talk about issues you might be having (and in general, really, even with the lighter, fun topics). I saw the little tears welling up and your hands shaking. You are doing so great with all this, honestly. Shame is inevitable but it means you have self-awareness and accountability. I think there's a lot of people that don't have friendships like you've described, myself included. Nothing wrong with that, maybe you just haven't found them yet, I think it's a lot like finding a romantic partner. If you ever want a pen pal, let me know, we need to bring the lost art of letter wrting back into popularity 🤗 I wish you the best in all your endeavors, I can't wait for the podcasts ❤
Congratulations ❤ May the force be with you!
I wish you personal success and lots of quality friendships.The more social experiences you get through without drinking, the more confident you will become. You are such a beautiful young lady and Demi, you are enough!!!
Your a winner! Thank you for sharing. Blessings to you ❤
Congrats Demi :) Thats so nice you shared. I can tell you when I stopped smoking, which was a huge thing for me, I felt unstoppable too. And that feeling is so powerful that you dont want to loose it. So I never went back. Hang on to that feeling. :)
Demi, thank you for sharing such a personal & private story. I would love to see you start a podcast. I think you are beautiful inside & out and you show strength and intelligence. You’re an entrepreneur who’s passion for fragrance has found so many people following you. I think you can make a difference in people’s lives with your podcasts. I know I love watching your vlogs & TH-cam. Thanks again for sharing your story. 😊❤️
Congratulations!! Recovery looks great on you. I’ve been sober for many years, one day at a time. I wouldn’t trade a single day of sobriety for when I drank. My best day while drinking, is nowhere near as good as my worst day in sobriety. So happy for you. Keep going. Easy does it, but DO IT.😊🙌🏾❤️
I'm not subscribed to this channel but was just recommended this video and I am so happy to hear you are on a sobriety journey. This past Tuesday, I lost a friend of 20 years to the grips of severe alcoholism. He had been trying to quit the past few months. I have been trying to help him for years to cut back but the past several years were hard on him and I understood his struggles..just wished i helped more. He passed away trying, and I'm so very proud of him.
I don't tell you this for sympathy or to make anyone sad, I tell you this because I wish my dear friend had tried sobriety a long time ago. I'm sad that he won't have that chance...so now, I deeply wish that for others who are struggling - no matter what that struggle may be.
Wishing you well! You can do this
I am so very sorry. It is such a tragic loss, and, it hurts my heart whenever one of my own passes...we lose many. I have five years sobriety and it took everything I had and more, to get here. I've lost several very close friends to the disease. I hope you know that you couldn't save him..there was absolutely nothing that you could have done differently. We have to cross that threshold when we are ready . Sending prayers for healing
I am so sorry for your loss it must be so hard on you may god rest his soul in peace 🙏🏽 I just want you to know that you couldn’t have helped more it is super hard I learned the 3c’s in alanon which is you didn’t cause it you can’t cure it and you can’t control it . Your presence and being there for your friend was all you could have done really and I’m sure he knows 🙏🏽
So brave of you to share this and congratulations! Funny that I found your page because I’ve turned to perfume, kind of an obsession that filled that place alcohol once had. I’ve been sober almost 3 years now. Life is much richer, brighter and sweeter without it for me. Food taste better, music is more beautiful and the sunrise is brighter. I too went through many traumatic things that alcohol helped numb but it came to a point where that’s all I wanted to do and it dulled everything else. I want to say since I’ve been sober I lost my son to suicide and I remained sober and I am so glad I did. I think if I was drinking then I would have never faced it and became lost in the pain. Life is better without alcohol. You are so beautiful and so passionate, this is why I love watching your channel. Stay your lovely beautiful self!! Look forward to more video’s!!❤❤
Good for you Demi. It's always dope to hear someone cool talk about how it's okay not to drink!
Your story is SOOOO similar to mine. Thank you so much for posting this!!!! Much respect!!!
Congratulations, Demi 💖👑🌺🌹 Wishing you continued strength during this process and journey 🌸🌺
Brave girl. This video shows the strength you have to manage every moment of your life as they come.
One mor thing: it’s OK to be an introvert. Some of us are just like that!
Amazingly raw honesty, that’s where it starts. I was sober for 11.5 years & I relapsed. I have been struggling ever since because everyone drinks, but not like me. Those 11.5 years were the best time of my life. I can totally relate to what you are going through. I have purchased many fragrances over the years watching your vids. To here that an intelligent & beautiful woman still struggles, wow, I had no idea! You are not alone. I am inspired by your story & you helped me, hearing it. I cried. I feel I had an spiritual awakening for myself. Thank you for your honesty…. Truly mind blowing! Keep on your path, I hope to join you!😘🙏🏽💕
God Bless You Demi R.-It's not easy battling personal issues but you're a strong woman who will persevere in the end. You're Cologne TH-cam Channel is awesome and so informative 👍
May the Lord continue to bless and keep you in His perfect peace 🤍 you got this.
Thanks for posting. Hope you are meeting with others who have shared the same issue, it's important to a lot of us. 5 years on March 18th, very grateful. Happy for you Demi!
Salute to you for having the courage to change for the better and to share your story.
Demi what a transparent and intimate vlog ❤️.
5 months of sobriety… Brava Demi 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 I’m very proud of You!
Myself I haven’t had a drink since January, not that it was a big issue for me but I’ve noticed how much it affects my mood, gives me a brain fog, some days an anxiety even a little amount of wine with dinner from time to time so I agree with you strongly that not drinking alcohol at all is very beneficial for you and for me it also opened other door of consciousness and to be fully present in the moment. It’s wonderful that Pierre supports you on this journey.
Believe me You are so lovely, charming and friendly, intelligent and down to earth at the same time that you don’t need a drink to make a better impression on people during social events! Every time I see you on the screen I’m blown away with your beauty and warm personality. Looking forward to hear more of your stories. You are well spoken and have a pleasant voice so I reckon your podcast will be a success.
Stay Strong Girl 💫.
P.S Gozo and Unue are wonderful, I have to try Siberian Rose and Chiron.
I was so surprised to learn these things about you. You are so accomplished for someone in her 20s. As I push 40 and struggle with my own independent hustle, the thing you’ve built has elicited a lot of awe and a little bit of envy. This is a reminder that we all can have struggles and pain off stage.
Good on you for going sober. From loved ones who have done the same, it seems that usually there is no moderation for those who are susceptible to alcoholism - one has to go completely and persistently dry. I don’t completely understand it, as I’ve always been a moderate and self-limiting drinker - but that’s the account I’ve heard and witnessed many times now. Proud of you, Demi - keep on healing and growing. You’re amazing.
So proud of you Demi! It is difficult to abstain but you know yourself so trust your gut and do whats best for your overall health ❤️
I would LOVE to listen to your podcast I’m sure your content would be interesting!
Thank you for sharing your story. I have to say that I'm at the crossroads right with my drinking and the effects that it has on my life. I think it's time for me to take a similar approach to stop drinking. And please speak more about your life issues because we all have them. You're not alone. You never know who your helping.
I too am 3 yrs sober. And our stories sound the same. Congratulations to you and continued success in your journey. ❤🎉
My sister was a really bad alcoholic and it killed her also.years of watching her struggle was horrible and heartache. Myself now I don't drink at all.watching her made me hate alcohol. Thank God.whenever I'm around drinkers I'm very uncomfortable because of how much I hate alcohol. So sorry you struggled with this.glad you are being strong and have some support.keep it up!nice of you to share your story.❤😊
congrats Demi! This is a massive step in your healing process and the evolution of your life. a chapter has closed and a new one is opening.I am going through a similar transformation with my relationship with alcohol. Although i personally have never faced alcohol addiction, it does run in my family, and i myself have definitely been a binge drinker. slowly the past 6-12 months i have greatly reduced (have not managed to completely stop) my drinking. I have gone a few months without drinking. I am not sure if i want to quit permanently, but I do want it to be very occasional and for the right reasons (a drink at a special occasion).What i want to stop is the mindless drinking. So many memories are impaired in my life because alcohol was a factor. I want to change that and lead a healthier, happier life and be the best version of myself.
Very courageous of you to share your most personal story with us Demi.
Wish you all the best in your journey in staying sober. This was touching to watch.
I like the way you told your story in a no nonsense way. I am sure you helped people struggling with mental health and alcohol addiction with telling your story.
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Thank you for sharing your story, congratulations for coming along so far! I really do prefer the vlog versus a podcast 😊
One day at a time! You know something, your story of your life was so ...I don't know how to explain it, but I didn't care about the perfumes. I can hear you for what you are. A big hug from Puerto Rico.
And remember everyday is a fresh start.
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You are such a beautiful and talented person. I love to watch you videos and the way you can describe Frangrances is true talent.
Stay strong, you don’t need alcohol in your life. I worked as a counselor at several rehabs and once you identify you have a problem, you can’t just have a little drink. That will set you up to failure. Quit totally alcohol. It will always lead you to the same point.
I totally admire and respect your honesty! You are amazing! Beautiful! And incredibly talented in what you do!
Best of luck! You got this Demi! ❤️❤️❤️
Just wanted to say that it is incredibly brave of you to open up like this. I am so thrilled that you are going from strength to strength. Any time you are feeling down and feeling tempted to binge drink, always remember how far you have come and how important it is to keep looking forward.
Love the Vlogs even if it's not as common, but a Podcast would be really cool to expand beyond the fragrance universe. Congratulations on being sober! I've been straight edge my entire life and I don't see anything wrong with people who want to enjoy some alcohol, but it's great to hear that you're heading toward that cleaner life. I agree it's rare to find anyone who doesn't drink even as straight edge becomes a more popular thing to do with many wrestlers going the same way as CM Punk and more bands having outspoken straight edge members. I have developed other addictions which have been fairly controllable (fragrance collecting is the most recent wallet breaking addiction I've had) so I understand that psychological impact because it all boils down to the most basic instincts and emotions within. Glad to hear Piere has been supportive. It's sometimes tough to find someone supportive and I often end up being one of those people around my friends.
I'd love to just sit over coffee and have these conversations about anxiety, alcohol, and layer in the fragrances, too. This is the real life most people skip when doing anything social media which is why I'm not social media active. I feel you on so many levels from few friends, lack of advice (which has hurt my dating life a bit, but that's another topic), and everything. Honestly, though, if you ever needed anything from a small town Midwestern you find me and let me know. That's what I do these days, coffee and conversations (and support).
Thank you for sharing your story Demi and I would love to hear more on your podcast. I can relate to a lot of what you said, stay strong girl we support you!
You don't need alcohol Demi, well done and keep going!, Your body and mind will thankyou for it. I haven't had alcohol for about 7 years, I don't miss it, there's plenty of things to drink instead lol. Also get into yoga! That will help you immensely, both mentally and physically! It's done wonders for me 🙏
One day at a time Demi sending you love and all the support one can have. Your so brave and strong hugs and kisses 💕
Great message. I've been sober 38 years so I wish you well from a well earned, clear perspective.
I enjoy your perfume channel and I will be praying for you. You are a wonderful, amazing and strong courageous. Keep up the good work.
I can’t remember the last time I related to someone’s words so much. The alcoholism, the anorexia, the mental health, the feeling that I’m unlikeable. I’m sorry you went through this and possibly are still struggling. I still have pretty poor mental health and I’m sure I always will, but alcohol will only ever exacerbate that. I’ve been almost 8 years sober and I don’t miss the blackouts, the times I almost died, the embarrassment and shame. The best thing is to stop completely. If I didn’t stop, I’m sure I’d be dead or in a terrible place right now. Even if you weren’t as extreme as that- imagine all that you can accomplish sober vs struggling. I know that’s harder said than done. But it only takes one drink to spiral. Sounds like you’re on a good path or at least asking for help. Stay healthy. Virtual hug.