It's an intricate part of your life. I walked away from love and romance when I was 23. Romance is/was a waist of time and money, and I'm not about to become a jerk just because women don't appreciate nice guys. Nothing sounds like simping more to me then changing your entire personality to impress a chick.
I hope this inspires you: It is true that most of the women today have huge and unrealistic standards for men. I was the same as most of you: lost, unsure, feeling useless, was about to give up on life. Some people might say "you don't need a woman, focus on yourself". That's not 100% true, at a point you will need. Even if you fail multiple times don't give up. Eren Yeager once said "no matter what happens, I will move forward". This quote must be applied everywhere. Me for example had a LOT of fails and I was about to give up completely, but one day I found a girl that I could easly figure out that she is perfect for me and I used all my energy to get her heart and succeeded. Don't give up brothers you can all do it, just keep moving forward!
@@questionabletheory59 If I wanted to read a novel I have pleanty at home. If you can't say it in a few lines then you're not trying to convince others you're trting to convince yourself.
Always aim high, work hard, and care deeply about what you believe in. And, when you stumble, keep faith. And, when you’re knocked down, get right back up and never listen to anyone who says you can’t or shouldn’t go on. 💪
Most women think there are professional models just cause for a couple of likes!! In social media, and start to believe there celebrities and there nobody with nooooo!!, credentials of modeling with big powerhouses like hugo Boss, victoria Secrets, Chanel, Armani, etc etc!!
Which is why you have to maintain your own path. You don't compromise to go on hers. And if you have the same path, she has to put the same effort in as you.
Number 2 hit deep. I guarantee at 27 I wouldn't be battling with major depression and suicidal thoughts since I was a teenager if I experienced a relationship,wasn't in a 3+ year dryspell, had a regular sex life, being told I love you, getting noticed by girls I actually want, dating, traveling with a girl just once in my life. Just once to feel like I'm wanted by a woman I actually want.
My advice for you is create a lot of options for yourself with women. Don’t focus too much on just 1 woman and don’t be too desperate. It’s hard to do and don’t open too much about your personal problems in life, leave some mystery about yourself. The way women are now days you aren’t missing anything at all. No drama, high blood pressure, her trying to control you, play games, make you go broke, pick fights with you, sound familiar. Whatever you do never ever ever ever get married. I don’t care how great she seems. Date her, live with her, sex etc sure but if you ever breakup you saved yourself a lot of money, and a lot of psychological damage and then you move onto the next woman.
You guys need to understand it’s a numbers game plus every state is different, very different with women. Seriously women in Texas are not the same as women in Oregon lol. But they all have one thing in common they all bought into the mindset of toxic feminism. It’s not hard to figure out what works for you. If you talk a lot and can’t get a woman, quit talking too much. If you let a woman blab away and you land her well their you go.
Dude you are making your whole life about women. Did your really say if you had a woman you wouldn’t be depressed? Find a purpose outside of women dude. A woman is there 2 assist you along the journey not be the focus of your journey. Making her the focus will cause you to lose her quick!
As a dude in his early 20's who is already extremely disciplined in fitness and lifestyle, constantly achieving new goals, and chasing my ambitions (both financial and holistically), I've grown tired of the generic "work on yourself and the right one will come" copy-and-pasted videos about dating. These points were a breath of fresh air and straight-to-the-point. Specifically, your bit about the "average" or even below average guys with nothing special (not in great shape, ambitious or well-off financially, or even good-looking) having better success than the average "silent grinder working on himself" is so accurate. I can speak to this myself as someone who has been grinding extremely hard in the gym and my personal endeavors for the past five years. Admittedly, I suck pretty badly at having confidence off-the-bat when trying to build this tension with girls. From someone that had a pretty massive glow-up from fat to jacked (over many years of hard work), I find myself relying a bit too much on physical game and girls complimenting me about my physique. In reality, the attention you get due to having a good physique or being extremely intelligent and possessing connections and resources is just a plus and you still need to put in the work and immediately establish tension like you mention. I would even wager you might become viewed as intimidating and no longer as approachable or "relatable", so it makes things even more difficult at times. Pretty much every other video about dating from a dude's perspective nowadays either defends the complete hands-off approach to attraction and prioritizes either entirely "building yourself up and attracting through sheer ambition" or relying too heavily on the importance of cold approaching and "speed-running" confidence. In my opinion, I think a substantial amount of single guys like myself (not necessarily "many", but certainly far more than often construed) ARE already putting in the work and grinding in the gym, financially, and in terms of creating a more holistic and meaningful life in general. As someone that's extremely hard on myself, I feel that being in this "middle ground" is actually even more brutal and unforgiving than being an absolute beginner at starting to level up or after already having reached success because our only options are to essentially "waste time dating" or "focus entirely on ourselves". In reality, as you point out, I feel being brutally honesty with ourselves about filling that void of companionship rather than disguising it as "self-improvement" and actively working on it without considering it a "waste of time" is key.
Had to screenshot and save this, basically described exactly what I feel as a 21yo engineering student who’s been grinding the gym for over 5yrs. It does feel bad to see guys who don’t “deserve” it (as in they don’t work hard, educate themselves or do any physical training) get 10x the amount of women I am getting. I have been relying too much on working on myself and basically waiting for girls to come to me when that’s not how the real world functions, and we need to make the effort to put ourselves out there and stop waiting for miracles to come to us dating wise.
@@java8569 Appreciate the comment man. I've been out of college for a bit now but the key is to remember that we're all capping a bit (both men and women). It's a strange cycle of guys trying to downgrade their effort into how much energy they're putting into dating (relative to results) and presenting our social insecurities as "strength and magnetic confidence that will radiate and attract the right ones". Conversely, women (particularly in our demographic) either have unrealistic expectations or only go for a very niche type of guy with very specific physical or financial attributes. Yes, while you will almost certainly gain more attention with the right mindset and habits (physique, intelligence, and social prowess), the groundwork has merely been laid for you to ATTEMPT to put in work. At the same time, it's also important to note that you can only get to such a level at each of these before continuing to put in work yields more results (a series of diminishing returns). For example, after a few years of going to the gym properly and dialing in fitness, you'll look "fit and athletic" (ripped, buff, jacked, whatever, etc...). The average person/girl (unless they're tremendously into fitness themselves or working in the field of sports or athletics), however, will kind of tune out after fit or ripped and thus, well, that excuse that you're "waiting to be in the best shape" doesn't cut it anymore. Obviously you can always get better, but there's a point (relatively early on after a few years) where you achieve, reach, and exceed the conventional bar of "okay, this guy is fit and athletic enough to be considered a dating contender". The hard truth we all have to accept as men is that: yes, if you happen to be extremely good-looking naturally and/or tall, that minimum bar is pre-cleared AND you will receive way more leeway to mess up, even if no prior work was done. That's not fair, but it's not everything. This is just the way it works and has always been. All that being said, I would wager that, like the video outlines, the key is to be honest with all of these factors and utilize all of these truisms about attraction and dating and use them to better our communications with one another rather than weaponizing and blaming each other (be it men versus men or blaming women). So, in conclusion: yes, "maxing yourself out" and focusing on self improvement is great and necessary to have a solid life in general. Simultaneously (and this is the part that many similar camps of thought and "self-help" manosphere videos lack), we have to remember that dating is a game, and when you deal with the right kind of women, you can minimize the bullshit and cut straight to genuine connection.
@@bombda430 Absolutely man and totally in same boat with the making the first move thing and keeping that organic tension up haha. Funny how the physique thing is coming up a lot in these responses too. Personally, I think the most immediate benefit of being a gym rat has been a higher frequency of some eye contact and some overt comments about "muscles" or "being very fit". This whole era of advertising insecurity and inexperience as "magnetic confidence and pure investment in oneself" is something I've wrestled with myself and have been recently come to terms with the fact that I was using this as an excuse too and not "above" it. Again, at least in my experience, the good physique and demonstrated discipline simply prolongs that window of making a good impression, and slightly buffers up your fuck up threshold. Contrary to popular belief, in my opinion, it's not some MASSIVE advantage when it comes to commanding that frame and building that chemistry off the bat.
6 HARSH Truths about WOMEN, Men Learn TOO Late 1. Lust or Pity 2. Bridges & Skyscrapers 3. The Best option 4. Never platonic 5. Female pursuit 6. The female attitude
Having female friends can have its advantages. They add to my social proofing when we're hanging out at bars/events. I'll have 1-2 of them with me and all the sudden more women gravitate out of curiosity.
While I agree this can happen, if the man hasn't successfully achieved women on a romantic level, having those friendships won't help him majority of the time. He'd spend most of the friendship hoping it changes, instead of utilizing them in this way
Ace video! The worse thing about being pitied is that in a lot of cases this can lead to a relationship... But you're going to be settled for and are setting yourself up for a miserable low quality relationship!
Female friends are fantastic for growing and learning with, they help provide social proof and aren't as caustic as a lot of men can be. Mine have helped me out so much and they don't even know how often they've helped me get laid. Female platonic friends are great
Videos like this make me proud to be a supporter of this channel man. You're well spoken on another level, really happy to have someone with consistent solid advice for men. Thank you David
My parents just gave me the "someone will come along" speech, and then I found this video. It's not so much about being in a relationship at first, I just want to build the confidence so high that I can walk up to any girl and tell her exactly what I want. And for that man, you get a sub. Thank you.
I see your point on the platonic friendships. I think it’s a bit different for guys and girls who’ve been in the military. I have female friends to this day that I’ve never tried to get with and don’t feel a need to. And these are people, both male and female, that have my back 💯 (and Vice versa). Not saying I disagree, because there is validity, but I think it comes on a spectrum. Good stuff tho.
9:58 Something to think about that might help you deal with that irritation is that: when you’re going out of your house to film a video, you’re entering a *public* space, a space that you can’t control what does and doesn’t happen, a space where life goes in any direction. The key point is “life doesn’t wait for you.” I myself have times where I get really irritated too, though I try to remind myself that what happened is out of my control, but what I can control is how I respond to it. Hope this advice helps for anyone reading. Also great video man, most of what you’ve said has made me think more about how I’ve been acting around girls my age.
Bro thank you for making this content. Your presentation, and humor is spot on. You really leveled the fuck up since I saw your content years ago. I’ve been on an unprecedented binge of your videos tonight and it’s making me wanna seize the fucking day tomorrow. You’re really out here saving lives and shit. I’ve been a wreck. Such a weird/convenient time for me to run into your channel again with where I’m at in life. Mad respect, keep killing it.
I had some female friends in the past, and I didn't have sexual interest in them. I still maintain relationship with some of them, however most of my male friends didn't get that. The only thing is that if I was interested in someone sexually then "friendship" option never was an option.
It's also the case with me. I'm a very social guy but I don't find majority of women attractive and some of my female friends secretly dislike me becouse I never made a move to hook up with them
I'm married, but I have to say I really enjoyed this video. Much of this was true for my relationship and how I got with my wife. You're doing good work.
Ain’t nothing wrong with female friends. they create situations, they can introduce you to other people and females. They get you to understand woman a little better. You lose fear and be more comfortable around woman. Strangers don’t know if you are partners or friends. They can make you look attractive. Take advantage of a friendship but don’t screw up trying to fake a friendship. Most relationship start by the introduction of other people.
Thoroughly enjoyed this video. I00% agree on this solid advice. As you’re leveling up in your life, don’t leave the dating part out. Continue to work on that as well. Stay beastly bro!
@@martinmucha8074 if you’ve lost interest in women, you prolly need to think about what made you go into that mentality mindset. We as men are biologically hardwired to be interested in woman. Why not enjoy riding your bike and also work on your dating life? It’s just like any other challenge. The more you do, the better you become, the easier it gets
I have to say you improve your content quality big time since last time (years ago) I was subscribed to the channel. Thanks for what you're doin, keep it up! 👏
It's refreshing to see advice for men that's rooted in building confidence and maintaining frame without going down some of the rabbit holes associated with the "Red Pill" that can encourage negativity or excessive focus dating app statistics, etc.
Hey Bro, I understand your point of view on the besties thing, but there are some cases it’s just two people enjoying the company of each other within a friend group. If you where to force a relationship, it would just be weird. But I’ll take your words into consideration when approaching more girls. If I end up bagging this one chick, I’m buying myself edge clothing as a gift to myself
Appreciate your vulnerability, great point with the best option part, that resonated. Question, did you notice an increase in success with women after you were established-more successful? Or do you think this doesn't matter as long as the drive and potential is there. Ex: renting apt and average car while working towards buying home/nicer car vs. Owning home with nice car. Thoughts? Open to the viewers perspectives as well.
Well thought out and presented video. I highly recommend your channel to any young man finding his way through life. Patty briefly mentioned it to me several years ago. Great job David. I’m proud of you. And congratulations on getting married.
8:27 is so key. I wish I knew that years ago. Would’ve known that years ago. Doing this might’ve saved me *years* of headaches when it comes to women. 😅
I'm friends with a girl which I think is platonic, because I am in no way attracted to her one bit. We hang out often when we were still in college one on one, smoke weed, talk about music, watch Netflix and that stuff. She's in Canada rn and I'm from Asia. She's got a husband now and we talk like, once a year about mostly music. Never once I thought of something sexual with her, rather I feel like she's my younger sister. I think she's the only platonic female friend I ever had lol, any other females who I mingled with, mostly there's something sexual underneath it all tbh at least for me. I'm honest enough to admit that
Thanks for the videos! I did not have the confidence to pursue women before finding your channel. Now i have the courage to ask women out and i have stopped talking passively with women. Either lust or nothing from now on.
I will admit, I sometimes still feel like an incel despite having a girlfriend, probably because I feel that my 20s were a waste, didn't have a serious relationship until the beginning of my 30s. It causes me to envy and resent couples out there younger than me, people who got to experience having a serious long-term relationship before I did and yes I know people will always say comparison is the thief of joy or don't compare yourself to others. But I believe it's always has been and always will be part of the human psyche, been that way since the beginning of time to feel upset and depressed when you feel you are not part of the norm. Because of that I feel like a forever permanent incel for all time, even when I did manage to get a girlfriend. So yeah even while I did have a girlfriend, I still felt like an incel. I don't see myself ever getting over this, it will be a pain and wound for the rest of my life. And I'm not afraid to admit that there have been times over the years I have hated being born male, because I know I'm not the only guy in the world that has this mindset, that men have to do everything in dating and relationships and seduction. Yes I know tons of people say what's the point of being angry and depressed over what didn't happen in the past or not? Well I'm entitled and I have a right to my mindset, I believe it's always been part of human nature or just the human psyche to always be sad and depressed or angry and resentful over good things that they wish happened to them in the past but didn't. I know I'm not afraid to admit I have had these thoughts, and I'm sure other guys have thought this way, we feel that if we had been born a woman, we would not have been single that long. Probably because women just have to exist and they are guaranteed attention and options from Men, that requires no skill or no social dynamics, no game or no seduction. Guys, men, have to know or learn all of these skills, behaviors, talk a certain way, behave a certain way, act a certain way, walk and stand a certain way, breathe a certain way, have a certain lifestyle, because leading or taking the lead is something that is behavior based, skill based, think a certain way, and many more things, that i either don't know or forgot. Women just have to exist and breathe and they are guaranteed attention, options, that doesn't require any learning or skill development, it mind boggles me and makes me annoyed when people say women need skills to succeed in dating. One person I remember I heard said that women need game as well which I thought was the stupidest thing I ever heard. So ya I still feel like an incel for all time despite managing to get a girlfriend eventually, and I still get irritated and annoyed whenever people and society say that men have it better than women do in the human mating game.
@@tmcclone do you think if you ever did manage to get a girlfriend do you think you would still forever be sad and depressed because you didn't have one in your younger years?
@tmcclone reminds me of an article about a guy from the UK that I wish I never read or never discovered at times, I was sadly moved by it mentally and emotionally
I’ve been into red pill stuff for 10 years. Finally gave up on women and I’ve never been happier or more content. Going after women made me a simp which messed with my mental health. Your psyche will be a lot better if you’re not desperate.
That's stupid, ya let me just take myself out of the gene pool because I'm not rich. It's not impossible to raise children and have them be good members of society just because you're at a disadvantage. Quitters.
Good contact bro, but in seeing alot of guys deflecting in the comment section, saying women's standards are too high etc....that may be true but it's our fault it's mens fault. Most dudes I know growing up and even grown ass adults play video games and eat junk food. We are not vigorous like we used too no sweat or pain in growth just dormant. Soo know we got a bunch of women who are forced to wear the pants and lead boss babes etc .. we have lost the leading role and women are rightfully pissed. We need to get our shit together and start grabbing these girls and leading them to happiness.
I have female friends. Thing is, I legitimately don't want to be with them 😂 If I did and i couldn't be, I wouldn't accept some bogus friendship with them. He's right about that. I grew up with only sisters and LOTS of female cousins. It feels natural to me. That said, male friends who you share a path with are crucial. Totally agree there. Female friends are good too but more for just chilling and having fun, with some exceptions.
I been watching you for years man love the videos and I agree with this I swear my girl was arguing with me last week just to see my reaction. I never really had much trouble with girls but we can all always learn something but these videos shed so much light on topics and subjects I feel so many guys are oblivious to. stay beastly.
The way Ive accpeted a true female friend is her ability make me meet more women, get me into parties, talk amazing about me to her friends, opening a door to a bigger and easier market. But sometimes I question myself because I’m tbh very red pill minded in my opinion about male friends. Thoughts?
I have some female friends in school, but we basically just help each other out in classes and one of them tutors me. I feel like that’s okay. I don’t go out with them ever to places and never ask really
You asked, okay. Yes I've had female friends that I only wanted as friends and I liked having them as friends. They were good friends that we did a lot of things together as friends like waterskiing and mountain biking, various outings, and such all the time. They were good friends first, who just happened to be female. Thing is, almost all of my female friends shot their shot with me and I turned them down because that's not what I wanted with them. So no, in my opinion, being a female does not preclude being someone I would want as a friend.
So it was the other way around then. If they were interested in you and shot their shot, that's literally no different than being in the friendzone for a guy
I think its benificial to befriend all kinds of people it keeps your beliefs constantly challenged and always learning knew things about people and the human experience . Most people like Ben Shapiro build up resentment and hate/dislike when they run there mouths about people they have not one clue about.
I normally fall in the Lust zone and talked my way in the petty zone . One cure for that I should have practice walking away. It would have been a much better choice even if she didn’t contact me again.
To answer your friendship questions there are plenty of women I don't feel attracted to(too tall 4me, "ugly" face....)but who I just appreciate as people
Hey David!! I appreciate your content so much and I believe the importance of focusing on making videos for single beasts but I would like you to make more suggestion videos for people who have girlfriends or in a long term relationships… ❤️
In Society it is difficult today to find the right kind of woman but remember always be true to yourself and who you are don’t let a woman ever change you
I'm 34 years old, I've been single since I was 23 in that time I've been on one date. These days I can't even get a girl to talk to me for more than a min or even look at me. It sucks. The ones that do take to me more than a day as soon as they find out there are certain social media that I don't have they ghost me.
Fake it till you make it boys. Just keep telling yourself how unique you are and keep repeating your strengths that women will like. Go into dates thinking “she’s going to want me in pretty decent looking, smart and I got good jokes… why wouldn’t she like me?” Keep repeating stuff like that. Keep thinking about how many boring good looking tall dudes there are and how she is probably sick of them and she’ll want someone unique like you. You got it bros go kill it! And if your nervous, who cares everyone gets nervous. Don’t let being nervous bother you. Happens to everyone! Make a joke about it even, if your funny, to show how unbothered you are by it. Be confident about your weaknesses… everyone’s got em.
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It's an intricate part of your life. I walked away from love and romance when I was 23. Romance is/was a waist of time and money, and I'm not about to become a jerk just because women don't appreciate nice guys. Nothing sounds like simping more to me then changing your entire personality to impress a chick.
I hope this inspires you:
It is true that most of the women today have huge and unrealistic standards for men. I was the same as most of you: lost, unsure, feeling useless, was about to give up on life. Some people might say "you don't need a woman, focus on yourself". That's not 100% true, at a point you will need. Even if you fail multiple times don't give up. Eren Yeager once said "no matter what happens, I will move forward". This quote must be applied everywhere. Me for example had a LOT of fails and I was about to give up completely, but one day I found a girl that I could easly figure out that she is perfect for me and I used all my energy to get her heart and succeeded. Don't give up brothers you can all do it, just keep moving forward!
@@questionabletheory59 If I wanted to read a novel I have pleanty at home. If you can't say it in a few lines then you're not trying to convince others you're trting to convince yourself.
how Long does this deal last
@@RedPilled792 Forever, I'm never going back.
Always aim high, work hard, and care deeply about what you believe in. And, when you stumble, keep faith. And, when you’re knocked down, get right back up and never listen to anyone who says you can’t or shouldn’t go on. 💪
@@Sam-um2wc be respectful
It’s sad what western society has come to. Women these days have standards that are way too high. We can thank social media and feminism for that.
Not all women have the same standards
Although you're right to a degree, remember, the obstacle becomes the way.
Most women think there are professional models just cause for a couple of likes!! In social media, and start to believe there celebrities and there nobody with nooooo!!, credentials of modeling with big powerhouses like hugo Boss, victoria Secrets, Chanel, Armani, etc etc!!
@@GeneralKatarnBingo 🎯
Stop whining. Hit the gym and make bank.
My female friend who is a psychologist said something that changed my life. As a man, you’re never Mr. Right, you’re only Mr. Right now…. Game changer
Huh??
thats 21 savage not ur psychologist bud.
Which is why you have to maintain your own path. You don't compromise to go on hers. And if you have the same path, she has to put the same effort in as you.
@@ubaida4254 😂 FACTS!
She need psycologist .. Mr. Right 😂
Number 2 hit deep. I guarantee at 27 I wouldn't be battling with major depression and suicidal thoughts since I was a teenager if I experienced a relationship,wasn't in a 3+ year dryspell, had a regular sex life, being told I love you, getting noticed by girls I actually want, dating, traveling with a girl just once in my life. Just once to feel like I'm wanted by a woman I actually want.
Take a coach
My advice for you is create a lot of options for yourself with women. Don’t focus too much on just 1 woman and don’t be too desperate. It’s hard to do and don’t open too much about your personal problems in life, leave some mystery about yourself. The way women are now days you aren’t missing anything at all. No drama, high blood pressure, her trying to control you, play games, make you go broke, pick fights with you, sound familiar. Whatever you do never ever ever ever get married. I don’t care how great she seems. Date her, live with her, sex etc sure but if you ever breakup you saved yourself a lot of money, and a lot of psychological damage and then you move onto the next woman.
You guys need to understand it’s a numbers game plus every state is different, very different with women. Seriously women in Texas are not the same as women in Oregon lol. But they all have one thing in common they all bought into the mindset of toxic feminism. It’s not hard to figure out what works for you. If you talk a lot and can’t get a woman, quit talking too much. If you let a woman blab away and you land her well their you go.
Dude you are making your whole life about women. Did your really say if you had a woman you wouldn’t be depressed? Find a purpose outside of women dude. A woman is there 2 assist you along the journey not be the focus of your journey. Making her the focus will cause you to lose her quick!
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This is so true! The first step is not being afraid of failure and taking action.
As a dude in his early 20's who is already extremely disciplined in fitness and lifestyle, constantly achieving new goals, and chasing my ambitions (both financial and holistically), I've grown tired of the generic "work on yourself and the right one will come" copy-and-pasted videos about dating. These points were a breath of fresh air and straight-to-the-point. Specifically, your bit about the "average" or even below average guys with nothing special (not in great shape, ambitious or well-off financially, or even good-looking) having better success than the average "silent grinder working on himself" is so accurate. I can speak to this myself as someone who has been grinding extremely hard in the gym and my personal endeavors for the past five years. Admittedly, I suck pretty badly at having confidence off-the-bat when trying to build this tension with girls. From someone that had a pretty massive glow-up from fat to jacked (over many years of hard work), I find myself relying a bit too much on physical game and girls complimenting me about my physique. In reality, the attention you get due to having a good physique or being extremely intelligent and possessing connections and resources is just a plus and you still need to put in the work and immediately establish tension like you mention. I would even wager you might become viewed as intimidating and no longer as approachable or "relatable", so it makes things even more difficult at times. Pretty much every other video about dating from a dude's perspective nowadays either defends the complete hands-off approach to attraction and prioritizes either entirely "building yourself up and attracting through sheer ambition" or relying too heavily on the importance of cold approaching and "speed-running" confidence.
In my opinion, I think a substantial amount of single guys like myself (not necessarily "many", but certainly far more than often construed) ARE already putting in the work and grinding in the gym, financially, and in terms of creating a more holistic and meaningful life in general. As someone that's extremely hard on myself, I feel that being in this "middle ground" is actually even more brutal and unforgiving than being an absolute beginner at starting to level up or after already having reached success because our only options are to essentially "waste time dating" or "focus entirely on ourselves". In reality, as you point out, I feel being brutally honesty with ourselves about filling that void of companionship rather than disguising it as "self-improvement" and actively working on it without considering it a "waste of time" is key.
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Had to screenshot and save this, basically described exactly what I feel as a 21yo engineering student who’s been grinding the gym for over 5yrs. It does feel bad to see guys who don’t “deserve” it (as in they don’t work hard, educate themselves or do any physical training) get 10x the amount of women I am getting. I have been relying too much on working on myself and basically waiting for girls to come to me when that’s not how the real world functions, and we need to make the effort to put ourselves out there and stop waiting for miracles to come to us dating wise.
@@java8569 Appreciate the comment man. I've been out of college for a bit now but the key is to remember that we're all capping a bit (both men and women). It's a strange cycle of guys trying to downgrade their effort into how much energy they're putting into dating (relative to results) and presenting our social insecurities as "strength and magnetic confidence that will radiate and attract the right ones". Conversely, women (particularly in our demographic) either have unrealistic expectations or only go for a very niche type of guy with very specific physical or financial attributes.
Yes, while you will almost certainly gain more attention with the right mindset and habits (physique, intelligence, and social prowess), the groundwork has merely been laid for you to ATTEMPT to put in work. At the same time, it's also important to note that you can only get to such a level at each of these before continuing to put in work yields more results (a series of diminishing returns). For example, after a few years of going to the gym properly and dialing in fitness, you'll look "fit and athletic" (ripped, buff, jacked, whatever, etc...). The average person/girl (unless they're tremendously into fitness themselves or working in the field of sports or athletics), however, will kind of tune out after fit or ripped and thus, well, that excuse that you're "waiting to be in the best shape" doesn't cut it anymore. Obviously you can always get better, but there's a point (relatively early on after a few years) where you achieve, reach, and exceed the conventional bar of "okay, this guy is fit and athletic enough to be considered a dating contender".
The hard truth we all have to accept as men is that: yes, if you happen to be extremely good-looking naturally and/or tall, that minimum bar is pre-cleared AND you will receive way more leeway to mess up, even if no prior work was done. That's not fair, but it's not everything. This is just the way it works and has always been.
All that being said, I would wager that, like the video outlines, the key is to be honest with all of these factors and utilize all of these truisms about attraction and dating and use them to better our communications with one another rather than weaponizing and blaming each other (be it men versus men or blaming women). So, in conclusion: yes, "maxing yourself out" and focusing on self improvement is great and necessary to have a solid life in general. Simultaneously (and this is the part that many similar camps of thought and "self-help" manosphere videos lack), we have to remember that dating is a game, and when you deal with the right kind of women, you can minimize the bullshit and cut straight to genuine connection.
Nailed it.
@@bombda430 Absolutely man and totally in same boat with the making the first move thing and keeping that organic tension up haha. Funny how the physique thing is coming up a lot in these responses too. Personally, I think the most immediate benefit of being a gym rat has been a higher frequency of some eye contact and some overt comments about "muscles" or "being very fit". This whole era of advertising insecurity and inexperience as "magnetic confidence and pure investment in oneself" is something I've wrestled with myself and have been recently come to terms with the fact that I was using this as an excuse too and not "above" it.
Again, at least in my experience, the good physique and demonstrated discipline simply prolongs that window of making a good impression, and slightly buffers up your fuck up threshold. Contrary to popular belief, in my opinion, it's not some MASSIVE advantage when it comes to commanding that frame and building that chemistry off the bat.
6 HARSH Truths about WOMEN, Men Learn TOO Late
1. Lust or Pity
2. Bridges & Skyscrapers
3. The Best option
4. Never platonic
5. Female pursuit
6. The female attitude
Having female friends can have its advantages. They add to my social proofing when we're hanging out at bars/events. I'll have 1-2 of them with me and all the sudden more women gravitate out of curiosity.
While I agree this can happen, if the man hasn't successfully achieved women on a romantic level, having those friendships won't help him majority of the time. He'd spend most of the friendship hoping it changes, instead of utilizing them in this way
I agree. Women want what they can’t get. Wear a wedding ring next time you go out.
Ace video! The worse thing about being pitied is that in a lot of cases this can lead to a relationship... But you're going to be settled for and are setting yourself up for a miserable low quality relationship!
Female friends are fantastic for growing and learning with, they help provide social proof and aren't as caustic as a lot of men can be. Mine have helped me out so much and they don't even know how often they've helped me get laid. Female platonic friends are great
Nope they kill masculine energy
Videos like this make me proud to be a supporter of this channel man. You're well spoken on another level, really happy to have someone with consistent solid advice for men. Thank you David
My parents just gave me the "someone will come along" speech, and then I found this video. It's not so much about being in a relationship at first, I just want to build the confidence so high that I can walk up to any girl and tell her exactly what I want. And for that man, you get a sub. Thank you.
Feels great to watch your videos again bro. I just got out of a 3 year relationship and definitely needed hear this. Thanks for the push man.
The sit down advice advice videos recently have been awesome. Keep up the great content!
I see your point on the platonic friendships. I think it’s a bit different for guys and girls who’ve been in the military. I have female friends to this day that I’ve never tried to get with and don’t feel a need to. And these are people, both male and female, that have my back 💯 (and Vice versa). Not saying I disagree, because there is validity, but I think it comes on a spectrum. Good stuff tho.
9:58 Something to think about that might help you deal with that irritation is that: when you’re going out of your house to film a video, you’re entering a *public* space, a space that you can’t control what does and doesn’t happen, a space where life goes in any direction. The key point is “life doesn’t wait for you.” I myself have times where I get really irritated too, though I try to remind myself that what happened is out of my control, but what I can control is how I respond to it. Hope this advice helps for anyone reading. Also great video man, most of what you’ve said has made me think more about how I’ve been acting around girls my age.
David this video hit differently in what’s going on in my dating life (women pointing out weaknesses)….on time video, appreciate you bruh!
Bro thank you for making this content. Your presentation, and humor is spot on. You really leveled the fuck up since I saw your content years ago. I’ve been on an unprecedented binge of your videos tonight and it’s making me wanna seize the fucking day tomorrow. You’re really out here saving lives and shit. I’ve been a wreck. Such a weird/convenient time for me to run into your channel again with where I’m at in life. Mad respect, keep killing it.
I had some female friends in the past, and I didn't have sexual interest in them. I still maintain relationship with some of them, however most of my male friends didn't get that. The only thing is that if I was interested in someone sexually then "friendship" option never was an option.
It's also the case with me. I'm a very social guy but I don't find majority of women attractive and some of my female friends secretly dislike me becouse I never made a move to hook up with them
Same. I also have female friends to. N I never really agreed with beasts mentality here.
My man. Bringing the TRUTH!
He's totally right about making plans and not snapchatting about nonsense all day.
I'm married, but I have to say I really enjoyed this video. Much of this was true for my relationship and how I got with my wife. You're doing good work.
Dammit, dude you’ve definitely earned my subscription. 6 videos so far. Excited to see if this helps me improve my life
Great editing on this one 👊🏾. Solid message as well 🙏🏾
I see you. Leveling up your TH-cam game. High quality video, editing, content, the whole package. Good shit
Awesome. Your right on. About time someone said it. Way to go my friend...
Ain’t nothing wrong with female friends. they create situations, they can introduce you to other people and females. They get you to understand woman a little better. You lose fear and be more comfortable around woman. Strangers don’t know if you are partners or friends. They can make you look attractive. Take advantage of a friendship but don’t screw up trying to fake a friendship. Most relationship start by the introduction of other people.
All true
But I think what most people mean is don't be in the friendzone when you want something more
Only if you honestly aren't attracted to her.
Thoroughly enjoyed this video. I00% agree on this solid advice. As you’re leveling up in your life, don’t leave the dating part out. Continue to work on that as well. Stay beastly bro!
What if im completly lost interest in woman? And want to have peace and just drive bike and cars
@@martinmucha8074 if you’ve lost interest in women, you prolly need to think about what made you go into that mentality mindset. We as men are biologically hardwired to be interested in woman. Why not enjoy riding your bike and also work on your dating life? It’s just like any other challenge. The more you do, the better you become, the easier it gets
@@martinmucha8074if you've completely lost interest in women, you're probably gay.
This is the best dating advice I've ever seen. King.
I have to say you improve your content quality big time since last time (years ago) I was subscribed to the channel. Thanks for what you're doin, keep it up! 👏
It's refreshing to see advice for men that's rooted in building confidence and maintaining frame without going down some of the rabbit holes associated with the "Red Pill" that can encourage negativity or excessive focus dating app statistics, etc.
You dont believe in stastistics and probalities?
Hey Bro, I understand your point of view on the besties thing, but there are some cases it’s just two people enjoying the company of each other within a friend group. If you where to force a relationship, it would just be weird. But I’ll take your words into consideration when approaching more girls. If I end up bagging this one chick, I’m buying myself edge clothing as a gift to myself
Appreciate your vulnerability, great point with the best option part, that resonated. Question, did you notice an increase in success with women after you were established-more successful? Or do you think this doesn't matter as long as the drive and potential is there. Ex: renting apt and average car while working towards buying home/nicer car vs. Owning home with nice car. Thoughts? Open to the viewers perspectives as well.
Well thought out and presented video. I highly recommend your channel to any young man finding his way through life.
Patty briefly mentioned it to me several years ago. Great job David. I’m proud of you.
And congratulations on getting married.
After watching you have convinced me. It is all about the relationship. I have seen the errors of my ways
Dude you say things that I have been thinking forever. Your the truth brother appreciate you
Greaat video! Very inspiring! Especially the part with the best option and the platonic relationships.
This content is inspirational af🔥💙 I needed this, thank you.
Thank you Beast for this talk / vid I needed to hear this
Great info...thank you for sharing!
8:27 is so key. I wish I knew that years ago. Would’ve known that years ago. Doing this might’ve saved me *years* of headaches when it comes to women. 😅
Bro I love your channel, it’s pure honesty. Learning a lot about myself. I feel this video 💯
David actually making me feel lucky to hear a Tiege Hanley ad for the seven thousandth time
By now its almost like a routine for me to skip the reoccuring promo to get back to the valuable content:D
Sometimes you're helping me a lot bro. I love your videos!
Good info, pretty accurate, Thanks!
I'm friends with a girl which I think is platonic, because I am in no way attracted to her one bit. We hang out often when we were still in college one on one, smoke weed, talk about music, watch Netflix and that stuff. She's in Canada rn and I'm from Asia. She's got a husband now and we talk like, once a year about mostly music. Never once I thought of something sexual with her, rather I feel like she's my younger sister. I think she's the only platonic female friend I ever had lol, any other females who I mingled with, mostly there's something sexual underneath it all tbh at least for me. I'm honest enough to admit that
Thanks for the videos! I did not have the confidence to pursue women before finding your channel. Now i have the courage to ask women out and i have stopped talking passively with women. Either lust or nothing from now on.
I love you man. I just started watching you recently and you've changed me in such a positive way and I appreciate you man
Good video. Motivational and informative.
I will admit, I sometimes still feel like an incel despite having a girlfriend, probably because I feel that my 20s were a waste, didn't have a serious relationship until the beginning of my 30s.
It causes me to envy and resent couples out there younger than me, people who got to experience having a serious long-term relationship before I did and yes I know people will always say comparison is the thief of joy or don't compare yourself to others.
But I believe it's always has been and always will be part of the human psyche, been that way since the beginning of time to feel upset and depressed when you feel you are not part of the norm.
Because of that I feel like a forever permanent incel for all time, even when I did manage to get a girlfriend.
So yeah even while I did have a girlfriend, I still felt like an incel.
I don't see myself ever getting over this, it will be a pain and wound for the rest of my life.
And I'm not afraid to admit that there have been times over the years I have hated being born male, because I know I'm not the only guy in the world that has this mindset, that men have to do everything in dating and relationships and seduction.
Yes I know tons of people say what's the point of being angry and depressed over what didn't happen in the past or not?
Well I'm entitled and I have a right to my mindset, I believe it's always been part of human nature or just the human psyche to always be sad and depressed or angry and resentful over good things that they wish happened to them in the past but didn't.
I know I'm not afraid to admit I have had these thoughts, and I'm sure other guys have thought this way, we feel that if we had been born a woman, we would not have been single that long.
Probably because women just have to exist and they are guaranteed attention and options from Men, that requires no skill or no social dynamics, no game or no seduction.
Guys, men, have to know or learn all of these skills, behaviors, talk a certain way, behave a certain way, act a certain way, walk and stand a certain way, breathe a certain way, have a certain lifestyle, because leading or taking the lead is something that is behavior based, skill based, think a certain way, and many more things, that i either don't know or forgot.
Women just have to exist and breathe and they are guaranteed attention, options, that doesn't require any learning or skill development, it mind boggles me and makes me annoyed when people say women need skills to succeed in dating.
One person I remember I heard said that women need game as well which I thought was the stupidest thing I ever heard.
So ya I still feel like an incel for all time despite managing to get a girlfriend eventually, and I still get irritated and annoyed whenever people and society say that men have it better than women do in the human mating game.
Im 29 and never had anyone. Never had sex either.
@@tmcclone do you think if you ever did manage to get a girlfriend do you think you would still forever be sad and depressed because you didn't have one in your younger years?
@@nobodysperfect06 i really believe I will always be a little bitter about it no matter what.
@tmcclone reminds me of an article about a guy from the UK that I wish I never read or never discovered at times, I was sadly moved by it mentally and emotionally
I’ve been into red pill stuff for 10 years. Finally gave up on women and I’ve never been happier or more content. Going after women made me a simp which messed with my mental health. Your psyche will be a lot better if you’re not desperate.
Not helpful if your trying to have children and a family.
@@blackmamba7775 too late in history for that
Redpill is feminism for men
@@blackmamba7775Only try for having children if you are rich. Life will become brutal for the next generation. Way worse than us
That's stupid, ya let me just take myself out of the gene pool because I'm not rich. It's not impossible to raise children and have them be good members of society just because you're at a disadvantage. Quitters.
Good contact bro, but in seeing alot of guys deflecting in the comment section, saying women's standards are too high etc....that may be true but it's our fault it's mens fault. Most dudes I know growing up and even grown ass adults play video games and eat junk food. We are not vigorous like we used too no sweat or pain in growth just dormant. Soo know we got a bunch of women who are forced to wear the pants and lead boss babes etc .. we have lost the leading role and women are rightfully pissed. We need to get our shit together and start grabbing these girls and leading them to happiness.
Great video as always bro, inspiring af💪🏻
This video has spoken to my soul
David the goat!🐐
Love these videos ! So real & to the point ! Sic! 👍
I have female friends. Thing is, I legitimately don't want to be with them 😂 If I did and i couldn't be, I wouldn't accept some bogus friendship with them. He's right about that.
I grew up with only sisters and LOTS of female cousins. It feels natural to me. That said, male friends who you share a path with are crucial. Totally agree there. Female friends are good too but more for just chilling and having fun, with some exceptions.
Always learning something from you
Great content thank you
Great Video Man
David. This video changed my life. I just went through a divorce. Thank you good sir ! Thank you !
Wise words brother, wish I'd heard this 20yrs ago instead of finding out the hard way through trial, error and rejection 🤣
Thanks! Good advice
I been watching you for years man love the videos and I agree with this I swear my girl was arguing with me last week just to see my reaction. I never really had much trouble with girls but we can all always learn something but these videos shed so much light on topics and subjects I feel so many guys are oblivious to. stay beastly.
Thanks for the uplaod
The way Ive accpeted a true female friend is her ability make me meet more women, get me into parties, talk amazing about me to her friends, opening a door to a bigger and easier market. But sometimes I question myself because I’m tbh very red pill minded in my opinion about male friends.
Thoughts?
I have some female friends in school, but we basically just help each other out in classes and one of them tutors me. I feel like that’s okay. I don’t go out with them ever to places and never ask really
Good stuff!
💯 right great vid keep up the great work
Best advice I´ve heard from any of the dating ¨experts¨
You asked, okay. Yes I've had female friends that I only wanted as friends and I liked having them as friends. They were good friends that we did a lot of things together as friends like waterskiing and mountain biking, various outings, and such all the time. They were good friends first, who just happened to be female. Thing is, almost all of my female friends shot their shot with me and I turned them down because that's not what I wanted with them. So no, in my opinion, being a female does not preclude being someone I would want as a friend.
So it was the other way around then. If they were interested in you and shot their shot, that's literally no different than being in the friendzone for a guy
I think its benificial to befriend all kinds of people it keeps your beliefs constantly challenged and always learning knew things about people and the human experience . Most people like Ben Shapiro build up resentment and hate/dislike when they run there mouths about people they have not one clue about.
Love it bro great video!❤
Thanks for sharing this amazing story have a terrific day ❤
top-notch content my G
I normally fall in the Lust zone and talked my way in the petty zone . One cure for that I should have practice walking away. It would have been a much better choice even if she didn’t contact me again.
If you walk away you might lose her but you have your honour and dignity. Especially you not a simp
@@marcelchalobah7946I hate how modernity has turned the meaning of simp upside down
I feel you. A running joke with my friends is that I meet a girl who’s interested and am a master at talking her out of it. I wish that wasn’t true!
I like this dude. The stuff he says is worth it. And it's free!
Appreciate the Warzone 1 footage on Verdansk lol
If a woman pity you then she shouldnt be your priority any more.
I have some dating experience myself and have gone through a lot of these points. Very helpful information. Wish I could have known these sooner.
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To answer your friendship questions there are plenty of women I don't feel attracted to(too tall 4me, "ugly" face....)but who I just appreciate as people
9:50 totally agree
Howtobeast, you talk a lot of sense!
I appreciate your content bro
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Hey David!! I appreciate your content so much and I believe the importance of focusing on making videos for single beasts but I would like you to make more suggestion videos for people who have girlfriends or in a long term relationships… ❤️
what u need help on bro
In Society it is difficult today to find the right kind of woman but remember always be true to yourself and who you are don’t let a woman ever change you
I'm 34 years old, I've been single since I was 23 in that time I've been on one date. These days I can't even get a girl to talk to me for more than a min or even look at me. It sucks. The ones that do take to me more than a day as soon as they find out there are certain social media that I don't have they ghost me.
great vid
6:16 Amen OUCH!!!
unreal bro !
Well those 6 harsh and yet true facts about women was interesting to say the least.
The lady in thumbnail reminds me of the Dr whose into protein studies.
I've been single since I was 40, and I turn 60 this year. No dates, no games, no fucks given.
“Now I gotta deal with your whining ass” 😂
Here early 😄
Fake it till you make it boys. Just keep telling yourself how unique you are and keep repeating your strengths that women will like.
Go into dates thinking “she’s going to want me in pretty decent looking, smart and I got good jokes… why wouldn’t she like me?”
Keep repeating stuff like that. Keep thinking about how many boring good looking tall dudes there are and how she is probably sick of them and she’ll want someone unique like you.
You got it bros go kill it!
And if your nervous, who cares everyone gets nervous. Don’t let being nervous bother you. Happens to everyone! Make a joke about it even, if your funny, to show how unbothered you are by it. Be confident about your weaknesses… everyone’s got em.
The man has it correct!
Honestly, you made this video for me
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