TIP: Sometimes when I feel like I can't do self care or if negative/intrusive thoughts and habits come to mind, I imagine a fictional character (or a family member, or friend can work for you) telling me to slow down, take a breathe and reassess. Personally I think of Baymax from big hero six as being my own personal health care assistant and I bought a mini pop vinyl key ring of him, so i can take it with me everywhere (which sort of ties in with something familiar) Also this video was so cute and much needed!
alani tenaglia awww that is such a thoughtful and lovely gift !!! I am positive they would absolutely adore it and be so thankful for you as a friend ♡♡♡ 😀
things i do that you said to do: +drink water +remember to eat +listen to hp audio books bc they are like home +go to a therapist +anything about tea Thanks for the video! I've got some new ideas to try now.
Yesterday I was feeling really shitty, but I go to the gym every day and I really like the routine, and by the time I was driving home I thought to myself 'I can't remember when I stopped thinking about why I was feeling shit.' I didn't have to try to think about something else, it just happened, and it was so nice to be in such a good mood without even trying.
"It is an interesting biological fact that all of us have in our veins the exact same percentage of salt in our blood that exists in the ocean, and therefore, we have salt in our blood, in our sweat, in our tears. We are tied to the ocean. And when we go back to the sea--whether it is to sail or to watch it--we are going back from whence we came." John F Kennedy Thought your friend might appreciate this? ☺
I LOVE how simple and seemingly easy these suggestions are. I've come to really appreciate a glass of water or a freaking shower now that I have a baby and my own needs come second. I have totally shifted to a place where things I used to barely notice are now so important for my mental and physical health - because it sucks when I go a while without being able to do them. Thank you both for sharing these with us! This is so lovely and positive.
For people with eating disorders getting food, or making meals and such can be quite the struggle which would eventually result in an even worse mood. I do appreciate the other tips though but what works for me as someone with bulimia is to make a list of what you are going to eat that day (or make a list for days you're feeling bad in general) so that there's least amount of stress possible involving your food and make you less likely to binge. Because the days I'm feeling worst are often the days I start binging on stuff, and when you have a list there and a sort of "plan" you can follow, the temptation is less there because you have a sort of comfort in knowing when and what you are going to eat. Thought this might be helpful for anyone struggling with bulimia or maybe any other eating disorder.
Thanks for this! I'm actually in eating disorder recovery (which is why the note is on my fridge, too!) and I do the same thing, break it down into little steps. Lucy and I talked about this a bit behind the scenes. Definitely very helpful.
Rosianna Halse Rojas No problem! Happy to hear you're in recovery, I've only recently started getting help and seeing a therapist, but it's actually videos like these, (and videos such as yours on body image) that motivate me to get better and take care of myself, and remind me I'm not on my own, so thank you!
Discovering Lucy is possibly the best thing that's happened to me in such a long time. Lucy, your videos have saved me so so many times this past month and I'm so grateful videos like these exist - finally there's a youtuber who's real about issues we all have, but you don't sit and complain about it being a limit, you show how we can work through it together and improve ourselves. So thank you Lucy. Thanks for giving me hope.
I appreciate this because people often think self care = "treat yo self" which... ya, it is. But that hard day to day self-care is shit like brushing your teeth and making yourself a meal. Basic but when you're depressed... that ish is hard work.
Something that helps me a lot is listening to the same song on repeat, the reason being that if I have an album or playlist going, my mind starts to stress about how many songs are accumulating without me doing what I need to do, whereas with one song times infinity, it doesn't take long to lose track of how long I've been listening, and so it becomes a state of being, and a more determined and productive one at that. I suppose it's the same principle as the HP audiobooks, since there are familiar inflections/beats to it. I especially like a song where it's easy to ignore where the start/end happens so that there are no replays I can subconsciously accumulate
This just spoke to my soul in such a enormous way. I am feeling like sh*t, and yesterday was a bed day for me. Today, I went on a run, bought some groceries to make dinner and as i was pouring myself a cup of water just before taking a shower, I watched this video!!!! I did not even realize what I was doing was "self care" but this video was what I needed right now in my life. Thank you.
This is exactly how I'm feeling today - super depressed and like I don't want to get out of bed until the weekend. Thanks for this video, girls. Very timely.
So the hippest I get is when some one gives me a pencil some paper and an instant camera it is the best this in the world try it but unluckily I don’t an instant camera :( so I use my phone take a picture and run away to my room and draw it which is just wonderful wait maybe I’m a hippie J.P
also it's important to mention if you can't afford to spend money on therapy (like at all) being on a waiting list with the nhs is worth it, even though it can seem like forever (mine took a year of screening processes) and you are able to acess places like mind whilst your waiting, google search what is in your area like groups or clubs, sessions, meet ups usually they do all this in 'mind' but there are other charity's that cater for mental health that are either more specific or more generalised but worth putting yourself out there for recovery, start now! great video lucy, you two are cuties :)
waiting for therapy can be a total ball ache but worth it if you can get into groups to re-connect with people who understand, hope everything is going well lovely! xx
A therapist isn't right for everyone but people can still benefit from working on themselves (i think this is everybody) or using self-care skills which lucy and rosianna were talking about in the video but if you are feeling down alot or anxious alot or feeling one emotion too strongly it might be worth seeking a bit of advice from someone you trust, and if you say you don't want help and you have a problem, many people including myself have been through this and you have to be ready to want and then recieve help, hope everything is okay and you are able to benefit from this video, if you have any questions about anything, the internet is here for you!
It's not healthy for the skin to shower every day, you're destroying the natural acid coat and it will not be able to protect itself from the bad environmental influences and become less capable of moisturizing itself. Just saying, if you never heard of it before, Google it. There is a point where hygiene obsession gets paranoid :D
also in line with the 'not fermenting in your own sweat thing' something which has really helped me has been keeping my surroundings clutter free and clean. i've noticed the bigger the mess the worse my brain gets and the more i feel like i'm incapable of doing anything.
needed this today. I love the idea of the self care index cards as opposed to the actual sticky note that's in my bathroom right now which just says 'get your life together'
I found that sitting and watching an episode of a tv show that I fully know the plot to, and can quote entire lines from, really calms my anxiety and makes me take time to relax. It's the same with movies and even certain TH-cam videos. Anxiety and school are not things that go well together, but setting goals for lessons to conquer or times to reach before 'quitting' or leaving a lesson to sit in the corridor to calm down makes me feel more accomplished about being there in the first place.
I watched this yesterday and it helped me SO MUCH. I really needed to hear this. I had water, made some food, took a shower, brushed my teeth and hair and felt so much better. Thank you.
Audiobook wise I listen to the Alex rider audio books (got the box set) and I always listened to them as a kid. And it's a massive comfort now. To fall asleep too if I'm having lots of thoughts cause it distracts me and I don't need to worry about falling asleep in it or drifting off from the story cause I know them all off by heart. It's so comforting to slip out of my daze and come back to a familiar voice and narrative. I really really recommend it. Just play it out loud quietly in your bedroom at night!
In regards to the calling a friend and telling them how you're feeling, I always feel like I'm bringing them down and that I shouldn't put it on them or bother them with it. It's not them, definitely a me thing, but I don't know how to get past that, which makes it so I usually just keep it to myself. Have you felt like this and if so how did/do you stop feeling like you're just bothering people?
If they're people you see regularly, tell them to bother you if they feel like you're not okay. Tell them you might sometimes need somebody to pull you out of bed when you don't have the energy to call them or are worried to bother them. Somebody who knows you have a rough time so they can call you from time to time to check up on you. In my personal experience, that can really help.
Every thing you've mentioned Lucy I agree with. Water, clean teeth and I shower are a must. My own suggestions are clean bedsheets if you can be bothered, and because I hate going for walks without purpose, I found that it always helps me to go to my local cinema. Combines having to look presentable, walking and then closing yourself away from the world in a dark room, where a story can take over your mind for a couple of hours. Not feasible for everyone, I know, but it's my go to on these kind of days. much love xx
This came at the perfect time. I'm currently sitting in bed with tissues crying over stuff I should have been over with many months ago and it was just perfect to get a reminder to even just have a drink of water. Thank you.
I've just discovered you last night through Arden Rose and I've been watching your videos nonstop since. I've been in bed for a week straight now & missing school because of a chronic pain syndrome I have and I've been feeling really down lately and I haven't been taking care of myself the way I should be. Your videos have been helping get back up and doing the things I need to do to take care myself and my brain and my body and I find your voice very relaxing and comforting and I just wanted to thank you for sharing so openly !!
ROSIANNA, YES. The HP audiobooks and The West Wing are my very favourite comfort blankets too! I used to lull myself back to sleep after I'd had a nightmare by listening to Harry Potter, and it has the same comforting effect now.
I hadn't really thought too much about self care until I started watching your channel, but now it really is a huge thing for me since I get so super stressed pretty often. I'm planning to make a self care video of my own so that hopefully I can spread the message to more people in need of a bit of self love. Thank you for inspiring me Lucy! ❤️
I know it will probably sound a bit cheesy, but huge thank you to both of you, lovely lovely human beings, for making this video. I've been feeling worse and worse lately, I spent all of the weekend in bed and this video made me go take a shower, eat small dinner, drink a bit and clean around. And I really feel a bit better. Better enough to go to work tomorrow and enjoy it. Loads of love xxx.
I went to a counselor who was AWFUL and kept trying to make me think I hate my family? The entire thing was uncomfortable and unhelpful. My second choice was MUCH better and we had a lot in common, which made it easy to talk openly. It really is so beneficial to look into multiple options when choosing a therapist or counselor!
My therapist told me they did a study and holding a warm beverage actually made people feel warmer/improved their moods by a certain amount, so you're totally right about the tea!
I really needed this right now. Thank you. My anxiety is getting worse and is up and down a lot and I have mocks next week and everything is going to shit again and I can feel my mental health getting worse. I don't want it to be bad for my mocks.
You guys are very authentic and right in what you're saying. I enjoy your videos very much. Currently I am in a very depressed and self-destructive mood. My body longs for water so much but somehow I don't allow myself to dring or eat healthy stuff which would make me feel at least physical better. Instead I don't drink, I eat ONLY sugar and disgusting junkfood that Iiterally can't see anymore and makes me throw up. So by purging I lose even more water. I'm in delirium the whole time and do nothing besides being in bed like a half-dead animal waiting for its death.
luticia I was in the same place last spring. but guess what? things didn't magically get better, things got better because I chose myself over the self destructive thoughts. it always get better and then worse and better again, that's life. choose yourself over the thoughts and you will get to a place where you are glad you are still alive
krispy noodle Hi there! First of all thank you for sharing your experience with me. I really appreciate it and even more I'm really happy that u were able to manage to get yourself out of this place! That's huge thing you've managed. I do already know what you've tried to tell me but unfortunately seems like I am not like you, I don't have the strength to pull myself out of this place. My self-destructive mood is so huge that doesn't allow me to pull myself out. I'm suffering but still I chose every single minute to stay in this miserable place. That's what my depression and self-destructive behaviour do to me! Nevertheless thanks.
Hang in there! I know how hard it can be but I'm sure you can get through it. If you're able to speak to a professional please do, even if you can only speak to them on the phone. Sending you love ❤
luticia really sorry to hear about your situation, it must be terrible to be stuck in the depression. But at the same time, thank you too for sharing. A lot of the comments I've read have been about how people have coped/are going to change. But I think your experience is really important to hear too. People have been lovely and want to be supportive here, but I guess we're actually a bit powerless to help. But that's just the nature of this particular depression - maybe it's like a spiral that re-enforces itself from your feelings and actions. When you're in it nothing can break you out, not even the most positive of suggestions. And I feel that's important for us to be aware of when we'd like to support someone with depression. Right now I think all we can do is listen, so please do keep sharing whenever you feel up to it!
This was such a refreshing video! Even when I'm feeling productive, it's important to remember taking time throughout the day for self care that can be easy to forget.
I recently realized if I think about caring for myself from the perspective of someone who loves me (example: my grandma), it completely turns my level of care around. She'd always want me to shower, make my hair look presentable, eat a healthy meal, get some fresh air, and go to bed at a decent time. Oh, and a little dessert after dinner is always ok in her book. Thinking this way is a game changer for me.
The thing about brushing your teeth and cleaning your body is so true! I allways feel like I accomplish something that day and made some sort of effort for myself.
i love this video so much. i definitely relate to this, especially when im feeling i guess 'numb' i force myself to shower, have a healthy meal/snack, read a book and have a drink. usually i feel somewhat better as it gives me a sense of reality making me actually feel something and most of the time i feel positive because iv treated myself in a positive way!
this was so needed for me. in uni with many deadlines, been feeling quite shitty lately and its just nice to know people are straight up and are helpful. you guys are amazing x
So often I deny myself this self care when I'm depressed. And it kinda feeds the depression and I say ok I'm depressed I don't deserve to feel better and it just makes it worse and it's like I want to feel bad and that's terrible and not right. So this year I'm going to make sure I'm taking care of myself when I'm feeling low
when you woke up with a panic attack last night and this pops up on recent subscription videos. my mum made tea tonight, I prepped a meal but I'll continue tomorrow cause I pretty much wallowed today, my energy was so drained but this was good and helpful, so thankss🌼
This video is lovely to see, it is often not spoken about fully by youtubers and it is great that you'd addressed taking time out to look after yourself. such a lovely positive video x
The Harry Potter audiobooks are what got me through some of my hardest days! Also the part about being worth a meal. And though I hat to shower when I feel bad, it does help.
I seriously LOVE this community, so many sweet hilarious comments...i can see why though, you guys are amazing and you attract the best audience ❤ Also, all of us benefit from therapy...I give therapy and I am also flexible with prices, I love that other people can do that too!
Just a note; Not every country has therapists who have the freedom of sliding scales. In The Netherlands I think for the most part it is set, also within health insurance (first 4/6 sessions by a noted psychologist get paid by health insurance). Although, I graduate as an Applied Psychologist next year and I would love to do something with this. It seems way more logical. Maybe if I'd go under the name of 'coach' (which is, just as psychologist, not protected). And also, thanks! I just started listening to the same podcast as well a few days ago. It helps me laugh, and it makes me think lightly of sex again, which I haven't done in a long while! Drinking my water every time when I hear something funny in that podcast from now on!
Such good tipsss. The podcast/show was always a big one for me. I'd actually watch the same three movies when I felt down or needed to get to sleep. So helpful.
Ahh Lucy you have no idea how glad I am you uploaded this when you did. I've been in such a rut and getting out of bed has been so hard for me lately and every little thing feels like a chore. But just watching this has made me feel so much better. So thank you for being you and thank you to Rosianna as well x
Just watching this video calmed me down immensely. Life is really stressful and shit at the moment and I'm scared of the future, but this helped me for a little while
the advice is really helpful, but I don't think I can depend on friends a lot, because they usually give me answers that don't help like " you shouldn't have done that" or yell at me and often make it worse. some of my friends try to rush me to complete so they can talk and it's obvious that they're not interested and it hurts, I've learnt to try not to tell people anything, because they don't help. thanks for listening, have a good day x
Lucy I'm going through a rly tough time rn and I stayed home from school today because I had such a massive panic attack last night and I still feel like my balance has been knocked off but this video helped me a whole lot and I needed it right now. Thank you.
i rant in my diary and that helps me because i still feel like i'm letting it out without feeling like i'm bothering my friends by being really negative and whiny -- they've told me they don't care but it's better for me to not feel like a burden.
This is my favourite video on TH-cam to date, so so important and probably came at the best time for me, the atmosphere was so lovely and comforting, you should really makes this into a series omg!!!!!!!!
I LOVE this video. Such simple things, but you need someone to remind you to do them when you do have those days/periods of time. Lovely video ladies xx
Do you think you could make a video about therapy in general? Like, how to find the right one, what happens in the session, etc..? I would really love it. I've been looking into therapy for months now but I'm a bit afraid of what might happen, so maybe you could lay it out? xoxo
My main thing I do when I am feeling really low is that put on something that have I have seen before on the telly but not mindless (that's too depressing) and I switch off my notifications and simply use my mobile for TH-cam and music to "distract myself"
Thank you so much for this video Lucy , it is exactly what I needed today. Sometimes it just takes someone to remind you that it's ok to have bad days but you can do these small things to bring yourself out of it. I'm fairly new to your channel and absolutely loving it- can identify with you on a lot of issues! Keep killin it sista 👊🏼
Thanks ladies! This discussion made me sit down and take a minute to think about how I'm feeling, and I realised I've been feeling sad. This went unrecognised for a fair few days. Taking your (and my own) advise and brushing my teeth, having a shower, doing some yoga then brewing myself a well deserved cup of tea. Ps, I loved the video on Rosi's channel too 😊
when i was a little girl my mum would always make me a cup of light black tea with milk and sugar when i was sad to make me feel better and then we would have a chat about it and everything seemed a bit brighter to me after that. so i can really relate to what you said about tea making you feel better. great video you two, I love your daily videos lucy, they are always amazing content!
Lucy this was such a good video. I tend to get caught up in being busy and I forget to take care of myself and this video has reminded me just how important it is to look after myself
I am really thankful that I have my sister as a roommate. She knows me and she knows how down I can get so just having her around helps a lot. But she can't be around 24/7 because she works and has college so what helps me the most on being alone and being depressed is what I like to call my safe space which is basically just this little reading nook I have in my bedroom. It's in between my bookshelf (which is one of my main sources of comfort) and the big window I have in my room which always makes the spot really warm. So I'll light candles and just read for a bit. This might sound a bit odd but another thing I find really comforting is skincare in general but mostly face masks. I'm thankful that Wal-Mart has these 1.98 face masks that I really enjoy. The last thing I'd say that helps me with self-care is movies. No matter how down I am I just can't be sad while watching Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium or Flipped or Clueless.
drinking water does actually help to "reset" when your neurological system is revved up! it's something i have my kids do often as a sensory coping strategy when they feel "out of whack" (i'm a therapist). so you're right about it mattering so much!
loved this video. It made me smile. also encouraged me to look into therapy again. I agree it is just.. such a work thing even though I know its worth it. its on my list for next week. so thank you
Something I've found helpful when low in motivation is promising myself a 5 minute break if I work for 5 minutes. The prospect of only working for 5 minutes is so much easier to handle that it's much easier to start, and then I find myself carrying on anyway. Starting is always the biggest hurdle, gets a lot easier then (I find)
just as a recommendation to any other students, many universities have free counselling for students of the university. check your wellbeing programmes
i found this video very helpful. im considering going to therapy again, as i can explain my depersonalisation a little easier than i could before. i used to have counselling, and because it didn't help i never gave anything another chance. i think i'm finally gaining the courage to tell my mum i need help. i have my school nurse's number too, so i also have access to message her to. i think i may finally kick my mental illnesses ass!
What an amazing video!! your calm and kind voices alone are so helpful. I'm so blessed that I live in Germany where the health insurance pays the therapist if you need one, so to all my german friends out there, get yourself help! xxx
Oh Lucy thank you for this vid. I needed this so badly today! You are such a comfort to watch. You're one of those I always turn to when I need to find some inner calm. So much love to you! Xxx
Shower is the thing. Even if I haven't been sweating I've tried to get myself to shower every night. I think its important to have a soap you love the scent of, shampoo and conditioner you like, aromatherapy type stuff, body treatments. A lot of that stuff doesn't even have to cost a lot, but having it on hand and making a nightly shower a real luxury makes a difference
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TIP: Sometimes when I feel like I can't do self care or if negative/intrusive thoughts and habits come to mind, I imagine a fictional character (or a family member, or friend can work for you) telling me to slow down, take a breathe and reassess. Personally I think of Baymax from big hero six as being my own personal health care assistant and I bought a mini pop vinyl key ring of him, so i can take it with me everywhere (which sort of ties in with something familiar)
Also this video was so cute and much needed!
This is such a good tip! I used to do it all the time in the past, thank you for reminding me!
ossswin yay I'm so glad it reminded you
Yes yes yes I do this
anthie uhh That's so cute! Such a great tip, too!
alani tenaglia awww that is such a thoughtful and lovely gift !!! I am positive they would absolutely adore it and be so thankful for you as a friend ♡♡♡ 😀
a lucy video a day is the best thing that has ever happened to youtube
definitely
parping patty yes omg cos she gets it and her vids are so helpful!
a lucy video a day keeps the doctor away ~
parping patty omg yesssss literally making my days 😊😂
haha I enjoy you two so much.
things i do that you said to do:
+drink water
+remember to eat
+listen to hp audio books bc they are like home
+go to a therapist
+anything about tea
Thanks for the video! I've got some new ideas to try now.
Yesterday I was feeling really shitty, but I go to the gym every day and I really like the routine, and by the time I was driving home I thought to myself 'I can't remember when I stopped thinking about why I was feeling shit.' I didn't have to try to think about something else, it just happened, and it was so nice to be in such a good mood without even trying.
"It is an interesting biological fact that all of us have in our veins the exact same percentage of salt in our blood that exists in the ocean, and therefore, we have salt in our blood, in our sweat, in our tears.
We are tied to the ocean. And when we go back to the sea--whether it is to sail or to watch it--we are going back from whence we came."
John F Kennedy
Thought your friend might appreciate this? ☺
wow! i love the beach and water and this quote is beautiful ~ so glad you posted it
Wow I love that!
I LOVE how simple and seemingly easy these suggestions are. I've come to really appreciate a glass of water or a freaking shower now that I have a baby and my own needs come second. I have totally shifted to a place where things I used to barely notice are now so important for my mental and physical health - because it sucks when I go a while without being able to do them.
Thank you both for sharing these with us! This is so lovely and positive.
This is so necessary right now. Thank you for the tips!
For people with eating disorders getting food, or making meals and such can be quite the struggle which would eventually result in an even worse mood. I do appreciate the other tips though but what works for me as someone with bulimia is to make a list of what you are going to eat that day (or make a list for days you're feeling bad in general) so that there's least amount of stress possible involving your food and make you less likely to binge. Because the days I'm feeling worst are often the days I start binging on stuff, and when you have a list there and a sort of "plan" you can follow, the temptation is less there because you have a sort of comfort in knowing when and what you are going to eat. Thought this might be helpful for anyone struggling with bulimia or maybe any other eating disorder.
Silke vds wow this is such a great tip thank you I'm gonna use it!
Glad to help! Hope you're doing well!
Thanks for this! I'm actually in eating disorder recovery (which is why the note is on my fridge, too!) and I do the same thing, break it down into little steps. Lucy and I talked about this a bit behind the scenes. Definitely very helpful.
Rosianna Halse Rojas No problem! Happy to hear you're in recovery, I've only recently started getting help and seeing a therapist, but it's actually videos like these, (and videos such as yours on body image) that motivate me to get better and take care of myself, and remind me I'm not on my own, so thank you!
Discovering Lucy is possibly the best thing that's happened to me in such a long time. Lucy, your videos have saved me so so many times this past month and I'm so grateful videos like these exist - finally there's a youtuber who's real about issues we all have, but you don't sit and complain about it being a limit, you show how we can work through it together and improve ourselves.
So thank you Lucy. Thanks for giving me hope.
I appreciate this because people often think self care = "treat yo self" which... ya, it is. But that hard day to day self-care is shit like brushing your teeth and making yourself a meal. Basic but when you're depressed... that ish is hard work.
Something that helps me a lot is listening to the same song on repeat, the reason being that if I have an album or playlist going, my mind starts to stress about how many songs are accumulating without me doing what I need to do, whereas with one song times infinity, it doesn't take long to lose track of how long I've been listening, and so it becomes a state of being, and a more determined and productive one at that. I suppose it's the same principle as the HP audiobooks, since there are familiar inflections/beats to it. I especially like a song where it's easy to ignore where the start/end happens so that there are no replays I can subconsciously accumulate
This just spoke to my soul in such a enormous way. I am feeling like sh*t, and yesterday was a bed day for me. Today, I went on a run, bought some groceries to make dinner and as i was pouring myself a cup of water just before taking a shower, I watched this video!!!! I did not even realize what I was doing was "self care" but this video was what I needed right now in my life. Thank you.
Crying headaches are the worst part of crying oh my god.
This is exactly how I'm feeling today - super depressed and like I don't want to get out of bed until the weekend. Thanks for this video, girls. Very timely.
Just gonna pause this video to go get a glass of water, thanks for the reminder 😂
This was a great video 👏🏼 Really enjoying your daily videos Lucy, hope you're enjoying making them!
Rukaya Cesar right!
So the hippest I get is when some one gives me a pencil some paper and an instant camera it is the best this in the world try it but unluckily I don’t an instant camera :( so I use my phone take a picture and run away to my room and draw it which is just wonderful wait maybe I’m a hippie J.P
hearing lucy's voice should be a key step in the routine.. honestly it's sooo soft and soothing
also it's important to mention if you can't afford to spend money on therapy (like at all) being on a waiting list with the nhs is worth it, even though it can seem like forever (mine took a year of screening processes) and you are able to acess places like mind whilst your waiting, google search what is in your area like groups or clubs, sessions, meet ups usually they do all this in 'mind' but there are other charity's that cater for mental health that are either more specific or more generalised but worth putting yourself out there for recovery, start now! great video lucy, you two are cuties :)
yessss! currently im doing art therapy whilst waiting for my next session. and its honestly so nice to be in a group and connect with people like u.
waiting for therapy can be a total ball ache but worth it if you can get into groups to re-connect with people who understand, hope everything is going well lovely! xx
Onmymind why would I want a therapist? I don't want help
A therapist isn't right for everyone but people can still benefit from working on themselves (i think this is everybody) or using self-care skills which lucy and rosianna were talking about in the video but if you are feeling down alot or anxious alot or feeling one emotion too strongly it might be worth seeking a bit of advice from someone you trust, and if you say you don't want help and you have a problem, many people including myself have been through this and you have to be ready to want and then recieve help, hope everything is okay and you are able to benefit from this video, if you have any questions about anything, the internet is here for you!
'try not to ferment in your own sweat'. okay if you put it that way, I'm having a shower twice a day lmao. Anyone else? 😂😘
aye me too! its honestly the most refreshing thing though
It's not healthy for the skin to shower every day, you're destroying the natural acid coat and it will not be able to protect itself from the bad environmental influences and become less capable of moisturizing itself. Just saying, if you never heard of it before, Google it. There is a point where hygiene obsession gets paranoid :D
I really enjoy the Harry Potter audiobooks. The story. The characters. Stephen Fry's voice. They are so comforting!
As a therapist in training, this video means so much to me. Thank you Lucy and rosianna x
also in line with the 'not fermenting in your own sweat thing' something which has really helped me has been keeping my surroundings clutter free and clean. i've noticed the bigger the mess the worse my brain gets and the more i feel like i'm incapable of doing anything.
needed this today. I love the idea of the self care index cards as opposed to the actual sticky note that's in my bathroom right now which just says 'get your life together'
I found that sitting and watching an episode of a tv show that I fully know the plot to, and can quote entire lines from, really calms my anxiety and makes me take time to relax. It's the same with movies and even certain TH-cam videos. Anxiety and school are not things that go well together, but setting goals for lessons to conquer or times to reach before 'quitting' or leaving a lesson to sit in the corridor to calm down makes me feel more accomplished about being there in the first place.
I watched this yesterday and it helped me SO MUCH. I really needed to hear this. I had water, made some food, took a shower, brushed my teeth and hair and felt so much better. Thank you.
Audiobook wise I listen to the Alex rider audio books (got the box set) and I always listened to them as a kid. And it's a massive comfort now. To fall asleep too if I'm having lots of thoughts cause it distracts me and I don't need to worry about falling asleep in it or drifting off from the story cause I know them all off by heart. It's so comforting to slip out of my daze and come back to a familiar voice and narrative. I really really recommend it. Just play it out loud quietly in your bedroom at night!
In regards to the calling a friend and telling them how you're feeling, I always feel like I'm bringing them down and that I shouldn't put it on them or bother them with it. It's not them, definitely a me thing, but I don't know how to get past that, which makes it so I usually just keep it to myself. Have you felt like this and if so how did/do you stop feeling like you're just bothering people?
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If they're people you see regularly, tell them to bother you if they feel like you're not okay. Tell them you might sometimes need somebody to pull you out of bed when you don't have the energy to call them or are worried to bother them. Somebody who knows you have a rough time so they can call you from time to time to check up on you. In my personal experience, that can really help.
Every thing you've mentioned Lucy I agree with. Water, clean teeth and I shower are a must. My own suggestions are clean bedsheets if you can be bothered, and because I hate going for walks without purpose, I found that it always helps me to go to my local cinema. Combines having to look presentable, walking and then closing yourself away from the world in a dark room, where a story can take over your mind for a couple of hours. Not feasible for everyone, I know, but it's my go to on these kind of days. much love xx
I feel obliged to listen to anything Lucy says as long as she's in glasses
This came at the perfect time. I'm currently sitting in bed with tissues crying over stuff I should have been over with many months ago and it was just perfect to get a reminder to even just have a drink of water. Thank you.
Brushing my teeth can help my head space more than anything else. Idk it jut makes me feel refreshed and it scrapes away all the stagnant thoughts
I've just discovered you last night through Arden Rose and I've been watching your videos nonstop since. I've been in bed for a week straight now & missing school because of a chronic pain syndrome I have and I've been feeling really down lately and I haven't been taking care of myself the way I should be. Your videos have been helping get back up and doing the things I need to do to take care myself and my brain and my body and I find your voice very relaxing and comforting and I just wanted to thank you for sharing so openly !!
ROSIANNA, YES. The HP audiobooks and The West Wing are my very favourite comfort blankets too! I used to lull myself back to sleep after I'd had a nightmare by listening to Harry Potter, and it has the same comforting effect now.
listen to the HP audio books over and over again as well. They are just so comforting, no matter what mode I'm in.
I hadn't really thought too much about self care until I started watching your channel, but now it really is a huge thing for me since I get so super stressed pretty often. I'm planning to make a self care video of my own so that hopefully I can spread the message to more people in need of a bit of self love. Thank you for inspiring me Lucy! ❤️
I know it will probably sound a bit cheesy, but huge thank you to both of you, lovely lovely human beings, for making this video. I've been feeling worse and worse lately, I spent all of the weekend in bed and this video made me go take a shower, eat small dinner, drink a bit and clean around. And I really feel a bit better. Better enough to go to work tomorrow and enjoy it. Loads of love xxx.
the Harry potter audio books are also my comfort thing! we used to listen to the first one non stop as little kids
The shower thing is so true! Shower and making myself a salad can help change my mood. Also, banana with maple syrup gives me a mood boost.
I love this so much, I am quite guilty of forgetting this type of stuff so it is always nice to receive a reminder!
I went to a counselor who was AWFUL and kept trying to make me think I hate my family? The entire thing was uncomfortable and unhelpful. My second choice was MUCH better and we had a lot in common, which made it easy to talk openly. It really is so beneficial to look into multiple options when choosing a therapist or counselor!
This video was SO helpful. Your videos are beautiful.
My therapist told me they did a study and holding a warm beverage actually made people feel warmer/improved their moods by a certain amount, so you're totally right about the tea!
I really needed this right now. Thank you. My anxiety is getting worse and is up and down a lot and I have mocks next week and everything is going to shit again and I can feel my mental health getting worse. I don't want it to be bad for my mocks.
So glad you guys openly chat about things that aren't talked about on the internet very often. Kudos! Thank you!
"Even poo gets stuck!" Yeah, thanks for that! haha x
You guys are very authentic and right in what you're saying. I enjoy your videos very much.
Currently I am in a very depressed and self-destructive mood. My body longs for water so much but somehow I don't allow myself to dring or eat healthy stuff which would make me feel at least physical better. Instead I don't drink, I eat ONLY sugar and disgusting junkfood that Iiterally can't see anymore and makes me throw up. So by purging I lose even more water. I'm in delirium the whole time and do nothing besides being in bed like a half-dead animal waiting for its death.
luticia I was in the same place last spring. but guess what? things didn't magically get better, things got better because I chose myself over the self destructive thoughts. it always get better and then worse and better again, that's life. choose yourself over the thoughts and you will get to a place where you are glad you are still alive
krispy noodle Hi there! First of all thank you for sharing your experience with me. I really appreciate it and even more I'm really happy that u were able to manage to get yourself out of this place! That's huge thing you've managed.
I do already know what you've tried to tell me but unfortunately seems like I am not like you, I don't have the strength to pull myself out of this place. My self-destructive mood is so huge that doesn't allow me to pull myself out. I'm suffering but still I chose every single minute to stay in this miserable place. That's what my depression and self-destructive behaviour do to me!
Nevertheless thanks.
luticia please hang in there! Things will get better even if they seem like they won't right now
Hang in there! I know how hard it can be but I'm sure you can get through it. If you're able to speak to a professional please do, even if you can only speak to them on the phone. Sending you love ❤
luticia really sorry to hear about your situation, it must be terrible to be stuck in the depression. But at the same time, thank you too for sharing. A lot of the comments I've read have been about how people have coped/are going to change. But I think your experience is really important to hear too. People have been lovely and want to be supportive here, but I guess we're actually a bit powerless to help. But that's just the nature of this particular depression - maybe it's like a spiral that re-enforces itself from your feelings and actions. When you're in it nothing can break you out, not even the most positive of suggestions. And I feel that's important for us to be aware of when we'd like to support someone with depression.
Right now I think all we can do is listen, so please do keep sharing whenever you feel up to it!
This was such a refreshing video! Even when I'm feeling productive, it's important to remember taking time throughout the day for self care that can be easy to forget.
Woke up with just negative vibes BUT after watching this video and actually taking a shower, I feel soo much better. Thank you loves ❤
I recently realized if I think about caring for myself from the perspective of someone who loves me (example: my grandma), it completely turns my level of care around. She'd always want me to shower, make my hair look presentable, eat a healthy meal, get some fresh air, and go to bed at a decent time. Oh, and a little dessert after dinner is always ok in her book. Thinking this way is a game changer for me.
The thing about brushing your teeth and cleaning your body is so true! I allways feel like I accomplish something that day and made some sort of effort for myself.
Lucy looks so G O O D x
oml I listen to the hp audio books all the time too! so comforting when I'm feeling anxious tbh
The comment section of this video gives me so much hope, its so nice to see such a nice positive and helpful place on youtube
I paused this video to make a cup of tea and tidy away some mess in my room while the kettle boiled. Thank you! These are really helpful tips.
Thank you for introducing me to Rosianna and her channel, she's so sweet and gives great advice! (Also drinking lots of water during this video) x
i love this video so much. i definitely relate to this, especially when im feeling i guess 'numb' i force myself to shower, have a healthy meal/snack, read a book and have a drink. usually i feel somewhat better as it gives me a sense of reality making me actually feel something and most of the time i feel positive because iv treated myself in a positive way!
Omg I literally just said in a video how the two of you have been comforting/sincere content creators and here you both are! Yay!
You're happen to be one of my top 3 people on the internet, Lucy! Keep up the great content.
this was so needed for me. in uni with many deadlines, been feeling quite shitty lately and its just nice to know people are straight up and are helpful. you guys are amazing x
So often I deny myself this self care when I'm depressed. And it kinda feeds the depression and I say ok I'm depressed I don't deserve to feel better and it just makes it worse and it's like I want to feel bad and that's terrible and not right. So this year I'm going to make sure I'm taking care of myself when I'm feeling low
when you woke up with a panic attack last night and this pops up on recent subscription videos. my mum made tea tonight, I prepped a meal but I'll continue tomorrow cause I pretty much wallowed today, my energy was so drained but this was good and helpful, so thankss🌼
Westwing is my absolute comfort! Always makes me feel better!
This video is lovely to see, it is often not spoken about fully by youtubers and it is great that you'd addressed taking time out to look after yourself. such a lovely positive video x
I think I watch this video once every week because it’s so authentic and the advice is genuine. thank you
The Harry Potter audiobooks are what got me through some of my hardest days!
Also the part about being worth a meal. And though I hat to shower when I feel bad, it does help.
I seriously LOVE this community, so many sweet hilarious comments...i can see why though, you guys are amazing and you attract the best audience ❤ Also, all of us benefit from therapy...I give therapy and I am also flexible with prices, I love that other people can do that too!
Just a note; Not every country has therapists who have the freedom of sliding scales. In The Netherlands I think for the most part it is set, also within health insurance (first 4/6 sessions by a noted psychologist get paid by health insurance).
Although, I graduate as an Applied Psychologist next year and I would love to do something with this. It seems way more logical. Maybe if I'd go under the name of 'coach' (which is, just as psychologist, not protected).
And also, thanks! I just started listening to the same podcast as well a few days ago. It helps me laugh, and it makes me think lightly of sex again, which I haven't done in a long while! Drinking my water every time when I hear something funny in that podcast from now on!
Such good tipsss. The podcast/show was always a big one for me. I'd actually watch the same three movies when I felt down or needed to get to sleep. So helpful.
Ahh Lucy you have no idea how glad I am you uploaded this when you did. I've been in such a rut and getting out of bed has been so hard for me lately and every little thing feels like a chore. But just watching this has made me feel so much better. So thank you for being you and thank you to Rosianna as well x
Just watching this video calmed me down immensely. Life is really stressful and shit at the moment and I'm scared of the future, but this helped me for a little while
the advice is really helpful, but I don't think I can depend on friends a lot, because they usually give me answers that don't help like " you shouldn't have done that" or yell at me and often make it worse. some of my friends try to rush me to complete so they can talk and it's obvious that they're not interested and it hurts, I've learnt to try not to tell people anything, because they don't help.
thanks for listening, have a good day x
This sounds tough. I really hope you one day find people who can give you the support and attention you deserve x
thank you so much! you made my day x
Lucy I'm going through a rly tough time rn and I stayed home from school today because I had such a massive panic attack last night and I still feel like my balance has been knocked off but this video helped me a whole lot and I needed it right now. Thank you.
i rant in my diary and that helps me because i still feel like i'm letting it out without feeling like i'm bothering my friends by being really negative and whiny -- they've told me they don't care but it's better for me to not feel like a burden.
Yeah I do the same I find it very therapeutic
This is THE video that I needed tonight. Thank you wonderful ladies. I'm going to get out of bed and eat some peanut butter.
This is my favourite video on TH-cam to date, so so important and probably came at the best time for me, the atmosphere was so lovely and comforting, you should really makes this into a series omg!!!!!!!!
I LOVE this video. Such simple things, but you need someone to remind you to do them when you do have those days/periods of time. Lovely video ladies xx
Do you think you could make a video about therapy in general? Like, how to find the right one, what happens in the session, etc..? I would really love it. I've been looking into therapy for months now but I'm a bit afraid of what might happen, so maybe you could lay it out? xoxo
My main thing I do when I am feeling really low is that put on something that have I have seen before on the telly but not mindless (that's too depressing) and I switch off my notifications and simply use my mobile for TH-cam and music to "distract myself"
& I also drink lots of cups of tea. It can be very soothing after a crappy few days, stress and anxiety can get too much.
I listen to the Harry Potter audio books too! they're so comforting and they always calm me down. :)
Am in second year of Uni studying history and have exam in Jan. This is exactly what I need!! This is perfect
Thank you so much for this video Lucy , it is exactly what I needed today. Sometimes it just takes someone to remind you that it's ok to have bad days but you can do these small things to bring yourself out of it. I'm fairly new to your channel and absolutely loving it- can identify with you on a lot of issues! Keep killin it sista 👊🏼
Thanks ladies! This discussion made me sit down and take a minute to think about how I'm feeling, and I realised I've been feeling sad. This went unrecognised for a fair few days. Taking your (and my own) advise and brushing my teeth, having a shower, doing some yoga then brewing myself a well deserved cup of tea. Ps, I loved the video on Rosi's channel too 😊
when i was a little girl my mum would always make me a cup of light black tea with milk and sugar when i was sad to make me feel better and then we would have a chat about it and everything seemed a bit brighter to me after that. so i can really relate to what you said about tea making you feel better. great video you two, I love your daily videos lucy, they are always amazing content!
this was hands down one of the most helpful, lovely videos i've ever watched. thank you both for making this❤
Lucy this was such a good video. I tend to get caught up in being busy and I forget to take care of myself and this video has reminded me just how important it is to look after myself
I am really thankful that I have my sister as a roommate. She knows me and she knows how down I can get so just having her around helps a lot. But she can't be around 24/7 because she works and has college so what helps me the most on being alone and being depressed is what I like to call my safe space which is basically just this little reading nook I have in my bedroom. It's in between my bookshelf (which is one of my main sources of comfort) and the big window I have in my room which always makes the spot really warm. So I'll light candles and just read for a bit. This might sound a bit odd but another thing I find really comforting is skincare in general but mostly face masks. I'm thankful that Wal-Mart has these 1.98 face masks that I really enjoy. The last thing I'd say that helps me with self-care is movies. No matter how down I am I just can't be sad while watching Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium or Flipped or Clueless.
I actually love your channel so much. Your content is just so real and relatable in the most concrete and useful way. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
drinking water does actually help to "reset" when your neurological system is revved up! it's something i have my kids do often as a sensory coping strategy when they feel "out of whack" (i'm a therapist). so you're right about it mattering so much!
made me feel so much better watching this! very helpful
loved this video. It made me smile. also encouraged me to look into therapy again. I agree it is just.. such a work thing even though I know its worth it. its on my list for next week. so thank you
I love how you've become such an advocate for matching underwear!
Something I've found helpful when low in motivation is promising myself a 5 minute break if I work for 5 minutes. The prospect of only working for 5 minutes is so much easier to handle that it's much easier to start, and then I find myself carrying on anyway. Starting is always the biggest hurdle, gets a lot easier then (I find)
just as a recommendation to any other students, many universities have free counselling for students of the university. check your wellbeing programmes
Crying headaches ARE the worst!!!! Thank you for this video :D
i found this video very helpful. im considering going to therapy again, as i can explain my depersonalisation a little easier than i could before. i used to have counselling, and because it didn't help i never gave anything another chance. i think i'm finally gaining the courage to tell my mum i need help. i have my school nurse's number too, so i also have access to message her to. i think i may finally kick my mental illnesses ass!
Proud of you! You've got this x
Livla thank you lovely! x
Beth Jefferies Kick its ass! You can do it! :)
StarMintaka thank you!
What an amazing video!! your calm and kind voices alone are so helpful.
I'm so blessed that I live in Germany where the health insurance pays the therapist if you need one, so to all my german friends out there, get yourself help! xxx
This video is so valuable and important! I literally just flossed and texted my best friend while watching this video.
"even poo get's stuck"
..this should be on a jumper/hoody or something. very motivational!!! :P
Oh Lucy thank you for this vid. I needed this so badly today! You are such a comfort to watch. You're one of those I always turn to when I need to find some inner calm. So much love to you! Xxx
Shower is the thing. Even if I haven't been sweating I've tried to get myself to shower every night. I think its important to have a soap you love the scent of, shampoo and conditioner you like, aromatherapy type stuff, body treatments. A lot of that stuff doesn't even have to cost a lot, but having it on hand and making a nightly shower a real luxury makes a difference