She Studied Men For 30 Years and Taught Me Everything
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- I always get asked "Sarah, how do you know so much about men". We have mentors, elders who teach us and this was mine. Wisdom comes from those who have experienced life and learned their own lessons. I thank those who are willing to impart their knowledge.
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I have not read the books referenced in the video and never heard of Alison. But, as a man now 72 years old, I have witnessed the phenomena you two have been taking about. The generation of men prior to mine and before did not seem to suffer from what a man was. The post war baby boomer generation grew up with fathers who knew (vast majority) their identity as a man. He was the leader, bread winner and protector of his family. Thankfully growing up in the 50's and 60's I still had manly mentors-----my father, my coaches, a few teachers, the various men I worked for, the fathers of my friends etc.
We had TV programs like Father Knows Best, My Three Sons, Bonanza and many more that portrayed the man of the house as valued and wise. Just 20 years later I witnessed many TV shows portraying the man of the house as a buffoon where even the children of the house made fun of him. This was just a reflection of what happened in society. In a 20-25 year period men went from family leader possessing wisdom to bumbling idiot.
I worked a career for 40 years and never had a problem with a strong male leader/boss. As my career continued I found myself surrounded by more and more women and eventually my last three bosses were women. It was a constant battle for me because just the way I was talked to let alone treated, none of them saw any value in what I had to offer. I also observed that most of my female peers were not treated in this manner. The last 10 years of my career was a chore. I basically kept my head down and tried to do the job and not draw attention to myself. I had so much more to contribute but it was futile.
It didn't help my wife at the time also would remind me how inadequate I was. Luckily, my marriage situation is much better with my present wife but I still have scars from those middle years and carry a bit of burden as one beaten down and given up.
I had the same experience.
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Sometimes I learn as much if not more from the comments section. There is so much wisdom and hurt in this comment. I'm a 46yr old single mom. I love men, I had a fantastic masculine father and my grandfather's were equally great. I am having so much trouble finding a man that is masculine, wants a long term relationship and has not been burned by women in their past. I don't know how to convey to a man what I'm looking for, that I'm safe and appreciate traditional rolls. I know I'm not articulating this the way I want to. But basically I just want men to know we are out here. Women that love them, appreciate them and want to compliment, not run their lives.
You survived, guessing you’re in your next life chapter. Time for you to enjoy the fruit of your labors. Dig into your male friendships and former co workers
@@MidwestLori77You may want to put you thoughts on your dating apps if you use those
Honestly, some of the things she's saying is part of the reason I doubt I will ever get married again. I have no issue with commitment, I prefer being in a committed monogamous long term relationship. That's why I got married in the first place. But knowing what I know now, it would take God parting the heavens and a choir of angels singing while God says "she's the one" before I'd even consider getting married again. Feeling trapped in a loveless marriage isn't something I ever want to deal with again. At least without getting the state involved in my love life, if things go south like this again, it's so much easier to walk away than having to go through the divorce process. That doesn't mean I don't want one woman to spend the rest of my life with. I absolutely do. But finding that one woman is harder than one might think.
She's fraud con artist, liar. Never get involved with any financial dealing will be at you own risk.
I've been there many times dude, don't let the derailing social train run you over and injure you. I have a few pointers to help you out.
1) can't catch a dog face puffer in fresh water pond any more then you can catch wife material in a place where you wouldn't ever want to see your future wife.
2) dont ever flaunt what you have earned or achieved because many want an easy life and when they see that the nest is built and warm, they will change their game up and put on a show to misslead you and fool you into thinking they are exactly what you are searching for. Instead, display yourself as someone with skills, ability, drive to get, provide, sustain and maintain a home and be clear that you are only willing to do it with the right woman that will help you by being supportive through success and failure
3) when meeting a lady, make sure that she understands that you want her to love your kids more then she loves you.
4) relationships fall apart because of weak short term shallow goals. Everything can be achieved within a matter of years with the right wife/husband and then what? No goals, no life = divorce and people searching for other people to set some new goals with. Raising a family is not just a 20 year goal, it's a multi generational goal. A goal that will keep two people together for a lifetime.
5) be honest with yourself. Are you selfish where you just want a wife/husband and a few dogs because you are too lazy or broken to love and raise a child? If so, then those kind of people just need a pet, low maintenance and less hassle.
Family man is all ill ever be and want to be. Nothing else in life brings more joy then a child (adopted or born).
There is no greater satisfaction in life other then being needed every second of our life. A man that is not needed is a man that has been born into a miserable existence. Create the need by advertising your qualities. Women like Sarah exsist (not as knowledgeable but just as beautiful and loving and ladylike)
Hope dies last, it better take a number and get in line because I was here first before my hopes.
Strongly disagree with #3. It’s not her job or duty to love your children. No more than it’s your duty to love hers. Especially if the children are approximately 16 years or older. But If you’re going to attempt to blend both your family’s with minor children-it’s more important that the children like one another and get along. If she’s able to provide unconditional love and care to your children- that’s a real bonus and blessing.
@jimosborne2 you can strongly disagree but adults have all the choices, it's the younger generation that pays price for parents mistakes, so making sure she loves my kids more then me, will add more value to her from my perspective. Now if I'm expecting that, only normal to being able to give the same. As for kids liking each other. You must be living in some fantasy.... when growing up we don't even like our own siblings and go toe to toe, who cares if kids like each other, they won't be around each other forever and if you see abuse as parent, your job to make it right with punishment and justice.
@@mechmobile2019ok, I can see your point re the kids...but you have the love issue backwards. If the children see the love between mom/dad or husband and wife is kind and loving, they will follow that example. And you kinda contradict yourself but acknowledging that since kids won't be around forever, why your new wife should love YOUR kids more than you is baffling.
Two quotes that impacted me:
“If we are going to make choices instead of be compelled, we first have to become aware of how we are compelled”
“No, criticism is off the table here. We are going to be curious, we are going to try to understand each other, we are going to reach for each other, and we are not going to be that lazy.”
There is serious power to heal in these two statements.
How many people have you met that you'd trust with this mission.
@@lawrencefox563 truthfully not that many. However, as I work on myself and I focus on cleaning up my side of the street and building self trust I am meeting more trustworthy people. I am learning to trust those who are trustworthy and be trustworthy myself. The only thing I can control is if I look in the mirror.
We hear this running joke about men not understanding women, (it is not a joke) but we do not hear about women not understanding men. The other part of the joke is, (again, it is not a joke), that men are so simple, that there is nothing for women to understand about them. As long as women hold on the this fallacy, we will never understand each other. I lost my lovely wife of 32 years from leukemia in 1998. I dated a few women who absolutely felt they were supreme, and did not give a tinker's damn about my thoughts or feelings. I left them quickly. I have been with my partner for 22 years now. She was an old friend who had lost her husband. We do not intend to marry. She is the most wonderful woman, a woman who makes me feel loved, valued, respected, and cherished. Women like her do indeed exist, but men must go to the trouble of finding them. When they do, the union will be wonderful. Men...do not settle for any, or every woman you date. Take your time and find the right one. She is out there. Women need to wake up; this feminism bullshit does not benefit anyone.
Thanks for offering this encouragement to all of us men out there who are currently struggling to find, "the one." Im in my early 40s and have never been married or in a LTR, but i hope to find what you have with your partner and not giving up hope. Its especially hard as a self diagnosed man on the spectrum, women dont warm up to my type very easily and dont want to take the time to move past surface, first impression assumptions. Hope things continue to work out for you and yours, stay blessed.👍
Another great resource for both men and women is the “For Women Only” and “For Men Only” books by Feldhahn and Feldhahn & Feldhahn, respectively. My late wife and I read those together and many of Sarah’s insights were given in those books. Our relationship improved based on our commitment to reading and understanding one another.
I would also posit that marriage in its intended form is the continual daily commitment two people make to on another. Society has co-opted the word and made it about feelings which are mercurial and ephemeral.
You certainly articulated that quite well
Hardly. I've never heard so much crap in my life. No man ever said this.bBeca7se you know nothing about men. We don't either. All they do is take a wild guess and of course their will be a few that fall into the category
First and foremost thank you Sarah for all your tremendous efforts you put in to your channel. Your want to understand is amazing and not easy to say the least, and you’re empathy towards men brings a great deal of appreciation and I dare say relief, more than you may be aware of. And you see a lot.
At the moment we are all living through what feels like this unending litany of condemnation, disrespect, and in some cases I can say hatred toward men. It’s fair to say a considerable number of negative attributes directed our way have been richly earned. One of the problems with this kind of rage however, particularly in large numbers is that it tends to blind. Rage is powerful. In this case, it has managed to successfully blind a large number of women to the fact that within this vast number of “lesser thans” lies another group, a subgroup of men I refer to simply as men of worth. Men already know this amongst ourselves. We can recognize the haves from the have nots so to speak. The women who have rendered their final verdict on men have no idea this subgroup even exists, or actually refuse to know. Even more important, they don’t have the tools to identify a man of worth when they meet one let alone be able to distinguish men of worth from those who are otherwise.
The numbers show men are walking away. It is not the choice we had at the outset. What it has really come down to is avoiding the eventual neglect and contempt of a life partner, separate and unrelated to any efforts made. It’s not a good time for men and women. That notwithstanding , let us be hopeful for the next generation. Cheers
As I said in another of your expert interviews about understanding Men:
1) shortest distance between two points
2) see 1)
I'll add my guess of Women:
1) meandering Machiavellians
2) see 1)
Listening with interest. "As long as I was stealing their power, I would never know my own". Profound insight. Great video Sara and thank you Alison !
Sarah, YOU HIT THE PROBLEM RIGHT ON THE HEAD!!! I definitely have given up, for me, on marriage, women, etc. The amount of verbal assaults and attacks that I have suffered enough, that I have lost "too much blood" in the war, that I can't do it ANY LONGER. I will be single for the rest of my life. I am in my late 60's, so, it won't be that long that I will be alone. I will be fine without them. I will watch you, and that will be my revenge.
Thank you Alison for kindling the spark the spark inside Sarah :-)
Protect those women at all costs.
A fantastic episode, loved it. Thanks again
I LOVE seeing this colab! Just stumbled across Alison Armstrong and learned soooooo much from her!!
While this channel is mostly focused on helping men, I sure hope some women are watching this channel as a two-way information exchange is really helpful.
Agree! @sara this is a really important point.
Yes, there are at least some of us women watching, and trying to do better. Unfortunately, I doubt there's a lot of us, though. ☹️
There are! ✍️🏻
Thank you so much for sharing this interview. She has been an inspiration and the Queen's Code has changed my life.
Sarah, your appreciation for Alison makes so much sense considering your hard work and great videos. I've been listening to her for years. She is a relationship wizard and has helped me to understand male/female relationships more than any other person. She understands men better than any other woman. If any other woman or man wants to understand the heart of men, one book I suggest is "Wild at Heart" by John Eldrege. (He is a Christian and refers to a man's relationship with God also in case that is not something you are interested in). Keep up the great work Sarah
The blind leading the blind.
No one knows about relationships. Because they're all different. A d no woman will ever understand men and vice versa
wow! so many awesome touch points. thanks for sharing one of your insider sources.
This was an interesting discussion, thanks for sharing. I have to say I'm honestly quite surprised to hear women admit to their true motivations behind these behaviors, as well as women's natural difficulties empathizing with men or seeing us as fully human, with all that entails. It takes uncommon amounts of introspection, self awareness and psychological maturity to recognize blindspots like that and address them in ourselves, and courage to talk about them openly and I salute you both for it. I'm not surprised that so many men are reacting negatively to your video: the attitudes and behaviors you describe in the beginning are quite common among women and most experience or at least witness it for themselves so seeing two women admit that it's done with malicious intent and driven mainly by envy and their own insecurities and that they were wrong to do so is a lot to take in. I imagine most are thinking back on their own experiences being mistreated or taken for granted by women and gaslighted about it.
A lot of learning on both sides for sure. I believe Alison also emphasized that we need to understand that our worst behaviours are driven by fear and pain and we need to approach one another with compassion and understanding to heal. 38.00..."that is how they express their deepest fears and biggest frustrations...."
"The two quotes highlighted by commenter @myzigman are important to remember.
“If we are going to make choices instead of be compelled, we first have to become aware of how we are compelled”
“No, criticism is off the table here. We are going to be curious, we are going to try to understand each other, we are going to reach for each other, and we are not going to be that lazy.”
@@averagejane09 definitely best to look and listen without making value or moral judgements if you want insight.
Wife read Queens Code. Loved it. Started msking changes. Life got better for us both. Then her lesbian, feminist friend told her what she thought, along with other of her 'well meaning' female friends. Wife now hates the book and doesnt want to talk about it ever again. Says all it does is make women wrong.
Sigh
There is a reason why her friend is a lesbian. Judging from your comment I am going to assume that her friend hates men, hence her being a lesbian.
Sadly, your wife has now been "innoculated" against truth, and it is beyond highly unlikely that she will ever be happy. You, on the other hand, have a choice as to whether or not to remain chained to her in her [self-chosen] misery.
People are the product of the 5 people we spend the most time with. Your wife's toxic "friends" have usurped YOUR role in influencing your wife. I don't know anything about your situation other than what you've written in this comment. Were I in your shoes, I would first read The Rational Male, b;y Rollo Tomassi (his 4 other books as well), and if you think that you've learned enough to regain your agency in your marriage, then, fine. If not, give her a choice - toxic friends or marriage/family. It sounds like she's already made her choice.
Sad.
This just proves that women have a herd mentality.
Shame, Insults, Guilt, and the NEED TO BE RIGHT or S.I.G.N. language, courtesy of Kevin Samuels.
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Your insight and the information you provide about men isn’t just useful for women, but for other men too.
Sarah, thanks for the interview. Great interview. So many truisms and insights. Keep up the great work. A lot of things mentioned that I ponder sometimes as well.
Wow. Great video and discussion. I’m officially a fan of both y’all. Thanks!
Thank you for this, it made me cry…
Allison Armstrong is BRILLIANT because she is an engineer that tests and observes reality.
A fraud woman with court cases pending. Please don't trust her. Never stuck to any job.
Sarah Dawn, I found the first of your videos (for me anyway) only a couple of days ago. You and your insight makes SO much sense to me. It doesn't surprise me that you've gotten your share of criticism. For the last five years or so, I've been reading and following Ryan Holiday and his books on Stoic philosophy. Starting with The Obstacle is the Way.
I love how you approach shared vulnerability, human connection, and emotional intimacy. Ultimately, or rather intuitively, I believe you will (or at least MIGHT) make major societal changes. Keep up the good work. Thirty plus years ago, inside my four year marriage, I longed for emotional intimacy but didn't know how to articulate that desire or how to actually do my part to make it happen. I read. For those 30 years hence, I've been reading and searching for figuring out how to be capable of emotional intimacy. So, Thank YOU. And I graduated from Arizona State University too... long time ago. ;)
What a wonderful video to watch. Seeing a wise old grandmaster show the student how it's done, in anything, is always a joy.
I had a similar feeling about the act of marriage before I went through with mine, why do we need to get married? we love each other, live together and want it to stay that way. I feel I was slightly obliged to propose. Doesn't matter now.
An outstanding conversation. I've been subscribed for some time now and it might not be too far off to say you are my idol of a very desirable woman. Now it looks like I will be looking for some of the books that Alison has written. Thank you so much for your work/calling and this video.
She's halfway back to normal. It's a move in the right direction.
@user-kd5vo3ke7j hit deez nuts up
Thank you Sarah for telling the TRUTH about us, MEN! About me!!!
Fascinating!
This is indeed a thing. Keep going!
The hero thing is legit. I was able to put that into words for myself, but I just figured I was nuts to aim for that. Then the ex-wife started what I described as irresponsible talk. Finally I acted on what she said and filed divorce. She was surprised!!! These are things you’ve described right here.
So keep going. There are gonna be young couples who benefit from this stuff eventually. Feels like we are gathering critical mass across several of these behavioral study vectors. It’ll jell at some point, and suddenly, so I would have you keep going and trust it’ll come together. Be well!
As a widower for almost three years, I am re-learning how I relate to single women, and what I bring to the table. I read Nice Guy last year and related so much to the the book too. Its almost as if, all these years, I am rediscovering who I am and how I have relationships. :>)
I think I heard her say dependence = bad. With respect, I believe this to be a big reason society as a whole is struggling. Back in the day, we depended on people to do tasks, whatever they were good at in order to survive. Modern society would not exist if we had what we have now. Everyone today thinks they are rock star status and boasts about being a boss bitch/bastard. The whole concept of "I don't need people....." Well, we kind of do. We are wired to be in groups and belong.
I think I can address this with a small semantic tweak. "Dependance" implies a somewhat negative correlation within a relationship, for example, one's self image being dependant on their partner. What you described, I would call "reliance". Yes, one can just jump into the woods and live completely by themselves, but there's only so much a single person can do in a day. And yes, we do need people. I, too, find it ludicrous that some people really think they don't need anyone when another person keeps the lights on by running the power plant, another person most likely built the house they live in, someone else installed the pumbling, someone else made the smartphones and other appliances they have a home, someone else manufactured the clothes they wear.
We can only exist as a society today because we rely on each other, and I believe the atomization of the individual is also responsible for a lot of the unhappiness and behavioral problems we see today. A strong community raises better people.
I have experienced some of these things. You are two insightful women.
Great conversation...really interesting points of view.
The one issue than doesn't seem to be addressed is the main reason that men are disconnecting. The entire legal system is totally weighted against men, men are constantly at hazard when interacting with women. It is like the complaints one sees from professional women who are isolated from their male colleagues because it has been made so dangerous for men to not defend themselves at all times.
Yeah, there is a whole wider society that is not addressed. The women here seem to have phrased the conversation that their behaviours happened in a vacuum and do not relate to any wider society or universal/ karmic connection.
For instance, women need emotional connection more. During lockdown, a statistic that is not reflected in the official statistics but that I witnessed. It was women whose psychology absolutely dissolved because their friends all believed so much in the lockdowns they all just abandoned each other. This escalated many times to suicide. For many men it was business as usual.
Also, womens behaviours are being subsidised by the government. But their allegiance to leftism, to the state, causes additional problems for them. They are far harsher and ostracising of each other for deviations from "the message".
@@j.l.w9563 I find it humorous in a bitter sort of way that you have two women setting themselves up as experts of and advocates for men without including any men in the discussion. Men's brains are wired differently, if you don't have one, you can't possible have anything but the most superficial understanding.
It is a trope, but I have had women in my life who frequently feel themselves qualified to tell me how to do things that they have little knowledge of, or experience in doing themselves.
@@jamesnelson1968 While I have had a lot of trouble with women that assume they know things about me. A good chunk of the time this ends very badly for them. I don't agree with this for two reasons:
A) They did not talk about men but how women relate to men. Most of the discussion was about women not demeaning men.
B) None of us know anything. Even about other men. Most of my male friends are so lacking in the cerebral activity that characterising my every waking moment that I will never understand them. In a mystical way, we don't even really understand ourselves that much either - I have done five years of dream interpretation, I often have new insights, but I still have yet more insights, including those that change things for me a great deal. The clickbaity title is as inaccurate as pretty much any other and is simply how business in general is done.
@@j.l.w9563 I agree with your second point, for the first I think we are looking at differences in the depth of analysis. I don't really disagree with your point but think useful data can be gleaned without that level of understanding in that there are obvious factors between generalized men and women that seem to escape women in general.
Men are disconnecting because their role is contrary to their interests .. allways has always been will be .
And now men have figured it out. There is no upside.
Giving credit to a resource in your life is a testament to your character and maturity as a woman who is confident. This is why I'm subscribed. Again I say, well done 🙏 God bless you 🙏
On the back of this I have been reading The Queens Code this afternoon. I could wish it were written a little less pedagogic - but it is an excellent complement to No More Mr Nice Guy. It's one of those reads that starts out feeling a little clunky, but one third through it I'm impressed.
Nice to see Alison Armstrong. She makes appearances on the Dennis prager radio show from time to time.
Thanks for sharing this discussio Sarah, it was enlightening to say the least...
Like many other single men my age, we're pretty much resigned to being single for the rest of our lives... not determined, simply resigned.
Should I find a woman capable of discovering how to bring out the best in me, and capable in letting me discover how to bring out the best in her... that would all change very quickly!!
Older guy here, been married for 40+ years. The dating world was very difficult for me back in the day, I get the idea it is far more difficult now. The one advantage now is the great quantity of help available through Social Media and in print, such as Sarah Dawn and Alison Armstrong. Best luck to younger people, IMO the key is to find the right person for you. Not easy to do, but well worth the effort.
I totally agree with Alison on marriage. In the past I've compared marriage to a political election. There's the dating campaign, then the wedding day when you cast your vote and after that you can't even recognize the politician for whom you had voted. I wasn't even someone who rushed into it. I held off for nearly 8 years till I was sure that I had a supportive, hard working team player. Three months later I had a lazy dependent who put only a small fraction of the effort into our own company than she did at her previous job because she couldn't be fired. Once you sign on that dotted line they have you and know that they no longer have to put forth any effort. No marriage forces both of you to do your part to maintain the relationship. I'm 100% on board with that!
Love Armstrong. He’s comes on Dennis Prager male female hour.
there's a reason most men, when they see a camera on a sports field, say "Hi Mom". they want to please a woman.
Together ❤️
Two very wise women. Just about my two favorite women, as it happens. Ladies--please listen to them; you will learn so much that it will likely transform your lives.
I'm an Aussie bloke and its the same over here. I'm not gonna lie day to day life is nothing but grey no joy, no ambition no desires a never ending stream of apathy. Emotions are only surface deep with nothing much getting passed the mask that I feel I need to wear so that I don't cause pain to those around me. If not for the pain it would cause those around me I could happily disappear tomorrow. But your discussion was a good distraction for a while with a lot of interesting points.
Keep up the fight, trust in God, society will fail you, a Godly woman will be imperfectly perfect for you, if the process alone isn't worthwhile it's just the wrong woman -- which 99.999% of them are these days
Thank you
In regards to 37:48 when she’s speaking of this lady saying when men see the worst side of her they leave. She replied, “a right person for you can be with your worst side and you can be with theirs without losing all respect, admiration and affinity.” But, I say it depends on what that worst side is. You can’t expect even the right person to put up with your abusive angry behavior. We must take accountability for ourselves and want to be our best self for that right person. We shouldn’t expect men to suck it up and deal with us. We need to deal with our negative behavior and learn the better way. To learn self-mastery and learn how to communicate in a mature, loving and selfless way. I speak from my own experience. Though even when I hadn’t learned to control my emotions and acted badly, I never had a man leave me, or even threaten to leave me when he experienced my worst. That makes me think that lady’s worst was REALLY bad if every man leaves her upon experiencing this. They shouldn’t have to put up with that. She needs to learn better behavior. What good is this thing called life if we don’t continue to work on being a better human, spouse/partner and parent? No, that lady needed to get her act together and learn how to treat people with love and respect. Because I’m sure much of it was criticizing the guy, which this lady speaks against. Just my two cent💞
Enlightening, thank you for this much. Finding someone in my age bracket (70's) that is communication savy enough to want to develop this seems impossible. It is very difficult to generate the hope that one can get beyond the friend zone. I don't even encourage that anymore. At least this presentation tells me there are some women out there that get it. I hope for the world if not for me. I just want to find some inner healing in order to let go. The metacognitive moments still not enough to shift me.
It's good to know that y'all are out there. I hope it grows. Too late for me, but maybe the generations to come will benefit. Do a part 2.....and 3........
Very big fraud don't get involved with any loans or financial dealings. You will be at your own risk.
She doesn't believe in unnecessary suffering, she's bubbles over with joy and she's curious start there.
This is why some cultures revere Elders. This woman learned from her wrongs by listening and asking questions, and then passed that knowledge on, making future generations better bit by bit. She never stopped learning and is still adding to that pool of knowledge. These types of people need to be nominated for the nobel peace prize.
Her laughing when you said the rabbit holes of rabbit holes was funny. But see kts the same with womem they all have the same base line but are different at the same time. Its the same for women to men we all have the same base trates but we are all different too
I have been on dates with a lot of different kinds of women. Women have hit on me, and I have asked them. I have dated rich world travelers, a doctor, an architect, a homeless woman, and one that had a dirt floor in her grandparents' house. I have had women attempt to embarrass publicly, try to start unprovoked fights, invite friends, and try to manipulate me into paying for the girls' night out. I have had dates where we served breakfast to homeless children, sang Christmas carols to children with cancer, had them make me dinner, and had me drive her to her friends house so they could cry together. Overall, the market for women of women who want to and are capable of being wives is getting worse for men.
If you want to be able to find women who value themselves their are two things that are 3 things that are critical. It absolutely does matter where you meet her. A woman you talk to at the bar, the grocery store, the blood bank, or the church may be the same woman, but usually isn't. Even if the same woman goes to all four places, she will think of you differently, depending on which one she meets you at.
Second, women do not need to hide flaws anymore. They will tell you if they hate men, feel entitled, have gotten over their past, are desperate for a relationship... and why, biggest fears, and reasons for anxiety in the first 3 or 4 dates. Make them inexpensive and meaningful from date #1.
Third is you need to know who you are. What are your attachment styles, love languages, big 5 personality traits, Myers Briggs personality traits, sex drive, financial habits, family desires, and retirement goals. If you have a vision of the life you want to create, you are headed a direction, and if she doesn't want it, you will never get along.
Never be afraid to say you are looking for different things or say it wouldn't work and use them for social or physical gain...boys or girls
As a man, you can say what you want but prepare to have this used against you by western women . Most Western women are a waste of time and energy. Much better to look East
This is close to my heart! There was a specific time in my life I just had a breakthrough in thinking on this topic during a bad time in my life. I started seeing men for the good we need from them and vice versa. Fascinating stuff. I so wish I could do a course on this to teach my people in my country, South Africa.
You go!♡
Be very careful with this woman. don't have any financial dealings with. Never give her loan.
@@mutaherali8297 please explain more? Thanks
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The most unjust treatment that I was afflicted by and witnessed also happening in the world was propagated by women who were in a rageful and confused state of condemning because of choosing to live in abusive or infantile lifestyles with decrepid males and then depleting their miseries because they couldn't get a hold of themselves so they put it most of it unto the decent men who were just doing their work. Gotta hold many of you accountable for that nasty toxic behaviour for real!!!! This is a truthful testimony! ^^
I found a CD copy of "Getting in Sync with the Opposite Sex" at a library book sale. All I can say is I recommend it to EVERYONE. It's funny - I was going to recommend it to YOU and now I know we're all on the same page. Love Alison...
Ooooh I agreed & loved everything until the end! Marriage IS being chosen & I think a man who loves & wants to commit will want to marry the woman for sure
Has anything changed from " Taming of the shrew"?
Yes... men are done. We are liberated. "No tears no fuss..hurray for us...and thanks for the memories.."
Good luck.
First thought that came to mind, when she said, she asked a man what he wanted to be for a woman: "Enough".
Wow, Sara i wouldn't know where to start. Not remotely impressed.I Know good can come from strange places .This one has me baffled . Still love ya.🎉
Thank you for saying that lol we need ylu and you need us. Nothing wrong with that. Ylunare our gift and we are yalls gift. Its a good thing.
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Do you see how this might not work in reverse so well, that a man would propose that he understands women, he's been doing this for 30 years and how the pushback from women on social media would be enormous.
Listen to Jordan Peterson. The difference is he doesn't claim to understand women. Not because he would get in trouble but to understand is to know. No woman can really know what it is to be a man any more than a man to know what it is to be a woman. But survive it to say she understands as much as one can without being one
@@diamondback2085 women don't really want you as a man to know the ins and outs of what they're like, because they want to remain in a superior position. They have manipulated and have been manipulated by women and men, so they hide their true selves. Some women and I really mean a lot of women, will use things that you admit to them, once they get angry and will use it against you. It's similar to teaching a deadly martial art to an emotional person without much discipline.
absolutely, she has a know it all vibe
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Agreed.... maybe even cancelled???? (I think you could speak to that.... if you are "the tool man" ) Men and women have general tendencies we can observe and "understand", but each person needs to be heard in order to be truly understood.... unless one can read minds ( and what a curse that would be...). Our worldview, knowledge, "morality" and "hard wiring" are just a few factors that influence how we think and are sometimes necessary to know to "understand" someone. If we don't know what is important to someone, then our understanding of them is going to be superficial at best and probably not on point.
Alison, you lost your partner by death, not by divorce.. big difference.. im 74, male, divorced 3 years ago and this person has moved on and still alive.. because there is a child, i still have contact with this person and will for awhile..
I still want that partnership of a woman.. would like that closeness, touch etc.. my men friends serve a purpose but not that..
Relationships at this age are diffently different.. How not all, but how women treat men..
Women like yourselves help us men, especially Sarah, understand women in a better way.. Thank you for being vocal, and putting yourself out there.. i have a better idea of me and know I'm only a part of the problem..
I'll keep watching, listening and learning.. for me, nothing like snuggling up to a woman at night and having that last conversation of the day..
In my experience, most men definitely do not think that they understand women, although we would like to. But it often seems that many women think they already know all they care to know about men which seems to get in the way of actually trying to listen to and understand us with an open mind and heart. Now that we can see what women tell each other online, it is astonishing and depressing how often it’s over generalized or just specious. A person of any gender just wants to be seen and heard and treated with decency and dignity and fairness. Set aside prejudice and preconceptions and don’t try to paint everyone with the same brush. Respectfully submitted.
A person we love, even their shortcomings and flaws are attractive.
A person we don't love, their accomplishments are like flaws and repulsive.
Thank you for being a voice for all of us men. We need you now more than ever.
30 years to know what exactly?
Be committed/invested to the same stuff.
Be in reasonable shape.
Be feminine.
Follow 2 basic rules:
Empty balls.
Full belly.
Everything else is how you handle close relationships with literally everyone else in your life.
Its easier said than done though. If it were so obvious and easy, then the divorce rate wouldn't be so high and the marriage rate wouldn't be so much on the decline, IMHO.
That type of logic won’t make you money on a TH-cam channel
@@dhall936 It's obvious and simple, not easy.
Remember one thing money is not everything in life. When health is lost something is lost. When character is lost everything is lost. It takes lots of time to rebuild your character. No so easy as you imagine. Habits die hard. Dear Sarah, you need to learn a lot about men & women. I can teach you how to get the right man & women of your choices. Your experience is nothing compared to what I learn in life even though I never dated anyone have proved to have solved many of my friends, brothers, relations problems all alone. I lived bachelor all my life never neither got involved with anyone that itself is self-control which you can't have like mine. Just make sure you learn from others. Never say you know everything.
I hope that I remember Alison's point about the woman's perspective about being objectified or pigeonholed and relating to a man feeling useless. It's a great point, and I've never really heard anyone put it like that and it's so simple. There are too many people profiting off of dividing us because anger and outrage get clicks and views, but those people are also causing your work to gain traction because you can only stay mad for so long.
Would it be fair to say that men generally know more about women than the other way around, or are we equally lousy in understanding the other sex?
Here's a novel idea. Get to know someone before you have sex. Then there are no surprises. If you don't know what their values are, their ambitions, their habits, their needs. Then you're going to probably learn the wrong way by making mistakes and trying to recover in a mutually respectable manner so that you both win. Criticism is toxic. Using someone is not honorable. If you take the time to get to know someone, you will find the qualities that you are looking for and admire. You owe that to yourself and to the other person.
My ex-wife seemed to enjoy being critical of me and was truly surprised when I wanted a divorce. Years later she asked me what the problem was that caused me to do that. I told her that all I wanted was to be her hero but she just wouldn't let me. We are still friends but we're not close.
Sarah interview couples that have been married 50 plus years. You can find out what really makes a relationship work. Learn how men and their wives really think. . Just a Idea. That's what I did. Never stop dating each other even though you are married for years must work too keep the fire burning.
Best advice 😊
Outstanding conversation. Would the Queens Code a book that men can read? Thinking out loud... could I use it to better communicate my feelings and needs?
Never mind... I should have listened a little bit longer. I think it will, based on what was said.
I am reading it now. It gets off to a clunky start but I'm impressed so far.
It's funny how some people don't know the Golden Rule. Treat other people the way you would like to be treated. Instead, it's just hurt others before you get hurt. Sad life.
As someone who has suffered years of emotional abuse from a broken women this actually infuriates me because as she retells the stories of the damage she has done in the past she does so with smiles and humor. Non of this is amusing. These are real lives SHE DESTROYED. It's great she learned from this, but it doesn't diminish what she did. Can you imaging hearing a rapist talking about the women's lives he ruined while learning about women and how to deal with them, and doing so using HUMOR and getting away with it? She's talking about how she emasculated and destroyed men's lives as if they were all amusing fictional anecdotes. Still no *real accountability* for her actions here.
I am sick of this society that has empowered women to destroy men without consequences.
Especially with the comments that the "Me Too" movement was somehow necessary and good when it happened.
This woman has the sensitivities and offers the fabulated social history of men and women that radical feminists have concocted. Her candor at her own adventures in emasculation is illuminating. It is what she recalls most clearly. I wonder if she's aware of her own reveal. "What do we need men for anyway?"
I heard that too. All I thought was “Look around and PLEASE name anything women are responsible for inventing and maintaining.”. These women are still living in fantasy land and are unaware of it, because men are still protecting women despite the inconvenience.
Fascinating hahaha but train has left the station.
Well, it's too bad they all can't be like you. Sure wish I could have met you. But, now it's off to Snowdonia, Wales to live like Hermit, with my trusty Guitar, of course. Cheers.
LedHed Pb 207.20 🎶 🎸 🎹
I love this woman to talk to Rian stone.
And why are we angry? Because just imagine for a minute...if once you are locked in for life with a person with a real and planned long term emotional/physical/financial/legacy making attraction, and completely unexpectedly a pattern emerges that with every single human utterance from you, no matter how kind, well intentioned, helpful, long, short and medium well thought out, or otherwise positive idea, the partner instantly criticizes negates, dismisses, devalues, laughs at, scorns, humiliates, berates, one ups, rolls eyes, threatens, gives "that look"which means no sex for a month etc etc....How long before the man says F....You on the inside and resents the very ground you walk on, never speaks truthfully or directly again, while you strut on thinking you are the gift to all humankind...or whatever buzz this behavior creates in the female brain...THAT's what you women pathologically sink to, and it takes a Trump, Tate, Jocko, Rollo, Kevin (RIP), Cons Twins, Jordan Peterson, et. al. (Note each quickly made millions standing up to this thing you are finally coming to terms with in this conversation) and boys and men are waking up, and women are confused, and unhappier each day. When the men fully once again take the lead, (respectfully) a balance will be achieved, harmony, a choir shall sing, lives will be lived together, children raised, they will flourish, and once again the sun shall shine. We are in a dark run right now.
I'm not so optimistic. I see the fall of Rome on the horizon.
Alison Armstrong Dennis Prager. Sarah Dawn reminded me of her a few weeks ago. I stumbled on Allison's quarterly appearance on Prager Wednesday Male▪︎Female Hour a couple of weeks ago.
Allison my condolences to the loss of your husband 4 years ago.🙏🏼RIP
I just discovered Kevin Samuels he he advises women and has the same sort of perspective.
He died in 2022. The post available are a total reposting of his videos.
Hello Sarah Dawn: One of the things which men are needed for are the dangerous jobs which women really don't want to do. I used to hold a limited license to use explosives. I haven't yet met a woman who wants to do that sort of work. Look after yourselves.
Is their a coach or author for us guys to read? Its obvious that they got the woman covered with these 2 great & phenomenal coaches.
Read her books, how to understand women, the keys of the kingdom. Great books.
Mel Robbins
Like the channel but is there anything that can be done about the bots?
Studies men for 30 years.......realizes the wall is real.
Lmao.
The Wall is real for men who let themselves go.
That’s 100 percent
@@sarahdawnmoore I forgot to write down your what's App forgive me.
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Which would be better learning from the same partner for 40 + years of awesome everything or learn from many partners? Asking for a friend.
Could you ask Allison advice in Lesbian role models,as in movie "TAR" (23) is all the problem caused when one side takes a dominant role?
A Japanese woman said: Once you disrespect a man all you have left is the club
Got some books to buy and read. How awesome is it to learn?!?!!!!
@The_SarahMoore_. Ok, I’m ready. What’s on your mind?
A QUESTION FOR WOMEN
Exactly when are you going to start fighting for the divorce laws for the divorce laws, child custody laws, domestic violence laws and false accusations laws to be made fairer to men?
All I want is to meet someone who gets me and who is nice and caring. I want someone to start a life with. But what I get is a million overly high standards. The look of disappointment and disgust when I met a girl on a first date. Ghosting after a date without the decency of telling me why they are not interested. The looking off into the distance avoiding eye contact while eating dinner. The humiliation of being told I am not dating material or being told that me having social anxiety is a red flag.
This is why I don’t approach women. They treat me like I am garbage.
Thanks to women I now have it in my head that I am not good enough for anyone.
Women have broken me and I don’t think I can come back from it.
Approaching women is not worth the humiliation and embarrassment that comes with it. Men have to do all the work while women just sit back and let us chase them. Well the chase isn’t worth it.
@@The_SarahMoore_. how about no and how about you stop impersonating people.
Women were not property they were responsibility
Sarah….is that your 4 x 5 camera in the background?
Interesting.
Women think more about what men think than men think!
"If you wanna understand men, go talk to that woman" - Female logic 101
Feminism has destroyed the relationship between me and women. It starts with understanding there are differences and accepting our differences. Not to be belittled and told we're worthless and not needed. We don't need women, why would we want to be with one who would destroy us? I've been ridiculed for being a man my whole life even from my own mother. She's the main reason I'm not married and likely never will be. A women has to prove she can be trusted not be an idiot, and not to denigrate. If she wants her rights she must also accept responsibility; this is solely lacking in women.
A Real Man Learns About Himself From A Woman....Thank you Both