The One thing WOMEN will NEVER UNDERSTAND about MEN | Christine Reacts
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Women don't want to know and truly don't care, how men feel.
hate. They use language of hate . Dr lightmans work.
100% true. They are very, very good at emulating empathy and psychological manipulation.
They do!
But the reason is dark, very dark. It might be the hardest to swallow "red pill" of all.
Why she wants you vulnerable: th-cam.com/video/UjmpVi_5844/w-d-xo.html
Occam's Razor: th-cam.com/video/ITolYeDyKWw/w-d-xo.html
Yup.
The best lesson I have ever internalized is that no one cares unless you make yourself a man of value. Even then, it's only so long as you show or prove that value everyday.
"Men are simple beings"
Men: *built the entire goddamn world*
And it is men who KEEP IT RUNNING.
Adding to that there was a survivor island experiment sometime in the mid 2000s where they put around a dozen men on one remote island, and a dozen women on another island. All beyond the horizon from each other. All individuals were professionals and volunteered with their own consent.
In a matter of weeks the men only island built the equivalent of proto-industrialised society. The women only island had to be rescued from life threatening outcomes through outside intervention multiple times, and they still hadn't been able to light their first fire, build shelter, or build a process for clean drinking water.
Worth watching the entire documentary on it.
Both are true. We are easy to please. We know what we want. We know how to communicate that. Women have it easy when they are with a man. And they still screw it up.
Men's needs are simple and their interpersonal communication is relatively simple, but they aren't simple beings. Men designed and built everything in this world. Simpletons don't accomplish such things.
The two are not contradictory
The first time a man will be bought flowers is his funeral, let that sink in.
If that even. Many men after death are chunked unceremoniously into a hole in the ground and buried without even a marker.
While true. Not a good comparison. The men I know don’t want flowers. IMO, respect, words of affirmation are flowers to men.
Most women (not all) know exactly what they're doing. They let a man open up just enough to throw his trauma in his face at the first sign of trouble. It's deliberate and it brings joy to their hearts.
I hope that isn't true. That is pretty sick. I try to keep in mind that women are miserable and hate themselves most of the time because they are taught to focus too much on themselves, their looks and not taught to develop good qualities.
@mistyaprilartist it is. All of the girls I've ever known do it all the time
Yeah, I am in my mid 40's and that has been my experience.@@mistyaprilartist
Never be vulnerable to any woman. They’re like the cops. They aren’t your friends and everything you say will be used against you.
@mistyaprilartist most men's experience with opening up to women is that it has come back to bite them in the butt inevitably. I expressed some concerns with a girl I was considering proposing to. Her response was tough nuts
As a man that grew up with women I learnt that women say they care more, but men actually help more. My mother and sisters are very quick to accept help from men, but they are not quick to give it. I helped them in so many ways and they say if you ever need help just let me know, but on the rare occasion I asked, I was told I need to do it on my own. 33 now and am very disappointed in how females just use men, yet they call themselves the loving gender. I've tried talking to them about it, but they don't see it from a mans perspective. I believe they have pride in the ability that they can manipulate people to give them what they want. Out of a mother and three sisters I only on rare occasion talk to one sister now.
You've hit the nail squarely on the head there my man, their true nature revealed to you in all its gory horror!
They are cold reptilian creatures incapable of giving love or indeed anything that costs more than empty words.
Avoid!!
I've found that no one will help, but at least the people who don't say they'd help aren't lyin'...
check out the passport bros movement. non western woman are not like that.
Yes, I've had issues with assistance. My wife routinely uses my time to complete her tasks when she has overextended herself, but if I ever ask her for help with anything I have to put up with a whole rant about how busy she is and how valuable her time is and how I should do it by myself. I've given up asking for anything unless it's an emergency.
She routinely uses phrases like "use your words", but if I ever want to discuss anything that bothers me I am shouted down and insulted.
It is Not in a Females Nature to Love & Nurture, but to Survive doing the Least Possible.
This was the lingering feeling I had that started about a decade ago. My co-workers kept on asking me why I'm single but I can't quite put my finger on it. I did say I prefer the peace and quiet but this video just spelled it out right: there's very few women worth loving.
It's also none of their business.
It is the reason I gave up on dating years ago. It is more Hassel then what it's worth. I like the solitude and freedom of being alone. I also appreciate not having to constantly think about the feeli gs, wants and needs of someone else. It has relived a lot of stress from my life. Both the not caring or thinking about dating and the stress from the having to constantly think about another person and what making them happy.
you can also only give as much as you receive, of your woman doesn't like it cut the relationship and keep searching.
and if you don't finy any that values your time stay single. i don't know how others see this but i'm fine with staying alone.
there are times where it hurts but it's still better than wasting your love away for someone not worth it.
gonkers
⭐️ Exactly! Men only require: Food, Affection & Peace and they will do whatever You want…
As a man who has spent most of his life alone I can say that he is absolutely correct in everything he said. Problem is that when you in a situation where you have been alone for too long you shut down emotionally and just begin to operate as a machine. Now I struggle to feel anything for anybody. Sad part is that feeling this way has become so normal for me that when I do spend time with people it can only be in short installments or I feel suffocated and need to get away back to my isolation.
Exactly what I do now.
Yesterday I was trying to put into words why I just don’t feel things anymore and this was a revelation. Thank you
Litteraly me
Same
I am in the same boat. When left alone for too long you start to build a "shell" that hardens you a bit to things in life.
I'm not at the point where I am inhumane and cannot sympathize or empathize. But I do take on the persona of an observer more than I used to.
And I have less emotional involvement in my life experiences these days. I think old age also plays a part in that as well.
I would have given anything for my wife to simply want me. Intimacy for her was a chore - something she was obligated to do, not from the heart. Never once in 25 years of marriage did she say, "thank you for everything you do for me and this family" - she felt entitled to my work, and even belittled my labor by saying, "You would have gone to work anyway if you were single". Imagine my feeling with that dagger to the heart.
I get the feeling in relationships there is one giving and self-sacrificing partner and one selfish, greedy, self-centered individual im not sure if i have noticed it always being the wife who is selfish. In any case i hate that someone is working so hard out of love for the family but not ever thanked or appreciated😢 im so sorry for anyone going through that.
A single man can work at pizza hut and be happy under the right circumstances. But a family man has to take the job that pays for his wife and kids, even if it's a job he hates. I don't get how some women don't understand that having a "career" is its own sacrifice if you hate your job.
A mans view to her dismissal of your efforts would be,
"You'd have to pay for your own home, car, and bills, clean, wash clothes and dishes, etc for yourself anyway...so what's the big deal about anything you do in our relationship...as a matter of fact what do you have to offer a man other than half hearted, boring, lazy, s3ggsual relations every once in a great while"?
That's female nature!
Now let that sink in, and learn!
Yes; I would have gone to work. Then You would not benefit.
Yeah, I can confirm that as a man, no one outside of family and a few close friends give a shit if you’re suffering.
It's worse when they (strangers, randos, "mates", etc.) pretend they care. No need to gaslight me just to make you feel better about yourself, please and thank you.
Not even
@@nevis8106 it’s the norm rather than the exception for men. All you see in media is the extreme minority of men, yet every assumption about men is based on them.
I would say other than mom and dad, nobody REALLY cares.
@nevis8106women’s suffering is taken seriously. I mean, even if we just talk about quality of life, look how much society does to prevent homelessness for women. A homeless man is just thought of as a bum to blame for his circumstance. I would say a majority of people would immediately give the benefit of the doubt to a woman and ask “what did _________ do to you that you ended up here?”, while simultaneously starting a gofundme organizing help. For a man, “what did you do to end up homeless?”
On the emotions side, when a woman is suffering, she talks about it online and the collective community has a cry and jumps in the comments to assure her she’s not alone and everyone cares for her. When a man shares his struggles, pu$$ies dry up and he’s pretty much thought of as a weak man who shares too much.
Not one scar was made on my heart by my enemy, they were left there by people who said they "loved me".
💯 Exactly!
Great quote. Whose is it?
hell yes brother true
@@Nepomukje Tommy Shelby, a fictitious character
"Loved me"
"Only Women Children & Dogs are Loved Unconditionally" - Chris Rock
Don't forget their cats.
There is a reson why my wife wsnts a Dog.
I honestly don't think women are loved unconditionally. There are clear limits, more then men yes, they are coddled and protected more, but women if they act like big enough piece of shit will be alone too
My boss cares more about me than women do, and HE really really doesn't give a shit about me.
I remember having this feeling and now I don’t care. I lost it and just staying alone is more peaceful and less painful.
5 stages grief and acceptance, eventually when left alone long enough... it is normalized and agoraphobia starts
@@ghostcogagoraphobia?
@@ghostcog I love riding motorcycles so I have to go out to do that. I just rather be alone. I’m not afraid to leave the house.
@@JamesBrownlip not so much a fear, but a displeasure in interaction. More like a generic hate for humanity that shapes behavior similar to it. It may not be the proper word, but the closest I found to cast observation of it. Are you aware of a better one?
@@R3vokenDallout1ona fear of places or situations that may cause panic or embarrassment
Like Bill Burr says, women’s problems are acknowledged and globally addressed. Men’s problems, if recognized at all, are just funny. I suspect it will always be so.
But most medicine was tested for men not women? 🤔
@@msovaz77 No.
There was a lesbian author, who decided to go undercover and become a man for a series of articles. She had a professional makeup people do her, and she pretty much looked the part. She hung out with a group of men, joined the bowling league with them, was accepted by them, and learned what it was like to be a man through them. She wrote her book, fell into a deep depression, and later self-deleted. This hurts me because she could have beencome such a spokesman for men. And it is so hard to find a woman who truly understands what it's like to be a man. And to tell you honestly men don't give a s*** if she's a lesbian or not, if she understands it's a female voice.
If she had stayed with the men group, they probably could have helped her since they know just what she is suffering, and as men would be willing to help a woman.
I had the same thoughts about that woman.
Her name is Norah Vincent ,have a nice day!
Yep, Norah Vincent. She wrote "Self Made Man" which I highly recommend everyone read.
There's also a TH-cam video about her 18 month 'trip' of discovery by living as a man.
One thing that stood out was when one of the CBS reporters asked her if women had any idea what men go through, she answered "No. They don't have a clue. They don't understand, can't understand."
When I was near broken and used up in my relationships with both ex wifes, I reached a point where each saw me cry. Sobbing... I immediately saw the disdain in their eyes and the last bit of respect for me washed away by the tears. I think sharing this is not good. Showing men's weakness to women never ends well. Even though they want emotionally available men....
Women don't want men who are emotional though, they just say they do because feminism trained them to say it. Anytime a man shows his emotions, women get massively turned off, because they want a man to be strong, full of self belief and conviction etc. The moment you show emotional vulnerability, they will look down on you and lose respect for you.
Interestingly though, another major difference between men and women is that we can bounce back. A woman can view you with utter disgust, but if you better yourself, she will follow you around like a puppy begging for another chance. Whereas us men, once we lose interest in a woman, it tends to be permanent. Women are changeable, they have short memories, not so much with men, we remember the slights and insults, and punish them for it.
That is the value of having options, you will never need to settle for a woman who disrespects you.
They want men emotionally available to them. They detest male emotions, especially positive ones. And they have the hots for rude and violent behavior.
@@zalamael From Mr. Darcy, Pride and Prejudice: "My good opinion once lost is lost forever." And Elizabeth, the viewpoint character, says (and thinks) that while that may be a fault, it is not one you can laugh at. As Chesterton said (and I'm paraphrasing here): "I do prefer Jane Austen to modern female writers. She had one great talent that the modern writers lack: she could accurately and coolly describe a man."
It's a very good thing to remember, mainly because there are few women that argue against P&P and its overall themes (it's the modern source of rom-com tropes, after all.)
For sure. I'm convinced that women saying they want men in tune with their emotions is actually a trap.
That the man who falls into it, thinking it's ok because she said it was, is now immediately disqualified and this
will be apparent in a few weeks or months as she ends the relationship. A test just failed. I know with every fibre
of my being that around women , family aside, you have to be emotionally stoic and don't ever let them see you
fazed or tear up. Women are quietly ruthless
What women mean by 'emotionally available', is that the man has to be available to dump all of their own emotions on whenever they feel the need. If you try to lean on them, you're just showing weakness to a potential predator.
This is precisely why I'm teaching my daughter that "if you don't feel the same way, if you don't see him as a potential suitor, don't accept anything from him."
while we're at it. why accept anything at all?
Many former classmates of mine of Highschool have asked me why I became so cold and uncaring for people when I was the opposite in highschool. I always tell them that I saw the world for what it was and realize no one gives a damn about me or what I feel, so why bother caring about others if they won’t care about me
It's the harsh reality you learn as a man - the world only cares about you to the extent you're capable of offering something in return. If you can't offer anything, the world doesn't care about you. You bear the pain in silence.
It's not that the world is against YOU.. it's that the world doesn't think about men!.. don't take it personally
Sadly learned the same now cold as ice
A man has zero intrinsic value or worth-with the only possible exception being cannon fodder in the event of war
That’s stupid. You get what you give. Give love and kindness and you will receive in kind.
I am 74, second marriage, a couple of other past relationships, I have never been truly loved. I am a resource. Your acknowledgment of the male condition is greatly appreciated. I am not saying woman have no problems, or they are also not misunderstood, but just to a lessor degree. You are truly a beautiful person, not just physically. I wish there were more like you.
You said one word here that absolutely killed me and was the reason I left a relationship that was, in its entirety my role, a resource.
"All he wants is sex" ...
to which ... If all I want is sex, all you want is my resources...
"Nu uh... "
Another sad part of this is there are many partnered men feeling this as well. Fulfilling the provider roll without the love and affection needed for a truly fulfilling life.
The sad thing is shes making this video for attention and doesnt give 2 shits about Male suffering
That is heartbreaking. Reminds me of a line from some movie the grown daughter starts to see how self-sacrificing her dad had been but completely overlooked by her mom. She asked if he was loved enough by the family. He says "whats enough?"
I felt more lonely during my last relationship than while being single now.
@@nightmareTomek Spot on, Tomek. No loneliness is deeper than when you're trapped in a loveless relationship, giving all you have and getting nothing in return.
We replace women with things pretty easily, its easy to give care and love to our hobbies and passions. Today, at my 40s, I rather give love and care to my motorcycle. At least is not gonna treat me poorly.
Once you understand women, you stop loving them and you start loving your friends, your pets, your job, your hobbies and your religion.
Young guys just have no father these days to teach them not to give love to women.
My dad didn’t do much right, BUT he taught me well, never to give love to any woman. It’s the only thing I thank him for.
Unless it got a Lucas system...
I always had good luck with most old motorcycles... but one of mine is definitely female. I have been trying to figure that princess out for almost 10 years now. Up to and including a full engine rebuild. I can't think of a single bolt that I haven't touched. Thing still runs different every time I start it. Another bike, made in the same factory by the same company, it's 57 years old, never been apart, always works. Reliable as a stone cathedral. The epitome a Japanese man from the 60s.
@@doctorcatnip2551 yes, they love themselves, if there are women who aren't narcissists, I haven't met them. We had cats over the years , they showed me unconditional love, and never insulted me. I can't say I've known any females at all in my 49 years like that. My former brother-in-law had a coworker whose wife cheated on him. She was a little chubby, but beautiful, he also had 2 beautiful brunette daughters, I say this because despite that, he described ALL women, in his eyes, to my brother-in-law. : "They're just holes". Damn that's pretty harsh😂
"Stone figure who pulls put his wallet" I paid a several hundred dollar bill for a party of five at a top restaurant. The waitress never looked my way at all during the evening. Only the two women in our group were asked question, or given suggestions or were asked if they were ready to move on to the next course. Then she handed me the bill.
8% tip for such poor service.
That’s what simping gets you.
The real question is: Did you learn your lesson?
Yes, I did learn my lesson, command the respect deserved to me. My guests were all there bc I asked them to be, so I'm paying the bill. That's not going to change. The hostesses were fine, they knew and asked *me* if a roof patio table would be an acceptable upgrade. I canvased the group and told the hostess, yes thank you. Next time when the server comes and only looks to the women to set the cadence for the evening, I'm politely speaking up. It's my name on the table and they are all respecting me as my guests, and you'll direct your questions my way.
Waitress did exactly the same thing to me the last time I went to restaurant. This has to be some new trend. Had an automatic 20% tip programmed into the register too.
Of course she did. Women are notoriously crappy tippers. Even worse in groups. I remember when I bussed tables the faces fall when a group of 4 women with no kids came in....even a woman with kids was better.
Women don't care. They know, but they don't care.
At least there’s one woman out there that is truly trying to understand a man’s struggle instead of calling him an incel or pathetic loser. Appreciate you ❤
It's good to spread the information, yes. however besides of that. with females online you never know. most likely they do it for the money or the fame (or both).
you can always give them the benefit of the doubt, but most likely they are just grifters.
Still as I said, even then, increasing awareness is not a bad thing.
Chameleons
No, the only woman who will truly love you is your mother (if she's a good mother).
@@nighthawk82they could probably make more money spreading hate like Sarkeesian
You're naïve. It's just about money and entertainment to her.
I never knew this. It's truly sad and it breaks my heart💔💔💔💔💔. Women are so ungrateful for the privileges and soft life that men work hard everyday to give us.
Considering her last video, feeling anything by this doesn't change anything by t2....thus meaningless, understanding is worthless without action.
That's a funny joke😂
You don't actually care about us stop lying
What do you want her to do? Suddenly be every average man's girlfriend? There's only one of her. The best she can do is look at men differently from now on and talk to her friends about these things and hope to persuade them.
And, yes, pray...
@@ghostcog🎉😂😂😂🎉😂😅😮😮 12:24 😮
@@ghostcog😅😅 12:24 u9y 12:24 😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅
As a Man I can confirm this is perfectly true
I have my dog to give love to. She’s always grateful, she depends on me, trusts me, and shows her appreciation in her own way and I know it’s there. It gives me a sense of purpose.
Great video! I remember a female stand up comedian saying this to women who wonder if the man is interested in them: give him something to do. It doesn't matter what it is, if he does it, he's interested. Personnally, I lived about 40 years of my life knowing that I had a lot to give, but no one to give it to. It seemed like it did not matter that I worked so hard on myself and was desperate to find that someone special who would just let me take care of her and, maybe, appreciate it. I finally found her and we've been happy together for over 12 years now. Don't give up guys.
Or like I tell my sisters, is a stranger talking to you? They want to bang you, guaranteed, until somehow proven otherwise, I'm a man, I'm your big brother, and I'm telling you this, no man talks to any woman he doesn't WANT unless it's at work or you're buying something. Just know that's there on their minds at all times, you won't go wrong.
Happy for you, man. Some of us have really had it, and we get the blame for everything that went wrong, while she bangs a Chad in the morning and a tyrone at night. I would rather make something of my life than risk losing everything again to another modern woman.
I want a man to do the 'reverse' of that awful preaching moment in the Barbie movie where America Ferrera does her monologue about how *impossible* it is to be a woman. Men have it incredibly tough and no one seems to get that. Tragic what is happening.
Such a simple point, change it to impossible to be a PERSON, and everything, evrything solves.
Norah Vincent tried to live as a man, and she found out what is *truly* hard (RIP).
Bla bla bla. Nobody cares what you want.
If you do you get called an incel misogynist or get told to man up and no one really cares. Women accuse men of having so much privilege when 95% of men don't women only see the top 5% of men. Being social and dating is also way harder for men since people are less likely to accepting of a man both men and women where as women are really accepted almost everywhere and are far more picky when it comes to things like looks and money and honestly pretty much averything else, most dudes will be lucky and appreciate if an average woman talks to them or acknowledges them.
@@gumdeoI was about to say that just in a harsher way. The last woman that tried to fill a man’s shoes got that shocked by the treatment from other women she ended herself.
I’ve been single since my divorce almost 3 years ago, haven’t dated since or anything, the 2 women i have talk to were intimidated by the fact that i have daughter, who basically recieves all my love when she’s with me…. this video has made me realize what i’ve been feeling for about 2 years now, i have a full tank of love to give to a woman and no woman to give it to. Its sad, but true.
Give it to your daughter and perhaps you can make her into one of the few that makes a good wife and mother.
Those women are jealous that there might be another female receiving some of your attention. They also do this with guys when he gives a TINY bit more attention to his dog. I seen it, lived it.
@@christophersmith8316 i'm sure that he already does that because he knows he should. but it doesn't make the pain go away and it doesn't make the struggle any easier.
As a man who was in relationships all my life, was married, had girlfriends that wanted kids from me, I was always confused by the dynamic of these partnerships. Too often one sided, giving, giving and receiving crumbs. Always finding excuses for their lack of empathy. One day I finally understood that women like how you make them feel. They love to be loved. You are a placeholder. If life get hard for you at one point you will be alone, probably replaced. Since then life is so much simpler. I stopped caring for something that wasn’t real in the first place.
“I stopped caring for something that wasn’t real in the first place.” This is the way. Once you realize you're yearning for something that isn't even real, it really takes the load off. You don't have to worry or care anymore about something that is as fake as Santa Claus or the Easter Bunny.
That opening statement hit the nail on the head. I want someone to love. I never even think about having someone to love me, and I didn't notice it until just now.
This is the biggest difference between men and women, that we actually want someone in our lives to take care of and to love, but women, at least in this era, think the whole world is supposed to revolve around them. A 24 y.o. college grad woman who had just got married and had a kid summed it up that way, I was 23 at the time, and it is so true. And damn near all women are ignorant to this fact. Wasn't always like this. My grandmother was not like this, but modern women are self-absorbed and narcissists.
As a 19 year old kid, women don't care about us no matter how much they say they do. They never have, they never will. Knowing the way women have always been, we're better off alone. At least when we're alone we get to keep everything we work for.
There are women that genuinely care, always have been and always will be. We're just in an era of culture that suppresses that in them and encourages people in general and women especially to focus on secondary things as if they are primary and vice versa.
You are too young to be this dark and cynical. Turn this around or you'll be falling from a bridge in ten years or less.
The thing to do is not to mope and gripe but to work to change this culture.
Do NOT listen to the other reply here! I am 43. Been a bachelor all my life!
Trust me! Do NOT simp. There are no “good women”. That’s the biggest trap you can fall into.
Walk away from women! Trust me, you will thank god 20 years in the future!!
Ignore David Plummer. He's just a blue pilled simp.
Yes mate just do your own thing don’t believe the crap. Keep your own shit and live live to the full. And it’s a great life. Marriage is just a contract that you have to give 90% of your stuff to the wife. Trust me I found out the hard way. Just live with them if you want. Why do you need a contract that you must give her all your stuff if she cheats
I'm a 47years old, I'm an old fart now... So even when they pretend to care about us, it's just blah blah blah and never any actions taken. They can't be bothered step off their ideological pedestals even temporarily and interact with average people in a way that improves society. Best case scenario: 1 woman might recognize feminism caused harm to society but she loves the extra power, scholarships, automatic job promotions, infinite perks and the biased legal system sooooooo much, she'll never take any steps to challenge the corruption.
Men always have been and always will be alone, this a is permanent human condition. Yep it's not bad at all, we get to keep our stuff now since women see us as invisible! It's a hidden superpower: It's called, "Sloor-o-nite." It repulses women from average men and tractor beams them towards lavish parties attended by NBA players! Sloor-o-nite has a 100% success rate when used by non-beta males.
my god. i never realized that the hardest part about being single is literally that i'm a pretty good cook and no one else eats my cooking. i'm a pretty good piano player and no one else listens to my music.
The hardest part about being single is that I'm actually a great writer, and can write beautiful poetry. But no one will ever read a poem from me, because I refuse to write anything that doesn't come from love.
The most interesting part about being alone 24/7 is that no one knows what my O face looks like, but I do make it often 😂
I've been alone for nearly 40 years. I gave up trying to meet a woman and walked away for my mental health.
I found ways to be happy, came to treasure and even became protective of my solitude. I've said for decades that what hurt so much was not that no one wanted me, loved me, but no one wanted my love.
It was so great to hear another man say that and understand. An added bonus that this woman reacting to his video understood that.
I gave all that love I longed to give a wife and children to my pets, my garden, my land, my home, my art and music (that no one hears) and to myself.
But it's not quite the same. The lack of another human's touch, a caress, a pat on the shoulder, a kiss, an embrace, intimacy, romance, sexual ectasy shared, that welling feeling of love for someone you've chosen to share your life with.
I love my dog and he loves me. It's just not the same.
Why didn't someone want me and all I had to give them?
The question has haunted me always. It's the one that plays on endless loop in my head during the dark days and nights when depression overwhelms me and the pain feels unbearable for another second. Then I somehow survive that second, and the next...
I don't fear death.
Death is when the pain stops.
That is true.
After the theft of all of my children and being sneered at by the law, I live in the jungle all by myself. I have come to love trees; they appreciate my care for them.
Indeed nobody wanting his love is a source of tremendous pain for a man.
I accept that women don't like me. At this point, at 42 years old and never married, I just want to be left alone.
It's more likely that you're invisible to women. They have no emotions one way or the other for men they do not see.
58 yrs old.
1. Investments to safely cover my month by 150%.
2. Mind. I learn spanish, plumbing, construction, nursing.
3. Body. I run, lift, yoga, endurance training
4. Soul. I draw, paint, sculpt, wood crafts
5. I learn philosophy and fallacies and have a group to keep social skills up.
KEEP ON ROCKING BROTHER
If you want to continue a peaceful life with all your resources, stay single. You are doing the right thing. I was married for over 27 years. The divorce wrecked me financially and emotionally. I never recovered financially. The emotional scars have healed over, but the fear of enduring that trauma again prevents me from ever getting involved with another woman. Just stay single, you are better off.
@@RespectMyAuthoritaahOnce bitten, twice shy.
My ex filed for divorce to live with her MARRIED BOYFRIEND. I got custody of our 3 kids. FULL CUSTODY. SO she Then filed for PFA which was the dismissed by judge. a couple weeks later she filed ANOTHER PFA which was also dismissed. BUT THIS TIME THE JUDGE EMBARASSED THE HELL OUT OF HER BY SCREAMING AT HER AND MAKING HER PAY FOR ALL THE COURT COSTS. The 3rd time I offered her a deal that we would BOTH have PFA'S just to stop the day's off work. THESE were NOT the only times coming into the court house because of her accusations. She told CHURCH member's that I had been ABUSING her and THAT was how she got the PFA. My employer was going to the same church. Different congregation but his WIFE heard the rumors and wanted me FIRED. He didn't believe ANY of it and told me so. All I said was "{IF THERE WAS A HINT OF ABUSE WOULD I HAVE FULL CUSTODY OF 3 KIDS IN THE STATE OF PA."??? He told me he never believed it because the whole time I've worked with him he has NEVER seen me get angry. Never saw me YELLING at anyone. Never heard me say anything bad about others. Never heard me use FOUL LANGUAGE. Plus he knew I never drank or ever smoked or did drugs. Did ALL THAT help me in the court of LAW??? DEFINENTLY NOT!!! I built the 2 story house, 4bdrm, oversize 2 car garage with attached family rm. with cathedral ceiling. When I say BUILT I mean I made it from the ground up. The concrete, the walls, the roof, windows. wiring , insulation, drywall, spackling, painting, flooring, shingles, siding, window casing and soffit. She stained one side of a closet door and got half of EVERYTHING because I was FORCED TO SELL MY HOUSE BY THE COURTS AND give her the money. Now also... I did the laundry, dishes, cleaning, landscaping and yardwork and cooking. I taught THE 3 KIDS TO READ, WRITE, ADDITION, SUBTRACTION, MUTIPLICATION AND DIVISION before they started KINDERGARDEN. The work, years, effort, patience, tolerance, all this while working FULL time. sometimes 55 hrs a week. AND SHE STILL GETS HALF??? How can a man do more and she still gets half of everything for cheating with a married man??? WHO DUMPED HER AS SOON AS HIS WIFE FOUND OUT. BECAUSE HE HAD NEVER PLANNED ON LEAVING HIS WIFE FROM THE START. She still to this day, 29 years after she moved out taking everything she wanted while I was at work, tells people she was abused during our 20 year relationship.
Could you gather evidence of her lies and sue her for defamation? I’m talking damages so she will count the cost before she continues with the lies.
Many such cases. Family court stress resulted in my best friend dying of stage IV colon cancer at 39.
Hoe Math. I am a woman so I deserve it.
@@mlockette8084no he can't they won't allow the evidence when it's a man sueing a woman.
There are cases like this everywhere…. it’s why so many men don’t want to get married… sorry, brother
This is EXACTLY HOW I FELT in my 20s (aka THE WORST TIME TO BE A MAN). I'M 45 now, and STILL haven't found it. In today's world I'M DISPOSABLE AS HELL TO MODERN WOMEN.
I am 43 and I went complete MGTOW 17 years ago. I couldn’t be happier.😊
@@doctorcatnip2551 Yuuuuuup. 42 here.... and I WISH I went MGTOW when you did. I'm only 7 years in. 😢
So much time wasted. At least I never married or had kids.
@@mountainmgtow5421 No wife. No kids.
Sounds like you made it to safety. 😀
Congratulations! 🥳🥂🍾🎉🎊
Worse then being disposable, to modern women most men are invisible.
Felt the same way. @ 48 met a younger woman, stayed with her too long. Definitely a modern woman, she felt entitled, world revolved around her, & that I was lucky to have her. She drained me of everything $$$ I worked for!! Broke, but happily single and free of her. Not going to look, contemplate another relationship. I can be celibate and happy..
This was excellent. I’ll go a step further. The natural drives that a man experiences (the male form of nurturing) is not only denied by women, they’re actually vilified for it. How many times have you heard that hot women hate nice guys? That niceness makes women’s skin crawl, but has anyone ever thought that his natural drives are just not very well done? Should he be ostracised for not being that great at showing that he needs to give love? We men are rejected every single day for our need to love someone. I’m 60, I’ve never married, have no children, and I know something of what I speak.
Geoff from Fremantle Western Australia 🇦🇺
In my 21 years of marriage my wife at the time now my ex always chose her job...once we had kids she chose our kids. Couldn't care less about her husband. I would organise things for us...her job came first but she always had time for her friends. Seperated and divorced for over 3 years and i couldn't be happier.
Women make little to no effort in forming romantic relationships. They rarely send signals they want to be approached, they don’t initiate conversations, they rarely ask a guy out, they don’t take a guy out even after the first date, they don’t give the first kiss, they don’t initiate sex, they don’t spoil a guy in some way even when he spoils her, they’re horrible at keeping a conversation going on a dating app, they don’t give compliments. They just want to sit back and receive love, not give it. They shouldn’t be confused why many men are throwing in the towel, or just wanting sex if that’s all they’re offering
Absolutely 100% Correct. Women never love Men !!!
True. Haven't had too many relationships but I also saw how little effort any of them ever placed into them. Few compliments, no spoiling or even basic favors; the gifts I got on birthdays or Christmas were a token effort. But one did get upset that I only got her 3 expensive purses for her birthday (yes, I was naive and stupid then) and complained that the only time I got her flowers for was for Valentines day.
@@gabem6863 What ??? Didn't you want a Pair of Socks for Christmas ?
Such treatment is only reserved for Chad. Women are capable of love (to a large extent) only if you're Chad.
whenever a female asks me "what's wrong?" I started responding with "Why? Why do you want to know?" Not with any attitude, as earnest as I can, because I want them to reflect on why they want to know and then I say "if you are trying to see if you can help me fix my problem, then I'll tell you. But, if you're just asking so you can tell me why I shouldn't have a problem or to get defensive if my problem is something you did, then I'll keep it to myself"
I always end up keeping to myself. I don't waste my energy arguing with someone who would rather protect their ego and win the argument rather than solve the issue. They are weak hearted cowards and I don't get mad about it, that's just how they are. It is rather ironic that the feminist mantra is about how strong and brave women are..
"Realistic life size dolls for men are what cats are to single women who never got married!"
Holy Moly! That is good! I'm gonna remember that one!
stay strong. ai robots are coming.
"She's beautiful. Is she real?"
"Nah. Too messy, man. Out of commission five days a month."
"I know what you're saying. I wanna make myself very small and hide for that entire period."
"They don't hold that long, a decade or so."
"No life time guarantee, no."
"No "settings" panel - that's *really* awesome, man. A "mute" button - very useful."
"I never can get though the news without having a full alternative audio track."
But remember women do that to themselves by choice---we probably wouldnt have even considered such a thing if it wasn't for the fact they've revealed their true feelings and reptilian nature towards men.
Its different because replacing a problem with technology vs cats is her consolation once shes over the hill
Gotta say, I'd dig a little robot. xD
This video was another datapoint in my observations. My impression over the years is that woman don’t care about men in general. They may care about a man specifically, but when I see how cruelly they treat men in general, I am digusted.
Like the old saying "Women don't realise what love is until they have children"
Modern women don't realize what love is even after they have children. The children are just guaranteed money for 18-21 years.
Love?
That's just oxytocin increase they get that's all
Being filled with love to bursting but not having a companion to give it to IS spot on. I've felt this way for years, yet have nobody to share it with.
People don’t need to know this on an individual level. It’s not important. On societal level, we are already experiencing the tragic results of disaffected men. More pain is coming, because we haven’t reached the bottom yet.
Message for lonely and sad men: dry your tears and put on your armor child, it's time to become a man, no woman cares about your suffering, They only care how a man feels when it affects performance as a slave, embraces celibacy, stoicism, apathy and self-sufficiency, the stronger you become the less suffering
Maybe we should stop calling it suffering. And stop suffer so much as well. We're lonely, sure, but to immerse yourself in that pain is the wrong thing to do. Society taught us that we can only be happy with a woman, but it's not actually true.
@@nightmareTomek Should be called tempering the steel.
@@gabem6863More like forging, annealing and tempering the steel sword.
A man can learn to love the four year old boy he once was; the child who needed a father or grandfathers love and approval.
‘Bout time someone said it! Thank you Christine for spreading the truth!
Simp!
Beware the chameleon mate!
They're all reptiles.....
I had that feeling all my late 20's until my 40's, now I'm almost 42 and become almost numb to the idea of love and relationships, as I had to train myself to stop expecting to find purpose in a relationship or the idea of finding someone. At least I stay very active and use my time wisely working on projects I have, but honestly it feels like I had been reprogrammed to not expect anything as a man-woman relationship. I have to say, technically I spent all my 30's being single with barely no romance. Anyway, he speaks better than I do and whatever he said I validate.
I'm 4 years younger than you, but now I am indifferent towards love. Want to know how I finally shut it off? It was the day I found out there was no personhood behind the greed. It's all just fake personality, fake words, fake notions, etc. I used to look for the deeper meaning. I used to wonder "what hurt them so bad to be like this" because I still didn't realize that women don't love like we do. One day I found out, "they aren't suffering from being a victim, they are suffering from lack of possessing a victim". It's like the wizard of Oz: once you peak behind the curtain and see the real them, it's hard to ever take their constructed personalities serious
@@T26OG. Also known as being red-pilled. The blinders fell off and your eyes were opened to the truth of how women really are. It hurts like an open, festering wound at first, this realization- that you've been lied to by pretty much everybody since birth. Your parents, your teachers, the media, the government- even Walt fricking Disney has been in on the big lie. But once you know, you know- and you can never go back to the self-destructive blindness again.
@@dustysmoke4996 yeah, that sounds like me in 1995. It's all such bull shit anymore. Quite frankly it's always been shitty. It's like that one saying during dark side of the moon, I forget which, but: "There is no dark side of the moon. Matter of fact, it's all dark."
Swedenborg was voted the greatest scientist in history, and he reported that in heaven we will finally find our perfect soulmate. I believe it. Now is the time for separating the wheat from the chaff so don't despair, time will heal all wounds.
the last words my ex said to me were "you dont do enough for me"
then she moved to the greener grass, which turned out to be a desert.
then her friends started telling me she was always moaning how hard it was doing everything by herself.
strangely once she was gone i was doing less than when she was here.
Can't wait to watch the world burn, I hate being here.
It will be over before 2024 strikes!!!!
I know exactly how you feel friend..
I hate it here!!..
But hold on just a little longer, there's so many stupid people here now, it won't be long till we can sit back and watch them burn it all down 🔥
Me too bro, it's the only way to get
the world back to normal again.
Back to what? The blue pilled plantation?
@@doctorcatnip2551I don't think so. We are running this thing back to 1776, not some 1950 blue balls suckers bet.
Better yet, circa 950AD
"Another Saturday night and I ain't got nobody. I got some money 'cause I just got paid. How I wish I had someone to talk to. I'm in an awful way" -Sam Cooke
@@brucejohnston5845 So Sam Cooke wrote and performed the song about 10 years before in the 60s. Cat did his version of Sam's song in the 70s.
The Beatles said it almost 60 years ago. "Do you need anybody? I need somebody to love."
One positive thing that Alexander Grace has always done for me through his explanation of the female psyche is to negate my desire to love and protect women. I long ago realised that the juice is just not worth the squeeze. I'm afraid that too many of us have completely given up on you. I don't get this doll thing either. I have my friemds, my gym regimen and my video games. I'm quite happy living a life of serenity and logic, unhindeered by the stupidity of women.
Dating a modern woman is deciding to absorb her problems as your own.
If they appear to NOT have any problems, they're just that much better at hiding it than others.
And the fact so many women are indifferent,callous towards mens feeings about mgm in the usa speaks volumes of how women feel about men.
That made me remember, after an break up, 4 years relationship, I tried to still give high five and hugs to my ex when, by coincidence, we saw each other in the university, for no reason, just to be friendly. After 2 times, I get a "I don't want to receive your love/friendship, stop that". I understand perfectly, but ye, it hurt...
It's been 2 years since then. I still don't know if I can try again.
I've had several (married) woman ask me "Why are you still single?" because they couldn't understand why I hadn't found someone. I just looked at them, and said "Because I'm average, and most modern women disgust me." It's not that I don't want a relationship, I just want someone emotionally and mentally intact, who's V card doesn't look like it was used as a paper target at range day. I'd rather be single, and live with the pain, than give of myself to someone unworthy. I like sleeping, but I dread going to bed. Because nothing is a more painful reminder that you're alone, than only having a pillow to hold.
V card? I am not native speaker. Care to elaborate?
@GreyDeathVacci "V card" is an idiom that means "virginity"
Brother, I relate to so much of what you shared. All of it. You sound just like me. It is only one factor, but for some of us it is a part of the equation, something that most people did not understand at work when they would "grill me" at work like they talk to you too, but for me, and most of it is my values, my faith in God, but it's more than that, but a woman that has "been with" ,as in marital relations as they used to call it, with other guys before marriage is a huge turn-off to me, a deal-breaker. Everyone in my 49 years has told me : you're gonna be alone then, no one waits til they're married anymore. That's fine. I also don't want to marry a convicted murderer, sorry if that sounds judgemental. There is research on this now, about pair bonding. The more ppl a person has slept with, the percentage that they get divorced skyrockets. At 6 partners, the divorce rate is 80 %, and yet all the pigs I worked with insisted that everyone should sleep with a bunch of people before they get married, or else they won't know how to do it 😂 That's absurd. Most of human history people were only intimate with their spouse, and after they got married. Oh sure, it took them 10 years to figure it out because they didn't have a few dozen hookups before marriage, like my grandparents that married in 1924. Ridiculous. They just want everyone else around behaving like hedonistic slobs so they don't feel guilty.
Great video, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship, I learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago I and my wife divorced because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together ,it was a really bad phase but we got through it
its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is SHELLY RENEE WHITE.
You took her back, anything that happens next you deserve!
@@Ashbringer36yes totally. Whata clown he is.
@@Ashbringer36 💯
While John Donne wrote that no man is an island, it's my view that all men are islands, and always and forever will be. Women and society value men for their productivity. And that's all they are valued. And love? Guys must deliver, and if at some point they fail, that relationship will be over in short order.
“No man is an island.” is the dumbest quote ever.
That's Briffault's Law.
It's why a male's profession is always listed first.
Post-man
Fire-man
Police-man
Etc.....
There is no humanity in your profession or work environment.
A male's humanity must be purchased by his daily works and value for other benefit.
A female's humanity is by default.
That's not an opinion. It is written in laws globally in Government documents aka forces conscription
As well as business practices.
It was this knowledge why the men of our past warned about the monster in the workforce and actively discouraged daughters to start working.
Maybe they couldn't articulate that very well. More likely they were ignored.
Those feelings eventually do go away for us as men if they are not used. That's about the same age for women when they want to settle down. Once men go through the pain of not having anyone to take care of and they fade away, we are pretty happy being by ourselves and just doing things like traveling and staying home watching sports.
Yes. I remember when I first felt the desire to take care of a petite woman. I didn't know where it came from. This feeling kept coming back until it finally stopped. Thanks to your testimony, now I know that I'm not crazy xD
I struggle to put away my longing to love a woman. I’m divorced, 2 kids in college, 68 years old. Haven’t even tried dating in 14 years. Alone and grateful for the peace, but still want a special someone.
@@SeekerGoOn2013 Go to Asia, my friend. They still have some good ones.
This is so true. I just realized this after the first few minutes of watching. women don't feel the same as us men do about loving someone. Some times I think to myself "I have so much love to give, and no one to give it to". That feeling is a different kind of sadness, it's not the loneliness that hurts, it's the fact that you don't have someone you'd die for.
Its so bloody accurate when talking about my own feelings. Giving love to a woman means the world, which is why it affects men so heavily when it falls on deaf ears.
There is a saying: “You can either love women or you can understand them.
Once you truly understand women’s psychology, this feeling of wanting to take care of them will naturally disappear and you will be free!
This feeling of freedom is 1000 times better than the feeling of being madly in love.
@doctorcatnip2551 this breaks my heart... but deep down I know its right 99.999°% of the time. It makes me very sad.
@@KingDomsKingdom85 Don’t be sad! Thank god that you now know the truth.
Give your love to yourself, your male friends, to your pets, your hobbies, your job, people in need. Just never to women!
Don’t be selfish. Expand yourself. Meditate. Find enlightenment. Life is beautiful.
Accept that women despise simps and see it as a lesson. Never give them any love and give everybody else love instead. Trust me, it will transform your life and the life of everyone around you. You won’t be sad anymore.
And the really crazy thing: Women will start adoring you if you give them no love.
I felt the same way because it's a bitter pill to swallow and a huge shock to discover how these reptiles really feel about us---but it's so so freeing and liberating as well---you'll recover and bounce back stronger and happier and live a peaceful life for yourself---and if you need love & companionship and loyalty, get a dog, truly man's best friend .
For anything else, free pron or a "professional" lady---no ties, no comeback, no stress!
This is why female voting rights was a huge mistake. The female part of the population show very little loyalty towards the male part of the population, and uniting everyone through democracy was a terrible idea. What should have been done, was to give the female voters their own female congress where they could govern the female voter base, and a male congress that governs the male voter base. Each responsible for tax revenue from the corresponding voter base, and where any legislation would have to pass both congresses to be valid. Everything would be equal, just separated! Men need their own collective space that is not invaded by women.
That would be a good idea to test at lower levels of government or experiment with in society. But it would cause to much drama as it would expose the differences between men and women and we all know negative perception of women is not tolerated.
@@iamsyourdadi Who cares about what women and society thinks about it. If this is something men want, there is nothing to stop us from doing it. We men hold all real power in society anyway, the kind of power that comes from the barrel of a gun. MGTOW was just a first stepping stone, the next step is not just to check out from society, but for men to collectivley break free from society for real, even in terms of taxation, legislation and such. A real male revolution.
When I was young I used to wonder why so many men over 50 were cynical and negative. Then I reached that age and understood it all too well. You sacrificed the best years of your life for an ungrateful, self centered person that only cared about what she was getting from you. After you're physically exhausted and dealing with physical pain from the years of hard work, she finds someone else, files for divorce and tries to take everything that is left from you, telling blatant lies in the process just because the courts will believe her without requiring any evidence. Marriage is an exclusive, legally binding contract were a man is held liable and responsible for everything and guaranteed nothing. A man can't even count on the rule of law to protect him. He's guilty unless he can prove himself innocent and even then it doesn't always matter to the court. If I had a chance to do it all over again, I would definitely remained single.
Young guys!
Take this gentleman's writings...download. or copy them...print them out...hang these words on your wall, were you will see them, daily.
Read them daily, and know 100 percent, that these words, are absolute truth.
Bless you, Sir.
In a study, from Sweden, - I lived there before, when asked in a pool of women, what are the three most important parts for you in your girl-boy relationship, the women answered: 50% emotional love together, 30% wealth and savings/expenditures together, and 20% sexual. When men where asked the same question their answers in the pool came to: 60% sexual/intimacy, 20% wealth and savings/expenditures together, and 20% emotional love. Men are more physical human beings when it comes to love, women are more emotional human beings when it comes to love. Many women have difficulty understanding this about men, and many men have difficulty understanding the emotional importance for women and their love life. I have in all my years as a man done my best to learn the female mind so that I can make her happy.
That was the first video of yours I've seen. That was really good. I appreciated the points Alexander made. I've never heard it said that way, and it made an impact. Men love women; women receive love; women love children. I've always been aware of my need *to love* someone. I'm aware of my need *for* love, too, but it's not as strong. I almost feel uncomfortable if I get too much love. Otoh, I feel a sense of gratitude when someone allows me to love them. By the way, women often interpret a man's approach as being all about trying to get in her pants. No, sometimes, he is just trying to love.
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I would add that Only Fans owes its success to the same dynamic he talked about with sugar daddies and sex dolls. It gives a man someone to love, even if it's an artificial relationship. Lots of money to be made by women who exploit this need. It's sad.
LOL! It wasn’t her video. That bitch is grifting and emulating empathy.
Or as Fresh and Fit says it; Women love opportunistically, men love ideally.
@@miloe436 Yup. That's actually Rollo Tomassi's formulation. Fresh & Fit just use it.
"I would add that Only Fans owes its success to the same dynamic he talked about with sugar daddies and sex dolls. It gives a man someone to love, even if it's an artificial relationship. Lots of money to be made by women who exploit this need. It's sad."
This isn't anything new though. Back in the 80s, there were strip clubs, that would be frequented by men who were just looking for a bit of affection from women. They weren't paying to see tits, they were paying to have a hot woman treat them like they were attractive. But only if they kept handing the money over. It is pathetic, that men can reach such desperate depths that they are willing to ignore reality and buy into the fantasy, because reality is too painful and harsh for their weak egos.
@@zalamael Men go to strip bars for the illusion of love? Man, I never did. I visited some strip clubs back in the 80s, and I was just there to see the titties, lol.
The worst thing is not being single and having no one to love. The worst thing in life is being married to a person who is not affectionate, loving and sensitive and losing as a man all that love that we want and need to give.
Every one of these videos I watch make me more and more thankful for my wife.
It's a scary world out there for you young dudes. I'm sorry.
Craving love from a woman is like craving love from a cat. We don’t need it. When we think we do, it becomes the core of our torment. To be impervious to women is a superpower!
Yes, and much more in touch with reality.
true, love is superfluous. As are good hearing and eye sight. A sense of taste and smell.
You don't need these things. Going on living without them is not a superpower.
@@mgntstr No, love is essential. The problem is when guys fall for women too easily, and get obsessed with them, thinking that life would be so much better is she only loved back. That is form of insanity.
@@mgntstr True, it's mostly a defense mechanism. But a necessary one in this sorry age, when over half of the men of marriageable age aren't married or have a girlfriend, and over a third of them haven't even had sex in the past year. There are literally tens of millions of men now who've never been married, never had a girlfriend, and very often never even been laid. Fuckin' hell... what feminism has wrought.
That becomes easier when you're old, but not so when you're in your sexual prime.
It´s not sexist. It´s looking at the scale from the wrong side. Men are not above. We are on the bottom.
Most men become players because our first/biggest love breaks us into pieces in multiple ways, and once broken it can't go back to what it was.
Players or cold to everything and not want to play anymore.
I think a lot of men become players out of desperation. Because there are so few quality women, we either have to choose to be alone or celibate, or just use women as what they are: whores
I am 28 years old , I spent years building a career and supporting my family. I basically excelled in every aspect of life other than relationship. I'm single and I don't know why after trying for some time I don't even feel like going out and trying again so that some girl would notice me and will be with me. It sounds like I'm selling myself.
The harsh reality is that it's easier to integrate into social situations if you have a girlfriend because you look less threatening.
Or a motorbike 😂
Don't ask me why lol
Women are naturally more inclined to do all the social things, which is nice while you're also included. Since I'm perpetually single, my social life mostly revolves around my aeroplane and flying. Needless to say most of my social circle are male.
So much for equality. It's as you say Christine, I see so many men going the extra mile and doing the effort in trying to understand the other sex to make things work better, myself included. We just want things to work, as we always have. And we're used to have natural challenges, we don't fucking care if something takes a lot of effort. What's really hard though is artificially created hurdles that constantly adapt to our approach of trying to make things work. And this is how it feels to me where we're at. Women artificially making it harder for men to make it work with them.
Have known this for along time. The urge to give love. To make someone smile, laugh, feel safe. It’s purpose. It is what motivates men to build the world, to be successful. Well I’m being honest. I’d rather women didn’t know this about men. For fear of them weaponizing it against men. Make things worse.
Unfortunately a lot of women already know.
He's 100% right on this. I could never quantify it or put my finger on it but he nailed it.
I had a few off and on relationships in my late teens to mid 20's, I always felt super secure and confident. After 26 I decided not to date for a while because of a bad breakup. A few months turned into years faster than I could blink. Before i knew it I was on depression and anxiety medication. At 31 I started dating my best friend because she told me she loved me and I had had a thing for her since we met but she was involved. I drove my truck halfway across the country to pick her up and move her to my place. We'd always had the same morals, values, beliefs, and we were best friends so obviously things were looking up. After about six months I proposed, she said yes and that she just wanted a courthouse wedding so we'd be married. We'd talked about having kids, decided on names and started trying. Then she tells me she doesn't want kids anymore out of nowhere. I don't know what changed her mind but she knew having kids was a deal breaker for me. I dont know if she lied or what. She then said to me verbatim "If I'm pregnant I'll have an abortion just to spite you."
No idea what I did that made her feel like she needed to say something like that but I was done then and there. I bought her a plane ticket and packed her stuff up to send back.
I bring this up because while things were good with her it was amazing. I got off my medication. I was happy again and she took it all away and did infact abort my kid, which I've never got over. I've wanted to be a dad like my dad since I was a kid, that was my big dream.
Having a woman in my life just makes me a better man but it's damn near impossible to date normally anymore so I've stagnated again since our split. I feel like once you have a woman in your life as a man nothing feels like too much, I always know I get through whatever it is.
I didn't say all this to get *whoa is me* likes or anything, I just hope someone sees it and will understand their mental slide and know it's okay and can get better, we all just have to do better.
Sounds like she has a personality disorder. Better off without her pal
My husband and I have been married nearly 28 years, and your comment made me really emotional. Our seven children range in age from 12 to 27...and I see how difficult things are for our 25 year old son especially. Wish I could give you a hug!
Thank you so much for sharing this, Christine! I'm the one you're talking about right here. I agree whole-heartedly with what he had said about us men. I feel that way all the time. I'm married to my wife for 19 years now in a dead loveless marriage. All I wanted my wife to see was that I had loved her and that I just wanted her to love me back, but she didn't want to receive my love and heart at all nor give me her heart at all. She just threw it away in the garbage. Our marriage is a big joke! She just shut herself completely from touching, cuddling, holding hands, kissing, and even sex. How can a woman do this? To be in a bed with someone that you can't touch or do anything with is a complete agony for me. God bless you!
Oh man, I feel You. Hobbies then!
You need to drop her like a bad habit! Find someone younger and nicer.
When mine started drying, i went back to the gym, started spending money with me and myself only, paid visits to sex workers and, in one of these visits i started to see that those woman made more for me than my wife, which now is ex. Cant't say that you should do what i did, but it healed me from emotional dependency from her. She then tried everything she could to gain my heart again, but i stayed dry no matter what. We are now ex. I only really felt bad during the time i had been with her, and for 2 days after our break point
We men don't care anymore. we don't believe in love anyway. It's all about money and how tall you are.
I do believe in love! I just don’t love women.
I have long since come to the realization that the people around me care only about what I’m able and willing to produce. I have been complimented/praised for my legal acumen more times than for all other reasons combined, and the count isn’t even close.
Luckily I have a few friends who have my back on the rare occasion I need an assist
I live in constant fear and anxiety of not being useful. I don't think I could articulate why, beyond the fact that the worst I've ever felt is when someone ridiculed an attempt to help them. This is compounded by the fact that I'm very smart but not very 'good with my hands', so a lot of 'default guy things' I'm just very bad at.
This is why so many men fear retirement, they lose their purpose in life.
Wasn't gonna watch this, but gave it a try for a few minutes during coffee break. Respect to you Christine! It is a sad state of affairs that there is a genuine lack of empathy, sympathy for male struggles in society.
Women don’t care about men, it’s all about what they can get when they leave the relationship. It’s no wonder men don’t get married, and even avoid a relationship altogether.
There is nothing more gay than getting married to a woman.
He managed to put in words what I feel better than I could.
Women, would you still have children if you watched almost every single day children saying that they hate their parents and that they wanted their parents to cease existing and mothers saying that their children ruined their life?
Add to that the state giving special privilegies to your children so that they can blackmail you to do what they want, otherwise they will leave you and take good part of your life savings with them while leaving you childless and broke?
Yeah, I'm currently waiting for the robots.
Thank you. Your kindness and your understanding mean more to us and me than you will never know. The struggle that many men face is real and dire. We are the guardians, the ones who stand between everything else and those that we choose to love. There have been men who failed in this charge, this most sacred responsibility. But it's nowhere near the number that have risen to the challenge, and only wanted to give everything they had to give, and actually be appreciated for it. They are the true heart of what it means to be a man. I thank you for your bravery and courage to speak and spread the truth so we can build a better world together.
My experience is that some women see kindness as a weakness, it’s sad
Women get wet for the Bad Boys. It's not maltreatment that women hate - it's boredom, routines, and predictability. Bad Boys give women the drama they crave.
I was with a woman for over 6 years. Loved her more than anyone I had before. Felt the same in return. Then, she met someone else, and monkey branched from me, and treated me like a total stranger. I have never felt so much pain in my life. But, it made me stronger than ever. That pain made me a rock, and attracts women like never before. And I am now with an amazing woman.
A motorbike will never monkey branch. Jus' sayin' 😉
nope but she does like the mechanic an awful lot lol @@233kosta
I remember years ago, I was sort of seeing this girl who eventually dumped me. I saw her a few times afterwards, and she did the same, she treated me like I didn't exist, completely blanked me when she saw me. Up until she saw me with another girl, who was hotter than she was. When that happened, she kept making excuses to come over and talk to me, to try and get me attracted to her again, because her ego couldn't handle that I had lost interest in her.
The look on her face was priceless when I told her I knew what she was doing and she was making herself look needy and pathetic. But the thing that amazed me, was that she tried to pretend she hadn't noticed me, as in, she hadn't intentionally ignored me, she just didn't notice me (despite looking me in the eye and deliberately turning her back on me). I don't think women understand the value of an honest apology, they would rather pretend the bad shit they do never happened (and they will try to gaslight you that you just imagined their bad behaviour).
Funny thing is, over the years, she has repeatedly tried to attract me, and she ultimately got married and had kids with a guy who looks like Penfold from Danger Mouse, because she ran out of time and was desperate enough to take whatever she could get before her ovaries dried up completely. I have no doubt that she cheats on him every chance she can get, her ego is so insecure she wont be able to stop herself.
Pure scvm!
@@233kosta Brilliant
For real?! 🤯😱 I just realized, Freddy Mercury literally sang it for years, “Can anybody find me somebody to love?”
I have said this a million times “I just want to love, and be loved “ always in that order.
It is heartbreaking to know what many good men are going through because women do not (and do not bother to try to) understand them and give back to them. I have been blessed and so has the very important man in my life. I used to be selfish, a long time ago, when I was very young and influenced by the feminists of my day. I did a turnabout regarding that as I began to see differently and I certainly do not relate to the self-entitled women of today. These young entitled women don't know what they are missing by loving and giving to a good caring man. I sincerely hope that a greater understanding, love and compassion will finally awaken them.
I’ve had a good chunk of relationships. A couple that lasted a few years one that lasted 3 years which is my longest. I’ve had a body count under 10 and have just turned 30. I spent my 20s climbing the corporate ladder because I never wanted to be broke or not be able to buy what I wanted. Grew up with half my family on welfare the first one in my family to go to college. I don’t relate to a lot in my generation. Modern women seem to only care about money. I’ve been used for money in the past have dated girls that wanted everything paid and taken care of for them but didn’t want to be traditional and didn’t understand what a man wants. To me at 30 I only date for married and make this clear on the first date. I also am strict about anti feminist talk. Once a girl brings up toxic masculinity I immediately get turned off and end it. Mainly because you can not have children with something that doesn’t know what a man and women’s roles are. That’s a good way to produce feminine men.
"Once a girl brings up "toxic masculinity," I immediately get turned off and end it." The other word that you should look out for is "boundaries" ... when a woman uses that, it should be the Kiss of Death from any man who is in-the-know..
Unfortunately, while time goes by, you've got less and less love to give as a man when reciprocation does not come,
Sure, men are by nature learners and adapters.
I always come to these videos late but I’ll drop my two cents anyway. I love Alexander’s videos he’s one the voice in this community that truly cares about men and wants to help. What he was saying is so true. It’s Mother’s Day this weekend in America and I love my Mom beyond my ability to express with words. Me and my siblings got together and got her a beautiful piece for f jewelry and she received it today. She was overwhelmed and as much as I enjoyed her reaction I couldn’t help but feel extremely depressed and lonely not to have a spouse to celebrate and honor this week. I usually man up and refuse to feel sorry for myself, my life is of my own making but today was a challenge. When he made the statement that man have a lot of love to give and nowhere to place it, he was truly speaking the truth.
Grief is the absence of the ability to love.
There is something soothing about a woman acknowledging the male struggle
Alas it doesn’t actually change much. And more over its acknowledging the reality to those living that very reality ( preaching to the choir)
Having a women say it, advocating to other women. Using kinder words amd a womans way of speaking.’
That is perhaps where change can begin
None the less its nice to have someone in your corner.
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Women have always known about this need of ours and used this need of ours against us (friend zone,
simps, suger daddy's the lists of ways goes on and on) for all of human history. But lately they have pushed it too far and we also stopped getting benefits to offset them using it against us. So it has really hit us men hard because we dont have an outlet/relief to compensate for it. We get all the downsides of it with none or few of the upsides.
The one huge upside is--
Now we KNOW---
Sure, some of us suspected it for decades, even centuries, but now we all know and understand.
They've really shot themselves in the foot and I say bless you, ladies, and goodbye!
FOR EVER!!
They have held 🐱 over our heads since high school. Once they see they can manipulate men this way we have no power against it. The only way to have power over it is acting like 🐱 and women don’t exist. Controlling the very nature that wants to procreate and have a family. Once a man can control his biological urges he is truly free from any manipulation or the love dance women and society play.
Very insightful. I got a dog because my wife was very unlovable, cold and emotianally abusive. She took pleasure in hurting me and even tried to include the children in the torments. I needed someone to love so I got a dog.
As a men I want respect first, then I want someone to love.
In my experience men give & women take. And unfortunately nowdays what men give (time, attention, money) is never enough.