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I experienced being the child, the spouse and the parent. The absolute worst was being the parent of an addicted love one, it's fear like I've never experienced before and it's beyond heartbreaking
I have a hard time, biting my tongue and not wanting to call it all out but having these strategies sure does help when you know somebody’s lying to your face. I’ve just realized they don’t know anything different.
This is a great conversation. You guys are definitely keepin it Real. These situations are extremely difficult. What i I learned going thru addiction AND also dealing with those still in the grips of addiction is. Be Real but dont leave out the love n respect for that person. Its hard enoug battling addiction but to have Love denied you that's Soul crushing 😮. I love love love this Channel.
How about they leave you homeless and you lose your home and your children lose their home? Just tolerating lies and where to draw the line is so difficult so I’m glad you asked that question Amber. 18:17
For me, the hardest part is my daughter allowing herself to be abused. For free drugs. Lies are just words. Words mean nothing. Only action is what we "listen" to.
I agree you won't get the truth if you ask but i think we do because often it's the insult to us of treating us like a fool and it's an ego thing on the part of the family. Letting go of our ego and understanding that it's actually not about us and often what we don't say is louder.
Thank you for this. I just found cocaine in my husbands wallet and I’m really struggling with what to do and what to think. He also drinks at work too often. Has driven home drunk/ tipsy from work with a beer can in the car. I’ve explained to him how risky this is and how much I disapprove and asked him several time to stop doing it. Now finding these drugs in his wallet is a whole new layer to this. IF he is an addict then he is a VERY functional addict. I’m a stay at home mom to our one year old and I feel pretty trapped now. Idk what I want to do. Idk what to even think. It’s all very disorienting and triggering for me because I grew up with an unstable addict father. Other than these things he is wonderful and has been able to keep this from me, and I consider myself very savvy. I know what to look for. It’s hard to know what’s true.
So tired. Argh. Everything on here is spot on. I am tired of knowing and having to hold it in. Causes extreme anxiety, worry and resentment the rest of the day/night. ( My body and mood changes. depressed, walking on egg shells). Then they constantly ask what is wrong as if they dont know. However, I dont say anything. So we let them get away with the lie and it keeps happening? I feel it pull us apart. I do know, but I want them to understand I know. Isn't there an approprate time to ask when trying to pull off the little bit? Playing that game. I clearly know when its a black out. But the game of one or two with the lie kills me inside to hold in. If I have asked in the past and it did happen they always get extremely upset for accusing and it is clear. I know its a lie. I never want to accuse if it did not happen but I really know. Lately just holding it in per this education. I will simply never figure out this horrific disease. (alcoholism). I try to work on everything I hear on this channel. Many practices are extremely tough. ESPECIALLY when they are possibly driving on something because it is dangerous and a possible financial crisis. cant stop them from driving to work I assume. Nervous if they drive home with alcohol on breath or I can tell.
If we get to the point where we let go of control we won’t have to ask some of these questions, but there’s a fine line in that and letting them get by with anything. If that makes sense.
It makes perfect sense, especially in regards to letting them get by with ANYTHING ELSE. Surrendering to one thing doesn't necessarily mean surrendering to it all.
I have called the police which resulted in a dwi. I was so worried that he was going to hurt someone. This action has pur a wedge in family. We are going through motions but both husband who is alcoholic and uses it as an excuse to drink and adult daughter who thinks it was a complete betrayal
What do you suggest when spouse spends so much shared money that you can’t afford bills. How do you not bring it up because you have a household and kids to pay for?
Where in alabama can I take my young adult son to rehab that will take my blue cross insurance without a large sum of cash. He wants help. All I get are commercials when I google it.
The best place to start would be to call the insurance company and ask who's in network. You can usually find the number on the back of the insurance card.
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What’s crazy is something like stealing from a parent would not go down well years ago keep going back further and further 1500s lol seriously the expectations of young adults now - the bar is set very low
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@@PutTheShovelDown thank you for taking the time to get to my question. It was very self affirming. It is the path i have been on for over 2 years. You have been a colossal help. A sincere thank-you to you and your team. ❤️🩹
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The hardest part is how personal it all feels bc they once were your friend your lover your important relationship and connection
I experienced being the child, the spouse and the parent. The absolute worst was being the parent of an addicted love one, it's fear like I've never experienced before and it's beyond heartbreaking
I have a hard time, biting my tongue and not wanting to call it all out but having these strategies sure does help when you know somebody’s lying to your face. I’ve just realized they don’t know anything different.
This is a great conversation. You guys are definitely keepin it Real. These situations are extremely difficult. What i I learned going thru addiction AND also dealing with those still in the grips of addiction is. Be Real but dont leave out the love n respect for that person. Its hard enoug battling addiction but to have Love denied you that's Soul crushing 😮. I love love love this Channel.
Awwwww thanks Brian!
How about they leave you homeless and you lose your home and your children lose their home? Just tolerating lies and where to draw the line is so difficult so I’m glad you asked that question Amber. 18:17
YES, you know what you know and dont brat yourself up for what you dont know. God Bless you both for helping people to cope with these problems.
*bear, not brat, typo, sorry
That's hard to say, so I won't because I don't know. I do know that the little lies are a warning for the big ones to come.
The best video ever.
Wow! Thanks 😀
Exactly! You have to know your end point! Great afvice women, thank you for sharing.
You are so welcome!
Lying is the hardest part of caring about an addict
For me, the hardest part is my daughter allowing herself to be abused. For free drugs.
Lies are just words. Words mean nothing. Only action is what we "listen" to.
I agree you won't get the truth if you ask but i think we do because often it's the insult to us of treating us like a fool and it's an ego thing on the part of the family. Letting go of our ego and understanding that it's actually not about us and often what we don't say is louder.
Thank you for this. I just found cocaine in my husbands wallet and I’m really struggling with what to do and what to think. He also drinks at work too often. Has driven home drunk/ tipsy from work with a beer can in the car. I’ve explained to him how risky this is and how much I disapprove and asked him several time to stop doing it. Now finding these drugs in his wallet is a whole new layer to this. IF he is an addict then he is a VERY functional addict. I’m a stay at home mom to our one year old and I feel pretty trapped now. Idk what I want to do. Idk what to even think. It’s all very disorienting and triggering for me because I grew up with an unstable addict father. Other than these things he is wonderful and has been able to keep this from me, and I consider myself very savvy. I know what to look for. It’s hard to know what’s true.
So tired. Argh. Everything on here is spot on. I am tired of knowing and having to hold it in. Causes extreme anxiety, worry and resentment the rest of the day/night. ( My body and mood changes. depressed, walking on egg shells). Then they constantly ask what is wrong as if they dont know. However, I dont say anything. So we let them get away with the lie and it keeps happening? I feel it pull us apart. I do know, but I want them to understand I know. Isn't there an approprate time to ask when trying to pull off the little bit? Playing that game. I clearly know when its a black out. But the game of one or two with the lie kills me inside to hold in. If I have asked in the past and it did happen they always get extremely upset for accusing and it is clear. I know its a lie. I never want to accuse if it did not happen but I really know. Lately just holding it in per this education. I will simply never figure out this horrific disease. (alcoholism). I try to work on everything I hear on this channel. Many practices are extremely tough. ESPECIALLY when they are possibly driving on something because it is dangerous and a possible financial crisis. cant stop them from driving to work I assume. Nervous if they drive home with alcohol on breath or I can tell.
Aaaah thats soooo good the Triangle 😊
I just missed the live event! Ugh! It's so hard to do this with my 17 year old son.
If we get to the point where we let go of control we won’t have to ask some of these questions, but there’s a fine line in that and letting them get by with anything. If that makes sense.
It makes perfect sense, especially in regards to letting them get by with ANYTHING ELSE. Surrendering to one thing doesn't necessarily mean surrendering to it all.
Campbell's EVE triangle sounds really interesting and workable. Are there any other videos where she goes into it a little further?
Campbell has a beautiful smile
I have called the police which resulted in a dwi. I was so worried that he was going to hurt someone. This action has pur a wedge in family. We are going through motions but both husband who is alcoholic and uses it as an excuse to drink and adult daughter who thinks it was a complete betrayal
What do you suggest when spouse spends so much shared money that you can’t afford bills. How do you not bring it up because you have a household and kids to pay for?
Did anyone catch the name of the man she referenced that she watched his Video on counseling techniques?
Chris Voss
Where in alabama can I take my young adult son to rehab that will take my blue cross insurance without a large sum of cash. He wants help. All I get are commercials when I google it.
The best place to start would be to call the insurance company and ask who's in network. You can usually find the number on the back of the insurance card.
Where did you go Amber? 😢
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What happened to the live?
What’s crazy is something like stealing from a parent would not go down well years ago keep going back further and further 1500s lol seriously the expectations of young adults now - the bar is set very low
I asked questions so won’t get answered now
I lost live too
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@@PutTheShovelDown thank you for taking the time to get to my question. It was very self affirming. It is the path i have been on for over 2 years. You have been a colossal help. A sincere thank-you to you and your team. ❤️🩹