She's so precious, and yeah teachers are definitely assholes to shy students in most cases, sometimes accidentally sometimes on purpose but I feel bad for everyone who has anxiety in school
My teacher without fail will always make me read my essay in front of the whole class every week, I will cry everytime and the whole class would laugh.
Can't say I'd be a better teacher despite having crippling anxiety as a kid through young adulthood. Exposure and confidence are some of the most important aspects to getting over social anxiety, but it's not just something you can give to someone.
The whole educational system reeks of this attitude towards kids being all the same, and that those who don't conform are in the wrong... one would think that in this day and age of self discovery and individuality, the system would be adapting to accommodate more diverse ways to teach and educate, especially in elementary and middle schools. Sadly the people who realize this are still too fresh out from the school system to have been able to get into positions of power to change stuff. I guess it's a matter of time... I hope anyway.
@@neku2741 fuck that teacher, ive never been socially awkward until i got to highschool, go to a different high school than my friens so everyone in this highschool knows each other so i dont have friends and luckily all my teachers so far let me be by myself as long as I'm doing good in the class
What a hero Dad. The fact that he would calmly talk to her about the actual purpose after things calmed down... Even though most parents will say they did it for love(and I believe it's true), not a lot will come back and make sure the fight isn't ending in a sour note. I know on the opposite end, not a lot of kids need parents to lay things out in order for them to understand their parents love them, but seems like in this case, it works for the better.
Awww what a wholesome relationship between Enna and her dad. Enna's dad a bit sparta on her, but sometimes he understand that he need to do that so she can grow up Thank you Enna's dad, because of you Enna can stream and join Nijisanji EN
I can't even finish this clip because I just get reminded that all of my teachers and both parents just yelled at and insulted me for my anxiety until I put a bullet in my head (I survived). I'm glad Enna made it through and had support, bless her dad for helping her. I'm going to go lay down and ugly cry for a bit now.
I can relate to Enna cause whenever I get called in attendance, It feels like I'm in the center of attention and It gives me anxiety everytime and until now I still don't know how go fix myself lmao But for Enna, I'm so proud of her for being able to take up the courage to overcome her social anxiety, bless Enna for being a brave birb!
i know its hard to change your mindset but people don't know what is going on in your head so you could just fake not being nervous and talk clearly, because honestly most people aren't focused on you anyway and even if you mess up they'll forget about it really fast
@@snowpools8498 for more easier explanation just speak up do not worry what people will say to you it's there mindset not your's, so be yourself! But do not be an a hole
@@mikellobabilozach3482 but its hard being yourself. I can tell myself; people dont care, and even if they do, they’ll forget anyways. But my brain, my mouth, my whole fucking body wouldn’t listen. And after the whole day I’d regret not speaking up or talking to people. I’d tell myself I’m going to do better the next day but in the end I never do. pls help 💀
@@loveliveshrek mmm that's rough man, it's hard to get out of our own she'll and even me don't know the best method for you to get out safely of your she'll, because you might get hurt. But if your willing to get hurt just to change for the better it's up to you man, you gonna believe in yourself and not others just practice it slowly and steady, though it won't go smoothly but you'll get there eventually, hopefully.
My parents didn't knew I had a social anxiety. I was able to somewhat overcome it on my highschool year. Well I do cried when I introduced myself at the start. It caught the student council attention. They tried to convince me to join them. Though I do feel like I've been kidnapped by them at the end.
@Quiponi I don't but somehow they still keep the council door open to me, so I went there on my lunch break from time to time since there's a fridge over there lmao. I do get commission to do flyer, banner, or other design for their events tho. It was fun.
You literally cried? Wow, this is the first time I hear someone cried when introducing oneself. Did student council activities helped you overcome the anxiety?
It is very important to note that, while there are countless "success stories" from people that overcame their anxieties through the "just push yourself" method, that is probably just because the ones that have not overcome their anxieties with this method are still too anxious to speak up about it. Not every method works in every case, as the wise bird says, and that is okay. It is certainly not a good idea to force people into a method and then judge them for not "changing enough" as a result from that method. This kind of "I can fix you" mentality generally does a lot more harm than good as people see their suggestions or advice as law just because it might've worked in a prior case that they've experienced/witnessed. It might not do intentional harm, but it is important to note that, in the pursuit of "unlocking someone's potential", you might traumatize them further and leave them feeling even more inadequate than they already do. If you really want to help someone like that then tolerance, patience and general support is key. That is not to say "coddle them", but rather make sure that they know you aren't denying or invalidating their current existence in hopes of replacing it with some ideal image, but that you want to help them live their best life. This also means, however, that they might choose not to face their demons and that is okay too. Not everyone is strong enough to survive that confrontation and truly caring about someone means that you won't _stop_ caring just because they're paralyzed by a fear that, while maybe similar to what you've seen/experienced yourself, will never truly be understood by an outsider perspective (yes, even by those of us that have experienced our own anxiety). Anxiety follows a lot of similar patterns, but it is in every case a very personalized experience purely because of the nature and complexity of the individual human mind. As a supporter;If the person in question is making an effort to rise above their raging mental storms, then that is something to be commended, but do be sure to keep a considerate eye on them and remind them not to rush too recklessly into the fray. Else they might end up in a worse state than they started. Just figured I'd give my 2 cents from my own experience. I'm no professional, but I've known enough people with anxiety (myself included) to know that there is no 1 surefire method in dealing with it and that a lot of people seem to think otherwise...
Yes, there are some people who try their best and really struggle, and we should definitely support them instead of putting them down. Butt there are also people who are too unmotivated/scared to do it. For people like these the do or die method should be done, especially if they're in their formative years because those years are most likely going to have the most impact on their life (career, making friends etc)
I like to compare that method to being forced through boot camp and subjected to all kinds of abuse to build character, although boot camp is whole lot easier since you are going through the journey with your fellow recruits.
Definitely agree with you. Especially the part about fixing someone. I personally just tell people to only try and change themselves if their hearts says it will make them a better person and will benefit them. This ensures they dont change themselves to fit other's standards, cuz they might be totally cool with something we think is bad. Expressing properly why you think some part of them is harmful, and then leaving the decision upto them is the best approach imho.
Thank you for clipping this. Before knowing Enna I wouldn't have been able to make this comment, or would've taken days to do it. I'd be overthinking it way too much. I still do actually... She's very relatable and wise and her words do help a lot. Edit1: I'm glad people can share their experiences and relate to each other here, this is very wholesome.
Yeah, sometimes teachers can't tell between a student not wanting to speak up or beacuse they have social anxiety, it's tough. Bless enna's dad for helping her through it, if yoi have a close relative or parent that knows of your social anxiety then try asking them for help on it! It may work or not but it could certainly take your anxiety down at least a little.
I got over my social anxiety because of panic attacks... And well, actually... I probably still got some anxiety left. But yes, getting forced to do things that spikes up my anxiety did help alleviate the whole part in a long term one. Feels like breaking your limit, then push the limit into higher heights. Then again, it doesn't really work the same for everyone, but if anyone want to get rid of it, they should try every method.
Lucky it worked for her, I'm still having social anxiety and I'm pushing 30. I try asking for help from my parents and teacher, they told me to man up. I just stop telling people and act like I'm not dying inside.
Just raising my hand to recite already accelerates my heart rate, especially when i go to the front to present something, my knees would shake a little. Just like what nike said, "Just do it". And so i did and pulled through, kinda funny how i can never talk back to my father coz he be frickin terrifying
im going through the same thing, im the only one who knew that I have SAD its really tough but im living in a better place now and going to start treating myself I hope everything goes well
Big W for her dad. I have, i mean, i think i have social anxiety, tried to tell my mom but she just tells me that i do NOT have social anxiety or somth like that, but mann, big big W dad bro, godbless him fr
This is a good thing for Enna. Despite the dark dad jokes she makes, but after hearing this, it definitely understand why now. My dad was never like this but he knows that I'm a grown ass man so I have to do things, but the only thing I struggle is opening up to people. I have been bullied and betrayed so many times that theirs no point in trusting people, i have anxiety to be in public. So I'm current working on it but my job just makes it hard to overcome it.
As someone who has taught, a teacher's role is to evaluate the current level of your proficiency in the subject being taught. We don't have the time and resources to sit down and do that on an individual level, so we pose questions to try and gauge if we need to elaborate on what is being discussed, if we pose the questions to noone in particular then someone who likely is understanding will just yell out and that'll be that, while the ones not following along will likely just sit there defeated. So we ask individually, and by design often ask the ones who seem unsure or distracted. On an individual level though, I fully understand. The struggle is real, there is no quick fix and there is no hurdle to overcome and then you'll be set, like she's making it sound. It's like a train, you need to build up enough fuel to get rolling, sleeping and eating well, practicing a lot, exercise. Then once you're rolling, you need to keep rolling, otherwise you'll slowly grind to a halt again. But I think there are limitations unique to us, and we need to know where those limits are, and try to work around them if we can't power through them.
I just graduated a part of my school career and I felt nothing but disappointment as I stepped out the doors because I never talked. However, the teachers were super understanding. I only read for a total of 2 or 3 times and they were all very short, the teachers understood that I didn't like to talk so they left me alone when it came to participation like talking. They did small group if I needed help, and would sit down with me and explain the things I didn't understand. The students too, they were all very nice. I'm lucky to have an experience like this.
As a male, nobody helped me go through my depression and social anxiety. It was just God and my effort to become better, it is a lonely road. But damn I was glad no one helped me because that actually changed my mindset to a better one.
Back then, I also don't understand why people are shy during attendance calls or reporting... Until I face the service crew when ordering fast food for the first time. To all who are shy/have anxiety issues, its not that we are rude, we just dont understand/know, otherwise people are jerks when they don't understand anything. Like Enna said, you can do it. Just take the first step even if it's immensely hard.
Why is Enna narrating my life story?? Are all dads fans of the exposure therapy method? But I'm glad it worked for her, it did for me too and I hope everyone struggling with these problems will overcome them too, no matter the method.
Schools have gotten better with anxiety stuff. A lot of my skills for dealing with anxiety I learnt from them. Also the process of changing the presenting in front of the class, to small groups really helped.
and here all of my teachers be like "imma fix u up by fucking shit talking about u in front of the class for good damn 10 minutes" Thx teachs, u have successfully fixed that one trouble kid by making them dropped out of highschool.
Teachers are probably aware of which students are shy/socially anxious, but they are not paid enough to care that much about individual students to that extent, this may depend on the teacher/schools though
Glad she got over her social anxiety, I feel like there'd be a much lesser chance of her being a vtuber if she didn't. Also I've never gotten into a fight with my parents where I threw things, is that common?
She's so precious, and yeah teachers are definitely assholes to shy students in most cases, sometimes accidentally sometimes on purpose but I feel bad for everyone who has anxiety in school
My teacher without fail will always make me read my essay in front of the whole class every week, I will cry everytime and the whole class would laugh.
Can't say I'd be a better teacher despite having crippling anxiety as a kid through young adulthood. Exposure and confidence are some of the most important aspects to getting over social anxiety, but it's not just something you can give to someone.
The whole educational system reeks of this attitude towards kids being all the same, and that those who don't conform are in the wrong... one would think that in this day and age of self discovery and individuality, the system would be adapting to accommodate more diverse ways to teach and educate, especially in elementary and middle schools.
Sadly the people who realize this are still too fresh out from the school system to have been able to get into positions of power to change stuff. I guess it's a matter of time... I hope anyway.
@@neku2741 fuck that teacher, ive never been socially awkward until i got to highschool, go to a different high school than my friens so everyone in this highschool knows each other so i dont have friends and luckily all my teachers so far let me be by myself as long as I'm doing good in the class
What a hero Dad. The fact that he would calmly talk to her about the actual purpose after things calmed down... Even though most parents will say they did it for love(and I believe it's true), not a lot will come back and make sure the fight isn't ending in a sour note. I know on the opposite end, not a lot of kids need parents to lay things out in order for them to understand their parents love them, but seems like in this case, it works for the better.
Awww what a wholesome relationship between Enna and her dad.
Enna's dad a bit sparta on her, but sometimes he understand that he need to do that so she can grow up
Thank you Enna's dad, because of you Enna can stream and join Nijisanji EN
I can't even finish this clip because I just get reminded that all of my teachers and both parents just yelled at and insulted me for my anxiety until I put a bullet in my head (I survived). I'm glad Enna made it through and had support, bless her dad for helping her. I'm going to go lay down and ugly cry for a bit now.
I'm glad you lived and I believe things will get better for you from this point onwards.
The world is a brighter place with you in it.
You deserved better. You still do and always will
You better be having a good life rn, and those assholes get it back
All the best wishes for you, pal. I believe the universe has something cool waiting for you and you are meant to be here with all of us today.
Enna Before: "here".
Enna Now:"You little shi*".
I can relate to Enna cause whenever I get called in attendance, It feels like I'm in the center of attention and It gives me anxiety everytime and until now I still don't know how go fix myself lmao
But for Enna, I'm so proud of her for being able to take up the courage to overcome her social anxiety, bless Enna for being a brave birb!
i know its hard to change your mindset but people don't know what is going on in your head so you could just fake not being nervous and talk clearly, because honestly most people aren't focused on you anyway and even if you mess up they'll forget about it really fast
@@snowpools8498 for more easier explanation just speak up do not worry what people will say to you it's there mindset not your's, so be yourself! But do not be an a hole
@@mikellobabilozach3482 but its hard being yourself. I can tell myself; people dont care, and even if they do, they’ll forget anyways. But my brain, my mouth, my whole fucking body wouldn’t listen. And after the whole day I’d regret not speaking up or talking to people. I’d tell myself I’m going to do better the next day but in the end I never do. pls help 💀
@@loveliveshrek mmm that's rough man, it's hard to get out of our own she'll and even me don't know the best method for you to get out safely of your she'll, because you might get hurt. But if your willing to get hurt just to change for the better it's up to you man, you gonna believe in yourself and not others just practice it slowly and steady, though it won't go smoothly but you'll get there eventually, hopefully.
@@mikellobabilozach3482 thx, ill try to get better
My parents didn't knew I had a social anxiety. I was able to somewhat overcome it on my highschool year. Well I do cried when I introduced myself at the start. It caught the student council attention. They tried to convince me to join them.
Though I do feel like I've been kidnapped by them at the end.
irl ishigami lol
Did u join? I almost got kidnapped by drama club 😂
@Quiponi I don't but somehow they still keep the council door open to me, so I went there on my lunch break from time to time since there's a fridge over there lmao.
I do get commission to do flyer, banner, or other design for their events tho. It was fun.
@@little_rin6393 Haha! It's sounds the council experience is not so bad afterall. Wish I had a better high-school life.
You literally cried? Wow, this is the first time I hear someone cried when introducing oneself. Did student council activities helped you overcome the anxiety?
It is very important to note that, while there are countless "success stories" from people that overcame their anxieties through the "just push yourself" method, that is probably just because the ones that have not overcome their anxieties with this method are still too anxious to speak up about it.
Not every method works in every case, as the wise bird says, and that is okay. It is certainly not a good idea to force people into a method and then judge them for not "changing enough" as a result from that method.
This kind of "I can fix you" mentality generally does a lot more harm than good as people see their suggestions or advice as law just because it might've worked in a prior case that they've experienced/witnessed.
It might not do intentional harm, but it is important to note that, in the pursuit of "unlocking someone's potential", you might traumatize them further and leave them feeling even more inadequate than they already do.
If you really want to help someone like that then tolerance, patience and general support is key. That is not to say "coddle them", but rather make sure that they know you aren't denying or invalidating their current existence in hopes of replacing it with some ideal image, but that you want to help them live their best life. This also means, however, that they might choose not to face their demons and that is okay too. Not everyone is strong enough to survive that confrontation and truly caring about someone means that you won't _stop_ caring just because they're paralyzed by a fear that, while maybe similar to what you've seen/experienced yourself, will never truly be understood by an outsider perspective (yes, even by those of us that have experienced our own anxiety).
Anxiety follows a lot of similar patterns, but it is in every case a very personalized experience purely because of the nature and complexity of the individual human mind.
As a supporter;If the person in question is making an effort to rise above their raging mental storms, then that is something to be commended, but do be sure to keep a considerate eye on them and remind them not to rush too recklessly into the fray. Else they might end up in a worse state than they started.
Just figured I'd give my 2 cents from my own experience. I'm no professional, but I've known enough people with anxiety (myself included) to know that there is no 1 surefire method in dealing with it and that a lot of people seem to think otherwise...
Yes, there are some people who try their best and really struggle, and we should definitely support them instead of putting them down. Butt there are also people who are too unmotivated/scared to do it. For people like these the do or die method should be done, especially if they're in their formative years because those years are most likely going to have the most impact on their life (career, making friends etc)
I like to compare that method to being forced through boot camp and subjected to all kinds of abuse to build character, although boot camp is whole lot easier since you are going through the journey with your fellow recruits.
Definitely agree with you. Especially the part about fixing someone. I personally just tell people to only try and change themselves if their hearts says it will make them a better person and will benefit them. This ensures they dont change themselves to fit other's standards, cuz they might be totally cool with something we think is bad. Expressing properly why you think some part of them is harmful, and then leaving the decision upto them is the best approach imho.
Wholesome Enna Clips campaign lezgo
We can make a religion out of this!
Thank you for clipping this.
Before knowing Enna I wouldn't have been able to make this comment, or would've taken days to do it. I'd be overthinking it way too much.
I still do actually...
She's very relatable and wise and her words do help a lot.
Edit1: I'm glad people can share their experiences and relate to each other here, this is very wholesome.
Yeah, sometimes teachers can't tell between a student not wanting to speak up or beacuse they have social anxiety, it's tough.
Bless enna's dad for helping her through it, if yoi have a close relative or parent that knows of your social anxiety then try asking them for help on it! It may work or not but it could certainly take your anxiety down at least a little.
TYSM for clipping this part🙏
I wanted to post it like 2 days ago but it took me a while to put all the subs in 😅
I'm so happy for her.
I also imagine her friends played a big part in opening up.
I got over my social anxiety because of panic attacks...
And well, actually... I probably still got some anxiety left.
But yes, getting forced to do things that spikes up my anxiety did help alleviate the whole part in a long term one. Feels like breaking your limit, then push the limit into higher heights. Then again, it doesn't really work the same for everyone, but if anyone want to get rid of it, they should try every method.
Lucky it worked for her, I'm still having social anxiety and I'm pushing 30. I try asking for help from my parents and teacher, they told me to man up.
I just stop telling people and act like I'm not dying inside.
Just raising my hand to recite already accelerates my heart rate, especially when i go to the front to present something, my knees would shake a little. Just like what nike said, "Just do it". And so i did and pulled through, kinda funny how i can never talk back to my father coz he be frickin terrifying
me having social anxiety as well, this was reasuring to hear. sometimes i forget that Enna is really sweet when she wants to.
This genuinely boosted my confidence tysm!
I also though it was being shy but its social anxiety and what she is saying is so relatable
im going through the same thing, im the only one who knew that I have SAD its really tough but im living in a better place now and going to start treating myself I hope everything goes well
0:24 Get a flashing neon sign that says "I'm here" and bring it to class everyday.
W dad
Big W for her dad. I have, i mean, i think i have social anxiety, tried to tell my mom but she just tells me that i do NOT have social anxiety or somth like that, but mann, big big W dad bro, godbless him fr
i love your wholesome clip, ma fren.
Thank you ol' fren
thanks for clipping this man
Wish my father's like that cause I had to deal with social anxiety by myself lol. So thankful I have friends like Millie who helped me a lot.
This is a good thing for Enna. Despite the dark dad jokes she makes, but after hearing this, it definitely understand why now. My dad was never like this but he knows that I'm a grown ass man so I have to do things, but the only thing I struggle is opening up to people.
I have been bullied and betrayed so many times that theirs no point in trusting people, i have anxiety to be in public. So I'm current working on it but my job just makes it hard to overcome it.
As someone who has taught, a teacher's role is to evaluate the current level of your proficiency in the subject being taught. We don't have the time and resources to sit down and do that on an individual level, so we pose questions to try and gauge if we need to elaborate on what is being discussed, if we pose the questions to noone in particular then someone who likely is understanding will just yell out and that'll be that, while the ones not following along will likely just sit there defeated. So we ask individually, and by design often ask the ones who seem unsure or distracted.
On an individual level though, I fully understand. The struggle is real, there is no quick fix and there is no hurdle to overcome and then you'll be set, like she's making it sound. It's like a train, you need to build up enough fuel to get rolling, sleeping and eating well, practicing a lot, exercise. Then once you're rolling, you need to keep rolling, otherwise you'll slowly grind to a halt again. But I think there are limitations unique to us, and we need to know where those limits are, and try to work around them if we can't power through them.
I just graduated a part of my school career and I felt nothing but disappointment as I stepped out the doors because I never talked. However, the teachers were super understanding. I only read for a total of 2 or 3 times and they were all very short, the teachers understood that I didn't like to talk so they left me alone when it came to participation like talking. They did small group if I needed help, and would sit down with me and explain the things I didn't understand. The students too, they were all very nice. I'm lucky to have an experience like this.
Chad dads making my heart go doki doki.
As a male, nobody helped me go through my depression and social anxiety. It was just God and my effort to become better, it is a lonely road. But damn I was glad no one helped me because that actually changed my mindset to a better one.
Back then, I also don't understand why people are shy during attendance calls or reporting... Until I face the service crew when ordering fast food for the first time. To all who are shy/have anxiety issues, its not that we are rude, we just dont understand/know, otherwise people are jerks when they don't understand anything. Like Enna said, you can do it. Just take the first step even if it's immensely hard.
That going to the barber one is so so relatable good thing tho my hair doesn't grow that long so i just pretty much go every 4 months
It would be good to have the same
I'm kinda jealous he had a dad like that.
Why is Enna narrating my life story?? Are all dads fans of the exposure therapy method? But I'm glad it worked for her, it did for me too and I hope everyone struggling with these problems will overcome them too, no matter the method.
Schools have gotten better with anxiety stuff. A lot of my skills for dealing with anxiety I learnt from them. Also the process of changing the presenting in front of the class, to small groups really helped.
Now she Swearing every 5 minute... that what i call Chara development
What's with these NijiEN girls with good dads?
Good dads make good girls. :)
Well if their dads weren't good we wouldn't see them right now as vtubers would we?
@@llen156yearsago6 Ah. Putting the chicken before the egg. Good point.
Always school teachers force u to do presentations and telling u will make u overcome ur shyness meanwhile that aint even the case ....
so you saying I'm not shy and is sufferings from social anxiety
and here all of my teachers be like "imma fix u up by fucking shit talking about u in front of the class for good damn 10 minutes"
Thx teachs, u have successfully fixed that one trouble kid by making them dropped out of highschool.
Teachers are probably aware of which students are shy/socially anxious, but they are not paid enough to care that much about individual students to that extent, this may depend on the teacher/schools though
komi-sans are real
Enna=Komi
They are teachers, they are just like everybody else. Just average human beings with no greater skills.
My oshi ennas dad
Glad she got over her social anxiety, I feel like there'd be a much lesser chance of her being a vtuber if she didn't. Also I've never gotten into a fight with my parents where I threw things, is that common?