Tbh I don't think gatekeeping clothes should be such a big thing. Half the time we don't remember, second, we buy sometimes from cheap markets which are seasonal, third, nowadays you can literally just take a pic of the garment and search something similar on the internet.
I tend to thrift a lot and honestly don't know if the things i thrift are still in production. If i know that the thrift shop has multiple of the thing i bought I'll tell someone (unless they gave me a weird look the last time i told them that something was thrifted) where i got it. Though if I know that the place I thrifted the item from doesn't have duplicates I'll tell them the thrift store but let them know that I grabbed the last one.
Literally same. Like bestie, this shirt was bought 10 years ago by some American guy and I bought it for 2 dollars. The brand tag had disappeared into the void
@@deathwave8375 Yeah, I sometimes get asked about my shoes and even if they're not thrifted, they're probably over 10 years old and not in production anymore, because it's hard to get my size so I wear my shoes until they're falling apart. Like, I can tell you where they're from if I remember, but it's likely that they're no longer avaliable
Gate keeping is knowing where it’s from and choosing not to tell them, especially if the reason is bc u want to feel unique or sum like that. So this doesn’t apply to u
The fact my friend knows I have a crush on a guy in my class and a week later she kept asking me if the guy was staring at her and kept body shaming me and calling me ugly in front of him 😐
That’s no friend. I’m afraid she is your former friend and now your current bully. She is bullying you and I hope she listens to you when you ask her to please stop.
Girl dump her rn, u seriously wanna be friends w someone who puts you down? Most insecure ppl in my experiences project their insecurities onto others in Hope's it makes themselves feel "better" and when it does, it leaves YOU with their problem of insecurity. She sounds like a real pick me tbh, but don't try doing the same thing w her for 'revenge' the best revenge you can get is her noticing your success and WISHING she stayed. Work hard and keep your head up.
I don't tell people where i got most of my clothes from, cuz that was when i was unaware of fast fashion, and i don't want them to think i'm cheap or i don't care about fast fashion or stuff like that. I'm scared of being judged 😢
Girll so I found out that my friend group got all matching pants and they never told me and they all wore the pants at six flags and I was there with jeans 😭🤚🏽
In my senior year of high school I “adopted” an underclassman. This was really common in my school befriend an underclassman, show them around, give them tips about certain teachers, help them get settled. When I graduated we stayed in contact. Mind you I graduated at 17 and he was 15-16 and we were completely platonic nothing weird happening. But I let people get into my head about being a graduate with a friend still in high school. I started cutting him out of plans and hanging out with our mutual friends without him, making dumb excuses about why we couldn’t talk. A month went by where we didn’t talk to eachother and he got into a car accident and died. I’m going to spend the rest of my life regretting that the last memories he has of me I was being a bad friend. If you have an issue with your friend, talk it out. Don’t be the coward who slowly pulls away for stupid ass reasons.
okay but my literal best friend started talking and snapping a guy like as soon as I mentioned that I kind of like him... so we met him at the same place and I just like immediately thought he was so cute and so nice and like at first she was like oh yeah he's just a really cool guy, he's like hella friendly and I really bought it. then as we were leaving the occation we met him at I asked him his snap and homegirl joined in and added him too and I was like okay sure whatever. tell me why now that I've been hanging out with him, she is ALWAYS tryna be there. and then after we see him she's gushing about how she might be getting a crush on him and I'm like?? girl you better not.
Yeah I've had friends like those. They don't run after guys, they run after desirability. Since you showed interest in the guy in her eyes, he is a good enough candidate to date and show off to other girls. These type of people aren't friends, they just want attention, chances are they don't even like the guy too much, just want to date him cause he is desirable. Pro tip, next time don't tell her you find a guy cute or like him.
@@sparkyblue7016 yeah, I won't. I'm like trying to act aloof about him with her now, like she knows I like him but I don't obsess about him, at least to her, so I'm not giving her a chance to talk about him. This is why I like having friends with an opposite type than I
haha, yeah, about this comment... we were at a bar with a few friends yesterday and the way this friend was *all over* the guy was driving me nuts, but there were mostly people she knew so I didn't want to be a bitch about it and acted like I didn't care. I feel a bit bad though cause the guy seemed a bit uncomfortable, especially as she got more drunk
First of all, DISTANCE YOURSELF AWAY FROM THIS BITCH, SISTER. hang out with Another close friend more often and if she questions it just say "we got pretty close" or sm like that. MAKE.HER.MISS.YOU. and same with your crush but DO NOT. hang out with another guy. Instead, focus on yourself and wait for HIM to start the conversation. IF HE WANTED TO.HE WOULD. I cannot stress this enough. Focus on YOURSELF more. Put more effort into your looks, your grades,yourental health,your peace and ANYTHING that makes you more happy and fulfilled
honestly yeah, you shouldn't buy from places like that unless you literally cannot afford anything else - it's a known fact that shein and temu trash come from child slavery, and yet people buy from them anyways because they want to have more things
The only good gate keeping is keeping thrift stores quiet so resellers don’t flood them and prevent actual low income people getting the things they need / causing shops to up their prices intensely, again, causing low income people to get what they need. That’s what thrift shops are for. Other than things like that? Gate keeping has become the worst. I remember asking someone for hair tips to fix my damage and she just laughed at me because she didn’t want someone else having “hair as good as hers”. Like girl I don’t care about looking good or whatever you can have the points, I just wanna fix 10+ years of box bleach & dye damage
Soap Dove, Caress Daily Silk, Lirio or Zote (last two are from México). If your hair is damaged I recommend that you get a cut to a leng that feels confortable for you, don't use the heat of hairdryer, only air. To comb your hair search for hair brushes for your type of hair and when you comb it use a water atomizer to wet it, you could get a treatment but for the best go to a dermatologist with this.
Omg so story time bc it’s late and my whole family’s asleep and im bored 😍 So last year we had an out of state school field trip to a pretty populated area, so the teachers told us to coordinate our group so we’d all wear the same colors. Now, my group I had some friends in but it was mostly those toxic girls who think they’re better than everyone else. Even tho we were TOLD to match, a group chat was made and the girl that made it purposely left me out and told me the wrong color. Thank God for my bsf who took screenshots of the gc and showed me and then when I showed up matching im like “yeah I had a hunch yall were wearing pink” it felt so good to show them but im ngl it was pretty depressing being purposely left out
I had a friend who got mad at me (because I finally said yes to hanging out with another friend and didn’t hang out with her for a few hours that week) and she actively pursued the 2 people I had told her I was interested in. Then, she seemed to have an issue when I, for very good reasons like racism and bad communication , lost interest in one of them.
Tbh I just forget it, I buy my clothes from cheap market where the shops don't really have specific names, they're just vendors who sell on specific days and don't on others. So even if I want to tell them, they probably won't be able to find the same thing or pinpoint the vendor, best i can do is tell the market name 😂 or the name of the vendor.
This girl was so sweet, I remember once in like 8th grade I told a girl I liked her dress, and she legit told me what store she got it at and what section of the store it would be in!! She was literally the sweetest thing 😊
I had a friend that kept going after the boys I thought were cute so when I actually got a crush she was mad that I didn’t tell her who. I finally told and she tried to sleep with him. It didn’t work and he ended up leaving the school because she was so aggressive with her advances.
it’s actually so sad bc i’m terrified of accidentally gate keeping like i don’t remember where half my clothes are from so i literally have ppl check the tag bc i don’t want to be bullied for “gate keeping”
Bro, the second fact is so real. Like my bsf is so delusional that she thinks everyone is copying her, so when i asked sm like "oh, where did you get that app. It looks amazing!" She didnt want to tell me bc 'its her original idea'. (It was clock countdown, it was pretty popular back then for laptops do it can be aesthetic)
That last one actually happened to me at a group sleepover, I was one of the girls out of 5 to not get a shirt (I think my cousin also didn’t get one but her and another one of the girls left early). I ended up walking home because the one who was the birthday girl started getting too crazy (play pushing and hitting me and the other girl). We’re neighbors so it wasn’t that bad, so I called my mom so she could let me in the house at like 3-4 in the morning. So basically what happened was that friend and I started to get mad at each other & she said I could go home, so I did & she had the audacity to start calling me and texting and saying that I freaked her out since I just disappeared. That whole night she had been having a attitude towards my cousin (they stopped being friends shortly after), and chose one of the girls to specifically hang out with (which happens at EVERY one of her sleepovers).
i gatekeep sometimes (i usually wouldnt but i have a reason to) because this girl tends to get her personality from other people (i’m not the only one she does this too, ive seen it and people have talked about it) and it brings us all down so im not rlly sure if thats bad or not
This is so true! It pisses me off whenever I watch Tara's videos and in the comments there's someone being like "she's mid" or "she's pretty for a Persian" like?
The gatekeeping one is so true😭 Like, I had this one girl and she had a cute shirt on. I asked where it was from and she was like: "Oh I dont know wheres its from, my grandmother got it for me" so I asked if I could check the tag. SHE LITERALLY MOVED AWAY FROM ME TALKING ABOUT "I dont like people looking at my back". Then, she kept on dodging my questions, I was so done with her.
The last one... One of the people i know always keep ignoring me like purposefully For example (small one) like think i asked her something but she's pretending not to hear me even the most important stuff i HAVE to ask but if someone else asks she s like telling them evrything like the ignoring is pretty obvious. Its hurtful on soany levels i 😢
The one about about competition for a guy happened with my ex bsf she went for a boy that I told her about and we were already dating but then “he texted” her flirting but is was one of her friends acting like him so we would break up but then when I told him he said they’ve never even met before 😅
I have gotten left out when my old friends would match together and it sucks, and it gets even worst when everyone knows that they are friends bc of the matching then not knowing that your friends with them too. plus none of your friends stand up for u (i stopped being friends with them) 😭👍
the thing is I used to not gatekeep until I had a girl ask me where I got my fit from I told her to my necklace to my shoes and the next week she's wearing my whole ass outfit I started gatekeeping LOL
isn’t that the point though?? if i ask someone where they got something it’s because i want it too. now if this is someone notorious for copying you, that’s understandable. but clearly that girl liked your outfit a lot, y’all need to stop being weird
@@morighani nobody’s being weird I don’t mind people copying my outfits I honestly dgf but I started having girls copy EVERYTHING at some point u have people talking walking and acting like you that’s the only downside of not gatekeeping I don’t gatekeep a lot and I don’t have the same girls notoriously copy me but its hard not to run into girls constantly that just blatantly copy you or girls who envy or feel threatened by you🤷🏻♀️ my point is gatekeep to a limit js talking from experience 🤦🏻♀️
OMG THE LAST ONE HIT SO HARD These two ex friends of mine(the kicked me out long ass story) they would make plans then “cancel” the continue with the plans just without the girl they didn’t want there
The only reason i may not be able to tell you where something is from is because all my clothes are either thrifted, i've made them, gifts or hand me downs
Somehow I hate telling people were my stuff is from (I don't gatekeep I'm just autistic and struggle with being perceived) but I love to gush about my clothes being hand made. Like: "This is my crochet top! Do you like it? Do you want one?" or once I was doing a uni class and the guest asked us to tell her where our clothes were made and the material I believe. It was for a class of sustainability of products and processes (I'm a design student). I told her my pants were 90% virgin wool and 10% cachemire but I had no clue where the fabric was from because I made these. I mostly buy fabrics from a store that sells dead stock (pre cut fabrics and clothes) from more well known designer-ish brands like guess, Max Mara and others at a lower price. The guest was surprised that she met someone who makes their own clothes and some girl I saw many times (she was super nice) complimented me. Sewing and handmaking things (crochet and knitting) have been my biggest passion since I was a wee little kid.
If you purposely tell a girl something really embarrassing like your mascara is smeared really loudly in a big group of people or in front of guys, you’re not a girls girl. That’s just plain out rude no matter who you are.
I gate keep stuff from people who aren't my friends and actively don't like me but have decided to strike up a conversation only for their own benefit 😥
i hate when people gatekeep some of my friends accused me of doing this w my clothes. A lot of my clothes my aunt sold to me. She has a small business as a stylist and she literally travels all over the world to get her pieces. Her business pays for her to be able to travel. So she always sends me pictures of the different stores/boutiques she goes. I sometimes forget where she gets them from and my friends get annoyed In always tell them to talk to my aunt, and ask but ofc they don’t it’s too many steps.
i have this one friend that has done the boy thing three whole times in the span of one and a half years. first one was with a boy she currently talking to now, second with he exs best friend AND the girl still is friends with her and now with me and she even talks about him the same way i do
girl if you ask me where my top is frpm i'll tell you exactly where and when I bought it, if i bought it on sale or not, how much it was and if you can find it anywhere now of if it is not on the current collection (if I didnt buy it at the market stalls and so on, and i will also tell you that)
I never gatekeep stuff butttt am i the asshole for gatekeeping one wear from this one girl...this girl keeps coping eveyrthing i do...and tries to be freidns with me. I change my style, so does she.i become friends with someone, so does she. I changed my hairstyle she did the same....and many more...for some years now. And i cant tell her away because i dont want to be rude or a pick me and one day i had a bad day and she asks me about one of the clothes about where i got it and i said "Why? You wanna copy it again?" And she became so defensive and was trying not to get attention from the class saying "no...i wont even wear it the same way...i wont even buy it i was just asking." I walked away and two weeks lateer she posts herself wearing it in the same way in the same colour and everything and puts a diss song on it...and then posts everytime she wears it. I havent spoken about it..and i try not to be rude but its getting annoying. I changed my style over summer...i hope she doesnt copy me again 😅
The thing with finding a guy attractive... my best friend and I live in different cities and when we meet she almost every time shows me a picture of a new guy she likes and she asks me what I think and I say that I don't think he's good-looking even if I think he is and now she just tries to set me up with any she *doesn't* find attractive bc she has no idea what my type is.
Admittedly, not a girl but a gay but this person i was friends with- like as in one of my only friends at a new college- started leaving me out clearly on purpose, then tried to steal money from me, and slagged me off to everyone saying im a liar 🙏
Sometimes people make a huge scene about the Gatekeeping thing! I love to tell people about my stuffs if they like it! But when I sometimes forget about the place I bought my clothes or other things from..they think I am Gatekeeping!! Bro how can you expect someone to remember a place she bought her clothes from two years ago,!
Bro.. I remember when I went to a football game with my friend from a different school and really hit it off with this one guy I found cute, and my friend that went to my current school happened to be there and only saw him to say hi (I was with him the WHOLE. GAME.) and after I expressed to my friend at my school I found him attractive and really liked him, she said she did too. She later texted me saying "We're hanging out and I'm gonna ask him to be my bf". I was obviously upset but I was like "Okay, as long as you're happy." She ended up dating him, BROKE UP WITH HIM, AND SAID SHE WAS LESBIAN. ONLY AFTER I STOPPED LIKING HIM. I still hold that grudge. We're no longer friends.
this is similar to the last one but when you take a photo with your friend group which is all girls and you intentionally leave only a half of a girl’s face in the photo or don’t include them at all or you just do them so dirty like😭
when i was in hs before me & my ex started dating, i thought it'd be cool to tell my friends that i found him cute & my 'bestfriend' at the time rlly said 'yeah he is' GIRL BYEEEE💀
People always think im gate keeping when they ask me where my clothes are from and I say idk. Like I actually dont, half of my clothes are hammy downs 😭
k i have a question and i alr asked my friend and she was completely fine with it but my friend told me she liked this guy in our school and i recognized his name but i didn’t know what he looked like and one day she pointed him out to me in the hallway and it was this boy who i had seen before and i kinda think he’s cute too but i feel like such a bad friend for liking him after her and i don’t want to be not a girls girl sooo is it rude for me to like him too? it’s not because she likes him and i thought he was cute beforehand but i didn’t really know who he was and now i feel like maybe it’s mean of me to like him too? idk js someone lmk
The only piece of clothing I own that I remember or even knew in the first place where it came from is this one black running jacket I used to wear all the time. It came from soem random Kmart down in the nearest big city 😂 I lost it tho. I was very distraught
I get all my clothes from thrifting (it’s just cheaper and easier for me ) but it sounds like I’m trying to gatekeep like girl if I knew I would tell you 😭🙏
One gril from my class always gatekeeps(to the point we sometimes just ask her since we know she isn't going to say anything) and once she asked my friend where her skirt was from my friend laughed,the next day we all came to school(5 of us friends) with same skirt,she again asked each of us and we all gave her diffrent answers,lol we had a good laugh seeing her get annoyed,we usually won't do that but she deserved it😭
One of my close friends the second I told her who my crush was she dm him on insta and she couldn’t stop talking about him and even myself I was never talking about him And she always says like ow he look fine…
I don't tell people where my stuff is not because I'm a gatekeeper but because I'm socially anxious. It's the same reason why if somebody asked me what artist am I listening to I just can't tell them. I think when it comes to music it might be because of my fear of being perceived. Which I believe is also why I stopped altogether to listen to italian music in fear of being perceived or judged. Then again I'm autistic and one of the rare people who isn't doing it to be dishonest. I usually say I can't remember or that it was a gift.
I always had tp thrift when i was younger, so (my parents didnt want me to get bullied) i never told people where i got my stuff. Its not always about gate keeping something becauss you dont want people to get it too
NO I FELT SO BAD THE OTHER DAY one of my friends asked me where i got my sports bra and i had no clue where it came from cause it was given to me and it didn’t have a tag 😭
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I get the gate keeping thing but most of the time I just don’t remember where it’s from 😭
Same 😭
Tbh I don't think gatekeeping clothes should be such a big thing. Half the time we don't remember, second, we buy sometimes from cheap markets which are seasonal, third, nowadays you can literally just take a pic of the garment and search something similar on the internet.
no same 😭 its like i cant even tell myself what brand this is
y'all gatekeeping would be if you flat out REFUSE to say where you got it from, not if you forgot or if it's from somewhere seasonal
Same a girl asked me where my shirt is from and I didn’t remember and tried to search around my shirt for the tag 😭😭
I tend to thrift a lot and honestly don't know if the things i thrift are still in production. If i know that the thrift shop has multiple of the thing i bought I'll tell someone (unless they gave me a weird look the last time i told them that something was thrifted) where i got it. Though if I know that the place I thrifted the item from doesn't have duplicates I'll tell them the thrift store but let them know that I grabbed the last one.
Literally same. Like bestie, this shirt was bought 10 years ago by some American guy and I bought it for 2 dollars. The brand tag had disappeared into the void
@@deathwave8375 Yeah, I sometimes get asked about my shoes and even if they're not thrifted, they're probably over 10 years old and not in production anymore, because it's hard to get my size so I wear my shoes until they're falling apart. Like, I can tell you where they're from if I remember, but it's likely that they're no longer avaliable
Same, so many people ask for where my clothes are from, but they’re either from the thrift store or Amazon
Gate keeping is knowing where it’s from and choosing not to tell them, especially if the reason is bc u want to feel unique or sum like that. So this doesn’t apply to u
The fact my friend knows I have a crush on a guy in my class and a week later she kept asking me if the guy was staring at her and kept body shaming me and calling me ugly in front of him 😐
That’s no friend. I’m afraid she is your former friend and now your current bully. She is bullying you and I hope she listens to you when you ask her to please stop.
She's not your friend, she seems like an insecure person who tries to ruin other people's happiness
Girl dump her rn, u seriously wanna be friends w someone who puts you down? Most insecure ppl in my experiences project their insecurities onto others in Hope's it makes themselves feel "better" and when it does, it leaves YOU with their problem of insecurity. She sounds like a real pick me tbh, but don't try doing the same thing w her for 'revenge' the best revenge you can get is her noticing your success and WISHING she stayed. Work hard and keep your head up.
@@riffatbb9912 well said 👏
She is an insecure girl who does not deserve your energy. She hates herself so she hates on you. You need to run!
If i ever dont tell someone where my clothes are from, its because i honestly dont know 😭
LOL same!!
I don't tell people where i got most of my clothes from, cuz that was when i was unaware of fast fashion, and i don't want them to think i'm cheap or i don't care about fast fashion or stuff like that. I'm scared of being judged 😢
Girll so I found out that my friend group got all matching pants and they never told me and they all wore the pants at six flags and I was there with jeans 😭🤚🏽
Literally block them cuz thats so rude?
Those aint your friends
Literally run away you deserve better friends ❤
That's my school friends lmao
Every run from these weird0s they aren’t your friends you’re just there to make the group bigger
In my senior year of high school I “adopted” an underclassman. This was really common in my school befriend an underclassman, show them around, give them tips about certain teachers, help them get settled. When I graduated we stayed in contact. Mind you I graduated at 17 and he was 15-16 and we were completely platonic nothing weird happening. But I let people get into my head about being a graduate with a friend still in high school. I started cutting him out of plans and hanging out with our mutual friends without him, making dumb excuses about why we couldn’t talk. A month went by where we didn’t talk to eachother and he got into a car accident and died.
I’m going to spend the rest of my life regretting that the last memories he has of me I was being a bad friend. If you have an issue with your friend, talk it out. Don’t be the coward who slowly pulls away for stupid ass reasons.
okay but my literal best friend started talking and snapping a guy like as soon as I mentioned that I kind of like him... so we met him at the same place and I just like immediately thought he was so cute and so nice and like at first she was like oh yeah he's just a really cool guy, he's like hella friendly and I really bought it. then as we were leaving the occation we met him at I asked him his snap and homegirl joined in and added him too and I was like okay sure whatever. tell me why now that I've been hanging out with him, she is ALWAYS tryna be there. and then after we see him she's gushing about how she might be getting a crush on him and I'm like?? girl you better not.
Yeah I've had friends like those.
They don't run after guys, they run after desirability.
Since you showed interest in the guy in her eyes, he is a good enough candidate to date and show off to other girls.
These type of people aren't friends, they just want attention, chances are they don't even like the guy too much, just want to date him cause he is desirable.
Pro tip, next time don't tell her you find a guy cute or like him.
@@sparkyblue7016 yeah, I won't. I'm like trying to act aloof about him with her now, like she knows I like him but I don't obsess about him, at least to her, so I'm not giving her a chance to talk about him. This is why I like having friends with an opposite type than I
haha, yeah, about this comment... we were at a bar with a few friends yesterday and the way this friend was *all over* the guy was driving me nuts, but there were mostly people she knew so I didn't want to be a bitch about it and acted like I didn't care. I feel a bit bad though cause the guy seemed a bit uncomfortable, especially as she got more drunk
First of all, DISTANCE YOURSELF AWAY FROM THIS BITCH, SISTER. hang out with Another close friend more often and if she questions it just say "we got pretty close" or sm like that. MAKE.HER.MISS.YOU. and same with your crush but DO NOT. hang out with another guy. Instead, focus on yourself and wait for HIM to start the conversation. IF HE WANTED TO.HE WOULD. I cannot stress this enough. Focus on YOURSELF more. Put more effort into your looks, your grades,yourental health,your peace and ANYTHING that makes you more happy and fulfilled
Ok but what if someone asks me where my shirt is and I got it from shein and I’m kinda embarrassed I got it there aita😭
i thrifted a pair of shoes because i thought they were cute and i was lwk so embarassed to tell a girl who asked where they were from
Tbh i just say it's from amazon or depop :'
honestly yeah, you shouldn't buy from places like that unless you literally cannot afford anything else - it's a known fact that shein and temu trash come from child slavery, and yet people buy from them anyways because they want to have more things
Yeah or like if I got it from Walmart or sum, I'm not gonna tell them that 😭
The only good gate keeping is keeping thrift stores quiet so resellers don’t flood them and prevent actual low income people getting the things they need / causing shops to up their prices intensely, again, causing low income people to get what they need. That’s what thrift shops are for. Other than things like that? Gate keeping has become the worst. I remember asking someone for hair tips to fix my damage and she just laughed at me because she didn’t want someone else having “hair as good as hers”. Like girl I don’t care about looking good or whatever you can have the points, I just wanna fix 10+ years of box bleach & dye damage
Thrift shops are for everyone
Soap Dove, Caress Daily Silk, Lirio or Zote (last two are from México). If your hair is damaged I recommend that you get a cut to a leng that feels confortable for you, don't use the heat of hairdryer, only air. To comb your hair search for hair brushes for your type of hair and when you comb it use a
water atomizer to wet it, you could get a treatment but for the best go to a dermatologist with this.
The leaving people out is so true omg, that’s happened to me so much times it is not okay. 😔
Omg so story time bc it’s late and my whole family’s asleep and im bored 😍
So last year we had an out of state school field trip to a pretty populated area, so the teachers told us to coordinate our group so we’d all wear the same colors. Now, my group I had some friends in but it was mostly those toxic girls who think they’re better than everyone else. Even tho we were TOLD to match, a group chat was made and the girl that made it purposely left me out and told me the wrong color. Thank God for my bsf who took screenshots of the gc and showed me and then when I showed up matching im like “yeah I had a hunch yall were wearing pink” it felt so good to show them but im ngl it was pretty depressing being purposely left out
I had a friend who got mad at me (because I finally said yes to hanging out with another friend and didn’t hang out with her for a few hours that week) and she actively pursued the 2 people I had told her I was interested in. Then, she seemed to have an issue when I, for very good reasons like racism and bad communication , lost interest in one of them.
Tbh I just forget it, I buy my clothes from cheap market where the shops don't really have specific names, they're just vendors who sell on specific days and don't on others.
So even if I want to tell them, they probably won't be able to find the same thing or pinpoint the vendor, best i can do is tell the market name 😂 or the name of the vendor.
The fact that my best friend does all of these things to me
girl that is not ur best friend then 😭😭 u needa find smn better
@@ayameoeofr
that is NOT a bestfriend girly☠️ you better leave her and find someone better
This girl was so sweet, I remember once in like 8th grade I told a girl I liked her dress, and she legit told me what store she got it at and what section of the store it would be in!! She was literally the sweetest thing 😊
I had a friend that kept going after the boys I thought were cute so when I actually got a crush she was mad that I didn’t tell her who. I finally told and she tried to sleep with him. It didn’t work and he ended up leaving the school because she was so aggressive with her advances.
it’s actually so sad bc i’m terrified of accidentally gate keeping like i don’t remember where half my clothes are from so i literally have ppl check the tag bc i don’t want to be bullied for “gate keeping”
I LOVEEEEE how ur getting the attention u deserve!
This is honestly human decency…💀🤚
Tina do more of these plsss
Bro, the second fact is so real. Like my bsf is so delusional that she thinks everyone is copying her, so when i asked sm like "oh, where did you get that app. It looks amazing!" She didnt want to tell me bc 'its her original idea'. (It was clock countdown, it was pretty popular back then for laptops do it can be aesthetic)
That last one actually happened to me at a group sleepover, I was one of the girls out of 5 to not get a shirt (I think my cousin also didn’t get one but her and another one of the girls left early). I ended up walking home because the one who was the birthday girl started getting too crazy (play pushing and hitting me and the other girl). We’re neighbors so it wasn’t that bad, so I called my mom so she could let me in the house at like 3-4 in the morning. So basically what happened was that friend and I started to get mad at each other & she said I could go home, so I did & she had the audacity to start calling me and texting and saying that I freaked her out since I just disappeared. That whole night she had been having a attitude towards my cousin (they stopped being friends shortly after), and chose one of the girls to specifically hang out with (which happens at EVERY one of her sleepovers).
sometimes i look like i gatekeep but i just dont want to tell everyone my outfit’s from shein😭
i gatekeep sometimes (i usually wouldnt but i have a reason to) because this girl tends to get her personality from other people (i’m not the only one she does this too, ive seen it and people have talked about it) and it brings us all down so im not rlly sure if thats bad or not
I always have to like turn my shirt around or get someone to check the tag because I have no idea where I get my clothes
I’m always so scared if I act like I’m a pick me or just generally just the worst person ever 😭
This is so true! It pisses me off whenever I watch Tara's videos and in the comments there's someone being like "she's mid" or "she's pretty for a Persian" like?
The gatekeeping one is so true😭
Like, I had this one girl and she had a cute shirt on. I asked where it was from and she was like: "Oh I dont know wheres its from, my grandmother got it for me" so I asked if I could check the tag. SHE LITERALLY MOVED AWAY FROM ME TALKING ABOUT "I dont like people looking at my back". Then, she kept on dodging my questions, I was so done with her.
i get so mad when im like "omg your shirt is so cute, where's it from? 😮" and then they're like "I'm not telling you 🙄"
like 😭
Girl some of us just forget where we got the shirt 😭
sometimes I'll genuinely forget where my clothes are from and I'm just like I'm so sorry😭😭
the last one happened to me :(
The last one...
One of the people i know always keep ignoring me like purposefully
For example (small one) like think i asked her something but she's pretending not to hear me even the most important stuff i HAVE to ask but if someone else asks she s like telling them evrything like the ignoring is pretty obvious. Its hurtful on soany levels i 😢
The one about about competition for a guy happened with my ex bsf she went for a boy that I told her about and we were already dating but then “he texted” her flirting but is was one of her friends acting like him so we would break up but then when I told him he said they’ve never even met before 😅
I always forget so I just show them a tag or something-
Im being so freaking fr rn, whenever someone asks me wher i got something from I LITERALLY DON'T KNOW 😭
Not me trying not to admit my clothes are from temu
Guys i don't gatekeep my memory is just that of a goldfish😢
bro tara yummy is actually so pretty 😭
I have gotten left out when my old friends would match together and it sucks, and it gets even worst when everyone knows that they are friends bc of the matching then not knowing that your friends with them too. plus none of your friends stand up for u (i stopped being friends with them) 😭👍
the gatekeep one is becos my shirt is from shein and yk 😭
who else is literally binging her vids rn? 😂
the thing is I used to not gatekeep until I had a girl ask me where I got my fit from I told her to my necklace to my shoes and the next week she's wearing my whole ass outfit I started gatekeeping LOL
isn’t that the point though?? if i ask someone where they got something it’s because i want it too. now if this is someone notorious for copying you, that’s understandable. but clearly that girl liked your outfit a lot, y’all need to stop being weird
@@morighani nobody’s being weird I don’t mind people copying my outfits I honestly dgf but I started having girls copy EVERYTHING at some point u have people talking walking and acting like you that’s the only downside of not gatekeeping I don’t gatekeep a lot and I don’t have the same girls notoriously copy me but its hard not to run into girls constantly that just blatantly copy you or girls who envy or feel threatened by you🤷🏻♀️ my point is gatekeep to a limit js talking from experience 🤦🏻♀️
Sometimes I fr don't know where my shirt or jeans are from😭😭
OMG THE LAST ONE HIT SO HARD
These two ex friends of mine(the kicked me out long ass story) they would make plans then “cancel” the continue with the plans just without the girl they didn’t want there
Yeah one time all my friends wanted to wear blue, But they didn't tell me... Like bruh
leah can’t control how many likes she gets 😭😭 and honestly she’s gorgeous soo
The only reason i may not be able to tell you where something is from is because all my clothes are either thrifted, i've made them, gifts or hand me downs
Somehow I hate telling people were my stuff is from (I don't gatekeep I'm just autistic and struggle with being perceived) but I love to gush about my clothes being hand made. Like: "This is my crochet top! Do you like it? Do you want one?" or once I was doing a uni class and the guest asked us to tell her where our clothes were made and the material I believe. It was for a class of sustainability of products and processes (I'm a design student). I told her my pants were 90% virgin wool and 10% cachemire but I had no clue where the fabric was from because I made these. I mostly buy fabrics from a store that sells dead stock (pre cut fabrics and clothes) from more well known designer-ish brands like guess, Max Mara and others at a lower price. The guest was surprised that she met someone who makes their own clothes and some girl I saw many times (she was super nice) complimented me. Sewing and handmaking things (crochet and knitting) have been my biggest passion since I was a wee little kid.
If you purposely tell a girl something really embarrassing like your mascara is smeared really loudly in a big group of people or in front of guys, you’re not a girls girl. That’s just plain out rude no matter who you are.
Sometimes I gate keep bc I’m embarrassed where I got it from like SHEIN 😭😭
"hey were did you get your shirt"
"uhh idk my mom bought it for me"
"u gatekeeper"
I gate keep stuff from people who aren't my friends and actively don't like me but have decided to strike up a conversation only for their own benefit 😥
I've done the last one 😭 😭
(I don't do it anymore tho)
i hate when people gatekeep some of my friends accused me of doing this w my clothes. A lot of my clothes my aunt sold to me. She has a small business as a stylist and she literally travels all over the world to get her pieces. Her business pays for her to
be able to travel. So she always sends me pictures of the different stores/boutiques she goes. I sometimes forget where she gets them from and my friends get annoyed In always tell them to talk to my aunt, and ask but ofc they don’t it’s too many steps.
My friends say I gatekeeper but I just usually don’t remember where my clothes are from because I thrift and buy a lot of vintage
I dont understand the first one. Just because im a girl doesnt mean i have to like every girl in the world.
But putting them down publicly?
A lot of people say I gate keep where I get my clothes but I don’t I just don’t remember where I got it😭
Tara yummy is a GODDESS❤
ok but this one time this one girl asked me where my shirt is from and I was too embarrassed to say amazon..she was a sephora 10 year old too 😭😭
i have this one friend that has done the boy thing three whole times in the span of one and a half years. first one was with a boy she currently talking to now, second with he exs best friend AND the girl still is friends with her and now with me and she even talks about him the same way i do
girl if you ask me where my top is frpm i'll tell you exactly where and when I bought it, if i bought it on sale or not, how much it was and if you can find it anywhere now of if it is not on the current collection (if I didnt buy it at the market stalls and so on, and i will also tell you that)
Lol, i feel like such a pick me whenever I say I get my sweaters from wal mart tho 😭😭😭, and I get such odd looks
I never gatekeep stuff butttt am i the asshole for gatekeeping one wear from this one girl...this girl keeps coping eveyrthing i do...and tries to be freidns with me. I change my style, so does she.i become friends with someone, so does she. I changed my hairstyle she did the same....and many more...for some years now. And i cant tell her away because i dont want to be rude or a pick me and one day i had a bad day and she asks me about one of the clothes about where i got it and i said "Why? You wanna copy it again?" And she became so defensive and was trying not to get attention from the class saying "no...i wont even wear it the same way...i wont even buy it i was just asking." I walked away and two weeks lateer she posts herself wearing it in the same way in the same colour and everything and puts a diss song on it...and then posts everytime she wears it. I havent spoken about it..and i try not to be rude but its getting annoying. I changed my style over summer...i hope she doesnt copy me again 😅
the first one is funny mentioning tarayummy when she's not even a girl's girl herself 😭
With the gate keeping I genuinely don't even know but I'm open to them checking the tag to see what brand it is
Most of the time I tell where I get my clothes from but sometimes I don't, like in what size section I got it from. ;-;
I don't gatekeep I js don't remember lmao
I’m one of those people who has no idea where things are form and I’m like literally you can check the tag
Bc my ex bsf started flirting with my crush right after I told her I liked him, girl goodbyeee I can’t 😭
shes def right, but sometimes i dont wanna tell my friend where my clothes are from bc i like things to be mine😭😭
oh get over yourself
@@wheatbreadenthusiast who r u?😂
Same i do this with singers and movies😭
That’s literally gatekeeping 😅
That’s literally gatekeeping💀 but go off sweaty.
most of the time i don’t even remember where my clothes are from but if i know i will tell
I have no idea where the clothes i have on came from doesnt always mean gatekeeping
the only reason ive gate keeped is when I got my shirt from my babysitter - im a certified shirt sharer
The thing with finding a guy attractive... my best friend and I live in different cities and when we meet she almost every time shows me a picture of a new guy she likes and she asks me what I think and I say that I don't think he's good-looking even if I think he is and now she just tries to set me up with any she *doesn't* find attractive bc she has no idea what my type is.
Admittedly, not a girl but a gay but this person i was friends with- like as in one of my only friends at a new college- started leaving me out clearly on purpose, then tried to steal money from me, and slagged me off to everyone saying im a liar 🙏
Sometimes people make a huge scene about the Gatekeeping thing! I love to tell people about my stuffs if they like it! But when I sometimes forget about the place I bought my clothes or other things from..they think I am Gatekeeping!! Bro how can you expect someone to remember a place she bought her clothes from two years ago,!
My toxic trait is gatekeeping stuff like perfume and makeup 😭
Valid bc I know my friend left me out of a secret bc she thought there was something off about me
I don’t gatekee I just have a really bad memory and most of my clothes are from Christmas 😂😭
Bro.. I remember when I went to a football game with my friend from a different school and really hit it off with this one guy I found cute, and my friend that went to my current school happened to be there and only saw him to say hi (I was with him the WHOLE. GAME.) and after I expressed to my friend at my school I found him attractive and really liked him, she said she did too. She later texted me saying "We're hanging out and I'm gonna ask him to be my bf". I was obviously upset but I was like "Okay, as long as you're happy." She ended up dating him, BROKE UP WITH HIM, AND SAID SHE WAS LESBIAN. ONLY AFTER I STOPPED LIKING HIM. I still hold that grudge. We're no longer friends.
Im realizing i might just be a girls' girl without even knowing
I either forget where i got the shirt or i js love it sm and wanna gatekeep it womp womp
this is similar to the last one but when you take a photo with your friend group which is all girls and you intentionally leave only a half of a girl’s face in the photo or don’t include them at all or you just do them so dirty like😭
when i was in hs before me & my ex started dating, i thought it'd be cool to tell my friends that i found him cute & my 'bestfriend' at the time rlly said 'yeah he is' GIRL BYEEEE💀
People always think im gate keeping when they ask me where my clothes are from and I say idk. Like I actually dont, half of my clothes are hammy downs 😭
I go to goodwill for my clothes so idk what brand they r i js know they r cute 😭
k i have a question and i alr asked my friend and she was completely fine with it but my friend told me she liked this guy in our school and i recognized his name but i didn’t know what he looked like and one day she pointed him out to me in the hallway and it was this boy who i had seen before and i kinda think he’s cute too but i feel like such a bad friend for liking him after her and i don’t want to be not a girls girl sooo is it rude for me to like him too? it’s not because she likes him and i thought he was cute beforehand but i didn’t really know who he was and now i feel like maybe it’s mean of me to like him too? idk js someone lmk
The only piece of clothing I own that I remember or even knew in the first place where it came from is this one black running jacket I used to wear all the time. It came from soem random Kmart down in the nearest big city 😂
I lost it tho. I was very distraught
I get all my clothes from thrifting (it’s just cheaper and easier for me ) but it sounds like I’m trying to gatekeep like girl if I knew I would tell you 😭🙏
One gril from my class always gatekeeps(to the point we sometimes just ask her since we know she isn't going to say anything) and once she asked my friend where her skirt was from my friend laughed,the next day we all came to school(5 of us friends) with same skirt,she again asked each of us and we all gave her diffrent answers,lol we had a good laugh seeing her get annoyed,we usually won't do that but she deserved it😭
I'm a girls girl ALL the way. If someone asks me where I got a shirt I tell them to flip the tag in the back of the shirt. And I hate ppl gate keeping
I usually tell everyone where i got my stuff but sometimes i really dont know and i hate when i dont cuz i sound like such a pick me
Okay but like half of my closet is hand me downs 😭 atp I just tell my friends to check the tag if they wanna know
i don’t mean to gate keep everything i get is hand me downs😭
One of my close friends the second I told her who my crush was she dm him on insta and she couldn’t stop talking about him and even myself I was never talking about him
And she always says like ow he look fine…
I don't tell people where my stuff is not because I'm a gatekeeper but because I'm socially anxious. It's the same reason why if somebody asked me what artist am I listening to I just can't tell them. I think when it comes to music it might be because of my fear of being perceived. Which I believe is also why I stopped altogether to listen to italian music in fear of being perceived or judged. Then again I'm autistic and one of the rare people who isn't doing it to be dishonest. I usually say I can't remember or that it was a gift.
Hayleebaylee does this 😮
Huh? Does what?
literally my twin sister (we don't look alike) ♡
I always had tp thrift when i was younger, so (my parents didnt want me to get bullied) i never told people where i got my stuff. Its not always about gate keeping something becauss you dont want people to get it too
Thrifting is looked at positively by most people now because it is better for the environment.
NO I FELT SO BAD THE OTHER DAY one of my friends asked me where i got my sports bra and i had no clue where it came from cause it was given to me and it didn’t have a tag 😭