Agreed although I am not a total “ Sigma” - however if I had continued to be me and not influenced by hidden abuse it would be me. The key here is boundaries around self absorbed and passive aggressive abusers. They will use everything against you even at their own demise . So it is sound advice to not share with them. The irony is the double bind they are paranoid types and do not trust. Trust is earned. I disagree about the sibling as it depends on the spectrum, the persona and the situation . And it would be better if the sibling did not go along as a co conspirator with the self absorbed parent but they believe they are fooling each other ( and everyone else) The adult who requires such validation from an insecure and unstable source are also desperate to be a “ Golden child” will go along with the self absorbed mo figure. Perhaps some still seek the love but the cynical ones it is just another game . The desire to be seen as Golden even as an aging adult but an aged adult is one of the glaring signs of the problem with toxic enmeshment. The self absorbed do not know how to love others. Words are cheap. I understand I can’t control or change anyone but me so I let it go and let them do their dance. And boundaries are essential around passive aggressive types; as. passivity is to hide their aggressive ( controlling) “ nature”. I focus on my own life ( which means I now lean more towards a more authentic me higher on Sigma) The persona who likes to present to the world as a Sigma ( or Aloha) usually gives herself away as not really being one - the difference is in the actions not words
It's what my family think I am...yet they steal allow others to hurt their mom.....do bad things like sell drugs and many other things in front of kids..far worse than what their parents did... Parents don't allow your kids or family to control you...when you choose to put your foot down..they will find anything to say about you..and install cameras and track everything you do.. # yes they are reading this now....titles and all! Getting ready to spend their thanksgiving with their family they close over their own mother that made sure their ungrateful as$ was never in the hospital.!!
What?! Trauma does not make you strong - it weakens your immune system. It is worthwhile to note that comment is the unconscious response to hidden abuse. A parent figure who neglects or devalued a daughter can fall on the spectrum of abuse and it is one of the reasons it gets passed along generationally and glossed over. The idea carries shame and stigma. The end goal ought to be the health of the child. So you become “ strong” not because of a self absorbed parent figure but in spite of her ways. What that means is all the energy you put into surviving her behaviour could have been spent on thriving. That said, mothers are easy targets and those of us who are not like the self absorbed can be cast that way ( ironically done by the self absorbed parent figure who plants toxic seeds in others). To know the difference requires self awareness. And it requires understanding projections.
Sigma females accept their mother’s limitations without trying to change them, freeing themselves from ongoing disappointment and emotional turmoil.
💯 accept and love them as they are
Surprisingly fairly accurate!
Yeah home was tough bc of this dynamic.
Agreed although I am not a total “ Sigma” - however if I had continued to be me and not influenced by hidden abuse it would be me. The key here is boundaries around self absorbed and passive aggressive abusers. They will use everything against you even at their own demise . So it is sound advice to not share with them. The irony is the double bind they are paranoid types and do not trust. Trust is earned.
I disagree about the sibling as it depends on the spectrum, the persona and the situation .
And it would be better if the sibling did not go along as a co conspirator with the self absorbed parent but they believe they are fooling each other ( and everyone else) The adult who requires such validation from an insecure and unstable source are also desperate to be a “ Golden child” will go along with the self absorbed mo figure. Perhaps some still seek the love but the cynical ones it is just another game .
The desire to be seen as Golden even as an aging adult but an aged adult is one of the glaring signs of the problem with toxic enmeshment. The self absorbed do not know how to love others. Words are cheap.
I understand I can’t control or change anyone but me so I let it go and let them do their dance.
And boundaries are essential around passive aggressive types; as. passivity is to hide their aggressive ( controlling) “ nature”. I focus on my own life ( which means I now lean more towards a more authentic me higher on Sigma)
The persona who likes to present to the world as a Sigma ( or Aloha) usually gives herself away as not really being one - the difference is in the actions not words
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Don’t play, why lose yourself playing stupid games to win stupid prizes?
Leave them all to each other.
It shows that sigma female are destined to rule .
It's what my family think I am...yet they steal allow others to hurt their mom.....do bad things like sell drugs and many other things in front of kids..far worse than what their parents did...
Parents don't allow your kids or family to control you...when you choose to put your foot down..they will find anything to say about you..and install cameras and track everything you do..
# yes they are reading this now....titles and all!
Getting ready to spend their thanksgiving with their family they close over their own mother that made sure their ungrateful as$ was never in the hospital.!!
What an angle … 🤔
It seems like her mother is the reason for making her strong.
What?! Trauma does not make you strong - it weakens your immune system. It is worthwhile to note that comment is the unconscious response to hidden abuse. A parent figure who neglects or devalued a daughter can fall on the spectrum of abuse and it is one of the reasons it gets passed along generationally and glossed over. The idea carries shame and stigma. The end goal ought to be the health of the child.
So you become “ strong” not because of a self absorbed parent figure but in spite of her ways. What that means is all the energy you put into surviving her behaviour could have been spent on thriving.
That said, mothers are easy targets and those of us who are not like the self absorbed can be cast that way ( ironically done by the self absorbed parent figure who plants toxic seeds in others).
To know the difference requires self awareness. And it requires understanding projections.
The myth of what makes us strong is how narcissistic mother figures or other types get away with the justification and excuses for abuse.
The fixation with being " strong" needs to end. No, there's no need to be strong. We should focus on peace, happiness, fulfilment and skillset.