7 minute Saturday on boundaries couldn’t have come any sooner.This topic of discussion is necessary/reminder of how important boundary setting is. Actions speak louder than words. Thanks.
⏰Right on time huh!? It's so important and keeps us from wasting our time and energy. You're def welcome! On another note, I pray you and all of your loved ones are safe and sound during these times!
Exactly - just start, be firm and sure. Years ago when I started setting boundaries with my time, I noticed a lot of pushback from people who were used to me prioritising them when they called regardless of what I was doing. Action speaks louder than words! If it’s coming from a genuine place, people will have to get with it or step aside.
The first step to setting boundaries is to place value on yourself. Most people have a terrible fear of setting boundaries because of fear of being rediculed or ostricized. Tell yourself, " I am doing this for me because I love myself and deserve it". I had to set boundaries with few of my family members. I was always the one giving my time, money, and emotional and physical support. After several years of doing these things; I got exhausted. I decided to set boundaries- I am only going to invest my time, money and strength to family members who also support and encourage me. Some important tips- when you set your boundaries; do not deviate from your plan. If they insist on bothering you; keep them afar. Also, make your boundaries clear. In my case; I told those family members that it is time for me to save up for my retirement and take care of myself. Good luck on your journey to freedom and happiness.
You are dropping some major major 🔑!!! I identify with your statement -- "Most people have a terrible fear of setting boundaries because of fear of being ridiculed or ostracized" That was so me and honestly I have to make a conscious effort to push through those feelings now if/when they come. Ahh family boundaries. I think that's one of the hardest parts of setting boundaries because you feel a sense of loyalty and obligation to them. Such great advice and tips. How did those family members react to you setting those boundaries and sticking to them?
@@RandomlyOniC At the beginning they were all talking about me- how I have changed and only care for myself. These are the very people I laid my life, sweat and blood down for. Eventually they got over it. I still always cater to the needs of my nieces and nephews- there is a soft spot in my heart for kids. I tell my nieces and nephews to make their list and I order their stuff online and have it mailed to their addresses. My sisters have been supportive and told me " It's about time you change". My distant relatives are the ones with the attitude- they have all cut off from me; but it is okay. I have God, my sisters, my nieces and nephews, my youtube sisters and few awesome friends. LIFE IS GOOD ONI. LIFE IS GOOD AND WE ARE BLESSED TO BE ALIVE♥️♥️
I believe in setting boundaries. This wasn't always the case for me though. I started setting boundaries with the amount of time I invested in people. People come to me for advice a lot! Not that I know it all, but I guess it's a gift. However, if I notice you're just trying to dump your baggage in my ear; not really wanting advice, then the next time you come around I will keep the convo really short. Eventually you will get the picture Boundaries with family- oh yeah! I don't drop what I'm doing to come to the rescue anymore. I had to learn the hard way, superwoman doesn't exist. Like you say, if you need to set some boundaries, just start. Don't feel the need to have the conversation with everyone. I don't do much talking. My actions (respectfully) speaks for me. Sometimes we feel like we have to always explain ourselves. No you don't have to. Just do it! Keep the distance
7 minute Saturday on boundaries couldn’t have come any sooner.This topic of discussion is necessary/reminder of how important boundary setting is. Actions speak louder than words. Thanks.
⏰Right on time huh!?
It's so important and keeps us from wasting our time and energy. You're def welcome!
On another note, I pray you and all of your loved ones are safe and sound during these times!
👍👍🍎🍎
🍎🍎🍎🍎🍎🍎
Exactly - just start, be firm and sure. Years ago when I started setting boundaries with my time, I noticed a lot of pushback from people who were used to me prioritising them when they called regardless of what I was doing. Action speaks louder than words! If it’s coming from a genuine place, people will have to get with it or step aside.
Loving the short cut on you 😍😍
The first step to setting boundaries is to place value on yourself. Most people have a terrible fear of setting boundaries because of fear of being rediculed or ostricized. Tell yourself, " I am doing this for me because I love myself and deserve it".
I had to set boundaries with few of my family members. I was always the one giving my time, money, and emotional and physical support. After several years of doing these things; I got exhausted. I decided to set boundaries- I am only going to invest my time, money and strength to family members who also support and encourage me.
Some important tips- when you set your boundaries; do not deviate from your plan. If they insist on bothering you; keep them afar. Also, make your boundaries clear. In my case; I told those family members that it is time for me to save up for my retirement and take care of myself.
Good luck on your journey to freedom and happiness.
You are dropping some major major 🔑!!! I identify with your statement -- "Most people have a terrible fear of setting boundaries because of fear of being ridiculed or ostracized" That was so me and honestly I have to make a conscious effort to push through those feelings now if/when they come.
Ahh family boundaries. I think that's one of the hardest parts of setting boundaries because you feel a sense of loyalty and obligation to them. Such great advice and tips.
How did those family members react to you setting those boundaries and sticking to them?
@@RandomlyOniC At the beginning they were all talking about me- how I have changed and only care for myself. These are the very people I laid my life, sweat and blood down for. Eventually they got over it. I still always cater to the needs of my nieces and nephews- there is a soft spot in my heart for kids. I tell my nieces and nephews to make their list and I order their stuff online and have it mailed to their addresses. My sisters have been supportive and told me " It's about time you change". My distant relatives are the ones with the attitude- they have all cut off from me; but it is okay. I have God, my sisters, my nieces and nephews, my youtube sisters and few awesome friends. LIFE IS GOOD ONI. LIFE IS GOOD AND WE ARE BLESSED TO BE ALIVE♥️♥️
I like this topic!
❤️❤️❤️❤️
I believe in setting boundaries. This wasn't always the case for me though. I started setting boundaries with the amount of time I invested in people.
People come to me for advice a lot! Not that I know it all, but I guess it's a gift. However, if I notice you're just trying to dump your baggage in my ear; not really wanting advice, then the next time you come around I will keep the convo really short. Eventually you will get the picture
Boundaries with family- oh yeah! I don't drop what I'm doing to come to the rescue anymore. I had to learn the hard way, superwoman doesn't exist.
Like you say, if you need to set some boundaries, just start. Don't feel the need to have the conversation with everyone. I don't do much talking. My actions (respectfully) speaks for me. Sometimes we feel like we have to always explain ourselves. No you don't have to. Just do it! Keep the distance
Love you girly. Remember what I told you be you baby girl!
✨Always!!! Love you girl!!
You look beautiful!
Heyyy!!! Thank you so much 😙