Will We Support Him? | Why Did He Do That
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- Why Did He Do That | Will We Support Him
Alex did something unexpected, but had a very good reason. Why did he do that and will we support him are the 2 questions that have come up!
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Crystal has said “this is not a crying vlog” for the past like 5 vlogs. I completely love how vulnerable she is ❤️
She literally said it as I was reading your comment! Lol
The first video I watched of you guys was Alex reuniting with Josh and I've been hooked ever since. I had to find out more about this foster/adoption thing, I had to know how a healthy family operates, and I had to have someone to cheer for. Your family is amazing and I'm glad you've been able to change so many kids' lives. :)
That was also my first video from Crazy Pieces.
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It is human nature to learn from our “mistakes” - that is what it’s all about. I love that you are pointing this out, this world we are living in seems very unforgiving. I’m glad to be an adult, and not “growing up” during this troubling time. Your channel brings me joy and helps me to see there are still good peeps out there! ❤️
I’m wondering if Hannah’s trouble doing things alone stems from the same thing as you were talking about with Alex and that they were separated from bio siblings, moved around and abandoned so much and even adopted and it didn’t work out; it makes sense that she doesn’t want to be alone.
Yeah, that, coupled with more & more siblings moving out I wonder if that’s a trigger for her.
I was thinking the same thing
yes Im sure it is, you know she was "returned" with him. They were in the group home together. They have been through it together. SO both of them are continuously a work in progress, heck arent we all.
Could very well be.
@@charlottestevens9352 thankfully they did not just ask them to go back to tat house. Its horrible. We cant experience what they are feeling, but when i watch the video of them explaing and talking about their past it disgusts me, how can anyone do tat to kids?!!!!! Anyways they are so blessed.🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩 This is the kind of family they or anyone deserve. This is called family, not bonded by blood but by love..
Hannah. I'm so proud of you!!! Doing things alone is scarey at first, but doing it is going to set you up so good for the future.
Aaron always hugs with leaning in with his head. Body language experts say if you lean in “head first” it means it is sincere. 💜
100%. That body language says Im here. I have your back always. And I love you.
So glad you showed your continued love and support to Alex. I wonder if another factor that played into his fear of telling you and being rejected has to do with your LDS faith. With such a big focus on “worthiness,” it’s not surprising when kids question whether their unworthy of even their parents’ love. Glad you professed and showed your *unconditional* love to him! 💖
I know a lot of Lds who have tattoos
I truly think it was what she explained. When another child got an unsafe tattoo, they were not happy at all. As usual with their vlog then never said who only that there would be natural consequences. they usually dont share, but did say the kid had to pay for all medical testing to make sure they were ok. So I think that may have contributed to his fear. And when someone has literally thrown you back into the system. I CANT fathom how you totally ever heal from that.
Not all their kids follow their faith. They don't pressure them to practice or go to church or follow their beliefs. Also, organized religion as a whole in based on worthiness. Not just LDS. There is no winning religion or right religion. They all suck. The kids being adopted out of foster care has a bigger impact on their personality than anything.
I totally understand Alex's wound - now that he's going to get married and be in a very intimate and connected relationship with someone else, I hope he's still in therapy. or goes back! now Or even do a supportive program with meditation, journaling, self-inquiry etc. - this is so important, and for most people with lots of trauma is constantly ongoing! Those who dont have it may not relate, but it is super important to keep therapy or other work going if these things are still coming up, which for lots of people with trauma is just lifelong! that would support him most and may even help him and savannah out too. just my two cents :)
PTSD CAN be helped with therapy for me. It hasnt ( 10 therapists over 20 ish years consistently) from age 8 it was on and off...my mother didnt want them to know why I had ulcers at 8 and why is was so depressed. You can guess. Sometimes other things like you listed help. But sheesh getting past what happened to Hannah and him is HARD. Im sure they are mentally well taken care of, its one of the things they are serious about.
@@jenniwilliams3295 I take PTSD meds for sleep time. They don’t help me go to sleep or make me sleep. They just stop me from freaking out in my sleep. Reliving hell. Beating the crap out of my husband in my sleep. My x was an abuser and in my sleep I was reliving that and defending myself. I felt horrible and would refuse to go to sleep because of the terrors. I also would see my son in his casket every time I closed my eyes. He died at 25 of sepsis. So all those things are helped with a little pill. Talking was a joke, therapy was a joke.
Hannah I was you for so long. There’s nothing wrong with being scared to be alone. People made me feel safe all the time and I was reliant on them. The good news is that no matter the time, you can learn to do stuff on your own and learn to love it too. Lots of support from Australia 🇦🇺
Hannah you will get used to it having time alone is not bad. You are used to a large family that is why you are not used it being alone x
I hope Alex watches this. You explained it beautifully, the upset was with the underage child getting a unsafe tattoo. It was not a dislike for tattoos. Like I tell my teenager, my love for you is unconditional and has no limit. When a mistake is made it is not a life long punishment but a life lesson that we will learn from, grow from and move forward.
Love this perspective ❤
When you were sitting in the car talking about Alex’s tattoo & that everyone makes mistakes…that really hit home to me & my eyes were leaking 🥲 You are both amazing parents & humans to give gift cards to people who need it. You are such a blessing
I so agree with the problem of trending toward a "one mistake and done" mentality. It's crushing to me. It leaves no room for assuming that anybody can learn or grow from anything, and assumes that everybody is innately a bad person, and offers no room for hearing each other. It's really sad, and can cause serious harm.
yeah we all deserve multiple chances and it goes back to do onto others as you'd want to be treated back. Cancel culture needs to be stopped one mistake doesn't make someone a horrible person you're right
@@rondo9517 agree to some extent, depends on the mistake, some things are not forgivable. won’t list some because they are not lightly but as you can imagine, some people deserve no forgiveness.
@@wonderlaund while I agree that some mistakes are unforgivable, I would argue that mistakes are unforgivable only in very rare cases, where it's clear that there is no sense of remorse whatsoever.
I agree, it’s sad! At almost 50, I do not think/feel anything like I did at 18. As you mature and learn, your thinking and feelings mature. Plus, as an 18 year old I let people walk all over me. As an almost 50 year old, I can speak my feelings most of the time and not bat an eye 😂
Hannah, I love that you are getting out and trying things by yourself. I was the same way and still struggle with it at times.
Crystal really hit home tonight. I really needed this video. I know that feeling oh so well. Been having a hard time with the anniversary of my daughters death. People dont or cant understand why or how come I'm still sad or still cry and the situation becomes lonely. So thank you Crystal for the inspiring words. Always appreciated.
Me to🤧👏🏾
I’m so sorry for your loss. The death of a loved one never goes away especially a child. I can’t imagine what you have gone through, but know that you are not alone in that feeling. Love ya and thank you for being on this journey with us!
I’m sorry
@@CrazyPieces for you to reach out to this person is beyond sweet!! Thank you for loving and respecting us as much as we do you!!❤🇨🇦❤🇨🇦❤
Yes thank you for responding Crazy Pieces and thank you for the videos and the helping hand they give. Watch everyday and look forward to them
WAY WAY BACK,
ALEX TOLD AARON,
"YOU CAN SEND ME BACK" "EVERYONE DOES!"
IT BROKE MY HEART. AARON ASSURED HIM HE WAS FAMILY FOREVER!
Oh my gosh it’s breaking my heart so bad
what video did he say that?
@@j._.18 I don’t know I saw the video
I totally understand Hannah about not being able to be alone. I grew up in a large family and I always had people around me. When I was in uni I got an apartment off campus with a friend. For the first month my roommate wouldn't be there. The first week my boyfriend stayed with me but then he had to return home to take care of some things. When my bf left I sat in my livingroom with the knowledge that I'd be alone for the next two weeks... I broke down crying. I didn't know how to be alone for more then a few hours. I ended up going to a friend's apartment to hang out everyday that month. Slowly I've gotten used to being able to handle being alone and have even lived alone for the past 4 years now.
I love the way you helped the homeless family. Your family is a blessing to everyone. ❤️
I knew I saw something on his arm in one of your recent videos and thought maybe a tattoo but really didn't think anymore of it because well, it is a common thing. So glad all is well with everyone! Love to you all!!
In line with what Aaron said. Everyone needs a second or third chances. I love what Henry Longfellow said: “If we could read the history of our enemies, we would find in every man’s life enough sorrow and suffering to disarm all hostility” so instead of cancelling people, rather show love and grace.
words to live by! love it Aaron is an amazing man. Even though he couldnt express verbally how he was feeling, his body language always shows he adores you and has your back always.
At 22 our daughter became pregnant. She didn't tell us for nearly 5 months. She was afraid we would disown her. We told her we loved her unconditionally and would support her 110%. Our grandson is now 16 and we are so blessed by him. I have no doubt that you would support any of your kids 110% also.
Thats being family. You loved your daughter no matter what and you love your grandson. No better than that. Love can make not perfect situations better, not that any of us or the entire world is ever perfect. Kudos for leading by example!
the tattoo looks amazing alex! and i feel you crystal. all of my “friends” have said something that i didn’t really like which has left me with like no friends 😅
If Hannah only registered that this documentation of how she faced a fear helps others. Maybe she would do it more and more. Kudos Hannah!
Love how you deal with the kids! I am so glad that you always make them feel loved! I love the meaning behind the tattoo!
Yes! This is so true! Counseling/therapy is great and helps with a lot, but that feeling of loss/fear of losing more people is strong when triggered! I've lost a lot of friends over the years, and rely heavily on my family being there for me. Sometimes the smallest things will make the loneliness all come back strongly! Thank goodness for the love of family and true friends!
Glad you guys were so supportive of Alex though because when I got my first tattoo, it was for my 21st Birthday. I got it in memory of my grandma who actually passed away on my 17th Birthday and I even kept it hidden from my parents for about a week because I was so scared to tell them, worried about how they'd react. Once I finally worked up enough courage to tell my mom, she didn't talk to me for about 3 days, and it hurt because this tattoo was for someone who I loved so much and who I was super close to. And my grandma who passed is actually HER mom so I thought she'd like it, but...I guess I had a reason to be scared to show her.
To Hannah. I think the trick with significant others in high school isn’t the fact that you shouldn’t date in high school. It’s more of you shouldn’t expect much from high school relationships. Date to find out what you like in a person. And don’t feel bad breaking things off. It sucks when relationships don’t work out but they’re great lessons always. Don’t stress over people too much because loving yourself first is really the key. Love yourself and from there relationships can follow
Yes. Every relationship good or bad leaves a lesson. On what you want and deserve and what you wont accept. Aaron set the bar pretty high as far as being a man for your daughters to choose and not accept anything less than what he does. Which is why to Hannah its not worth dealing with boys for now. They are both teaching their sons what THEY deserve and how to treat someone they love. Im pretty sure Savannah (alex) feels that.
Sweet vlog. I love Hannah's growing independence and her maturity! Thank you for your practice of gifting to those who are homeless. I just watched a news report on how the high temps in the Phoenix area are life threatening to people without homes and how they depend on cooling centers to survive the heat. It mentioned JustACenter, a faith based organization that is trying to meet that need by providing more cooling centers and that they need donations to continue their good work. Blessings to you and your family! I love your vlogs!❤
I don’t know you personally but have been following for a few years. An you have shown me so many good things I will pass on when the time comes. I don’t have my own kids yet. My plan has always been to adopt. An now more than ever do I want to. I had a few Foster Sisters growing up an that’s where it started. I actually just saw one of them recently too. As a young adult every time I got a tattoo I hid it. I was afraid of the reaction I would get. Strict Catholic Family, they have gotten better as I have aged but sometimes we still don’t agree on things. I’m sure there is a lot we don’t see but you can tell how much love you have for everyone. It gives me something to look forward to.
This was such a special moment! I’m so glad Alex did this. And good job trying to go out by yourself Hannah you’ll get there :-) sisterly fun is always more fun anyway
Aaron, maybe you should get a tattoo of Crystal’s handprint outline. The outline should be made with all the kids names. This would go along with the Father’s Day shirts they make you with their hand prints all over.🖐🏼
I love that idea! I also think it would be cool if the kids' names are written in their own handwritings too!
How big do you think her hand is 🤣
Cute idea but my mind immediately went to if he got the same tattoo just 2 years ago literally like 5 of the kids wouldn’t be on it you never know when they’ll take another kid and that could be really sad for a kid coming in to the home
@@niamheb3517 then they can start crystal’s other hand. Or one of the kids hands. Just a thought
That's alot of names XD
I have so much empathy with that wound and I'm happy for Alex that he has such great parents who are there to reassure him. To have a loving family is the most valuable thing in the world. And I feel like your words, even though I don't have such a family, are second hand healing me as well.
Also: Just gotta love Hannah. She's the best.
You guys are so right! Everyone does make mistakes. Let me tell you an experience I had with making a simple mistake amidst having mental issues and then losing people I cared deeply about. One of the most hurtful feelings I've had is having people who I thought I was pretty close to, and also pretty vulnerable with considering my mental health, completely cut me off because I made a mistake that I owned up to. Then I tried to apologize up and down and tried to explain where I went wrong and how I could fix it and they ripped me a good one with hurtful comments of how it was always "all about me" and "do you know how many times you had her up all night crying because of your mistake she had to fix" and then BAM, no more contact. Nothing. One mistake and all the work that went into building this relationship had ended. A simple mistake. I have since tried to apologize to these people and have had no response. Over a simple mistake. So what does it mean? Was I of no value to them anymore? Did they get what they needed from me and now what am I good for? I mean, what else am I supposed to think, right? If you have any advice I'd greatly take it because I agree, it's definitely hurtful. 🤷🏽♀️❤️ To anyone suffering mental health issues or feeling alone...find your people and make sure that they are YOUR people. This world needs all the kindness and understanding of others as much as possible. In the meantime, heal. Heal from those who have hurt you. I know I am. ❤️
This vlog definitely hit home in the aspect of scares can be repaired but that Dosent mean they aren’t still there my parents think that I’m fine because of them talking to me but surprise im not it takes so much out of me to get up and even sometimes eat or drink because of someone’s actions and what they did to me I don’t even think therapy could help me but seeing you guys be like every kids dream parent is awesome and im happy for the kids that get to have a life where the parents actually care
I fully understand how you feel Crystal. Scars will always remain but you can move through them positively. Alex made me well up when he thought you may think he was rebelling, that was so sweet. Love you all xxx
I totally understand that being on your own can feel intimidating Hannah! I can tell it causes you to likely feel anxious or self-conscious about your ability to be alone and be ok with it. I think something that can help with taking on that task is taking small baby steps towards doing things on your own. Kind of like using exposure therapy techniques. So maybe getting gas on your own was your first step and that’s great! Then maybe another day, you can get gelato on your own, then go back home. Then another day you can spend 45 min - hour at the park hanging out, reading, coloring, walking your dog, etc. Maybe you’ll also feel more confident about the time of the day you do these things. So maybe doing things on your own at night feels like too much, so perhaps morning or early afternoon might be best because it’s bright and sunny. Also, setting up a timer on these “on your own” moments can be helpful, so that you know there is a limit to this time so that is doesn’t feel so out of your control. Knowing that there is a definite end to something can feel comforting to some. Also, don’t forget to celebrate the moments that you do get out of your comfort zone! Maybe you can even document how the solo trips/outings feel like for you. So perhaps journaling about it afterwards, writing about what the outing was like for you and any feelings and thoughts that came up for you (either positive and/or negative). Then maybe at the end of month you can look over these journal entries and see if there was any growth or progress which hopefully can give you a boost of confidence as you realize you are becoming more comfortable and confident with doing things on your own! It’s a process and these outings may not always be “successful” in our own eyes but I think that at least trying it out can help you get to know more about yourself and what you may want to work on in the future. Hope this is helpful but take what you want from it of course as you know yourself best! Sending lots of positive vibes your way 😊
I think Hannah has many of the same insecurities and fears that Alex does. They went through it together. But she expresses it differently and that is ok. But sheesh my heart breaks for both of them. Luckily they have lots and lots of love now. And those scars will fade.
more of her being scared to be alone is that she's a female so we are very very scared to go into public by ourselves in fear we're gonna get followed, kidnapped, or worst
The hugs card was a great card.
Great job Hannah on overcoming your fears.
My kids dad died when they were very young. They are now grown. (In their 30's)
The worst feeling in life is when you can't fix everything with a band-aid and a kiss anymore.
As their independence grows Chrystal, it gets tougher. But they take the values that you have instilled in them. They will always have scars. But you will always be there to offer said band-aid.
This will always mean the world.
There is so much I wish I would have done differently. But as I face each day I realize, only I can make the next a newer brighter one.
Oh I loved when you gave him the card ! Alex is so special and makes a difference in this world. (His ❤️)
I know what you are saying. I feel and have felt the same way my entire life. Everyone says don't take it seriously or you take things to heart too much. It hurts and when no one really understands, it hurts even more... I have very few friends and my best friends live so far away.
You and I need to be friends! Life can be so hard. I can feel you have a very sensitive soul like mine! Love ya and you are not alone!
@@CrazyPieces Thank you for the reply. I am very sensitive. I try so hard to make friends and then get hurt in the end. I pretty much just stay to myself now. Less hurt.
But that isn't showing my son a good way to live. He struggles enough in the friend area (he has autism) and is an only child. I do push him to look for friends outside of school as it is easier for him to talk to kids he hasn't known his whole life.
I have 4 tattoos all for my husband who passed 8 years ago are some of his saying, and 4 are for my grandkids! I love every one of them.
when you said "he thought we were going to disown him" I immediately got misty eyes. I can only imagine what that must have felt for him. Especially for little things. I'm so glad you are such a supportive family and care so much about one another!!
You two are the most amazing parents I've ever seen so caring and loving to all your children ❤️ xx
Makes sense, Alex… November is the gratitude month, the month of thanks. You have much to be grateful for.
Hannah Is such a cutie!! The first time that you do most things like pumping gas is scary but after that it’s a piece of cake. I like my alone times & also love being with people. Although I have never been through what she & most of her siblings have been through, I hope they all know how much you love them.
Savannah is such a sweetie also!
On the tattoo thing: you're absolutely right about confronting those fears and triggers but I think transparency also helps.
"It's not that we don't want you to get a tattoo or a piercing. We just want you to be safe. We want you to get that tattoo or piercing in a safe and healthy way!". Understanding that idea can also help provide reassurance and eliminate the B&W thinking;)
I love how you talk about loving your kids and supporting them no matter what, how you believe in giving second and third chances, and so on because you never give up on them. And you really truly understand the kids viewpoint and that they're not meaning to be misbehaving, but might just not think of all the aspects.
I love my mom dearly, but I wish she and/or my dad had been half as understanding and loving as you are. I wish I'd grown up in a family a little more like yours!
I totally understand that being afraid to do things alone I’m 21 and still have trouble going places by myself💛 glad u decided to do something by urself Hannah it’s a big step!
I can relate with Alex. I won't share my life's story but this gem was worth my whole experience because it helped me realize my life is worth more than what I was told. The person who did the most damage in my life asked for my forgiveness for their part in my upbringing. The conversation was just between that one person and I, I did forgive them and I know my behavior towards that person wasn't good, so I asked for their forgiveness on my part. This person is gone now. But I will be so excited to see them again one day. And... Honestly..... A lot of the heartache times, I can't remember. God's gift to me and my children.
Alex has always been an outstanding big brother to All his siblings, he needs that strong connect to his Big Brother!! 🙏🏻
I totally feel crystal and Alex. Rough day definitely crying. Hugs guys! Crystal ur so awesome wish I knew u guys in real life.
Love this vlog! It’s awesome that you share the struggles as well as the joy! It helps others. I have struggled with the rejection and abandonment as well as being alone for a long time. Thanks for sharing. Crystal, you don’t know me from Adam and you know tons of people but if you ever want to talk about this, you’ve got a friend in me. God bless! 🙏🏻❤️
A friend in me as well. Who has struggled my whole life.
I love this vlog!! Crystal I know that feeling, there time that I feel alone and I thought I eas the only one that felt that way. Love the way you and Aaron parent and love your kids unconditional.
A tree of life tattoo would be nice, the branches being all the kids names. If more kids are added to the family then just add another branch. Either way it is totally your body and your decision cause you got to live with that forever. I have a rose (fav flower), Betty Boop (nickname) butterfly(for husbands grandmother). Took me 26 years to get just those 3, lol, due to my fear of needles which some find strange considering my nursing career and being borderline diabetic so I have to stick myself multiple times a day. Love y'all and thank you for sharing the good and bad.
Crystal and Aaron, I just love how you parent. Each kid is different. You respect their person so much. I love this. My parents disowned me along time ago. PTSD is a forever battle that happen just when you least expect it. My parent's love was conditional. I'm just so touched by your reactions. I'm glad Alex has parents like you both. ♥️ I was literally brought to tears. I'm sure this video wasn't easy for you. Thank you for sharing!
I feel the same way Hannah feels and I’m 22 years old. Which i feel like puts so much pressure sometimes on me to do things alone cause it’s part of “adulting”. Absolutely hate it, makes me feel so anxious to do anything alone.
Crystal & Aaron you both are amazing people & parents. The way you support & Understand all your children it's amazing . It's alright to cry Crystal .
Just continue being Awesome parents
This is a great video Crystal. As "pessimistic" as it may seem, perhaps the fact that you have triggers or "imperfections" of your own is what makes you such a great mother to all your kids and a great match for all these foster turned adopted kids!!
You show them that it's ok to be imperfect. Everyone has their triggers and emotional weak points. However, it's the love and respect for that area that helps to mend the crack a little bit :)
As for Hannah: as unfortunate as it is, you are absolutely right. I would say the same thing to guys because unfortunately all that teenage anxt makes for messy relationships where you end up inadvertently mistreating each other. Best to keep friendships, keep things calm and simple and worry about dating afterwards :)
Thank you for loving your kids unconditionally. I wish all parents could.
Aaron you should get a tree of life tattoo with you and crystal as the roots, and all the kids names on the leaves. That would mean a lot to you!!!!
I was thinking along the same lines. I think it would look amazing!
@@letitiakearney2423 I know it is against Mormon beliefs to get tattoos, I am also Mormon, but I know lots of people who's religion is against tattoos,that have tattoos and still get new ones. It all depends on the person, and I believe that tattoos are beautiful and represent what is important to them. And if he is serious or not, is all up to him.
There are plenty of Mormons with tattoos it’s not forbidden but you’d normally ensure it was discreet x
And their wedding date above the tree
Cute idea, but that’d be a full back tattoo lol
Super proud of Hannah! I had the same anxiety as a kid. Now I love (and have to) spend some type of time alone.
I love that she started small with the gas station and ordering. Next is shopping and eating out. She’ll be on her way to bein comfortable being alone in no time!
Hannah, you NEED to learn how to be alone with yourself. With everything that has happened in your life, good and bad, it’s not surprising that being alone would be a bit challenging. But the time to get over this is NOW, not when life throws you a curve ball. My mom always told me that if you can be at peace with being by yourself, you’ll never be lonely.
I completely agree with you Gen. I'm ok with being alone. When I stopped trying to be happy all the time and learned that contentment was just fine - that was the turning point for me.
Amen to that!!
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This is for Aaron if he wanted to get all of the kids names tattooed on you, u could just get A tree tattooed on you and on each Leaf on the branches could have the initials or just the first letter on each leaf of each kid and their handwriting.
Underneath the tree could say your last name and on top of the tree could start with Crystal and Aaron or symbol that symbolizes you both the Finity symbol or something like that.
It’s a lot will it hurt of course but I think they’ll be really beautiful
Thank you for talking about life in a real way. I’ve struggled with so many different things in my life and it can be lonely when our minds make us believe we’re going through it alone. Your vlogs are always honest and just make everyone feel like they’re a part of a giant loving family.. i also want to suggest two books I’m currently reading called ‘it didn’t start with you’ by Mark Wolynn and ‘becoming bulletproof’ by Evy Poumpouras, they are helping me a lot and i hope they can help others on here as well.
You should support him especially because you adopted him and you love him and that is a special meaning no one would want to forget something like that and if that’s what it takes for him to not forget then you should support him
Oh Crystal.....This hit me so hard today.....I am so worried about my daughter and I finally went to a counselor this morning, to get some advice and support. My daughter has similar feelings as those you expressed and feels unsupported and alone after being an emotional support for many others. Her depression has me feeling afraid for her. Talking about your recent experience, made me realize I am in the company of other loving people, who struggle for answers and understanding. Thank you for speaking up.💗
Hang in there and you and your family are in our prayers!
@@CrazyPieces Thank you!💗
You two are such wonderful parents trying to make all your kids feel loved and understood.
I can relate to Hannah. I'm 22 and just got my permit a few months ago. I don't like to do things on my own to a certain extent always afraid of what will happen or of what others will do to me. Always tell my mom when I move out I might still have her go to the store and other places with me. Adulting is so scary to me.
Spend most times by myself with my pets bc I have like no friends or hardly any family I talk to. I get made fun of a lot and bullied by others, and you never know who to trust these days. I suffer from all kinds of disabilities physical and mental. But vlogs like these show me it's ok to have them and to just be the way you are no matter what other think or do. ❤️
Hannah I feel you sooooo much!!! I use to be so nervous to do anything alone. Shoot still am! But I’ve learned to enjoy the quiet over the years and finally at 28 I’m able to do the basics alone😅
Oh Alex ❤️ what a beautiful memory!
Stay strong. Stay humble. And know that I will always support ur family’s channel because I am so grateful for the way how the both of u tries ur best to instill love, positivity n humbleness into ur children’s upbringing.
Blessings to all...
Love n Aloha from one of ur biggest fans in Hawaii 🌈💜
I love this! 💜 This just shows, even more, how passionate y'all are! And I'm with Hannah, it's very HARD being alone!
I think Hannah is working on it, because she and Alex went through hell together. They cope differently. They have amazing parents and A LOT of siblings and the wayyyy more cousins who all love you no matter what and the tons of us watching who love them all.
Crystal thank you - I’ve been having anxiety about a few things in my life , told my husband and unfortunately he just doesn’t understand or sympathise with how I’m feeling which makes me feel very alone . Your words here mean a lot to me. X
I’ve had that feeling of feeling alone, my husband and I lost our 3 year old son and we was hurting so bad and you feel so lonely and then my parents moved to a different country which made me feel even more lonely. But you do get through these moments especially when you have a loving husband/wife and loving kids!! Hope your feeling good now Crystal. ❤️
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So many of us are alone. Not having family or friends is honestly scary. Watching these vlogs brings so much light in this dark world. When Crystal saids that eventually good people will find there way to you really makes me feel hope in my heart. Simply thank you Crystal for making me and others who are alone feel less alone. Your kids truly will never have to feel the loneliness that some of us feel/continue to go through.
I love how you are supportive 100% with your kids. It is so important to a kids life to know that and that you always have their back, and being there in any desicions they make in life. If it was worth getting, it's worth having with the right desicions in life. Alex is an amazing person to let you guys know that he got a tattoo. Must've been hard hard on him, but at the same time love how you were there and understand his situation. You are amazing, and loving parents. Enjoy your guys' day. Enjoy your gelatto Hannah and Savannah.
OMGOSH Crystal I am crying like a baby💞 I needed to hear this today💞 Great job getting gas on your own Hannah💞 Be Brave 💞
Alex is such an amazing kid, honestly one of my favorite kiddos❤️ his heart is so pure and he has such a loving spirit. I honestly wish I could meet him
Always here watching from the United Kingdom whatever your going through and words can hurt best thing to do is talk and move on and you will always learn and grow. Alex with a tattoo nice ☺️ and the meaning was awesome props to u Alex plus you have a great support system your family
Love the theme song, can’t help but sing along Everytime!!!
I do the same
Same here haha 🥰
Same
Sameeee
Lol, every time I go for my walk I find myself singing their song.
The way you guys love your children no matter where they came from and who they are inspires me to become a good parent one day and share kindness.
I also struggle with these feelings i have had my biological mother with me but sometimes I feel like we're in two different worlds but what I struggle with the most is not having a stable example of a dad and a part of me is that little girl still wanting to say daddy i love you and daddy your my hero. So the fact that eran thinks of his family so much so to mark it in his body permanently is emotional and it's also emotional to see cristal emotional for her kids love you guys stay safe ❤️🙏 best wishes to Alex and his upcoming wedding
Crystal I know that feeling. I feel the same the way you do I do hear what you are saying there. I feel so alone at times. So I can relate to what you are saying. Love you keep it crazy pieces. Love you guys so so so so much ❤️
You guys are the sweetest family! Great message you put out there. Old wounds may never fully heal, but how you manage them is important. A lesson I’m still learning. Love the tattoo!
Many of us have lived with conditional love forever and even as an adult those 'triggers' are so deep that you can say 10000 times you won't leave or abandon us it is so engrained we aren't good enough. Alex has a soft soul and i'm glad he has you.
I was like Hannah when I was younger, and I found that one of the easiest things to do alone is going to my favorite store. This is actually what I started with, I would spend a few hours browsing books in Barnes and Noble and then I sat in a park and would draw, read or just listen to music and eventually I was doing so much more, it takes time, but it gets much easier. The biggest thing I did alone was a solo trip to Paris, it was terrifying, but so empowering. I wish her the best and it does get easier I promise.
For me, this is the best video I have ever watch on your channel. We come to Earth to experience the deepest hurt only to realize how loved we are. Without the opposite it is hard the feel the depth of our love.
Crystal I have never in my 67 years met or known anyone like you to be so intuitive, compassionate, loving, gracious, empathic and kind. Your loving passion for your husband, children, and family and for all people is one of a kind. Sometimes I feel there is no empathy and love in this world until I watch Crazy Pieces and you give me hope. Thank you.
My dad was and still is terrible to me. My mom and dad are still together for some odd reason and I have had trouble building relationships and trusting people. It makes me so sad because I used to be very outgoing. Not anymore. I’m almost 39 and still don’t trust people and fear constant judgment from others. You are doing a great job and hopefully you can continue to build these kids up. They need it!
Good for you for trying things by yourself Hannah. It gets easier and you will feel more empowered.
Such a special vlog! Thank y9ou for being real and allowing us to cry and have all the emotions with you! Lots of love Always Linda
You guys are such special people. I would never think that you would disown one of your kids for anything. That's why it surprises me that Alex would think that. Im sure it goes back to his days before coming to you. Im so proud of you for making it known that he should never feel that way. That there is no going back and he's a Pettit forever and always. Aaron said he wanted to get a tattoo but didn't know what he'd want on his body forever. It might take up an entire arm but what about the kids gotcha dates? Maybe all of the kids names.
Love Hannah vloging her experience! What a brave thing to do. I was just talking to my mom how much we both don’t like being alone. Especially since Covid everyone has been more traumatized. I also think the fact that Alex the person who has been with her all these years moving out and getting engaged might have triggered some of these feelings in her as well. I’m sure as happy as she is for him it’s very hard for that he moved out and moved on with life.
Oh Alex, that tattoo is wonderful ❤️ Crystal and Aaron, you're so wonderful for supporting and loving him no matter what!! You're such a special family.
Hannah, I commend you for doing things on your own - it is not being a female alone in the world. You definitely have to have your wits about you! Also, dating... I'm in my early 30s and haven't found it any easier than when I was younger, but I'm sure you won't have that issue! X
I resonate with your message a lot. I have complex ptsd from my childhood. My dad abandoned us which caused initial low self-esteem and low feelings of worth, and then my mom was very critical and mean at times. She would constantly call us users and tell us we were ungrateful. She would buy us a lot of presents as a kid, but then make you feel like you caused her financial stress a week later, feeling like you don't deserve the gifts. She would often times just make us feel unliked and unwanted and she literally celebrated when we turned 18 cause she was "done".
Now as an adult, I deal with a lot of issues. I have ongoing, perpetual suicidal ideation and feeling like I don't belong here and my life was a mistake and not even my parents want me. A huge trigger of mine is feeling guilt. I try my best to be a good person and make good choices so that I never have to feel it, but at times it's inevitable. Another one is just being generally unliked or feeling unloved. It's made being in a relationship very rocky because of course everyone gets annoyed or irritated at some point, but it triggers me so much that I feel like my world is ending.
I really am trying hard to separate myself from my parents, and just think of myself as me and not a part of them. I always wished that I was put into foster care instead of just being told I'm a user and a burden, but I know that can cause even worse damage. 20s are very, very, very hard.
I have tried to seperate myself several times, but I forget to easy and I forgive too easy. Silly as it is I was driving home from the hospital after an awful procedure. I was not ok, she was all I had to reach to...she screamed at me for something I said to my brother (her angel) weeks ago. And this is corny, but Meghan Trainors new song bad for me came on...its about having to cut someone who is blood, but bad for you. Listen. It will hit home and validate that you are NOT alone. Even famous people go through it. As an aside you mom, lets be honest sucked. My kids dad just walked out their lives out of now where. They are 10,17,19,21 (hes mentally 5) I am doing everything I can to love and support them on every level. As I kid, what would have meant the most to you? What did you wish you COULD have had from a at least mediocre, I hope Im better than that, but I know as an abused kid I dreamed of loving parents. I want to do every thing I possibly can, so they know they are loved. So I genuinely asking what did you dream of having?
@@jenniwilliams3295 I would say don't act like you hate being a mom. That was hard for me. I felt like a burden because she was so obviousy stressed out and didn't try to stay composed at all. I felt unwanted and like I just caused her problems. Act like Crystal and be happy to do motherly things, she never is annoyed with her kids for having to be their mom. If you're not happy, seek help from a counselor and try to be grateful for everything you do have. Your kids will think they're not good enough to make you happy if you are constantly stressed out. Other than that, being genuinely there for them no matter what unconditionally is all there is to it.
Gosh I love these kids. They have been through so much and no matter what - they are loved...
You two really are a gift from God, you are the most wonderful people x
It's interesting that Hannah has major anxiety being by herself.. I have major anxiety with groups of people.. I thought it was cute how she was giving herself a peptalk! Also, it was nice to see her bonding and spending special quality time with Savannah!
WOW...I know EXACTLY how you feel. Honest...it is a huge fear of mine to be alone, forgotten, like I don't matter. Am I worthy(?) Like if I were to pass away...it would be like I never was alive. No legacy. I'm a people person & the more the merrier & yet I feel so alone😔 Many triggers from my past. I have severe PTSD! I enjoy watching y'all & you bring joy in my life. Y'all are awesome☺️ To you Crystal & all of you HUGE ((HUGS))❣️
Thank you all for just being you💯
Hannah - one thing that helps me when I'm anxious about driving somewhere alone. Is having a purpose. E.g I will drive to my sisters house. I will ask a friend if they want anything picked up from a shop and dropped over. Then, my journey starts alone, but I know something exciting is coming at the end - like a reward.
the people that know alex and love him know this tatoo means alot to him. we love you alex and understand why you got this. there is nothing to be nervous about. i think i say for alot of people that you are an amazing young man who has had to deal with alot of issues in your early life until you met your forever family. they all love you, we all love love , you should be so proud of yourself for the exceptional young man you have become. WE ALL LOVE YOU ALEX ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I love that Hannah is spending time with Savanah💕 Sister bonding time!!!
This vlog was brilliant, such love in this family. Poor Alex for feeling the way he did, but you can understand why because of his past. People should be allowed to make mistakes, no one is perfect, and also we learn from those mistakes. xx