They would literally tell my cousins that they look good for a dark skin girl or just Ugly..... We fought a lot with other young people of different backgrounds back in the days where I really had to learn together with my model looking *ss (sorry im the hype them up cousin😂) cousins, how cruel this world is to a black female opposed to someone with my skin tone and features (i came out bleach, definitly more European features, and bleach is literally my nickname in the family) The 90's early 2000 were definitely bad for black females, cause someone told white people that they could say the n-word. Which to them was equivalent to the word ugly (where I am from) and less than. Did i mention we fought a lot back in the days ...
This has to be said! Because there's even an entire category of beauty called "girl next door" to cater for average looking white women. whereas for us non-whites, we have to be exceptionally beautiful (and adhere to their ideal of beauty) to even be considered good-looking
I always thought girl next door just meant effortlessly beautiful, not average. Like, Anna Kendrick is not "the girl next door" because she's not "commercially" stunning, but she is average. Normani or Laura Harrier however absolutely qualify as the girl next door, because they don't look completely "made up" and yet are very pretty.
what kills me about Benedict Cumberbatch is that his eyes are incredibly far apart yet no one gave a damn. but then everyone was writing think pieces about how far apart Halle Bailey's eyes were. Make it make sense.
That's terrible. Halle Bailey has enormous eyes and a pointy little chin; her face shape is about as close to animated Ariel's as a living human's could be. And people were really pulling out their phrenology calipers trying to devalue her? SMH.
What kills me is when Lupita was walking the streets of NYC pre- oscar, nobody gave half a damn about how "beautiful " she was, or about who she was..she was also considered average or ugly. It's all so phony..
I think that the space Hollywood has for 'acting talent only' stars is incredibly small. Good looks and talent have been so intrinsically linked that assessing them separately is like pulling someone out of a matrix pod
I’ve been saying this for yeeeeaaars, black folks that make it big have to be exceptional! The darker you are, the higher the cost of entry. I expect that of Hollywood but I hate that we do it to ourselves in our regular-degular lives.
you know i think the reason why ppl see average looking palm ppl as being so much better looking than they are is literally cause we are used to their face. We see them everywhere all the time so we are just used to seeing them. Then when you see someone w/ some color to em and they not the top 1% of beauty we look at them weird. and this is why representation is important, at least part of why i think. like if you spend enough time looking at a variety of faces the standard of beauty shifts based on what you see most
Exactly 😅 That's is why I don't get mad hearing men of other races say white women are the most beautiful Because these race of women are been pushed down people throat alot as the beauty standards. So people just assumed what they see....
@@cheetopuff99_ not only that but the black male worship culture especially in the black community is insane you got some of the most regular degular average looking at best black man on TV and on the big screen that black women as a collective will sit here and put on some handsome pretty boy pedal stool and I'm like girl what are you talking about AVERAGE. Nothing's wrong with average but let's keep it a buck because people get real ruthless when it's a black woman. I swear Jonathan majors was always a butterface but every woman was swearing up and down he was so sexy until Katt Williams called the LIE now for whatever reason people are having eyesight for the first time it was so stupid to me
But they were a lot of black women to choose from ,why her ?...I know she is talented but this is showbiz ,the lead characters are always above average 90% of the time
@@Geralddd966 why stop her check so early and not allow her to have a glow like Audrey Hepburn in My Fair Lady in the olden days. She can become beautiful she has thick hair and great bone structure. This is anti black.
The artist Baby Storme outed colorist texts that Ice sent her, literally bashing dark skinned blk ppl and Baby Storme herself is also dark 🤔. Time to end her mediocre career!
That pissed me off so much when she said that because btch your from New York and you know good and danm well at least one man who ever expressed interest you has said "I only mess with light skin girls" "I only mess with Latinas" colorism is so open in New York so when she said that I gave the biggest eyeroll. Cause girllll bffr.
When people say that Francesca is “average” or “ugly”, what they really mean is “she doesn’t look like a white woman”. You hit the nail on the head when you said “we’re so used to Black women looking mixed/ racially ambiguous that when we see an unambiguous Black woman, we get angry”.
Mixed and beautiful black women don't look like white women. When I see Beyoncé, Rihanna, Keke Palmer, Naomi Campbell, Whitney Houston, Lupita Nyong'o, Tina Turner... I don't see white women at all.
@@ShadowNightWarrior the reason most of them are considered more beautiful is because they don’t have Afrocentric facial features (broad nose, larger lips, stronger jawline, etc.). They meet eurocentric beauty standards in a variety of ways, hence why when people talk about “Black beauty”, they never bring up Black people who have Black features.
@@Skelekitten_ Larger lips, stronger jawline, slim nose aren't typically euro centric. A lot of women in Africa have them. And there are a lot of Whites who don't have them.
@@ShadowNightWarrior the majority of the people you listed are mixed so naturally they’re not going to have textbook eurocentric features but they still visibly have them. But you can still differentiate their features from white people’s features. Very rarely are there white people who don’t have eurocentric features.
But seriously Tom Holland is average looking, so if people are outraged if an average looking black girl is playing opposite him, it's because of colourism.
Right ✅️ both average. That's the issue i had with ppl (even blk ppl) complaining about teyonah parris in her mad men role. Some said she was too plain and that a more gorgeous actress should have been cast. So hurtful 💔 especially to yo8ng black girls aspiring to be actresses. It sends a harmful message that many won't or shouldn't even think to dare trying 😢
@@Morenita570 no I’m saying y’all are carrying an unnecessary burden. I used to be that way and it weighed heavy on me. Then current started showing me all the spaces that love dark skinned women, the music that I lifts dark skinned women, and most of all he uplifts my skin color and beauty. Once I let go of the negativity my confidence and happiness skyrocketed. Fuk these type of men. It’s too many out there that don’t feel this way tbh
@Morenita570 it's not really shaming it's true dusty men will say anything to put down women the best thing to do is ignore them , what they are saying is coming from their own insecurities and hatred
@@Genorgin you Don’t get to decide how fully black girls handle abuse or what to do. You’re a ‘Racial Handler’ and your job is faux racial positivity and to shut us up for the Patriarchy, so we’re easily abused. We’re the only group told to ignore abuse. We need a ‘stop Black girl hate’ bill the same way Ling Ling & Ping Pong got their Asian hate bill passed. The same way the LBGTq got it their bill. And the J crew is fighting for their bill. None of the above groups are being told to ignore anything.
I don’t understand why people don’t like to accept their privileges! I am a black woman from Senegal in Africa. I suffer from colorism, sexism, texturism BUT I benefit from featurism because I have a skinny face, skinny nose … so people masculinise me less!!! « conventionally attractive « is a fucked up thing to say! She should be hired because she is talented and she is beautiful!!! That being said I don’t like the fact you say that these people are average though. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I do agree this girl is attacked because of her race for sure. They think black women are fair game.
Those yt people are indeed average tho. They’re seen as above average/ attractive because of hundreds of years of Eurocentric media brainwashing. You step out of your house & you see 10 people who resemble them. Calling them what they are, AVERAGE. Shouldn’t be criticized.
Im having a half 🇸🇳 daughter!! I can’t wait to see how beautiful she is inside and out xoxoxo Beauty comes in all shades. peoples opinions are very irrelevant. I love deep tones skin better. Im on the other end more fair skin and don’t see lighter as better at all.
Benedict Cumberbatch being a sex symbol is like letting beans on toast win a gourmet cooking competition. Also, I remember that tweet from Ice Spice, "Pretty privilege is a real thing and I'm going to milk tf out of it". Then she was praised for her honesty. I- *sigh* Pretty privilege = colorism, texturism, featurism etc.
I am dark skinned , ppl compliment me then right after ask where I'm from like I can't be from america....ppl tell be all the time I don't look "regular black" both my parents are black tho...it gives "ur pretty to be darkskin"
😂😂😂 To be fair, the fans did come for Cumberbatch and his unique features. Lot of butt hurt average-ugly white guys online mad seeing a regular looking guy being treating like a hunk. IMHO, I like faces that look different we need more of them. It just seems like media is making room for average, ugly, and unique white faces but black folks in media are still held to an impossible standard. If she ain’t a “baddie” then she’s trash. Smh
And you know what, I think (at least in part) that his talent is what makes him attractive to people... but we don't let that rule apply to everyone. Also, they just be trying to force anything down our throats 🙄
Mayowa you spoke to my soul when you said the awkward black girl or guy is not represented at the cookout. This is so true!! I am the akward black woman who can’t play spades or dance I often don’t feel I fit in many black spaces or even with family. Being “different “ is amazing but in reality it is not celebrated. People feel more comfortable when everyone is similar. You’re also right in saying “pretty privileged” is nuance and often correlated with featurism, texturism, colorism etc.
Yk I watch a youtuber called AsToldByKenya and every time she talked abt pretty privilege she defined it as a culmination of colorism, texturism, featurism, etc. and I think this is the true definition but a lot of ppl tend to not understand that. That’s why Ice spice can say colorism=negativity but she “benefits from pretty privilege. We need to start calling pretty privilege what it is, a culmination of white supremacist ideals of beauty🤷🏾♀️
I came across a TikTok of a black woman speaking about how we’ve used words to sort of avoid saying what it actually is-for example “situationships” when really it’s just friends with benefits or casual dating/hooking up which reminds of the term “pretty privilege” and how it’s used as sort of a cover up term for what it really is or more so what it implies (colorism, European beauty standards, etc…). Im rambling but I had to pear my point with an example and your comment reminded me of that-but yea it reminds me of “buzzwords”.
@@stephaniem2951 OMG YES I AGREE. Men do this especially when they don't really want to call what is that they're doing sexual assault coercion and rape
@@stephaniem2951 this also reminds me of the swingers community where when they discuss getting together as couples and having sex they say we played together and I'm like why can't you guys just say you had sex
@@stephaniem2951I assume situationship wasn’t used to cover up the word but more so to shorten it. I use it because it’s one word compared to friends with benefits or guy I’ve been hooking up with for the past 4 months but not dating 😂 not at all changing the definition or making it sound better. Just using 1 word so I can get to my point faster
Adam Driver is another example of a 'sex symbol' man that we all agree has some objectively strange facial features, and that strangeness is celebrated instead of being talked about like flaws (And for the record, I think Adam Driver is a great actor and is far more attractive than I am, I am not at all trying to insult him here, I'm saying I'm happy his individuality is embraced and I wish that could happen for black actors as well)
Funny. I was walking down the street listening to this, I saw a Black guy who got off the bus when I did. I mouthed hello but kept my distance and didn't smile, and he just said, if you're going to look like that I'm going to say you're ugly. Something like that...Don't know where it came from. Unprovoked. It fits with all of this I think. Unprovoked assessments of beauty no one asked for. And he was comfortable with it bcs I am a Black girl/wmn. Hmph. Thank you for this great video that had me chuckling.
Once dated a man who said “your skin is nice now but shouldn’t get darker.” I’m dark skinned. Another man I saw after a month in the summer sun said “you got dark”…first thing he said to me. 😡 Also, I agree that “beauty” is not a virtue. Edit: omg. That “cookout” speech was great! I’m autistic and I never fit in the black community and was shunned from them for being “different”. So, the white community called me racist names, and the black community thought I was too weird.
My granny is Creole and her son, my dad was very light skin. My mother is from Grenada. My granny saw me after yrs of being raised by my mom. Her first words to me was "How'd you get so dark?"😮 I look too Caribbean to be American smh.
When I saw India Arie on television singing “I am not my hair” or “Brown Skin” that was enough for me to know I am beautiful black woman. Her songs gave me so much confidence in myself and having her represented on B.E.T made believe I can do anything. We need more artists like her.
the woman acting as juliet in the theater thing is actually not average or normal, she is actually pretty, for a black woman the reason people don't like her is because she doesn't wear makeup or a wig or anything black women are expected to wear in order to be perceived as "beautiful" she is showing her natural beauty, if any black woman walked down the street without make up and with her natural hair they would be treated in the same way society is deeply racist towards black people
I’m a black brown skin woman. Tall thin with longer natural hair wear a little makeup. People say I’m beautiful. Theirs no pretty privilege for me. I’ve had people of palm color get so mad they treat you very mean! It can bring on a lot of jealousy.
@@sandidyI hope not. I want to believe it was done with progressive intentions. I think her Romeo co-Star is equally attractive. That’s the part that has me trippin’. To me they look balanced in looks. I don’t think either is ugly by any stretch of the imagination. If I knew they in life, I would say they are both good looking. But society and racism has everyone thinking that a woman (a dark skinned black woman at that!) has to be waaaaaay better looking than her male counterpart in order to be deemed worthy of being coupled with an average white man. I say, what’s wrong with average? Most of us are!
She said that man looks like he works for a non-profit and that just made my day 😂😂😂😂 Keep up the good work sis. This is an important discourse ❤ I got a little emotional when you talked about the cookout invites for non-blacks who can dance, but not making space for those who really are a part of our community and shared experience, because they are awkward or cant play spades or whatever other arbitrary rule we came up with that week. I made a lot of decisions i regret trying to fit in with my community. So thankful that you touched on that.
As a person who has seen Matt Bomer in real life, I’ll say this: People on TV are either more striking or more average looking in person due to the sharpness or roundness of their features. As a former resident of Lalaland, I have seen these people in Target, in their cars, and at work. There is a method to the madness & it’s called marketing. These people are considered average or above average due in part to surgery, but more importantly to psychological warfare. First, you must convince the consumer that they are ugly so that you can sell someone else as beautiful.
True! Blk ppl we need our own standard of beauty. We can't keep moving the goal post to whiteness then complain. We will never be yt, so use our uniqueness to be different!
Honestly I feel like the media gaslights us into thinking these people are spectacular when they are everyday average looking. Nothing wrong with that. They do that especially with serial kïłłers too when they are vanilla men. Jeffrey Dahmer and Ted Bundy look like everyday guys. Julia Robert’s, Sara Jessica Parker, Reese Witherspoon, Timothy Chalamet, Travis Kelce all average. Travis Kelce makes me laugh because I’m in PA and you see a bunch of vanilla guys who have fades and beards like that. I found it funny they think he invented the fade. This country is really wild. 😅
Kimberley Nicole Foster (For Harriet) did many PHENOMENAL videos about the topic of 'average looking black women', I highly recommend her takes. I think what's so striking to me is how conversations about who gets to just look average really draw out that 'being born black is a political act'. I think a mark of privilege is getting to adopt a body neutrality stance on the topic of your looks. Like, we know most white male CEOs wouldn't give two toots if they were not deemed 'most handsome', because their status is based on other factors.
Well, their particular status is built on the perpetual dehumanization of everyone else. Most of the early fat cats looked conventionally unattractive. The relationship between wealth and beauty is what is missed. It is a moving target bc it is tied to circumstances i.e. when there was famine, fatness meant you were rich and subsequently beautiful. Now the rich are obsessed with the idea that thinness is the epitome of health and or beauty. The catch is that they don’t exist in a vacuum. Millions of people have been convinced of lies that get perpetuated on a daily basis. Ipso facto, the reason people feel shitty is because of the desire to uphold particular beauty standards as a goal - despite the fact that the goal is always moving bc capitalism requires low self image on a grand scale.
They better not use Lupita and Jodie as a defence now, like they don’t make fun of these women’s looks for a living. There is no “beautiful” for us. We are so all around gifted they have to keep moving the goalposts to keep us in check. When that doesn’t work they call us yt, like they did Whitney Houston. It must be exhausting for them.
I'm that one at the cookout who's awkward. I'm also that one who is not Black enough for the Black "safe spaces" and too Black for anywhere else. And I've definitely been overlooked for events due to colourism, fatphobia, etc. It's very tricky to navigate being an entertainer in the fandom circuit (comic/anime/pop culture cons). 🐾
Our Pretty privilege as BW is to refuse the white standard of beauty and that is to be as natural as Francesca. That way we refuse to play their game of beauty standards that can never be attained by virtue of our race. By being natural they can’t beat us and we attain total freedom as we’ve the most unique features, hair like no other woman on the planet now that is our pretty privilege. I heard a very smart lady Tatiana White say the most profound thing I’ve ever heard which is the white beauty standards of fine textured wigs and weaves goes against our features, destroy our pretty privilege. Please check out her videos on natural hair.
This is just more hair policing of fully black girls with no substance. Racial Handlers - always telling fully black girls what YOU think they shouldn’t or should do with their hair and makeup choices. How they wear their hair is culturally- mind your business. And if WE want to make changes it will be amongst OURSELVES.
Yessss!! (And I watch Tatiana White her videos are greattttt!!) To add on to what you said, The so called “European Beauty Standards” really never applied to Black women and had been used as an oppressive tool to make Black women/girl hate themselves, but like you said our beauty as Black girls/Black women is truly unmatched and can’t be replicated at all! (No amount of tanning, surgeries-lip fillers/etc, curl perms or hair extensions to mimic our hairstyles, can come close to it idcc!!😌)
@@stephaniem2951 that’s true but when you live your life to the best of YOUR abilities EVERYONE BMs too get upset. Everyone wants the ability to oppress us so bad. We need a ‘stop black girl hate’ bill in place.
I once heard someone say that colorism is real only if the black woman is pretty. If the black woman is seen as ugly or average the rejection is normal.
Girl you hit this dead on the headdd!! I literally had this skinny very mediocre gay white guy tell me in the gym that he thinks I’m very attractive but he would just never date a black man and that he just felt that white men where just more attractive. I almost cursed him out because the gag was I didn’t ask him anything he just came out of nowhere and started talking about his preferences. They want to be the standard of beauty but in reality I really think subconsciously they are very much intimidated. He thought I was supposed to feel lucky and picked by him 🙄.
They are VERY much subconsciously intimidated. I experienced these unwarranted comments from them as well. They don’t realize how much they’re showing their hand when they do this.
i think a lot of the west indian superstars in america are either biracial/quadroon or has a parent who is (sean paul, rihanna, nicki minaj, bob marley).
Preach fr! All the things fr, I've been thinking about this topic. It feels like the average black girl must always overcome the world to exist peacefully and have the audacity to thrive.
But also, in my experience if you're too pretty whilst being darkskin black people create new reasons as to why you're not deserved of softness and kindness.
They would even go around complimenting the pretty darkskin girl by giving her a backhanded compliment or insulting something else about her in order to lower her self-esteem (It's as if they can't/refuse to believe that a darkskin girl is pretty and I feel environment plays a role because many black girls/women have said how growing up/being in predominantly white/non-black places were they were often overlooked and made to feel unpretty on purpose caused them to not seem the beauty in and of themselves too). I think in general, all this goes to show how the world banks (LITTERALLY) on the low self-esteem of Black women and relies on it in order to keep our image as black girls/women negative but I feel/know with youtubers such as Tatiana White, is helping in encouraging Black girls/women embracing their natural beauty more which would help in us take control of our image more. (I went on a tangent here but you get the gist)
Girl you always giving them the truth. I feel the same ! Yt people get to do the bear minimum and are praised by us. We have to stop looking for their approval to get to real self-love and stop enabling and give energy to their systems. WE DOING THEIR DIRTY WORK FOR THEM. And we doing it against our own selves. Anyway, you know your make is fire! I love it!
I appreciate your content so much. It’s healing and confirms that I’m not the only one who sees this. I remember as a child hating Jet magazine and Ebony bc they always highlighted light skin and “good” hair. I tried to point it out to my Grandma but she didn’t see a problem. Also being raised in a yt town I felt so isolated and back then you only had two makeup choices Fashion Fair and Mary Kay. It was a struggle for sure but fortunately my Mom saw this and did her best to protect our self esteem. Your videos remind me of the conversations we would have growing up. May you continue to be Blessed ❤️❤️❤️
I'm glad you brought up Benedict Cumberbatch because I felt the same way when Blake Shelton was named sexiest man alive 😂Thought I was living in the Twilight Zone
@@deej5608Jonathan Majors features go aganst every single eurocentric beauty standards. He has a big nose and big lips. But I do think his body figure is the main reason why he got elevated to "sex symbol" status
With rise in Asian American lead roles I noticed they get the same averages privileges. The woman who was chosen to play childish gambino's wife in the remake of Mr. And Mrs. Smith is in my opinion below average in looks. While both leads in movie are not acceptional in looks I couldn't help be think if they would have casted a non ambiguous black women to be his wife (which seems so hard to come by in movies nowadays) they would NEVER cast a average or below average black women for the role of Mrs. SMITH. NO MATTER HOW FIT SHE IS.
Funny that you say this, cause I just saw a tweet about how ppl want Nicole Beharie and Dev Patel to be the new Mr & Mrs Smith for season 2, I found her to be incredibly gorgeous, and so did most ppl in the comments, but I do wonder how the reception would have been if she wasnt as lightskinned with smaller facial features, something to think about, especially cause Dev Patel is seen as an attractive South Asian man, but ppl wouldnt want to see him with a black woman that doesnt fit their standards.
On this topic, we need to get into how Childish Gambino enables this sort of thing. Because I’ve noticed black men like him will intentionally create roles for non black women that gaslight us into thinking they’re beautiful, while he would NEVER create those roles for subpar looking black women. Never. That’s why Mr and Mrs Smith pissed me off. Because we ALL know CG wouldn’t cast a BW for it, and we ALL know this Asian woman is mid at best. Even compared to women in her own nationality, she isn’t that cute. SMH
@@rejectionisprotection4448 that’s why I pointed that out. I don’t think anyone knows this lol which is crazy if you think about it. The audacious behavior is baffling
The pictures you chose KILT me cause they don’t only look the same but have on the same outfit/jewelry. So not only are these people basic looking but their style and taste is basic too. To much the opposite is you Ms. Mayowa the hair and makeup NEVER disappoint.
The only thing that’s not touched on - black women get hit with this the most. Black men have had no issue being celebrated for being virile and attractive - and while people be choosing the weirdest looking black men to hype up. This is specifically misogynistic to BW. Seriously. When was the last time a black man had to play a romantic opposite to a white woman and people complained HE was ugly? I’ll wait….. So yeah. It’s actually so depressing that representation for BW is at a standstill. We can’t even get basic theatrical roles (not even in film) without people being mad a BW is in the room. Like it’s theater - she doesn’t have to be camera ready gorgeous, she’s an ACTOR.
0:39 facts, it's like ppl had a lot to say about the little mermaid, or queen Charlotte, but I be seeing all these mid at best white ppl all over my screen?
That is because it's already programed in people mind that White women are meant to be princess, Love interest, and beauty standards So when they see another race of woman(black women)who is always rare They get mad and upset Because their illusion in their minds isn't responding anymore....
To see regular looking BW saying a regular looking BW isn't pretty is the saddest shxt I've ever seen. My goodness. We really have bought into hating ourselves.
Yo! Thank you for bringing up this topic- because for a LONG time now hollywood /media has been pushing this average or less than average looking people and playing in our faces saying look these people are so beautiful and Im like where? who?
It’s weird that ppl are dragging Francesca. Complain about girls having too much makeup, yet complain about Francesca being natural. Kudos to her for securing the role. We haven’t seen her play the role and the ppl are whining.
I grew up in Russian province and very rarely encountered black people in real life so basically all of my ideas about black people came from tv or magazines. When i was a child i thought that dark skinned women were the most beautiful population in the world cause literally every single image of a dark skinned woman i ever saw depicted an otherworldly beauty. I distinctly remember looking at a picture of a black model and thinking "how can they all be so beautiful?" That mental image fully solidified in my mind when i saw a beautiful black dark skinned man in white and orange costume which looked impossibly good on him in real life and all of my suspicions were confirmed: "dark skinned black people are super rare so they get to be very beautiful in return". When i grew up i realized that was never the case. Only exceptionally beautiful black people are allowed on television so that's all i ever saw.
Mayoza you have enlightened me!!! Thank you for this fresh original take on this rather annoying topic that is constantly spoke on but never truthfully!!!
Girl you said it. The way I couldn't understand how my people praise average looking non black people as if they're the most beautiful people but just recognize black people beauty when they're very gorgeous. Once in a college trip, we went to a government institute where you could see the colorism cause people in the administrative area were mostly lightskin and mixed. A woman that worked there was the most normal looking mixed person but the way my classmates were praising her, like saying "OMG that woman is soooo beautiful, did you see her hair(curly)?? Her nose is so pretty(small). Her skin complexion😍(light). Her lips😍( small)" girllll she was just ok🥴🥴🥴🥴 and don't you there to disagree or you're Jealous 🥴
It also seems like people take an issue with her RBF and it gets read as aggressive and masculine where with actresses like Kristen Stewart, she gets the "oh so relatable" treatment with people making memes of her face. It's kinda odd, though that's an observation I made. Though to be fair, a lot of those jokes are meanspirited and people took umbrage at her playing Snow White in that one movie (Charlize Theron slayed tho). And I absolutely love your makeup, it's so delightfully devilish! Fire totally suits you.
💯in my opinion this is part of the reason scar lip doesn't get as much props as she should she can rap good as heck to me in my opinion. Not to diss anyone else but i think scar is talented and dope.❤
@@mayowasworld facts i love her self expression and how candid and real she is about what she's been thru plus the talent with the rap skills are dope love shordie💯❤🖤💚
New sub to your channel, and immediately grateful that I am! As a "conventionally" ugly Black man: richly melanated, big nose, gap, Haitian, spindly dad bod lol), your analysis and breakdown of featurism, texturism, and of course colorism really resonated with me! Keep up the great work Mayowa!! Btw, your make-up was FLAWLESS chyle!!
What an important conversation, so illuminating. Literally made me question societal standards of beauty and the effects thereof. This is why the entertainment industry is saturated with untalented people who benefit from the set beauty standards. People constantly complain about that but now that there's a black woman that does not meet or conform to the beauty standards black people themselves are complaining, this just shows that we have a long way to go. Francesca represents the everyday black woman, the unfiltered woman with no makeup or any add-ons, instead of celebrating that we are attacking her because how dare she be proud of her blackness and still be chosen for a popular movie. Additionally, we hate ourselves and we need to work on that.
This conversation was very much needed, I was having a similar conversation to this yesterday. I adore that makeup look tbh it was all my eyes were focusing on while being attentive on this topic. Its so devastating to see non white people (ESPECIALLY black people) conforming to whiteness at such depth its extremely unsettling how we glorify lighter skin, looser curls and certain facial features, making horrible jokes about our own history and adressing each other by racially dehumanizing slurs. 99% of the times I hear black people refer to themselves its in a bad context like " its always us black people" " you never see other races do this just black..." "These black children" etc. Its almost as thought we've forgotten that despite facial features, skin complextion, curl patterns etc... We are all black not just that but also human, there's no need for such low vibrational mental segregation amongst each other.
Ok but the Benedict thing blows my mind because in one of his most notable movie roles he plays a fking slave owner!! Like how do you morally justify that in your own mind????????
@@hopedash5372 he plays ford in 12 years a slave. And of course he portrays the "humane" slave master, so maybe that's why he felt okay assuming the role, so that be could water down the atrocities and his own connection to them in his mind.
Thanks for inspiring us to think more deeply, because the issue is that a lot of people don't want to. They take the slop they are fed because they don't know there is anything else...And honestly, a lot of this has to do with bad taste. I enjoy film and theater very much and would much rather see an "unconventional" looking person with talent over a Barbie doll. People can watch boring, crappy movies all they want, but I want to see someone who can act!
Question of the year: are they "truly" pretty or are you just used to seeing them be uplifted? Also why CANT we just be "ugly" as an "ugly," highly qualified good human?? Cant we just... be? (No)
Claire Danes played Juliet in the 90s movie and I'd say she's a very average looking woman. I don't remember anyone downing her bc she was starring next to sex symbol Leonard DiCaprio but even if they did it'd be dumb bc she's a great actress and that's what is needed for that particular role. Anyway I agree with all your points keep up the great content ❤
Love the make-up! And your hair is gorgeous! It's so hypocritical that their average is given so much support and resources, yet our average is considered subpar. The nerve!!
I was just thinking about this topic after looking up an old video of Omarosa telling this YT host that she gets to be mediocre and still get rewarded. lol
You are correct in your assessment, 1. Many of us have been brainwashed for hundreds of years on what the beauty standards are. 2. Since I did not meet the American beauty standard ,I was raised to concentrate on being knowledgeable and intelligent. ( I was taught that beauty fades faster than intelligence.)
And this also makes me think of a viral video of an influencer who said you're not ugly you just haven't met your family. This is why it's so good to travel because maybe in one area you don't fit that criteria but in another area you're the end all be all and when you walk in people hear Angels sing. Beautiful bone structure I love your hair it just really pisses me off how this affects any and everyone who isn't White
I’m sorry girl. Matt Bomer is no one’s “average looking”. And Benedict being considered “sexy” is something that’s been debated on the internet for over a decade 😂. But I get the video though and agree overall.
Did my eyes deceive me or did she have the audacity to put Chris Hemsworth in there as average. Maybe it was the slightly less attractive Hemsworth brother, but still! 😅
I'm just perplexed that people have become comfortable to call people ugly in broad daylight, like who raised us?!?!
WOLVES.
So rude like bullies they all have their day💯
I grew up in the 90s as a dark skinned black woman. They’ve always been calling us ugly.
@@myishenhaines1706 Me too.
They would literally tell my cousins that they look good for a dark skin girl or just Ugly..... We fought a lot with other young people of different backgrounds back in the days where I really had to learn together with my model looking *ss (sorry im the hype them up cousin😂) cousins, how cruel this world is to a black female opposed to someone with my skin tone and features (i came out bleach, definitly more European features, and bleach is literally my nickname in the family)
The 90's early 2000 were definitely bad for black females, cause someone told white people that they could say the n-word. Which to them was equivalent to the word ugly (where I am from) and less than.
Did i mention we fought a lot back in the days ...
Pretty privilege is just an umbrella term. It’s usually just colorism, racism, fatphobia etc
Yup! I forgot to mention fatphobia and ableism *
absolutely agree and ive dealt with it all even within my own family!
That part!!👏🏽👏🏽
Yessss!
Not necessarily true. I've seen beautiful black women benefit from beauty privilege.
This has to be said! Because there's even an entire category of beauty called "girl next door" to cater for average looking white women. whereas for us non-whites, we have to be exceptionally beautiful (and adhere to their ideal of beauty) to even be considered good-looking
stop watching porn it will mess up with your head and make you dumber, it is not the real world, real sex is nothing like porn
100% true.
I always thought girl next door just meant effortlessly beautiful, not average. Like, Anna Kendrick is not "the girl next door" because she's not "commercially" stunning, but she is average. Normani or Laura Harrier however absolutely qualify as the girl next door, because they don't look completely "made up" and yet are very pretty.
I don't think you're being fair to people like you. You look fine. Not black or white.
Mayowa, I'm one of the black girls that wouldn't be invited to the cook out. This video was so deep and insightful, wished it was longer!!!
lol! you'd be invited to MY cookout!!! thank you for the love!!
what kills me about Benedict Cumberbatch is that his eyes are incredibly far apart yet no one gave a damn. but then everyone was writing think pieces about how far apart Halle Bailey's eyes were. Make it make sense.
true!!
People say halle is ugly but anya taylor-joy is attractive and christina ricci
@@chayo4537we live in a crazy world
@@chayo4537 YEEEEES
That's terrible. Halle Bailey has enormous eyes and a pointy little chin; her face shape is about as close to animated Ariel's as a living human's could be. And people were really pulling out their phrenology calipers trying to devalue her? SMH.
What kills me is when Lupita was walking the streets of NYC pre- oscar, nobody gave half a damn about how "beautiful " she was, or about who she was..she was also considered average or ugly. It's all so phony..
that part!!!!!
I think that the space Hollywood has for 'acting talent only' stars is incredibly small. Good looks and talent have been so intrinsically linked that assessing them separately is like pulling someone out of a matrix pod
These are true facts right here.
Facts
Actually,she's average...pretty people look like anok yai,summer namubiru,sira kante,Regina Daniels,Davido's wife(Chioma)
I’ve been saying this for yeeeeaaars, black folks that make it big have to be exceptional! The darker you are, the higher the cost of entry. I expect that of Hollywood but I hate that we do it to ourselves in our regular-degular lives.
You said it perfectly
Exactly when u are darker u have to make sure u benefit from featurism and texturism so that u don't look unambiguously black
And baby, I can pay the price. 😊
you know i think the reason why ppl see average looking palm ppl as being so much better looking than they are is literally cause we are used to their face. We see them everywhere all the time so we are just used to seeing them. Then when you see someone w/ some color to em and they not the top 1% of beauty we look at them weird. and this is why representation is important, at least part of why i think. like if you spend enough time looking at a variety of faces the standard of beauty shifts based on what you see most
oh.. and i love ur look
Spot on!
Exactly 😅
That's is why I don't get mad hearing men of other races say white women are the most beautiful
Because these race of women are been pushed down people throat alot as the beauty standards.
So people just assumed what they see....
We have been conditioned beyond the ability to recognize it.
@@cmg25 great thing about social conditioning, we can undo it. Takes a lot of work though
EXACTLY What You-SAID: It's Anti-Blackness AND also Misogynoir because the "pretty" pressure is always more ruthless on Black Women. Not Black Men.
Yep ninjas are allowed to look black, we supposed to look like everything but as women
Gender based racism that BM are ok pushing.
@@cheetopuff99_ not only that but the black male worship culture especially in the black community is insane you got some of the most regular degular average looking at best black man on TV and on the big screen that black women as a collective will sit here and put on some handsome pretty boy pedal stool and I'm like girl what are you talking about AVERAGE. Nothing's wrong with average but let's keep it a buck because people get real ruthless when it's a black woman. I swear Jonathan majors was always a butterface but every woman was swearing up and down he was so sexy until Katt Williams called the LIE now for whatever reason people are having eyesight for the first time it was so stupid to me
But they were a lot of black women to choose from ,why her ?...I know she is talented but this is showbiz ,the lead characters are always above average 90% of the time
@@Geralddd966 why stop her check so early and not allow her to have a glow like Audrey Hepburn in My Fair Lady in the olden days.
She can become beautiful she has thick hair and great bone structure. This is anti black.
Ice Spice really said with her whole chest that colorism doesn’t affect her, and that she knows she benefits from “pretty privilege”.
The artist Baby Storme outed colorist texts that Ice sent her, literally bashing dark skinned blk ppl and Baby Storme herself is also dark 🤔. Time to end her mediocre career!
Im tired of her fr she's really average at best I've seen plenty round the way girls that look 10x better than her like model pretty
That pissed me off so much when she said that because btch your from New York and you know good and danm well at least one man who ever expressed interest you has said "I only mess with light skin girls" "I only mess with Latinas" colorism is so open in New York so when she said that I gave the biggest eyeroll. Cause girllll bffr.
She has a phenomenal body. That dosent count as pretty?
I thought she was very talented for a downs. I genuinely thought she was downs 😢.
When people say that Francesca is “average” or “ugly”, what they really mean is “she doesn’t look like a white woman”. You hit the nail on the head when you said “we’re so used to Black women looking mixed/ racially ambiguous that when we see an unambiguous Black woman, we get angry”.
And those women that they prop up as black aren't even really black they're biracial or mixed
Mixed and beautiful black women don't look like white women. When I see Beyoncé, Rihanna, Keke Palmer, Naomi Campbell, Whitney Houston, Lupita Nyong'o, Tina Turner... I don't see white women at all.
@@ShadowNightWarrior the reason most of them are considered more beautiful is because they don’t have Afrocentric facial features (broad nose, larger lips, stronger jawline, etc.). They meet eurocentric beauty standards in a variety of ways, hence why when people talk about “Black beauty”, they never bring up Black people who have Black features.
@@Skelekitten_ Larger lips, stronger jawline, slim nose aren't typically euro centric. A lot of women in Africa have them. And there are a lot of Whites who don't have them.
@@ShadowNightWarrior the majority of the people you listed are mixed so naturally they’re not going to have textbook eurocentric features but they still visibly have them. But you can still differentiate their features from white people’s features. Very rarely are there white people who don’t have eurocentric features.
But seriously Tom Holland is average looking, so if people are outraged if an average looking black girl is playing opposite him, it's because of colourism.
Exactly
It's racism full stop
That was my thought. People tripped so hard over her and I was like “they want HIM for Romeo?? ………..ok”
Right ✅️ both average. That's the issue i had with ppl (even blk ppl) complaining about teyonah parris in her mad men role. Some said she was too plain and that a more gorgeous actress should have been cast. So hurtful 💔 especially to yo8ng black girls aspiring to be actresses. It sends a harmful message that many won't or shouldn't even think to dare trying 😢
Exactly he's beyond average but u won't find ppl going after his looks and calling him average or names💀
So true. I heard a guy once say he'd rather date an "ugly" light skinned woman than a "pretty" dark skinned woman. Just awful!
Why do y’all care about people who don’t want y’all
@@jasminscarbrough2596are you shaming the person for bringing up the conversation?
@@Morenita570 no I’m saying y’all are carrying an unnecessary burden. I used to be that way and it weighed heavy on me. Then current started showing me all the spaces that love dark skinned women, the music that I lifts dark skinned women, and most of all he uplifts my skin color and beauty. Once I let go of the negativity my confidence and happiness skyrocketed. Fuk these type of men. It’s too many out there that don’t feel this way tbh
@Morenita570 it's not really shaming it's true dusty men will say anything to put down women the best thing to do is ignore them , what they are saying is coming from their own insecurities and hatred
@@Genorgin you Don’t get to decide how fully black girls handle abuse or what to do.
You’re a ‘Racial Handler’ and your job is faux racial positivity and to shut us up for the Patriarchy, so we’re easily abused. We’re the only group told to ignore abuse.
We need a ‘stop Black girl hate’ bill the same way Ling Ling & Ping Pong got their Asian hate bill passed. The same way the LBGTq got it their bill. And the J crew is fighting for their bill. None of the above groups are being told to ignore anything.
I don’t understand why people don’t like to accept their privileges! I am a black woman from Senegal in Africa. I suffer from colorism, sexism, texturism BUT I benefit from featurism because I have a skinny face, skinny nose … so people masculinise me less!!! « conventionally attractive « is a fucked up thing to say! She should be hired because she is talented and she is beautiful!!! That being said I don’t like the fact you say that these people are average though. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I do agree this girl is attacked because of her race for sure. They think black women are fair game.
Well said girl
At the same time people do accept their pretty privilege from colourism and featurism yet say that it also doesn't exist
Those yt people are indeed average tho. They’re seen as above average/ attractive because of hundreds of years of Eurocentric media brainwashing. You step out of your house & you see 10 people who resemble them. Calling them what they are, AVERAGE. Shouldn’t be criticized.
Im having a half 🇸🇳 daughter!! I can’t wait to see how beautiful she is inside and out xoxoxo
Beauty comes in all shades.
peoples opinions are very irrelevant.
I love deep tones skin better. Im on the other end more fair skin and don’t see lighter as better at all.
@@shaverse8626 it’s all beautiful! I’m sure she’ll be gorgeous and kind.
Benedict Cumberbatch being a sex symbol is like letting beans on toast win a gourmet cooking competition. Also, I remember that tweet from Ice Spice, "Pretty privilege is a real thing and I'm going to milk tf out of it". Then she was praised for her honesty. I- *sigh*
Pretty privilege = colorism, texturism, featurism etc.
🤭
Facts 😂
He looks like Stuck Up Steve from Horrid Henry
He does resemble some sort of insect or an aquadic creature.
PRETTY PRIVILEGE??!!😮>>> she (Black Annie) is not really pr... oh, nevermind😒
Ice Spice is not a good artist 😭
She's not I have a personal vendetta about this.
She is also not attractive imo
All lies!!!
The lie racial is not attractive and she can not sing.
@@Morenita570what is the lie
@@vim2339 that she’s attractive and can sing. She’s a grifting lie racial.
I noticed very pretty dark-skinned women were seen as exotic. As if beauty necessarily comes from something other than black (African descent).
I am dark skinned , ppl compliment me then right after ask where I'm from like I can't be from america....ppl tell be all the time I don't look "regular black" both my parents are black tho...it gives "ur pretty to be darkskin"
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LOVEEEE THE LOOK! graphic queen 🎨 the lip combo tho 🔥 vampy and high fashion
oooo I like this description!! its definitely giving vampy
“why does he look like a fish?” mayowaaaaaaa
😂😂😂 To be fair, the fans did come for Cumberbatch and his unique features. Lot of butt hurt average-ugly white guys online mad seeing a regular looking guy being treating like a hunk. IMHO, I like faces that look different we need more of them. It just seems like media is making room for average, ugly, and unique white faces but black folks in media are still held to an impossible standard. If she ain’t a “baddie” then she’s trash. Smh
"Looks like he's always constipated" 💀😂
And you know what, I think (at least in part) that his talent is what makes him attractive to people... but we don't let that rule apply to everyone.
Also, they just be trying to force anything down our throats 🙄
That part took me out! Mayowa’s funny😂😭😂!
She is right
The Benedict Cumberbatch roast had me DYINGGGGG lol. Reminds me of when my friends used to try to convince me that those boys from twilight were IT 😂
I always get Chelsea Handler & Elizabeth Banks confused. Thank you for reminding me they're the "Same Font, Different Application" 🤣🤣🤣
Mayowa you spoke to my soul when you said the awkward black girl or guy is not represented at the cookout. This is so true!! I am the akward black woman who can’t play spades or dance I often don’t feel I fit in many black spaces or even with family. Being “different “ is amazing but in reality it is not celebrated. People feel more comfortable when everyone is similar. You’re also right in saying “pretty privileged” is nuance and often correlated with featurism, texturism, colorism etc.
Yk I watch a youtuber called AsToldByKenya and every time she talked abt pretty privilege she defined it as a culmination of colorism, texturism, featurism, etc. and I think this is the true definition but a lot of ppl tend to not understand that. That’s why Ice spice can say colorism=negativity but she “benefits from pretty privilege. We need to start calling pretty privilege what it is, a culmination of white supremacist ideals of beauty🤷🏾♀️
I came across a TikTok of a black woman speaking about how we’ve used words to sort of avoid saying what it actually is-for example “situationships” when really it’s just friends with benefits or casual dating/hooking up which reminds of the term “pretty privilege” and how it’s used as sort of a cover up term for what it really is or more so what it implies (colorism, European beauty standards, etc…). Im rambling but I had to pear my point with an example and your comment reminded me of that-but yea it reminds me of “buzzwords”.
@@stephaniem2951 OMG YES I AGREE. Men do this especially when they don't really want to call what is that they're doing sexual assault coercion and rape
@@stephaniem2951 this also reminds me of the swingers community where when they discuss getting together as couples and having sex they say we played together and I'm like why can't you guys just say you had sex
@@deej5608 Lolllllll😭
@@stephaniem2951I assume situationship wasn’t used to cover up the word but more so to shorten it. I use it because it’s one word compared to friends with benefits or guy I’ve been hooking up with for the past 4 months but not dating 😂 not at all changing the definition or making it sound better. Just using 1 word so I can get to my point faster
Adam Driver is another example of a 'sex symbol' man that we all agree has some objectively strange facial features, and that strangeness is celebrated instead of being talked about like flaws (And for the record, I think Adam Driver is a great actor and is far more attractive than I am, I am not at all trying to insult him here, I'm saying I'm happy his individuality is embraced and I wish that could happen for black actors as well)
Funny. I was walking down the street listening to this, I saw a Black guy who got off the bus when I did. I mouthed hello but kept my distance and didn't smile, and he just said, if you're going to look like that I'm going to say you're ugly. Something like that...Don't know where it came from. Unprovoked. It fits with all of this I think. Unprovoked assessments of beauty no one asked for. And he was comfortable with it bcs I am a Black girl/wmn. Hmph. Thank you for this great video that had me chuckling.
He’s a Racial Bouncer. So he’s ok with rac ism as long as it’s gendered based.
Waitttt… what in the world??!
Maybe stop talking to ppl that have collectively shown you that they despise you
Ugh my love for you is ridiculous. ALWAYS unapologetically speaking the truth ❤
😂Same , that’s why I love watching her.
Once dated a man who said “your skin is nice now but shouldn’t get darker.” I’m dark skinned. Another man I saw after a month in the summer sun said “you got dark”…first thing he said to me. 😡
Also, I agree that “beauty” is not a virtue.
Edit: omg. That “cookout” speech was great! I’m autistic and I never fit in the black community and was shunned from them for being “different”. So, the white community called me racist names, and the black community thought I was too weird.
You have a type. Men like that are usually very obvious with their colorism.
What race were those men who said that?
My granny is Creole and her son, my dad was very light skin. My mother is from Grenada. My granny saw me after yrs of being raised by my mom. Her first words to me was "How'd you get so dark?"😮 I look too Caribbean to be American smh.
I'm autistic and never felt as though I truly belong anywhere.
When I saw India Arie on television singing “I am not my hair” or “Brown Skin” that was enough for me to know I am beautiful black woman. Her songs gave me so much confidence in myself and having her represented on B.E.T made believe I can do anything. We need more artists like her.
the woman acting as juliet in the theater thing is actually not average or normal, she is actually pretty, for a black woman the reason people don't like her is because she doesn't wear makeup or a wig or anything black women are expected to wear in order to be perceived as "beautiful" she is showing her natural beauty, if any black woman walked down the street without make up and with her natural hair they would be treated in the same way
society is deeply racist towards black people
youre correct!
Does anyone think they subconsciously they set her up to fail?
I’m a black brown skin woman. Tall thin with longer natural hair wear a little makeup.
People say I’m beautiful. Theirs no pretty privilege for me. I’ve had people of palm color get so mad they treat you very mean! It can bring on a lot of jealousy.
@@sandidyI hope not. I want to believe it was done with progressive intentions. I think her Romeo co-Star is equally attractive. That’s the part that has me trippin’. To me they look balanced in looks. I don’t think either is ugly by any stretch of the imagination. If I knew they in life, I would say they are both good looking. But society and racism has everyone thinking that a woman (a dark skinned black woman at that!) has to be waaaaaay better looking than her male counterpart in order to be deemed worthy of being coupled with an average white man.
I say, what’s wrong with average? Most of us are!
@@sandidywhat do you mean by setting her up to fail?
She said that man looks like he works for a non-profit and that just made my day 😂😂😂😂 Keep up the good work sis. This is an important discourse ❤
I got a little emotional when you talked about the cookout invites for non-blacks who can dance, but not making space for those who really are a part of our community and shared experience, because they are awkward or cant play spades or whatever other arbitrary rule we came up with that week. I made a lot of decisions i regret trying to fit in with my community. So thankful that you touched on that.
As a person who has seen Matt Bomer in real life, I’ll say this: People on TV are either more striking or more average looking in person due to the sharpness or roundness of their features. As a former resident of Lalaland, I have seen these people in Target, in their cars, and at work. There is a method to the madness & it’s called marketing. These people are considered average or above average due in part to surgery, but more importantly to psychological warfare. First, you must convince the consumer that they are ugly so that you can sell someone else as beautiful.
Cries in selfie pictures
Tom holland is definitely below average, not the other way around. You’re spot on with this one.
I wish we had our own space that hadn't been poisoned by colorism and the like, smh
Facts!
True! Blk ppl we need our own standard of beauty. We can't keep moving the goal post to whiteness then complain. We will never be yt, so use our uniqueness to be different!
Honestly I feel like the media gaslights us into thinking these people are spectacular when they are everyday average looking. Nothing wrong with that. They do that especially with serial kïłłers too when they are vanilla men. Jeffrey Dahmer and Ted Bundy look like everyday guys. Julia Robert’s, Sara Jessica Parker, Reese Witherspoon, Timothy Chalamet, Travis Kelce all average. Travis Kelce makes me laugh because I’m in PA and you see a bunch of vanilla guys who have fades and beards like that. I found it funny they think he invented the fade. This country is really wild. 😅
Lmao next thing you know they gonna start getting waves, Blac people can't have SHIT 😂
Kimberley Nicole Foster (For Harriet) did many PHENOMENAL videos about the topic of 'average looking black women', I highly recommend her takes. I think what's so striking to me is how conversations about who gets to just look average really draw out that 'being born black is a political act'. I think a mark of privilege is getting to adopt a body neutrality stance on the topic of your looks. Like, we know most white male CEOs wouldn't give two toots if they were not deemed 'most handsome', because their status is based on other factors.
Trying to practice body neutrality as a black woman is extremely difficult
@@aielianna FACTS
Well, their particular status is built on the perpetual dehumanization of everyone else. Most of the early fat cats looked conventionally unattractive. The relationship between wealth and beauty is what is missed. It is a moving target bc it is tied to circumstances i.e. when there was famine, fatness meant you were rich and subsequently beautiful. Now the rich are obsessed with the idea that thinness is the epitome of health and or beauty. The catch is that they don’t exist in a vacuum. Millions of people have been convinced of lies that get perpetuated on a daily basis. Ipso facto, the reason people feel shitty is because of the desire to uphold particular beauty standards as a goal - despite the fact that the goal is always moving bc capitalism requires low self image on a grand scale.
that fire look is on 🔥 and so was this video
They better not use Lupita and Jodie as a defence now, like they don’t make fun of these women’s looks for a living. There is no “beautiful” for us. We are so all around gifted they have to keep moving the goalposts to keep us in check. When that doesn’t work they call us yt, like they did Whitney Houston. It must be exhausting for them.
I'm that one at the cookout who's awkward. I'm also that one who is not Black enough for the Black "safe spaces" and too Black for anywhere else. And I've definitely been overlooked for events due to colourism, fatphobia, etc. It's very tricky to navigate being an entertainer in the fandom circuit (comic/anime/pop culture cons). 🐾
Our Pretty privilege as BW is to refuse the white standard of beauty and that is to be as natural as Francesca. That way we refuse to play their game of beauty standards that can never be attained by virtue of our race. By being natural they can’t beat us and we attain total freedom as we’ve the most unique features, hair like no other woman on the planet now that is our pretty privilege. I heard a very smart lady Tatiana White say the most profound thing I’ve ever heard which is the white beauty standards of fine textured wigs and weaves goes against our features, destroy our pretty privilege. Please check out her videos on natural hair.
This is just more hair policing of fully black girls with no substance.
Racial Handlers - always telling fully black girls what YOU think they shouldn’t or should do with their hair and makeup choices.
How they wear their hair is culturally- mind your business. And if WE want to make changes it will be amongst OURSELVES.
Exactly 💯
Yessss!! (And I watch Tatiana White her videos are greattttt!!) To add on to what you said, The so called “European Beauty Standards” really never applied to Black women and had been used as an oppressive tool to make Black women/girl hate themselves, but like you said our beauty as Black girls/Black women is truly unmatched and can’t be replicated at all! (No amount of tanning, surgeries-lip fillers/etc, curl perms or hair extensions to mimic our hairstyles, can come close to it idcc!!😌)
@@stephaniem2951 that’s true but when you live your life to the best of YOUR abilities EVERYONE BMs too get upset.
Everyone wants the ability to oppress us so bad. We need a ‘stop black girl hate’ bill in place.
Tatiana's channel is amazing. The more black women show up looking like black women and embracing our features, the better. We need more of this.
I once heard someone say that colorism is real only if the black woman is pretty. If the black woman is seen as ugly or average the rejection is normal.
THIS
Girl you hit this dead on the headdd!! I literally had this skinny very mediocre gay white guy tell me in the gym that he thinks I’m very attractive but he would just never date a black man and that he just felt that white men where just more attractive. I almost cursed him out because the gag was I didn’t ask him anything he just came out of nowhere and started talking about his preferences. They want to be the standard of beauty but in reality I really think subconsciously they are very much intimidated. He thought I was supposed to feel lucky and picked by him 🙄.
They are VERY much subconsciously intimidated. I experienced these unwarranted comments from them as well. They don’t realize how much they’re showing their hand when they do this.
The nerve. Should’ve said “Thank god, when you came up I was worried about letting you down gently.”
Seriously where did people’s manners go?
As a Jamaican Gimmie A Light is Trash, but as A Jamaican ofc Sean Paul allowed that mediocrity…
i think a lot of the west indian superstars in america are either biracial/quadroon or has a parent who is (sean paul, rihanna, nicki minaj, bob marley).
@@angeld.5956 very true, but that’s who our countries and America allow to cross over…but if you bring that up to them, they’ll call you a hater
Preach. It's always the same in that those with power will gaslight those who draw attention to the power imbalance.
Preach fr! All the things fr, I've been thinking about this topic. It feels like the average black girl must always overcome the world to exist peacefully and have the audacity to thrive.
But also, in my experience if you're too pretty whilst being darkskin black people create new reasons as to why you're not deserved of softness and kindness.
They would even go around complimenting the pretty darkskin girl by giving her a backhanded compliment or insulting something else about her in order to lower her self-esteem (It's as if they can't/refuse to believe that a darkskin girl is pretty and I feel environment plays a role because many black girls/women have said how growing up/being in predominantly white/non-black places were they were often overlooked and made to feel unpretty on purpose caused them to not seem the beauty in and of themselves too). I think in general, all this goes to show how the world banks (LITTERALLY) on the low self-esteem of Black women and relies on it in order to keep our image as black girls/women negative but I feel/know with youtubers such as Tatiana White, is helping in encouraging Black girls/women embracing their natural beauty more which would help in us take control of our image more. (I went on a tangent here but you get the gist)
@@stephaniem2951 spot on Stephanie! 🎯
Girl you always giving them the truth. I feel the same ! Yt people get to do the bear minimum and are praised by us. We have to stop looking for their approval to get to real self-love and stop enabling and give energy to their systems. WE DOING THEIR DIRTY WORK FOR THEM. And we doing it against our own selves.
Anyway, you know your make is fire! I love it!
Ice Spice is filming a movie with Denzel Washington! Theee Denzel.. and she is as mediocre as ever!
Ohhh that’s not 😬
I used to be a Denzel fiend. Won't be watching that film. Idc how minor her part may be. I'm good!
Don’t support the movie Hollywood is dead anyway. Let go of all celebrities men and women
Wow a industry 🌱 for real
HUH 😦
I appreciate your content so much. It’s healing and confirms that I’m not the only one who sees this. I remember as a child hating Jet magazine and Ebony bc they always highlighted light skin and “good” hair. I tried to point it out to my Grandma but she didn’t see a problem. Also being raised in a yt town I felt so isolated and back then you only had two makeup choices Fashion Fair and Mary Kay. It was a struggle for sure but fortunately my Mom saw this and did her best to protect our self esteem. Your videos remind me of the conversations we would have growing up. May you continue to be Blessed ❤️❤️❤️
OMG I grew up with Ebony and that's so TRUE!!!!!
I'm glad you brought up Benedict Cumberbatch because I felt the same way when Blake Shelton was named sexiest man alive 😂Thought I was living in the Twilight Zone
A lot of the sexiest men were average remember when they tried to sell us on Jonathan majors.
@@deej5608 Yeah... what they need is a butter face equivalent for guys because that's Jonathon Majors in a nut shell
@@deej5608Jonathan Majors features go aganst every single eurocentric beauty standards. He has a big nose and big lips. But I do think his body figure is the main reason why he got elevated to "sex symbol" status
Blake Shelton?????!!!!
With rise in Asian American lead roles I noticed they get the same averages privileges. The woman who was chosen to play childish gambino's wife in the remake of Mr. And Mrs. Smith is in my opinion below average in looks. While both leads in movie are not acceptional in looks I couldn't help be think if they would have casted a non ambiguous black women to be his wife (which seems so hard to come by in movies nowadays) they would NEVER cast a average or below average black women for the role of Mrs. SMITH. NO MATTER HOW FIT SHE IS.
Funny that you say this, cause I just saw a tweet about how ppl want Nicole Beharie and Dev Patel to be the new Mr & Mrs Smith for season 2, I found her to be incredibly gorgeous, and so did most ppl in the comments, but I do wonder how the reception would have been if she wasnt as lightskinned with smaller facial features, something to think about, especially cause Dev Patel is seen as an attractive South Asian man, but ppl wouldnt want to see him with a black woman that doesnt fit their standards.
@@zinks8348 Nicole does have small features
On this topic, we need to get into how Childish Gambino enables this sort of thing. Because I’ve noticed black men like him will intentionally create roles for non black women that gaslight us into thinking they’re beautiful, while he would NEVER create those roles for subpar looking black women. Never.
That’s why Mr and Mrs Smith pissed me off. Because we ALL know CG wouldn’t cast a BW for it, and we ALL know this Asian woman is mid at best. Even compared to women in her own nationality, she isn’t that cute. SMH
@@zinks8348 Tell me why I been thought of Dev as Mr.Smith with a black Mrs what a coincidence 😂
DS black women are honestly the standard for a majority of these beauty trends we have today.
I agree 100% and you and the makeup are extremely beautiful. Your theme song was in my head yesterday and today you posted! ❤
What’s even crazier is Benedict Cumberbatch played a slave owner in 12 years a slave 😮
is he trying to rub it in our faces or something 💀
@@Genorgin who gonna check him
@@Genorginthey always do though 🤷🏾♀️
And to make it even worse ......his actual ancestors DID own slaves. So, that was great casting when you think about it.
@@rejectionisprotection4448 that’s why I pointed that out. I don’t think anyone knows this lol which is crazy if you think about it. The audacious behavior is baffling
Tom Holland is basic
So basic…….and short, but that’s ok because he’s English.
@@rejectionisprotection4448 and white
@@ninaowusu8157 Yep. That was implicit in writing "English".
He's beyond basic lmfao
Yeah, he is short hey?
The pictures you chose KILT me cause they don’t only look the same but have on the same outfit/jewelry. So not only are these people basic looking but their style and taste is basic too. To much the opposite is you Ms. Mayowa the hair and makeup NEVER disappoint.
We are in the ring all by ourselves ladies. Keep your head up, they watch our every move. We’re just not allowed to get the credit.
Yo makeup is fye😍😍🔥🔥
The only thing that’s not touched on - black women get hit with this the most. Black men have had no issue being celebrated for being virile and attractive - and while people be choosing the weirdest looking black men to hype up. This is specifically misogynistic to BW. Seriously. When was the last time a black man had to play a romantic opposite to a white woman and people complained HE was ugly? I’ll wait…..
So yeah. It’s actually so depressing that representation for BW is at a standstill. We can’t even get basic theatrical roles (not even in film) without people being mad a BW is in the room. Like it’s theater - she doesn’t have to be camera ready gorgeous, she’s an ACTOR.
0:39 facts, it's like ppl had a lot to say about the little mermaid, or queen Charlotte, but I be seeing all these mid at best white ppl all over my screen?
That is because it's already programed in people mind that
White women are meant to be princess, Love interest, and beauty standards
So when they see another race of woman(black women)who is always rare
They get mad and upset
Because their illusion in their minds isn't responding anymore....
I think she’s beautiful and I’m so excited for her. I also think she’s going to help open up representation in media
She’s stunning
I just found your page and I’ve found my tribe! Binging alllll of your videos. As a Black man, I am happy to be here!
To see regular looking BW saying a regular looking BW isn't pretty is the saddest shxt I've ever seen. My goodness. We really have bought into hating ourselves.
Thought provoking as always
It gives things to think about
Benedict Cumberbatch and Tom Holland catching strays😭😭😭😭
😂😂 not the long neck fish likeness
Yo! Thank you for bringing up this topic- because for a LONG time now hollywood /media has been pushing this average or less than average looking people and playing in our faces saying look these people are so beautiful and Im like where? who?
Jenifer Lawrence, Jennifer Aniston….so average….my gosh.,😒
It’s weird that ppl are dragging Francesca. Complain about girls having too much makeup, yet complain about Francesca being natural. Kudos to her for securing the role. We haven’t seen her play the role and the ppl are whining.
The Chris one made me laugh because they all look the same and are all named Chris 😂😂😂
I grew up in Russian province and very rarely encountered black people in real life so basically all of my ideas about black people came from tv or magazines. When i was a child i thought that dark skinned women were the most beautiful population in the world cause literally every single image of a dark skinned woman i ever saw depicted an otherworldly beauty. I distinctly remember looking at a picture of a black model and thinking "how can they all be so beautiful?" That mental image fully solidified in my mind when i saw a beautiful black dark skinned man in white and orange costume which looked impossibly good on him in real life and all of my suspicions were confirmed: "dark skinned black people are super rare so they get to be very beautiful in return". When i grew up i realized that was never the case. Only exceptionally beautiful black people are allowed on television so that's all i ever saw.
Thank you Mayowa. 💙 so appreciative of how you shine light on the reality of racism and lend a vocabulary to our experiences.
I am consistently so inspired by your eye looks! That neon orange and purple combo is phenomenal ❤❤❤
Mayoza you have enlightened me!!! Thank you for this fresh original take on this rather annoying topic that is constantly spoke on but never truthfully!!!
Girl you said it. The way I couldn't understand how my people praise average looking non black people as if they're the most beautiful people but just recognize black people beauty when they're very gorgeous. Once in a college trip, we went to a government institute where you could see the colorism cause people in the administrative area were mostly lightskin and mixed. A woman that worked there was the most normal looking mixed person but the way my classmates were praising her, like saying "OMG that woman is soooo beautiful, did you see her hair(curly)?? Her nose is so pretty(small). Her skin complexion😍(light). Her lips😍( small)" girllll she was just ok🥴🥴🥴🥴 and don't you there to disagree or you're Jealous 🥴
That's what self hate and low self worth does to a person
girl you really just came on here and spoke the truth!
It also seems like people take an issue with her RBF and it gets read as aggressive and masculine where with actresses like Kristen Stewart, she gets the "oh so relatable" treatment with people making memes of her face. It's kinda odd, though that's an observation I made. Though to be fair, a lot of those jokes are meanspirited and people took umbrage at her playing Snow White in that one movie (Charlize Theron slayed tho). And I absolutely love your makeup, it's so delightfully devilish! Fire totally suits you.
💯in my opinion this is part of the reason scar lip doesn't get as much props as she should she can rap good as heck to me in my opinion. Not to diss anyone else but i think scar is talented and dope.❤
she's sooooo talented
@@mayowasworld facts i love her self expression and how candid and real she is about what she's been thru plus the talent with the rap skills are dope love shordie💯❤🖤💚
@@OntheUpthoAgreed! I’m from The Bronx like Scarlip! She should be as big as Ice Spice and Cardi B… We all know why that’s not the case sadly☹️😒
@@JulianSteve💯she's dope I'm from MD but she brings back flow and bars for the youngins imo and shes funny asf.
Omg you went tf Awf with this commentary I’m here for all of it!!
New sub to your channel, and immediately grateful that I am! As a "conventionally" ugly Black man: richly melanated, big nose, gap, Haitian, spindly dad bod lol), your analysis and breakdown of featurism, texturism, and of course colorism really resonated with me! Keep up the great work Mayowa!!
Btw, your make-up was FLAWLESS chyle!!
This is Gonna b so Insightful MW🔥🔥🔥👍n Happy Tuesday😀….
thank you boo!
Finally someone who sees through my eyes!!!! Found your channel a few days ago I’m so happy to see such excellence. God bless you Mayoma x
your makeup is stunning
What an important conversation, so illuminating. Literally made me question societal standards of beauty and the effects thereof. This is why the entertainment industry is saturated with untalented people who benefit from the set beauty standards. People constantly complain about that but now that there's a black woman that does not meet or conform to the beauty standards black people themselves are complaining, this just shows that we have a long way to go. Francesca represents the everyday black woman, the unfiltered woman with no makeup or any add-ons, instead of celebrating that we are attacking her because how dare she be proud of her blackness and still be chosen for a popular movie. Additionally, we hate ourselves and we need to work on that.
"did anyone say he kinda looks like a fish" mayowa 😭😭
Idk how she didn’t crack cause I burst out laughing 😭😭
He kinda looks like one of those people who got facelift surgery from that tiktok Dr
Stop lmfao @@Genorgin
i noticed, your make up looks great! i love how the shapes change when u blink. the lip gradient was eye catching and the center piece was glowing
This conversation was very much needed, I was having a similar conversation to this yesterday. I adore that makeup look tbh it was all my eyes were focusing on while being attentive on this topic. Its so devastating to see non white people (ESPECIALLY black people) conforming to whiteness at such depth its extremely unsettling how we glorify lighter skin, looser curls and certain facial features, making horrible jokes about our own history and adressing each other by racially dehumanizing slurs. 99% of the times I hear black people refer to themselves its in a bad context like " its always us black people" " you never see other races do this just black..." "These black children" etc. Its almost as thought we've forgotten that despite facial features, skin complextion, curl patterns etc... We are all black not just that but also human, there's no need for such low vibrational mental segregation amongst each other.
Frrr-I cringe every time I hear/see the term "placenta perm"-trying to be everything other than what we are as means to be in proximity to whiteness.
This is 100% one of your best videos.
Ok but the Benedict thing blows my mind because in one of his most notable movie roles he plays a fking slave owner!!
Like how do you morally justify that in your own mind????????
What? What movie is that?
@@hopedash5372 he plays ford in 12 years a slave. And of course he portrays the "humane" slave master, so maybe that's why he felt okay assuming the role, so that be could water down the atrocities and his own connection to them in his mind.
@@Ms.JackieBrown yes your right i totally forgot about that.
Thanks for inspiring us to think more deeply, because the issue is that a lot of people don't want to. They take the slop they are fed because they don't know there is anything else...And honestly, a lot of this has to do with bad taste. I enjoy film and theater very much and would much rather see an "unconventional" looking person with talent over a Barbie doll. People can watch boring, crappy movies all they want, but I want to see someone who can act!
Question of the year: are they "truly" pretty or are you just used to seeing them be uplifted? Also why CANT we just be "ugly" as an "ugly," highly qualified good human?? Cant we just... be? (No)
Loving the makeup, it's giving me a beautiful, black avatar vibe!!
Claire Danes played Juliet in the 90s movie and I'd say she's a very average looking woman. I don't remember anyone downing her bc she was starring next to sex symbol Leonard DiCaprio but even if they did it'd be dumb bc she's a great actress and that's what is needed for that particular role. Anyway I agree with all your points keep up the great content ❤
That color combination with your makeup is so stunning. 😻😻😻
Love the make-up! And your hair is gorgeous! It's so hypocritical that their average is given so much support and resources, yet our average is considered subpar. The nerve!!
Your hair is beautiful
I was just thinking about this topic after looking up an old video of Omarosa telling this YT host that she gets to be mediocre and still get rewarded. lol
😂
Love the neon look looks amazing and thank you for speaking my mind's thoughts but more put together and smarter than mine lol
You are correct in your assessment, 1. Many of us have been brainwashed for hundreds of years on what the beauty standards are. 2. Since I did not meet the American beauty standard ,I was raised to concentrate on being knowledgeable and intelligent. ( I was taught that beauty fades faster than intelligence.)
And this also makes me think of a viral video of an influencer who said you're not ugly you just haven't met your family. This is why it's so good to travel because maybe in one area you don't fit that criteria but in another area you're the end all be all and when you walk in people hear Angels sing. Beautiful bone structure I love your hair it just really pisses me off how this affects any and everyone who isn't White
love the look, LOVE the commentary
Tom Holland and that girl are average
Yea... you clocked in for this shift with a full night's rest. 📣
Stunning also ❤
I’m sorry girl. Matt Bomer is no one’s “average looking”. And Benedict being considered “sexy” is something that’s been debated on the internet for over a decade 😂. But I get the video though and agree overall.
Did my eyes deceive me or did she have the audacity to put Chris Hemsworth in there as average. Maybe it was the slightly less attractive Hemsworth brother, but still! 😅
@@catsrus-es9eutbh liam is the prettiest of them but yeah chris is not average at all
You’re right about everything. Keep preaching.