This video truly changed everything for me! I’ve been with my wife since we were both teenagers in school, and we’ve been together for over a decade. She is the love of my life, the only woman I’ve ever been with, and I love her more than anything. For years, I’ve had instincts to serve her-like being drawn to give her foot massages-but I was conflicted because I didn’t want to feel submissive. I wanted to be a strong, protective partner, not someone who felt "less than" her. Recently, I realised these instincts weren’t about submission-they were about something else. But I didn’t fully understand it, so I started searching online and found your video. Your video helped me organize my thoughts and finally understand that I’m not submissive; I’m a devoted man who loves serving her. After watching this video, I talked to my wife about how I’d suppressed these instincts for years, thinking they were wrong because I didn’t want to be submissive. But now I understand they’re simply about serving her, seeing her happy, and making her life easier. Since then, I've started to proactively doing things for her, like bringing her coffee in bed every morning-our first activity of the day. I wake her up with her coffee and massage her feet while she slowly wakes up. I also do little things to make her life easier, like keeping her car’s fuel full so she never has to pump gas. She’s basically living like a princess. And I've told her to express her wishes when I don't anticipate them. The most amazing part is that she is loving it. At first, she wasn’t sure, but now she’s gotten used to having me serve her and feels confident and comfortable commanding me when I don’t anticipate her needs or when she wants something other than usual. She feels entitled to have her way, and I do it as she wishes (So, I guess I have a submissive side too, but in this case, I don’t care because I've understand its and extension of the urge to serve her) She is loving being my queen, and we’re at a point of no return. I’ve always provided and protected her; now I also please her. Thank you so much for helping me see the difference between devotion and submission. I will be forever grateful for the kind stranger that helped me to unblock these good instincts of serving the woman I love.
I had a friend back in the early 80s that was like what you talk about here. He had a natural submissive nature to him that made many think he was gay but he wasn't. He was an active person who hunted, rode motorcycles, worked out, built engines and off-road vehicles, worked as a cook for a living, and loved to cook. He preferred to date women who liked to be in charge, in control. Anywhere he went with his lady he was on her arm she was never on his. He shared in the housework and always cooked for her. When they watched TV together she had the remote and he was like that when friends were around he did not hide it, he was very open about it and talked about it openly. According to him and several women I knew who dated him it was like that in the bedroom he would talk about giving himself to her and how much he wanted to please her when he was in the heat of passion. He had a love of bondage he would talk about the helpless feeling when a woman would tie him to the bed and how much it excited him to be used by her. He was intelligent, one of those people with a lot of common sense and reasoning skills when you saw him fixing a car or riding he was confident and strong but some men considered him a wimp when they saw how he was with his lady, as a person from the leather community I saw the way he was and how open he was as another side of his strength and confidence.
This was awesome to read! Your friend sounds like a great person! I agree with you. I think being a submissive takes a lot of strength and confidence. Our society unfortunately equates being a submissive with weakness, which bothers me!! This comes from someone like myself, a mid-30s physically disabled man. I’m a virgin who’s never been on a date or kissed a woman do to confidence and self-esteem issues related to my physical disability. But because I’m a lot like your friend-with the exception of fixing cars and all-I understand what you wrote. How cool! I hope your friend never lets society change who he is as a man!
@@M-xlz3 Unfortunely the last thing I heard about him was he got hurt at work back in the early 90s, a back injury with nerve damage and lives on SSDI. He became a gym rat, he was single and does not date at all now. Where he is what he is doing I do not know I moved away a long time ago.
@@Toni.63 Oh, wow! You must’ve been concerned about his wellbeing when you originally heard! It’s gotta be tough for you not to have heard from him in so long.(It’s great to hear he used physical exercise to help him regain his strength and mobility.) It seems like you really respected him-and how he chose to live his life-as a friend, which is amazing!! He was lucky to have had you in his life. I wish our society didn’t have such a strong view of how masculinity should be conveyed.
You are consistently wise and always hit the nail on the head. I've paid for someone to accept my submission a couple of times and I've been in relationships where I submit, but my devotion doesn't really work that way and it needs somewhat different conditions to flourish and develop.
Sub with a spine. I show appreciation because I WANT to, not because she broke me or some nonsense. I stand up for myself, as I value myself. And I trust she can see that value in me.
Must tell you first of all that I am a submissive woman who serves a Lady with devotion. Your advice is very useful to me. About the dilemma you raise. In my opinion, submission is a way of understanding life. Submission to a person who is always on a higher level and to whom the only option is to submit to his designs and adore him. Devotion is an attitude. Every submissive must comply not only out of obligation, but with joy and authentic devotion. The smallest order should be taken as a gift to be performed with devotion. Greetings Madam
I think submission and devotion should go hand in hand if you really want to be valued by a loving dominant Woman.. Devotion transforms the submissive man into a resilient and level headed person who can handle the outside world very effectively in order to please and fully satisfy his female dom... However on a personal level She owns him completely and he truly acknowledges and admires Her ingenuity and leadership during sexual foreplay and other household activities
Devoted or submitted, I believe when your Divine Masculine find the incarnation of Divine Feminine who he belongs, you will became your best version to complete with her. You don’t need coercion, punishment or tasks.
Amazing video as Always, I feel the devotion fits me more. I want to treat a woman like a queen and treat her as that. I would say atm I'm trying to get to that and understand what that means exactly for me and overall.
Hi Alla, I remember when you asked on Instagram about what to call a sub man and I gave Gomez as an example, I have always been fascinated by him and how he treats Morticia. Since a very young age Gomez marked a standar, and maybe I shouldn't have been so surprised when everytime that bdsm world catched my atention, reading storys of female subs felt so wrong or boring to me, it is not in my nature to be a sub 😂. Gomez is everything that women like us love, but of course there is no corn that portrays a Dom/sub dynamic with someone like him. Thank you for opening the door for dominant women that doesn't want to deal with fetish addicts with low steam. And for the man here, I hope that you become someone worthy of a Morticia in your life and find her ❤
If I may contribute my two cents, Real Leading is Serving others. That I have believed sinds I was 5 or 6 years old. Taking someone's worries away and be strong for someone else, That is Real leading as far as I know. Right know I am a confused young idiot, I see most leaders are self-serving and most people are don't want to think for themselves and that frustrates me. I think I want to be devoted to some one (inerly)beautiful. I don't know if that is true kink-submission or not Your video's are excellent guidance. You have zero tolerance for nonsense I really like the words, Be strong enough to be Gentle
this has been such a mindfuck for me to realize that I was actually LIMITING the amount I was giving to women by submitting to them (in the old definition of the word) And have been more pursuing Vanilla relationships because that seems to maximize the amount of service I can provide for a woman. It went so far it stopped being kinky at all and I found true love lol but here I am on kinktube again...
Its impossible to be submessive 100% of the time with a women She is gonna need that at least a very solif 1/4 of the time youre a dominant king superior to her and masculine Otherwise long term she lose respect for you, stop taking you seriously and start to seriously consider dating another man 3/4 submessive 1/4 dominant if very lucky is best that you can get Even archieving that you need to date lot of women till you find one secretly twisted enough crazy enough high ego enough to be in those kind of games 😂 I am married to one but damm it took me years to finaly meet someone like her lol
You are a smart person, however your insights into psychology are some 30-ish years behind the times. I get that this is supposed to be your opinion not scientific data. If you care about truthfully presenting your information, I would like to suggest reading up on modern psychology. For example: Anything that sounds like it might have come from Sigmund Freud has been disproven. I like your content and am not here to hate🍀
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This video truly changed everything for me!
I’ve been with my wife since we were both teenagers in school, and we’ve been together for over a decade. She is the love of my life, the only woman I’ve ever been with, and I love her more than anything.
For years, I’ve had instincts to serve her-like being drawn to give her foot massages-but I was conflicted because I didn’t want to feel submissive. I wanted to be a strong, protective partner, not someone who felt "less than" her. Recently, I realised these instincts weren’t about submission-they were about something else. But I didn’t fully understand it, so I started searching online and found your video.
Your video helped me organize my thoughts and finally understand that I’m not submissive; I’m a devoted man who loves serving her. After watching this video, I talked to my wife about how I’d suppressed these instincts for years, thinking they were wrong because I didn’t want to be submissive. But now I understand they’re simply about serving her, seeing her happy, and making her life easier.
Since then, I've started to proactively doing things for her, like bringing her coffee in bed every morning-our first activity of the day. I wake her up with her coffee and massage her feet while she slowly wakes up. I also do little things to make her life easier, like keeping her car’s fuel full so she never has to pump gas. She’s basically living like a princess. And I've told her to express her wishes when I don't anticipate them.
The most amazing part is that she is loving it. At first, she wasn’t sure, but now she’s gotten used to having me serve her and feels confident and comfortable commanding me when I don’t anticipate her needs or when she wants something other than usual. She feels entitled to have her way, and I do it as she wishes (So, I guess I have a submissive side too, but in this case, I don’t care because I've understand its and extension of the urge to serve her) She is loving being my queen, and we’re at a point of no return. I’ve always provided and protected her; now I also please her.
Thank you so much for helping me see the difference between devotion and submission. I will be forever grateful for the kind stranger that helped me to unblock these good instincts of serving the woman I love.
I had a friend back in the early 80s that was like what you talk about here. He had a natural submissive nature to him that made many think he was gay but he wasn't. He was an active person who hunted, rode motorcycles, worked out, built engines and off-road vehicles, worked as a cook for a living, and loved to cook. He preferred to date women who liked to be in charge, in control. Anywhere he went with his lady he was on her arm she was never on his. He shared in the housework and always cooked for her. When they watched TV together she had the remote and he was like that when friends were around he did not hide it, he was very open about it and talked about it openly. According to him and several women I knew who dated him it was like that in the bedroom he would talk about giving himself to her and how much he wanted to please her when he was in the heat of passion. He had a love of bondage he would talk about the helpless feeling when a woman would tie him to the bed and how much it excited him to be used by her. He was intelligent, one of those people with a lot of common sense and reasoning skills when you saw him fixing a car or riding he was confident and strong but some men considered him a wimp when they saw how he was with his lady, as a person from the leather community I saw the way he was and how open he was as another side of his strength and confidence.
This was awesome to read! Your friend sounds like a great person! I agree with you. I think being a submissive takes a lot of strength and confidence. Our society unfortunately equates being a submissive with weakness, which bothers me!!
This comes from someone like myself, a mid-30s physically disabled man. I’m a virgin who’s never been on a date or kissed a woman do to confidence and self-esteem issues related to my physical disability. But because I’m a lot like your friend-with the exception of fixing cars and all-I understand what you wrote. How cool! I hope your friend never lets society change who he is as a man!
@@M-xlz3 Unfortunely the last thing I heard about him was he got hurt at work back in the early 90s, a back injury with nerve damage and lives on SSDI. He became a gym rat, he was single and does not date at all now. Where he is what he is doing I do not know I moved away a long time ago.
@@Toni.63 Oh, wow! You must’ve been concerned about his wellbeing when you originally heard! It’s gotta be tough for you not to have heard from him in so long.(It’s great to hear he used physical exercise to help him regain his strength and mobility.) It seems like you really respected him-and how he chose to live his life-as a friend, which is amazing!! He was lucky to have had you in his life. I wish our society didn’t have such a strong view of how masculinity should be conveyed.
You are consistently wise and always hit the nail on the head. I've paid for someone to accept my submission a couple of times and I've been in relationships where I submit, but my devotion doesn't really work that way and it needs somewhat different conditions to flourish and develop.
Sub with a spine. I show appreciation because I WANT to, not because she broke me or some nonsense. I stand up for myself, as I value myself.
And I trust she can see that value in me.
Must tell you first of all that I am a submissive woman who serves a Lady with devotion. Your advice is very useful to me. About the dilemma you raise. In my opinion, submission is a way of understanding life. Submission to a person who is always on a higher level and to whom the only option is to submit to his designs and adore him. Devotion is an attitude. Every submissive must comply not only out of obligation, but with joy and authentic devotion. The smallest order should be taken as a gift to be performed with devotion. Greetings Madam
I think submission and devotion should go hand in hand if you really want to be valued by a loving dominant Woman.. Devotion transforms the submissive man into a resilient and level headed person who can handle the outside world very effectively in order to please and fully satisfy his female dom... However on a personal level She owns him completely and he truly acknowledges and admires Her ingenuity and leadership during sexual foreplay and other household activities
WOW! You're understanding and ability to express it blew my mind! Excuse me while I go look for it.
Devoted or submitted, I believe when your Divine Masculine find the incarnation of Divine Feminine who he belongs, you will became your best version to complete with her. You don’t need coercion, punishment or tasks.
Perfectly put 😘
sub for fame and fortune but a devotee for love and understanding
Amazing video as Always, I feel the devotion fits me more. I want to treat a woman like a queen and treat her as that. I would say atm I'm trying to get to that and understand what that means exactly for me and overall.
Hi Alla, I remember when you asked on Instagram about what to call a sub man and I gave Gomez as an example, I have always been fascinated by him and how he treats Morticia. Since a very young age Gomez marked a standar, and maybe I shouldn't have been so surprised when everytime that bdsm world catched my atention, reading storys of female subs felt so wrong or boring to me, it is not in my nature to be a sub 😂. Gomez is everything that women like us love, but of course there is no corn that portrays a Dom/sub dynamic with someone like him. Thank you for opening the door for dominant women that doesn't want to deal with fetish addicts with low steam. And for the man here, I hope that you become someone worthy of a Morticia in your life and find her ❤
@@linana5053 ☺️😘
Thank you for clarifying this ,
Приятного дня 😊⭐
Very insightful and valuable video,Thank You
If I may contribute my two cents,
Real Leading is Serving others. That I have believed sinds I was 5 or 6 years old. Taking someone's worries away and be strong for someone else, That is Real leading as far as I know.
Right know I am a confused young idiot, I see most leaders are self-serving and most people are don't want to think for themselves and that frustrates me. I think I want to be devoted to some one (inerly)beautiful. I don't know if that is true kink-submission or not
Your video's are excellent guidance. You have zero tolerance for nonsense
I really like the words, Be strong enough to be Gentle
Obedience breeds triumph.
I am a human being
Insightful, much to think about
Я предан Богине моего выбора. Как мне сказать ей об этом?
this has been such a mindfuck for me to realize that I was actually LIMITING the amount I was giving to women by submitting to them (in the old definition of the word)
And have been more pursuing Vanilla relationships because that seems to maximize the amount of service I can provide for a woman.
It went so far it stopped being kinky at all and I found true love lol
but here I am on kinktube again...
we love u lotz Alla
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Alla, it is so annoying when you make sense all the time. (At least in your videos.)
@@Ed-quadF 😂
Alla your are very good at explaining things. You are a very nice lady
Devotee of Goddess Alla
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You said that there is a difference between male devotion and female devotion. What is female devotion in your mind?
Men and women have different hormones. Yes, that's why HRT exists.
Its impossible to be submessive 100% of the time with a women
She is gonna need that at least a very solif 1/4 of the time youre a dominant king superior to her and masculine
Otherwise long term she lose respect for you, stop taking you seriously and start to seriously consider dating another man
3/4 submessive 1/4 dominant if very lucky is best that you can get
Even archieving that you need to date lot of women till you find one secretly twisted enough crazy enough high ego enough to be in those kind of games 😂
I am married to one but damm it took me years to finaly meet someone like her lol
I'm hyped haha
Very nice. I think that medicine is not discussed enough, what do you think about that?
I submit to no one. I do devote myself though.
Apologies on behalf of the trans/queer community. Most of us want to suppress different opinions.
@@minkanjin thanks😄
You are a smart person, however your insights into psychology are some 30-ish years behind the times. I get that this is supposed to be your opinion not scientific data. If you care about truthfully presenting your information, I would like to suggest reading up on modern psychology. For example: Anything that sounds like it might have come from Sigmund Freud has been disproven.
I like your content and am not here to hate🍀
I want to be owned which is submission