Caught my future mother-in-law laughing with her friends about how she landed a SIMP...
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- Caught my future mother-in-law laughing with her friends about how she landed a SIMP son-in-law and is set for life. Made her realize she won’t be able to leech off me.
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The difference between a charitable person and a doormat is the charitable person still has authority over the situation. When you recognized that your MIL was taking you for granted, you appropriately cut ties for some time to heal, then allowed the MIL to come back when she demonstrated some accountability. Good on you sir, and good on your wife for standing by you.
Doormat still
Keep getting disrecpected and then housing the sc*mmy w1tch? Doormat behaviour
Accepting half 4ss3s excuses like "Oh no, i was grieving, now sorry me for talking you down for years"? Doormat behaviour
No one with some self-respect accept being treated like a wh0r3 like this guy did
And most important he didn't call the MIL back to live with them. He kept the boundaries intact even after reconciliation. I don't fully trust the MIL's apology since she seemed to just blame it on the unfortunate circumstances and didn't take full accountability. I think maintaining the distance while also having a cordial relationship was the best possible ending for OP, since cutting ties off completely would hurt his wife.
delusional. he a doormat to invite that back into his life what a freak you are
I really like how his wife is so understanding
Is she though? Her words and actions towards her mother are pretty mild, considering the gravity of the situation. The ending made that all the clearer. Also, one deosn't "suddenly" find out that their mother is a complete sociopathic leech, growing up with them for 18 years at the least. This story is either made up or something more sketchy that's played for the long game.
@@gravity00x What? Pretty much everything you said there was wrong. First of all lots of people "suddenly" find out their parents are the good people they thought they were. Second of all, the wife was completely on his side without any doubts in her mind the whole time and just because she still used respectful language doesnt mean she didnt understand the gravity of the situation. You clearly havent understood her correctly.
Debora literally ignored her mother sh1t talking her husband for multiple years (the doormat hubby too). Aside from that, the only moment when she took his side was when the MIL f*cked up her facade
@@gravity00xyes yes you can. I've seen it plenty
@@gravity00x What a bizarre comment. I didn't know that my grandma was a chainsmoker for 30 years until I was 19 years old. I didn't know that her husband beat his kids until I was 17. There are plenty of aspects about the people around you that you don't start putting the pieces together until it's explained clearly.
How are you supposed to recognize that your parents suck as people if they've never treated you poorly?
And yes, Debora is incredibly understanding. The world doesn't fucking revolve around you, nor OP, nor any of us. You can't expect every minor whim to be bent to. If your definition of "understanding" is "I need my woman to be lobotomized and have zero personal feelings of her own," then invent time travel and go live in the 50's.
Mad respect to the wife for not only having clear priorities, but also putting up with having OP struggle with suspicions against herself
Love how the one who is the stay-at-home person, with no contributions to their home monetary-wise, is the one who looks down on him 😭
It's always the useless lazy gold digging leaches that acts superior and looks down on people that have money
Some people who have been in that exact situation for too long in their lives can develop the illusion that they "deserve all this naturally", depending on their upbringing as well.
It's always been like this for them, so it must be within the natural order that things stay like this no matter what, right?
It's not very nice....
The wife is the unsung hero of this story. It must have been an extremely difficult choice to have to choose her husband over her mom, have to sign a prenup because of the actions of her mom, have to almost lose the relationship because of her toxic mom. All the while, she stood by him, unwavering. Dude, KEEP AND CHERISH HER, her sacrifices should not be taken for granted!
By this point I can honestly say that I have listened to about 200 of these reddit relationship stories back to back. This is without a doubt the only time a man ever had the BALLS to actually step up and say something to the person while they overheard it instead of coming back weeks later, when the person could deny it. Look how much of a difference it makes when you address the issue while the person is saying it when there are witnesses.
Exactly. A lot of the times I can't sympathise with the OP's because they have no backbone and enable the behaviour.
@Jordan-pb1iq Depends on the context, obviously, because most of the stories where the man hears something is usually his wife, fiance, or girlfriend who is discussing cheating on him or belittling him harshly. I do sympathize because I can understand loving someone so much that hearing or seeing the betrayal is a shock.
This case was different because it was his mother-in-law and someone he was not that close to, so it was easier for him to react in the moment.
Dude you’ll learn VERY QUICKLY as a man not to lash out like one. They hear you raising your voice on your cheating wife on a recorded camera and play the domestic abuse card. Plus with Divorce, with no proof of fault, you can lose half your stuff. Without evidence it’s hearsay, and women tend to get more favor in the courts. You’ll learn eventually that the scalpel is the superior weapon over the hammer.
@@mftripz8445 As a MAN who's been through a divorce this didn't happen to me so you're projecting. Next time get a better lawyer and be more prepared son. Hush now.
@@Jordan-pb1iq you’re right, since it didn’t happen to you, clearly it’s never happened before. Silly me
This dude's wife is pure gold. Treasure this woman forever, OP
There are no unicorns. Sure, she is stellar in standing by her man in this regard. But you should never pedestalize, and always be fair and honest with her and yourself.
very surprising that she turned out that way but she did have a nice down to earth father so im guessing she takes after him.
@@jimjohnson394Then they should treasure each other. Cause tbh, when op talked about the little things, i saw two old people.
Hes a good man so he got well with good woman...
To be honest if my mother treated my boyfriend how Maggie treated him while dating - I would already told her off.
In good relationship if you disrespect my partner you disrespect me... And off with your head xd ...and I think its pretty normal among people's I hang around with
@@Coockiez-007 not that surprising. I grew up with a mother who could be the most insufferable witch where there was times I wish I could dig a hole so I could hide in so no one would notice me. thing is, she never thought what she did was wrong. example: one day when she talked to me and mentioned she had bumped into a friend she hadn't seen in a while that day. her comment to her friend was, "you really let yourself go". all I could think was, "wow, and I'm the rude one??". And then when we called her in on her awful attitude she'd say, "I never been treated like this in my whole life" followed by crocodile tears and fake sobs.
My dad on the other hand was amazing. and when I look back I notice the one person who was always there for me was my dad. he never judged me because I laughed too loud or because I didn't want to wear designer clothes or some other stupid stuff like this. He was also the parent who told me bed night stories, played checkers with me, or carried me on his shoulders when we went down the shore. So why would I copy the annoying parent who had a kid simply because she wanted to play the role of the mommy in front of others instead of the parent who everyone loved because he was amazing and fun?
Btw, my mother only said something negative about my husband once because I told her off. I got lucky twice. One when I had the best dad, the second time when I met my now husband. I be damned if I'm gonna sit around and let anyone ruin that for me.
long story short: I miss my dad, wish he was here so I could give him a hug and say thanks for all he did for me.
Yeah, the mil hasn't changed, she's just hiding enough of the deplorable behaviour to seem contrite. Her getting drunk and trying to one up her friends was the real person behind the grieving widow facade. I doubt she even appreciated the life her husband afforded her.
Man, I don't know who hurt you, but take a step backwards. If you are married for 20 years and your whole life gets ripped apart and you lose all power over the situation, you desperately try to regain some of it. For me at least, the behavior of MIL make total sense. And it was the best possible solution to cut her off, set the boundaries and give her and himself enough time and space to heal. This woman just lost a lifelong partner. And while that doesn't excuse her behavior or makes it better in any way shape or form, it sure as hell explains it.
Don't try to foul a nice story just because you have some prejudice. Sometimes there is a "lived happily ever after". And even if not, would be pretty sure, that OP and his wife both have enough willpower to cut her off if the situation requires it.
@@xXPazifistaXxwell spoken man!
@@xXPazifistaXx When someone shows you who they are, believe them.
Two d00rmats, that would like to be treated like sh1t, commented above
No one with some self-respect get treated like s1mp boy was for years
@@xXPazifistaXxExcept the MIW literally wanted to get rid of her daughters boyfriend cause he wasn't rich. It's beyond obvious she only cared to live an easy life which is why she probably married her rich husband and why she wanted a rich SIW in case her husband died. You're right that if you look at her drunken blow up by itself doesn't mean she is such a person but the way she acted before her husband died is enough evidence by itself and then couple that with her behaviour afterwards.
U gotta love a reddit story with a happy ending every once in a while
Supportive spouse
In-laws that are called out and suffer consequences
Healthy realtionship.
This is wierd.
@@TheReal_Antreyyes i doubt this is a real story
@@TheReal_Antreyits a lot more common than u think , and i can prove this with my parents:
My grandma from dads side hates my mom
My dad still supports her
Happy ending?
Doormat boy accepted the "I was grieving, that why i sh1t talk about ypu for years" and gonna be talked about now and ever
@@alexandrudumitru170 I got similar, my dad's side are a bit iffy with my mom. I think one of them is still holding a grudge against my mom for something that happened 30 yrs ago(some money issue, from my mom's story it wasn't a big deal). They're fine with everyone else in my family. I think my mom's presence is what stops them from inviting us to many events. They either don't invite us entirely or invite us incredibly last minute.
I don't need to know what Debra looks like to know she's an absolute 10. How she behaved in this story shows what a quality woman she is.
one of the most important things to look for in a partner is to see if they can or can't get controlled by their family.
Also, de MIL blaming how she acted because of depression when she was awful even before her husband died.... bullshit!
I broke up with a chick because she needed her parent's permission to go to the beach with me. We were in our early 20's.
@@bennybellum6037fuckin hell
Doormat for now and ever. 100% certain that the MIL gonna talk behind his back and s1mp boy gonna forgive her again
@@joaop4585 He's not a simp at all. In the end he makes it clear they forgave each other but he didn't let the MIL come back to live with them. This is the best choice, stay away from the crazy MIL but also have a peaceful relationship because cutting the ties off completely would hurt his wife. The wife is a massive W and made it clear that she was on her husband's side.
@@Homiloko2 "I gonna ignore my mother sh1t talking about my bf and even when he become my husband. After, whats the problem about only holding her accountable after he is fed up?"
Imagine how strong of a man her father must have been for her to turn out this way in spite of her mother's bad influence.
Debra is a gem in hiding. Please don't let her go at any cost you won't find anyone like her..
I’m glad the SIL confronted that toxic rude entitled horrible MIL. She was haughty and irresistible for her behaviour and needed a huge lesson of a boundary set on her
SIL? Don’t you mean wife?
@@conflicted_sides2855 don't kinkshame him 😂
That kind of person doesn’t change, especially when they’re older. As long as OP makes sure to never pay for anything for the MIL again, I guess this could be a manageable situation
Dang! Deborah is a keeper! I'm glad they got to an understanding at the end 😊
Maggie got a lot more than she deserves tbh. Would’ve been no contact from me if i was that guy, no amount of lovey dovey from the wife would get me to change my mind. She said the worst possible things she could have said
If it was my mother I would tell her in dateing phase that either she behave or she have no dauther...
@@morganablackwater2017 Same. Honestly, if my mother turns like this, i will remind her that the hearbutt i give her when she still got her anger issue will come back again, so better not piss me off.
But honestly, i don't think she would because she is the one torturing me when i will had a gf .... despite i have one, but didn't tell her yet for giving her a surprise, and because it's easier for me to not had any pesky relative snooping either or making questions. And because i always keep my mouth shut about my own things for not ruin it. I often tell my mother to shut up about money and other things in front of relatives either. It cost her to swallow her pride until realize every bad vibe we had came from said relatives.
Same. She already told everyone, including the poster, though unvolunatarily, that she is manipulating him for support, a place to stay, etc.
A person just does not change from a manipulator to a nice person. A person just learns to manipulate better. If the trust is gone once, atleast in such a situation, there is no return. As a husband I would be heartbroken for my wife to have lost her mother in such a way, also shortly after her father died, but there would just be no way. It's either no contact with her, she is not part of the family anymore or she is welcomed back as part of the family but I never trust her and never want to talk more to her than "Hi, bye.". But in the second case there is the risk of the mother in law manipulating my wife to sabotage our relationship so that option would be very unlikely. For the poster.. That is his life now basically. There is the possibilty that Maggie is saboting her daughters relationship right this moment somewhere on the planet.
Also, since she openly told everyone how she manipulated the poster and how stupid he is, etc, degrading and humiliating him, for him to be seen with her again is just not good for his reputation. People talk. People in his life will talk now behind his back what a spineless coward he is for accepting her as part of his family again after all she did. Or even if they just know about the one incident at the party. It's just not what strong people do. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me. It basically shows that he is a doormat. People can do to him whatever and after enough time it will not matter to him anymore. He writes about how healing needs time and he has not forgiven/forgotten what she has done, bla bla bla, but that is not his reputation. His reputation is taking the mother in law back into the family after what she has done.
To be clear though. Reputation in this case is second in importance. Her being a ticking timebomb who may sabotage his relationship by manipulating her daughter, maybe her grand children some time in the future, is the most important issue. She can not be trusted.
At the end i dont really like how the mil used her husband's death as an excuse for how she acted. He said she always looked down on him prior to her husband's passing, so i dont think what she did at the party they held was bc she was sad about her husband's death
Yeah, but after a lifetime of avoiding accountability, the MIL does not know how. She is like a toddler making baby steps in this regard. Can't expect her to be like George Washington all of a sudden.
So we are comparing parasitic sociopaths with toddlers now? poor toddlers @@jimjohnson394
Yeah, no it’s pretty obvious that the only reason why she made all those passive aggressive comments and nasty looks previously was because her husband who genuinely liked OP would’ve absolutely called her out for making more obvious comments. After he had passed, Maggie no longer had anyone that would’ve called her out if she made more vocal comments or actions towards OP. That is until she realized that her daughter in fact was also going to stand up for OP and call her out on her actions. she’s absolutely doing the same thing she was doing before while her husband was still alive, albeit even less obvious about it just so she can worm and potentially manipulate her way back into her daughter’s and OP’s life
The ppl supporting MIL are willing to enable her bc it means she won’t stay at their place. She really is a tormented woman so pitiful.
Reminds me of a woman I used to know. She wasn't toxic like this MIL, but when she lost her job she thought she'd sell her house and stay with someone in her friend group until she got back on her feet. Everyone in her friend group was urging her not to sell the house, but rather rent it out until she got back on her feet. That way, she would be receiving an income and still keep on top of the mortgage payments. It was a very spacious house, and she got a good deal when buying. She ignored the advice from her friends and sold the house. Then she sent a group text to all her friends asking whose home she could stay at..... crickets, lol! Nobody was offering. When they eventually responded, they all had an excuse as to why it wasn't convenient to have her stay.
She ended up staying with her son and his girlfriend. She banked over £30k equity from the sale of the house, and unfortunately a romance scammer got every penny of that money. But that's another story for another day
@@sensimaniaLmfao romance scammer had me hooked up
As many others, she mistook generosity for weakness. Very smart move to make her sign the prenup.
My wife and I are each estranged from one parent. At some point you can't make endless space for people that don't care if they sabotage and exploit the people around them.
Maggie claiming her behaviour was cause by the uncertainty of her husbands passing does not explain her behaving like that even before the husband passed, she has never approved of the OP.
I just got off from a call with my “in-laws” and I’m so thankful for them after the part of the story I’ve heard. In-laws is in quotation, because I lost my fiancé to a car accident years ago, but we still have each other. They still treat me like a son and always have! They’ve been there for every milestone from being a teenaged idiot to being an accomplished person in my field of work. I love them wholeheartedly and I know they feel the same 💜
It's funny how in all those stories it's always something along the lines of:
I barged into the room, boiling from anger, seething with rage I have never felt, seeing red and ready to tear everyone apart and say "Verily, I am disappointed with your behaviour. This is simply unacceptable. My trust in you has become betrayed, tarnished, and I humbly wish you evacuated my residence, effective immediately."
Absolutely NTA, you caught MIL with her hand in the cookie jar and immediately called her on it
Was worried for a second that Deborah would be punished when she had been supportive of op the whole time
8:38 "...I should not have humiliated her mother like that"
His MIL shouldn't have humiliated him the way she did either, but apparently that's just life...
9:59 "...now I'm loosing my daughter because of you"
"You have done that yourself" - Obi xD
Bro used “taken aback” so much I question the authenticity of this story… 😂😂
I’m fully convinced that the family members that were on Maggie’s side when OP kicked her out of his and Deborah‘s house also looked down on him for his background but weren’t as obvious about it as Maggie
10:02 "Adam, are you happy now that you've separated me from my daughter?"
Yes. Yes I am.
I like that he called her out then amd there. I can agree with those who felt he could have kicked her out after the guests were gone, but personally I don't think she deserved to be spared the embarrassment from the people she was attempting to embarrass him in front of.
I absolutely love the fiancé!!! I love how she is standing up for her man!! Most people wouldn’t do that! Love that!
I can tell this story is fake by the way its written. The OP wrote this as a fanfiction/novel more than a post asking for advice. Seems like he wanted to write a soap opera 😅
"as i stood there in the hallway grappling with a sense of anger dissapointment and a sense of betrayal i contemplated..." who tf writes like this emotional moments waaaay to professional for a post "asking" for help
Ikr, such a descriptive storybook
OP is hella lucky that Deborah is a real one. That could've gone so awry.
Ok I don't get the people telling him to make his fiancee sign a prenup or him saying his trust was shaken. The mother in law is in the wrong. Why is he gonna ask for a prenup when the woman he loves was on his side and didn't show any tendencies towards havjng the same feelings as her mother
THIS!!!!
@infinityplus1790 Of course, towards the end of the video, I kinda was getting the feeling it was all made up. But still, it's kind of a slap in the face to the fiancee because she was on his side, and he repays her by saying he isn't sure he wants to marry her anymore. She deserves better than a man who will allow the behaviors of her mother change his feelings of her. He said he wanted better communication like they didn't already have the best communication ever before her mother moved in
@@williamsmith6213 I can see the situation rocking him a bit but yea he owes her a bit of an apology.
@CareerKnight I agree. I mean, wouldn't you be resentful if your fiancee called off the wedding and broke up with you because of something your mother did?
Narcissists will manipulate helpful people when they have a chance
Oh AI. LMAO. I mean, seriously..."familial disparities.' LOL.
If Deborah agrees that the mother is increasingly hostile why doesn't she tell her to knock it off? Did she not have the huevos to protect her fiance? If you cannot stand up to a parent and protect your betrothed from them you are not emotionally mature enough to get married.
NTA. OP's MIL was manipulative and cruel, and then when OP gave her a place to stay and showed her kindness in what was thought to be a hard time for her, she spat in his face and laughed.
MIL is clearly entitled to the point of an extreme, and projecting a lot on OP, claiming he "wants to control everything" while conveniently forgetting how she was laughing with her friends about how she was "set for life" because she had a "simp son-in-law." She blames OP because she is not capable of fathoming anything being her own fault, and must blame others for anything that goes wrong in her life.
This story has an upper class vibe to all of it, such as inviting all your friends and family to celebrate a promotion
Lol I would never talk to that woman again
MIL seems to understand she has a problem. One can only hope that it's uphill from now on.
They missed the best part of the story how at the end of OP's speech everyone at the party began clapping
Sounds like pops was able to keep a leash on Debra to keep her from going down her mom's path. What a Chad, may he rest in peace
why does he write like chatgpt
There are a lot of plot holes, so maybe that explains it.
I’m so used to Reddit couples siding 100% with the parents no matter what. Glad OP and his wife stayed level-headed throughout this whole ordeal. Even happier when everyone reconciled.
I was also happy that the MIL admitted that her resentment (after her husband’s death) was a product of the mourning process.
It wasnt a product of the mourning process, she couldnt even find an apology…
call off the wedding. this will come back to bite him in the butts sooner or later, probably with a divorce and him loosing half to everything he worked for. run!
This reads way too much like an actual story than a recount of legitimate events.
It's odd how he can't decide if Deborah is his fiancé or wife until update #1.
It always reeks of reddit cringe
That's most of Reddit recounts tbh. It makes for a good story, but no doubt things are at minimum embellished, if not totally made up ¯\_(ツ)_/¯. I enjoy it for what it is, entertainment.
Agreed. Maybe it's just OP writing style or him being used to write fiction or whatever, but it does give a fake vibe to it.
The one thing I know is that the MIL using a term like "Simp" certainly does not make it feel more legit, that's for sure.
@@verb0ze Nah, even if others are also fake, they at least read like legitimate events that took place in someone's life no matter how unrealistic some of it is. This story didn't have any of that.
Good to see that this story still ends on a happier note than it began with.
( ps, the person doing the parkour in the bg messing up easy jumps more than once did frustrate me a little. However, I do hope they keep practicing to improve that)
Don't take other people's kindness for weakness.
First red flag: stay at home mum
Debora sounds like a keeper. She is AWESOME. I wish but the best and a lot of blessings for OP and her. 😊
NTA. Where she built the tent, we have the circus. OP handled this well and Deborah handled it well. Time to move on from Maggie.
This is one of the most heartwarming stories I heard on the internet.
Right, I completely understand the whole not knowing how to handle the situation and asking Reddit. But like….why ask if you are the one in the wrong when it’s blatantly obvious you just aren’t 😂. “AITA for confronting her and humiliating her” no….no you are not. In fact it’s the opposite, you are extremely patient and giving.
After reading all the comments and forming my own opinion on this. I think this is fake af. Too many plot holes.
@@gravity00x "My wife took my side" That's how you know it's fake.
@@gravity00xi didnt see any plot holes but it read like an english creative writing assignment
I do enjoy the ones that are like "This guy assaulted me and set my house on fire, so I called the cops on him. Was I wrong for that?" because there is always someone that thinks they have a logical argument for why the OP was in the wrong.
I think is because people always got gaslight into submission when they stand against jerks and bullies, because people are always trying to make someone a doormat to dodge accountability, even more on groups where the people always try to side with the other person despite they are the ones at fault as well. Also moral idiots who believe "The bigger person" attitude when they are the ones reinforcing doormat behaviour. HECK! even school does that when they are the "Zero tolerance policy" but don't do anything about bullies, yet when someone stand up they are the ones who has take the blame.
Middle child among 2 siblings? Huh? Is OP like half of each kid after an unfortunate teleporter accident?
Thank goodness Debra takes more after her father than her mother
Nice thing about prenups too, if one of you gets really sick, or really hurt and dies because of it, you are not responsible for medical debt.
I'm glad this didnt cause issues with his wife. She seems like a very solid woman, always doing whats right, and not letting herself be moved by emotions or the family bonds
With any other woman, her mother could have caused the eventual breakup, all for nothing
She is a keeper.. a woman with no underlying motives has no problem signing a prenup.. she chose you for YOU.. ❤
Glad you guys didn't let this affect your love for each other. This Debora is a keeper. She supported you and even signed a pre nup. Not many women would that. She didn't let her toxic entitled bee of a mother ruin her chance at happiness. Many blessings to,you.
OUT!! And MIL's rich buddies must've known her for what she is. Didn't see them stepping up to take this horrid woman and opportunist in. If anyone critizises you, let THEM live with her. Be grateful you got rid of her before you had kids. 🌸
5:15 brother you ain't in the wrong here show them, show them you are the CHAD that ain't no SIMP
Pre-nups can be written in a way that financially protects both parties, even if only one party is earning. Why are they always seen in a way that seems adversarial?
Never let your mil move in , you will never get her out or have peace, and you'll always be outnumbered.
This feels like chatGPT
MIL needs to understand that marriage doesn’t mean death to her daughter, it’s a new beginning for a wife
It's both funny, sad, and scary how ONE person, in this group of people can make so much drama for all of them. As Ecclesiastes put it, a dead fly stenches a perfume bottle.
YOU FORCED ME TO LIVE WITH YOU!!😂
I'll point out that these stories can be viewed as advertisements for therapy. Every single OP does therapy. The hell :D
Ah mother in laws, a husbands' mortal enemy since the beginning of time XD
When Maggie claimed OP was controlling, and trying to isolate her daughter, and all that stuff. I felt like MIL Maggie was projecting. Like that is what she was trying to do. But I could be wrong.
Bless the couple.... They have a healthy relationship
Dude better hope "Debora" doesn't turn out to be like her mother, as often happens.
Debora has been consistently objective about how her mother was the one at fault.
@@Asshat237 It sometimes takes people years to show their true colors.
usually it takes only 3-4 months@@tek512
@@tek512 fr tho💀
Sometimes objectivity is the only way to approach such a situation. You burn one bridge to access another. (And she didn't even burn the bridge really. Her words and actions were a little bit too mild for the gravity of the situation imo - but that's just my opinion) I'm not saying she is the same as her mother, but it's obviously possible, with a parasitic sociopath mother like that, who brought her up for at least 18 years.@@Asshat237
Boundries make for healthy relationship, never assume anything.
Damn I really feel bad for Debra she sounds like her father such a nice person. Poor girl and OP too but damn Debra was going through a very tough time.
It’s always nice to hear that a story like this can be mended. In the end we are all just human beings. No one is better or less than the other. So we should just remember that.
The alcohol brought out this demons true colors. Reminds me of the end of Final Fantasy 4 when you use the crystal on Zeromus and he turns into the last boss....then that kickass music starts playing!
My anger issues can’t handle Maggie
And everyone clapped
When he was kind to the mother, she had contempt for him. When he stopped being kind, she blamed him for her problems. If he had bought her a house, she would have said that was the least he should do.
No accountability whatsoever
The fiance is so nice and understanding
Aww what a wonderful ending 😢 I like when I see family reconciliation stories
Mother-in-law: You forced me to live with you!
Also mother-in-law: I deserve to live with my daughter!
I will say with the upmost confidence you are in no way shape or form in the wrong.
I dont believe Maggie's contrition for a second.
Its wonderful to see that the Wife delt with this properly, most partners will just side with their parents while leaving the people in they love to rott, either out of fear of losing their family, feeling hurt about whatever happened or just flat out of maliousness, its rare to see the partners side with their other halves when their parents are clearly in the wrong, and the fact that over time it got better with proper communication, I forsee a wonderful and better relationship for this family in the long wrong, and more than happy for it .
Here in India, we call our mother and father in law as mama/maa-ji and papa-ji (mom and dad).
- Calling directly by name is considered rude.
- Elders drinking alcohol is considered even more distrspectful.
Different culture different etiquettes.
I don’t know why the dude didn’t just have his wife text her and be like my husband left me because of you and mom you need to apologize to him and fix this or else you’re dead to me mom!!
One thing I learned from all those reddit stories is, Americans really love taking therapy for everything
Wow I swear every time I listen to these I'm shocked by how delulu some people are... reminds me of my own parents.
In Albania we say "A wolf may change its fur but not the habits" BUT, I do believe people can change. At the MIL age not so much but since your wife is an excellent judge of character and loves her mother, it means she received love as well from her mother. It means that it is not all bad inside your mother in law. You are an incredible person to be so patient, stand up for yourself and choosing such an incredible wife. I hope with time the differences will be leveled up and you will have some sort of normal family life despite the past. Well done to you.
I thought op family had favourites but knowing everyone worked hard is a huge respect btw she just humiliated him and his hard work habit and saying "men should not belong in the kitchen" is just bullshit first he is helping his fiancé and his mil says that? Damn it! And teasing her fiancé to run is the funny part
The girl is a keeper if she chooses your side over her family's!
I still wouldn't trust Maggie in the slightest, 100% a Narcissist.
OP, never let this woman go
I could never see myself making my man pay for my mother. That kind of antagonizing behaviour is horrid and stressful. Thank the stars my and his moms is pretty chill.
Wow a story with a happy ending for once
Maggie and Deborah LOL