I want to understand the mahr system bit better, my mahr was bare minimum and we had our nikah in the masjid alhumdulillah. But I do have 4 daughters and I don't want any men to abuse them financially, as according to Islam women aren't entitled to allimuny in event of divorce. It's very easy for a men to divorce his wife and move on. So what a Muslim woman should do?
@@shimmer4771 you're right it's very scary for women, they are expected to give up carrier for the family and than 20/30 years later the man moves on to an younger women leaving the women without any skills to support themselves. My aunty was left with a child without any support, she had to work like a maid for her brother's wife, she hardly had any food to eat, she developed stomach ulcer from extensive hunger and only eating old rotten food. she died of stomach cancer 2 years ago.
@@shimmer4771 I also have seen the other extreme in the west, where the women takes a stake on all that her husband has after the divorce. There should be a balance between the two. And our girls need to be educated on how they can protect their interest while staying within the law of Shari'a
Makes sure to tell your daughters to write whatever requirements they have in the Nikah Contract and stipulations. This is the best thing for wives and is a blessing for them , use it.
This is true. Materialistic Mahr in the first place is foolish of the woman to ask anyway when you think about it. It's as if they dont understand that they are marrying someone hence they can get gifts or money etc AFTER the fact if your husband is good? Its dumb. No need to complicate things this much. Mahr and Nikah contracts exist more for other reasons and more practical applications. Its all about your heart , no one in their right mind would think ANYONE is righteous if they ask for ridiculous things. They will get declined.
I dont think it's right to ask for high maher out of greed. But what do you do if the husband divorces and kicks you out? You have nowhere to go and maybe your own family are being oppressive towards you. That 60k and that car is going to come in very handy. Especially if you have kids.
The guy in the video mentions 60k. I wouldn't even marry a queen/princess( of england/name a country) if that was her requirement. 60k is an apartment in many countries and the women of today are absolutely NOT worth it, they bring nothing in return.
Frankly Financial security is a Requirement- and it's Ridiculous to talk about a 'gold digger"- when Allah azza wa Jal mentions Qintar ( a High quantity of Gold if divorced don't take if back) - meher mostly High nowadays cause people don't Trust each other I divorce....etc
While I agree with not asking for a high amount, you do have a point. The cost of living is high and women need a safety net. Besides, the cost of living in America is twice it was 2 years ago.
@@shimmer4771 Where is the belief in Allah? Is he not the provider? Do people not trust Allah. Finance is important but we as people are not content. Who owns the cost of living? Allah owns it all but who are we going to, to seek help? We go to people instead of Allah. Money is a never ending pit full of unpleasant things, place your importance in that pit you will never be satisfied. Why are people afraid of going through tough times? People say this life is temporary but they live it as if its permanent. By not placing a high mahr do people realize that they save a lot going into marriage I have 100% belief in Allah that he will provide for me, I have zero doubts that when I marry Allah will give me the opportunity to provide for my wife. I will never seek financial freedom because I don't care about wealth, Allah will provide for me until my last breath. And ever since I began to feel this way I haven't slept hungry nor have I been homeless. When will people understand that Allah is the provider, when will people put their trust in Him and not money. Its a shame the effect money has on marriages, its a shame.
A very good message to all youngsters out there. Jazakumullah khair.
very very good talk
Good video but the background noise is annoying
Irritating, distracting, unnecessary, nonsensical background noise
Salam, not all of us want extravagant weddings or expensive mahr. Some of us want the bare minimum regarding finances and what we need.
I want to understand the mahr system bit better, my mahr was bare minimum and we had our nikah in the masjid alhumdulillah. But I do have 4 daughters and I don't want any men to abuse them financially, as according to Islam women aren't entitled to allimuny in event of divorce. It's very easy for a men to divorce his wife and move on. So what a Muslim woman should do?
Be careful about marriage. I've heard of sisters getting divorced and not having anything and no way to support themselves.
@@shimmer4771 you're right it's very scary for women, they are expected to give up carrier for the family and than 20/30 years later the man moves on to an younger women leaving the women without any skills to support themselves. My aunty was left with a child without any support, she had to work like a maid for her brother's wife, she hardly had any food to eat, she developed stomach ulcer from extensive hunger and only eating old rotten food. she died of stomach cancer 2 years ago.
@@shimmer4771 I also have seen the other extreme in the west, where the women takes a stake on all that her husband has after the divorce. There should be a balance between the two. And our girls need to be educated on how they can protect their interest while staying within the law of Shari'a
@@jdkhan5620 Yes. Women who do that are wrong, without a doubt. I also consider because women are physically weaker than men, protection is vital.
Makes sure to tell your daughters to write whatever requirements they have in the Nikah Contract and stipulations. This is the best thing for wives and is a blessing for them , use it.
This is true. Materialistic Mahr in the first place is foolish of the woman to ask anyway when you think about it. It's as if they dont understand that they are marrying someone hence they can get gifts or money etc AFTER the fact if your husband is good? Its dumb. No need to complicate things this much. Mahr and Nikah contracts exist more for other reasons and more practical applications.
Its all about your heart , no one in their right mind would think ANYONE is righteous if they ask for ridiculous things. They will get declined.
I dont think it's right to ask for high maher out of greed. But what do you do if the husband divorces and kicks you out? You have nowhere to go and maybe your own family are being oppressive towards you. That 60k and that car is going to come in very handy. Especially if you have kids.
The woman has the right to ask for whatever she wants . If both don’t agree then it’s their choice what seems to be your issue ?
The guy in the video mentions 60k. I wouldn't even marry a queen/princess( of england/name a country) if that was her requirement. 60k is an apartment in many countries and the women of today are absolutely NOT worth it, they bring nothing in return.
@@_Gunner_ not all women bring nothing in return. I agree, asking that amount is wrong. Please, do not slander good women.
Frankly Financial security is a Requirement- and it's Ridiculous to talk about a 'gold digger"- when Allah azza wa Jal mentions Qintar ( a High quantity of Gold if divorced don't take if back) - meher mostly High nowadays cause people don't Trust each other I divorce....etc
While I agree with not asking for a high amount, you do have a point. The cost of living is high and women need a safety net. Besides, the cost of living in America is twice it was 2 years ago.
@@shimmer4771 Where is the belief in Allah? Is he not the provider? Do people not trust Allah. Finance is important but we as people are not content. Who owns the cost of living? Allah owns it all but who are we going to, to seek help? We go to people instead of Allah. Money is a never ending pit full of unpleasant things, place your importance in that pit you will never be satisfied. Why are people afraid of going through tough times? People say this life is temporary but they live it as if its permanent. By not placing a high mahr do people realize that they save a lot going into marriage
I have 100% belief in Allah that he will provide for me, I have zero doubts that when I marry Allah will give me the opportunity to provide for my wife. I will never seek financial freedom because I don't care about wealth, Allah will provide for me until my last breath. And ever since I began to feel this way I haven't slept hungry nor have I been homeless. When will people understand that Allah is the provider, when will people put their trust in Him and not money. Its a shame the effect money has on marriages, its a shame.