Hi Stephan, My question to you is how soon into the dating or relationship should you ask, these questions, like "Where do we stand?" I would say three - four months. But, is that realistic?
I was single for 7 years. I met this amazing man through one of my work colleagues. He lives 1,5 hours away from me. He makes the time to drive to me. also i have met his dad 84 his sister & friends. This is the first time in 7 years that a man is there for me and me for him. He has met my teenagers. We talk everyday. & he is a busy man but is there for me. i am so grateful never thought i would meet a man 7 years later. ❤ i live in The Netherlands & am from London. We are going to London end of the month. i have epilepsy & he is there for me every day. He cares about me. 🍀💫
@@patiencesamuriwo-bm2gd It will honestly come, i thought after 7 years nope done with men & then this man came into my life.. I turned 50 this year.. 🍀❤️
When a man wants to marry you he will do whatever it takes to make it happen. Trust me. There was this guy who love-bombed me and made me believe we had a relationship. We even planned for marriage and he said that he was going to prepare for it. A week after that talk, he abandoned and ghosted me. 4 months later he met some lady online and not only did he marry her, but he went to ask for her hand in marriage. The thing is that during the 4 months of dating they had a lot of heavy fights but he still married her. Not surprising that she turned out to be physically abusive and beat him up a lot. He eventually left her after 3 years of marriage. He obviously wanted a woman who would beat him up. Meanwhile, I met my husband who treated me with love and respect. Never gave me any issues or insecurities. We've been happily married for over 20 years.
Same with me. He choose me, then he un-choosed me and chose nursing school instead. I did not fit into his future life despite he showed all of the signs. I also saw dealbreakers. I let him and it go.
@@melatimohdsalleh1880he never choose you if he picked nursing school over you… You were a time filler meaning he already had plans to go to nursing school but needed something to do before it started… YOU were it! I’m in nursing school now and while it can be busy it’s not the end of the world. If he wanted to make time for you he would. Even if it’s just the two of you sitting around the table together to make Pharmacology medication flash cards together….. so he can study them for later… or you quizzing him on those flash cards and seeing how many drugs he knows. Thats a cute way to still see you while utilizing his time. Also, in nursing school your not taking exams every day … so after a big exam if he wanted to de-stress he could use that time to take you out …. People make time for what they feel is important to them regardless if they are in nursing school, medical school, Law school, Engineering school, getting a MBA or just working He didn’t make time because he doesn’t like you like that… what he’s hoping to find is the girl of his dreams while he attends nursing school or gets his first nursing job. Nursing school is a female environment and nursing is still a majority female profession so he will be ONE of the VERY FEW men surrounded by women in class and at clinical. When he has study sessions in the Library it will be with a table full of women. He knows this so he’s not about to set anything in stone with you. He wants to see what’s out there. If he can get better than you. Let this man go…and do NOT pick up the phone when he calls you!!! He wants to waste more of your time. Lastly, if you see him calling your phone in a few months that means none of those women panned out for him at school so he wants to slide back to you… to use you as a place filler!!!!!!!!!!!!! Don’t allow him.
*Identifying signs that someone might be ready for a relationship is insightful, but remember that each person's readiness varies. It's important to communicate openly and honestly to understand each other's intentions.*
he embraces my desired level of communication--we both love to talk and tell each other details and more serious stuff, too. he makes time for me, pulls out the chair so i can sit down and then he faces me in his chair. wow, i love it. yes, i've met his family and friends. things are going well.
I just love this feedback! I met a gentleman about a month ago and he checks all these boxes. It’s a bit scary for me as I didn’t expect it and that he is not complex. He’s upfront and expressive about his intent. There’s no guessing with his purpose, interest or commitment. He brings me the peace, clarification and security that I need. He’s gotten me to be transparent and open while being mindful of my fears and worries. He calms my worries and fears and says I’m the same with him. It’s all theses things that have decreased my worries about his intentions and has opened my heart. It’s still a new relationship and we’re getting to know each other, but for once in a long time I’m excited to see next steps. Plus I’ve been watching your videos and you’ve been on point. I haven’t been watching them for advice more so they’re confirmation that I’ve found a good man. I’m trust my heart and this journey. I pray that others are able to do the same ❤
Don’t open your heart too quickly. I made that mistake with someone I was talking too for a little over a month and it sounded just like what you’re describing. It was perfect, he checked all the boxes and more and I was so happy. Then out of the blue he stopped talking to me and won’t tell me why, just ghosted me. So be careful. I’ll never do that again, I’ll make sure it’s going well for at least a few months before putting my emotions out there again. There are a lot of people with fearful attachment or dismissive attachment styles and this is the way they behave, look it up.
Girl, feels like cloud 5000 from all the bad seeds before. I sometimes think “it’s too good to be true”, but signs follow that it’s not. Live in the moment in a sense w/ caution but don’t let fear stop u from being u. If there aren’t deal breakers, except that Gods goodness just might be a real thing in tangible form. A deceitful heart/ person is never greater than Gods protection & guidance away from that person place or thing if you’re in tune w/ Him more than your feelings.
So with the guy that I left it was: 1. no consistent communication 2. He made time for my work but not for me 3. He definitely did not want me to meet friends and family (later found out he was living a triple life - so that may explain it :) 4. He did listen to my feelings. I'll give him that 5. He did mention marriage a number of times but I ignored him (because my gut was screaming noooooo) 6. He did express how he felt but I ignored him - again because I knew he was a lying git 7. I didn't discuss commitment because I didn't trust him 8. Commitment didn't come into it - because we couldn't get past the very first stage. My gut was spot on - he was living a triple life. I never trusted a word he said and I'm glad I didn't. He now chases me and I have absolutely nothing to do with him.
@@MeetStephanSpeaks thank you. It's been a while and the pain is no longer raw. I don't miss him or want him back but the scars of been betrayed remain. This will take time to heal properly although I feel I have come a long way. I think the real test will be when I meet someone else. Trusting a man has always been a bit of an issue and this sorry event has added to that, but I believe with the right man I will be able to work through these issues. At least I know one thing which is critically important and that is - I can trust myself.
Please don't let that possible good man slip away. Please dont take him for granted like most women do. Take your time...but also go with the flow. Move how you supposed to move. Don't fall back or play games when not needed. Just be real & honest and do ya thang ma.
Key insights: 💬 When a man is willing to embrace your desired level of communication and be consistent, it's a very good sign that he wants a serious relationship. ⏰ A man's willingness to make time for you, even adjusting his schedule, shows his serious interest in the relationship. 💑 When a man introduces a woman to his friends and family, it's a strong indication that he sees a potential future relationship with her. 💬 Expressing one's feelings and being able to communicate the desire to be with someone is a good sign of readiness for a relationship. 💍 "He will take no issue with you bringing up commitment and he will have no issue saying he wants it." 💡 The man who is serious about you will not have a problem with you asking where you stand in the relationship, as he wants to provide clarity and peace. 💡 Expressing your desires and communicating your expectations in a relationship is crucial for moving forward in the right direction. 💕 "I want you to have a man who loves you, cherishes you, respects you, and adores you."
Great Indicators: Regarding introducing you to friends and family … it's more about introducing you to the important WOMEN in his life. If you find that you are only meeting the men … that’s a red flag. Additionally, with respect to expressing how he feels it needs to be UNSOLICITED. If you have to ask, that is a yellow flag. Number 8: If he initiates the conversation about commitment… again... UNSOLICITED. A man who is intentional does not have you walking around playing Inspector Gadget. He is the leader in the relationship who values the opinion of the other Women in his life because it's these women who can vet another quality woman. He also initiates ongoing, open communication about his feelings, intentions, and the vision he has for his life, wife, and the love legacy he wants to create ( like you said in Number 5).
A lot nowadays won't do #8 right now tbh. Cause we know how woman's attractions are set up. So that can possibly have her lose a little interest if you say it possibly at the wrong time or something.
I think it’s easier to move on when you know he’s a lier, or he was cheating etc. The issue is when you know he is a good man, who loves you, but he isn’t ready inside to be in a healthy committed relationship. He needs a lot of work (and so do I of course) but I can see that he struggles with being as loving as I wanted him to be and open with communication because of his childhood etc, which affected our relationship. He is also struggling financially and that’s causing him stress so we met at the wrong time. Or he could simply be the wrong man for me :)
I hope the ladies really pay attention and take heed. So much advice out here...but when I'm out and about...I Still Constantly see the ladies Still Fall for these players games Over & Over Again. I just shake my head like mann. SMH 🤦♂️
To answer your Outro question… he will stop playing games by giving me the run around. It will reflect more in his actions than his words. Example: will answer text in a timely manner, will show up on a date and on time, will not go weeks without hearing from him, will take initiative to plan out creative dates …
Your so correct 😮 I’m doing everything right and my man is doing everything your saying! He stays on the phone with me in the times where he know I may need him .
These are some facts. Sometimes they are not emotionally ready. People are always on a healing journey and it’s okay to recongnize that. It doesn’t make them a “bad” man, just a person that’s not dealt with what they need to in order to enter a healthy relationship. My previous guy realized that and how it hurt me. So he is taking time to heal itself. Idk where that will lead us, whether together or apart. But I wish everyone the best on their health physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
Excellent points made. I will take this on board. As a woman I need to know my own worth, if a man that I like doesn't recognise that then its his loss.
I had to find this all out the hard way 🤦🏾♀️this is so true. And I didn’t start paying attention to red flags 🚩 until I was in my mid 30’s. Please pay attention to red flags. I pay attention now
Thank you Stephan, for your comprehensive and I-need-to-hear-this list. Being in avoidance mode, it's been too convenient for me to accept excuses from him or create them myself to allow things to slip by. Hearing each of these points one by one demanded that I face reality. Your no nonsense discussion has helped me say to myself that I don't deserve the breadcrumbs I have been receiving. It's time to move on and open new doors. Again, thank you. I enjoy all of your talks and this one has been most beneficial for me today.
I love this message!! You are so clear and I agree I have seen all of these signs just not at the same time with 1 man!!! And soooooo the wait continues. I pray daily God will bring my man to me❤
I love your videos. Great wake up calls for me. I love this man a year. He started saying we, us but he won’t help me move an old couch out the door. This pissed me off. I left him. Now I’m distraught. I loved him, cooked for him . He never came to my house with anything. I’m sick over him
Im that girl whose petrified of relationship. Im at stage where friendship feels safer, but no guy wants pure friendship. Some tried being friends in desperate expectations for More--that was one sucky experience. I cried a lot, im still processing a lot of different emotions from other things… I was just Never Ready still….
You need to heal, let it go, leave those people in the past, and move forward with some1 new. And don't make them pay for past maltreatment. They didn't do it. Good luck❤
All these are in the new guy im dating which gives me more assurance that he is a great man. We have great communication which i like and i am taking things slow and he is good with that he said he would wait till im ready because im worth the wait. Im also praying that God gives me that sign that this guy is right for me.
Ok. But don't overthink. Just go with the flow. Don't try to hold back if you don't feel it either. Just listen to your Intuition and you will be good ma.
So true the communication is not Serious when he’s not sweating you . The only time when the communication is serious when he wants to get with you below the waist . This conversation is such a red flag .
dude i was seriously dating w just wanted to be with me all the time. everything was easy in the beginning, but he started to bring chaos, started lying, started closing me out, and always kept me guessing. he wanted to get married in the future, but couldn’t tell me what was truly in his heart without an outburst or argument. thanks for the video! makes me feel like i did the best for the both of us by ending it.
Well - the title of the video is how to tell if he’s ready for a commitment not how to tell if he will be a good boyfriend. That can be two different things in IMHO. Men who want to use women can be really good at doing all 7 things because they know women like it but let’s face it things like “consistent communication” are the bare minimum- so I think the lesson has to be to also pay attention to how he is in his other relationships and how he shows up in the world in general. Good luck.
My guy did everything on your list for two full years except talk about our future together, so I figured he didn’t want the same things I wanted and broke it off. He was mortified! He spent the next year and a half driving hours to take me out and eventually moved 4 miles from my house. He picked me up for church every Sunday, told me he loved me and that he made a huge mistake letting me go. Only when he asked me to move in with him did I realize that he really did love me. I’m a little slow, I guess. 😅🤣 We’ve been together eight years now, and he talks freely about our future.
You wasn’t slow my love.. he just finally realised how much he loved you since you were not always around. Most times it takes losing someone to really know what we’re missing. In this case you leaving applied the pressure cooker and shocked him into making a solid commitment 😂 happy for you darling ❤ now to apply some of this feedback to my own life 😅😅😅
Thanks for the video. My boyfriend does all these things only thing that is kinda of hard right now is he is hyper focused about our future and improving his financial situation (had some set backs in the last few months) sometimes he will say things like let's get this money then we can sit back, relax and have fun! Love his motivation and how goal oriented he is but is a bit obsessed (I am going to blame this on zodiac -Scorpio) Lol!
Stephan Speaks presents excellent and relatable content. If I had to sum this channel up in 4 words….Wise, Balanced, Enlightening, & Mature.💯 I will definitely be sharing!✊🏾🖤
I have been watching your videos for a while now, but I wish I had started long ago! Then I wouldn't have allowed one man to waste my time. This video would have helped me dump him early on. But I broke free from him and am now dating a man who is showing all of the signs you talk about in this video! Thank you for all of your insights, your focus on developing healthy, loving relationships.
I wish I could get this from someone I want. I get this from the men I’m not romantically interested in or physically attracted to which just kills it. Im over dating😩
I had this and blew it 😢😢😢😢I just feel like if he did all that he should forgive my one mistake (no cheating) he said he was watching me for seven years. But I also wasn’t healed from a previous 4 year relationship whom he betrayed me 🙏🏾🙏🏾
He does all these ⬆️ but when i asked to see his mom, he will bring me when it’s the right time(cause his mom is sick). I havent met his mom yet. We just celebrated our 1st anniversary last july..
I think all these points are true, and saying this as a female who has seen all of these in men who want to pursue a serious healthy relationship with u
Hope to find him. Him that gives me time to get to know him and takes his time to get to know me, him that is patience with me, him that don't scare me off by applying pressure, him that understands the fundamentals of connections and love, him that communicate what he means and means what he communicate etc. I am ready. Update: Him that understands that he is electrical and that I as a woman am Magnetic, him that get hard... huh ... obviously, but can also direct his electricity to the right spots so that my magnetism get attracted and addicted to hold him and bring him to heights he didn't know existed every single time! Without sex and divine connection ✨ there's no me and you but pure friendship.
When all these signs are shown…. It’s indicative that he does want a relationship with you. But remember ladies once you see all these signs… examine the vision, goals, and mission of that man. You may fit into his vision…but is that a vision you can follow for your life as well.
(FACTS OVA FEELINGS). Eu r in a relationship with ur heart ur heart is ur best friend and it is ur life partner if you want urself to thrive eu have to treat the relationship with ur heart like eu wud treat the relationship with ur significant other
In the Philippines, guys court and it’s the lady who decides if she will say yes to have a relationship. Here in the US it’s different, it’s the guy who ask the lady if he can be her boyfriend. I am still waiting patiently 😢
ALWAYS ADDRESS ISSUES FIRST BUT IF AFTER COMING WITH LOVING WORDS THEY REFUSE TO TALK TO YOU OR THEY SUFFER FROM PAST HURT OR PAIN LET THEM GO. PEOPLE WILL TELL ON THEMSELVES LOOK OUT FOR NARRSISTIC MEN AND WOMEN WHO ARE LOOKING FOR A BED TO LAY THERE HEAD DOWN DONT PLAY WITH FIRE CLIMB ABOVE THE LIES LOOK OUT FOR SOUL TIES THE AWNSERS TO THERE LIES CLARITY PEACE WORDS TO RELEASE BE FEMININE BUT DONT LET THEM FOOL YOU EITHER
Well I got my answer from the first one,goes a couple of weeks with no calls no texts but when I send a text to have a great weekend and get the same response back ,I say i miss you and he says me to thats what I get every couple months
It is always hearing over distant time apart how much he misses me and I drive him crazy ,but no calls or texts for two weeks,then I send a message for him to have a great weekend and get a response back hope you do to are you doing good,my response is yeah I'm good ,be safe all the conversation,5 years ,I'm standing strong on my own with this
Can you please do a video on female friends. My ex has an obsessed female friend/“sister” that didn’t respect our relationship and didn’t have boundaries. She obviously likes him as she was marking her territory.
Hi Stephan, I was in a relationship with a guy for 11 year, only to find out that he was in a relationship with another woman for a year before I found out about it. We had talked about retirement and the things we could do together. He ended our relationship because I didn’t do what he told me to do. I believe he is a borderline narcissist. But I love him dearly and I really would love to have a relationship with him. I he did introduce me to his children and other close family and friends. What should I do? He said that he wanted to marry but I wouldn’t do what told me to. He feels like this will be a problem if got married. I would love to hear your thoughts on this matter.
Hi, I learn a lot from you. You are January expert in what you do I have a friend. He has a house, he said hes deeply in love with me, but yet. I cannot spend a night at his house. He wants to be at my place at all time
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This is the reason why i rather be alone, because if there is no communication, there is no relationship.
Hi Stephan, My question to you is how soon into the dating or relationship should you ask, these questions, like "Where do we stand?"
I would say three - four months. But, is that realistic?
I was single for 7 years. I met this amazing man through one of my work colleagues. He lives 1,5 hours away from me. He makes the time to drive to me. also i have met his dad 84 his sister & friends. This is the first time in 7 years that a man is there for me and me for him. He has met my teenagers. We talk everyday. & he is a busy man but is there for me. i am so grateful never thought i would meet a man 7 years later. ❤ i live in The Netherlands & am from London. We are going to London end of the month. i have epilepsy & he is there for me every day. He cares about me. 🍀💫
Wow thank you for sharing, I'm hopeful been single 5yrs now, and looking forward to meeting the man I desire
Lovable story!
I want to cry.. It's so touching and beautiful! ❤
@@patiencesamuriwo-bm2gd It will honestly come, i thought after 7 years nope done with men & then this man came into my life.. I turned 50 this year.. 🍀❤️
@@barbiebrenda Thank you so much. I was fine alone after 7 years! i was not interested anymore in love… ❤️🍀
@alisonalibongo3177 am so happy for you dear
When a man wants to marry you he will do whatever it takes to make it happen. Trust me. There was this guy who love-bombed me and made me believe we had a relationship. We even planned for marriage and he said that he was going to prepare for it. A week after that talk, he abandoned and ghosted me. 4 months later he met some lady online and not only did he marry her, but he went to ask for her hand in marriage. The thing is that during the 4 months of dating they had a lot of heavy fights but he still married her. Not surprising that she turned out to be physically abusive and beat him up a lot. He eventually left her after 3 years of marriage. He obviously wanted a woman who would beat him up. Meanwhile, I met my husband who treated me with love and respect. Never gave me any issues or insecurities. We've been happily married for over 20 years.
Glad you finally found happiness, you deserve it! 🎉
wow interesting
I met that man but we are both still trying to get closer to God, pray for us ❤
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Same with me. He choose me, then he un-choosed me and chose nursing school instead. I did not fit into his future life despite he showed all of the signs. I also saw dealbreakers. I let him and it go.
Same @Iamyl4 🙏🏼
@@melatimohdsalleh1880he never choose you if he picked nursing school over you…
You were a time filler meaning he already had plans to go to nursing school but needed something to do before it started… YOU were it!
I’m in nursing school now and while it can be busy it’s not the end of the world. If he wanted to make time for you he would. Even if it’s just the two of you sitting around the table together to make Pharmacology medication flash cards together….. so he can study them for later… or you quizzing him on those flash cards and seeing how many drugs he knows. Thats a cute way to still see you while utilizing his time.
Also, in nursing school your not taking exams every day … so after a big exam if he wanted to de-stress he could use that time to take you out ….
People make time for what they feel is important to them regardless if they are in nursing school, medical school, Law school, Engineering school, getting a MBA or just working
He didn’t make time because he doesn’t like you like that… what he’s hoping to find is the girl of his dreams while he attends nursing school or gets his first nursing job.
Nursing school is a female environment and nursing is still a majority female profession so he will be ONE of the VERY FEW men surrounded by women in class and at clinical. When he has study sessions in the Library it will be with a table full of women. He knows this so he’s not about to set anything in stone with you. He wants to see what’s out there. If he can get better than you.
Let this man go…and do NOT pick up the phone when he calls you!!! He wants to waste more of your time.
Lastly, if you see him calling your phone in a few months that means none of those women panned out for him at school so he wants to slide back to you… to use you as a place filler!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Don’t allow him.
*Identifying signs that someone might be ready for a relationship is insightful, but remember that each person's readiness varies. It's important to communicate openly and honestly to understand each other's intentions.*
he embraces my desired level of communication--we both love to talk and tell each other details and more serious stuff, too. he makes time for me, pulls out the chair so i can sit down and then he faces me in his chair. wow, i love it. yes, i've met his family and friends. things are going well.
These are the exact reasons why I'm married to the amazing man I'm with now ♥️💍🥰
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
I just love this feedback! I met a gentleman about a month ago and he checks all these boxes. It’s a bit scary for me as I didn’t expect it and that he is not complex. He’s upfront and expressive about his intent. There’s no guessing with his purpose, interest or commitment. He brings me the peace, clarification and security that I need. He’s gotten me to be transparent and open while being mindful of my fears and worries. He calms my worries and fears and says I’m the same with him. It’s all theses things that have decreased my worries about his intentions and has opened my heart. It’s still a new relationship and we’re getting to know each other, but for once in a long time I’m excited to see next steps. Plus I’ve been watching your videos and you’ve been on point. I haven’t been watching them for advice more so they’re confirmation that I’ve found a good man. I’m trust my heart and this journey. I pray that others are able to do the same ❤
Just go with it❤
Don’t OVER share…make sure you are not doing more talking than listening. Get to know one another equally.
Don’t open your heart too quickly. I made that mistake with someone I was talking too for a little over a month and it sounded just like what you’re describing. It was perfect, he checked all the boxes and more and I was so happy. Then out of the blue he stopped talking to me and won’t tell me why, just ghosted me. So be careful. I’ll never do that again, I’ll make sure it’s going well for at least a few months before putting my emotions out there again. There are a lot of people with fearful attachment or dismissive attachment styles and this is the way they behave, look it up.
Girl, feels like cloud 5000 from all the bad seeds before. I sometimes think “it’s too good to be true”, but signs follow that it’s not. Live in the moment in a sense w/ caution but don’t let fear stop u from being u. If there aren’t deal breakers, except that Gods goodness just might be a real thing in tangible form. A deceitful heart/ person is never greater than Gods protection & guidance away from that person place or thing if you’re in tune w/ Him more than your feelings.
Lovable story! ❤
So with the guy that I left it was:
1. no consistent communication
2. He made time for my work but not for me
3. He definitely did not want me to meet friends and family (later found out he was living a triple life - so that may explain it :)
4. He did listen to my feelings. I'll give him that
5. He did mention marriage a number of times but I ignored him (because my gut was screaming noooooo)
6. He did express how he felt but I ignored him - again because I knew he was a lying git
7. I didn't discuss commitment because I didn't trust him
8. Commitment didn't come into it - because we couldn't get past the very first stage.
My gut was spot on - he was living a triple life. I never trusted a word he said and I'm glad I didn't. He now chases me and I have absolutely nothing to do with him.
I'm sorry to hear about that. I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
Lol at lying git…I married (and subsequently divorced ) one of those.
Wishing you all the best for the future
@@MeetStephanSpeaks thank you. It's been a while and the pain is no longer raw. I don't miss him or want him back but the scars of been betrayed remain. This will take time to heal properly although I feel I have come a long way. I think the real test will be when I meet someone else. Trusting a man has always been a bit of an issue and this sorry event has added to that, but I believe with the right man I will be able to work through these issues. At least I know one thing which is critically important and that is - I can trust myself.
@@donna119 Aw thank you and wishing you the best too. We don't need lying gits in our lives. They drain you of every last bit of energy!
Yes, Always trust your gut feelings.
I am so pleased. My gentleman friend is checking all 7. However we are in no rush.💖☮️🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Please don't let that possible good man slip away. Please dont take him for granted like most women do.
Take your time...but also go with the flow. Move how you supposed to move. Don't fall back or play games when not needed. Just be real & honest and do ya thang ma.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏
Take your time, sweetie, and keep being fabulous, confident you! 💖
If he is ready for a relationship and he doesn't pick you you're not the one.
Most definitely!
Simple enough 😂
…and he’s not the one!
Great advice. Love it!
Uhhh I hear a lot of men are shy! What if she asks him out and he likes her???
Key insights:
💬 When a man is willing to embrace your desired level of communication and be consistent, it's a very good sign that he wants a serious relationship.
⏰ A man's willingness to make time for you, even adjusting his schedule, shows his serious interest in the relationship.
💑 When a man introduces a woman to his friends and family, it's a strong indication that he sees a potential future relationship with her.
💬 Expressing one's feelings and being able to communicate the desire to be with someone is a good sign of readiness for a relationship.
💍 "He will take no issue with you bringing up commitment and he will have no issue saying he wants it."
💡 The man who is serious about you will not have a problem with you asking where you stand in the relationship, as he wants to provide clarity and peace.
💡 Expressing your desires and communicating your expectations in a relationship is crucial for moving forward in the right direction.
💕 "I want you to have a man who loves you, cherishes you, respects you, and adores you."
Expecially when you're busy, you want to make time for those who are important to you. If he's doing this ..Green flag🤗💚
I too have met this man a man of his word and a man of God 💝🙏
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
I had to listen to this 3 times!! Afterwards I cried!
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Be strong… you got this🙏🏾✌🏾
Great Indicators: Regarding introducing you to friends and family … it's more about introducing you to the important WOMEN in his life. If you find that you are only meeting the men … that’s a red flag. Additionally, with respect to expressing how he feels it needs to be UNSOLICITED. If you have to ask, that is a yellow flag.
Number 8: If he initiates the conversation about commitment… again... UNSOLICITED. A man who is intentional does not have you walking around playing Inspector Gadget. He is the leader in the relationship who values the opinion of the other Women in his life because it's these women who can vet another quality woman. He also initiates ongoing, open communication about his feelings, intentions, and the vision he has for his life, wife, and the love legacy he wants to create ( like you said in Number 5).
A lot nowadays won't do #8 right now tbh. Cause we know how woman's attractions are set up. So that can possibly have her lose a little interest if you say it possibly at the wrong time or something.
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@@MeetStephanSpeaks Is that you? Or an Assistant lol. Can't wait to meet you again..
I think it’s easier to move on when you know he’s a lier, or he was cheating etc. The issue is when you know he is a good man, who loves you, but he isn’t ready inside to be in a healthy committed relationship. He needs a lot of work (and so do I of course) but I can see that he struggles with being as loving as I wanted him to be and open with communication because of his childhood etc, which affected our relationship. He is also struggling financially and that’s causing him stress so we met at the wrong time. Or he could simply be the wrong man for me :)
I jus love how you can laugh at yourself when you correct what you say 😄😄😄. It's very endearing.
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Stephan is truly a blessing and helping us all be in healthy, happy relationships.
Stephan out here saving lives 🥹💐
I hope the ladies really pay attention and take heed.
So much advice out here...but when I'm out and about...I Still Constantly see the ladies Still Fall for these players games Over & Over Again. I just shake my head like mann. SMH 🤦♂️
Glad I could help 🙏
You are helping
To answer your Outro question… he will stop playing games by giving me the run around. It will reflect more in his actions than his words. Example: will answer text in a timely manner, will show up on a date and on time, will not go weeks without hearing from him, will take initiative to plan out creative dates …
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Your so correct 😮 I’m doing everything right and my man is doing everything your saying! He stays on the phone with me in the times where he know I may need him .
Queens ask questions that only Kings can answer. If he can't answer he's a clown in a crown period.
Love this comment!
Sounds like you've been watching a lot of RC blakes videos 😅 he is the one who makes reference to that clown comment 😂
Watch R C Blakes all of the time.😆
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Praise God for finally blessing me with a man who checks all 7 of theses boxes 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
These are some facts. Sometimes they are not emotionally ready. People are always on a healing journey and it’s okay to recongnize that. It doesn’t make them a “bad” man, just a person that’s not dealt with what they need to in order to enter a healthy relationship. My previous guy realized that and how it hurt me. So he is taking time to heal itself. Idk where that will lead us, whether together or apart. But I wish everyone the best on their health physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
Excellent points made. I will take this on board. As a woman I need to know my own worth, if a man that I like doesn't recognise that then its his loss.
I had to find this all out the hard way 🤦🏾♀️this is so true. And I didn’t start paying attention to red flags 🚩 until I was in my mid 30’s. Please pay attention to red flags. I pay attention now
Wow!!!
The blessing is that you learned your lesson, and you’ll be better off at it 😊
And sometimes he's not saying, and doing what is necessary could possibly be --- because he knows he's not good enough for you.
Thank you Stephan, for your comprehensive and I-need-to-hear-this list. Being in avoidance mode, it's been too convenient for me to accept excuses from him or create them myself to allow things to slip by. Hearing each of these points one by one demanded that I face reality. Your no nonsense discussion has helped me say to myself that I don't deserve the breadcrumbs I have been receiving. It's time to move on and open new doors. Again, thank you. I enjoy all of your talks and this one has been most beneficial for me today.
You go, girl!! ❤
I love this message!! You are so clear and I agree I have seen all of these signs just not at the same time with 1 man!!! And soooooo the wait continues. I pray daily God will bring my man to me❤
I love your videos. Great wake up calls for me. I love this man a year. He started saying we, us but he won’t help me move an old couch out the door. This pissed me off. I left him. Now I’m distraught. I loved him, cooked for him . He never came to my house with anything. I’m sick over him
Im that girl whose petrified of relationship. Im at stage where friendship feels safer, but no guy wants pure friendship. Some tried being friends in desperate expectations for More--that was one sucky experience. I cried a lot, im still processing a lot of different emotions from other things… I was just Never Ready still….
You need to heal, let it go, leave those people in the past, and move forward with some1 new. And don't make them pay for past maltreatment. They didn't do it. Good luck❤
All these are in the new guy im dating which gives me more assurance that he is a great man. We have great communication which i like and i am taking things slow and he is good with that he said he would wait till im ready because im worth the wait. Im also praying that God gives me that sign that this guy is right for me.
Ok. But don't overthink. Just go with the flow. Don't try to hold back if you don't feel it either. Just listen to your Intuition and you will be good ma.
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So true the communication is not Serious when he’s not sweating you . The only time when the communication is serious when he wants to get with you below the waist . This conversation is such a red flag .
dude i was seriously dating w just wanted to be with me all the time. everything was easy in the beginning, but he started to bring chaos, started lying, started closing me out, and always kept me guessing. he wanted to get married in the future, but couldn’t tell me what was truly in his heart without an outburst or argument.
thanks for the video! makes me feel like i did the best for the both of us by ending it.
Dodged that bullet 😮
My guy has done all the above.He said to me I want to be in a relationship with you.
100% correct. I have all those with my sweetheart from the very beginning. No guessing games here.
My ex did all of these things and turned out to be the worst decision I ever made!
There are some very deceptive guys out there. Be vigilant.
Well - the title of the video is how to tell if he’s ready for a commitment not how to tell if he will be a good boyfriend. That can be two different things in IMHO. Men who want to use women can be really good at doing all 7 things because they know women like it but let’s face it things like “consistent communication” are the bare minimum- so I think the lesson has to be to also pay attention to how he is in his other relationships and how he shows up in the world in general. Good luck.
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I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
My guy did everything on your list for two full years except talk about our future together, so I figured he didn’t want the same things I wanted and broke it off. He was mortified! He spent the next year and a half driving hours to take me out and eventually moved 4 miles from my house. He picked me up for church every Sunday, told me he loved me and that he made a huge mistake letting me go. Only when he asked me to move in with him did I realize that he really did love me. I’m a little slow, I guess. 😅🤣 We’ve been together eight years now, and he talks freely about our future.
You wasn’t slow my love.. he just finally realised how much he loved you since you were not always around. Most times it takes losing someone to really know what we’re missing. In this case you leaving applied the pressure cooker and shocked him into making a solid commitment 😂 happy for you darling ❤ now to apply some of this feedback to my own life 😅😅😅
Married yet? Give us the tea...
Thanks for your wisdom!
My pleasure ❤️
Stephen, your 7 points are correct! I have been saying this and know it totally . Amen🎉🎉❤
Thank you for sharing this video! It is definitely confirmation of what God has been telling me. Will be getting your book today!
Thanks for the video. My boyfriend does all these things only thing that is kinda of hard right now is he is hyper focused about our future and improving his financial situation (had some set backs in the last few months) sometimes he will say things like let's get this money then we can sit back, relax and have fun! Love his motivation and how goal oriented he is but is a bit obsessed (I am going to blame this on zodiac -Scorpio) Lol!
All this is so true! He started expressing his interest and out a sudden he changed on a whim. I spoke to him and cut him off!
He probably had another woman
Listening to all this 7 signs and I’m asking myself why I wasted my time with my EX like that? Damn!!💔💔
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
Stephan Speaks presents excellent and relatable content. If I had to sum this channel up in 4 words….Wise, Balanced, Enlightening, & Mature.💯
I will definitely be sharing!✊🏾🖤
Thank you for mentioning all of these points. I noticed a lot of these and I second guessed myself and I tried to rationalize it.
I have been watching your videos for a while now, but I wish I had started long ago! Then I wouldn't have allowed one man to waste my time. This video would have helped me dump him early on. But I broke free from him and am now dating a man who is showing all of the signs you talk about in this video! Thank you for all of your insights, your focus on developing healthy, loving relationships.
I wish I could get this from someone I want. I get this from the men I’m not romantically interested in or physically attracted to which just kills it. Im over dating😩
The family being in on the game is crazy 😂 I didn't realize how bad that was till it happened to me n was my husband😂😂😂
Great advice, as always. No mind head games, just be REAL!!
Indeed, it really helps when we embrace being real.
I had this and blew it 😢😢😢😢I just feel like if he did all that he should forgive my one mistake (no cheating) he said he was watching me for seven years. But I also wasn’t healed from a previous 4 year relationship whom he betrayed me 🙏🏾🙏🏾
I just wanna know how do you get over the fear of starting over and letting the guard down and opening up your heart 😩
By knowing who you are . Understanding the value you bring .. coz being single is like a bus stop, not a destination
He does all these ⬆️ but when i asked to see his mom, he will bring me when it’s the right time(cause his mom is sick). I havent met his mom yet. We just celebrated our 1st anniversary last july..
I agree with you 💯
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
So True*
I think all these points are true, and saying this as a female who has seen all of these in men who want to pursue a serious healthy relationship with u
I like your voice Stephan, it makes me sleep well! I do listen to you however and value your advice ......up to the point of oblivion!!😊
I have a playlist for sleep too 😂
Thank You Brother Stephen for this Advice
My pleasure ❤️
I did he said lets see how it goes and
i did I was told lets see how it goes. Yeah heah did . But I asked no thanks I will be loved. Thanks
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Hope to find him. Him that gives me time to get to know him and takes his time to get to know me, him that is patience with me, him that don't scare me off by applying pressure, him that understands the fundamentals of connections and love, him that communicate what he means and means what he communicate etc. I am ready.
Update: Him that understands that he is electrical and that I as a woman am Magnetic, him that get hard... huh ... obviously, but can also direct his electricity to the right spots so that my magnetism get attracted and addicted to hold him and bring him to heights he didn't know existed every single time! Without sex and divine connection ✨ there's no me and you but pure friendship.
I pray that you receive the man who is truly best for you, the man God has for you 🙏
I’m also waiting.
@@MG-gq2rs may the Mosthigh send your person 🙏🏾
@@MeetStephanSpeaks only the Mosthigh knows I need him hard. Thank you 🙏🏾
@@afsamsayah thank you. I wish the same for you. 🙏🏼
When all these signs are shown…. It’s indicative that he does want a relationship with you. But remember ladies once you see all these signs… examine the vision, goals, and mission of that man. You may fit into his vision…but is that a vision you can follow for your life as well.
What about long distance relationships?
I truly enjoy watching your videos. I learn so much that I find myself telling my friends about these key points you be dropping. Keep it up!
Your advise is awesome 💯
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
(FACTS OVA FEELINGS). Eu r in a relationship with ur heart ur heart is ur best friend and it is ur life partner if you want urself to thrive eu have to treat the relationship with ur heart like eu wud treat the relationship with ur significant other
Thank you so much for these videos. Such a blessing. 💖
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
In the Philippines, guys court and it’s the lady who decides if she will say yes to have a relationship. Here in the US it’s different, it’s the guy who ask the lady if he can be her boyfriend. I am still waiting patiently 😢
I pray that you receive the partner who is truly best for you, the partner God has for you 🙏
Some men are just not ready for me. Perioodt!
My man yes wants a commitment that's true everything is my man❤
I def dread that ? Indeed ! Thanks for this video
My pleasure ❤️
That was so on point ❤everything all 7 .👏🏼🗣️
Thank you so much for your insight. You hit the nail on the head. I just had to do number seven the other day. Guess it was nice knowing him.😮
Thank you! Very informative
ALWAYS ADDRESS ISSUES FIRST BUT IF AFTER COMING WITH LOVING WORDS THEY REFUSE TO TALK TO YOU OR THEY SUFFER FROM PAST HURT OR PAIN LET THEM GO. PEOPLE WILL TELL ON THEMSELVES LOOK OUT FOR NARRSISTIC MEN AND WOMEN WHO ARE LOOKING FOR A BED TO LAY THERE HEAD DOWN DONT PLAY WITH FIRE CLIMB ABOVE THE LIES LOOK OUT FOR SOUL TIES THE AWNSERS TO THERE LIES CLARITY PEACE WORDS TO RELEASE BE FEMININE BUT DONT LET THEM FOOL YOU EITHER
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Awesome Video
Wow this definitely makes me think because it the 100 % truth
One sign might be simply that he asks. My boyfriend showed me those signs, but really the most obvious one was that he asked me to be his girlfriend.
Well I got my answer from the first one,goes a couple of weeks with no calls no texts but when I send a text to have a great weekend and get the same response back ,I say i miss you and he says me to thats what I get every couple months
All Facts bro 💯
💯 yes!
Stephan, give us a tour of your place!! 😂😂😂😊 it looks cozy!!
Thanks Stephan. Great nuggets🙏🏼💜
He doesn't make excuses... his actions will say as well as his words...
It is always hearing over distant time apart how much he misses me and I drive him crazy ,but no calls or texts for two weeks,then I send a message for him to have a great weekend and get a response back hope you do to are you doing good,my response is yeah I'm good ,be safe all the conversation,5 years ,I'm standing strong on my own with this
Can you please do a video on female friends.
My ex has an obsessed female friend/“sister” that didn’t respect our relationship and didn’t have boundaries. She obviously likes him as she was marking her territory.
I appreciate this topic so much Stephan great insight thank you so much❤❤
I was always a secret never good enough even for a coffee lied to and used and he chose is baby mama she was good enough she got everything 😢
I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
Thank you for this
My pleasure!
Hi Stephan, I was in a relationship with a guy for 11 year, only to find out that he was in a relationship with another woman for a year before I found out about it. We had talked about retirement and the things we could do together. He ended our relationship because I didn’t do what he told me to do. I believe he is a borderline narcissist. But I love him dearly and I really would love to have a relationship with him. I he did introduce me to his children and other close family and friends. What should I do? He said that he wanted to marry but I wouldn’t do what told me to. He feels like this will be a problem if got married. I would love to hear your thoughts on this matter.
100% on all 7
I laugh when you laugh. I love it
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❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
Excellent advice
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Hi Stephan, well said another great video .
Great Work!
Hi, I learn a lot from you. You are January expert in what you do I have a friend. He has a house, he said hes deeply in love with me, but yet. I cannot spend a night at his house. He wants to be at my place at all time
Facts are all true Sir! Great insight.
Excellent!
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@@MeetStephanSpeaks Awe.. You’re welcome! Thank you for everything you do! 🙏🏽❤️
8:40 hit it right on the nose 😂
Thank you sir. I appreciate.
Damn this is good stuff!❤ thx Stephan!
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