Its strange they will say they wont reject you, dont want you to them then creat a reason and do it to you, justify it by it being your fault then up and leave you viewing you in a horrible way no matter what you say or do.
Yes! I love the Silent treatment! I get so much done & selfcare! They think it's punishment, it's a vacation! He can't act right 7 days in a row anyways, it's a break from the tantrums! He'll come back & notice my nails done. 😊
Lol, he threw a fit because he got busted cheating, but really pouted when he lost that new supply because I ratted her out to her husband. I left, moved to the other side of the country and divorced his ass.
Not letting them have their way!!! I heard a narc tell a story about how she was in the supermarket and running late for work. She asked a customer at checkout if she could go ahead of her, because of her lateness, and the customer said no. The narc talked so down about that customer, but wouldn’t take responsibility for her actions for her lateness. What if the customer had a timeline and destination to consider as well?
My narcissistic ex couldn't handle criticism on himself but was very good at criticizing others, no one was good in his eyes and the grudges he held. He was obsessed with the behavior of others, talked everyone into the ground. Colleagues, family, neighbors, his hairdresser, people on TV, former classmates, passers-by, exes and their families, people from 40 years ago. Complaining for hours every day. I couldn't take it anymore. I feel so liberated since the breakup.
I think that "grey rock" stuff also works. They have no logical counter-attack if you are still being polite and sweet but totally remove the supply (no compliments, no excitement or special treatment when you see them.)
You never come to a solution. And that is very frustrating. I can relate - sadly. Because those people are not interested in you or a solution (they simple don´t care). There is a quote which is the truth: It is their way and nobody elses.
WHen you accuse them, they go into a rage, why because they know for a fact they doing it. But how the hell you know im doing it😂💯 or say not factual scream and say lies lies lies ect..
I told my ex that he was existing some narcissistic traits. He lost his lil mind!!! Made up lies that I was calling him every name in the book.. Innocent of that but I did say he has traits
Once I discovered what was going on I kicked him out and eventually exposed him and he began hiding from me. Actually running away from me. It was kind of hilarious . But he tried to make it look like I was crazy. I eventually liked protection order and that really freaked him out. His employer finally realized he was dangerous. Funny he eventually now has disappeared and quit his job. It really freaked him out to expose him. He was so nice to everyone else but they had to see the truth once I filed the protection order
I told him you are lying and I can’t deal with an adult telling lies in-front of me. And he melted just like ice cream 😂. He was out of his mind and closed car door like if the car did something bad to him.😂
If you don´t agree with them - it can become very dangerous for you. They go in tantrums like a small child. (You know they are like rumpelstiltskin ...). I don´t know how often I did that but yeah it is just crazyness...
Well, I put my fingers in my ears when someone is constantly yelling at me and then I'll walk away. Sometimes a person may go silent to digest whatever criticism they received and reflect on it. Sooo true about the part when you accuse them of something they've actually done and they get angry with you.
I began treating him the same way he treated me! You’re right! He told me I changed! I gave 99% of my life and resources to help him. He gave me nothing but phone calls. I got sick of it. So I stopped. He began devaluing and then ghosted me for days and weeks. Then I got a I Love you meme from him! By accident! It was sent to a few Instagram T & A women. Well that answered everything. Then understood his history and all those women he gaslit and told me they were crazy or mean. Sadly he was verbally abused as a kid. I know why he is what he is. But who can live with the games of a narc?
Quickest way to upset a narcissist is to go through with no contact because now they are losing control over you and now do not know your every move. No contact also helps you to heal. Another quick way is to…..🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 LEAVE!
Holding them accountable for their actions. Giving him the silent treatment. LMAO mine was being rude with how he was talking to me so I started cursing at him and he told me he'd hang up on me if I continued. Guess what?! He ended up hanging up cuz I continued!😂😂 Then I said DONT DISH IT IF YOU CANT TAKE IT. He said I can take it but..I Said Jason no you cant, YOU HUNG UP like a CRYBABY?! A CRYBABY?! REALLY NAT?! I said YES! IM OVER HOW YOU TALK TO ME!!!So if you don't like it don't fucking do it to me.
@@MentalHealness so narcs know exactly what they are doing as they perceive their own behaviour (which is being reflected back at them) as bad 🙄 pure mind f**kery!
I told him, that I wasn't disappointed in his actions anymore, since I was getting to know him better. I didn't expect it, but he actually admitted it hurt and apologised. While gaslighting and devaluing at the same time....
Okay, now I understand why my narcissistic player does not want to deal with me because I am a pain in his egotestical ego, catching him in his lies and fables. Thank you Lee. 🙏😎
I’m glad constructive criticism was mentioned. I wonder if that was part of the reason my ex-husband didn’t stay at his jobs long term. I don’t know the real reasons why his jobs ended because he’s a pathological liar. He either was fired for some reason or quit. 😂😂😂😂
I noticed they blame everyone else! They are cutting a board and you talk to them and they screw up, it’s your fault! They are hyper sensitive. Mine was OCD. OBCESSED with perfection and every detail for the fear of any sort of failure!
A simple question can get you choked if they aren't in a good mood. They are running from what is inside. If you expose it sometimes they will do anything to silence you.
Mine rage screamed at me for saying something didnt make sense, i yelled back briefly. She blew up worse, the day went to crap and then i didnt hear from her in days then she played it off I wasn't listening, or doing as i should as her primary care giver as she put it. After many belittling msgs ignored for days then it was she didnt want to be together so fast just after acting so cruel and needy. Fully blamed and viewed me in a horrible way after all ive been through and all she just said and promised. Horrible feeling tbh
The way I broke my narcissist was 1) picking his twin brother over him and 2) I stopped caring about the first one...then the other one. The master manipulators...the gangsta gaslighters heads were spinning when I was done, the poor things...LOL. I'm one of those who are impervious to the "game" and can outwit outlast and outplay them in my sleep. Lets all be mature, she said sarcastically.
The last time I saw my ex, I was getting a few of my things because I had already moved out. I was telling him the things he did, he started raging, but I pressed on. Then he ran out the house in the late night. I don’t know where he went. I just got my shit and left
@mantalHealness, Us beautiful pipo r ok here. Just telling them truth,unvailing their lies,catching them with lies,making yo opinion or suggestion and acting on it. Just over an opinion last month i got a discard.So true.
"Go directly to narcissistic jail. Do not pass GO and do not collect $200." 😂 This is how narcs react to most things if it isn't feeding their ego or appeasing them. It's exhausting.
I deeply want to know how do they become narcissistic? If you don't mind sharing, how did you end up being diagnosed? My mom is one & that's majority of the people I've attracted & I don't like it. I've started protecting myself better now so they repel. A lot of them dodge me now because they know I've figured them out & knows i will expose them. I've spent a whole year in therapy to heal from abuse. I love & value myself better & I'm happy about that.
Yep had n got it all .. silence, gaslight, then threatened 2 have me beat up!! 😂😂😂like a child .. Meanwhile alllll the years i put up with this shit my rose color glasses fell off just recently too !! Felt like i was in grade school....
Spending half your life doing behaviour interventions for not quite old enough for a cluster b diagnosis youth and YA then knowing what his tricks were to some extent and just calling them out. The rage was terrifying. Do not recommend if you can’t get away. But I think I am dealing with aspd/bpd. Maybe even psychopathy, I have never experienced or seen what’s happening outside of case study or true crime crap 😢
I call my ex narc of 14yrs "Trap King" 😅. After every breakup to get myself help he had a baby on the way within 6weeks now 3 different women.. Im done he is sick, nasty, and demonic. What he did to himself just to hurt me... we have a 12yr old I faithfully took my birth control 😅
I would've said that we turn into the Hulk or one of the Hulks lol. Narcissistic rage is crazy. And I always feel like an asshole after I calm down. I hate that I can't take criticism. Mostly because I know I'm not good at a lot of things.
A challenge to their grandiosity which depends on the person. Could be the truth, for some it's a "so what?", Give them advice, for some it attention not an insult, and try to empower them when they are drawing from vulnerable narcissists fav: superior victimhood, but for some it's not a big deal. Depends but what you are describing is the thought process behind a source of grandiosity being challenged. The truth shall set you free. The Gospel gives the truth that sets you free and being honest with yourself also adds. However, the truth being told to another person maybe casting pearls before swine: a pig isn't interested nor sees value in it.
I’m heavy on the truth and my ex always seemed to resent me for it. Now I know why. She use to say I was making her a villain even she was full well acting like one. How about stop acting like that?!
Hi, Lee I love your channel. Narsist are using there animal brain. Whe as humans can chose to use are human or animal brain. Animals are self oriënterend
Who cares . Really its ok. They need to deal with life . And accept the truth. And not lies. Mask up behaviors 😮expose them my ex husband hated that all the time. They want people to believe they are good people. Notso the truth. I left theat baggage behind 9yrs ago .😊😊😊😊😊😊❤ happy as can be
Rejection and saying "no" to a narcissist also brings out rage
Its strange they will say they wont reject you, dont want you to them then creat a reason and do it to you, justify it by it being your fault then up and leave you viewing you in a horrible way no matter what you say or do.
Yessssssss I’ve seen and witnessed it
@@DoubleZippea yea im currently battling within myself a battle that should never have been a issue tbh
Accuse them of what they actually did and then they lose their mind AND start gaslighting and lying!
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Omg this one for real for real especially if they take your money.
Abso fuckin LUTELY facts😂
Yup
It does make them insane! Mine totally cut me off. Only calls if he has to! He got caught!
Holding them accountable for anything they have done and how they act
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Them not getting their way or calling them out!
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You're the Best Lee! For Real!
I'd love to see you & Dr. Ramani together!
You are like the Big Brother I never had! ❤️
Yes! I love the Silent treatment! I get so much done & selfcare! They think it's punishment, it's a vacation! He can't act right 7 days in a row anyways, it's a break from the tantrums! He'll come back & notice my nails done. 😊
This! Their stupid tantrums lead you to FOCUS on what you need to do instead of trying to pacifying them and their stupid egos.
😂😂😂 He'll come back and notice your nails done.....that's hilarious. Absolutely, Ty, I'm learning, it's really a vacation. ❤❤🙏🏾
Why haven’t you left yet?
❤ you get used to it😂
YESSSSS
What WON'T set a narcissist off?? They're angry with EVERYTHING.
u r right,summary is they r easy to leave bcoz they get upset over way u greeted them.
lol 😂
Find someone who is better than they are.
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Lol, he threw a fit because he got busted cheating, but really pouted when he lost that new supply because I ratted her out to her husband. I left, moved to the other side of the country and divorced his ass.
It’s quite easy to upset narcissist but you might get harshly devalued. The best way to really upset narcissists is GOSO ( get out, stay out)!!!!
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@@MentalHealness what is wrong with? That you send me !!!/?_ don’t you like when a narcissist gets defeated?😂😂😂
Not letting them have their way!!! I heard a narc tell a story about how she was in the supermarket and running late for work. She asked a customer at checkout if she could go ahead of her, because of her lateness, and the customer said no. The narc talked so down about that customer, but wouldn’t take responsibility for her actions for her lateness. What if the customer had a timeline and destination to consider as well?
My narcissistic ex couldn't handle criticism on himself but was very good at criticizing others, no one was good in his eyes and the grudges he held. He was obsessed with the behavior of others, talked everyone into the ground. Colleagues, family, neighbors, his hairdresser, people on TV, former classmates, passers-by, exes and their families, people from 40 years ago. Complaining for hours every day. I couldn't take it anymore. I feel so liberated since the breakup.
Ignore them, tell them no or tell them the truth about themselves.
Oooommmggg. Sooo freakin true!
I think that "grey rock" stuff also works. They have no logical counter-attack if you are still being polite and sweet but totally remove the supply (no compliments, no excitement or special treatment when you see them.)
If you have an opinion, and they don’t like it…they’ll shut the conversation down…just like that. You NEVER get to finish what you want to say.
You never come to a solution. And that is very frustrating. I can relate - sadly. Because those people are not interested in you or a solution (they simple don´t care). There is a quote which is the truth: It is their way and nobody elses.
True…there’s never a solution.
Sometimes they give you the silent treatment for NO REASON AT ALL🤦🏽♀️ just to mess with your mind 😱🫠 it really is sooo childish!
Quickest way to upset a narcissist is telling the truth, having backing and evidence when you catch them in a lie, lol
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This was going to be my response then, I saw it 🤭
If you do that be very careful (narcissistic rage can take place!). Stay safe everyone!
Hey how u got this girl emoji
😂yes
I thought the narc would be happy that i figured them out... that they could improve and heal. Instead, they hated me for it.
No they are not because they know they lose great supply now. And: They sadly won´t change their behaviour ... (They blame shift!).
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Yes🤣🤣
Before I watch the video I’m gonna say it’s saying, “No”. That’s what the narcissist I met used to say. The one thing he hated was being told no.
😂😂😂😂he admitted that?! What a loser.
WHen you accuse them, they go into a rage, why because they know for a fact they doing it. But how the hell you know im doing it😂💯 or say not factual scream and say lies lies lies ect..
I told my ex that he was existing some narcissistic traits. He lost his lil mind!!! Made up lies that I was calling him every name in the book.. Innocent of that but I did say he has traits
Once I discovered what was going on I kicked him out and eventually exposed him and he began hiding from me. Actually running away from me. It was kind of hilarious . But he tried to make it look like I was crazy. I eventually liked protection order and that really freaked him out. His employer finally realized he was dangerous. Funny he eventually now has disappeared and quit his job. It really freaked him out to expose him. He was so nice to everyone else but they had to see the truth once I filed the protection order
Listening to this made me so glad not dealing with this person anymore. ❤
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I told him you are lying and I can’t deal with an adult telling lies in-front of me. And he melted just like ice cream 😂. He was out of his mind and closed car door like if the car did something bad to him.😂
Thank you God bless you for your honesty and helping out those who need this ❤❤
Also if you disagree with them that will really set them off
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If you don´t agree with them - it can become very dangerous for you. They go in tantrums like a small child. (You know they are like rumpelstiltskin ...). I don´t know how often I did that but yeah it is just crazyness...
When they got caught with something negative and they think that somebody set them up that costs a narcissistic break I mean a rage angry
Quickest way is to say NO!
Guilty as charged, I did mirror him as well. He shouldn't have treated me badly. Thank you Lee. 🙏😎
Well, I put my fingers in my ears when someone is constantly yelling at me and then I'll walk away. Sometimes a person may go silent to digest whatever criticism they received and reflect on it. Sooo true about the part when you accuse them of something they've actually done and they get angry with you.
I began treating him the same way he treated me! You’re right! He told me I changed! I gave 99% of my life and resources to help him. He gave me nothing but phone calls. I got sick of it. So I stopped. He began devaluing and then ghosted me for days and weeks. Then I got a I Love you meme from him! By accident! It was sent to a few Instagram T & A women. Well that answered everything. Then understood his history and all those women he gaslit and told me they were crazy or mean. Sadly he was verbally abused as a kid. I know why he is what he is. But who can live with the games of a narc?
Quickest way to upset a narcissist is to go through with no contact because now they are losing control over you and now do not know your every move. No contact also helps you to heal. Another quick way is to…..🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 LEAVE!
Holding them accountable for their actions. Giving him the silent treatment. LMAO mine was being rude with how he was talking to me so I started cursing at him and he told me he'd hang up on me if I continued. Guess what?! He ended up hanging up cuz I continued!😂😂 Then I said DONT DISH IT IF YOU CANT TAKE IT. He said I can take it but..I Said Jason no you cant, YOU HUNG UP like a CRYBABY?! A CRYBABY?! REALLY NAT?! I said YES! IM OVER HOW YOU TALK TO ME!!!So if you don't like it don't fucking do it to me.
100%. True. Thanks for sharing.
Saying no to the request, without defending yourself like they own you.
Or telling and showing them that they’re irrelevant. Ooooh they get mad!
If you treat them how they treat you they call it revenge and you're the bad person.
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@@MentalHealness so narcs know exactly what they are doing as they perceive their own behaviour (which is being reflected back at them) as bad 🙄 pure mind f**kery!
Quickest way is to hold them accountable, tell them “no”.
It's been my experience that just saying no is enough.
I told him, that I wasn't disappointed in his actions anymore, since I was getting to know him better. I didn't expect it, but he actually admitted it hurt and apologised. While gaslighting and devaluing at the same time....
Responding to them in the same way.
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@MentalHealness they can dish it but don't want to eat it; they know it's poison, that's why!
Okay, now I understand why my narcissistic player does not want to deal with me because I am a pain in his egotestical ego, catching him in his lies and fables. Thank you Lee. 🙏😎
Thank you Lee
I appreciate you so much on your 😊😊channel
I’m glad constructive criticism was mentioned. I wonder if that was part of the reason my ex-husband didn’t stay at his jobs long term. I don’t know the real reasons why his jobs ended because he’s a pathological liar. He either was fired for some reason or quit. 😂😂😂😂
I noticed they blame everyone else! They are cutting a board and you talk to them and they screw up, it’s your fault! They are hyper sensitive. Mine was OCD. OBCESSED with perfection and every detail for the fear of any sort of failure!
A simple question can get you choked if they aren't in a good mood. They are running from what is inside. If you expose it sometimes they will do anything to silence you.
Mine rage screamed at me for saying something didnt make sense, i yelled back briefly. She blew up worse, the day went to crap and then i didnt hear from her in days then she played it off I wasn't listening, or doing as i should as her primary care giver as she put it. After many belittling msgs ignored for days then it was she didnt want to be together so fast just after acting so cruel and needy. Fully blamed and viewed me in a horrible way after all ive been through and all she just said and promised. Horrible feeling tbh
Flame on!! Narcissistic rage on!!
The way I broke my narcissist was 1) picking his twin brother over him and 2) I stopped caring about the first one...then the other one. The master manipulators...the gangsta gaslighters heads were spinning when I was done, the poor things...LOL. I'm one of those who are impervious to the "game" and can outwit outlast and outplay them in my sleep. Lets all be mature, she said sarcastically.
Straight spitting facts on an easy offset! Man much respect! Factual accusations send them to arrogant and violent threats in less than min!
The last time I saw my ex, I was getting a few of my things because I had already moved out. I was telling him the things he did, he started raging, but I pressed on. Then he ran out the house in the late night. I don’t know where he went. I just got my shit and left
send him/her one of your videos!!! thats what worked for me!
@mantalHealness, Us beautiful pipo r ok here. Just telling them truth,unvailing their lies,catching them with lies,making yo opinion or suggestion and acting on it. Just over an opinion last month i got a discard.So true.
Isloated abused arguing. Definitely insane
Mine said 7 too...My wifi is acting up. It's the Eclipse, lol
Hi Lee the quickest way to upset a narcissist narcissist injury.
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I prayed for the silent treatment, he loved the sound of his voice too much for that🤣😂same self congratulations was out of bounds🤣😂
"Go directly to narcissistic jail. Do not pass GO and do not collect $200." 😂 This is how narcs react to most things if it isn't feeding their ego or appeasing them. It's exhausting.
Taking your power back
Lol😂man you so damn right. I do it like ALL the time.
Say no.
great info - thank you!
Glad it was helpful!
I deeply want to know how do they become narcissistic? If you don't mind sharing, how did you end up being diagnosed? My mom is one & that's majority of the people I've attracted & I don't like it. I've started protecting myself better now so they repel. A lot of them dodge me now because they know I've figured them out & knows i will expose them. I've spent a whole year in therapy to heal from abuse. I love & value myself better & I'm happy about that.
Thank you Lee for covering this 😇😇😇-Xclusyph Icon
Yep had n got it all .. silence, gaslight, then threatened 2 have me beat up!! 😂😂😂like a child ..
Meanwhile alllll the years i put up with this shit my rose color glasses fell off just recently too !! Felt like i was in grade school....
Just can't help it!!
Wow, this explains a lot🧐
When you match their energy they get too cookuu! Don't do that!
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When you do that they call you crazy...
Be careful giving them a taste of their own medicine! They could set you up that way too!
Tell me more
Mine actually did put his fingers in his ears and talk so he couldn't hear what I was saying about his bad behavior.
Ooops, I kept telling my narcissistic player the truth about their ways at times. I guess I pissed off titans. LOL. Thank you Lee.🙏😎
Ignoring them makes them wanna come find you, stalk you blah blah blah lol. Dont say you got a new piece they really about to loose it.
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One word: "no."
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Call them out on their behaviour. (That is the quickest way).
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to ignore them
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It’s so easy to set them off… but so difficult to make happy……
That is it. The sad reality we have to realize
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Being autistic I have a hard time not being bluntly honest about things and I constantly trigger narcissistic people non stop!
Spending half your life doing behaviour interventions for not quite old enough for a cluster b diagnosis youth and YA then knowing what his tricks were to some extent and just calling them out. The rage was terrifying. Do not recommend if you can’t get away. But I think I am dealing with aspd/bpd. Maybe even psychopathy, I have never experienced or seen what’s happening outside of case study or true crime crap 😢
I call my ex narc of 14yrs "Trap King" 😅. After every breakup to get myself help he had a baby on the way within 6weeks now 3 different women.. Im done he is sick, nasty, and demonic. What he did to himself just to hurt me... we have a 12yr old I faithfully took my birth control 😅
When they play the victim, tell them they're putting on an act, they go crazy.
Why does Lee refer to narcissists as 'they'? Does he consider himself no longer one because he's in treatment?
So true!!!
I would've said that we turn into the Hulk or one of the Hulks lol. Narcissistic rage is crazy. And I always feel like an asshole after I calm down. I hate that I can't take criticism. Mostly because I know I'm not good at a lot of things.
He was messing with his ex n me, at the same time. We confronted him. Lol he didnt like it...... blocked us both 😂
A challenge to their grandiosity which depends on the person. Could be the truth, for some it's a "so what?", Give them advice, for some it attention not an insult, and try to empower them when they are drawing from vulnerable narcissists fav: superior victimhood, but for some it's not a big deal. Depends but what you are describing is the thought process behind a source of grandiosity being challenged.
The truth shall set you free. The Gospel gives the truth that sets you free and being honest with yourself also adds. However, the truth being told to another person maybe casting pearls before swine: a pig isn't interested nor sees value in it.
Omg yesssss the TRUTH
I’m heavy on the truth and my ex always seemed to resent me for it. Now I know why. She use to say I was making her a villain even she was full well acting like one. How about stop acting like that?!
Hey I'm a master at this one! 😂
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Would ignoring and blocking them set them off?
yes for some
Spill the tea
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You ignoring them how they ignore you sets them off too! Haha I thought you didn’t want to be bothered.
Truth!!!!
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Is it being in their presence and breathing?
Lol 😂 so freakin true!
I just noticed that TH-cam unsubscribed me from your channel. That's probably why there are so few viewers.
Good night
Goodnight
It got right finally. Lol
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Hi, Lee I love your channel. Narsist are using there animal brain. Whe as humans can chose to use are human or animal brain. Animals are self oriënterend
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@@MentalHealness look in the bible what Jesus sad to the bad people.
Mine pretty much anything
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Sem legenda, sempre acompanho em português
Who cares . Really its ok. They need to deal with life . And accept the truth. And not lies. Mask up behaviors 😮expose them my ex husband hated that all the time. They want people to believe they are good people. Notso the truth. I left theat baggage behind 9yrs ago .😊😊😊😊😊😊❤ happy as can be