I am standing for my marriage. My husband walked out on me last year while I was pregnant and I have been praying for reconciliation and restoration of my marriage since then. Father, heal us according to Your Holy will. Amen
Please pray for my Dad-Alfredo to love his family again. Everything mom says is not good. He is just on defense mode...we believe his relatives on his side of the family and relative on moms side of the marriage are working together to divide my parents marriage.
I returned to the Catholic Church earlier this year. I was divorced and remarried. I have repented, but at the same time, if it weren't for my second husband...who passed away 9 years ago...I would not have found my way back to God. I am currently doing the Bible in a Year with Father Mike Schmitz, and I attend mass daily. I have given my life and heart to God. I now understand that the Catholic church teaches what you need to hear. Not what you want to hear. I love that this priest isn't afraid to tell us this.
I am a convert, and actually converted in my second marriage outside the Catholic faith, but my husband divorced me because I became Catholic- he was a hard core Democrat, and not a practicing Christian of any sort. There were many abuses as well, but remained dedicated. But, it really was nothing more than a verbal agreement that no longer existed. What a shocking thing to realize we live our lives in a false sense of marriage for most people of the world. 🌎 Ive been divorced for 5 years, and have given my life to Christ. Live my life in prayer and atonement for my sins. So sad. When all you wanted was what God really wants for us. Praise to You Lord, despite our pain on earth.
We, as Catholics, need to hear about marriage in the church. My children have had multiple marriages, which I can't accept. They are all Catholic. I can only Pray for God's intercession to bring them back to the Sacraments. It's very hurtful, and all I can do is pray. Thank You Fr Chris.
Beautiful homily dear Father Chris! I'm fighting to get my marriage back. Unfortunately I had to sign the divorce papers, but I don't care about them because I know my sacrament is for life. I live in chastity, wear my wedding ring, honoring God and my wife with an intense life of prayer and sacraments. I know that if I'm faithful to God and persevere I'll see the glory of God and I pray every day for that. I have a petition for you 😇... Can you offer a monthly or weekly Holy Mass asking for the infinite mercy of Our Lord to restore both hearts of every single marriage in the world who's separated or divorced? I'll be forever grateful. God bless you! You are always in my prayers!
🙏🙏🙏 for you and all marriages facing difficulties, that the parties call upon the Holy Spirit to reunite them 🙌🏻🕊️🙏❤️ all marriages need God as the 3rd person in their marriage - His love and the couple’s love for Him ; is the glue that holds them together🙌🏻
@@danielleprovenzale6805 Amen! God bless you Danielle! We are fighting to see the glory of God. I agree. He must be the center of every person and marriage life!
Such a good but tough topic. I am recently divorced. Lord knows I gave it my all. She just could never be faithful. After so many affairs I had to make the toughest decision of my life. One thing I have learned is just because you get a divorce doesn't mean the problems end. You just have new ones now. You still have to co-parent and deal with each other. Make sure you marry the right person and pray hard about it.
@@shortferal yes I am fully aware of that. If I am still married in the eyes of God then I intend to be single and celibate. Keep me in your prayers if that is the case.
@@shortferal she was definitely chronically unfaithful to me before and during our marriage. I kept thinking people can change but sometimes they don't. I stayed in the marriage for 8 yrs like this. It was hard. Now that I am divorced I see how manipulative she was.
Can I have their first names only. i will pray for them. Please also pray for my mom and dad---alfredo and sanjuana...our families wants to have them divorce. Lord Jesus have mercy on us.
I was a battered, stay at home wife for 33 years. My husband told me that if I ever told anyone about the abuse, he would kill our 11 living children. I finally made a 911 call on November 22, 2018, after he went after our youngest child. He was arrested, and on December 17, 2018, he filed for divorce. I did not want the divorce. I only wanted for my husband to receive help. I have not remarried. Thank you for this explanation.
This is something that should be taught to young adults, My Parents taught us this through example at a very early age I am 47 years old, born and raised Catholic.
Thank you Father Chris Allar for offering prayers for the divorced and their children, some of us are victims and we carry the stigma , labels etc. Only God is the judge.
Thank you Father for being a faithful priest. I pray for you all daily. Reading the comments, I’m heartbroken for those in difficult circumstances regarding their marriages. May Our Lord be with them and help them through, leading them all to Heaven our true home. I am single and discerning my vocation. Please pray for me. 😊
Please pray for true repentance for all those living in adulterous and unholy unions; especially those who scandalize their children and community. San Antonio TX
I thought my my wife was unfaithful, and I was CRUSHED, we went to a man for marriage counseling, he was a weak white 60 year old bhudist...He had NO CONCEPT of the SACREMENT of CATHOLIC MARRIAGE. I sought a Deacon in our Parish,and said "I am NOT a marriage counselor, But your wife and you read this book TOGETHER !..We did as told and 8 Forgave her...That was 6 years ago.The title of the book is called "FORGIVENESS "Thank GOD for that Book,Thank GOD for Deacon Jack!
@@DivineMercy_Official Hey Father Chris Alars since you yourself is a Theologian can you check if the messages that I am sending to the world is truly consistent with the Catechism of the Catholic Church? Because I've been having Mystical Experiences with God the Abba Father Yahweh Adonai, my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ ✝️, God the Holy Spirit 🕊️. The Holy Trinity One God and the Blessed Virgin Mary, this started Father in the year 2020 when I saw a Vision of the Lord. The Lord Jesus Christ ✝️ was so BRIGHT even brighter than the Sun and the Image of the Lord is comparable to the Divine Mercy Image. I'm a cradle Catholic Father from the Philippines 🇵🇭 and I have NEVER abandoned God.
Thank you Fr Chris for THE most enlightening of homilies. Both my kids divorced due to spouses infidelity substance abuse and subsequent toxic environment for kids.
i remember me and my mom would tell my brother to get married by the church because he was so far away from the sacraments. one of his kids weren't baptized, the other hadn't done her first communion (she is confirmation age) and were like ok we'll just stop telling him, but we prayed immensely for him. i prayed to God to get him closer to the sacraments and guess what. this year all on the same month my brother asked me to baptize his child (on the same day i was to baptize my son and my other Godson) and my niece did her first communion oh and my brother got divorced (He wasn't married by the church) he had it hard but he takes his kids every sunday to Church and they love it. i pray he finds a Good wife. and also pray for my mother as she is battling satge 4 breast cancer. thank you all and bless you all
Thank you very much, father Chris, to address this oh so much needed topic in our midern world, where we tend to put our own needs before the teachings of our Lord and Savior. I wish our priests had the courage to address this in their homilies. My husband left twenty two years ago after adultery and drinking. I am still praying for him to repent and come home though he has remarried. Listening from Belgium and sending blessings your way.
Thank you father Chris ❤️🙏Such healing words. Prayers for all families who have survived Death from Divorce. How a piece of paper can bring out the devil’ and the darkness and harm of using our children as weapons . Prayers for all families and healing to the path of forgiveness ❤️🙏
I had to divorce because of spousal abuse, physically, verbally and emotionally. Was terrified for my well being. I also had an annulment and am remarried to a Catholic man in the Catholic Church. I believe I had every right to divorce because abuse should not be tolerated in a marriage.
God would never want you to stay in such a marriage of abuse. He is merciful and loving. You did the correct behavior of leaving your spouse - obtaining an annulment and chose to remarry in the church. God bless you.
Was getting an annulment very difficult? I always thought that even though abuse by one party is abhorrent, the innocent party has to prove that the abuser’s behaviour did not just develop after the marriage, but had been there even beforehand, thus making the marriage invalid in the first place, since the guilty one had never had the attitude necessary for making a true commitment to the marriage. The guilty one may well have hidden their true abusive tendencies beforehand, so the innocent one went into the marriage with confidence, not realising this. I believe it’s called “error of character “, and makes the marriage invalid from the beginning, thus justifying an annulment.
A most difficult teaching indeed. Many valid reasons to get away from a spouse. Many woman would still be alive today if they had and children who would still have their mother.
Father Chris I pray for you when i say my Rosary our my Devine Mercy Chaplet. I have come so much closer to God because of all your talks. I have learned so much about my faith and how to live as a child of God. Your devotion to bringing souls to God, and ultimately heaven is so sincere. I am so blessed to have found you and the Marians. God bless you and all the Marian Fathers .
I have been married but never through the church . I’m 64 and it has been my regret that I didn’t place a priority on a man not being married by church but then the marriage only lasted 5 years. Now my concern is following Jesus Christ , going to church and working on my spiritual life
I was married to a violent man and did all the steps in the priest in this video to steer him out of it. It didn’t take. He refused anger management courses and didn’t change. Meanwhile, he stopped working and threatened me if I left. He cheated on me, spent my hard earned money as he pleased and took drugs. He also kept hitting me. I said the rosary daily for guidance. It gave me the courage to tell my parish priest. He advised me to leave the marriage to save my life. I decided to divorce to stop him from robbing me blind and to save myself from killed. He passed away from a drug related heart attack. I wouldn’t be alive today if it weren’t for our Blessed Mother. ✝️🙏❤️📿
Good day fr Chris!! The Philippines s the only country wt no divorce but the lawmakers nd some organizations are pushing it...thats why many resort to "live in" nd believe that marriage is just a piece of paper....as long as they are happy togeher...nd when prob arises nd love fades then they just separate...marriage is sacred nd it is not the problem but the couples who get into it.....thank you fr Chris!!🙏🙏🙏🥰
I separated from my husband because he was an alcoholic,verbally abusive and cheated on me. I prayed to God to heal us . I would have stayed if he only tried to stop this behaviour but he didn’t. He has been living with another women for the last few years. He still drinks and has moved on to be physically abusive with her. I suffer from the trauma of my marriage every day. I have no intention of remarrying and am scared to get into another relationship. I am catholic and try to attend church but, I struggle with my place now. I feel like a failure and sometimes I feel like I’m being judged because I am alone. My culture and religion is centred around family. I feel like an outsider . My children have also suffered. They say they are happy we are no longer together, but I see how they suffer Coming from a broken home.
Hi dear, tell your children that you don't have a broken home because the center of your house has Jesus ❤ so never think of getting lost. Say the rosary daily, monthly confession, and attending the mass will strengthen you. If you can participate in a catholic inner healing retreat. May our loving Jesus bless you and your beautiful children 🙇♂️
Keep in mind this: What people say versus what Jesus say. He never said blessed are those with intact and perfect families, what He did say though: “Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted. Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth. Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they will be filled. Blessed are the merciful, for they will receive mercy. Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God." God became flesh for people like you, not for those who live perfect like Pharisees. Jesus came for the broken, the struggling, the humble - not for those who live self-righteously. He became flesh for people like you. You are blessed to need Him. Your children are blessed to need Him. God uses our pain, brokenness and wounds and transform them into something good. He doesn't waste our pain but uses it to shape us, draw us closer to Him, and bring about His greater purpose. In His hands, our struggles become the very tools of His grace! God does not waste our pain. He uses it as a means of sanctification, conforming us more closely to Christ. Through His grace, our struggles become the very tools of His mercy, transforming our brokenness into a path toward holiness and salvation, for our good and the good of His Church. Having an intact family is good, becoming holy and preparing yourself for eternal life is better. Do not give up on Hope, and remind yourself that you are loved. Jesus' experience of being misunderstood, rejected, and distanced from those closest to Him (family, friends, community of origin) is a profound reminder that He fully shared in human suffering, including the loneliness of being an outsider. He knows what you are going through.
@@m.935how beautiful and true are these comforting words. God bless you. I hope you don’t mind if I copy and save to share this with others hurting in a similar way.
Powerful teaching and clarification to many who have remarried and unsure of their situation re the Jesus ‘ teaching. Thank you Fr Alar When spouses recommit the broken marriage can work for the better. … but there can’t be abuse of ANY form.
My husband is Baptist. He told me several times after we were married that he wished he never agreed to have our children baptized and raised in the Catholic Church. To this day he stands by what he said to me. We've been married 51years. He says that he was a failure as a father figure. I will go to my grave with this.
@@dorothybahmuller44 It is very SAD indeed, Dorothy; life throws curve balls all the time, but take comfort in the fact that regardless of where bodies are buried, our souls are united with and in Jesus Christ.
May God keep blessing you infinitely dearest Father Chris. Very comforting. Divorced women are very judged by the so call "Traditional Catholic people " they don't accept Annulment. Now it's clear as crystal for me. Thank you again. God speaks through you to His Children.❤
Not all "traditional" Catholics hold such conviction. Please do not generalize them. One or two or 10 individuals do not make up all traditional Catholics. Those who are properly catechized and who bothered to study the Catholic Church's teaching certainly has a better understanding.
Thanks much Father. The fear of the Lord. May our good lord continue to bless and inspire you as you strive to emulate and teach the true gospel of Jesus
Wow!😢 Thank you, Fr. Chris. May God bless you for your tremendous courage. God bless and shield all His priests and Religious.🙏🌹 What a tough vocation! We are presently going through the "for worse" phase; we are both stuck in a Purgatory of a marriage 😭; my cross and crown, his cross and crown. As my beloved Pope Francis once said, "Marriage is a great path to sanctity..."😇 Opportunities abound to practice heroic patience, forgiveness, forbearance, Godly love, etc, on both sides. And as Saint James said of discipleship, "We are afflicted on every side but not crushed; perplexed but not driven to despair..." something like that. May God grant us all divine love and saintly endurance. 🌹Mother Mary, we "have no more wine." Please pray for us too.😇💕✝️🛐💒 Fr. Chris, thank you. Shared. 🙏
Thank you padre Chris ,God bless you and more wisdom padre,I have been married for 14years now and we were doing just fine but when we relocated to my husband home where his parents and siblings lived ,I saw hell in the family house ,I was working my ass to pleased everyone with the little thing I was receiving from a Catholic school,all I had in returned was I am showing that I know how to work ,to cut the long story short my marriage has been a toxic one ,but I prayed to God to give me strength each day and the thought of leaving my boys behind held me back.i develop high blood pressure that has caused me miscarriages in my life.we are still together but it is not easy ,I thank God I keep trusting in Him
I don’t agree….. sometimes it is better for a couple to divorce and it is even better for the sake of the children. Why always talk about being sinners!
@nebaglorybi4719….I have 2 siblings whose marriages were on the rocks. I myself thought that it could not survive. Even with that in mind, I offered some help to ease some tentions and it worked! They are both close to celebrating 50th wedding anniversary! Thank God for His mercy and kindness. Hang in there, honor your marriage, a covenant you have with God. Focus on your husband and kids, love them with the heart of God for each of them..and if be possible even your in laws. ..to love them as God would love to love them. Of course, we cannot duplicate that perfection of a love He has for us. However, Whether they respond to it or not, which I will pray they do, it will afford you that inner peace that only God can bring to you. He will make you feel loved by Him and that will sustain you to keep going. Learn from what Fr. Chris said here. Draw strength from it and not seek the ‘easier way out.’ Btw, my husband abandoned us but I have kept my marriage vows and has remained chaste. Oh, how the Lord has restored me and healed me so beautifully. The Lord is truly faithful to those who are faithful to Him even if it was a struggle. Keeping you in my prayers. God loves you. Mama Mary assist you as a wife, a mother and an in law. You are loved.
Praise Be Jesus Thank u Abba Father for The Gift of this Holy Servant of God. Thank u .Yr presentation at EWTN Conference Toronto Family has touched many Catholics..Thank u .. Met u personally and u were able to interact with many of Us. Welcome Back to Toronto. May God continue to Bless u a u lead God's Flock to Heaven ..Word of God Powerful Indeed. Our Lady of Holy Rosary Pray for Us JESUS WE TRUST IN YOU! ST Sister Faustina Pray for us Amen
Thank you Fr Chris for your homily on this difficult topic for many to hear. 🙏🏻🕊✝️🕊🙏🏻 Thank you to the Marian (MIC) Fathers, Brothers, Seminarians, Helpers and Staff for providing opportunities to grow in Faith 🙏🏻🕊✝️🕊🙏🏻
Great homily, Father Chris! I appreciate you speaking on this challenging, but necessary subject! I could have used this information 11 years ago, though! Ha! All is well....God is so good, so graciousl, so loving even when we humans tend to mess things up.
To those who are divorced in pain broken feeling shattered. Remember divorce is not the unforgivable sin . God loves you ,never leave the church seek a priest .your loved .
At Mass on Sunday Bishop Felipe from Chile said Mass and gave a wonderful Homily about divorce. I am divorced and talked to him after Mass anx asked him for a blessing which he gave me. I'm not dating anyone anymore and still haven't filed an annulment after 14 years. Please pray for me to follow God's Will.
I'm surprised and disappointed that Cannon law doesn't allow for divorce when a pattern of constant, unrelenting and frequent mental and emotional abuse has been established. I have just ended my 38 year marriage to an extremely abusive man, and the only thing I regret is the fact that I even married him. After 24 years of marriage counseling and 9 different counselors I had to call it quits. To be honest, I'm pretty convinced that ours was NEVER a sacramental marriage, even though we did marry in church and completed precana. 😢 18:36
I believe you have grounds for a annulment. Mental/verbal abuse by him you trying to save marriage and him not willing to change should be valid enough seek and talk to your bishop.
My reason for supporting divorce is basically. Why perpetuate misery for life ? .Life is short . Why nurse an honest mistake committed by both sides, for life. The 5th commandment says: Thou shall not kill. But there is an exception to that. Self defense! Why can't there be no exception to What God has joined together, let no man pit asunder. It's not even part of the Ten Commandments.
Once men have demonstrated so much knowledge about God, the Holy Spirit, Angels, Demons, etc. and have written so many books, less than 2 weeks remain to give them the privilege of knowing the divine supernatural world live and direct.😊
I was only married civil in Vegas . We had problems we divorced. I get confused if I need an annulment since we were never married in the church. He has since remarried.
NO you positively do NOT and should consider yourself BLESSED that it was but a civil marriage move on and choose wisely next time 😇 FWIW: I've had two civil marriages that both ended in divorce with no Convalidations EVER. a canon lawyer assured me I was never married either time in the eyes of the Church PAX 🕊️
Father went further than most in this Homily and surfaced the Canon Law, whereby the Church in Her Goodness understands that people may be living within an invalid non-sacramental marriage, that is causing grave harm to one or both.The Church in Her Goodness works to evaluate the claimed invalid sacramental marriage and determines the truth through a process of investigation after which a determination is made. Unfortunately the annulment process can take quite a period of time and during the time of waiting which can be years for some, patience with the church runs out, and people as a result of circumstance move on with the hope that eventually they can reconcile with the Church, not losing Hope but ever persevering for that future joyous day.
My daughter is divorced. She was married in the Catholic church. She tried her best to make the marriage work. She has 2 children by him. He was not supporting her in anything! He mentally abused her. He brought out the worst in her. Now she is with a wonderful man who truly loves her. I saw a daughter who was so miserable to a daughter who is truly happy. She didn't get the annulment. I'm praying she will. I feel she deffently did the right thing . Now she had 4 beautiful kids, a career and a loving supporting husband. I am very proud of her. God will guide her back to her faith ❤❤🎉
@@danielleprovenzale6805 its hard to get an annulment in the church... Maybe the state can grant an annulment but if the church did not grant it, it still an adultery...
I am not Catholic (but will be someday). I knocked on the Catholic church door, hoping to be let in. I have to go through a few annulments so I can continue this journey. Meanwhile, I just pray and follow God through it all. I was once the child who hid when things got out of control at home because of domestic violence. I lived in fear every day. I never knew many good days. Absent was security and love. My mother was raised Catholic but left the church as a teenager. She remained silent on that part of her life. My parents ended up divorcing after my mom left one day and never came back home. She left us, and we had no way to defend ourselves in that battle. I had just turned 16, so I also walked out the door and never went back. I was on my own at 16 years old, and I met a man that I married 4 months later. My mom had to sign the papers since I was underage. She did not hesitate. I made a lot of bad choices early on in my life. I found myself in the same situations that I thought I left when I made that choice to leave home at the age of 16. My soul already had damage done to it. I thank God that I am here today to even write this. I am prepared either way for whatever is decided on my annulments. I trust God no matter what, and I know He brought me to that door.
I have a very difficult marriage all these years but we decided not to separate due to our catholic laws I don't believe in divorce good day father chris n to all the marians thank you for sharing this topic in this appropiate time n age 😢😢😢😢😅😅😅😅
I was married outside the church and husband had several affairs and got involved with drugs. I file for divorce after 8 years for waiting for him to change. He didn't. It got worse. I had no choice. Our marriage lasted 27 yrs. I could not divorce on abandoned but on the illegal drug use. So if not married in a church. Do I still need annulment and will annulment end my spousal support that I need. This is very complex.
Anullment is through the church and not the court system. Therefore, it's a spiritual matter and not a legal one. You're child support should not be affected. In fact, Catholic priest advise necessary legal divorce BEFORE the Churches' proclamation of annulment precisely in order to provide for the children in the form of child support.
Divorced 20 years; never remarried,never gotan annulment. Very difficult life as my WasBand abandoned me and my 3 y.o in diapers for another woman. Needless to say, he is on divorce #2, at 60. Divine justice ❤
Same. Husband left me and our youngest when he was six. Our older son was 20. I never got an annulment, and have been alone for 23 years. It gets harder, not easier, every year. I was not the guilty one but I'm punished.
I am standing for my marriage. My husband walked out on me last year while I was pregnant and I have been praying for reconciliation and restoration of my marriage since then. Father, heal us according to Your Holy will. Amen
May God help you with your marriage and may the Mother of God stand by your Side.
Amen @@Ukrainsky51
Just read your reply..IWill keep u and him in my prayers 🙏 ❤️
@@Ukrainsky51 thank you for your prayers
@@maryglatz5518 thank you for your prayers
God saved our marriage yesterday. After 30 years of strife and pain, God healed us. Praise be to Jesus!!
Please pray for my Dad-Alfredo to love his family again. Everything mom says is not good. He is just on defense mode...we believe his relatives on his side of the family and relative on moms side of the marriage are working together to divide my parents marriage.
I returned to the Catholic Church earlier this year. I was divorced and remarried. I have repented, but at the same time, if it weren't for my second husband...who passed away 9 years ago...I would not have found my way back to God. I am currently doing the Bible in a Year with Father Mike Schmitz, and I attend mass daily. I have given my life and heart to God. I now understand that the Catholic church teaches what you need to hear. Not what you want to hear. I love that this priest isn't afraid to tell us this.
Annulment is needed I my wife's case 10yrs married. I've only been married to her Pray for her to get the annulment paperwork done
I am a convert, and actually converted in my second marriage outside the Catholic faith, but my husband divorced me because I became Catholic- he was a hard core Democrat, and not a practicing Christian of any sort. There were many abuses as well, but remained dedicated. But, it really was nothing more than a verbal agreement that no longer existed. What a shocking thing to realize we live our lives in a false sense of marriage for most people of the world. 🌎 Ive been divorced for 5 years, and have given my life to Christ. Live my life in prayer and atonement for my sins. So sad. When all you wanted was what God really wants for us. Praise to You Lord, despite our pain on earth.
God bless you! God is with you, especially now that you are home with Him, Jesus Christ. You also have a blessed marriage - congratulations! 🙏🙏🙏
God bless you and keep you. Truly honorable and heroic. You are not alone.
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You are blessed, my dear. Keep the faith, all things are possible in Jesus Christ.
We, as Catholics, need to hear about marriage in the church. My children have had multiple marriages, which I can't accept. They are all Catholic. I can only Pray for God's intercession to bring them back to the Sacraments. It's very hurtful, and all I can do is pray. Thank You Fr Chris.
Beautiful homily dear Father Chris! I'm fighting to get my marriage back. Unfortunately I had to sign the divorce papers, but I don't care about them because I know my sacrament is for life. I live in chastity, wear my wedding ring, honoring God and my wife with an intense life of prayer and sacraments. I know that if I'm faithful to God and persevere I'll see the glory of God and I pray every day for that. I have a petition for you 😇... Can you offer a monthly or weekly Holy Mass asking for the infinite mercy of Our Lord to restore both hearts of every single marriage in the world who's separated or divorced? I'll be forever grateful. God bless you! You are always in my prayers!
Praying for all of us who are going through these types of situations
🙏🙏🙏 for you and all marriages facing difficulties, that the parties call upon the Holy Spirit to reunite them 🙌🏻🕊️🙏❤️ all marriages need God as the 3rd person in their marriage - His love and the couple’s love for Him ; is the glue that holds them together🙌🏻
@@robertotapia8086 God bless you bro! You are in my prayers!
@@danielleprovenzale6805 Amen! God bless you Danielle! We are fighting to see the glory of God. I agree. He must be the center of every person and marriage life!
@@juancarlosjarquin6281 Amen🙌🏻
Such a good but tough topic. I am recently divorced. Lord knows I gave it my all. She just could never be faithful. After so many affairs I had to make the toughest decision of my life. One thing I have learned is just because you get a divorce doesn't mean the problems end. You just have new ones now. You still have to co-parent and deal with each other. Make sure you marry the right person and pray hard about it.
May Our Lord help you during these hard times! Stay strong, faith over fear! God bless you!
@@God_my_Savior thank you for your kind words.
@@shortferal yes I am fully aware of that. If I am still married in the eyes of God then I intend to be single and celibate. Keep me in your prayers if that is the case.
I will pray for you @@alfreds.2335
@@shortferal she was definitely chronically unfaithful to me before and during our marriage. I kept thinking people can change but sometimes they don't. I stayed in the marriage for 8 yrs like this. It was hard. Now that I am divorced I see how manipulative she was.
Please pray for my son and his wife to reconcile and save their marriage. In Jesus Holy Name I ask for my request. Amen.
Can I have their first names only. i will pray for them. Please also pray for my mom and dad---alfredo and sanjuana...our families wants to have them divorce. Lord Jesus have mercy on us.
I was a battered, stay at home wife for 33 years. My husband told me that if I ever told anyone about the abuse, he would kill our 11 living children.
I finally made a 911 call on November 22, 2018, after he went after our youngest child. He was arrested, and on December 17, 2018, he filed for divorce.
I did not want the divorce.
I only wanted for my husband to receive help.
I have not remarried.
Thank you for this explanation.
This is something that should be taught to young adults, My Parents taught us this through example at a very early age I am 47 years old, born and raised Catholic.
Thank you Father Chris Allar for offering prayers for the divorced and their children, some of us are victims and we carry the stigma , labels etc. Only God is the judge.
Thank you Father for being a faithful priest. I pray for you all daily. Reading the comments, I’m heartbroken for those in difficult circumstances regarding their marriages. May Our Lord be with them and help them through, leading them all to Heaven our true home. I am single and discerning my vocation. Please pray for me. 😊
Please pray for true repentance for all those living in adulterous and unholy unions; especially those who scandalize their children and community. San Antonio TX
You go Fr Chris. Keep putting the teaching of the church out there!
I thought my my wife was unfaithful, and I was CRUSHED, we went to a man for marriage counseling, he was a weak white 60 year old bhudist...He had NO CONCEPT of the SACREMENT of CATHOLIC MARRIAGE. I sought a Deacon in our Parish,and said "I am NOT a marriage counselor, But your wife and you read this book TOGETHER !..We did as told and 8 Forgave her...That was 6 years ago.The title of the book is called "FORGIVENESS "Thank GOD for that Book,Thank GOD for Deacon Jack!
Who is the author ! My daughter in law is giving the divorce to my son since she does not find him good enough in bed ! How can this be resolved!
Bishop Barron had a wonderful homily today also on this and I would have really recommend that people listen to it as well. It was only 14 minutes.
Our church in the Philippines should explain it in this way.
Thank you Father Chris for being faithful to teaching us what the Church teaches. God bless you.
Thank you for joining us and God bless you
@@DivineMercy_Official Hey Father Chris Alars since you yourself is a Theologian can you check if the messages that I am sending to the world is truly consistent with the Catechism of the Catholic Church? Because I've been having Mystical Experiences with God the Abba Father Yahweh Adonai, my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ ✝️, God the Holy Spirit 🕊️. The Holy Trinity One God and the Blessed Virgin Mary, this started Father in the year 2020 when I saw a Vision of the Lord. The Lord Jesus Christ ✝️ was so BRIGHT even brighter than the Sun and the Image of the Lord is comparable to the Divine Mercy Image. I'm a cradle Catholic Father from the Philippines 🇵🇭 and I have NEVER abandoned God.
Thank you Fr Chris for THE most enlightening of homilies.
Both my kids divorced due to spouses infidelity substance abuse and subsequent toxic environment for kids.
Prayers for the divorced all those I know who are divorced
Dear sister, Thank you 🙏
🕎Thank you Fr Chris Thank you heavenly Almighty Father for your kindness and love Mother Mary pray for Fr Chris and protection Jesus is enough🤍🌸🕊️
i remember me and my mom would tell my brother to get married by the church because he was so far away from the sacraments. one of his kids weren't baptized, the other hadn't done her first communion (she is confirmation age) and were like ok we'll just stop telling him, but we prayed immensely for him. i prayed to God to get him closer to the sacraments and guess what. this year all on the same month my brother asked me to baptize his child (on the same day i was to baptize my son and my other Godson) and my niece did her first communion oh and my brother got divorced (He wasn't married by the church) he had it hard but he takes his kids every sunday to Church and they love it. i pray he finds a Good wife. and also pray for my mother as she is battling satge 4 breast cancer. thank you all and bless you all
Very powerful teaching.Thank u Father. Chris a man full of wisdom❤
Thanks for watching
THANK YOU FATHER CHRIS FOR THIS TEACHING.WE ALWAYS LEARN FROM YOU. BEAUTIFUL HOMILY.BLESS YOU FATHER.
Thanks for listening
Praying for healing and reconcillation
Thank God I'm still single.
Well, not necessarily.. if it is Gods Will for you to be single for some reason..
Father Chris thank you for this beautiful homily! God bless you and protect you always ✝️🛐❤️
Thank you very much, father Chris, to address this oh so much needed topic in our midern world, where we tend to put our own needs before the teachings of our Lord and Savior.
I wish our priests had the courage to address this in their homilies.
My husband left twenty two years ago after adultery and drinking. I am still praying for him to repent and come home though he has remarried.
Listening from Belgium and sending blessings your way.
Alleluia Alleluia Alleluia!the truth is good and forever God's truth
Fr., I like your introduction. Yes indeed you are answerable to God. People need to know the truth. The truth will set them free.
Beautifully said Father…thank you!✨🙏✨
Thank you father Chris ❤️🙏Such healing words. Prayers for all families who have survived Death from Divorce. How a piece of paper can bring out the devil’ and the darkness and harm of using our children as weapons . Prayers for all families and healing to the path of forgiveness ❤️🙏
Thank you, Fr. Chris, for always explaining difficult topics.
We should obey what God had said.."what God joined together we much not separate..Amen"😢❤❤
spoken as someone who has not had the experience with divorce
Not if you are in an abusive marriage!
@@veraabantao2301 then you separate, but cannot remarry. May live with opposite sex as friends/ companionship only..
@@katherinewaddell2403 True. Those are the rules. It would be a cross, for sure, but we don't get to choose our crosses.
I had to divorce because of spousal abuse, physically, verbally and emotionally. Was terrified for my well being. I also had an annulment and am remarried to a Catholic man in the Catholic Church. I believe I had every right to divorce because abuse should not be tolerated in a marriage.
God would never want you to stay in such a marriage of abuse. He is merciful and loving. You did the correct behavior of leaving your spouse - obtaining an annulment and chose to remarry in the church. God bless you.
Of course abuse can not be tolerated. It is the beginning of death.
Was getting an annulment very difficult? I always thought that even though abuse by one party is abhorrent, the innocent party has to prove that the abuser’s behaviour did not just develop after the marriage, but had been there even beforehand, thus making the marriage invalid in the first place, since the guilty one had never had the attitude necessary for making a true commitment to the marriage. The guilty one may well have hidden their true abusive tendencies beforehand, so the innocent one went into the marriage with confidence, not realising this. I believe it’s called “error of character “, and makes the marriage invalid from the beginning, thus justifying an annulment.
Well said again Father Chris Brilliant talk and the truth. Should be said in all countries. And in Ireland. Big Amen 🙏🏻 ❤
Thank you for joining us and God bless you
Thank you, Fr Chris . We sometimes don't want to hear the truth, but thank you we need constant reminders, even if it hurts.❤🙏
Thanks for listening
@DivineMercy_Official is it possible to give us the link of the homily Fr Chris mentioned in the beginning about Marriage please 🙏🏼
Thank you Father for your explaination. It s difficult but sometimes necessary❤❤❤
A most difficult teaching indeed. Many valid reasons to get away from a spouse. Many woman would still be alive today if they had and children who would still have their mother.
Father Chris I pray for you when i say my Rosary our my Devine Mercy Chaplet. I have come so much closer to God because of all your talks. I have learned so much about my faith and how to live as a child of God. Your devotion to bringing souls to God, and ultimately heaven is so sincere. I am so blessed to have found you and the Marians. God bless you and all the Marian Fathers .
U2
Beautiful “divine mercy” flowers 🌺 Father Chris.
Thank you Father. I wish I could confine my situation with you to analyze what I went through.
Bless you Father Chris
I have been married but never through the church . I’m 64 and it has been my regret that I didn’t place a priority on a man not being married by church but then the marriage only lasted 5 years. Now my concern is following Jesus Christ , going to church and working on my spiritual life
I was married to a violent man and did all the steps in the priest in this video to steer him out of it. It didn’t take. He refused anger management courses and didn’t change. Meanwhile, he stopped working and threatened me if I left. He cheated on me, spent my hard earned money as he pleased and took drugs. He also kept hitting me. I said the rosary daily for guidance. It gave me the courage to tell my parish priest. He advised me to leave the marriage to save my life. I decided to divorce to stop him from robbing me blind and to save myself from killed. He passed away from a drug related heart attack. I wouldn’t be alive today if it weren’t for our Blessed Mother. ✝️🙏❤️📿
you ought to have left earlier
Keep praying God has always the last word 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🌹
GOD BLESS YOU FR CHRIS! THANK Y🩵U!
U2
Good day fr Chris!! The Philippines s the only country wt no divorce but the lawmakers nd some organizations are pushing it...thats why many resort to "live in" nd believe that marriage is just a piece of paper....as long as they are happy togeher...nd when prob arises nd love fades then they just separate...marriage is sacred nd it is not the problem but the couples who get into it.....thank you fr Chris!!🙏🙏🙏🥰
God bless you Father Chris!
God bless us always .
I separated from my husband because he was an alcoholic,verbally abusive and cheated on me. I prayed to God to heal us . I would have stayed if he only tried to stop this behaviour but he didn’t. He has been living with another women for the last few years. He still drinks and has moved on to be physically abusive with her. I suffer from the trauma of my marriage every day. I have no intention of remarrying and am scared to get into another relationship. I am catholic and try to attend church but, I struggle with my place now. I feel like a failure and sometimes I feel like I’m being judged because I am alone. My culture and religion is centred around family. I feel like an outsider . My children have also suffered. They say they are happy we are no longer together, but I see how they suffer Coming from a broken home.
Hi dear, tell your children that you don't have a broken home because the center of your house has Jesus ❤ so never think of getting lost. Say the rosary daily, monthly confession, and attending the mass will strengthen you. If you can participate in a catholic inner healing retreat. May our loving Jesus bless you and your beautiful children 🙇♂️
Keep in mind this: What people say versus what Jesus say. He never said blessed are those with intact and perfect families, what He did say though:
“Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.
Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth.
Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they will be filled.
Blessed are the merciful, for they will receive mercy.
Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God."
God became flesh for people like you, not for those who live perfect like Pharisees. Jesus came for the broken, the struggling, the humble - not for those who live self-righteously. He became flesh for people like you. You are blessed to need Him. Your children are blessed to need Him. God uses our pain, brokenness and wounds and transform them into something good. He doesn't waste our pain but uses it to shape us, draw us closer to Him, and bring about His greater purpose. In His hands, our struggles become the very tools of His grace!
God does not waste our pain. He uses it as a means of sanctification, conforming us more closely to Christ. Through His grace, our struggles become the very tools of His mercy, transforming our brokenness into a path toward holiness and salvation, for our good and the good of His Church. Having an intact family is good, becoming holy and preparing yourself for eternal life is better. Do not give up on Hope, and remind yourself that you are loved.
Jesus' experience of being misunderstood, rejected, and distanced from those closest to Him (family, friends, community of origin) is a profound reminder that He fully shared in human suffering, including the loneliness of being an outsider. He knows what you are going through.
@@m.935how beautiful and true are these comforting words. God bless you. I hope you don’t mind if I copy and save to share this with others hurting in a similar way.
so insightful and absolutely correct humble opinion
Powerful teaching and clarification to many who have remarried and unsure of their situation re the Jesus ‘ teaching.
Thank you Fr Alar
When spouses recommit the broken marriage can work for the better. … but there can’t be abuse of ANY form.
My husband is Baptist. He told me several times after we were married that he wished he never agreed to have our children baptized and raised in the Catholic Church. To this day he stands by what he said to me. We've been married 51years. He says that he was a failure as a father figure. I will go to my grave with this.
Oh and we won't be buried in the same cemetery. He in the protestant and me in the Catholic cemetery. How sad is that.
@@dorothybahmuller44
It is very SAD indeed, Dorothy; life throws curve balls all the time, but take comfort in the fact that regardless of where bodies are buried, our souls are united with and in Jesus Christ.
May God keep blessing you infinitely dearest Father Chris. Very comforting. Divorced women are very judged by the so call "Traditional Catholic people " they don't accept Annulment. Now it's clear as crystal for me. Thank you again. God speaks through you to His Children.❤
Not all "traditional" Catholics hold such conviction. Please do not generalize them. One or two or 10 individuals do not make up all traditional Catholics. Those who are properly catechized and who bothered to study the Catholic Church's teaching certainly has a better understanding.
Thank you father
Thanks much Father. The fear of the Lord. May our good lord continue to bless and inspire you as you strive to emulate and teach the true gospel of Jesus
Wow!😢
Thank you, Fr. Chris. May God bless you for your tremendous courage. God bless and shield all His priests and Religious.🙏🌹 What a tough vocation!
We are presently going through the "for worse" phase; we are both stuck in a Purgatory of a marriage 😭; my cross and crown, his cross and crown.
As my beloved Pope Francis once said, "Marriage is a great path to sanctity..."😇 Opportunities abound to practice heroic patience, forgiveness, forbearance, Godly love, etc, on both sides. And as Saint James said of discipleship, "We are afflicted on every side but not crushed; perplexed but not driven to despair..." something like that.
May God grant us all divine love and saintly endurance. 🌹Mother Mary, we "have no more wine." Please pray for us too.😇💕✝️🛐💒
Fr. Chris, thank you. Shared.
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Thank you Fr Chris this was so helpful... Wounds from previous marriage still trouble me... This was very helpful for me.
Thank you padre Chris ,God bless you and more wisdom padre,I have been married for 14years now and we were doing just fine but when we relocated to my husband home where his parents and siblings lived ,I saw hell in the family house ,I was working my ass to pleased everyone with the little thing I was receiving from a Catholic school,all I had in returned was I am showing that I know how to work ,to cut the long story short my marriage has been a toxic one ,but I prayed to God to give me strength each day and the thought of leaving my boys behind held me back.i develop high blood pressure that has caused me miscarriages in my life.we are still together but it is not easy ,I thank God I keep trusting in Him
@@francikoen Yes, we need more admonishments on the antisocial behaviors that make married life too difficult!
I don’t agree….. sometimes it is better for a couple to divorce and it is even better for the sake of the children. Why always talk about being sinners!
@nebaglorybi4719….I have 2 siblings whose marriages were on the rocks. I myself thought that it could not survive. Even with that in mind, I offered some help to ease some tentions and it worked! They are both close to celebrating 50th wedding anniversary! Thank God for His mercy and kindness. Hang in there, honor your marriage, a covenant you have with God. Focus on your husband and kids, love them with the heart of God for each of them..and if be possible even your in laws. ..to love them as God would love to love them. Of course, we cannot duplicate that perfection of a love He has for us. However, Whether they respond to it or not, which I will pray they do, it will afford you that inner peace that only God can bring to you. He will make you feel loved by Him and that will sustain you to keep going. Learn from what Fr. Chris said here. Draw strength from it and not seek the ‘easier way out.’ Btw, my husband abandoned us but I have kept my marriage vows and has remained chaste. Oh, how the Lord has restored me and healed me so beautifully. The Lord is truly faithful to those who are faithful to Him even if it was a struggle. Keeping you in my prayers. God loves you. Mama Mary assist you as a wife, a mother and an in law. You are loved.
God bless Fr. Chris!
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God Bless you Father. Thank you for the educational clarification and not shy away from such a difficult subject. Amen 🙏❤
Praise Be Jesus Thank u Abba Father for The Gift of this Holy Servant of God.
Thank u .Yr presentation at EWTN Conference Toronto Family has touched many Catholics..Thank u .. Met u personally and u were able to interact with many of Us.
Welcome Back to Toronto.
May God continue to Bless u a u lead God's Flock to Heaven ..Word of God Powerful Indeed.
Our Lady of Holy Rosary Pray for Us
JESUS WE TRUST IN YOU!
ST Sister Faustina Pray for us
Amen
Yes, it was great to be there
Thank you Fr Chris for your homily on this difficult topic for many to hear. 🙏🏻🕊✝️🕊🙏🏻 Thank you to the Marian (MIC) Fathers, Brothers, Seminarians, Helpers and Staff for providing opportunities to grow in Faith 🙏🏻🕊✝️🕊🙏🏻
Father, thank you for this info.
Ty
Great homily, Father Chris! I appreciate you speaking on this challenging, but necessary subject! I could have used this information 11 years ago, though! Ha! All is well....God is so good, so graciousl, so loving even when we humans tend to mess things up.
Thank you so much For the beautiful message fr❤. May God bless your good work Fr ❤
To those who are divorced in pain broken feeling shattered. Remember divorce is not the unforgivable sin .
God loves you ,never leave the church seek a priest .your loved .
Thank you Father Chris❤
Thank father
God bless you, Father. That's the truth.
Father Chris Alar thank you for your insight in details for the topic:
Summary on Divorce - What Does Jesus and the Church Teach?
I just got married this August. My husband and I are very clear against using contraception.
Wonderful. God will bless your marriage
I Pray for You FATHER,and AL CLERGY!!!
How times have changed. Now, in 8 in 10 cases, it is the man being abandoned 💐❤️🥰🎁
THE TRUTH. AMEN. 😁👍🏽❤️✝️
At Mass on Sunday Bishop Felipe from Chile said Mass and gave a wonderful Homily about divorce. I am divorced and talked to him after Mass anx asked him for a blessing which he gave me. I'm not dating anyone anymore and still haven't filed an annulment after 14 years. Please pray for me to follow God's Will.
I'm surprised and disappointed that Cannon law doesn't allow for divorce when a pattern of constant, unrelenting and frequent mental and emotional abuse has been established. I have just ended my 38 year marriage to an extremely abusive man, and the only thing I regret is the fact that I even married him. After 24 years of marriage counseling and 9 different counselors I had to call it quits. To be honest, I'm pretty convinced that ours was NEVER a sacramental marriage, even though we did marry in church and completed precana. 😢 18:36
If you are abused then leave your wife/husband, but don't remarry...
You should seek the annulment through the church and they will determine if your marriage was ever sacramental.
I believe you have grounds for a annulment. Mental/verbal abuse by him you trying to save marriage and him not willing to change should be valid enough seek and talk to your bishop.
My reason for supporting divorce is basically. Why perpetuate misery for life ? .Life is short . Why nurse an honest mistake committed by both sides, for life. The 5th commandment says: Thou shall not kill. But there is an exception to that. Self defense! Why can't there be no exception to What God has joined together, let no man pit asunder. It's not even part of the Ten Commandments.
The Priest at my church spoke of this same thing and said the same as Father Chris
Once men have demonstrated so much knowledge about God, the Holy Spirit, Angels, Demons, etc. and have written so many books, less than 2 weeks remain to give them the privilege of knowing the divine supernatural world live and direct.😊
I need shepherding on Mathew 5:32 and connected scripture and contexts
Spiritual message..
Amen. Thank you Fr 🙏
Father there is always misunderstanding in our marriage.Please keep us in prayers.Amen
I was only married civil in Vegas . We had problems we divorced. I get confused if I need an annulment since we were never married in the church. He has since remarried.
NO you positively do NOT and should consider yourself BLESSED that it was but a civil marriage
move on and choose wisely next time 😇
FWIW: I've had two civil marriages that both ended in divorce with no Convalidations EVER.
a canon lawyer assured me I was never married either time in the eyes of the Church
PAX 🕊️
Father went further than most in this Homily and surfaced the Canon Law, whereby the Church in Her Goodness understands that people may be living within an invalid non-sacramental marriage, that is causing grave harm to one or both.The Church in Her Goodness works to evaluate the claimed invalid sacramental marriage and determines the truth through a process of investigation after which a determination is made. Unfortunately the annulment process can take quite a period of time and during the time of waiting which can be years for some, patience with the church runs out, and people as a result of circumstance move on with the hope that eventually they can reconcile with the Church, not losing Hope but ever persevering for that future joyous day.
Amen ✝️
Divorce is a nightmare.
Yes, like a war forced on you that you didn't ask for, didn't invite, and did everything you could to avoid.
@@johnmarcucci1719yes
Remarriage without an annulment is a sin. Thank you for clarifying that Father.
Thank you❤ brave talk ❤
So true amen 🙏
My daughter is divorced. She was married in the Catholic church. She tried her best to make the marriage work. She has 2 children by him. He was not supporting her in anything! He mentally abused her. He brought out the worst in her. Now she is with a wonderful man who truly loves her. I saw a daughter who was so miserable to a daughter who is truly happy. She didn't get the annulment. I'm praying she will. I feel she deffently did the right thing . Now she had 4 beautiful kids, a career and a loving supporting husband. I am very proud of her. God will guide her back to her faith ❤❤🎉
This is hard, i hate to say this but this is still adulterous... But the lord is merciful he himself can decide
🙏🙏🙏 She will get an annulment 🕊️
@@danielleprovenzale6805 its hard to get an annulment in the church... Maybe the state can grant an annulment but if the church did not grant it, it still an adultery...
Tragic that the RCC will still stamp this as adultery. Best she gets a annulment and remarry in the RCC.
@@dellchica2373 there's no way she will get remarry in the catholic church
Please pray for India sp Goa , we are facing evil stuff
Amen!
I am not Catholic (but will be someday). I knocked on the Catholic church door, hoping to be let in. I have to go through a few annulments so I can continue this journey. Meanwhile, I just pray and follow God through it all.
I was once the child who hid when things got out of control at home because of domestic violence. I lived in fear every day. I never knew many good days. Absent was security and love. My mother was raised Catholic but left the church as a teenager. She remained silent on that part of her life.
My parents ended up divorcing after my mom left one day and never came back home. She left us, and we had no way to defend ourselves in that battle. I had just turned 16, so I also walked out the door and never went back. I was on my own at 16 years old, and I met a man that I married 4 months later. My mom had to sign the papers since I was underage. She did not hesitate.
I made a lot of bad choices early on in my life. I found myself in the same situations that I thought I left when I made that choice to leave home at the age of 16. My soul already had damage done to it.
I thank God that I am here today to even write this. I am prepared either way for whatever is decided on my annulments. I trust God no matter what, and I know He brought me to that door.
Awesome. God bless you!
Amin Amin🙏🙏🌹🌹
Wow! Awesome
I have a very difficult marriage all these years but we decided not to separate due to our catholic laws I don't believe in divorce good day father chris n to all the marians thank you for sharing this topic in this appropiate time n age 😢😢😢😢😅😅😅😅
God bless you
I'm so proud of u❤
Amen!🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Truth.
I was married outside the church and husband had several affairs and got involved with drugs. I file for divorce after 8 years for waiting for him to change. He didn't. It got worse. I had no choice. Our marriage lasted 27 yrs. I could not divorce on abandoned but on the illegal drug use. So if not married in a church. Do I still need annulment and will annulment end my spousal support that I need. This is very complex.
Anullment is through the church and not the court system. Therefore, it's a spiritual matter and not a legal one. You're child support should not be affected. In fact, Catholic priest advise necessary legal divorce BEFORE the Churches' proclamation of annulment precisely in order to provide for the children in the form of child support.
Divorced 20 years; never remarried,never gotan annulment. Very difficult life as my WasBand abandoned me and my 3 y.o in diapers for another woman. Needless to say, he is on divorce #2, at 60. Divine justice ❤
Same. Husband left me and our youngest when he was six. Our older son was 20. I never got an annulment, and have been alone for 23 years. It gets harder, not easier, every year. I was not the guilty one but I'm punished.
@@Trumblocity me too :( and we must grin n bear it yr after yr:(
@@dellchica2373 I'm not grinning and I'm thinking about not bearing this weight anymore.
@@Trumblocity how??