Living in a village in the English countryside and why I left

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  • @wideeyedtree
    @wideeyedtree 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +66

    When I lived in my first flat, I had a little garden piece, but it was not possible to just work their calmly, all the neighbors would constantly start to talk with me or stare at me etc. The garden did quickly go wild and I thought maybe gardening is not my thing, but later I realized that it was because I was not able to be there in a relaxed way without being talked to or looked at. When I do not feel my best, I feel even worse when I have to have those interactions. Since I am living in a little house in the countryside with no direct neighbor, I love to care for the garden. I understand you so well, when you said you felt as if you couldn't leave your house, because of the circumstances! I really hope everything will be better in the place you are now and it is a real blessing to be able to go outside in nature and not constantly meet someone. Especially as a creative photo person. Much love! I was a bit sad that you deleted your older videos, I liked them a lot and rewatched them from time to time, but I also understand that you felt like deleting them and starting new!

    • @adventuringbeth
      @adventuringbeth  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

      I’m so glad you found joy in gardening once it became more peaceful for you! I always relate to your comments so much. The older videos often included my old relationship and so I felt it was best to send them on their way, but hopefully you’ll find calm in some of the new ones I’m planning on making! Thank you for sticking around, lovely one 🥰

    • @wideeyedtree
      @wideeyedtree 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      @@adventuringbeth Yes, I assumed that you deleted them, because of your past relationship. I would have done the same. It would have felt weird to me to still have them online, too. I'm very much looking forward to all your new videos!

  • @checkplease4532
    @checkplease4532 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +26

    everyone deserves to feel safe - those are signs that it's time to move on. it takes courage to acknowledge that, act on it, and close that period as healthily as possible. best wishes on the new move

  • @lillimol
    @lillimol 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +48

    I lived in the UK for two years, 2022 and 2023. I am originally from Italy and moved to the area between London and Southampton, which is a very lovely countryside area with lots of gorgeous walks and little villages. I first lived in a small town and then in a bigger town. I loved the UK so much, met my husband there, and grew immensely. Yet for reasons that may be similar to yours, all of a sudden the dream became a nightmare and I just had to leave and move again, this time to my home country. I feel like transformative times, especially when spent in strange little bubbles, always end up with big moves and awful heartbroken experiences. It will all be worth it in the end. I still miss the English countryside in a very visceral way, though. A part of me will always be there.

    • @adventuringbeth
      @adventuringbeth  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      I'm so sorry your time in the U.K had to end so abruptly and in such a challenging way :( I hope you manage to remember your time there without it being completely tainted by heartbreak - some people will never understand how stressful/hurtful it is to have your happy little home bubble turn sour. ❤

  • @Zafporter
    @Zafporter 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    My husband is from Wales and I’m from California. He came here for his Masters and just ended up staying here. We love California but we are thinking of moving to the UK. I have always dreamed of living in the English countryside and your vids are making me want to move even more! New subscriber!

  • @pamelaelizabethl2847
    @pamelaelizabethl2847 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I was you about 40 years ago. Seemingly the same dreams, passion and emotions. Unfortunately because of circumstances and responsibilities, I wasn’t ever able to see it through. It’s always in the back of my mind. It never leaves. When I watched your videos I can almost feel being there. Thank you for sharing.

  • @nicolagraham4561
    @nicolagraham4561 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I don’t think it’s running away, you chose to put yourself first. ❤

  • @Tessa-sh8dj
    @Tessa-sh8dj 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Thank you for being so honest and open. This helps me, in a way that I am not crazy about how I am when I am around other people. Sometimes it lookes like if everyone is an extrovert. Me, as an introvert, sometimes (often) can feel so alone (even if I need that alone time, I mean “alone” in a different way). And that when I have to meet people which I don’t trust, this is so extremely draining energy, that I often wonder if I am crazy . So thank you for this video. I found recognition.

  • @maahiska
    @maahiska 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Bitter people may do all they can to ruin others happiness, they can take things much too far beyond their own interest, just to make happy people feel miserable.
    Wishing you all the best.

  • @donniblanco5239
    @donniblanco5239 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    Ahh The Romance of Country Living 💛 The Reality of Which becomes Apparent after the “Honeymoon period” Expires - “Towny” is a Term I became familiar with & even tho it’s said in Jest I knew that Even After 10 years the Cultural Division was a definite line in the Sand, and Acceptance was only a Temporary State whilst I was Getting the Beers in at the Pub or Helping a Neighbour with an Overgrown Hedge etc. After a Succession of Events not dissimilar to your own, The Pressures of Our “Country Life” Experience Turned our 20 year Bond Sour and then Crumbled resulting in Separation of our little Family. I currently live on the outskirts of a Town so I have the Benefit of having One foot Either Side of the Fence. However on the Upside, many Lessons have been Learned and Many More Positives and Opportunities were Gained than Lost. Appealing as Living in Nature appears, it Can Very Raw and Will Bite you in the Ass when you least Expect it. Saying all that, Your New Place Looks Fab and I Would deffo be interested in that sort of Location as Opposed to Village Life, tho it Seems that Peace and Quiet is Very Elusive. Good Wishes for your Future 🙏🏻💛✨

    • @adventuringbeth
      @adventuringbeth  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      @@donniblanco5239 it sounds like you’re in an ideal situation now! I love being as remote as I am right now - and isolation is great when you need to retreat from the world, but I think having one foot in the countryside and one in the town is probably the ideal balance!

  • @colin101981
    @colin101981 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Sadly nasty bullies can crop up anywhere anytime. Wishing you happiness and peace in Wales. I moved to North Wales some 30 years ago, I couldn't go back to city living. It's my sanctuary.
    I hope you continue to grow in your new home. Best wishes.

  • @elizabethbryan3821
    @elizabethbryan3821 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    The older I become the more I want to distance myself from people

  • @AJ-hi9fd
    @AJ-hi9fd 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    I live in the North Yorkshire countryside, I must admit I prefer the solitude and don’t indulge in socialising, although I’m pleasant and chat to other villagers if I see them.
    I think English villages can attract people who are frightfully pleased with themselves, (usually having done well for themselves) in other words, irritating 🤣

  • @jvlcixm
    @jvlcixm หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    You seem like such a wonderful person. I loved hearing your story and I'm so sorry it didn't end up in a good way in this village.. I hope you will find this type of community again :)

  • @Lily_Autumn
    @Lily_Autumn 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +25

    I’m so sorry you were forced out of your special home. I would’ve felt exactly the same way. Small villages are lovely but definitely have their challenges. I moved to one last year and whilst mostly positive, there are issues, like anywhere I guess. Parking is definitely the biggest contention here! 😅 Your new place looks absolutely amazing. I’m a huge introvert and living somewhere isolated is my dream. 😂❤ Really loving you being back on TH-cam and hope you keep making videos! I much prefer TH-cam to Instagram these days.

    • @adventuringbeth
      @adventuringbeth  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Thank you for your lovely comment and taking the time to watch❤Villages really teach you the art of compromise, don't they? I don't think I'm mature enough for that, yet 😂😅I'm really enjoying sharing in a slower form than 15-second reels on Instagram, so definitely planning on continuing! 🥰

    • @lakesidesusan6745
      @lakesidesusan6745 หลายเดือนก่อน

      When I feel the stress the first thing I want to do is run away to some place to be alone..

  • @Englishroserebecca
    @Englishroserebecca 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Wishing you every happiness in your new home. As one door closes another one opens. ❤

  • @magdalenakordys5543
    @magdalenakordys5543 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Thank you so much for your story ❤ I completely understand every word you said … because I’m exactly in the same situation as you were … 😢 and I’m scared to make another important step in my life … but you gave me the strength and courage… 🍀 and I’m sending you greetings from Poland 🇵🇱

  • @Bananarama-z1j
    @Bananarama-z1j 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I’m glad I’m not alone. The place I have just sold was a place I thought would be my forever home and the area was lovely but I didn’t feel at home there and neighbours were very awkward and I felt that I didn’t have a lot of privacy. I felt an extreme sense of anxiety and didn’t feel comfortable leaving the house. It had a major impact on my physical and mental health and I knew I had to move. I have bought a place in Pembrokeshire which is quiet and detached from others and I’m so excited to move. Things always work out in the end. I’m glad you managed to sort out your living arrangements and your place looks so cosy!

  • @darceybutler6498
    @darceybutler6498 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Sending you positive love and healing for this new chapter of your life.Stepping stones bringing you closer to your dream ❤

  • @walsh222
    @walsh222 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Would love to hear more about the boyfriend story and how you met! So adorable 😊

  • @ginofactap
    @ginofactap 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    this is masterfully done, as always. thank you.

    • @adventuringbeth
      @adventuringbeth  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@ginofactap thank you so much for taking the time to watch and leave a comment!

  • @lydiarosebrita4901
    @lydiarosebrita4901 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Thanks for sharing your experience. I am thinking of moving out of the city but probably to a quiet market town rather than a village. I've found things have started happening to push me out of places when it's the time to leave. I think it's the universe's way of saying it's time to move on. Of course very unpleasant though and sorry you experienced that ❤❤

    • @adventuringbeth
      @adventuringbeth  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@lydiarosebrita4901 I completely agree with you - the universe works in funny ways! A quiet market town would be so lovely, I hope you find the right place for you & that the transition goes smoothly. Thank you for your comment 🩷

  • @catfish9539
    @catfish9539 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    I’m so sorry your landlord was so unkind to you. Yet also violating the rules by letting themselves in while you weren’t there. I hope your new home will allow you to feel settled.

  • @ehpeachylove
    @ehpeachylove 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    What a beautiful open space you are currently living in my dear and gratitude to your partners parents to allow you both to live in such a lovely place.
    Very nice to heal from the likes you had to deal with and just another example how one or two sour apples can ruin an ideal place you called home.
    Ives lived in England as a child,, my mum being British and dad an American soldier .
    Live in California that is loud, fast, crowded. And distances large that require a vehicle, expensive to live.
    I watch a few shows set in England , Wales, and Scotland and wish I could move to a quiet place but at 76, grandkids and my son and his wife here… can only dream.
    Enjoy your peace and life, keep your dreams because one day they may come true.

  • @anniej1616
    @anniej1616 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Really interesting and I had this same experience in Burford, Oxfordshire and again in Wytham, Oxfordshire. Both times, my home looked like yours, medieval properties with those Gothic arch doorways and tiny low rooms. I have a picture of me standing in what looks like your doorway! I also had the experience of staying indoors, riddled with anxiety because each time I went outside, I had to talk to people, ha. I like some sense of isolation; soon, my paradise had me feeling trapped.

  • @harbinger3698
    @harbinger3698 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I Can Relate, I have horrid neighbours pppft Who go out of their way to make life hard, We live in A village but are as noted by villagers outsiders, I brought up my kids here following divorce it is an association and I am not happy here, We need to move, Just had 1 area reject me due to catchment So need to rethink.. Your cottage is so lovely, Be bleseed!

  • @haydensnowbe9821
    @haydensnowbe9821 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I’m so sorry you had to deal with that hateful woman! What a bully! She used her job to manipulate and honestly she probably did that to everyone. I’m glad you’re Away from that trauma. What a horrible, horrible woman.

  • @jessk7240
    @jessk7240 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Wow, the petty small-mindedness of these apparently idyllic villages is never far beneath the surface, is it! Sorry that it didn't work out for you there but you made such a good move by the sounds of it. The behaviour of the landlord was vile, too - there are sadly so many downsides to renting in the UK. My son has just finished Uni and I'm encouraging him to stay with us while he saves for a deposit rather than renting. It's so often a stressful, nasty experience. You are SO lucky that your partner had family who could help you. I'm sure you're very mindful of that. It's so much harder to live the kind of life you do without a leg up. I'm certain you're making the very most of it!

  • @Chilternwildcamper
    @Chilternwildcamper 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I almost bought a house in a gorgeous little Somerset village but there was a clause that you couldn't park a van in the space, even though you owned the driveway, it put me off as seemed odd but it's all about how things look. Im curious to try a village now im alone and over 50 may suit me now!

    • @adventuringbeth
      @adventuringbeth  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I can see how that would have put you off at the time - I certainly know of places with clauses that you have to paint your window frames every year or can't put your washing outside. Village life is lovely in so many ways though, and when I was there on my own it helped me feel so much less isolated! I hope you find the right village for you :)

  • @marshaharwood8883
    @marshaharwood8883 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I just found your channel and wow, you live in such a beautiful place and I’m sorry all that happened to you, but it sounds like you’ve got a wonderful home to live in, looking forward to all of your videos❤

  • @BlueBird-nf2gp
    @BlueBird-nf2gp 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I’m sorry you had those bad experiences. I hope your current home is a better place for you. 😊❤️🐦

  • @lisamariejames2612
    @lisamariejames2612 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I agree it does only take one person to ruin every ounce of happiness. I am experiencing something very similar here. Were hoping to swap our home so we can live with happiness instead of having a negative bubble over us in our current home. We too don't go out in the garden here either xx

  • @blackthornlane
    @blackthornlane 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Similar thing happened to me in the UK with neighbours - but it was about pruning trees in my garden. Constant harassment. It seems that everyone on that lane was afraid of tall trees. Moved to the countryside to be an antisocial hermit… ended up as the main character in my neighbours' lives.

  • @vannesagannon4555
    @vannesagannon4555 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    God help youlove from IRELAND

  • @JohnJames-kw5de
    @JohnJames-kw5de หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Renting is tough. There are bad good and bad tenants as well as good and bad landlords. I’ve been a landlord renting my own house out as well as a tenant for many years so can see it from both sides. I do wonder whether the landlord had previous bad experiences with tenants and whether consequently she was overly anxious nature and this influenced her behaviour.
    Wherever one lives, even having one or two inconsiderate people can make life very difficult

  • @basilbaby7678
    @basilbaby7678 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    May I ask which brand of dress it is that you’re wearing?
    I’ve been searching for a green gingham piece for a while.

  • @jlsiu
    @jlsiu 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    camper vans are generally unattrative, a bit like wheelie bins. I would probably agree with her, don't take it personally. It's good you moved on though, you seem like a sensitive soul and calm and peace is for the best

  • @suerolfe9451
    @suerolfe9451 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    So sorry you where treated, so awful by that neighbour, some people can be so nasty when they get older. ❤

  • @mhopi9744
    @mhopi9744 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Ty fo sharing ❤❤❤

  • @realitychick4502
    @realitychick4502 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    Sorry a narcissist destroyed your mental health. Lack of boundary recognition , gaslighting , revision of history , smearing, ignited fury and word salad. No emotional empathy … around 1 in 6 people have no emotional empathy 😢

  • @vdmlaw
    @vdmlaw 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thanks for Sharing

  • @saamiaharoon2098
    @saamiaharoon2098 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Gosh that's so sad...hmm neighbours! Landlord:(
    I hope you find a nice place soon.

  • @alanhull-ii5ip
    @alanhull-ii5ip หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Your a canny lass it's that simple ,have a nice life 👍

  • @vannesagannon4555
    @vannesagannon4555 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Beautiful xxx❤❤❤

  • @RedArtistx
    @RedArtistx 25 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Their reaction was totally OTT. I think they steamrolled over you because of your age and newness to the village.

  • @olgaolmo9787
    @olgaolmo9787 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I love your videos ❤😊

  • @robingherasim55
    @robingherasim55 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    I don't usually post "negative" comments but I have to let you know that I couldn't hear what you were saying because of the loud background music. I hope you will take this as constructive criticism.

    • @adventuringbeth
      @adventuringbeth  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Thank you! I really do need to sort my audio out!

    • @robingherasim55
      @robingherasim55 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@adventuringbeth Thank you for your positive response. All the best for your future endeavours.

    • @louisesouthgate5231
      @louisesouthgate5231 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      I heard it perfectly.... there was no problem at all.

    • @katec9893
      @katec9893 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@@louisesouthgate5231For you maybe. Some people have difficulty filtering out background noise so it's valid feedback.

  • @highlandjournalart654
    @highlandjournalart654 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    Blimey! What is a village trustee? Sounds like a toxic environment made by entitled people . Really think you are better out of there.

    • @adventuringbeth
      @adventuringbeth  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Put simply, they were a group of volunteers looking after the church, the town hall, my apartment (which belonged to the village rather than an individual) and other village affairs. Most of my experience there was so wholesome (for example, an elderly neighbour still calls me late at night now when she fancies a chat!) but all it takes is a little bit of upset to make these delicate dynamics awkward, unfortunately 😩 I miss it a lot, but equally cherish the peace that I have in this temporary home in Wales. Thank you for taking the time to comment ❤

    • @highlandjournalart654
      @highlandjournalart654 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@adventuringbeth somewhat similar to island life with 500 people I suspect x

    • @adventuringbeth
      @adventuringbeth  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@highlandjournalart654 gosh I can imagine!!

    • @howareyou857
      @howareyou857 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Villages can be very petty places. I've lived in one for 23 years. I'm looking forward to moving back to the city tbh.

    • @AR-mu4zq
      @AR-mu4zq 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​​@@adventuringbethstuff of TV shows and books. Just so cliche. I'm sad to hear that.

  • @TMarie-mq1cb
    @TMarie-mq1cb 25 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Village life probably hasn’t changed much ever . Nosey people gossiping about people

  • @heidibluhm2096
    @heidibluhm2096 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Untertitel in deutsch bitte 😢

  • @heather333
    @heather333 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Are you familiar with the tiny home way of life? If I were you, I'd buy land and build a tiny home, with work shops for you and your partner. ❤

  • @MsMesem
    @MsMesem หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Imagine your landladys feelings about the house! She will be very attached to the property also and perhaps it represents old family ties. I am treated like shit in the village I am in since before day 1 and its a constant battle. No where is paradise; you must roll with the punches and work out your priorities. Also your status is hugely different when you own the property you live in; you have made a long term massive investment to enter the community and that counts. Renters come and go.

  • @JennyDarren
    @JennyDarren 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I would never live in a town or a city, particularly now. Women in particular are nt save.

    • @sharaswitala6296
      @sharaswitala6296 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      This is not true… you cannot live in fear. Even in the country you need to be aware

    • @JennyDarren
      @JennyDarren 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@sharaswitala6296 I agree, but I feel that you are generally far safer. I know that I am.

  • @denisecarter5117
    @denisecarter5117 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Two women ruined it for everyone. I’m sorry.

  • @stevo5000
    @stevo5000 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    how very arty farty and highly indulgent.

  • @rarebreedewe
    @rarebreedewe 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Voice? On verge of crying? Yea but no but

    • @adventuringbeth
      @adventuringbeth  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      hehe I just have a gravelly voice, I think it always sounds like I'm on the verge of crying 😅😅

  • @countesscable
    @countesscable 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    The use of vocal fry is just too painful to listen to 😱

    • @adventuringbeth
      @adventuringbeth  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      @@countesscable please stop listening then - this is my voice and something I always used to be insecure about / try to change. It always baffles me when strangers on the internet feel the need to post such unkind, pointed comments.

    • @minervabird1967
      @minervabird1967 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Then you don’t have to listen to this lovely individual. You choose to be unkind.

  • @TavsKnitspace
    @TavsKnitspace 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    You and your followers don't understand you are moving to a 'community' not a fantasy village. A community is communal! Things are done for the good of the whole and to preserve social order. Self centredness isn't going to work. Move to the commuter belt.

    • @adventuringbeth
      @adventuringbeth  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

      @@TavsKnitspace I completely understand that I was a part of a community - I had been an active part of that community for a year and a half, volunteering at village events etc, as I said in the video. I had a wonderful time in the village and even understood the compromises, the only thing that made me unhappy was the abrasive and harassing behaviour of one particular member of the community, rather than civility. In small communities, kindness is integral to uphold the peace. No self centred-ness here, just enough self respect to know that it ultimately wasn’t working out for me.

    • @katelijnesommen
      @katelijnesommen 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      Interesting that you would take away from this that Beth wasn't involved in the community, when it's very clear from the video that she was. I feel like this is a different frustration, that doesn't necessarily have anything to do with Beth.

    • @minervabird1967
      @minervabird1967 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      This comment is uncalled for. you choose to be unkind.