This is such a powerful film. The act of cutting is not often brought up, but it is a very serious and very deadly issue that needs to be addressed. Each character portrayed their roles beautifully. I only wish that if someone sees this movie and is a cutter or knows someone who ... read moreis cutting that they will learn that this issue is no joke
The mother is played by actress Sean Young and a lot of people find that's she's irritating. She's perfect for this role..."ice cold." This book/movie is by Steven Levenkron, Ph.D. (he treated Karen Carpenter). He also wrote The Best Little Girl in the World.
@blue1bubbles I have been cut for 3 years. On arms, wrists, legs, stomach... My parents don't know it even though we are very close. It IS possible for parents -to be blind. And... you're right with this 'full time job'. It's really hard to hide scars and pretend you're ok but after some months... years, you become the best actor ever.
I've been searching for this film for 7 years, I've remebered everything about it except for the name and now found it by chance. I love it and it made a great impact on me. Thank you a million times for putting it up. Also the mother is horrible...
2:26- 2:34. The refrence to Princess Diana is very relevant because she had admitted to self injuring. I wonder what Rebecca would say if she found out that the person she admires did the same thing that she ridicules Dawn for doing.
everyone stop commenting about her eyebrow!!! its getting irritating!! when your stressed or angry your body raises an eyebrow!! its stress related!! its not her fault!!
Her mum: it'll be me, just like everything else around here. She got that right. Everything revolves around her! When is she gonna get a grip of herself and not be so self-centered!?
I used to be a SI'er. Its very easy to continue to hurt yourself, even in situations that aren't that horrible! I thank Yahwea, though, for helping me to understand that hurting myself wasn't fixing my problems. Don't get me wrong, I can still feel the tearing of my skin and how euphoric it was in my time of "need." That, unfortunately, never goes away.
God, that moment with Dawn's mom describing sex between her and Dawn's father couldnt NOT have been more awkward. . .O_o if I had been Dawn I would've stuck my fingers in my ears and started shouting "La, la, la, la, la. . . I cant hear you!!!" I'm SO thankful my mom isnt like that. . .my mom is really cool actually (most of the time)
@blue1bubbles Parents usually don't know because people that cut themselves have learned how to hide it easily. Sometimes the parents are usually too busy to notice and that's one of the factors that lead to cutting. Not all people wear long sleeves for it; there are obviously different parts of your body you can cut. Sure, it can seem like a ful time job keeping cutting a secret, but sometimes it's not that hard and it can become the center of your life at the time, so it doesn't seem that hard
The therapist is played by actress Rhea Perlman (Cheers) and she's the ideal therapist. Having an office inside a mall is a great location. It's genius and also show's she cares. Where do teens "usually" love to go...the mall. Too bad therapists in the real word don't think of this. The book is called, “The luckiest girl in the world!” by Steven Levenkron. The opening scene showing her ice skating is symbolic with cutting/self-injury. The blades on her ice skates cuts into the ice.
I use to cut myself two years ago from all the stress and felt unwanted. But it's true what a commenter said before it takes a lot of strength and self willingness to completely stop. To be honest the thought gets into my head when something makes me said or a little depressed but I push it out of my mind. And like another person said there are ointments to make the scars smooth and not visible . Most of the ones in my arm are all gone and some you really have to be staring at my arm to find t
I remember when I first saw this on TV, and I thought she was constantly arching her eyebrow on purpose. About halfway through, I realized that's just how they were. Creepy stuff.
i love this movie.. last time i watched it was in november, so i'm watching it again. i dont know if theres more like this, but i love movies like this (such as perfect body, odd girl out, thirteen, a secret between friends, for the love of nancy, sharing the secret, etc.) i'm not sure if they all have the same producers but they seem related somehow.
so much more complicated than that, you have to understand body reactions and chemistry. More openly talked about now, but has been a problem for so long, and widely misunderstood.
the fact of the matter is a decent amount of people know i do, the real problem for people who cut is not those who ridicule them for doing it but reconciling that they will be seen as different for doing it, yes they have issues, but that is the reason they cut, that should not lead to another reason for them to dip deeper into the depressive chasms of ones own inner thoughts.
some say instead of cutting yourself cut the ahole that mistreating you no dont do it look dont worry someone esle will because they will meet match im walking away leaving idio love yourself
You wont understand unless you've done it...but it requires a person to be in a dark, sad, angry state of mind to want to do it. It may be a good thing that you don't want to understand. No one should have to feel like they need to hurt themselves. Even if you don't get it though, being there for her is the best thing you can do. Its common for people to relapse. Just don't get upset or angry with her. Sounds like you're a great friend.
Everyone keeps saying that the mom was annoying. The little brother kinda got on my nerves. too. He was such a little wise ass. Made me wanna just smack him..
You're about to start high school and you're only thirteen??? :O Oh, and here's a tip I got from other cutters for removing scars: rub the scars with lemon juice for a bit. it works for some people. It' best to forget and erase the scars than to have to hide them for the rest of your life (especially when you are on the swim team). Hang in there. :)
I'm a cutter and they make it so dramatic when she is doing it, but its not really like that, you don't rock back and forth like a psycho. its a good movie, but they show it a little more dramatic than it is.
everyone has problems. there are people who go through the same things in life that cutters go through or worse-- but they don't drown themselves in sorrows with a knife at their arm. (LAME) focus on the good things in your life. be grateful you're fed and have somewhere to live. read the bible. do something w yourself. i don't feel bad for most cutters.
@PeaceNdLovee I think the point of this exchange of words is to show how little interest the dad is showing in the upbringing of the children and that there is something wrong e.g. maybe he's having an affair. I don't know yet.
Aw, I like Dawn's voice though. It's super cute. but...in the movie, a simple bitchy girl seems like kind of a small issue to be cutting over. I guess more pressure was put on her than was shown?
Love this film...it shows how bad cutting is. But i hate her mother she doesn't understand how difficult it is to stop this addiction. And....cutter will find a way to cut themselves! It doesn't matter if it is a scissors or just a fork!
Second time watching. It was a crazy trigger last time and I hope it's not the same this time--but literally, change her name from her name to my name... and it's exactly me..
3:10- :17 Even though this is a movie, this is what I want to say. Those girls picking on Dawn really need to shut the fuck up, especially the one that howled. I can't stand that. The second I hear that I told her to shut up.
i have a love hate relationship with this movie, i mean i see what they tried to do here but honestly, they stick to this stereotype that self harmers are people with no friends , not "popular" in school,weridos that everyone makes fun of , as well as totally makes them look insane .honestly i dont get. that pisses me off so much ! no surprise self harming is still a tabu since its being presented that way .
ya, and it also depends how sensitive person is and self confidant...but not many teenagers are strong to avoid consults from other kids at this age. honestly, i hated highschool cause i was different from other girls, just because i didnt want to be clone. but i didnt have on my mind to hurt myself, but i waited and tried to become better than them, and show them "who's the boss now", now after 8 years, i did show them who i really am and how lame they where and stayed that way.
When you get to 10th grade, people really aren't that bad. There's a trend you see in schools these days where once a grade hits a certain age, say when they go into the 10th or 9th grade, people drop out of the hierarchy system and everybody becomes friends because they're mature enough to see past all the bullshit. Movies depict an unrealistic picture of what High school is like for younger people.
Im a teen myself and I think that the way they put this movie across was wrong.. because they made the girl look like a serious freak.. which make others think that people who self cut are freaks and that was wrong!! They should have made the movie in which kids and teens can relate to the character not make them feel that they are a freak like this girl because they self cut like her!! Does anyone else agree?
This is a great story line, but it was filmed in the wrong time period. When this first came out in 2000 many people didn't understand cutting and exactly why people do it, so many of the scenes and the people in it are all wrong and messed up the movie completley. Cutting, burning, and other kinds of self mutilation are now commonly talked about and treated. Back then if you did it, you were either a "freak" or people just told you to stop. Great story and meaning, badly portrayed.
@stacks6969allday people have different issues and handle them differently and self-harming like you said can become an addiction just like drinking and drugs. For people that supposedly want attention and love, they sure work hard to hide the evidence that would "earn' them that. I had to work hard to get my best friend to understand and she sure as hell didn't want a hug or arm around her shoulder. She even decked me in the face a few times when we first met whenever I tried to comfort her.
@ingeloveswobbly ight im not judgeing aight all im saying is cutting is not the answer whats cutting gonna do? is ur problem gonna be gone after u cut? no it will always be there now there are things you can do to get rid of the pain instead of causeing more of it and the more u cut the more ur body looks ugly the more pain u feel about urself so doing something else is the answer cause every time u cut u just add more pain on for later
@ingeloveswobbly and another thing i have been through alot more shit them most people ive seen my family murderd in front of me when i was 10 years old and i dont fucking cut my self there are alot more things to do to hide the pain and cutting ur self is not the right answer all it does is cause more pain phyisically and the pain mentally never goes away and ur emotions fade away but there is alot more things to do when ur depressed i wanna hear ur problems its not worth cutting urself over
@ingeloveswobbly well everything that i said is scientifically prooved in the human mind when someone does it then there friends come and put an arm arround them well after that they seem to want that attention again and again and they also like the rush that they get they get the release of the pain they have inside but really all there doing is making more pain it dont go away and i aint judgeing noone im stateing facts cutters seek attention to them selfs u might not thing so but its true
wow its like she always gets intrupted all the time like the mom and dad realy dont Care what she has to say. maybe that is why she is cutting herself and she might be sufferning from depression also with out realy knowning it. I had a friend that was cutting himself and come to find out he was depressed realy bad and he hid it all realy well, I am the one that got him help after I saw his arms and how beat up they where. it wasnt fun he hated me for interfearning at first but then thanked me!
Why do people dislike the acting? Or the whole movie? Ofcourse it's not that good as da vinci code or any little bit worse movie, but it's pretty good still. I haven't seen a lot of movies with cutting.. And yeah she could hide her cuts better, and not cut all over her body SO aggressively, 'cause I don't think that someone can cause so much pain for herself.. It's possible, but still. I hope someone understands what i mean.
My family is like this, but it's both parents. I'm surprised I haven't cut myself. My mom controls me,and my dad babies me and both have different tempers. I am 20 -years-old and inside I feel like a scared and lonely child. Now it's not always my parents' fault, because I chose not to move out yet and not to drive. I let people walk all over me, but I think I might be getting better.
i have many friends who well cut and injuring them selfs so nobody that havent cut and deald with it..they should just shut up i´ve dealed with cutting but i dint understand it until i got so much presure and pain inside me so i cut. me and my friends were strong tho i was the one who "was" strong and was there for my friends. but in reallyty I was drowning in sorrow so you who dont cut dont start and if your friends are doing it be there for them instead of dissing them trust me they ned you
I just stopped cutting last year and beating myself up early this year (no thanks to my therapist at all, she only made matters worse and I'd just go and hurt myself even more) and I'm proud of myself, because for so long I believed I would never be able to break the cycle and yet here I am today self harm free. Anyone can stop hurting themselves, it may take time and some hard work and effot, you will have relapses but eventually if you stick to it you'll get there. YOU CAN STOP IT!!!
one reason why the movie is quite dramatic may be because in the book this is based on by Steven Levenkron, the girl is not in any way an 'average' or 'standard' type (whatever that is). Shes a championship skater, has suffered extensive physical abuse, and when she cuts she completely dissociates. she also has manic episodes. suggesting she also May also have a severe personality disorder.
@stacks6969allday Self harm is a coping mechanism, and obviously coping mechanisms do not solve problems. The point of any coping mechanism is to help the person to deal with their emotions. People usually turn to self harm when nothing else works, such as in time of stress. When people are in stress, they may not be thinking clearly. Also, self harm does release endorphins, which is why a lot of people who cut, burn, hit, etc. report feeling high, calm, numb, etc.
What does triggering mean? Theres an american commentating the french tennis tornament, and 1 comment was Ferrar (spa player) was going to pull the trigger (did he have a gun down his pants?) In fact this commentator has completley lost all of us in my local pub in London UK. We dont know what he`s talking about. What the hell is he onn.
@soniador96 hun if you don't feel comfortable talking to a counselor call a hotline. They are very helpful they will just sit and listen for hours if you like and everything is extremely CONFIDENTIAL even the stuff you may say about being abused. They won't force you to tell anyone they let you make that decision on your own. Give one of them a try.
Oops. I meant Holly Hunter. ;) Here is a list I came up with for movies that feature cutting (I've not seen most of them): Wristcutters (2006) Girl, Interrupted (1999) Secretary (2002) 28 Days (2000) Intensity (1997) Dans Ma Peau (2002) The Virgin Suicides (1999) Don't forget Degrassi the Next Generation("Whisper To A Scream" and "Anywhere I Lay My Head")
I agree, and if you saw the first one I commented about you would see how people can be uncivilized. I'm not exempt either but there's a point that just makes people seem ignorant, and wasting time watching what they are only going to comment bad on, make fun of, or be crude, the origional reason for my Reply.
As for the body being ugly; that's a matter of opinion. I have scars on my both, and my boyfriend happens to like them. Some people are able to love people for who they are, even if they may have perfections such as scars, pimples, etc. You may think scars are ugly, but that's not a opinion that is shared by everyone.
the person was wrong, because bullied boys empty boys are recognized it is just our society expects them to express it differently. good point about the person with friends. Their are so man topics or issues in a teens life. Are they wrong for making school friends a priority?
not always true... i never has any friends when i was younger, but as i went through senior school i developed tight friendships with a close group of friends i was cutting. i started when i was 12, and im almost 18 and even now when life seems good i still cant stop. there's just emptiness inside.
Triggering means, it may cause a negative reaction or "trigger" a memory and feeling. Which means it may bring these memories or feelings back or to you. If someone is watching this movie, and is going through a self-harm addiction, then it may trigger them to relapse.
everyone in the english speaking world knows who princess diana is. i was only two when she passed away,but i stilll know who she is. she was a beautiful woman. she died in a car crash in paris on 31st august 1997. prince william and prince harry are her two sons.
@The1foxycougar You're right, it did hurt. But i guess at the moment, I didn't really think about the pain or the consequences of having scars on my arms probably for the rest of my life. I just felt like maybe if I could destroy a little piece of myself, it would make me feel better, I guess.
@blue1bubbles It's amazing what parents will ignore. I never tried to cover up my cuts or scars and some of them were horrible. I just always had some stupid excuse for how I got them "I cut it on a fence... i fell in the shower..." still my parents had no idea until I was hospitalized.
OH! And does anyone knw what that Lifetime movie is thats about a girl who tries to be friends with the populars, they turn on her, including her old friends. she cuts her hair and takes pills, tries to commit suicide. sorry for the bad explaining, i loved it and cant remember it now D:
The mother - talk about passive aggression. No one should ever dump their frustrations on their kids like that. The way she talked about the dad - so humiliating, especially with him listening. She comes across like those girls from the high school who laughed at the wolf idea.
@salzwell25 you will get mixed responses from that question I can tell you, it depends what end of the spectrum you talk to, speaking as a victim though yes girls can be worse than that even. But someone who is being that mean won't even realise what they are doing :)
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I bet Dawn's mother was just like Rebecca in school....
The figure skating is like a metaphor for her cutting. I love the subliminal message.
How is it a metaphor
This is such a powerful film. The act of cutting is not often brought up, but it is a very serious and very deadly issue that needs to be addressed. Each character portrayed their roles beautifully. I only wish that if someone sees this movie and is a cutter or knows someone who ... read moreis cutting that they will learn that this issue is no joke
this is the second time i am watching this and I absolutely love it, its helping me
#cutforbieber
When she called her a freak she should've said thank you.
The mother is played by actress Sean Young and a lot of people find that's she's irritating. She's perfect for this role..."ice cold."
This book/movie is by Steven Levenkron, Ph.D. (he treated Karen Carpenter). He also wrote The Best Little Girl in the World.
@blue1bubbles I have been cut for 3 years. On arms, wrists, legs, stomach... My parents don't know it even though we are very close. It IS possible for parents -to be blind. And... you're right with this 'full time job'. It's really hard to hide scars and pretend you're ok but after some months... years, you become the best actor ever.
sometimes i think some parents have no concept of just how painful it is to hear one parent critisizing the other and yo have to sit there and listen
I've been searching for this film for 7 years, I've remebered everything about it except for the name and now found it by chance. I love it and it made a great impact on me. Thank you a million times for putting it up.
Also the mother is horrible...
"scarification", & it's considered an art form for those who do it as they don't just make random slashes.
Yeah because they'd tailor an entire dance around one girl...so realistic.
Her eyebrow: - _^
Oh my god! I saw this years back, before going into hospital for cutting, and I have never been able to catch it again! I am soooo happy!
Can't believe Kimberlee (Dawn) was 20 years old when this movie was made... she looks much younger. A really good actress.
2:26- 2:34. The refrence to Princess Diana is very relevant because she had admitted to self injuring. I wonder what Rebecca would say if she found out that the person she admires did the same thing that she ridicules Dawn for doing.
everyone stop commenting about her eyebrow!!! its getting irritating!! when your stressed or angry your body raises an eyebrow!! its stress related!! its not her fault!!
Her mum: it'll be me, just like everything else around here.
She got that right. Everything revolves around her! When is she gonna get a grip of herself and not be so self-centered!?
I used to be a SI'er. Its very easy to continue to hurt yourself, even in situations that aren't that horrible! I thank Yahwea, though, for helping me to understand that hurting myself wasn't fixing my problems. Don't get me wrong, I can still feel the tearing of my skin and how euphoric it was in my time of "need." That, unfortunately, never goes away.
God, that moment with Dawn's mom describing sex between her and Dawn's father couldnt NOT have been more awkward. . .O_o if I had been Dawn I would've stuck my fingers in my ears and started shouting "La, la, la, la, la. . . I cant hear you!!!" I'm SO thankful my mom isnt like that. . .my mom is really cool actually (most of the time)
amazing movie. I have seen atleast 10 times. Beautiful music, amazing direction
I think the reaction when she cut herself for the first time is a bit Extreme
I like how everyone around her is always cutting something.
Thanks for the upload in good quality as well! This movie is ... just O_o
@blue1bubbles Parents usually don't know because people that cut themselves have learned how to hide it easily. Sometimes the parents are usually too busy to notice and that's one of the factors that lead to cutting. Not all people wear long sleeves for it; there are obviously different parts of your body you can cut. Sure, it can seem like a ful time job keeping cutting a secret, but sometimes it's not that hard and it can become the center of your life at the time, so it doesn't seem that hard
The therapist is played by actress Rhea Perlman (Cheers) and she's the ideal therapist. Having an office inside a mall is a great location. It's genius and also show's she cares. Where do teens "usually" love to go...the mall. Too bad therapists in the real word don't think of this. The book is called, “The luckiest girl in the world!” by Steven Levenkron.
The opening scene showing her ice skating is symbolic with cutting/self-injury. The blades on her ice skates cuts into the ice.
PARENTS
never diss your teen's
1. friends
2. boyfriend/girlfriend
3. music
when will they learn..
i love it too ruby :)
really nice movie. watched it over 3 times
lol "Bitch. Dont ever diss the princess of Wales" omg
Poor thing, I really can't stand her mother, I hated conversations like that, when I was a teenager.
I use to cut myself two years ago from all the stress and felt unwanted. But it's true what a commenter said before it takes a lot of strength and self willingness to completely stop. To be honest the thought gets into my head when something makes me said or a little depressed but I push it out of my mind. And like another person said there are ointments to make the scars smooth and not visible . Most of the ones in my arm are all gone and some you really have to be staring at my arm to find t
Cutting yourself because of someone is giving them the power over you.
I remember this movie I think it showed on Lifetime once or twice
Aw, I was just trying to find this movie and I gave up and started watching something else and this came up in the side bar, yay ^.^
I remember when I first saw this on TV, and I thought she was constantly arching her eyebrow on purpose. About halfway through, I realized that's just how they were. Creepy stuff.
her eyebrow tho
i love this movie.. last time i watched it was in november, so i'm watching it again.
i dont know if theres more like this, but i love movies like this (such as perfect body, odd girl out, thirteen, a secret between friends, for the love of nancy, sharing the secret, etc.)
i'm not sure if they all have the same producers but they seem related somehow.
"when you have sex once a month for 20 years maybe"- this conversation is super awkward XD
I know right? Don't nobody wanna hear that! Dawn didn't even ask about that lol!!
I hated how the mother responded when Dawn told her about Craig
so much more complicated than that, you have to understand body reactions and chemistry. More openly talked about now, but has been a problem for so long, and widely misunderstood.
the fact of the matter is a decent amount of people know i do, the real problem for people who cut is not those who ridicule them for doing it but reconciling that they will be seen as different for doing it, yes they have issues, but that is the reason they cut, that should not lead to another reason for them to dip deeper into the depressive chasms of ones own inner thoughts.
Why dont movies like this ever show girls with a ton of friends who self harm... they arent always lovely girls with no friends
Yes, why?!
@diagonal5 It's based on a book called "The Luckiest Girl In The World" by Steven Levenkron. :)
What is their problem? Self-harm. What a load of bullshit. That girl is worse than the others who tease her.
i friggin love this movie, this is my 6th time watching this movie!! i appsolutly love it! (:
some say instead of cutting yourself cut the ahole that mistreating you no dont do it look dont worry someone esle will because they will meet match im walking away leaving idio love yourself
You wont understand unless you've done it...but it requires a person to be in a dark, sad, angry state of mind to want to do it. It may be a good thing that you don't want to understand. No one should have to feel like they need to hurt themselves. Even if you don't get it though, being there for her is the best thing you can do. Its common for people to relapse. Just don't get upset or angry with her. Sounds like you're a great friend.
I hate the mom, the poor girl no wonder the poor girl is suffering a cutting disorder look at the awful family she has to put up with.
Everyone keeps saying that the mom was annoying. The little brother kinda got on my nerves. too. He was such a little wise ass. Made me wanna just smack him..
wow, that girl is so pretty.
i like her voice.
i know that the whole film has a disturbed tone to it, but i coudn't stop giggiling at her eyebrow :)
You're about to start high school and you're only thirteen??? :O Oh, and here's a tip I got from other cutters for removing scars: rub the scars with lemon juice for a bit. it works for some people. It' best to forget and erase the scars than to have to hide them for the rest of your life (especially when you are on the swim team). Hang in there. :)
I'm a cutter and they make it so dramatic when she is doing it, but its not really like that, you don't rock back and forth like a psycho. its a good movie, but they show it a little more dramatic than it is.
OMG THIS IS MY FAV MOVIE! i relate to it so much.........
dawns mother is Sean Young..... she was an unfortunate recent cast member of VH1 celebrity rehab.
i love this movie
everyone has problems. there are people who go through the same things in life that cutters go through or worse-- but they don't drown themselves in sorrows with a knife at their arm. (LAME)
focus on the good things in your life. be grateful you're fed and have somewhere to live. read the bible. do something w yourself.
i don't feel bad for most cutters.
@PeaceNdLovee I think the point of this exchange of words is to show how little interest the dad is showing in the upbringing of the children and that there is something wrong e.g. maybe he's having an affair. I don't know yet.
The title of this movie, as I knew it, was "Secret Cutting".
Okay, thank you once more :) And I speak french a little bit. So I should be fine, I hope. I'm dutch ;-)
Aw, I like Dawn's voice though. It's super cute.
but...in the movie, a simple bitchy girl seems like kind of a small issue to be cutting over. I guess more pressure was put on her than was shown?
@RandomSwedishGirl You have all of our support here, including mine.
Why do these movies always over exaggerate how mean kids are?
Love this film...it shows how bad cutting is. But i hate her mother she doesn't understand how difficult it is to stop this addiction. And....cutter will find a way to cut themselves! It doesn't matter if it is a scissors or just a fork!
Second time watching. It was a crazy trigger last time and I hope it's not the same this time--but literally, change her name from her name to my name... and it's exactly me..
3:10- :17 Even though this is a movie, this is what I want to say. Those girls picking on Dawn really need to shut the fuck up, especially the one that howled. I can't stand that. The second I hear that I told her to shut up.
maybe you should talk to someone? There is a better way.
It's dependence. Only talk can't help.
i have a love hate relationship with this movie, i mean i see what they tried to do here but honestly, they stick to this stereotype that self harmers are people with no friends , not "popular" in school,weridos that everyone makes fun of , as well as totally makes them look insane .honestly i dont get.
that pisses me off so much ! no surprise self harming is still a tabu since its being presented that way .
ya, and it also depends how sensitive person is and self confidant...but not many teenagers are strong to avoid consults from other kids at this age. honestly, i hated highschool cause i was different from other girls, just because i didnt want to be clone. but i didnt have on my mind to hurt myself, but i waited and tried to become better than them, and show them "who's the boss now", now after 8 years, i did show them who i really am and how lame they where and stayed that way.
When you get to 10th grade, people really aren't that bad. There's a trend you see in schools these days where once a grade hits a certain age, say when they go into the 10th or 9th grade, people drop out of the hierarchy system and everybody becomes friends because they're mature enough to see past all the bullshit. Movies depict an unrealistic picture of what High school is like for younger people.
Im a teen myself and I think that the way they put this movie across was wrong.. because they made the girl look like a serious freak.. which make others think that people who self cut are freaks and that was wrong!! They should have made the movie in which kids and teens can relate to the character not make them feel that they are a freak like this girl because they self cut like her!!
Does anyone else agree?
This is a great story line, but it was filmed in the wrong time period. When this first came out in 2000 many people didn't understand cutting and exactly why people do it, so many of the scenes and the people in it are all wrong and messed up the movie completley. Cutting, burning, and other kinds of self mutilation are now commonly talked about and treated. Back then if you did it, you were either a "freak" or people just told you to stop. Great story and meaning, badly portrayed.
@stacks6969allday people have different issues and handle them differently and self-harming like you said can become an addiction just like drinking and drugs. For people that supposedly want attention and love, they sure work hard to hide the evidence that would "earn' them that. I had to work hard to get my best friend to understand and she sure as hell didn't want a hug or arm around her shoulder. She even decked me in the face a few times when we first met whenever I tried to comfort her.
@ingeloveswobbly ight im not judgeing aight all im saying is cutting is not the answer whats cutting gonna do? is ur problem gonna be gone after u cut? no it will always be there now there are things you can do to get rid of the pain instead of causeing more of it and the more u cut the more ur body looks ugly the more pain u feel about urself so doing something else is the answer cause every time u cut u just add more pain on for later
@ingeloveswobbly and another thing i have been through alot more shit them most people ive seen my family murderd in front of me when i was 10 years old and i dont fucking cut my self there are alot more things to do to hide the pain and cutting ur self is not the right answer all it does is cause more pain phyisically and the pain mentally never goes away and ur emotions fade away but there is alot more things to do when ur depressed i wanna hear ur problems its not worth cutting urself over
@ingeloveswobbly well everything that i said is scientifically prooved in the human mind when someone does it then there friends come and put an arm arround them well after that they seem to want that attention again and again and they also like the rush that they get they get the release of the pain they have inside but really all there doing is making more pain it dont go away and i aint judgeing noone im stateing facts cutters seek attention to them selfs u might not thing so but its true
wow its like she always gets intrupted all the time like the mom and dad realy dont Care what she has to say. maybe that is why she is cutting herself and she might be sufferning from depression also with out realy knowning it. I had a friend that was cutting himself and come to find out he was depressed realy bad and he hid it all realy well, I am the one that got him help after I saw his arms and how beat up they where. it wasnt fun he hated me for interfearning at first but then thanked me!
Why do people dislike the acting? Or the whole movie?
Ofcourse it's not that good as da vinci code or any little bit worse movie, but it's pretty good still. I haven't seen a lot of movies with cutting.. And yeah she could hide her cuts better, and not cut all over her body SO aggressively, 'cause I don't think that someone can cause so much pain for herself.. It's possible, but still. I hope someone understands what i mean.
My family is like this, but it's both parents. I'm surprised I haven't cut myself. My mom controls me,and my dad babies me and both have different tempers. I am 20 -years-old and inside I feel like a scared and lonely child. Now it's not always my parents' fault, because I chose not to move out yet and not to drive. I let people walk all over me, but I think I might be getting better.
i have many friends who well cut and injuring them selfs so nobody that havent cut and deald with it..they should just shut up i´ve dealed with cutting but i dint understand it until i got so much presure and pain inside me so i cut. me and my friends were strong tho i was the one who "was" strong and was there for my friends. but in reallyty I was drowning in sorrow so you who dont cut dont start and if your friends are doing it be there for them instead of dissing them trust me they ned you
I just stopped cutting last year and beating myself up early this year (no thanks to my therapist at all, she only made matters worse and I'd just go and hurt myself even more) and I'm proud of myself, because for so long I believed I would never be able to break the cycle and yet here I am today self harm free.
Anyone can stop hurting themselves, it may take time and some hard work and effot, you will have relapses but eventually if you stick to it you'll get there. YOU CAN STOP IT!!!
one reason why the movie is quite dramatic may be because in the book this is based on by Steven Levenkron, the girl is not in any way an 'average' or 'standard' type (whatever that is).
Shes a championship skater, has suffered extensive physical abuse, and when she cuts she completely dissociates. she also has manic episodes. suggesting she also May also have a severe personality disorder.
@stacks6969allday
Self harm is a coping mechanism, and obviously coping mechanisms do not solve problems. The point of any coping mechanism is to help the person to deal with their emotions. People usually turn to self harm when nothing else works, such as in time of stress. When people are in stress, they may not be thinking clearly. Also, self harm does release endorphins, which is why a lot of people who cut, burn, hit, etc. report feeling high, calm, numb, etc.
I was trying ofr the past hr to find this movie! :D It's an awesome movie :)
What does triggering mean? Theres an american commentating the french tennis tornament, and 1 comment was Ferrar (spa player) was going to pull the trigger (did he have a gun down his pants?) In fact this commentator has completley lost all of us in my local pub in London UK. We dont know what he`s talking about. What the hell is he onn.
@soniador96 hun if you don't feel comfortable talking to a counselor call a hotline. They are very helpful they will just sit and listen for hours if you like and everything is extremely CONFIDENTIAL even the stuff you may say about being abused. They won't force you to tell anyone they let you make that decision on your own. Give one of them a try.
Oops. I meant Holly Hunter. ;)
Here is a list I came up with for movies that feature cutting (I've not seen most of them):
Wristcutters (2006)
Girl, Interrupted (1999)
Secretary (2002)
28 Days (2000)
Intensity (1997)
Dans Ma Peau (2002)
The Virgin Suicides (1999)
Don't forget Degrassi the Next Generation("Whisper To A Scream" and "Anywhere I Lay My Head")
I agree, and if you saw the first one I commented about you would see how people can be uncivilized. I'm not exempt either but there's a point that just makes people seem ignorant, and wasting time watching what they are only going to comment bad on, make fun of, or be crude, the origional reason for my Reply.
As for the body being ugly; that's a matter of opinion. I have scars on my both, and my boyfriend happens to like them. Some people are able to love people for who they are, even if they may have perfections such as scars, pimples, etc. You may think scars are ugly, but that's not a opinion that is shared by everyone.
the person was wrong, because bullied boys empty boys are recognized it is just our society expects them to express it differently. good point about the person with friends. Their are so man topics or issues in a teens life. Are they wrong for making school friends a priority?
not always true... i never has any friends when i was younger, but as i went through senior school i developed tight friendships with a close group of friends i was cutting. i started when i was 12, and im almost 18 and even now when life seems good i still cant stop. there's just emptiness inside.
Triggering means, it may cause a negative reaction or "trigger" a memory and feeling. Which means it may bring these memories or feelings back or to you. If someone is watching this movie, and is going through a self-harm addiction, then it may trigger them to relapse.
everyone in the english speaking world knows who princess diana is. i was only two when she passed away,but i stilll know who she is. she was a beautiful woman. she died in a car crash in paris on 31st august 1997. prince william and prince harry are her two sons.
@The1foxycougar You're right, it did hurt. But i guess at the moment, I didn't really think about the pain or the consequences of having scars on my arms probably for the rest of my life. I just felt like maybe if I could destroy a little piece of myself, it would make me feel better, I guess.
@blue1bubbles It's amazing what parents will ignore. I never tried to cover up my cuts or scars and some of them were horrible. I just always had some stupid excuse for how I got them "I cut it on a fence... i fell in the shower..." still my parents had no idea until I was hospitalized.
OH! And does anyone knw what that Lifetime movie is thats about a girl who tries to be friends with the populars, they turn on her, including her old friends. she cuts her hair and takes pills, tries to commit suicide. sorry for the bad explaining, i loved it and cant remember it now D:
The mother - talk about passive aggression. No one should ever dump their frustrations on their kids like that. The way she talked about the dad - so humiliating, especially with him listening. She comes across like those girls from the high school who laughed at the wolf idea.
@salzwell25 you will get mixed responses from that question I can tell you, it depends what end of the spectrum you talk to, speaking as a victim though yes girls can be worse than that even. But someone who is being that mean won't even realise what they are doing :)