My complete lack of social skills and absence of real close relationships in my life became far more apparent when I turned 21 as the excuse of being an awkward teenager disappeared
Where are my 1999 borns Squad?? For me 21 Sucks for now..and when I see other 21 year olds killing it whether is music or the internet, I feel useless.
I'm 99er also, and there are always going to be people who are more successful our age. I'm starting to finally feel like I'm getting closer to envisioning what I actually want out of life, how I want to live. So even if I'm not there yet, as my vision crystallizes I feel that I will be able to take action to move in a direction that makes me happy. Once I can do that, success won't matter to me. I think
Same man, I feel like I have no real talent. Even when someone calls me smart or intelligent, I still have no idea how I'm gonna get through life. #99Squad
Your journey is not theirs! You arent useless you're simply on a different path it's not you that feels useless it's your ego because the ego likes to compete, channel it out and focus on your passions and you will be better off, rule no.1 you cant quench the thirst of the ego
i think when you're young you go to school and have a sense of "progression" in life because you are doing what you are suppose to do but when you reach that age where you are done w all your studies and its time to work for a living there is this one point when everyday feels the same...( you wake up get ready for work, come home , eat, sleep wake up again and so on) and deep down you get depressed because you are stuck in a loop...
Ebby Arts I’d say start reading books and get as much experience in the right things as much as possible. You’re still REALLY young, take time as it comes, day by day. Good luck!
Then do what you love to do and you won’t work a day in your life, I know it’s easier said than done but I also believe in the power of manifestation and the law of attraction, also travel and do fun things you love
I've wanted time to slow down since I was 17. So anxious about wasting time... I'm soon turning 21 and recently fixed up my diet because I think I am developing diabetes. I'm a hardcore hypochondriac and more scared of going to hospitals than dying.
Or you could read the Bible and you will learn that the only one who can take away all your anxiousness and all other things that worry you is Jesus Christ. God bless you Sara❤️
Or you could read the Bible and you will learn that the only one who can take away all your anxiousness and all other things that worry you is Jesus Christ. God bless you Sara❤️
Or you could read the Bible and you will learn that the only one who can take away all your anxiousness and all other things that worry you is Jesus Christ. God bless you Sara❤️
Or you could read the Bible and you will learn that the only one who can take away all your anxiousness and all other things that worry you, is Jesus Christ. God bless you Sara❤️
I’ve just turned 23 and how true this is. I have nothing to look forward too in life except perhaps getting married and I’ve started thinking about getting older and turning 30...40 and thinking about getting sick and old. This video was spot on.
Simplifying life is a very dangerous and depressing way to look at things, done it myself when I was 19, 21 now and life has suddenly beginning to slowdown because I’ve changed my perspective and mindset, do what u love to do and find your twin flame and spread love and give out good energy remember our minds are so strong look into the laws of attraction and manifestation
Look inward what are your passions? Once you figure out your passions aim to make them your profession that way you will never work a day In your life because you'll love what you do, theres so much more to life than just getting married, like feeling the crisp winter air on your face as you walk down a leaf littered trail bursting with vibrancy, sharing your passion with like minded people (the internet is a wonderful tool...can also be harsh though), I'm 22 you're 23 our lives have just begun, some people find success in their teens some only find it in their retirement but life is not so linear as this, if you're worried about your health invest in your health now for later, it's never too late! You may simply be due a lifestyle change
Appreciate every year you get on this earth. Some people will never experience growing up, growing old. Some never survive through the baby year and some will never turn 18. Life is what you make it out to be. Travel, eat good food, experience, go hiking if you into nature, taste different wine's, be with friends, watch good movies, safe up and buy a car, take classes and learn something you always wanted to learn. Maybe a new language or cook making French food.
I turned 21 in January, and I can relate to every single thought you’re expressing. Every single one. I want time to slow down so badly, but it just seems to go by faster.
And the older you get, the faster it does go. People always said that to me, and I never believed it until it started happening. Now I’m 44, and the passing of time is terrifying when I think about it, so I try not to.
This girl is so sweet. I’m 21 and I identify a lot with her way of thinking and all those things she worries, I feel calmed for not being the only one.
If you think you'll get old fast, then truth is, this will happen even faster. Just take whatever you can and always live the present. Don't postpone until later.
Man your videos are sooo real.. Sometimes before I go to sleep, I imagine that I won't wake up. and I wonder what it'll be like the last time I close my eyes. Super strange and I don't want to think about it but it just happens. Same for my parents as well. but yeah all these are valid thoughts and very well articulated. Difficult thoughts to put into words I think. Thank you for sharing!
i'm either at work or doing college classwork. now with the quarantine i'm just mostly watching youtube , netflix etc. i feel like i'm wasting my youth ...
If you’re happy doing it you’re already winning, if not work hard and do what you love to do so u can support yourself financially as well, the clubs and parties will always be there, work to become a better person and remember you’re not missing out on everything just live life
It's liberating to come to a point where you no longer worry about the wasting of time. Did you have deep thoughts today? Productive! Productivity can be abstract and unconventional and can function any way that you define it. Just ask yourself what would feed you right now, and even if that's just self care, it's okay! It's a step. You don't have to have it all figured out right now and time will piece it all together...
I'm 22 right now and I often think of death I've thought of death a lot since 18 to be honest and quite often my own, not in a depressed way more of a spiritual look at it as I've been looking into buddhism and meditation, my outlook on it has come to this, who I am as a person is a constructed ideology but that is not who I am at my essence, at my essence I am the energy I take in and I am the elements that make up our very universe and so are you. Our ego leads us into this false idea of 'reality' as an individual but this is simply a construct, and it's a construct that doesnt like the idea of not existing which is why the idea of death scares many, the ego likes control and death is one thing it cannot. Science dictates that energy cannot be created or destroyed and so when my ego dies my energy will simply move on and I will return back to the universe from which I came, I applied this logic to my nan passing away a few years ago and i was at peace with the situation, I understood that she never really died, she simply moved on just as I will when my Time comes, when will that be? Who knows but that's why I always aim to live within the moment so that when the time does come, it will be okay...the idea of death is a pretty good motivator for some, I know I've gotten my shit together realising how quick this experience we call life goes
I can really relate allot to all of what your saying here. I'm now 20 myself, feeling lost almost 80% of my time. Cut of all of my unauthentic friends(all my friends). I've set high standards for myself. But I don't really know what move to make. This way I keep creating conflict within myself. I feel that I'm wasting almost every minute, and I fear not to meet the people I want to bring into my life.
20 here as well, did the exact same as you and cut out all the inauthentic people, which happened to be the vast majority. now i’m incredibly depressed and lost with zero motivation. i’m just tired idk
@@twinkincarnate try to find your passion and make your own way into it, eventually, you'll find people who you will synchronize with, I strongly believe.
I turn 21 in 4 days. It's one of the scariest feelings I've felt in a while. I often find myself comparing my life to the others around me... wondering why I'm not as well put together as they are. I have no direction in life and all these harsh realities are crashing into my mind all at once. I'm completely and utterly terrified.
Nothing has summed up how I feel better than this! I completely understand how you're feeling, I feel exactly the same way, we just have to figure out life
21 is really a coming of age. And was the official adult age decades ago in some places for all rights in life. 21 and 25 are those awkward ages where people expect more of you, you are right. But you are still young so hard to learn quick without trials of life.
This was the first video of yours that I saw. And, I agreed with a lot of what you said here. When I was 20 years old I was super involved and cared mostly about my friendships and when I turned 21 (in quarantine) I suddenly became overwhelmed with the idea of aging, of being friendless in my 20's, of being a failure, of watching my parents die etc.. I had to stop myself and realize that all of these thoughts are mostly sad and overwhelming because of the times we are in- of the very isolating, thought-provoking COVID-pandemic times. When we are 21 we are supposed to be taking risks, studying hard, being carefree and oblivious of the harder things in life (for the most part) whilst working hard to prepare for some sort of broad and cushy future. When I saw your video about having "no friends at 21" it made perfect sense to me why you think the way you do (a lot like I do now)- a lot deeper and more mature than most people your age, maybe a little bit more depressed in nature- because you are isolated and not living up to your potential. Some advice- having human beings around you is important, even if they don't "get" you entirely, I've found. Working hard to maintain relationships, working hard to put yourself out there, inviting people to coffee, going out of your comfort zone is important, if not necessary, to a happy 20's, and to a happy life. And, I encourage all of you lonely deep thinkers to practice a social life lest your thoughts get to you. It will be painfully uncomfortable at first but I swear to you- it gets easier. Furthermore, you seem fairly intelligent. And, I heard that you didn't go to Uni for fear of being a failure. But, I implore you to try it out before it's too late. You are young and you might become increasingly reclusive, depressed, and maybe even self-loathing if you don't grant yourself the opportunity to live up to your own potential. When I was 18 I dropped out of school and became a bartender and grew to think too deep for my own good, around people who couldn't care less, and it led me in the wrong direction. Luckily, my father encouraged me to reapply to school. I go to NYU now, I have a 3.9 GPA, and I am hoping to go to law school after this year. Having a goal, one worthy of my own intelligence and time, was super important to improving my life- socially and otherwise. I started working out, I started studying diligently, I am not one of those 21-year-old CEO's on Instagram, but I am getting somewhere big because I took risks, some that were painful to take in the moments in which I took them, that I cannot be more grateful now that I did because, to be honest with myself, bartending with high school dropouts would have done me no good in the long term. This isn't to say that there is anything wrong with people who make the conscious choice to do the less ambitious things- thankfully, we are all very different people with different needs and bartending might be the perfect choice for someone else. But, it is to say that it is of paramount importance that you "know thyself", which I think is a huge mission that your later teens and 20's are meant to be dedicated to. Essentially, know your limits, know your faults, and know what you need to do to live the most fulfilling life for you (all of these things you will find only through taking risks and going out of your own comfort zone, by the way)- this might mean going out of your comfort zone to invite people to coffee, going out of your comfort zone to apply for a college scholarship and attend a 4-year Uni. For anyone still reading, if any of this speaks to you please read 12 Rules for Life by Jordan Peterson. It essentially talks about the value in setting and achieving actually-achievable goals. Reading his book was one of the integral steps that I took in my journey to better myself, and is one of the reasons why I was able to accomplish all that I have today (even though I am depressed and isolated now). We won't all be Kylie Jenner CEO's at 23, but that is perfectly fine. Having goals that you are working towards (some achievable, some reaches) are important in keeping you motivated and keeping you healthy- mind and body. Don't compare yourself to anyone other than yourself, continue to improve and push yourself and enjoy your 20's, enjoy your time, to the best of your capacity by granting it real meaning through your own taking responsibility for your own life.
I’m not sure where I need to start. You have had a very meaningful impact on me. I’m twice your age but you have changed something in me and how I see the world and my life. I find myself watching all of your videos starting with the the I’m 21 years old and I have no friends. There is something very interesting about you and I think you are an old soul. You’ve awakened something in me and I want to thank you for that. ❤️
Myra is definitely a wonderful old soul. Really appreciate what you are doing here. Really helpfull. And yes. Sometimes older people also don't know where their life is heading. I have done a lot of soul searching recently. I know certain things in my life has to change to ensure that I get more out of life. As life is not going to get any easier as we know. But I believe we can grow and make positive changes at any age. So thank you Myra for helping me on this journey to become a better version of myself. As I realise that I have to love myself if I want others to love me. And I have to accept and respect myself if I want others to respect and accept me. And I need to overcome what is holding me back in life. FEAR of rejection and FEAR of failure and general anxiety and lack of confidence in a lot of aspects of my life. But it can change. And I believe it will.
I recently subscribed to this channel. After watching a few videos, in one of them Myra mentioned that most of her subscribers range from their 20s to 30s. I thought i must be the only 40 year old here. Nice to know I'm not alone lol.
I'm 34 and I can tell you these worries stay with you. You just have to jump into things, try not to worry as much, and just live life the best you can. You realize your parents wont be around much longer so regardless of what they say or do make time for them.
This video is spot on. I want to share my perspective. I'm 21 years and 6 months old. The reality of life has now hit me like a bus. I frequently keep thinking to myself...it was never like that. Life was never this stressful. I had no idea life was this way. Up until I was 19, life was so different. And like this video mentioned, things are starting to speed up. Decisions have to be made - big ones, the right ones. There is a lot more to be responsible for. Gone are the days of being carefree. These are all realizations that feel hard to comprehend. I miss being carefree with my friends. I had nothing to worry about. At all. Had no idea what real life is all about.
@@myrawest thanks Myra. I hope you're doing well and that everything is working out for you now♡. Saw your video on not having friends. I know what that feels like personally. I hope things are better for you now♡ hopefully soon you find the right people to connect with who would love you for the rest for your life ×
I’m turning 20 in around 3 weeks. It’s as exciting as it is also scary in a sense. Years go by fast, it’s scary to not know what death is like or when it could happen. That’s probably my deepest fear. I feel like once you hit 20 and upwards the only way you can stay consistently ‘happy’ or at least enjoy life more is by setting goals and then reaching them. Could be reading books, starting a business, getting fit and healthy, etc... but with each goal there’s a sense of satisfaction and a satisfaction good enough to keep us going ahead with time/the years. From 21 I do believe that time will go by faster, only because there is so much more going on. Time is neither fast or slow, it’s just time, a neutral element of life. Anyway, yeah, I get what you’re saying, it’s a weird feeling.
A good way for me to deal with depression or thoughts like that is to remember that i could die tomorrow. It helps to remind you shit is not worth spending energy on that you dont care about. And to appreciate the little things which in turn draws bigger and better things into your life
About the diseases you mentioned, there are ways to keep this under control. Cancer can happen at any age, so don't look at this like its necessarily an age issue. One of my classmates mysteriously disappeared around seventh grade, and by eighth grade, it was reported that he was being home-schooled while receiving chemo treatments. The trick with diabetes and heart-disease is to keep weight under control, and many times, people just completely let this go in their twenties and beyond. I knew a lot of guys in their twenties that spent their weekends pounding down beer after beer at the local bars/micro-breweries here in Cleveland, and thus, managed to develop some very noticeable protruding bellies. Don't be one of these people. I'm thinner now at 35 than I was at 21, unlike my beer-chugging peers some of whom have since been put on blood pressure medication. They can't run, ride scooters, or do handstands like I still can. Just exercise regularly and maintain a healthy diet. This will greatly alleviate 95% of future health problems. I hope this helps...
Woah. I turned 21 a few months ago and I thought I was the only one going through this paradigm. The whole aging/thinking about death and having to figure out what you wanna do with your life is real. Thanks so much for sharing!! Now if only we could all figure this whole ‘life’ thing out..
I'm 20 and I want time to slow down... more and more responsibility, more burden on shoulders, I see more and more how hard life is, and I realize that we'll soon be gone even after all of that suffering. So I get what you mean, if its any consolation I think about my 30s and how I'll feel then and it makes me appreciate where I'm at right now.
I'm a 21 year old male and I'm almost blown away from the things you think about and how pure your personality seems. I have never met a girl that thinks in even the same ball park that I do but you do. You seem like an amazing person and I look forward and hope to see more videos.
This is spot on ! I'm 21 now and I realized how fast a year goes by, then two, then three... I want time to slow down, I'm kinda scared of getting older and I feel like I don't have enough time to figure everything out :/ also witg this pandemic I feel like I wasted a year in my life that was supposed to be one of the best years of my life :( 21 is always viewed as the age when one should go on adventures, experiment, just be young and free. Well us 1999 kids missed out on all these possible experiences and adventures because we are stuck in this pandemic 😢
Same goes for everyone who's around 21 right now. I bet 18,19,20,22 and 23 year olds feel the same. Those are the ages when one is supposed to have new experiences, enjoy life, go out and socialize... doing these things is nearly impossible since March 2020
This is the most real video I have ever seen on TH-cam. I'm twenty years old and thinking about these things too, it makes it good to know that there are more people around the world who share the same feelings and thoughts ...
I will be 21 in 6 months and calling myself an adult feels like a joke. I still feel the same as I always have, maybe I will always feel young at heart.
The year I was 21 in was by far the best year of my life. It is the year I incorporated some positivity in my life. I stopped thinking about death and how lonely I felt. I really just put those thoughts in box inside my brain, it's easy to say but it can be possible. I am glad to have found your video for insight!
Im turning 21 in two weeks I have been thinking for the past two months like damn I really was rushing to grow up when I was younger I regret it now but it is what it is we gotta grow up some day
My parents are also in their 60s (I am 21) and my mom has a serious degenerative illness. When you said you started thinking about death/your parents dying, that truly hit home for me. I also think about the diseases too... But I guess we can't live our life that way when we always focus on those things... It's hard though. Had all these thoughts
You strike as a person who can observe 'the esence of things'. Its actually a gift, though in some ways a 'curse' as you will be constantly spotting the nuances in life that are not super happy (like... yes by nature our parents will die, most likely in our lifetime and yes... we will die). And... any term ending with 'ism' is a real world :) well... at least if the person who uses it has many K's of followers. Dont forget that 21 is easiliy today about a quarter of your life. There are at least 10 'age groups' above you. You would soon see that age actually matters less once you are well into adulthood. Nice video.
We have very similar "traits"? not sure how to call this? 1. Neglect from parents. 2. Having a hard time with making "good friends", not just friends/classmates/people you know. 3. Social anxiety. 4. All this you mentioned in this video, but I turned 20 about almost half a year ago. I burned out starting on an education at 17, since then I have been "taking time off, for myself" not only to live a little, but mostly to find myself, figure myself out and work on myself, like social anxiety and many other things. That limits my life and things I don't yet undersand about myself but know is a must, to this point! I am kind of eager to know more about you, I haven't yet met anyone with so many similarities of my own, and I have talked to a lot of people, especially online (social anxiety), this is interesting and very knowledgable form what you have figured out and learned from these "situations". :) Also I am rooting on you, I know how hard life can be...!
21 sucks. In my point of view, I’ve been the daughter for the past 20 years, but suddenly, when I turned 21, I started seeing myself more like my mother and realizing that life’s going too fast and in a few years I’ll be a mother and have a family. It scares me to think that right now I’m living my life and making it on my own. I’m scared of in 15 years look at my life and don’t like what I’ve made of it. I’m scared of wasting my time and not getting happy in the future with things I make today and consider to be right for me.
The moment i turned 18 i already wanted to go back. Im 21 now but im the same guy that i was when i was 18. I think people don't really mature ,they just pretend that they have.
I totally agree with you 💯. I feel like I just turned 27 going 28 in 7 month it's scary. Time really just fly by and our mind set is just following behind. Life is kinda sad in reality.
Gonna be 21 soon, haven't achieved anything in life... Feel like waste of space and I have been wasting my time.. I also feel like I haven't matured or anything
I’m 19 and my parents are in their late 50s, I also have a lot of anxiety about my parents dying (my mum had a stroke last year) and and I feel hopeless
@@notsureiL if u die before ur parents, ur parents will also have to got through the same trauma as u would do...better accept it and try to spend more time with them...and tell them u love them ...
So true. Many of us 'adults' often don't really know what we're doing. Just turned 51 and decided to return to 'organic farmers market - market gardening.' Yet another radical 'about turn shift' in my life. (Currently caring for hundreds of parrots, of all things!) Best that I do what I love doing - growing nutritious local veges (and flowers/beekeeping etc) for the good folk around me. No worries about health, age, mortality though. Made good choices, health wise, so always healthy, fit strong etc. We do have a choice, you know. Infirmity and deterioration aren't as inevitable as many think. As for 'death', I'm rather curious to see whats on the other side. No hurry though.
this is strangely accurate... i’m glad i came across this video it makes me feel not alone so thanks for saying n admitting the things which i am scared of saying out loud
We live in a culture that worships youth. I was more obsessed/ anxious about aging, at your age, than I am now (nearly 40). After a while, you stop caring about numbers, and the more important stuff becomes more important. Like your happiness and wellbeing. You also stop caring about what others think. I feel younger now, than I did when I was younger. It's all relative. Stop sweating the small stuff and be joyful about being alive!
That’s scary. As a kid, each transition, from elementary, to middle, to high school was done for me. I have to know my route through life; like a fixed path from point A to B. But as a 22 year old it really does seem that I’m going to be thrusted into the unknown, with no fixed path. I’ve realized that the only real path there is the one you make for yourself. However, along the path chosen, I’ve found obstacles from family and friends who doubt that I could make it to point B. And doubting my path is the worst thing ever. I feel lost and confused. I have something tentative; a hopeful route, then doubt casts it by the wayside. But I guess that’s supposed to happen...
Ooft that death point is REAL. I’m also 21 though that’s probably been on my mind since I was 18 ahaha. I think I’m slowly learning day by day that when the thoughts come into your brain you just need to acknowledge them and set them free. Don’t let them stay on your mind. Easier said than done though 😌 It’s probably really good that you’re talking about these feelings at the very least. Thanks for sharing
Yeah, that is true, you want to be an adult when you're a kid, then it gets scary when you get there, death an be a real worry too, not talked about by many, but you are only worrying as everyone else does, somethings are more important, but the core worries are there with everyone. You are very mature in your thinking, but your fears can be a draw back, scary time of life to turn 21, even 18 is tough, every experience is a learning curve, go for it.
It is good that you have awareness and compassion with your parents wellbeing. Thats the first priority to consider followed by your progression in life.
Ah, you make me feel so old--I just turned 60! It sounds trite but age is just a number. I think relatively few people truly know what they want to be when they grow up. I think a lot of us kind of do what's expected. Me, since I was six y/o I knew I would go to college but for what, I didn't really know. I was always good in math and science so that's the route I followed. I've always thought being an air traffic controller would be an interesting job, or the person who gets to stand on the ground with the orange cones signaling in big airplanes. I think it's so cool how you loaded up your little car and took off to California. Don't worry too much about figuring things out so long as you have enough to take care of yourself. And you are doing something--you are challenging yourself and being part of life, you are getting through the anxiety brought on my being in the midst of some horrific fires in a healthy way (i.e., reaching out for support on TH-cam). Be well.
Spot on. I've thought about all those things at one point or another, but I never associated them to aging, but you're totally right. I never thought about any of those things as a teenager.
Age is but a number. There are people that have spent decades alive and not lived a day. And there are young people aligining all the small things so when the big things come, any negative impact is minimalised. Wisdom is defined as applied knowledge. Thanks for sharing your wisdom.
When you think about it. Time begins to move faster as we get older because a year becomes a smaller percentage of your life. When we are children a year seemed like it went on forever and now a year feels it goes by in a flash. I stopped to think about it and now I look at a clock and think of a minute as a year and where am I on that clock and how should I make the best of every minute (year). Most of us get 60 really good minutes and after that health begins to become more of an issue. On average most of us get an hour and fifteen minutes. So you are 21 minutes in Myra. Make the best of it.
I’m 18, covid made it so I have to stay with my parents the first semester of college and still having to feel like a child. I have a part time job but living with them I can’t shake the mindset of me still being a kid. I really want to live on my own in college but I don’t know when that is going to happen. Hopefully next semester. I want to be my own person and be able to mature. Also your voice is really relaxing and nice to listen to.
Thankyou, tomorrow is my 21th birthday and I’m actually quite confused, as I want to stop time too. Indeed as a child, I couldn’t wait till I was older, but now I wish I could do it all over again. I didn’t make much of my teenage years due to depression and I feel like I missed out on a lot. But I couldn’t have done better. I was so depressed. Time for a change. Also looking back, when I was 17 / 18 I was pretty immature. Glad not to be alone.
I didn't know we're in the same age...you seem level-headed compared to me (even if you think you're not haha), the restful energy I sense watching your videos is nice..you seem to be a nice human being I'm glad I found your channel It's actually a difficult time to me..I feel lost and overwhelmed and I found myself fluctuating between what I should do and some existential questions I have. I'm longing to find peace and live in the present moment which is (surprisingly enough lol) all what I have. I am sure that you may have been in same of these tough times too. I hope the best for all of us
This video is like a wake up call. Everyone here watching this video and commenting are very relatable to her. The people your looking for are all here
Well it certainly sounds like you were more mature than I ever was at the age of 21! I was in uni at that time and I had no clue what I wanted to do with my life. I was living 'in the moment' pretty much without much care in the world. Took me a while to 'grow up' but I finally did.. I think ;)
The truth about life what I learn is that if you love something. Fight for it. Even when it hurts. Keep on going. Also life is beautiful. Life is a gift that keeps on giving. And my grandmother once said. Death is just a part of life and it something not to be afraid of. I know that pain of death. My biggest lost was losing that love that past away
I've just turned 21 3 months ago and I can't help but wonder how you snuck into my mind to dig up all thoses points in your video haha, especially with health and death - the fear and anxiety itself sometimes feels like a disease and that's the worst thing I think. Here's to hoping 22 is a little more reckless and optimistic year!
In 3 days I will be 30 years old but for some reason I feel that my THIRD EYE has finally opened xD Still wondering,still searching, still hurt but much more relaxed and calm...For the first time in my life I feel like I have complete control over my thoughts and emotions!I don't worry anymore about the future because now is the future!!!
The more things you do, the slower time does... Worrying... never, never, ever... fixed anything... so don't do it. I am 57 and in my mind.. I feel the same way I did when I was 21... sure.. the vehicle that carries my brain around has a little.. "wear and tear"... but the engine is fine..
I just turned 21 a few days ago and yea I’ve thought about how I’m getting older and sometimes I still feel like I was 16 yesterday but time does move fast and having a good mindset in today’s cold world is very important times aren’t like when 90’s kids were 21 it’s way different. So far I can say I’ve experienced a lot and done a lot not many others can say they’ve done and for that I’m grateful and can’t complain. I have a few big things coming up in the next two months so Let’s see what 21 has in store for me .
Oh my god I am SO SO SO glad you spoke about the death thing. I 100% relate to this and I've never heard anyone else say this before. I think about that so muchhhhh. Damn... hallelujah - I'm not crazy/delusional/prophetically anticipating something. Okay we're similiar and you make me laugh.
Girl you have such a sweet and precious spirit. Remember Jesus loves you and he will help you in times of trouble. Your channel crossed my path for some reason, I don’t know why, I’m bound to figure it out tho. Maybe God is doing something I don’t know about in my life. Anything is possible with God! I’m 20 , I can 100% relate to you tho! I have seen your other videos I have just lost contact with a few friends and now I’m alone. I have even been kicked out of a couple churches last year . I also suffer from extreme loneliness too! When I was a kid and teen I always had acquaintances not close friends I was more of a friend to my school teachers than anybody else! Always left alone eating lunch in school, I just could not click with people. I am subscribed to you now!
hai myra, beware of student debt, better take several steps back and what action to take before accruing huge debt commitment. Have a program and milestone.
# 2, 4, & 5 are facts bruh, besides that I love being grown, I get to do whatever I want and the funny thing is everything I want to do doesn't involve being rich to do.
My complete lack of social skills and absence of real close relationships in my life became far more apparent when I turned 21 as the excuse of being an awkward teenager disappeared
Hope things get better soon :)
Felt this😭
Hits deep. Glad to know I'm not the only one
Where are my 1999 borns Squad??
For me 21 Sucks for now..and when I see other 21 year olds killing it whether is music or the internet, I feel useless.
99 squad eshketit
hey i’m here lol. yup it sucks for me too, I hated my birthday and still can’t believe that i’m not a teenager anymore rip
I'm 99er also, and there are always going to be people who are more successful our age. I'm starting to finally feel like I'm getting closer to envisioning what I actually want out of life, how I want to live. So even if I'm not there yet, as my vision crystallizes I feel that I will be able to take action to move in a direction that makes me happy. Once I can do that, success won't matter to me. I think
Same man, I feel like I have no real talent. Even when someone calls me smart or intelligent, I still have no idea how I'm gonna get through life. #99Squad
Your journey is not theirs! You arent useless you're simply on a different path it's not you that feels useless it's your ego because the ego likes to compete, channel it out and focus on your passions and you will be better off, rule no.1 you cant quench the thirst of the ego
i think when you're young you go to school and have a sense of "progression" in life because you are doing what you are suppose to do but when you reach that age where you are done w all your studies and its time to work for a living there is this one point when everyday feels the same...( you wake up get ready for work, come home , eat, sleep wake up again and so on) and deep down you get depressed because you are stuck in a loop...
Ebby Arts I’d say start reading books and get as much experience in the right things as much as possible. You’re still REALLY young, take time as it comes, day by day. Good luck!
Then do what you love to do and you won’t work a day in your life, I know it’s easier said than done but I also believe in the power of manifestation and the law of attraction, also travel and do fun things you love
Same here Danny, I am too afraid of the loop and I don't know how I'm gonna escape it, Im 21 too.
this is 100% facts.
@Social Outcast haha well said...
"adults don't know what they're doing" THAT part. when that reality hit me...WHEW. It makes me worry and feel relieved at the same time.
I've wanted time to slow down since I was 17. So anxious about wasting time... I'm soon turning 21 and recently fixed up my diet because I think I am developing diabetes. I'm a hardcore hypochondriac and more scared of going to hospitals than dying.
I’d say have a read of Robert Greene’s books. He will open your mind.
Or you could read the Bible and you will learn that the only one who can take away all your anxiousness and all other things that worry you is Jesus Christ. God bless you Sara❤️
Or you could read the Bible and you will learn that the only one who can take away all your anxiousness and all other things that worry you is Jesus Christ. God bless you Sara❤️
Or you could read the Bible and you will learn that the only one who can take away all your anxiousness and all other things that worry you is Jesus Christ. God bless you Sara❤️
Or you could read the Bible and you will learn that the only one who can take away all your anxiousness and all other things that worry you, is Jesus Christ. God bless you Sara❤️
I Remember Being 21 In 2010. Lol! 😂 When I was 21, I thought I had my life figured out and now at 33 turning 34, I'm still learning about myself. 💯
I’ve just turned 23 and how true this is. I have nothing to look forward too in life except perhaps getting married and I’ve started thinking about getting older and turning 30...40 and thinking about getting sick and old. This video was spot on.
Simplifying life is a very dangerous and depressing way to look at things, done it myself when I was 19, 21 now and life has suddenly beginning to slowdown because I’ve changed my perspective and mindset, do what u love to do and find your twin flame and spread love and give out good energy remember our minds are so strong look into the laws of attraction and manifestation
Look inward what are your passions? Once you figure out your passions aim to make them your profession that way you will never work a day In your life because you'll love what you do, theres so much more to life than just getting married, like feeling the crisp winter air on your face as you walk down a leaf littered trail bursting with vibrancy, sharing your passion with like minded people (the internet is a wonderful tool...can also be harsh though), I'm 22 you're 23 our lives have just begun, some people find success in their teens some only find it in their retirement but life is not so linear as this, if you're worried about your health invest in your health now for later, it's never too late! You may simply be due a lifestyle change
Appreciate every year you get on this earth. Some people will never experience growing up, growing old. Some never survive through the baby year and some will never turn 18. Life is what you make it out to be. Travel, eat good food, experience, go hiking if you into nature, taste different wine's, be with friends, watch good movies, safe up and buy a car, take classes and learn something you always wanted to learn. Maybe a new language or cook making French food.
this is it 😭 I feel like this
Im 20 and i fully agree with you. Life is weird...
Im 18 so its Like being 21 in Europe and i can relate
You sound so much more wiser than a 21 year old just wow.
Shes an empath too,wonder if she knows.
I turned 21 in January, and I can relate to every single thought you’re expressing. Every single one. I want time to slow down so badly, but it just seems to go by faster.
And the older you get, the faster it does go. People always said that to me, and I never believed it until it started happening. Now I’m 44, and the passing of time is terrifying when I think about it, so I try not to.
This girl is so sweet. I’m 21 and I identify a lot with her way of thinking and all those things she worries, I feel calmed for not being the only one.
me too :"
If you think you'll get old fast, then truth is, this will happen even faster. Just take whatever you can and always live the present. Don't postpone until later.
Man your videos are sooo real..
Sometimes before I go to sleep, I imagine that I won't wake up. and I wonder what it'll be like the last time I close my eyes. Super strange and I don't want to think about it but it just happens. Same for my parents as well.
but yeah all these are valid thoughts and very well articulated. Difficult thoughts to put into words I think.
Thank you for sharing!
Chin up buddy
Jtails ... never thought I would see you here.
Jtailsss fancy seeing you here!
i'm either at work or doing college classwork. now with the quarantine i'm just mostly watching youtube , netflix etc. i feel like i'm wasting my youth ...
I've been getting out in the woods for a hike/going fishing. It's really therapeutic and imo the best way to social distance.
If you’re happy doing it you’re already winning, if not work hard and do what you love to do so u can support yourself financially as well, the clubs and parties will always be there, work to become a better person and remember you’re not missing out on everything just live life
It's liberating to come to a point where you no longer worry about the wasting of time. Did you have deep thoughts today? Productive! Productivity can be abstract and unconventional and can function any way that you define it. Just ask yourself what would feed you right now, and even if that's just self care, it's okay! It's a step. You don't have to have it all figured out right now and time will piece it all together...
I feel you man
I feel that too, I can’t believe Im going to turn 21 during a pandemic
I'm 22 right now and I often think of death I've thought of death a lot since 18 to be honest and quite often my own, not in a depressed way more of a spiritual look at it as I've been looking into buddhism and meditation, my outlook on it has come to this, who I am as a person is a constructed ideology but that is not who I am at my essence, at my essence I am the energy I take in and I am the elements that make up our very universe and so are you. Our ego leads us into this false idea of 'reality' as an individual but this is simply a construct, and it's a construct that doesnt like the idea of not existing which is why the idea of death scares many, the ego likes control and death is one thing it cannot. Science dictates that energy cannot be created or destroyed and so when my ego dies my energy will simply move on and I will return back to the universe from which I came, I applied this logic to my nan passing away a few years ago and i was at peace with the situation, I understood that she never really died, she simply moved on just as I will when my Time comes, when will that be? Who knows but that's why I always aim to live within the moment so that when the time does come, it will be okay...the idea of death is a pretty good motivator for some, I know I've gotten my shit together realising how quick this experience we call life goes
I can really relate allot to all of what your saying here. I'm now 20 myself, feeling lost almost 80% of my time. Cut of all of my unauthentic friends(all my friends). I've set high standards for myself. But I don't really know what move to make. This way I keep creating conflict within myself. I feel that I'm wasting almost every minute, and I fear not to meet the people I want to bring into my life.
Get a motorcycle man. Super therapeutic, good way to meet people too
20 here as well, did the exact same as you and cut out all the inauthentic people, which happened to be the vast majority. now i’m incredibly depressed and lost with zero motivation. i’m just tired idk
@@twinkincarnate try to find your passion and make your own way into it, eventually, you'll find people who you will synchronize with, I strongly believe.
@@twinkincarnate Hope you are feeling better :)
I turn 21 in 4 days. It's one of the scariest feelings I've felt in a while. I often find myself comparing my life to the others around me... wondering why I'm not as well put together as they are. I have no direction in life and all these harsh realities are crashing into my mind all at once. I'm completely and utterly terrified.
Nothing has summed up how I feel better than this! I completely understand how you're feeling, I feel exactly the same way, we just have to figure out life
21 is really a coming of age. And was the official adult age decades ago in some places for all rights in life. 21 and 25 are those awkward ages where people expect more of you, you are right. But you are still young so hard to learn quick without trials of life.
God. Damn. I miss being 21. I'm turning 34 in a matter of months and I would love to go back to 21.
Youth, young adult is between 18 to 24 or 18 to 30. Middle age is between 40 to 60. Over 30 are in limbo.
age is just a number!!
I'm 21 and I wish I could go back to 17.
@@k-leb4671 For a love ?? Or for being a minor again
This was the first video of yours that I saw. And, I agreed with a lot of what you said here. When I was 20 years old I was super involved and cared mostly about my friendships and when I turned 21 (in quarantine) I suddenly became overwhelmed with the idea of aging, of being friendless in my 20's, of being a failure, of watching my parents die etc.. I had to stop myself and realize that all of these thoughts are mostly sad and overwhelming because of the times we are in- of the very isolating, thought-provoking COVID-pandemic times. When we are 21 we are supposed to be taking risks, studying hard, being carefree and oblivious of the harder things in life (for the most part) whilst working hard to prepare for some sort of broad and cushy future. When I saw your video about having "no friends at 21" it made perfect sense to me why you think the way you do (a lot like I do now)- a lot deeper and more mature than most people your age, maybe a little bit more depressed in nature- because you are isolated and not living up to your potential. Some advice- having human beings around you is important, even if they don't "get" you entirely, I've found. Working hard to maintain relationships, working hard to put yourself out there, inviting people to coffee, going out of your comfort zone is important, if not necessary, to a happy 20's, and to a happy life. And, I encourage all of you lonely deep thinkers to practice a social life lest your thoughts get to you. It will be painfully uncomfortable at first but I swear to you- it gets easier. Furthermore, you seem fairly intelligent. And, I heard that you didn't go to Uni for fear of being a failure. But, I implore you to try it out before it's too late. You are young and you might become increasingly reclusive, depressed, and maybe even self-loathing if you don't grant yourself the opportunity to live up to your own potential. When I was 18 I dropped out of school and became a bartender and grew to think too deep for my own good, around people who couldn't care less, and it led me in the wrong direction. Luckily, my father encouraged me to reapply to school. I go to NYU now, I have a 3.9 GPA, and I am hoping to go to law school after this year. Having a goal, one worthy of my own intelligence and time, was super important to improving my life- socially and otherwise. I started working out, I started studying diligently, I am not one of those 21-year-old CEO's on Instagram, but I am getting somewhere big because I took risks, some that were painful to take in the moments in which I took them, that I cannot be more grateful now that I did because, to be honest with myself, bartending with high school dropouts would have done me no good in the long term. This isn't to say that there is anything wrong with people who make the conscious choice to do the less ambitious things- thankfully, we are all very different people with different needs and bartending might be the perfect choice for someone else. But, it is to say that it is of paramount importance that you "know thyself", which I think is a huge mission that your later teens and 20's are meant to be dedicated to. Essentially, know your limits, know your faults, and know what you need to do to live the most fulfilling life for you (all of these things you will find only through taking risks and going out of your own comfort zone, by the way)- this might mean going out of your comfort zone to invite people to coffee, going out of your comfort zone to apply for a college scholarship and attend a 4-year Uni.
For anyone still reading, if any of this speaks to you please read 12 Rules for Life by Jordan Peterson. It essentially talks about the value in setting and achieving actually-achievable goals. Reading his book was one of the integral steps that I took in my journey to better myself, and is one of the reasons why I was able to accomplish all that I have today (even though I am depressed and isolated now). We won't all be Kylie Jenner CEO's at 23, but that is perfectly fine. Having goals that you are working towards (some achievable, some reaches) are important in keeping you motivated and keeping you healthy- mind and body. Don't compare yourself to anyone other than yourself, continue to improve and push yourself and enjoy your 20's, enjoy your time, to the best of your capacity by granting it real meaning through your own taking responsibility for your own life.
I’m not sure where I need to start. You have had a very meaningful impact on me. I’m twice your age but you have changed something in me and how I see the world and my life. I find myself watching all of your videos starting with the the I’m 21 years old and I have no friends. There is something very interesting about you and I think you are an old soul. You’ve awakened something in me and I want to thank you for that. ❤️
Thank you ap much for this, it means a lot ❤❤❤
Myra is definitely a wonderful old soul. Really appreciate what you are doing here. Really helpfull. And yes. Sometimes older people also don't know where their life is heading. I have done a lot of soul searching recently. I know certain things in my life has to change to ensure that I get more out of life. As life is not going to get any easier as we know. But I believe we can grow and make positive changes at any age. So thank you Myra for helping me on this journey to become a better version of myself. As I realise that I have to love myself if I want others to love me. And I have to accept and respect myself if I want others to respect and accept me. And I need to overcome what is holding me back in life. FEAR of rejection and FEAR of failure and general anxiety and lack of confidence in a lot of aspects of my life. But it can change. And I believe it will.
I recently subscribed to this channel. After watching a few videos, in one of them Myra mentioned that most of her subscribers range from their 20s to 30s. I thought i must be the only 40 year old here. Nice to know I'm not alone lol.
I'm 34 and I can tell you these worries stay with you. You just have to jump into things, try not to worry as much, and just live life the best you can. You realize your parents wont be around much longer so regardless of what they say or do make time for them.
Stop worrying and start living by following your heart's desires!
This video is spot on. I want to share my perspective. I'm 21 years and 6 months old. The reality of life has now hit me like a bus. I frequently keep thinking to myself...it was never like that. Life was never this stressful. I had no idea life was this way. Up until I was 19, life was so different. And like this video mentioned, things are starting to speed up. Decisions have to be made - big ones, the right ones. There is a lot more to be responsible for. Gone are the days of being carefree. These are all realizations that feel hard to comprehend. I miss being carefree with my friends. I had nothing to worry about. At all. Had no idea what real life is all about.
@@myrawest thanks Myra. I hope you're doing well and that everything is working out for you now♡. Saw your video on not having friends. I know what that feels like personally. I hope things are better for you now♡ hopefully soon you find the right people to connect with who would love you for the rest for your life ×
I’m turning 20 in around 3 weeks. It’s as exciting as it is also scary in a sense. Years go by fast, it’s scary to not know what death is like or when it could happen. That’s probably my deepest fear. I feel like once you hit 20 and upwards the only way you can stay consistently ‘happy’ or at least enjoy life more is by setting goals and then reaching them. Could be reading books, starting a business, getting fit and healthy, etc... but with each goal there’s a sense of satisfaction and a satisfaction good enough to keep us going ahead with time/the years. From 21 I do believe that time will go by faster, only because there is so much more going on. Time is neither fast or slow, it’s just time, a neutral element of life. Anyway, yeah, I get what you’re saying, it’s a weird feeling.
A good way for me to deal with depression or thoughts like that is to remember that i could die tomorrow. It helps to remind you shit is not worth spending energy on that you dont care about. And to appreciate the little things which in turn draws bigger and better things into your life
These are SPOT ON. I swear I've been thinking about all of this since I turned 20. I'm 21 now and will turn 22 in a few months. Time flies.
Same I will 21 this November
About the diseases you mentioned, there are ways to keep this under control. Cancer can happen at any age, so don't look at this like its necessarily an age issue. One of my classmates mysteriously disappeared around seventh grade, and by eighth grade, it was reported that he was being home-schooled while receiving chemo treatments. The trick with diabetes and heart-disease is to keep weight under control, and many times, people just completely let this go in their twenties and beyond. I knew a lot of guys in their twenties that spent their weekends pounding down beer after beer at the local bars/micro-breweries here in Cleveland, and thus, managed to develop some very noticeable protruding bellies. Don't be one of these people. I'm thinner now at 35 than I was at 21, unlike my beer-chugging peers some of whom have since been put on blood pressure medication. They can't run, ride scooters, or do handstands like I still can. Just exercise regularly and maintain a healthy diet. This will greatly alleviate 95% of future health problems. I hope this helps...
Woah. I turned 21 a few months ago and I thought I was the only one going through this paradigm. The whole aging/thinking about death and having to figure out what you wanna do with your life is real.
Thanks so much for sharing!!
Now if only we could all figure this whole ‘life’ thing out..
I'm 20 and I want time to slow down... more and more responsibility, more burden on shoulders, I see more and more how hard life is, and I realize that we'll soon be gone even after all of that suffering. So I get what you mean, if its any consolation I think about my 30s and how I'll feel then and it makes me appreciate where I'm at right now.
being 5, 13, 17, 21 are wierd and final years of every childhood stages, kids finally are happy to be young at those ages, I even felt it that way.
I'm a 21 year old male and I'm almost blown away from the things you think about and how pure your personality seems. I have never met a girl that thinks in even the same ball park that I do but you do. You seem like an amazing person and I look forward and hope to see more videos.
Yes, when you turn 21, it is a big turn!!! I lost my dad at 19 years old so I went ahead about those feelings.
This is spot on ! I'm 21 now and I realized how fast a year goes by, then two, then three... I want time to slow down, I'm kinda scared of getting older and I feel like I don't have enough time to figure everything out :/ also witg this pandemic I feel like I wasted a year in my life that was supposed to be one of the best years of my life :( 21 is always viewed as the age when one should go on adventures, experiment, just be young and free. Well us 1999 kids missed out on all these possible experiences and adventures because we are stuck in this pandemic 😢
Same goes for everyone who's around 21 right now. I bet 18,19,20,22 and 23 year olds feel the same. Those are the ages when one is supposed to have new experiences, enjoy life, go out and socialize... doing these things is nearly impossible since March 2020
This is the most real video I have ever seen on TH-cam. I'm twenty years old and thinking about these things too, it makes it good to know that there are more people around the world who share the same feelings and thoughts ...
I will be 21 in 6 months and calling myself an adult feels like a joke. I still feel the same as I always have, maybe I will always feel young at heart.
Tell me about it lol
I'm pretty sure there's a lot of 18 year olds out there who have more experience than me.
My god I never would have thought you were this young, you give off a very mature vibe.
The year I was 21 in was by far the best year of my life. It is the year I incorporated some positivity in my life. I stopped thinking about death and how lonely I felt. I really just put those thoughts in box inside my brain, it's easy to say but it can be possible. I am glad to have found your video for insight!
Im turning 21 in two weeks I have been thinking for the past two months like damn I really was rushing to grow up when I was younger I regret it now but it is what it is we gotta grow up some day
My parents are also in their 60s (I am 21) and my mom has a serious degenerative illness. When you said you started thinking about death/your parents dying, that truly hit home for me. I also think about the diseases too... But I guess we can't live our life that way when we always focus on those things... It's hard though. Had all these thoughts
You strike as a person who can observe 'the esence of things'. Its actually a gift, though in some ways a 'curse' as you will be constantly spotting the nuances in life that are not super happy (like... yes by nature our parents will die, most likely in our lifetime and yes... we will die). And... any term ending with 'ism' is a real world :) well... at least if the person who uses it has many K's of followers. Dont forget that 21 is easiliy today about a quarter of your life. There are at least 10 'age groups' above you. You would soon see that age actually matters less once you are well into adulthood. Nice video.
We have very similar "traits"? not sure how to call this?
1. Neglect from parents.
2. Having a hard time with making "good friends", not just friends/classmates/people you know.
3. Social anxiety.
4. All this you mentioned in this video, but I turned 20 about almost half a year ago.
I burned out starting on an education at 17, since then I have been "taking time off, for myself" not only to live a little, but mostly to find myself, figure myself out and work on myself, like social anxiety and many other things. That limits my life and things I don't yet undersand about myself but know is a must, to this point!
I am kind of eager to know more about you, I haven't yet met anyone with so many similarities of my own, and I have talked to a lot of people, especially online (social anxiety), this is interesting and very knowledgable form what you have figured out and learned from these "situations".
:) Also I am rooting on you, I know how hard life can be...!
21 sucks.
In my point of view, I’ve been the daughter for the past 20 years, but suddenly, when I turned 21, I started seeing myself more like my mother and realizing that life’s going too fast and in a few years I’ll be a mother and have a family. It scares me to think that right now I’m living my life and making it on my own. I’m scared of in 15 years look at my life and don’t like what I’ve made of it.
I’m scared of wasting my time and not getting happy in the future with things I make today and consider to be right for me.
So truth... I can totally relate, the interaction with other adults is really different, and for the best in my opinion. Great video!
The moment i turned 18 i already wanted to go back. Im 21 now but im the same guy that i was when i was 18. I think people don't really mature ,they just pretend that they have.
I totally agree with you 💯. I feel like I just turned 27 going 28 in 7 month it's scary. Time really just fly by and our mind set is just following behind. Life is kinda sad in reality.
Gonna be 21 soon, haven't achieved anything in life... Feel like waste of space and I have been wasting my time.. I also feel like I haven't matured or anything
I wanted to turn 21 more at 18 now I'm 21 wanna go back to 18
Im def not mature
@@hanphilnoffz8827 💀
just turned 21 this was so relatable, thank you. its comforting to know everyone has the same fears and thoughts
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I’m 19 and my parents are in their late 50s, I also have a lot of anxiety about my parents dying (my mum had a stroke last year) and and I feel hopeless
Hope your mom get through it :| I also worry about my parents. I don't want them to die. I rather die before them.
@@notsureiL if u die before ur parents, ur parents will also have to got through the same trauma as u would do...better accept it and try to spend more time with them...and tell them u love them ...
You are absolutely lovely ! I pray that Jesus Christ will heal every void you feel in your heart.. God Bless you❤️❤️
So true. Many of us 'adults' often don't really know what we're doing. Just turned 51 and decided to return to 'organic farmers market - market gardening.' Yet another radical 'about turn shift' in my life. (Currently caring for hundreds of parrots, of all things!) Best that I do what I love doing - growing nutritious local veges (and flowers/beekeeping etc) for the good folk around me.
No worries about health, age, mortality though. Made good choices, health wise, so always healthy, fit strong etc. We do have a choice, you know. Infirmity and deterioration aren't as inevitable as many think.
As for 'death', I'm rather curious to see whats on the other side.
No hurry though.
this is strangely accurate... i’m glad i came across this video it makes me feel not alone so thanks for saying n admitting the things which i am scared of saying out loud
We live in a culture that worships youth. I was more obsessed/ anxious about aging, at your age, than I am now (nearly 40). After a while, you stop caring about numbers, and the more important stuff becomes more important. Like your happiness and wellbeing. You also stop caring about what others think. I feel younger now, than I did when I was younger. It's all relative. Stop sweating the small stuff and be joyful about being alive!
That’s scary. As a kid, each transition, from elementary, to middle, to high school was done for me. I have to know my route through life; like a fixed path from point A to B. But as a 22 year old it really does seem that I’m going to be thrusted into the unknown, with no fixed path. I’ve realized that the only real path there is the one you make for yourself. However, along the path chosen, I’ve found obstacles from family and friends who doubt that I could make it to point B. And doubting my path is the worst thing ever. I feel lost and confused. I have something tentative; a hopeful route, then doubt casts it by the wayside. But I guess that’s supposed to happen...
Ooft that death point is REAL. I’m also 21 though that’s probably been on my mind since I was 18 ahaha. I think I’m slowly learning day by day that when the thoughts come into your brain you just need to acknowledge them and set them free. Don’t let them stay on your mind. Easier said than done though 😌 It’s probably really good that you’re talking about these feelings at the very least. Thanks for sharing
We think exactly the same way. Like its crazy. I've been thinking about this stuff every single day
I turned 21 last month and everything you say is true God bless you my dear always
Yeah, that is true, you want to be an adult when you're a kid, then it gets scary when you get there, death an be a real worry too, not talked about by many, but you are only worrying as everyone else does, somethings are more important, but the core worries are there with everyone. You are very mature in your thinking, but your fears can be a draw back, scary time of life to turn 21, even 18 is tough, every experience is a learning curve, go for it.
since 12 i didnt wanna grow up. because before the age of 12, those were my golden years.
My 21st birthday is in june and i have to say every word you said here is true and believe me this helps very much
Uff I miss being 21 ....that was 11 years ago...how fast time fly's .
It is good that you have awareness and compassion with your parents wellbeing. Thats the first priority to consider followed by your progression in life.
Turned 21 in November this whole video was a big wtf because I've been thinking this way aswell, godbless
I turned 21 in November too!!
Ah, you make me feel so old--I just turned 60! It sounds trite but age is just a number. I think relatively few people truly know what they want to be when they grow up. I think a lot of us kind of do what's expected. Me, since I was six y/o I knew I would go to college but for what, I didn't really know. I was always good in math and science so that's the route I followed. I've always thought being an air traffic controller would be an interesting job, or the person who gets to stand on the ground with the orange cones signaling in big airplanes.
I think it's so cool how you loaded up your little car and took off to California. Don't worry too much about figuring things out so long as you have enough to take care of yourself. And you are doing something--you are challenging yourself and being part of life, you are getting through the anxiety brought on my being in the midst of some horrific fires in a healthy way (i.e., reaching out for support on TH-cam). Be well.
Spot on. I've thought about all those things at one point or another, but I never associated them to aging, but you're totally right. I never thought about any of those things as a teenager.
i turn 20 in a week. I feel like i accepted and understood most of these already. Your video was helpful thank you
That sentence almost teared me up. 😭
Age is but a number.
There are people that have spent decades alive and not lived a day.
And there are young people aligining all the small things so when the big things come, any negative impact is minimalised.
Wisdom is defined as applied knowledge.
Thanks for sharing your wisdom.
I’m 56 and I respect, admire, and look up to you!
❤❤❤
About to turn 21. I quit my job with money saved up. Days passed like years, years past like days. Good video
I have turned 21 recently and I totally agree with you.
I've been 20 for 6 months now and it's still scary to think. 21 seems dark
@@myrawest YIKES Just turned 20 and 21 seems scary
happy belated 21st
@xurek wow now your 22 crazy
When you think about it. Time begins to move faster as we get older because a year becomes a smaller percentage of your life. When we are children a year seemed like it went on forever and now a year feels it goes by in a flash.
I stopped to think about it and now I look at a clock and think of a minute as a year and where am I on that clock and how should I make the best of every minute (year). Most of us get 60 really good minutes and after that health begins to become more of an issue. On average most of us get an hour and fifteen minutes. So you are 21 minutes in Myra.
Make the best of it.
I get you, when I was around 20 really wanted more time to think about life changing etc
I’m 18, covid made it so I have to stay with my parents the first semester of college and still having to feel like a child. I have a part time job but living with them I can’t shake the mindset of me still being a kid. I really want to live on my own in college but I don’t know when that is going to happen. Hopefully next semester. I want to be my own person and be able to mature. Also your voice is really relaxing and nice to listen to.
Thankyou, tomorrow is my 21th birthday and I’m actually quite confused, as I want to stop time too. Indeed as a child, I couldn’t wait till I was older, but now I wish I could do it all over again. I didn’t make much of my teenage years due to depression and I feel like I missed out on a lot. But I couldn’t have done better. I was so depressed. Time for a change. Also looking back, when I was 17 / 18 I was pretty immature. Glad not to be alone.
Wtf...i just turned 21 last week...and all the above things you mentioned I'm experiencing it already lol....you are damn cute and soft🥰
wow this video was so therapeutic to watch
I didn't know we're in the same age...you seem level-headed compared to me (even if you think you're not haha), the restful energy I sense watching your videos is nice..you seem to be a nice human being I'm glad I found your channel
It's actually a difficult time to me..I feel lost and overwhelmed and I found myself fluctuating between what I should do and some existential questions I have. I'm longing to find peace and live in the present moment which is (surprisingly enough lol) all what I have. I am sure that you may have been in same of these tough times too.
I hope the best for all of us
Thanks for this vid. I’m almost 21. It all comes at you like the ground after you jump off a ledge that’s higher than you’re used to
It's good to contemplate and consider death rather than be numb or try to avoid that conclusion. It also makes for a more serious but humorous life.
I wish there was more of you out there 🙁
This video is like a wake up call. Everyone here watching this video and commenting are very relatable to her. The people your looking for are all here
that was beautiful
I’m 44 and still have no idea what I’m doing. When I was 21, I was still a baby.
It’s ok to not know. 💙
Life is forever learning.
Me, attempting to sound profound.
It isn't. Life is about going in circles and adjusting as needed.
Well it certainly sounds like you were more mature than I ever was at the age of 21! I was in uni at that time and I had no clue what I wanted to do with my life. I was living 'in the moment' pretty much without much care in the world. Took me a while to 'grow up' but I finally did.. I think ;)
Wow, you really put how I've been feeling into words
As somebody turning 21 in about a month, this was a good video to find.
The truth about life what I learn is that if you love something. Fight for it. Even when it hurts. Keep on going. Also life is beautiful. Life is a gift that keeps on giving. And my grandmother once said. Death is just a part of life and it something not to be afraid of. I know that pain of death. My biggest lost was losing that love that past away
I believe most of us have plans, but there's so much in life we have noe control over!
I've just turned 21 3 months ago and I can't help but wonder how you snuck into my mind to dig up all thoses points in your video haha, especially with health and death - the fear and anxiety itself sometimes feels like a disease and that's the worst thing I think. Here's to hoping 22 is a little more reckless and optimistic year!
In 3 days I will be 30 years old but for some reason I feel that my THIRD EYE has finally opened xD Still wondering,still searching, still hurt but much more relaxed and calm...For the first time in my life I feel like I have complete control over my thoughts and emotions!I don't worry anymore about the future because now is the future!!!
The more things you do, the slower time does... Worrying... never, never, ever... fixed anything... so don't do it. I am 57 and in my mind.. I feel the same way I did when I was 21... sure.. the vehicle that carries my brain around has a little.. "wear and tear"... but the engine is fine..
I just turned 21 a few days ago and yea I’ve thought about how I’m getting older and sometimes I still feel like I was 16 yesterday but time does move fast and having a good mindset in today’s cold world is very important times aren’t like when 90’s kids were 21 it’s way different. So far I can say I’ve experienced a lot and done a lot not many others can say they’ve done and for that I’m grateful and can’t complain. I have a few big things coming up in the next two months so Let’s see what 21 has in store for me .
Oh my god I am SO SO SO glad you spoke about the death thing. I 100% relate to this and I've never heard anyone else say this before. I think about that so muchhhhh. Damn... hallelujah - I'm not crazy/delusional/prophetically anticipating something. Okay we're similiar and you make me laugh.
Girl you have such a sweet and precious spirit. Remember Jesus loves you and he will help you in times of trouble. Your channel crossed my path for some reason, I don’t know why, I’m bound to figure it out tho. Maybe God is doing something I don’t know about in my life. Anything is possible with God! I’m 20 , I can 100% relate to you tho! I have seen your other videos I have just lost contact with a few friends and now I’m alone. I have even been kicked out of a couple churches last year . I also suffer from extreme loneliness too! When I was a kid and teen I always had acquaintances not close friends I was more of a friend to my school teachers than anybody else! Always left alone eating lunch in school, I just could not click with people.
I am subscribed to you now!
Myra West I give you a big spiritual hug 🤗❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️💕💕💕💕💕💕💕xoxoxo
hai myra, beware of student debt, better take several steps back and what action to take before accruing huge debt commitment. Have a program and milestone.
I remember how old I felt when I was 21....now that I'm 36 I wish to be 21 again :)
I'm turning 21 in a few months and everything you said is so relatable
I've Just turned 21 few days ago and honestly what u said is true and what im feeling at this time
I also change at 21 now I’m 25 and from then till now. So many days have pass. So much lost. At the end I’m here alive. That all that matter now.
# 2, 4, & 5 are facts bruh, besides that I love being grown, I get to do whatever I want and the funny thing is everything I want to do doesn't involve being rich to do.
I wish I was (21) again......enjoy it while it lasts !!!
I'm so glad I stumbled upon this gold mine 😊
Your channel is so relatable and you're so well spoken that I just had to sub