this ep so relatable to me. 😅 single all my life for 30yrs. at 26 yrs old, i too felt an "emergency" to find someone, but i wasnt so sure if Im ready for it. But I still went ahead to try out dating apps...obviously it didnt work out for me (which is why at 30yrs im still single).. met guys..but obviously they werent looking for a committed r/s. I was tired, drained and unhappy with myself. I quit the apps and deleted it. I couldnt find anyone outside of apps as well, limited social circle (due to various reasons). and den covid hits (lagi worst 😆) but my mindset changed, my lifestyle changed...it was like a light bulb moment ... I invested in myself and i love myself more. I felt that I was a better person and I felt that doing things alone is not so bad after all. Def, loneliness hit sometimes, but r/s stories I hear from people traumatized me. I felt that I would not date for the sake of dating. I was more open to meet new people (mainly from my own friends friends). I felt that dating doesnt really matter anymore...i wont say i wont date..but I'll say let nature takes its course. im now 30yrs and doing things i like (e.g. travelling pretty often with a bunch of great friends even if its jus a trip to JB) my mindset is broader....I feel chill and light hearted that if a r/s comes knocking, Ill be able to handle it unlike the younger me. but this is jus my experience. everyone has a different POV. but at least I'm satisfied with my life now. ☺
For me as an evergreen (guy) myself, I have grown very accustomed and comfortable to doing things alone; be it eating out, watch a movie, going to museum/recreational places or even traveling abroad. I think it has unfortunately reached a point that because I actually enjoy doing those stuff by myself, I often find it increasingly difficult to accommodate someone else in my life. Hopefully for all my other fellow evergreen who is actively looking for their first relationship, don't end up like me who have already accepted table for one. 😂
Wah as a late 20s evergreen here, this episode makes me feel like breaking into tears :'( I can say that I've liked guys who've always choose someone else (my friend, my sister, etc) over me and I do think that at this point I'm getting a little too tired to have my heart broken again and again. Despite the advice is to be more proactive in finding new circle of friends or groups, I've also decided to just take a back seat and wait because I can't afford to keep feeling this way. Sometimes I also wonder if people think it makes sense I'm single like Nic (no hate on Nic! I can understand how he feels because I do know people who think this way as well, I think it's pretty common), or I'm not attractive enough. Being abit on the heavier side and extroverted seems to affect even if my friends think I'm very kind and sweet. I stop hoping because it's not doing me any good, despite the wish to have a life partner. Similarly to Estee and Q, I also have those same experiences when it comes to asking for movies or hanging out to new places, and sometimes I think I force myself to believe I'm okay with this. All in all, I've been trying to work over this insecurity and issues for awhile now, but it seems like we have to be at 100% to be even eligible to be in the dating scene at this rate.
No hate the the pod or crew really! It's just that this episode hit alot of my buttons that I feel sad to come to. But I can really understand where everyone is coming from 🤗 I do think Estee and Q are very sweet people too, hope you guys find your lifelong partners that is deserving of you/vice versa 💗
Estee is only 25!!! But honestly I feel that's a good age to start dipping your toes in dating and "collecting data" so that you'll eventually know what you want/need in a partner. Also dating events are more "out there" these days, it could be less awkward than a 1:1 dinner date. I would say enjoy a good mix of doing things solo, but also keeping your eyes peeled to expand your social circle will be a good balance 👍🏻 and have fun!
really good topic! would be cool if the team could sub moments where another language besides English is spoken so that viewers who don't understand the language can still remain in the flow of the conversation
Im a evergreen (Sgrean guy) when i go on dates (bumble,tinder,CMB) girls have high standards that makes me not wanting to match it. Right now im actually happy where am i right now. Im still going on dates but further ones in eastern/southern europe(balkans) where i can relate to them more than singaporeans. If you can mix travel and dating why not right? Went on a cmb date with a bosnian serb for 14days last year XD and a lithuanian in 2 months. It does get tiring after awhile haha.
by the definition stated. since NS i have been ever green since ? cos i read so much about bgr issues for ns guys so i didn't bother and now its been 20 years. I didn't mind letting her lead. for me is always about the company and not the place or food or activity. but what ever the who what where when how or body count or icks or flags, both of the persons have to sit down and build the ship. not just leave it half built and abandon it. too many a times ppl would just go break then break. unlike back in the 90s where u see how strong sec sch ships have grown to be like ww2 battleship strong. I agree with Q's mindset shift. friendships over committed relationships. That loneliness is hello darkness my old friend. but movie company is for sure Idm with any one. cos its just watching a movie. so Idm watching movies with Estee. But hey Tau geh fam !
a very relatable topic oof. introvert evergreen 23m here 😂. thanks for sharing ms.producer! 🔥 hmmm for me personally, ngl it does get 'lonely' at times but this is due to external factors bah (things i couldn't really control(?) it can stretch from seeing couples in public, people asking why, and even to the extent people on childcare leave(?) like 'awww they got a child of theirs 我的leh!?'🥲). but besides that, i am comfortable being with myself bah and i crave for solitude instead 🤡
but i also think its very reasonable to not want to date someone evergreen, because it can be very exhausting to have to "teach" them things and go through the process of them not knowing what to do in a relationship
Disagree. Ive encountered and know people who are not even evergreen but not know what to do in a relationship. Being a new mom or a new dad is basically the same, you are evergreen and you learn as it goes by, that doesnt mean you have no experience means you cant have a child. You only live once and we all live this life differently from others. In all honesty its the same in every relationship you get to know the person and talk things out with the person, I believe you are the problem if you find it "exhausting" to communicate with the person.
team evergreen where you at! 📢🤝
estee is so pretty and has good character!!! Confirm got someone out there for her one!!! never give up💪💪💪
Ki ciu!! 🙋🏻♂️
Finally my gannggggg
AYEEEEE 💚
this ep so relatable to me. 😅 single all my life for 30yrs. at 26 yrs old, i too felt an "emergency" to find someone, but i wasnt so sure if Im ready for it. But I still went ahead to try out dating apps...obviously it didnt work out for me (which is why at 30yrs im still single).. met guys..but obviously they werent looking for a committed r/s. I was tired, drained and unhappy with myself. I quit the apps and deleted it. I couldnt find anyone outside of apps as well, limited social circle (due to various reasons). and den covid hits (lagi worst 😆) but my mindset changed, my lifestyle changed...it was like a light bulb moment ... I invested in myself and i love myself more. I felt that I was a better person and I felt that doing things alone is not so bad after all. Def, loneliness hit sometimes, but r/s stories I hear from people traumatized me. I felt that I would not date for the sake of dating. I was more open to meet new people (mainly from my own friends friends). I felt that dating doesnt really matter anymore...i wont say i wont date..but I'll say let nature takes its course. im now 30yrs and doing things i like (e.g. travelling pretty often with a bunch of great friends even if its jus a trip to JB) my mindset is broader....I feel chill and light hearted that if a r/s comes knocking, Ill be able to handle it unlike the younger me. but this is jus my experience. everyone has a different POV. but at least I'm satisfied with my life now. ☺
Your story is so similar to mine, but at least u have a bunch of great friends! My friends are disappearing one by one as well.
For me as an evergreen (guy) myself, I have grown very accustomed and comfortable to doing things alone; be it eating out, watch a movie, going to museum/recreational places or even traveling abroad. I think it has unfortunately reached a point that because I actually enjoy doing those stuff by myself, I often find it increasingly difficult to accommodate someone else in my life.
Hopefully for all my other fellow evergreen who is actively looking for their first relationship, don't end up like me who have already accepted table for one. 😂
Not unfortunate at all! Being able to enjoy your own company is amazing.
you do you!!
Introvert evergreen here, I feel like this ep is made for me. I wanna be estee's friend!
You are not alone! 🤝
Eg here too... lol!!!
Wah as a late 20s evergreen here, this episode makes me feel like breaking into tears :'( I can say that I've liked guys who've always choose someone else (my friend, my sister, etc) over me and I do think that at this point I'm getting a little too tired to have my heart broken again and again.
Despite the advice is to be more proactive in finding new circle of friends or groups, I've also decided to just take a back seat and wait because I can't afford to keep feeling this way. Sometimes I also wonder if people think it makes sense I'm single like Nic (no hate on Nic! I can understand how he feels because I do know people who think this way as well, I think it's pretty common), or I'm not attractive enough. Being abit on the heavier side and extroverted seems to affect even if my friends think I'm very kind and sweet.
I stop hoping because it's not doing me any good, despite the wish to have a life partner. Similarly to Estee and Q, I also have those same experiences when it comes to asking for movies or hanging out to new places, and sometimes I think I force myself to believe I'm okay with this. All in all, I've been trying to work over this insecurity and issues for awhile now, but it seems like we have to be at 100% to be even eligible to be in the dating scene at this rate.
No hate the the pod or crew really! It's just that this episode hit alot of my buttons that I feel sad to come to. But I can really understand where everyone is coming from 🤗 I do think Estee and Q are very sweet people too, hope you guys find your lifelong partners that is deserving of you/vice versa 💗
@@madelynn_18 Glad this ep spoke to you! A big virtual hug from us ❤
Estee is only 25!!! But honestly I feel that's a good age to start dipping your toes in dating and "collecting data" so that you'll eventually know what you want/need in a partner.
Also dating events are more "out there" these days, it could be less awkward than a 1:1 dinner date.
I would say enjoy a good mix of doing things solo, but also keeping your eyes peeled to expand your social circle will be a good balance 👍🏻 and have fun!
I think evergreen men are wholesome! Totally prefers evergreen or men with max 2 ex gf as compared to those with many
You forgot to mention that some women /men get rejected even if they want that person / relationship. It’s more about bad luck destiny
come for nick, stay for nick.
Stayed for nick, came for nick.
@@YNA64 I came.
nic supremacy 💪💪💪
"he got it down to a SCIENCE!" ba dum tss! nice one Joie! love it hahah
Team evergreen and im 25 too .. im still trying to find and love myself more ❤
really good topic! would be cool if the team could sub moments where another language besides English is spoken so that viewers who don't understand the language can still remain in the flow of the conversation
Skull emoji is such a vibe 💀❤
no the time will not come. you make the best out of the opportunity. and that's only the first hurdle
ngl sometimes i see some random uncle alone eating alone im like fk thats me in the future. GWENCHANA!!! u are not alone in being alone ;)
33 yr old evergreen here! Dating was just not my priority, been busy with work , school & gym till very recently ! 😅
evergreen is never been in any relationship what... no meh?
Would Q date someone younger? If yes, what is the age gap thats okay?
Im a evergreen (Sgrean guy) when i go on dates (bumble,tinder,CMB) girls have high standards that makes me not wanting to match it. Right now im actually happy where am i right now. Im still going on dates but further ones in eastern/southern europe(balkans) where i can relate to them more than singaporeans. If you can mix travel and dating why not right? Went on a cmb date with a bosnian serb for 14days last year XD and a lithuanian in 2 months.
It does get tiring after awhile haha.
Isn’t that estee from TSL? What’s she doing here ? No longer with TSL ah?
Q was from TSL too right?
@@theSkinnyBasket yes , that was many years ago
@@Marty-gv4nv Estee left some time this year if I'm not mistaken, quite recent. So yes I believe this is the new job she 'hop' into 😄
Sometime i feel i not good looking,introvert n no money n maybe not interested in relationship
Such an interesting topic
by the definition stated. since NS i have been ever green since ? cos i read so much about bgr issues for ns guys so i didn't bother and now its been 20 years.
I didn't mind letting her lead. for me is always about the company and not the place or food or activity.
but what ever the who what where when how or body count or icks or flags,
both of the persons have to sit down and build the ship. not just leave it half built and abandon it. too many a times ppl would just go break then break.
unlike back in the 90s where u see how strong sec sch ships have grown to be like ww2 battleship strong.
I agree with Q's mindset shift. friendships over committed relationships.
That loneliness is hello darkness my old friend.
but movie company is for sure Idm with any one. cos its just watching a movie. so Idm watching movies with Estee.
But hey Tau geh fam !
a very relatable topic oof. introvert evergreen 23m here 😂. thanks for sharing ms.producer! 🔥
hmmm for me personally, ngl it does get 'lonely' at times but this is due to external factors bah (things i couldn't really control(?) it can stretch from seeing couples in public, people asking why, and even to the extent people on childcare leave(?) like 'awww they got a child of theirs 我的leh!?'🥲). but besides that, i am comfortable being with myself bah and i crave for solitude instead 🤡
but i also think its very reasonable to not want to date someone evergreen, because it can be very exhausting to have to "teach" them things and go through the process of them not knowing what to do in a relationship
Disagree. Ive encountered and know people who are not even evergreen but not know what to do in a relationship. Being a new mom or a new dad is basically the same, you are evergreen and you learn as it goes by, that doesnt mean you have no experience means you cant have a child. You only live once and we all live this life differently from others. In all honesty its the same in every relationship you get to know the person and talk things out with the person, I believe you are the problem if you find it "exhausting" to communicate with the person.
I am just waiting for the right one and yaa i am an engineer too 😅
How old are you guys?
Introverts can't have it even if they want to..😅😅 but thats also me 😵😵
estee sounds like an ideal gf tbh..
LOL
Lmao.... Girls with no rs experience? No thx
@@Iluvyurmum you tell me which girl start out with experience
you don't hear what they say, you see what they do
alone find activities to do ownselves lor, need to find other ppl to go with u meh
please remove this extraneous word; “like” it’s kinda irrelevant