I use it at times, but he used it in such an odd way, it literally sounds like just went "oh! Argumentation! That's a smart people word!" 😂 Edit: he didn't even use it correctly. Smh.
i have a PhD in clinical psychology. Last weekend I was invited to a dinner, I was drinking tea after dinner, and wanted to look on my watch... i burned my lap with the tea whilst trying. My point is.... degrees are not an indicator for intelligence XD also you (the person who sent the e mail) sound a bit pretencious... my fiancé didn't have the opportunity to have the education I had, cause he lived in a war zone for quite a while. He is by far the most intelligent person I know. Wonderful artist, deeply kind to others cause he has seen so much bad and he is absolutely hilarious. He might not know what I know.. but he knows so many different things. Maybe try to see what she is an expert in, cause we are all experts in something
This is the classical story of guys running after "pretty girls" and aren't attracted to girls that study at a young age, but then realize what they did a decade later
yesssss...If I had a penny for every brown guy who gets married to the Ms beauty pageant Pind relation from back home....floats her pic to everyone "look how beautiful, young, cultural and placid my new wifie is...not like you British born girls" only to have second thoughts 5 years later because he cant have mentally engaging conversation with her that goes beyond which brand of atta is the cheapest in Asda
Asya Lol not all marriages r like this email. Nothing is perfect. Marriage requires work like everything in life. However, marriage is also very joyful too;-) What Sid and Dina said at the end was spot on. Not many couples are on the same page. We r all different. It's abt working together.
Asya just only marry if u have a genuine connection with the guy and you know he respects you and see's you as his equal. If its not that don't do it, don't marry in any other circumstance u don't NEED to. That's how u avoid such fuckery.
Oh man, we've got another one. Yeah, I know that. But even Dina was like "dude this is really not necessary." I'm sure some people do use these words on the day to day, and that's cool! But most people don't. And this guy was clearly trying to show off his intellect. Maybe insecurity induced or something.
Jess Chavez right? I bet even basic conversations with him are EXHAUSTING. He can't just say things the simple way, if the word isn't MINIMUM 7 letters he refuses to use it.
Noreogami right? He uses a lot of bullshit fancy words that have perfectly fine and more commonly used alternatives...but of course he didn't use those, because how else would he sound smart? 🙄
The man's own insecurities show with how hard he's trying to sound smart - but resulting in sounding a bit pompous cos he's using 'fancy words' in the wrong context. These kind of stories concern me because a lot of women in a lot of cultures are discouraged from getting an education and pressured to stay at home and be a 'good wife'. In psychology, these issues fit something called the "content model" by fiske, cuddy and glick. It's the case of "high warmth = low competence" - the warmer someone appears to be, the more likely they will be perceived to be less competent. It's so unfair for a lot of women who are restricted into these traditional roles due to culture because they're trying their best to fulfil their community's idea of being a 'good wife' but all the while, they are also seen as incompetent. Lose lose situation and it's even worst when people like this guy admits to belittling/undermining his wife. I love Sid and Dina for showing everyone that people don't need to follow traditional gender roles anymore (eg woman cooks, man makes the money). It's 2017 and every marriage is different so do what works for your marriage and don't bother with what gossiping aunties have to say about how you do things.
Agree totally with you, pompous is right. Perception is a funny thing and happens across all cultures, I worked in the kitchen of a large hospital for the last ten years of my working life because it suited me and the money was good, but I soon worked out that other people from the management up, Doctors and Nurses included thought you must be less intelligent or under educated to be doing the job. I loved being able to put them right (nicely) by my speech and my actions. Sounds like she may actually be better off without him !
TheBlooRayChannel right! when people use such intense words like that it makes me seriously question THEIR actual intellect lol 🙄 just communicate on a normal level jeez man
Emotional intelligence is so important, and people often disregard it. You can be the smartest person in the world but if you can't be empathetic and handle interpersonal relationships, you won't get anywhere in life.
To be honest, I don't think the thing that causes the issue in their relationship is the ''lack of intellectual stimulation'' as he claims, but rather the fact that the guy has some kind of superiority complex and considers himself superior to his wife solely because he thinks that he is ''intellectual''. I mean, what does he even really mean when he says that she is not smart enough? Are we speaking academically? Perhaps she might not have a high education and be an expert in that field, but she could excel in other areas (I'm only assuming of course!). Maybe she knows a whole lot about being a kind and loving mother and wife? Or I don't know, maybe she's an expert on a certain issue, she has a passion for climate change or she cares a lot about the rights and history of women or ethnic minorities? And if she doesn't, maybe she is willing to listen and learn? It has always felt so strange to me that we choose to categorize people as clever or not clever, solely based on their academic/educational background. Doing great in school does not necessarily define your intelligence. Sometimes when we think that an obstacle arises in our lives due to external factors, it can be so much more productive for us when we choose to look inside of ourselves rather than blaming everything else. That is truly when we realize that our egos can ruin a lot for us. Trust me, this is something that I try to remember myself because it's an issue I struggle with as well, it's something that we all struggle with given that we all possess egos. I do agree with the advice that Sid and Dina gave. It is true that a divorce can do more good than bad, and that the issue of divorce needs to be talked about more in the muslim community. However, I don't think a divorce will fix the problems he is dealing with inside himself. If this guy chooses to divorce and is possibly interested in another relationship, the exact same issue will most likely arise if he keeps considering himself superior to others. So brother, if you're reading this, I'd like to share some wisdom from the great philosopher Socrates, who once said: ''To know is to know that you know nothing.'' Hence being a ''knowledgeable'' and ''smart'' person lies in the art of knowing that you, essentially, cannot know everything, and that there is always something to learn from the World and the people around us, wether we consider them ''smart'' or ''dumb''. Also, as Kendrick Lamar so beautifully put it in his recent song ''Humble'' : B**** sit down, be humble.
That email was shallow af. Not trying to say having intelligent conversations aren't important but you seem like an arrogant person and maybe the issue is you and your blunt personality . Lighten up . If you want a divorce get it but don't make someone feel inadequate just because they're not like you as not everyone was raised the same .
Dina, you had a solid point at 8:01. There are different types of intelligence. Someone can be academically smart, or musically talented, or kinesthetically talented etc. Just because you are a person who is for example, intelligent in the logic and mathematics department doesn't mean another person who is not so talented in this area is dumb. I mean, honestly the only thing that is dumb is that kind of logic.
This is genuinely bloody fantastic. This video was 100% one of my top 3 of you two. Everybody and their mother needs to watch this. Bravo, hats off to both of you, well said, and well done.
Honestly MOST of the marriages in my culture (that I personally know of) are the same storyline as this guys marriage. They stay together because they have kids and only because of 3aysh w mel7 n nothing else. No love. No nothin! Love comes with time they say lol
SID'S HAT MATCHES DINA'S HAIR #COUPLEGOALS 😭😂 EDIT: Sounds like the guy needs to stop "trying" so hard to appear smart cos you're not fooling anyone but yourself with those unneccessary I-sound-smart-if-I-use-these-words in the email, I can only imagine how irrating (exasperating is the synonym he'd use) and damn right snobby (imperious is the synonym he would use) he must be to live with and if anything I feel sorry for the wife having to put up with this clown. 🤦 This video/email should've been titled I'M A DOUCHEBAG DEGRADING HUSBAND WHO THINKS MY WIFE IS DUMB 🙄
I hope they continue to do these videos forever 😭 They're the best at giving advice!!! I genuienly enjoy watching Ask Sid & Dina and I always learn something out of it.
Coming from a family where my parents divorced when I was 5,I find it so strange when people mention divorce like its something to do if you're not happy. I also find, that children who come from families where their parents are still together, talk about divorce more easily as a solution rather than the last option. I grew up thinking divorce it's normal , it's something that everybody does...let me tell you what I think now , after growing up without my father and marrying out of love. Marriage is not easy and love is not enough to get on with married life. Don't give up easily because the way it affects our kids is beyond our understanding..and I know that because I now started to understand some underlying issues I had with my husband... Nobody is perfect and we all have our short comings... Think before you get married , because our kids shouldn't pay for our mistakes ....that's what I think
The problem is not with "divorce" but what happens after (people's behaviour). Many parent are so angry and petty that they make terrible decisions or decide to "resign" from their position as a parent figure. Marriage is not supposed to be a coffin (with children as snails shutting it) and you obviously need to be happy. Everything is about balance and common sense: choose you partner carefully, be patient and do your best but this does not mean that separation is never to be considered. I hope that everybody will stop with extreme stances...divorce for futile reasons vs divorce impossible for the sake of x,y,z who end up having a distorted/terrible vision of what marriage is supposed to be. I am sorry to read your testimony and hope you do not mind my insight (wishing you a peaceful life full of happiness and love).
This guy is using words that aren't even contextually correct... it looks like his wife has had a massive impact on him.. Or just to show the difference he's trying to portray himself as a smart guy (Interpreted in many ways) But this guy just needs to calm it down.. lad the word argumentation? Really lad? Reallyyy
You guys are overkilling the uploads now lol! Just kidding, keep it up please as no one really posts regular content and it gives people like us something to look forward to 👍👊
ahahahha u guys have the most hilarious references.....I ate the twix because you ate the kit kat....u guys are sooo amazing....love these videos.....and so happy they are back and regular
TBH I think he's the problem. He's trying wayyyy too hard to be wickedly smart you can see how he's trying to use the big unnecessary words in the email he's so extra
If anyone has seen the movie Brick Lane, this guy reminds me so much of the husband. He arranged for them to get married knowing she was a village girl and spent years thinking he was superior to other foreigners for his knowledge and English skills despite even his kids being more proficient than him 😂
I hope this guy doesn't actually talk like this cause I would punch someone in the face if they came up to me and started using a bunch of long ass words
I really freaking love how Sid and Dina really breaks it down to the core of gender roles and how some things are considered taboo in certain cultures. Thank you so much guys.
Your advice was on point. I hope this helps the individual who reached out to you. If he gives it a go and follows through on your suggestions, I feel there's a possibility that things might work out for them. Wishing them both the best of luck.
Salam! I watch your videos all the time and think the two of you together are so hilarious. Anyway, I think this is probably some of the best advice the two of you have ever given. Keep it up!
I just Found you guys today and I think you two are hilarious! I'm from Texas but worked in the Middle East for several years and will be travelling there in the very near future.
I’ve been re-listening to these videos in the background and it’s been great to revisit issues like these with a newer, maturer mindset. One point which I think I’ve really related to, is that some well-educated people are hopeless at social discussions. Particularly, science educated, in my experience. They are definitely book-smart but don’t really care or have an open mind regarding social and political issues. On the other hand, I’ve been surrounded by fellow humanities students who are trained to have an open mind and take interest in world issues. Just goes to show, intelligence comes in many forms and sometimes it’s knowing things and other times it’s how to listen. I’m so curious as to how this particular issue was resolved. I wish we go follow-ups!
I understood half of the letter. But my English knowledge has just boosted tremendously. Thanks writer and thanks Sid and Dina for this unexpected educational video! xxx
Guys this is one of my favorite of your advice videos. It's so helpful to so many other types of relationship problems. It isn't a clickbaity kind of issue (not that those aren't important but it's nice to see some diversity in the questions). And mashaAllah you two really sound like you know what you're talking about with this one. I hope that the emailer is able to find some solutions from this. I definitely got a lot.
Sometimes women who get depressed shut down from any interests and if the guy played a part in damaging her self worth there's a huge chance she's actually depressed but hiding it.
My father raised me and my brother alone (my mother expired when we were very little) he taught me to cook and everything else :) may Allah grant him the highest place in jannah, daddy's are angels
it was Fajr time when i got the notification and i was like yay another one on sid and dina. This guy should take it easy rather than try hard to be as smart as he can by using difficult words!! I actually like how you guys always always take a realistic approach by sharing your experiences .
I totally agree with Sid and Dina about the "staying for the sake of the kids" thing ! My parents stayed together for my brother and I and to be honest I thing it was a mistake cuz I've always seen them unhappy like all my life ! Tbh I've seen them hanging out together like not even in my home they always in seperate rooms and when they talk it's an argument ... rarely I see them laughing about something and I'm like Wtf ?! And it's been like this for 20 years so when people don't wanna divorce because of the kids, obviously there's a lot of differente situation, it might be the best thing for everyone ! Growing up in a non-loving unhappy parents kind thing is unhealthy.
Do you know what! This guy actually does sound like a know-it-all and he sounds a bit up his own arse. Maybe his wife isn't intellectual but I bet she knows her stuff about topics she likes and she's interested in. Maybe he should try and get into some of her interests and connect on a different level. oh that's basically what sid and dina said...i should have waited til the end of the video :')
His question sounded like he went on thesaurus.com and just found unnecessary synonyms to normal words 😒 he should get off his high horse. Everyone is smart in their own ways. Just because he's not married to Einstein doesn't mean she's not smart.
'ARGUMENTATION' loooooooool who even uses that word lmaoooo guy needs to get off his high horse!!
I use it at times, but he used it in such an odd way, it literally sounds like just went "oh! Argumentation! That's a smart people word!" 😂
Edit: he didn't even use it correctly. Smh.
argumentation is a noun. grammatically isn't he correct? pl identify his error. dont just say it doesnt sound right.
maybe the husbands the problem not the wife.
uksai mah it does sound like that
uksai mah innit
Just because she is not academic does not mean that she is dumb
i know he probably doesnt even talk to her about things she's interested in. Prob just spends all day thinking he's high and mighty
sherristar89 THISSSSSS🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
sherristar89 riteeeee
sherristar89 agree
Exactly! I mean I bet she can bake pretty good. I can't even bake a regular round bread!!
I love how this "smart" man uses "argumentation" incorrectly. 😂
It causes arguments bro, not argumentation.
Rebekah Bell lmao he seems a bit snobby, needs to chill
Rebekah Bell EXACTLY OMG I laughed out loud when I heard it
Rebekah Bell exactly !!!
Rebekah Bell ik wtf lool
EXACTLY!!
[pauses video]
[Brings my Oxford dictionary]
loud silence 😂😂😂😂 so true. I bet they did the same.
loud silence [pauses video]
[GOOGLES words]
BAHAHA same tbh
that email was literally like an English assignment 😂😂🤦🏽♀️
Realize he using word wrong
i have a PhD in clinical psychology. Last weekend I was invited to a dinner, I was drinking tea after dinner, and wanted to look on my watch... i burned my lap with the tea whilst trying. My point is.... degrees are not an indicator for intelligence XD also you (the person who sent the e mail) sound a bit pretencious... my fiancé didn't have the opportunity to have the education I had, cause he lived in a war zone for quite a while. He is by far the most intelligent person I know. Wonderful artist, deeply kind to others cause he has seen so much bad and he is absolutely hilarious. He might not know what I know.. but he knows so many different things. Maybe try to see what she is an expert in, cause we are all experts in something
Linda Lemoni ... true that ... so true my friend
This is the classical story of guys running after "pretty girls" and aren't attracted to girls that study at a young age, but then realize what they did a decade later
Freshtaa R hahahahaha exactly
Freshtaa R You can be pretty and smart
I agree with your statement!
Freshtaa R agree
yesssss...If I had a penny for every brown guy who gets married to the Ms beauty pageant Pind relation from back home....floats her pic to everyone "look how beautiful, young, cultural and placid my new wifie is...not like you British born girls" only to have second thoughts 5 years later because he cant have mentally engaging conversation with her that goes beyond which brand of atta is the cheapest in Asda
this e-mail pretty much sums up why I'm scared of marriage lmao
Asya if he dumb yes
Asya omg I know right
Asya Lol not all marriages r like this email. Nothing is perfect. Marriage requires work like everything in life. However, marriage is also very joyful too;-)
What Sid and Dina said at the end was spot on. Not many couples are on the same page. We r all different. It's abt working together.
That's why it's important to talk and find someone on your wavelength before jumping into marriage.
Asya just only marry if u have a genuine connection with the guy and you know he respects you and see's you as his equal. If its not that don't do it, don't marry in any other circumstance u don't NEED to. That's how u avoid such fuckery.
Dude literally googled synonyms for common words and threw them in there to sound #iamverysmart. I honestly feel bad for his wife.
Jess Chavez Those are regular words, that believe it or not, some people use on a daily basis.
Jess Chavez - I do too. 😕
Oh man, we've got another one. Yeah, I know that. But even Dina was like "dude this is really not necessary." I'm sure some people do use these words on the day to day, and that's cool! But most people don't. And this guy was clearly trying to show off his intellect. Maybe insecurity induced or something.
The irony of it all because, he's accusing his wife of being "not as smart as him" lol!!!
Jess Chavez right? I bet even basic conversations with him are EXHAUSTING. He can't just say things the simple way, if the word isn't MINIMUM 7 letters he refuses to use it.
Right.. This guy is trying too hard to seem 'smart'.
RefuseTheFallingRain The girl is dumb AF surely
RefuseTheFallingRain this is absolutely the issue, it's nothing to do with her
Noreogami right? He uses a lot of bullshit fancy words that have perfectly fine and more commonly used alternatives...but of course he didn't use those, because how else would he sound smart? 🙄
RefuseTheFallingRain exactly what I'm thinking.
He doesn't sound smart to me
The man's own insecurities show with how hard he's trying to sound smart - but resulting in sounding a bit pompous cos he's using 'fancy words' in the wrong context. These kind of stories concern me because a lot of women in a lot of cultures are discouraged from getting an education and pressured to stay at home and be a 'good wife'. In psychology, these issues fit something called the "content model" by fiske, cuddy and glick. It's the case of "high warmth = low competence" - the warmer someone appears to be, the more likely they will be perceived to be less competent. It's so unfair for a lot of women who are restricted into these traditional roles due to culture because they're trying their best to fulfil their community's idea of being a 'good wife' but all the while, they are also seen as incompetent. Lose lose situation and it's even worst when people like this guy admits to belittling/undermining his wife. I love Sid and Dina for showing everyone that people don't need to follow traditional gender roles anymore (eg woman cooks, man makes the money). It's 2017 and every marriage is different so do what works for your marriage and don't bother with what gossiping aunties have to say about how you do things.
Agree
i love your comment
You are very right in what you say.
preachhhhhhhhhh
Agree totally with you, pompous is right. Perception is a funny thing and happens across all cultures, I worked in the kitchen of a large hospital for the last ten years of my working life because it suited me and the money was good, but I soon worked out that other people from the management up, Doctors and Nurses included thought you must be less intelligent or under educated to be doing the job. I loved being able to put them right (nicely) by my speech and my actions. Sounds like she may actually be better off without him !
Good grief, dude sounds so annoying in the email. Needs to take a chill pill asap. But good luck to the both of them.
TheBlooRayChannel right! when people use such intense words like that it makes me seriously question THEIR actual intellect lol 🙄 just communicate on a normal level jeez man
Exactly! It's tiring just to listen to it all, let alone respond to it.
TheBlooRayChannel agreed he sounds Narcissistic
TheBlooRayChannel agree
Aneeqa Hussain such a pretty name ☺️
Imagine being married for 11yrs with 2 children only for your husband to divorce you cos he realised "your too dumb for him"😐😐😐 something don't add up
Emotional intelligence is so important, and people often disregard it. You can be the smartest person in the world but if you can't be empathetic and handle interpersonal relationships, you won't get anywhere in life.
To be honest, I don't think the thing that causes the issue in their relationship is the ''lack of intellectual stimulation'' as he claims, but rather the fact that the guy has some kind of superiority complex and considers himself superior to his wife solely because he thinks that he is ''intellectual''. I mean, what does he even really mean when he says that she is not smart enough? Are we speaking academically? Perhaps she might not have a high education and be an expert in that field, but she could excel in other areas (I'm only assuming of course!). Maybe she knows a whole lot about being a kind and loving mother and wife? Or I don't know, maybe she's an expert on a certain issue, she has a passion for climate change or she cares a lot about the rights and history of women or ethnic minorities? And if she doesn't, maybe she is willing to listen and learn? It has always felt so strange to me that we choose to categorize people as clever or not clever, solely based on their academic/educational background. Doing great in school does not necessarily define your intelligence.
Sometimes when we think that an obstacle arises in our lives due to external factors, it can be so much more productive for us when we choose to look inside of ourselves rather than blaming everything else. That is truly when we realize that our egos can ruin a lot for us. Trust me, this is something that I try to remember myself because it's an issue I struggle with as well, it's something that we all struggle with given that we all possess egos.
I do agree with the advice that Sid and Dina gave. It is true that a divorce can do more good than bad, and that the issue of divorce needs to be talked about more in the muslim community. However, I don't think a divorce will fix the problems he is dealing with inside himself. If this guy chooses to divorce and is possibly interested in another relationship, the exact same issue will most likely arise if he keeps considering himself superior to others.
So brother, if you're reading this, I'd like to share some wisdom from the great philosopher Socrates, who once said: ''To know is to know that you know nothing.'' Hence being a ''knowledgeable'' and ''smart'' person lies in the art of knowing that you, essentially, cannot know everything, and that there is always something to learn from the World and the people around us, wether we consider them ''smart'' or ''dumb''. Also, as Kendrick Lamar so beautifully put it in his recent song ''Humble'' : B**** sit down, be humble.
I love this comment.
Asmaa Youssef Atik if i could give your comment a huge 'thick' like i would have lol
he is so full of himself
Asmaa Youssef Atik PREACH IT SISTER😍😘
That email was shallow af. Not trying to say having intelligent conversations aren't important but you seem like an arrogant person and maybe the issue is you and your blunt personality . Lighten up . If you want a divorce get it but don't make someone feel inadequate just because they're not like you as not everyone was raised the same .
Dina, you had a solid point at 8:01. There are different types of intelligence. Someone can be academically smart, or musically talented, or kinesthetically talented etc. Just because you are a person who is for example, intelligent in the logic and mathematics department doesn't mean another person who is not so talented in this area is dumb. I mean, honestly the only thing that is dumb is that kind of logic.
when she tells him he's the smarted person she knows
That "hii guys" that makes the whole room look at you with your phone
He sounds so pretentious and up himself, I feel sorry for his wife 🙄
Shazia maybe the wife should leave the husband
I know right ;/
Was she reading a English literature essay or what?
Sharmin Islam well at least we know he probably done well in English
Komal Hussain Well with the use of argumentation, he probably didn't
Komal Hussain well I don't think so.
Habiba Begum it was a joke.. Relax
his question is me when im trying to reach the essay word limit so i throw in a bunch of words i dont rlly understand lmao
DISHWASHINGLICKWID loooooool
DISHWASHINGLICKWID meme queen lmao what you doing over here
At the end of every single video:
Sid: "I'm not really sure we gave you any tips"
Dina: "I think we really did"
😂😂
Who's in bed watching this😅✌🏽
SimplyFarzana meeeeee
I'm on the toilet
Im doing makingup
I am watching it bed too the best things ever
SimplyFarzana 🤣
Love how much empathy you both have towards this question! Bless you both x
Wtf is that guy in the email even saying?
This is genuinely bloody fantastic. This video was 100% one of my top 3 of you two. Everybody and their mother needs to watch this. Bravo, hats off to both of you, well said, and well done.
Honestly MOST of the marriages in my culture (that I personally know of) are the same storyline as this guys marriage. They stay together because they have kids and only because of 3aysh w mel7 n nothing else. No love. No nothin! Love comes with time they say lol
Mays Mama what's 3aysh w mel7??
alive and well.
Mays Mama where are you from ?
the literal meaning is bread and salt meaning that they broke bread and they're already familiar with one another so its safe in that sort of way
Sort of like "bread and butter" a metaphor of life and livelihood
Argumentation? Wtf
Greedo ikr 😂😂😂
Greedo he uses it incorrectly, which makes it even better
Rebekah Bell LOOOOOL
Greedo ITS NOT EVEN A REAL WORD 🤦🏾♀️
Greedo 😂😂
“Bro you are using some words you don’t need to use”😭😭😂😂I cant
SID'S HAT MATCHES DINA'S HAIR #COUPLEGOALS 😭😂
EDIT: Sounds like the guy needs to stop "trying" so hard to appear smart cos you're not fooling anyone but yourself with those unneccessary I-sound-smart-if-I-use-these-words in the email, I can only imagine how irrating (exasperating is the synonym he'd use) and damn right snobby (imperious is the synonym he would use) he must be to live with and if anything I feel sorry for the wife having to put up with this clown. 🤦
This video/email should've been titled I'M A DOUCHEBAG DEGRADING HUSBAND WHO THINKS MY WIFE IS DUMB 🙄
I hope they continue to do these videos forever 😭 They're the best at giving advice!!!
I genuienly enjoy watching Ask Sid & Dina and I always learn something out of it.
Coming from a family where my parents divorced when I was 5,I find it so strange when people mention divorce like its something to do if you're not happy. I also find, that children who come from families where their parents are still together, talk about divorce more easily as a solution rather than the last option. I grew up thinking divorce it's normal , it's something that everybody does...let me tell you what I think now , after growing up without my father and marrying out of love. Marriage is not easy and love is not enough to get on with married life. Don't give up easily because the way it affects our kids is beyond our understanding..and I know that because I now started to understand some underlying issues I had with my husband... Nobody is perfect and we all have our short comings... Think before you get married , because our kids shouldn't pay for our mistakes ....that's what I think
The problem is not with "divorce" but what happens after (people's behaviour).
Many parent are so angry and petty that they make terrible decisions or decide to "resign" from their position as a parent figure.
Marriage is not supposed to be a coffin (with children as snails shutting it) and you obviously need to be happy.
Everything is about balance and common sense: choose you partner carefully, be patient and do your best but this does not mean that separation is never to be considered.
I hope that everybody will stop with extreme stances...divorce for futile reasons vs divorce impossible for the sake of x,y,z who end up having a distorted/terrible vision of what marriage is supposed to be.
I am sorry to read your testimony and hope you do not mind my insight (wishing you a peaceful life full of happiness and love).
This guy is using words that aren't even contextually correct... it looks like his wife has had a massive impact on him..
Or just to show the difference he's trying to portray himself as a smart guy
(Interpreted in many ways)
But this guy just needs to calm it down.. lad the word argumentation? Really lad? Reallyyy
Yusaf Hale you hit the nail on the head! Lol he sounded really pompous to me
Yusaf Hale agreed, he's a smug ass. Plan and simple. There is no issue other than him.
lol Yes, it seems that he thought "Well, since I'm sayin' I'm intelligent, I gotta use big words".
Yusaf Hale 🙌🏽🙌🏽
Yusaf Hale why is everyone mad about argumentation? He was throwing out a loooooooot of words that were way more unnecessarily obscure.
Shocked at how much wisdom and insight these two have. MashaAllah. Really mature advice. Wow.
You guys are overkilling the uploads now lol! Just kidding, keep it up please as no one really posts regular content and it gives people like us something to look forward to 👍👊
the hussains was just thinking the same thing
the hussains - in this little thumbnail, this guy looks like Sid. I had to do a double-take 😂
the hussains 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Think you guys are trying to copy sid & dina....they are irreplaceable! #justsayin 😎
"We should get a thesaurus and a dictionary" 😂😂😂
Asalamualaykum Sid and Dina
I Liked this before watching👍
It is so relaxing to listen to you guys, giving advices and all
Love ya
This is one of your best answers yet! As a couple you should support and motivate each other.
ahahahha u guys have the most hilarious references.....I ate the twix because you ate the kit kat....u guys are sooo amazing....love these videos.....and so happy they are back and regular
TBH I think he's the problem. He's trying wayyyy too hard to be wickedly smart you can see how he's trying to use the big unnecessary words in the email he's so extra
I started to say " HEY GUYSS BACK WITH AN OTHER VIDEO " with dina
This is one of your best videos yet. The general advice is what alot of people need to hear about right now.
If anyone has seen the movie Brick Lane, this guy reminds me so much of the husband. He arranged for them to get married knowing she was a village girl and spent years thinking he was superior to other foreigners for his knowledge and English skills despite even his kids being more proficient than him 😂
bahiyah I love that movie and the book :D
Sids such a good father ma sha Allah
I hope this guy doesn't actually talk like this cause I would punch someone in the face if they came up to me and started using a bunch of long ass words
I really freaking love how Sid and Dina really breaks it down to the core of gender roles and how some things are considered taboo in certain cultures. Thank you so much guys.
I applaud you guys for always coming at people's situations from different perspectives 👏 The guy who sent the email has gotten some great advice!
I like Dinas view on intelligence - that everyone is intelligent but how well they are encouraged will determine how hard they use their brain
Wow! Sid and Dina's chemistry is sooooo good. Hope my would-be and I have such good chemistry :)
Your advice was on point. I hope this helps the individual who reached out to you. If he gives it a go and follows through on your suggestions, I feel there's a possibility that things might work out for them. Wishing them both the best of luck.
yoo this was one of the best advice you guys gave! you said such smart things i love it i was paying so much attention as if i was in class lol!!
I just love these two
Salam! I watch your videos all the time and think the two of you together are so hilarious. Anyway, I think this is probably some of the best advice the two of you have ever given. Keep it up!
"Well it's good that you hate yourself for it"😂😂
Just as I was about to go to bed cus tomorrow's my first last day of school but Sid and Dina are my priority rn 🤷🏾♀️
15 mins to film...but it's 19 mins long HAHAHA
Syeda and that's not even counting what they've edited out 😂
I just Found you guys today and I think you two are hilarious! I'm from Texas but worked in the Middle East for several years and will be travelling there in the very near future.
Respect for you guys for the patience and good advice, may god Bless you both and everyone
I’ve been re-listening to these videos in the background and it’s been great to revisit issues like these with a newer, maturer mindset.
One point which I think I’ve really related to, is that some well-educated people are hopeless at social discussions. Particularly, science educated, in my experience. They are definitely book-smart but don’t really care or have an open mind regarding social and political issues. On the other hand, I’ve been surrounded by fellow humanities students who are trained to have an open mind and take interest in world issues. Just goes to show, intelligence comes in many forms and sometimes it’s knowing things and other times it’s how to listen.
I’m so curious as to how this particular issue was resolved. I wish we go follow-ups!
bruh i felt dumb listening to that email lol big words ahah
Meriam Silver 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I understood half of the letter. But my English knowledge has just boosted tremendously. Thanks writer and thanks Sid and Dina for this unexpected educational video! xxx
Guys this is one of my favorite of your advice videos. It's so helpful to so many other types of relationship problems. It isn't a clickbaity kind of issue (not that those aren't important but it's nice to see some diversity in the questions). And mashaAllah you two really sound like you know what you're talking about with this one. I hope that the emailer is able to find some solutions from this. I definitely got a lot.
The colour sid was wearing is called Mink :)
Rukia Khanom you are thicccc asf for asking me if im joking 😂
Lol I got this joke a day late 😅😂
Akmak You kind of ruined it by being rude -_-
Akmak thanks!
I don't get it 😒
"We should get a thesaurus and a dictionary!" 😂😂
I MISS THIS SO MUCH
It's 2AM, I just came back from work and what better to do than catch up with Sid n Dina. Hope you are well iA xx
Sometimes women who get depressed shut down from any interests and if the guy played a part in damaging her self worth there's a huge chance she's actually depressed but hiding it.
You two are freaking adorable. Always giving such good advice mA!
This video deserves a million likes ... its the best one yet
This was probably one of the best videos you guys have done! You guys are great MashaAllah
I like how the video goes on dina gets closer to sid and loops her arm around him 😍😍
I love how you guys explore all the options :) so thoughtful of you x
My father raised me and my brother alone (my mother expired when we were very little) he taught me to cook and everything else :) may Allah grant him the highest place in jannah, daddy's are angels
this reminds me of my parents with my dad being like 14 years older than my mom so they're on way different pages
100% agree on the difference on the people who are academically smart and those who are smart smart
I'm an adult and my dad is still teaching me how to cook, its great!
Dayum! Dinas teeth are glithening!! 🔥👌👌👌
Literally stopped everything to watch this. Keep up the good work Sid and Dina 👍🏼💖
"u ate the twix so i ate the kitkat" 😂😂🤣🤣
You guys nailed this advice piece
it was Fajr time when i got the notification and i was like yay another one on sid and dina.
This guy should take it easy rather than try hard to be as smart as he can by using difficult words!!
I actually like how you guys always always take a realistic approach by sharing your experiences .
I love sids laugh
I love Dina and sid mindset
"I ate the twix because you ate the KitKat" lmao so me.
“I hate the twix cose u ate the kitkat“ 😂😂😂😂😂😂
The best Muslim couple on TH-cam long live your family and salaam 2 u.
Wow just watched dinas new video
NOW I GET TO WATCH THIS!!😂👍
I adore these two! ❤️
Noooooo
school starts tommorow 😭😭😭😭
One of the best advice videos ever. Very Well Done guys!
"I ate the Twix coz you at the KitKat"
😂😂 I laughed so hard at that😂
Thesaurus LOLLL!!! Also, good advice. Twix/kitkat hahaha, love you guys, more vids please!
I totally agree with Sid and Dina about the "staying for the sake of the kids" thing ! My parents stayed together for my brother and I and to be honest I thing it was a mistake cuz I've always seen them unhappy like all my life ! Tbh I've seen them hanging out together like not even in my home they always in seperate rooms and when they talk it's an argument ... rarely I see them laughing about something and I'm like Wtf ?! And it's been like this for 20 years so when people don't wanna divorce because of the kids, obviously there's a lot of differente situation, it might be the best thing for everyone ! Growing up in a non-loving unhappy parents kind thing is unhealthy.
You guys are so cute together Mashallah
Yaaaas 19:16 mins long 😍
Arisha Mir it's perfect to watch before bed 🙇🏻♀️
Asya yesssss omg currently in bed just doing that
was gonna go bed early but nm
Do you know what! This guy actually does sound like a know-it-all and he sounds a bit up his own arse. Maybe his wife isn't intellectual but I bet she knows her stuff about topics she likes and she's interested in. Maybe he should try and get into some of her interests and connect on a different level.
oh that's basically what sid and dina said...i should have waited til the end of the video :')
His question sounded like he went on thesaurus.com and just found unnecessary synonyms to normal words 😒 he should get off his high horse. Everyone is smart in their own ways. Just because he's not married to Einstein doesn't mean she's not smart.