HOW DO YOU VALUE YOURSELF?
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How do you value yourself - and others. Don't put yourself down if you don't have a large salary. Other things make is far more valuable than the amount you have in the bank.
#selfworth #value #beproudofwhoyouare
Dee, I am a 27 years old woman, living alone by myself since I was a teenager. I had many bad experiences with so called family members and friends.. your videos, your presence and voice give me something that I've never had.. like a mother, a friend and a loving teacher. Most of the time if I am having dinner or lunch, I watch your videos. I am learning a lot from you, life and perspective-wise. Thank you and take care! Lots of love from Germany. xx
You take great care - and don't get indigestion through watching me whilst you eat!!!! D
The most precious things in life can't be bought with money. Health and true friends are the two big ones.
Self worth
Well diamonds are precious gemstones and they can be bought with money. Health can also be bought with money, too. Healthy food, activewear, a sensible pair of sneakers, supplements and access to healthcare all require money. These are things critical to good health. I do agree that true friends can add to the quality of your life, however, they are not required. It’s okay if you are in a season where you are riding mostly solo. Mental health is more important than maintaining friendships that limit your growth/don’t make you happy anymore.
Anyways, I simply don’t agree with your comment. My mindset rn is money over friends because diamonds are actually forever.
Actually sadly having money helps one to be healthy unfortunately hehe. 👍☺
Peace & solitude are a very precious thing to me
I wish more elderly people would make advice videos like this. We have so many videos giving advice on the internet but the majority of them are from people in their 20s and 30s. I am not looking down on the younger generation and some of them do give really good advice, but what the younger generation lack is wisdom - the type that leads to peace & harmony within ourselves or towards others.
Thank you - good to hear a variety isn't it? D
Going through each season of life is important, what is it 7 seasons?
Great video, I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me, i still love her and most times i cant stop thinking about her, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but i just cant, i love her so much, i don't know why i am bring this here for, i cant stop thinking about her.
wow, how did you get a spiritual adviser, and how do i reach her?
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.
Just a brief note: You come into this world alone, you depart alone…loving yourself is of prime importance. Relationships are wonderful, but appreciate yourself and actually love yourself as well. You cannot give away what you do not have for your own self. Best wishes for your quest.
Yall practicing witchcraft like its a normal thing😂
@@christianronel7432THIS!!!!
I just found you! Thank you for sharing who you are. We all need the likes of you. We don’t have enough of your kind of influence in this world. Thank you.. you are beautiful. Your strength of character is incredibly inspiring.
These are the videos that I need. Nearing 50, still trying to figure out what I am worth.
I'm so happy yo have found you here. Your insights are so gentle and welcoming. Thank you. May all reading this find joy and peace. 🌺🌺🌺
Thank you so much. D
You’re brilliant and lovely as can be. You’re a very loving being. Thank you very much indeed
Wow, thank you D
It’s like getting a warm hug when I most need it …just got past chemo and surgery it was a mammoth task to get thru all of that …thank you for the kind warm words
Do take great care after your surgery and chemo. I hope that you are beginning to feel that you have coped with your mammoth task and now begin moving on. I am thinking of you - and sending a hug via the ether. I would love it if you feel that you can join us on some of our video walks in lovely places - with me chatting away, or letting the birds be fully heard. They are relaxing and it would be good if you feel that you can come along. Take care. D
I'm so grateful for your videos...I'm in a low point in my life, and your words help bring me some comfort. Thank you so much
Do take care - maybe join us on the relaxing video walks out in nature or check out my guided relaxation that I posted yesterday - th-cam.com/video/_n55YBfrOQM/w-d-xo.html D
My son is disabled and is raising his two children by himself. He often gets down on himself because he can't work and earn more money. His son was recently recognized as an honor student and one of only 7 in his grade to be awarded a citizenship award. That's worth so much more than money.
Excellent. D
Often low self esteem is the result of poor interactions with others, sadly it's beyond one's control if they are not on the same page. Money is no more than a man made concept not a reflection on the individual's quality.
What a fantastic perspective x
Totally agree. I clean houses and listen to higher podcasts and saved learnings while I work, to live here physically, but I feed my soul at the same time, otherwise I create art so my inner soul is at peace x
Money is not everything. It does not define us. Our material possessions do not define us. What is more important is being healthy, having a great support network around you, and enjoying the little things in life.
True! D
Thank you Dee, learning to value myself is something I'm working with now. It has not been easy but slowly I'm noticing changes.
Good that you are noticing changes Michelle. Baby steps are the best way to go as you are probably changing patterns of behaviour that have been around for some time. Also, don't beat yourself up if you take a step back on occasion. Life's like that. Take care. D
You are created in the image of God.
Had a shit day at work today. This immediately makes me feel so much better. My value is not bound to my job and my job only. I worth so much more and there’s so much more I can give to the world ❤️ I hope everyone feels the same!
Good for you. D - but sorry about the shit day!
remember energies are energies and will vibrate whether you are there or not......an abuser will abuse......you or the next one. It's about them, not you. I hope your days got better.
“Legal, decent and honest”. WOW. These words were God sent. You have no idea!!! I have a grad degree and am a teacher but work a second job as a kennel assistant to dogs for Purple Hearts. Yes, I clean dog stuff up and wipe down kennels and clean litter boxes. My family is ultra rich but I’m a single mom who struggles with bills. I was ashamed of myself having to do this work but you saying what you said really helps me put my second job in perspective. Thank you😢
Good for you. I won't list some of the jobs I have done. Nothing I wasn't happy to have done - all part of our lifelong learning and paid the bills... just. From a retired teacher to a working one - take care. D
I see nothing but a strong fearless mother! Ashamed??? You should be so PROUD of yourself! I am of you!
@@tracycooper1804 that means a lot to me. Thank you. I work hard for my money and love the "legal, decent and honest" part in the video. What I do is not glamarous but it is legal, decent and honest work. Sending love and light.
@@Cheshirelass thank you for your reply. I appreciate you takig the time to write me.
@@Iamchampagne1969you are radiant ❤❤
Once again, words we all needed to hear, today is Mother's Day in US, We honor all Mother's, a time to remember my own mother and her sacrifices she made for us 5 children, no husband to help...wow! I miss her and your words reminded me of her struggles and we valued her so....all mother's need to hear "you are worthy"....Especially the Mother's who don't hear from their estranged children, they are worthy, they tried, they loved their children... God bless all the Mothers ❤❤❤
Thank you for sharing those words. D
Beautiful lady, your wisdom, grace and dignity are priceless! Thank you for sharing your valuable insights with us. Your self-awareness and caring for so many here on YT are adding to your legacy. You are the internet Auntie that many grown folks never knew they needed. Thank you. ❤
You are welcome Thank you. D
If only every single person could see this video & hear this message. I'm so grateful I did.
Thank you most sincerely. D
Perfect
New sub. Finishing a late shift. This is helping. You remind me of my late grandmother.
SO many have said the same - do you know, that makes me happy - so long as I don't have to send you all birthday presents! D
Hi Aunty Dee, have just discovered you and already watched 3 clips! Thank you for sharing such wonderful little life nuggets. I really love the analogy of not being a cabbage, especially as woman we often see ourselves as cabbages, despite many successes, well cared for family or stable home... this is just the little boost needed. Thank you for being our internet grandma ❤️❤️
My pleasure - so long as you don't all expect birthday presents. D
@@Cheshirelass 😆😆😆 thanks for the laugh! These are presents enough 🌸🌸❤️
I’m a cleaner as well as other side jobs. Hostess too. Recently started working for my friend who sells her home made products at a farm stand m. I’m college educated with a four year degree but never went into my field of study. I’m 52, a mom and grandmom. I became a nanny after college - best job ever. But when we had our two kids, we both wanted me to be home during their formative years. They are now 23 & 22.
Great woman, I love to hear your calm voice❤
I wish everyone thought like you do. What a wonderful world that would be. I'm not a cabbage either! Keep making vids!
Thank you so very much for your kind comment. Glad to hear that you are a fellow non-cabbage... though I would like to retain some of my supposed cabbage traits of nurturing and caring. Our planet and it's various flora and fauna need this so much - be this in a non-paid way, but also those who care and nurture professionally. D
@@Cheshirelass Amen to that!
Another beautiful message Dee, thanks for sharing and I am so glad that these videos have brought you immense amounts of joy, you deserve it for sharing your wisdom with many others. Thank you once again and take care!
Thank you so much. I do my best!!
You're priceless!💛
Thank you Ms. Dee. You came to my life in the perfect time.
You are my TH-cam Gigi, is that ok if I say that?
Thank you for the words of wisdom. Thank you for spreading the good word and the truth of what is life is all about. My sister and I grew up in a Filipino culture. Born and migrated to U.S. 17 years ago. And now that we are in our late 20’s we are discovering more about the “older generation” or they might call, “the traditional Filipinos” that some of them we’ll most of our families crowd are and have been such a judgement group of people.
We just don’t understand why? Why bring a family down? Why bring a friend down? Why value our carrier more than our personality?
We are here in front of them trying to spread love and kindness but they are just blinded with their criticism that they cnt even enjoy each other’s presence.
The Good news is my sister and I have finally awaken from the truth and we are here to break the generational trauma.
So thanks again for letting me express my emotions and thank u for letting me be me! And thanks for all the love u give in this world. We very munch need it Gigi!🦋✨💙✨🙏🏽
Well done to you and your sister. This old world of ours needs support - and the people on it would so benefit from kindness from others. Take care - and thank you for your kind words. D
Excellent advice. Thank you Dee! 😊
Thank you too - for taking the time to comment.
Thank you for your great advice God bless you Dee❤
I love the way you talk, I could listen to you for hours☺️ you are doing so great with these videos! Thank you for sharing 🩵
Thank you so much! D
Thank you my dear for highlighting what many of us take a lifetime to realize...that we have always had "intrinsic worth" and how we add to our own lives & what we give to others just "enriches that worth" a million fold💗🙏☺️🙏💗
Absolutely. D
I apprecite your video and you sharing your feelings sincerely🙏💌
My pleasure. Take care. D
I really deeply LOVE YOU!!!! I just started to follow you... you are Amazing ❤❤❤❤❤ thank you for share with us all of this important thoughts... hugs 😊😊😊
Welcome. D
No wonder you divorced that ego-centric guy! Poor thing doesn't know how to value himself, which he must learn to do before he can value others.... You did your best with him. Thank you so much for this beautiful video! X
So glad I'm discovered you Dee. One gets so involved in "life" you sometimes forget what really important! Thank you for reminding us ❤
You are welcome! D
You are so very right here. Monetary worth isn’t the only kind of worth. Of course money is needed to pay bills etc but when you said “whatever you do”. I agree, try to be diligent in whatever it is you do and the sense of satisfaction will build up self esteem
I have a vivid picture pops into my head when I see your user name! D
@@Cheshirelass the name is a bit of an antonym really. I can be quite shy until I feel I know someone - far from the carefree loose type lol
I love myself. Not in a I am all that way, but I do know my value. Refuse to tolerate anymore abuse. God vibes only. Looking forward to the next chapter knowing Good has my back. Bless them anyways. ❤❤❤. Title 1
I just found you today Dee and your such a beautiful lady through and through ❤I listen to you and agree and believe your words of wisdom.....Thank you so much it's wonderful that your sharing your stories ....Take care and enjoy your day ....
You too - and I am so glad to have been found! I appreciate your words. Thnk you D
I just found Dee today too!!! ❤❤❤❤
I feel for you re your ex hubbys harsh words. We have got to be strong
I've struggled with purpose having been put out of my teaching work and army reserve work at age 41. I spent years not being able to do anything, but slowly working on my recovery is most of my work and doing some projects woodworking etc. Getting by financially is the hard part and I've racked my brain trying to think there must be something i can do. So I've just started recording videos of me doing my projects and make little vids.. If I can do projects perhaps filming them might yield something. It helps with a sense of purpose, I'm finding parts hard with verbally articulating or explaining, but i explain i have trouble with that and no one has trolled me.
Well done you. That took some doing at first I imagine - having to explain about yourself. D
Thanks again.. Dee..good advice ❤
Thank You do much for this video❤
Really beautiful message. Thank you Dee!
Thank you. It's really great to here you speak from the heart .....it's very helpful you know!
I am glad that you found this helpful. I can only ever speak from the heart - even when I am filming in a garden or woodland. Take care. D
So grateful to find your channel and I've just entered my twenties❤❤ I needed you
Welcome. Take care. D
Waw incredible May God continue blessing you. Absolutely, a message sent from Jesus. 👑
🕊👑🕊🕊sharing🫂thankYOU
"We all add value, to our lives, to this world of ours." - Love this. Thank you for the lovely pep talk Dee.
I loved this video! Thank you for making it ❤️
Hi Dee, this is my second day of watching your videos 😊. Just discovered them yesterday. I'm lucky enough to have found you! Second day, and you've already made me cry! hehe. The good cry I mean. I'll make it a habit of listening to your videos everyday. I find them very very helpful! Btw as long as we are living, there will always be a purpose. No matter what, you will always be someone who has value. People do think that monetary value is the most important thing, definitely wrong! Your time spent with us is of immense help. I just wanna say that I treasure you. and Thank you for giving us your time. Sending some love from the Philippines! ❤😘
Thank you so much. Lovely to know where you are joining us from. D
Thanks for sharing with us! 🙏
Thank you Dee, this was really required for my life advice ❤️
Thank you so very much for the super thanks - it is much appreciated. D
Mam, God bless you with good health and indeed your lessons are valuable , only today I was a little upset of no one checking on me , I felt and wrote in my journal the same that perhaps if I was so and so they would have valued me, but I then thought that if they would do so for my material contribution it would be of no value , the true value is one we respect our selves and know our self worth and need nothing from the others , being self sufficient in our worth
It is important to recognise our self-worth - in order to maintain a positive concept of ourselves. take care. D
Thank you for this video, I'm glad these videos have given you purpose because they are uplifting and informative 😊, keep spreading your thoughts!
Thank you! Will do! D
Excellent points and analysis. Thank you. speaking as a professional business owner and private individual, I am sorta dealing with this kind of issue right now and you caused a lightbulb to go ON in my head.
I love those light bulb moments! Take care. D
I have just found you and you are touching my heart and probably many hearts. Thank you ❤
Oh gosh- thank you. D
When I worked as a nanny, typical of most nannies, I earned a pittance. However, seeing the difference I made in my charge's lives was priceless and something I value to this day.
Well done - things like supporting people - young, old, any age are such important jobs and good that you see your true value. Things like that help to make us the people that we are. D
Having finally stopped my paid cleaning career just last week, I can honestly say the people I have worked for have always become friends as well as my boss. You get to know there past from years ago ,their families and they love their clean house apartment whatever they live in as well. In recent years I didn’t do it for the money but for the love of the people and job .
That is so good to hear. D
Yes a number of things to be thought about, a rich seam. From the previous little ones to our partners, to the making of food to the making of anything, the next note in a piece of music or the next line in a drawing. Greetings from Lancashire.🙂
Greetings back -from a Lancashire lass! D
I thought it was a Lancashire accent, maybe more rural Lancs than say Manchester. I was brought up in St.Annes and now we live in Heysham, it's a grand place.
@@StephenGrew Manchester lass but moved around a lot so believe my accent became diluted. D
Ma'am, I am not one who tends to make comments in the comments section, however, please know I'm grateful that I found your kind, positive and one of true strength with class channel. Be well
Thank you so much - I really appreciate your kind words. D
What a sweet, lovely human. Your sincerity is very powerful.
Thank you so much. D
By the time u reach retirement and have been through all kinds of life experiences, u should have some incite, into how life can change, in a split second. It will make u stronger, or u can choose to curl up in a ball in the corner. Some humans , r more dependent on others. U kinda have to face life like a soldier everyday, especially if u r by yourself.
Insight is great isn't it - but there are always those who never develop it, whatever their age - yet some young folk seem like 'old heads on young bodies' as we used to say. Take care D
I need to understand my value outside of monetary value. The whole point of capitalism is to get as much as you can and pay as little for it as possible. My employer will never pay me what I am worth because they need a profit and I am priceless.
Difficult isn't it? The main thing is remembering what our true value is - and that it includes so much more than just our paid employment. D
I'm glad he is your ex husband. Any partner who can not see our true worth should be an ex 🙂❤️💕
Absolutely. D
Thanks Mom😊❤
My dear, you are such lovely peaceful lady😍🥰🌸. I am certain that people just enjoy very much being in your serene, lovely presence, as I do. Like the dream lady from the clasical literature, which you come to visit in the sunny Sunday afternoon for a cake and tea🥰
You are such an inspiration for me in my age of 37, for both where I am going and where I am just now, in the presence..inspiration to look around at all these beauty of life.....
Thank you so much - apologies for not providing cake! D
I can't wait to be this chilled and relax. I really want to get here. Thank you for your video and I hope you have a great day
Thank you too D
Four months ago, I lost my mother, and in that time, you have unknowingly become my surrogate mother. ❤Your wisdom and perspective on life are incredibly meaningful! Thank you, Dee. 😊
I am sorry for your loss and hope that I have been able to help insome small way. D
This made me cry… I’m a stay at home mom and my value doesn’t come in monetary level but I take care of my husband, all our kids, and our home..
Take care D
I loved this a subscribed. This is so true. Thank you!
Welcome. D
Thank you for this, it couldn't have come at a better time ❤
Take care D
Once again, many thanks Dee for your kindness. Your talks are so helpful 🙏🏻💐
Oh Dee, that husband!!! He actually said HIS "worth" by asking you that ! You know I have tears in my eyes I'm shocked by what he priorities! He can't see what a lovely person you are ❤Rose
Thanks Rose - we live and we learn they say! D
I actually have a dilemma. II've had "professional" office or teaching jobs, but I want to work in a cafe for the summer and worry people I know former colleagues and the like will look down on me if they saw me, but I just want to do it out of curiosity and as a bit of a hobby to get. a break from mental work.
Go for it if you can. Let them look down at you - though they probably won't be thinking of you. Good to work in an entirely different way - and if you are teaching it will give you a broader experience of life which will serve you well. D
I doubt your ex-husband' realizes that his question might have a lot to do with why he is now your EX/ha! I love it!!
p.s. You could have told him that but I can see you're much too gracious to do so ❤
I'm curious about your thoughts on just being which comes from Buddhism verses constantly feeling like we need to be doing or productive to have value?
I believe that we owe it to ourselves to spend some time simply being. It allows us to re-charge our batteries and be calm.Good for mind, emotions and body too. D
Thank you for reminding me of this. My dear late Nanna once said to me to never be ashamed to be a housewife and mother and I’ve always struggled with this and to some extent, still do. I dread the thought of old school reunions and people asking me what I do. I’m proud to have been a full time housewife and Mum but I can’t tell others. I too have been a cleaner and other “menial “ jobs too occasionally just to help us along and now I volunteer for an animal charity but I still feel fairly worthless. Far far too much emphasis is placed on career and earnings and it really shouldn’t. Thank you once again xx
Sadly, it really is. You say that you voluteer - so many things would not happen - for good - without volunteers. So under-rated yet do very valuable tasks D
My sisters would like me to be a cabbage.
As someone said - cabbage is nutritious and good for us - D
Thank you. I want to have the courage to start making videos similar to this. I love how authentic you are. These videos are so real and rare to come across.
Thank you. Dip your toe in the water and have a go. D
@@Cheshirelass 💚💚💚
So beautiful.i needed this!hugs from Germany!❤
Glad it was helpful! D
you are so gorgeous love your videos so much!
Thank you so much!! D
Im a wife. A mother.a homemaker.and a friend. My husband has been bedridden.i take care of his needs. He had surgery.2 of them.with lots of hard work.he.s walking again.and exercises.he.s been down 5.12 years.i run a hobby ranch with livestock.horses a mule goats dogs and cats. And a few chickens. Flowers lite gardening.and i like to do art.poet writing.i wish i knew. What i know now .i wouldn.t have made alot of mistakes.i know better.❤
You have a full, busy life. I guess many of us would consider foresight an advantage. A good topic for over a coffee or a glass of something cold. D
Love to listen to your good advice 💕
I appreciate that! D
Nice
So true, you remind me off my Mother who I miss every day. I look forward to your videos every day. A cabbage is so full of goodness and nutrients essential for the body. So thats great . Take care. ❤😊
Love your positive spin on cabbage! D
What are you worth? You are priceless. You are a rare treasure that people dream about being.🙌❤️😁👏🏼. You have empathy, compassion and you radiate joy. I would say you are quite wealthy indeed.💪🏼😎. There are qualities in a person that are truly more valuable than mere money. YOU are priceless.❤️
Thank you. D
Your depth of knowledge, wisdom & understanding is truly invaluable. I'm so glad I found your channel.....I channel I wasn't necessarily looking for but a channel I absolutely needed. Thank you ❤
I just want you to know that I value you. I recently found your channel and have enjoyed and learned from you on what I have watched so far. Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom! And also, I am worrying that you don’t realize that you can get paid for these posts.
Thank you - am battling through the hoops to sort the payment. D
Thank you Dee. Your advice is so valuable. You are making a huge difference here. Bless you.
I’m so happy I found your channel. It is so calming to me. You are an inspiration. 🌸🌺🌹🌻
We are worth so much to God that He sent His only begotten Son to die for the sin of the world.
Dee i wish i had purpose you mean alot thank u for speaking up and i love hearing about you stories and your back stories really helps me
Take care. D
Thank you so much. Your words of wisdom are healing.❤
I appreciate your advice and experiences. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you love listening to you lovely lady ,💐🇮🇪
Thanks for listening D
Wow-so well said, and definitely a message we all need to hear! Thank-you :)
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You are a lovely.person x
It is kind of you to say that. D
You are so well spoken and calming. I love to listen to you and thank you for the message.
This was so valuable right now, thank you. ❤
“ You go, girl”. Please don’t be offended by my immediate Apparently flippant reaction. I thank You!
No problem! I like it! D
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