I'm not a teacher, but if I were, I'm not snitching on a kid for being LGBTQ+. Like, crucify me if you want or burn me at the stake, I'm not going to potentially endanger a child due to some stupid laws.
I used to work at a Christian school where they "politely redirected gay kids to more suitable schools" if they dared peek out of the closet. Those kids would later come hang out at my house where I'd help them figure out their next steps, making sure they understood that they are perfect and it's the school that's messed up.
I'm very fond of the ones who quote Leviticus to "prove" homosexuality is a "sin" but when you point out their polycotton blend t-shirt is also against Leviticus they're all "JESUS DIED TO INVALIDATE THE OLD TESTAMENT!"
It's the same in England. The amount of times I've had to explain Biblical concepts to Christians, only for them to be in awe that I've actually read the Bible. Then they automatically assume I'm Christan, and when I correct them I have to explain that the more I read the Bible, the less I believed in God.
Speaking of mummies… Rich Victorians used to have “unwrapping parties” where they’d have a few drinks and then undo a mummy to see what was inside. Literally using someone’s mortal remains for a cheap thrill. So astoundingly disrespectful
In response to choosing to be child free and people saying, "What are you gonna do when you're old?" I simply answer with... "Well, I have been paying into a pension since I was 20... I have life insurance, and my funeral plans are already planned and paid for... what are you gonna do other than be a financial burden to your kids?"
I would argue there are a lot of insurance systems that wouldn't work without the next generation being at a certain size...on the other hand, just paying taxes supports people who want to take that onto them selfs. I expect my "none procreating" frends to be a good influence on my kids, whom I won't take to concerts (awful environment for me)
Yes! I worked in a nursing home for over 20 years and saw, first hand, several reasons why having kids with the expectation of having built-in later life care isn’t a good idea. Even if it wasn’t selfish. Including some resident’s children becoming incurably sick, disabled and/or dying, estrangement, life imprisonment etc.
I HATE that line. I have worked in nursing homes for 20 years and the number of residents who get maybe one visitor a month, despite having many children and grandchildren...it's heartbreaking. And these are people who seem to have decent relationships. That's not factoring in the ones with specialized care needs that family members cannot handle every day. (those usually have near daily guests who come in to help feed and just hang out) The odds are that your kids will either be unable to care for you in extremely old age, whether it's physical or mental.
I am a woman in my 50’s and I had 2 children that were only 13 months apart by the time I was 20 (I was on birth control each time) I had to wait until I was 21 to have my tubes tied and during that year I was on 3 different birth control products at the same time praying I wouldn’t get pregnant again. Before the surgery date could be set up my OBGYN tried to stop me by saying “What if the worst thing happened and one of your children died you will regret not being able to have another child”. Well the worst thing happened when my oldest died in a car wreck when she was 15, I did not want to have another child to replace her.
US citizen here. I went to my OBGYN to discuss tubal ligation. He said I needed to have a long talk with my husband before I made this decision and to be 100% sure I didn't want any more kids. He even implored me to have my husband come in with me so he can give his blessing. This was 2018. Only five years ago. I think not, sis. It's almost like the doctor thought I shouldn't have bodily autonomy. (This thought was brought up by society pushing women to have kids, BTW, and how even after we do have kids, we still don't always have the accessibility of permanent birth control. I promise I didn't just spontaneously share this just to share it. 😅)
I wanted to get my tubes tied, but my OB said I needed my husband's permission. I stated that I am a single woman, I don't have a husband. I was then told that they wouldn't do it because my future husband might want kids. How does an imaginary man have more control over my body than me!?
@@reptiqueen7275 I would have told them that I wouldn't marry a man who wanted kids. I've had plenty of odd looks and sputtered responses form that one.
My oldest daughter never wanted kids, so she married a guy that had four🤣. Two are adults, one lives with her mother and they have the 14 year old with them
I'm kinda in the same boat as a cis woman I was born with a hormone imbalance that makes me have a faint mustache faint partial goat patch and fluctuations in my serotonin, dopamine and insulin, because of a genetic disorder that I've had for 2 decades causing rupturing cysts on my overies...it's a bit of a chaotic situation (too complicated to fix) in general but just used to it now after so long...
My dad just figured I wouldn't be having kids (I'd be "overindulgent" anyway, apparently), so he had the same reaction I had when I found out I couldn't have them: "meh." Haven't talked to my mom in years, but she's gonna be super upset when she finds out... in 10-20 years or so or when I hit menopause.
I have never related to Roly more than croaking out "I actually hate children" mid-wheeze. 😂 My asthmatic lungs also wheezed so hard at that bit. Finally getting my hysterectomy was the greatest decision of my life. Shame it took me nearly bleeding to death for 6 months straight before anyone let it happen.
I will say this. Being unattractive does not mean creepy. My manager gave me his coat because I was shivering. He was being nice. That poster was just being a dick.
Yes it’s sad that everyone thinks like that! It’s also incredibly egotistical to think just because someone is nice to you they want to fuck you. Get over yourself…
As a trans person who came out to my school first, and who happens to have very excepting parents, I was only scared to come out to them because I was overthinking it too much, and I had heard a lot of trans peoples stories on how they had come out so I got scared away. Fun fact I actually came out by giving my step mom a drawing that my friend had made for me saying ‘ it’s a boy’ because I was too nervous to actually say it myself and my friend had painted the trans colors behind it as like one of those late gender reveal parties, and to say I was relieved when she just hugged me and told me she had figured it out already and had just wanted me to figure it out for myself first is such an understatement, I started crying. They aren’t very educated in the trans department which is another reason I was scare, but I’m very thankful that they accepted me. Also y’all are slaying as always much love to you guys from across the seas
as a trans teen with transphobic parents, this had me in tears. it makes me so happy that a lot of people have parents they can lean on. my brother "doesn't agree" with trans people, but the other day we were driving in his car and he just sort of paused for a moment before saying "i accept you". those three words can honestly mean so much to someone, especially when they're scared. (for context, i've been out for 4 years to my family) (edit: he's trying his best to learn more about trans people and no longer "doesn't agree" with us. he even called me ollie the other day!)
I feel this. Came out at school because my parents are evangelicals and used to make homophobic and transphobic jokes all the time growing up. Turns out, a transphobic teacher outed me to them but they still waited for me to tell them. I had a house lined up with a lesbian friend and bags packed and the only thing they really said was “I’m not sure that’s quite the right name… but we understand if you want to go with it either way” (I agreed, I started with Parker and wanted to test other ones, at the time it was Ben. But Parker is just right, and they agreed). The relief is intense
In fact, my brother was like “yeah, I thought when I hugged you I might’ve felt a binder, but I wasn’t gonna call you out on it.” And was so cool, which is amazing because we’ve always been really close growing up
As an asexual aromantic demigirl with sensory processing disorder I’ve known since I was roughly 9 or 10 years old that I never wanted to give birth to a child and if I had kids that I would adopt them and I either get crazy unhinged responses from people or congratulatory ones for me wanting to adopt so I can’t imagine what it’s like for the people who don’t want any at all, so ridiculous!
I love that they seem like opposites but the first thing they did was hug and Jamie is slowly becoming more unhinged so I think they're just becoming one person at this point
@@rhymerlegend2717 is "woman" supposed to be an insult or did I miss something? (achievement unlocked a woman - me - gave you attention today, yay! ⭐)
Roly absolutely losing it on "I am He" is the best energy we could ask for~ Always love when people clap back on ignorant arguments using basic Bible knowledge.
I'm a girl. I use she/her pronouns. But there was a point in high school when I was experimenting. I asked certain teachers to call me a chosen name, or in one case simply by my last name because I knew how he felt about it, and to use they/them pronouns. There were a good few people, specifically my theater class that I fully let myself try it. I did really like it. Well, this was a small town. While I received no backlash to my face, my Step-sister and brother's friends were apparently making fun of me to them. And my step-mom decides that I'm the problem, that I can't go by the name and pronouns I wanted. I told the teachers the next day to stop. When I tell you that when a kid called me my chosen name... I literally broke down and had to run to the bathroom. And now I hear it's almost always mandatory for teachers to tell parents about lgbt+ students. While I'm not gender queer, that really didn't help with discovering myself. I already knew from coming out as bi that they, mainly she, wouldn't accept me. Hell, I'm nearly twenty and I'm still not convinced I'm completely bi (I'm starting to think I'm on the aro-ace spectrum). No one has the right to out you. Ps, my dad is now divorcing her and me and him have good relationship.
I’m glad you and your dad have a good relationship at least. Sometimes it can take a while to figure our sexuality out, so good luck and there’s no need to rush.
I hate how same anti-nb people will concern troll about de-transitioning. Like maybe if they allowed kids to harmlessly experiment with different identities then detransitioning would be even less common than it already is?
@@bonesandhearts5683 exactly. I'm glad I had friends and the TH-camrs like these two to help me. Jamie actually got me questioning if I was trans and got me thinking about a lot of stuff.
My 16 year old is on an esports team at school. It has motivated him to keep his grades up and it was pretty cool he was voted to be a team captain, not bad for a deaf kid in a school with less than 10 hard of hearing kids. I love that he has a sense of belonging from being part of the team!
I am 30 and I STILL had some pushback with my tube removal. The argument of “well what if you meet someone and they want kids”. That’s not my responsibility to supply them with that. They clearly aren’t the person for me. I never understood that argument. I’ve also had a termination and have clearly let my choices regarding the matter say what needs to be said. I’ve never wanted kids as soon as I knew what being a mother was and how it happened. And I never will. I am very privileged to have had the procedures I’ve had done and its heartbreaking to know that there are still parts of the world where that choice gets taken away from you. Child free people getting any type of pushback is absolutely bonkers. We are not obligated to have children.
I can add about Psy that he was a famous comedian & show host prior to making music. He was one of the favorite hosts of my mom and I growing up, my mom is Korean and I used to watch different comedy and game shows together. Fun memory, so when i saw Psy showing up with american musicians made me pretty happy. Just a cute little positive story to tell.
My father-in-law compared covid to AIDS and said, "You don't see us wearing masks to protect us from AIDS!" and I just sat there, too stunned to speak, lol. He took my response as "Got her!" and was SO proud of himself. Then I dropped some knowledge and he was too stupid to speak, lol.
I have that same response as you then I hear that... Stun because the shear stupidity of that comment. I'm like your FIL is massively stupid to compare covid with AIDS.
"Men aren't persuasive anymore. You say no and that's it." As it should be. Does this person not realize how many women lose their lives for saying no to the wrong man? There was a case that I learned about recently where a high school student told a classmate she didn't want to go out with him so he kidnapped and tortured her for a month (if I remember correctly). But, no, let's teach boys that no means convince me.
this is the kind of thing that makes a feminist want to slap an other woman. it makes me so furious. we are fighting to get our humanity aknowledged and our human rights protected and enforced. and it is a fight even in the cushy western world ... and then some women go ahead and ... just sabbotage it.
@@karowolkenschaufler7659absolutely, and just to lightly complain about the men THEY are attracted to not being unnecessarily persistent in their advances. It's just such an out of touch thing to complain about.
@@karowolkenschaufler7659tf? Being a feminist doesn’t mean you have to like and respect every single woman?? Feminism is gender equality, not supporting a woman no matter what.
Once after I said that I didn’t want to get married (because I’m aromantic and have actual disgust at the thought of being in a romantic relationship) and I had a guy tell me AND I QUOTE *”But if you never get married, you’ll run out of time to breed”* WTF???? It *baffles* me the amount of unhinged comments I get when I say I don’t want to marry or GOD FORBID that I don’t want kids
I went to my dermatologist for acne medication and he wanted to put me on contraceptive pills because the acne drug "could" interfere with pregnancy, not because the strogen could help with the condition. He did not change that sugestion after telling him I'm lesbian and child free. He was more interested in me taking the pill than the acne medication I needed a prescription for. He was more concerned with a miscarriage that will NEVER happen instead of the medical issue I've been trying to resolve for years. Love both of you, pls keep doing videos 💜 Also UK Ghosts :)
@@tdelioncourt1268 yes, if they give you something strong like Isotretinoin it can cause birth defects and stuff. The problem is that they test you in order to avoid getting sued and not because they care about you nor the possible baby. Their understanding of woman is "pregnancy" and that snowballs into medical malpractice.
There’s one specific acne medication that 100% of the time will result in absolutely horrific birth defects. You’d also be surprised at the amount of people who do not listen to the instructions that come with said medication. I can understand his caution but he should have accepted that you wouldn’t have a chance of getting pregnant based on your circumstances.
@@KleioChroniclesyeah, accutane! My dermatologist considered putting me on it due to severe pubertal acne (we ended up trying antibiotics instead) and warned both me and my mom that I would need to go on birth control for the duration of the treatment due to the massive risk of birth defects caused by that medicine, despite me being 15 or 16 at the time and not even likely to have sex at all. I'm now 19 and on the mini pill for unrelated reasons (suspected endometriosis) but that definitely had an impact on me. Realizing that some medicines can cause fetuses to die or become damaged in utero really encouraged me to start reading medicine labels and leaflets in full before using them.
Some religious people i shall not name here once rang on my bfs catholic Granny's door and asked her how she imagined the devil. She answered with: "Like someone that goes from door to door and tries to convert the people." They left very fast XD
It is absolutely so hard for women to get their tubes tied. My sister has FIVE kids, and her doctor has continually put off her appointment to get her tubes tied. They refused to tie her tubes when she had three kids because, in their words, you either needed to have four kids or be 24, and she wasn't either at the time. The fact that she has five now and they still won't do it is absolutely ridiculous. Her last two kids haven't been planned, although she wouldn't change having them for anything, it's a problem in the US when a woman can't get her tubes tied if she doesn't want kids and now we can't get abortions for any reason. I was raped by a family member when I was 14 and ended up getting pregnant. If that happened to a girl now, she wouldn't be able to get an abortion and would have to live with carrying a baby to term and potentially raising that child as a child themselves. I love my nieces and nephews, but I don't want any kids of my own just because I have so much fear of fucking them up or not doing right by them. Sorry for the rant. It's just a bit of a sore subject for me.
16:36 I'm an American, I got my tubes removed almost 6 years ago now. I had 2 kids biologically already and just gave birth to my 3rd, 48hrs before getting them removed. (They did the surgery after I gave birth vaginally, bc its easy to remove the tubes after giving birth bc then they don't need to put air inside your belly to access them easier) anyways all 3 of those pregnancies were high risk, and I adopted two of my husband's children, so 5 kids! Yet not only did I have to get permission from my doctor, and my insurance, but also my HUSBAND'S PERMISSION!!! He btw absolutely was shocked and said to the doctor he had no right to make an ultimate decision of my body unless I'm unconscious in an emergency. They still made him sign a consent form. It was insane! 😡🤬. Again, that was 6 yrs ago as of the 25th of November. Just 6 years ago! So modern times.
15:32 i work with kids and mom’s talking about their pregnancies is literally nightmare fuel to me. it’s like “yeah a really big clump of my hair came out and won’t grow back, i also had a mucus plug for weeks and milk coming out my pits but it was all so worth it for my little angel”. i understand not wanting kids at all i totally double dog understand why people don’t wanna be pregnant
I can totally relate to what you were saying about women getting sh*t about wanting to get their tubes tied in a parallel way. I'm in my mid 40's, divorced with 4 children and when I told my Dr I wanted a hysterectomy (I was having other issues that could have possibly been resolved without surgery but not guaranteed to work) he spent almost an hour trying to talk me out of it at the initialappointment, again at the pre-op appt and once more at the hospital on the morning of the surgery. He was saying things like "what if you remarry (remember, I'm divorced) and your new husband doesn't have kids?" To which I said "well, I have 4 so I am happy to share." He also talked about the finality of this surgery and there's no going back and it could cause weight gain (which was 100% manipulative since he knows I've lost over 200 lbs and am very concerned about gaining it back). I couldn't believe I was getting so much pushback! I can understand why Drs might have a moral/ethical issue (morals and ethics should not play a part in the medical field imo) with a woman, or man, getting voluntarily sterilized but ultimately it's their body, their choice. Plus, I believe eggs can still be harvested if a woman changes her mind later. Of course, if she had a hysterectomy she'd have to find a surrogate, but with most hysterectomies they leave the ovaries which still produce eggs sooo... 🤷♀️. I've also heard vasectomies can also sometimes be reversed if he so chooses. My point is Dr's and the government need to keep their opinions and morals and ethics away from our bodies and our choices.
It’s absolutely bonkers how often you hear about doctors swooning about what about your hypothetical husband!! I’m happy you were able to get the surgery you wanted in the end! As Luxeria would say “throw him straight in the bin” 🗑️
I am so sorry that you had this happen. My experience was completely opposite. My dr encouraged me to get my hysterectomy. I have thyroid issues so that messed with my cycle. I had early onset puberty (precocious puberty) as well. Plus I had endometriosis. I'd already had a salpingectomy of my right fallopian tube with a partial oophorectomy when I had tubal pregnancy. I'd had 4 miscarriages , my tubal, 2 successful pregnancies, & in my final pregnancy I miscarried one of the babies. So when I talked to my OBGYN he jumped on it. I got it done on Valentine's Day 2017, the only day he had open for 6 months. I've never regretted it.
"Everything you see is a plan to destabilize and destroy the America you grew up in" If Charlie was talking about capitalism, he'd have something of a point.
I live in Florida and this year was the first time I've gotten an email from my son's high school saying I need to provide permission for my child to have a 'nickname.' For example, if Timothy wants to be called Tim, his parents must provide a note in writing to say it's ok. It's obvious that they're doing this to out kids to their parents and let them suffer whatever wrath that might bring. Thanks DEATHSantis
Oh gods, the Jesus pronoun one had me wheezing. Sending that to my daughter. As for the Sam/Samantha one, I will never understand people that choose to have kids and then refuse to love them unconditionally. GTFOH with that crap. My daughter recently came out as a trans woman. Her dad and I support and love her no matter what. If you can't love Sam (I hate using a dead name) as Samantha, you shouldn't have had a child.
I love these videos with Jamie. Also as a woman that doesn’t want children whenever I tell people they always say ‘oh you’ll change your mind’. I’m always like I don’t think so but go off I guess.
I have been saying I don't want to give birth to children since I was 9 (I know ) and I am 36 still saying the same thing. Somehow I am still being told I will change my mind. Because I want to adopt I'm now being told that once I do I will want one of my own after. Utter nonsense
Right? And changing your mind is random. Like. How would you know if you will or won't? So they definitely don't know. I am thinking of changing my mind after saying "NEVER" for 29 years. It is just random. I could change my mind a million times and it's nobody's right to tell me their guess at what I'll do. So weird.
Doctors are so ridiculous about younger women wanting to make permanent solutions or semi permanent solutions to not wanting to have kids. Like me, for example, I am disabled, and I have severe scoliosis and part of my spine goes behind my heart and if I were to have a baby, the movement that the body does to make room for a baby could cause my spine to puncture my heart, and they still won’t allow me to get my tubes tied.
I still remember the first time someone my age asked me if I wasn't worried about dying lonely (Because I don't want to get married or have kids, not just existentially) and responding with ".... I... I have friends? I have a pretty big family too?? I quite like being alone, but I'm pretty sure I'll keep meeting people?" Making a family doesn't guarantee happiness and community??
My parents constantly harp with this on me because Im trans and just really want my ovaries removed, I don't even want them permanently gone because I'll get them frozen for a chance at bio kids in the future, but that's also not good enough 🫠
I asked my Ob/gyn to tie my tubes after my second was born. His nurse hid the paperwork, because she thought I was too young and that I’d change my mind and regret it later. I was thirty, two was more than enough. My dr very graciously back dates the paperwork and made sure the surgeon was scheduled. Never regretted it
"The good old days" were only good if you were a straight white man. I'm a bisexual, half-Japanese woman, I really don't want to go back to the "good" old days. I also never want to have kids and the responses I get are just ridiculous: "You'll change your mind." "You would feel different about your own kids." And of course the "Who's going to take care of you when you're older?" Some women do have a natural maternal instinct. I don't at all, lol. My fur babies are my children and I absolutely love them. I love both of you guys. Looking forward to the next video!
@@John_Weiss that is exactly how it should be, but I need a GP to refer me to get it done, so until I find a GP willing to make the referral I'm not sure what choice I have.
@@pixiesouter9461 I wish you luck, then! I recommend looking for a GP who is (1) Young; (2) Not Korean or South-Asian, as those countries are rather, well, _traditional_ when it comes to "women's roles."; (3) Gay or Lesbian, or specializes in LGBT patient issues. Again, they're far less likely to have a "woman's traditional role" lock on their brains. And I'm _not_ saying that there's anything wrong with doctors from other countries! They're perfectly fine. But, being gay and out for 30+ years, I've found that they _can_ be kinda blind to issues that fall outside of the heteronormativity-mold.
I am in my mid forties now. A decade ago I had women actually getting mad at me because I said I didn't want to bring a child into this world any more. They got quite nasty until I got the last laugh by telling them I absolutely AM a mum, my babies were just never allowed to take a first breath because my body is damaged and I can't carry a pregnancy to term. I have never seen a woman turn purple and hasten away so fast. Same thing happened when "feminists" excitedly told me I can now be anything I want to be, then got mad when I turned around and said I wanted to be a stay at home mum. When they got mad at me I straight up said I could be anything I wanted to be so long as it was what they wanted? They turned purple and left. I laughed both times. Bigots can be funny.
SAHM are - except in super rare cases - dependent on their Husbands. Thats the point in the feminists reactions. And I've had Partners that tried putting me in that situation - no thanks i'm a happily independent single. 😂
I'm 36, and have been told by my obgyn when I was trying to get tested for Endometriosis after saying I knew since I was around 17 that I didn't want kids... "Well, it's not that I don't believe you, but......" . Literally everything after being 30 is considered a geriatric pregnancy...and I have all sorts of health problems including severe chronic pain. There's absolutely no way I'm having a baby, yet they won't give me medical procedures 'just' in case 🙄
For non-Americans, "We the People of the United States," is the begining phrase of the Premable to the Constitution. They're literally the first three words of the entire Constitution.
Also, as for ‘you’re going to be lonely when you’re old,’ my grandfather was partying with the other old people in the old folk’s home. Even when he was in assisted living, he trained squirrels to steal snacks for him. He had 3 girlfriends. He had parties in his room after hours. He would routinely argue with the chaplain. My mom said ‘he is like a college frat boy!’ That’s my plan. Hanging out with other cool old people, until life gets unlivable. The last few year of my grandfather’s life sucked for him. So he would take his pain meds and ignore doctor’s orders to take it easy because he said ‘86 is old enough. I don’t want to live forever if I can’t have fun.’ It resonated with 20 year old me, when he passed. I realized that quality of life was more important than the length, and that your friends can absolutely become your family. As for the free concert, I’ve discovered some of my favorite bands by going to a concert just because someone had an extra ticket. I met System Of A Down right before they blew up because a friend’s brother had two tickets and took his sister and me. I didn’t want to NOT go on an adventure.
I am a childfree cis woman and it is HORRIBLE. the amount of people who say that im not a real woman, i am a waste of life, i should just kms or no man will love me or stay with me.. it dosnt affect anyone but myself! why is it such a big deal?! (also Roly, i too, HATE children lol)
hmm, interesting how similar the things they say to you are to what 'gender critical feminists' say about trans women? wonder if there's an overlap there
I got so excited when I finally saw heavily tattooed ppl in commercials and now when I see hay couples in commercials I LOVE it and really hope to see it much more often
34:00 Similar thing happens at my uni. We have a multi-faith space so that any religion or belief can have meetings and services. It's for everyone. But there's a huge, permanent Christian cross up on the wall at the front of the room. It's really uncomfortable
Omg, the thing about Americans being unaware of international artists is so true 😭 I remember seeing a comment from an American talking about how Bad Bunny was so nice for giving an artist like Arcángel a platform. Meanwhile, Arcángel was one of the people Bad Bunny listened to as a teen…. like the man has been around for a hell of a lot longer then BB (no hate to either though, of course).
@@ulrikesextro4187 I mean it’s an easy search there’s a lot of articles about it but if you want a specific example there’s an article from the Smithsonian titled “The Gruesome History of Eating Corpses as Medicine” that talks about many of the ways Europeans would eat mummies. As for the paint search up the history of a paint called “mummy brown” there is also a good Smithsonian articles about it called “Ground Up Mummies Were Once an Ingredient in Paint” if you’d like a specific website to go to (and to ensure your looking at a trusted source). I’m not trying to be condescending when I say look this up I truly encourage you to look into it’s a very weird period of time and as I said it’s a weird thought that two of the biggest contributors to mummies being rare is humans eating them or turning them into paint
I can’t express how much of a relief it is to watch two people who aren’t terminally online go through online screenshots, and just be normal about it in a way I would expect not in the extreme *online reply* way I expect. it reminds me that maybe being inundated with all that stuff nontstop might play a part in keeping me wound up lol
Thank you for always uploading!! As a cis female, I didn't get the choice to have kids due to Endometriosis. But still had to fight to get a hysterectomy due to my age. Now 35 I still get asked by medical professionals and just random people if I could be pregnant or if I have children. I used to freeze and not know how to respond, not now!! haha, I'm like do you? or no I don't have a uterus, that shuts them up pretty quick. Still annoying though!!
If a guy won’t take, “no” for an answer, run. If a girl wants you to keep asking after she says, “no,” run. (You can really use any genders here, but I was just using the ones from the post.)
Really appreciated the bit regarding childless women; I am 35, cis and don't want kids. My reasons are my own but mostly to do with my shitty health and how much the world sucks right now. I don't feel I should I have to justfy my life choices just because they differ from the norm. Yet people always have an opinion with what I do with my body. I would be happy to adopt some day (god knows there's plenty of kids out there stuck in the system) but my current situation won't allow that so childless I shall remain. And I am happy. So thank you, Jamie & Roly, for supporting childless people's decisions to remain so. 🥰
5:14 I've literally seen multiple women saying like "I'm so happy my husband didn't back off the first time I turned him down. He kept trying, and now we're married, " and my reaction is always like... does he still not respect your boundaries? I'm so sorry. That sounds like an incredibly unhealthy relationship 🥲
I decided when I was 16 to never have kids. I grew up in poverty & knew what generational poverty was. I also have mental illness & didn't want to pass it down to any offspring since it was obvious from family history that it was a definite family problem. Add in the generational abuse & the recipe just did not look good for kids. I'm in my late 50's now. Turns out, I'm also a transman. All the stories of nosy doctors all but making decisions for women despite their express wishes infuriate me & recall for me the stupid things doctors would say to me during medical exams & visits, including one where a doctor wouldn't prescribe birth control for me because of _his_ religious beliefs. I told him, "Your dumb beliefs in imaginary shit mean diddly squat to me, pal. I _DON'T WANT CHILDREN._ Does this get through to you? I can't afford kids. I'm in my 40's (this was before I started my transition), & I know my health won't support a baby. It would be dangerous for me to get pregnant. Give me the fucking pills." He refused. "This isn't a fucking church, bub, this is a medical office, & _YOU_ don't get to decide whether or not I get preggers, or what I do with _my_ body. You're fired." No one clapped, of course, since his staff all supported his lunacy, but I got out of that hellhole & found another doctor. I pity the women who have to get medical care from that asshole, but I live in a small town filled with MAGA Evangelical types & he's the only local doctor available. I have to go far outside of town to get medical care.
I don’t understand parents who don’t support their children. My son is 5 and he wears whatever he wants to wear. I paint his nails when he asks me and he’s allowed to play with makeup and Barbie’s. Let children be WHO THEY ARE
My friend decided she didn't want children and I didn't give her a hard time about it because it's her choice and I respect her. She's around the same age I am, mid thirties, and I understand why she doesn't want kids of her own. After all, I almost died quite literally when I had my own child and while I might want another child to love, protect and provide for and help grow into a well adjusted human being my body says "no, you're crazy. Sit down." People don't need to have children, a pet cat or dog to name common pets are quite fulfilling
"I am He!" Gold! 2 for the price of one! Like when my vegan girlfriend described the meat aisle as the "carcass aisle" and an old lady overheard, "I see no carcasses here!" "Is that a chicken carcass you are holding?" People just don't know what words actually mean, I am convinced of it! They just want everything to conform to their own definition!
24:31 reminds me of a tweet where it showed whatsapp was a popular messaging app among others and there were so many americans saying nobody uses whatsapp and why it was on the list as if most of the world doesnt use it 😭
This is my kind of Reddit reaction video, I love LOVE seeing folk on the internet get wrecked by snappy comebacks!! Thanks for keeping us entertained ♥️😂
ha ha, "We the People" are literally the first three words of the US Constitution, so that was the reason that was a smack down for the Karen that said the Constitution was only written about individuals. (for everyone outside of the US; Captain Obvious for the rest of us)
Ironically, the only time I wanted to have children was when I was a teenager. Once I graduated and started living on my own, I very quickly realized that I did not want kids. And I’m still childless today 😁
12:52 fun fact for the nerds; alcohol is one of the reasons that human society was able to make bigger civilizations because it was he and creating a source of relatively clean drinking water. Of course, waterborne illness and disease were still a thing, but having weak beer mixed in with your regular water meant that you are less likely to die of dysentery and people were able to find that out. There's a reason why every single culture in human existence has some form of alcohol consumption
8:52 Fun fact about the British stealing artefacts, I am Indigenous Australian (Aboriginal) and my Mum actually went to London last year to the British museum to repatriate a stolen ancestors bones. It’s wild how many of our stolen artefacts are in those museums 😅
I am _SO_ glad that my parents are fine with me (and actually all of my siblings as well I think) not wanting children (I'm with Roly, I hate children lol). I've heard horror stories of people (usually women) getting shunned by loved ones for not wanting children (or even not wanting children right away).
@@yugenknows740 I used to feel guilty that I didn’t want kids. So glad I didn’t let my adoptive mum’s “encouragement” to give her grandchildren get the better of me, cos I never wanted kids anyway and seriously don’t have the bandwidth in any department to be a parent.
First off..I love the unhinged chaotic yet wholesome spud energy thus video is giving. Second…I never plan on having biological children. I would love to adopt one day, but when I tell people this I get a variety of responses. Some people have been very supportive, but others have said “Oh you’ll change your mind one day” like no Gertrude. I don’t want to put my body through that. There are other ways of building a family than crotch goblins.
You are so freaking valid. Even before I realized I was a trans man I had done too much reading into what pregnancy can do to the body, and it killed any bit of "well maybe" left in my brain. I had already thought it wasn't a great idea given the kind of genetic issues and predispositions that run in my family. Luckily, my endocrinologist didn't need me to *convince her* that I wasn't interested in carrying children, before she'd let me start Testosterone.
24:00 I'm an American and I actually had the pleasure of seeing Psy as a part of a concert in the US in October. I admit I went to the concert for a different head liner and approached it with a little bit of, "well, I guess I'll also get to see the Gangnam Style guy." He was a GENUINE highlight of the night!! He had an incredible stage presence, he was incredibly respectful of the crowd (the concert was originally meant to be from 7-11 PM and he didn't even get on stage until nearly 11:15 because the show was running behind). He got out on stage, hyped us up, thanked us for keeping the energy up because the concert was being recorded for a tv special. Psy was genuinely one of the best stage performers I've seen in a while! I actually want to go to one of his dedicated shows after that. He explained the songs he performed and where they came from. Psy does not fit traditional Korean beauty/idol standards (which are a big deal) and he doesn't shy away from being confident in who he is. One of his songs is just him being proud to be on the chubby side because he looks like his dad. The concert was called Immortal Songs New York. You can look up clips, he was amazing and really did an amazing job with engaging the audience so late in the night!! The majority of the crowd, including myself, was there for the band ATEEZ and the fan base "barks/woofs/whoops" as a way to hype up the band (this was started by the band). It is used as a hype up and respectfully. When Psy was on stage the fanbase took to cheering when he would drink water and barking to hype him up and show respect, but he had never heard this before. So at one point he stopped, listened, asked what we were doing, and then encouraged us to be louder about it since we were already doing it! He was fascinated and had a great time with it (he almost choked on his water at one point because he laughed at us cheering for him drinking). I will defend Psy as a performer for the rest of my life now! He was incredible, rolled with the weird, and really had so much respect for an exhausted audience!
The people who say things like “You’re gonna regret not having kids, you’re gonna be so lonely” stuff like that, say that because they regret having kids and they WISH they were like the people who don’t have kids. They’re trying to convince themselves
I’ve always made my boys feel they can come to me about anything. My eldest was texting me last night because he saw a cute boy at a shop….he’s 14! I’m so glad my world is like this than someone else telling me what my child is feeling etc. ❤
Thanks for having me in your 90s neon extravaganza, always love filming with you 💛
Just wait until I move and you see my next filming room! It will be so bright you’ll get a tan
Love you all so much,ROLY,Jammi and Lux, you all have such great sense of humor and are highly entertaining. ❤❤
Two delusional people in one room how fun
@@rhymerlegend2717 Delusional?? What makes you say and or think they are delusional in the least?
Always a pleasure to see Jamie collab with Roly. X
As a teacher, I would rather lose my job than "report" a kid for being LGBTQ
As a teacher you deserve a pay rise and cookies
Good for you! I love this💕
I'm not a teacher, but if I were, I'm not snitching on a kid for being LGBTQ+. Like, crucify me if you want or burn me at the stake, I'm not going to potentially endanger a child due to some stupid laws.
I used to work at a Christian school where they "politely redirected gay kids to more suitable schools" if they dared peek out of the closet. Those kids would later come hang out at my house where I'd help them figure out their next steps, making sure they understood that they are perfect and it's the school that's messed up.
@@yugenknows740you are a good person ❤
In the USA: The more Devout the Christian, the Less of the Bible they've read.
Oh I totally believe it
I'm very fond of the ones who quote Leviticus to "prove" homosexuality is a "sin" but when you point out their polycotton blend t-shirt is also against Leviticus they're all "JESUS DIED TO INVALIDATE THE OLD TESTAMENT!"
@@dietotaku 🤣
SH I T
It's the same in England. The amount of times I've had to explain Biblical concepts to Christians, only for them to be in awe that I've actually read the Bible. Then they automatically assume I'm Christan, and when I correct them I have to explain that the more I read the Bible, the less I believed in God.
Speaking of mummies… Rich Victorians used to have “unwrapping parties” where they’d have a few drinks and then undo a mummy to see what was inside. Literally using someone’s mortal remains for a cheap thrill. So astoundingly disrespectful
There was a post going around recently that stated the wealthy used to eat them, too, and that is supposedly why there aren't a lot of them left.
Oh Lux was telling me about this recently!! It’s absolutely unhinged!!! 🤮🤢
What actual fuck?!
Not to mention eating bits of them for health reasons
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The "It's the Necronomicon, you stupid p**f" absolutely sent me 😂
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In response to choosing to be child free and people saying, "What are you gonna do when you're old?" I simply answer with... "Well, I have been paying into a pension since I was 20... I have life insurance, and my funeral plans are already planned and paid for... what are you gonna do other than be a financial burden to your kids?"
Oh absolutely!!!
I would argue there are a lot of insurance systems that wouldn't work without the next generation being at a certain size...on the other hand, just paying taxes supports people who want to take that onto them selfs.
I expect my "none procreating" frends to be a good influence on my kids, whom I won't take to concerts (awful environment for me)
Yes! I worked in a nursing home for over 20 years and saw, first hand, several reasons why having kids with the expectation of having built-in later life care isn’t a good idea. Even if it wasn’t selfish. Including some resident’s children becoming incurably sick, disabled and/or dying, estrangement, life imprisonment etc.
I usually respond like the old man wearing sweater meme. *Shrug* Guess I'll die.
I HATE that line. I have worked in nursing homes for 20 years and the number of residents who get maybe one visitor a month, despite having many children and grandchildren...it's heartbreaking. And these are people who seem to have decent relationships.
That's not factoring in the ones with specialized care needs that family members cannot handle every day. (those usually have near daily guests who come in to help feed and just hang out)
The odds are that your kids will either be unable to care for you in extremely old age, whether it's physical or mental.
They hired Stanley Kubrick to film the fake moon landing. But of course being the perfectionist that he is, he demanded they film on location.
I am a woman in my 50’s and I had 2 children that were only 13 months apart by the time I was 20 (I was on birth control each time) I had to wait until I was 21 to have my tubes tied and during that year I was on 3 different birth control products at the same time praying I wouldn’t get pregnant again. Before the surgery date could be set up my OBGYN tried to stop me by saying “What if the worst thing happened and one of your children died you will regret not being able to have another child”. Well the worst thing happened when my oldest died in a car wreck when she was 15, I did not want to have another child to replace her.
So sorry that happened to you :c I hope you're alright
I’m so sorry for your loss, and that OBGYN’s attitude. As if reducing women to objects wasn’t enough, some people have to do it to children as well.
I'm glad I'm not the only one who laughs like an asthmatic horse.
Hahahaha
That covid got in my right lung and now I sound like a 1978 ford mustang trying to start
@@RolyWestYTI always wonder if your throat hurts from laughing after 😆
“You’re gonna be sick of me.”
No, NEVER. You two are human sunshine! 🥰💜
Nah I could film with him every week and I’d still not be sick
US citizen here. I went to my OBGYN to discuss tubal ligation. He said I needed to have a long talk with my husband before I made this decision and to be 100% sure I didn't want any more kids. He even implored me to have my husband come in with me so he can give his blessing. This was 2018. Only five years ago. I think not, sis. It's almost like the doctor thought I shouldn't have bodily autonomy. (This thought was brought up by society pushing women to have kids, BTW, and how even after we do have kids, we still don't always have the accessibility of permanent birth control. I promise I didn't just spontaneously share this just to share it. 😅)
I wanted to get my tubes tied, but my OB said I needed my husband's permission. I stated that I am a single woman, I don't have a husband. I was then told that they wouldn't do it because my future husband might want kids. How does an imaginary man have more control over my body than me!?
@@reptiqueen7275 I would have told them that I wouldn't marry a man who wanted kids. I've had plenty of odd looks and sputtered responses form that one.
My oldest daughter never wanted kids, so she married a guy that had four🤣. Two are adults, one lives with her mother and they have the 14 year old with them
Roly is on a roll today. Jesus I laughed. My stomach hurts. Thanks you two❤️🇨🇦
I'm kinda in the same boat as a cis woman I was born with a hormone imbalance that makes me have a faint mustache faint partial goat patch and fluctuations in my serotonin, dopamine and insulin, because of a genetic disorder that I've had for 2 decades causing rupturing cysts on my overies...it's a bit of a chaotic situation (too complicated to fix) in general but just used to it now after so long...
At 30, I had a gynaecologist ask me what my parents' thoughts are on my choice to be childless.
God sake! The one person you’d think not say something like that
W o w.
My dad just figured I wouldn't be having kids (I'd be "overindulgent" anyway, apparently), so he had the same reaction I had when I found out I couldn't have them: "meh." Haven't talked to my mom in years, but she's gonna be super upset when she finds out... in 10-20 years or so or when I hit menopause.
I would never go back 😀
What the actual...... ?
I have never related to Roly more than croaking out "I actually hate children" mid-wheeze. 😂 My asthmatic lungs also wheezed so hard at that bit. Finally getting my hysterectomy was the greatest decision of my life. Shame it took me nearly bleeding to death for 6 months straight before anyone let it happen.
Women are literally still second class citizens when it comes to civil rights
I was gonna say that I'm jealous, then I read the last part. Damn. I hope you're ok now.
@@HexenkoeniginVonAngmar still dealing with bleeding issues but MUCH less severe now that I removed that hateful organ. Thank you though. 🤜
'I am He' compared with the laughter had me in absolute stitches. Thanks for making my day.
Glad you enjoyed it 🤭🤭
I will say this. Being unattractive does not mean creepy. My manager gave me his coat because I was shivering. He was being nice. That poster was just being a dick.
Yes it’s sad that everyone thinks like that! It’s also incredibly egotistical to think just because someone is nice to you they want to fuck you. Get over yourself…
Hold tf up did you just inadvertently call your manager unattractive 💀
@Bubaiel as in I'm not attracted to him and never could be, nor would I want him to be. He would say the exact thing about me.
Please tell me one of them noticed eventually that that type of post is a common incel plant?
As a trans person who came out to my school first, and who happens to have very excepting parents, I was only scared to come out to them because I was overthinking it too much, and I had heard a lot of trans peoples stories on how they had come out so I got scared away. Fun fact I actually came out by giving my step mom a drawing that my friend had made for me saying ‘ it’s a boy’ because I was too nervous to actually say it myself and my friend had painted the trans colors behind it as like one of those late gender reveal parties, and to say I was relieved when she just hugged me and told me she had figured it out already and had just wanted me to figure it out for myself first is such an understatement, I started crying. They aren’t very educated in the trans department which is another reason I was scare, but I’m very thankful that they accepted me. Also y’all are slaying as always much love to you guys from across the seas
as a trans teen with transphobic parents, this had me in tears. it makes me so happy that a lot of people have parents they can lean on. my brother "doesn't agree" with trans people, but the other day we were driving in his car and he just sort of paused for a moment before saying "i accept you". those three words can honestly mean so much to someone, especially when they're scared. (for context, i've been out for 4 years to my family) (edit: he's trying his best to learn more about trans people and no longer "doesn't agree" with us. he even called me ollie the other day!)
I feel this. Came out at school because my parents are evangelicals and used to make homophobic and transphobic jokes all the time growing up. Turns out, a transphobic teacher outed me to them but they still waited for me to tell them. I had a house lined up with a lesbian friend and bags packed and the only thing they really said was “I’m not sure that’s quite the right name… but we understand if you want to go with it either way” (I agreed, I started with Parker and wanted to test other ones, at the time it was Ben. But Parker is just right, and they agreed). The relief is intense
In fact, my brother was like “yeah, I thought when I hugged you I might’ve felt a binder, but I wasn’t gonna call you out on it.” And was so cool, which is amazing because we’ve always been really close growing up
As an asexual aromantic demigirl with sensory processing disorder I’ve known since I was roughly 9 or 10 years old that I never wanted to give birth to a child and if I had kids that I would adopt them and I either get crazy unhinged responses from people or congratulatory ones for me wanting to adopt so I can’t imagine what it’s like for the people who don’t want any at all, so ridiculous!
BUT YOU WILL CHANGE YOUR MIND!!!!!!!!
The second amendment says that the militia, that’s to be armed, is to be well trained and most gun owners don’t seem to understand that part
They don't care
They just wanna be right
@@danielcrafter9349 but are they?
I love that they seem like opposites but the first thing they did was hug and Jamie is slowly becoming more unhinged so I think they're just becoming one person at this point
Oh I bring out his naughty soul
The two types of men: Alternative guy and soft guy
@KingOfGaymes I think there are more than two? I mean, you didn't even mention bears or otters!
@@KingOfGaymesRoly and Jamie are women
@@rhymerlegend2717 is "woman" supposed to be an insult or did I miss something?
(achievement unlocked a woman - me - gave you attention today, yay! ⭐)
Roly absolutely losing it on "I am He" is the best energy we could ask for~
Always love when people clap back on ignorant arguments using basic Bible knowledge.
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I a m H E
Why did he introduce himself so ominously LMAO
@@totallynotkodystarlight probs from his father, mans would appear randomly in burning bushes
@@a_potat He should get that treated, I hear there is an ointment for that.
@@Mark_Agamotto1313_Smith 😭😭😭😂😂😂that made my night
I'm a girl. I use she/her pronouns. But there was a point in high school when I was experimenting. I asked certain teachers to call me a chosen name, or in one case simply by my last name because I knew how he felt about it, and to use they/them pronouns. There were a good few people, specifically my theater class that I fully let myself try it. I did really like it.
Well, this was a small town. While I received no backlash to my face, my Step-sister and brother's friends were apparently making fun of me to them. And my step-mom decides that I'm the problem, that I can't go by the name and pronouns I wanted. I told the teachers the next day to stop.
When I tell you that when a kid called me my chosen name... I literally broke down and had to run to the bathroom.
And now I hear it's almost always mandatory for teachers to tell parents about lgbt+ students. While I'm not gender queer, that really didn't help with discovering myself. I already knew from coming out as bi that they, mainly she, wouldn't accept me. Hell, I'm nearly twenty and I'm still not convinced I'm completely bi (I'm starting to think I'm on the aro-ace spectrum). No one has the right to out you.
Ps, my dad is now divorcing her and me and him have good relationship.
I’m glad you and your dad have a good relationship at least. Sometimes it can take a while to figure our sexuality out, so good luck and there’s no need to rush.
@@ShintogaDeathAngel thanks
I hate how same anti-nb people will concern troll about de-transitioning. Like maybe if they allowed kids to harmlessly experiment with different identities then detransitioning would be even less common than it already is?
@@bonesandhearts5683 exactly. I'm glad I had friends and the TH-camrs like these two to help me. Jamie actually got me questioning if I was trans and got me thinking about a lot of stuff.
Funny little bit of queer history: ace/aro used to be part of the bi umbrella, because it was equal attraction (or lack thereof) to all genders
My 16 year old is on an esports team at school. It has motivated him to keep his grades up and it was pretty cool he was voted to be a team captain, not bad for a deaf kid in a school with less than 10 hard of hearing kids. I love that he has a sense of belonging from being part of the team!
I am 30 and I STILL had some pushback with my tube removal. The argument of “well what if you meet someone and they want kids”. That’s not my responsibility to supply them with that. They clearly aren’t the person for me. I never understood that argument. I’ve also had a termination and have clearly let my choices regarding the matter say what needs to be said. I’ve never wanted kids as soon as I knew what being a mother was and how it happened. And I never will. I am very privileged to have had the procedures I’ve had done and its heartbreaking to know that there are still parts of the world where that choice gets taken away from you. Child free people getting any type of pushback is absolutely bonkers. We are not obligated to have children.
Ugh, my grandma absolutely loved to "reminisce" about the "good ol days before racism was invented". The 50s, she was talking about 1950s America. 🤦
If she wants to be "chased" she needs to explicitly communicate that 🙃
Because if you haven't established a safe word, "no" is the safe word.
I can add about Psy that he was a famous comedian & show host prior to making music. He was one of the favorite hosts of my mom and I growing up, my mom is Korean and I used to watch different comedy and game shows together. Fun memory, so when i saw Psy showing up with american musicians made me pretty happy. Just a cute little positive story to tell.
My father-in-law compared covid to AIDS and said, "You don't see us wearing masks to protect us from AIDS!" and I just sat there, too stunned to speak, lol. He took my response as "Got her!" and was SO proud of himself. Then I dropped some knowledge and he was too stupid to speak, lol.
I have that same response as you then I hear that... Stun because the shear stupidity of that comment. I'm like your FIL is massively stupid to compare covid with AIDS.
Literally condoms 😂
"Men aren't persuasive anymore. You say no and that's it."
As it should be. Does this person not realize how many women lose their lives for saying no to the wrong man? There was a case that I learned about recently where a high school student told a classmate she didn't want to go out with him so he kidnapped and tortured her for a month (if I remember correctly). But, no, let's teach boys that no means convince me.
this is the kind of thing that makes a feminist want to slap an other woman. it makes me so furious. we are fighting to get our humanity aknowledged and our human rights protected and enforced. and it is a fight even in the cushy western world ... and then some women go ahead and ... just sabbotage it.
@@karowolkenschaufler7659absolutely, and just to lightly complain about the men THEY are attracted to not being unnecessarily persistent in their advances. It's just such an out of touch thing to complain about.
@@karowolkenschaufler7659tf? Being a feminist doesn’t mean you have to like and respect every single woman?? Feminism is gender equality, not supporting a woman no matter what.
Once after I said that I didn’t want to get married (because I’m aromantic and have actual disgust at the thought of being in a romantic relationship) and I had a guy tell me AND I QUOTE *”But if you never get married, you’ll run out of time to breed”* WTF???? It *baffles* me the amount of unhinged comments I get when I say I don’t want to marry or GOD FORBID that I don’t want kids
Hello fellow romance repulsed aro!
That’s so stupid 💀 like the actual hell
'I am He'. Not laughed so hard for ages!
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I went to my dermatologist for acne medication and he wanted to put me on contraceptive pills because the acne drug "could" interfere with pregnancy, not because the strogen could help with the condition. He did not change that sugestion after telling him I'm lesbian and child free. He was more interested in me taking the pill than the acne medication I needed a prescription for. He was more concerned with a miscarriage that will NEVER happen instead of the medical issue I've been trying to resolve for years. Love both of you, pls keep doing videos 💜 Also UK Ghosts :)
IDK if it's the same treatment but my friend had to do pregnancy tests every month for her prescription, she wasn't seeing anyone at the time...
@@tdelioncourt1268 yes, if they give you something strong like Isotretinoin it can cause birth defects and stuff. The problem is that they test you in order to avoid getting sued and not because they care about you nor the possible baby. Their understanding of woman is "pregnancy" and that snowballs into medical malpractice.
There’s one specific acne medication that 100% of the time will result in absolutely horrific birth defects. You’d also be surprised at the amount of people who do not listen to the instructions that come with said medication. I can understand his caution but he should have accepted that you wouldn’t have a chance of getting pregnant based on your circumstances.
@@KleioChroniclesyeah, accutane! My dermatologist considered putting me on it due to severe pubertal acne (we ended up trying antibiotics instead) and warned both me and my mom that I would need to go on birth control for the duration of the treatment due to the massive risk of birth defects caused by that medicine, despite me being 15 or 16 at the time and not even likely to have sex at all. I'm now 19 and on the mini pill for unrelated reasons (suspected endometriosis) but that definitely had an impact on me. Realizing that some medicines can cause fetuses to die or become damaged in utero really encouraged me to start reading medicine labels and leaflets in full before using them.
Some religious people i shall not name here once rang on my bfs catholic Granny's door and asked her how she imagined the devil.
She answered with: "Like someone that goes from door to door and tries to convert the people."
They left very fast XD
Yeah... That sounds REALLY evil, doesn't it? 🥴
That reminds me of the story about two Jehovas witnesses being told by someone about what he believed in: the old Norse gods like Odin and Loki.
Roly is my laugh twin. My family calls it the “honk”.
"it's was the necronomicon, you stupid poof" 😂😂😂💀
Yes, that made me chuckle out loud! 😅
@@Krigsfilosofi me too, literally screaming in my kitchen 🤣😂
😂😂😂😂
…and then, there's the Necrotelecomicon: The Phone Book of the Dead.
@@John_Weissthat needs to be a meme
It is absolutely so hard for women to get their tubes tied. My sister has FIVE kids, and her doctor has continually put off her appointment to get her tubes tied. They refused to tie her tubes when she had three kids because, in their words, you either needed to have four kids or be 24, and she wasn't either at the time. The fact that she has five now and they still won't do it is absolutely ridiculous. Her last two kids haven't been planned, although she wouldn't change having them for anything, it's a problem in the US when a woman can't get her tubes tied if she doesn't want kids and now we can't get abortions for any reason. I was raped by a family member when I was 14 and ended up getting pregnant. If that happened to a girl now, she wouldn't be able to get an abortion and would have to live with carrying a baby to term and potentially raising that child as a child themselves. I love my nieces and nephews, but I don't want any kids of my own just because I have so much fear of fucking them up or not doing right by them. Sorry for the rant. It's just a bit of a sore subject for me.
I don’t live in the US and I’m absolutely livid about what’s happening there in regards to abortions. I’m sorry for what happened to you, also.
16:36 I'm an American, I got my tubes removed almost 6 years ago now. I had 2 kids biologically already and just gave birth to my 3rd, 48hrs before getting them removed. (They did the surgery after I gave birth vaginally, bc its easy to remove the tubes after giving birth bc then they don't need to put air inside your belly to access them easier) anyways all 3 of those pregnancies were high risk, and I adopted two of my husband's children, so 5 kids! Yet not only did I have to get permission from my doctor, and my insurance, but also my HUSBAND'S PERMISSION!!! He btw absolutely was shocked and said to the doctor he had no right to make an ultimate decision of my body unless I'm unconscious in an emergency. They still made him sign a consent form. It was insane! 😡🤬. Again, that was 6 yrs ago as of the 25th of November. Just 6 years ago! So modern times.
It's almost as if women here in the US _are not considered people,_ but property.
😡😾😠🤬
Roly's snort at "I am He" absolutely sent me 😂😂
15:32 i work with kids and mom’s talking about their pregnancies is literally nightmare fuel to me. it’s like “yeah a really big clump of my hair came out and won’t grow back, i also had a mucus plug for weeks and milk coming out my pits but it was all so worth it for my little angel”. i understand not wanting kids at all i totally double dog understand why people don’t wanna be pregnant
Jamie was my gateway drug to Luxeria, and Lux was my gateway drug to Roly- love seeing this collab😂
Luxeria was my gateway to Roly who was my Gateway to Jamie. 😂
All three of them need to do a vid together
@@haylene7521 I agree with you. Can you imagine how much fun they would have and how much of a party that would be?
I can totally relate to what you were saying about women getting sh*t about wanting to get their tubes tied in a parallel way. I'm in my mid 40's, divorced with 4 children and when I told my Dr I wanted a hysterectomy (I was having other issues that could have possibly been resolved without surgery but not guaranteed to work) he spent almost an hour trying to talk me out of it at the initialappointment, again at the pre-op appt and once more at the hospital on the morning of the surgery. He was saying things like "what if you remarry (remember, I'm divorced) and your new husband doesn't have kids?" To which I said "well, I have 4 so I am happy to share." He also talked about the finality of this surgery and there's no going back and it could cause weight gain (which was 100% manipulative since he knows I've lost over 200 lbs and am very concerned about gaining it back). I couldn't believe I was getting so much pushback! I can understand why Drs might have a moral/ethical issue (morals and ethics should not play a part in the medical field imo) with a woman, or man, getting voluntarily sterilized but ultimately it's their body, their choice. Plus, I believe eggs can still be harvested if a woman changes her mind later. Of course, if she had a hysterectomy she'd have to find a surrogate, but with most hysterectomies they leave the ovaries which still produce eggs sooo... 🤷♀️. I've also heard vasectomies can also sometimes be reversed if he so chooses. My point is Dr's and the government need to keep their opinions and morals and ethics away from our bodies and our choices.
It’s absolutely bonkers how often you hear about doctors swooning about what about your hypothetical husband!! I’m happy you were able to get the surgery you wanted in the end!
As Luxeria would say “throw him straight in the bin” 🗑️
I am so sorry that you had this happen. My experience was completely opposite. My dr encouraged me to get my hysterectomy. I have thyroid issues so that messed with my cycle. I had early onset puberty (precocious puberty) as well. Plus I had endometriosis. I'd already had a salpingectomy of my right fallopian tube with a partial oophorectomy when I had tubal pregnancy. I'd had 4 miscarriages , my tubal, 2 successful pregnancies, & in my final pregnancy I miscarried one of the babies. So when I talked to my OBGYN he jumped on it. I got it done on Valentine's Day 2017, the only day he had open for 6 months. I've never regretted it.
As an American, let me assure you, I'm perma-flabbergasted at gun culture here too.
My aunt loves to say, "Everything in moderation, including moderation."
Roly nearly dying of laughter vs. Jamie's British sarcasm is all I needed today.
As always, thank you Roly and Jamie for understanding and defending childfree women! ♥
❤😊
"Everything you see is a plan to destabilize and destroy the America you grew up in"
If Charlie was talking about capitalism, he'd have something of a point.
Oh he just means THESE GAYS GET RIGHTS THESE NON AMERICANS SHOULD GET OUT
Right like if he meant climate change that’d be pretty spot on
I live in Florida and this year was the first time I've gotten an email from my son's high school saying I need to provide permission for my child to have a 'nickname.' For example, if Timothy wants to be called Tim, his parents must provide a note in writing to say it's ok. It's obvious that they're doing this to out kids to their parents and let them suffer whatever wrath that might bring. Thanks DEATHSantis
*and other fascists
Screw DeSatan and the rest of the NSGOP.
I love Jamie he’s such a sweet kind soul
He is! I curse him
Oh gods, the Jesus pronoun one had me wheezing. Sending that to my daughter. As for the Sam/Samantha one, I will never understand people that choose to have kids and then refuse to love them unconditionally. GTFOH with that crap. My daughter recently came out as a trans woman. Her dad and I support and love her no matter what. If you can't love Sam (I hate using a dead name) as Samantha, you shouldn't have had a child.
I love these videos with Jamie. Also as a woman that doesn’t want children whenever I tell people they always say ‘oh you’ll change your mind’. I’m always like I don’t think so but go off I guess.
And if you change your mind, you can have a kid. Once you're a parent, people tend to frown on changing your mind... 😊
I have been saying I don't want to give birth to children since I was 9 (I know ) and I am 36 still saying the same thing. Somehow I am still being told I will change my mind. Because I want to adopt I'm now being told that once I do I will want one of my own after. Utter nonsense
"You're not a proper woman!". Yep, I had that one.
Right? And changing your mind is random. Like. How would you know if you will or won't? So they definitely don't know. I am thinking of changing my mind after saying "NEVER" for 29 years. It is just random. I could change my mind a million times and it's nobody's right to tell me their guess at what I'll do. So weird.
@@anniebridgeland”want one of your own” as if your adopted child won’t be your own. These people are gross
Roly’s wheeze laugh gives me +5 health and charisma points. Thank you for your service 😹💕
Doctors are so ridiculous about younger women wanting to make permanent solutions or semi permanent solutions to not wanting to have kids. Like me, for example, I am disabled, and I have severe scoliosis and part of my spine goes behind my heart and if I were to have a baby, the movement that the body does to make room for a baby could cause my spine to puncture my heart, and they still won’t allow me to get my tubes tied.
I still remember the first time someone my age asked me if I wasn't worried about dying lonely (Because I don't want to get married or have kids, not just existentially) and responding with ".... I... I have friends? I have a pretty big family too?? I quite like being alone, but I'm pretty sure I'll keep meeting people?"
Making a family doesn't guarantee happiness and community??
My parents constantly harp with this on me because Im trans and just really want my ovaries removed, I don't even want them permanently gone because I'll get them frozen for a chance at bio kids in the future, but that's also not good enough 🫠
“They can vote, people like that can vote” creased
I asked my Ob/gyn to tie my tubes after my second was born. His nurse hid the paperwork, because she thought I was too young and that I’d change my mind and regret it later. I was thirty, two was more than enough. My dr very graciously back dates the paperwork and made sure the surgeon was scheduled. Never regretted it
"The good old days" were only good if you were a straight white man. I'm a bisexual, half-Japanese woman, I really don't want to go back to the "good" old days.
I also never want to have kids and the responses I get are just ridiculous: "You'll change your mind." "You would feel different about your own kids." And of course the "Who's going to take care of you when you're older?" Some women do have a natural maternal instinct. I don't at all, lol. My fur babies are my children and I absolutely love them.
I love both of you guys. Looking forward to the next video!
I am 29 and already have 3 kids and the damn doctor still insists im too young to gwt my tubes tied. Its infuriating.
Your Body. _Your_ Choice.
@@John_Weiss that is exactly how it should be, but I need a GP to refer me to get it done, so until I find a GP willing to make the referral I'm not sure what choice I have.
@@pixiesouter9461 I wish you luck, then!
I recommend looking for a GP who is (1) Young; (2) Not Korean or South-Asian, as those countries are rather, well, _traditional_ when it comes to "women's roles."; (3) Gay or Lesbian, or specializes in LGBT patient issues. Again, they're far less likely to have a "woman's traditional role" lock on their brains.
And I'm _not_ saying that there's anything wrong with doctors from other countries! They're perfectly fine. But, being gay and out for 30+ years, I've found that they _can_ be kinda blind to issues that fall outside of the heteronormativity-mold.
17:16 the craziest thing is that the responses to this were "it's degrees celsius you idiot"
except 50C is really still cold for a sauna 😬
I am in my mid forties now. A decade ago I had women actually getting mad at me because I said I didn't want to bring a child into this world any more. They got quite nasty until I got the last laugh by telling them I absolutely AM a mum, my babies were just never allowed to take a first breath because my body is damaged and I can't carry a pregnancy to term. I have never seen a woman turn purple and hasten away so fast. Same thing happened when "feminists" excitedly told me I can now be anything I want to be, then got mad when I turned around and said I wanted to be a stay at home mum. When they got mad at me I straight up said I could be anything I wanted to be so long as it was what they wanted? They turned purple and left. I laughed both times. Bigots can be funny.
SAHM are - except in super rare cases - dependent on their Husbands. Thats the point in the feminists reactions. And I've had Partners that tried putting me in that situation - no thanks i'm a happily independent single. 😂
I'm 36, and have been told by my obgyn when I was trying to get tested for Endometriosis after saying I knew since I was around 17 that I didn't want kids... "Well, it's not that I don't believe you, but......" . Literally everything after being 30 is considered a geriatric pregnancy...and I have all sorts of health problems including severe chronic pain. There's absolutely no way I'm having a baby, yet they won't give me medical procedures 'just' in case 🙄
For non-Americans, "We the People of the United States," is the begining phrase of the Premable to the Constitution. They're literally the first three words of the entire Constitution.
i still had my playback speed on 1.5x from my last video, and i was like what on earth has roly taken hahahah
Hahahaha LSD
Last time I did this it took me half a video to notice!
i Always have videos sped up, so then coming to watch roly is always a Trip lmaoo
Also, as for ‘you’re going to be lonely when you’re old,’ my grandfather was partying with the other old people in the old folk’s home. Even when he was in assisted living, he trained squirrels to steal snacks for him. He had 3 girlfriends. He had parties in his room after hours. He would routinely argue with the chaplain. My mom said ‘he is like a college frat boy!’ That’s my plan. Hanging out with other cool old people, until life gets unlivable. The last few year of my grandfather’s life sucked for him. So he would take his pain meds and ignore doctor’s orders to take it easy because he said ‘86 is old enough. I don’t want to live forever if I can’t have fun.’ It resonated with 20 year old me, when he passed. I realized that quality of life was more important than the length, and that your friends can absolutely become your family. As for the free concert, I’ve discovered some of my favorite bands by going to a concert just because someone had an extra ticket. I met System Of A Down right before they blew up because a friend’s brother had two tickets and took his sister and me. I didn’t want to NOT go on an adventure.
I am a childfree cis woman and it is HORRIBLE. the amount of people who say that im not a real woman, i am a waste of life, i should just kms or no man will love me or stay with me.. it dosnt affect anyone but myself! why is it such a big deal?! (also Roly, i too, HATE children lol)
Internet Uncle-Gay🏳️🌈 does *_NOT APPROVE!_*
You are most certainly a woman, whether you have reproduced or not! You. Are. Valid.
Let me put it straight: They're mad cause they want you to be miserable like them. All those "people" can kick rocks for the rest of their lives.
hmm, interesting how similar the things they say to you are to what 'gender critical feminists' say about trans women? wonder if there's an overlap there
I got so excited when I finally saw heavily tattooed ppl in commercials and now when I see hay couples in commercials I LOVE it and really hope to see it much more often
34:00 Similar thing happens at my uni. We have a multi-faith space so that any religion or belief can have meetings and services. It's for everyone. But there's a huge, permanent Christian cross up on the wall at the front of the room. It's really uncomfortable
Omg, the thing about Americans being unaware of international artists is so true 😭
I remember seeing a comment from an American talking about how Bad Bunny was so nice for giving an artist like Arcángel a platform. Meanwhile, Arcángel was one of the people Bad Bunny listened to as a teen…. like the man has been around for a hell of a lot longer then BB (no hate to either though, of course).
Honestly the deeply ingrained ethnocentrism of Americans is embarrassing to see, as one myself 😅
I hate the fact that the two biggest reasons mummies are rare is because modern human’s either ATE them or turned them into paint. Absolutely wild
Do you have evidrnxe for that?
@@ulrikesextro4187 I mean it’s an easy search there’s a lot of articles about it but if you want a specific example there’s an article from the Smithsonian titled “The Gruesome History of Eating Corpses as Medicine” that talks about many of the ways Europeans would eat mummies. As for the paint search up the history of a paint called “mummy brown” there is also a good Smithsonian articles about it called “Ground Up Mummies Were Once an Ingredient in Paint” if you’d like a specific website to go to (and to ensure your looking at a trusted source).
I’m not trying to be condescending when I say look this up I truly encourage you to look into it’s a very weird period of time and as I said it’s a weird thought that two of the biggest contributors to mummies being rare is humans eating them or turning them into paint
I can’t express how much of a relief it is to watch two people who aren’t terminally online go through online screenshots, and just be normal about it in a way I would expect not in the extreme *online reply* way I expect. it reminds me that maybe being inundated with all that stuff nontstop might play a part in keeping me wound up lol
Thank you for always uploading!! As a cis female, I didn't get the choice to have kids due to Endometriosis. But still had to fight to get a hysterectomy due to my age. Now 35 I still get asked by medical professionals and just random people if I could be pregnant or if I have children. I used to freeze and not know how to respond, not now!! haha, I'm like do you? or no I don't have a uterus, that shuts them up pretty quick. Still annoying though!!
If a guy won’t take, “no” for an answer, run.
If a girl wants you to keep asking after she says, “no,” run.
(You can really use any genders here, but I was just using the ones from the post.)
Really appreciated the bit regarding childless women; I am 35, cis and don't want kids.
My reasons are my own but mostly to do with my shitty health and how much the world sucks right now. I don't feel I should I have to justfy my life choices just because they differ from the norm. Yet people always have an opinion with what I do with my body.
I would be happy to adopt some day (god knows there's plenty of kids out there stuck in the system) but my current situation won't allow that so childless I shall remain. And I am happy.
So thank you, Jamie & Roly, for supporting childless people's decisions to remain so. 🥰
12:20 "Jesus turned water into wine it's one of the most famous stories" ☠️☠️☠️☠️☠️
Hahahaha
5:14 I've literally seen multiple women saying like "I'm so happy my husband didn't back off the first time I turned him down. He kept trying, and now we're married, " and my reaction is always like... does he still not respect your boundaries? I'm so sorry. That sounds like an incredibly unhealthy relationship 🥲
I decided when I was 16 to never have kids. I grew up in poverty & knew what generational poverty was. I also have mental illness & didn't want to pass it down to any offspring since it was obvious from family history that it was a definite family problem. Add in the generational abuse & the recipe just did not look good for kids. I'm in my late 50's now. Turns out, I'm also a transman. All the stories of nosy doctors all but making decisions for women despite their express wishes infuriate me & recall for me the stupid things doctors would say to me during medical exams & visits, including one where a doctor wouldn't prescribe birth control for me because of _his_ religious beliefs.
I told him, "Your dumb beliefs in imaginary shit mean diddly squat to me, pal. I _DON'T WANT CHILDREN._ Does this get through to you? I can't afford kids. I'm in my 40's (this was before I started my transition), & I know my health won't support a baby. It would be dangerous for me to get pregnant. Give me the fucking pills." He refused. "This isn't a fucking church, bub, this is a medical office, & _YOU_ don't get to decide whether or not I get preggers, or what I do with _my_ body. You're fired."
No one clapped, of course, since his staff all supported his lunacy, but I got out of that hellhole & found another doctor. I pity the women who have to get medical care from that asshole, but I live in a small town filled with MAGA Evangelical types & he's the only local doctor available. I have to go far outside of town to get medical care.
I don’t understand parents who don’t support their children. My son is 5 and he wears whatever he wants to wear. I paint his nails when he asks me and he’s allowed to play with makeup and Barbie’s. Let children be WHO THEY ARE
Yes they don’t deserve kids if their love has conditions
@@RolyWestYT ABSOLUTELY!! Ugh you’re so great
I'm with you, Roly. Children are not a retirement plan. Shoutout to my people on r/childfree.
Keep these wonderful collaborations coming gurls!!!! ❤💜💚
Will try to make more soon ❤️
I absolutely love you. You and Lux helped through a really dark time in my life
Sending all the love
My friend decided she didn't want children and I didn't give her a hard time about it because it's her choice and I respect her. She's around the same age I am, mid thirties, and I understand why she doesn't want kids of her own. After all, I almost died quite literally when I had my own child and while I might want another child to love, protect and provide for and help grow into a well adjusted human being my body says "no, you're crazy. Sit down." People don't need to have children, a pet cat or dog to name common pets are quite fulfilling
"I am He!" Gold! 2 for the price of one! Like when my vegan girlfriend described the meat aisle as the "carcass aisle" and an old lady overheard, "I see no carcasses here!" "Is that a chicken carcass you are holding?" People just don't know what words actually mean, I am convinced of it! They just want everything to conform to their own definition!
24:31 reminds me of a tweet where it showed whatsapp was a popular messaging app among others and there were so many americans saying nobody uses whatsapp and why it was on the list as if most of the world doesnt use it 😭
“I am He” fucking killed me. Rolys laugh absolutely sends me, my laugh gets like that when I laugh too hard and my wheeze goes on for too long 😂
This is my kind of Reddit reaction video, I love LOVE seeing folk on the internet get wrecked by snappy comebacks!! Thanks for keeping us entertained ♥️😂
Oh this was so fun to make
If there's anyone who would claim that the moon landing didn't happen it would be the Russians, but Russia confirms that the US landed on the moon lol
ha ha, "We the People" are literally the first three words of the US Constitution, so that was the reason that was a smack down for the Karen that said the Constitution was only written about individuals. (for everyone outside of the US; Captain Obvious for the rest of us)
The asthmatic wheezing laughter has me dying in laughter just as hard. 🤣
Ironically, the only time I wanted to have children was when I was a teenager. Once I graduated and started living on my own, I very quickly realized that I did not want kids.
And I’m still childless today 😁
Not me turning up the volume to hear Jamie, and then get my ears blasted off by Roly 😆
12:52 fun fact for the nerds; alcohol is one of the reasons that human society was able to make bigger civilizations because it was he and creating a source of relatively clean drinking water. Of course, waterborne illness and disease were still a thing, but having weak beer mixed in with your regular water meant that you are less likely to die of dysentery and people were able to find that out. There's a reason why every single culture in human existence has some form of alcohol consumption
I love that Roly's reaction to every clapback is to start furiously fanning himself lmao
8:52 Fun fact about the British stealing artefacts, I am Indigenous Australian (Aboriginal) and my Mum actually went to London last year to the British museum to repatriate a stolen ancestors bones. It’s wild how many of our stolen artefacts are in those museums 😅
I am _SO_ glad that my parents are fine with me (and actually all of my siblings as well I think) not wanting children (I'm with Roly, I hate children lol). I've heard horror stories of people (usually women) getting shunned by loved ones for not wanting children (or even not wanting children right away).
Imagine having children just to please your parents. What kind of a parent would you be? 😬
@@yugenknows740 I used to feel guilty that I didn’t want kids. So glad I didn’t let my adoptive mum’s “encouragement” to give her grandchildren get the better of me, cos I never wanted kids anyway and seriously don’t have the bandwidth in any department to be a parent.
If consent is given under coercive circumstances and because they've been worn down by "persuasive" people then there is no consent
The cuts to Carry On films are giving me nostalgic whiplash and I love it 😂
First off..I love the unhinged chaotic yet wholesome spud energy thus video is giving.
Second…I never plan on having biological children. I would love to adopt one day, but when I tell people this I get a variety of responses. Some people have been very supportive, but others have said “Oh you’ll change your mind one day” like no Gertrude. I don’t want to put my body through that. There are other ways of building a family than crotch goblins.
You are so freaking valid.
Even before I realized I was a trans man I had done too much reading into what pregnancy can do to the body, and it killed any bit of "well maybe" left in my brain. I had already thought it wasn't a great idea given the kind of genetic issues and predispositions that run in my family.
Luckily, my endocrinologist didn't need me to *convince her* that I wasn't interested in carrying children, before she'd let me start Testosterone.
24:00 I'm an American and I actually had the pleasure of seeing Psy as a part of a concert in the US in October. I admit I went to the concert for a different head liner and approached it with a little bit of, "well, I guess I'll also get to see the Gangnam Style guy." He was a GENUINE highlight of the night!! He had an incredible stage presence, he was incredibly respectful of the crowd (the concert was originally meant to be from 7-11 PM and he didn't even get on stage until nearly 11:15 because the show was running behind). He got out on stage, hyped us up, thanked us for keeping the energy up because the concert was being recorded for a tv special.
Psy was genuinely one of the best stage performers I've seen in a while! I actually want to go to one of his dedicated shows after that. He explained the songs he performed and where they came from. Psy does not fit traditional Korean beauty/idol standards (which are a big deal) and he doesn't shy away from being confident in who he is. One of his songs is just him being proud to be on the chubby side because he looks like his dad. The concert was called Immortal Songs New York. You can look up clips, he was amazing and really did an amazing job with engaging the audience so late in the night!!
The majority of the crowd, including myself, was there for the band ATEEZ and the fan base "barks/woofs/whoops" as a way to hype up the band (this was started by the band). It is used as a hype up and respectfully. When Psy was on stage the fanbase took to cheering when he would drink water and barking to hype him up and show respect, but he had never heard this before. So at one point he stopped, listened, asked what we were doing, and then encouraged us to be louder about it since we were already doing it! He was fascinated and had a great time with it (he almost choked on his water at one point because he laughed at us cheering for him drinking). I will defend Psy as a performer for the rest of my life now! He was incredible, rolled with the weird, and really had so much respect for an exhausted audience!
8:47 I remember going there and found it so ironic how nothing in the “British” museum was actually British 😭🤚
The people who say things like “You’re gonna regret not having kids, you’re gonna be so lonely” stuff like that, say that because they regret having kids and they WISH they were like the people who don’t have kids. They’re trying to convince themselves
that they want to be parents
I’ve always made my boys feel they can come to me about anything. My eldest was texting me last night because he saw a cute boy at a shop….he’s 14! I’m so glad my world is like this than someone else telling me what my child is feeling etc. ❤
I'm dating a woman and I don't plan on having kids but my grandfather thinks "I'm just experimenting" and that eventually im going to want kids 😅