Trying for Baby Number 2? Moving House? What is My New Job?
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- It’s been a while since we’ve had a q&a so today I’m having a chill time, getting cosy on the sofa, and answering some of your questions from Instagram! Moving house? Baby 2? My new income?? Let’s chat about it.🌻Head to www.squarespace.com/morehannah to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain using code MOREHANNAH.
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I'm also an extrovert who works from home, fully recommend public libraries for getting out of the house to work if you don't want to pay for a coworking space or work from a cafe
Yeessss support libraries ❤️
Though you may have to try a few different ones or the same one at different times to get the right fit in terms of noise levels.
Yes! Libraries are great!
I had a baby just a month before you had Rowan. We are also on the TTC journey, I got pregnant in February and miscarried at 10 weeks. It's still very raw and understand completely how hard it is to have people speculating about pregnancy/baby number 2. I know they mean well but its hard regardless. Best of luck to you on your journey! ❤
I'm so sorry about that, sending you lots of love and best of luck on your journey too xx
So sorry for your loss! Pregnancy loss sucks 😞
@@raenewnham7490 I'm sorry for your loss, I also had a miscarriage trying for baby number 2. It's so hard when you've already got one because people constantly ask you when you're having another😢 whereas before your first they likely have no clue you're trying.
The “is that so much to ask”…as a millenial, I felt that in my BONES
I find your positivity so inspiring and contagious!! It makes me feel excited and confident about my own future too :)
I’m so glad!!
This is the main reason why I've been following you for years - thanks for being such a ray of sunshine 💛
Older mom here - I was a stay-at-home mom for the first 3 or 4 years of my child's life, my (now-ex) partner was NOT supportive, but I never lost my identity! I think the theory you put on-screen about socializing with friends is the key. 😘Love and light to you! 💜
I have a boy a couple of months younger than Rowan, and I'm currently 16 w preggo. Let me tell you, pregnancy with a toddler is NO JOKE. So as you said, try to enjoy your not pregnant energy, and do all the things you can do, because after the energy is zero percent.
I didn't know you were trying for a second child. It took 2 and a half years for our second. We had basically given up by that time, and suddenly *pregnant*! It was actually a bit of a mental adjustment after having given up.
As someone who does not want a baby I love when my fav TH-camrs are pregnant so I can live vicariously through them 🌷🩷🌷
My nephew is a similar age to Rowan (just turned 2). He came down to visit with my sister in law, and was very keen to explore upstairs. We thought he was just enjoying exploring however he went straight to our cupboard in our spare bedroom and got out a mini golf club that he played with last time he was here! It blows my mind how he remembers these little things now 😭
Ooh I took that course in the pandemic too :)
I'm a mental health practitioner with degrees in Psych and Neuroscience so i guess I count, ish? :P
A lot of it is "training" the "muscle" of focusing on positives (not just brainwashing or ignoring negatives, but the stories we tell ourselves really do make us feel better/worse), and also there is a predisposition to learning those skills as we grow up in healthy environments as well as genetic predispositions to MH difficulties which may lead to a specific 'leaning' of how we perceive things.
It's all a bit complex IRL, but the gist is, "how do you talk to yourself about what happens" - and if you can focus on something positiove to 'counter' the negatives, it tends to be helpful for our wellbeing. Thanks for coming to my TED talk xD
Oooh thanks for explaining that! I’ve definitely come across that before and I do find myself always trying to find the positive in different situations
Can I just say I absolutely love the colour scheme / background of this video! Really bright and varied and pleasing to look at, especially with your red jumper as well!
I have an almost 2 year old and this age is SO fun. It can be hard because of big feelings and tantrums, but man their memory and mannerisms are so great! My daughter apparently formed a core memory MONTHS ago and she’ll randomly bring it up out of nowhere all of the time. It’s crazy. I didn’t expect it either since you don’t remember things from this age.
I became a stay at home parent when my daughter was born and I agree with the little bit you popped up in text when you talked about not losing yourself as a Mom. I stopped working and “lost” that identity, BUT I have a very supportive partner and I’ve been able to take a good amount of time to do hobbies and still feel like myself. I exclusively nursed (she wouldn’t take a bottle 😭) so I actively felt more and more free to pursue things that make ME happy as she dropped feedings too.
I’m 4th month ttc too! My first though. I’d love more ttc content! Best of luck 🤞🤞
I love your interpretation of TTPD! It's exactly how I felt about the humour vs sadness throughout it!
Work scheduling: I work a corporate job, but I do a very similar blocking off of my time to give myself focused work time where I know I won't be disturbed. I highly recommend this strategy to anyone who's overrun with useless meeting requests :)
My earliest memory is from I was 2. I was pissed because the adults where playing crocket and I was put in baby jail to stay safe.
I love that your earliest memory is anger.
Last year I quit being a full time content creator and started a 9-5 that I absolutely LOVE! Best decision ever! Content creation is wonderful and I still love it - but it doesn’t have to be right forever! So happy you are enjoying your decision as well!! 🫶🏻
amazing!!! what kind of 9-5 did you go into?
Based purely on observation since you have had Rowan, my opinion is that your mindset going into motherhood and being mother was what really caused you to stay you.. I took note that if I ever decided to be a mother the mindset and attitude you had towards it is exactly how I would want to be, I also think that this is what makes you such a great mum and on the trajectory of always being a great mum !
Genuinely curious what you observe that mindset to be because whatever it is it’s been somewhat unconscious or second nature on my part! 😅
I weaned my son the classic 'Mom's boob hurts' way at 22 months. After one day he didn't ask for it. I was so worried about the process, but suprisingly it was so easy.
did it pretty similar, same age, two nights and we were good! probably were lucky with timing for mum and bub ❤
I love the variety of the questions, great video! 👌🏼Plus I'm excited about all the video ideas you mentioned, can't wait to watch those in the future. 😬
Love this video so much and thanks for catching up with us 💕💜🫶🏻🩵🩵💜💕💜💖🌈💙💚💚💝🌞🫶🏻💕💙💕🫶🏻🩵🩵💖🩷🩷❤️🌹💚💚🌻💖🪻🌈🌈🌷🌞🌞💛💛💛🌞🪻🪻💕🪻❤️🌻🩷🩵🩵🩷🌻🫶🏻🫶🏻
Loved this video, and your mindset going through all of these changes ❤
Loved this Q&A :) good luck with this new TTC journey, would love to hear your thoughts on how you are approaching it this time around.
Also, regarding you being positive, from the outside it looks like you live in alignment with your values and desires - your career change being one example of this. I think living in alignment contributes to a happy/content/joyful life.
Cheers from Sweden!
Your approach at calendar blocking is so clever. I would totally book a consultation with you for learning more about your system. In the meantime I watch your videos with your systems and try to learn from them 😉 and your videos of the last ttc journey are very reassuring for me. Thank you for your honesty around that time in life!
I feel the same! I feel like I have a predisposition to positivity. One of my theories for a lifestyle thing I do is daily exercise. I’ve done it most of my life so I don’t know how I’d be without it, but it feels like it keeps me level-headed.
Love catching up with you!
I would love a video about how you figure out the rates and work flows for your new consulting job, when you're ready and if you want to. I think it would be so interesting and useful!
Hearing your excitement about weaning is really reassuring because I’m currently nursing my first baby who is a newborn and the thought of weaning makes me so emotional 😂
I loved this video!
Thanks so much for the video
Rowan and the afikoman is the cutest thing I've heard this week! Our kids also loved that part of the seder, though my youngest (who is a few months younger than Rowan) had absolutely no idea what was going on 😂
Wishing you best of luck with TTC, hope it happens very soon and that your pregnancy goes smoothly!
this is the only TH-cam account I don't put on 2x speed. Feels like coffee catch-up with a friend. Thanks so much for years of fabulous content. :))
The Yale course looks interesting, thanks Hannah. Will give it a go.
Yay! I really loved it
Been trying for number two for 8 cycles, one chemical pregnancy, hoping this month is the one! So hard to wait, huh?!
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Good luck expanding the family. ✊ 🪵 🙏🏻…
It's a good reminder to enjoy the moment and what you can do while TTC. My husband and I are trying to TTC after an MC in March, and I believe (I need to test again) that I'm just finally starting to ovulate if I'm judging my current symptoms correctly. We were in limbo for so long with recovery and healing, and who knows how long it may take for us to get pregnant. I don't want to be bummed every time a test returns negative.
You saying going back to work at 3.5 months postpartum was early is wild for an American. That's so much time here.
That's is a lot of time in most places for self employed people
@@jonathan9798but basically half the time the majority of women in the UK take
Stoicism is very interesting and helps me a lot in tough times. Parts of it are also being used in therapy.
Almost a year into the ttc journey and starting to think about getting medical advice although I really don’t want to 😅. Any words of encouragement from people who were in this situation are welcome. Hannah, your motto of enjoying that year really keeps me going, never forgot it when you said it at the time. Good luck to you!
It took me 1,5 years before I got pregnant with my baby, so it's not impossible 😊 I do have really irregular periods which doesn't really help and I did go to an appointment because it was getting more and more irregular and I started getting actually worried about my health 😂 So I would say you should probably go and see a doctor because it is recommended to go after a year of trying but don't stress too much before going in, just go and see what they tell you 😊
I would love to hear more about your decision to TTC baby number 2! I have a 4 month old and we have already started talking about baby number 2, what age gap we would like between them, do we have the room/financial capacity for another one, but of course baby’s don’t always happen straight away, so do we think about it sooner?! I feel like baby number 2 almost takes more thought!
I wanted to pop in here and let you know, that I'm watching your old videos in preparation for the surgery (not a stoma, but they also are going to cut my belly open). I kinda feel better thinking than you went through some really shitty things, and you are still your joyous self!
2nd kids are weird, man. I look at my 4 month old baby and how useless she is, and it seems like only yesterday I was in that situation the first time around... But then I look at my 3 year old and she's washing her own plate and cup up after lunch using soap and a sponge and stuff and it boggles the mind. Really makes you feel time slipping away haha
I feel like it's the opposite, 2nd kids grow so damn fast 😂 My 7 month old is crawling and pulling herself up on furniture, and grows out of her clothes every other week, and I already miss those newborn cuddles so much.. meanwhile my 5 year old, when you think about it, is still very small. Sure he can count to like, 80, put his own clothes on etc but he is still very dependant on us, especially when it's bedtime, and needs us to help regulate the big emotions
Would love to hear you and Kayla from BookaAndLaLa discuss your offline roles.. I hear so many similarities between the two of you and you’re both so passionate about it
Oooh I’ve seen some of her videos but not aware of what she does behind the scenes
Would you do a video on everything you know about buying / selling a house/flat? I'm no where near as organized as you but looking to sell my house or move onto a different mortgage product but no idea what it entails and hearing you talk through that stuff I think would be so helpful
Omg Yes PLEASE weaning video. 21 month old boobie barnacle here, Super keen to wean soon, when/by the time she is 2.
I think Rowan and my daughter had the same original due date in April but I delivered a week early. It also took us a year to conceive. We are 10 months in now trying for baby #2. I am hopeful but also know it might be a longgg journey. Best of luck!
I am a mindfulness teacher and I don't know if people are predisposed to being glass half full or empty BUT I do know we have a natural and biological negativity bias and I was not a half full glass person until I started a gratitude practice and I did 30 Days of Happiness where I took a photo of something that made me happy every day for 30 days and I am now so much more glass half full so even if you think you're very negative or not positive feeling you can DEFINATELY change it!
I have family members who insist it's harder to get pregnant while breastfeeding because your body thinks "no thanks, I've already got one to take care of" and fights it. I doubt there's any science behind that idea, but all the same glad to hear Rowan's weaned; they'd say you're ready now! Lol. Best of luck with the process and just let it happen when it happens; it's all good. :)
There actually is science behind it. Breastfeeding was considered effective contraception until the 1970s because it was rare people actually got the 4k calories and sufficient micronutrients to also ovulate at the same time (many women didn't even resume to have periods from how mallurished they were)
It's no longer seen as black and white and it's possible to get pregnant while breastfeeding in accordance with the normal health concerns
My son was born the same month as Rowen, and I'm 13 weeks pregnant with my second. So weird. 😊
I wish you the best! ❤
I loved your TTC content. I am 7 years and still trying 😔 Looks like I will be going for IVF at the end of this year ❤
My brother and his wife tried for a long time and have been successful on their second round of IVF, I'm sure you've probably heard a lot of similar stories. Good luck!
Also on our TTC journey, moving on to cycle 5. I know it's only been four months but it's still a struggle.
Yeah there is no perfect time...just some more wrong times 😅 For me right now am Super keen on a second bubba, but due to starting a new job have to hold off on TTC for now [can start in Aug]. So, yep abit different but also trying to...appreciate and enjoy the good things about Not being pregnant, and just reassuring myself that when the time comes it will happen :-)
you're so inspiring with your career change! could you recommend your career coach/services that you used?
It's funny returning to work after 3 month is view as "very early". Here it's fairly standard to go back to work between 2/5 and 4 month after baby is born.
Where is "here"?
Depends on where you live. In Denmark i would say it is normal to go back after 7-11 months.
Good luck on offspring number #2 Great Great Great Aunt Hannah!♥️♥️♥️♥️ Great Great Great Uncle Dan!👊🏻👊🏻👊🏻👊🏿👊🏿👊🏿
So curious, you mentioned your publicist. Wonder if you could talk about that sometime? The different between you, a publicist, a manager etc for the creative space? X
I'm about to move to Manchester (any tips welcome!). We will be renting initially but had a look at the housing market out of curiosity in the surrounding areas and I can finally imagine myself having a house with a garden 😅
I hear that two year olds are both fun but also terrors. They're absorbing everything and it's so fun to see them interact with the world, but they are a lot more mobile and have no sense of danger. So definitely be careful of what you say and toddler proof EVERYTHING if my parents stories of me as a toddler are anything to go by.
I have a 3yo and a 1 yo, so I have stopped wearing my wedding and engagement rings since motherhood. I don't want to get them soiled especially by poo during diaper changes and I don't want to scratch the kiddos with them accidentally. But my daughter is potty training and once my youngest is I look forward to wearing them again.
I think being positive is a lot about who and what you surround yourself with. When you find something wrong about the world/life, try and find a solution, and if you find that it’s unchangeable, move on. Focus on just one thing you want to change at a time, don’t try save the whole world at once. And rather than constantly trying to keep up to date with all the bad things that are happening, look at some of the good stuff as well! Basically just stay focused on a particular topic, with all its goods and bads, and leave the rest of the worrying to other people who have chosen that as their topic of choice. There really is a lot to discuss and indulge in in life, so if you find that every conversation you’re having is either about random current affairs or like,, your favourite tv show, try find something else to speak to people about (and maybe new people to speak to.) Go outside and experience some things and tell a story about it. Make connections. And perhaps this one is an unfortunate one, but if you find that every time you interact with someone your mental health declines, end that friendship. It doesn’t matter if it’s not their fault, we need to look after ourselves otherwise we’ll all just drag each other down.
I think instead of 'when is the right time for a baby', the better question is 'do I want to have a baby'. This way, if life events come up that may impact future fertility, you aren't trying to decide IF you want to get preganant, on top of those other life events. I faced a similar type of decision as Hannah's re: surgery, but I chose the other path without a lot of stress because I knew I didn't want to get pregnant.
re the free Yale course. There is a podcast called The Happiness Lab that the creator of that course has :) would recommend!!
This may seem an odd question, but I'm wondering what it feels like to want a second child? You are obviously completely certain it's what you and Dan want. I on the other hand badly wanted my son, and I thought I would have 2 kids, but he's 1 and a half now and I currently have absolutely no desire to have another. I kind of feel like my family is complete. Do people feel as strongly about it as they did the first time around?
I feel exactly the same and my little girl is almost 2!
My first daughter will turn 2 in July and I'm currently 39/40 weeks pregnant with the second one and honestly to me it was a no brainer, I just always wanted to have 2 kids but just because you might have thought that in the past doesn't mean it can't change. The feeling that your family is complete is absolutely valid and it's definitely not a decision to take lightly so it's great that you're asking yourself this question. I can attest that being pregnant while already having a baby is VERY different than being pregnant for the first time with no little ones to take care of. Not as much time for rest or in general "me time" but to me it's still totally worth it. 😊
I've just always pictured myself with 2 kids (maybe because that's the family I grew up in) and I love the idea of Rowan having a sibling!
I always thought I wanted two kids too but after my daughter was born I definitely felt zero desire for a second. My husband didn't feel strongly either way so we decided if we still didn't definitively want a second by the time she turned four we'd close the door forever. She turned four in Nov 2021 and in April 2022 I chose to have elective surgery to remove my fallopian tubes. Prior to that I was constantly circling in my head about not wanting a second but considering what it would be like and why don't I want that and should I do it anyway. It was immensely stressful. Once I was sterile those thoughts pretty much just stopped and I felt a great peace. She's six and a half now and I'm more sure than ever that our family is complete. I found it helpful to have that future point set where, due to our ages and other factors, we knew we'd either want to go ahead and try for a second or agree that we didn't ever want that. Maybe for you that's five or ten years or more in the future, maybe less.
I had the opposite feeling. I think the decision to have our first daughter was mostly led by my partner. I didn't realise how strong my desire was until she was here, probably because I struggled to visualise how life would be. The strong desire to have a second comes from two places 1) I have a sister who I am very close to and this is what I visualise for my own daughter and 2) because after my daughters birth I had a big haemorrhage and had to have emergency surgery which I had to sign a form which listed four procedures (one of which was a hysterectomy). Thankfully it didn't come to that and ever since the day she was born I have deeply desired to have another. Our journey is slightly tougher this time round as our next pregnancy ended in a miscarriage at 10 weeks. It only makes me want it more. Kinda like when someone tells you you might not be able to do something and you want to try harder to make it happen. Some helpful advice may be to envision the family dinner table 10-20 years down the line and let that guide you as to how many children you would like sitting beside you.
In the middle of the video so maybe this question is asked! But do you think you would have made your life change if you hasn't had rowan and taken maternity leave?
I‘m so happy you’re doing so well! ❤ It’s great to see you like this. Hope it’s ok to ask: Are you not a bit worried that getting pregnant again and having another child might destroy the work life balance you finally found?
I feel like you went through such an exhausting phase in your life and you finally found some calm within the storm, you weaned Rowan, you started focusing on yourself a bit again, on your creativity, your style etc. I imagine having 2 kids to be so stressful… I hope it’s ok to be so honest about what I’m thinking, it’s not critique, just really curious about your thoughts and reasons! 💕
Especially since I’m someone who always wanted kids but has been questioning that wish recently… partly also because of content I’ve seen from mothers like Melanie, who seem completely exhausted and like they have 0 time for themselves. It scares me… I want to believe there is a different way, but I’m just not sure at this point.
I wonder also. I saw that Melanie ended up getting very ill and had to be in hospital and part of that was sheer exhaustion. The pressure on working mothers particularly, but all mothers really, seems immense.
Did you see Challengers?! The new zendaya movie
If you're interested in museum studies AND teaching, you could consider working in a museum's education and public programs' department. Lots of museums have those. Best of both worlds!
Do you plan to write more books? Maybe about pregnancy and motherhood or fiction?
Fun
How excited are you to watch Challengers 😘 🎾 😘
Literally about to go in to watch it now!!
26.29 "I would like it to be 10% but of course, I also would like to have a baby" The old "I want buns of steel but I also want buns of cinnamon" connumdrum.
Congratulations for baby number 2!! Sending positive vibes and strength for you and ur journey so happy for you! 💙💙🦋🦋💖🌻💚❤️🩷🩵🩷💜💜🩵🩷💕🌻🦋💖🌻💚💘🪻🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻🩵🩷🩷💕🌻💖🌻🌻❤️💚💕💕🌈💕💖💙💙🩵🩵💜💜🩵🫶🏻🫶🏻🩵
Longterm stable happy existent relationship with the confidence to plan for the future LMFAO
Please can u link or what’s the name of free course?? xx
Yale - Science of Wellbeing. It’s on coursera
@@morehannah thnks do u even mentor people xx
Hopefully your TTC journey second time around is quicker for you! Sending fertile vibes your way lol ✨
New job just a stay at home mom
Isn’t Labour running London?
Why is it the Tories fault your buyer pulled out? Did they qualify for a council flat or something? Deported?
I'm happy for you but this content is just not for me any more. I don't have any interest in babies or "mommy" stuff. I hope everything is wonderful in your life but this isnt something I'm going to follow anymore. Have fun in your new direction Hannah, I will miss your humour and your insights.
Always love a Q&A Hannah, thanks for the update. I remember you mentioning you had been trying out TempDrop, any update on that review vid? Sending joy from down under 💜🦘
I talked about it a bit on my instagram stories but wasn't planning on doing a whole video about it tbh!
@@morehannah hmm can I watch those now? Not on Instagram so I miss a lot unfortunately.
@@morehannah bottom line: would you recommend? Thank you!
hey!
Do you plan on writing more books about life in general or motherhood and balancing life? 🌻🩷🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻🩷🌻🌻💛💕💕❤️🌞💚💖🌷💙💛🌞🩵🩵🩵🩷🌻💙🌞🦋🦋🦋💜🌼💙💙🌹🌹🌈🌈🌹🌼🌼💘💘💛💛🫶🏻🌈🌈🌈🌈🌞🌞🪻🪻🪻🪻🪻💐💐🌷🪻🌹🌸🌸🌸💜💜💜💜💙💙🩵🩷🩷❤️🧡💛💚💚💛🧡💛💕❣️❣️💕💓💘💖💖💖