Most don't comprehend the level of sabotage that comes with this scenario. These are people, including your parent(s) that will demolish you if you tell them no, regardless of reason. They will protect each other. They will discuss how to break down your self-esteem and then blame you for it. They will blame you, not for things you've actually done, but will say things like, "It's your energy." As if they are spiritually aware of what that even implies! Do you think you can use the same excuses? Do you think that you can say that your behavior is based on something they've actually done? When they cause something, they blame the effect(ed)! When you see what they are, they will ALWAYS try to reset things and reposition themselves to be the "Good" ones with the heart. They will ALWAYS maneuver to make you seem wrong! Always try to confuse you about who you really are! They will try to make you dirty! When/if they succeed, they will say that it is who you are! They want you to hate and doubt yourself! You probably wanted to work together the whole time they were competing with you, but they resisted. Then when there's a sign that you could make some money, they want to be on the same team! All that after BLATANTLY sabotaging, ridiculing and humiliating you, they'll act like they're your friends! They'll lie to destroy you! They'll set you up! They'll act like they love you, but when the situation changes, they'll throw you in the trash! If you're in this situation, I highly recommend being true to your responses to them! Remember what they are! Don't let them trick you, or try to label you the villain when you adapt to their strategies! Don't be so secretive about who they are and what they've done! Call them out in public(!) as soon as it feels right! I know some of you may have been kept in a low, crippled position where you fear the losses your family may incur if others knew the truth! That's why they put you in this position anyway! If they loved you, you'd have expanded and been free from the consequences of THEIR failures! Note that they will not build you to be self efficient, but will be ready and willing to throw you out into the streets WITH NOTHING!? Make sense of that! They will stain you in such a way, that this will repeat with people, over and over again in your life outside! How could you not question reality? Here we are in a place where people say sweet things with a smile, while they attempt to maim your life! No one who does cruel things, is EVER that kind of person, right? "Make friends?" "Trust based on actions," but who are you allowing that close? Then be blamed for your own isolation, when you've learned that people can't be trusted!? They just say and do things to infiltrate! Then the world is willing to blame YOU for your isolation, when they'd already blamed YOU for your openness? Sick and funny place! So many CLOWNS!
I’m going through it right now… I recently suspected that they set me up for Gangstalking. I still live with them. I’m still gathering signs and evidences. I feel like it’s been going on for years and I just recently found out. I connected all the dots and now I’m doing my research and investigations about this covert harassment thing. My relationship with my parents changed since I realized they were both a covert narcissist and I told them that I’m aware how toxic my upbringing was. They can’t contain. They cannot accept the fact that one member of the family knows and sees all their backhanded abuse and I can’t be controlled. I’m praying that this is just all in my head since I have anxiety and depression. But lately, it’s becoming more and more obvious. I’m still learning and I’m so glad that I found adriana’s channel. ❤️ I’m giving it all to God. 😇🙏✨ We should all gather as one!
I was raised by a narcissistic mother, i am +30 right now and still unable to express my feelings while dealing with people, lack of boundaries, attracting narcissist’s and anxiety for life. But i am still working on fixing these problems
I was the scapegoat in my family. I was so innocent and naïve and had no idea you weren’t supposed to ask why they drink so much or why they yell or why they lie. I just didn’t know that calling a spade a spade was not what you’re supposed to do. In exchange for my honesty I was smeared and the world was told I was crazy all to hide the sick secrets in our family. I am disgusted by them. I loved them and yet everything in their eyes that I did was wrong or bad and now I look back and realize they knew I would never stay silent so they destroyed my character silently behind my back so that when I began to speak up no one would believe me. God sees everything and they are all dropping like flies with miserable lives and bad health. Karma!
They knew that we were naive and didn't know any better. They were actually abusing us and we thought that it was normal behavior. End result is they ended up trying to pass on generational curses. Some succeeded and some failed. I wondered why my mother would always say that I was a strong woman, yet she was unable to ever let her mouth utter the three words "I LOVE YOU". But I found that was okay as long as God loves me. I don't need anyone else. So she was only hurting herself by trying to hurt me. Thank you Lord for your awesome love.
Scapegoat is the most unfortunate label to acquire. Make me so angry ppl try put me in this predicament when clearly they are the ones with the issues and problems. God bless and peace 🌞💛
This is to set the stage for becoming a targeted individual. Making you vulnerable to feel guilt, shame and anger, which they can prey upon. You are a little angel and very intelligent. I hope you stay safe.
Good words live through it all God allow us to undergo these things so we can always continue to grow and faith and spiritual not to harm us our flesh have to be tamed at all times
Another name for the scapegoat is the black sheep! Now it is much more profound to me today. I do love listening to your messages. I visit a great deal of chosen ones rooms. Well over a dozen rooms, different kids calling themselves the chosen ones. I just got down tearing one up today because I asked him a question. One question. What God do you serve? Instead of answering the question. The guy made a video about me saying stupid things. So I nailed him to the cross. As I do with all those that teach the bible but do not read it. I'm not kidding. I really do love your demeanor. You do seem very kind and warmhearted. You lessons are spot on always and you don't talk much about Jesus. For the that is key, but I must be honest with you. Giving love to somebody that says they are waiting on Jesus' return doesn't sit will with what the bible says. All praise must go to the Creator. Please don't be mad at me. I only continue with your channel because I think you are the one with the must understanding to see what I teach. I wasn't lying when I said I would love to have been a grandparent for you. Giving you truth, kindness, and a warriors spirit of God alone. AL ONE! Shalom sister Adriana. I am always praying for you dear. Many blessings to those that serve one God alone.
I served the scapegoat role within my narc adopted family . If I didn’t live out this role personally, I would never believe it . God bless you Adriana
I remember when I was 8 years old, this was back in 2003, my parents beat me so bad for 4 hours straight until midnight…until this day I never understood why they did that to me. I don’t know if it was something I did at church or on the way home from church. Maybe that could be why I don’t attend church.
When you said we are told to "shut up and just obey" is so true. I get that all the time from my narcissistic mother. She hates it when I speak up and speak the truth. I have fought off so many of my abusers and they can't stand it. And I always get told "why can't you be like others!!!" I just ignore it as best I can.
This is so true Adriana; I was the eldest but got all the grief in the family, which is a fact I never acknowledged until many years later. I knew I had to get away one day and I did, but even when I was away serving in BAOR Germany they were still sending me letters blaming me for any misfortune happening at home. I hadn't been home for a year and was still being made to feel guilty for their mistakes. There was much collusion between them when I was a teenager and they turned me into their own living slave almost. That's why I had to get away and make the British Army my life and it was the family I never had although it was extremely hard going for the first year. For someone so young you're very wise, thanks for all your videos Adriana.
I feel so sorry for you children. I was friends with a narc but didnt know about narcissism at the time and saw the way she treated her child. My heart ached for her as I knew she wasn't this evil child her mother made her out to be. She was just a normal kid and I never understood why she got that treatment until I learned about narcissism. It is not your fault children, you are okay!
Great job, Young Lady. Very articulate and helpful video. As a mom with suspicions about the family system, your testimony of truth has such a huge effect on my understanding, because my kids, especially one who I believe may be being scapegoated - deserve the best opportunities we can give them to grow up with wisdom and empathy and strength. How did you get the support you needed to become such a service to others as you are doing here in this video - how can I help my kids through childhood with somebody who might have these traits? I already know she is so so so so so so so smart and caring and has an amazing soul - so she’s relied on too much at her age to know how to act. And she’s still learning. That has to be ok, expected. Instead, even the younger ones get punished and that gets harsher. How do I create a healthier environment for them so they can create opportunities for themselves in the future the way you’re doing here now for yourself? Thank you for your brave share. Appreciated and taken to heart.
Crazy. You.may have to leave to save yourself. Or arrange for them to get all the credit for doing well in school. They don't want you doing good. They wantbyou wholly dependent on them .if you.leave they will get satisfaction in knowing you're struggling. You can't much getaway from a narc. Its evil incarnate. Do good ,save your money, keep a good name and make a break for it.
I love this video thank you, honest and simple. You're very strong and smart. It takes a lot of courage to do what you do ! You should have a look at Dr.Ramani's videos you will like them even if i think you already know a lot on the subject. Have a good day !
And beware lest you raise your eyes to heaven, and when you see the sun and the moon and the stars, all the host of heaven, you be drawn away and bow down to them and serve them, things that the Lord your God has allotted to all the peoples under the whole heaven. Deuteronomy 4:19.
Adrianna your so gorgeous and I think your hair is perfect your messages are great and I really hope you have a peaceful transition into a better living situation. FYI you should try Kiwi 🥝 and vanilla bean ice cream and honey🍯, you will not be disappointed lol
Dewd,.. I've never had an online crush before there's just this one girl on the other side of the country , I think about her like 10 times a day and idk why but I feel certain way .. . Let's team u........p
Ok I've seen my mom behave to the T a narcissist and she's the scapegoat of the family. So narcissist pretending to be the scapegoat however I've seen in the family treat her as such or is she covert narcissist, a bipolar narcissist I don't know. I love her to death but shes very difficult to be around.
Most don't comprehend the level of sabotage that comes with this scenario.
These are people, including your parent(s) that will demolish you if you tell them no, regardless of reason.
They will protect each other.
They will discuss how to break down your self-esteem and then blame you for it. They will blame you, not for things you've actually done, but will say things like, "It's your energy." As if they are spiritually aware of what that even implies!
Do you think you can use the same excuses?
Do you think that you can say that your behavior is based on something they've actually done?
When they cause something, they blame the effect(ed)!
When you see what they are, they will ALWAYS try to reset things and reposition themselves to be the "Good" ones with the heart. They will ALWAYS maneuver to make you seem wrong! Always try to confuse you about who you really are!
They will try to make you dirty! When/if they succeed, they will say that it is who you are!
They want you to hate and doubt yourself!
You probably wanted to work together the whole time they were competing with you, but they resisted. Then when there's a sign that you could make some money, they want to be on the same team!
All that after BLATANTLY sabotaging, ridiculing and humiliating you, they'll act like they're your friends!
They'll lie to destroy you!
They'll set you up!
They'll act like they love you, but when the situation changes, they'll throw you in the trash!
If you're in this situation, I highly recommend being true to your responses to them! Remember what they are! Don't let them trick you, or try to label you the villain when you adapt to their strategies!
Don't be so secretive about who they are and what they've done! Call them out in public(!) as soon as it feels right!
I know some of you may have been kept in a low, crippled position where you fear the losses your family may incur if others knew the truth! That's why they put you in this position anyway!
If they loved you, you'd have expanded and been free from the consequences of THEIR failures!
Note that they will not build you to be self efficient, but will be ready and willing to throw you out into the streets WITH NOTHING!?
Make sense of that!
They will stain you in such a way, that this will repeat with people, over and over again in your life outside!
How could you not question reality?
Here we are in a place where people say sweet things with a smile, while they attempt to maim your life!
No one who does cruel things, is EVER that kind of person, right?
"Make friends?"
"Trust based on actions," but who are you allowing that close?
Then be blamed for your own isolation, when you've learned that people can't be trusted!?
They just say and do things to infiltrate!
Then the world is willing to blame YOU for your isolation, when they'd already blamed YOU for your openness?
Sick and funny place! So many CLOWNS!
I’m going through it right now… I recently suspected that they set me up for Gangstalking. I still live with them. I’m still gathering signs and evidences. I feel like it’s been going on for years and I just recently found out. I connected all the dots and now I’m doing my research and investigations about this covert harassment thing. My relationship with my parents changed since I realized they were both a covert narcissist and I told them that I’m aware how toxic my upbringing was. They can’t contain. They cannot accept the fact that one member of the family knows and sees all their backhanded abuse and I can’t be controlled. I’m praying that this is just all in my head since I have anxiety and depression. But lately, it’s becoming more and more obvious. I’m still learning and I’m so glad that I found adriana’s channel. ❤️ I’m giving it all to God. 😇🙏✨ We should all gather as one!
“Never given credit… the golden child constantly applauded for doing the bare minimum.” Wow. Such a sensitive and informative viewpoint.
I was raised by a narcissistic mother, i am +30 right now and still unable to express my feelings while dealing with people, lack of boundaries, attracting narcissist’s and anxiety for life.
But i am still working on fixing these problems
Yup, you said it. I think that is called projection and displacement. It’s redirecting anger on people that have no fault for the narc’s rage.
I was the scapegoat in my family. I was so innocent and naïve and had no idea you weren’t supposed to ask why they drink so much or why they yell or why they lie. I just didn’t know that calling a spade a spade was not what you’re supposed to do. In exchange for my honesty I was smeared and the world was told I was crazy all to hide the sick secrets in our family. I am disgusted by them. I loved them and yet everything in their eyes that I did was wrong or bad and now I look back and realize they knew I would never stay silent so they destroyed my character silently behind my back so that when I began to speak up no one would believe me. God sees everything and they are all dropping like flies with miserable lives and bad health. Karma!
They knew that we were naive and didn't know any better. They were actually abusing us and we thought that it was normal behavior. End result is they ended up trying to pass on generational curses. Some succeeded and some failed. I wondered why my mother would always say that I was a strong woman, yet she was unable to ever let her mouth utter the three words "I LOVE YOU". But I found that was okay as long as God loves me. I don't need anyone else. So she was only hurting herself by trying to hurt me. Thank you Lord for your awesome love.
Same.
Don't let them tarnish your shine, your hustle. You do you. You know what you can do. You know you can break the cycle. I sincerely wish you the best.
Truth Spoken! Seems like you're speaking of my childhood. Wow 😲
Scapegoat is the most unfortunate label to acquire.
Make me so angry ppl try put me in this predicament when clearly they are the ones with the issues and problems. God bless and peace 🌞💛
This is to set the stage for becoming a targeted individual. Making you vulnerable to feel guilt, shame and anger, which they can prey upon. You are a little angel and very intelligent. I hope you stay safe.
Good words live through it all God allow us to undergo these things so we can always continue to grow and faith and spiritual not to harm us our flesh have to be tamed at all times
Another name for the scapegoat is the black sheep! Now it is much more profound to me today. I do love listening to your messages. I visit a great deal of chosen ones rooms. Well over a dozen rooms, different kids calling themselves the chosen ones. I just got down tearing one up today because I asked him a question. One question. What God do you serve? Instead of answering the question. The guy made a video about me saying stupid things. So I nailed him to the cross. As I do with all those that teach the bible but do not read it.
I'm not kidding. I really do love your demeanor. You do seem very kind and warmhearted. You lessons are spot on always and you don't talk much about Jesus. For the that is key, but I must be honest with you. Giving love to somebody that says they are waiting on Jesus' return doesn't sit will with what the bible says.
All praise must go to the Creator. Please don't be mad at me. I only continue with your channel because I think you are the one with the must understanding to see what I teach. I wasn't lying when I said I would love to have been a grandparent for you. Giving you truth, kindness, and a warriors spirit of God alone. AL ONE!
Shalom sister Adriana. I am always praying for you dear.
Many blessings to those that serve one God alone.
Just wow! 47 years old been researching narcissism for a while now and I’ve only today discovered I am the family scapegoat! Thanks
I served the scapegoat role within my narc adopted family . If I didn’t live out this role personally, I would never believe it . God bless you Adriana
I remember when I was 8 years old, this was back in 2003, my parents beat me so bad for 4 hours straight until midnight…until this day I never understood why they did that to me. I don’t know if it was something I did at church or on the way home from church. Maybe that could be why I don’t attend church.
youre really gifted. This happened to me last night, it is humbling but it really happened to me.
When you said we are told to "shut up and just obey" is so true. I get that all the time from my narcissistic mother. She hates it when I speak up and speak the truth. I have fought off so many of my abusers and they can't stand it. And I always get told "why can't you be like others!!!" I just ignore it as best I can.
My family🙏
This is so true Adriana; I was the eldest but got all the grief in the family, which is a fact I never acknowledged until many years later. I knew I had to get away one day and I did, but even when I was away serving in BAOR Germany they were still sending me letters blaming me for any misfortune happening at home. I hadn't been home for a year and was still being made to feel guilty for their mistakes. There was much collusion between them when I was a teenager and they turned me into their own living slave almost. That's why I had to get away and make the British Army my life and it was the family I never had although it was extremely hard going for the first year. For someone so young you're very wise, thanks for all your videos Adriana.
I feel so sorry for you children. I was friends with a narc but didnt know about narcissism at the time and saw the way she treated her child. My heart ached for her as I knew she wasn't this evil child her mother made her out to be. She was just a normal kid and I never understood why she got that treatment until I learned about narcissism. It is not your fault children, you are okay!
Always cheering Up. Thank you Sister for your wise. GOD bless you forever.
This is so accurate!!!!
Damn you came on at the right time. Adrianna. I'm at work an your title spoke to me. Man God bless you baby girl.
Keep up the great work in showing us what it means to be the scapegoat
I’m weak bc I want to die bc of this abuse I hate my life. I don’t want it. Nothing to be here for just pain and Agony
Isn’t it crazy how the narc family protects the toxicity? Strange
Not just families 🙄
Birds of a feather and all that. Cheers
@@kendallwonderland158 I was thing the same thing,the same type of people stick together
Thank you
Please make a part 2 to this video, you are spot on with this one.
Facts!
Great job, Young Lady. Very articulate and helpful video.
As a mom with suspicions about the family system, your testimony of truth has such a huge effect on my understanding, because my kids, especially one who I believe may be being scapegoated - deserve the best opportunities we can give them to grow up with wisdom and empathy and strength.
How did you get the support you needed to become such a service to others as you are doing here in this video - how can I help my kids through childhood with somebody who might have these traits?
I already know she is so so so so so so so smart and caring and has an amazing soul - so she’s relied on too much at her age to know how to act. And she’s still learning. That has to be ok, expected. Instead, even the younger ones get punished and that gets harsher.
How do I create a healthier environment for them so they can create opportunities for themselves in the future the way you’re doing here now for yourself?
Thank you for your brave share. Appreciated and taken to heart.
I am too
Crazy. You.may have to leave to save yourself. Or arrange for them to get all the credit for doing well in school. They don't want you doing good. They wantbyou wholly dependent on them .if you.leave they will get satisfaction in knowing you're struggling. You can't much getaway from a narc. Its evil incarnate. Do good ,save your money, keep a good name and make a break for it.
I love this video thank you, honest and simple. You're very strong and smart. It takes a lot of courage to do what you do ! You should have a look at Dr.Ramani's videos you will like them even if i think you already know a lot on the subject. Have a good day !
I know exactly what Adriana is talking about. The ex husband was a case of Malignant Narcissism, one that borders on psychopathy.
GOD bless you forever Sister.
And beware lest you raise your eyes to heaven, and when you see the sun and the moon and the stars, all the host of heaven, you be drawn away and bow down to them and serve them, things that the Lord your God has allotted to all the peoples under the whole heaven. Deuteronomy 4:19.
“Now look what you made me do.” Huh?
Parents are the worst
Adrianna your so gorgeous and I think your hair is perfect your messages are great and I really hope you have a peaceful transition into a better living situation. FYI you should try Kiwi 🥝 and vanilla bean ice cream and honey🍯, you will not be disappointed lol
Dewd,.. I've never had an online crush before there's just this one girl on the other side of the country , I think about her like 10 times a day and idk why but I feel certain way .. . Let's team u........p
I like what you have to say but your volume is barely audible on my phone...
Ok I've seen my mom behave to the T a narcissist and she's the scapegoat of the family. So narcissist pretending to be the scapegoat however I've seen in the family treat her as such or is she covert narcissist, a bipolar narcissist I don't know. I love her to death but shes very difficult to be around.
Are any of these parents “Religious”?
Yes, mines are “FAKE CHRISTIANS”
sorry cannot hear
That's what parents do sunshine .
Your parents are the best. Shame on you for saying these lies about them
Your a narcissist 😊😅
GOD bless you forever Sister.