Sad that having children is so financially difficult, but SERIOUS KUDOS to these women who literally choose to do the very best for their kids, only having them when they know they're able to provide for them. Serious respect.
Depends on what you mean by provide for kids..people seem to have the toys they want. Raising kids requires sacrifice. People would rather have a perfect house ( I watch all those buying houses shows) and nice cars...too many material things
@@barbaratheard5992 that's the truth and waiting to give birth to children when you are in your late 30s and 40s increases the chase of mental and physical defects.
Having a child is not financially difficult. They only make it seem so. But money aside, I think if both parents plan on working then there's no reason to have children. Why have kids seriously just to pay for them?? It makes no sense.
We need to have our priorits straight, find a place to live and have a family ! We need to support our family structure and have relatives helping with the children! It cost more money to have a family today. Nothing like a good loving family to have around on the holidays ! I remember what it was like to see the family at Christmas time sitting in the dining area and smiling and hugging everyone, and if it was chilly out it made the warmth of the room so much better, I hope I passed this on to my children and grandchildren .I just know that my mom knows that we carried on her traditions and pasted them on ...God's grace to everyone.
@@ASmith-jn7kf do you have any children ? It's not just the cash it's like all the time you need to raise the children and teaching children everything they'll need to be decent adults! So help them out if you want a good family
Money not the only issue of why we don't have children. We don't even spend time with them cause we are always working... We can't even enjoy our lives cause work consumes us... We have so many bills to pay that's all we think work work work work... Bill's Bill's Bill's...
That because you want too much. Whats wrong with a two room trailer to live in with only 2 kids. No car, phones, and only over the air tv. Reading books as a pastime borrowed from the library.
@@dfpolitowski2, yeah sure...no car you say, but yet they are needed to get to work, etc. ...."Because you want too much..", yeah, if you say so. Pretty sure child services and high-and-mighty azzez would bytch if families lived in 2 room trailers, as if that's feasible anyway- which it isn't.
@@ASmith-jn7kf, in area where I live, if you live in a 2-room trailer they (children services) sure wouldn't like it, especially if there's no bathroom in a 2 room trailer. Besides that, if kids are differing genders, each child needs to have a separate bedroom. lol..
I have one set of Italian great grandparents. They had 11 children in basically poverty, 8 who reached adulthood. None of those kids, except one, had more than two kids. I wonder why.
Because it was a living nightmare growing up with that amount of siblings and starting really behind in life. You are lucky to eat, have clothing, or any time with parents. The parents are never around and you grow up with the older kids raising you, which is unfair to both kids.
@@Chillipep You are so right! I was the oldest child, and I know much too well all you have described. People, who have many kids and are not rich enough to employ the nanny, are doomed to use their oldest children as nannies,- not even mentioning, that older children are washing-cleaning-cooking, while parents are working hard trying to earn enough for their big family. Those, who think, that this is a good life for children, should get the head examined.
I'm 55, no children. Of 4 siblings only 1 of us has children. She only had to, which hardly makes up for the other 3, but hey, it wasn't her job to make up the difference.
Cuz we have become too materialistic. We need to change our values back to community and family and governments should support women in being mothers instead of penalizing them.
@@TheBooty28 those Italian women and men not having kids have rented holiday apartments somewhere tropical and spend their money on travelling . A luxurious lifestyle full of vanity has became more important than raising a child. They are so disconnected they just don't like to look after anyone .
A friend & his wife went to Italy with their 2 year old daughter. Everywhere they went people flocked to them to touch and squeeze the cheeks of their daughter. They quickly realized that there were few young children in the villages they visited. During their trip they met up w/ an American friend that married an Italian woman. She was pregnant. They told them stories of how the wife would get stopped on the street & given blessings. Sometimes she would arrive home with all sorts of food stuff that people had given her for the UNBORN baby. It was shocking to hear all of this.
Rebecca Gutierrez Italian daughters usually take care of their elderly parents. And so it is here in America as well. I’m so glad god blessed me with a daughter. My only one, my heart and soul
@@lindacosta3381 But is it up to only daughters to pick up this task next to maintaining their own family life and work? This is also a reason why many women are worried about having children. Everything is expected to be done by the woman. Work, rear the children, feed her husband and kids. Not all couples are like that anymore luckily in 21st century but many men still think traditional.
@@lindacosta3381 I would never ever expect my child to care for me in my elder years! My mother in law expects this and I've watched many families completely destroyed by taking care of an elderly parent. It is unreasonable and unfair to expect your 40-50 year old child to give up they're entire life to care for you when you're old and sick.
It’s the same here in the US. My father was one of 9 children, I am the youngest of 6 kids, and I have only 1 child. No specific reason for having only 1 child - just married later.
Leaf Lover96 I am one of 14 children and my husband is one of 8. Together we have 2 and neither one wants to have any children. They don’t see the possibility financially or even emotionally to be the kind of parents that they would like to be.
My dad is one of 8, my mom also one of 8. I have 6 siblings, the youngest is 21 the oldest 35. Only one (eldest daughter) has kids (2) and has already told her husband if they want more it will be adoption. He is okay with that, she is a stay at home mom, he a civil engineer, and they still struggle with money. Only 2 of the siblings are married. My mom is 100% okay with it despite being very pro-life and loving kids. She learned the hard way that any more than a few kids is a not a good idea. We grew up dirt poor, only made worse by the amount of children. We never relied on the government. Though the trend now is to pop out a few pups and live off welfare for decades. I have no intention of having kids until I know that I can provide properly for them. I'm 28, have no kids. Dont intend to get married until well into my thirties and will probably adopt.
Sardinia is not exactly representative of Italy. It is an island very far from the rest and of Italy with its own distinct language and culture. It is almost like shooting a video in Hawaii to illustrate a typical American issue...
Kind of true, it's distinct, but every region in italy has its own language and culture, and the problems at a maternal support level are present nation-wide, the government is the same
Ma se non sai le cose non scrivere. If you don't know others cultures just shut up, in sardinia we speak italian infact the interwues are in italian language.
You know sardinia is still italy...right? Same thing with sicily, we are an island but we still are a part of italy. Sometimes I wish it wasn't, but whatever.
6:18 illustrates this perfectly.I travelled to Italy recently,very strange to witness first hand.A bunch of old folk ,middle age people,many unmarried women ,a few young blokes as in 35 year old men in groups and a very rare spoiled 5 year old kid doing what they pleased. It’s true the small amount of grandchildren will have to support the parents and the grandparents with immigrant help eventually.
Giving children the comforts of good food, an education and a nice place to live isn’t everything! If you have to work all the time for those things, then you can’t give your children the time and attention they need!
Yeah, and everyone will be in your business saying that you shouldn't have kids if you can't afford them -- and threatening to call CPS on you for every slight they perceive.
An education? Education is free. Good food...hm..what is your idea of good food? I'm curious. I really can't believe both spouses are working JUST to put food on the table. What about family meals? Good time to enjoy each other's company but I wonder how many families REALLY sit down together to eat. And you can't tell me that you have NO toys....or a nice car(s)
Barbara Theard I don’t know what part of the country you live in but we paid hundreds of dollars per child for elementary school “fees” plus we supplied lunches and extra money for “field trips “ it felt like every day the kids brought home a request for money from the school. I got divorced when all my kids (4) were in elementary school! I worked three jobs just to make ends meet and my mother watched the kids! My main job was in an insurance company. I worked there for 12 hours a day six days a week! All four of my kids have college degrees now but for a long time, they saw very little of me . I never got remarried because there was no time for socializing and if I had time, it was spent with my kids!
Kids take way less money than the media tells you. You can buy clothes secondhand, cook cheap simple food, drive an old car and live in a smaller house. People would just rather have the fancy cars and phones and clothes.
kristina carvalho lol rape? No it’s a culture thing. People get married younger. They don’t want to have kids when they get old. Being in your 30’s is too old to have kids.
Undeveloped countries knows how to survive. Besides, the standard of living is not high esp. In rural places where vegetation and tree bearing fruits are everywhere.....free
It’s just selfishness. People would rather use birth control than self control and abstinence, because “it’s their bodies” and “they should be able to do what they want”. That is why a lot of society sees babies as too much work and a talk about “population control”, these people literally sounds like Thenos. I once saw a commercial about birth control where this lady was talking about how kids would ruin her home or whatever. Stop lying to yourselves and just admit that people would rather sleep around and take birth control than abstain from a life style full of pleasure and living for themselves. I’m not perfect and I’m pretty selfish, but this is what I’ve noticed about a lot of people today.
Many people are too busy comparing themselves to the material possessions of others. I know many people that as soon as they have one kid, they're out there buying an expensive SUV and a bigger house. As if a child can't get by in a 2-door Chevy or a 2-bedroom trailer.
Catherine Hazur So your blaming feminism how about the fact that daycare can cost basically your whole paycheck. How about the fact that there is no leave from women’s jobs to have the baby. I know women that had to go back to work a week after giving birth. Also even to live in a to bedroom trailer as you say many families need both parents working. What about the cost of the healthcare to even have the baby? Also if people 100 years ago had been able to access birth control they would have had less children. They didn’t have large families because they were selfless angels. They had them because they lacked the knowledge to stop them. You should read the book motherhood in bondage. It’s real letters written by women in the early 1900’s begging for information on birth control. They talk about talk about starving children they can afford, pregnancy after pregnancy destroying their health and body, fear of their husbands leaving them is they deny them “relations” to attempt less pregnancy. Hardly the past paradise
Catherine Hazur First off love I don’t need to grow up. My point was that the past isn’t as wonderful as people like you want to make it. You had women being forced to have kids they didn’t want and stuck in abusive marriage because they had no options. Also must people don’t have to financial luxury to stay home and raise their children. This isn’t because of feminism it’s because of the cost of living. Also I see myself as one of the lucky people because I have money I have the luxury to stay home with my kids. I didn’t get to stay home because of my husband. But because feminism allowed me to have an education and to start a business that earned me money to be finically independent. So I was able to buy a large home and buy rental properties so I can live off my investments while raising my children. My children are now happy and well adjusted because their parents are together because they love and care about each other not because their mother is dependent on a man like a child. who would want to raise a family in a 2 room trailer and drive a beat up old car? Like that’s something to be proud of? Sounds like you failed at life and need to make yourself feel better by pretending failure is somehow honorable. Maybe had you gotten an education and made wise money choices you could afford a real home without wheels or cinderblocks. I personally will take the rewards of feminism any day. Because it allowed me to go to college, get a credit card without the permission of a man, buy a house without a husband. You can go back to the days when you needed a husband to buy a home because no mortgage company would give a single woman a loan to buy a house.
Even if you lived in a trailer, which is how I grew up. Kids need more than that. They need parents to teach them. If parents are at work, who raises the child?
Believe me.. i lived there! Many people every month don‘t make enough money to buy food! Its not about materialis! People in sardinien had all 10-15 kids 50years ago!
Exactly, my father paid for 37 years, my mom for, 30. My dad died after 10 years of retirement, He paid for 37 years, received a pension for 10, but his widow and heir dis not get any refund for the 27 years he paid but did not get to enjoy. Pensions used to be decent and enabled people to live comfortably after retirement now they have been reduced to next to nothing. Retirement age also has been increased to 70 , the idea if for retiree to work and to basically go from desk to coffins
This is true!! But the reason men have "Mid-life crisis" because they realize everything was for sombody else! This is not France where you get financial help and support for you families.
@@wheatgerm1208 It was women who started the French Revolution and went head to head with queen Marionette during the "Bread Strike" as a result Mz Germ the queen lost her head, and most of the French parliament, if not all. And the women of France made sure to this second that their families would have financial help of all kind for French families. It was the women genius not the men!!
My husband and I only had 2 children because my mother always told my brother and I to only the the children we could properly financially care for. He like I only had 2 children. Neither, of us have have any regrets as have able to give our children the life we want for them. My oldest is 18 in college and like us says she will only have 1 or 2 children at most as she wants the same life for her children as what we’ve given her. For, our family it’s about quality of life not quantity.
Children are expensive, time consuming & grueling; Most marriages and relationships eventually End, leaving women as struggling single moms. The world is overpopulated anyway. I'm child free and I think I'll pass too.
I was brainwashed. I wish I had kids. I was taught to hate men and put education ahead of everything else. Now, I neither have career, nor children. Thankfully I have a partner and cats and friends. But as I get older, the loss of a family is more painful.. especially as my classmates start welcoming their grand children.
Its refreshing to hear your honesty and see that you value what God values. But that's the world for you. All about living for yourself. I have the same lot in life, though I'm a man and can still father children. 56 yrs old. Yeah, back in the 70's it was all about College, College College. Quite a few of the girls I graduated who were top in there class, bright, went to College, got a good Job and never hooked up or had children, only a few classmates from my HS have full families. A classmate of mine became a surgeon she recently adopted two white baby boys. I thought that was very selfish of her. Everyone from my class was praising her for her adoption. As a christian, I saw it differently. She's single. Her pains of motherless-ness must be great. I understand that but still . . . Children need and deserve a father figure.
So let's get this straight. There isn't enough jobs and not enough money to have a big family. But they should welcome immigrants who have bigger families? Something is amiss here. If there isn't enough jobs , how will these immigrants find work?
The problem is often the grown men still not willing or wanting to get married, momma has made single life far too comfortable for them. Men of Italy need to GROW UP and get married and support their children. Stop being Mama's boys!
Yeh right, = according to financial experts and economists Europe needs more migrants. The reality is we live in a world of finite resources, not unlimited resources. Unemployment is plaguing Europe and the EU is asking for more austerity plans = who wants to have more children in a world of constant downward mobility dwindling salaries and precarity almost everywhere in Europe now.
White societies live in cold climates where no food grows except potatoes. Fruiting trees and vegetables gardens are discouraged therefore you must pay for everything. The solution for white people will be to give up their lands and move to africa to grow their own and start breeding programs. Europe is bankrupt so adults can barely make rent and feed themselves. But if food grew for free it wouldn't matter.
@@nesq4104 Food is not the only thing kids need. They need shelter, clothes, school supplies, good teachers, diapers, medical and day care when young. All these things are more expensive than food. Food is only like €100 a month for a child. I could have 5 if food would be the only expense (and if I'd want to put my body through that, which I don't). You can grow pears, cherries, apples, nuts and many other fruit trees in all of Europe, no need to go to Africa to get food, they barely have any water.
I do not understand this. Both men and women want families. Why have voters allowed conditions to deteriorate to the point where there is no community support for families?
Oh wow we'd be like the Europeans who have a race problem worse than us somehow and throw a fit when their old crusty traditions don't get taken as seriously, the nuclear family was a propaganda campaign in the 50's to ward of communism, we're beyond this bud
Being a working mom it’s very difficult in an underdeveloped country to raise children. I have one daughter and I think I can only afford financially and physically to have one more. I could stretch to three, but only if my economic situation improves. Kids don’t need everything, but they need stability.
If Italy wants to remain Italian, you need to provide services for working families, or you will be demographically and religiously and culturally replaced by invaders.
Unfortunately, 'services provided' means funded by taxes. If they're already being taxed to the max supporting retirees and refugees where's the money going to come from? Maybe women in each community could form cooperatives, caring for each other's children by donating their time freely and sharing the cost of renting a location and providing supplies.
Invaders? Who is invading Italy? No one that's who. Your just hateful and racist. If the Italian government doesn't want immigrants Saving their country they don't have to allow them in. If they do allow they to come and save their economy. Then respect them.
Come to Swaziland and you will be amazed. A 24 year old mom has 5 children. 15 year olds are getting pregnant and they have put a law that whoever impregnates a 15 year old child or less should be imprisoned.
I wont lie by saying it's low..its high and there are re-infections everyday. I am a health care worker and I've noticed that children born HIV positive somehow are angry at their parents or nature, man are infection their wives because they don't stick to one partner so it's hectic but then we are trying to educate the people hoping they will understand. At least most of them are taking their medications.
LOL, false. But for immigration the US population would also be in trouble. The reason the population is expected to shift from majority White is due to the low birth rate among White women. On average White women have fewer than 2 children. Black women have barely above 2. Whites are the oldest ethnic group in the country so the birth rate will continue to fall.
ALL 1st world & 2nd World countries are like Italy. The USA, UK hide their numbers behind immigration but since the 70's fertility rate have dropped in America.
We also have a hedonistic culture where people would rather not do it, people have raised children with far less then what people can get today. We just dont want to responsibility and to stop focusing on ourselves
Its funny. I have my higher degrees and a career, along with being a mother of 6. I long to be able to be a simple housewife now! I used to be but ever since I went back to work 7 years ago, I now can see how good I had it!
I totally get it. I am 53 years old. My mother had a choice to be a stay at home mom, or have a career. She chose to be a nurse. So did my grandmother. In the 30’s and 40s, people don’t realize that any woman who really WANTED to work, and have a career, could. In any career they chose. (I had a great aunt who was an engineer back in the 40’s and one who was a plumber, lol) OR they could choose to stay home. I would have loved to have the choice, but in today’s world, most woman have to work.
TheBooty28 daycare is expensive as heck too and with both parents working those school holidays are like a burden when you cannot find childcare during those times! Not every parent is off for holidays! Honestly, one parent being at home to care for the children is the best family structure! Eartha Kitt mentioned this in an interview once!
@@TheBooty28 Honestly, It can be done. Anyone can decide to give up the earn & spend cycle and 'live like the 50s' We are hardcore consumers now. Plenty of research and info online by ppl who have successfully done it. The only litmus test is your family's health insurance. If your husband can provide that then all you need to do is realize that ppl bought so little non perishable goods over the year, walked when they could, ate out on average one meal every month and a half, and owned only like 20-25 pieces of clothing that was worn for a long time esp kid's clothing that got passed down.but that is the tip of the iceberg. Plenty of moms have blogs etc.
It should be the standard to bring children into our lives when we are able to support them; with that we should also fight for a minimum standard of living where anyone can support a child.
Immigration isn't the answer. You think those people consider themselves Italian or are going to adopt Italian culture as their own? No, they have their own culture that they will practice and I highly doubt any of them consider themselves Italian.
In 30 years they will be the Italians. Right now Italy has to figure out how to support a country full of senior citizens. Bringing in young migrants is the only way.
It depends where the immigrants are from. There are many immigrants from poorer European countries and since there isn't much difference in culture and physically can blend in they become indistinguishable from the rest of the population in just one generation.
My husband and I went to Italy a couple of years ago for a conference, I remembered not seeing a lot of kids around when we were touring. I remember making that comment. Beautiful county and people though.
As much as I love my job I would happily stay home with my kids and be a homemaker. I can always go back to work after the kids are on their own. I just can't afford to do that. And I have 2 kids.
Most of the time you won't be hired as you would have been out of the workforce for too long. Companies can overlook a one or two year gap, but anything more than that looks bad.
I live in Brooklyn NY , not one of the cherished traditions of my youth still exists in honesty - and if in some way they do , it's in a watered down form , that makes it dishonest - the world changes , life moves on - and I don't have a right to complain about it , because the house I grew up in was a forest two hundred years ago , then a farm , and now a city ! time is faster than we want it to be - and you're a fool if you try to hold back the dawn ! but it's nice to remember , and even better to help make a new life !
Unfortunately many Americans are feeling this pinch too, I grew up very poor and I would rather be a bachelor with a dog than be a father of a household that I can't even afford to feed. Another danger is that women waiting till later in life leads to an increased likelihood of certain illnesses and defects for both the mother and child.
I agree with you ... Yours is the most humanitarian comment I have read in this section . For the future of other peoples children to be brighter and better you will genetically step down. Its all about selflessness its just like raising a kid only the kid your raising is invisible .. Many old westerners are dying and there is noone to inherit their homes so the state is giving immigrants this beautiful homes .. Its all about selflessness whatever angle you look at it. The fittest genetics will be the last one standing .
I refused to reproduce myself. Yes, I struggled with this decision. I bite bitterness. I have too many marks against myself and don't feel safe having offspring. I'm worried about my disease and how my children would be treated and wayward ambitions of the country I live in. They'll figure it out but not with my children! They've had enough fun with me. I like how Italy isn't throwing a fit about this and cares about the concerns of their citizens, not just attack them for having good judgment.
It is very ok not to have children because they might inherit mental diseases that is how the western world was populated by a lot of mentally unfit humans you are one example of millions of unfit westerners. Survival is for the fittest
DAV I’m surprised no one is mentioning the fact that refugees are having many children and putting huge strain on Europe financially. Therefore locals who are having to pay higher taxes are not having kids because they just can’t afford it
@@leewhy6238 I am surprised that you are looking for some one to blame based on a case of infertility. Find someone to blame until your race is extinct .
@@ptulip You think married couples are abstaining from sex?! Not even unmarried ones are. Young Italians are not even that religious anymore. They just use better family planning.
It’s funny, I haven’t set foot in Italy in a long time- but I still identify so much with it. I was born in Naples in my grandparents house before my mother moved us to the US. I have the giant Italian family- lots of brothers and sisters, this makes me feel like we are the exception rather than the rule these days
Sorry but this is not very accurate. Poverty is a strong word. The fact that children are overly expensive compared to what workers wars is a fact though.
@oogrooq In the case of poor women in the U.S. and around the world, access to birth control is costly, too far to get to in person or just banned (depending on culture). It's important to look at the root cause.
@Jenette M The government doesn't "send out a medicaid card" you have to physically go to your local department of social services to apply for Medicaid or online but you still need to go in-person. Women who live in rural areas in the U.S. may not be able to travel--due to lack of transportation or money for gas to that office much less to a clinic that takes medicaid.
Dan Calestini I’m full blooded Italian. My grandparents are from Italy and my mother and aunts and uncles are American born, and me and my siblings were raised with a lot of Italian traditions. I loved the holidays! There were also the homemade pastas and sauces, family sitting around talking (aunts and uncles, and cousins included). Such a beautiful thing.
Lower birth rates is the norm in many countries. Italy is not out of step with regards to low birth rates. It would no doubt be better for our planet's productivity and for other life here if, over time, we reduced our numbers significantly. We're out competing most other life forms on this planet and it is very bad for us, and for other life. We need to take a pause, rethink, recommit to being a better version of ourselves. Our species has too many problems, and not nearly enough practical, fair, sustainable solutions. Too many of us, and too many other life forms, live horrific, brutal, excrutiating, short lives because of human practices. We need a reset, a humane one. Our planet definitely does not need 10 billion or more people on an overheating planet. Approaching 8 billion I believe currently, we treat too many presently living reprehensibly. We have not yet figured out our value systems. We talk a good talk but so far, it's only talk. When we can behave sensibly, without corruption, and value life, we will have demonstrated intelligence. Currently our species does not demonstrate intelligence.
It is sad that they do not have help in place for people. On the other hand this type of situation can-probably will and IS happening elsewhere re:births. The world is over populated already with so many homeless and orphaned children. The same with pets. Maybe everyone needs to start thinking more about using and taking care of what we have NOW before adding MORE. Thankyou for the program.✌🌐🐾
Maybe its time to lower the cost of living there so people can survive. Many are migrating in asia bec its a lot cheaper and enjoyable. Your land and location is....
If you actually believe in over population... Then ask your self why the UN says that migration is the answer to declining fertility rates. Then do some research and actually look at census reports. You are brainwashed.
Considering that the world population as of 9/17/19 is 7.7 billion, I think having fewer children and shrinking the population of each country is an excellent idea.
You can’t force someone to have children. If they have realized the responsibility that carries raising a good citizen, it’s no wonder they are holding back. Things change, culture changes, population changes. If the world could talk, it would tell us that are many ways to control population: wars, illnesses, some would say feminism... I’m just happy these girls are not 23 and with 3 children to raise. At least they had a choice. And if Italy, or Europe runs out of kids in a few years... well, a few billion kids will be waiting to have a better chance in life. Children from countries that are having kids like rabbits.
As a French African graduate woman, I considered a duty to bring children in this world for my country. I got married and got 3 kids. I sacrificed my career to spend time with my kids. I sacrificed my comfort, and even my life. Today my kids are grown-up and gone. They are very balanced, I'm so proud of them. I can go back to work now. I can understand that not everyone can make this kind of sacrifice. I didn't buy clothes during years, I didn't go to cinema either. People are so fragile and so selfish nowadays. I consider an African woman has to be strong and she has to put her family first.
@@KS-cl8br A duty to bring children into this world for your country?! Please explain. Does a man have a similar duty since he cannot bear children? If so, what is a man's duty?
Couples don't want a child because they don't want to have an extra load to their expenses yet that is the very reason Italians and most of western European countries having troubled with is the birth rate is too low that in the next decades can potentially harm their country's economy . Congrats !
Johan Onvlee if there are a shortage of kids and babies ..where would she learn how to support a babies head. ... Well, well it's known there are a shortage of Caucasians and it's a fear worldwide. .. China done the one child policy and thirty years later they are suffering the consequences. When man interferes with human nature and greed takes over. .many suffers and it happens to be the human race in many forms.
@@annlewis7685 If you 'take' a baby, you SHOULD orient as much as possible. Normally, what every you undertake, you teach your self, but with having a child, woman think, they know already everything. And that goes very deep. Ofcourse one have his instinct, but that also is what we have 'lost'. But there are many very good 'teachers' in this feeld
AMIGHTY GOD made the planet and made it big enough with plenty of room to spare for all the people that he wants to put on it.You believed a lie from the evil Illuminati and their puppets .
Not the people and not just Italy! The whole Europe is changing ethnically! The corrupted politicians are destroying those countries with their brainwashed agenda. America is included in their plans also!
Not only ethnically in all of Europe but because so many women are having only one child, that child will have NO relatives in the form of aunts, uncles, or first cousins because nobody in two, three or more generations had any siblings!
There are plenty of children in foster homes and orphanage, why bring more when you can help the ones that don’t have love,protection, and a family to call their own. There’s to many people already in the planet, and people don’t want to work the soil no more so how are we going to sustain so many children. Let’s take care the ones that are already here that immature and thoughtless people decided to have and not be good examples or providers so they abandoned or loose to the system. Women are getting smarter and that’s a good thing.
Bluu The greatest what’s blood line when you’re in need of blood in the hospital 90% of the time you don’t know who’s blood is being pumped into your veins. There’s no more pure blood line no more unless you live in a cave in some remote place not in the map. This way of thinking is so archaic and unrealistic, open your mind to the reality and stop thinking like cavemen. When a person need a heart, liver, kidney etc where do they get it? Blood line? No, they get it from strangers at least 90% of the time, cause sometimes not even your own BLOOD LINE is compatible.
Maria Leal I’m talking about continuing genes as in continuing my generation of family as in my blood my moms blood my brother blood and have kids and they have kids and they have kids that’s what I mean
Praises The Lord, my husband and I bought a house ,2 kids, work hard.he babysited @ nite myself in the day time ,so we could save ,💵.Not easy but we made it.daugther have 3 kids and a house.l help out.
When it takes two working people to afford a comfortable modern life style and eventually a retirement for two, its also hard to afford children. I live in the US and now retired and its hard to afford to live in retirement after raising and educating two sons in the 1970's where there was ALSO no daycare options. My culture expected me - the wife - to raise the children, manage the home and work full time. This takes family support, higher incomes, great health and even more to manage. My son is raising just one daughter, as daycare costs him $1,000 per month.
That newborn's head flopped around so bad...so few babies that caretakers have forgotten how to prevent basic injuries.
no it didnt
kokoro37 it definitely did not
@@littlean24 ya she actually went with his natural movement.,bet she made a wonderful momma
That is his mama she did fine lifting him! She waited 40 years for him. I bet he is very loved and cared for!
@@littlean24 It did. She didn't support its head
Sad that having children is so financially difficult, but SERIOUS KUDOS to these women who literally choose to do the very best for their kids, only having them when they know they're able to provide for them. Serious respect.
Depends on what you mean by provide for kids..people seem to have the toys they want. Raising kids requires sacrifice. People would rather have a perfect house ( I watch all those buying houses shows) and nice cars...too many material things
@@barbaratheard5992 that's the truth and waiting to give birth to children when you are in your late 30s and 40s increases the chase of mental and physical defects.
Having a child is not financially difficult. They only make it seem so. But money aside, I think if both parents plan on working then there's no reason to have children. Why have kids seriously just to pay for them?? It makes no sense.
We need to have our priorits straight, find a place to live and have a family ! We need to support our family structure and have relatives helping with the children! It cost more money to have a family today. Nothing like a good loving family to have around on the holidays ! I remember what it was like to see the family at Christmas time sitting in the dining area and smiling and hugging everyone, and if it was chilly out it made the warmth of the room so much better, I hope I passed this on to my children and grandchildren .I just know that my mom knows that we carried on her traditions and pasted them on ...God's grace to everyone.
@@ASmith-jn7kf do you have any children ? It's not just the cash it's like all the time you need to raise the children and teaching children everything they'll need to be decent adults! So help them out if you want a good family
Money not the only issue of why we don't have children. We don't even spend time with them cause we are always working... We can't even enjoy our lives cause work consumes us... We have so many bills to pay that's all we think work work work work... Bill's Bill's Bill's...
That because you want too much. Whats wrong with a two room trailer to live in with only 2 kids. No car, phones, and only over the air tv. Reading books as a pastime borrowed from the library.
....and si it is in American, work, work, work. People have a full time job and 1 part time job, some have 3. Very little time to play.
@@dfpolitowski2, yeah sure...no car you say, but yet they are needed to get to work, etc. ...."Because you want too much..", yeah, if you say so. Pretty sure child services and high-and-mighty azzez would bytch if families lived in 2 room trailers, as if that's feasible anyway- which it isn't.
@@paulapaulun4255 child protective services can't tell you where to live.lol.
@@ASmith-jn7kf, in area where I live, if you live in a 2-room trailer they (children services) sure wouldn't like it, especially if there's no bathroom in a 2 room trailer. Besides that, if kids are differing genders, each child needs to have a separate bedroom. lol..
Please support the little babie's head when you're lifting him....
I know! I almost jumped out of my chair, and I'm not even a mother!
Regina Snuffer - jeez, I thought the same thing!! If all Italian mothers are like her, perhaps they shouldn’t be having children!! Lol
I have 2 kids 29 and 25 it's pretty much common knowledge this was for me almost 30 years ago
Learn to spell baby.
Jolena Agapisou well she did say there is no kind of support for women! I guess part of that is teaching women how to care for children.
I have one set of Italian great grandparents. They had 11 children in basically poverty, 8 who reached adulthood. None of those kids, except one, had more than two kids. I wonder why.
My dad's mom had 22 w only 18 survived. Most had 1 or none.
Because it was a living nightmare growing up with that amount of siblings and starting really behind in life. You are lucky to eat, have clothing, or any time with parents. The parents are never around and you grow up with the older kids raising you, which is unfair to both kids.
@@Chillipep You are so right! I was the oldest child, and I know much too well all you have described. People, who have many kids and are not rich enough to employ the nanny, are doomed to use their oldest children as nannies,- not even mentioning, that older children are washing-cleaning-cooking, while parents are working hard trying to earn enough for their big family. Those, who think, that this is a good life for children, should get the head examined.
Funny how this old video pops up in my reccomend. Judging by the recent comments, I'm not the only one.
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Popped up for me too just now!
Indeed. This is programming. We are being told what to think about.
I'm 55, no children. Of 4 siblings only 1 of us has children. She only had to, which hardly makes up for the other 3, but hey, it wasn't her job to make up the difference.
It to expensive to have children world wide
Not if you’re an illegal in a western country
Cuz we have become too materialistic. We need to change our values back to community and family and governments should support women in being mothers instead of penalizing them.
@@TheBooty28 those Italian women and men not having kids have rented holiday apartments somewhere tropical and spend their money on travelling . A luxurious lifestyle full of vanity has became more important than raising a child. They are so disconnected they just don't like to look after anyone .
@@lewalewa7509 but if you want that lifestyle great. A child should be part of the lifestyle you want.
Rubertha Blackman
Yes it is TOO expensive.
A friend & his wife went to Italy with their 2 year old daughter. Everywhere they went people flocked to them to touch and squeeze the cheeks of their daughter. They quickly realized that there were few young children in the villages they visited. During their trip they met up w/ an American friend that married an Italian woman. She was pregnant. They told them stories of how the wife would get stopped on the street & given blessings. Sometimes she would arrive home with all sorts of food stuff that people had given her for the UNBORN baby. It was shocking to hear all of this.
ill go there and bang some
That is crazy, cool because everyone is happy about it, but sad because of the same reason
The world is becoming a much better place..
I wonder who is going to be around to even take care of the elderly.
Rebecca Gutierrez Italian daughters usually take care of their elderly parents. And so it is here in America as well. I’m so glad god blessed me with a daughter. My only one, my heart and soul
No one
@@lindacosta3381 But is it up to only daughters to pick up this task next to maintaining their own family life and work?
This is also a reason why many women are worried about having children. Everything is expected to be done by the woman. Work, rear the children, feed her husband and kids.
Not all couples are like that anymore luckily in 21st century but many men still think traditional.
@@lindacosta3381 I would never ever expect my child to care for me in my elder years! My mother in law expects this and I've watched many families completely destroyed by taking care of an elderly parent. It is unreasonable and unfair to expect your 40-50 year old child to give up they're entire life to care for you when you're old and sick.
Rebecca Gutierrez plenty of people in some cultures. Just not this one apparently.
Watching that mother lift her baby was painful. I hope she protect the baby’s head moving forward.
It’s the same here in the US. My father was one of 9 children, I am the youngest of 6 kids, and I have only 1 child. No specific reason for having only 1 child - just married later.
Leaf Lover96 I am one of 14 children and my husband is one of 8. Together we have 2 and neither one wants to have any children. They don’t see the possibility financially or even emotionally to be the kind of parents that they would like to be.
My dad is one of 8, my mom also one of 8. I have 6 siblings, the youngest is 21 the oldest 35. Only one (eldest daughter) has kids (2) and has already told her husband if they want more it will be adoption. He is okay with that, she is a stay at home mom, he a civil engineer, and they still struggle with money. Only 2 of the siblings are married. My mom is 100% okay with it despite being very pro-life and loving kids. She learned the hard way that any more than a few kids is a not a good idea. We grew up dirt poor, only made worse by the amount of children. We never relied on the government. Though the trend now is to pop out a few pups and live off welfare for decades. I have no intention of having kids until I know that I can provide properly for them. I'm 28, have no kids. Dont intend to get married until well into my thirties and will probably adopt.
Sardinia is not exactly representative of Italy. It is an island very far from the rest and of Italy with its own distinct language and culture. It is almost like shooting a video in Hawaii to illustrate a typical American issue...
Kind of true, it's distinct, but every region in italy has its own language and culture, and the problems at a maternal support level are present nation-wide, the government is the same
Ma se non sai le cose non scrivere.
If you don't know others cultures just shut up, in sardinia we speak italian infact the interwues are in italian language.
You know sardinia is still italy...right? Same thing with sicily, we are an island but we still are a part of italy. Sometimes I wish it wasn't, but whatever.
Italy is not out of step with the modern world! They are right on track.
6:18 illustrates this perfectly.I travelled to Italy recently,very strange to witness first hand.A bunch of old folk ,middle age people,many unmarried women ,a few young blokes as in 35 year old men in groups and a very rare spoiled 5 year old kid doing what they pleased. It’s true the small amount of grandchildren will have to support the parents and the grandparents with immigrant help eventually.
Giving children the comforts of good food, an education and a nice place to live isn’t everything! If you have to work all the time for those things, then you can’t give your children the time and attention they need!
Yeah, and everyone will be in your business saying that you shouldn't have kids if you can't afford them -- and threatening to call CPS on you for every slight they perceive.
An education? Education is free. Good food...hm..what is your idea of good food? I'm curious. I really can't believe both spouses are working JUST to put food on the table. What about family meals? Good time to enjoy each other's company but I wonder how many families REALLY sit down together to eat. And you can't tell me that you have NO toys....or a nice car(s)
Barbara Theard I don’t know what part of the country you live in but we paid hundreds of dollars per child for elementary school “fees” plus we supplied lunches and extra money for “field trips “ it felt like every day the kids brought home a request for money from the school. I got divorced when all my kids (4) were in elementary school! I worked three jobs just to make ends meet and my mother watched the kids! My main job was in an insurance company. I worked there for 12 hours a day six days a week! All four of my kids have college degrees now but for a long time, they saw very little of me . I never got remarried because there was no time for socializing and if I had time, it was spent with my kids!
boo boo women work outside the home many times because they haven’t got a choice!
Kids take way less money than the media tells you. You can buy clothes secondhand, cook cheap simple food, drive an old car and live in a smaller house. People would just rather have the fancy cars and phones and clothes.
1:10 I had a heart attack when that woman handled the baby like that
Birth rates have been decline in Europe for a while now.
So strange: Developed countries have one to no kids. Undeveloped have kids galore!
Yeah because of rape and lack of birth control.
kristina carvalho exactly! That is what I was going to say!
kristina carvalho lol rape? No it’s a culture thing. People get married younger. They don’t want to have kids when they get old. Being in your 30’s is too old to have kids.
Undeveloped countries knows how to survive. Besides, the standard of living is not high esp. In rural places where vegetation and tree bearing fruits are everywhere.....free
It’s just selfishness. People would rather use birth control than self control and abstinence, because “it’s their bodies” and “they should be able to do what they want”. That is why a lot of society sees babies as too much work and a talk about “population control”, these people literally sounds like Thenos. I once saw a commercial about birth control where this lady was talking about how kids would ruin her home or whatever. Stop lying to yourselves and just admit that people would rather sleep around and take birth control than abstain from a life style full of pleasure and living for themselves. I’m not perfect and I’m pretty selfish, but this is what I’ve noticed about a lot of people today.
Many people are too busy comparing themselves to the material possessions of others. I know many people that as soon as they have one kid, they're out there buying an expensive SUV and a bigger house. As if a child can't get by in a 2-door Chevy or a 2-bedroom trailer.
Catherine Hazur
So your blaming feminism how about the fact that daycare can cost basically your whole paycheck. How about the fact that there is no leave from women’s jobs to have the baby. I know women that had to go back to work a week after giving birth. Also even to live in a to bedroom trailer as you say many families need both parents working. What about the cost of the healthcare to even have the baby? Also if people 100 years ago had been able to access birth control they would have had less children. They didn’t have large families because they were selfless angels. They had them because they lacked the knowledge to stop them. You should read the book motherhood in bondage. It’s real letters written by women in the early 1900’s begging for information on birth control. They talk about talk about starving children they can afford, pregnancy after pregnancy destroying their health and body, fear of their husbands leaving them is they deny them “relations” to attempt less pregnancy. Hardly the past paradise
Catherine Hazur
First off love I don’t need to grow up. My point was that the past isn’t as wonderful as people like you want to make it.
You had women being forced to have kids they didn’t want and stuck in abusive marriage because they had no options. Also must people don’t have to financial luxury to stay home and raise their children. This isn’t because of feminism it’s because of the cost of living.
Also I see myself as one of the lucky people because I have money I have the luxury to stay home with my kids. I didn’t get to stay home because of my husband. But because feminism allowed me to have an education and to start a business that earned me money to be finically independent. So I was able to buy a large home and buy rental properties so I can live off my investments while raising my children. My children are now happy and well adjusted because their parents are together because they love and care about each other not because their mother is dependent on a man like a child.
who would want to raise a family in a 2 room trailer and drive a beat up old car? Like that’s something to be proud of? Sounds like you failed at life and need to make yourself feel better by pretending failure is somehow honorable. Maybe had you gotten an education and made wise money choices you could afford a real home without wheels or cinderblocks.
I personally will take the rewards of feminism any day. Because it allowed me to go to college, get a credit card without the permission of a man, buy a house without a husband. You can go back to the days when you needed a husband to buy a home because no mortgage company would give a single woman a loan to buy a house.
Even if you lived in a trailer, which is how I grew up. Kids need more than that. They need parents to teach them. If parents are at work, who raises the child?
@Catherine Hazur : The choices of some, affects the choices of many.
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Believe me.. i lived there! Many people every month don‘t make enough money to buy food! Its not about materialis! People in sardinien had all 10-15 kids 50years ago!
You mean government can't provide retirement? Even with years of paying into a system? America much.
Exactly, my father paid for 37 years, my mom for, 30. My dad died after 10 years of retirement, He paid for 37 years, received a pension for 10, but his widow and heir dis not get any refund for the 27 years he paid but did not get to enjoy. Pensions used to be decent and enabled people to live comfortably after retirement now they have been reduced to next to nothing. Retirement age also has been increased to 70 , the idea if for retiree to work and to basically go from desk to coffins
Antonina MacNeish Private companies are different than government.
Pretty much
US birthrates are low too.....as well as much of Europe.
This is true!! But the reason men have "Mid-life crisis" because they realize everything was for sombody else! This is not France where you get financial help and support for you families.
@@samuraibushido7077 Yeah, and women never have that "all for someone else" problem, huh?
@@wheatgerm1208 It was women who started the French Revolution and went head to head with queen Marionette during the "Bread Strike" as a result Mz Germ the queen lost her head, and most of the French parliament, if not all. And the women of France made sure to this second that their families would have financial help of all kind for French families. It was the women genius not the men!!
And also Japan.
Japan is worse
You do know that there is so much more to a woman then having children.
My husband and I only had 2 children because my mother always told my brother and I to only the the children we could properly financially care for. He like I only had 2 children. Neither, of us have have any regrets as have able to give our children the life we want for them. My oldest is 18 in college and like us says she will only have 1 or 2 children at most as she wants the same life for her children as what we’ve given her. For, our family it’s about quality of life not quantity.
@Lara Gravenor Some people can't afford even one child. She could obviously afford two.
This is so sad. I live in Roma and I’ve never seen many old people in my life! It’s weird
m d Who will care for the old ,15-20 years from now ?
@@Comments_From_All_Channels 😂😂
It appears odd to have only 1 solution to a “problem” that probably has many solutions. Something sounds off to me.
No mention of the Fathers role, as if the decision and consideration is only the mothers.
well, when you stigmatize stay at home moms , what do you expect?
The decline of large Italian families... I think that in many ways that is sad.
Children are expensive, time consuming & grueling; Most marriages and relationships eventually End, leaving women as struggling single moms. The world is overpopulated anyway. I'm child free and I think I'll pass too.
I was brainwashed. I wish I had kids. I was taught to hate men and put education ahead of everything else. Now, I neither have career, nor children. Thankfully I have a partner and cats and friends. But as I get older, the loss of a family is more painful.. especially as my classmates start welcoming their grand children.
011090 wow how old are you?
This is troll posing as a woman to reinforce tropes about feminism.
MsAngleofRepose Thank you!
011090 ❤️
Its refreshing to hear your honesty and see that you value what God values. But that's the world for you. All about living for yourself. I have the same lot in life, though I'm a man and can still father children. 56 yrs old. Yeah, back in the 70's it was all about College, College College. Quite a few of the girls I graduated who were top in there class, bright, went to College, got a good Job and never hooked up or had children, only a few classmates from my HS have full families. A classmate of mine became a surgeon she recently adopted two white baby boys. I thought that was very selfish of her. Everyone from my class was praising her for her adoption. As a christian, I saw it differently. She's single. Her pains of motherless-ness must be great. I understand that but still . . . Children need and deserve a father figure.
Well, it shows that the women are being practical.
Don't worry, Migrants will replace them all and more.
aquitaineq it also shows that men are not willing to provide for the women and children
@@misspiggy3660 No, it doesn't actually lol.
Congratulate for incredible rare baby in Italy and best wishes for him.
The rest of the world should probably follow suit. The world might survive and thrive.
So let's get this straight. There isn't enough jobs and not enough money to have a big family. But they should welcome immigrants who have bigger families? Something is amiss here. If there isn't enough jobs , how will these immigrants find work?
@ there is no lack of workers though. Maybe lack of cheap labour
The problem is often the grown men still not willing or wanting to get married, momma has made single life far too comfortable for them. Men of Italy need to GROW UP and get married and support their children. Stop being Mama's boys!
Yeh right, = according to financial experts and economists Europe needs more migrants.
The reality is we live in a world of finite resources, not unlimited resources. Unemployment is plaguing Europe and the EU is asking for more austerity plans = who wants to have more children in a world of constant downward mobility dwindling salaries and precarity almost everywhere in Europe now.
Im glad i live in a third world country.
Im glad to live in a third world country. We don't rely on the government...... we know how to survive on our own.....
White societies live in cold climates where no food grows except potatoes. Fruiting trees and vegetables gardens are discouraged therefore you must pay for everything. The solution for white people will be to give up their lands and move to africa to grow their own and start breeding programs. Europe is bankrupt so adults can barely make rent and feed themselves. But if food grew for free it wouldn't matter.
@@nesq4104 Food is not the only thing kids need. They need shelter, clothes, school supplies, good teachers, diapers, medical and day care when young. All these things are more expensive than food. Food is only like €100 a month for a child. I could have 5 if food would be the only expense (and if I'd want to put my body through that, which I don't). You can grow pears, cherries, apples, nuts and many other fruit trees in all of Europe, no need to go to Africa to get food, they barely have any water.
I do not understand this. Both men and women want families. Why have voters allowed conditions to deteriorate to the point where there is no community support for families?
italians can't vote..
@@fenecofeneco19 ahahaha diglielo, il resto del mondo non può capire.
Why is this recommended to me now
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To me too!!! TH-cam must be perceiving our clock clicking 😅😅😅
Wow if only Americans would think like that.
Morals over feelings
This country would be so different.
Beyond Beautiful yes we would have a bad economy that would’ve crashed decades ago
Oh wow we'd be like the Europeans who have a race problem worse than us somehow and throw a fit when their old crusty traditions don't get taken as seriously, the nuclear family was a propaganda campaign in the 50's to ward of communism, we're beyond this bud
Beyond Beautiful the US birth rate is already in decline, as in many developed/ world leading countries
Being a working mom it’s very difficult in an underdeveloped country to raise children. I have one daughter and I think I can only afford financially and physically to have one more. I could stretch to three, but only if my economic situation improves. Kids don’t need everything, but they need stability.
Africas fertility rate is already very high
@@spidermonkey8430 I’m not from Africa. I’m from the Caribbean.
If Italy wants to remain Italian, you need to provide services for working families, or you will be demographically and religiously and culturally replaced by invaders.
Unfortunately, 'services provided' means funded by taxes. If they're already being taxed to the max supporting retirees and refugees where's the money going to come from? Maybe women in each community could form cooperatives, caring for each other's children by donating their time freely and sharing the cost of renting a location and providing supplies.
We've already had been...
Invaders? Who is invading Italy? No one that's who. Your just hateful and racist. If the Italian government doesn't want immigrants Saving their country they don't have to allow them in. If they do allow they to come and save their economy. Then respect them.
The same way they invaded other people culture and religion? Karma!
You old people better get used to change. Borderless and blended.
Women don’t want to have litters anymore. Some women don’t want children. Period.
Linda Terrell exactly lol it’s overrated in my opinion
Come to Swaziland and you will be amazed. A 24 year old mom has 5 children.
15 year olds are getting pregnant and they have put a law that whoever impregnates a 15 year old child or less should be imprisoned.
And the rate of HIV infection in Swaziland is......?
I wont lie by saying it's low..its high and there are re-infections everyday. I am a health care worker and I've noticed that children born HIV positive somehow are angry at their parents or nature, man are infection their wives because they don't stick to one partner so it's hectic but then we are trying to educate the people hoping they will understand.
At least most of them are taking their medications.
they know their limits where as here in the USA everyone loves having every boyfriend's or girlfriend's child.
Maxine McFarlane exactly!
LOL, false. But for immigration the US population would also be in trouble. The reason the population is expected to shift from majority White is due to the low birth rate among White women. On average White women have fewer than 2 children. Black women have barely above 2. Whites are the oldest ethnic group in the country so the birth rate will continue to fall.
The world changes. Lord people stop being so afraid of change
I’m Italian, and this seems about right.
ALL 1st world & 2nd World countries are like Italy. The USA, UK hide their numbers behind immigration but since the 70's fertility rate have dropped in America.
No one can afford to have a child.
We also have a hedonistic culture where people would rather not do it, people have raised children with far less then what people can get today. We just dont want to responsibility and to stop focusing on ourselves
Its funny. I have my higher degrees and a career, along with being a mother of 6. I long to be able to be a simple housewife now! I used to be but ever since I went back to work 7 years ago, I now can see how good I had it!
C C What are higher degrees? You mean professional degrees?
Yes. I wish i was born in 1950s. Would love to be housewife without being judged. I hate sitting in an office all day while my son is at daycare.
I totally get it. I am 53 years old. My mother had a choice to be a stay at home mom, or have a career. She chose to be a nurse. So did my grandmother. In the 30’s and 40s, people don’t realize that any woman who really WANTED to work, and have a career, could. In any career they chose. (I had a great aunt who was an engineer back in the 40’s and one who was a plumber, lol) OR they could choose to stay home. I would have loved to have the choice, but in today’s world, most woman have to work.
TheBooty28 daycare is expensive as heck too and with both parents working those school holidays are like a burden when you cannot find childcare during those times! Not every parent is off for holidays! Honestly, one parent being at home to care for the children is the best family structure! Eartha Kitt mentioned this in an interview once!
@@TheBooty28 Honestly, It can be done. Anyone can decide to give up the earn & spend cycle and 'live like the 50s' We are hardcore consumers now. Plenty of research and info online by ppl who have successfully done it. The only litmus test is your family's health insurance. If your husband can provide that then all you need to do is realize that ppl bought so little non perishable goods over the year, walked when they could, ate out on average one meal every month and a half, and owned only like 20-25 pieces of clothing that was worn for a long time esp kid's clothing that got passed down.but that is the tip of the iceberg. Plenty of moms have blogs etc.
It should be the standard to bring children into our lives when we are able to support them; with that we should also fight for a minimum standard of living where anyone can support a child.
No offense to the good men out there but if men learned to help with their own kids more then the balance would help ladies not want to stay childless
Immigration isn't the answer. You think those people consider themselves Italian or are going to adopt Italian culture as their own? No, they have their own culture that they will practice and I highly doubt any of them consider themselves Italian.
Yeah just look at Sweden Italy Michiganstan
wait till second or third generation. They will adopt. Look at all the Italians in America as an example.
In 30 years they will be the Italians. Right now Italy has to figure out how to support a country full of senior citizens. Bringing in young migrants is the only way.
It depends where the immigrants are from. There are many immigrants from poorer European countries and since there isn't much difference in culture and physically can blend in they become indistinguishable from the rest of the population in just one generation.
The migrants are coming to a country without much opportunity. The reporter doesn’t mention that for some reason.
Italian babies are beautiful.
This birth rate drop is happening all over the world. It reminds me of Gilead.
No not all over the world. Africa is rising
Or Children of Men.
My husband and I went to Italy a couple of years ago for a conference, I remembered not seeing a lot of kids around when we were touring. I remember making that comment. Beautiful county and people though.
Babies are very expensive older children even more!
This is not France where you can get help for you family
I hate the fact that declining birth rates are placed entirely on woman. Where are the men who have good paying jobs & want more than 2 children?
As much as I love my job I would happily stay home with my kids and be a homemaker. I can always go back to work after the kids are on their own. I just can't afford to do that. And I have 2 kids.
Most of the time you won't be hired as you would have been out of the workforce for too long. Companies can overlook a one or two year gap, but anything more than that looks bad.
Good interview !
I live in Brooklyn NY , not one of the cherished traditions of my youth still exists in honesty - and if in some way they do , it's in a watered down form , that makes it dishonest - the world changes , life moves on - and I don't have a right to complain about it , because the house I grew up in was a forest two hundred years ago , then a farm , and now a city ! time is faster than we want it to be - and you're a fool if you try to hold back the dawn ! but it's nice to remember , and even better to help make a new life !
Unfortunately many Americans are feeling this pinch too, I grew up very poor and I would rather be a bachelor with a dog than be a father of a household that I can't even afford to feed.
Another danger is that women waiting till later in life leads to an increased likelihood of certain illnesses and defects for both the mother and child.
I agree with you ... Yours is the most humanitarian comment I have read in this section .
For the future of other peoples children to be brighter and better you will genetically step down.
Its all about selflessness its just like raising a kid only the kid your raising is invisible ..
Many old westerners are dying and there is noone to inherit their homes so the state is giving immigrants this beautiful homes ..
Its all about selflessness whatever angle you look at it.
The fittest genetics will be the last one standing .
Woah! Support the newborn's head! Damn!
I refused to reproduce myself. Yes, I struggled with this decision. I bite bitterness. I have too many marks against myself and don't feel safe having offspring. I'm worried about my disease and how my children would be treated and wayward ambitions of the country I live in. They'll figure it out but not with my children! They've had enough fun with me. I like how Italy isn't throwing a fit about this and cares about the concerns of their citizens, not just attack them for having good judgment.
It is very ok not to have children because they might inherit mental diseases that is how the western world was populated by a lot of mentally unfit humans you are one example of millions of unfit westerners. Survival is for the fittest
Love Italian people sad to see their population shrinking so fast.
DAV I’m surprised no one is mentioning the fact that refugees are having many children and putting huge strain on Europe financially. Therefore locals who are having to pay higher taxes are not having kids because they just can’t afford it
Makes me wonder if those good Italian Catholics are abstaining from sex or if they are using lots of birth control. :P
@@leewhy6238 I am surprised that you are looking for some one to blame based on a case of infertility. Find someone to blame until your race is extinct .
@@ptulip You think married couples are abstaining from sex?! Not even unmarried ones are. Young Italians are not even that religious anymore. They just use better family planning.
@@jessicas7482 Well I figured they were good at birth control, but still! Mistakes happen.
I applaud these women's priorities!😇💝🥰
It’s funny, I haven’t set foot in Italy in a long time- but I still identify so much with it. I was born in Naples in my grandparents house before my mother moved us to the US. I have the giant Italian family- lots of brothers and sisters, this makes me feel like we are the exception rather than the rule these days
Could your family have afforded such big family in Italy?
Sorry but this is not very accurate. Poverty is a strong word. The fact that children are overly expensive compared to what workers wars is a fact though.
Only the irresponsible and poor are having lots of kids. Welcome to the idiocracy.
oogrooq i am not Poor and wouldnt call myself iresponsabile, and i’m Waiting for my third baby.
@oogrooq In the case of poor women in the U.S. and around the world, access to birth control is costly, too far to get to in person or just banned (depending on culture). It's important to look at the root cause.
@Jenette M The government doesn't "send out a medicaid card" you have to physically go to your local department of social services to apply for Medicaid or online but you still need to go in-person. Women who live in rural areas in the U.S. may not be able to travel--due to lack of transportation or money for gas to that office much less to a clinic that takes medicaid.
Being rich doesn't make you responsible.lol.
Why is it a stigma to have kids? We really don’t have to.
Bring back the Italians I'm Italian it brings back your childhood that you forgot about espessially the holidays
I am with you
Dan Calestini I’m full blooded Italian. My grandparents are from Italy and my mother and aunts and uncles are American born, and me and my siblings were raised with a lot of Italian traditions. I loved the holidays! There were also the homemade pastas and sauces, family sitting around talking (aunts and uncles, and cousins included). Such a beautiful thing.
Lower birth rates is the norm in many countries. Italy is not out of step with regards to low birth rates. It would no doubt be better for our planet's productivity and for other life here if, over time, we reduced our numbers significantly. We're out competing most other life forms on this planet and it is very bad for us, and for other life. We need to take a pause, rethink, recommit to being a better version of ourselves. Our species has too many problems, and not nearly enough practical, fair, sustainable solutions. Too many of us, and too many other life forms, live horrific, brutal, excrutiating, short lives because of human practices. We need a reset, a humane one. Our planet definitely does not need 10 billion or more people on an overheating planet. Approaching 8 billion I believe currently, we treat too many presently living reprehensibly. We have not yet figured out our value systems. We talk a good talk but so far, it's only talk. When we can behave sensibly, without corruption, and value life, we will have demonstrated intelligence. Currently our species does not demonstrate intelligence.
It is sad that they do not have help in place for people. On the other hand this type of situation can-probably will and IS happening elsewhere re:births. The world is over populated already with so many homeless and orphaned children. The same with pets. Maybe everyone needs to start thinking more about using and taking care of what we have NOW before adding MORE. Thankyou for the program.✌🌐🐾
I know it's late. But yes I agree with u so much. Most people dont u understand that.
the planet is not over populated .theres enough money to make everyone on the planet amillionaire.
Maybe its time to lower the cost of living there so people can survive. Many are migrating in asia bec its a lot cheaper and enjoyable. Your land and location is....
If you actually believe in over population... Then ask your self why the UN says that migration is the answer to declining fertility rates. Then do some research and actually look at census reports. You are brainwashed.
Alieza Samad most people want to continue they bloodline
Those women are smart
I’m sort of glad my family left from there a couple of generations ago.
Same
It is good to be out of step with the Modern world. Very important to keep traditions and support family. Modern world is a vacuum, without heart.
Amen.
Exactly
Considering that the world population as of 9/17/19 is 7.7 billion, I think having fewer children and shrinking the population of each country is an excellent idea.
Get rid of the very high tax rate.
You can’t force someone to have children. If they have realized the responsibility that carries raising a good citizen, it’s no wonder they are holding back.
Things change, culture changes, population changes. If the world could talk, it would tell us that are many ways to control population: wars, illnesses, some would say feminism...
I’m just happy these girls are not 23 and with 3 children to raise. At least they had a choice.
And if Italy, or Europe runs out of kids in a few years... well, a few billion kids will be waiting to have a better chance in life. Children from countries that are having kids like rabbits.
The Scandinavian countries have more resources for mothers but their birth rates are also falling.
And where are the dads in this? Oh right its Italy they still live with their single mothers.
The video's not about them
That's the most problem
It’s not only happening in Italy!! USA birth rate is extremely low!!
You can thank Monsanto for that
What is Italy doing with all of the money from the government? No services for children after school care, etc.... Italy will pay the price!
Smart responsible women
Meanwhile in the U.S., people are having kids at age 17.
Guess what?
Those are not white people having children.
But I guess those are not whites having children.
As a French African graduate woman, I considered a duty to bring children in this world for my country. I got married and got 3 kids. I sacrificed my career to spend time with my kids. I sacrificed my comfort, and even my life. Today my kids are grown-up and gone. They are very balanced, I'm so proud of them.
I can go back to work now. I can understand that not everyone can make this kind of sacrifice. I didn't buy clothes during years, I didn't go to cinema either.
People are so fragile and so selfish nowadays. I consider an African woman has to be strong and she has to put her family first.
Perhaps if you had 1 child you wouldn't have to work in your old age because you would have extra money to save and put away for retirement.
@@KS-cl8br A duty to bring children into this world for your country?! Please explain. Does a man have a similar duty since he cannot bear children? If so, what is a man's duty?
@@MidwestDrama Read my comment. > never said duty to bring children into world.
@@KS-cl8br It clearly does say duty. No clarity there.
@11STARFIRE I chose to have my children myself. I never returned to Africa. I don't know Africa.
Couples don't want a child because they don't want to have an extra load to their expenses yet that is the very reason Italians and most of western European countries having troubled with is the birth rate is too low that in the next decades can potentially harm their country's economy . Congrats !
Same as in Japan!
40 and still don't know how to put up a baby?
Johan Onvlee if there are a shortage of kids and babies ..where would she learn how to support a babies head. ...
Well, well it's known there are a shortage of Caucasians and it's a fear worldwide. ..
China done the one child policy and thirty years later they are suffering the consequences.
When man interferes with human nature and greed takes over. .many suffers and it happens to be the human race in many forms.
@@annlewis7685 If you 'take' a baby, you SHOULD orient as much as possible. Normally, what every you undertake, you teach your self, but with having a child, woman think, they know already everything. And that goes very deep. Ofcourse one have his instinct, but that also is what we have 'lost'. But there are many very good 'teachers' in this feeld
We are overpopulated as it is. It is good to hear that the planet itself is having less population.
AMIGHTY GOD made the planet and made it big enough with plenty of room to spare for all the people that he wants to put on it.You believed a lie from the evil Illuminati and their puppets .
Meanwhile in third world countries, 4-9 children per family in lower class families.
Oh well they have chosen that future for themselves. Italy will change ethnically in 50 years
Not the people and not just Italy! The whole Europe is changing ethnically! The corrupted politicians are destroying those countries with their brainwashed agenda. America is included in their plans also!
Not only ethnically in all of Europe but because so many women are having only one child, that child will have NO relatives in the form of aunts, uncles, or first cousins because nobody in two, three or more generations had any siblings!
More like 20 years. Same as in the US.
I don't want kids. I have my reasons.
Do what you think is right in your situation . For some people a larger family is good , for other people - not a good idea
We are 7000 000 000 we do not need more humans
You're an idiot. Death is constantly sifting our population.
@@ASmith-jn7kf You're uneducated . The population is ever-increasing.
SHE is a SOCIAL WORKER
AND
DOES NOT
KNOW HOW TO PICK UP A NEWBORN ???
They don’t need public care , they need grandparents .
There are plenty of children in foster homes and orphanage, why bring more when you can help the ones that don’t have love,protection, and a family to call their own. There’s to many people already in the planet, and people don’t want to work the soil no more so how are we going to sustain so many children. Let’s take care the ones that are already here that immature and thoughtless people decided to have and not be good examples or providers so they abandoned or loose to the system. Women are getting smarter and that’s a good thing.
Maria Leal duh people want to continue theyblood line
Bluu The greatest what’s blood line when you’re in need of blood in the hospital 90% of the time you don’t know who’s blood is being pumped into your veins. There’s no more pure blood line no more unless you live in a cave in some remote place not in the map. This way of thinking is so archaic and unrealistic, open your mind to the reality and stop thinking like cavemen. When a person need a heart, liver, kidney etc where do they get it? Blood line? No, they get it from strangers at least 90% of the time, cause sometimes not even your own BLOOD LINE is compatible.
Maria Leal I’m talking about continuing genes as in continuing my generation of family as in my blood my moms blood my brother blood and have kids and they have kids and they have kids that’s what I mean
i wish everyone thought this way.
Praises The Lord, my husband and I bought a house ,2 kids, work hard.he babysited @ nite myself in the day time ,so we could save ,💵.Not easy but we made it.daugther have 3 kids and a house.l help out.
Same here! Husband work nights & I work days with 2 sons we made it. Thank God!! Now neither of my sons have kids. Scary!
Husbands don't babysit. They are parenting. He parented at nights.
When it takes two working people to afford a comfortable modern life style and eventually a retirement for two, its also hard to afford children. I live in the US and now retired and its hard to afford to live in retirement after raising and educating two sons in the 1970's where there was ALSO no daycare options. My culture expected me - the wife - to raise the children, manage the home and work full time. This takes family support, higher incomes, great health and even more to manage. My son is raising just one daughter, as daycare costs him $1,000 per month.