Why Is Everyone Having Less Sex? | No Stupid Questions | Episode 138
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 19 มี.ค. 2023
- Why is everyone having less sex? Are we too busy watching Friends? Is porn driving us apart? And why did New Yorkers stop vacationing in the Catskills?
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This episode was originally published March 19, 2023.
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Some things are better than sex, and some are worse, but there's nothing exactly like it.
- WC Fields
I think technology is really amping up personal isolation. It is too easy to be alone. And being alone is not good for you. And interacting online is not the same as having interpersonal communication in person. Isolated use of technology creates, I think, increased frustration when dealing with people in the flesh.
women using toys is a turn off and so is the bi thing ... #MeToo was abused and has frightened a good deal of men or created passport bros ... younger generation probably has more sex than they report
This may be just another case of something that was previously socially unacceptable or at least discouraged becoming more common once society broadens the socially acceptable options. Other examples include lefthandedness, being LBGTQ, divorcing, not marrying, not having kids.
Really appreciated your perspectives. Perhaps more people are finding power through celibacy instead of using sexual pleasure as an escape.
People may be adjusting their standards and expectations, holding out for the "right" relationship and with more options readily available via dating apps, people may feel they can afford to wait longer.
People are just sick of of it being forced down their throats. Young people drinks less and care more about meaningful lives. That would make you choose more carefully who you have in your life
((Pornography))✡️🔥😈 Every single aspect.
There are at least 1000 factors that are making it this way. One reason is that our social dynamics and cooperation is degrading. Also, all current pleasures are becoming over played ,and we are burned out on them. I actually think substances , new medications and designer drugs will be a even bigger thing in society moving forward especially when you take the increasing mental illnesses and conditions in the world today. It will give us a new outlet to feel well being. It sounds crazy but I think Leary's and Guatama's philosophies are going to be utilized heavily in the distance future. That goes for all genders.
Are they adjusting for age in these studies of people having less sex? One out of five Americans are “Boomers” who within ten years will be mostly retired. Sex declines with age.
(This is also the generation that experienced the alleged “Sexual Revolution”.)
Regardless, libido declines with age, as does capacity.
If they’re saying “we” aren’t having as much sex or “everyone” is having less, is that inclusive of the very large older generation?
Environmentally rooted
19:48
Here’s a question that inquiring minds (particularly heterosexual women) would like to know is: Is sex good for your health OR is it that an orgasm is good for your health? Because, unfortunately, as many women know, those aren’t the same thing.
Does the data show the same health benefits from people orgasming solo? Does it show the same benefits for sex that doesn’t end in an orgasm as it does for sex that does end in an orgasm? Was the research just tracking benefits from sex, regardless of completion, or did it only track those whose sex ended in completion?
Because as a woman who has spent a lot of time talking to other people about sex, as part of my job, I know that it’s pretty common for women- even married women- to have sex and not orgasm. Just anecdotally, I’ve noticed a lot of men don’t really care if their partner orgasms OR they simply don’t know how to make it happen. Studies have shown that between 70% and 90% of women cannot orgasm from penetration alone, which seems to be the worlds best kept secret for the amount of men who aren’t aware of that. But based on personal experience and those of my clients, a lot of men either don’t really do foreplay and/or are threatened or put off by the use of sex toys like vibrators during sex because they feel emasculated and it hurts their pride. A lot of men have been led to believe that if they can’t bring a partner to orgasm from penetration sex alone, they’re somehow “bad” at sex or there’s something by wrong with them. Because, as I said, the fact that up to 90% of women are unable to reach orgasm from PIV alone seems to still be a massive secret to most of the population, women included. I’ve spoken to a lot of women who think there’s something wrong with *them* until they hear that statistic and realize how normal it is. And a lot of them either avoid sex or do it out of obligation to their partner but for nothing else because it feels like there’s something wrong with them or because they know they won’t reach completion so it just feels like a chore. And I just wonder if those women are getting health benefits from the obligatory sex they’re having, or if it’s more so about the orgasm itself so they wouldn’t benefit. And just out of sheer curiosity, I wonder if there’s a health benefit distinction between solo orgasm and partner orgasm, due to the social aspect of partnered sexual intimacy. Is the intimacy / relational aspect of sex giving it a leg up over auto-stimulation, or are all orgasms created equal in terms of health benefits? 🤔
New topic: Why doesn’t my doctor have health insurance?
Overpopulation / population density seems like a natural factor to look at
9:09 I have heard this before, but it just struck me hearing it again. This is a cultural change of titanic proportions. It makes me wonder if on top of an actual change, we're seeing a knock-on, like the erosion of general social trust has changed reporting habits, or somesuch. My talents are wasted here in the yt comments.
What's your take on why sex is on the decline?
I get myself out there, they just don't let me in 😜
Aging population, increase in autism spectrum, obesity, lower testosterone, STDs, economic difficulties. I think the worst effect of porn is to turn sex into a sport, with all that entails - winners and losers, performance, tricks. In other words something best left to the professionals.
Legal consequences
@@genuineappeal3458what legal consequences?
@@sspbrazil When you have consensual sex and go on your merry way, later on, after you do not return phone calls, a rape report is given to the police and now the man has to prove his innocence. Legal consequences limit the number of casual sex encounters.
@@genuineappeal3458 ok, never encountered that issue in my life.
Yep, pretty much true.
Shake it don’t break it 🙃
Think about it population reduction you could be labotomized through your food for example using things like for example soy and just hail it as a wonderfood and attach a note saying experts say and science says and no one will question it.
Bruh go touch grass
@@internallyinteral im trying to imagine life before the internet
Umm, the actual scientists would question it.
@@G_Demolished but what scientists matter except ones that are being funded...?
This is a stupid question. How do you know everyone is having less sex. You have spy cameras in ppl homes watching them in thier bedrooms. 🤔
I never liked gymnastics.
Main purpose is procreation. First time the incentive is disguised as recreation, but its for procreation. After the deed is done, its no longer desirable as recreation and without the incentive of that. Less activities. Thats it.
Speak for yourself.
Less overall sex is absolutely a male driven phenomenon. When men aren't seeking sex, women don't even have any potential partners to choose from. 😂 As a guy who currently sees sex as the liability & waste of resources that it is... Yeah I'm good on letting our generations continue to shrink.
I've not met any women that are capable of changing my mind on this yet either. Funnily enough it wasn't for a lack of trying on their part. But sex has risks & liabilities for everyone involved and I'm not about to spend any extra time & money pursuing a short-term pleasure in the *hopes* it leads to long term gain. 😂 We live in a capitalism driven economy, sex needs a better cost-benefit ratio if it wants to compete in 2023
I'd say cause there's less marriage.
And modern women are less sexy. It's pretty simple.
I’m not sure if I should be the first to tell you, but…. 😂
And theres a lot of these "fake women" floating around lol
excellent troll