The Last Chapter - End of Life Decisions
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- Individuals battling end-stage disease reflect on how they want to live
their final weeks in The Last Chapter: End of Life Decisions. The one-hour
program examines end-of-life care options and the need for advance directives including a living will,
a medical power of attorney, and a POST form (Physician Orders for Scope
of Treatment). The Last Chapter focuses on empowering individuals in having the last word on how they live at
the end of their lives.
When that doctor said that he could go home and a breathing tube if his insurance company allowed it, it was like a punch in the gut Who the hell does the insurance company think they are if they dictate something like that! What a terrible healthcare system we have!
Insurance companies have been scamming us for years!
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I’m so lucky to be Canadian!
Years ago, I saw the movie “The Rainmaker” for the first time, about a newly minted lawyer played by Matt Damon, and an old “ambulance chaser” who failed his bars six times or something like that. The story is about a young man with leukaemia and the fight that the parents (mostly the mother, the father had real problems coping with the reality of his son’s illness), the young man and both Matt Damon and Danny DeVito’s characters have with the insurance company to cover his treatment.
In the movie, during the testimony of a former employee of the insurance company (the insurance company did all they could to prevent her from testifying against them), it came out that every single claim that is sent into the insurance company is immediately declined. Basically, those who receive care are those who are diligent and harass the insurance company into covering their claims.
As the mother repeatedly files claim after claim, it is revealed that the insurance company has even sent her a letter calling her “stupid, stupid, stupid”. Unfortunately, due to the aggressive nature of the leukaemia and the lack of insurance money to treat her son, he passed away before the end of the film, however, they do win their suit against the insurance company and receive punitive damages as well.
It made an enormous impact on me. It was written as a screenplay by Francis Ford Coppola, based on the book of the same name by John Grisham. It made me so grateful for the Canadian healthcare system and subsequently, grateful for the NHS here in England where I live.
Some Americans point out that we have to wait a bit longer sometimes and it’s known that Canadians go to the states for treatment sometimes. What most of them miss, however, is the actual number of Canadians deciding to purchase health insurance and go of their own volition for private healthcare in the US, is _extremely_ low, and the majority of patients who are sent to the US are covered by their province’s healthcare insurance, rendering the care free. They subsidise their travel and hotel costs as well, and those who are sent to the states are in dire need of care that the province cannot provide due to backlog of patients or in the more remote and sparsely populated areas, the simple lack of facilities and equipment and access to care.
Never once have I received a bill for my healthcare. The closest thing to that, is in Canada, you pay for a portion of the ambulance, should you require it. To Americans, Canadians have access to cheaper pharmaceuticals than Americans. Whilst this is true, you pay for the cost of your medications. When I was a single mom, struggling to keep food on the table and a roof over my son’s head, I remember once having to forgo my $143 antibiotics and additional medication to feed him and to pay for his special prescription steroid cream for his exczema.
The U.K.? It kind of wins as far as services and affordability. I have a chronic condition, a connective tissue disorder called Ehlers-Danlos, which causes chronic pain and a host of issues which has meant surgery after surgery in Canada and care in the U.K. and some surgery and many ER/A&E visits as well. I’m on a lot of different medications and they would cost me a small fortune in Canada (my mother was on similar medications and quantities and it cost her over $700 CDN a month) but here, over the age of 60 you get free prescriptions, under the age of 18, you get free prescriptions and under 18 you get free dental and eye care. If you’re between the ages of 18 and 60, you can buy a “pre-payment certificate”, so I pay £120 GBP/$157.37 USD once a year and I get unlimited prescriptions. Ambulances are free too. And I know it’s a small thing, but in Canada, when you stay at the hospital, you get the meal they’re serving that day. Here in the U.K., you get to choose off a menu. It’s a small thing, but as part of my hospital stays had to do with gastrointestinal issues and I was on heavier painkillers than I’m used to, my tummy was always up and down and having the option of choosing something that would suit my tastes and tummy was such a godsend at the time.
Bottom line (I know this has turned into a veritable novella), I am so lucky to never have to worry about anything like this. If I need care, I don’t have to worry about what I have to sacrifice or go into debt. I never had to worry that my labour with my son was 50 hours long and ended in an emergency c-section. I never had to worry that when I had bad scar tissue and continued bleeding that resulted in haematomas under my incision that I would have to pay for another week in the hospital.
By virtue of where I was born, I have the great luck and privilege of having my every need taken care of, health wise and can still live a happy life. ❤️
Amerika is trash now
I took care of my daughter I was the one who brought her into the world and I closed her eyes when she left.
Something a mother should never have to do, but you gave her the greatest comfort in the world, bless you.
So sorry
What a wonderfully sensitive documentary about this very important issue. Not that I need it yet, but my partner and I have discussed it and he doesn't agree with my views on end of life care. In the UK we have no binding documents to help ahead of time, which makes me uneasy.
Beverly Lamon
I am so sorry for your loss. It doesn’t matter how long ago it’s been, when your child passes away, it’s a pain in your heart that never goes away. God bless.
God bless you, I'm so sorry for your loss 🙏🙏
I have been a hospice nurse for almost twenty years. It's not always easy. I see the patient as not the only one I care for, but the entire family. Foremost, I consider it a honor to be able to help people in the greatest transition we will all face. I feel it an honor to care for the patient and family in this most significant time. I would not change my field of nursing, for anything.
Susanne Griffin That's so sweet of you
Susanne Griffin 💙 Truly.
Susanne Griffin wonderful! I love your comment. 💐
Susanne Griffin Bless you
Susanne Griffin God bless you!
We should have the right to end our life painlessly when we want to, for whatever reason. It is none of society's business what that reason is.
We fight so hard when it comes to abortion, “my body, my choice” but even though we die, we aren’t allowed to die. I’ve been waiting for a psychiatrist approval for almost 2 years
@@heykerryann Very good point. It's "my body" when I want to end a pregnancy which involves someone else's life. But it's not "my body" when I want to end my own.
(Not that I am against abortion)
@@heykerryann
I couldn't agree with you more.
I want when it happens to die with dignity.
But here in Scotland it isn't allowed.
Stay safe and take care sweetie. I hope you get what you want soon.
With love. 🌹
@@bobbybannerjee5156
I agree you also.
Yes life is precious but we should have the right to die with dignity.
Stay safe and take care.
With love. 🌹
Amen. I have been in chronic pain for 22 years. It has gradually gotten worse over the years. My body is failing. I have made several attempts and failed. I lay here and suffer. Why?! What benefits are there? For me? The system? Insurance?
Isn’t it a shame that his last days where he wanted to go home depended on an insurance policy. No one should have that happen to them.
Those Hospice workers are a special breed of people. I will be forever grateful for the care and compassion they provided for my mother, as well as my family through the last week of her life!!!
I worked as an hospice aide toward the end of my health care career. I got attached to my last client and cried when they called and told me she died.
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The fact that they "have to look into the insurance company" to get you where you would be most comfortable is heartbreaking.
I can not explain how much this hit home for me. Losing mom was one of the worst experiences in my life. This video is spot on. I'm thankful to have had Hospice involved.
So sorry
Tommy I am so sorry also.
I nursed my precious Mam at home, where she wanted to be.
She had a brain tumour the size of a grapefruit. Not once did she complain.
She was only 4 weeks home when she passed. 😢 I closed her eyes that awful morning.
It was an honour to nurse her but at the end it was the worst experience, like you have said sadly. 😔
17 years on my heart is still broken.💔 Life will never be the same again.
I love my precious Mam so much. There's not a day goes by I don't talk to her.
With love. 🌹
You'll be seen your mum again that is a promised from me to you just remember my name when you do Stevie windows you will remember me he is not dead
Always remember this… “You never Lose the one you Love… as long as you Love the One you’ve lost.” I collect quotes. Ironically… this came from something I had watched about the L.A. County Coroner’s Office with Bill Kurtis. I haven’t been able to find it again since. A worker at the L.A. County Coroner’s Office was talking to a father that had lost his son to a Drive By Shooting. The people that did it Thought he was a Gang Member. He was Not a Gang Member. That father was told that and some other things while being called there to Identify his Son’s Body. I put that in my Quotes that I collect and Fully Believe in it.
As long as the One You’ve Lost is Loved by You… They will NEVER DIE… and You Won’t Lose Them. They are only Gone Physically. =^..^= Meow.
My daughter is a hospice nurse and the compassion she gives all her patients and their family is amazing. She a living angel.
She is indeed a living angel. Bless her. xx
God bless you for raising a special angel who, makes a huge difference for both patients and their family. I had dear ones who gave my mom awesome love and care and I often let them no that no matter the result for mom, I appreciate all they did for her, as well as the kindness they showed me. Mom had her birthday in ICU on January 1 and died 2 weeks later on the 15th 2019. My love and thanks to those who raised these dear angels. You raised them right guys. Live an appreciative family member from Canada. 💛💜💛💜👩⚕️👨⚕️👼🇨🇦
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Do you know why she chose this line of work? If you really do, I would like to hear it.
Olivia Binkley i beleive Hospice Nurses are earth Angels😇 God Bless your daughter and your family.
I worked as a hospice nurse off and on for over 20yrs. The other time I spent in acute care. Hospice was by far the most gratifying and rewarding experience of my life.
When I reach end of life, I want to be in a cabin in the mountains with snow surrounding the cabin and a little creek running through the property..
Karen Gilbreath sounds heavenly
Karen Gilbreath That sounds perfect. 💕
Karen Gilbreath sounds like a good way to go pieceful
Facts
Nice wish,if you AFFORD 😢💖
My longtime partner passed from cancer 20yrs ago. In those days we as same sex partners was frowned upon and I was ignored to a huge extent. Eventually I got Chris home and cared for him myself for six months until he passed. It was the the most amazing experience of my life. In those months we had experiences we would never have had if he was in care. He died at home in our bed as he wanted
Thank you for sharing this. From what you’ve said, you give hime the best possible death, which is beautiful. RIP to Chris and best wishes to you from the UK xx
What a beautiful story.
Tysm for sharing.
May chris RIP!
Bless your heart the love you shared was the purest love there is Chris is at peace knowing he had your love and tender care when he needed you most, may he rest in peace, and blessings to you for sharing your story
@@gregbuckenara8063 Eh?
If we all could experience even one day, what you shared in six months ...what a beautiful world we would be in.
My husband passed February 24th and we had not had made arrangements but the doctors and nurses helped so much! We were at Indy VA and had excellent care;!! Husband had mentioned to us all that he did not want on a machine keeping him alive!! It came to me when I had to say okay!!! Hardest thing I ever did!!! Had a wonderful nurse and she told me he was in no pain!! And she saw to it that us in the family had whatever we needed!!! A room full of family; about 20 of us plus minister!!! Such a caring we shared!!! And he knew and heard us!!! Beautiful service; military!!! I still have moments!!! Miss him so much!!!!
Hug
Lucky to have v big family...I have none.
Lucky to have such a big family..I have none.
I myself do not fear death so much as my wife’s death. Any thought of it kills me. I hope we both live long healthy lives. I can’t imagine life without her at all.
Edit: we had a baby in may!
jim c me to
Me too
You guys are so sweet. Don’t let life take that away from you. Love your wives just as you do. ❤️
jim c.....often when couples are so close, and one feels they cant go on without the other., they often die within the same year....My aunt died 3 days after hearing my father had died.... it even happens to some animals who are couples....The bond is so strong...That's a beautiful thing you have there, Jim
I've known alot of Sweet couples who have lost their Be-loved an have followed them within 6 mths of loosing them...
So sad, But that's what they wished for...
My husband died in 2013 from Aggressive Liver Cancer
Found out on our daughter's 27th Birthday an he was gone 3 weeks later..
I however couldn't leave to be with him as we have 3 Beautiful Adult Children an 3 Beautiful Grandbabies..To Look, Love an Take care off....
He got to meet our grandson Isaak but he died 13 days before his first granddaughter was born an another has been born since...
We miss him every single bloomin day
But I'm glad he's not in anymore pain as it was brutal in the end...
Love an hugs to all xoxo 🧡💜💖💙
I was on a ventilator and it was sewed to my neck so I couldn’t pull it out. It was awful and I don’t want it again. My doctor operated on me knowing I wanted to end my life. I wanted euthanasia and he knew it. That was 8 years ago. Am I happy? No. I haven’t eaten for 5 years, I’m on so much pain relief because I wasn’t expected to survive 6 months. I’m on drips that I self administer. I’m very angry about it as I was at peace when end of life care started.
Thank you for your story. I am so grateful that my family was able to keep my Dad at home while he struggled with Alzheimer's disease for 14 years. We are all nurses so we were able to do all of his treatment. Having said that, these years took a huge toll on my family both physically and mentally and it also tore us apart to date. Things started after my Dad passed away, comments were made that some gave all their time and some barely helped at all. So, all his care fell on a few people which is where the exhaustion started. People would ask if we needed help, or just ask them, but truth be told, they only said it to make themselves feel better I suppose. If you can do anything for a sick person, show them you care. It could be you one day. From cooking to errands or even a visit would be appreciated. It doesn't have to be big...just make it count. Trust me, it will mean the world to them.
Absolutely When I think about people being alone it upsets Hospice is a heaven sent(my experience) God Bless Them ♥️
I know how that is. My mom was an only child and when she passed my grandmother naturally was devastated as was us 4 adult children. As grandmother got older and needed more care, it fell on me. The others were "too busy" except for my younger brother who apparently only came around to hold his hand out as I noticed in her checkbook. I asked my sister to call her at least once a week since it made grandma happy to hear from her. Nope, don't have anything to say. I don't care tell her what flowers are blooming, how many birds you see around, what boats are on the lake...it doesn't matter..it's just hearing your voice that let's her know you care. There always seems to be the caregivers and the selfish or cold ones in a family when it comes to taking care of our elderly and/or sick family members. Shame on them.
We took care of my grandfather with Parkinson's and Lewy body at home... 3 nurses and a doctor in the family and it was hell at times.
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Yes the mental health of the caregivers after time begins to diminish watching a loved one's memory fade away. I hate the years that were erased and taken away from us. He had to retire at the age of 60. He was an engineer and could no longer perform his job. He passed away at the age of 72. Actually alzheimers had started at the age of 55 but, he struggled until the age of 60. So, so sad to watch a love one pass with this dreadful disease.
Lost my Pop back in January. The Hospice Nurse we had was amazing. She helped our family thru it all. Hope y'all know how much y'all are appreciated. Much respect for all of you!!!
As wonderful as all hospice workers are, the next step (and SO long overdue!) is the dying with dignity for all states in this country, I cannot think of a more compassionate thing to offer all of us for when our own time comes.. it’s terrifying to think of how so many people felt the need to travel overseas for such options, I’m so glad that more states are offering these options now as well!!
My daughter 29 is in the hospital going on 2 months...she's jaundice and sick...I can't always go see her😢I have to work...she's in PA. Near jersey and I'm in cleveland..I work on the cta in the operating rooms...I git qord today she wants to stop treatment her kidneys are going and liver...I'm so distraught and saturday early morning I will go see her...my heart is breaking no parent should have to outlive their children....
You should bring her home geez she is still 29!
All the people in this line of work are angels 👼! Here on 🌏! Thank you very much for what you do angels of earth😊
ALL Critical Care doctors are medical terrorists...fact.
Angels of death maybe
These hospice care workers should make 100 thousand a year.
mcgavin
I'm a caregiver at a hospice agency in Florida.... I make 9.50 an hour and unfortunately, that's pretty normal.
It's disgusting how little caregivers, CNAs, etc get paid. I mean I do what I do because its an honor and I love it.... But being paid a proper amount would be nice.
mcgavin I worked at a nursing home as a CNA getting paid minimum wage (7.25 hr) I loved my job is the only reason I done it
Brittany Weeks Thanks to you, Kristen and all who give so much to their fellow human beings. Yes, it is an honour.. but for you to be paid at least a little more, receiving much more public recognition for the importance of the work undertaken, is only right.. xo
I work in respite care and I am paid low wages also but for me it's not about the money. It's such a rewarding job
They should make way more money for sure. They're terribly underpaid
I want to be ready and making sure I have Jesus in my heart and I'm saved .
I know some here are having difficulty with some things that were said in the video, and that's perfectly understandable. Death is not a subject we like to think about. For me, death has been a big part of my life. I'm a retired funeral director, and I'm now dealing with esophageal cancer.
Now more than ever, I've come to believe that straight-forward discussion - while difficult initially - is in everyone concerned's best interest. As a cancer patient, I require my oncology team to be very honest with me, without trying to sugarcoat the harsh reality of cancer. I don't believe there is any other way to make solid judgments and decisions without frank dialogue. We have the right to know; the responsibility to know, etc. After all, it's our life. We need to be fully informed if we're to make decisions regarding our medical care.
The majority of esophageal cancer patients don't survive a year after diagnosis. With this in mind, I can make the best decisions possible, to ensure that I know when it's time to stop treatment and place the emphasis on comfort.
God bless you u dave.
RIP
May God eas your final chapter on the mortal plane and be there to help and guidance you when you cross over.
Dave Seavy best of luck.
Dave Seavy
Well done, West Virginia. A wonderful documentary that pulls no punches, an appropriate documentary for end of care patients and their families as well as health care professionals involved in decisions families are faced with. I am a Registered Nurse and plan to utilize the ideas presented in my practice. More programs like this should be made public as our nation ages.
Kubler-Ross was telling us this 50 years ago.
I would like to be surrounded by my family outside in a hammock. With the breeze swaying and the laughter of my grandchildren as they are playing.
That's lovely
How gorgeous
I can't believe what I'm hearing he said quote we could be saving billions of dollars if we don't keep the people on life support and if their families had discussions yep it's an evil world healthcare should be free in the first place!
R.I.P. MY M0M & DAD DIED AT 🏡 H0ME BACK IN 1997 & 2011 😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥
Rip to you're mom and dad and hugs I loss my mom and dad both in the last 4 years of lung cancer so I know how you feel
L.A. FIREFIGHTER, PARAMEDIC 🦋
@Crazy Christkiy
I am sorry for your loss
I’m so sorry for your loss🙏🙏🙏
I'm happy to see caregiving, agencies, all over the US, that keep patients in their homes, instead of warehousing them in a state institution.We have made progress, in the 21st century.
Near the beginning a man says "I want to die at home." What happens when your kids won't let you and you end up in a horrible Nursing home? Even a doctor will many times not release you to your own home if there is no one to care for you should you end up not able to care for yourself. Even strangers can intervene and have you placed in a home, and if there is no one to speak on your behalf- your nightmare begins.
there's worse scenarios than this. What about people that can't even afford the nursing home, or kids that don't want to help their own parents who never did anything bad to them, or people living in their cars or RVs etc? If you are truly that upset by the state of affairs regarding this subject maybe offer to become someone's advocate or the person who makes sure the advanced directive wishes get followed.
15:18: I LIKE this guy! I am of this type myself: let´s not make-pretend, let´s call the stuff, what it IS!
he shot his wife and himself
@@lewisbracken5520
Wut? Can you send a link?
Cody H. www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2281141/Doctor-specialized-end-life-care-wife-shot-death-murder-suicide.html
WOW! I have worked in Healthcare for 15 years. Worked in all kinds of hospitals. We treat, well the good ones, treat the dying and their family with much respect. The person that said it's all about the money has never worked in that type of job. If they had they would have seen how the families and patients do NOT want to die. They want to live as long as possible no matter what. Some families will keep their loved one alive on the vent long after the Dr.'s have advised them to let go. Now of course there are exceptions. The people that work in hospice, and are actually caring, are something very special. They are a light for the rest of us to follow. I pray I have someone to look after me when it's my time, so I treat every pt how I would want to be treated. God bless.
Keep living no matter what? Speak for yourself! I'm severely ill and I definitely don't want to live no matter what. And it's my right to decide against this life.
And some families are collecting Mom’s SS check while she’s alive.
My husband is 55 years old and on his last days. I am not afraid. I read and read and read on what to expect. I have made peace with my husband's pending death. I am following his DNR and the same way I want whomever is in charge of me when it's my turn to follow mine. Your dad is at peace, make peace with yourself. God Bless.
Hope all is well.
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Superbly made documentary, showing an intelligent, pragmatic point of view on a subject that couldn't be any more important.
My beautiful mumma has stage IV terminal peritoneal cancer.
She is currently in hospital under great care, but will move onto permanent hospice care at a facility. It is what works for OUR FAMILY. She will not be left in there to rot I promise you that. At the end of her life, she just needs comfort and love, and that’s what she’ll get.
I only agree with DNR if it happens naturally! Iam against withholding food and water!
Well, fortunately you don't decide DNR status for anyone besides yourself ! Many people choose to stop eating and drinking as a legal way to hasten their death - it gives them a way to decide for themselves. Diseases like dementia, ALS, and stroke can take a long, potentially miserable time to bring about death.
Bonnie Lee A DNR is not about food and water. DNR means "do not resuscitate ". If the persons codes(heart stops), they are not revived.
U have strong opinions about DNR when u clearly don’t even understand wat it is
May all go as you planned, blessings to you both at this precious time
When she looked at her husband and said "we've been married for over 50 years & we've had our ups and downs haven't we honey?" I almost started crying I had to stop myself. Oh so sweet to watch them together
Such a lovely couple ❤
When I was first diagnosed with Stage IV Cancer, I did NOT want to die. I was going to fight, tooth and nail. Someone said to me, 'you will know when it is time to die' and I'm like 'No, I will NOT want to die'. Well, it has been several years, and I had a massive heart attack, and now I know what my friend said is true. I am at peace with dying. When it happens, it happens, and I will not be messed around with. It will be my time to go. I really like a Doctor who doesn't 'pussy foot' around me. This is a very straight forward, well presented video.
I will pray for you ❤
both my parents had hospice my dad died at home my mom in a hospice facility these angels of mercy are truly wonderful God bless them all
I live in SC and both my grandmother’s dyed at home...one in 2016 and the other 2018. as well as my dad, who passed away in 2019. Not once did a hospice nurse stay around the clock. We were given meds that I had to administer and understand that was necessary, but I felt like a murderer. I actually called and told them so. They would say call if you need us. My family and I had to call a few times and it was NEVER we’ll be there ASAP. It was “ let me try to walk you through the situation” we needed them to come help us in person!, My one grandmother NEVER liked to take medicine. She was eventually bedridden and instead of liquid medicine for one of the prescriptions I had to try to get a pill down her throat and she tried to bite me. Constantly trying to get out of the bed....for a solid week, until her oxygen machine started acting up and a young man showed up to swap it out and said the side rails need to be moved out of her reach and also so she can”t try to swing her legs out. It took a medical supply technician to help us with that. The nurse just looked at us when we told her. My mom didn’t sleep for a week!, I got a first time nurse; with Hospice; for my maternal grandmother and my dad. My dad was battling lung cancer and scared out of his mind. The nurse told him Hospice doesn’t cure, they care. It was her demeanor. I called the office and told them not to send her back, to send another nurse. What she said was true but that’s not how you greet a dying man!, NEVER did a nurse offer to do hair for my grandmothers. I think Hospice organization is a wonderful thing, but I definitely think some are better than others. These nurses in this video need to give lessons!,
Wow...I went through the very same thing. My mom died at home in 2014 and I still feel confused and guilty.
Pretty much sums up my experience. Then was asked if I wanted to volunteer FOR them. No.
Spot on here in NC. The hospice nurses were not very helpful. I finally got rid of them.
I was caring for my boyfriend with terminal cancer at home, we had hospice nurses visiting a few times per week - each visit was only maybe half an hour, just to check on him, give advice and meds as needed. They were great and it was all we needed, since he was lucid and his pain was under control. But if he’d been in worse shape or uncooperative it would have been a different story.
Omg it’s America. Disgusting health system. And the doctor talking about boomers coming and he is in the same age range. America needs national health care. Most respectable countries do. How horrible if you don’t have money you don’t get cared. For.
As a CNA of 8 years, I have seen both the good and the bad of what there is out there when it comes to dying...but I will never regret giving my time and heart to the people I cared for over the years. They do become like family, whether you want them to or not.
The military was actually what facilitated my discussion with my parents about this issue. You have to have a will and care directive before you deployed, and send at least one copy to your next of kin. In explaining what I wanted I got the opportunity to learn what they wanted, and while it wasn't even remotely pleasant to discuss I have a great peace of mind that the decisions have already been made should something happen to them.
I lost both my parents and they both went through hospice. Hospice is a wonderful service. They provide such a wonderful job for the families.God bless them.
I hope Jesus is waiting for me . My trust is in him
God is ready are we dear soul? I can say I know I am through the blood of Jesus Christ. God bless.
I've put my faith in Jesus and I trust in Him.
Jesus has been waiting for you your whole life, and will be there for you.
Text him
You can be sure!! I’m sure!
From nurses everywhere....thank your this video...THANK YOU. ❤️
Thank you to nurses and doctors everywhere for the time and love you give us and our loved ones. You deserve more thanks than you get, so THANK YOU GOD BLESS YOU.
found this documentary most helpful
Hello Catherine how are you doing hope you’re having a great time with your family may God bless you and your family
I so wish I had an Amy here to help me to take the caregiving weight off of my husband's and kid's shoulders. I have MS and it's progressing now. I never thought my life would be like this.
I know you may never see this (old old comment) but I wanted to say I’m dealing with MS myself and I’m honestly wondering how you are today.
@@heykerryann
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Imagine having to “check with your insurance “ to see if going home on a breathing machine is a possibility.35:17.🤦♂️
I found it extremely honorable to witness a death. Everyone focuses on a new life..... death with dignity and someone actually by their side is indescribable.
-ICU NURSE
As a stepdaughter that had to take the lead when hospice care couldn't get there because of weather, I find it very traumatic.
There should be an end of life procedure offered to ALL terminally ill people that gives them the option to end their suffering in a time of their choosing without pain and without the permission of any body or any government entity. Period. A suffering animal is allowed a quick and painless transition and so should every human being. Allowing anyone to die in pain is unacceptable.
Free American I agree whole heartedly
Free America. You do have that choice. One can be given pain meds. But if you're talking euthanasia, it gets extremely complicated, not from doctors but from the lawyers. Any long lost relative can crawl out from under the woodwork & potentially sue because he wasn't notified of your wish. It's a nightmare post death. Imagine the rabid lawyers while dying?
@@lucyterrier7905 It could be solved by things like the Death with Dignity laws, like the ones we have in Washington and Oregon. I know a lot people don't agree with it on the basis of committing suicide goes against the will of God and will send you to hell, but I think it should be an option for people who are terminal and in massive amounts of pain. Sometimes pain medication can't make it all go away, you can still be in pain. So I think it's important that people be given the option to die on their own terms if in a situation that allows it, allowing them to be in control of everything. If they can be given an option that would allow them not to suffer longer than they would have to with a terminal illness that causes them extreme suffering, then why not allow that ?
Totally agree
Die with dignity, without pain.
I'm sick of right- to- lifers sticking their snoots in where they don't belong
There are States that now allow end of life care... Calif is now one of them and I know Or.is another and there are more... A doctor here orders. a combo of drugs to be drank ...it goes from there....I don't know how willing all doctors are to order the drugs...
Wow she is like my Grandma. She passed a few month ago. She was the best person in the world. So funny and she was the one, that believed in me, when everybody else wasn‘t. She was fine a month before her death. That is the hardest part for me, because it all came too fast. I was with her every day. Her heart just stopped..
I wear her wedding ring as a necklace and I‘ll never take it off. I hope she is in a good place, with her family, my grandpa and her friends.
Why do doctors look kind of creepy but they are super intelligent what the heck.
Hospice is treating the whole person. We have here our little Province PEI, Canada.
The volunteers, nurses, doctors , all wonderful, caring and compassionate - such a beautiful way to help families die with dignity,
as it (death) will happen to us all, no matter if we speak about or hide in terror.
Personally, I’m very glad we have this system.
The U.S. Is so backwards and behind when it comes to education and understanding Dying with Dignity.
Have to love a system where dollars end up being more important than your level of care.
America really is the worst place in the world. They have the means to do better but are lead by greed.
“You can go in piece when you’ve got that much”. She was talking about her family, not her money. So sweet.
There is no way I'm going to stay alive if it means being a vegetable unable to control my life.
God Bless Hospice workers, they were amazing when my dad was passing 😢
Thank you so much for this wonderful documentary.
At age 68, I am healthy and still teaching full time. I've had longterm relationships but no marriages and no children. I have a wonderful partner now, met purely by chance, who is 76. There's only my younger brother, who is divorced with no kids, and the rest of the family is scattered throughout the U.S. and the world. I've laid out everything and my wishes known, and I pray that I may have the opportunity to have hospice at home. My parents were both hospitalized at the ends of their lives but hospice was available. It was such a HUGE blessing for us. My brother couldn't handle it, but I stayed and was so comforted. My parents were there at the start of my life, and I was able to be there at the ends of theirs. They were married 64 years and passed 56 days apart.
God bless every hospice nurse on earth
Thank you!
I don't care, let me die in peace. No crying, no histrionics, just die! Let my family know I ha e loved them and to let me go! No tears! Just remember the good times sometimes when all of a sudden you think of me. Just smile!
No. U don't get to dictate ur lived ones grief.
@@justjess-zl3pm *you*, *your*, *loved*
Proper spelling is dying in these comments with no hospice care.
An advanced directive has been brought up to me a few times (have cancer) but I've always said "I'll think about it" ...this is making me want to go ahead and go through with it
young wraith lol
@young wraith Hateful...but this is the world today. No surprise
@@mtj5758 until it happens to you...Ppl are a disgrace
You could have something like - Captured ByKen - are you still with us? Or something more with a little tact
Hoping Captured is still with us and in remission :)
Very sad ending for Dr Bruce Foster. He was a great man. Helped lots of people. Rip
In third world countries, the dying and elderly are treated better than in more advanced and richer countries. So sad😢
I have the good fortune of being in ICU and being told I wasn't going to survive, experiencing that fully, and still being here years later.
Ok we
You can get me
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Maha77, do you use this experience to TESTIFY for the Lord God Almighty? To tell of his MERCY, GRACE?
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I filled out my first advanced directive when I turned 18. Good thing, just a few years later when I was in my early 20's, I ended up very sick and on life support. In 2011, I was electrocuted and again was on life support. Both times the doctor disagreed with my decision to not remove me from anything however, he was shocked when I survived both times with minimal brain damage. Since then I've had 2 mini-strokes. The best thing I have ever done is to have an advanced directive.
God had other plans for you, I too was in that situation but I was a preemie at just 24 weeks and the physicians and nicu team tried to remove the ventilator, and give up on me.
God bless you sweetheart...
You're kicking arse Furby 👊
Your like a cat lol 9 lives
God Bless ur Will to live..!
Putting my father in hospice was the best decision we as a family made me my mom couldn't keep my dad comfortable at home my dad was never happy he was so messed on drugs and the cancer pain was getting worse so we took the doctors advice and put my father in to hospice and the following day my dad was happy alert and his pain was under control! The treatment he received from the doctors nurses and psw's and volunteers was unbelievable! They treated my father with the most respect and they treated him as if he were their father! The hospice gave me my hope in humanity back I truly believed that humanity was done for but the people at the hospice renewed my hope in humanity and I have changed the way I act! You never know what someone is going through! Iam not quick to judge anymore! God bless the people who do end of life care they are true angles ❤️😊
I'm so sorry for your lose. It made me upset and physically sick reading your comment and realizing your dad's doctor didn't allow him sufficient pain management until he decided to die. That's awful, and an accurate representation of how doctors won't allow almost all patients suffering moderate to severe pain the proper medication. The medical system has been advanced enough for decades at this point, to help patients to not have to suffer the majority of all pain with.
@@Fe26man i think you are confussed as to what hospice is.
And pain medication is very regulated and often times can only be administered by a licenced profetional.
My sister put my father in a retirement care center where they did not have the ability to care for him as she took him off all of his medication and hospice only came to visit him once a day. He suffered at her hand and it disgusts me. I can't imagine putting anyone in that position: no water, food, bathroom, so utterly degrading and empowering for this woman that is a Reverend in the Wesleyan church even after cheating on her husband while on a mission trip in Columbia and doing this to our father. Didn't even give me the opportunity to tell him goodbye as he died cause she was mad that I had pointed out the truth of what she was doing and had done. Disgusting
One of my uncles came down with cancer and spent his last four months in the hospice. Being the cheeky and jovial guy he was, he quickly became very close to the Doctors and Nurses there. He would joke with them and tease them as he used to do with us at home. In his final moments, all of us were by his bedside crying and holding his hands. I noticed a nurse who would always watch us from outside and dab her eyes with a tissue. I remembered what she told me "As a hospice staff, we were trained not to be too close to any patients lest we get emotional during their passing. But your Uncle was such a nice funny guy. I can't imagine the hospice ward being so quiet without his loud voice and bellowing laughter. " To these hospice staffs, you have my utmost salute and respects. I can't imagine how tough it must be for you guys to be so close to someone and see them pass on within a few months, and this cycle goes on repeatedly. Thank you for taking on such a tough job!
I'm caring for my dad 24/7 at home. He wants to stay at home so when the time comes we will have an end of life team help. I don't want him to go to a home or hospital. It feels right
Rest in Peace to everyone who has unfortunately passed, I'm sorry if you lost a loved one or more.
first time facing the end so directly, finding myself so naive before. hope everyone have an happy ending, hope the young can live better...how many people can face the end, fearlessly, happily...There is something need to do.
This was an excellent and compassionate presentation of the benefits of having an Advanced Directive and having Hospice Care.
Nice video. My father was lucky he passed away at home in his favorite reclining chair. I was sitting next to him when he took his last breath. No struggling just went quiet. The way I hope to go out.👍
We had a Hospice help us care for my father the last few months of his life. I have nothing but the highest respect for them. They became part of our family.
I would want the choice. Why should I die an extremely painful death if I don't have to? I don't consider it suicide because if the illness is terminal I am going to die anyway so I would want to be able to make that choice before I'm in more pain than I can stand and loosing control of my bowels and stuff. NO ONE should have to suffer in terrible pain and agony.
Becca M I agree. I worry more about getting Alzheimers or another form of dementia. I've seen that unfold and how long and painful it was for everyone.
I thought this was very sensitively written over an very important subject. Something we all need to consider at sometime in our life.
One Easter after dinner our family talked about our final wishes. My father attempted to drink himself to dearth & lived for two weeks in hospital. I made sure his wishes were followed. I cared for my Mom at home until she died. Being able to take care of them was the greatest blessing in my life!
I’m sorry this is inappropriate but I can’t help it he said he was trying to drink yourself to death and you made sure he had his wishes I know I know I’m just saying
Forget putting people on machines in their final days. We need to make death with dignity law legal. These people are not going to get better and they should be able to pick the day they say goodbye to their loved ones and take a simple little drink and fall asleep and pass on. I don't know why people would be against that law. It's to help people who have no hope of recovery and won't suffer.
Many unfortunately believe that those who agree with assisted suicide/death with dignity are "playing God".
@Ann B STOP IT
@Ann B well you better hope for your own sake that you're right lady. You're gonna be so sorry
Machine was not always around
Sadly mom kep changing her mind, until she realized she had tried everything she could and was NOT going to make it. Once I said to mom, I love you, if you are tired it's ok to let go, I'll be sad but will be ok. Then she let go and died peacefully.
Hospice is a beautiful thing, I used to be a VITAS volunteer and it taught me so much about the final chapter of the journey. It may be the end of life, but not the end of love.
Amen.
I am at an age where my "last chapter" is probably not so far off but I would prefer to die in a hospital where people are paid to take care of me. They might even mistreat me but I think any difficulties connected with my end of life should be MY difficulties not difficulties for my friends or family members. I would also prefer that memories my loved ones have of me are memories of us laughing together or talking together or playing together and are NOT memories of how many times they had to feed me or (God forbid!) change my diaper. That may be an unpopular belief but nonetheless it is my belief.
I agree completely! God bless you & I pray you & I both go the way we want. Just remember to prepare for the next life before you leave this one.
I like Dr. Foster... He's STRAIGHT to the point 👌🏽 he doesn't pussy-foot around
+Rose Gold Dr Foster trill AF
+Rose Gold I wish he was my doctor!
I kinda wanna go to WV now for my check up and see if I'm finally dying! xD
He killed himself n his wife. The guy was weird
Deandranae Lee he wasn’t weird. He had mental illness and nobody helped. If someone had intervened he and his wife would still be alive
I hope to die instantly but feel it isn’t my choice
With me having asthma i know I will die instantly
Cat Blue me too, me too:)
They only need ONE thing at that caring place...: Visiting dogs! I´ve seen a program, where they had these therapy dogs coming in, and the folks who wanted to see a happy, friendly dog, could do just that! Even though you were in bed!
I believe in God and the afterlife...but thinking about death just terrifies me..Family have told me to make my peace with HIM and friends tell me it's what life is about..But Im afraid of death...Seen my parents and family members knowing they are going to die from Cancer...I have Cancer but thankfully so far Cancer free....If I was told I have a life ending ailment,I don't know how I could ever handle it
I'm a retired soldier and a volunteer at my local VA Hospital. I help out in the VA/CLC (Hospice).
I have an advance directive, life insurance, and my funeral arrangements done. My brother passed away last year and he didn't have an advance directive. He was in the intensive care unit for almost three months. It was very hard and painful to try to figure out what he wanted.
this is awesome we need to talk to our love ones before this happens
Yes, but we all know that our own lives are going to end. Why should this impact on our care of others? Passing on our skills in end of life care, however, could help to ensure that we too are cared for as well as these people are, at the end of our lives. You cannot live life with this negative mindset, be positive :)
I was recently diagnosed with metastatic cancer. Although my surgery went well I know how sneaky cancer is. If it returns I will have palliative care and then hospice. Absolutely no chemo or radiation therapy for me. I want a peaceful death hopefully with my children by my bed. I hope my deceased husband will be waiting for me. God bless anyone who cares to read this.
God Bless Lori , stay strong 💐
Such a helpful, positive presentation.
The medical care for most people (the peons/serfs) is far different from our elected officials. They don't fall under any portions or restrictions of OBAMACARE. Our elected officials are exempt from OBAMACARE.
Trying to get a 91 yo widow, who only receives a small Social Security check, doesn't own a home or car, takes forever to try to get MEDICAID. Mom didn't want it at first as she didn't want to take care from those who really need it. She has had a myriad of health issues now, and needs what Medicare doesn't provide. They act like it comes out of their own pocket. It's frustrating and irritating. There must be a better way to help our elderly family.
What a blessing it is to die at home.
Don't care where you die. Let others care. It is not your business where you die, because after that you will know or feel nothink.
bowecho I know.
Totally disagree Univ Universal....surely every person has the right to choose where they want to die, if they have the mental capacity to decide!! ...it's not someone else's decision but their own...your comment is very strange!
Depending on your situation it can be. 👼 for mom it wasn't. 😭☄☄☄☄
Not for me, best to have access to drugs and nurses, my sister in law was left with neither as she died over a weekend and nobody qualified to dispense drugs .,
The Hospice staff in Huntington WV were such a blessing in my Mothers death in May of this year. They are angels among us!
After almost a 20 year battle with cancer after a scan they found it was spreading very rapid. She had weeks to live. We braced for what was coming.
She had recently moved in to my sisters home due to it not having stairs.
So she could move around with her oxygen.
They detailed exactly how it normally starts from beginning to end.
They visited daily for just a few days before her body started to shut down.
With all the family around, Her kids and grand kids all there in the house.
Everybody got to spend time with her and speak to her.
Her pastor even came to visit and she knew he was there.
It was a house full of love and comfort. She passed very peacefully on May 10.
😊
Hospice does a great job. So thankful for them.
Getting older is so hard but getting old & diagnosed with cancer is horrific. There are 80% of elderly that do NOT want to be a burden on children. When your dying u really just want to stay at home in your own surroundings. Hospice took care of my mother & father in law to the end of their life & it really meant so much to the terminally ill patient. I’ve told my boys don’t put me in a nursing home . I asked my children would u want to leave your home or die in peace in my home. I really appreciate hospice & all they do to prepare patients for that finial days of their life.
I think it's great that death doulas are becoming popular. They work with the person and family not only with practical things like living wills but spiritual things and dignity too.
My mom was end of life for like 2 to 3 years. About 5 of the people that came to see her thinking it would be the their last chance died before she did. You just never know. My mother has a very strong will and faith that helps a lot. Please she has had the best medical care and family support fron my dad and her kids, including me. Above all it is in God's hands.
I enjoyed being in hospice than the hospital when I was an RN... I even volunteered as a hospice aid for less pay bc I loved taking care of the family
It takes a very special kind of person to be a hospice worker. As far as I'm concerned they are Angels😇They were there for my Mom during her last stages of life.God Bless all of you 😇💖🙏❤