adulting Q&A🧋figuring it out in 20s, Berlin plans, working in tech again?
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as I enter the last days of my 20s, I find myself still figuring a lot of stuff out: adulting, relationship, friendships, belonging...
in this video, I drink 5 bubble teas in the hutongs of beijing, while chatting with you about my thoughts lately: what does it mean to be an adult? where do we belong? how to make friends as a adult? ...also life updates: relationship, Berlin plans, life in Beijing, and...oooof should I work in tech again?👀
this video was made when we just hit 50K for our little community...that's crazy!!!! thank you so so much for being here. i feel so lucky to have every single one of you on this journey 🫶
xx
Evelyn
🔖 CHAPTERS
00:00 intro
01:06 life update
02:53 relationship...
05:06 insecurities as an immigrant
06:45 belonging as a misfit
08:07 how much I'm making w/ 50K subscribers
10:28 being hard on myself after quitting 9-5
11:43 building consistency/structure
12:36 using my degree in life
14:10 youtube advice
16:39 balancing TH-cam and 9-5
17:27 working in tech again?
18:13 Berlin plans
19:53 adult friendships
21:03 what does it mean to be an adult
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Hi, I’m Evelyn✨
➭ how old are you? 29 (born in 1994)
➭ where do you live? China (for now), moving to Berlin🇩🇪
➭ what's your MBTI? INFP
➭ what was your job before you quit? consultant/program manager
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on this channel I share my life as a recent corporate drop out, going on a journey of growth and self-discovery to (hopefully) figure out what I want to do, and where I want to be. grateful to have you here:)
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I'm about to turn 33 soon and all I can tell you is: things get clearer after 30. It's like a switch in your head. Of course not everything is solved but you'll feel more in tune with yourself. And you've already achieved so much: you've lived abroad by yourself, you quit your job to pursue your passion. You're putting yourself out there on TH-cam for everyone to judge. Like, wow 🔥 you're so strong. Keep believing in yourself, you're doing great ❤
I couldn't believe it when I heard it from older women but yup, so true. I am more sure of myself, I give less fucks, I like myself more. It's so freeing.
Have to say you come across as a caring person with a big heart.Somewhere down the line I can't help feeling you'll be a great therapist.
I have no link to her channel but have found youtube.com/@healwithrannn?feature=shared to be an amazing resource of emotional healing videos.
Mad respect for you for filming with public with so so so many people walking around!!! More than inspired to do the same too!!!! ❤
Thank you🫶I love making videos so much hehe…hope you guys enjoyed watching💗
Love how you put your camera a few feet away from you and nobody is trying to steal it. Anywhere in America, that camera would have been long gone.
i'm 36 and i resonate so much to everything you said, doing the work, belonging, not belonging, it feels so lonely, there's grief, it's exhausting. we see you.
i love the awkward shots of people interrupting your filming, they always make me laugh. please never get rid of them!
That random guy at 4:44 is wild 🤣Thank you for going out of your comfort zone to do this video. I enjoyed watching!!
Dang, that last point about being an adult is developing your own belief systems ✨✨ wow, really something!
Let’s adult together!!!🤍✨
omg that's us! 💜Love your vlogs + mad props for being able to film in public even if you don't feel comfortable
yeeesh that’s us💗
@@tapiocapress you should see my face pausing this video just to confirm and scream OMG THAT'S TINAAA. Love you both ❤❤
You're amazing, Evelyn! I remember trying to encourage you in early 2020 that you would hit 1K😂 You are still every bit as endearing as back then. Happy and smiling every time you share your thoughts and adventures. Too many kind words to share, kind thoughts always.
greg!!! thank you for being so kind🫶 I remember you from the start. Thanks for always being here!
5 Boba in one day is insane ahaha 😭 But I loved the concept of taking us around the city like that, also it's good to hear from you again!
You really need to have nerves of steel with all of these people openly staring at you while you're talking about your life to a camera - I'm so impressed on how you do that 🥺
And congrats on hitting 50k!!
yeee thank you💗 I enjoyed taking you around the city too✨
I resonate with so many aspects of your life, it's like a free therapy session. Thank you :)
now its 53.3k and growing because of Tapioca and Evelyn.
You make some of the most interesting and eye catching videos I have ever seen Evelyn. I admire you for filming in public even though it doesn't make you feel comfortable! Your channel will definitely keep on growing and the best is yet to come 💌
Thank you so much🫶😭
Congrats on 50k!
ive been single for a bit more than a year now after being in a toxic relationship for most of my 20s. and its been the most refreshing period of my life, getting to know myself again
Congrats on 50K, Evelyn! 🥳👏🏾
Really insightful video. Great to hear your thoughts on growing. Huge congrats on the 50k!
I loved this video also I love videos when you show like daily or weekly vlog😅😊
yasss queen, YOLO so enjoy life
Love your vlogs Evelyn ❤ Congrats on reaching 50K 🫶
the most beautiful soul 💗 love youuu
Hang in there ! I follow your content and i watch it from time to time.😊
thank you for sharing your feelings on immigration and filming in public. going through the same discomfort and it feels cozy to relate to someone you like on the internet. always looking forward to watching your videos
love you and your channel alot! keep growing! can't wait for it to hit 100K girl!
❤❤❤❤ love the concept of this video and the vibes of it!
my favourite storyteller. ❤
That ending was so nice!! Thank you for the video Evelyn!
I like this channel and Evelyn a lot, it is so refreshing and the storytelling is really relatable. I was waiting for a new video 😊
Hey I can relate to you so much! Immigration scars me, childhood trauma make sad, people pleasing, self discovery and being a misfit in Asia or in this world!
Evelyn i admire you a lot, you really inspire me. You have a wonderful personality and i always look forward to your videos ❤❤
1. I would die from 5 bobas in a day lol my health can’t handle it! 2. Yay self made beliefs!! So key! 3. That man staring at you from behind the camera is so scary! How did you not run?
omg girl did you hide your microphone in a dinner roll?💀
Love uuu
Thank you a lot for this video, I don’t even like bubble tea (oops) but now I feel like I wanna drink one…
Everything you do is so impressive (especially the fact that you’re filming yourself in public even if it makes you feel so uncomfortable) and as a small youtube creator myself, you’re such a source of inspiration & give me a lot of courage, so thank you a lot for your authenticity!
Love from France ♡
PS: Congrats for you 50k! (53now!)
the last sentence hit hard. same here💌
I love your videos and resonate with your way of thinking especially with the thoughts you brought up in this video about belonging. Thank you for sharing honest and genuine content❤
You have been doing great and you are our (young women)‘a inspiration!
What I have learned as a fellow creator on TH-cam is you cannot judge yourself when views are down. It’s all technical in most cases sadly our thumbnails may not even show up on a subscribers feed. I have had that many times before and it can be frustrating. Your videos are so inspiring and I watch it every time it’s on my feed. So, keep your head up and remember to not be hard on yourself. You have a beautiful and wise soul and meditating will keep you closer to that wisdom.
Your filming style is amazing.
You’re such an inspiration ❤ wish I could take a great brave step like you. Please share more on your YT journey ❤
absolutely love this insight into your life. it's funny but also really reassuring to know someone at the other end of the world is going through pretty much the same struggles in life. looking forward to seeing more of beijing, it's a place i really don't know much about so far! 🥰
Isn’t that crazy?! I love TH-cam for bringing people like us together. Beijing vlogs coming up🫰
👋🏻 Es ist eine gute Entscheidung es langsam anzugehen, das Ergebnis ist fast immer besser. Schön das Du die Möglichkeit hast dir die Zeit zu nehmen. Wünsche Dir viel Erfolg.
Wow... beautifully shot and such lovely compositions.
I’m a follower of your tapiocapress since it has 2000 followers, i saw this channel growing and I’m happy to see that. I’m from india delhi.
Congrats on 50k!! My fav TH-camr :)
thank you lizzy
Thanks for the hutang vids and sharing your journey of being alive.
As a 56-yr-old American, I would note that my experience is that adulting is mostly looking like one knows what-is-what. And that there are as many right answers to what-is-what as there are people on the planet.
As a 33-yr expat, I'd note that home, a sense of belonging, is where you are in place and time at any given moment.
For me, that has ended up being right here, right now, in this moment.
Great vids - and congratulations on hitting 50k subscribers!
Have a great day!
Thanks for sharing your wisdom🫶
Evelyn, thank you for keeping it so raw and so real with your footages. Mad props for you being able to record outside b/c lolll, the way the man just sat there and stare at you around 4:50, my heart couldn't handle loll.
Hehe, I love your bun mic!
Congrats Evelyn! I wish I could have confidence to film in public just like you. You inspire me to do vlogs too. ❤
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and giving us these videos. Despite sitting in front if a screen while watching those I always feel like I'm entering a room where I just feel comfortable and at ease with everything and am allowed to just be who I am. That may sound a bit ridiculous but that are the vibes I get from your videos :) have a wonderful time ✨
I’m so so happy that’s how you feel watching my videos🫶☁️✨
I'm so inspired by you filming outside in public and simply talk about your thoughts and personal growth. I'm definitely gonna challenge myself to do this and create a short video as a project. ^_^
Hey girl ! I just rediscovered your channel, i used to watch Beijing videos before i moved there, to get to know the atmosphere and lifestyle there, and i forgot how i love your work.
Thank you SO MUCH, for making videos that are not about the doing, but about the being. It’s creating this really cozy atmosphere, in which taking time is allowed. Helping me out relax and try to bring out this yin energy. You rock girl 🎉❤
hey Evelyn! love your new video. i must say i'm shocked to see someone who shares such similar experiences and feelings in life with me (kudos to youtube algorithm :)), and how beautifully you articulate them. sometimes i wonder what life would be like if i had move back to china and spend part of my 20s there, and i feel like 'm almost living it through your videos.
it's also very encouraging to see someone's journey to find herself. "what do i like?" is a question i also started asking myself not so long ago at a similar age, and i have found myself feeling frustrated not being able to answer it. but it's okay. and it's a good thing that we have started asking ourselves, isn't it?
I actually live closeish to Berlin, and would love to meet up in the future if possible!!
yeah the world is so small….so grateful to have found you here🫶take care, and let’s figure it out together💗
unrelated but you look gorgeous with full bangs :O sending much love, i adore how honest and raw your videos are
ahh thank you so much!!! I always feel so I secure about my bangs b/c they are curly…thanks for letting me know it looks good hehe💗
OMG! I was sad my question was not on the video, but it was the very last one you replied! I'm about to leave corporate job for freedom, so my biggest fear right now is failure. I liked this vid a lot!
hahaha it's so funny to see everyone stopping and staring at you filming wherever you go- people are more curious there than where I live. Even if someone was doing something very strange, where I am from it is considered very rude to stare. I like that you go with the flow!
that’s such a great perspective to look at it!! yes, sometimes people are just curious! it’s gotten so much better for me these days but I used to get even more nervous when I see people stare. But it’s actually not about me - they just want to know what’s going on!
@@tapiocapress I agree! It's nice seeing adults/older people have that same youthful curiosity. it's definitely a good sign!
Congratulations on 50K! I film with my phone and can't have the phone far away from me because I'm scared someone might run away with it. LOL. Why was the guy doing kneeling down in front of your camera?
I am 33 turning 34 still figuring out life so you are totally fine la❤
I just started watching this video, but I feel like it was just what I needed to hear. I'm in forced emigration, before I really didn't understand or imagine how migrants feel in my country - and now I'm a minority myself, and I look different from the locals, and now I know how it feels. Now I know. It really was a privilege to feel like I belonged (at least outwardly, because I looked the same as most people around me). Here now, I always feel like people can see - I'm a commuter. And I also feel like I could be deported for any mistake, even though I'm here legally and I'm not doing anything wrong. It was so important for me to hear from you about this feeling.
I didn’t realize how much of a privilege it is to feel Iike we have a right to be where we are until I moved back to China…sending hugs to all the immigrants/ppl living abroad out there🫶🌱
hi sis, we are all with u. all ur TH-cam friends
Yes, 麻薯 is called mochi in English. But we call anything from Asia that’s chewy and made of rice mochi (except if it’s from Korea, then we call it rice cake) 😂 There is a Cantonese pastry I grew up with called 糯米糍 and that’s called mochi too. Then there’s a Taiwanese/teochew/malaysian one called 麻糍 but we call that mochi too. A lot of people even call 湯圓 mochi. There is no limit to what you can call mochi in English as long as it’s sticky and made of beat up rice…even though Japanese people have different words for other types of mochi (like dango or daifuku) people will probably call it mochi lmao
wow you just answered a question that bothered me for so long hahaha
Hey! Great video!🩷
She posted 8 min ago, video is 22 min long and your comment is great video!?
@@walkon. I know it’ll be good even if I haven’t finished the video yet. Why are you acting like I can’t comment ahead of time?
I turned 30 about a week ago. Come to think about my 20s, I've spent a lot of time worried about whether I will figure out my career direction and rough blueprint, wondered who I want to become and what I want to experience and do for myself. Guess what? I have been clearer with what I want to do and what I don't want in my life; I am more confident and self-assured, wiser a little bit and more resilient and accepting of things gradually.
You will somehow figure it out as you go along the journey, maybe it's gonna be in your 30s if you're in your 20s, and if things don't go so well in your 20s, do know you'll get there, trust me and trust yourself.
Congrats on 50K subs! Five bubble teas sound like a sugar rush 😅. If you're dealing with limiting beliefs, hypnosis therapy might help clear those blocks.
谢谢你的视频，加油！
谢谢🫶
Guys & gals, pls like and comment or share to support this amazing women!!
Dont get used to drinking so much boba when you get to berlin, you will have a hard time finding toilets. Actually also one of my negative points about germany after having lived in asia / china, in china i always drink when i want to drink. In Germany I always think about where the next toilet is. Especially as a tea lover its annoying xd
Berlin has this amazing bubble tea please you should go to , I got a little obsessed The Alley House Berlin Mitte. Miss it soo much , you still inspire me to film in public but I live in Cape Town South Africa someone might snatch it soo have to go with a friend to sit with the camera 📸 🤭💗
Watching from Helsinki 😊
have you ever discussed how you're working on not being overly frugal? I also have that issue, but I don't see a lot of advice online because most people have the opposite problem 😅
hahaha omg right? people usually have the opposite problem😂 everyone - like this comment if you struggle with the same thing I might talk about it in another video….
Thank you for filming in public! Please, show us more from Beijing.
Beijing vlogs coming up💗
加油，很喜歡你的頻道
If you’re coming to Singapore let us know!
Omg that man staring in front of you and you stayed there!!! Do you feel like filming like this has helped with social anxiety ??
Yeah that man is…unusual🫠 it might actually have helped with social anxiety!!!
I also quit my job from big tech last year. It can be so draining when everything you worked on is for some middle-management guy's PPT slides. Work without substance is making me super anxious about what I want in life, but I feel like I'm slowly losing control over it. I kinda envy that you seem to be on top of it all while I even feel guilty to go traveling when I don't have a job lol.
You got this!!
@@tapiocapress Thanks a lot!
There are many part time jobs in Germany in every industry. Maybe you could look into that.
if you are ever in jakarta hit me up :)) excited to watch your travel adventures in asia + berlin also!!
Cool 😍. Btw how many battery do you have for vlogging all day with sony zv1 ? Isn’t the battery draining so fast ?
OH I have a question!! do u need to use a vpn when ur in china to access TH-cam?
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You made my day,love your vlogs!!!🕯📓🖋☕🫖🍵🥧Warm hugs coming your way from Sweden🫂💖
Like ur video
You should meet up with Louisa from the channel ectomorphe! She's a fellow TH-camr living as an expat in Berlin. I found your channel thanks to her mentioning how she enjoyed your vlogs in one of her videos 😊
@4.42 🥲
I’m from Berlin
羡慕你勇气🤣
You know your reality is my dream...to live an artist's life in China. 26 And the dream is burning in my heart but for now I've got totally different stuff to figure out. I am trying to get financially stable for that one dream...ahh!!! Time is literally flying for me.😪
comment to help your video approaching to more people
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what's your mbti? infp?
What was the guy doing (the staring guy)?
I like china, it's so safe here. I'm quitting my job in July and i have chosen to go back home i genuinely wish i could stay here.
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I am in my late 30s and i still feel like im not an adult. 😅
2:03 is that Jasmine? an artist from NJ? :o
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Super love your videos!!! Hope someday we could have the chance to meet in BJ!
你看起来气色好好🤍
i still dont understand, so what visa u gonna use to go to Berlin? Schengen tourist visa? study visa?
trying to figure it out!
@@tapiocapress well u better figure it out soon, because it takes forever to process even Schengen visa nowadays (I guess u will be applying from China) back then it took me 5 days I think applying from Shanghai. Last year upon accepting work offer from a company in Germany, I had to spend about 6 months to process work visa and I ended up cancelling it because they always and always request more and more document (bureaucracy) and in the end i took offer from another country.
good luck!
4:45 OMG 这大爷真的.........
Yes, so creepy, what was that?
You hadn’t had 一点点 before? Sacrilege! (but I agree it sometimes tastes like sweet nuthin)
No I haven’t!!! Also hadn’t had 蜜雪冰城 before this hehehe
If TH-cam isn't legal in China, how can you work with it?