@@keithbarbaro7590 I self diagnosed at 55 now 67 and no-one helped the younger me either.The autistic kids of today are so much luckier in that respect.
@peter nicholson are you in the US? I am. Awareness only increased in recent years. Many reasons why. Still I blame my mother for not doing something. I never looked at her. I never looked at people during conversations. I was immature for my age. She had no parenting skills. I was raised like a lap dog.
I got diagnosed at age 47 last year. My mom was very involved with my struggles in school. The diagnosis never came up mostly because for years only the stereotypical cases of autism where diagnosed. In the 80’s for instance psychology professors would often skip the autism chapter in textbooks. This was because autism was deemed so rare the changes of coming a crossed someone with autism where thought to be slim. In the 90’s autism was first seen as a disability and a diagnosis becomes more prevalent because more is known about the spectrum.
@@keithbarbaro7590 I am British and there was zero awareness anywhere when I was a kid.I try not to blame anyone more for my own sake more than anyone else's.I've done that and it doesn't help me move on.
I got my "official" autism diagnosis this past week. The validation feels good. I am also feeling good because I got a job promotion and get to work from home now. I hope everyone has a great week ❤
Congratulations with your promotion! I got my diagnosis last week too, but now I'm really confused and I feel like my autism is far from as serious as it is for others, because I've like never had a real melt- or shutdown and I don't feel like I've been masking my whole life either- I hope I can come to see myself as an actually autistic person soon
Hi Claire. Oversharing is so annoying, and I can't stop it. I think it's an attempt to create intimacy, which is always safer for me than chit chat... But it's difficult. And it's lovely to see you and that you choose what and what not, and the extent of which you share. Love to you
I was the opposite. I didn’t want to share private info and didn’t know what was private so I never shared anything just in case. I don’t know what caused me to be like that, perhaps bad experiences or observations of others. I had a lot going on as a teen and never told anyone. I think the opposite is also true, if you never share anything to the extreme then people also don’t feel like they know you and it’s difficult to make friendships.
I'm a small business owner and hired a CPA to do my taxes for the first time ever this year. It was more affordable than I realized and SO worth it!! This has been the most easy breezy tax season of my adult life. Highly recommend if it's usually stressful for you ☺
I was diagnosed at age 50 now at 52 I feel very free knowing my brain isn't broken. That I am who I am and not going to have to explain myself anymore.
Hello :) I also love coffee & find taxes stressful! I figured out I'm autistic & ADHD at 34yrs old & got an official diagnostic test lined up in the next couple of months which I'm super excited about! Also nervous haha. Figured it out from watching late diagnosed people sharing their experiences here on youtube, just like you are :) So thanks for putting these videos out here :)
As a hardcore social and cognitive introvert, my default setting is actually to hold in just about everything (and I've been reprimanded by family for doing so), but I also suffer from the same black and white thinking and have a tendency to make all the data I've ever collected "public domain" once I'm comfortable around whoever it is. I seem to struggle to understand the grey areas between 100% privacy and oversharing everything about yourself and things you know.
Yes! Yes! I couldn’t keep my mouth shut, no matter how hard I tried. I was awful. When I found out who I was, autistic, I didn’t need to talk anymore. I still have trouble with what to say, what’s appropriate, but I only say what I have to now and I’m much happier.
I'm Shaun, 53 in the UK. I received my diagnosis in November last year. Whilst it was reassuring in as much I now understand why I have done things in the past and still do, I'm still trying to get head around things
It's like I finally plugged in the game controller and I can see the HUD. OH! HIGH PEOPLE ENERGY DETECTED, commencing cocoon mode gogogo! I've actually touched peace a couple times this week! Sometimes my nervous system is so chill it just disgorges stored trauma and I feel safe doing it.
@@WoodshedTheory I’ve explored an avenue that teaches to turn trauma into mindfulness, compassion and understanding! I feel like I’m finally digesting it, and become lighter day by day! I listened to so much Thich Nhat Hanh I’m a part time Buddha now! Thank you for everything you do it’s been very helpful and healing!
Great video. Us aspies attract predatory narcissists so it's best to be quiet. As for exercise I go minimalist. You don't want to build up lactic acid.
@Woodshed Theory some experts say autism is caused by mitochondrial disorder. If that is true lactic acid is bad. I do short sprints. Never more than 30 yards. Or short stair sprints.
I'm posting the thank-you letter I just sent my doctor for reffering me for autism asessemnt. It says everything about why autism diagnosis is critical: "Dr Marsee: It's been over a year since you referred me to Emily London / Dr. Gallo for autism assessment. Dr. Gallo related to me that some people question the utility of late autism assessment and diagnosis. "What's the point?" they say If anyone ever says that to you, please tell them this for me: Imagine being blind and not knowing it. Successful autistic living depends on proper support, same as living with any disabling condition. Proper diagnosis enables autistic people to recognize, embrace and support their autism. It enables society to do the same. Mental health professionals most of all. I find that people often don't believe I'm autistic. Now I can say "Yes - I am. It's part of my medical record, along with the devestating mental health issues Undiagnosed and unsupported autism created. The autism diagnosis effectively cured me of them all, because my life makes sense and has meaning for me now. Improper or absent diagnosis means improper and absent support. That hurts everyone. So thanks for the referral Dr. Marsee =) Bill Hogan"
I wholeheartedly agree. I had to fight a little to get a diagnosis but it was totally worth it. Especially if it helps me to resist becoming a statistic.
Well, I appreciate you!,it’s so nice to have someone who understands what I/ we go through. I can relate to the oversharing thing. It took me awhile but I don’t share nearly as much as I used to and it is definitely empowering. I’m working on some things as well. We will get there! Hope everyone has a good week!
I just didn't say anything as a child for the most part. Then when I did start speaking up, I would get it very wrong. Then I would freeze and not be able to explain or stand up for myself. I lost a lot of friendships in my teen years.
Used to be if someone mentioned 'personal stuff' or anything private I'd be like - what's that secret then & have burning curiosity. Thankfully I'm over that now. I also wonder if there was a 'feeling left out (again)' scenario involved too. So glad I don't have to do tax anymore. Yep - you get to choose... 27 teaspoons of sugar. Wow! but also you chose exercise, yay. No idea what I'm doing this week other than 1st bike night of the yr on Thurs evening & still waiting for replacement indicators, grrr.
During group therapy part of my internal dialogue spilled out. My very own "Hot Mic" moment. I believe I'm the only diagnosed neurodivergent in the group. (I believe someone may be undiagnosed. 😇) I'm like a bull in a China shop, so I have to be exceedingly careful around the Allistics, and it can be a little draining. A genuine pleasure waking up this morning and seeing your new post. Thank you, Ms. Claire. - 🎩
@@WoodshedTheory I was thinking about how one of the members of the group had beautiful eyes and instead of going into the "fact file" it came shooting out my mouth before I could hit the brakes. Inappropriate and deeply embarrassing. 😓😰
27 teaspoons of sugar in ONE drink! I don't think I have ever heard of that before. Or are milkshakes even worse? About oversharing information with people. No, I actually have quite the opposite of that. In the past I have had it happen multiple times that people would share private information with others that I shared too them in private in order too mock me or make fun of me, or too get on the good side of other people (at the cost of me). After that I learned too not trust anyone. Not even my parents (I was a kid at the time, so quite a big deal). I took me many years (until I went to university) before I slowly started trusting people, but only a handful of people at the time. But too this day I still have a policy that everything that someone tells me in private I assume is a secret, even the most mundane things (like getting a low grade on an exam). I do not want other people to experience the same things I have, soo I will do my very best too prevent that.
@@WoodshedTheory I think that is a good idea. What I also find out works is to ask them if you can share it. When I forget to ask this I will simply assume it is private. This way no harm is done (in my experience).
Always a pleasure to see you Claire! Swapping my coffee for matcha tea today :) My week is...a bit of a mixed bag. I went out and had fun, definitely enjoyed the warmer temps here in ATL! But then...I got ANOTHER stomach bug that has wiped me out. I still went to work and can somewhat function, but I'm cursing the heavens for making everything 1000x harder for me (and other neurodivergent folx) For me, when I am unwell, my ADHD/brain fog/lack of focus is sooo terrible even if my energy is good. This leads to executive dysfunction, decision paralysis, and then just frustrates me into feeling sorry for myself and I don't do anything. And I REALLY can't afford to be sick and unwell all the time (oh yeah got my 1st covid infection in Feb. still recovering...that was fun) Idk, this year so far is filled with tragedy and triumphs....which I guess is how all my years go???LOL such is life. I'm glad you and hubby made time for date night! So important to step out of our routines to enjoy time with our favorite people. LOL I loved the red ICEE as a kid, LOVEE Buttery Popcorn! But yeah I can't tolerate sugar anymore either the older I get....have to pick my vices wisely. Ugh, TAXES. I just finished mine, it wasn't as bad as I expected but not fun either. Didn't mean to wait this late either but stuff happened (see aforementioned health struggles). I hope I never become too successful lol as I have no aptitude for understanding finances and economics....Great catching up with you! hope you continue to feel better 💖
I had a meltdown when i had to do my taxes on Sunday. I hope someday that I can feel free to share things with others ... Currently in my life it just feels so isolating, that i can't express or manifrst my internal world to others in a way they would understand.
I’m definitely guilty of having a few tax meltdowns mostly because it always feels like I’m too late. I still have to do 2021 for instance lol that one got away from me. I recognize the feeling of isolation after a few bad experiences of over sharing I had the same thing happen. It will either pass or you’ll find a person you are able to safely share with. It takes time.
I personally am very good at keeping things private and will take that shit to the grave with me 😅 I’m sure as a kid/tween that may have not always been the case, but I don’t recall. Thanks for the reminder to take better care of our bodies! I’ve been getting better at wanting to “get in shape” less for appearance reasons but because I’m not getting younger and my body is worth keeping healthy and strong.
I relate so much to the fitness thing. What you said was actually pretty powerful. I'm going to rewrite it as an affirmation: "My body is not in good shape, and that is not what I want for myself. I'm not going to be hard on myself because this body has gotten me through a lot of things, but I'd like to make some positive changes to have a healthier body." I feel like I need to print that out and post it. I did unplanned walking this weekend and I think that did me good. I'm noticing more pain in my body lately, particularly in my back and I recognize that movement would be the best thing for my body, but I also struggle with overwhelm and always want to go from doing nothing to do all the things. I really need to create some sort of movement routine, but ADHD... I also got my taxes done this Friday! For me it was the last year of having the complexity of paying taxes on what I inherited from my mom's retirement account which was spread over 3 years. It feels good to have that complete, but grief is a weird thing. It feels like a final task, and yet I know there will still be more "final tasks" and that grieving will never actually be "done". I'm excited that I finally remembered to actually make coffee in my Porch Coffee mug and watch the video on the morning it comes out! Have a great week!
I love hearing you talk, even when you don’t have anything specific to say. It’s comforting. You seem nice. More power to you. I’m also late diagnosed.
I don't always have the best filter. It depends what day it is! I had a bout of OCD with the hand washing rituals when I was a kid. Anyway, thanks for your channel and God bless!
I never shared anything, and I’m just getting comfortable being able to share, but I always feel like I’m getting it wrong. 😂 With movies, it’s always a Red Icee (because it tastes like flowers?), and Junior Mints used to be my one thing too! I’ve been ramping down on the sugar, so I’ll have to experiment at the next movie opportunity. For SCIENCE! Happy Porch Coffee day all! ❤
@@WoodshedTheory Where i'm from you can have them mix it together in one cup. Maybe you can ask if they will do that for you as well? Maybe it helps you say it is for SCIENCE! Lol
I really had to get over the hurdle of thinking not sharing something personal was some how lying. Austin(my autism) stil struggles with this sometimes. But everyone doesn’t need to know everything. Analog effects is why old sci-if is good. The creative solutions they came up with building sets for instance is amazing. When ever I go to a movie theater, which isn’t much those seats are really uncomfortable for me, it always hurts a bit when buying anything. It’s so darn expensive. I used to be pretty good with sugar then stuff happened and I had to start using it again. It kind of ruins the flavor of honey which I love in tea and stuff. Nothing much happens last week more gardening mostly. I need to get my body to want to exercise somehow it’s a struggle all on it’s own. Today I have another job interview we’ll see how that goes. Have a good week Claire and friends.
I agree. Not everyone needs to know everything (about you). Do you have any gardening advice? Good luck on your job interview! Wish you all the best. I hope you have a good week as well.
@@stijn2472 Yes I do I grow in high planters but before deciding on those I tried every available method to grow vegetables to find the best method for my garden.
It’s been a year since my diagnosis, and I am doing so well 😀 for the first time I know what it feels like not to mask and I know how to set boundaries 😊💗
I love having porch coffee together. This time I was out of tea, had already had an energy drink so probably don't need to b having more caffeine lol. Having those is a bad habit, I do not recommend. Good for you not always sharing everything. I've learned to not completely share everything but it's hard, it's stressful, especially if someone asks me directly about something I feel like I have to tell them and I have to tell them the truth. It doesn't even occur to me sometimes that people might not b happy with me for sharing stuff they told me. I usually don't worry that something I share will put me in a bad light because I think if it's true and it puts me in a bad light then I deserve it. Big news with me is that we bought a camper, now we just have to get it to our location and we will be living in it for at least months. Wish me luck. I'm wondering if it will feel suffocating. In my current living situation my husband and I were sleeping in the same bedroom with our 2 kids so yeah we're used to be really together like that already.
@@WoodshedTheory yeah thanks, it'll b a big change. Hopefully it doesn't upset me more than I think it will. This time I do realize ahead that I might find it difficult
This is always so enjoyable. Your sharing a little or a lot is pleasant either way. It's nice to have the routine of making a hot drink and sitting down for a moment of peace. Thank you for porch coffee time.
I’m also trying to eat better. I have too much sugar in my diet. I had a smoothie yesterday and I felt great afterwards but my husband accidentally bought an extra popcorn and we ended up having KFC after the cinema and when we were waiting around for the movie in a pub cos we went to the DIY store by the cinema and shared some curly fries with the kids at the pub so oh well. The smoothie really helped me not feel hungry. I had one this morning and I might have another but it is McDonald’s day today. The smoothie has a cup of milk, cup of water, 1/2 lemon juice from a lemon which I also squeezed on the other half of the avocado so it wouldn’t go brown, 1/4 to 1/2 avocado I use 1/2, 2 tablespoons of chia seeds and a scoop of vanilla protein powder and a handful and a half of baby spinach. I was zooming round my house yesterday cleaning I felt so good. It’s too early to say whether it will help me lose weight though.
@@WoodshedTheory it’s just under 500 calories but so helpful in staying full. It tastes sweet because of the protein powder. Almost like a vanilla milkshake. You can’t taste the greens.
Oh, to this day I'm not happy whenever someone reveals a secret to me that I cannot share. I do keep the secret but it's super stressful because I decided as a kid that honesty is the best way to go. It's just a decision I made for myself. I stuck by that. Lying is not the same as keeping secrets but it can spill over, to cover for the secret. Lies are hard to keep track of and keep straight and they stress me out, so no thanks!
@@WoodshedTheory Oh, I'm a total goodie-goodie. My husband pokes fun at me for it all the time. I think it goes along with the honesty decision. Nothing to cover up! Makes life a little easier to track, especially for a big mouth like me.
Morning and cheers ☕️ 💞👊 Still processing truth of autism for myself amongst other things dealing w health wise. Thanks for all the encouragement and shares 💞💙🙏🏻👊☕️
I love Porch Coffee so much! Smiled most of the way through it, Claire - thanks for another excellent catch up😊. My autism assessment is coming up in May and I'm getting nervous about it. It'll be a big day (and lead up). Now drafted 2 thesis chapters! 7 left to do. I hope everyone has a great week. ❤
@@WoodshedTheory thanks Claire 🤗 I had my autism assessment yesterday. I'm autistic! Diagnosed at 41. I cried for my younger self. Feel a bit tired today but I'm so grateful to now know why it's been a battle over the years. I'm also relieved it all makes sense now. I'm so grateful to your videos which really helped me to get to this point. Thank you so much. 💐🤗
Yay! Glad you're doing better! I feel you on the blue Icee story. I found out as an adult that I had become allergic to apples.😢 I got tested and everything. It has gotten more severe over the years too because it started mild but now I'll get super sick even after one bite of apple pie. So no more apples for me, even though I miss them. They also hide apple in a lot of fruit products too, like cherry Pop-Tarts. (Found out the hard way.) Oh well. I will just have to enjoy everything else as I can! You do the same.
No way! I have heard allergies can develop but apples is a weird one! I get itchy when I eat chicken but the dr said it wasn’t an allergy more of an intolerance
@@WoodshedTheory Yeah, I have a lot of allergies already (basically everything airborne plus nickel as a contact allergy) but didn't have any food allergies and felt lucky about it. Then this apple thing hit me. It started with lip swelling and was mild at first, as I could still have peeled or cooked apples in the beginning, but then it got worse. Chicken is a tough one, too. I eat so much chicken these days! I'm glad it's not a full blown allergy but keep an eye on that. At least you know to avoid it, so it doesn't sneak up on you. Not knowing triggers is such a difficult way to live!
Yes, I have the exact same problem. I have trouble when I forget the rules I use to control that information. I've become much better but I always think that every deserves to restrict who can have access to their information. So that's my justification for withholding something like that. If it's something regarding a crime then that's different if it's just something a person wants to trust me with them I try to as much as possible
I cut down my sugar intake a long time ago. And I know that I cannot handle as much sugar as I used to. It's funny. I'm drinking before bed sleepy time tea and your having morning coffee! 😂
When you don't share you are still giving so much. Having a moment of gratitude 😭 (again) for all of your videos I have watched. Thanks Claire! This video is resonant with me. Really really grateful you felt empowered and shared just what you did! I'm having some struggles right now... painful but so much dawning on me. And parenting stuff... also painful but grateful to learn. I overshare an effing lot. I'm writing my billionth reflection paper for my Masters and wondering how much I really need to give. I think sometimes it is a matter of over-explaining for fear of being misunderstood. Or doing it out of desperation to be known. Or doing it because I mix up what is me being straightforward and me being "a lot." I know "reflecting" is for me... but somehow I always manage to make it about how much the reader will know me. Exercise is tricky for me. Used to pride myself on fitness and it felt so good to be in control. BUT I also very easily go into obsessive and compulsive behaviour. It's a whole thing. So if anyone has any advice about how to avoid all or nothing thinking and behaviour around exercise, I am all ears.
I understand wanting to be understood through writing - I really struggled with that in my academic career too. I wanted people to get me and understand me - I understand now I was looking for relationship and connection
I am appalling at over-sharing, it really upsets me when I walk away going why did I feel the need to share that, all they asked was how are you? or aren't we having nice weather? But then I am really good at not talking about how I am really feeling. Terrible at not sharing other people's secrets too. Undiagnosed, only just realising I am autistic and never understood why I did this even when I didn't want to. Then I would feel terrible and ring and txt the person I told the secret to, not to say anything. Cringe!! BTW found you through your colab with Mom on the Spectrum. Love listening to your voice.
@@WoodshedTheory I have been binge-watching your porch coffees, I love them. I was also sn avid knitter but due to lupus and hypermobility issues had to stop, took up crochet, which was amazing for a while but my hands haven't let me do it for a few yrs. I love seeing your wool stashes, mine has slowly been whittled down as my 19yr daughter took up crochet at uni as a way to regulate herself on the bus etc..
You are in amazing shape! I am only halfway through this video and I have heard you say two things that you are proud of! Keeping things to yourself and climbing a hill! Bravo amazing! You are not in terrible shape you are a work in progress!
I still have issues with over sharing so I usually just keep everything to myself. People used to say not to tell me any secrets because I would just tell everyone, so now I assume I'm not supposed to tell others.
+WoodshedTheory *I **_always_** knew me as a neurodivergent, although the terminology had to wait until the 1990's.* Diagnosed with Kanner's syndrome in infancy, I've emotional disabilities that blocked me from social development, thus my no-friends status as of April 2023 - at least w/r/t in-person contacts. Hollywood turned me off decades ago - I even consider the Warner Bros. (Burbank, CA, USA) interpretation of Charles A. Lindbergh Jr., _The Spirit of St. Louis_ (New York, NY, USA: Charles Scribner's Sons, 1954), miscast - why wasn't Patrick McGoohan brought in to play the CPT. Lindbergh of the 1920's? The only feature film I like is the Lionsgate - ICON production, and Mel Gibson film, _The Passion of the Christ._
I am very self-conscious about saying the wrong thing, so sometimes I just clam up. My thing is that I find it almost impossible to lie, even to tell little "white lies". Like if a friend asks, "What do you think of my new haircut?" I know I'm supposed to say I love it even if I think it looks terrible. They can always tell if I'm not exactly honest in my response. Always. 🙂
Omg yes, I feel like I’ve gotten even worse at keeping things to myself. It’s not usually about other people, more like me giving untrustworthy people my own information that I shouldn’t. For example, I’m pursuing legal action against my workplace for discrimination, and there have been times when talking to people at work where I was way too candid and revealed too much of my evidence and strategy 😞 (Also driven by a strong sense of justice). Has there been anything that has helped you with getting to the place where you’re more able to hold in private information?
As a kid I used to overshare, really badly. Couple of tens of years of practice later, I've started to master some serious form of undersharing. I hardly tell anything to anyone. At least I consider really well what I'm telling - and this has caused me to stay mostly silent in social occasions. Anyway, it is an issue for me. I'm self dx. I kind of get why you're feeling good, not telling all at this stage.
On the theme of sharing too much... Once, not long after I had my appendix out, someone asked me about the experience of having appendicitis and how the surgery was, and for some reason, I thought it was okay to show off the scar. There were only two people present and both were also female but still. It didn't occur to me till much later that I probably shouldn't have done that.
@@WoodshedTheory A commentary on how the word season is used in both cases and the amusing absurd image of a bespectacled grey suited accountant mounted on horseback armed with a rifle and hounds chasing the poor fleeing paperwork.
I hope everyone is having a great week so far. Later this morning, I'm taking my daughter to the pediatrician to talk about whether or not she's autistic. She has turned two now and is exhibiting a lot of traits so I suspect we're going to walk out of that office with a diagnosis for her today, which would bring our total number of autistic kids up to three (out of three). But I'm still waiting on the results of my own assessment.
@@WoodshedTheory She got diagnosed! At 25 months old! I am in shock, not that she's autistic but that she's diagnosed so young. I thought my niece was insanely lucky to get her diagnosis at 15, but this! It gives me hope for the next generation of autistic girls. Maybe the system will stop failing so many of us.
@@madberry Thanks for the good wishes! I expect to hear back within the next month or so. I don't know if it's going to strengthen my case to have three out of three kids diagnosed (my daughter did get diagnosed today), but at this point, I'm thinking, how can I NOT be autistic? My kids remind me of myself at every turn.
@@sueannevangalen5186 Yeah the genetics should definitely be a strong factor in the determination of you own autism. I’ve been having some self diagnosis discussions on other sites. I keep telling people inaccurate self diagnosis is uncommon. Plus no one really diagnoses themselves for fun. This is where I got the quote: “In our experience at the University of Washington Autism Center, many professionals are not informed about the variety of ways that autism can appear, and often doubt an autistic person’s accurate self- diagnosis. In contrast, inaccurate self-diagnosis of autism appears to be uncommon. We believe that if you have carefully researched the topic and strongly resonate with the experience of the autistic community, you are probably autistic.” It’s from a brochure they give out.
Are used to blurt things out when I was a little kid! I also hate tax season because I hate forms and I hate deadlines. I need to get into shape too but the only way I can do that just to get both knees replaced I can barely walk. I want to walk my little dog so bad when the weather is fine.I told my doctor I think I’m autistic and he just blew me off, didn’t reply , didn’t acknowledge what I said anybody else have that happen to them?
I had to insist that they send me to a therapist for an evaluation. Then I got to a therapist that didn’t really want to do any assessment. Eventually I got to my current therapist who did the evaluation even though it was pretty obvious after a few sessions that I was on the spectrum. She didn’t believe in labels and again I insisted she give me the label. Doctors are supposed to help you sometimes it takes persistence to get the help you need.
My diagnosis is upcoming. Mine is a little different with secrets? When people tell me secrets, I almost instantly forget about them? So, I don't know if that's a benefit or a hindrance.
I'm sorry, I won't buy a mug because it's not the kind of mug that I like, I'm really particular about my mug LOL and I don't drink coffee, I drink Milo (I drink it hot and it's a chocolate flavour and it's made from barley, got vitamins and minerals in it) Caffeine makes me feel awful, like the sugar did to you
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Realising I was autistic was the best thing that ever happened to me.
I'm angry that I wasn't diagnosed until age 49. Now 52. How could my family ignore the signs and not help when I was younger?
@@keithbarbaro7590 I self diagnosed at 55 now 67 and no-one helped the younger me either.The autistic kids of today are so much luckier in that respect.
@peter nicholson are you in the US? I am. Awareness only increased in recent years. Many reasons why. Still I blame my mother for not doing something. I never looked at her. I never looked at people during conversations. I was immature for my age. She had no parenting skills. I was raised like a lap dog.
I got diagnosed at age 47 last year. My mom was very involved with my struggles in school. The diagnosis never came up mostly because for years only the stereotypical cases of autism where diagnosed. In the 80’s for instance psychology professors would often skip the autism chapter in textbooks. This was because autism was deemed so rare the changes of coming a crossed someone with autism where thought to be slim. In the 90’s autism was first seen as a disability and a diagnosis becomes more prevalent because more is known about the spectrum.
@@keithbarbaro7590 I am British and there was zero awareness anywhere when I was a kid.I try not to blame anyone more for my own sake more than anyone else's.I've done that and it doesn't help me move on.
I got my "official" autism diagnosis this past week. The validation feels good. I am also feeling good because I got a job promotion and get to work from home now. I hope everyone has a great week ❤
Congrats on the promotion and the diagnosis. Working from home solves a lot of the social problems.
A diagnosis and a promotion! Congratulations 🎉🎊
Congrats! That's awesome!
congrats on your diagnotion
Congratulations with your promotion!
I got my diagnosis last week too, but now I'm really confused and I feel like my autism is far from as serious as it is for others, because I've like never had a real melt- or shutdown and I don't feel like I've been masking my whole life either- I hope I can come to see myself as an actually autistic person soon
"more empowered about choosing my own behaviours"
I LOVE that 🙌💖🙏💕
Thank you 🙏 I agreeeee
Hi Claire. Oversharing is so annoying, and I can't stop it. I think it's an attempt to create intimacy, which is always safer for me than chit chat... But it's difficult. And it's lovely to see you and that you choose what and what not, and the extent of which you share. Love to you
Absolutely! Over sharing is so annoying!
Friend, I am happy to see you
You too!
Yay, Porch Coffee..!!! And my mug came !
So exciting! I get a notification when they are shipped and I always get excited
I was the opposite. I didn’t want to share private info and didn’t know what was private so I never shared anything just in case. I don’t know what caused me to be like that, perhaps bad experiences or observations of others. I had a lot going on as a teen and never told anyone. I think the opposite is also true, if you never share anything to the extreme then people also don’t feel like they know you and it’s difficult to make friendships.
Relate to that !
Yes I can relate to this as I got older - sometimes I get scared to share anything in case I mess something up
I'm a small business owner and hired a CPA to do my taxes for the first time ever this year. It was more affordable than I realized and SO worth it!! This has been the most easy breezy tax season of my adult life. Highly recommend if it's usually stressful for you ☺
I will probably consider this myself next year...I am getting very close to six figure income and multiple jobs so its becoming more difficult
I think next year I will be ready to graduate to a cpa for sure
@@WoodshedTheory Yes! You deserve it :)
I was diagnosed at age 50 now at 52 I feel very free knowing my brain isn't broken. That I am who I am and not going to have to explain myself anymore.
yes i love knowing i am glad things are better for you
Hello :) I also love coffee & find taxes stressful! I figured out I'm autistic & ADHD at 34yrs old & got an official diagnostic test lined up in the next couple of months which I'm super excited about! Also nervous haha. Figured it out from watching late diagnosed people sharing their experiences here on youtube, just like you are :) So thanks for putting these videos out here :)
i am happy to have you
As a hardcore social and cognitive introvert, my default setting is actually to hold in just about everything (and I've been reprimanded by family for doing so), but I also suffer from the same black and white thinking and have a tendency to make all the data I've ever collected "public domain" once I'm comfortable around whoever it is. I seem to struggle to understand the grey areas between 100% privacy and oversharing everything about yourself and things you know.
Yes I get it. I struggle with this.
This was so comforting to watch 🙏🏻😊
You are a beautiful energy ❤
That is such a sweet thing to say, thank you!
Yes! Yes! I couldn’t keep my mouth shut, no matter how hard I tried. I was awful. When I found out who I was, autistic, I didn’t need to talk anymore. I still have trouble with what to say, what’s appropriate, but I only say what I have to now and I’m much happier.
I’m so glad you get it! Sometimes it can feel really lonely
Hope you have a great week Claire and friends! 💞
Thanks! Hope you have a great week as well!
hey there same to you friend!😄
Have an awesome week
Not formally diagnosed yet, but the self-realization and the unofficial validation from a therapist has been liberating as fuck.
I get it!
The mugs are fun ! As well as stylish ! 😊
Thanks 🙏
I'm Shaun, 53 in the UK. I received my diagnosis in November last year. Whilst it was reassuring in as much I now understand why I have done things in the past and still do, I'm still trying to get head around things
i am three or four years in and it's still hard
It's like I finally plugged in the game controller and I can see the HUD.
OH! HIGH PEOPLE ENERGY DETECTED, commencing cocoon mode gogogo!
I've actually touched peace a couple times this week! Sometimes my nervous system is so chill it just disgorges stored trauma and I feel safe doing it.
I understand I have stored up trauma in working through as well it’s a lot
@@WoodshedTheory I’ve explored an avenue that teaches to turn trauma into mindfulness, compassion and understanding! I feel like I’m finally digesting it, and become lighter day by day! I listened to so much Thich Nhat Hanh I’m a part time Buddha now! Thank you for everything you do it’s been very helpful and healing!
Big junior mints fan 😊
Love jr mints
Great video. Us aspies attract predatory narcissists so it's best to be quiet.
As for exercise I go minimalist. You don't want to build up lactic acid.
Oh that’s a good point!
@Woodshed Theory some experts say autism is caused by mitochondrial disorder. If that is true lactic acid is bad. I do short sprints. Never more than 30 yards. Or short stair sprints.
Don't be hard on yourself, offer yourself grace. That being said working to be healthier is always a great goal. Stick with it, it is worth it.
Thanks for the encouragement
💯 with you on practical effects in movies!!!!! Some CG is necessary, sure, but practical is very inspiring.
Yes! I love seeing the costumes etc
I'm posting the thank-you letter I just sent my doctor for reffering me for autism asessemnt. It says everything about why autism diagnosis is critical:
"Dr Marsee:
It's been over a year since you referred me to Emily London / Dr. Gallo for autism assessment. Dr. Gallo related to me that some people question the utility of late autism assessment and diagnosis.
"What's the point?" they say
If anyone ever says that to you, please tell them this for me:
Imagine being blind and not knowing it. Successful autistic living depends on proper support, same as living with any disabling condition. Proper diagnosis enables autistic people to recognize, embrace and support their autism.
It enables society to do the same. Mental health professionals most of all. I find that people often don't believe I'm autistic. Now I can say "Yes - I am. It's part of my medical record, along with the devestating mental health issues Undiagnosed and unsupported autism created. The autism diagnosis effectively cured me of them all, because my life makes sense and has meaning for me now.
Improper or absent diagnosis means improper and absent support. That hurts everyone.
So thanks for the referral Dr. Marsee
=)
Bill Hogan"
Thank you for sharing the letter it’s great
I wholeheartedly agree. I had to fight a little to get a diagnosis but it was totally worth it. Especially if it helps me to resist becoming a statistic.
Well, I appreciate you!,it’s so nice to have someone who understands what I/ we go through. I can relate to the oversharing thing. It took me awhile but I don’t share nearly as much as I used to and it is definitely empowering. I’m working on some things as well. We will get there! Hope everyone has a good week!
I appreciate you!
@@WoodshedTheory 😊
I just didn't say anything as a child for the most part. Then when I did start speaking up, I would get it very wrong. Then I would freeze and not be able to explain or stand up for myself. I lost a lot of friendships in my teen years.
Stevie thanks for sharing. I feel for you cause I really struggled with friendships too.
Used to be if someone mentioned 'personal stuff' or anything private I'd be like - what's that secret then & have burning curiosity. Thankfully I'm over that now. I also wonder if there was a 'feeling left out (again)' scenario involved too.
So glad I don't have to do tax anymore.
Yep - you get to choose... 27 teaspoons of sugar. Wow! but also you chose exercise, yay.
No idea what I'm doing this week other than 1st bike night of the yr on Thurs evening & still waiting for replacement indicators, grrr.
Enjoy bike night!
Good morning, have a great day Claire! I have to say, I’m pretty thankful I don’t like icees lol 😂
Haha I love ‘em!
During group therapy part of my internal dialogue spilled out. My very own "Hot Mic" moment. I believe I'm the only diagnosed neurodivergent in the group. (I believe someone may be undiagnosed. 😇) I'm like a bull in a China shop, so I have to be exceedingly careful around the Allistics, and it can be a little draining.
A genuine pleasure waking up this morning and seeing your new post. Thank you, Ms. Claire. - 🎩
I wonder is group therapy an ok place to over share? I feel like that is the purpose of therapy but I could be wrong. Thoughts?
@@WoodshedTheory I was thinking about how one of the members of the group had beautiful eyes and instead of going into the "fact file" it came shooting out my mouth before I could hit the brakes.
Inappropriate and deeply embarrassing.
😓😰
27 teaspoons of sugar in ONE drink! I don't think I have ever heard of that before. Or are milkshakes even worse?
About oversharing information with people. No, I actually have quite the opposite of that. In the past I have had it happen multiple times that people would share private information with others that I shared too them in private in order too mock me or make fun of me, or too get on the good side of other people (at the cost of me). After that I learned too not trust anyone. Not even my parents (I was a kid at the time, so quite a big deal). I took me many years (until I went to university) before I slowly started trusting people, but only a handful of people at the time. But too this day I still have a policy that everything that someone tells me in private I assume is a secret, even the most mundane things (like getting a low grade on an exam). I do not want other people to experience the same things I have, soo I will do my very best too prevent that.
Interesting I got more like this in adulthood because I feel like I’m not great at what is ok to share so I just don’t share.
@@WoodshedTheory I think that is a good idea.
What I also find out works is to ask them if you can share it. When I forget to ask this I will simply assume it is private. This way no harm is done (in my experience).
Always a pleasure to see you Claire! Swapping my coffee for matcha tea today :)
My week is...a bit of a mixed bag. I went out and had fun, definitely enjoyed the warmer temps here in ATL! But then...I got ANOTHER stomach bug that has wiped me out. I still went to work and can somewhat function, but I'm cursing the heavens for making everything 1000x harder for me (and other neurodivergent folx) For me, when I am unwell, my ADHD/brain fog/lack of focus is sooo terrible even if my energy is good. This leads to executive dysfunction, decision paralysis, and then just frustrates me into feeling sorry for myself and I don't do anything. And I REALLY can't afford to be sick and unwell all the time (oh yeah got my 1st covid infection in Feb. still recovering...that was fun) Idk, this year so far is filled with tragedy and triumphs....which I guess is how all my years go???LOL such is life.
I'm glad you and hubby made time for date night! So important to step out of our routines to enjoy time with our favorite people. LOL I loved the red ICEE as a kid, LOVEE Buttery Popcorn! But yeah I can't tolerate sugar anymore either the older I get....have to pick my vices wisely. Ugh, TAXES. I just finished mine, it wasn't as bad as I expected but not fun either. Didn't mean to wait this late either but stuff happened (see aforementioned health struggles). I hope I never become too successful lol as I have no aptitude for understanding finances and economics....Great catching up with you! hope you continue to feel better
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I wonder if asd get sick more? I’m sorry about your stomach bug that sucks
Nice new green color for the title. Matches your hair perfectly 🙃
Thanks!
Love you and your channel, Claire ❤
thank you for the support
I had a meltdown when i had to do my taxes on Sunday. I hope someday that I can feel free to share things with others ... Currently in my life it just feels so isolating, that i can't express or manifrst my internal world to others in a way they would understand.
I’ve def had tax meltdowns so I’m sorry you had one too it’s terrible
I’m definitely guilty of having a few tax meltdowns mostly because it always feels like I’m too late. I still have to do 2021 for instance lol that one got away from me.
I recognize the feeling of isolation after a few bad experiences of over sharing I had the same thing happen. It will either pass or you’ll find a person you are able to safely share with. It takes time.
I personally am very good at keeping things private and will take that shit to the grave with me 😅 I’m sure as a kid/tween that may have not always been the case, but I don’t recall.
Thanks for the reminder to take better care of our bodies! I’ve been getting better at wanting to “get in shape” less for appearance reasons but because I’m not getting younger and my body is worth keeping healthy and strong.
Yes I understand I just want to be able to walk up a hill and look at the view
i love when you sing!!
thank you :)
Yes, yes, yes.
welcome
I relate so much to the fitness thing. What you said was actually pretty powerful. I'm going to rewrite it as an affirmation: "My body is not in good shape, and that is not what I want for myself. I'm not going to be hard on myself because this body has gotten me through a lot of things, but I'd like to make some positive changes to have a healthier body."
I feel like I need to print that out and post it. I did unplanned walking this weekend and I think that did me good. I'm noticing more pain in my body lately, particularly in my back and I recognize that movement would be the best thing for my body, but I also struggle with overwhelm and always want to go from doing nothing to do all the things. I really need to create some sort of movement routine, but ADHD...
I also got my taxes done this Friday! For me it was the last year of having the complexity of paying taxes on what I inherited from my mom's retirement account which was spread over 3 years. It feels good to have that complete, but grief is a weird thing. It feels like a final task, and yet I know there will still be more "final tasks" and that grieving will never actually be "done".
I'm excited that I finally remembered to actually make coffee in my Porch Coffee mug and watch the video on the morning it comes out!
Have a great week!
I’m so glad it was helpful!
Im glad you are feeling good. I can hold secrets to myself pretty well.
Thanks for sharing
I love hearing you talk, even when you don’t have anything specific to say. It’s comforting. You seem nice. More power to you. I’m also late diagnosed.
I appreciate that
I don't always have the best filter. It depends what day it is! I had a bout of OCD with the hand washing rituals when I was a kid. Anyway, thanks for your channel and God bless!
I went through hand washing ocd as a child as well as well as other things
I never shared anything, and I’m just getting comfortable being able to share, but I always feel like I’m getting it wrong. 😂 With movies, it’s always a Red Icee (because it tastes like flowers?), and Junior Mints used to be my one thing too! I’ve been ramping down on the sugar, so I’ll have to experiment at the next movie opportunity. For SCIENCE! Happy Porch Coffee day all! ❤
I always want to try red icee but that would mean not having a blue icee
@@WoodshedTheory Where i'm from you can have them mix it together in one cup. Maybe you can ask if they will do that for you as well?
Maybe it helps you say it is for SCIENCE! Lol
I love how you said that you try not to be hard on yourself because your body has gotten you through so much, that is a good mindset
Thanks I think so too
I am autistic, and YES! I totally have this struggle! And yes, diagnosis is helping me make peace with _not_ saying everything.
Also, we should do taxes like the Faroe Islands. Very easy and efficient!
Exactly!
I really had to get over the hurdle of thinking not sharing something personal was some how lying. Austin(my autism) stil struggles with this sometimes. But everyone doesn’t need to know everything.
Analog effects is why old sci-if is good. The creative solutions they came up with building sets for instance is amazing.
When ever I go to a movie theater, which isn’t much those seats are really uncomfortable for me, it always hurts a bit when buying anything. It’s so darn expensive. I used to be pretty good with sugar then stuff happened and I had to start using it again. It kind of ruins the flavor of honey which I love in tea and stuff.
Nothing much happens last week more gardening mostly.
I need to get my body to want to exercise somehow it’s a struggle all on it’s own.
Today I have another job interview we’ll see how that goes. Have a good week Claire and friends.
I agree. Not everyone needs to know everything (about you).
Do you have any gardening advice?
Good luck on your job interview! Wish you all the best.
I hope you have a good week as well.
@@stijn2472 Hey Stijn, yeah I have a ton of gardening advice. What would you like to know? I do tend to not follow the standard gardening rules.
Good luck with the interview!
@@madberry Awesome! Do you also happen to have a vegetable garden?
@@stijn2472 Yes I do I grow in high planters but before deciding on those I tried every available method to grow vegetables to find the best method for my garden.
It’s been a year since my diagnosis, and I am doing so well 😀 for the first time I know what it feels like not to mask and I know how to set boundaries 😊💗
Thank you for sharing - it’s so encouraging to hear you’re doing well.
Sweet screen name
I love having porch coffee together. This time I was out of tea, had already had an energy drink so probably don't need to b having more caffeine lol. Having those is a bad habit, I do not recommend.
Good for you not always sharing everything. I've learned to not completely share everything but it's hard, it's stressful, especially if someone asks me directly about something I feel like I have to tell them and I have to tell them the truth. It doesn't even occur to me sometimes that people might not b happy with me for sharing stuff they told me. I usually don't worry that something I share will put me in a bad light because I think if it's true and it puts me in a bad light then I deserve it.
Big news with me is that we bought a camper, now we just have to get it to our location and we will be living in it for at least months. Wish me luck. I'm wondering if it will feel suffocating. In my current living situation my husband and I were sleeping in the same bedroom with our 2 kids so yeah we're used to be really together like that already.
Congrats on the new camper
@@WoodshedTheory yeah thanks, it'll b a big change. Hopefully it doesn't upset me more than I think it will. This time I do realize ahead that I might find it difficult
Icee whyyy?? That’s CRAZY how much sugar they have!!!
Great video- nice “hanging out” as always 😉
Why icee whhhyyyyy
This is always so enjoyable. Your sharing a little or a lot is pleasant either way. It's nice to have the routine of making a hot drink and sitting down for a moment of peace. Thank you for porch coffee time.
Have a great week!
I’m also trying to eat better. I have too much sugar in my diet. I had a smoothie yesterday and I felt great afterwards but my husband accidentally bought an extra popcorn and we ended up having KFC after the cinema and when we were waiting around for the movie in a pub cos we went to the DIY store by the cinema and shared some curly fries with the kids at the pub so oh well.
The smoothie really helped me not feel hungry. I had one this morning and I might have another but it is McDonald’s day today.
The smoothie has a cup of milk, cup of water, 1/2 lemon juice from a lemon which I also squeezed on the other half of the avocado so it wouldn’t go brown, 1/4 to 1/2 avocado I use 1/2, 2 tablespoons of chia seeds and a scoop of vanilla protein powder and a handful and a half of baby spinach.
I was zooming round my house yesterday cleaning I felt so good. It’s too early to say whether it will help me lose weight though.
Smoothie sounds good
@@WoodshedTheory it’s just under 500 calories but so helpful in staying full. It tastes sweet because of the protein powder. Almost like a vanilla milkshake. You can’t taste the greens.
Oh, to this day I'm not happy whenever someone reveals a secret to me that I cannot share. I do keep the secret but it's super stressful because I decided as a kid that honesty is the best way to go. It's just a decision I made for myself. I stuck by that. Lying is not the same as keeping secrets but it can spill over, to cover for the secret. Lies are hard to keep track of and keep straight and they stress me out, so no thanks!
Right!?!? ESP if it is something that breaks a rule even a little I’m like sweating lol
@@WoodshedTheory Oh, I'm a total goodie-goodie. My husband pokes fun at me for it all the time. I think it goes along with the honesty decision. Nothing to cover up! Makes life a little easier to track, especially for a big mouth like me.
Morning and cheers ☕️ 💞👊 Still processing truth of autism for myself amongst other things dealing w health wise. Thanks for all the encouragement and shares 💞💙🙏🏻👊☕️
Remember to be kind to yourself
I love Porch Coffee so much! Smiled most of the way through it, Claire - thanks for another excellent catch up😊. My autism assessment is coming up in May and I'm getting nervous about it. It'll be a big day (and lead up).
Now drafted 2 thesis chapters! 7 left to do. I hope everyone has a great week. ❤
proud of your hard work!
@@WoodshedTheory thanks Claire 🤗 I had my autism assessment yesterday. I'm autistic! Diagnosed at 41. I cried for my younger self. Feel a bit tired today but I'm so grateful to now know why it's been a battle over the years. I'm also relieved it all makes sense now. I'm so grateful to your videos which really helped me to get to this point. Thank you so much. 💐🤗
Yay! Glad you're doing better!
I feel you on the blue Icee story. I found out as an adult that I had become allergic to apples.😢 I got tested and everything. It has gotten more severe over the years too because it started mild but now I'll get super sick even after one bite of apple pie. So no more apples for me, even though I miss them. They also hide apple in a lot of fruit products too, like cherry Pop-Tarts. (Found out the hard way.) Oh well. I will just have to enjoy everything else as I can! You do the same.
No way! I have heard allergies can develop but apples is a weird one! I get itchy when I eat chicken but the dr said it wasn’t an allergy more of an intolerance
@@WoodshedTheory Yeah, I have a lot of allergies already (basically everything airborne plus nickel as a contact allergy) but didn't have any food allergies and felt lucky about it. Then this apple thing hit me. It started with lip swelling and was mild at first, as I could still have peeled or cooked apples in the beginning, but then it got worse.
Chicken is a tough one, too. I eat so much chicken these days! I'm glad it's not a full blown allergy but keep an eye on that. At least you know to avoid it, so it doesn't sneak up on you. Not knowing triggers is such a difficult way to live!
It’s always good to see you 😁. I’m glad you’re taking time for yourself.
You’re awesome! Thanks for always being supportive
Thank you for sharing 🙏
Thanks for listening
I'm waiting until the camping coffee mugs come in colours like dark green, red or blue. Sorry Claire but I have an aversion to white cups lol ☕😱😅😂🤣
Oh that would be nice! If the company I use to print them gets that option I will def include them for you!
Thank you so much 🤗❤⚔️🔥🐎
Yes, I have the exact same problem. I have trouble when I forget the rules I use to control that information. I've become much better but I always think that every deserves to restrict who can have access to their information. So that's my justification for withholding something like that. If it's something regarding a crime then that's different if it's just something a person wants to trust me with them I try to as much as possible
Cool
I cut down my sugar intake a long time ago. And I know that I cannot handle as much sugar as I used to.
It's funny. I'm drinking before bed sleepy time tea and your having morning coffee! 😂
Ahh that is funny! All beverages welcome lol
When you don't share you are still giving so much. Having a moment of gratitude 😭 (again) for all of your videos I have watched. Thanks Claire! This video is resonant with me. Really really grateful you felt empowered and shared just what you did!
I'm having some struggles right now... painful but so much dawning on me. And parenting stuff... also painful but grateful to learn.
I overshare an effing lot. I'm writing my billionth reflection paper for my Masters and wondering how much I really need to give. I think sometimes it is a matter of over-explaining for fear of being misunderstood. Or doing it out of desperation to be known. Or doing it because I mix up what is me being straightforward and me being "a lot." I know "reflecting" is for me... but somehow I always manage to make it about how much the reader will know me.
Exercise is tricky for me. Used to pride myself on fitness and it felt so good to be in control. BUT I also very easily go into obsessive and compulsive behaviour. It's a whole thing. So if anyone has any advice about how to avoid all or nothing thinking and behaviour around exercise, I am all ears.
I understand wanting to be understood through writing - I really struggled with that in my academic career too. I wanted people to get me and understand me - I understand now I was looking for relationship and connection
Oh also I get the ocd stuff with exercise - i need to be careful with that too
I am appalling at over-sharing, it really upsets me when I walk away going why did I feel the need to share that, all they asked was how are you? or aren't we having nice weather? But then I am really good at not talking about how I am really feeling. Terrible at not sharing other people's secrets too. Undiagnosed, only just realising I am autistic and never understood why I did this even when I didn't want to. Then I would feel terrible and ring and txt the person I told the secret to, not to say anything. Cringe!! BTW found you through your colab with Mom on the Spectrum. Love listening to your voice.
Thanks for coming over from Taylor! I feel you on this, I have gotten a lot better at not oversharing but I still mess up.
@@WoodshedTheory I have been binge-watching your porch coffees, I love them. I was also sn avid knitter but due to lupus and hypermobility issues had to stop, took up crochet, which was amazing for a while but my hands haven't let me do it for a few yrs. I love seeing your wool stashes, mine has slowly been whittled down as my 19yr daughter took up crochet at uni as a way to regulate herself on the bus etc..
You are in amazing shape! I am only halfway through this video and I have heard you say two things that you are proud of! Keeping things to yourself and climbing a hill! Bravo amazing! You are not in terrible shape you are a work in progress!
Thanks that is so sweet! You are so right, I am proud of myself!
PS. This morning when I woke up the first thing I thought of was porch coffee!
I love your approach, you're quite nice to watch, cheers!
Thanks that’s awesome
I still have issues with over sharing so I usually just keep everything to myself. People used to say not to tell me any secrets because I would just tell everyone, so now I assume I'm not supposed to tell others.
Yes I have struggled with this too
I'm a terrible at keeping quiet about things !
i've come a long way myself
+WoodshedTheory *I **_always_** knew me as a neurodivergent, although the terminology had to wait until the 1990's.* Diagnosed with Kanner's syndrome in infancy, I've emotional disabilities that blocked me from social development, thus my no-friends status as of April 2023 - at least w/r/t in-person contacts.
Hollywood turned me off decades ago - I even consider the Warner Bros. (Burbank, CA, USA) interpretation of Charles A. Lindbergh Jr., _The Spirit of St. Louis_ (New York, NY, USA: Charles Scribner's Sons, 1954), miscast - why wasn't Patrick McGoohan brought in to play the CPT. Lindbergh of the 1920's? The only feature film I like is the Lionsgate - ICON production, and Mel Gibson film, _The Passion of the Christ._
Thanks for sharing.
I am very self-conscious about saying the wrong thing, so sometimes I just clam up. My thing is that I find it almost impossible to lie, even to tell little "white lies". Like if a friend asks, "What do you think of my new haircut?" I know I'm supposed to say I love it even if I think it looks terrible. They can always tell if I'm not exactly honest in my response. Always. 🙂
I am the same I hate to lie about anything
Yup same, I just try to not comment if I'm not asked and it's not nice, like not liking the hair cut or something like that
Woodshed Theory. I thought that 47 was the number of cups of coffee which you drank! X
Haha no but I do drink A LOT of coffee. I think we are are 93-94 porch coffees
Omg yes, I feel like I’ve gotten even worse at keeping things to myself. It’s not usually about other people, more like me giving untrustworthy people my own information that I shouldn’t. For example, I’m pursuing legal action against my workplace for discrimination, and there have been times when talking to people at work where I was way too candid and revealed too much of my evidence and strategy 😞 (Also driven by a strong sense of justice). Has there been anything that has helped you with getting to the place where you’re more able to hold in private information?
I think being able to self reflect and also working on the anxiety I was feeling behind over sharing has helped me
@@WoodshedTheory Thanks 💜 That makes sense. My increase in over sharing does seem to have coincided with the increase I’ve had lately in anxiety.
As a kid I used to overshare, really badly. Couple of tens of years of practice later, I've started to master some serious form of undersharing. I hardly tell anything to anyone. At least I consider really well what I'm telling - and this has caused me to stay mostly silent in social occasions. Anyway, it is an issue for me. I'm self dx.
I kind of get why you're feeling good, not telling all at this stage.
Our experience sounds very similar
Hi Claire, by the end of this month I should get my diagnosis.
I am excited for your next chapter
@@WoodshedTheory Thank you.
Nice time for a new chapter with knowledge in hand.
Blue Slush Puppies for the win! Like you, I can't handle a large one any more - the sugar does awful things to my body =/
It was an intense headache
On the theme of sharing too much... Once, not long after I had my appendix out, someone asked me about the experience of having appendicitis and how the surgery was, and for some reason, I thought it was okay to show off the scar. There were only two people present and both were also female but still. It didn't occur to me till much later that I probably shouldn't have done that.
Yeah I would have done the same
@@WoodshedTheory 😂 Yeah, that sort of thing happens
Yeah I might have too
Dear season is where people hunt deer, tax season is where people hunt taxes.
I’m not sure I get this comment but ok!
@@WoodshedTheory A commentary on how the word season is used in both cases and the amusing absurd image of a bespectacled grey suited accountant mounted on horseback armed with a rifle and hounds chasing the poor fleeing paperwork.
I hope everyone is having a great week so far. Later this morning, I'm taking my daughter to the pediatrician to talk about whether or not she's autistic. She has turned two now and is exhibiting a lot of traits so I suspect we're going to walk out of that office with a diagnosis for her today, which would bring our total number of autistic kids up to three (out of three). But I'm still waiting on the results of my own assessment.
I hope things go well at the dr.
Good luck at the DR. hoping your own assessment results will come in sooner rather then later.
@@WoodshedTheory She got diagnosed! At 25 months old! I am in shock, not that she's autistic but that she's diagnosed so young. I thought my niece was insanely lucky to get her diagnosis at 15, but this! It gives me hope for the next generation of autistic girls. Maybe the system will stop failing so many of us.
@@madberry Thanks for the good wishes! I expect to hear back within the next month or so. I don't know if it's going to strengthen my case to have three out of three kids diagnosed (my daughter did get diagnosed today), but at this point, I'm thinking, how can I NOT be autistic? My kids remind me of myself at every turn.
@@sueannevangalen5186 Yeah the genetics should definitely be a strong factor in the determination of you own autism. I’ve been having some self diagnosis discussions on other sites. I keep telling people inaccurate self diagnosis is uncommon. Plus no one really diagnoses themselves for fun. This is where I got the quote:
“In our experience at the University of Washington Autism Center, many professionals are not informed about the variety of ways that autism can appear, and often doubt an autistic person’s accurate self- diagnosis. In contrast, inaccurate self-diagnosis of autism appears to be uncommon. We believe that if you have carefully researched the topic and strongly resonate with the experience of the autistic community, you are probably autistic.” It’s from a brochure they give out.
Are used to blurt things out when I was a little kid! I also hate tax season because I hate forms and I hate deadlines. I need to get into shape too but the only way I can do that just to get both knees replaced I can barely walk. I want to walk my little dog so bad when the weather is fine.I told my doctor I think I’m autistic and he just blew me off, didn’t reply , didn’t acknowledge what I said anybody else have that happen to them?
I had to insist that they send me to a therapist for an evaluation. Then I got to a therapist that didn’t really want to do any assessment. Eventually I got to my current therapist who did the evaluation even though it was pretty obvious after a few sessions that I was on the spectrum. She didn’t believe in labels and again I insisted she give me the label. Doctors are supposed to help you sometimes it takes persistence to get the help you need.
I’m sorry your dr blew you off that isn’t right
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My diagnosis is upcoming. Mine is a little different with secrets? When people tell me secrets, I almost instantly forget about them? So, I don't know if that's a benefit or a hindrance.
Interesting I struggle to remember things too but if my anxiety pegs it as an issue then I am hyper aware of it forever
@@WoodshedTheory Which, of course, isn't up to us what the brain chooses to retain.
Sugar once in a while is not bad but it can be addictive that's the problem. Its better to stick to natural fruit sugars.
agreed
I found a friend?
i hope so!
what is an icey?
it's like a slushy if that makes sense lol
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I'm sorry, I won't buy a mug because it's not the kind of mug that I like, I'm really particular about my mug LOL and I don't drink coffee, I drink Milo (I drink it hot and it's a chocolate flavour and it's made from barley, got vitamins and minerals in it)
Caffeine makes me feel awful, like the sugar did to you
Milo sounds interesting I’ll have to try it. 8 vitamins and minerals can’t hurt.
You never need to be sorry about the mugs! No pressure! I am only happy to have you here and watching and commenting.