I have felt this way for most of my life, starting more intensely in my adolescence. I still struggle with this from time to time. But I think it has a lot to do with my energy level. Am I getting enough rest? Am I eating good foods and getting plenty of nutrients? Am I getting enough exercise and activity? Am I taking time out for myself to enjoy my hobbies and interests? These are some of many questions I have to ask myself. As an adult, life has many demands, and being a person who cares and has goals and desires can make that feel like a heavy burden sometimes. Balance is key for me. I have to have a healthy balance with all of the things that matter to me, whether that be work, money, time to myself, or time with my family. It really helps me to take time to myself and work out all the priorities and sort of iron out all the wrinkles and feathers that have been ruffled by the intensity of life and the fast flow. I have to learn to slow the current down to my own speed that I am comfortable with and get into that flow, rather than always trying to play catchup
Yes, I agree with you, I'm almost crazy, my head is noisy and I don't do anything, I always stop in the middle of the road when pursuing something, even I'm still confused about what my hobby is.
When you went from seeing yourself as a rouge to a healer, that is such a great tip. As an INFP male I used to see myself this way too; in an effort to feel calmer and more "in control" of my emotions, I shut myself down. But it's like rolling at disadvantage for Charisma. It's not us. When you accept you're a healer it unlocks your magnetism as an INFP, I've found. INFP guys take note especially as I think we struggle with this aspect!
I normally prefer the strong "alpha male" types but met an infp that I thought might have been interested in me and he started to grow on me. Only problem was that he was a kind, helpful, empathetic healer to everyone except me (everyone adored him) but with me he devolved into a pathetic, needy, weak, infantile, entitled brat who wanted to be mothered and babied. A huge turnoff, it's hard to be attracted to a man that acts like a 2 yr. old girl/burden. If the INFP is undervalued it's because they're investing their efforts in the wrong people and places...To be honest its not a type I understand well. The impression I have is that most men want to be their wives' masculine hero but the INFP seems to want to be masculine and heroic with strangers but effeminate and infantile with their wives. It seems like male INFPs don't bring anything of value at least to romantic relationships.
This video resonates with me. Belief I’m gonna fail at the thing I want, worthlessness, and a belief that being happy will come at a very high cost. All that good stuff 😅
Deep stuff this. Your journey to being a healer type is one well worth a true INFP or any set of alphabet for that matter. Love the image of a gathering of friends around a bonfire where we exhibit/share gifts among our humanity. Great to be on the right path.
I have a small handful of amazing friends that I can connect with. I love being an INFP because I enjoy living in my head. Life is short. Enjoy the magic of it all
Thank you, Matt ! This video is a validation and trigger warning at the same time. In the nutshell, you have put a conclusion on my entire life story as the marginal INFP from childhood until now.
Sometimes others feel undervalued too and their perspective of others including the INFP comes across offkey, sending us those bad vibes. Not infrequently others are trying to survive by advancing at work and they become embattled with coworkers often without letting on why. Once this happened to me at work where a coworker thought I was going for “her spot” even tho I had not applied. Boy was I mad when I found out because not only that but the supervisor played favorites on top of that. I went to her supervisor and let them know this is not an acceptable way to behave with long time colleagues who must trust one another to do the work instead allowing schisms to ruin a solid team. And our supervisor was like OH. Because geez.
I always just get ignored all the time. Like even if in the line for food, people often forget i was there, its infuriating sometimes but I just accepted that. Theres nothing i can do about it.
I have felt this way for most of my life, starting more intensely in my adolescence. I still struggle with this from time to time. But I think it has a lot to do with my energy level. Am I getting enough rest? Am I eating good foods and getting plenty of nutrients? Am I getting enough exercise and activity? Am I taking time out for myself to enjoy my hobbies and interests? These are some of many questions I have to ask myself. As an adult, life has many demands, and being a person who cares and has goals and desires can make that feel like a heavy burden sometimes. Balance is key for me. I have to have a healthy balance with all of the things that matter to me, whether that be work, money, time to myself, or time with my family. It really helps me to take time to myself and work out all the priorities and sort of iron out all the wrinkles and feathers that have been ruffled by the intensity of life and the fast flow. I have to learn to slow the current down to my own speed that I am comfortable with and get into that flow, rather than always trying to play catchup
Yes, I agree with you, I'm almost crazy, my head is noisy and I don't do anything, I always stop in the middle of the road when pursuing something, even I'm still confused about what my hobby is.
@@Dhaaaa same experience
When you went from seeing yourself as a rouge to a healer, that is such a great tip. As an INFP male I used to see myself this way too; in an effort to feel calmer and more "in control" of my emotions, I shut myself down. But it's like rolling at disadvantage for Charisma. It's not us. When you accept you're a healer it unlocks your magnetism as an INFP, I've found. INFP guys take note especially as I think we struggle with this aspect!
I normally prefer the strong "alpha male" types but met an infp that I thought might have been interested in me and he started to grow on me. Only problem was that he was a kind, helpful, empathetic healer to everyone except me (everyone adored him) but with me he devolved into a pathetic, needy, weak, infantile, entitled brat who wanted to be mothered and babied. A huge turnoff, it's hard to be attracted to a man that acts like a 2 yr. old girl/burden. If the INFP is undervalued it's because they're investing their efforts in the wrong people and places...To be honest its not a type I understand well. The impression I have is that most men want to be their wives' masculine hero but the INFP seems to want to be masculine and heroic with strangers but effeminate and infantile with their wives. It seems like male INFPs don't bring anything of value at least to romantic relationships.
This video resonates with me. Belief I’m gonna fail at the thing I want, worthlessness, and a belief that being happy will come at a very high cost. All that good stuff 😅
Deep stuff this. Your journey to being a healer type is one well worth a true INFP or any set of alphabet for that matter. Love the image of a gathering of friends around a bonfire where we exhibit/share gifts among our humanity. Great to be on the right path.
I have a small handful of amazing friends that I can connect with. I love being an INFP because I enjoy living in my head. Life is short. Enjoy the magic of it all
Thank you, Matt !
This video is a validation and trigger warning at the same time. In the nutshell, you have put a conclusion on my entire life story as the marginal INFP from childhood until now.
Sometimes others feel undervalued too and their perspective of others including the INFP comes across offkey, sending us those bad vibes. Not infrequently others are trying to survive by advancing at work and they become embattled with coworkers often without letting on why. Once this happened to me at work where a coworker thought I was going for “her spot” even tho I had not applied. Boy was I mad when I found out because not only that but the supervisor played favorites on top of that. I went to her supervisor and let them know this is not an acceptable way to behave with long time colleagues who must trust one another to do the work instead allowing schisms to ruin a solid team. And our supervisor was like OH. Because geez.
❤ it's hard to live in an environment where you are undervalued.
The thing you said about being traumatized is resonating to the point of offending me.. ouch!
I always just get ignored all the time. Like even if in the line for food, people often forget i was there, its infuriating sometimes but I just accepted that. Theres nothing i can do about it.
Great vid, this really hit me
You are so cool 😊