Fun fact, I used to watch that youtuber from the clip for advice on how to act "manly." Stopped watching and eventually unsubbed because of the casual bits of misogyny.
Like her channel name had "ma'am" in it, what was that guy thinking? I guess he just saw a trans person doing traditionally "manly" things and his brain short circuited?
@@justinthompson6364 he wasn't replying to her specifically. He was making his own video on alpha male bs, and telling the watching audience the look like a girl because of toxic masculinity, but in the process, forgot that transfems could watch his video
@@jjaa_joyjoyartist See... 'Toxic Masculinity' isn't only men acting like assholes. It's also a society expecting men to act like assholes. "Men don't have feelings", "Boys don't cry" and all that shit. If a man does things like respecting women, or other men, complimenting other men other than in the most sarcastic way possible, or such - they are seen by a large portion of society as less than a man...
I'll never forget the time that a kid in my senior economics class told me "I will NEVER see you as a woman" and then got all confused when I was like "Aww, that's so sweet of you to say!" I'm a trans man.
@@violenceisfun991 some people still believe that FTM operation is "impossible because there's not how to put something there". I can't avoid the facepalm.
@@AramatiPaz oh wow, how do these people go through life being so naive? Its amazing they can have such strong views on something yet know nothing about it
@@violenceisfun991 yes. There's a famous transman in my country. People often make jokes about him not having a wood. The sad it that they make those jokes for him be trans, not because they know he choosed to not make the operation.
Even if she wasn't bi and straight, I Can imagine she'd still would have experience with it at the end of it all, so Yes there's no way he'd win that situation even if it was build upon a false impression
I love how these parents who are trying to ‘ straighten out ‘ their kids send them to closed spaces with the same gender and I live for that, oh we sent you to this x school to become normal and you got a girlfriend ? How did that happen ?
Reminds me of a story where both a brother and sister both happened to be gay, so when the boyfriend/girlfriend got 'invited over' and sleepovers happened... ... the parents put them in rooms with the same gender. Task failed successfully.
Plot twist: this was always the intention. Parents couldn’t openly accept their trans/bi/gay children, so they acted as if they were trying to “fix” them and sent them to their heaven. (attention this is not historically accurate, it’s just a theory)
@@FrozEnbyWolf150 Agreed. The sole reason why I barely ever make transgender characters is because I don't want to make some kind of offensive mistake writing them.
@@harpywiththebrownfeathers It's perfectly okay to write about groups that you're not a part of yourself, as long as you do your due diligence of research, and interview people from that group. I'd been writing stories with a lot of trans and nonbinary representation for years, since it's a futurist sci-fi setting and I considered myself an ally. I started doing extensive research to make sure I was getting it right, but then a funny thing happened. It turned out I was subconsciously putting more of myself into my characters than I realized, and creating a world where I might fit in. Basically, my own art and writing helped me realize who I was all along.
@@harpywiththebrownfeathers Charles Dickens often wrote about groups he was ignorant and/or misinformed about, and when he was called out about it, his reaction was to always listen to the criticisms, apologize, and then rewrite the work with the criticisms in mind. You are going to make mistakes sometimes. Better to own it and do better. Also, JK Rowling is the Aunt Marge of the Harry Potter fandom :P
AND! 'they/them' has been a singular pronoun for LONGER than 'you' has, by around a century, going back to at least 1300 in attested written sources. This, only a century after 'they' was introduced to the English language as a borrowing from Norse.
@@comradewindowsill4253 Owning transphobes on the historical use of they as a singular gender-neutral pronoun is the most satisfying form of "Um, Actually..."
This doesnt work on my mom, when i try to cite sources shes like "they could have been paid to say that" this happens with literally anything doesn't matter if its science or language. She basically thinks that the trans people are paying off scientists to falsify research -.-
@@comradewindowsill4253also, if I recall correctly, the only reason they has become rather obtuse in the recent century is because of a legal decision, where the British government settled on using "he/him" when writing laws, which was a decision made for rather sexist reasons (apparently it literally led to women being cited as not being protected by certain rules EVEN THOUGH he/him had explicitly been chosen as the gender neutral option there, to replace all instances where previously the law said they, in an attempt to make it more clear where the law was referring to no gender in particular). Do your own research, but that's what I've read.
@@ray8221-y4r cis male but honestly i'd be completely fine with being a woman i'd just need time to adjust to And my boyfriend has said he'd be okay with me being trans so i have nothing to lose 🤭
My mother went to a witch in her teens as a sort of joke, and she was told she's going to have three kids, first two girls and then two boys. The answer came two decades later.
I was also like 9y/o when I came out and she said 'oh, a witch told me about you'. Apparently, a *witch* foretold and validated my existence, it felt so cool.
Sister is in the closet about being trans. Dad said her growing her hair out made her look like a girl. I asked what she thought of that and she was like “yeah feels nice”
It wasn’t the pub witch for me, it was the doctors who told my mom: “you’re gonna have a boy.” My mom was adamant she would have a girl. After everyone initially thinking my mom was right, I had to inform her 30 years later that, in fact, the doctors had it right the first time around after all.
My mother told me she always wanted a daughter before having me. She did not react as happy as I thought when I announced to her that she, in fact, had a daughter. She is getting used to it now
Now that you mention it, my parents were surprised that I was a girl because the doctor said that he thought I was a boy. This was before ultrasounds were commonly used in pregnancy, so he was basing it off my heartbeat or some other not-very-accurate thing, but it turns out he was right after all!
So, I'm genderfluid, my extremely homophobic mother seems to have noticed that sometimes I act a lil too masculine for her liking, so she decided to start getting me dresses and makeup so I'd be more feminine, of course my fem side is loving this turn of events and my masc side doesn't care.
"this, THIS is 3XL!" welcome to "women's" clothing, where the sizes are so small that if you're actually plus sized, you need to shop at a separate, specific store 🙃
Or if you're tall like me, the speciality stores only sell stuff where you also need to be skinny and slim as heck, or if you shop in normal stores, have a huge waistband that doesn't fit because they only come in larger, not taller. ugh. I have like, one pair of pants that's the right length, and they're for riding horses. I now have a very large collection of long socks so my ankles and shins aren't frozen. And I'm still growing.
@@dynamicworlds1 Wrath Is a sin my children Ok What Is that over there A crusade What Is a crusade We murder s bunch of people to take a city ...and that over there Colonization ...I didn't know that required scortch earth tactics
You know what's hilarious? So I'm a trans boy dating an amab genderfluid person (who's only out as a boy in public) and some younger teenagers have asked us, MULTIPLE TIMES, if we're both boys or both girls. They can tell it's gay, they just don't know how lmaooo
I deal with the opposite of this kinda, we’re so gay that they think we’re just two regular guys. Me and my boyfriend are cis males, and I enjoy art and gardening, and dabble in tech work. He works out and is a big ‘ol softy. And when people look at us their just like “ yeahhh, their roommates- nothing gay here, “ and then my bf just starts carrying me in his arms publicly to embarrass me with my social anxiety ☠️
when i was a baby, there was an elderly walmart greeter who ALWAYS called me a boy even though he was always corrected and i was dressed in traditionally little girl clothes... i always thought it was just him being old or something but now im wondering if he saw something in me that i didnt for 23 years... i think he knew all along.
My brother had this happen the other day. He was walking to the shop and a random guy yells "You're a man!!" And my brother is like "Yes! Thank you for noticing!"
That comes across to me as like the Good Burger "We're all dudes" song. Maybe these people are trying to break out into song, but they don't know the words.
My absolute favorite "take that, homophobes" moment was when I was speaking to my grandmother about Non binary and trans people. She said that my generation makes "everything about gender." Sureeeee, but we weren't the ones who said you could only wear certain clothes and play with certain toys JUST because of gender, now were we? Safe to say she didn't say anything nice after that.
It's fun to throw at people that in the 19th century, pink was seen as the masculine color with blue used for girls. Really messes with people's heads that these kinds of things can actually change, like on a whim.
Basically the opposite if my grandmother. She's even been more supportive than my parents, who seem to support me being genderfluid and transitioning, but not the specific ways I do that, until they do research for a while. Meanwhile my grandmother is pretty much immediately accepting. She has trouble with pronouns though, but it's genuine. She's having some mental issues, probably from a mix of being old, and being on painkillers and a dozen other medications all the time.
@@henryfleischer404 I have to say with your grandma age, and the other stuff might play factor, but all the years of calling one way sure does not help. As they say habits are hard to break. I know calling person he for years then calling them she can be bit hard.
When my sibling was born, our parents asked 2-year-old me "what should we name your brother [sic]?". I responded "sister!". A few decades later she came out as trans. AM I A PUB WITCH?? That would explain a lot, actually
Gender between skeletons is basically nonexistent. Even the actual differences are basically the pelvis is smaller, with a squarer skull for men. Which I think is not a difference.
I'd argue that to anyone who knows anything about skeletons the difference is pretty significant, the same as the difference between black, white and East Asian peoples skulls is very pronounced. But to the average person who doesn't know what they are looking at it might seem less straightforward
@@Lilith-Rose Guess you'd probably like to know that scientists are actually questioning the validity of racial designations on skeletons. Particularly because they've found that it turns out there isn't actually as much a correlation between assumed race and traits previously assumed to be a guarantee of race. Which, if anyone had stopped to question the fact that one of the progenitors of that idea was an outright white supremacist eugenicist who stole remains for his personal collection, they probably would have had this realization earlier.
The shape of the pelvis is a noticeable difference, but if you don't know what you're looking for it's just a human skeleton. A skeleton with boob bones on the other hand perfectly demonstrates the lack of education from the people who felt they needed to gender skeletons xD
I mean, even then, it'd be the sex of skeletons. Unless you call up your necromancer cousin to ask the skeleton's gender (which I recommend, as it's just respectful) xD
@@lindafreeman7030 for me the biggest issue is the shoulders.. even in men's shirts I had to go at least one size up or I'd tear the back out of shirts if I folded my arms or tried to pick something up so womens clothes are pretty much a no go. Good thing I'm perfectly happy coming across as a stereotypical butch lesbian (because that's exactly what I am at the end of the day) so I can still wear my favourite big t-shirts, flannel overshirts and combat pants without feeling like I'm faking it by wearing mens clothes, I'm just wearing comfortable clothes.
@@Lilith-Rose As a cis woman with naturally broad shoulders, you VERY much have my sympathies. Women's Sizing, especially given vanity sizing, is a feckin' disaster. Add in larger tiddays and clothing is a mess. Necklines are my ENEMY.
@@adriennedanehy-oakes9596 This is exactly why I've taken up tailoring for myself. Buy clothing from a shop, online, thrifted, hand me downs, w/e. Does it have a nice fabric and a general idea of what I like to wear? Good! Time to tweak some segments and make it my own! OH and add pockets to everything... proper pockets... It is sooo freeing!! Until of course all your friends are sending in requests en masse, then just show them your trials and botched projects.
When my mom was pregnant with me, the doctor said that the ultrasound showed me to be a boy. My parents bought a bunch of boy stuff and picked a boy name. Months later, they did another ultrasound and basically sound, "whoops! it's a girl!" Years later, I'm like "Nah... the doctor was right the first time..."
I always love how often these accidentally validating words are born out of the phobics inability to probably read and understand the terminology. It's so fitting!
A lot of phobics, as OT pointed out in another video, have also probably not matured or changed in any way since high school at the very latest. It's like they stubbornly refuse to learn anything new because they think they know it all... or deep down they know they don't but want to maintain the illusion they know it all because then it bruises their precious little ego.
Before my mom had kids she always thought she'd have a boy and a girl and was surprised she had 2 girls. Then I came out as trans. Now she's like, I guess I was right
9:00 My mom thinks like this. She thinks it isn't fair to make kids learn about Gender at a young age. AND YET HERE I AM BEING FORCED TO DECIDE MY FUTURE AT 9!
I've noticed the recent trend of men painting their nails and it always looks amazing, I love it so much. who wants to look like a stereotypical manly man when you can have colourful nails?
I tend to fight random transphobes online, and they often misgender me, assuming that I must be a trans woman because I am defending trans rights. It is odd that a petite, 5'3 person who has birthed two vagina gremlins gets called a man. That said, I identify as enby, and sometimes they tell me that I'm 'not a woman', which is quite nice. 🤣
"you look like a girl youre not a guy!!!!!!! you look like youre trying so hard to look like a guy!!!!!!" "but im not a guy-" "OH MY GOD youre a GUY and you LOOK LIKE A GUY and youre NOT A GIRL how DARE YOU you CLEARLY are a guy" 1000 iq
I'm a trans man and sometimes my husband will grab one of my shirts out if the dryer on accident. Watching him struggle to get it on before he realizes it's my shirt while I giggle like a madman is gold every time. TLDR: That hoodie is perfect, OT.
At 4:40 you can see the profile pic of the transphobic account, and it says "say no to gender" and I said 'ok' and then had a fit of laughter when I realized I actually DID cuz I'm agender. Accidental comedy is peak comedy.
When I think "skeleton couple" I think of the husband and wife skeletons in Hotel Transylvania. There were no boobs, eyelashes or lipstick on the wife skeleton, the only difference between them was that the wife skeleton was smaller than the husband. I liked it.
The pub witch story reminded me of this: When I was born, the doctor told my mom I was a girl, and since she was on all the drugs from the c-section my mom asked "Are you sure?" And I like to think about that since I might be Nonbinary.
Tbh now i want to look up one topic in a maid outfit. But at the same time i dont want to. So if anyone sees this can one of you tell me if there is a picture of one topic in a maid outfit.
first story is literally how my brother's gf realised she was bi 😭 her parents sent her to a catholic girls school and she was like "yooooo women???? 😳"
Oh it does, but they just wanna dig their heels in and be assholes because apparently, to them, asshole is a personality trait. They're also the type of people who peaked in high school.
that's exactly what i thought i used to be transphobic(not an asshole but i used to ask their deadnames and older pronouns because i had no contact with trans ppl bf and also some transphobic influences from my parents) and it was a relief to not be transphobic anymore all i had to do is use their names and pronouns and boom, new trans fren.
I'm a trans person (Non-binary :D ) and I just found out as of yesterday that even though I was born of the female sex my body has an extreme amount of testosterone in it so the body is constantly fighting for which one it actually is! It's caused a little bit of issues in my hormone scaling but it weirdly made me feel validated in the fact that literally my own body does not understand its own sex either lol
Lmao I’m trans as well ftm, and when I was getting checked out down there for a hysterectomy found out I have testes instead of ovaries or whatever they’re called I can’t remember. So basically while the outside looked female and with the whole period shit everything pointed towards female but I couldn’t actually had had kids so my body was like hmmm we messed up but here’s something to make up for it a bit and then everyone missed it and I only found out in my twenties that I’m actually intersex. Changed my life. Still got it removed though because it would be covered under the hysterectomy otherwise and I don’t really want to keep any reproductive organs I don’t want no damn crotch goblins mine or anothers
Lol, kids aren't gonna "choose" not to be cisgender just cause of the flag xD I think having a cute flag is a small perk compared to the struggles that come with being trans.
@@karnavi6172 I mean the ace flag still has some color. What I wanted to say is that those kind of cishet people really thought that black, white and maybe greys (I am not sure if their straight pride includes greys) exclusively - so not a single color, represents them best... Because they are jealous of our cool flags, but also try to refuse the rainbow so hard that they refused to use any color - at all. Basically their flag is as black and white as their thinking. I Googled it again: the "straight pride" flag is black and,white stripes with venus/mars symbol in the middle
13:28 the post says #SexNotGender and I’m dying cause I know they’re trying to be transphobic, but they acknowledged that sex and gender and different lol.
saw a skit that was like dog owner: "oh sorry my dog doesnt usually like men" trans man: "oh its fine i always misgendered" *dog barks visciously * trans-man: such a good ally!
Since my son and his partner introduced me to OT, this has become one of my absolute favourite You Tube channels. So, from a queer boomer, thank you for your great content and your empathy, and your giggles!
I'm never gonna have homophobic BS from my family because I have ~AROUND 50 YEAR OLD LESBIAN MUMS~ also i'm omni and my partner is genderfluid so that nice. :) I could go on about how many gay people and awesome ally's I know, but I would be talking for days. Love you all, and if you need help there are always people willing to try to get you out of a shitty place.
10:46 oh, you didn’t know about the boob bones? Yeah, those are totally a real part of AFAB anatomy. Transmasc folks who have top surgery actually get to bring out boob bones home with us from the hospital as souvenirs. I use mine as bowls on my mantle, one of them has pistachios and the other has skittles.
I asked a random transphobe if they knew _anything_ about trans people recently. They proudly exclaimed that they do not. Imagine being proud of being an idiot lmao.
Show transphobes a well researched video coming from a certified biologist on the topic of sexually dimorphic brain regions and how consistently trans have a brain structure matching that of their cisgender counterparts i.e. a transgender female brain matching that of a cisgender female brain. It's the easiest way to piss them off.
Omg that story about the witch predicting the mother having a boy? Same thing happened to me! My mom went to a reader as a joke and was told she’d be having a girl. My mom still jokes about it like “Haha! The reader was wrong!” And I’m over here in the closet NB/femme like “Yeah… totally wrong… absolutely 100% wrong…”
The pub witch story reminds me of a DnD story of someone who was playing a trans character that was getting treated badly by their family. They came from a magical culture so they employed a deal-making wish-granter (Rumpelstiltskin) to make sure that their heir-to-be was male, as they couldnt conceive normally without the aid of strong magics. So with the aid of a piece of god, the baby was created...but born a girl. causing the deal-maker to be banished from the land. Turns out she was FtM trans, so the wish-granter did indeed end up giving them a male heir...in a way.
@@whataterribledayforrain this has to be the best twist to the rumpelstilskin wish granting trope i've ever seen and i would real the HECK of a novel with that plot.
That's really cool. In my mind, nothing a good True Polymorph won't fix, as soon as someone levels up enough to get there. My own trans bard is roaming the lands of Strahd looking for examples of shapeshifting (like werewolves etc) to get examples of 'the music' in the magic of transformation so he can figure out the music needed for the spell. I know the bard can just grab any spell from any spell list at a couple of points in leveling up but I find it a cool way of portraying how a bard's magic works (they can figure it out themselves by practicing and experimenting but in the presence of certain magics, they can sense something behind the magic that they can translate into music - like synesthesia), and it's a legit reason for him to go to this place. What class is your character? Do you have an idea of how you'll end up solving it?
@@trishapellis oh it was a long process for the player, but i basically homebrewed a magic item that gave them some neat powers and made the wearer be shown as their true self
You know, even though I am horrible at biology, I laugh a bit when I see transphobes getting their XY and XX chromosomes mixed up because it makes me realize that they’re worse at biology than me.
I'm always amazed at the people with such incredible eyesight that they can see someone's chromosomes! Such a natural gift! Also, don't feel bad, my nail polish is super chipped too. And the Hoodie is great! Now you can tell Human1 to "go change, we can't be wearing the same thing!" Or just go twinsies!
May I correct you that they not only can see someone's chromosomes, they also can mismatch them. (I really loved that part with the testosterone and the XY chromosomes)
Yeahhh especially when chromosomes aren't always a perfect match of sex characteristics... lmao "biology!!1!" Biology is s o much more complicated than you think it is lmao.
2:03 as a they/she, this reminded me of that one time someone legit thought that going "okay, they/she" was a good comeback. i just responded with a "thanks for acknowledging my pronouns, i appreciate it!"
@@WorldTree33 yeah, absolutely! pronouns are above all else meant to make you comfortable with yourself. if you want to go by her/they, do it! (sidenote: this comment is actually outdated, i go by any pronouns nowadays, heh)
@@WorldTree33 you absolutely can! pronouns are not inherently linked to your identity, please use whatever feels most comfortable for you. happy pride month :)
I really love it when homophoes, transphobes, etc. accidentally make an ally comment. My response is always like laughter and then something along the lines of "Thank you for playing yourself"
As an amab trans girl who somehow tricked my brain into thinking my body required periods, I now get terrible week-long stomach cramps and mood swings monthly and this video helped me ignore all of that greatly. Thanks, OT.
huh. sympathetic cramps. interesting. reminds me of this other thing that can happen to AMAB people, called sympathetic pregnancy, where they can experience pregnancy symptoms alongside their partner, including lactation and even labor. anyways, have a good pride moth
If nothing else, I'd really like better flags for cisgender and heterosexual people. Not because they're needed for pride events etc, but because I feel bad that they're making infographics ugly.
That hoodie is a 3xl in a children's size, there is no way that was made for an adult but that being said, I love that hoodie, it f-ing rocks. The color, the dinos, just perfection
Oddly enough the male "Y" chromosome doesn't contain anything that defines any masculine traits. It's basically a broken "X" chromosome. It's where color vision resides and is the reason most color blind people are males. The female "X" has a "spare" leg to borrow from if there's damage, while the male "Y" doesn't have that spare "leg" to borrow from. Hormones and penis dimensions/uterus design is found spread out among the other chromosomes. You can find both hormones and genital "design" for both sexes in the same place. They're just expressed differently.
color vision resides on the X, not on Y. If that where the case, people with XX wouldn't be able to see color. If the one X a XY-Person has, is "damaged", it can't compensate, therefore colorblind. The chances, that someone gets two "damaged" X-Chromosomes is much less likely.
@@rotomonacrusade5350 Biologically speaking, male organisms is sort of a parasitic evolution initially. It uses a lot less ressources to be a male than a female because the male organisms do not spend them being pregnant. This led to some species evolving towards female organisms becoming more conservative and selective about who they will mate with, selecting for best genes. Meanwhile male organisms evolved into allocating the unused resources to other features (more strength to protect the female, flamboyant colors to show off in front of the female, ...)
Fun fact: If the hoodie feels a bit small there are all sorts of cool ways to crop it, like a sleeveless hoodie or crop top hoodie or tassled edges. You could totally rock it
Babies can no longer seduce the Grim Reaper Fire can no longer run away from Firefighters Transphobes cannot be Witches Aliens will no longer disappear permanently on Winterfest ..yep, fits right in!
Yes, nail polish flakes like crazy when you do anything but lay still. Why not try the nail polish that uses UV lights and stays on for like 2 weeks? I tried it and it's the real deal, it only flakes if you put it on incorrectly. (Sorry I don't know the right term, English is not my first language) The hoodie is adorable!
It's call gel polish it's really durable all you need to set it is a little uv light / torch and it sets solid .the science behind it is the same as uv glue and uv epoxy resin that are used for crafting . I use the clear uv nail polish for coating projects if I don't have any resins left, it works just as good.
I recently started painting my nails. I also regularly dig in the dirt, because I do a lot of gardening and landscaping. It's not really the ideal combination, but I don't mind, because it gives me an excuse to redo them and switch up the colors.
OT, I just want to say that your dives into r/traa was one of the deciding factors that lead to me actually coming out and starting. Thank you so much for introducing me to the fact that I was much less alone than I thought.
Aww, cool! Me too! Also, I have a flicking trans flag as a profile pic and am calling myself "your trans daughter" online because of his videos. Also also, cool profile pic!!
@@lacielily I was closet rather than egged, just resigned to the fact that I'd never have the confidence to go public. That's why I'm so thankful to OT for helping me with that confidence.
Going back to the witch thing, my dad told me that he saw a psychic when i was around 2 months old and she said i was not going to want to identify with a feminine gender 9 times out of 10, and would go for a shortening of my name(alexandria to alex) to seem more gender neutral. however he did not mention that the name he said was switched and alexandria became my middle name. now im nb and my name is crow so my dad changed fate and the universe had to fix it somehow!
Man, I keep thinking about the time my dad went on about how trans and gay people are born the way they are and people are ridiculous to think they can change, he even acknowledged the existence of nonbinary people (which pleasantly surprised me) thennnnn changed the subject/ started ranting to how gender fluid people are invalid. I mean, thanks for supporting me but it's all or none dude
Exclusionists never make any sense to me like???? 'Yeah, you can be masc or femme or neither, but you can't be both!!1!' ????? What do you mean???? Gender is a circle, fam, like. With the existence of a scale, there is always going to be 'both' and 'neither' as options. Quite a few genderfluid people identify with the umbrella term 'nonbinary', because yeah they are [a gender outside of the binary]. Like you can't say 'people can't change their sexuality!' and then say that 'but they can't be sexually attracted to both'- or the ever stupid argument of 'I accept gay/lesbian/bi, but I draw the line at ace...' Why are you so mad that they aren't fucking anyone*? They weren't gonna fuck you to begin with, buddy. (*asexuals /can/ want or have sex without feeling sexual attraction, but explaining the difference to someone the differences between [aesthetic attraction], [sexual attraction], and [sexual desire] when they can't even fathom "not wanting sex" to begin with is ahahaha...) Gender identity versus gender expression is a rather fun discussion to have... with people who are Not CisHet (there are exceptions, but...)
Wait, now that I think about it, I had a “pub witch” moment too. My mother had baby me in a blue onesie that said “boy” and some random person at the bakery was like “that’s a cute girl” 👀they knew like 21 years before I even did👀
why must you clarify in your name that your sword is big? average sized swords are fine too, if its too big you cant swing it effectively besides throwing it down on someone, and then you have to struggle to pick it back up
I think my favourite accidentalally moment was when my art professor told me that a woman's murder weapon is poison while a mans is his fists and I was like "so misogynistic, but you are validating the hell out of my gender identity so I will let it pass".
4:18 - 4:30(roughly) *The fact that I know who those people are both terrifies and excites me* (They're from a video game/Manga/Anime btw, it's called Danganronpa)
this isn't related to the video but about a year ago I came out to my dad about being a lesbian. He immediately responded with okay don't tell the rest of your family. Since then I have figured out more about myself and fact I'm non binary with they/them pronouns. I'm extremely scared about telling anyone in my family about it. Which forces me to have to deal with being called she/Her (PS OT I love your video they brighten my day) (edit thank you all for such the kind words and stories its means a lot)
I'm sorry, I know how hard it is to hear that kind of thing from a parent :( My mom told me the same thing when I came out as bi at 17. If it helps at all though, I can tell you that it got a lot better with time, as my mom got used to the idea and realized it wasn't as big of a deal as she first thought. The best advice I can give is to tell you to hang in there
Your father sounds like he is cool with it^^ give it time, there are people who need time to discover their feelings about you being lesbian like you needed time to discover your own feelings about yourself. Sometimes I was shocked to learn that the people I was most afraid to express my feelings to were the most understanding, and that the ones I thought were not a big problem were really mean. Someone said to me once: Be yourself, be confident and people will get used to it, even the people who give you headwind. I wish you all the best.
Y'know, I'm pansexual but I always somehow forget because I've never actually dated a dude before, lol. When someone says "heterosexual," I think they are talking about me, and then I'm like, wait a minute...
OT, I'm last-minute prepping for the "Purple Friday" (LGBT+ awareness and support day) celebrations at the school I teach at. It's currently past 9 PM where I live and I'm tired, but your video has breathed life into my crafty hands and racing mind. Thank you, I think I should show this video to my students tomorrow!
When I first learned what being trans was (actually learing, not from my transphobic family or the news) I didn't know any of the terms, Trans man, AFAB, and others. So I didn't comment about it, I looked up the terms like HRT to learn and understand others. This was generally pretty easy to do because my phone and computer both have Google.
In the beginning I kept repeatingly having to google if 'trans man' meant 'going from man to woman' or 'from woman to man' (i know now that that is not how it works, and that those are not the right terms) but it took a lot of googeling and asking trans ppl around me to learn the right terms and usage of them. The important thing is that we are trying to learn, and most transphobes are not.
The best maids are the buff ones, regardless of gender presentation, bc muscles = the ability to casually pick you up like Mr. Incredible picking up the couch that Elastigirl was sitting on to vacuum underneath, lmao
4:17 The fact that I could immediately: 1. Identify Hajime from his ahoge alone (despite never even playing Danganronpa 2 myself, only watching playthroughs, and being the least familiar with it) and 2. Was able to identify Nagito soley thanks to his hair and the fact that Hajime (who pretty much everyone seems to ship him with) is in the picture despite not even being able to see their entire heads concerns me...
That hoodie looks very lovely 👀 and it's yours, you say? 👀
well…… it COULD be a gift, maybe…. 👀
It is a good looking hoodie
Oop
Not much longer im guessing
came to comment on the cuteness of the hoodie.
If you put googly eyes on a potato it can be a good friend
Spud gang!
Call it spudson
Öh my göd it's Thiccy Cliccy
If Spudson had a child it should be called Tater Tot.
@@briandurio6479 omfg....
"You look like a woman!!"
"Well I would hope so, I spent enough money on it!"
Just absolutely sent me
Fun fact, I used to watch that youtuber from the clip for advice on how to act "manly." Stopped watching and eventually unsubbed because of the casual bits of misogyny.
Like her channel name had "ma'am" in it, what was that guy thinking? I guess he just saw a trans person doing traditionally "manly" things and his brain short circuited?
@@justinthompson6364 he wasn't replying to her specifically. He was making his own video on alpha male bs, and telling the watching audience the look like a girl because of toxic masculinity, but in the process, forgot that transfems could watch his video
funniest shit i ever seen 😭
@@jjaa_joyjoyartist See... 'Toxic Masculinity' isn't only men acting like assholes.
It's also a society expecting men to act like assholes.
"Men don't have feelings", "Boys don't cry" and all that shit. If a man does things like respecting women, or other men, complimenting other men other than in the most sarcastic way possible, or such - they are seen by a large portion of society as less than a man...
I'll never forget the time that a kid in my senior economics class told me "I will NEVER see you as a woman" and then got all confused when I was like "Aww, that's so sweet of you to say!"
I'm a trans man.
Thats brilliant 😂😂😂😂
It seems like a lot of the phobic people overlook transmen as if sexchanges only happen one way
Nice dude! That’s awesome
@@violenceisfun991 some people still believe that FTM operation is "impossible because there's not how to put something there".
I can't avoid the facepalm.
@@AramatiPaz oh wow, how do these people go through life being so naive? Its amazing they can have such strong views on something yet know nothing about it
@@violenceisfun991 yes.
There's a famous transman in my country. People often make jokes about him not having a wood.
The sad it that they make those jokes for him be trans, not because they know he choosed to not make the operation.
“So he sent her to an all-girls catholic school”
And that kids, is how I met your mother…
Even if she wasn't bi and straight, I Can imagine she'd still would have experience with it at the end of it all, so Yes there's no way he'd win that situation even if it was build upon a false impression
@Gravestone999 as long as the lose-lose situation isn't me losing I'd indeed love to see it
@@Voron_Aggrav unless her dad homeschooled her, but after seeing him making such a dumb decision, I doubt he's smart enough to teach somebody.
I love how these parents who are trying to ‘ straighten out ‘ their kids send them to closed spaces with the same gender and I live for that, oh we sent you to this x school to become normal and you got a girlfriend ? How did that happen ?
So many church camp stories
Let's be real, the venn diagram of people who do the "pray away the gay" bs and people with a rather loose grip on logic is just a circle
Reminds me of a story where both a brother and sister both happened to be gay, so when the boyfriend/girlfriend got 'invited over' and sleepovers happened...
... the parents put them in rooms with the same gender.
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Makes me wonder if parents who are supportive of their child liking the same gender have sent their child to a (their child’s gender) only school
Plot twist: this was always the intention. Parents couldn’t openly accept their trans/bi/gay children, so they acted as if they were trying to “fix” them and sent them to their heaven.
(attention this is not historically accurate, it’s just a theory)
as a queer person born in July, every time someone brings up "Heterosexual awearness month", I feel like a little rainbow rebel.
Hahaha i like that 😂
lil rainbow rebel 😭
Wait why would we get a month like haven’t the past SEVERAL CENTURIES been dedicated to heterosexual praise
I share a birthday with Harvey Milk 😁
Same!!!! 👁👄👁👍
As a former resident of a catholic all-girls school: yes, a moderate amount of lesbian content happening there
seems about right
It’s ok tho because it’s in a holy place
There's even two entire anime series dedicated to it.
atleast 20%
@@dime9398 same
Heterosexuals be like: Man and Women are likes cones. Perfect analogy.
everyone is a cone if you think about it
plastic can be melted and molded
@@synthetic_creature You mean everybody can become petrol and can be made into cone shaped plastic if you wait long enough?
@@bismutfan2211 yes
@@bismutfan2211 have the same fate as dinos, which are really cool XD
I mean....pegging is a thing, but I don't think that's quite the analogy they were going for.
I feel like they missed a big opportunity to name this subreddit, “AccidentAlly”
I agree lol
It would have been funny but it wouldnt really translate well into lowercase and most people dont go out of their way to capitalize things properly
:0
I always read it like that anyway 😆
I actually thought it was called that.
"Transphobes cannot be witches"
Someone tell Rowling :P
I will
Please
💀💀💀
😭👑
Yes
2:57 "Transphobes cannot be witches"
Take that J.K. Rowling!
Silly muggle, she is.
I mean, a non-witch trying to write about witches is gonna be just as awkward as a cis person trying to write about trans folk.
@@FrozEnbyWolf150 Agreed. The sole reason why I barely ever make transgender characters is because I don't want to make some kind of offensive mistake writing them.
@@harpywiththebrownfeathers It's perfectly okay to write about groups that you're not a part of yourself, as long as you do your due diligence of research, and interview people from that group. I'd been writing stories with a lot of trans and nonbinary representation for years, since it's a futurist sci-fi setting and I considered myself an ally. I started doing extensive research to make sure I was getting it right, but then a funny thing happened. It turned out I was subconsciously putting more of myself into my characters than I realized, and creating a world where I might fit in.
Basically, my own art and writing helped me realize who I was all along.
@@harpywiththebrownfeathers Charles Dickens often wrote about groups he was ignorant and/or misinformed about, and when he was called out about it, his reaction was to always listen to the criticisms, apologize, and then rewrite the work with the criticisms in mind. You are going to make mistakes sometimes. Better to own it and do better.
Also, JK Rowling is the Aunt Marge of the Harry Potter fandom :P
(8:30) For those arguing "they/them" is plural only, tell them that "you" is plural only as well, and that they should use "thou/thee" for singular.
AND! 'they/them' has been a singular pronoun for LONGER than 'you' has, by around a century, going back to at least 1300 in attested written sources. This, only a century after 'they' was introduced to the English language as a borrowing from Norse.
@@comradewindowsill4253 Owning transphobes on the historical use of they as a singular gender-neutral pronoun is the most satisfying form of "Um, Actually..."
This doesnt work on my mom, when i try to cite sources shes like "they could have been paid to say that" this happens with literally anything doesn't matter if its science or language. She basically thinks that the trans people are paying off scientists to falsify research -.-
‘I apologise for addressing thee so informally, but as thou objectst to the use of “you” as singular, I am afraid I see no other way to address thee.’
@@comradewindowsill4253also, if I recall correctly, the only reason they has become rather obtuse in the recent century is because of a legal decision, where the British government settled on using "he/him" when writing laws, which was a decision made for rather sexist reasons (apparently it literally led to women being cited as not being protected by certain rules EVEN THOUGH he/him had explicitly been chosen as the gender neutral option there, to replace all instances where previously the law said they, in an attempt to make it more clear where the law was referring to no gender in particular). Do your own research, but that's what I've read.
Bigot: “I am proud to be Christian”
God: “I literally made it against the law for Christians to be proud, does thee need smote?”
Bigot hath been smoten
Please tell me that "smote" isn't an actual form of the verb smite?
@@midnight8341 Too lazy to look it up but I think it actually is.
@@midnight8341 it is lol
Smite smote, like write wrote
@@WolfgangDoW and there goes my hope for the English language...
I'm a very happily cis lesbian, and I would HATE to be trapped in a man's body. So I can definitely sympathize with trans women.
dude id cry from happiness if i suddenly woke up in a mans body
@@GeneralLDS same
As an agender AMAB person, I think I'd probably be equally happy in a female body... Might take some time to get used to it tho lol
@@ray8221-y4r cis male but honestly i'd be completely fine with being a woman i'd just need time to adjust to
And my boyfriend has said he'd be okay with me being trans so i have nothing to lose 🤭
@@dumbpablo5755 are you sure about that cisness /hj
My mother went to a witch in her teens as a sort of joke, and she was told she's going to have three kids, first two girls and then two boys. The answer came two decades later.
That's fucking dope
I can only imagine your mom's confusion when she was told that xD
I was also like 9y/o when I came out and she said 'oh, a witch told me about you'. Apparently, a *witch* foretold and validated my existence, it felt so cool.
Where is everybody meeting gender confirming witches?
@@AnkhAnanku I'd happily volunteer to be someones gender validation witch
This ENTIRE SUBREDDIT is basically: "It hurt itself in its confusion". XD
Hey, that's a Final Fantasy reference!
Nice
@@thisisasupersayin376 I think it's a pokemon reference.
Transphobe used accidental ally! It hurt itself in its confusion. Foe transphobe fainted
Well now I'm going to have to play the Pokemon battle theme and browse this reddit.
"Hahahah! Look at her, she looks like a boy!"
"I go by he/him pronouns now"
"Oh... Hahaha! Look at him, he looks like a girl!"
lmao
Diversity win! Your schoolyard bully respects your pronouns!
When even the bully respects you.
Things that feels transphobic and respectful at the same time lol
Sister is in the closet about being trans. Dad said her growing her hair out made her look like a girl. I asked what she thought of that and she was like “yeah feels nice”
"I'm agender"
"tHaT's NoT a ReAl GeNdEr!"
Yeah bud?
Also
"aSeXuAl IsN't A gEnDeR!"
Yeah?
Ooooh are you a double aa battery also
@@birdofnyx376 Triple A! but no one knows what an aromantic is
@@lolymop333 I know what aromantic is
@@lolymop333 I’m sorry you feel that way. There *are* people that know and care. Like me!
@@FaerieWithAHalo Well, clearly, but transphobes don't know what it is
It wasn’t the pub witch for me, it was the doctors who told my mom: “you’re gonna have a boy.” My mom was adamant she would have a girl. After everyone initially thinking my mom was right, I had to inform her 30 years later that, in fact, the doctors had it right the first time around after all.
Wow! On what grounds did the doctors guess that?
My mother told me she always wanted a daughter before having me. She did not react as happy as I thought when I announced to her that she, in fact, had a daughter. She is getting used to it now
@@jeremydarveau4362 I think it's incredibly stupid that parents want their kid to be born a certain gender. Like, just be happy to have a kid??????
Now that you mention it, my parents were surprised that I was a girl because the doctor said that he thought I was a boy. This was before ultrasounds were commonly used in pregnancy, so he was basing it off my heartbeat or some other not-very-accurate thing, but it turns out he was right after all!
@@maxinesenior596 ultrasound
So, I'm genderfluid, my extremely homophobic mother seems to have noticed that sometimes I act a lil too masculine for her liking, so she decided to start getting me dresses and makeup so I'd be more feminine, of course my fem side is loving this turn of events and my masc side doesn't care.
Wonder how your mom’s gonna react when she finds out she’s responsible for having a part-time femboy in the house 😂 /lh
🤣
"this, THIS is 3XL!"
welcome to "women's" clothing, where the sizes are so small that if you're actually plus sized, you need to shop at a separate, specific store 🙃
Or if you're tall like me, the speciality stores only sell stuff where you also need to be skinny and slim as heck, or if you shop in normal stores, have a huge waistband that doesn't fit because they only come in larger, not taller. ugh. I have like, one pair of pants that's the right length, and they're for riding horses. I now have a very large collection of long socks so my ankles and shins aren't frozen. And I'm still growing.
@@ninaarandomhunterofartemis962 I'm so sorry but I laughed at the riding horses pants. I hope you find more pants that fit you
@@arienesantos7891 Oh, it's fine. I too hope I will find pants someday.
Either that or OT found a store selling Asian sizes. The size difference is kind of shocking.
And why i shop at the mens section. I can always find what i need and its more affordable lol
“I’m proud to be a Christian” Dude, I thought pride was a sin in Christianity or whatever
So is greed, but Reagan convinced them that was a virtue.
Also wrath, and envy, and gluttony and...um...I think we have a problem here
@@dynamicworlds1 preach water, drink wine.
Has worked for 2000 years
@@dynamicworlds1
Wrath Is a sin my children
Ok
What Is that over there
A crusade
What Is a crusade
We murder s bunch of people to take a city
...and that over there
Colonization
...I didn't know that required scortch earth tactics
am christian, can confirm
God’s making it really hard for me to follow my mom’s wishes and “stay” Christian 😀
My mom had a lot of heartburn when she was pregnant with me, and according to my grandma, that meant she was having a girl. *She was right!*
You know what's hilarious? So I'm a trans boy dating an amab genderfluid person (who's only out as a boy in public) and some younger teenagers have asked us, MULTIPLE TIMES, if we're both boys or both girls.
They can tell it's gay, they just don't know how lmaooo
lmaooo thats goals, i want to be androgynous
...some day... some day...
I deal with the opposite of this kinda, we’re so gay that they think we’re just two regular guys. Me and my boyfriend are cis males, and I enjoy art and gardening, and dabble in tech work. He works out and is a big ‘ol softy. And when people look at us their just like “ yeahhh, their roommates- nothing gay here, “ and then my bf just starts carrying me in his arms publicly to embarrass me with my social anxiety ☠️
@@hallowedchromee310 XD was it is said that straight men are the gayest men of all
lolz I love this! "A gay detected! But how is gay, the world may never know!"
when i was a baby, there was an elderly walmart greeter who ALWAYS called me a boy even though he was always corrected and i was dressed in traditionally little girl clothes... i always thought it was just him being old or something but now im wondering if he saw something in me that i didnt for 23 years... i think he knew all along.
Damn you found your godfather I guess
Wow
chaotic good oracle
My brother had this happen the other day. He was walking to the shop and a random guy yells "You're a man!!" And my brother is like "Yes! Thank you for noticing!"
That comes across to me as like the Good Burger "We're all dudes" song.
Maybe these people are trying to break out into song, but they don't know the words.
Let's talk about the amazing colour of OTs nails. Chipped or not, those look amazing!
Yes ots nails are amazing!
I think the thumbnail coloring Is beautiful 👌
¿They were chipped?
True
I’m still trying to figure out what brand and color the polish is that he’s got on so I can get my paws on it.
My absolute favorite "take that, homophobes" moment was when I was speaking to my grandmother about Non binary and trans people. She said that my generation makes "everything about gender." Sureeeee, but we weren't the ones who said you could only wear certain clothes and play with certain toys JUST because of gender, now were we? Safe to say she didn't say anything nice after that.
It's fun to throw at people that in the 19th century, pink was seen as the masculine color with blue used for girls.
Really messes with people's heads that these kinds of things can actually change, like on a whim.
@@kamikeserpentail3778 That is by far one of my favorite history facts. 💅✨
Basically the opposite if my grandmother. She's even been more supportive than my parents, who seem to support me being genderfluid and transitioning, but not the specific ways I do that, until they do research for a while. Meanwhile my grandmother is pretty much immediately accepting.
She has trouble with pronouns though, but it's genuine. She's having some mental issues, probably from a mix of being old, and being on painkillers and a dozen other medications all the time.
@@henryfleischer404 I have to say with your grandma age, and the other stuff might play factor, but all the years of calling one way sure does not help. As they say habits are hard to break. I know calling person he for years then calling them she can be bit hard.
Fun fact: heels were originally made for men, the main reason was so that archers could balance better
When my sibling was born, our parents asked 2-year-old me "what should we name your brother [sic]?". I responded "sister!". A few decades later she came out as trans. AM I A PUB WITCH??
That would explain a lot, actually
Gender between skeletons is basically nonexistent. Even the actual differences are basically the pelvis is smaller, with a squarer skull for men. Which I think is not a difference.
I'd argue that to anyone who knows anything about skeletons the difference is pretty significant, the same as the difference between black, white and East Asian peoples skulls is very pronounced. But to the average person who doesn't know what they are looking at it might seem less straightforward
@@Lilith-Rose Guess you'd probably like to know that scientists are actually questioning the validity of racial designations on skeletons. Particularly because they've found that it turns out there isn't actually as much a correlation between assumed race and traits previously assumed to be a guarantee of race.
Which, if anyone had stopped to question the fact that one of the progenitors of that idea was an outright white supremacist eugenicist who stole remains for his personal collection, they probably would have had this realization earlier.
@@alchemysaga3745 OOP-
The shape of the pelvis is a noticeable difference, but if you don't know what you're looking for it's just a human skeleton. A skeleton with boob bones on the other hand perfectly demonstrates the lack of education from the people who felt they needed to gender skeletons xD
I mean, even then, it'd be the sex of skeletons. Unless you call up your necromancer cousin to ask the skeleton's gender (which I recommend, as it's just respectful) xD
I love the hoodie, but as a trans woman it's also funny watching a cis man struggle with the women's sizes.. I feel you my guy, boy do I feel you...
I am a large cis woman (not tall, just round) and I also struggle with women's sizes. Women's sizes are some BS of the first order.
@@lindafreeman7030 for me the biggest issue is the shoulders.. even in men's shirts I had to go at least one size up or I'd tear the back out of shirts if I folded my arms or tried to pick something up so womens clothes are pretty much a no go. Good thing I'm perfectly happy coming across as a stereotypical butch lesbian (because that's exactly what I am at the end of the day) so I can still wear my favourite big t-shirts, flannel overshirts and combat pants without feeling like I'm faking it by wearing mens clothes, I'm just wearing comfortable clothes.
@@Lilith-Rose As a cis woman with naturally broad shoulders, you VERY much have my sympathies. Women's Sizing, especially given vanity sizing, is a feckin' disaster. Add in larger tiddays and clothing is a mess. Necklines are my ENEMY.
@@adriennedanehy-oakes9596 This is exactly why I've taken up tailoring for myself. Buy clothing from a shop, online, thrifted, hand me downs, w/e. Does it have a nice fabric and a general idea of what I like to wear? Good! Time to tweak some segments and make it my own!
OH and add pockets to everything... proper pockets...
It is sooo freeing!! Until of course all your friends are sending in requests en masse, then just show them your trials and botched projects.
@@Kaeresh I bet! Unfortunately, I'm only good enough at sewing to fix what I have... And don't have the patience with myself to get better, sadly.
When my mom was pregnant with me, the doctor said that the ultrasound showed me to be a boy. My parents bought a bunch of boy stuff and picked a boy name. Months later, they did another ultrasound and basically sound, "whoops! it's a girl!" Years later, I'm like "Nah... the doctor was right the first time..."
Well yeah, there's a connection between being transphobic and having bad grammar. They literally don't know what pronouns are!!!
F A C T S
If you stop being transphobic your grammar skills will improve :)
Haven’t there been studies linking homophobia/transphobia to lack of intelligence?
Lol or that they/them can be singular
I always love how often these accidentally validating words are born out of the phobics inability to probably read and understand the terminology.
It's so fitting!
Speedwagon ☺️☺️
To read overall
Like they try to argue with 8th grade biology but don't even know that one lol
A lot of phobics, as OT pointed out in another video, have also probably not matured or changed in any way since high school at the very latest. It's like they stubbornly refuse to learn anything new because they think they know it all... or deep down they know they don't but want to maintain the illusion they know it all because then it bruises their precious little ego.
"My maid outfit doesn't have any gloves" is such a powerful line for some reason.
Before my mom had kids she always thought she'd have a boy and a girl and was surprised she had 2 girls. Then I came out as trans. Now she's like, I guess I was right
9:00 My mom thinks like this. She thinks it isn't fair to make kids learn about Gender at a young age. AND YET HERE I AM BEING FORCED TO DECIDE MY FUTURE AT 9!
"Transphobes will never be witches"
Yo Rowling, you hear that?
👌🏼👌🏼👌🏼
Ah, good, Wanted to ba a Druid anyway, much more fun for a Canadian living in a forested area!
Rowling is a squib confirmed 😂
All Harry Potter characters are trans.
they're one letter off after all
I've noticed the recent trend of men painting their nails and it always looks amazing, I love it so much. who wants to look like a stereotypical manly man when you can have colourful nails?
Now imagine this: A stereotypical manly man, like a lumberjack or some shit, but with painted nails. Now that's beauty.
@@cynister7384 i mean... that's OT. I promise you OT knows how to chop wood. He lives in Canada.
I painted my nails once, but I'm too prone to biting them so it's difficult.
Hmm... Butch lesbians?
Me. As a woman. Because I like digging and it's irritating when they chip and they're pretty naked.
They still look cool though
I tend to fight random transphobes online, and they often misgender me, assuming that I must be a trans woman because I am defending trans rights. It is odd that a petite, 5'3 person who has birthed two vagina gremlins gets called a man. That said, I identify as enby, and sometimes they tell me that I'm 'not a woman', which is quite nice. 🤣
"Vagina gremlins"
literally as a trans man nothing better than hearing people say I'll always be a man
"you look like a girl youre not a guy!!!!!!! you look like youre trying so hard to look like a guy!!!!!!"
"but im not a guy-"
"OH MY GOD youre a GUY and you LOOK LIKE A GUY and youre NOT A GIRL how DARE YOU you CLEARLY are a guy"
1000 iq
What would one call a c-section baby? 🤔
@@caljones Maybe uterus gremlin? I thought chest burster/ tummy burster but that feels like it might be too mean.
I'm a trans man and sometimes my husband will grab one of my shirts out if the dryer on accident. Watching him struggle to get it on before he realizes it's my shirt while I giggle like a madman is gold every time.
TLDR: That hoodie is perfect, OT.
At 4:40 you can see the profile pic of the transphobic account, and it says "say no to gender" and I said 'ok' and then had a fit of laughter when I realized I actually DID cuz I'm agender. Accidental comedy is peak comedy.
When I think "skeleton couple" I think of the husband and wife skeletons in Hotel Transylvania. There were no boobs, eyelashes or lipstick on the wife skeleton, the only difference between them was that the wife skeleton was smaller than the husband. I liked it.
The pub witch story reminded me of this: When I was born, the doctor told my mom I was a girl, and since she was on all the drugs from the c-section my mom asked "Are you sure?" And I like to think about that since I might be Nonbinary.
well, is the doctor sure? they might have been unsure
"Stop forcing gender on children. Stop." Yep. That's definitely one my mom needs to hear.
Let’s get one topic some gloves for his maid outfit so his nailpolish won’t chip :)
Tbh now i want to look up one topic in a maid outfit. But at the same time i dont want to. So if anyone sees this can one of you tell me if there is a picture of one topic in a maid outfit.
@@wenofu477
There's none, sadly 😭
If we all chip in, maybe we can afford cool elbow-length gloves!
first story is literally how my brother's gf realised she was bi 😭 her parents sent her to a catholic girls school and she was like "yooooo women???? 😳"
I feel like this shows how EASY it is for people to be an ally
Oh it does, but they just wanna dig their heels in and be assholes because apparently, to them, asshole is a personality trait. They're also the type of people who peaked in high school.
that's exactly what i thought
i used to be transphobic(not an asshole but i used to ask their deadnames and older pronouns because i had no contact with trans ppl bf and also some transphobic influences from my parents) and it was a relief to not be transphobic anymore
all i had to do is use their names and pronouns and boom, new trans fren.
I'm a trans person (Non-binary :D ) and I just found out as of yesterday that even though I was born of the female sex my body has an extreme amount of testosterone in it so the body is constantly fighting for which one it actually is! It's caused a little bit of issues in my hormone scaling but it weirdly made me feel validated in the fact that literally my own body does not understand its own sex either lol
lol ur body packed the testosterone before leaving the womb, just in case it might've needed it later. what a deligtful foresight
Lmao I’m trans as well ftm, and when I was getting checked out down there for a hysterectomy found out I have testes instead of ovaries or whatever they’re called I can’t remember. So basically while the outside looked female and with the whole period shit everything pointed towards female but I couldn’t actually had had kids so my body was like hmmm we messed up but here’s something to make up for it a bit and then everyone missed it and I only found out in my twenties that I’m actually intersex. Changed my life. Still got it removed though because it would be covered under the hysterectomy otherwise and I don’t really want to keep any reproductive organs I don’t want no damn crotch goblins mine or anothers
@@alexevans2011 crotch goblins🤣🤣🤣🤣👌
Biologically non-binary bruh
@@waddledeedeeeActually, I think this term really shouldn't be used.
Lol, kids aren't gonna "choose" not to be cisgender just cause of the flag xD I think having a cute flag is a small perk compared to the struggles that come with being trans.
Cishet people be like "omg we want a flag too! 😡😡😡😡"
*proceeding to make it grey/black/white and boring* 🤔
@@CristalianaIvor Or the PHub colors 😭
@@gelleries Is wanking a sexual identity?
@@CristalianaIvor Aren't greys supposed to be ace colours though?
Or is it n/a because one's a gender and the other a sexuality flag?
@@karnavi6172 I mean the ace flag still has some color. What I wanted to say is that those kind of cishet people really thought that black, white and maybe greys (I am not sure if their straight pride includes greys) exclusively - so not a single color, represents them best... Because they are jealous of our cool flags, but also try to refuse the rainbow so hard that they refused to use any color - at all.
Basically their flag is as black and white as their thinking.
I Googled it again: the "straight pride" flag is black and,white stripes with venus/mars symbol in the middle
13:28 the post says #SexNotGender and I’m dying cause I know they’re trying to be transphobic, but they acknowledged that sex and gender and different lol.
saw a skit that was like
dog owner: "oh sorry my dog doesnt usually like men"
trans man: "oh its fine i always misgendered"
*dog barks visciously *
trans-man: such a good ally!
That’s my biggest fear of transitioning.. my dog hates cis men and I’m scared she’ll be fearful of me due to hormones/scents
@@sixfeetundertheradar6080 but won't the dog recognize you
@@hasargel yeah, it’s probably just me being irrational but it’s still a fear. She’s skittish around all the men shes met and knows
@@sixfeetundertheradar6080 There's an episode of King of the Hill about that.
@@theothertonydutch really??
Since my son and his partner introduced me to OT, this has become one of my absolute favourite You Tube channels. So, from a queer boomer, thank you for your great content and your empathy, and your giggles!
This comment- it's just made my day QwQ it's so wholesome, i hope you're having an amazing week :) 💖
This comment is wholesome in every way
@@idiotgaming6376 🤚preach my guy/girl/ everything in between 💖💖💖 i hope you're having an amazing week :)
@@Sam_uraiden thanks
Love your profile pic Roo! Beautiful!!!
I'm never gonna have homophobic BS from my family because I have ~AROUND 50 YEAR OLD LESBIAN MUMS~ also i'm omni and my partner is genderfluid so that nice. :) I could go on about how many gay people and awesome ally's I know, but I would be talking for days. Love you all, and if you need help there are always people willing to try to get you out of a shitty place.
10:46 oh, you didn’t know about the boob bones? Yeah, those are totally a real part of AFAB anatomy. Transmasc folks who have top surgery actually get to bring out boob bones home with us from the hospital as souvenirs. I use mine as bowls on my mantle, one of them has pistachios and the other has skittles.
I’m sorry but, *boob bones* is the best thing I’ve heard all day
oh really? My AFAB bro is thinking of donating them to his AMAB friend, you know, the old boob bone switch
wow, i can't wait for my top surgery so i can take my boob bones home!😀
oh my god I'm crying this comment and its replies are everything
Gender fluid peeps get special pockets in their chests so they can insert/remove boob bones whenever they feel like it
I love how transphobes are still willfully transphobic despite not even knowing the correct definitions.
I asked a random transphobe if they knew _anything_ about trans people recently. They proudly exclaimed that they do not. Imagine being proud of being an idiot lmao.
@@cynister7384 i guess its the classic being afraid of what they dont understand.
Show transphobes a well researched video coming from a certified biologist on the topic of sexually dimorphic brain regions and how consistently trans have a brain structure matching that of their cisgender counterparts i.e. a transgender female brain matching that of a cisgender female brain.
It's the easiest way to piss them off.
5:23 they have not read any comics because the energy that Superman and Batman have
Omg that story about the witch predicting the mother having a boy? Same thing happened to me! My mom went to a reader as a joke and was told she’d be having a girl. My mom still jokes about it like “Haha! The reader was wrong!” And I’m over here in the closet NB/femme like “Yeah… totally wrong… absolutely 100% wrong…”
I swear some people are psychic, we just refuse to believe when it happens
At least it’d make for an easy segue into coming out.
The pub witch story reminds me of a DnD story of someone who was playing a trans character that was getting treated badly by their family. They came from a magical culture so they employed a deal-making wish-granter (Rumpelstiltskin) to make sure that their heir-to-be was male, as they couldnt conceive normally without the aid of strong magics. So with the aid of a piece of god, the baby was created...but born a girl. causing the deal-maker to be banished from the land. Turns out she was FtM trans, so the wish-granter did indeed end up giving them a male heir...in a way.
your pfp looks like a version of the straight flag💀
@@veganplayspiano it's rain Lmao
@@whataterribledayforrain
this has to be the best twist to the rumpelstilskin wish granting trope i've ever seen and i would real the HECK of a novel with that plot.
That's really cool. In my mind, nothing a good True Polymorph won't fix, as soon as someone levels up enough to get there. My own trans bard is roaming the lands of Strahd looking for examples of shapeshifting (like werewolves etc) to get examples of 'the music' in the magic of transformation so he can figure out the music needed for the spell. I know the bard can just grab any spell from any spell list at a couple of points in leveling up but I find it a cool way of portraying how a bard's magic works (they can figure it out themselves by practicing and experimenting but in the presence of certain magics, they can sense something behind the magic that they can translate into music - like synesthesia), and it's a legit reason for him to go to this place. What class is your character? Do you have an idea of how you'll end up solving it?
@@trishapellis oh it was a long process for the player, but i basically homebrewed a magic item that gave them some neat powers and made the wearer be shown as their true self
You know, even though I am horrible at biology, I laugh a bit when I see transphobes getting their XY and XX chromosomes mixed up because it makes me realize that they’re worse at biology than me.
I'm always amazed at the people with such incredible eyesight that they can see someone's chromosomes! Such a natural gift!
Also, don't feel bad, my nail polish is super chipped too. And the Hoodie is great! Now you can tell Human1 to "go change, we can't be wearing the same thing!" Or just go twinsies!
May I correct you that they not only can see someone's chromosomes, they also can mismatch them. (I really loved that part with the testosterone and the XY chromosomes)
Yeahhh especially when chromosomes aren't always a perfect match of sex characteristics... lmao "biology!!1!" Biology is s o much more complicated than you think it is lmao.
To be honest, I have no idea what my own chromosomes are. I never checked. Got to remember next time I'm in the shower.
I'm a little curious what mine are to be honest.
2:03 as a they/she, this reminded me of that one time someone legit thought that going "okay, they/she" was a good comeback. i just responded with a "thanks for acknowledging my pronouns, i appreciate it!"
I have a question for you: As a demigirl could I use the pronouns her/they? I’ve never seen it anywhere, but… trauma around the word “she” exists.
@@WorldTree33 yeah, absolutely! pronouns are above all else meant to make you comfortable with yourself. if you want to go by her/they, do it! (sidenote: this comment is actually outdated, i go by any pronouns nowadays, heh)
@@WorldTree33 you absolutely can! pronouns are not inherently linked to your identity, please use whatever feels most comfortable for you. happy pride month :)
5:37 thanks for giving me a taste of the content i never knew i needed
I really love it when homophoes, transphobes, etc. accidentally make an ally comment. My response is always like laughter and then something along the lines of "Thank you for playing yourself"
As an amab trans girl who somehow tricked my brain into thinking my body required periods, I now get terrible week-long stomach cramps and mood swings monthly and this video helped me ignore all of that greatly. Thanks, OT.
How did you trick your brain like that?
You literally just said: “I’m woman, I want cramps” And you’r brain said: *Indeed.*
I mean, good for you girl, but like HOOOW
huh. sympathetic cramps. interesting. reminds me of this other thing that can happen to AMAB people, called sympathetic pregnancy, where they can experience pregnancy symptoms alongside their partner, including lactation and even labor. anyways, have a good pride moth
@@comradewindowsill4253 pride moth indeed
Damn you gaslit your body into thinking you're afab lmao. Impressive but also sorry you have to deal with that.
If nothing else, I'd really like better flags for cisgender and heterosexual people. Not because they're needed for pride events etc, but because I feel bad that they're making infographics ugly.
That hoodie is a 3xl in a children's size, there is no way that was made for an adult but that being said, I love that hoodie, it f-ing rocks. The color, the dinos, just perfection
4:24
Nagito and Hajime? IN MY FAVORITE GAY AND TRANS VIDEOS?
FABULOUS.
14:19 I absolutely love that you put emphasize on the "typically" since no-one is really sure about what their chromosomes are without doing a test :]
Oddly enough the male "Y" chromosome doesn't contain anything that defines any masculine traits. It's basically a broken "X" chromosome. It's where color vision resides and is the reason most color blind people are males. The female "X" has a "spare" leg to borrow from if there's damage, while the male "Y" doesn't have that spare "leg" to borrow from. Hormones and penis dimensions/uterus design is found spread out among the other chromosomes. You can find both hormones and genital "design" for both sexes in the same place. They're just expressed differently.
*reads the first two sentences* you telling me that men are just 'broken females' ? (Just kidding, i get that's waayyyy more complicated )
@@rotomonacrusade5350 That's now my headcanon. I'm mostly straight but this explains all my feminine traits.
@@theothertonydutch At least the nipples!!
color vision resides on the X, not on Y. If that where the case, people with XX wouldn't be able to see color.
If the one X a XY-Person has, is "damaged", it can't compensate, therefore colorblind.
The chances, that someone gets two "damaged" X-Chromosomes is much less likely.
@@rotomonacrusade5350 Biologically speaking, male organisms is sort of a parasitic evolution initially.
It uses a lot less ressources to be a male than a female because the male organisms do not spend them being pregnant.
This led to some species evolving towards female organisms becoming more conservative and selective about who they will mate with, selecting for best genes.
Meanwhile male organisms evolved into allocating the unused resources to other features (more strength to protect the female, flamboyant colors to show off in front of the female, ...)
Fun fact: If the hoodie feels a bit small there are all sorts of cool ways to crop it, like a sleeveless hoodie or crop top hoodie or tassled edges. You could totally rock it
And here's me just enjoying how it outlines all his muscles...
How sly! Trying to get OT to show skin!
@@ayelemensah8816 none of us would exactly complain...
@@barrylangille3523 👀
"Transphobes cannot be witches" kinda reads like a Sims patch note
Babies can no longer seduce the Grim Reaper
Fire can no longer run away from Firefighters
Transphobes cannot be Witches
Aliens will no longer disappear permanently on Winterfest
..yep, fits right in!
Yes, nail polish flakes like crazy when you do anything but lay still. Why not try the nail polish that uses UV lights and stays on for like 2 weeks? I tried it and it's the real deal, it only flakes if you put it on incorrectly. (Sorry I don't know the right term, English is not my first language)
The hoodie is adorable!
It's call gel polish it's really durable all you need to set it is a little uv light / torch and it sets solid .the science behind it is the same as uv glue and uv epoxy resin that are used for crafting . I use the clear uv nail polish for coating projects if I don't have any resins left, it works just as good.
Qq+
@@kirstygunn9149 wait so you can use gel polish to stick stuff together?
I recently started painting my nails. I also regularly dig in the dirt, because I do a lot of gardening and landscaping. It's not really the ideal combination, but I don't mind, because it gives me an excuse to redo them and switch up the colors.
UV acrylic resin. Similar stuff as that super glue that uses that blue light.
OT, I just want to say that your dives into r/traa was one of the deciding factors that lead to me actually coming out and starting.
Thank you so much for introducing me to the fact that I was much less alone than I thought.
Aww, cool! Me too!
Also, I have a flicking trans flag as a profile pic and am calling myself "your trans daughter" online because of his videos.
Also also, cool profile pic!!
saaaame I was questioning for a couple months and then I found OT and then I was just like "damn... guess I'm no longer a dude"
everything about this is wholesome
Same! OT really cracked the egg for a lot of us, huh?
@@lacielily I was closet rather than egged, just resigned to the fact that I'd never have the confidence to go public. That's why I'm so thankful to OT for helping me with that confidence.
Going back to the witch thing, my dad told me that he saw a psychic when i was around 2 months old and she said i was not going to want to identify with a feminine gender 9 times out of 10, and would go for a shortening of my name(alexandria to alex) to seem more gender neutral. however he did not mention that the name he said was switched and alexandria became my middle name. now im nb and my name is crow so my dad changed fate and the universe had to fix it somehow!
Man, I keep thinking about the time my dad went on about how trans and gay people are born the way they are and people are ridiculous to think they can change, he even acknowledged the existence of nonbinary people (which pleasantly surprised me) thennnnn changed the subject/ started ranting to how gender fluid people are invalid. I mean, thanks for supporting me but it's all or none dude
Exclusionists never make any sense to me like????
'Yeah, you can be masc or femme or neither, but you can't be both!!1!'
????? What do you mean????
Gender is a circle, fam, like. With the existence of a scale, there is always going to be 'both' and 'neither' as options.
Quite a few genderfluid people identify with the umbrella term 'nonbinary', because yeah they are [a gender outside of the binary].
Like you can't say 'people can't change their sexuality!' and then say that 'but they can't be sexually attracted to both'- or the ever stupid argument of 'I accept gay/lesbian/bi, but I draw the line at ace...' Why are you so mad that they aren't fucking anyone*? They weren't gonna fuck you to begin with, buddy.
(*asexuals /can/ want or have sex without feeling sexual attraction, but explaining the difference to someone the differences between [aesthetic attraction], [sexual attraction], and [sexual desire] when they can't even fathom "not wanting sex" to begin with is ahahaha...)
Gender identity versus gender expression is a rather fun discussion to have... with people who are Not CisHet (there are exceptions, but...)
Ok, I gotta say, I love ur pfp
the connection between being transphobic and bad grammar is poor education.
Wait, now that I think about it, I had a “pub witch” moment too. My mother had baby me in a blue onesie that said “boy” and some random person at the bakery was like “that’s a cute girl”
👀they knew like 21 years before I even did👀
why must you clarify in your name that your sword is big? average sized swords are fine too, if its too big you cant swing it effectively besides throwing it down on someone, and then you have to struggle to pick it back up
imagine putting your baby child in a onesie that says "boy"
@@nutelllla_ I'm just gonna get one that says child with dinosaurs unicorns robots and rainbows on it.
@@nutelllla_ Yes, if you‘re not kratos you can‘t do that
One topic is the only person that makes me smile when they incorrectly guess a reference source it’s the good vibes
It's g o t to be on purpose at this point I'm sobbing lmao.
14:28
"Tried so hard"
And got so far.
But in the end, it didn't even matter.
It's a freaking song, not a suicide letter.
That first story has the energy of " I caught you smoking, so as punishment you have to smoke the whole pack. "
I think my favourite accidentalally moment was when my art professor told me that a woman's murder weapon is poison while a mans is his fists and I was like "so misogynistic, but you are validating the hell out of my gender identity so I will let it pass".
My weapon is the power of rainbows
I understand it from a metaphor perspective, but I feel like that I would be horrible at Clue
A woman's murder weapon is whatever is handy. We don't get caught.
@@suzanneclark7706 All of the weapons in Clue suggest violence, though I suppose someone could poison the knife blade or the candle wax.
4:18 - 4:30(roughly)
*The fact that I know who those people are both terrifies and excites me*
(They're from a video game/Manga/Anime btw, it's called Danganronpa)
this isn't related to the video but about a year ago I came out to my dad about being a lesbian. He immediately responded with okay don't tell the rest of your family. Since then I have figured out more about myself and fact I'm non binary with they/them pronouns. I'm extremely scared about telling anyone in my family about it. Which forces me to have to deal with being called she/Her (PS OT I love your video they brighten my day) (edit thank you all for such the kind words and stories its means a lot)
I'm sorry, I know how hard it is to hear that kind of thing from a parent :( My mom told me the same thing when I came out as bi at 17. If it helps at all though, I can tell you that it got a lot better with time, as my mom got used to the idea and realized it wasn't as big of a deal as she first thought. The best advice I can give is to tell you to hang in there
Your father sounds like he is cool with it^^ give it time, there are people who need time to discover their feelings about you being lesbian like you needed time to discover your own feelings about yourself. Sometimes I was shocked to learn that the people I was most afraid to express my feelings to were the most understanding, and that the ones I thought were not a big problem were really mean. Someone said to me once: Be yourself, be confident and people will get used to it, even the people who give you headwind. I wish you all the best.
@@kottys tysm and it helps me too now the other people have gone throw the same thang i have
@@insideAdirtyMind tysm i wish you the best too
@@the_lesbian_cosplay yeah of course! it gets better, I promise
"Transphobes cannot be witches."
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
This is true. Who's gonna tell JKR?
All Harry Potter characters are trans.
@@teamawesomeness7137 The truest headcan-
HOLY FEMBOYS YOU'RE RIGHT
Ron, Harry, Trelawney, DUMBLEDORE, Umbridge, Fudge
wait not the Muggles
@@EssentialNPC what's a muggle?
Jkr should try some poly juice, I mean mono juice
@@EssentialNPC Why do you think the muggles cant do magic? lol
Y'know, I'm pansexual but I always somehow forget because I've never actually dated a dude before, lol.
When someone says "heterosexual," I think they are talking about me, and then I'm like, wait a minute...
OT, I'm last-minute prepping for the "Purple Friday" (LGBT+ awareness and support day) celebrations at the school I teach at. It's currently past 9 PM where I live and I'm tired, but your video has breathed life into my crafty hands and racing mind. Thank you, I think I should show this video to my students tomorrow!
Good luck, Julie!! You’ve got this!
When I first learned what being trans was (actually learing, not from my transphobic family or the news) I didn't know any of the terms, Trans man, AFAB, and others. So I didn't comment about it, I looked up the terms like HRT to learn and understand others. This was generally pretty easy to do because my phone and computer both have Google.
In the beginning I kept repeatingly having to google if 'trans man' meant 'going from man to woman' or 'from woman to man' (i know now that that is not how it works, and that those are not the right terms) but it took a lot of googeling and asking trans ppl around me to learn the right terms and usage of them.
The important thing is that we are trying to learn, and most transphobes are not.
Ok, I’m actually really curious, and don’t want to look through google right now, but what does AFAB and AMAB mean?
@@BeingChaoticfun1 AFAB = assigned female at birth
AMAB = assigned male at birth
"and my maid outfit doesn't have any gloves" show us OT with a maid outfit please
Imagining buff arm OT in a maid outfit is both scary and rad idea
The best maids are the buff ones, regardless of gender presentation, bc muscles = the ability to casually pick you up like Mr. Incredible picking up the couch that Elastigirl was sitting on to vacuum underneath, lmao
Buff Maid is honestly my transition goal sigh.
@@trashcat4886 same
I would like to say, imagining OT just going around doing cores in a maid outfit is very amusing.
Would watch the video 🍿
the maid outfit be dark blue and whitish pink instead black and white to mach his aesthetic.
"yes, I know, My nails are Chipped"
Me, sitting here, with Jagged Spikey Natural Filthy Nails.
I love how O is just slowly but surely morphing into his true bi-flag-colored, plushy soft self 🥰
“My maid outfit”
OT, hey, OT. You can’t just SAY that and NOT SHOW that.
8:41 OT Saying that was a digimon reference almost made me have a heart attack, it should be Yu Gi Oh
9:20 the soft “Get ratioed, I guess??” is perfect
As a person that grew up watching Yu gi oh, 8:44 physically hurt me.
I was looking for this comment lol
As a person who has never had any interest in yugioh even I knew that was a yugioh reference lol
4:17
The fact that I could immediately:
1. Identify Hajime from his ahoge alone (despite never even playing Danganronpa 2 myself, only watching playthroughs, and being the least familiar with it) and 2. Was able to identify Nagito soley thanks to his hair and the fact that Hajime (who pretty much everyone seems to ship him with) is in the picture despite not even being able to see their entire heads concerns me...
LOL same you can just tell there them