I love your straight to the point answers! I did not get a snarky vibe at all. Just intelligent and honest answers. Something that is scarce these days. 🥰
Thank you for this video! I love your straight forward answers. I’ve been married for 20 years and most of our fights come down to poor communication. (His degree is in communications, oh the irony). I must reiterate what you said; you can’t change someone. If someone annoys you now, it will only get worse. My favorite saying is pick your battles. Not everything is worth being right or bickering about. Thanks again for the awesome video and advice!
You did a really great job with this subject. Your candor and realistic view of the subject is refreshing because we, both men and women, have been fed a bill of goods regarding relationships and what they are “supposed” to look like. Having a solid foundation is key. Nice job Marnie. Btw, that blue color on you is beautiful.
Congrats Marnie on your 24 happy years of marriage! Alan and I have been married 38 years in September. You are so right and realistic in your video. I wish I could’ve watch this at age 25 when I first got married. Great advice! By the way, blue is your color! Your eyes just sparkle and I absolutely love the great shoulders on that shirt and also your lovely hairstyle! You are amazing as always!💝🐇🎄
Loved this! Great reminders, I need to bookmark this so I can revisit. And as others have noted THANK you for your candor, I for one appreciate hearing it as it is, to the point. Keep doing great things!
Great video Marnie 👍🏼. I was married for 18 years in my first marriage. Unfortunately, when they don’t respect you and respect you as the mother of your children, it is trouble in so many ways. It spews down to your children and everything else. As young adults, we tend to put up with so much more, and don’t realize what we’re getting into at times. As we mature we are no longer blinded. Fortunately, I found my best friend, who respects me, my thoughts and feelings. I couldn’t ask for a better partner! Respect is so, so important! It has to be mutual 🤍. You look beautiful...your hair looks gorgeous 😉
I will be honest, I started to watch your channel and I subscribed for makeup tips. After listening to your suggestions regarding relationships, I am impressed. You are a very sensible, rational and helpful source for those who are struggling with relationship issues. I have been happily married for 33 years. A good foundation is everything. I wish that young women would listen to your very wise advice as it would save them from a lot of unnecessary heartache. Big hugs from Victoria, Texas 🤗
You did such an awesome job on this. Don’t apologize for being honest and direct. People should be able to handle it. You have a great view on things. Thank you!!
Very well said. Good communication will fix most of the issues couples are having. If your partner has no idea what your needs are they can't possible meet them. Married 34 years to my best friend. Together 39. Still love him and still LIKE him. Lol. Listen to each other, have patience. And never compare your relationship with someone else's.
Marnie, I have been married for over 40 years to, yes , a trial lawyer who is still working! I love your “Do you want to be right, or happy”- finally learned to concede that issue some years ago- and you are spot on about all ideas of how to have a good marriage-loved this!
I married my best friend, as you did, and he is a wonderful and interesting man, and a great husband, I find that many lawyers have their quirks but on the whole, are very knowledgeable and good provider, and busy but I wouldn’t trade him for anything. I have learned to concede to him - he is often right!!
Great advice. I have been married 40 years and I didn’t really suffer empty Nesting. I have always enjoyed other hobbies and so was looking forward to it. We also had more money for us that wasn’t spent on the kids anymore. I love spending time with hubby.
Great, very informative video! You are spot on in my opinion. At the end of the day whether you are a stay at home spouse/mom, or you work outside of the home, compromise is ALWAYS key! All relationships are give and take. There needs to be balance to have a successful marriage. Now, enough of my two cents...........Marnie that color is perfection on you! Wishing all an enjoyable, and relaxing Sunday........!!
I really liked this video. As someone who is married over 20 years , I think your perceived “flip” and “snark” is actually the voice of maturity and experience speaking, as well as your honest perspective. Still today in 2021, many people, women especially in my experience, are trying to live up to “fantasy” expectations, are so sensitive they can’t communicate for fear of hurting someone’s feeling, are dancing around issues in the hopes their partner will “just know” what the other is thinking/feeling, etc, etc. Much of your advice and thoughts can be applied to all types of relationships: personal or professional. We need to accept people for who they are, and then decide if that works for us and what we want. Unreasonable expectations and changing people are not the answer. Acceptance and like-mindedness will go a lot further. I watched til the end it was a great reminder/re-enforcer of practical, realistic communication. I never forgot the story Robin McGraw (Dr. Phil’s wife) told in her book: after they were dating a while and she knew she wanted to marry him, she “Laid her cards on the table” and told him so. He wasn’t ready and told her so. No worries she said, but I am looking for a life partner and she broke up with him. 3 months later he was back at her door. It worked out for them. But the point is that she knew what she wanted in life, told him and accepted the risk in order to meet her goals.
Bravo Marnie... Excellent advice! I don't think you sounded like a know-it-all, but a married women with sound advice based on your experiences. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful week ahead. 🥰
Really classy, honest answers! Enjoyed this video, and some people need to hear your advise especially if they are wanting to ‘change’ their significant other. My biggest lesson is ‘pick your battles’. My hubby and I used to argue over the silliest things early in our marriage and I soon realized it was not worth the fight! Have a great day!
OMG @ food and finance! Yes! So true! 17 years with my DH and going strong! And I'm a golf widow as well. No way would he want me to learn and that's fine with me! Your advice was spot on and not judgmental at all.
Great video Marnie. All good, down to earth answers. After retiring & spending all our time together, I try to hold my tongue & look at issues from my husbands perspective before reacting but sometimes that’s a lot easier said than done, lol. Have a great summer 😘
I have been married for 46 years, on day one of us getting serious with our relation we talked about kids, religion, politics and money, the rest is peanuts and is an every day common sense practice, common sense is getting to be a lost art form and yes, people don't change so make sure you love or like the person who will travel through life with you..on a personal note, an almost same sense of humor is essencial And to have a sense of humor to me is right up there with the more serious issues...great video.
This is one of my favorite videos that you create! Relationship/family advice is fantastic topic that you cover so well. Congratulations Goldberg’s on celebrating 24 years of marriage & 27 years together. 👏🏼💜
Stuck till the end! I agreed on so many levels😊 I didn’t think you came across as a know it all. Things don’t easily offend me, and I appreciate people that are straight forward. Great job on this video 😃
My husband & I have been together for 29 yrs. We dated for 5 yrs before getting married. It was a 2nd marriage for the both of us. Our first marriages were short & when we met, my son was 3 & his daughter was 2 1/2. Boy oh Boy did we have hurdles & issues!! Not to mention, we were Both Active Duty Military! It has been a LONG Road. We have had MANY challenges, including losing our daughter we had together to Cancer at 3 yrs old. Which led to a tidal wave of depression & alcohol Abuse. Whew! Throw in the fact that we both lost our parents & he lost his best friend and Dealing with a Sociopath Ex Wife & mother of his daughter! (She bought a house across the street from us)!!!! Dear Lord... I couldn't Give anyone any advice, other than... You Mush have a SOLID Foundation... otherwise, it WILL Crumble! Luv Ya Gold Girl... You are Direct & To the Point! 😘
Oh my Prayon...you must be one hell of a strong woman. I can't even imagine dealing with just one of those things, let alone the loss of a child. I am so very sorry for your loss.
@@MsGoldgirl TY. We have 3 Beautiful Granddaughters ages 3,4 & 7 they changed our lives😘💕 (the oldest is Miss Washington DC 2nd Grade- she's on Instagram- Wowza- what a world we live in today)
What you said was harsh and totally true. I got divorced from someone with whom I had all of those issues at the beginning, especially the arguing. I’m not saying I would’ve listened to this advice then, but I can confirm that it’s good advice.
Agree 100% I was only married 23 years because my husband died at 45. Can't think of one day I didn't want him. We raised 7 kids, and for 17 of those years, I also worked f/t. Couple time was my sanity and fun, even when I had 3 babies in less than one year. We went from sneaking from our parents to sneaking from our kids lol, The advice we always gave new couples was what we heard Kevin Bacon & his wife say when we were newly married. "Keep the fights clean & the sex dirty." Crass, but I stand by it 100%. Always remain respectful, even when upset, as we would expect our best friend to treat us, and keep the passion going, keeping it fun & new, making the other feel wanted. No one wants to feel like the person they love feels touching them is an unwanted chore. We only have one life. Who would want that for ourselves otr the person we love? I know many widows who were the "You have to be faithful to me, but you can't be with me either' wives and now have so many regrets they can't undo. Thank God my husband knew I always wanted him, never having to feel or live like that.
You are such a wise woman, with such good common sense. I think if you marry your best friend and continue to grow your interests together you’ve got a good basis to grow as husband & wife, not just parents together. Of all the people that I know that couldn’t make their marriages work the two main reasons were sex (infidelity) or money disagreements. My husband & I are both Jewish and we both think it’s important because we both grew up with the same traditions, therefore we agreed on how to guide them, of course we disagreed on minor things eg baseball or soccer etc.
You are so blessed to have a good relationship with your spouse. And he is lucky to have you. Your children will use you as a template when looking for partners and you will have the thrill of being a mother in law! Great video.
I'm 33 and single. I wish I could sit my 21-year-old self down and force her to watch this. I don't have any regrets, I did what I felt was right *at the time* but damn.
Hi Marnie! So thank you for speaking truth to power (into the lives of your viewers)! As a Christian who follows “Judea-Christian norms”, it is encouraging to see a faith-based couple making it in 2021…for 20+ years! We, as women, have a lot of power and need to look at things realistically can the “Hollywood” version of life as it is presenters to us! Very I insightful and gratefully appreciated!🤗
I liked this video. I feel your advice was honest and from a place of genuineness. The truth about certain things hurt sometimes. Communication is huge and what I feel is the foundation of most relationships. Amongst other things like being attractive to your mate, etc.
So spot on ! I’m sharing this to a group of friends that I feel truly need it . They seem to think I’m a know it all too . While at 16 years I feel like a rookie compared to you guys this is solid and very practical ,true advice ! Thank you !
My husband walked in as I was listening to u. He said she sounds like u I agree with everything u said n I don’t usually agree with everything lol. Married 52 years yesterday n marriage is a job also 👍
Great video Marnie!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 Personally I don’t think you were snarky at all!🤷♀️Just great advice,I’ve been married 40yrs, 2 daughter’s( teacher and nurse) 4 grandsons! Proud mom here!!🤗
Just celebrated my 40th, this is a great video. Marriage is challenging and raising kids is humbling but it’s the best parts of Living You’re story about your MIL was hard to hear but so true about relatives and what’s important in life...kinda Dr Lauraish Haha L’CHAIM
Best video ever. Always love your content, but this was exceptional!! There are just not enough intelligent outspoken adult women in this space. Thanks for being here and standing out like this!
Love you Marnie!! Common sense....not so common these days! ;) Michael seems so laid back to have quite the opposite in a mom. Although...good experience for you to have to prepare you to be the opposite when it comes to being a mother in law. Having three boys, I can attest to the fact that it's a challenge to know where that line is when a daughter in law is in the picture. One thing I would like to add to those that might be reading this....early on in our marriage my husband (of 42 years) and I were having an argument...he told me that he would never do anything on purpose to hurt me....those words stuck with me. That showed me that like you said...it was important for me to express my expectations, otherwise, like you said, he would never be able to read my mind!
It’s important to know that you are “safe” in your marriage. I can’t imagine not having that! Michael’s dad was VERY laid back and I think Michael is a lot like he was. Opposites definitely attract!
Great video Marnie. One reason your one of my favorite YT’ers to watch - you are always honest, direct & straightforward, as well as kind & compassionate. Don’t think it comes across as know it’s all. 💐 Looking forward to your next video. 😊
We bicker often but rarely fight. I grew up in a temperate household. My husband grew up in a volatile household. It took me, still does, a long time to realize that conversing in a loud, clipped way was not necessarily fighting or even if fighting, a big fight.
Yes!! I remember when we had Jake's bris and all of our families were in town for the ceremony. My southern friends were sort of appalled at how loud we all were!! ;)
Very sound advice. Married 27, together 29, you and I are opposite ends of the culture spectrum but there are certainly common threads. Oh and I luvvvv being an empty nester. 😅
So satisfying!! I had so much fun ! Thank you Marnie!! So fun to hear from you about relationship and I am married to 44 year old man who is married to me for 23 years an retired for 2 years and we have four kids... hahahhahahahaha... maybe one day you will vlog about golf for beginner??? Xoxo from Lockdown Toronto
I thoroughly enjoyed this video, as I’ve always enjoyed your dynamic with Michael. You can just tell there is a ton of respect and love there. You had some very amazing tips, too. I can add on the Religion question, as I grew up in a home where my mom is Catholic and my Dad is Jewish. Since us kids were raised Catholic, was really difficult for my parents and family at times. I also know in my own 17 year relationship we are of different faiths and race, which did present challenges which were worked through early on :)
Sounds like you have a good foundation. Differences in faith or any other difference doesn't mean the relationship is doomed-it's just best to address those differences early on so you can deal with them in a united way. It's when people ignore those differences for years that people find they have problems.
@@MsGoldgirl So true Marnie. I do think that it in many cases it can be a deal breaker if either party is very religious. Like you said though, it is key to address the issues at the onset. :)
Thank you so much for this video and sharing your thoughts and perspective on life. You really got me thinking about how I’ve been viewing the season I’m in right now with an empty nest. It’s time for a mind shift by appreciating that my husband and I raised 2 wonderful adults and that should be celebrated! We now can focus on doing some of those things we want to do with more time on our hands. I love your point on if you volunteer for your kids school and activities try and find something outside of that to volunteer so you aren’t left without this when they leave home. I didn’t do this and I wish I had, great advice. With that said it’s never to late to find a worthy cause to volunteer for, and I’m excited to do that😀💕
THIS NEEDS TO BE A CLASS YOU TEACH TO THOSE THAT ARE DATING OR ARE LOOKING TO FIND SOMEONE!!! Because you make it clear in a way people will listen and be more thoughtful to themselves while finding the one. 💡 You may want to think about writing a book. I’d actually name it. Finding the one !!❤️
I agree with you on so much of what you have said. We have navigated our marriage the same way. I was interested when you said that bickering is your love language. I loved that because we do the same. I just never thought of it as a love language but I guess it is. I like that. Can you elaborate how you labeled bickering that way?
What I mean is that we bicker because we feel so comfortable with each other that we can communicate even over the stuff we disagree on, because we have complete safety in the knowledge that nothing we say is a deal breaker. I know that no matter what I poke at Michael about (or vice versa), he will always be here for me and I for him.
@@MsGoldgirl ,perfect! It is the same in my marriage. We bicker and in a few minutes everything is fine and there are never grudges! I find my whole family is that way! We are all loud and say our opinions vocally but never any hard feelings. Many people don’t get us. Lol
How do you imagine you will be as a mother in law? How will you feel if your daughter in law talk about you in the same way you do? Will everything will be okay with your son?
I imagine I’ll be pretty damn good since I know how not to be. If my future DIL feels that way about me then I would be doing something very wrong. Trust me-my MIL knew how we felt and we tried to get her to understand. In her last years we all got along really well…it just took awhile for her to let go of her controlling behavior.
It doesn't mean a relationship is perfect but after 20+ years, you've already argued over everything you're going to disgaree about, you know what's important and you understand each other better than anyone so no you don't end up fighting a lot, if you've spent the time building a solid marriage with a healthy foundation.
I love your straight to the point answers! I did not get a snarky vibe at all. Just intelligent and honest answers. Something that is scarce these days. 🥰
Thank you!!
Ditto! Well done!
Thank you for this video! I love your straight forward answers. I’ve been married for 20 years and most of our fights come down to poor communication. (His degree is in communications, oh the irony). I must reiterate what you said; you can’t change someone. If someone annoys you now, it will only get worse. My favorite saying is pick your battles. Not everything is worth being right or bickering about. Thanks again for the awesome video and advice!
Your spot on Marnie. Hoping you reached the ones that need to hear it.
You did a really great job with this subject. Your candor and realistic view of the subject is refreshing because we, both men and women, have been fed a bill of goods regarding relationships and what they are “supposed” to look like. Having a solid foundation is key. Nice job Marnie. Btw, that blue color on you is beautiful.
Thank you so much!
Marnie, I really enjoyed your thoughtful, practical and smart advice.
Well done....
This was a great video Marnie...one of your best. I think this might be your calling! xo Sues
Congrats Marnie on your 24 happy years of marriage! Alan and I have been married 38 years in September. You are so right and realistic in your video. I wish I could’ve watch this at age 25 when I first got married. Great advice! By the way, blue is your color! Your eyes just sparkle and I absolutely love the great shoulders on that shirt and also your lovely hairstyle! You are amazing as always!💝🐇🎄
Loved this! Great reminders, I need to bookmark this so I can revisit. And as others have noted THANK you for your candor, I for one appreciate hearing it as it is, to the point. Keep doing great things!
You are so welcome!
Great video Marnie 👍🏼. I was married for 18 years in my first marriage. Unfortunately, when they don’t respect you and respect you as the mother of your children, it is trouble in so many ways. It spews down to your children and everything else. As young adults, we tend to put up with so much more, and don’t realize what we’re getting into at times. As we mature we are no longer blinded. Fortunately, I found my best friend, who respects me, my thoughts and feelings. I couldn’t ask for a better partner! Respect is so, so important! It has to be mutual 🤍. You look beautiful...your hair looks gorgeous 😉
I love your Q&As I hope you do more & don’t worry about length I listen while I’m doing other stuff!
I will be honest, I started to watch your channel and I subscribed for makeup tips. After listening to your suggestions regarding relationships, I am impressed. You are a very sensible, rational and helpful source for those who are struggling with relationship issues. I have been happily married for 33 years. A good foundation is everything. I wish that young women would listen to your very wise advice as it would save them from a lot of unnecessary heartache. Big hugs from Victoria, Texas 🤗
Thank you so much Susan! Congratulations on 33 years!
Hi Marnie, I'm sure you helped a lot of people. It was fun to hear your advice. Have a wonderful week! xoxo, Karen
Really enjoyed this! Great advice. And btw, your hair looks so pretty❤️
Great video Marnie. Having been married for 29 years his month, I agree with so much of what you shared. Hoping it helps viewers.
I hope so too! Congrats on 29 years!
Every dating young person should listen to this.
You did such an awesome job on this. Don’t apologize for being honest and direct. People should be able to handle it. You have a great view on things. Thank you!!
Thank you-people should be handle honest and direct communication, but these days you never know. ;)
This is a wonderful video. You're 100% on point. Communication is so hard and learning from each other will be game changing in any relationship.
Loved it!!! Well done!!
Very well said. Good communication will fix most of the issues couples are having. If your partner has no idea what your needs are they can't possible meet them.
Married 34 years to my best friend. Together 39. Still love him and still LIKE him. Lol. Listen to each other, have patience. And never compare your relationship with someone else's.
Excellent advice! It's important to love them AND like them!!
Marnie, I have been married for over 40 years to, yes , a trial lawyer who is still working! I love your “Do you want to be right, or happy”- finally learned to concede that issue some years ago- and you are spot on about all ideas of how to have a good marriage-loved this!
Bless your heart-40 years to a trial lawyer is a LONG time! ;)
I married my best friend, as you did, and he is a wonderful and interesting man, and a great husband, I find that many lawyers have their quirks but on the whole, are very knowledgeable and good provider, and busy but I wouldn’t trade him for anything. I have learned to concede to him - he is often right!!
This is a lot of good old fashioned common sense, and 100% spot on! I’ve been happily married for 28 years and total agree with you Marnie!!
Great advice. I have been married 40 years and I didn’t really suffer empty Nesting. I have always enjoyed other hobbies and so was looking forward to it. We also had more money for us that wasn’t spent on the kids anymore. I love spending time with hubby.
I must say, I REALLY LOVED THIS POST!!!!!!
Excellent. Love your candor. Great advice for everyone. Thanks for this!
Great, very informative video! You are spot on in my opinion. At the end of the day whether you are a stay at home spouse/mom, or you work outside of the home, compromise is ALWAYS key! All relationships are give and take. There needs to be balance to have a successful marriage. Now, enough of my two cents...........Marnie that color is perfection on you! Wishing all an enjoyable, and relaxing Sunday........!!
I really liked this video. As someone who is married over 20 years , I think your perceived “flip” and “snark” is actually the voice of maturity and experience speaking, as well as your honest perspective. Still today in 2021, many people, women especially in my experience, are trying to live up to “fantasy” expectations, are so sensitive they can’t communicate for fear of hurting someone’s feeling, are dancing around issues in the hopes their partner will “just know” what the other is thinking/feeling, etc, etc. Much of your advice and thoughts can be applied to all types of relationships: personal or professional. We need to accept people for who they are, and then decide if that works for us and what we want. Unreasonable expectations and changing people are not the answer. Acceptance and like-mindedness will go a lot further. I watched til the end it was a great reminder/re-enforcer of practical, realistic communication. I never forgot the story Robin McGraw (Dr. Phil’s wife) told in her book: after they were dating a while and she knew she wanted to marry him, she “Laid her cards on the table” and told him so. He wasn’t ready and told her so. No worries she said, but I am looking for a life partner and she broke up with him. 3 months later he was back at her door. It worked out for them. But the point is that she knew what she wanted in life, told him and accepted the risk in order to meet her goals.
I love that story-Michael and I shared what our expectations were for the kind of marriage we wanted-on the first date!
Bravo Marnie... Excellent advice! I don't think you sounded like a know-it-all, but a married women with sound advice based on your experiences. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful week ahead. 🥰
Great answers!
Great video! Love you advice. Make more videos like these, please
Really classy, honest answers! Enjoyed this video, and some people need to hear your advise especially if they are wanting to ‘change’ their significant other. My biggest lesson is ‘pick your battles’. My hubby and I used to argue over the silliest things early
in our marriage and I soon realized it was not worth the fight! Have a great day!
So true!
OMG @ food and finance! Yes! So true! 17 years with my DH and going strong! And I'm a golf widow as well. No way would he want me to learn and that's fine with me! Your advice was spot on and not judgmental at all.
Great advice Marnie!
Great video Marnie. All good, down to earth answers. After retiring & spending all our time together, I try to hold my tongue & look at issues from my husbands perspective before reacting but sometimes that’s a lot easier said than done, lol. Have a great summer 😘
Oh, that's totally understandable! We're not perfect!
Thanks so much, I happen to agree with your whole relationship attitude
I have been married for 46 years, on day one of us getting serious with our relation we talked about kids, religion, politics and money, the rest is peanuts and is an every day common sense practice, common sense is getting to be a lost art form and yes, people don't change so make sure you love or like the person who will travel through life with you..on a personal note, an almost same sense of humor is essencial And to have a sense of humor to me is right up there with the more serious issues...great video.
I love hearing that! Michael and I hashed all that stuff out on our first date! 🤣
This is one of my favorite videos that you create! Relationship/family advice is fantastic topic that you cover so well.
Congratulations Goldberg’s on celebrating 24 years of marriage & 27 years together. 👏🏼💜
Stuck till the end! I agreed on so many levels😊 I didn’t think you came across as a know it all. Things don’t easily offend me, and I appreciate people that are straight forward. Great job on this video 😃
Thank you!
Fabulous job MG! Loved the retirement section.
Excellent, Marnie!
You give such down to earth, common sense advice. I'm impressed
xo~linda
Thanks Linda!
Love this!! Great advice :-) Thank you for this video. I needed to hear some of these things haha!
You should be a marriage counselor Marnie! This is so true and helpful
I can only imagine how that would go... ;)
👏🏻 This is great! I feel that a lot of people that say they are unhappy have unreasonable expectations.
Seems to me it's 100% that way. And add to that they actually don't even know what would make them happy.
My husband & I have been together for 29 yrs. We dated for 5 yrs before getting married. It was a 2nd marriage for the both of us. Our first marriages were short & when we met, my son was 3 & his daughter was 2 1/2. Boy oh Boy did we have hurdles & issues!! Not to mention, we were Both Active Duty Military! It has been a LONG Road. We have had MANY challenges, including losing our daughter we had together to Cancer at 3 yrs old. Which led to a tidal wave of depression & alcohol Abuse. Whew! Throw in the fact that we both lost our parents & he lost his best friend and Dealing with a Sociopath Ex Wife & mother of his daughter! (She bought a house across the street from us)!!!! Dear Lord... I couldn't Give anyone any advice, other than... You Mush have a SOLID Foundation... otherwise, it WILL Crumble! Luv Ya Gold Girl... You are Direct & To the Point! 😘
Oh my Prayon...you must be one hell of a strong woman. I can't even imagine dealing with just one of those things, let alone the loss of a child. I am so very sorry for your loss.
@@MsGoldgirl TY. We have 3 Beautiful Granddaughters ages 3,4 & 7 they changed our lives😘💕 (the oldest is Miss Washington DC 2nd Grade- she's on Instagram- Wowza- what a world we live in today)
Great video
What you said was harsh and totally true. I got divorced from someone with whom I had all of those issues at the beginning, especially the arguing. I’m not saying I would’ve listened to this advice then, but I can confirm that it’s good advice.
I'm sorry you had to learn that the very hard way, but thanks for the confirmation.
Agree 100% I was only married 23 years because my husband died at 45. Can't think of one day I didn't want him. We raised 7 kids, and for 17 of those years, I also worked f/t. Couple time was my sanity and fun, even when I had 3 babies in less than one year. We went from sneaking from our parents to sneaking from our kids lol, The advice we always gave new couples was what we heard Kevin Bacon & his wife say when we were newly married. "Keep the fights clean & the sex dirty." Crass, but I stand by it 100%. Always remain respectful, even when upset, as we would expect our best friend to treat us, and keep the passion going, keeping it fun & new, making the other feel wanted. No one wants to feel like the person they love feels touching them is an unwanted chore. We only have one life. Who would want that for ourselves otr the person we love? I know many widows who were the "You have to be faithful to me, but you can't be with me either' wives and now have so many regrets they can't undo. Thank God my husband knew I always wanted him, never having to feel or live like that.
You are such a wise woman, with such good common sense. I think if you marry your best friend and continue to grow your interests together you’ve got a good basis to grow as husband & wife, not just parents together. Of all the people that I know that couldn’t make their marriages work the two main reasons were sex (infidelity) or money disagreements. My husband & I are both Jewish and we both think it’s important because we both grew up with the same traditions, therefore we agreed on how to guide them, of course we disagreed on minor things eg baseball or soccer etc.
Brava!👏🏼 I smiled through your whole video, Marnie. Every time you say Disney Princess, I cracked up. Great advice. ❤️
Excellent video, Marnie! I agree 100% with your answers. I've been married 25 years.
You are so blessed to have a good relationship with your spouse. And he is lucky to have you. Your children will use you as a template when looking for partners and you will have the thrill of being a mother in law! Great video.
Thank you so much!
I'm 33 and single. I wish I could sit my 21-year-old self down and force her to watch this. I don't have any regrets, I did what I felt was right *at the time* but damn.
Thank you for your insight and information. As always it is great to hear your opinion.
Hi Marnie! So thank you for speaking truth to power (into the lives of your viewers)! As a Christian who follows “Judea-Christian norms”, it is encouraging to see a faith-based couple making it in 2021…for 20+ years! We, as women, have a lot of power and need to look at things realistically can the “Hollywood” version of life as it is presenters to us! Very I insightful and gratefully appreciated!🤗
Meant to say “vs what Hollywood hands is as normal”🤗
I liked this video. I feel your advice was honest and from a place of genuineness. The truth about certain things hurt sometimes. Communication is huge and what I feel is the foundation of most relationships. Amongst other things like being attractive to your mate, etc.
This was a great video! Straight to the point and answered like a mature , classy women.
Amen! Amen! Amen! Honest and spot on marriage/relationship advice, Marnie! Hopefully people will really listen and absorb your words of wisdom!!
So spot on ! I’m sharing this to a group of friends that I feel truly need it . They seem to think I’m a know it all too . While at 16 years I feel like a rookie compared to you guys this is solid and very practical ,true advice ! Thank you !
Thanks for sharing!!
My husband walked in as I was listening to u. He said she sounds like u I agree with everything u said n I don’t usually agree with everything lol. Married 52 years yesterday n marriage is a job also 👍
Congratulations on 52 years! That is quite the accomplishment!
Hi Marnie. You are talking so down to earth and sensible. Great video.
Just getting adjusted to the idea of being an empty nester soon! Thinking of starting a business at home.
Marnie, great talk..refreshing to see "traditional views" 👏 you and your husband are a good teammates
Great video Marnie!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Personally I don’t think you were snarky at all!🤷♀️Just great advice,I’ve been married 40yrs, 2 daughter’s( teacher and nurse) 4 grandsons! Proud mom here!!🤗
Oh thank you!
Just celebrated my 40th, this is a great video. Marriage is challenging and raising kids is humbling but it’s the best parts of Living You’re story about your MIL was hard to hear but so true about relatives and what’s important in life...kinda Dr Lauraish
Haha L’CHAIM
Great video!
Best video ever. Always love your content, but this was exceptional!! There are just not enough intelligent outspoken adult women in this space. Thanks for being here and standing out like this!
Wow-thank you so very much!
Really enjoyed this. Your answers are spoken with a lot of wisdom.
Well, thank you for starting this off with my question 🏌️♀️⛳️ I feel low key special 😎 😜 You are one brilliant woman! Michael is a lucky guy 💯
I thought you might get a kick out of that!
Love you Marnie!! Common sense....not so common these days! ;) Michael seems so laid back to have quite the opposite in a mom. Although...good experience for you to have to prepare you to be the opposite when it comes to being a mother in law. Having three boys, I can attest to the fact that it's a challenge to know where that line is when a daughter in law is in the picture. One thing I would like to add to those that might be reading this....early on in our marriage my husband (of 42 years) and I were having an argument...he told me that he would never do anything on purpose to hurt me....those words stuck with me. That showed me that like you said...it was important for me to express my expectations, otherwise, like you said, he would never be able to read my mind!
It’s important to know that you are “safe” in your marriage. I can’t imagine not having that! Michael’s dad was VERY laid back and I think Michael is a lot like he was. Opposites definitely attract!
This was great advice. You are a wise woman!❤️
I try.
Great video Marnie. One reason your one of my favorite YT’ers to watch - you are always honest, direct & straightforward, as well as kind & compassionate. Don’t think it comes across as know it’s all. 💐 Looking forward to your next video. 😊
Thanks so much 😊
Thank you very much. I really appreciate your compassion and generosity in giving people your email address and offering your assistance.
We bicker often but rarely fight. I grew up in a temperate household. My husband grew up in a volatile household. It took me, still does, a long time to realize that conversing in a loud, clipped way was not necessarily fighting or even if fighting, a big fight.
Yes!! I remember when we had Jake's bris and all of our families were in town for the ceremony. My southern friends were sort of appalled at how loud we all were!! ;)
Well said Marnie. Let the being right all the time slide and make way for harmony. And listen somtimes instead of talking.
Very sound advice. Married 27, together 29, you and I are opposite ends of the culture spectrum but there are certainly common threads. Oh and I luvvvv being an empty nester. 😅
Great video and great advice! Thank you! 😊
Glad it was helpful!
An excellent video !!! Very, very wise words!👍👍👍. 😊
I’m so excited to watch this! Also are you going to do a Father’s Day gift guide? You always have the best gift giving ideas! Thank you!
It wasn't on my radar-I feel like I just share the same things every year. I'll probably do a post over on my Instagram feed instead.
So satisfying!! I had so much fun ! Thank you Marnie!! So fun to hear from you about relationship and I am married to 44 year old man who is married to me for 23 years an retired for 2 years and we have four kids... hahahhahahahaha... maybe one day you will vlog about golf for beginner??? Xoxo from Lockdown Toronto
I’m pretty sure you’ll never see a golf video from me! 😉
Loved this❣️
I thoroughly enjoyed this video, as I’ve always enjoyed your dynamic with Michael. You can just tell there is a ton of respect and love there. You had some very amazing tips, too. I can add on the Religion question, as I grew up in a home where my mom is Catholic and my Dad is Jewish. Since us kids were raised Catholic, was really difficult for my parents and family at times. I also know in my own 17 year relationship we are of different faiths and race, which did present challenges which were worked through early on :)
Sounds like you have a good foundation. Differences in faith or any other difference doesn't mean the relationship is doomed-it's just best to address those differences early on so you can deal with them in a united way. It's when people ignore those differences for years that people find they have problems.
@@MsGoldgirl So true Marnie. I do think that it in many cases it can be a deal breaker if either party is very religious. Like you said though, it is key to address the issues at the onset. :)
Great video Marnie! Felt like a podcast. Ever thought of going there? X
I have!!
Great video. I have the same love language, we have been together for 24 yrs.
Great video and advice!
Thank you for your comments on in laws it was helpful.
Glad it was helpful!
This is fantastic, and needed. Thank you.🙂
You are so welcome!
Good advice
Glad you think so!
Great video Marine and great advice (even thou I’m not married) You look beautiful today love the blouse and your hair!!
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Loved this and agree with everything!!! Xoxo
You and your husband are marriage goals!! 🥰
i did not get snark or know it all at all...... wish i had had this advise years ago
Totally agree with the “yes dear”!
Well said!
Mazel tov on your long, happy marriage. You posted this video on our 40th anniversary, so we also know what it takes to make it work.
Wow, thank you! Mazel tov to YOU!! You're the experts!!
Thank you so much for this video and sharing your thoughts and perspective on life. You really got me thinking about how I’ve been viewing the season I’m in right now with an empty nest. It’s time for a mind shift by appreciating that my husband and I raised 2 wonderful adults and that should be celebrated! We now can focus on doing some of those things we want to do with more time on our hands. I love your point on if you volunteer for your kids school and activities try and find something outside of that to volunteer so you aren’t left without this when they leave home. I didn’t do this and I wish I had, great advice. With that said it’s never to late to find a worthy cause to volunteer for, and I’m excited to do that😀💕
It's time to celebrate!!
THIS NEEDS TO BE A CLASS YOU TEACH TO THOSE THAT ARE DATING OR ARE LOOKING TO FIND SOMEONE!!! Because you make it clear in a way people will listen and be more thoughtful to themselves while finding the one.
💡 You may want to think about writing a book. I’d actually name it. Finding the one !!❤️
I would love to teach that class!!
I agree with you on so much of what you have said. We have navigated our marriage the same way. I was interested when you said that bickering is your love language. I loved that because we do the same. I just never thought of it as a love language but I guess it is. I like that. Can you elaborate how you labeled bickering that way?
What I mean is that we bicker because we feel so comfortable with each other that we can communicate even over the stuff we disagree on, because we have complete safety in the knowledge that nothing we say is a deal breaker. I know that no matter what I poke at Michael about (or vice versa), he will always be here for me and I for him.
@@MsGoldgirl ,perfect! It is the same in my marriage. We bicker and in a few minutes everything is fine and there are never grudges! I find my whole family is that way! We are all loud and say our opinions vocally but never any hard feelings. Many people don’t get us. Lol
How do you imagine you will be as a mother in law? How will you feel if your daughter in law talk about you in the same way you do? Will everything will be okay with your son?
I imagine I’ll be pretty damn good since I know how not to be. If my future DIL feels that way about me then I would be doing something very wrong. Trust me-my MIL knew how we felt and we tried to get her to understand. In her last years we all got along really well…it just took awhile for her to let go of her controlling behavior.
Yes, friends first is a big deal. When you're young it is so hard to see the forest for the trees. This is why I don't resent getting older.
Getting older is definitely better then people think!
It doesn't mean a relationship is perfect but after 20+ years, you've already argued over everything you're going to disgaree about, you know what's important and you understand each other better than anyone so no you don't end up fighting a lot, if you've spent the time building a solid marriage with a healthy foundation.
Loved the video! How did you get so wise?!?!
Ha! Some days are better than others.
Very sound advice, Marnie.