Pretty privilege is the realest thing on the planet! I have been bullied since I could remember until I had a huge glow up my junior year of high school and babyyyy 👶 the DIFFERENCE lol is so drastic, I get so many compliments on a daily basis, everybody wants to be my friend, people give me free stuff and hold doors open for me, everybody always Hypes me up when they see me especially strangers; Don't get me wrong I'm extremely grateful but I just wanted to say it's very real LOL
@@eyecandymetirua5238 No one really calls themselves "Alpha Males", even Alpha Males don't call themselves that. I've only heard other people call them that 🤷🏿♂️
@@ItsGooseIsland Have you seen on any alpha male podcasts???? Because the few that I have seen there are SOME that call themselves alpha males and they're deadass proud of that.....
Girly my mom is half Mexican and my dad's mainly Scottish, and I still get it. I'm the first daughter in my family and I can honestly say this is so relatable! seriously you wanna go out with some friends and you got to have a full speech to persuade them. also, I do so much to take care of my 4sisters and help out; we are the glue ladies lolol.
About the “pretty privilege” thing, I definitely agree that (generally speaking) conventionally attractive people get more respect and love than others. But sometimes there’s folks out there who genuinely care about your well-being other than your looks. You just have to find the right guy/girl. I remember running away from home when I was a suicidal teen and the policeman comforted me and even offered to buy McDonald’s. I wasn’t “attractive” by any means. I was pretty gross looking as a teen. 😂 But he was nice to me nonetheless! There’s good people out there.
@@elodie7141 I try to tell myself I’m mentally healthier than I was before (which is true) but I still feel like complete shit every darn day. I just want to like myself.
Damn that cop is nice! I don’t like McDonald’s but in my sad moments, I’d be happy to eat fast food. Also I am close to pretty privilege I think, idk I’m just normal looking south asian, just genetics for the main part. Also I prefer “ugly” people, I quote ugly because I don’t believe ugly. I’ve met a lot of pretty people that just seemed stuck up, some were nice but turned out to be two faced, a few I met were great. Most of the other people I got along with were usually the so called “ugly” people by society standards. The difference is huge, majority of people I hung with the most were “ugly” people, they had great personalities. I hope you love yourself one day, even if it’s not love, perhaps just a bit of liking is a lot. You are not ugly, don’t let the word ugly slip into your brain, it will wire in. It sucks to be mentally challenged/have mental issues (I have some issues as well mentally), but I gaslight myself into thinking I’m great 😂👌. Not the best strategy but what can I do, after 20+ therapists, it’s best to know you won’t change just because of a therapist, they may help but not fully. When you feel like the word ugly will come to your head or you feel like you’re going to think about how ugly you are, quickly think of a happy memory or something you enjoy, what change you want in the world, continue this everyday, and tell yourself to the mirror that they are beautiful and that you do not have to conform to society, your reflection is your closest precious person in the world. Take care of yourself (your reflection), live happy, and let out any emotional feeling and be strong when you can. Don’t force anything when you are pressured or want to be this or that because of society. Hope you have a happy life and hope the majority of your ongoing life would be happy memories.
@@bme7995 The cop definitely was a sweetheart! I’m not a fan of McDonald’s either. I actually declined his offer. Yet I still appreciated his thoughtful help. It’s the small things that count. Any little gesture can make a huge difference! I might have died that day, but the policeman convinced me to stay. Mental illness really does sucks… 😕 It’s so unbelievably hard to live with a distorted and altered view of reality/yourself. I don’t bother with therapy because I’m too broke for that. 😖 I sincerely hope I can overcome my severe depression. The thoughts that go through my head on a daily basis is bad. Really bad. I’ve relied on physical pain to block it all out. I use razor blades, box cutters, scalpels, anything sharp on myself. After a meaningful conversation with my older brother, I made the decision to stop my self harm. My depression is a liar. I’m not weak or ugly. I’m strong and beautiful.
@@H0SANNA I used to have really bad depression too. It's been about 4 years and I honestly cannot believe I'm still alive. I'm 17 now and I have a healthy sense of self worth and confidence. It's crazy because looking back, I am a completely different person. I'm telling you, things were really really bad and I never thought I would get better. So being someone who has experienced severe depression too, I want you to know that things can get better. You may not be able to see it now, but you are so much stronger than you think you are. I want you to know you're not alone.
to clarify: france IS actually banning hijabs (not just niqabs). if you are a minor and you wear the hijab, they wont let you go to class wearing it. like you could be a 17 year old hijabi living life just tryna study, and they wont let you attend class unless you leave half your identity at home 😃 they have guards at school entry points that stop you from entering with a hijab on- ITS MADNESSSSS.
what,,, this is so sickening. i’m literally a muslim hijabi but rethinking that trip to france, i honestly don’t get people these days. christian nuns cover their heads, sikh men wear turbans (i think, remind me if i’m wrong), it’s just as normal to wear religious wear like a cross necklace as it is to wear a cultural clothing/accessory. bro i literally don’t know what’s pissing people off about a hijab, like seriously, is your life that sad to worry about what someone else chooses and loves to wear for themselves ??
@@shezambreen2362 i went for a quick trip, other than subtle dirty looks you're not gonna have any problem. However op is right, my sister's live there and they did tell me about the hijab being banned for students.
If you're also feeling ugly, also remember that the way we feel isn't constant. Like you may not feel like your best one day, but another day, you might feel like you're glowing. I have certainly felt that way and I just tell myself it's one of those days
There was a short from this one youtuber, it had someone saying they think they’re ugly and their partner responded by saying you don’t see yourself when you smile, laugh etc. really good short and youtuber
I saw a video of a girl changing her "skin color" from white to black and I literally fell off my bed when I watched it Like the audacity and shock I felt in that moment was unmatched smh Edit: wow so many likes on like 4 hours, thank you
Who was it? Was it Ariana Grande? Or Nikita Dragun? But in all seriousness why would she do that? Maybe she thought doing that would be funny or “new content” which is so wrong I bet you she’s racist.
Hijab harassment is not okay, it's a peaceful way of expressing devotion and shouldn't be banned. But I feel niqab and especially burkas should be beacuse they're a security threat for recognising faces on CCTV, and they represent purity culture and especially the burka is a undeniable symbol of female oppression, especially in places like Afghanistan and Iran. And no don't catch me with that islamophobia accusation because I have nothing against Muslims, heck my dad's Muslim, and I'm literally an afghan girl.
@@lana9512 im sorry if you find that offensive. But I can't deny what I see on a daily basis within my own family and within my homelands news and stories from relatives can I? Or are you gonna tell me that the burka isn't associated with oppression? That the women in my home country are all willingly wearing them in public and not going to school willingly and being lorded around by male chaperones willingly and getting shot in the head over honour killings for not wearing one willingly? You yourself wear a hijab? Why dont you wear a burka? Maybe you just don't know, but for many they become faceless when they wear one - they lose their identity. It's so sad. I'm so sorry you find this offensive but maybe you should consider why you do so? I honestly feel quite bitter when I see other richer more privileged Muslim girls ignore the abuse of poorer Muslim girls and the weaponisation of false religious objects towards them (the burka isn't even mentioned in the Qur'an - in fact not even the hijab specifically is, just a item of clothing to hang from your head to your breasts, now interpreted as the hijab but doesn't have to be, could be a simple scarf as that is also similar to original garment talked about in the Qur'an, hence why some Muslims don't wear the hijab but instead a loose scarf - advised by the prophet to prevent rapes....slightly problematic considering that implies it's the woman's fault for wearing something indecent, but I'm not gonna demand every majority muslim culture to adhere to the wests idea of sexual liberation. However the oppression associated with face covering veils is not something that is subjectively wrong. The burka is the symbol of the murdering and oppression of poorer Muslim women who, like a woman stuck in a abusive relationship, sometimes even defend it despite it causing them harm because they believe Allah demands it (which he most certainly doesn't ). And of course other times they just learn to live with the oppression and lose the will to fight.
idk if anyone else said this but “transracial” is an actual thing that describes transracial adoption (children being adopted by parents of a different race) and those who are affected by transracial adoptions HATE that it’s being misused
As a transracial adoptee and transgender person I hate the way they are ruining both of my communities. The trans community is getting associated with them, and other bad communities and it sucks, also some people don’t understand that saying I identify as a different race and I’m transracial is also actually transphobic as it makes fun of our actual experiences and equates it to stupid things like fake pronouns. The whole transracial thing takes the term away from adoptees like me, and makes other people make fun of the trans and non-binary community while also being racist it sucks.
True. Look at the beauty standards around the world and in the past. They all are different and it’s going to change again in the future. Things before that were considered ugly are now pretty and things from one place that is seen as beautiful is ugly in another. It’s seems like there’s no such thing as being “beautiful” or “ugly” it’s just if you’re in or not. That’s why we shouldn’t hold ourselves to these standards.
@@blueweirdo719 an app told me I'm ugly in every country except Japan and in Japan they think a man on a painting I'm scared of is handsome so I'm ugly
Unfortunately my family is like that with my height. Like bro I cant control it. Do they want me to say “oh I’m sorry I’m not the height of your liking?” -snaps bones in half to make my self like a inch shorter - “there you go.”
1:19. I’ve heard people say this lots of times but I do have a little piece of advice. I think that no one in the world is “ugly”. Everything is based on opinion. If someone calls you ugly, its their opinion. I believe that every one on earth is beautiful and if someone tells us we are ugly and we know the truth about ourselves we should not let their opinion ruin our self confidence. I know its hard for some people because I went through a lot of bullying and its hurt me tremendously but, no one on earth is “ugly”. Periodt.
if you’re interested in how other cultures’ parents treat their kids: i’m filipino and my male cousins basically get to do whatever they want as long as it’s not hard drugs and no one gets pregnant. on the other hand, my parents didn’t even trust me to cross the street by myself until i was like 15 and constantly underestimate me and assume i can’t do things even when i demonstrate right i front of them that i can. my female cousins’ mothers constantly intrude on their privacy to make sure they aren’t flirting, as if being complimented by a guy can instantly get you pregnant. they have a very specific idea of what they think girls can do and “being independent” or “act responsibly” are not on the list. oh also: i’m the first daughter of the first daughter (of the first daughter) and my aunts and even my uncle constantly scold/make fun of me for not being feminine, not caring about gender roles, not being strict on myself and basically not having a stick up my ass. “i’m not allowed to act like this because i’m not a man” even though all i really do is act lazy and slovenly sometimes and don’t hold myself to impossible standards or spend all my time looking after other people. also sometimes i don’t constantly obsess over being immaculately neat and presentable ( i keep myself and my clothes clean but i don’t iron every single piece of clothing i own or bathe my hair in gel to keep it all in place) bc i don’t care how most people view me which is the gravest sin i have ever committed.
I am also the first daughter of the first daughter on my mother side. Just like you I also have to constantly be scolded by my aunts and uncles about not restricting myself in in gender roles, keeping ideal weight, acting “too grown for my age”, and constantly being compared to my other cousins. I am the middle child, yet I have the roles as a first child and have to constantly keep both the oldest and the youngest in line as well as do more duties than they do. I’m the one stuck with the cleaning and helping out everyone while everyone mainly doesn’t wanna be bothered with it because it doesn’t seem like it’s their duty. Where is daughter is definitely the glue of the family.
I’m the youngest/only daughter of immigrant parents and I am constantly scrutinized by my aunts and relatives: little things like “sit like a lady” or even making horrible comments about my friend’s weight, and like scrutinizing my hair just b/c they don’t like how it looks. Also constantly being judged if my room isn’t spic and span, even tho my brothers room is messier. Glad to know I’m not the only one 🥲😅
First daughter in an African household here 🇰🇪🇰🇪 I can confirm, everything you just said was true 💀 My parents have 4 children (I have three siblings), and they were the most strict with me, and I feel like I hold a title of being the ultimate role model 🥲
True true “Oh no! I lost my phone so either I go call the police in the house phone or check my room while there’s a homicidal maniac in my room probably armed with a firearm” … “Ok I’m going to my room!”
This is so sad. First of all, you’re changing your skin color to become “trendy” when black women have actually been bullied or harassed for having this skin color naturally. Second of all, pale skin is beautiful. Whether you’re white as snow or a couple shades darker, it’s gorgeous. To girls of all races, never change your skin tone. It is who you are, it’s a sign of your ancestry, and for that reason it’s beautiful
⚠️NOT INSULTING ANYONE IT IS YOUR BODY YOUR CHOICE⚠️ Same with the BBL or Big lips trend. Back in the earlier years girls wanted a small butt to look natural and that made a lot of people with a naturally big butt to feel insecure or bad about how they look. But like I'm saying, now the trend is to get a BBL to get a bigger butt to get that "Ideal butt" just bc people feel the need to change or alter their body to fit in Girls (mainly black girls) were bullied for their big lips, making them feel ugly and Insecure about themselves or how they looked, but now the trend is to get fillers to have "big" or "natural" lips (Ex, Kim Kardashian, Kylie Jenner, etc.)
@@S3R14LCR13R_ agreed!! I think it’s sad we’re adopting certain ethnic features of different groups Bc they’re “trendy” when ppl of that race were bullied for it. As you mentioned, black girls being bullied for big lips but yet now everybody’s getting filler, Asians being bullied for slanted eyes yet now were all doing fox eye makeup, white girls getting bullied for having freckles on their nose and cheeks now we’re drawing them on. It is especially bad with black features considering the history of this country…for obvious reasons. But it’s sad that we’re taking people ethnic features and just making it a trend when it’s convenient
Thank you for this comment. It’s like if you’re too dark it’s wrong, if you’re too white that’s bad also. I’m very white and people constantly compare me to themselves, putting their arms next to mine so I can see how tan they are and I’m not. It makes me feel like i got cancer or I have an illness almost with the way they constantly mention how white i am. I also always get told to go outside to go sit outside in the sun. Lol it’s crazy how you’ll never satisfy ppl that’s why it’s best to just embrace your color. Pale ppl wanna be darker, darker ppl wanna be paler lol
@@Melissa-rb6ct I can relate to you SOOO much on this one. I’m also very fair skinned, and sometimes the shit people will say about it just about kills me. I just turned 37 and I have no idea when or if I’ll ever learn how to love my pale skin.
Yes, we are meant to be the standard to our younger siblings, and the second mom. So you should know how to cook, clean, get the best grades, become a doctor, nurse or a lawyer, be beautiful find a successful husband. Never put yourself first. Anything less you have disappointed not just the family but have harmed the trajectory of your siblings life. Like what????
It’s a really big issue in the UK. I know girls who get tanning injections etc… I’m Turkish so my colour fluctuates year round but even in the summer their skin looks like 3 shades darker than mine😟 Mate they actually think they look mixed or natural when in reality they look like they’ve marinaded in bovril. Enjoy leathery and prematurely aged skin in ur 20s tho luv x
Respecting elders: I watched a video of black woman experience from japan and she told this story: she was walking on the sideway and there was some grandpa coming towards her. When they came close he spat on her. RESPECTING ELDERS, yes those who deserve it but was she supposed to say thank you for spitting on me sir I appreciate your saliva...???
Omg that’s just horrible. The audacity of some people is astounding. Exactly if you want to be respected then you should respect people. Like the saying “treat people the way you want to be treated.”. The mindset of thinking elders deserve respect no matter what is triggering lol.
Well, generally your respectful to strangers assuming they aren't purposely provoking you. There's an extra politeness to strangers and most elderly are strangers? I don't really know. But I do think it's funny --as well as sad and frustrating-- when I find people online who are older that somehow don't realize that on the internet people don't know your age unless you tell them, they can't see you. And sure people can be patronizing little know-it-alls on social media sometimes and sometimes talk to you like you're a child but how could they know?
In regards to the feeling ugly: try your very best to surround yourself by people who hype each other up even if they don't feel good about themselves and add in to hyping them up and try to take that energy into other areas of your life. Like I started watching some twitch streamers and the community is super supportive of each other and seeing the constant things of like "you got this!" "You're doing great!" made me automatically respond with that stuff to myself whenever I did something kinda well and overtime it really does boost your confidence in yourself. If you are constant surrounded by people saying how much they hate themselves then you're gonna internalize that ish.
There's ACTUAL people on TH-cam who try and get surgery to pose as a different race and people believe them until they get exposed by the people around them. Then there's people who are a NATURAL BORN RACE and people think they're faking it until the TH-camr shows their birth certificate, social security number and everything. It's really sad
I feel this as a disabled person when I see people who arent disabled faking for attention, and getting exposed AND THEN FORGIVEN, while actually disabled ppl are constantly having to prove ourselves and still get called fakes because we aren't acting out every fake stereotype
@@Alex-fc8xn I agree with that, it's really unfair and the worst part is when someone parks in the handicap section and they're not handicap, some of the guys at my neighborhood do that a lot and they don't get yelled at
@@Tiredarsonist ugh yeah, there's a reason most countries with spots reserved for people with physical disabilities also require a person to apply for and get a parking pass/placard to leave in the front window. Because disabilities aren't always visible, sometimes a person gets one of the passes because they have really bad IBS or Crohn's and need to reduce how far they have to walk to get to a bathroom. I've got one because I'm physically disabled and it honestly reduces a lot of stress and pain just having a few less feet to walk, especially because parking lots are very hard and often uneven. So people taking up the spaces really gets my goat, ESPECIALLY when they use one of the extra large spaces meant for vans or cars that have a ramp for wheelchairs and similar devices to exit. They literally cannot use a different spot without risk of not being able to get out/in.
@Alex-fc8xn Especially the ones who has invisible disability. I remember a video of one woman who had to park near the store everytime because she has a condition where even using a little energy could make her pass out. Everyone in the comment was attacking her and calling her lazy, saying she should exercise more.
The girl in the thumbnail is not trying to be black , let’s not insult black women like that😂😂.She’s trolling cause she’s a traveler, they’re known for their ridiculous tans. Look up Irish travelers, then you’ll understand.
@@cinabonbon yea, but this isn’t her video. This is Courtney doing a video about HER. I don’t give this weird girl a single view nor a comment. Btw., i don’t agree with your “the girl in the thumbnail is not trying to be black”… yea she is, her skin is literally dark brown, and she’s white. It doesn’t add up
@@chicysai I mean she just changing her skin, not figures. Black people figures and facial structures are just different from white or Asian. That is why I can tell right away that she ain’t black 100%. Her skin is. It is like other people whitening their skin in Asia or Africa; they don’t try to be white people; they want pale skin. It is still mess up though ngl. But humans always want something they don’t have.
Ever since I became a reezy, I’ve gained more friends, became more rich, married my celebrity crush, and now I’m currently driving my car that will come out in 2050
Courtney! I'm literally participating in a scholarly debate about the toxicity of male podcasts and how they foster an unhealthy relationship between men and women!
It's definitely *"hot people always win"* but I'd like to believe in *"hard work pays off"* 😭😭 this is the only last hope I hold I know am ugly but at least am a hard Woking person 😭😭
as a man, my confusion with the alpha male podcasts is that why would you listen to what a man about what he thinks a woman wants, when you can just listen to women about what they actually want in a relationship instead…
Exactly!? If you want to know what someone wants then why wouldn’t you ask them? Plus not all woman are the same because not all humans are the same so you would have to know what that individual wants. It’s honestly just what they want rather than what “women want” lol.
11:01 babe, happiness is like all the other emotions; it comes and goes. You can't feel only one emotion forever. Sometimes you're angry, sometimes you're sad, sometimes you're fussy, and sometimes you're happy. The idea that happiness should be chased and maintained for prolonged periods of time is a really toxic ideology. People are out here unsatisfied with who they are and their lives because no matter what they do, they "just can't be truly happy." You're human, and you have different states of being, and happiness isn't always going to be the primary. The sooner we all accept this, the better.
I’m not a first daughter, but I am a daughter. And let me tell YOU. My brother is a year older and gets to stay up late, order things online without getting in trouble. I’m 15 and I can DRIVE but I’m not allowed to, and my brother is getting to do whatever he wants. And our family isn’t foreign, my mom is literally the definition of suburban Karen. I can’t even wear shorts…or a shirt that shows a little bit of my stomach.. I might continue this rant later.
you’re parents are “protecting” you from the world i hated that but now that i’m 18 and in college i can do whatever u want because i’m away from home, but when i go back for the breaks and summer i’ll be treated like a child again 😀
@Jay. why run? Her parents sound totally normal. I remember when I was 15, I wanted to dress up in short skirts and stuff too, but thinking back, I was way too young and Im happy my mom held me back. Driving at 15 is also like what? Not blaming the commenter, but just sounds like every average teenager for me
@@cheesySOS Yes. I can relate to the commenter feeling annoyed at the rules but it’s better in the long run. However her brother not having rules and her having rules is pretty messed up
THE FRICKIN GLUE. Anybody fighting with my baby sister comes to me, parents argue they come to me, I educate the family on how to survive in this era. WHAT WOULD THEY DO WITHOUT ME😭😭
@@Danversdiary they wouldn’t even last a week being black the racism, stereotypes, hateful looks, and oppression would make them shit their pants. They already crying about our type 4 hair 😸
as the first daughter of a british family i honestly agree, we always have to do the most, compared to my friends who are middle and younger children they have to do the bare minimum, idk if its the family of smth but on the bright side, ty for the shout out
Court stop playing with us. Anyone who doesn’t think you’re a 9+/10 is not in their right mind. Not only is your personality tuff but you’re stunningly beautiful. Stunning. Don’t let anyone make you think otherwise, yourself included.
This is random but I really recommend meditating after hearing you say your life goal is to be truly happy. I find meditation has really changed my day to day, even moment to moment life and brought me so much genuine contentment.
Omg gorl same with Indian parents. Everything you were saying about being the daughter of African parents and the expectations but ALSO the fact that we really be the glue holding everyone's mental health together lol
I’ve literally catched myself multiple times being nice and a lot more accepting if the person is attractive.. Like.. I dont wanna contribute to pretty privilege, but I do.
They way I was about to contend with this statement but remembered that I almost accepted a friend request from a pretty stranger on Facebook one time...😭😭 Like, I never accept friend request from strangers, but that one time I caught myself about to accept it just cause she was pretty. And it really made me think about things. Like, is that the world i want to live in? Where only attractive people get their way? Nah.
No because you’re so right about some old people needing to catch hands… like damn Belinda you got 58 but you about to LEARN today Love this series so far looking forward to it, you’re literally so funny
3:50 Yall remember that guy named Cameron Herrin who was found guilty of the 2018 tragic vehicular homicide incident which led to the “death” of a young mother and her child and some people wants to give him a 2nd chance bc he's hot? Yea, an example of pretty privilege
Let's not forget that criminal guy with two different coloured eyes who became a model after his mugshots got out to the public. I can't remember his name pr what he did excaly, but it was either murder or sexual assault
Yeah, that was so sad! Like, the kid had already had multiple warnings, then he goes out here and kills two people, and girls are like “give him other chance, it was just a ✨mistake✨”
This is jokes😂, that girl in the thumbnail picture isn’t black fishing. That’s an insult to actual beautiful black women.She’s an Irish traveler. Look them up pls😂😂.
@@prxncess6463 I’m not defending her. I’m saying that associating her with black women’s beauty because of her cheap primark tan is a joke. 😂😂 Also she is a traveler they are known for their terrible tans. If u were from Ireland or the UK you’d probably understand the cultural side of what I’m saying.
@@cinabonbon actually you are wrong. She is black-fishing. People that are black don’t look like that, that’s not how natural black skin looks like. I don’t know what race you are but if you were black you would understand.
3:13 I had a super similar thing happen to me when I was in high school. I lost like 23 pounds after I got my wisdom teeth removed because I literally couldn't eat food (I had a terrible recovery), and so I showed up to christmas with my mom's family looking all emaciated. My tia came up to me and was like "you look so much better; last time I saw you, you were looking a little big". This woman is deadass wheelchair bound, and somehow managed to reverse her own gastric bypass surgery within a year of getting it. But she had the NERVE to say that I was "a little big" at 140 pounds and 5'7, and that I looked "better" now that I was starving due to the fucking wounds in my face. I played it off with an uncomfortable chuckle, but the absolute rage I felt in that moment... I would have gotten myself exiled from the family with the things I wanted to say.
Happiness is an emotion, it comes and goes just like sadness, anger, etc even though we tend to focus on always being happy, what we should be focusing on is being content, it would be weird to be continuously happy. Be content with your life, the growth you making and where you’re heading, the people you have around you, all that stuff. Being critical with yourself and complaining just means you always aspire to be more than just what you are now, nothing wrong with that as long as you don’t continuously beat yourself up about it 😅
something that helps me when i'm "feeling ugly" I looking back at all the recent times people have complimented me. Or when I get ready for either bed/work/school/etc.. I tell myself I'm hot and all that good stuff
When I was 13,14,15, I was not looking too cute. I had severe acne, I had body image issues, and I was also depressed and suicidal. I had trouble making friends, and was bullied in a way. I really hated how I looked. During quarantine I pretty much had a huge glow up. My mental health is great, I started finding stuff that worked for my skin, and I'm very confident now. Before, if anyone even mentioned my acne I'd start crying. No joke, I was so insecure. Recently, random people have been coming to me to tell me I'm pretty, or to ask for my Instagram. I was once driving somewhere with my mom and some boys on a school bus were waving at me trying to get my attention. It's super weird because I've been on the other end of this. I used to be completely ignored and treated like garbage. So now it's just strange and I don't know how to feel about it. Anyone else been on both sides of "pretty privilege"?
I love this girl! Haha is so energic, I'll stick to this chanel for a while, and by a while I mean I'll binge watch this until my homework pile up and I have to do it all fast.
8:12 same with asian household, im also a first daughter in a asian household, they put too much expectation on me, so you need to be perfect to fulfill their expectation, it's so hard man 😔
A new Reezy here, that "respecting elders" one reaally hit home lmao. It's a big thing in my culture but when they get out of line I gladly take an ass whoopin for putting gma in her place. I been through too much shit to take it from some old fart about to peace out of existence who thinks they can say whatever they want. Like ma'am log off of life for me plz. Okay , okay mini rant over, on another note Court you and I have matching missing nails on the same hand. Made me feel better for not getting it fixed last week😂♥
Girl same..my mom always saying I gotta respect my elders. In my south Asian culture, respecting older people is a must and if you respect them and is polite, you are seen as a good child/daughter. If not, I get a whooping and verbal insults, but shit I been through too much to the point I flinch a lot. I don’t care anymore, it’s worth talking to a disrespectful elderly.. I don’t care if they are older, no logic in respecting just cause they are old, it’s different if it’s an elderly that’s nice. And it’s okay to rant, it feels good for sure.
@@bme7995 If that ain't me. I literally had old people in my family verbally bully me because I was the chubby black sheep. I used to grimace in discomfort and look at the floor, but now if someone in the family comes for me it's an instant "okay and? Have you seen yourself? Keep it pushin." I'm proud of us, keep that head up B 💞
Tbh, I agree with "respecting the elders". It is normal for old people to get angry a lot or have so little patience. They've been patient for a long time. They can't anymore. They are old, like, 70+ years. The whole " I don't get mad at them that fast then they shouldn't get mad at me that fast" doesn't make sense. Like, dude, you are 20-30 years old max, they are 70-95 years old. No comparison.
@@Theone-kz9vd Doesn’t matter the age, if they are mentally abusive and just straight up rude to you and cause a harm in your mental health, there’s a line and no person I don’t give a damn about their age or who they are, should cross that line. I only respect anyone, regardless of age, it they are friendly and deserves to be respected. Respecting just because they are old is funny to me. I understand caring for elderly but respecting is different. You do realize just because there are old people who gets angry a lot does not mean they aren’t abusive, there are old people who are friendly, your logic is off. In my culture a person gets beat up if disrespecting an elderly, that’s way too far and abusive. Some even neglect their child just to show respect to some fuckass abusive dirty hags (some grandma of another folk who fucked around with my uncle, not leaving him be, etc). I’d rather die than respect someone just because of their age, so you see how ridiculous that sounds? RESPECTING CAUSE THEY ARE OLD, yeah makes sense. I’ve got way too much trauma to deal with those types of old people. We aren’t talking about about the NORMALIZED just angry grandparents, talking about elderly in general that are just stuck up and abusive.
@@mariagiani9628 That’s sad, hope you’re feeling good now or one day much better. You keep it up too! 💞. Can’t say “things will get better”, it’s an old saying, I just HOPE things will get better. I was also the odd one out in my family, till I moved out and I live freely, cut off some contacts with some family members, kept in touch with my nice grandma and some cousins/siblings. And chubby is cute, I was also chubby once, lost some weight but the chubby on my face is still here a bit.
So excited to see you at Coachella!! And fr these topics need to be talked about more, pretty privilege is real and ofc, blackface and fr older siblings always have less things they are allowed to do 😭😭
I am also a female African and that little speech she gave meant a lot its very true but hers was better I ain't even allowed most of the time to leave the house
I love how Courtney talked abt 1st daughters in an African household. I can def relate bc I am too Nigerian and carry a lot of weight as the 1st daughter, getting good grades, cleaning and cooking, and just a ton of other stuff.🇳🇬💕
8:39 Genuinely makes me so sad these people co-opted the term 'transracial' for such a weird thing. It's origin is within families with adopted children of a different race. They could call their family or that child "transracial", because they're growing up one race but with the culture and traditions of another. It had a positive meaning before these people came around
besides all these terrible topics and scary people, i can always appreciate Courtney’s personality and beauty at the end of the video to be the light in this dark time 🤚
Coming from a little sister, you are completely right. I wouldn't know where I'd be without my big sister and I'm not even kidding. She was like the light of my life when I was a child and when she left to get married, a part of me was missing.
I find it surprising that you actually made a discussion about this topic, but overall, I'm glad it's coming to light so we can be more aware.👍 the male podcast thing I mean. 😅
I so completely agree with the pretty privilege and everything Courtney said. The only workaround I've found in life to cope with that, is doing my best to perfect what I can control, i.e. get a clean haircut that suits me, workout to gain muscles, always smell nice, find clothes that fit my body great etc etc. You'll be amazed how much difference it makes, cause suddenly people stop looking at your face and they look at the overall "polished" product.
"the only way to combat that is to start being delusional" honestly she's not wrong
@A 🅥 that’s a pigeon
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@@choicethetaurus Imagine self promoting and the song is actually good
@@choicethetaurus Ngl i thought this was gonna be some trash self promo but i was wrong
I was scrolling down on the comments and read this comment same time she said the sentence!!! MADNESS!!!
no because i started being delusional and telling myself the complete opposite of what i was genuinely feeling and why did it work-
exactly. like tell me why i am so successful at GASLIGHTING myself its honestly concerning -
DEB??
that self delusion helps 😍
HII DEB
DEB?!
When someone asks you “Will Smith or Chris Rock?”, just say Lupita Nyong’o because I will never stop mentioning how iconic her expressions were.
My girl was traumatized 🤣🤣🤣
She really said 👁️👄👁️
The woman was too stunned to speak
@@melaninqueen1286 Noooo Amy Schumer was traumatised! You don't understand how awful it was when Will Smith stole her spotlight
@@princessloveheartglitter lmaooo
Pretty privilege is the realest thing on the planet! I have been bullied since I could remember until I had a huge glow up my junior year of high school and babyyyy 👶 the DIFFERENCE lol is so drastic, I get so many compliments on a daily basis, everybody wants to be my friend, people give me free stuff and hold doors open for me, everybody always Hypes me up when they see me especially strangers; Don't get me wrong I'm extremely grateful but I just wanted to say it's very real LOL
I can relate to every word
Brooo same for me like wtf
As a man, "aLpHa MaLe" is my equivalent to "i'M nOt LiKe OtHeR gIrLs"
Lol yeah OK bro
Fr lmao
@@ItsGooseIsland You an "Alpha male"????
@@eyecandymetirua5238 No one really calls themselves "Alpha Males", even Alpha Males don't call themselves that. I've only heard other people call them that 🤷🏿♂️
@@ItsGooseIsland Have you seen on any alpha male podcasts????
Because the few that I have seen there are SOME that call themselves alpha males and they're deadass proud of that.....
“I’m ugly but I was uglier” GIRL YOUR ALWAYS GORGEOUS YOUR EVERYTHING IS ON POINT!
Right?! Like genuinely she's so pretty!
Girlie is the hot people in "hot people always win"
i swear some people really insecure for no reason lol
@@tuca3434 naw don’t start w ppl “insecure” for no reason cs if they ugly that’s a reason to be insecure 😟 ???
@@The.best.samara yes? life sucks doesnt it
I just wanna know why these people are so brave and confident when they post these things-_-
EXACTLY.
FRR
Right? It’s disappointing
Truth
FR
Babe being a first daughter in an Indian household, I can confirm your statement. WE ARE THE GLUE!!!😏 and also the one who gets most yelled at💀
and the only daughters sometimes too :/ if you're born into a middleclass fam
Im an oldest child too and always got in trouble the most even over small things
Girly my mom is half Mexican and my dad's mainly Scottish, and I still get it. I'm the first daughter in my family and I can honestly say this is so relatable! seriously you wanna go out with some friends and you got to have a full speech to persuade them. also, I do so much to take care of my 4sisters and help out; we are the glue ladies lolol.
I LOVE THE NEW SET UPPPP
YES QUEENS SUPPORTING QUEENS
@@mamak04 Exactlyyy
@@mamak04 absolutely
Deb!!! I love you and your friends sm.
Yass she slaying
“If you ever feel like your ugly, remember that there will always be someone out there that is uglier than you.”
-Cardi B
😂😂😂😂
so who is the ugliest person in the world 🤔
@@mercury7636 satan
@@vava_magic1117 Satan doesn’t exist
@@havenstar2752 you
That white girl that tanned herself black was the most atrocious thing i have ever seen
@@yancymurphy Yh-
She’s probably British..
I seen it on tiktok not to long ago
@@literallynothing9634 shes a traveller so she's not been educated
Its giving racism and skin cancer
One time my nan said, "Ugh, your face has acne!" so I said, "Ugh, your face has wrinkles!"
GAHAHHA
Ok? You need help roasting your really bad you thing you did something
i wanna see your nan's reaction😭
purr
👏👏👏👏👏 that was a brave thing i could never do. Glad someone did it
About the “pretty privilege” thing, I definitely agree that (generally speaking) conventionally attractive people get more respect and love than others. But sometimes there’s folks out there who genuinely care about your well-being other than your looks. You just have to find the right guy/girl.
I remember running away from home when I was a suicidal teen and the policeman comforted me and even offered to buy McDonald’s. I wasn’t “attractive” by any means. I was pretty gross looking as a teen. 😂 But he was nice to me nonetheless! There’s good people out there.
i hope you are doing better🙂
@@elodie7141 I try to tell myself I’m mentally healthier than I was before (which is true) but I still feel like complete shit every darn day. I just want to like myself.
Damn that cop is nice! I don’t like McDonald’s but in my sad moments, I’d be happy to eat fast food. Also I am close to pretty privilege I think, idk I’m just normal looking south asian, just genetics for the main part.
Also I prefer “ugly” people, I quote ugly because I don’t believe ugly. I’ve met a lot of pretty people that just seemed stuck up, some were nice but turned out to be two faced, a few I met were great. Most of the other people I got along with were usually the so called “ugly” people by society standards. The difference is huge, majority of people I hung with the most were “ugly” people, they had great personalities.
I hope you love yourself one day, even if it’s not love, perhaps just a bit of liking is a lot.
You are not ugly, don’t let the word ugly slip into your brain, it will wire in.
It sucks to be mentally challenged/have mental issues (I have some issues as well mentally), but I gaslight myself into thinking I’m great 😂👌. Not the best strategy but what can I do, after 20+ therapists, it’s best to know you won’t change just because of a therapist, they may help but not fully.
When you feel like the word ugly will come to your head or you feel like you’re going to think about how ugly you are, quickly think of a happy memory or something you enjoy, what change you want in the world, continue this everyday, and tell yourself to the mirror that they are beautiful and that you do not have to conform to society, your reflection is your closest precious person in the world.
Take care of yourself (your reflection), live happy, and let out any emotional feeling and be strong when you can. Don’t force anything when you are pressured or want to be this or that because of society.
Hope you have a happy life and hope the majority of your ongoing life would be happy memories.
@@bme7995 The cop definitely was a sweetheart! I’m not a fan of McDonald’s either. I actually declined his offer. Yet I still appreciated his thoughtful help. It’s the small things that count. Any little gesture can make a huge difference! I might have died that day, but the policeman convinced me to stay.
Mental illness really does sucks… 😕 It’s so unbelievably hard to live with a distorted and altered view of reality/yourself. I don’t bother with therapy because I’m too broke for that. 😖 I sincerely hope I can overcome my severe depression. The thoughts that go through my head on a daily basis is bad. Really bad. I’ve relied on physical pain to block it all out. I use razor blades, box cutters, scalpels, anything sharp on myself. After a meaningful conversation with my older brother, I made the decision to stop my self harm. My depression is a liar. I’m not weak or ugly. I’m strong and beautiful.
@@H0SANNA I used to have really bad depression too. It's been about 4 years and I honestly cannot believe I'm still alive. I'm 17 now and I have a healthy sense of self worth and confidence. It's crazy because looking back, I am a completely different person. I'm telling you, things were really really bad and I never thought I would get better. So being someone who has experienced severe depression too, I want you to know that things can get better. You may not be able to see it now, but you are so much stronger than you think you are. I want you to know you're not alone.
Ever since I became a Reezy, I became richer then Jeff Bezos, I now have a boyfriend, and I am now driving a Roll's Royce.
courtreezy liked your comment!
“Delusional “?
bro fr im a millionaire now bc i became a reezy 😍
the only thing I have in what you mentioned is a boyfriend 😭
For real!!!! I have one billion dollars and I own a rocket ship! 🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯
The confidence is there. In the wrong people very very sad.
Damn you had me at the first sentence 🤣🤣🤣
Bro you scared me until I read the rest but period
@@gianna.herr. same lol
as stanzi potenza once said "the boldness is wasted on the wretched"
@@lake2358 HAHAHA I LOVE HER
them* oops sorry idk their pronouns 🥲
YESSS CANT WAIT TO SEE YOUR COACHELLA VLOGG!!!
Omg Alan !! Purple u 💜
AYY ALAN
AY HI ALAN
to clarify: france IS actually banning hijabs (not just niqabs). if you are a minor and you wear the hijab, they wont let you go to class wearing it. like you could be a 17 year old hijabi living life just tryna study, and they wont let you attend class unless you leave half your identity at home 😃 they have guards at school entry points that stop you from entering with a hijab on- ITS MADNESSSSS.
what,,, this is so sickening. i’m literally a muslim hijabi but rethinking that trip to france, i honestly don’t get people these days. christian nuns cover their heads, sikh men wear turbans (i think, remind me if i’m wrong), it’s just as normal to wear religious wear like a cross necklace as it is to wear a cultural clothing/accessory. bro i literally don’t know what’s pissing people off about a hijab, like seriously, is your life that sad to worry about what someone else chooses and loves to wear for themselves ??
Wait wtf
@@shezambreen2362 i went for a quick trip, other than subtle dirty looks you're not gonna have any problem. However op is right, my sister's live there and they did tell me about the hijab being banned for students.
who told you that there are guards at school entry to stop girls with a hijab on, it's true it's not allowed but we don't get to that point💀
@@nere1781 Maybe it's their specific school that does it. Not all of them. Yet.
If you're also feeling ugly, also remember that the way we feel isn't constant. Like you may not feel like your best one day, but another day, you might feel like you're glowing. I have certainly felt that way and I just tell myself it's one of those days
Right! Say “am I really like this or am I just in a mood?”
Yeah it happens to me sometimes too and it surprises me everytime lol
nah, i feel ugly daily dont worry
There was a short from this one youtuber, it had someone saying they think they’re ugly and their partner responded by saying you don’t see yourself when you smile, laugh etc. really good short and youtuber
yes totally
I can't believe she's almost at 3M. I remember when she just hit 1M 🥺
i actually cant believe it either like huhhh????
Ikr
@@courtreezy Time really flies
I remember she only had 7.8k subs idk 😭 but im very proud of her😭
Pretty privilege it's actually called "Halo effect" we saw that in psychology, it's real and it affects everyone since we are babies
I think I put that on my religion teacher, no not in a weird way(cause we are so similar)
I saw a video of a girl changing her "skin color" from white to black and I literally fell off my bed when I watched it
Like the audacity and shock I felt in that moment was unmatched smh
Edit: wow so many likes on like 4 hours, thank you
Who was it? Was it Ariana Grande? Or Nikita Dragun? But in all seriousness why would she do that? Maybe she thought doing that would be funny or “new content” which is so wrong I bet you she’s racist.
Not her pulling a Nikita Dragun 😭
@@QueenZiana Ariana Grande would never do such a thing,she's respectful and a supporter of blm
@@Synchronicities- people really believe ari did black fishing and asian fishing💀
@@eduardperez5142 💀
I am really glad there is finally a youtuber like courtney that talks about Muslim or black racism. It is getting to intense we need to talk about it
exactly
Hijab harassment is not okay, it's a peaceful way of expressing devotion and shouldn't be banned. But I feel niqab and especially burkas should be beacuse they're a security threat for recognising faces on CCTV, and they represent purity culture and especially the burka is a undeniable symbol of female oppression, especially in places like Afghanistan and Iran. And no don't catch me with that islamophobia accusation because I have nothing against Muslims, heck my dad's Muslim, and I'm literally an afghan girl.
@pleasedontlookforme I find this offensive 😧
@pleasedontlookforme and I’m a Muslim girl that wears the hijab so I guess I have that credibility lmfao
@@lana9512 im sorry if you find that offensive. But I can't deny what I see on a daily basis within my own family and within my homelands news and stories from relatives can I? Or are you gonna tell me that the burka isn't associated with oppression? That the women in my home country are all willingly wearing them in public and not going to school willingly and being lorded around by male chaperones willingly and getting shot in the head over honour killings for not wearing one willingly? You yourself wear a hijab? Why dont you wear a burka? Maybe you just don't know, but for many they become faceless when they wear one - they lose their identity. It's so sad. I'm so sorry you find this offensive but maybe you should consider why you do so? I honestly feel quite bitter when I see other richer more privileged Muslim girls ignore the abuse of poorer Muslim girls and the weaponisation of false religious objects towards them (the burka isn't even mentioned in the Qur'an - in fact not even the hijab specifically is, just a item of clothing to hang from your head to your breasts, now interpreted as the hijab but doesn't have to be, could be a simple scarf as that is also similar to original garment talked about in the Qur'an, hence why some Muslims don't wear the hijab but instead a loose scarf - advised by the prophet to prevent rapes....slightly problematic considering that implies it's the woman's fault for wearing something indecent, but I'm not gonna demand every majority muslim culture to adhere to the wests idea of sexual liberation. However the oppression associated with face covering veils is not something that is subjectively wrong. The burka is the symbol of the murdering and oppression of poorer Muslim women who, like a woman stuck in a abusive relationship, sometimes even defend it despite it causing them harm because they believe Allah demands it (which he most certainly doesn't ). And of course other times they just learn to live with the oppression and lose the will to fight.
"you look like an elephant"
"ma'am you look like a whale 🐋"
I'm looking forward to a family reunion now, thanks Courtney
Can we just appreciate that she never false advertises and always delivers with her thumbnail and title?
idk if anyone else said this but “transracial” is an actual thing that describes transracial adoption (children being adopted by parents of a different race) and those who are affected by transracial adoptions HATE that it’s being misused
thanks was looking for this comment
That’s how I’ve known the term, so it’s odd that people are using it in the literal sense. It’s ridiculous.
Like that man with the "black power fuck whites" and he's white-
So as a Mexican adopted by an interracial couple I'm transracial. They're stealing my identity
As a transracial adoptee and transgender person I hate the way they are ruining both of my communities. The trans community is getting associated with them, and other bad communities and it sucks, also some people don’t understand that saying I identify as a different race and I’m transracial is also actually transphobic as it makes fun of our actual experiences and equates it to stupid things like fake pronouns. The whole transracial thing takes the term away from adoptees like me, and makes other people make fun of the trans and non-binary community while also being racist it sucks.
“No ones ugly we’re just born in a very judgmental world.”
true
True. Look at the beauty standards around the world and in the past. They all are different and it’s going to change again in the future. Things before that were considered ugly are now pretty and things from one place that is seen as beautiful is ugly in another. It’s seems like there’s no such thing as being “beautiful” or “ugly” it’s just if you’re in or not. That’s why we shouldn’t hold ourselves to these standards.
@@blueweirdo719 an app told me I'm ugly in every country except Japan and in Japan they think a man on a painting I'm scared of is handsome so I'm ugly
No we can be ulgy
Wise words of rm
Nothing pisses me off more than family members making negative comments on your body, they most definitely need to be ROCKED!!!
Ikr , I used to be self conscious about my height and everybody knew it , but i was still nicknamed a giraffe ( I love my height now)
Unfortunately my family is like that with my height. Like bro I cant control it. Do they want me to say “oh I’m sorry I’m not the height of your liking?” -snaps bones in half to make my self like a inch shorter - “there you go.”
At the end of the day it’s mostly jealousy and self hatred and misery. They’re in pain and they want others to be in pain with them, it’s sick
1:19. I’ve heard people say this lots of times but I do have a little piece of advice.
I think that no one in the world is “ugly”.
Everything is based on opinion. If someone calls you ugly, its their opinion. I believe that every one on earth is beautiful and if someone tells us we are ugly and we know the truth about ourselves we should not let their opinion ruin our self confidence.
I know its hard for some people because I went through a lot of bullying and its hurt me tremendously but, no one on earth is “ugly”. Periodt.
yeah, I've been called ugly and pretty before
I stand with this
if you’re interested in how other cultures’ parents treat their kids: i’m filipino and my male cousins basically get to do whatever they want as long as it’s not hard drugs and no one gets pregnant. on the other hand, my parents didn’t even trust me to cross the street by myself until i was like 15 and constantly underestimate me and assume i can’t do things even when i demonstrate right i front of them that i can. my female cousins’ mothers constantly intrude on their privacy to make sure they aren’t flirting, as if being complimented by a guy can instantly get you pregnant. they have a very specific idea of what they think girls can do and “being independent” or “act responsibly” are not on the list.
oh also: i’m the first daughter of the first daughter (of the first daughter) and my aunts and even my uncle constantly scold/make fun of me for not being feminine, not caring about gender roles, not being strict on myself and basically not having a stick up my ass. “i’m not allowed to act like this because i’m not a man” even though all i really do is act lazy and slovenly sometimes and don’t hold myself to impossible standards or spend all my time looking after other people. also sometimes i don’t constantly obsess over being immaculately neat and presentable ( i keep myself and my clothes clean but i don’t iron every single piece of clothing i own or bathe my hair in gel to keep it all in place) bc i don’t care how most people view me which is the gravest sin i have ever committed.
I am also the first daughter of the first daughter on my mother side. Just like you I also have to constantly be scolded by my aunts and uncles about not restricting myself in in gender roles, keeping ideal weight, acting “too grown for my age”, and constantly being compared to my other cousins. I am the middle child, yet I have the roles as a first child and have to constantly keep both the oldest and the youngest in line as well as do more duties than they do. I’m the one stuck with the cleaning and helping out everyone while everyone mainly doesn’t wanna be bothered with it because it doesn’t seem like it’s their duty. Where is daughter is definitely the glue of the family.
I’m the youngest/only daughter of immigrant parents and I am constantly scrutinized by my aunts and relatives: little things like “sit like a lady” or even making horrible comments about my friend’s weight, and like scrutinizing my hair just b/c they don’t like how it looks. Also constantly being judged if my room isn’t spic and span, even tho my brothers room is messier. Glad to know I’m not the only one 🥲😅
Same bab3
I'm 18 and can't really go out alone
I can guarantee its the same in asian households.
First daughter in an African household here 🇰🇪🇰🇪
I can confirm, everything you just said was true 💀
My parents have 4 children (I have three siblings), and they were the most strict with me, and I feel like I hold a title of being the ultimate role model 🥲
SAME 😭
It’s stressful
Throw the whole title away. It's tiring enough to get my own life together sonwhy should I be a role model ? 😭😩
Sameee
I mean same 😭
Already know this is going to be chaotic and amazing 😭
"I respect those who respect me" boom. That is it people, that is it.
Courtney: "Hot people always win in the end"
Girl have you ever seen horror movies??
True true
“Oh no! I lost my phone so either I go call the police in the house phone or check my room while there’s a homicidal maniac in my room probably armed with a firearm”
…
“Ok I’m going to my room!”
@@aiko_foxxene1376 *dora vibes*
@@TheActualGoofyGoober lol
This is so sad. First of all, you’re changing your skin color to become “trendy” when black women have actually been bullied or harassed for having this skin color naturally. Second of all, pale skin is beautiful. Whether you’re white as snow or a couple shades darker, it’s gorgeous. To girls of all races, never change your skin tone. It is who you are, it’s a sign of your ancestry, and for that reason it’s beautiful
⚠️NOT INSULTING ANYONE IT IS YOUR BODY YOUR CHOICE⚠️
Same with the BBL or Big lips trend. Back in the earlier years girls wanted a small butt to look natural and that made a lot of people with a naturally big butt to feel insecure or bad about how they look. But like I'm saying, now the trend is to get a BBL to get a bigger butt to get that "Ideal butt" just bc people feel the need to change or alter their body to fit in
Girls (mainly black girls) were bullied for their big lips, making them feel ugly and Insecure about themselves or how they looked, but now the trend is to get fillers to have "big" or "natural" lips (Ex, Kim Kardashian, Kylie Jenner, etc.)
@@S3R14LCR13R_ agreed!! I think it’s sad we’re adopting certain ethnic features of different groups Bc they’re “trendy” when ppl of that race were bullied for it. As you mentioned, black girls being bullied for big lips but yet now everybody’s getting filler, Asians being bullied for slanted eyes yet now were all doing fox eye makeup, white girls getting bullied for having freckles on their nose and cheeks now we’re drawing them on. It is especially bad with black features considering the history of this country…for obvious reasons. But it’s sad that we’re taking people ethnic features and just making it a trend when it’s convenient
@@S3R14LCR13R_ people who get lip fillers to have fuller lips will never ever look natural 🤮
Thank you for this comment. It’s like if you’re too dark it’s wrong, if you’re too white that’s bad also. I’m very white and people constantly compare me to themselves, putting their arms next to mine so I can see how tan they are and I’m not. It makes me feel like i got cancer or I have an illness almost with the way they constantly mention how white i am. I also always get told to go outside to go sit outside in the sun. Lol it’s crazy how you’ll never satisfy ppl that’s why it’s best to just embrace your color. Pale ppl wanna be darker, darker ppl wanna be paler lol
@@Melissa-rb6ct I can relate to you SOOO much on this one. I’m also very fair skinned, and sometimes the shit people will say about it just about kills me. I just turned 37 and I have no idea when or if I’ll ever learn how to love my pale skin.
As a first born African daughter, we really are the glue 😭
It's so draining
@@mimid.227 honest & truly
@@mimid.227 Facts 😭
@@ehietomi4375I MORE PERSON NEEDS TO LIKE THIS
Yes, we are meant to be the standard to our younger siblings, and the second mom. So you should know how to cook, clean, get the best grades, become a doctor, nurse or a lawyer, be beautiful find a successful husband. Never put yourself first. Anything less you have disappointed not just the family but have harmed the trajectory of your siblings life. Like what????
9:07 thank you so much court for speaking on this omg. I’m a Muslim girl and I love you sOOO MUCH dude for talking on it! Thank you!!
It’s a really big issue in the UK. I know girls who get tanning injections etc… I’m Turkish so my colour fluctuates year round but even in the summer their skin looks like 3 shades darker than mine😟 Mate they actually think they look mixed or natural when in reality they look like they’ve marinaded in bovril. Enjoy leathery and prematurely aged skin in ur 20s tho luv x
oh my god the mental image of someone being dipped in Bovril is v upsetting
They are Irish travelers
@@treemongo3812 i’m from london and it’s literally just regular degular white girls 😭
Not “marinated in Bovril” 😂😂😂😂😂SCREAMING
MARINATED IN BOVRIL PLEASEE. you're so right though
I’m the first daughter in my african american family, and when you started to talk about this, I was like “preach sista 😌”
Me too lol
Respecting elders:
I watched a video of black woman experience from japan and she told this story: she was walking on the sideway and there was some grandpa coming towards her. When they came close he spat on her. RESPECTING ELDERS, yes those who deserve it but was she supposed to say thank you for spitting on me sir I appreciate your saliva...???
Omg that’s just horrible. The audacity of some people is astounding. Exactly if you want to be respected then you should respect people. Like the saying “treat people the way you want to be treated.”. The mindset of thinking elders deserve respect no matter what is triggering lol.
Well, generally your respectful to strangers assuming they aren't purposely provoking you. There's an extra politeness to strangers and most elderly are strangers?
I don't really know. But I do think it's funny --as well as sad and frustrating-- when I find people online who are older that somehow don't realize that on the internet people don't know your age unless you tell them, they can't see you. And sure people can be patronizing little know-it-alls on social media sometimes and sometimes talk to you like you're a child but how could they know?
That's terrible.
In regards to the feeling ugly: try your very best to surround yourself by people who hype each other up even if they don't feel good about themselves and add in to hyping them up and try to take that energy into other areas of your life. Like I started watching some twitch streamers and the community is super supportive of each other and seeing the constant things of like "you got this!" "You're doing great!" made me automatically respond with that stuff to myself whenever I did something kinda well and overtime it really does boost your confidence in yourself. If you are constant surrounded by people saying how much they hate themselves then you're gonna internalize that ish.
my mood gets better when you post COURTNEY 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾❤️❤️❤️❤️
Me too!
"'y'all think I'm funny not pretty" GIRLLL have you seen yourself you are gorgeous & hilarious!! period
yeah true. Her personality just makes her more attractive.
There's ACTUAL people on TH-cam who try and get surgery to pose as a different race and people believe them until they get exposed by the people around them. Then there's people who are a NATURAL BORN RACE and people think they're faking it until the TH-camr shows their birth certificate, social security number and everything. It's really sad
I feel this as a disabled person when I see people who arent disabled faking for attention, and getting exposed AND THEN FORGIVEN, while actually disabled ppl are constantly having to prove ourselves and still get called fakes because we aren't acting out every fake stereotype
@@Alex-fc8xn I agree with that, it's really unfair and the worst part is when someone parks in the handicap section and they're not handicap, some of the guys at my neighborhood do that a lot and they don't get yelled at
@@Tiredarsonist ugh yeah, there's a reason most countries with spots reserved for people with physical disabilities also require a person to apply for and get a parking pass/placard to leave in the front window. Because disabilities aren't always visible, sometimes a person gets one of the passes because they have really bad IBS or Crohn's and need to reduce how far they have to walk to get to a bathroom. I've got one because I'm physically disabled and it honestly reduces a lot of stress and pain just having a few less feet to walk, especially because parking lots are very hard and often uneven.
So people taking up the spaces really gets my goat, ESPECIALLY when they use one of the extra large spaces meant for vans or cars that have a ramp for wheelchairs and similar devices to exit. They literally cannot use a different spot without risk of not being able to get out/in.
* cough cough * oli london * cough *
@Alex-fc8xn Especially the ones who has invisible disability. I remember a video of one woman who had to park near the store everytime because she has a condition where even using a little energy could make her pass out. Everyone in the comment was attacking her and calling her lazy, saying she should exercise more.
11:10 God is the source of all happiness like literally 🙃 just came back to your channel after months. Still hilarious and a mood❤️❤️
“I’ve seen some SCARY stuff on TikTok…”
*haven’t we all*
I didn't hehehe never downloaded that shit
“A lot of these elders and adults they need a whooping or something” they way I cackled to this LMAOOO girl you killed me 💀💀
People either hate us or they wanna be us🤦🏾♀️
The girl in the thumbnail is not trying to be black , let’s not insult black women like that😂😂.She’s trolling cause she’s a traveler, they’re known for their ridiculous tans. Look up Irish travelers, then you’ll understand.
@@cinabonbon im sorry but...
Big Facts💯💯💯✅
@@cinabonbon yea, but this isn’t her video. This is Courtney doing a video about HER. I don’t give this weird girl a single view nor a comment. Btw., i don’t agree with your “the girl in the thumbnail is not trying to be black”… yea she is, her skin is literally dark brown, and she’s white. It doesn’t add up
@@chicysai I mean she just changing her skin, not figures. Black people figures and facial structures are just different from white or Asian. That is why I can tell right away that she ain’t black 100%. Her skin is. It is like other people whitening their skin in Asia or Africa; they don’t try to be white people; they want pale skin. It is still mess up though ngl. But humans always want something they don’t have.
“Omg you gained so much weight! 😊😬🙄!”
“🤭 wait...you did to! What do you think we should do to loose wait?”
DAMN GIRL THAT WAS GOOD
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Ever since I became a reezy, I’ve gained more friends, became more rich, married my celebrity crush, and now I’m currently driving my car that will come out in 2050
PERIODT 😌💅🏾
Same! What a coincidence 🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯💅💅💅
It's the reezy life fr😎
Courtney! I'm literally participating in a scholarly debate about the toxicity of male podcasts and how they foster an unhealthy relationship between men and women!
A point of view on this topic th-cam.com/video/LVdu74BYTwQ/w-d-xo.html
It's definitely *"hot people always win"* but I'd like to believe in *"hard work pays off"* 😭😭 this is the only last hope I hold
I know am ugly but at least am a hard Woking person 😭😭
Yes maam and thats all you need!
Yesss keep going girl!
Ya no hard work def don’t do nothing in the face of a hot chick
Honestly, when you love someone they become more attractive to you, even if they weren't before. There's no use in worrying about looks
Facts 😂😭
I can’t explain how happy I am as a hijabi that a TH-camr talked about the France situation… Ty truly it means alot
as a man, my confusion with the alpha male podcasts is that why would you listen to what a man about what he thinks a woman wants, when you can just listen to women about what they actually want in a relationship instead…
Exactly!? If you want to know what someone wants then why wouldn’t you ask them? Plus not all woman are the same because not all humans are the same so you would have to know what that individual wants. It’s honestly just what they want rather than what “women want” lol.
okay but the feeling ugly thing is so true i literally just lie to myself until i believe it
11:01 babe, happiness is like all the other emotions; it comes and goes. You can't feel only one emotion forever. Sometimes you're angry, sometimes you're sad, sometimes you're fussy, and sometimes you're happy. The idea that happiness should be chased and maintained for prolonged periods of time is a really toxic ideology. People are out here unsatisfied with who they are and their lives because no matter what they do, they "just can't be truly happy."
You're human, and you have different states of being, and happiness isn't always going to be the primary. The sooner we all accept this, the better.
thankyou skinniest kween
I wish I could save this comment
7:00 crazier how will smith said “don’t say stuff about my wife” when him and Jada were divorced at that time 😭😭
I’m not a first daughter, but I am a daughter. And let me tell YOU. My brother is a year older and gets to stay up late, order things online without getting in trouble. I’m 15 and I can DRIVE but I’m not allowed to, and my brother is getting to do whatever he wants. And our family isn’t foreign, my mom is literally the definition of suburban Karen. I can’t even wear shorts…or a shirt that shows a little bit of my stomach.. I might continue this rant later.
you’re parents are “protecting” you from the world i hated that but now that i’m 18 and in college i can do whatever u want because i’m away from home, but when i go back for the breaks and summer i’ll be treated like a child again 😀
@Jay. why run? Her parents sound totally normal. I remember when I was 15, I wanted to dress up in short skirts and stuff too, but thinking back, I was way too young and Im happy my mom held me back. Driving at 15 is also like what? Not blaming the commenter, but just sounds like every average teenager for me
What’s wrong with shorts ??
@@cheesySOS just bc it happens often doesn't make the situation any better
@@cheesySOS Yes. I can relate to the commenter feeling annoyed at the rules but it’s better in the long run.
However her brother not having rules and her having rules is pretty messed up
THE FRICKIN GLUE. Anybody fighting with my baby sister comes to me, parents argue they come to me, I educate the family on how to survive in this era. WHAT WOULD THEY DO WITHOUT ME😭😭
Period
Yes sirrrr
I started my therapist career at 7 cuz my dad wanted to throw hands smh
Everyone wanna be black until it’s actually time to be black 🤧
fr im black and when its time to be black everyones gone
Frrrr
That's what makes it hilarious. They get to experience the difference HANDS ON.
@@Danversdiary they wouldn’t even last a week being black the racism, stereotypes, hateful looks, and oppression would make them shit their pants. They already crying about our type 4 hair 😸
Facts
as the first daughter of a british family i honestly agree, we always have to do the most, compared to my friends who are middle and younger children they have to do the bare minimum, idk if its the family of smth but on the bright side, ty for the shout out
Court is literally one of the most entertaining youtubers on the platform: where is her fame?? she’s hot + hilarious 🥵 it’s a lethal combo
YASSSSS
Court stop playing with us. Anyone who doesn’t think you’re a 9+/10 is not in their right mind. Not only is your personality tuff but you’re stunningly beautiful. Stunning. Don’t let anyone make you think otherwise, yourself included.
I agree lol. She's really beautiful. But sometimes the feeling of not being pretty runs deep inside us
@@XiELEd4377 Yeah it’s unfortunate. If only there was a way to boost their confidence
"i'm ugly but i was once uglier" is honestly such a mood and that's what i told myself to make me feel better too 😂
This is random but I really recommend meditating after hearing you say your life goal is to be truly happy. I find meditation has really changed my day to day, even moment to moment life and brought me so much genuine contentment.
Omg gorl same with Indian parents. Everything you were saying about being the daughter of African parents and the expectations but ALSO the fact that we really be the glue holding everyone's mental health together lol
its psychologilally proven that people trust and wanna be friend with pretty people 🤷🏻♀️ our brains are insane
Aint like humans put good morals on pretty people since humans were a thing. This def isnt a biological thing.
I’ve literally catched myself multiple times being nice and a lot more accepting if the person is attractive.. Like.. I dont wanna contribute to pretty privilege, but I do.
@@nicki367 yh,we're both perpetrators and victims of the beauty standards ig
They way I was about to contend with this statement but remembered that I almost accepted a friend request from a pretty stranger on Facebook one time...😭😭 Like, I never accept friend request from strangers, but that one time I caught myself about to accept it just cause she was pretty. And it really made me think about things. Like, is that the world i want to live in? Where only attractive people get their way? Nah.
no wonder I have no friends
No because you’re so right about some old people needing to catch hands… like damn Belinda you got 58 but you about to LEARN today
Love this series so far looking forward to it, you’re literally so funny
*REEZY EXCUSE ME YOUR A QUEEN DONT U DARE CALL URSELF UGLY THATS ILLEGAL*
You are: 🔛🔝✨✨✨✨
3:50 Yall remember that guy named Cameron Herrin who was found guilty of the 2018 tragic vehicular homicide incident which led to the “death” of a young mother and her child and some people wants to give him a 2nd chance bc he's hot? Yea, an example of pretty privilege
Let's not forget that criminal guy with two different coloured eyes who became a model after his mugshots got out to the public.
I can't remember his name pr what he did excaly, but it was either murder or sexual assault
Ate and devoured the whole plate 😼💅🏽
I still can't believe they let him have a 2nd chance like sis ⭕👄⭕
Yeah, that was so sad! Like, the kid had already had multiple warnings, then he goes out here and kills two people, and girls are like “give him other chance, it was just a ✨mistake✨”
But like he’s really cute tho 🥹
Black-fishing?? LAWD let me get my snacks and sit down now 😭😭
This conversation topic can never get old. Someone will keep doing it sadly
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_/|_. SMH
This is jokes😂, that girl in the thumbnail picture isn’t black fishing. That’s an insult to actual beautiful black women.She’s an Irish traveler. Look them up pls😂😂.
@@cinabonbon why are you trying so hard to defend her lmao. She don't even know you exist💀
@@prxncess6463 I’m not defending her. I’m saying that associating her with black women’s beauty because of her cheap primark tan is a joke. 😂😂
Also she is a traveler they are known for their terrible tans. If u were from Ireland or the UK you’d probably understand the cultural side of what I’m saying.
@@cinabonbon actually you are wrong. She is black-fishing. People that are black don’t look like that, that’s not how natural black skin looks like. I don’t know what race you are but if you were black you would understand.
courtney should start making her own music💀
dont tempt me ;)
@@courtreezy we need it
@@courtreezy pLS
3:13 I had a super similar thing happen to me when I was in high school. I lost like 23 pounds after I got my wisdom teeth removed because I literally couldn't eat food (I had a terrible recovery), and so I showed up to christmas with my mom's family looking all emaciated. My tia came up to me and was like "you look so much better; last time I saw you, you were looking a little big". This woman is deadass wheelchair bound, and somehow managed to reverse her own gastric bypass surgery within a year of getting it. But she had the NERVE to say that I was "a little big" at 140 pounds and 5'7, and that I looked "better" now that I was starving due to the fucking wounds in my face. I played it off with an uncomfortable chuckle, but the absolute rage I felt in that moment... I would have gotten myself exiled from the family with the things I wanted to say.
NO WAY
Happiness is an emotion, it comes and goes just like sadness, anger, etc even though we tend to focus on always being happy, what we should be focusing on is being content, it would be weird to be continuously happy. Be content with your life, the growth you making and where you’re heading, the people you have around you, all that stuff. Being critical with yourself and complaining just means you always aspire to be more than just what you are now, nothing wrong with that as long as you don’t continuously beat yourself up about it 😅
something that helps me when i'm "feeling ugly" I looking back at all the recent times people have complimented me.
Or when I get ready for either bed/work/school/etc.. I tell myself I'm hot and all that good stuff
When I was 13,14,15, I was not looking too cute. I had severe acne, I had body image issues, and I was also depressed and suicidal. I had trouble making friends, and was bullied in a way. I really hated how I looked. During quarantine I pretty much had a huge glow up. My mental health is great, I started finding stuff that worked for my skin, and I'm very confident now. Before, if anyone even mentioned my acne I'd start crying. No joke, I was so insecure.
Recently, random people have been coming to me to tell me I'm pretty, or to ask for my Instagram. I was once driving somewhere with my mom and some boys on a school bus were waving at me trying to get my attention. It's super weird because I've been on the other end of this. I used to be completely ignored and treated like garbage. So now it's just strange and I don't know how to feel about it.
Anyone else been on both sides of "pretty privilege"?
I love this girl! Haha is so energic, I'll stick to this chanel for a while, and by a while I mean I'll binge watch this until my homework pile up and I have to do it all fast.
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The crying effect have me dead. 😭😭
8:12 same with asian household, im also a first daughter in a asian household, they put too much expectation on me, so you need to be perfect to fulfill their expectation, it's so hard man 😔
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Damn you put her in her place 💀💀 (the ocean)
Haha pi number
You are so right about going out with and without makeup. People treat me so differently. I feel you.
A new Reezy here, that "respecting elders" one reaally hit home lmao. It's a big thing in my culture but when they get out of line I gladly take an ass whoopin for putting gma in her place. I been through too much shit to take it from some old fart about to peace out of existence who thinks they can say whatever they want. Like ma'am log off of life for me plz. Okay , okay mini rant over, on another note Court you and I have matching missing nails on the same hand. Made me feel better for not getting it fixed last week😂♥
Girl same..my mom always saying I gotta respect my elders. In my south Asian culture, respecting older people is a must and if you respect them and is polite, you are seen as a good child/daughter. If not, I get a whooping and verbal insults, but shit I been through too much to the point I flinch a lot. I don’t care anymore, it’s worth talking to a disrespectful elderly..
I don’t care if they are older, no logic in respecting just cause they are old, it’s different if it’s an elderly that’s nice. And it’s okay to rant, it feels good for sure.
@@bme7995 If that ain't me. I literally had old people in my family verbally bully me because I was the chubby black sheep. I used to grimace in discomfort and look at the floor, but now if someone in the family comes for me it's an instant "okay and? Have you seen yourself? Keep it pushin." I'm proud of us, keep that head up B 💞
Tbh, I agree with "respecting the elders". It is normal for old people to get angry a lot or have so little patience. They've been patient for a long time. They can't anymore. They are old, like, 70+ years. The whole " I don't get mad at them that fast then they shouldn't get mad at me that fast" doesn't make sense. Like, dude, you are 20-30 years old max, they are 70-95 years old. No comparison.
@@Theone-kz9vd Doesn’t matter the age, if they are mentally abusive and just straight up rude to you and cause a harm in your mental health, there’s a line and no person I don’t give a damn about their age or who they are, should cross that line.
I only respect anyone, regardless of age, it they are friendly and deserves to be respected. Respecting just because they are old is funny to me. I understand caring for elderly but respecting is different. You do realize just because there are old people who gets angry a lot does not mean they aren’t abusive, there are old people who are friendly, your logic is off.
In my culture a person gets beat up if disrespecting an elderly, that’s way too far and abusive. Some even neglect their child just to show respect to some fuckass abusive dirty hags (some grandma of another folk who fucked around with my uncle, not leaving him be, etc).
I’d rather die than respect someone just because of their age, so you see how ridiculous that sounds? RESPECTING CAUSE THEY ARE OLD, yeah makes sense. I’ve got way too much trauma to deal with those types of old people.
We aren’t talking about about the NORMALIZED just angry grandparents, talking about elderly in general that are just stuck up and abusive.
@@mariagiani9628 That’s sad, hope you’re feeling good now or one day much better. You keep it up too! 💞. Can’t say “things will get better”, it’s an old saying, I just HOPE things will get better. I was also the odd one out in my family, till I moved out and I live freely, cut off some contacts with some family members, kept in touch with my nice grandma and some cousins/siblings. And chubby is cute, I was also chubby once, lost some weight but the chubby on my face is still here a bit.
So excited to see you at Coachella!! And fr these topics need to be talked about more, pretty privilege is real and ofc, blackface and fr older siblings always have less things they are allowed to do 😭😭
I will never stop laughing at that one time I read that cis-het men open their mouth and think it’s time for a Podcast.
They really think that what they have to offer to the world is life-changing or something 🙄
Help- 😭
What the hell is a cishet man? You mean heterosexual men?
@@박지민-g1r cisgender heterosexual man
@@meow9004 Why cisgender? aren't they just males?
shes so real with the first daughters, Im a whole mother i be keepin this family in hold i swear
Honestly right now content has been pretty mid for a while on platforms but courtreezy has consistently been good and been able to make me laugh:)
"I respect people who respect me" yesssssssssss she went there! I agreeeeeeeeee
1:44 YES so true, I LOVE GASLIGHTING MYSELF INTO FEELING PRETTY
I am also a female African and that little speech she gave meant a lot its very true but hers was better I ain't even allowed most of the time to leave the house
I love how Courtney talked abt 1st daughters in an African household. I can def relate bc I am too Nigerian and carry a lot of weight as the 1st daughter, getting good grades, cleaning and cooking, and just a ton of other stuff.🇳🇬💕
You should have a podcast talking about stuff like this,if you already do please tell me!I would watch it
I honestly love her videos. They make me feel happy and comfortable.
yes the first daughters in african homes topic was so needed cause I wasn't for us then the way our parents would be suffering.
8:39 Genuinely makes me so sad these people co-opted the term 'transracial' for such a weird thing. It's origin is within families with adopted children of a different race. They could call their family or that child "transracial", because they're growing up one race but with the culture and traditions of another. It had a positive meaning before these people came around
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Exactly! You can convert to culture but not to race.
besides all these terrible topics and scary people, i can always appreciate Courtney’s personality and beauty at the end of the video to be the light in this dark time 🤚
2:37 exactly I hate when adults treat kids like dogs then get mad when they don’t obey
Coming from a little sister, you are completely right. I wouldn't know where I'd be without my big sister and I'm not even kidding. She was like the light of my life when I was a child and when she left to get married, a part of me was missing.
I’m a new member of team reezy!! And I feel pretty already
Nice!
I know that's right 😌✨
I find it surprising that you actually made a discussion about this topic, but overall, I'm glad it's coming to light so we can be more aware.👍 the male podcast thing I mean. 😅
It's the 'cleaning the entire house to be able to ask for something for them to still say no' for me😭
This behaviour needs to stop
I so completely agree with the pretty privilege and everything Courtney said. The only workaround I've found in life to cope with that, is doing my best to perfect what I can control, i.e. get a clean haircut that suits me, workout to gain muscles, always smell nice, find clothes that fit my body great etc etc. You'll be amazed how much difference it makes, cause suddenly people stop looking at your face and they look at the overall "polished" product.