My husband was murdered in a house robbery when my children were very young. His influence as a father has been missed dreadfully. A single mother cannot fulfill that role no matter how hard she tries. Thankfully, they had strong uncles who stepped in.
When Bethany was a teenager I had the opportunity to surf in the same lineup with her in Hanalaei Bay. During her practice she took the time to write my daughter the most inspirational note I’ve ever seen. Thanks for being an amazing woman Bethany!!
It can also be easier to shrink back instead of being completely miserable. I know people who had a good relationship and had kids and things went downhill, and they know they'll never get primary or even equal custody because of work and they don't want to abandon the kids.
Love this. About 15 years ago, when my kids were small - I quit Facebook because I realized the useless time suck it was for me. A friend at the time thought I was being extreme and asked, “What, so now Facebook is the devil or something?!”, I thought about it for a few seconds and said YES, yes it is, at least in my life right now it is. Haven’t looked back and have enjoyed the extra quality time that afforded me with my kids.
I ditched it off years back not married an not with kids either. That shit is like a cancer an I had to give it that chemo treatment an get rid of it. An haven’t looked back. My entire extent of social media is TH-cam. An that’s only because I don’t buy or watch TV,TV. It basically is my tv time.
Same here. I used to work in tech, and realized early on in the web era that when it comes to social media, computers don't actually improve our lives. They make them worse, under the deceptive cloak of seeming to make them better.
Although I’m not especially religious I did grow up in a tight Christian family environment. My uncle was a pastor, and now both him and my cousin are pastors. It was a very traditional family arrangement. Women cleaned, cooked, raised children, while the men worked, protected, and provided for the family. It’s a natural dynamic that just works without even trying.
@@Myopiniononly Godly woman do. Submissive is a dirty word to today's feminists. But, it is a refection of the Trinity. Christ was submissive to the Father, while being co-equal in the God head. Woman can be co=equal to their husbands while being submissive in the roles they play, as long as the husband is leading in a loving way.
Both parents need to raise their children. Define protect and provide? It is so cliche. Cooking and cleaning are tasks that need to be done whether married or not.
Such an incredibly important subject in our culture today. She's awesome. Tucker I cannot thank you enough for your resilience over the years and offering such rich content. The world needs more men like you👍
Testosterone is needed for this diminished food supply we have been forced to deal with. Good nutrition and balance are more important than people realize.
Last year i stood on the beach and looked out to where her incident happened. I could not believe how far she was from the hospital. Likely a 40 min ambulance ride. Thats after a 15-20min paddle in... (guessing). Very strong gal. As an intraoperative RN specializing in orthopedics i am blown away by here story.
Most people in relationships don't put the relationship first. They put themselves first which explains, in my opinion, the divorce rate and why its so hard to date in 2024.
Being unfaithful is not just sexual or emotional, it is also financial. Many marriage partners may not cheat in the common sense of the word, but being secretive with money and spending is just as bad in destroying trust. Addictions of any kind, when not healed, will lead to a life spinning out of control. This is a great video!
What does a young man today have to work toward? I was born in 1952 , growing up I thought about boat building, hot rodding , chopper building , home steading, and all sorts of adventures. I was in the Army , then in the Navy. I spent 2 years looking for gold in the Inyo mountains of California. I did autobody work, and tried to have my own business twice. I made some antique design wooden shelf clocks and one grandfather clock. I had an ugly little house paid for when I was 25. I lived in most of the southern states, in mountains and in deserts. I've done so many little things that I can't remember them all. I painted some pictures, and made some sculptures allnof which I was happy with. Everything is much harder now with government regulations, zoning laws even in rural areas. Everything is more expensive now and there seem to be fewer frontiers for the common guy. How can a young man lead in life when it seems like there's no place to go ???
Bethany is so riveting and the amount of sage learning and advice she has and has been giving is quite a testament to her and especially her parents. She's still relatively young age wise but way beyond her years in other ways. BTW I was so captivated by what she was saying that I didn't see and/or recognize her as Bethany Hamilton, shark attack victim, until this post was almost finished. She's really inspiring.
Hi Tucker, John here from the UK. We have four boys, 23,20 and 18 twins. This was a great talk with your guest and resonated a lot with us. We went thru some tough times but mainly good, it's hard work but talking to each other is hugely important. It's great you have these interviews as it makes you realise that others feel the same. Keep up the good work mate, All the best, John and Chick
To her sons, "if she's reacting in certain ways, it's likely your (the husband) not providing in one of those key points". This well intended comment is similar to preaching I hear in some evangelical churches which states or implies that the wife's happiness is the husband's responsibility. I love spirit and agree with her points about the God given responsibilities of the husband. But the concept believed by many women and some men is that the spouse is responsible for their happiness. That leads to unhappiness.
I was given the advice to go to bed immediately at night once my kids fell asleep and to not take “me time” or clean the house; it made me a more energetic mom during the day and more efficient during the day, fully rested.
A man has one main job: protect your family, even from itself. A man can lead and follow simultaneously and the family will respond. In the end, the man is the torch barer and the sigma. In the hunter/gatherer societal structure, men will naturally rise above the fray and lead their family to higher ground
Its difficult as the women's movement pushed for equality, which was important but they got to be so dominant that men have in many cases have takin the subordinate role to their wife's and left the family unbalanced and without a leader. With equality comes discretion on how you yield the power you have and leave your husband with some self respect for themselves.
There are more men now who were/are the only child of a single/divorced Mother and have missed out on the influence and teaching/learning by a Father. Sadly, many, as a result, either recreate with their wives a dysfunctional relationship they may have had with their Mother, or, want their wife to be the 'mother' they always wanted, rather than an equal/loving partner in a growing relationship. 'Mama's boys' aren't usually assertive leaders in their family life...professionally, yes, but characteristically passive/aggressive.
Excellente analyse ! C'est tellement vrai mais inaudible de nos jours. Et on retrouve ces gens perdus dans les entreprises en train de traîner leur malaise et de polluer toute la société avec...
Every child, raised by a single mother, was neglected by their single father. But you are a #GenderConfused coward, so you blame mothers for neglectful fathers.
Great statement "When I am consuming I am not creating"'' Leaders help others do what they ordinarily wouldn't do on their own for the benefit of good. Where there is a King there is a Queen and they help each other and lead their family and in their community. Leaders set an example for others to follow and when they fall short acknowledge it. Leaders set and live standards for good to achieve sustainable results that all can see. Every child needs the leadership of a father and a mother. Staying in "the conversation" of possibility is what a leader does and invites others to participate in. God is the greatest leader and He calls us all to participate with Him for good.
It is impossible to problem solve if there is no critical thinking and I think as a society we've lost the ability to critically analyze the facts, especially when they are hard to hear.
This woman is bravely speaking in the zone of truth and it is inspiring. My wife and I have 9 great kids and we are a military family. I admit to being passive for far too long when my older kids were little. I expected far too much from my wife in the area of discipline and character formation. What I got was a whole lot of disrespect and chaos when the kids became teenagers, especially the girls. I'm a military officer and pride myself on order and discipline, but my household was lacking that from its leadership andnitbwas my fault. I tried to blame constant deployments and time away focused on a high-stakes job, but it was all bullshit. My family needed me to bring the discipline I loved so much at work home and to be a strong leader. My wife didnt know it and she resisted some at first, but once I started taking back some of the male -centered responsibility, my house changed and my wife and children started to grow in character. My house became more peaceful and loving, and my children started to thrive. Not only that, the clarity it provided me about how families are naturally meant to function, and the raw leadership experience of running a family that could not care less about their Dad's rank has been humbling and inspiring. I remember Lt Col Hal Moore's line in "We Were Soldiers" when he was asked about being a dad and a soldier. He said, "I believe being good at one makes me better at the other." I've applied many of the lessons this woman is speaking of to my work and family life and my career has accelerated in a totally unforseen way. Its impossible to deny the truth once you apply it in your life. Listen up, men. Take the responsibility of leading your families back. This is the most loving thing you can do for them. Your wife will grow in love and you will be forever changed. I promise.
I told my wife a couple of years ago that she was spending too much time on social media and that social media ruins relationships. She got mad and didn't believe me. Hasn't changed and I'm moving on
Proverbs 31 ❤ kind of a woman. Men please stand up and take your rightful God-given right. Women would love to submit to godly wise, loving, and kind husbands/leaders that they RESPECT & TRUST!
Submission is the hardest thing for a woman, which I don't blame, it would be hard for anyone. But, that said a man may be a good man but it still doesn't happen, especially today. My brother is a very good man, and had to verbally lay it out with his would be wife there would be no marriage if she didn't let him lead. It worked, barely. I believe most aren't so fortunate, which explains the divorce rate, we aren't following God's plan.
This is a HUGE problem in today’s world. Boys are being “groomed” by everything they see- TV, public school, etc to be weak, passive men or even question if they are a man. This is a spiritual battle that has to be won at the feet of Christ. Thank you Bethany for being part of the solution. Strong Christian men leading their homes is what builds healthy societies. I also love the comment, “when I’m consuming, I’m not creating”.🔥💪
The man needs to provide mentally, emotionally and physically for her. What about her providing for him mentally, emotionally and physically...or even better, how about both provide for eachother mentally, emotionally and physically
Yes. This is the goal in my marriage. I am only 5 years married but it's a constant learning and unlearning, especially being raised by a single mother. Marriage is not 50/50, but 100/100.
Men should not need their women to provide for them emotionally/mentally. Men should be in control of their own emotions. The physical “needs” are different, but men should be stoic.
The issue with male leadership crisis in America and in other western countries is that we are asking men to still take responsibility for things all the while taking away authority from them. You can’t have effective leadership where you don’t have authority.
Boredom is the key for me- i spent years reading , doing activities, lewrning chess getting into reading , taking up new sports , meditating, and so on to deal with something that was wrong which i couldn’t figure out … then i let it be and just became bored and embrace it…. And it worked!
I am a leader (and not a passive husband) in my home because I have the obligation AND honor to be a leader. My wife...who supports me and trusts me and who I share this life with...allows me to be the leader. We honor each other by working together...but she wants me to take my role seriously and deliberately and she feels comforted by that. And I am comforted by her support. I would never, ever consider losing this incredible woman. I need her as she needs me. I have always said - it is my job to build the Ark for my family...to carry them through the flood...guide our ship...but need the help of my wife and family to support me in my duties. They have my loyalty, my energy, my wealth, my protection, and my love...
This is so true. We have friends of ours where the “husband” is a total beta. His wife pays the bills, finds the insurance policies books all the travel for the family, etc. oh, and she makes most of the $. Well, the son goes gay and the daughter dates outside her race…because her Dad’s type isn’t exactly what she is looking for. Sad situation when a man abdicates.
“You need to provide for your wife mentally, emotionally, and physically” How much? Because it seems like it’s never enough. So many women leave when he doesn’t make as much money and someone else. Or they leave because he is working too much while attempting to make the money that she expects him to make. It’s never enough
I went from passive in high school to a leader with a back bone both destroyed relationships. You can’t be a strong leader when the woman challenges you every step of the way it lies just as much on her
I know I failed my family. After 7 years of a great marriage, my wife became an aggressive feminist and between her, family and media all telling me that I need to be an ally to women and check my masculinity, I FAILED to stand tall. I would say let's go right and she would pick left just to spite me and to "be an ally", I followed her, many times to disastrous results. If not for my religion, I would have divorced her. The real damage that was done, was to our children. I see my adult son be subservient to his girlfriend and get walked over, my other son wants nothing to do with women and I see my daughter dominating her husband. They are adults now and hopefully they can change, but I failed them by laying a faulty foundation.
@genericwatcher2439 Thanks for describing your testimonial, I imagine there is a lot of families going through this and pray you see a reverse in time. I often think my last relationship with my ex gf lead to me being passive, when she had a problem though (flat tire) she would run crying when it was just a simple fix; what I learned was women aren’t meant to take on this world alone. After we broke up I was hard on her cause I found my intergrity (balls), by then she I think it was too late for her to change. She wants to be friends but as a man I can’t alllw that since now she has a bf, wouldn’t be doing myself and all good men a favor if I went along
Yeah if you can find a way to have children without being married then do so. I married strictly to have children. Love if it ever existed sure doesn't now.
A perfect example of this the story of Ahab and Jezebel. Elijah had to step up and take control. Jezebel took control of Israel and turned to the worship of Baal.
She’s guessing, bless her heart, but you never know if you guessed right until you can look back and evaluate the results. Life is complicated and believing in fairy tales makes positive results almost impossible to achieve❤. I don’t think we should abandon our faith in the power of love, honesty and persistence but believing a hero will come and save the day is why we are in this mess. ❤
"Keeping the peace means having to surrender authority." It doesn't. But it does mean having to listen and not act like a martinet. Behaving with authority and acting like a tyrant are *much* different things. In the interview, this has to do with what they said about men having no one from whom to learn their role, with so many single parent households.
Go out to dinner. Argue for a little bit and then watch a great sunset on the beach. Have to have a little alone time without the kids to work out your problems. Man has to be a man of the house. Always
Yes. Men need to step up and be leaders. Also, women need to step back and let the men lead. That means give your input and ideas but fully accept his decisions with no "I told you so's" if he gets it wrong.
Another great person for me to meet during your interview. May I suggest a great book that lays out a very workable plan to create the communication all relationships need. The Intimate Enemy by Bach.
My father was alcoholic, my mother had to do everything with 4 kids. He gave her nothing but black eyes. In those days, they stayed together for the kids. She left him when I turned 18yo.-never divorced him.
I am not a passive husband, and when I defend my wife against strangers who mistreat or ogle her in my vicinity in public, the first person I am in trouble with is her! I guess I should just let foreign men do whatever they want with her and be fine with it, right? What happens to her when she doesn't have me around to defend her because she drove me away for defending her? And at that point, should I even care?
Love is speaking the truth without anger or ego. If you live in NYC or some other foreign immigrant hell-hole then that is justified with some of these disrespectful/dangerous immigrants.....even with anger. If you communicate with non violent strangers who are merely looking with your anger, then you do so without love which disrupts the harmony of EVERYONE. Use the least amount of force to get the job done. Otherwise you risk escalating the situation which likely is contributing to your wife's discomfort...
Doing something totally different and incredibly rare in our household. I’m a stay at home dad and it’s really different, but it’s working. I’m no passive husband. Quite the contrary actually. It’s just the way the cards fell. My wife loves her job, and for whatever reason, people don’t like hiring me (fit white male.) So we made the decision to adjust our budget and keep me at home. I drop the kids off each morning and pick them up each day. We pray in the mornings together and I get my kisses goodbye. I pick them up, with the neighbors two boys, and we chop it up on the way home about the day. We wash hands and get ready for our workout Mondays, Tuesdays and Thursdays. I take both of them to the gym and train them for the hour. We go home, wash hands again, and go play or do homework. We have structure and a system. It’s working. Our kids are growing in the right direction 🙌 The praise and recognition the kids get from me, their dad, drives more desirable actions. My atta boys and encouragement resonate deeper, and hit harder, just the way it is. So we made it work and I stay at home. Totally counter culture. And it’s hard for me, not going to lie. But I also don’t see anyone else doing it either. I get it.
I consume an average of 10 hours of online content a day. I use split screen feature and I have 2 monitors and my cell phone running simultaneously. On my phone I compose emails and text, post comments and check out random stuff. On one monitor I have it on split screen and I follow Japanese wrestling (joshi / puroresu) and Mexican lucha libre. Since they are not in English, i mute the sound and on the second monitor i listen to podcasts and the news. I watch wrestling videos set to 4x playback using speed control functions and listen to all audio on 2x. So I consume probably 30 hours of content daily or more but I also do this while I'm working. So I am doing my job, im not just playing around and I take mini breaks every 20 minutes to stretch and do some cardio
Women and men are equally influential as each other in most long-term relationships. But their styles of influence may vary - not because of gender - but because of personality. Some (men) SEEM to be passive, but they are not. A quietly insistent man is every bit as strong as a more openly vociferous one.
Yes and no. If a woman acts out and isn't checked, she should be checked. But we live in a society that promotes acting out and punishes the man if he does basically Anything.
@@aegisreflector2725an alpha cares for the pack , that’s the purpose of an alpha . It’s not for first dibs on food. This correlates with human behavior as well. If you can’t care for them then you won’t be leading anything for long. As a society we’re biased by cultural things even when they’re wrong. Loud and arrogant or angry doesn’t make you a leader . Shitty people labeling themselves or other people something doesn’t mean the label suits them.
@@paradisemental "An alpha cares for the pack..." In a perfect world, yes, that would be ideal, but live in a deeply flawed world. There are two things this world will never run out of: people being corrupted by the lure and maintenance of power and people willing to trade their freedom for the illusion security. The history of humanity is replete of both examples.
This is true and something I have been becoming aware of in myself. Women looooove gossiping and complaining. My husband has called me out on it several times and it hurt my pride so much but he's totally right. Having self control of what comes out of your mouth is such a rare virtue. 🙏
@@Mrswesford Women generally are very good at verbal Judo, men are generally good at physical altercation and generally do not use and are not capable of verbal Judo. Women need to be careful with their words when they speak to their husbands, your verbal Judo destroys them.
Husband's Role as Leader: Carlson argues that a husband should be the leader in a marriage, and that a lack of leadership can lead to dysfunction within the household. Impact of Passivity: He highlights that passivity in husbands is becoming more common, which can negatively affect marriages and contribute to the rise in broken relationships. Lack of Role Models: Carlson suggests that many men may not have had effective role models to guide them in becoming strong leaders within their families. Encouragement and Support: He emphasizes the importance of wives encouraging their husbands to take on leadership roles and supporting them in this capacity. Health and Well-Being: Carlson also touches on the need for both spouses to maintain their health and well-being to effectively manage family responsibilities and have meaningful conversations.
Come on you all fools!!! why don’t we all start treating each other like equals and have respect for one another. These different roles are way over in the past. This is not about power or leadership, it’s about learning, growing and understanding each other. Grow up! Tucker, keep talking about politics, you do much better there.
Talking about phone use as one of many degenerative traits of modern society, Tucker says "It's like a tick or a reflex". Point being, evil is degenerative, anti-creative, and above all else is derived from a *lack of consciousness*
Husband is a old Norse word roughly translated into "head of the house". In Swedish and Norwegian its "Hus-bond" and the words mean House and Farmer so you cant translate it literally word for word. So "Head of the house" is more accurate in English-
Don't forget the men who defer all decisions to their wives or take their days off and never acknowledge their wives need some time for themselves once in awhile. Children learn their roles in life from their parents. If dad is selfish and tuned out it leaves the mom handing too much
When passive husband refuses to talk? How did I miss this important key element before marriage before engagement, ie, communication, making time for each other. I'm so very tired.
My husband was murdered in a house robbery when my children were very young. His influence as a father has been missed dreadfully. A single mother cannot fulfill that role no matter how hard she tries. Thankfully, they had strong uncles who stepped in.
I'm so sorry this happened to you! I've lost family members to violence as well, you will be in my prayers. 🙏💔✝️
I am so very sorry.
He was a good man, he protected his family, teach his children to remember how honourable their father was.
A house robbery? Shit, that’s traumatizing
I'm sorry to hear that.
Tucker Carlson, you are a lion! Thank you for staying strong for families. God is good and He is on our side. May the Lord God richly bless you.
well said
If Kamala Harris wins this election, i will be convinced that God is only a myth.
Nah he almost got beat up by someone he called son at a store and he put his tail between his legs
When Bethany was a teenager I had the opportunity to surf in the same lineup with her in Hanalaei Bay. During her practice she took the time to write my daughter the most inspirational note I’ve ever seen. Thanks for being an amazing woman Bethany!!
is she the one whose arm got cut off and she married the beta male in E news?
No one asked
@@professionalpookiestop hating
@@futuregoat347 that term is played out....
This woman is so right! I see so many women who constantly want to run the show, while he constantly shrinks back.
Thank you Bethany
It can also be easier to shrink back instead of being completely miserable. I know people who had a good relationship and had kids and things went downhill, and they know they'll never get primary or even equal custody because of work and they don't want to abandon the kids.
@@DLH_21 yes, breaks my heart for everyone involved. I truly wish for all marriages/families to be good
This is the main reason why i am single, women are too toxic nowadays.
This leads to divorce. Always.
@@simpetcla12correct
“When I’m consuming I’m not creating.” Love it
Ironic.
I’m a firm believer in God and the roles & genders He assigned. Excellent topic, Tucker!
Love this. About 15 years ago, when my kids were small - I quit Facebook because I realized the useless time suck it was for me. A friend at the time thought I was being extreme and asked, “What, so now Facebook is the devil or something?!”, I thought about it for a few seconds and said YES, yes it is, at least in my life right now it is. Haven’t looked back and have enjoyed the extra quality time that afforded me with my kids.
I ditched it off years back not married an not with kids either. That shit is like a cancer an I had to give it that chemo treatment an get rid of it. An haven’t looked back. My entire extent of social media is TH-cam. An that’s only because I don’t buy or watch TV,TV. It basically is my tv time.
Same here. I used to work in tech, and realized early on in the web era that when it comes to social media, computers don't actually improve our lives. They make them worse, under the deceptive cloak of seeming to make them better.
Based
To do lists--
Husband/Father: PROTECTION PROVISION & PRAISE
Wife/Mother: TRUST, TEAMWORK & TACT
No.
Father - hunter gatherer builder rock
Mother - home family nurture blanket
Only if he is trustworthy and faithful.
@@vickihogan8207Only if she is trustworthy and faithful.
Dear vicki, choose a good man. If u choose poorly than move on and choose better.
@@vickihogan8207 Incorrect, every husband and wife falls short but Grace fills the gaps.
What a wonderful wife she must be. A strong intelligent woman who is always thinking and acting to improve her family.
I agree with everything she said. The issue is that for a man to lead, the woman must be willing to follow and give up the independent bs mentality.
Exactly. If the man tries to lead, but the wife refuses to follow, then it is just as useless as if the man does not lead in the first place.
@@jamesg3808it might actually be worse since it breeds conflict. I deal with this with the mother of my son
@@zeeski7454 I agree. It's often much worse.
Tucker, you're are the best big brother to many men and women today. You listen, you inquire, you debate, you wish to reason things out🙏
Although I’m not especially religious I did grow up in a tight Christian family environment. My uncle was a pastor, and now both him and my cousin are pastors. It was a very traditional family arrangement. Women cleaned, cooked, raised children, while the men worked, protected, and provided for the family. It’s a natural dynamic that just works without even trying.
Sounds good but women don’t want that role anymore
@@Myopiniononly Godly woman do. Submissive is a dirty word to today's feminists. But, it is a refection of the Trinity. Christ was submissive to the Father, while being co-equal in the God head. Woman can be co=equal to their husbands while being submissive in the roles they play, as long as the husband is leading in a loving way.
Both parents need to raise their children. Define protect and provide? It is so cliche. Cooking and cleaning are tasks that need to be done whether married or not.
@mzimmerman12
I'm godly and I don't want that. I would DIE if I was a stay at home mom.
Such an incredibly important subject in our culture today. She's awesome. Tucker I cannot thank you enough for your resilience over the years and offering such rich content. The world needs more men like you👍
Spot on: consuming = not creating. That is worth adapting for sure.
Testosterone is needed for this diminished food supply we have been forced to deal with.
Good nutrition and balance are more important than people realize.
Most important thibg
Too much soy
Correct. You sir, know more than most.
Last year i stood on the beach and looked out to where her incident happened. I could not believe how far she was from the hospital. Likely a 40 min ambulance ride. Thats after a 15-20min paddle in... (guessing). Very strong gal. As an intraoperative RN specializing in orthopedics i am blown away by here story.
wow! the fact that someone is actually aware of the issue and in America and actually discussing it publically is quite something!
Parenting is one of the greatest challenges out there many tend not ponder upon. Thank you for bringing this to light
Most people in relationships don't put the relationship first. They put themselves first which explains, in my opinion, the divorce rate and why its so hard to date in 2024.
Yep. The root cause of all divorces or failed relationships is selfishness.
Being unfaithful is not just sexual or emotional, it is also financial. Many marriage partners may not cheat in the common sense of the word, but being secretive with money and spending is just as bad in destroying trust. Addictions of any kind, when not healed, will lead to a life spinning out of control. This is a great video!
What does a young man today have to work toward? I was born in 1952 , growing up I thought about boat building, hot rodding , chopper building , home steading, and all sorts of adventures. I was in the Army , then in the Navy. I spent 2 years looking for gold in the Inyo mountains of California. I did autobody work, and tried to have my own business twice. I made some antique design wooden shelf clocks and one grandfather clock. I had an ugly little house paid for when I was 25.
I lived in most of the southern states, in mountains and in deserts. I've done so many little things that I can't remember them all. I painted some pictures, and made some sculptures allnof which I was happy with.
Everything is much harder now with government regulations, zoning laws even in rural areas. Everything is more expensive now and there seem to be fewer frontiers for the common guy.
How can a young man lead in life when it seems like there's no place to go ???
The answer is… we can’t. One wrong turn/choice means financial failure and poverty for today’s modern man.
I decided really young I had a responsibility to leave the world a better place than I found it. And I will keep this mantra until I die.
Bethany is so riveting and the amount of sage learning and advice she has and has been giving is quite a testament to her and especially her parents. She's still relatively young age wise but way beyond her years in other ways. BTW I was so captivated by what she was saying that I didn't see and/or recognize her as Bethany Hamilton, shark attack victim, until this post was almost finished. She's really inspiring.
So so true! It took me years to realize I wasn’t leading my relationship and I witnessed its slow destruction. Men, never stop leading!
Hi Tucker, John here from the UK.
We have four boys, 23,20 and 18 twins.
This was a great talk with your guest and resonated a lot with us.
We went thru some tough times but mainly good, it's hard work but talking to each other is hugely important.
It's great you have these interviews as it makes you realise that others feel the same.
Keep up the good work mate,
All the best,
John and Chick
To her sons, "if she's reacting in certain ways, it's likely your (the husband) not providing in one of those key points". This well intended comment is similar to preaching I hear in some evangelical churches which states or implies that the wife's happiness is the husband's responsibility. I love spirit and agree with her points about the God given responsibilities of the husband. But the concept believed by many women and some men is that the spouse is responsible for their happiness. That leads to unhappiness.
Thank You Tucker C for Hosting a Beautiful Lady and SMART.
She is absolutely correct.
I was given the advice to go to bed immediately at night once my kids fell asleep and to not take “me time” or clean the house; it made me a more energetic mom during the day and more efficient during the day, fully rested.
totally agree ... in Argentina the man wears the trousers..and is so good... you feel protected... and backed up..
A man has one main job: protect your family, even from itself. A man can lead and follow simultaneously and the family will respond. In the end, the man is the torch barer and the sigma. In the hunter/gatherer societal structure, men will naturally rise above the fray and lead their family to higher ground
Passivity, from males and females, is how we have arrived in this mess.
Activity from females is.
Its difficult as the women's movement pushed for equality, which was important but they got to be so dominant that men have in many cases have takin the subordinate role to their wife's and left the family unbalanced and without a leader. With equality comes discretion on how you yield the power you have and leave your husband with some self respect for themselves.
Hint: they never truly wanted equality.
Once you sign a state contract you are a slave to her emotions. The judge will decide your fate not God.
Women default to destroying when not kept in check. Our species was sabotaged.
There was never a need for "equality" because women were never truly oppressed.
Wow!!!This women should be the role model for a lot of women in America.
There are more men now who were/are the only child of a single/divorced Mother and have missed out on the influence and teaching/learning by a Father. Sadly, many, as a result, either recreate with their wives a dysfunctional relationship they may have had with their Mother, or, want their wife to be the 'mother' they always wanted, rather than an equal/loving partner in a growing relationship.
'Mama's boys' aren't usually assertive leaders in their family life...professionally, yes, but characteristically passive/aggressive.
You described that very well.
Excellente analyse ! C'est tellement vrai mais inaudible de nos jours. Et on retrouve ces gens perdus dans les entreprises en train de traîner leur malaise et de polluer toute la société avec...
Every child, raised by a single mother, was neglected by their single father. But you are a #GenderConfused coward, so you blame mothers for neglectful fathers.
Correct. Government hates fathers and tries to usurp them at every stop.
@@francikoenby neglected you mean by their mother who either chose very very poorly and took their dad out the household.
“When I’m consuming I’m not creating it” that’s powerful
I really like Tucker’s interviews. This ladies Valley Girl inflection is annoying AF! I do agree with her, at least.
I felt the same way... then I felt embarrassed by my bigotry.
Thank you very much for this interview. 🙏
Bringing incredibly important information to everyone!
Great statement "When I am consuming I am not creating"'' Leaders help others do what they ordinarily wouldn't do on their own for the benefit of good. Where there is a King there is a Queen and they help each other and lead their family and in their community. Leaders set an example for others to follow and when they fall short acknowledge it. Leaders set and live standards for good to achieve sustainable results that all can see. Every child needs the leadership of a father and a mother. Staying in "the conversation" of possibility is what a leader does and invites others to participate in. God is the greatest leader and He calls us all to participate with Him for good.
It is impossible to problem solve if there is no critical thinking and I think as a society we've lost the ability to critically analyze the facts, especially when they are hard to hear.
This woman is bravely speaking in the zone of truth and it is inspiring. My wife and I have 9 great kids and we are a military family. I admit to being passive for far too long when my older kids were little. I expected far too much from my wife in the area of discipline and character formation. What I got was a whole lot of disrespect and chaos when the kids became teenagers, especially the girls. I'm a military officer and pride myself on order and discipline, but my household was lacking that from its leadership andnitbwas my fault. I tried to blame constant deployments and time away focused on a high-stakes job, but it was all bullshit. My family needed me to bring the discipline I loved so much at work home and to be a strong leader. My wife didnt know it and she resisted some at first, but once I started taking back some of the male -centered responsibility, my house changed and my wife and children started to grow in character. My house became more peaceful and loving, and my children started to thrive. Not only that, the clarity it provided me about how families are naturally meant to function, and the raw leadership experience of running a family that could not care less about their Dad's rank has been humbling and inspiring. I remember Lt Col Hal Moore's line in "We Were Soldiers" when he was asked about being a dad and a soldier. He said, "I believe being good at one makes me better at the other." I've applied many of the lessons this woman is speaking of to my work and family life and my career has accelerated in a totally unforseen way. Its impossible to deny the truth once you apply it in your life.
Listen up, men. Take the responsibility of leading your families back. This is the most loving thing you can do for them. Your wife will grow in love and you will be forever changed. I promise.
I told my wife a couple of years ago that she was spending too much time on social media and that social media ruins relationships. She got mad and didn't believe me. Hasn't changed and I'm moving on
men should LEAD.
home, tribe, town, city, county.
Most men can't, though.
Most men are addicted to porn, videogames, weed, etc.
World
Proverbs 31 ❤ kind of a woman. Men please stand up and take your rightful God-given right. Women would love to submit to godly wise, loving, and kind husbands/leaders that they RESPECT & TRUST!
Submission is the hardest thing for a woman, which I don't blame, it would be hard for anyone. But, that said a man may be a good man but it still doesn't happen, especially today. My brother is a very good man, and had to verbally lay it out with his would be wife there would be no marriage if she didn't let him lead. It worked, barely. I believe most aren't so fortunate, which explains the divorce rate, we aren't following God's plan.
I’m blown away you’re talking with Bethany. She is 100% for Ohana and woman’s rights. She is truly an inspiration for women today.
Gents, step up. Be the leader. Its the natural way. Be strong. Be the man ur family needs.
You can’t type out “your”?
@@lmlm_ Saved 0.01 seconds, he's not a time waster 🤣
Thank you, Tucker. You are a hero.
EVERY couple needs to read and follow Ephesians 5 & 2 Cor 6
This is a HUGE problem in today’s world. Boys are being “groomed” by everything they see- TV, public school, etc to be weak, passive men or even question if they are a man.
This is a spiritual battle that has to be won at the feet of Christ. Thank you Bethany for being part of the solution.
Strong Christian men leading their homes is what builds healthy societies.
I also love the comment, “when I’m consuming, I’m not creating”.🔥💪
The man needs to provide mentally, emotionally and physically for her. What about her providing for him mentally, emotionally and physically...or even better, how about both provide for eachother mentally, emotionally and physically
This is the u.s. where you gotta be superman meanwhile all she has to be is literally nothing. Tada.
Yes. This is the goal in my marriage. I am only 5 years married but it's a constant learning and unlearning, especially being raised by a single mother. Marriage is not 50/50, but 100/100.
Men should not need their women to provide for them emotionally/mentally. Men should be in control of their own emotions. The physical “needs” are different, but men should be stoic.
Yeah.
I made that mistake too many times with the rational I was keeping the peace.
It didn't end well.
The issue with male leadership crisis in America and in other western countries is that we are asking men to still take responsibility for things all the while taking away authority from them. You can’t have effective leadership where you don’t have authority.
Women take responsibility without having authority all of the time.
Boredom is the key for me- i spent years reading , doing activities, lewrning chess getting into reading , taking up new sports , meditating, and so on to deal with something that was wrong which i couldn’t figure out … then i let it be and just became bored and embrace it…. And it worked!
I am a leader (and not a passive husband) in my home because I have the obligation AND honor to be a leader. My wife...who supports me and trusts me and who I share this life with...allows me to be the leader. We honor each other by working together...but she wants me to take my role seriously and deliberately and she feels comforted by that. And I am comforted by her support. I would never, ever consider losing this incredible woman. I need her as she needs me. I have always said - it is my job to build the Ark for my family...to carry them through the flood...guide our ship...but need the help of my wife and family to support me in my duties. They have my loyalty, my energy, my wealth, my protection, and my love...
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So she allows her husband to grow into the leader role that she defines. Classic!!
So much for male leadership afterall I guess.
Tucker is big brother. He's a big mother Tucker!!
Great guest and advice
This is so true. We have friends of ours where the “husband” is a total beta. His wife pays the bills, finds the insurance policies books all the travel for the family, etc. oh, and she makes most of the $. Well, the son goes gay and the daughter dates outside her race…because her Dad’s type isn’t exactly what she is looking for. Sad situation when a man abdicates.
Dates outside her race? She might combust into flames if she gets with someone who’s too black
“You need to provide for your wife mentally, emotionally, and physically”
How much? Because it seems like it’s never enough. So many women leave when he doesn’t make as much money and someone else. Or they leave because he is working too much while attempting to make the money that she expects him to make. It’s never enough
Yes, my ex failed concerning leadership in our home. 😢
I went from passive in high school to a leader with a back bone both destroyed relationships. You can’t be a strong leader when the woman challenges you every step of the way it lies just as much on her
Nice interview, good topic to star to be worrier about and think how to look for solutions to prevent broken marriage
Such a great interview.
I know I failed my family. After 7 years of a great marriage, my wife became an aggressive feminist and between her, family and media all telling me that I need to be an ally to women and check my masculinity, I FAILED to stand tall. I would say let's go right and she would pick left just to spite me and to "be an ally", I followed her, many times to disastrous results. If not for my religion, I would have divorced her. The real damage that was done, was to our children. I see my adult son be subservient to his girlfriend and get walked over, my other son wants nothing to do with women and I see my daughter dominating her husband. They are adults now and hopefully they can change, but I failed them by laying a faulty foundation.
@genericwatcher2439
Thanks for describing your testimonial, I imagine there is a lot of families going through this and pray you see a reverse in time.
I often think my last relationship with my ex gf lead to me being passive, when she had a problem though (flat tire) she would run crying when it was just a simple fix; what I learned was women aren’t meant to take on this world alone. After we broke up I was hard on her cause I found my intergrity (balls), by then she I think it was too late for her to change. She wants to be friends but as a man I can’t alllw that since now she has a bf, wouldn’t be doing myself and all good men a favor if I went along
I've been watching this video now for a few minutes and had no clue the lady was missing her arm.
Didn’t know until you pointed it out
I'll stay single. Laws and society in this country can't stand a real man.
I believe you are correct. Also, the government has gotten more into marriage.
Based
You are very wise. In the west men are treated like dirt.
@@StephenKon-wq3kiThe state runs the show not the man
Yeah if you can find a way to have children without being married then do so. I married strictly to have children. Love if it ever existed sure doesn't now.
A perfect example of this the story of Ahab and Jezebel. Elijah had to step up and take control. Jezebel took control of Israel and turned to the worship of Baal.
She’s guessing, bless her heart, but you never know if you guessed right until you can look back and evaluate the results. Life is complicated and believing in fairy tales makes positive results almost impossible to achieve❤. I don’t think we should abandon our faith in the power of love, honesty and persistence but believing a hero will come and save the day is why we are in this mess. ❤
"The man is meant to be the leader." Keeping the peace means having to surrender authority. Now I'm just waiting for my clock to run out.
"Keeping the peace means having to surrender authority." It doesn't. But it does mean having to listen and not act like a martinet. Behaving with authority and acting like a tyrant are *much* different things. In the interview, this has to do with what they said about men having no one from whom to learn their role, with so many single parent households.
No, it absolutely doesn't.
It absolutely doesn't.
What? Lol
Go out to dinner. Argue for a little bit and then watch a great sunset on the beach. Have to have a little alone time without the kids to work out your problems. Man has to be a man of the house. Always
"Nuh uh" -modern american women
Yes. Men need to step up and be leaders. Also, women need to step back and let the men lead. That means give your input and ideas but fully accept his decisions with no "I told you so's" if he gets it wrong.
Very interesting lady...Liked the interview...Thank you...
Another great person for me to meet during your interview.
May I suggest a great book that lays out a very workable plan to create the communication all relationships need.
The Intimate Enemy by Bach.
Is Carlson going "Focus on the Family" on us?? 😂 Good stuff
Yes!!!! This!!❤
This is so true.. most of the men I know want someone to take care of them.. financial and other ways..So sad. Not all men but the majority.
My father was alcoholic, my mother had to do everything with 4 kids. He gave her nothing but black eyes. In those days, they stayed together for the kids. She left him when I turned 18yo.-never divorced him.
That's where God is desperately needed in families ..
@@douca1
Maybe he became an alcoholic because of her.
Why not? Women want equality, you got it. Can't have it both ways.
Wtf?
I am not a passive husband, and when I defend my wife against strangers who mistreat or ogle her in my vicinity in public, the first person I am in trouble with is her! I guess I should just let foreign men do whatever they want with her and be fine with it, right?
What happens to her when she doesn't have me around to defend her because she drove me away for defending her? And at that point, should I even care?
Love is speaking the truth without anger or ego.
If you live in NYC or some other foreign immigrant hell-hole then that is justified with some of these disrespectful/dangerous immigrants.....even with anger.
If you communicate with non violent strangers who are merely looking with your anger, then you do so without love which disrupts the harmony of EVERYONE.
Use the least amount of force to get the job done. Otherwise you risk escalating the situation which likely is contributing to your wife's discomfort...
Leave, she doesn't want a man.
@@richardkalmwater5996 I agree! My main concern is that she is safe, and I wish she weren't oblivious to danger but she is.
@@NoughtSure Exactly, thank you!
Welcome to the west.
Doing something totally different and incredibly rare in our household. I’m a stay at home dad and it’s really different, but it’s working. I’m no passive husband. Quite the contrary actually. It’s just the way the cards fell. My wife loves her job, and for whatever reason, people don’t like hiring me (fit white male.) So we made the decision to adjust our budget and keep me at home. I drop the kids off each morning and pick them up each day. We pray in the mornings together and I get my kisses goodbye. I pick them up, with the neighbors two boys, and we chop it up on the way home about the day. We wash hands and get ready for our workout Mondays, Tuesdays and Thursdays. I take both of them to the gym and train them for the hour. We go home, wash hands again, and go play or do homework.
We have structure and a system. It’s working. Our kids are growing in the right direction 🙌 The praise and recognition the kids get from me, their dad, drives more desirable actions. My atta boys and encouragement resonate deeper, and hit harder, just the way it is.
So we made it work and I stay at home. Totally counter culture. And it’s hard for me, not going to lie. But I also don’t see anyone else doing it either. I get it.
I consume an average of 10 hours of online content a day. I use split screen feature and I have 2 monitors and my cell phone running simultaneously. On my phone I compose emails and text, post comments and check out random stuff. On one monitor I have it on split screen and I follow Japanese wrestling (joshi / puroresu) and Mexican lucha libre. Since they are not in English, i mute the sound and on the second monitor i listen to podcasts and the news. I watch wrestling videos set to 4x playback using speed control functions and listen to all audio on 2x.
So I consume probably 30 hours of content daily or more but I also do this while I'm working. So I am doing my job, im not just playing around and I take mini breaks every 20 minutes to stretch and do some cardio
Women and men are equally influential as each other in most long-term relationships. But their styles of influence may vary - not because of gender - but because of personality. Some (men) SEEM to be passive, but they are not. A quietly insistent man is every bit as strong as a more openly vociferous one.
My sisters and I didn’t have a healthy male role model and therefore married men who didn’t lead. Now three of us are divorced. 😢🙏🏽
Appreciate this!
Loved this video!
Great stuff!
Totally disagree with this woman. She said if a wife is behaving a certain way it's the husband's fault? Provide for them emotionally? Seriously?
Yes and no. If a woman acts out and isn't checked, she should be checked. But we live in a society that promotes acting out and punishes the man if he does basically Anything.
Who punishes the man? The punisher of the man is the true alpha, and women, by and large, will always side with the true alpha.
They are allergic to accountability
@@aegisreflector2725an alpha cares for the pack , that’s the purpose of an alpha . It’s not for first dibs on food. This correlates with human behavior as well. If you can’t care for them then you won’t be leading anything for long. As a society we’re biased by cultural things even when they’re wrong. Loud and arrogant or angry doesn’t make you a leader . Shitty people labeling themselves or other people something doesn’t mean the label suits them.
@@paradisemental "An alpha cares for the pack..."
In a perfect world, yes, that would be ideal, but live in a deeply flawed world. There are two things this world will never run out of: people being corrupted by the lure and maintenance of power and people willing to trade their freedom for the illusion security. The history of humanity is replete of both examples.
Love her!🙏🏼
Distracted parenting produces kids who feel they don’t matter and act with indifference towards everything especially with things that should matter.
Women don't want their problems solved. They just want you to listen to them complain about their "problems" , over and over .
A woman that has rejected Christ wants to bear the cross and suffer.
@@kb9gkc WHAT?!
Correct
This is true and something I have been becoming aware of in myself. Women looooove gossiping and complaining. My husband has called me out on it several times and it hurt my pride so much but he's totally right. Having self control of what comes out of your mouth is such a rare virtue. 🙏
@@Mrswesford Women generally are very good at verbal Judo, men are generally good at physical altercation and generally do not use and are not capable of verbal Judo. Women need to be careful with their words when they speak to their husbands, your verbal Judo destroys them.
She’s really special..
I totally agree with this lady.
Husband's Role as Leader: Carlson argues that a husband should be the leader in a marriage, and that a lack of leadership can lead to dysfunction within the household.
Impact of Passivity: He highlights that passivity in husbands is becoming more common, which can negatively affect marriages and contribute to the rise in broken relationships.
Lack of Role Models: Carlson suggests that many men may not have had effective role models to guide them in becoming strong leaders within their families.
Encouragement and Support: He emphasizes the importance of wives encouraging their husbands to take on leadership roles and supporting them in this capacity.
Health and Well-Being: Carlson also touches on the need for both spouses to maintain their health and well-being to effectively manage family responsibilities and have meaningful conversations.
The state runs the marriage.
And she did act in a way that pushed me away
Come on you all fools!!! why don’t we all start treating each other like equals and have respect for one another. These different roles are way over in the past. This is not about power or leadership, it’s about learning, growing and understanding each other. Grow up! Tucker, keep talking about politics, you do much better there.
Talking about phone use as one of many degenerative traits of modern society, Tucker says "It's like a tick or a reflex". Point being, evil is degenerative, anti-creative, and above all else is derived from a *lack of consciousness*
Husband is a old Norse word roughly translated into "head of the house". In Swedish and Norwegian its "Hus-bond" and the words mean House and Farmer so you cant translate it literally word for word. So "Head of the house" is more accurate in English-
My dad took a course in college called animal husbandry, make of that what you will...
Nice, This woman is regaining her value and worth.
✝️❤️
Don't forget the men who defer all decisions to their wives or take their days off and never acknowledge their wives need some time for themselves once in awhile. Children learn their roles in life from their parents. If dad is selfish and tuned out it leaves the mom handing too much
'Take Their days off and not acknowledge' implies that men don't need that too.
We are truly fighting evil sources. God and Family.
Truth 👍🏽
2 John 1:6
Thank you
When passive husband refuses to talk? How did I miss this important key element before marriage before engagement, ie, communication, making time for each other.
I'm so very tired.