Having parents that have their lives sorted out and are able to provide a loving yet authoritative parenting style for their children means that you are in a good position to jump further. Privilege is like compound interest, the more of it you have the more you are likely to be successful. Privileges such as having two parents, a peaceful and loving home, good quality food, good relationships, nice clothes and a clean and healthy body, the ability to pursue sports and hobbies, enough toys to play with, a holiday abroad and day trips to the zoo or a museum... it builds connections in a child's brain, gives them confidence and sets them up for life.
I cried when I listened to this. We grew up very poor. I am in my 40s now, and I suppose not doing too badly in life compared to where I started. But the effects of my childhood continue until now. Only I know what they are...
sorry you had a life of poverty, I understand to well. I am 30 and growing up poor have really affected my life plus I am tall and dark skin. My mother was on drugs and I don't know my father
My parents had traumatic upbringings and us 3 brothers experienced the same. I wished my dad stop drinking, I wished my mom was available. I became a troubled boy very young and eventually surrendered to slowly killing myself with drugs because I was too afraid to leave this earth and I truly didn’t want to. Towards the end I was considering this the answer-I’m so glad that never happened! I’m happy to say I’m approaching 2 years sober and I finally learned to love myself more. I’m not there 100% but I’m so much better than I ever have been! I hope to help other kids or even addicts! I want others to know true joy and to stop hurting themselves over someone’s else’s actions or things out of their control!
A very good speech. I study Psychology myself and from the field we know how valuable presence is and how destructive absence and the perception of abandonment is for individuals cognitive development. It is known that when a child experiences abandonment in early childhood, it has similar effects for cognition as it would be were the child abused. It is very important for a child to feel accepted and loved by a parent figure or figures. It is estimated that around ~30% of who we are as adults are based on our childhood (
I'll try to find you the papers for you though I admit it was quite a while ago so hopefully I am able to dig them up. But to clarify a bit, it isn't that far off because we already know that our brains are most malleable in young childhood and as we grow up, over time our brains functions start to become more solid in terms of our brains development at the late 25-29 years old approximately (although some newer research suggests it might continue developing all the way up to 50-years old, which is amazing if true). As children we are much more dependent on our parents and living environments influence. How we experience it shapes a great deal of ourselves even in teenage years and adulthood. I've often said it to my colleagues, that even though our expressions become more complex, in many ways we still are children all grown up. We get grumpy when we are hungry or tired, we sometimes need someone to make us feel more secure when we are sad and insecure, in a lot of ways we are still the same kid from the playground even though we so often think we are not.
Jenkkimie oh I agree with everything you said so much! My father’s mom died when he just turned 10 and then a few months later his father abandoned him and his siblings to marry a wealthy woman. To make matters worse his older sister became his mother figure and she was verbally, emotionally and physically abusive. To this day my father always still needs reassurance from me that I love him and that I don’t want to leave him. He was in basic classes in school, became a chronic marijuana user and lacks many social skills. He has a heart of gold and was always a hard worker and provider for my mom and I, but unfortunately he’s only capable of labor jobs. My mom really did save his life and I truly believe that if he had at least one really amazing parental figure throughout his entire childhood up to his 20’s he wouldn’t of had all the struggles I mentioned.
Let me add one thing, "every children born with unique identity, help to invent themselves. Don't fill whatever you like". Don't expect your kids to fulfill your hunger in life.
People here commenting like "oh snap what a waste of time" but seriously pay attention to the current level of lack of empathy and support for the next generation and others. If you believe in that sarcasm your throwing out than I hope you take it home and think not for just your families but others as well.
While I agree that there weren't probably a lot a new findings in this talk, I still find it highly important. Most parents don't do these activities with their kids, for many reasons, chief among them the stressful modern way of life. The takeaway here is not some completely new insights, the takewaway is: take a little bit more time for your kids (that is the one thing the speaker changed in her own life!), talk with them, listen to them, read with them, go on a trip to the zoo, or whereever.... there is no need to send you kids to dozens of classes and early language courses, there is no need to spend tons of money on expensive toys, schools, etc.... just spend some more time in meaningful activities with your kids. And that is a very uplifting message IMHO
Much of what she describes in Britain has also been found in the U.S. and Canada. In both locations, critics have claimed that it is all "only correlation." But that is myopic and self-serving. In fact the public housing policies provide a controlled experiment on the effects of poverty. Outcomes are similar no matter the ethnicity or race. For example, those in poverty have less upward mobility relative to their parents than those in the middle to upper middle classes, when all other known factors are allowed for.
Jarful Sorry I wasn't clear. Low Income public housing projects are an administration's way of providing cheap housing to people at the bottom of the ladder. But you find poor in many different situations, such as rural fishing, lumber, agriculture too. There were claims going back to Jim Crow days that the residents of the projects were less "able" to participate in the economy and society. This may have been what we call dog whistle talk for racism. But they claimed objectivity in the observation. Anyway, some of the first mobility studies looked into these projects and then later compared the residents with poor elsewhere. They found no statistically significant difference in mobility relative to parents, based on the housing/life style. Of course, the projects were not created for the purposes of these tests. I didn't mean to imply that and should have been clear.
Brenda Rua so all other known factors are not controlled for. Until iq is controlled for, I will assume poverty is a proxy for iq, because iq has been shown to be a better predictor of income than parental income and education.
It gives me hope that all the people who think this is obvious act on it when they have children because there are alot of people who dont know this stuff and still think they can have a child without problems
These obesity, addiction and many physical and mental health issues get impacted prior to conception at the time of conception, in the uterus, in infancy and right to the late life What to do ?
Troy Nguyen I know! I think it's pretty common sensical that parenting only reduces educational and motivational gap caused by poverty by about 50%. That bedtime routine were seen to have bigger influence on children compared to other activities... Everyone with absolute certainty knows about the percentages and the statistics.
I knew a woman who refused to talk to her daughter until she was "old enough to converse like a lady" or something ridiculous like that. Just because you had good parents doesn't mean there aren't people who are either too proud or totally oblivious to help their children succeed. And by succeed I mean not be completely messed up. Sometimes confirmation that known methods work is the best thing you can get.
Most of the findings are important, and for some may seem like common sense, thats why they are taken for granted. But the reality is as a parent today, finding quality time with your kids is a real struggle if you even want to sustain a middle class lifestyle; most parents like me are just plain tired at the end of the day and would only like to rest during weekend. What about people who are barely struggling to make a living? and unfortunately they are usually the ones with lots of kids and dont know any better. It's a difficult case of reality shaping your viewpoint, vs your viewpoint shaping your reality.
The parents who make their children read are on average already more intelligent than those who don't. So I believe their children do better not only because reading helps your devolepment but also because they already have a big advantage over others due to genes.
this is also a motivation for everybody that as a society we should invest in helping the poor to live a sustainable life. a person cannot reach a higher level of human development when everyday his main goal is to answer to the call of his rumbling stomach and the cycle goes on.
The longest study I think is actually the Grant Study, which is tracking the lives of Harvard University undergraduates as well as an expanded cohort of groups in the U.S. It's part of the Study of Adult Development at Harvard Medical School. I recommend reading the works of one of its Directors, George Vaillant, including the excellent "Triumphs of Experience."
Ms. Helen Pearson, this video is amazing and I completely agree that parenting certainly makes a huge difference. However, the rich will often be more successful because they can afford everything the poor kids cannot. The rich parents are able to provide their kids with the best tutors for as long as the child needs. They also pay private music and even dance lessons. These wealthy parents can afford everything to help their kids, at least, succeed socially and financially. Hopefully, they also provide great parenting and then their kids will be closer to perfect.
This science simply tells us all something that we already know... that when you push someone up they often succeed and when you push someone down they often drown. we the world are the village for the children. they matter more than any of us. if we could get one generation to truly work for their children you would see a jump in humanity that no one has ever seen before. i as a parent of 1 maybe 2 ( lets hope) will be living the rest of my life for my sons and daughters. because with all the smarts in the world i cant think of a single way i could better spend my time than investing it in the future.
Add this to my favorites and watch again later lists. And watch it from time to time just as a simple reminder. Thank you! Ps. I also watched again and took notes.
Its not that the kids who's parents read to them will do better, it's the fact the parents who read to their children, often would genuinely care about their kids well being, and will continue to push them to do well in school. It's a matter of culture, something this study forgot to mention.
Muda Le I don't think it's just culture. It's also the parents understanding of what is necessary at the different points in a childs growth, how to seperate their childhood experiences from their children(that is to say not making a comparative analysis and judging according to it) and the value of genuinely caring for the child beyond just being providers for food and shelter.
Not exactly. Being read to develops the child's vocabulary, language processing skills and imagination - among other things - and these basic skills are the foundation on which all learning is built on.
I think if my parents "Pushed" me todo well in school i would've rather not done so because they should've been doing parenting not "Pushing" the fact you can attribute some culture bullshit to get you around what you need todo as a parent speaks well why these studies still need to be done
A little bit of knowledge about brain formation in the early years will tell you why 0-2 are critical and 3-8 is very very important.. get this wrong, and there can be no recovery - and high material wealth cannot overcome bad parenting in these early years... and is why you hear "but they came from a good home" - meaning there were materially well off, but had a bad outcome... for good parenting, the parents need not to be consumed by worries about money and security.. so people need "enough" money, and absolute wealth is not a guarantee of good childhood outcomes....
Cognitive science & other behavioural studies concur with these findings that children being born into poverty (barring anything like being born with FAS or something as equally as destructive) can have the capacity to do as well as more advantaged children if they have 3 basic needs met: (1) a loving caregiver who shares a great deal of time (like reading to them) with them & establishes an early and ongoing deep emotional bond (2) they get enough sleep (this is incorporated I having an established bedtime routine that ensures they are relaxed in bed from 9 -11 hours before they need to wake-ip) and (3) they have the opportunities to receive adequate nourishment, education (i.e.: access to books and schools) and healthcare
Having research and evidence or proof of what we may believe to be true helps us in making decisions to affirm that we really do need to uplift those who are poor or are neglected. Policies could become rock solid with evidence, wouldn't you say?
I've heard a ted talk about the research thcat proved the oposite: partners do not matter, cause twins that were raised by different families turn out very similar to each other in life. 🙈 What to believe now?
a lot of your beliefs probably come from science, and a lot of science is needed to confirm or reject "common sense" notions. It's still valuable because if everything was as simple and obvious as you think it is, science in this field wouldn't be really necessary at all, would it?
1. Have high IQ parents, since they are extremely unlikely to be poor. 2. Do not pay poor people to have children they can no handle. 3. Care about your child and do not neglect it by putting it in daycare.
Well, none of those were stated. For one, IQ tests are bogus. Two, giving funding to poor families *is* how to help them handle their children. Finally, three, not everyone is a stay at home parent. People have jobs. Lives.
This video is more than wonderful, a lecture that made me feel influenced and motivated a lot, I can not say how I felt and what?! But I can say motivational words and very wonderful.. ooh my god 😍😍
I have question: How is poverty defined? As a single well paid mother i can recon that - having no other parent to resort to - is poverty. So what is poverty? If I needed to stay at home with one kid because he was ill - nobody could take the other to school - then the other kid needed to stay at home too - if one needed to go to the emergency care - then the other needed to sit for many hours at the emergency too: To me, that is poverty, not necessarily the effects of not having enough financial means, but surely not being able to have any resort.
The data showed that children who were reading for pleasure at the ages of five and 10 were more likely to go on in school better, on average, on school tests later in their lives. And not just tests of reading, but tests of spelling and maths as well.(finding)
There should be mandatory parenting classes, where parents-to-be are inundated with scientific data & research to help them raise their kids properly. For example, teaching people that smacking your kids is counterproductive; that your child's behaviour is YOUR RESPONSIBILITY until they're an adult, etc.
Parenting styles are not universal, so a “mandatory class” wouldn’t fit, and simply because it doesn’t fit cross-culturally. There’s no one “right way”.
I think it might be a little bit of hubris to think that we could look at people's lives and distill everything down to" well this is where they went wrong"
Circumstances, chance, and attitude are what make people successful, or otherwise. Therefore there is possibly no complete solution to the human condition. I was born poor and grew up without a father, but have had a happy and successful life. I thank God that as a child I never came into contact with social workers. I have concluded from observations over my life that children who are born into security, wealth and ease are at risk of growing up to be spoiled brats. Life was not meant to be too easy, children apparently need to have challenges, respect for their parents and at least some basic guidance.
This Ted Talk, more than any other, has me convinced that the speakers no longer take this seriously. This is like some pamphlet I had to have my parents sign in 6th grade, 20 years ago. Although, it sounds much more amazing with the British accent
So you knew bedtime routine impacted behaviour to such an extent? Or how significant a factor poverty is in the child’s future despite excellent parenting? Even by the age of three? Needless to say this video discusses just some of the information gained from this study.
Well lucky me.. A poor sad that is emotional and verbally abusive. I got lucky he's not physically abusive. Bullied all elementary school years. Not sure if I'm f'd or not.
Even it does not seem visual after number of years of study. All the aspects of life is crucial, and parents and children should try their best to play out the game of life. It's not in ones hand to choose born to. Science without spirituality, and knowledge without conscience are destroying for human.
i wonder if there are differences between siblings about their life when they grow up although they might get the same parents and education, especially in families with many sisters and brothers.
Quite a few misguided comments here. People don't seem to realise the impact actual science has on society's parenting, government funding, further research, etc.
Go to bed on a predictable time scale. Dream big and don't settle. Don't let anxieties take root in your life. Don't judge other people, and don't let the judgement of other people affect you.
Get a good amount of sleep, meditate [ just try it out ;) ] if you want to do something, Maybe take a dance class, learn to play an instrument, invent something or write a book, Just do it, don't overthink it.
Great talk! Thank you! One question though. How much is this study applicable to other cultures? What if it only works for individualistic protestant or catholic dominated societies and for other, say collectivistic or non-protestant, cultures the same parenting would produce completely different outcomes?
You could get lost by the sound of her voice. eloquent, engaging, and just plain intelligent sounding. too bad there's absolutely no new content and all this is rudimentary knowledge...
she did not try to show you a new discovery... this is reinforcing and reminding parents that parenting could be overwhelming sometimes that we just have to go back to basics.. Time and attention, basic needs, routines, enhance knowledge through reading, etc. poverty could hinder human development, that as a society helping the poor could also change the society and the next generation. you might be lucky you were raised well by your parents but there might be kids and parents that cannot even understand what this talk is all about
These studies should control for IQ. A child from a low IQ and poverty household is not likely to do well giving the impression that it's the household and parents that were to blame.
taking IQ into account is "uncomfortable" in our politicalyl correct world. so kids who happen to read books do better gets interpreted as reading books is the way to go when in reality smarter kids tend to like reading books to stimulate their brain. sad world at least red pilled folks are pointing out the bullshit
IQ is not a fixed number branded at birth. It can be raised or lowered by environment and nurture. There is a genetic component, but things like nutrition, education and social factors also play a significant part. Like cycles of poverty and cycles of crime, sections of society can get locked in cycles of low educational performance. Low IQ households are a result as much as a cause.
She is saying what she think is so What’s reality based on fact without biased can be way different I don’t know either But I was born in Pakistan in middle of extremist but now I’m a scientist and a millionaire and what I conclude is it’s never the situation it’s what you do everyday when no one is there
Oh yeah I can see myself in that part of reading for pleasure. As a young boy I was reading nothing but encyklopedias. I can say during the primary school I was miles away from my classmates in terms of general knowledge and understanding of science such as math and physics... (Now I will continue with a hypothesis) Once entering highschool and starting playing PC games my adventage was still there but it was not beeing looked after anymore. By reading encyklopedias at early age I taught myself an understanding of science and earned knowledge. When I was choosing an university there were this obvious option or artist one (I am very creative). Now at university I can see myself with an interest in knowledge and knowing interesting thigs. But I really struggle with the necessery opposite like hardcore science, math, beeing rigorous etc. CONCLUSION: seem like at that young age we are capable to accept anything and resurrect interest very easily. This can end in all-life-long focus (top scientist, athletes) or kind of hide your true path (like in my cas). Wow so interesting to analyze myself :D
Having parents that have their lives sorted out and are able to provide a loving yet authoritative parenting style for their children means that you are in a good position to jump further. Privilege is like compound interest, the more of it you have the more you are likely to be successful. Privileges such as having two parents, a peaceful and loving home, good quality food, good relationships, nice clothes and a clean and healthy body, the ability to pursue sports and hobbies, enough toys to play with, a holiday abroad and day trips to the zoo or a museum... it builds connections in a child's brain, gives them confidence and sets them up for life.
I cried when I listened to this. We grew up very poor. I am in my 40s now, and I suppose not doing too badly in life compared to where I started. But the effects of my childhood continue until now. Only I know what they are...
sorry you had a life of poverty, I understand to well. I am 30 and growing up poor have really affected my life plus I am tall and dark skin. My mother was on drugs and I don't know my father
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My parents had traumatic upbringings and us 3 brothers experienced the same. I wished my dad stop drinking, I wished my mom was available. I became a troubled boy very young and eventually surrendered to slowly killing myself with drugs because I was too afraid to leave this earth and I truly didn’t want to. Towards the end I was considering this the answer-I’m so glad that never happened! I’m happy to say I’m approaching 2 years sober and I finally learned to love myself more. I’m not there 100% but I’m so much better than I ever have been! I hope to help other kids or even addicts! I want others to know true joy and to stop hurting themselves over someone’s else’s actions or things out of their control!
Thank you for sharing. I hope you're still on the path and doing well. Best of wishes to you my friend.
@@Ramdapanda 3 years in November…thank you for your encouragement
TQ for sharing. I wish you well.
A very good speech. I study Psychology myself and from the field we know how valuable presence is and how destructive absence and the perception of abandonment is for individuals cognitive development. It is known that when a child experiences abandonment in early childhood, it has similar effects for cognition as it would be were the child abused. It is very important for a child to feel accepted and loved by a parent figure or figures. It is estimated that around ~30% of who we are as adults are based on our childhood (
where did you get that 30% stat?
I'll try to find you the papers for you though I admit it was quite a while ago so hopefully I am able to dig them up.
But to clarify a bit, it isn't that far off because we already know that our brains are most malleable in young childhood and as we grow up, over time our brains functions start to become more solid in terms of our brains development at the late 25-29 years old approximately (although some newer research suggests it might continue developing all the way up to 50-years old, which is amazing if true).
As children we are much more dependent on our parents and living environments influence. How we experience it shapes a great deal of ourselves even in teenage years and adulthood. I've often said it to my colleagues, that even though our expressions become more complex, in many ways we still are children all grown up. We get grumpy when we are hungry or tired, we sometimes need someone to make us feel more secure when we are sad and insecure, in a lot of ways we are still the same kid from the playground even though we so often think we are not.
Jenkkimie oh I agree with everything you said so much! My father’s mom died when he just turned 10 and then a few months later his father abandoned him and his siblings to marry a wealthy woman. To make matters worse his older sister became his mother figure and she was verbally, emotionally and physically abusive. To this day my father always still needs reassurance from me that I love him and that I don’t want to leave him. He was in basic classes in school, became a chronic marijuana user and lacks many social skills. He has a heart of gold and was always a hard worker and provider for my mom and I, but unfortunately he’s only capable of labor jobs. My mom really did save his life and I truly believe that if he had at least one really amazing parental figure throughout his entire childhood up to his 20’s he wouldn’t of had all the struggles I mentioned.
Let me add one thing, "every children born with unique identity, help to invent themselves. Don't fill whatever you like".
Don't expect your kids to fulfill your hunger in life.
People here commenting like "oh snap what a waste of time" but seriously pay attention to the current level of lack of empathy and support for the next generation and others. If you believe in that sarcasm your throwing out than I hope you take it home and think not for just your families but others as well.
if this talk was newsworthy to you, you should not have children since you are part of the current problem.
While I agree that there weren't probably a lot a new findings in this talk, I still find it highly important. Most parents don't do these activities with their kids, for many reasons, chief among them the stressful modern way of life. The takeaway here is not some completely new insights, the takewaway is: take a little bit more time for your kids (that is the one thing the speaker changed in her own life!), talk with them, listen to them, read with them, go on a trip to the zoo, or whereever.... there is no need to send you kids to dozens of classes and early language courses, there is no need to spend tons of money on expensive toys, schools, etc.... just spend some more time in meaningful activities with your kids. And that is a very uplifting message IMHO
I'm here because of my module and to know the answer.
Me too
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Helen Pearson (the presenter) published a wonderful book about this called the ‘Life Project’ . An absolute beauty of a book
Much of what she describes in Britain has also been found in the U.S. and Canada. In both locations, critics have claimed that it is all "only correlation." But that is myopic and self-serving. In fact the public housing policies provide a controlled experiment on the effects of poverty. Outcomes are similar no matter the ethnicity or race. For example, those in poverty have less upward mobility relative to their parents than those in the middle to upper middle classes, when all other known factors are allowed for.
What do you mean "all other known factors are controlled for" in the public housing population you claim provide a controlled experiment?
Brenda Rua Another factor that is majorly important is urban sprawl.
US, Canada and Britain. They are not very different at all: race, religion, culture, etc-wise.
Jarful Sorry I wasn't clear. Low Income public housing projects are an administration's way of providing cheap housing to people at the bottom of the ladder. But you find poor in many different situations, such as rural fishing, lumber, agriculture too. There were claims going back to Jim Crow days that the residents of the projects were less "able" to participate in the economy and society. This may have been what we call dog whistle talk for racism. But they claimed objectivity in the observation. Anyway, some of the first mobility studies looked into these projects and then later compared the residents with poor elsewhere. They found no statistically significant difference in mobility relative to parents, based on the housing/life style. Of course, the projects were not created for the purposes of these tests. I didn't mean to imply that and should have been clear.
Brenda Rua so all other known factors are not controlled for. Until iq is controlled for, I will assume poverty is a proxy for iq, because iq has been shown to be a better predictor of income than parental income and education.
It gives me hope that all the people who think this is obvious act on it when they have children because there are alot of people who dont know this stuff and still think they can have a child without problems
Now I understand why my mom taught me to read books before going to bed when I was a kid. Reading books is the start of my learning stage.
adverse childhood experiences are often at the root causes to obesity, addiction and many physical and mental health issues
These obesity, addiction and many physical and mental health issues get impacted prior to conception at the time of conception, in the uterus, in infancy and right to the late life What to do ?
The garbage that passes for entertainment on TH-cam etc. is often at the root of obesity, addiction and many physical and mental health issues.
Wow, who would have thought.
Paying attention to kids and devoting time to them
is better for them than not..
#go #science
Troy Nguyen I know! I think it's pretty common sensical that parenting only reduces educational and motivational gap caused by poverty by about 50%. That bedtime routine were seen to have bigger influence on children compared to other activities... Everyone with absolute certainty knows about the percentages and the statistics.
I do think she was talking about the overall major factor. We could say a lot of things, but this was the best correlation.
I knew a woman who refused to talk to her daughter until she was "old enough to converse like a lady" or something ridiculous like that. Just because you had good parents doesn't mean there aren't people who are either too proud or totally oblivious to help their children succeed. And by succeed I mean not be completely messed up. Sometimes confirmation that known methods work is the best thing you can get.
I guess you also got the idea that Egalitarism is needed to provied that all children will have the base to be able to succeed? =)
Most of the findings are important, and for some may seem like common sense, thats why they are taken for granted. But the reality is as a parent today, finding quality time with your kids is a real struggle if you even want to sustain a middle class lifestyle; most parents like me are just plain tired at the end of the day and would only like to rest during weekend. What about people who are barely struggling to make a living? and unfortunately they are usually the ones with lots of kids and dont know any better. It's a difficult case of reality shaping your viewpoint, vs your viewpoint shaping your reality.
The parents who make their children read are on average already more intelligent than those who don't. So I believe their children do better not only because reading helps your devolepment but also because they already have a big advantage over others due to genes.
Starts at 2:00, you're welcome. Actual information from the study starts at 4:10.
Thank you!
Nutshell: you need parents that know how to be parents and care.
Thank you😁
It takes a village to raise a child, not a block of soulless and Godless apartments.
this is also a motivation for everybody that as a society we should invest in helping the poor to live a sustainable life.
a person cannot reach a higher level of human development when everyday his main goal is to answer to the call of his rumbling stomach and the cycle goes on.
informative synopsis of one of the biggest ever human developmental studies. thank you
PERFECTION DOES NOT EXIST - BUT WE CAN BE BETTER - WE WILL BE BETTER.
The longest study I think is actually the Grant Study, which is tracking the lives of Harvard University undergraduates as well as an expanded cohort of groups in the U.S. It's part of the Study of Adult Development at Harvard Medical School. I recommend reading the works of one of its Directors, George Vaillant, including the excellent "Triumphs of Experience."
But didn't the Grant Study only follow men and their descendents?
Ms. Helen Pearson, this video is amazing and I completely agree that parenting certainly makes a huge difference. However, the rich will often be more successful because they can afford everything the poor kids cannot. The rich parents are able to provide their kids with the best tutors for as long as the child needs. They also pay private music and even dance lessons. These wealthy parents can afford everything to help their kids, at least, succeed socially and financially. Hopefully, they also provide great parenting and then their kids will be closer to perfect.
Everyone who's a college student who's course is Education and is watching this to get answers for their module,say aye. Aye!
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Amazing! I want to read this Study right now
This science simply tells us all something that we already know... that when you push someone up they often succeed and when you push someone down they often drown. we the world are the village for the children. they matter more than any of us. if we could get one generation to truly work for their children you would see a jump in humanity that no one has ever seen before. i as a parent of 1 maybe 2 ( lets hope) will be living the rest of my life for my sons and daughters. because with all the smarts in the world i cant think of a single way i could better spend my time than investing it in the future.
Who's here with me because they also have a module to answer and to do that, they need to watch this?
Me! Need to watch this for our midterm exam today
Lovely talk. Amazing presentation ❤
Surpirsingly, just simply take time and read with your children everyday can have immense impact on thier lives.
Add this to my favorites and watch again later lists. And watch it from time to time just as a simple reminder. Thank you! Ps. I also watched again and took notes.
Its not that the kids who's parents read to them will do better, it's the fact the parents who read to their children, often would genuinely care about their kids well being, and will continue to push them to do well in school. It's a matter of culture, something this study forgot to mention.
Muda Le I don't think it's just culture. It's also the parents understanding of what is necessary at the different points in a childs growth, how to seperate their childhood experiences from their children(that is to say not making a comparative analysis and judging according to it) and the value of genuinely caring for the child beyond just being providers for food and shelter.
Not exactly. Being read to develops the child's vocabulary, language processing skills and imagination - among other things - and these basic skills are the foundation on which all learning is built on.
I think if my parents "Pushed" me todo well in school i would've rather not done so because they should've been doing parenting not "Pushing" the fact you can attribute some culture bullshit to get you around what you need todo as a parent speaks well why these studies still need to be done
Muda Le You sound like a "Freakonomics" reader.
My son will be 3 years in few months and I will love him to choose his path
A little bit of knowledge about brain formation in the early years will tell you why 0-2 are critical and 3-8 is very very important.. get this wrong, and there can be no recovery - and high material wealth cannot overcome bad parenting in these early years... and is why you hear "but they came from a good home" - meaning there were materially well off, but had a bad outcome... for good parenting, the parents need not to be consumed by worries about money and security.. so people need "enough" money, and absolute wealth is not a guarantee of good childhood outcomes....
I have 5 children and I have nothing to worry about their future as long as they have home to live in and enough food to eat
Cognitive science & other behavioural studies concur with these findings that children being born into poverty (barring anything like being born with FAS or something as equally as destructive) can have the capacity to do as well as more advantaged children if they have 3 basic needs met: (1) a loving caregiver who shares a great deal of time (like reading to them) with them & establishes an early and ongoing deep emotional bond (2) they get enough sleep (this is incorporated I having an established bedtime routine that ensures they are relaxed in bed from 9 -11 hours before they need to wake-ip) and (3) they have the opportunities to receive adequate nourishment, education (i.e.: access to books and schools) and healthcare
your no. 3 basic needs is non existent in the poverty dude lmao
Great research to prove the obvious - good parenting works. I’m wondering has there ever been doubt about that?
Having research and evidence or proof of what we may believe to be true helps us in making decisions to affirm that we really do need to uplift those who are poor or are neglected. Policies could become rock solid with evidence, wouldn't you say?
I've heard a ted talk about the research thcat proved the oposite: partners do not matter, cause twins that were raised by different families turn out very similar to each other in life. 🙈 What to believe now?
CaptainTigra I’ve worked in education for a long time. I can tell you for 100% that parent actions have a massive impact.
a lot of your beliefs probably come from science, and a lot of science is needed to confirm or reject "common sense" notions. It's still valuable because if everything was as simple and obvious as you think it is, science in this field wouldn't be really necessary at all, would it?
hey look we do science even without the EU
1. Dont be born into poverty
2. Chose your parents wisely
3. Parenting matters
the data shows it!
1. Have high IQ parents, since they are extremely unlikely to be poor.
2. Do not pay poor people to have children they can no handle.
3. Care about your child and do not neglect it by putting it in daycare.
Well, none of those were stated. For one, IQ tests are bogus. Two, giving funding to poor families *is* how to help them handle their children. Finally, three, not everyone is a stay at home parent.
People have jobs. Lives.
that is exactly the mindset that leads to the problems
I love ❤️ TED talks
This video is more than wonderful, a lecture that made me feel influenced and motivated a lot, I can not say how I felt and what?! But I can say motivational words and very wonderful.. ooh my god 😍😍
I have question: How is poverty defined? As a single well paid mother i can recon that - having no other parent to resort to - is poverty. So what is poverty? If I needed to stay at home with one kid because he was ill - nobody could take the other to school - then the other kid needed to stay at home too - if one needed to go to the emergency care - then the other needed to sit for many hours at the emergency too: To me, that is poverty, not necessarily the effects of not having enough financial means, but surely not being able to have any resort.
Moral Lesson:
Don't have children if you're poor!
That was my main reason for not having children when I was young, having adventures, and not buckling down to work and make money.
If you are wealthy, keep dogs and don't have children, leave doing that to the poor, who usually have more sense than the rich.
The data showed that children who were reading for pleasure at the ages of five and 10 were more likely to go on in school better, on average, on school tests later in their lives. And not just tests of reading, but tests of spelling and maths as well.(finding)
There should be mandatory parenting classes, where parents-to-be are inundated with scientific data & research to help them raise their kids properly. For example, teaching people that smacking your kids is counterproductive; that your child's behaviour is YOUR RESPONSIBILITY until they're an adult, etc.
Parenting styles are not universal, so a “mandatory class” wouldn’t fit, and simply because it doesn’t fit cross-culturally. There’s no one “right way”.
Yea
I think it might be a little bit of hubris to think that we could look at people's lives and distill everything down to" well this is where they went wrong"
This is a good guide video to watch prior to reading the recommended reading list - The life proje t to one of my academic module .
Circumstances, chance, and attitude are what make people successful, or otherwise. Therefore there is possibly no complete solution to the human condition. I was born poor and grew up without a father, but have had a happy and successful life. I thank God that as a child I never came into contact with social workers. I have concluded from observations over my life that children who are born into security, wealth and ease are at risk of growing up to be spoiled brats. Life was not meant to be too easy, children apparently need to have challenges, respect for their parents and at least some basic guidance.
Can someone please answer my question 🙏🙏 who is most wiser stand? Nature-nurture, continuity-discontinuity or change-stability controversies?
Here because I have a test on human development and haven’t studied, also the test is tomorrow. Wish me luck
UH?
Cảm ơn cô rất nhiều, 1 người phụ nữ nhiều trăn trở và giàu tâm huyết.
Years of research show us the obvious truth we already knew..
hey.. dont be cynical. its not like these studies cost billions of dollars, which could have been invested into fighting child poverty lol
EitanFri Sadly it isn't obvious to many people.
Don't be born in a poor family. of course! That was requiring a lot of scientific investment
This Ted Talk, more than any other, has me convinced that the speakers no longer take this seriously. This is like some pamphlet I had to have my parents sign in 6th grade, 20 years ago. Although, it sounds much more amazing with the British accent
So you knew bedtime routine impacted behaviour to such an extent?
Or how significant a factor poverty is in the child’s future despite excellent parenting? Even by the age of three?
Needless to say this video discusses just some of the information gained from this study.
1. Poverty and parents really matter
As does gumption.
There we have it, being born rich isn't a solve-all, and a loving parent benefits you just as much as a rich one.
Well lucky me.. A poor sad that is emotional and verbally abusive. I got lucky he's not physically abusive. Bullied all elementary school years. Not sure if I'm f'd or not.
Anyone have a link to the study?
Interesting topic. Great talk. 😃👍
Even it does not seem visual after number of years of study. All the aspects of life is crucial, and parents and children should try their best to play out the game of life. It's not in ones hand to choose born to. Science without spirituality, and knowledge without conscience are destroying for human.
Human development is very important
Where's the link
i wonder if there are differences between siblings about their life when they grow up although they might get the same parents and education, especially in families with many sisters and brothers.
There are.
It's very amazing!
why her sound very clear and easy to understand for non english native like me ?
I known she is british but what about ?
Absolutely brilliant
Awesome speech and content
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Quite a few misguided comments here. People don't seem to realise the impact actual science has on society's parenting, government funding, further research, etc.
Aztecs and Mayan knew that before Europe got to there lands.. it's knew to Europe not to everyone in the world
4:22 real info starts 🕵️♂️
Where can I find the study she is reffering to? Does anyone know?
Is there any advice for what a 21 year old should be doing to improve their own future? Any specific small behaviours?
Go to bed on a predictable time scale. Dream big and don't settle. Don't let anxieties take root in your life. Don't judge other people, and don't let the judgement of other people affect you.
Get a good amount of sleep, meditate [ just try it out ;) ] if you want to do something, Maybe take a dance class, learn to play an instrument, invent something or write a book, Just do it, don't overthink it.
thank-you so much!
thank-you :)
Excellent
Suddenly I remember a few of my friends.
Great talk! Thank you! One question though. How much is this study applicable to other cultures? What if it only works for individualistic protestant or catholic dominated societies and for other, say collectivistic or non-protestant, cultures the same parenting would produce completely different outcomes?
I think the middle ground for this talk is that parents should spend more time with their kids. Regardless of culture, parents are still parents🤷🏼♀️
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" Failure to complete this task in 60 seconds, may result in elimination "
when you understand it's British accent before "British" word is spoken
Wow. Pinanuod ko na pala 'to bakit 'di ko tanda. Anyways, good luck BSP-2B.
I'm here to know the answer of my module 😆
The lack of money is always a symptom, never the problem. It's the parents' attitudes that make or break poverty.
woow, a 14-minute mind boggling talk right to the trash
I'm here as well because of my module.😔 Maka stress!😭
I'm here for modular purposes heheh thanks for this miss helen
Wow. Fifteen minutes of talking time. Congratulations.
I wonder if she sets a timer
I would love to be apart of a longitudinal study
Shout out to peeps who came here for their modules😅
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You could get lost by the sound of her voice. eloquent, engaging, and just plain intelligent sounding.
too bad there's absolutely no new content and all this is rudimentary knowledge...
she did not try to show you a new discovery... this is reinforcing and reminding parents that parenting could be overwhelming sometimes that we just have to go back to basics.. Time and attention, basic needs, routines, enhance knowledge through reading, etc.
poverty could hinder human development, that as a society helping the poor could also change the society and the next generation.
you might be lucky you were raised well by your parents but there might be kids and parents that cannot even understand what this talk is all about
Truth...
Kids can't choose their parents, but parents can choose not to have kids.
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These studies should control for IQ. A child from a low IQ and poverty household is not likely to do well giving the impression that it's the household and parents that were to blame.
taking IQ into account is "uncomfortable" in our politicalyl correct world.
so kids who happen to read books do better gets interpreted as reading books is the way to go
when in reality smarter kids tend to like reading books to stimulate their brain.
sad world at least red pilled folks are pointing out the bullshit
IQ is not a fixed number branded at birth. It can be raised or lowered by environment and nurture. There is a genetic component, but things like nutrition, education and social factors also play a significant part. Like cycles of poverty and cycles of crime, sections of society can get locked in cycles of low educational performance. Low IQ households are a result as much as a cause.
IQ potential is branded at birth, how to optimally reach the potential should be a important knowledge to find out and not danced around.
Bullshit.
She is saying what she think is so
What’s reality based on fact without biased can be way different
I don’t know either
But I was born in Pakistan in middle of extremist but now I’m a scientist and a millionaire and what I conclude is it’s never the situation it’s what you do everyday when no one is there
she is talking nuts.
Facts so is my bf!
Oh yeah I can see myself in that part of reading for pleasure. As a young boy I was reading nothing but encyklopedias. I can say during the primary school I was miles away from my classmates in terms of general knowledge and understanding of science such as math and physics... (Now I will continue with a hypothesis) Once entering highschool and starting playing PC games my adventage was still there but it was not beeing looked after anymore. By reading encyklopedias at early age I taught myself an understanding of science and earned knowledge. When I was choosing an university there were this obvious option or artist one (I am very creative). Now at university I can see myself with an interest in knowledge and knowing interesting thigs. But I really struggle with the necessery opposite like hardcore science, math, beeing rigorous etc. CONCLUSION: seem like at that young age we are capable to accept anything and resurrect interest very easily. This can end in all-life-long focus (top scientist, athletes) or kind of hide your true path (like in my cas). Wow so interesting to analyze myself :D
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I dont get it... what's actually the methodology of the study?
Longitudinal
Smooth seas don't make expert sailors these struggles are our tools. To build brilliance resilance and love but only if you choose.
Pressure beyond tolerance limit can permenantly deform a mind
Im also here because of my module hahaha
How are the findings of this research useful for teachers?
In my experience most teachers haven't got a clue about life, which is why they become teachers.
I'm here to finish my module hehe
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Unbelievable ! I didn't know that life was easier and better when you were rich, healthy and beautiful, than poor, sick and ugly...
nobody spoke about beauty tho lol
Life is what you make it, if it gives you lemons, make lemonade.
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What is the problem on this video?
I had to watch this for class :/