Can you touch on the core fear of death? Like if I eat that thing I could die. If I take that medicine, I could die. If I do lab work, I could die. And so on
I'm interested in the same topic. When you ask what's the worse that can happen? Death or something very bad will happen to my son. That's his core fear. What to tell him?
I had this too. What helped me is to give up on trying. You cant control whether or not you fall asleep and when you try to force it, your brain sends anxiety signals which paradoxically keeps you awake. Just have to tell yourself “i might not be able to sleep, but I’ll survive if I dont” over time your brain will give up because youre not feeding the cycle. Good luck I know how difficult it can be
My son displays contamination ocd for anything that's been at school. He also has a long de-contamination process once he gets home. He said when he's "got school on him" when he's at home he feels like he's "still under school rules". He said he feels trapped at school but feels free at home. He used to struggle with seperation anxiety and fear of me dying. Having done the exercise in your OCD book about the rabbit warren, we think his core fears are "being trapped" (he also dislikes lifts or being forced to do something) and fear of me dying. Do you think those are the bottom of the rabbit hole or should we dig even deeper? Ps thank you for being a life line to our family! From Karen, UK
@@alfielecal8047 happy to support you and your family Karen! It is interesting and telling that he says “still under school rules” - I would ask, “what does OCD say is the worst thing about being under school rules?” It does sounds like perhaps being trapped or contained might be the core fear, but it would be interesting to see what his response would be.
@Natashadanielsocdtherapist Alfie said it's the school rules that mean he can't get to me so I think this connects to the separation anxiety and fear of me dying. I also asked him what's so bad about not being with me and he said he worries that I'll die and he'll have regrets about not spending enough time with me or regret the last thing he said to me. I can help him build up resilience to being away from me (he's already come on leaps and bounds with that) but the fear of me dying will be trickier but is perhaps in line with the other comments on this video ❤
@@alfielecal8047 that sheds SO much light! So his core fear is regretting spending enough time with you or what last thing he’d say to you. That can be worked on and framed. Example: we can’t be with our loved ones all the time, but that doesn’t mean the time we do have with them isn’t special. Or what we say last doesn’t matter because it is an accumulation of all our love that matters. Addressing these core fears takes the power out of the OCD.
Great great video. Thank you for taking the time to make this!! This is so helpful!
@@maynicholson6401 I’m glad you found it helpful!
Can you touch on the core fear of death? Like if I eat that thing I could die. If I take that medicine, I could die. If I do lab work, I could die. And so on
@@patriciahale7126 sure, I’ll do that topic next week for you.
I'm interested in the same topic. When you ask what's the worse that can happen? Death or something very bad will happen to my son. That's his core fear. What to tell him?
I’m trouble in sleeping every night thinking I can’t sleep every night and can’t help my self how to handle this kind of thinking. How to avoid this 😢
I had this too. What helped me is to give up on trying. You cant control whether or not you fall asleep and when you try to force it, your brain sends anxiety signals which paradoxically keeps you awake. Just have to tell yourself “i might not be able to sleep, but I’ll survive if I dont” over time your brain will give up because youre not feeding the cycle. Good luck I know how difficult it can be
My son displays contamination ocd for anything that's been at school. He also has a long de-contamination process once he gets home. He said when he's "got school on him" when he's at home he feels like he's "still under school rules". He said he feels trapped at school but feels free at home. He used to struggle with seperation anxiety and fear of me dying. Having done the exercise in your OCD book about the rabbit warren, we think his core fears are "being trapped" (he also dislikes lifts or being forced to do something) and fear of me dying. Do you think those are the bottom of the rabbit hole or should we dig even deeper?
Ps thank you for being a life line to our family!
From Karen, UK
@@alfielecal8047 happy to support you and your family Karen! It is interesting and telling that he says “still under school rules” - I would ask, “what does OCD say is the worst thing about being under school rules?” It does sounds like perhaps being trapped or contained might be the core fear, but it would be interesting to see what his response would be.
@Natashadanielsocdtherapist Alfie said it's the school rules that mean he can't get to me so I think this connects to the separation anxiety and fear of me dying. I also asked him what's so bad about not being with me and he said he worries that I'll die and he'll have regrets about not spending enough time with me or regret the last thing he said to me. I can help him build up resilience to being away from me (he's already come on leaps and bounds with that) but the fear of me dying will be trickier but is perhaps in line with the other comments on this video ❤
Ps very grateful to get a reply directly from you, thank you x
@@alfielecal8047 that sheds SO much light! So his core fear is regretting spending enough time with you or what last thing he’d say to you. That can be worked on and framed. Example: we can’t be with our loved ones all the time, but that doesn’t mean the time we do have with them isn’t special. Or what we say last doesn’t matter because it is an accumulation of all our love that matters. Addressing these core fears takes the power out of the OCD.
@Natashadanielsocdtherapist thank you so much x
Core fear is another Trump presidency. How do we deal with that trauma?
I’m trouble in sleeping every night thinking I can’t sleep every night and can’t help my self how to handle this kind of thinking. How to avoid this 😢