True 😢, a person's personality totally depends on their surroundings like how parents behave with them , how they treat each other as well. Very few people can get out their positive attitude toward life in a negative situation ❣️.. By Grace of divine I am finally living a positive life.💖
Everything she said is right. But we as parents should also keep in mind that nobody is not perfect and no one can do everything right how much ever we try. So, save yourself from that guilt. We all are in the same boat. Love and understand your child. A few mistakes while parenting is allowed to everybody.
@anupmadubey8831 very true. I have seen the guest enjoying garba which can't happen b4 10. So everyone is doing the cheat and only portray good things. It's really nice to know the content she said for sure but everything right is bit tough as every child is different.
10000%- also she is a business women, so she madr eevrything complex😂..a school for 8 month child🤦🏻♂️can you imagine money making greed...child doesn't need much after 8 to 1 year...great CEOs or ppl in world didn't had such useless complex activites😂..and schools for infant.
Agreed ,but as we all know nowadays everywhere there is struggle , stress... Is it necessary to give birth? This is complwtely parents choice so they should ensure that their child lives life peacefully , if in their 20s or 30s where they should enjoy and explore if they are in stress about career and all,what is the use then
Everything Shweta said about parenting is so true!, I agree everything she said about how does child's brain works. She is so right by saying that your child looks for a leader in his/her parents...not a friend or a teacher. Children are like a blank canvas....you as a parent can atleast try to turn it either into a beutiful painting or spoil it. And it takes a lot of patience, time, consistancy and educating yourself as a parent. I appreciate the great advices she gave, but my only concern is....this podcast didn't cover about the peer pressure or society pressure where children are exposed to when they are outside of their house. When children see that their friends have certain things which they are not allowed to have....then this can create the negative impact on them emotionally and socially. There are lots of choices and temptations in today's modern world and things are easily available.....which can confuse and spoil children's growth. So we need to change the approach of the whole society, just by being a good parent does not mean you are raising a healthy child. I think government should ban all those products or cartoons/video games etc. which are harmful to children's development physically, socially and emotionally.
So so true. The way the world operates today, self-control is the primary defence mech as we’re constantly bombarded with cheap dopamine through all 5 senses. Most adults we know struggle to say no to it, let alone a parent trying to guide their child through this world full of mines without them thinking that my parents are my real enemies!
Such an amazing insight and 2 hours full of amazing knowledge. I took notes for myself along but if someone needs then they can take them as well: - Logical part of brain (frontel cortext) don't start developing until 2-3 year olds so when child throw tantrum, empathize with him by cuddling and relaxing so he can calm down. It's a very gentle process and takes time for them to understand so don't scream at them if they don't agree after telling 2-3 times. Ask him reason why he doing it and keep doing at least 30 times so they experience how to understand difficult emotions. - Expect to lead him. If going some place then tell him everything beforehand what to do and what to not do and they'll follow footsteps. Ideal routine: - On waking up in morning: 5 min hug cuddle and hug & tell them how much you love you. - Power of subconscious mind: she told her 3yr old son august to tell little august that we'll keep ourself dry in night and pee in morning and it worked. - 15 min good moral storytelling before going school when reading him up while on jhola. If he is doing sth wrong then make some story related to it and tell him. - 3 most imp time when they need attention: one in morning, second when they come from school. Don't ask what happened in school, what studied etc. Tell him how much you missed him and follow what he is doing. He need to know that he won war while at school for so long and now have attention at home. Third is before he gets to sleep. If he is doing sth wrong then give side eye. When night time then coach emotionally calm manner what he did wrong throughout day. It'll increase connections. It require consistency and gradually. - From 0-2 years old, they need max sleep. It is ideal for him to sleep at 10pm so between 2-4 am their brain go in deep sleep, it release crucial harmones and they wake up at 7/8 am. Parents have to adapt that lifestyle for their children. It's totally fine if they don't sleep for 1.5-2 years. In 0-2 years, child's sleep is divided in blocks so can't blame him. Diet: - Salt is fine upto 1st year. Sugar is a big no at least upto 2 years due to overstimulaton, addiction leading to tantrums. Even if they grow big, 1 bag of chips for them is equivalent to 3 chips for adults which can ruin their nervous system. - Boundaries should be very well defined like junk food only being allowed on sunday. Screen time should be 30mins for 1 week. Some don't even eat without watching tv. Communicate with family members like grandparents etc that these boundaries are supposed to be very important. Father's role: - Show sensitiveness to children and not boys not cry thing, can do potty training and cook food and other mother related things because don't base on gender. Also nurture and don't just provide. - Father's mindset is directly proportionate to child's mindset. His role in fitness, business, treatment of women directly make child take it as blueprint. Boys emotional side is won when they perceive nurture from father. Teach them on failure that it's part of the process. It doesn't soften child, it's like being their companion/friend. Tell them you're on their back if they even fail. 0-7 years: be emotionally/physically/spirtually available all the time 7-14 years: boundaries start to come 14-21 year: only coach and advice. they either take or not take depend on what we provided them in foundational years. Things not to say to kid: - When 0-7 years, child don't have personality and he shapes it on listening to your words. If you're saying good things of your 4 years old in four people then it'll encourage him to show confidence later. If you say he is shy to strangers then he'll have trouble opening up & instead, say that he is observant and takes his time to open up. - Never tell your kids what they look like etc in front of other people even inside house family members like comparison of 2 brothers. - Don't be angry with parent. If remain permissive with him then he'll go out of control. He'll say back your said words on your face. - 4 hour screentime per day is insane stimulus. It's preferred to do only 1 time per week for half hour together and enjoy. If it's per day then it shouldn't be short reel content due to constant sound/visual change causing brain fry/trauma. Long low stimulation content is fine where you're learning vocab etc is fine. She told that she started podcasts with her child which developed patience in him. Since it's audio so imagination is great and opens creative side of mind. - Sounds/Podcasts/Storytellings for temporal development. Read a book for visual. For senses, lots of touch like do pretend/play like chef/customer teacher/student and Logical solving puzzle/games. For cerebelum, Send him for 40min-hour in garden for running/jumping. For brain stem, give unconditional love. Teach him meditation from young age. Board games, motor activities. All these should be done everyday for full brain development. Most parents only rely on 1 thing like tv, junk, sugar which shrink brain. Toys specifically are very important for positive stimulus. Talking of video games: - 0 to 3 years has completion of bilateral coordination, hand dexterity etc. Then comes cognitive development for frontal lobe which involve decision making, problem solving etc which can be solved with video games but only in moderation. It's great if play once for an hour per week otherwise it's only hurting them because better alternatives are available like board games. 3 hour continually in dark room per day is very bad for brain growth. - 9-13 year is very sensitive and by 13 entire new brain is formed. Bed time: - 8pm for dinner and 10pm max for sleep. Make diner routine so child can do it. Traditional local seasonal food is recommended. Then connect with them for half hour before sleep time. Uno card game enjoy anything. Do 2 min quick shower before sleep so mentally unclutter. Then half hour in bed with child. Connect emotionally, ask questions from them and it should be 2 way conversation. - You should take your time as mom too. Just save precious quality time to kids but take care of yourself too. Can have nanny do laundries etc of kids. Work on kid's brain and emotional side but let nanny handle rest.
10000%- also she is a business women, so she madr eevrything complex😂..a school for 8 month child🤦🏻♂️can you imagine money making greed...child doesn't need much after 8 to 1 year...great CEOs or ppl in world didn't had such useless complex activites😂..and schools for infant.
This episode is the most useful podcast have ever heard so far. Super informative, very relevant and while raising my daughter.. few tips were exactly i was looking for. Thanks Raj and team .. we need more such podcast . Special thanks to schweta gandhi for sharing such a valuable tips
I feel balance between traditional authoritative & modern parenting..both has its own pros n cons..Too much of anything is bad..Keep urself cool , calm, sort out our conflicts n then raise ur child..Most importantly, what u do cn do propagate tht..Dnt tk stress n gv stress to ur child..
Very informative and eye opener podcast and feeling proud that atleast we are on track. I watched this video with my 13 year old son and he was able to correlate all this with our family values. Thank you so much for this video.
I am listening to this podcast for the first time and I would definitely say it’s deep. One thing I think that could be worked upon would be to give the guest the chance to complete their dialogues with least interruptions!
Thanks for introducing me to her!!! I don't agree completely, I cant imagine following completely, but if i can control my emotions and understand my child better it will save me from so much "mom guilt"! This is GREAT knowledge! I loved the concept!!!
Mam aap bilkul sahi bol ri h mein same problem ko face kr ri hu meri sasuji & sasurji dono apne experience mein pahunch jate hr baat mein bahut jyada difficult time hai ye or abi self depend hona baki hai 😢 let's see kya hota strong bn ri hu abi to ❤
I loved this podacast a lottt! Esp Raj asked so many genuine questions that might come across as cliche for some. Even how sometimes people might confuse being gentle with softening the kid etc etc. He din’t shy away from asking all traditional questions or doubts without any fear of judgement. I genuinely learnt sooo much from this single podcast. Not a parent yet still hooked throughout.👌👌
This is what I like about Raj's podcast he won't just agree or keep nodding to the guests point he will have his own opinion and ask questions which people may have. Like questions of preferred child
Shweta Ma’m , I am so proud that you are my mentor. I am so thankful to the universe that i enrolled for your course. Those sessions were the greatest earnings of my life. Now I have the knowledge and power to correct my wrongs in my life and my parenting. Guys , this is pure Gold Ma’m has given us in this podcast. Loot lo jitna loot sakte ho… as Shweta Ma’m says. Utmost gratitude and respect for you Ma’m !! ❤
Today's child knows everything, good and bad, if the surrounding is bad it's our bad luck , no child will listen , main thing is surrounding should be peaceful and truthful other wise no one can help , to come out of today's child behaviour. Great namaskar to those people who hold the bad surrounding and raise their child in such surroundings.
Very informative and beautifully described by mam. As a parent now I can say what she says I applied 80% on my daily routine rest I will definitely work on it. Thank you so much to the host who asked the exact questions what a parent has in their mind on regular basis. Thank you for speaking on behalf of all the parents out here. And a big thanks to Mam who beautifully clears all the doubts and help us to find the clear way about the things. Keep it up team well done 👏 ✔️
Hi Raj... For the first time I am commenting... I am following sweta from past 4-5 months... and she is very right about the rules, Set boundaries and consistency... I have become a calm mother because of her and I have seen very positive changes in me and in my 3 year old son as well. 99% of the time i talk to him politely and hug him whenever he will through tantrums.... now i was doing this from a long time it just take 2 mins for him to calm him down whenever he is cranky and all. Overtime the time I have realised that sometime they only need your attention and time and we should give them. I have seen your other podcast and they all are saying to stop eating outside and packed foods and stop giving a packet of chips.. chocolate and fries to your kinds. Somewhere down the line everyone is saying the same thing that to have good eating habits ... healthy lifestyle and nuture your child in the same healthy way. Thank you for this and all other podcasts. Could you please please pleaae invite Dr. Vikas Divyakarti in your show. Please Raj.
Aap unko follow kar rahe ho mujhe shweta madam ki ek baat samjh nahi aayi you would also not agree ki baccho ko gentle parenting karo and n all but bachpan se agar bacche mai anger ka emotion nahi hai ( each emotion is important) ek time hoga ki parents baccho ke saath nahi rahenge tab woh bada hua baccha kese survive karega aur koi aesa incident hoga ki parents ko instantly natural gussa aayega tab bacche ka kya reaction hoga
She said once ki bacche mirror krte hai parents ko. They see ki meri mumy ko gussa aaya and how she calmed herself. Also when bacche se sath you repeat certain actions it gets soo deep embedded in them. Even now jb mai kuch krne jati hu sometimes i can literally hear my mom saying ki aise mt kro...
@@rashmishanker6434 bacche parents ko mirror karte hai jab unke alawa unka koi naa ie in early tender ages of 1-3 but hum maximum logo ko kya hamari 1-3 ki age ki koi chiz yaad hai nahi buddy
@@tanujmunjal1068 I totally agree with u ki cheeze yaad nhi rehti hai.... But kuch bate humare subconscious mind me itni ghus jati hai ki hum realize bhi nhi krte hai and that is in our habit. Also apke parents are that part of life which aap bade hone k bad bhi unki bate, what they think of u,how they treat you affect krti rehti hai. I've seen people seeking validation from their parents even in their 50s. Even if you have no connection to them still somewhere they effect you.
I love this podcast about parenting, I am also the mother of a 3 yrs old baby and have many mistakes while parenting but now I will surely change my behaviour and style to nurture my baby thanks a lot Raj G❤
Around 00:30-00:35:00 - Not sure if it will lead to entitled brat - that at home you are the champion, and there are rules which are explained - but in the world out there its not like that How easy your day-job has to be - that you can be of being so mindful of child and parenting style and releasing hormone and 'leading' - while being sleepless , caught up in cooking, doing some remaining office work etc, (and giving time to partner, parent, friends if any , i guess?) Still continuing to listen
I agree 💯... Corporate pressure and this lecture... Yeh khud bolti hain bachha kuchh nehi samjhega... Aur phir bolti hain samjhega, kyun nehi samjhega 😢
I dnt know how old is you child. My child is 5.5 years and I can vouch this portion 200% that it really works positively. My husband used to disagree totally with this approach but now over a period of time he has started realising the pros of this approach. I feel, most likely, fathers won't be able to accept this approach. But, do try it out. It not just teaches a child to regulate his emotions by himself but also a parent also becomes conscious of own words/ acts and resulting in a better version of self. Office situation handling becomes better.. in the quest of teaching the child, parents start to learn responding rather than reacting in situations. I agree it's difficult and challenging but worth for life time.
@@Love-dz1um r u a stay at home parent ? I am and I too am a present parent but I don't at do what all is advised... I ensure I act as a model. However not everyones life permit that amount of mindfulness particularly working mothers ..
@Love-dz1um Don't have kids yet, just speaking and projecting my little experience of watching other family interaction between parent-kids. I hope and my partner are able to implement at least some of these things - and dont end up becoming what we complain of. I agree, becoming a parent must be a great learning experience as an adult as well - which will change our personality - and it will spill over to other domains of life as to how we manage other professional and personal relationships, how we manage ourselves and priorities etc. In nuclear family setup, with both working parent in rat-race for some utopian material fulfillment because we don't know any better- Just seeking lesson and advise, and trying to make sense of things as we(as humans) go along. Parents would try to do their best with what they have, to raise their kids to what they know is a good person. As time passes maybe time and situation ruin things, where resentment and other negative things grow. We turned out the way we are partly despite/because of 'parenting style' we got. Good to hear it's working for you, all the best. 👍
Kudos to Raj on touching upon sensitive questions in a very responsible way. I hope there are full families listening to this to understand how to be with the mother, father, and the child
I think the best ever podcast I heard about parenting thanks a lot I am a mother of two kids 4 and 3 years old raising them has so many hurdles but today after listening to her I realized how wrong I was actually all the people of subcontinent have this issue cz we have been raised like this that same pattern unconsciously we repeat with our kids thanks again for such a lovely informative podcast
So true and relatable! I have been closely following and integrating gentle parenting with my almost 3 year old daughter and it has been amazing to see how we together sail through upsetting emotions, how she will then express i am feeling sad/ upset and we breathe through it and talk about it by just consistency.
Literally mazaa aa gaya sunkar ..ek ek word sunne layak tha..ek second bhi eyes or ears hataane ka mann nai huaa. Thanks alot for this type of great conversation....shweta mam Love ❤️
good thing about Rajs Podcast is he allow the person to speak and ask for clarification even if he understand . This allows everyone to understand. many other famous podcasters want to show their knowledge
As someone who grew up in a sort of "counter balance" family which is like where one parent falls short in one aspect there is the other who will fulfil it, I'll say in my opinion and experience perhaps the most efficient method of parenting. Like if my dad was being unreasonable strict/moody at times, I had my mom to comfort me but also teach me that my dad isn't actually being angry at me completely he just has had a rough day and he is projecting. And there were things my mom wasn't good at but my dad was absolutely amazing, like if I ever got into trouble with anyone or anything my mom would panic but my dad had a cool head and would ask me if I was in right/wrong and so on. We all are humans, and no one human can be same as another no matter how much we strive for it. But at the bare minimum if someone is planning to marry and have kids I'll say always look for a partner who fills up what u lack bcoz at the end of the day choosing partners isn't just about urself but also about the child ull bring forth and one shouldn't force a child to bear the brunt of one's wrong choices. I'm no one to tell anyone how to live their lives but when I see kids in this day and age be depressed and agonized at a very early age i felt I should speak my mind. I mean to offend no one so please don't take my words as a medium of attack. 😊
I love the way Raj questions the guest with proper back up data. Thanks Raj for this informative podcast. I believe she is right in some cases, I love the way she understands a mother,s personal emotion. Any parent will never want to do bad parenting, but we need to work hard to suffice our kids need. Kids need to understand we will work and have our own struggle, parenting cannot be so mechanical and organised. Love to all parents ❤, you are doing good 😊
Goodness someone is finally addressing the curse of extended/joint families ,it's very difficult because the father is always on the side of both and then they're so indecisive in taking action.
I agree with a lot of what was said, especially the importance of being patient with your child-it really resonated with me, and I feel that many parents from previous generations struggled with that. However, things like hiring a nanny might be easy for wealthy parents, but it’s not a solution for middle-class families where both parents are working 9-5 jobs. In those cases, both the parent and child have to adapt. My own parents both worked, and I was often home alone from a young age. I never had any accidents, largely because of the strict discipline my mother instilled in me-without ever raising a hand. So, I do agree that creating discipline is crucial, but it’s also important to give children time to enjoy their freedom. As they grow older, gradually loosening those rules helps them learn to make their own decisions and develop as individuals. I've found that a parenting approach where one parent is stricter and the other more easygoing-like a good cop-bad cop dynamic-can be quite effective. It’s essential for both parents to agree on this strategy and understand the compromises it requires. This balance helps ensure the child respects authority while also feeling comfortable enough to share things that might be out of the ordinary.
This video clearly shows ki women se hi duniya ka saara achhai aur bhalai juda h .. women agar financially independent ban pai aur emotional intelligence develop kar pai to apne child ko jarur sikha degi aur wo apne child ko… and so on.Mam ne detail mai sab kuch explain kar diya bohat badi social service h ye Raj and Mam thank you aap jaise log itta jyada sahi chij dikha rahe . kalyug se wapis satyug mai chale jaega society agar ye video ki chhoti se chhoti details ki importance samajh paye log..👏❤bhagwan kare ye video sab dekhe🤲
I loved this episode, I am a mother and tomorrow morning m gonna watch it again with my husband and show it to him.. thank you very much for this, i have been doing things like this.. about sugar and other my husband sometimes say m not being like other parents , I hope tomorrow he will understand this ..after watching this episode..❤@@rajshamani
Brilliant podcast Raj!! It is so important for a parent to realise the fact that if you have decided to bring a child into this world, you are the primary care taker! You cannot outsource parenting!! Would like to listen to similar content!! Unfortunately, it's so skewed that parents need to listen, understand and change!! Thank you for this, I loved it!
@@rishiraaj.580 Seriousness leads to a mechanical way of living. Parents should approach parenting not with strict seriousness, but with playfulness and joy. Life should be lived with lightness, and this applies to how we raise our children as wel
Mam agar 4 saal tak aapse bad parenting ho gayi hai. Aur uska bacche par uska bahut negetive effect bhi ho chuka hai... To usko ab kaise thik kar sakte hai. Kya sab abhi bhi thik ho sakta hai?
Hi Raj ! As a twin mom I have faced a lot of challenges. If I am feeding one baby the other baby too climbs on me. But I am managing all this and many more things WITHOUT screen time. If I can do it even singleton moms can. It takes an insane amout of energy but I want the best for my children hence screen is a BIG NO!!
Human mind is evolving generation to generation, and sacrcity create more productive children..... Drastic change in lifestyles now, now we have excess of resources and options , so we can be creative in personal and professional life 😊
Every parents are doing their best according to their situation and circumstances.. there is no rule to raise child .. i just agree on point that u should understand ur child before react ..
There are rules but we don't accept it.. Every brain works in a same way so,, parenting is really should focus more on single steps that can cause harm or can do good to our child brain. Follow.Rules have good result
It's not about rules, it's about evolution, how you evolve your way of living or parenting or anything else with the need of current time... Change is the only constant and healthy for our survival 😊
Hai mne apka ye podcast dekha or all problem se khud ko connect paya. M ek 6 Saal ke bachelor ki MA hu. Or mne apaka ye podcast meri all find Jo mother hai or abhi bni hai ma unse share Kiya thank you
Such an interesting and informative podcast. Honestly worth watching. So beautifully explained the parenting techniques . Not everything what she mentioned can be practical in our life .But there are many more guidelines which will surely help. Hope this will help millions of parents to guide their children in the right direction. Thank you Raj and Shweta, you have done a wonderful podcast ❤
What a great conversation ............mza a gyaaa Aisha ....bht kch mai bhii krti hu. Ma'am iz ryt ......ki baby ko again n again explain n convince krna pdta h ........Mai bhi krti hu
I align with all the points the speaker has mentioned. The irony is that your life partner thinks in other directions, and it gives 2 thoughts for choice to kid.
This was such a beautiful and informative podcast. Getting married next year and off course I want to embrace motherhood soon. This episode helped me so much ❤❤
Finally someone is talking about neurons….I am a mom of 7 years old, I took a workshop on happy parenting which was conducted at my son’s school last year and follow those tips and now my relation with my kid is so good and happening…I am understanding my child better, he share everything with and I saw a lot of positive change in him.
@@poemparukids8517 The workshop had 8 session and each session was 2 hours so its quite difficult to explain here but still I try. 1. First of all as a mother we forgot ourself, give sometime to your self to make you happy, do what makes you happy in short pamper yourself it can be taking a nap, going to spa, watching movie or hanging out with friends whatever. A happy mother raise a happy child. 2. Understand how the neurons work whenever we are making a happy bond with child like hugging, listening, playing with them creates a bond b/w neurons and whenever we are scolding child the neuron's bond breakdown. 3. Understand a child is not just a child he is a little human, he also have the feelings same as we have, we should behave with a child as we behave with another human for example a friend is sharing that my colleagues are rude to me (how we will react in this situation probably we will listen and validate his/her feelings) now what if your child says same thing to you "my friend are rude to me they are not playing with me not sharing with, me now imaging how we react in this situation. 4. Understand your child's feeling, give validations to their feelings as parent we are mostly in denial phase with kids feeling (i.e. kid says I am feeling hot, parents says, "you can't feel hot its too cold today) 5. Think about long term goals, How you want to see your child at the age to 18 or 20? for example I want my son to be confident, respectful, share his feeling with me, Independent, successful . for all these I have work from today. 6. Whenever a child is sharing his/her feelings to you never judge your child if you do so your child will not share with you again instead listen your child carefully, validate his feeling here you can say I can understand how you are feeling not just saying feel it say it, give a name to his feeling (like: you look so angary/upset/sad/ hurt) and give a fantasy if you can. (for example My son does not like swimming day at school so every Thursday he wakes up with bad mood and he start saying I hate swimming, I don't want to go school and he creates so much problem while getting ready, I used to say, "its ok we can not do anything, we can not skip school every Thursday, school will not allow to skip swimming without medical certificate all logical reasons which never help to uplift his mood and he used to left for school with bad mood and without eating BF. But last time the same way he woke up with same bad mood, I just hugged him and said I know how much you hate swimming in school, I can understand, "I wish I could have some magic so that I can disappear the Thursday or may be the swimming pool" immediately he smile and started thinking about magic and other things and get ready without any tantrums and left happily for school. 7. Be respectful with your child and teach him to be respectful with other humans, animals and property. I have written few points but with a lot details for better understanding, I hope this will help you.
I loved this episode. Es Takahase ham bachho ko palege to aago Jake ho achhe insan banege .phycology echhi hogi to crime bhi nhi Hoge.qki jinki parenting achhi hoyi hogi o hi logo Jada problem dete he society me
Loved Raj s comment as and when he asked intelligent questions. And thank you so much for sharing the information for traditional parenting... All the ceos and our individual of pride are all coming from traditional families... In good traditional families, even if a child gets scolding they get comfort from other members in the family. Our family set up has changed, we need to reconsider that .....
Unpopular opinion: I disagree with her Sometimes psychologists and psychiatrists overanalyze everything, and in doing so, they themselves might need help to see things normally. She is overly obsessed with raising children perfectly. I believe that every child and person is unique, and we should live as if we are the first person in the world-no rulebooks, no guidelines, no self-help books dictating what to do or how to do it. Let children make mistakes; the more mistakes they make, the smarter they become, gaining valuable life experience. We don’t know the perfect way to parent-it’s all guesses and experiments. Nowadays, I see many parents following advice from Instagram or TH-cam on how to raise their children, trying to mimic what they see. But they often fail because children are unique; they don’t always fit into preset boundaries. Then, parents get stressed, wondering why their child doesn’t behave a certain way. children are simply doing things appropriate for their age. They can be mischievous, moody, and unpredictable. Rather than correcting them constantly, it’s better to witness their childhood and enjoy those moments with them. The tantrums and challenges will pass. Discipline should come from understanding, and understanding comes from allowing them to explore and try different things. Let them experiment and see what happens. This doesn’t mean they’ll become Einstein or Elon Musk. They may not be extraordinary in academics; they may just be ordinary children, but they’ll be happy and joyful. Yes, in the beginning, your children may seem disciplined and smart by following strict guidance, but as they grow up, they might feel like they have no real life. Rather than enforcing discipline, we should encourage giving children freedom within natural boundaries. I believe that rigid rules suppress a child’s growth and creativity, while freedom helps them develop self-discipline and responsibility. Seriousness leads to a mechanical way of living. Parents should approach parenting not with strict seriousness, but with playfulness and joy. Life should be lived with lightness, and this applies to how we raise our children as well Often, we see good parents raising children who struggle. We need to stop overanalyzing everything and just live life as it comes. Just give them love-love is enough to guide them in life. It seems like she’s read a lot of parenting books, many of which were written by authors who simply compiled insights from other books on parenting, rather than drawing from their own experiences. influencer exaggerates everything to sell her books, courses, and videos. Many women lack the intellect to differentiate and end up comparing themselves and blindly following what the influencer says, which leads them into miserable situations.
Hello, Psychology student here! It is very true that sometimes we overanalyze and try hard to read between the lines into something that is probably very simple to begin with. However, I personally think that you've partially understood the picture here. First of all, you're right - there's no guide on how to raise a child perfectly, you do the best you can and help them develop the tools to navigate the world and with little trauma as possible. A generic example: It is as simple as learning how to articulate your thoughts and feelings when you 5 years old rather than late 20s. Yes, every child is unique, spot on!! But we cannot go about our lives pretending that we are the first person in the world cause that setting is simply untrue - and can be harmful, if it goes south. As for the rulebooks and the self-help concept, it is in the name - to help yourself be a happier, better person so you can fulfill your roles and duties effectively and enjoy your life on your own terms. These rules and routines are a system to lean on, especially in the face of crisis, rather than something that could keep you tied down - look at this from a different perspective, perhaps? And while love and support is the main component, it is just simply not enough. As a burnt out teen growing in this overstimulating generation, I can vouch for that. Every generation has its own unique and different problems and the better we able the kids of today with tools to build and protect themselves and their mind, the better future they can enjoy. If you listen to the whole gentle parenting part again, she is saying that if the kid falls down, let them learn from their experience or if they make a fuss in eating, let them go hungry. How would you talk to a 2 year old, would they understand or even comprehend the mistakes they are making? Hence, the help and the "babytalk". Our brains update like laptops - at the most random times. Would you believe that we reach maturity after 25? Human development is absolutely insane. As someone who is really fascinated by the human mind, let me tell you, it is an insanely fickle thing that doesn't know right from wrong. It's your values, experiences and what you tell yourself that makes ALL the difference. I hope this helps!
Correct she is actually making things more complicated and whatever she is saying most are fake...these combination is making parents guilt conscious and ending up in mess....
I really agree with most think except the part where u said ur child need a leader. Ur child will grow as a follower always needing someone to decide for them. This type of parenting was common in europe a few decades ago. Now most daycare have open concept. In open concept the child decides n lead. The child decide whetger to eat or not, play or not. Haan meal time n sleep time is there but nothing more than that. The child listen to his body n decides. U can read about open concept kitas for germany as an example Raising a kid is not black n white. I felt some of her concept r bookish knowledge. Like emotional nurturing from mom & skillset from father. In my case my father was nurturing n mom was not. Both my parents din control us at all. My father is our bestfren n voice of wisdom. I feel the host has better question n better understanding. She is more theoretically type
Really worth watching since have kid she is 1 n half yr old. Was really confused.. and had many questions... most of them are answered.. Still need more videos... related to it..keep doing the good work..😊
Meri baby 2 yrs ki h. uski speech bhut acchi h but she hadn't told me about susu potty. Everytime i tech her pls beta tell me when feel it dont do in pant . Its a bad manner. But she cant able to understand that and she is doing same thing all the time. I was frustated and some time i scolded her due to this. After watching your video i get to know about logic brain. So now i understands why she is doing like that. I m watching your whole video in 2x speed . And i feel so relax and i leart alot of things from geeta mam. Thankyou so much. Now I ll try my best to be a gentle parenting
Kudos to Raj. Such an amazing Podcaster ❤ Brilliant questions after 40:00 mins. He almost covered all the questions I had. I don't think he prepared these questions.
I really like what I learned from this podcast. I wish my parents knew atleast 50 percent of what she said. I hope I'll be able to follow what I learned here, when I become a parent. 😢
Uh are amazing raj sir...uh are doing something that can change one's mentality.....lots of love to uh....❤ . . . English m koi mistake ho toh sorry ..😅 I am still working on it
Correct, my baby is now 10months old. He was not sleeping in starting 2-3 months but I was consistent in his bed time routine, but seriously it works magic, now my baby sleeps by 9-10pm and wake up at 6:00am daily.
@@user-vg7sf8uf9e my 10 month old has a almost fix timing of sleeping by 9:30/10PM and morning wakeup by 6AM. you can acheive it slowly. Don't make them sleep for long hours in day time. engage them in activity in day time more. play with your kid more before going to bed so kid will be tired and sleep in sometime
Yes, the main reason that teenagers are going on wrong paths is they absolutely lack proper communication and guidance at home. Parents have become busy and at times grandparents are not present too. Whatever is taught at home, by the child's close people, always stays. Even when you come across situations, you always tend to choose the right one.
I loved Raj in this podcast.. You went with flow of emotions & simple logic. On the contrary madam is like military person with routine & leadeship etc etc...
True 😢, a person's personality totally depends on their surroundings like how parents behave with them , how they treat each other as well. Very few people can get out their positive attitude toward life in a negative situation ❣️.. By Grace of divine I am finally living a positive life.💖
The points she mentions are absolutely relatable. Great job!
Everything she said is right. But we as parents should also keep in mind that nobody is not perfect and no one can do everything right how much ever we try. So, save yourself from that guilt. We all are in the same boat. Love and understand your child. A few mistakes while parenting is allowed to everybody.
@anupmadubey8831 very true. I have seen the guest enjoying garba which can't happen b4 10. So everyone is doing the cheat and only portray good things. It's really nice to know the content she said for sure but everything right is bit tough as every child is different.
10000%- also she is a business women, so she madr eevrything complex😂..a school for 8 month child🤦🏻♂️can you imagine money making greed...child doesn't need much after 8 to 1 year...great CEOs or ppl in world didn't had such useless complex activites😂..and schools for infant.
Also baccha paalna is not bug deal..kisi village me jao woha bhi bacche pal jaate hai....
Can u give me her contact for personal development as mother
Agreed ,but as we all know nowadays everywhere there is struggle , stress...
Is it necessary to give birth?
This is complwtely parents choice so they should ensure that their child lives life peacefully , if in their 20s or 30s where they should enjoy and explore if they are in stress about career and all,what is the use then
Everything Shweta said about parenting is so true!, I agree everything she said about how does child's brain works. She is so right by saying that your child looks for a leader in his/her parents...not a friend or a teacher. Children are like a blank canvas....you as a parent can atleast try to turn it either into a beutiful painting or spoil it. And it takes a lot of patience, time, consistancy and educating yourself as a parent.
I appreciate the great advices she gave, but my only concern is....this podcast didn't cover about the peer pressure or society pressure where children are exposed to when they are outside of their house. When children see that their friends have certain things which they are not allowed to have....then this can create the negative impact on them emotionally and socially. There are lots of choices and temptations in today's modern world and things are easily available.....which can confuse and spoil children's growth. So we need to change the approach of the whole society, just by being a good parent does not mean you are raising a healthy child. I think government should ban all those products or cartoons/video games etc. which are harmful to children's development physically, socially and emotionally.
So so true. The way the world operates today, self-control is the primary defence mech as we’re constantly bombarded with cheap dopamine through all 5 senses. Most adults we know struggle to say no to it, let alone a parent trying to guide their child through this world full of mines without them thinking that my parents are my real enemies!
True I agree💯
I agree too. My kids are also facing same problemfrom society , good parents, but we arenot fulfilling their needs .
Very true
So true 100%
Such an amazing insight and 2 hours full of amazing knowledge. I took notes for myself along but if someone needs then they can take them as well:
- Logical part of brain (frontel cortext) don't start developing until 2-3 year olds so when child throw tantrum, empathize with him by cuddling and relaxing so he can calm down. It's a very gentle process and takes time for them to understand so don't scream at them if they don't agree after telling 2-3 times. Ask him reason why he doing it and keep doing at least 30 times so they experience how to understand difficult emotions.
- Expect to lead him. If going some place then tell him everything beforehand what to do and what to not do and they'll follow footsteps.
Ideal routine:
- On waking up in morning: 5 min hug cuddle and hug & tell them how much you love you.
- Power of subconscious mind: she told her 3yr old son august to tell little august that we'll keep ourself dry in night and pee in morning and it worked.
- 15 min good moral storytelling before going school when reading him up while on jhola. If he is doing sth wrong then make some story related to it and tell him.
- 3 most imp time when they need attention: one in morning, second when they come from school. Don't ask what happened in school, what studied etc. Tell him how much you missed him and follow what he is doing. He need to know that he won war while at school for so long and now have attention at home. Third is before he gets to sleep. If he is doing sth wrong then give side eye. When night time then coach emotionally calm manner what he did wrong throughout day. It'll increase connections. It require consistency and gradually.
- From 0-2 years old, they need max sleep. It is ideal for him to sleep at 10pm so between 2-4 am their brain go in deep sleep, it release crucial harmones and they wake up at 7/8 am. Parents have to adapt that lifestyle for their children. It's totally fine if they don't sleep for 1.5-2 years. In 0-2 years, child's sleep is divided in blocks so can't blame him.
Diet:
- Salt is fine upto 1st year. Sugar is a big no at least upto 2 years due to overstimulaton, addiction leading to tantrums. Even if they grow big, 1 bag of chips for them is equivalent to 3 chips for adults which can ruin their nervous system.
- Boundaries should be very well defined like junk food only being allowed on sunday. Screen time should be 30mins for 1 week. Some don't even eat without watching tv. Communicate with family members like grandparents etc that these boundaries are supposed to be very important.
Father's role:
- Show sensitiveness to children and not boys not cry thing, can do potty training and cook food and other mother related things because don't base on gender. Also nurture and don't just provide.
- Father's mindset is directly proportionate to child's mindset. His role in fitness, business, treatment of women directly make child take it as blueprint. Boys emotional side is won when they perceive nurture from father. Teach them on failure that it's part of the process. It doesn't soften child, it's like being their companion/friend. Tell them you're on their back if they even fail.
0-7 years: be emotionally/physically/spirtually available all the time
7-14 years: boundaries start to come
14-21 year: only coach and advice. they either take or not take depend on what we provided them in foundational years.
Things not to say to kid:
- When 0-7 years, child don't have personality and he shapes it on listening to your words. If you're saying good things of your 4 years old in four people then it'll encourage him to show confidence later. If you say he is shy to strangers then he'll have trouble opening up & instead, say that he is observant and takes his time to open up.
- Never tell your kids what they look like etc in front of other people even inside house family members like comparison of 2 brothers.
- Don't be angry with parent. If remain permissive with him then he'll go out of control. He'll say back your said words on your face.
- 4 hour screentime per day is insane stimulus. It's preferred to do only 1 time per week for half hour together and enjoy. If it's per day then it shouldn't be short reel content due to constant sound/visual change causing brain fry/trauma. Long low stimulation content is fine where you're learning vocab etc is fine. She told that she started podcasts with her child which developed patience in him. Since it's audio so imagination is great and opens creative side of mind.
- Sounds/Podcasts/Storytellings for temporal development. Read a book for visual. For senses, lots of touch like do pretend/play like chef/customer teacher/student and Logical solving puzzle/games. For cerebelum, Send him for 40min-hour in garden for running/jumping. For brain stem, give unconditional love. Teach him meditation from young age. Board games, motor activities. All these should be done everyday for full brain development. Most parents only rely on 1 thing like tv, junk, sugar which shrink brain. Toys specifically are very important for positive stimulus.
Talking of video games:
- 0 to 3 years has completion of bilateral coordination, hand dexterity etc. Then comes cognitive development for frontal lobe which involve decision making, problem solving etc which can be solved with video games but only in moderation. It's great if play once for an hour per week otherwise it's only hurting them because better alternatives are available like board games. 3 hour continually in dark room per day is very bad for brain growth.
- 9-13 year is very sensitive and by 13 entire new brain is formed.
Bed time:
- 8pm for dinner and 10pm max for sleep. Make diner routine so child can do it. Traditional local seasonal food is recommended. Then connect with them for half hour before sleep time. Uno card game enjoy anything. Do 2 min quick shower before sleep so mentally unclutter. Then half hour in bed with child. Connect emotionally, ask questions from them and it should be 2 way conversation.
- You should take your time as mom too. Just save precious quality time to kids but take care of yourself too. Can have nanny do laundries etc of kids. Work on kid's brain and emotional side but let nanny handle rest.
10000%- also she is a business women, so she madr eevrything complex😂..a school for 8 month child🤦🏻♂️can you imagine money making greed...child doesn't need much after 8 to 1 year...great CEOs or ppl in world didn't had such useless complex activites😂..and schools for infant.
Thank you so much..
Thanks for your notes. I don't understand Hindi. Her english words in the middle helps me to understand very little.
This episode is the most useful podcast have ever heard so far. Super informative, very relevant and while raising my daughter.. few tips were exactly i was looking for. Thanks Raj and team .. we need more such podcast . Special thanks to schweta gandhi for sharing such a valuable tips
I feel balance between traditional authoritative & modern parenting..both has its own pros n cons..Too much of anything is bad..Keep urself cool , calm, sort out our conflicts n then raise ur child..Most importantly, what u do cn do propagate tht..Dnt tk stress n gv stress to ur child..
She is so amazing. She is so true in a way to be a parent. How beautiful it is to listen to conviction , from a child about a new question.
Very informative and eye opener podcast and feeling proud that atleast we are on track. I watched this video with my 13 year old son and he was able to correlate all this with our family values. Thank you so much for this video.
Amazing! Good luck🙇🏻♂️
Glad i could help🙌🏻
thanku 😊
Raj..you r vry hardworking ..really. like d day u questioned her.nd u listen to her.with out any interruption..
I think listen to her and follow as much as possible for you. Dont stress
I am listening to this podcast for the first time and I would definitely say it’s deep. One thing I think that could be worked upon would be to give the guest the chance to complete their dialogues with least interruptions!
Thanks for introducing me to her!!! I don't agree completely, I cant imagine following completely, but if i can control my emotions and understand my child better it will save me from so much "mom guilt"! This is GREAT knowledge! I loved the concept!!!
Mam aap bilkul sahi bol ri h mein same problem ko face kr ri hu meri sasuji & sasurji dono apne experience mein pahunch jate hr baat mein bahut jyada difficult time hai ye or abi self depend hona baki hai 😢 let's see kya hota strong bn ri hu abi to ❤
Thank you for this. I’m a mom of 5yo boy and I’m following gentle parenting and yet little more scope for improvement. God bless you for this ❤
Gentle is not soft ,infact in today s time its the most important thing.
Kudos to the Team.
Mind-blowing episode.
I loved this podacast a lottt!
Esp Raj asked so many genuine questions that might come across as cliche for some. Even how sometimes people might confuse being gentle with softening the kid etc etc. He din’t shy away from asking all traditional questions or doubts without any fear of judgement.
I genuinely learnt sooo much from this single podcast. Not a parent yet still hooked throughout.👌👌
So fruitful talk show.. thank you so much. I'm neither married nor a parent. But I truly enjoyed it, watched till the end
This is what I like about Raj's podcast he won't just agree or keep nodding to the guests point he will have his own opinion and ask questions which people may have. Like questions of preferred child
Shweta Ma’m , I am so proud that you are my mentor. I am so thankful to the universe that i enrolled for your course. Those sessions were the greatest earnings of my life. Now I have the knowledge and power to correct my wrongs in my life and my parenting. Guys , this is pure Gold Ma’m has given us in this podcast. Loot lo jitna loot sakte ho… as Shweta Ma’m says. Utmost gratitude and respect for you Ma’m !! ❤
I am a mother of 2 years old boy and this episode helped me sooo much ♥️
Best podcast heard on parenting. Thanks Raj and Schweta. 🙏
Today's child knows everything, good and bad, if the surrounding is bad it's our bad luck , no child will listen , main thing is surrounding should be peaceful and truthful other wise no one can help , to come out of today's child behaviour.
Great namaskar to those people who hold the bad surrounding and raise their child in such surroundings.
Very informative and beautifully described by mam.
As a parent now I can say what she says I applied 80% on my daily routine rest I will definitely work on it.
Thank you so much to the host who asked the exact questions what a parent has in their mind on regular basis. Thank you for speaking on behalf of all the parents out here. And a big thanks to Mam who beautifully clears all the doubts and help us to find the clear way about the things.
Keep it up team well done 👏 ✔️
Hi Raj... For the first time I am commenting... I am following sweta from past 4-5 months... and she is very right about the rules, Set boundaries and consistency... I have become a calm mother because of her and I have seen very positive changes in me and in my 3 year old son as well. 99% of the time i talk to him politely and hug him whenever he will through tantrums.... now i was doing this from a long time it just take 2 mins for him to calm him down whenever he is cranky and all. Overtime the time I have realised that sometime they only need your attention and time and we should give them. I have seen your other podcast and they all are saying to stop eating outside and packed foods and stop giving a packet of chips.. chocolate and fries to your kinds. Somewhere down the line everyone is saying the same thing that to have good eating habits ... healthy lifestyle and nuture your child in the same healthy way. Thank you for this and all other podcasts. Could you please please pleaae invite Dr. Vikas Divyakarti in your show. Please Raj.
Aap unko follow kar rahe ho mujhe shweta madam ki ek baat samjh nahi aayi you would also not agree ki baccho ko gentle parenting karo and n all but bachpan se agar bacche mai anger ka emotion nahi hai ( each emotion is important) ek time hoga ki parents baccho ke saath nahi rahenge tab woh bada hua baccha kese survive karega aur koi aesa incident hoga ki parents ko instantly natural gussa aayega tab bacche ka kya reaction hoga
She said once ki bacche mirror krte hai parents ko.
They see ki meri mumy ko gussa aaya and how she calmed herself.
Also when bacche se sath you repeat certain actions it gets soo deep embedded in them. Even now jb mai kuch krne jati hu sometimes i can literally hear my mom saying ki aise mt kro...
@@rashmishanker6434 bacche parents ko mirror karte hai jab unke alawa unka koi naa ie in early tender ages of 1-3 but hum maximum logo ko kya hamari 1-3 ki age ki koi chiz yaad hai nahi buddy
@@tanujmunjal1068 I totally agree with u ki cheeze yaad nhi rehti hai.... But kuch bate humare subconscious mind me itni ghus jati hai ki hum realize bhi nhi krte hai and that is in our habit.
Also apke parents are that part of life which aap bade hone k bad bhi unki bate, what they think of u,how they treat you affect krti rehti hai. I've seen people seeking validation from their parents even in their 50s. Even if you have no connection to them still somewhere they effect you.
I love this podcast about parenting, I am also the mother of a 3 yrs old baby and have many mistakes while parenting but now I will surely change my behaviour and style to nurture my baby thanks a lot Raj G❤
Around 00:30-00:35:00 - Not sure if it will lead to entitled brat - that at home you are the champion, and there are rules which are explained - but in the world out there its not like that
How easy your day-job has to be - that you can be of being so mindful of child and parenting style and releasing hormone and 'leading' - while being sleepless , caught up in cooking, doing some remaining office work etc, (and giving time to partner, parent, friends if any , i guess?)
Still continuing to listen
I agree 💯... Corporate pressure and this lecture...
Yeh khud bolti hain bachha kuchh nehi samjhega... Aur phir bolti hain samjhega, kyun nehi samjhega 😢
I dnt know how old is you child. My child is 5.5 years and I can vouch this portion 200% that it really works positively.
My husband used to disagree totally with this approach but now over a period of time he has started realising the pros of this approach. I feel, most likely, fathers won't be able to accept this approach. But, do try it out.
It not just teaches a child to regulate his emotions by himself but also a parent also becomes conscious of own words/ acts and resulting in a better version of self. Office situation handling becomes better.. in the quest of teaching the child, parents start to learn responding rather than reacting in situations.
I agree it's difficult and challenging but worth for life time.
@@Love-dz1um r u a stay at home parent ? I am and I too am a present parent but I don't at do what all is advised... I ensure I act as a model. However not everyones life permit that amount of mindfulness particularly working mothers ..
@Love-dz1um Don't have kids yet, just speaking and projecting my little experience of watching other family interaction between parent-kids.
I hope and my partner are able to implement at least some of these things - and dont end up becoming what we complain of.
I agree, becoming a parent must be a great learning experience as an adult as well - which will change our personality - and it will spill over to other domains of life as to how we manage other professional and personal relationships, how we manage ourselves and priorities etc.
In nuclear family setup, with both working parent in rat-race for some utopian material fulfillment because we don't know any better- Just seeking lesson and advise, and trying to make sense of things as we(as humans) go along.
Parents would try to do their best with what they have, to raise their kids to what they know is a good person. As time passes maybe time and situation ruin things, where resentment and other negative things grow. We turned out the way we are partly despite/because of 'parenting style' we got.
Good to hear it's working for you, all the best. 👍
Kudos to Raj on touching upon sensitive questions in a very responsible way. I hope there are full families listening to this to understand how to be with the mother, father, and the child
Best podcast ever heard, simply mind blowing!!!
I think the best ever podcast I heard about parenting thanks a lot I am a mother of two kids 4 and 3 years old raising them has so many hurdles but today after listening to her I realized how wrong I was actually all the people of subcontinent have this issue cz we have been raised like this that same pattern unconsciously we repeat with our kids thanks again for such a lovely informative podcast
So true and relatable! I have been closely following and integrating gentle parenting with my almost 3 year old daughter and it has been amazing to see how we together sail through upsetting emotions, how she will then express i am feeling sad/ upset and we breathe through it and talk about it by just consistency.
Loved it. Just by listening thru ot half way, I am a much calmer parent. Loved it till the end, very useful topics discussed.
Literally mazaa aa gaya sunkar ..ek ek word sunne layak tha..ek second bhi eyes or ears hataane ka mann nai huaa. Thanks alot for this type of great conversation....shweta mam Love ❤️
good thing about Rajs Podcast is he allow the person to speak and ask for clarification even if he understand . This allows everyone to understand. many other famous podcasters want to show their knowledge
As someone who grew up in a sort of "counter balance" family which is like where one parent falls short in one aspect there is the other who will fulfil it, I'll say in my opinion and experience perhaps the most efficient method of parenting. Like if my dad was being unreasonable strict/moody at times, I had my mom to comfort me but also teach me that my dad isn't actually being angry at me completely he just has had a rough day and he is projecting. And there were things my mom wasn't good at but my dad was absolutely amazing, like if I ever got into trouble with anyone or anything my mom would panic but my dad had a cool head and would ask me if I was in right/wrong and so on. We all are humans, and no one human can be same as another no matter how much we strive for it. But at the bare minimum if someone is planning to marry and have kids I'll say always look for a partner who fills up what u lack bcoz at the end of the day choosing partners isn't just about urself but also about the child ull bring forth and one shouldn't force a child to bear the brunt of one's wrong choices. I'm no one to tell anyone how to live their lives but when I see kids in this day and age be depressed and agonized at a very early age i felt I should speak my mind. I mean to offend no one so please don't take my words as a medium of attack. 😊
You are right
This is soo interesting! I'm 20 years old and was amazed to learn about child's psychology
Amazing Podcast. This is the best podcast i have seen so far!! Ms. Schweta Gandhi was bang on with the points discussed. Thankyou so much!
I love the way Raj questions the guest with proper back up data. Thanks Raj for this informative podcast. I believe she is right in some cases, I love the way she understands a mother,s personal emotion. Any parent will never want to do bad parenting, but we need to work hard to suffice our kids need. Kids need to understand we will work and have our own struggle, parenting cannot be so mechanical and organised. Love to all parents ❤, you are doing good 😊
Goodness someone is finally addressing the curse of extended/joint families ,it's very difficult because the father is always on the side of both and then they're so indecisive in taking action.
I agree with a lot of what was said, especially the importance of being patient with your child-it really resonated with me, and I feel that many parents from previous generations struggled with that. However, things like hiring a nanny might be easy for wealthy parents, but it’s not a solution for middle-class families where both parents are working 9-5 jobs. In those cases, both the parent and child have to adapt. My own parents both worked, and I was often home alone from a young age. I never had any accidents, largely because of the strict discipline my mother instilled in me-without ever raising a hand. So, I do agree that creating discipline is crucial, but it’s also important to give children time to enjoy their freedom. As they grow older, gradually loosening those rules helps them learn to make their own decisions and develop as individuals.
I've found that a parenting approach where one parent is stricter and the other more easygoing-like a good cop-bad cop dynamic-can be quite effective. It’s essential for both parents to agree on this strategy and understand the compromises it requires. This balance helps ensure the child respects authority while also feeling comfortable enough to share things that might be out of the ordinary.
This video clearly shows ki women se hi duniya ka saara achhai aur bhalai juda h .. women agar financially independent ban pai aur emotional intelligence develop kar pai to apne child ko jarur sikha degi aur wo apne child ko… and so on.Mam ne detail mai sab kuch explain kar diya bohat badi social service h ye Raj and Mam thank you aap jaise log itta jyada sahi chij dikha rahe . kalyug se wapis satyug mai chale jaega society agar ye video ki chhoti se chhoti details ki importance samajh paye log..👏❤bhagwan kare ye video sab dekhe🤲
Wow!!! She is explaining everything so well! Very informative! Love the way she speaks up about the video game… I agree with her!
i am a father i loved this episode , wanna see more parenting and , raising child episodes. nobody is doing this . thanks raj
Wow, thank you for listening!
If you have any specific topic you want me to talk about next, do tell me 🙇🏻♂️
I loved this episode, I am a mother and tomorrow morning m gonna watch it again with my husband and show it to him.. thank you very much for this, i have been doing things like this.. about sugar and other my husband sometimes say m not being like other parents , I hope tomorrow he will understand this ..after watching this episode..❤@@rajshamani
It's been 8 years I'm mom for my two kids
Thanks for this episode. I will try to follow
Such courses are available on coursera etc
How do I get my husband interested in watching this?
Brilliant podcast Raj!! It is so important for a parent to realise the fact that if you have decided to bring a child into this world, you are the primary care taker! You cannot outsource parenting!! Would like to listen to similar content!! Unfortunately, it's so skewed that parents need to listen, understand and change!! Thank you for this, I loved it!
28:47 100%.. Such fantastic advice!!
Have seen so many podcast...but Raj..this guy , asks the perfect question. The questions we want to ask.❤ perfect
Parenting - Serious Responsibility. It's Not Entertainment. 👍
Very well said🙏🏻Parents needs to be trained on parenting.
👏Isliye mam ne grand parents ko bhi unke responsible rehne k roles ko samjhaya
@@rishiraaj.580 Seriousness leads to a mechanical way of living. Parents should approach parenting not with strict seriousness, but with playfulness and joy. Life should be lived with lightness, and this applies to how we raise our children as wel
Acc to you my parents did all those things which they shouldn't
Still I am doing good.... Yeah pretty good
Psychology isn't same for everyone
Mam agar 4 saal tak aapse bad parenting ho gayi hai. Aur uska bacche par uska bahut negetive effect bhi ho chuka hai... To usko ab kaise thik kar sakte hai. Kya sab abhi bhi thik ho sakta hai?
Hi Raj ! As a twin mom I have faced a lot of challenges. If I am feeding one baby the other baby too climbs on me. But I am managing all this and many more things WITHOUT screen time. If I can do it even singleton moms can. It takes an insane amout of energy but I want the best for my children hence screen is a BIG NO!!
Beautifully explained.....I am a new mother and I have learnt a lot from this podcast thank you so much for this informative video...
Raj , I have been watching your podcast since 1.5 years . This has been the best podcast for me so far . Thank you so much Mam 🙏🙏🇨🇦🇨🇦
Human mind is evolving generation to generation, and sacrcity create more productive children.....
Drastic change in lifestyles now, now we have excess of resources and options , so we can be creative in personal and professional life 😊
Punch line - love your child ❤ with good mindset
Great information. Also, having a podcast on handling preteens 9 to 12 year olds would be great.
Every parents are doing their best according to their situation and circumstances.. there is no rule to raise child .. i just agree on point that u should understand ur child before react ..
There are rules but we don't accept it.. Every brain works in a same way so,, parenting is really should focus more on single steps that can cause harm or can do good to our child brain. Follow.Rules have good result
There are rules....those who hit their child say the same thing..."iski behtari k lye he kr rahy"
It's not about rules, it's about evolution, how you evolve your way of living or parenting or anything else with the need of current time...
Change is the only constant and healthy for our survival 😊
The rule is hitting is bad and it will affect your child mental health
This is a general statement it doesn't make any sense
Hai mne apka ye podcast dekha or all problem se khud ko connect paya. M ek 6 Saal ke bachelor ki MA hu. Or mne apaka ye podcast meri all find Jo mother hai or abhi bni hai ma unse share Kiya thank you
First time I’ve seen this lady and I love the way she is talking.
Such an interesting and informative podcast. Honestly worth watching. So beautifully explained the parenting techniques . Not everything what she mentioned can be practical in our life .But there are many more guidelines which will surely help. Hope this will help millions of parents to guide their children in the right direction. Thank you Raj and Shweta, you have done a wonderful podcast ❤
This is such an informative and realistic session. It’ll be great if you could have subtitles so everyone can have a listen 😊
What a great conversation ............mza a gyaaa
Aisha ....bht kch mai bhii krti hu. Ma'am iz ryt ......ki baby ko again n again explain n convince krna pdta h ........Mai bhi krti hu
Absorbed so much values and enjoyed the entire conversation. Keep going
Helping in kitchen can enhance many motor skills,
Drying clothes outdoor activity,
This is simply mind blowing! I have been a big fan of her
Need a podcast on teenage parenting...
I align with all the points the speaker has mentioned. The irony is that your life partner thinks in other directions, and it gives 2 thoughts for choice to kid.
Same thing is happening with me
@nupursingh2012 Yes, and there is no solution for such a situation at home.
This was such a beautiful and informative podcast. Getting married next year and off course I want to embrace motherhood soon. This episode helped me so much ❤❤
The real podcaster of TH-cam 👍🏻🙌🏻
I like your questions Raj.. U confidently ask all questions related to the topic.
Thank you🙈
I try to ask real genuine questions that people around me would want answers to. Real, raw and helpful 🙇🏻♂️
Very nice video much needed. Thanks Raj and Schweta ji. Please do parenting video for kids of 5-14 age.
Traditional parenting is much much better. Her thoughts are better also but only in the movie or in the book.
Raising Children - Tough Job. It's Not Easy To Raise Them Well. Efforts And Investment Required. 😐
100% 🙌🏻
I love this podcast , Thnq Raj ....Sharing this podcast with family members, whether they have kids or not."
Your Questions is very practical and understandable 👍
Love it as a mother ❤️Thank you so much for this podcast 🙏
Thankyou so so much shweta ma'am. I have followed your Instagram account as well and trust me you are such guiding hand for new parents like us! ❤
Every child deserves good parenting
whereas Not every parents deserve kids
Very True
Absolutely
So true
True
Well said
Finally someone is talking about neurons….I am a mom of 7 years old, I took a workshop on happy parenting which was conducted at my son’s school last year and follow those tips and now my relation with my kid is so good and happening…I am understanding my child better, he share everything with and I saw a lot of positive change in him.
Want to know workshop's points
@@poemparukids8517 The workshop had 8 session and each session was 2 hours so its quite difficult to explain here but still I try.
1. First of all as a mother we forgot ourself, give sometime to your self to make you happy, do what makes you happy in short pamper yourself it can be taking a nap, going to spa, watching movie or hanging out with friends whatever. A happy mother raise a happy child.
2. Understand how the neurons work whenever we are making a happy bond with child like hugging, listening, playing with them creates a bond b/w neurons and whenever we are scolding child the neuron's bond breakdown.
3. Understand a child is not just a child he is a little human, he also have the feelings same as we have, we should behave with a child as we behave with another human for example a friend is sharing that my colleagues are rude to me (how we will react in this situation probably we will listen and validate his/her feelings) now what if your child says same thing to you "my friend are rude to me they are not playing with me not sharing with, me now imaging how we react in this situation.
4. Understand your child's feeling, give validations to their feelings as parent we are mostly in denial phase with kids feeling (i.e. kid says I am feeling hot, parents says, "you can't feel hot its too cold today)
5. Think about long term goals, How you want to see your child at the age to 18 or 20? for example I want my son to be confident, respectful, share his feeling with me, Independent, successful . for all these I have work from today.
6. Whenever a child is sharing his/her feelings to you never judge your child if you do so your child will not share with you again instead listen your child carefully, validate his feeling here you can say I can understand how you are feeling not just saying feel it say it, give a name to his feeling (like: you look so angary/upset/sad/ hurt) and give a fantasy if you can. (for example My son does not like swimming day at school so every Thursday he wakes up with bad mood and he start saying I hate swimming, I don't want to go school and he creates so much problem while getting ready, I used to say, "its ok we can not do anything, we can not skip school every Thursday, school will not allow to skip swimming without medical certificate all logical reasons which never help to uplift his mood and he used to left for school with bad mood and without eating BF. But last time the same way he woke up with same bad mood, I just hugged him and said I know how much you hate swimming in school, I can understand, "I wish I could have some magic so that I can disappear the Thursday or may be the swimming pool" immediately he smile and started thinking about magic and other things and get ready without any tantrums and left happily for school.
7. Be respectful with your child and teach him to be respectful with other humans, animals and property.
I have written few points but with a lot details for better understanding, I hope this will help you.
I loved this episode. Es Takahase ham bachho ko palege to aago Jake ho achhe insan banege .phycology echhi hogi to crime bhi nhi Hoge.qki jinki parenting achhi hoyi hogi o hi logo Jada problem dete he society me
Loved Raj s comment as and when he asked intelligent questions.
And thank you so much for sharing the information for traditional parenting...
All the ceos and our individual of pride are all coming from traditional families...
In good traditional families, even if a child gets scolding they get comfort from other members in the family.
Our family set up has changed, we need to reconsider that .....
It is so helpful for me and my kids.... thank you so much there is so many points in this episode we all parents should know.
Unpopular opinion: I disagree with her Sometimes psychologists and psychiatrists overanalyze everything, and in doing so, they themselves might need help to see things normally. She is overly obsessed with raising children perfectly. I believe that every child and person is unique, and we should live as if we are the first person in the world-no rulebooks, no guidelines, no self-help books dictating what to do or how to do it. Let children make mistakes; the more mistakes they make, the smarter they become, gaining valuable life experience. We don’t know the perfect way to parent-it’s all guesses and experiments. Nowadays, I see many parents following advice from Instagram or TH-cam on how to raise their children, trying to mimic what they see. But they often fail because children are unique; they don’t always fit into preset boundaries. Then, parents get stressed, wondering why their child doesn’t behave a certain way.
children are simply doing things appropriate for their age. They can be mischievous, moody, and unpredictable. Rather than correcting them constantly, it’s better to witness their childhood and enjoy those moments with them. The tantrums and challenges will pass. Discipline should come from understanding, and understanding comes from allowing them to explore and try different things. Let them experiment and see what happens.
This doesn’t mean they’ll become Einstein or Elon Musk. They may not be extraordinary in academics; they may just be ordinary children, but they’ll be happy and joyful. Yes, in the beginning, your children may seem disciplined and smart by following strict guidance, but as they grow up, they might feel like they have no real life. Rather than enforcing discipline, we should encourage giving children freedom within natural boundaries. I believe that rigid rules suppress a child’s growth and creativity, while freedom helps them develop self-discipline and responsibility. Seriousness leads to a mechanical way of living. Parents should approach parenting not with strict seriousness, but with playfulness and joy. Life should be lived with lightness, and this applies to how we raise our children as well Often, we see good parents raising children who struggle. We need to stop overanalyzing everything and just live life as it comes. Just give them love-love is enough to guide them in life.
It seems like she’s read a lot of parenting books, many of which were written by authors who simply compiled insights from other books on parenting, rather than drawing from their own experiences.
influencer exaggerates everything to sell her books, courses, and videos. Many women lack the intellect to differentiate and end up comparing themselves and blindly following what the influencer says, which leads them into miserable situations.
Hello, Psychology student here! It is very true that sometimes we overanalyze and try hard to read between the lines into something that is probably very simple to begin with. However, I personally think that you've partially understood the picture here. First of all, you're right - there's no guide on how to raise a child perfectly, you do the best you can and help them develop the tools to navigate the world and with little trauma as possible. A generic example: It is as simple as learning how to articulate your thoughts and feelings when you 5 years old rather than late 20s. Yes, every child is unique, spot on!! But we cannot go about our lives pretending that we are the first person in the world cause that setting is simply untrue - and can be harmful, if it goes south. As for the rulebooks and the self-help concept, it is in the name - to help yourself be a happier, better person so you can fulfill your roles and duties effectively and enjoy your life on your own terms. These rules and routines are a system to lean on, especially in the face of crisis, rather than something that could keep you tied down - look at this from a different perspective, perhaps?
And while love and support is the main component, it is just simply not enough. As a burnt out teen growing in this overstimulating generation, I can vouch for that. Every generation has its own unique and different problems and the better we able the kids of today with tools to build and protect themselves and their mind, the better future they can enjoy. If you listen to the whole gentle parenting part again, she is saying that if the kid falls down, let them learn from their experience or if they make a fuss in eating, let them go hungry. How would you talk to a 2 year old, would they understand or even comprehend the mistakes they are making? Hence, the help and the "babytalk". Our brains update like laptops - at the most random times. Would you believe that we reach maturity after 25? Human development is absolutely insane.
As someone who is really fascinated by the human mind, let me tell you, it is an insanely fickle thing that doesn't know right from wrong. It's your values, experiences and what you tell yourself that makes ALL the difference. I hope this helps!
@hirenrathod7213 I just want to knw, do u hv kids??
Don't mind me, asking dis question.
@@aabeadabegum5434yes she hv 2 cute kids
@@aabeadabegum5434 Yes, I have twins-a girl and a boy
Correct she is actually making things more complicated and whatever she is saying most are fake...these combination is making parents guilt conscious and ending up in mess....
I wish this podcast was in English or even had English subtitles I would have sent it to my daughter. This was N excellent Video
I really agree with most think except the part where u said ur child need a leader. Ur child will grow as a follower always needing someone to decide for them. This type of parenting was common in europe a few decades ago. Now most daycare have open concept. In open concept the child decides n lead. The child decide whetger to eat or not, play or not. Haan meal time n sleep time is there but nothing more than that. The child listen to his body n decides. U can read about open concept kitas for germany as an example
Raising a kid is not black n white. I felt some of her concept r bookish knowledge. Like emotional nurturing from mom & skillset from father. In my case my father was nurturing n mom was not. Both my parents din control us at all. My father is our bestfren n voice of wisdom. I feel the host has better question n better understanding. She is more theoretically type
Really worth watching since have kid she is 1 n half yr old. Was really confused.. and had many questions... most of them are answered..
Still need more videos... related to it..keep doing the good work..😊
Meri baby 2 yrs ki h. uski speech bhut acchi h but she hadn't told me about susu potty. Everytime i tech her pls beta tell me when feel it dont do in pant . Its a bad manner. But she cant able to understand that and she is doing same thing all the time. I was frustated and some time i scolded her due to this. After watching your video i get to know about logic brain. So now i understands why she is doing like that. I m watching your whole video in 2x speed . And i feel so relax and i leart alot of things from geeta mam. Thankyou so much. Now I ll try my best to be a gentle parenting
Applauds , lighthouse of parenting, want to listen more -on teenagers
We should raise children close to nature, & theach them the basic realities & principles of life early on thier life.. 😌🙏😇
Kudos to Raj. Such an amazing Podcaster ❤ Brilliant questions after 40:00 mins. He almost covered all the questions I had. I don't think he prepared these questions.
Raj's questions are superb🤣🤣🤣
The episode was really overwhelming.
I learnt a lot from this and I am a mother I want to see more episodes like this.
I love how Raj is bringing such guests. Great going Raj!
I really like what I learned from this podcast. I wish my parents knew atleast 50 percent of what she said.
I hope I'll be able to follow what I learned here, when I become a parent. 😢
Thank you Raj...for this beautiful podcast.. really eye opener..all my queries are solved through you..
Uh are amazing raj sir...uh are doing something that can change one's mentality.....lots of love to uh....❤
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English m koi mistake ho toh sorry ..😅
I am still working on it
Correct, my baby is now 10months old. He was not sleeping in starting 2-3 months but I was consistent in his bed time routine, but seriously it works magic, now my baby sleeps by 9-10pm and wake up at 6:00am daily.
how did you do that? I was able to implement everything except good sleep 8:50 routine.
@@user-vg7sf8uf9e my 10 month old has a almost fix timing of sleeping by 9:30/10PM and morning wakeup by 6AM. you can acheive it slowly. Don't make them sleep for long hours in day time. engage them in activity in day time more. play with your kid more before going to bed so kid will be tired and sleep in sometime
Best podcast so far❤❤❤❤❤thank you so much for supporting and promoting gentle parenting
In this Era when children nd teenagers are going anywhere under the influence of social media a strong nd educated parenthood is very essential.
Yes, the main reason that teenagers are going on wrong paths is they absolutely lack proper communication and guidance at home. Parents have become busy and at times grandparents are not present too. Whatever is taught at home, by the child's close people, always stays. Even when you come across situations, you always tend to choose the right one.
I agree 🙌🏻
@rajshamani jab baby hoga naaa let me know how much did u remember the advices !!!! lol
@@nitikagupta7799Even if he/she remembers 2% of her website, it will be better than laughing 😆
Amazing episode. Must watch for every parent.
200% sahi 1.00hour....about dadi nani 's pyar n maa ko disrespect
I loved Raj in this podcast.. You went with flow of emotions & simple logic. On the contrary madam is like military person with routine & leadeship etc etc...