@Red Sunshine it's not just the absent fathers. My father was in my life up until I was 19 but he was abusive the whole time. And it appears to me that he still is.
I put up with a guy who I thought was great at first? But after 3 months of wasting my time and two months of being engaged with no 💍 I'm done. I'm so glad I didn't sleep with him I did at first but something was telling me to wait. I wanted a real deep relationship with real love but I see he just want sex. I will always wait in my future relationship because I see the real him showed up in month 3 mad at me because I still didn't give it up?
A situationship is a toxic waste of time. I’ve experienced this personally, I finally woke up and I’m officially through with it. Women have to keep their legs closed, know your and respect your body. Tony, thank you very much for your great advice and always keeping it real. 😊💯
I think some people think that when a person leaves a relationship to be with them that this means that the person who left really wants to be with them. This is not true because if a person cheats in their current relationship with you, they will cheat on you with someone else.
Never confess your love for a man before he confessed his love for you,Your man must be in love with you way more than how you love him.And you must know that he’s in love with you not just word-of-mouth but by his actions.
Girl. At least you learned at 23 and not 33. Consider a blessing in disguise God revealed his true colors & least you didn’t get pregnant by him!!! I was in same boat in my 30’s.Heart broken by a ex who lied about his relationship status. Just move on and trust God. He’ll send the right man.
@@daniellem578 ... So very sorry. The same thing happened to me when I was 23. I don't know if he was in a relationship with somebody at the time but as soon as we broke up, he had somebody. When I told him what happened about the baby, this was his response: " I will help you with the bill. Just keep my name out of it!!" He didn't show any sorrow or anything and act annoyed and almost angry when I was wanting to talk to him. He didn't even want to slow down walking to hear me out." That was the last time I ever laid eyes on him and I was so disappointed in hurt.
He literally told her he was still in love... Like, he was honest 🤦🏾♀️ She's at fault here. Self destructive behavior. I'm so happy she's learning at 23! Like you said, some ppl be 33 and dealing with this type of foolery. Great comment, Sis 🦋
Ummmmm...I met my son’s Dad on the job and we dated and eventually got engaged and married. Fast forward, the union crumbled and we divorced. Now, I’m a single mom to a teenage son. Tony, I must admit that I made a fool of myself many times until I decided to wake up and smell the flavor. I’m celibate and I’m not ashamed to admit it. Back then, I was weak and fragile because I was broken but when I met Christ Jesus. May God be the glory!!!!! I’m worth the wait because I’m a Queen 👑 waiting for my King 👑!!!!!
She survived a narcissist. He never broke up with his girlfriend. He never put her picture up because he’s a player. This world is full of narcissistic people. Full of them. They are here for themselves and they don’t love anyone. Women gotta stop giving their bodies. We need to be married first.
No, she played herself. Call it like it was. She didn't care that he had a woman. Conniving cunning. So she got used and discarded. A lot of women do this to other women and expect a better outcome.
Love what you had to say about letting him know that you are just not ready vs. telling him you are celibate or waiting till marriage. I always wondered how to manage that and your answer is perfect.
You spoke to my spirit. Nothing but truth. The ending of this message was on point. Building a friendship first before anything is the ultimate goal. Sex is hell over rated when it's not the with right one. But the mental part man takes ur breath away. Take the sex out of the equation and u realize that person never had anything to offer in the first place
Ikr. All it ever was was 🍆. I asked myself how it was that I couldn’t get just that from most any man. Then I asked myself what was so special about it. Well, nothing. That’s all it ever was. And then I’m like I don’t even need it bcuz of what all manner of mess comes with it. But narcissists have also spent much of their time studying the art of seduction, and for this reason, they get good at it. My take was well, why can’t a healthy man get good at it in the context of marriage without having to have the poison that comes with the other? And I just figure they actually could. Cuz the big lie with them is that “oh, you’ll never get anything that passionate with other men.” But I beg to differ.
Lynda Peoples Oh yes. Def I agree. Narcs are stunted with their emotional growth and grown boys usually are too. Eventually I just was more like well, toxic is toxic, but I wound up getting jacked around by a number of narcs (and not just romantically), bcuz that’s what I was raised in.
Her letter is well said and detailed. She played herself to the right. Sounds like this is her first time around on self-disciplining herself. Good luck on her journey. I would want advice too if I have gone from savaging my body to saving my body. She should develop wisdom and worth behind this.
Tony Gaskins hey can you make a video regarding finding your confidence after leaving a verbally/physically abusive relationship w/ childs father & how to coparent w the person
Tony! You have to give us your bible reading plan or your fasting schedule because the amount of wisdom that’s coming through you is awesome! God has really gifted you. I’m going to make sure I’m in the studio audience when you premiere your international talk show cuz this is truly the wisdom many of us should have gotten from our fathers. Keep it going!!!!
You need to remember that he hasn't always seen things the way that he does now. Tony described himself as a dog and no good at one time in his life. He slept with over a hundred women before he got married. He knows how men think and he deals with a lot of clients. He is not an ignorant or uneducated man. I'm sure the Lord is in his life for him to make a change like he has changed regardless of being in love.
He probably started conversing with her because he's a dog! He's a genuine, thoroughbred, pure canine, registered Bow Wow! She was just another notch on his belt and somebody to use until he could get his ex back or decide what he was going to do. She was just somebody to have on hand but the one thing about being used is that you cannot be used unless you allow yourself to be used.
I'll let the hundred walk but I am manifesting my king and Devine will bring my Twin flame to me the way God see fit. I am Entertaining the man that will be there for me and that will be my king. I have woke up and realized my worth and realized the men out there aren't getting my worth... My king is near and I will wait patiently
God will never let us walk into something unknowingly with a man who will cheat on us whether it is in marriage or outside of marriage. Oftentimes we ignore the red flags and sometimes we are just stubborn and disobedient. God is not pleased with that but He still loves us.
Single like 25 years. (Starting from a marriageable age). Never married. It’s been a long road and I’ve slipped some, but this gives me some much needed extra resolve. I’d go like 7 years or so and then stumble. This happened a few times. Ty tho. Maybe this go round, I’ll finally get it right.
It's really a shame that women look to social media to prove relationships. My husband and I were together for 24 years and was never all over each other's social media. Social media DOES NOT define a relationship. If she knew he had a girlfriend, she probably didn't care honestly and that's why she got cocky when she "thought" he dumped his girlfriend for her. She played herself.
No man is going to let you continue to tell him you're not ready now and you don't know when you'll be ready without wanting to know why you don't know you are ready. He's going to want to know the reasons and especially after six months or a year.
That female zebra that he saw at the zoo, was running because she saw how he played her the last time and she sees how he treats the other female zebras!
Why did she persue this man when she knew he had a girlfriend. She meant doing it and and got what she got. I do not feel an ounce sorry for her. He was in a relationship already. Persue someone else.
She is not lonesome for company. It happens to women all over the world every day and I'm sure that all of us have been gotten at some time or another. Maybe we just didn't know it. That's why we have to be careful that we don't entertain the lust of the eyes. She ignored the red flags.
You said you cheated on her before you got married, Tony, and after you got married and she left you each time. I'm glad that you finally realized her worth and I hope that she has realized her own worth should you decide to flip the script on her again.
I don’t recall him saying he cheated. He was being possessive and controlling, the second time it was that he went back to selling drugs. She left before it got that bad.
How do you know, if your the “hold me down women?” I heard the hard way is they keep taking all the time, lead you on, and you get prego... Is that true?
I think it's kind of ridiculous that you can tell your man that you will have sex when you get married because you are supposed to according to the Bible. Yet, you have to tiptoe around the TRUTH, play mind games and can't even tell him fornication is a sin according to the Bible!
If you I'm waiting until you are married to have sex and your man asks you when you will be ready, you are lying to him. If he ask is you are you waiting until marriage and you say you don't know, you are also lying because in your heart of hearts, you know what your intentions are whether he asks you anything or not.
You give sound advice but during the dating process you had already slept with your ( now)wife, no disrespect. We need advice from guys who had fallen in love without sex.
We have failed our daughters. We are literally sending them out into the world with no tools.
@Red Sunshine it's not just the absent fathers. My father was in my life up until I was 19 but he was abusive the whole time. And it appears to me that he still is.
mareelovely NONE !!!!!
Generational curses. Pray and rebuke this. Plus send these videos to as many people as you can.
Thank God I'm not one of those mothers. As long as you and your child is above ground, you still have a chance to help guide them ❤️💯🙏🏽💪🏿
I'm keeping my legs closed, I've learned my lesson🙏🙏
I put up with a guy who I thought was great at first? But after 3 months of wasting my time and two months of being engaged with no 💍 I'm done. I'm so glad I didn't sleep with him I did at first but something was telling me to wait. I wanted a real deep relationship with real love but I see he just want sex. I will always wait in my future relationship because I see the real him showed up in month 3 mad at me because I still didn't give it up?
A situationship is a toxic waste of time. I’ve experienced this personally, I finally woke up and I’m officially through with it. Women have to keep their legs closed, know your and respect your body. Tony, thank you very much for your great advice and always keeping it real. 😊💯
I think some people think that when a person leaves a relationship to be with them that this means that the person who left really wants to be with them. This is not true because if a person cheats in their current relationship with you, they will cheat on you with someone else.
I agree👍
BToya Wimley a
Jesus Rules.. so true. Just like the old saying goes, " if he does it with you, he will do it to you."
Never confess your love for a man before he confessed his love for you,Your man must be in love with you way more than how you love him.And you must know that he’s in love with you not just word-of-mouth but by his actions.
I'm glad you included the part about his actions because many of them think nothing of telling you that they love you first!
You couldn't have said it no better baby girl 😉🙂
Girl. At least you learned at 23 and not 33. Consider a blessing in disguise God revealed his true colors & least you didn’t get pregnant by him!!! I was in same boat in my 30’s.Heart broken by a ex who lied about his relationship status. Just move on and trust God. He’ll send the right man.
D M just curious what did you do when you got pregnant by him
Tosha Kirkman I lost the pregnancy sadly. It was a wake up call. And very painful at the same time.
D M I'm sorry to hear that
@@daniellem578 ...
So very sorry. The same thing happened to me when I was 23. I don't know if he was in a relationship with somebody at the time but as soon as we broke up, he had somebody.
When I told him what happened about the baby, this was his response: " I will help you with the bill. Just keep my name out of it!!" He didn't show any sorrow or anything and act annoyed and almost angry when I was wanting to talk to him. He didn't even want to slow down walking to hear me out." That was the last time I ever laid eyes on him and I was so disappointed in hurt.
He literally told her he was still in love... Like, he was honest 🤦🏾♀️ She's at fault here. Self destructive behavior. I'm so happy she's learning at 23! Like you said, some ppl be 33 and dealing with this type of foolery. Great comment, Sis 🦋
We ALL make mistakes, now what u do after the mistake occurred determines if it was a lesson or u just a fool!! Straight like that 💯
Ummmmm...I met my son’s Dad on the job and we dated and eventually got engaged and married. Fast forward, the union crumbled and we divorced. Now, I’m a single mom to a teenage son. Tony, I must admit that I made a fool of myself many times until I decided to wake up and smell the flavor. I’m celibate and I’m not ashamed to admit it. Back then, I was weak and fragile because I was broken but when I met Christ Jesus. May God be the glory!!!!! I’m worth the wait because I’m a Queen 👑 waiting for my King 👑!!!!!
She survived a narcissist. He never broke up with his girlfriend. He never put her picture up because he’s a player. This world is full of narcissistic people. Full of them. They are here for themselves and they don’t love anyone. Women gotta stop giving their bodies. We need to be married first.
I agree👍
No, she played herself. Call it like it was. She didn't care that he had a woman. Conniving cunning. So she got used and discarded. A lot of women do this to other women and expect a better outcome.
Love what you had to say about letting him know that you are just not ready vs. telling him you are celibate or waiting till marriage. I always wondered how to manage that and your answer is perfect.
I get what he is saying but at the same time, I don't completely agree with it. To me, it's a lot like a mind game and I don't like mind games.
I don't entertain men who pressure me for sex. I wait him out and watch what he does eventually the real deal comes out.
It doesn't take long for the real deal to come out when they are pressuring you for sex and you turn them down repeatedly.
You spoke to my spirit. Nothing but truth. The ending of this message was on point. Building a friendship first before anything is the ultimate goal. Sex is hell over rated when it's not the with right one. But the mental part man takes ur breath away. Take the sex out of the equation and u realize that person never had anything to offer in the first place
I agree👍
Ikr. All it ever was was 🍆. I asked myself how it was that I couldn’t get just that from most any man. Then I asked myself what was so special about it. Well, nothing. That’s all it ever was. And then I’m like I don’t even need it bcuz of what all manner of mess comes with it. But narcissists have also spent much of their time studying the art of seduction, and for this reason, they get good at it. My take was well, why can’t a healthy man get good at it in the context of marriage without having to have the poison that comes with the other? And I just figure they actually could. Cuz the big lie with them is that “oh, you’ll never get anything that passionate with other men.” But I beg to differ.
@@goodenoughgirl8102 .... I also think that a narcissist can be a grown boy.
Lynda Peoples Oh yes. Def I agree. Narcs are stunted with their emotional growth and grown boys usually are too. Eventually I just was more like well, toxic is toxic, but I wound up getting jacked around by a number of narcs (and not just romantically), bcuz that’s what I was raised in.
😂😂😂 Tony you have me rolling! Give it to us straight no chaser! 🥃
Her letter is well said and detailed. She played herself to the right. Sounds like this is her first time around on self-disciplining herself. Good luck on her journey. I would want advice too if I have gone from savaging my body to saving my body. She should develop wisdom and worth behind this.
The Netflix doc is called “NATURE: Natural Born Hustlers” ... I think!!
Tony Gaskins hey can you make a video regarding finding your confidence after leaving a verbally/physically abusive relationship w/ childs father & how to coparent w the person
@@nae.lchelz3928 ... maybe you can send him an email and request him to make that video
Tony! You have to give us your bible reading plan or your fasting schedule because the amount of wisdom that’s coming through you is awesome! God has really gifted you. I’m going to make sure I’m in the studio audience when you premiere your international talk show cuz this is truly the wisdom many of us should have gotten from our fathers. Keep it going!!!!
You need to remember that he hasn't always seen things the way that he does now. Tony described himself as a dog and no good at one time in his life. He slept with over a hundred women before he got married.
He knows how men think and he deals with a lot of clients. He is not an ignorant or uneducated man. I'm sure the Lord is in his life for him to make a change like he has changed regardless of being in love.
& this is where confidence, self worth & self love come into play. We have all fallen and come short.
Mr Gaskins this is a message from God. Awesome. Thank you so much.
Yessss
How you start is how it ends. Point blank perrrioddddt.
When a man knows, he knows if he has found a wife n u and it doesn’t take 3 yrs or more. Keep the Promise Land closed until marriage.
Amen
Love ❤️ you Tony for your spiritual discernment from a #RealMansPerspective!!!
this is the best ive heatd from you Tony...zi cried laughing over that Zebra segment. soooo true
Girl sounds like you turned it around and gave it to God. That's the best one to give it to.
He probably started conversing with her because he's a dog! He's a genuine, thoroughbred, pure canine, registered Bow Wow! She was just another notch on his belt and somebody to use until he could get his ex back or decide what he was going to do. She was just somebody to have on hand but the one thing about being used is that you cannot be used unless you allow yourself to be used.
Wow I just came thru the same thing.It has made me draw closer to the Lord.Its also made me wiser.
I'll let the hundred walk but I am manifesting my king and Devine will bring my Twin flame to me the way God see fit. I am Entertaining the man that will be there for me and that will be my king. I have woke up and realized my worth and realized the men out there aren't getting my worth...
My king is near and I will wait patiently
God will never let us walk into something unknowingly with a man who will cheat on us whether it is in marriage or outside of marriage. Oftentimes we ignore the red flags and sometimes we are just stubborn and disobedient. God is not pleased with that but He still loves us.
Ladies, men will face God, also. Let them be. They are mortals.
M Cadet....well said. I told somebody the same thing today. This is confirmation!
Neg Libre Yes they will. Thank you for this !!!!
You are such a blessing Tony
Single like 25 years. (Starting from a marriageable age). Never married. It’s been a long road and I’ve slipped some, but this gives me some much needed extra resolve. I’d go like 7 years or so and then stumble. This happened a few times. Ty tho. Maybe this go round, I’ll finally get it right.
They were never fully broken up so she continued to play her original role.
intentionalgreatness exactly
This is my favorite one yet. I love I love. Thank you, Tony.
your impersonation of a zebra is hysterical ly funny
It's really a shame that women look to social media to prove relationships. My husband and I were together for 24 years and was never all over each other's social media. Social media DOES NOT define a relationship. If she knew he had a girlfriend, she probably didn't care honestly and that's why she got cocky when she "thought" he dumped his girlfriend for her. She played herself.
Jay Evans it's unfortunate that we live in the no commitment, situationship, acceptable side piece generation. I am too old fashion for the times now.
🙌🏼 Aman another awesome message “ God Bless Your Truthfulness 😘
The zebra description is hilarious.
😀😂🤣
Thank you so much tony. This is a blessing to my life!!!
If u are willing to cheat with him you will cheat on him..
If he is willing to cheat with her, he will cheat on her
You are so comical in your truth. The zebras 🤣🤣
Those zebra sounds were priceless!!😂😂😂
No man is going to let you continue to tell him you're not ready now and you don't know when you'll be ready without wanting to know why you don't know you are ready. He's going to want to know the reasons and especially after six months or a year.
Thank you
That female zebra that he saw at the zoo, was running because she saw how he played her the last time and she sees how he treats the other female zebras!
Like the zebra metaphor but, all so real in human life
👍 Be Blessed 👏👏👏
Why did she persue this man when she knew he had a girlfriend. She meant doing it and and got what she got. I do not feel an ounce sorry for her. He was in a relationship already. Persue someone else.
She got GOT!
She is not lonesome for company. It happens to women all over the world every day and I'm sure that all of us have been gotten at some time or another. Maybe we just didn't know it. That's why we have to be careful that we don't entertain the lust of the eyes. She ignored the red flags.
preach on Tony
Be Blessed!!!😊😊
What is the name of the animal show you watched on Netflix?
The miseducation of lauryn hill.
Self reflection
What’s the name of the Netflix show?
Awesome ❤️❤️❤️
You said you cheated on her before you got married, Tony, and after you got married and she left you each time. I'm glad that you finally realized her worth and I hope that she has realized her own worth should you decide to flip the script on her again.
I don’t recall him saying he cheated. He was being possessive and controlling, the second time it was that he went back to selling drugs. She left before it got that bad.
How do you know, if your the “hold me down women?” I heard the hard way is they keep taking all the time, lead you on, and you get prego... Is that true?
Girl...SMDH
Men, zip your pants. Ladies, close your legs.
What versus in the bible says you can not deny sex to your spouse?
Why u getting yo hunny were u make yo money
Wow I just posted some by the name of this situationShip on my fb 😳
I think it's kind of ridiculous that you can tell your man that you will have sex when you get married because you are supposed to according to the Bible. Yet, you have to tiptoe around the TRUTH, play mind games and can't even tell him fornication is a sin according to the Bible!
Pause, so are you saying martial rape is ok? That we can not deny sex to our spouse is a sin? Is this real life...
If you I'm waiting until you are married to have sex and your man asks you when you will be ready, you are lying to him. If he ask is you are you waiting until marriage and you say you don't know, you are also lying because in your heart of hearts, you know what your intentions are whether he asks you anything or not.
A tomcat will do the same thing! Even if it is his own kittens, he will kill them so that she will mate with him
You give sound advice but during the dating process you had already slept with your ( now)wife, no disrespect. We need advice from guys who had fallen in love without sex.
They are few and far between. I personally know of one