I don’t think the song describes an abusive relationship. I feel it’s more of an internal struggle with relationships-she knows herself, and knows how needing someone changes her mentally. Whether it be choosers, takers, beggars, or heartbreakers, she doesn’t want to see herself as any of those qualities to protect herself and possible partners. So she cuts ties even if it means losing the possibility of a soul mate because having a soul mate or the perfect partner can still make someone become self destructive from being needy.
This song is so fucking real. Humans are social animals. How can we accept another person into our space when so many others have destroyed us time and time again? It's so scary. Being hurt is physically painful, but being loved is so amazing. The touch of another person, affection, a kiss, sharing laughs, intimacy... feeds the soul.
@@sahrn1783 But some of us are wicked. We hurt people unintentionally and we got even more hurt. The most unfair part is that I hurt when Im hurting from the scars of all those wrong people left. Ao many forgiving and so many betrayal lives in me. Im broken so I make the worsr decisions. When I love I lost my cool and my confidence. I fuck up and they think Im toxic. The truth is Im just scared. Im really trying to forgive myself, Im really trying to hope for the best I felt like I killed someone. I killed myself when I lost him. I pray to god to take thos heart for me. Because in both ways, I lose it. Even if I give, even if I try, even if I play a games like those cool girls does... they give up on me. Im a pretty girl who is good.to have around untill she shares her ugly scars.
such a sad video, the feels of when you love the person so much, and you cannot leave them even when you know you should.... horrible feeling, you want to feel wanted, leaving them but they dont go for you, so you end up going back to them...
Going through exactly what you've described! Knowing you've gotta leave or the relationship will eat you alive, leaving and they don't fight it and you end up being trapped in limbo and so much more pain than staying there. Such a painful place to be. If you know how to survive that phase please let me know. I'm tired of those posts from both of us but none of us talking to each other.
This probably isn't the answer you were hoping for, but... If you know that being with this person does you more damage than good, then accept that and leave them. Delete their photos, messages, number, give yourself a week to cry and rant to your friends. Don't forget that you will eventually get over this person (if you set your mind to it) and cut off all hope that might arise. It's harsh but there's no other way around it.
I kinda hate this because I feel like each and every time she hoped he would chase after her and because she didn’t really wanna part ways she’d run back to him even though she was trying to be strong... love you Jorja you masterpiece
@@AuntieGus the song is about wanting to be with someone but its never the right time. her and her current boyfriend wrote it together and she said they were basically speaking to each other because it was their situation before they just gave in and dated. it was a interview she did it was in a article
The context of the video is: fear of affection, love and relationships. "Always thought it'd come around" wants to feel that, but chooses to abandon those short relationships in order not to have future dependencies. "I can't be tied down" prefers to run away or emotional independence.
I feel this song on a spiritual level. Seriously, there is nothing lonelier than being with someone you love, and you know you love them, you have your own needs (emotionally, physically and spiritually) but they don't know how to love you the way you need to be loved.
this song is just representing me everytime u feel attached to someone you push them away and saying goodbye but inside you there is always a part hoping they say "please stay" but they don't ... back to my past I was such a loving person who trust everyone and soo open up ... I do really miss the old me
There's Choosers (Picky) There's Takers (Complacent) There's Begging (Desperate) Heartbreakers (Inconsiderate) It's crazy how simple she broke this down in the hook, and when you look back, most of us have been (or know someone who has been) one of these people. What I love about the video is that Jorja tries to leave someone who may or may not seem to care, especially when she herself has mixed feelings about the relationship, because she doesn't want to be too attached, but she's so afraid of her own loneliness that she can't seem to slip away. Yet, at the very end, she realizes how she'll be fine on her own, once she leaves that part of herself behind. GET. THIS. GIRL. A. GRAMMY.
Devin Winter i think she means begging heartbreakers as one type of lovers: those ones that try everything for people to stay and when someone eventually chooses to in fact stay, they don’t want it anymore. begging heartbreakers.
For me, this song speaks volumes about unhealthy choices we makr in our romantic lives ... when she says "You'll never hear me say come hold me console me when really I'm lonely" " I don't want to be this way when I need someone, I don't want to need no one" it's a sharp jab at my habit of not wanting to let anyone in, "even if I find the one", past abuse tricks us into thinking so low of ourselves and we don't even realize it. I only discovered lately quite some troubled tendencies of mine.. I can't seem to believe that the other person loves me and cares for me. It's quite impossible to me, the feeling is too foreign to me and the thought is too strange. Emotional abuse makes us think we are so unworthy of being loved back. And there is nothing that hurts more than the realization of " oh, I can't seem to comprehend and believe that you love me no matter how hard you try to prove it, and everytime you prove it to me I am astonished, because I truly believe no one can love me back and that is why I might never accept your love." I have always been on the giving end, so being on the receiving end is confusing. It's very sad to think that way. And then here's what's even more sad : the fact that we stay even when we know that we deserve more, even when we know that the other person will always take advantage of our emotional vulnerability . We stay because we think to ourselves " I'd rather so little of him than nothing at all" . We settle for the less, we compromise ourselves in the process. We know we deserve better, we just don't accept what's better, because then again we're so picky "Never had to wait for love, always thought It'd come around, but every time you come for me I am no where to be found" . We could have the bestest match for us right infront of us and only then will we start acting awful,distant, out of hand and unavailable because it's foreign to us so it throws us off our balance. And then we're stuck in this endless cycle of giving too much, regretting it, refusing to give up one's self any longer, packing and leaving, craving whatever crumbs we were given, going back to giving too much, meeting the right person, refusing to believe we can be loved, refusing their love unintentionnally. Repeat.
This was so beautifully put I'm speechless. I have never been in love and don't think I am but recently I just met someone with such a weird and deep connection and this song and your explanation is exactly what is going on. But fun thing is he doesn't even see me that way but still demands attention and all. Sighh
@@wanderfullx actually, I am going through the same thing, I think. Our friends and his actions ( if I'm not blind enough at that moment) and his rare confessions are what's making me stay every time I want to leave because I think to myself that he's trying to change ( he told me that he's never felt comfortable being emotional, so he just ends up supressing it all and pretending he doesn't have any). So maybe your person just doesn't know that they are very much into you yet, they haven't admitted it to themselves yet. Atleast that's what I keep telling myself.
I totally understand that. The reason why I also keep coming back is, is because he answers my demands equally but not quite the way I want but I just take what I can and pretend it's enough. He has said that he doesn't open up his feelings for anyone but then still "opens up" a bit. The things he says makes me want to stay, as you said hoping he will feel the same or change. He's actually dating someone else and sees me as a friend but I honestly think he knows that I would stick around by saying soft, nice words. Nobody has ever described me the ways he did and what if it's all a façade? Or if it's true, then he hasn't realised that he's really into me. But I think it's unfair the way he is into someone else, I've shared my woes and he doesn't get distant? I feel like he is just using me until the other person is back. I just don't know how to break this cycle. I've told him so many times how toxic or unhealthy our intense conversations are but he has never replied to those statements. Our relationship is platonic and this is what makes it easier to just refrain from each other but mentally and emotionally it's too difficult because you will keep on thinking and wanting to go back.
She could’ve but decided to take the independent route and write her own songs without any features on her debut Lost & Found. You can tell in her interviews, live shows, and her GurlsTalk podcast ep with Adwoa Aboah that she’s a lovely gentle soul. She doesn’t need an industry, she can create her own space for her music to thrive :)
I love it when, at the end of the video, it goes from the scene where she's going to the taxi to the scene where she's looking at the window, because it seems like she is looking at herself in both scenes . I think it adds a deeper level to the song *.*
After 10 yrs 3 kids im done ... I dont think i really ever loved him i was use to him ! All of his cheating , disrespect and using me . im 2000 miles away from everything i know .. But this song is it !! I feel safe .. Im done and it hurts because i care about him because of our children but my soul is tired of fighting !! U won idgaf no more ! Im moving on
Lyrics Never had to walk for love Don't need you to show me how Don't want to be falling in When I'm falling out Didn't think I'd give for love Every time I hold it back Now there's lust in my head I'm tryna find who I am There's choosers, there's takers There's beggin', heartbreakers I don't wanna be that way You will never hear me say Come hold me, console me When really I'm lonely Even if I feel this way I don't wanna feel this way When I Need someone I don't wanna need no one I'm not tryna let you in Even if I fall, don't worry Never had to wait for love Always thought it'd come around You come for me But I'm nowhere to be found Consolations with conversations I don't need right now I'm afraid that these relations Are goin' to be tied out There's choosers, there's takers There's beggin', heartbreakers I don't wanna be that way I dont' wanna feel this way When I Need someone I don't wanna need no one I'm not tryna let you in Even if I fall, don't worry I don't wanna feel this way When I Need someone I don't wanna need no one I'm not tryna let you in Even if I fall, don't worry
This music video is gorgeous. It feels so cinematic and it just reels you in. Also, congrats on the Grammy nom Jorja!! If there's anyone who deserves that Grammy, it'll be you. Your music is on another level honestly
@@tandzilebhembe1255 thank you xx almost 2 years on and I feel so much better without him and have met someone who treats me so much better so never settle should be the lesson here
Carlo But be real she’s angelic and will choose to dress herself however she wants, she has a huge advantage being an independent artist because ultimately Jorja will decide how provocative she will be and either way she’s stunning w/ sweats on or a form fitting dress so power to her she’s a beauty!! Her lyricism and band mates will get her so much further anyways
Carlo she’s on the right track! Nominated for a US Grammy today and she will only flourish more wether or not she looses or wins the Grammy she is growing to be her own icon without a record label ever since she broke out on SoundCloud and it’s only been her debut album so far. A broken industry full of conflict doesn’t qualify as success it’s the work being put out into the universe. Have a great day yourself and just enjoy what music has to offer away from a robotic industry that’s out of touch, artists will continue to break away from it too
@Carlo i totally agree with you unfortunately a lots of talentless people are popular nowadays talent doesnt equal to fame.Many talented singers dont get attention which they deserve.I dont think this girl will get attention.
Carlo I like how you continue to believe that all artists are only equivalent to how relevant they maintain, it’s honestly senseless music is consistently changing and allowing new artists to emerge and create something that resonates at a moment in time for those who listen and connect to it. She might not become an international powerhouse but she is sure leaving her mark with her music and best new artist nomination. The best thing about music is the variety and at the end of the day most of those you mention maintain a fortune even without being in the public eye it has to do with the work ethnic and of course royalties. Not what you perceive to be what prevails an artist to greatness, honestly get a life they are all entirely more relevant then you will ever be. Your just as easily replaceable by any other bitter materialistic person commenting online about values they know nothing of
My interpretation of this song is that you want to love someone, but you remember what happened last time. The pain that grinded you down when they threw you away. All of your love didn't matter as they abandoned you. You don't want that torture again. It's risky...
Yes, I guess every time she gave in and tried to make it work with the person, she just fell even harder in this self destructive cycle of push/pull... But I guess she made it in the end and closed the chapter.
"I'm afraid of these relations/I can't be tied down"...Everytime she tries to let herself be loved, the tension builds, but then she doesn't let herself fall
Why must people always compare a singer to other singers, she is her and solely her. Her amazing vocals and lovely appearance make her who she is. Love Jorja!
My ex and I love Jorja Smith very much. I was in a toxic/abusive relationship for a very longtime and I recently ended it. When this song came out I was still with him. Now there's a video and we aren't. This video is exactly how I have felt every-time I saw him. Broken,lost. I found myself though.
In a world where we're constantly told that one of the great goals is to find your soul mate settle down and raise goldfish and kids, a lot of us dont feel content being alone. Like there's something missing. That's what I got from this song. I dont want to feel "lonely" and that I need a guy to fix that. I want to be me and content being just me and if that changes it changes
@Zaquoya Tinsley I get what you're saying. I'm not implying that its wrong to want someone cause that's not what I'm trying to say. I just dont want that to be all that I'm living for. I do want to get married one day but until then I want to focus on me and what I want to do and how to improve myself. I believe we should accept ourselves as God made us but we all have flaws that can be worked on to make us better people. I think we'll have to agree to disagree on being the same person tomorrow as you are today. I relate this to the song because it seems she kept going back to him and said "I dont want to need no one." Now idk what Jorja was trying to convey and what she means in the song but that's just what it means to me. It's art and we all interpret it differently. God bless🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤
We live today in exactly opposite world of what you wrote...They promote alone life as much as they can, it's all around us. And that's wrong. I don't know how people manage to see things otherwise.
I feel like when she tries to leave, she's actually contemplating on seeing the person who she can't help loving. She doesn't want to be in love so she stays away from him, but in the end, she sucks up her pride and her fears and admits that she needs someone. It was like a longing or a magnetic pull drawing her to go out and break those walls around her heart.
I also think it’s as if she’s scared to open herself up to him even if she does love the person she doesn’t want to make herself vulnerable and reliant on them. When she’s walking then turns back it represents a part of her which wants to open herself up towards him.
Funny you say that I mean FUNNY! Every time I play this in my car I'm like, "Those are James Bond strings. This could be a James Bond track. SHE SHOULD DO A JAMES BOND SONG!"
Can we take a moment to shine some light on the fact that this music video actually required acting skills and how Jorja did not fail to deliver...sis can act.
I heard this for first time. it hit me like ton of bricks. I can’t stop listening to it. I am feeling emotions that I did not think I had anymore. Just beautiful lyrics and perfect delivery. u can really see the emotional anguish she going thru.
I’ve probably commented years ago about this song but this is present / future me. For me this song has been such a representation on how it feels to not be able to be vulnerable Becuase it’s always taken as a weakness. No one ever making you feel safe enough to need. So do what you gotta do to survive. Not live but survive while still suffering and wanting love but not wanting to admit it. I don’t wanna feel this way when I need someone. I don’t ever wanna let you in even if I find someone. Idk can someone Also share their story and relation to it ? I’m not saying she sang this because of what I went thru. Much love my soldiers ❤️❤️
After all this crap that is being released these days, this woman gives us meaningful music, expressed through a voice that is out of this world, through words that hit you right in the most painful spot and for that I am so grateful. Not to mention she looks absolutely _I don't even have the words to describe._ This is beyond amazing.
I was in an abusive relationship for two years and this is exactly what I had to go through it was hard breaking up with him bc I thought he loved me like he said but he hurt me like really bad to the point where I went to the hospital twice and my parents were scared saying who did this and I had to lie and say I fell but I'm done with relationships for now I broke up with him three years ago and I have a restraining order on him and I'm happily single and recovering from all the scares he gave me but ..... And I can truly say that ........ I'm ok❤️
Any man who puts his hands on a woman in my opinion is cowardly, weak, sad and pathetic. I'm glad that you are now ok and you are a queen and you will find someone who treats you like the queen you are, will love you like the queen you are and that person will cherish you value you and will never put their hands on you.
@@brgeneralthug225 I agree with you, however I must say that any male gender who tries to put hands on women ARE NOT MEN, they are either boys or immature but we can't call them MEN, as they need to deserve to have this title
I lost my mum a couple months ago. This song in-captures how I have felt towards my external world. Just that feeling of loss and abandonment to self. This is so human.
I really felt this. Sometimes looking after yourself really feels well, but when you meet someone who attracts you in a deeper way but you've already got scars from love.. you just don't want this attraction to happen but it seems like the force is to delicate. So I just want to run away.
Every music video that you’ve put out there is sooo aspiring & totally relatable you don’t go unnoticed ! Always going to be a fannnnnn💛 love you jorja Smith ! Your music is what got me through .. 🥀
What a song, what a video! Jorja is the FUTURE. She always had the potential and still does. She's gonna rule the music scene very soon. This song truly does belong in a bond movie. Love you Jorja! ❤
This song has explained my love life and social life too accurately for comfort. Constantly seeking approval and reassurance, love and protection, peace and happiness. But always to scared to leave when it's no longer beneficial. Loved this song so much, I had to the album on vinyl. ♥️♥️♥️🎶🎶🔊👌🏽🙌🙌🙌😩😩😫😫
I’m sad I just found this and it’s been out so long 💔 I love that each time she gets a little closer to leaving then the time before. I feel like it really represents the ‘lost the battle but not the war’ we have with ourselves when we’re trying to change within. She keeps resorting to old ways, but she doesn’t give up.. she keeps trying, building a little strength each time until she’s strong enough to finally make the change.
I have a question for people. Why do you think every time she went to leave and would look back and hope that he would come after her but he never did? And why do you think he never went after her? Did he not love her or he feels the same by not wanting to need someone so he stays there. And why do you think she goes back ? I know she feels lonely but why go back to HIM? Instead of finding someone else to fill that loneliness? I know the song and video represents her not wanting to need someone but feeling lonely and he is the one she goes to. But then again she never had to wait for love because it comes easy to her because she’s beautiful and the person she is so she attracts people. Give me your thoughts 💭❣️ I love the song
The male character in this is most likely a narcissist, incapable of investing emotionally in the relationship. She's in love, and feels it can be fixed and keeps forgiving him, hoping it'll get better. Classic toxic relationship that happens all the time.
Sometimes people stay with what they know bc they’re afraid of change. I’ve been in that vicious cycle where I kept going back to someone who doesn’t love me back as much as I loved them. But once you get fed up, you eventually leave. Just like she did in the end
So much emotion in her voice. Amazing
its true
I love it
so much emotion in the song lyrics itself
sounds similar to amy winehouse
I don’t think the song describes an abusive relationship. I feel it’s more of an internal struggle with relationships-she knows herself, and knows how needing someone changes her mentally. Whether it be choosers, takers, beggars, or heartbreakers, she doesn’t want to see herself as any of those qualities to protect herself and possible partners. So she cuts ties even if it means losing the possibility of a soul mate because having a soul mate or the perfect partner can still make someone become self destructive from being needy.
Exactly ! !
omg yes.
This might be the most accurate.
Wow well said.
Finally someone gets it.
the production is so cinematic
To whoever is crying to this song, for whatever reason; you're not broken. You're worthy of healthy love. You're not alone.
🥺🥺🥺
Thx
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❤️thanks
🙏🏼🙏🏼❤️
Our worst enemy is ourselves. Self sabotaging our happiness because we feel we don't deserve it.
Stop overthinking
amen to tht
SO TRUE.
Facts god bless 🙏❤️
facts!!! 😔
What a Beautiful human being.
Seriously !! Are u for real !!!
@@loicthiant7448 what's wrong with what soluchi said
@@loicthiant7448 I really find her very attractive
Loic Thiant bruh
Soluchi {Michael Jackson Lookalike, Dancer, VFX} facts
Jorja could easily make the intro to a James Bond film, her voice is unreal
Yes oh my god i feel the vibes
The beginning of the song kinda sounds like Adèle her song ‘Skyfall’ that was made for the intro of James Bond
Where is the lie
remind me of skyfall so much
I agree but her lives performances are 🤮
This song is so fucking real. Humans are social animals. How can we accept another person into our space when so many others have destroyed us time and time again? It's so scary. Being hurt is physically painful, but being loved is so amazing. The touch of another person, affection, a kiss, sharing laughs, intimacy... feeds the soul.
Couldn't have said it better. As the asshole who hurt people, sometimes it's easier to hurt then to get hurt.
@@sahrn1783 Very mindful of you two. Sometimes it just doesn't work out.
@@sahrn1783 But some of us are wicked. We hurt people unintentionally and we got even more hurt. The most unfair part is that I hurt when Im hurting from the scars of all those wrong people left. Ao many forgiving and so many betrayal lives in me. Im broken so I make the worsr decisions. When I love I lost my cool and my confidence. I fuck up and they think Im toxic. The truth is Im just scared. Im really trying to forgive myself, Im really trying to hope for the best I felt like I killed someone. I killed myself when I lost him. I pray to god to take thos heart for me. Because in both ways, I lose it. Even if I give, even if I try, even if I play a games like those cool girls does... they give up on me. Im a pretty girl who is good.to have around untill she shares her ugly scars.
Very well said my darling x
this is genius
Everytime she tries to leave she still goes back
sounds like an abusive relationship
@@hobiwankenobi.666 believe thats what it is
@@hobiwankenobi.666 why abusive? Maybe just flat-out toxic.
No she wanted him to follow after her but he didn't. He was done with her but she still wanted him.
@@DZ-lx4iu for real. All these other squares are bugging.
This is the kind of artist on an artistic level that will be ignored by the main stream she's too talented
um over 7 mil views isnt mainstram?
uffe adole Gucci gang got over 100 million let that sink in
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Subscribe to hitop Films so it’s gonna get played at most parties and clubs
no she is not going to get ignored, she is insane, one of a kind, and people will realise, well, we already do, the rest will follow
such a sad video, the feels of when you love the person so much, and you cannot leave them even when you know you should.... horrible feeling, you want to feel wanted, leaving them but they dont go for you, so you end up going back to them...
Let them chase, that's called good game haha ;D
Going through exactly what you've described! Knowing you've gotta leave or the relationship will eat you alive, leaving and they don't fight it and you end up being trapped in limbo and so much more pain than staying there. Such a painful place to be. If you know how to survive that phase please let me know. I'm tired of those posts from both of us but none of us talking to each other.
just exactly what i thought i almost cried
This probably isn't the answer you were hoping for, but... If you know that being with this person does you more damage than good, then accept that and leave them. Delete their photos, messages, number, give yourself a week to cry and rant to your friends. Don't forget that you will eventually get over this person (if you set your mind to it) and cut off all hope that might arise. It's harsh but there's no other way around it.
It is happening to me either but I think I got over it even though I won’t forget anything ,I just let the pain go and let myself feel better...
She's such a beautiful woman
FACT
@@serenitybeats1677 Tryna discredit her talent because she's pretty ? What's up?
Yes
Yeaahhhhh❤️❤️❤️
All women are beautiful. 😊
That feeling of pushing someone away but wanting to be close but you fear they will hurt you .
azjz
Yes..
Exactly .
Or not being real about you’re feelings just to save yourself from feeling dumb later onwards .
Bang on.
And sadly they do sometimes... or the ones that don't, you push away
even when she cries she‘s so pretty damn
I kinda hate this because I feel like each and every time she hoped he would chase after her and because she didn’t really wanna part ways she’d run back to him even though she was trying to be strong... love you Jorja you masterpiece
vee monreal who says it’s a he? Seems like she’s escaping a past version of herself, not a man
Oh how you describe my life so easily.
Grace McNamara just because a man is the catalyst does not detract from the fact She* was The One
@@AuntieGus the song is about wanting to be with someone but its never the right time. her and her current boyfriend wrote it together and she said they were basically speaking to each other because it was their situation before they just gave in and dated. it was a interview she did it was in a article
Yeah I agree with you on this... great ... reading.. beautiful person... beautiful song...give it a 10 out of 10...vee noreal
The context of the video is: fear of affection, love and relationships. "Always thought it'd come around" wants to feel that, but chooses to abandon those short relationships in order not to have future dependencies. "I can't be tied down" prefers to run away or emotional independence.
Avoidant attachment style?
more like a fearful avoidant
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@@bellarisa9453 *anxious avoidant
Vocals: Served
Visuals: Slayed
Wig: Mars
ANTIMAIN yee: haw
Hotel? trivago
Beans: cooled
Insurance? Geico
Jeff Jeff royal mmd
The melody is so emotional
this
Right? Has me in tears all the damn time 😪
She got the voice to make the next James Bond soundtrack ! Love her .... voice
Art Williams I thought I was the only one who thought this song belongs in a James Bond movie
Black Bond deserves her no one else!
Same
Art Williams yesssssss frfrfrfr
i just said the same thing
I feel this song on a spiritual level. Seriously, there is nothing lonelier than being with someone you love, and you know you love them, you have your own needs (emotionally, physically and spiritually) but they don't know how to love you the way you need to be loved.
How do I mysteriously relate to most of her songs 😢😢😢
christian enu ha sameeee
SAMEEE
Same
Mood
Sammmmeeee
How didn’t she win best new artist
EXACTLY!!!
I know! Jorja Smith was robbed 😔
She did in the Brits..
@@kashvikhadkaa america is shit when it comes to many things
agreed but she deserved the brits award didn't she?
GRAMMY NOMINEE!!!
Is she?
@@leekeebum2463 ye
@@leekeebum2463 Jorja was nominated for best new artist
..why the why does cardi b have 5 nominations😭
Awesta Ahadi Because she deserved them. Jorja deserves more noms too.
this song is just representing me everytime u feel attached to someone you push them away and saying goodbye but inside you there is always a part hoping they say "please stay" but they don't ... back to my past I was such a loving person who trust everyone and soo open up ... I do really miss the old me
that's how/what i felt after reading your comment...
Same here. 🔥 I wish they turned back while walking away, none did but solitude has its own perks.
You literally described the feeling 😩😩you don't want to need someone but you still do🥺
Get the old you back. The world needs you!
Such a powerful statement of Catch & Releasing .......knowing when to protect one's self & being vulnerable!!
There's Choosers (Picky)
There's Takers (Complacent)
There's Begging (Desperate)
Heartbreakers (Inconsiderate)
It's crazy how simple she broke this down in the hook, and when you look back, most of us have been (or know someone who has been) one of these people.
What I love about the video is that Jorja tries to leave someone who may or may not seem to care, especially when she herself has mixed feelings about the relationship, because she doesn't want to be too attached, but she's so afraid of her own loneliness that she can't seem to slip away. Yet, at the very end, she realizes how she'll be fine on her own, once she leaves that part of herself behind.
GET. THIS. GIRL. A. GRAMMY.
Hmm I like how u explain this but at the end she does look bac does that mean she went bac?
Couldn't agree with you more friend...and that was a superb summary you wrote...
@@flawlesslawless4180 she didnt go back...but it wasnt easy not looking back.
Devin Winter i think she means begging heartbreakers as one type of lovers: those ones that try everything for people to stay and when someone eventually chooses to in fact stay, they don’t want it anymore. begging heartbreakers.
i honestly love ur response to this. really got in depth with the song. thank u so much 💚
For me, this song speaks volumes about unhealthy choices we makr in our romantic lives ... when she says "You'll never hear me say come hold me console me when really I'm lonely" " I don't want to be this way when I need someone, I don't want to need no one" it's a sharp jab at my habit of not wanting to let anyone in, "even if I find the one", past abuse tricks us into thinking so low of ourselves and we don't even realize it. I only discovered lately quite some troubled tendencies of mine.. I can't seem to believe that the other person loves me and cares for me. It's quite impossible to me, the feeling is too foreign to me and the thought is too strange. Emotional abuse makes us think we are so unworthy of being loved back. And there is nothing that hurts more than the realization of " oh, I can't seem to comprehend and believe that you love me no matter how hard you try to prove it, and everytime you prove it to me I am astonished, because I truly believe no one can love me back and that is why I might never accept your love." I have always been on the giving end, so being on the receiving end is confusing. It's very sad to think that way. And then here's what's even more sad : the fact that we stay even when we know that we deserve more, even when we know that the other person will always take advantage of our emotional vulnerability . We stay because we think to ourselves " I'd rather so little of him than nothing at all" . We settle for the less, we compromise ourselves in the process. We know we deserve better, we just don't accept what's better, because then again we're so picky "Never had to wait for love, always thought It'd come around, but every time you come for me I am no where to be found" . We could have the bestest match for us right infront of us and only then will we start acting awful,distant, out of hand and unavailable because it's foreign to us so it throws us off our balance. And then we're stuck in this endless cycle of giving too much, regretting it, refusing to give up one's self any longer, packing and leaving, craving whatever crumbs we were given, going back to giving too much, meeting the right person, refusing to believe we can be loved, refusing their love unintentionnally. Repeat.
OMG I am speachless
I never thought someone would bother to read all of it! Thank you so much !!
This was so beautifully put I'm speechless. I have never been in love and don't think I am but recently I just met someone with such a weird and deep connection and this song and your explanation is exactly what is going on. But fun thing is he doesn't even see me that way but still demands attention and all. Sighh
@@wanderfullx actually, I am going through the same thing, I think. Our friends and his actions ( if I'm not blind enough at that moment) and his rare confessions are what's making me stay every time I want to leave because I think to myself that he's trying to change ( he told me that he's never felt comfortable being emotional, so he just ends up supressing it all and pretending he doesn't have any). So maybe your person just doesn't know that they are very much into you yet, they haven't admitted it to themselves yet. Atleast that's what I keep telling myself.
I totally understand that. The reason why I also keep coming back is, is because he answers my demands equally but not quite the way I want but I just take what I can and pretend it's enough. He has said that he doesn't open up his feelings for anyone but then still "opens up" a bit. The things he says makes me want to stay, as you said hoping he will feel the same or change. He's actually dating someone else and sees me as a friend but I honestly think he knows that I would stick around by saying soft, nice words. Nobody has ever described me the ways he did and what if it's all a façade? Or if it's true, then he hasn't realised that he's really into me. But I think it's unfair the way he is into someone else, I've shared my woes and he doesn't get distant?
I feel like he is just using me until the other person is back.
I just don't know how to break this cycle. I've told him so many times how toxic or unhealthy our intense conversations are but he has never replied to those statements. Our relationship is platonic and this is what makes it easier to just refrain from each other but mentally and emotionally it's too difficult because you will keep on thinking and wanting to go back.
This is beautiful. She's growing sooo much as an artist 👏😭😭
I think she has been hurt before . Now she's too scared to take the risk. She wants to be alone and feel loved at the same time.
Bem loco
I’m in the same position. That’s why this song resonates so much with me.
me
ME
Please remain humble. Don't let this industry, culture or fame get to your head. Please.
Praying that she'll continue to do great things but at the same time scared for her lol
Already got to her abit , backstage she is not the nicest
@@jahnine100 what makes you say that?
She could’ve but decided to take the independent route and write her own songs without any features on her debut Lost & Found. You can tell in her interviews, live shows, and her GurlsTalk podcast ep with Adwoa Aboah that she’s a lovely gentle soul. She doesn’t need an industry, she can create her own space for her music to thrive :)
@@jahnine100 please respond I'm really curious.
I cant resist how simple yet beautiful is this music video
I love it when, at the end of the video, it goes from the scene where she's going to the taxi to the scene where she's looking at the window, because it seems like she is looking at herself in both scenes . I think it adds a deeper level to the song *.*
Clara Bhr stop putting spaces in between your periods
@@noodlesuzuki5513 😂😂😂😂
Clara Bhr i agree.. like she doesn’t wanna leave a part of herself
After 10 yrs 3 kids im done ... I dont think i really ever loved him i was use to him ! All of his cheating , disrespect and using me . im 2000 miles away from everything i know .. But this song is it !! I feel safe .. Im done and it hurts because i care about him because of our children but my soul is tired of fighting !! U won idgaf no more ! Im moving on
Im glad you're safe and know your worth
sending love, luck and good fortune to you and your family A
Sounds like you’ve won by leaving xx you deserve so much more
YES LOVE! Proud of you girl, hope you have an amazing rest of your life
get a life gorg
She should be an actor for real!!
Sandra Molina-hill actress
Lyrics
Never had to walk for love
Don't need you to show me how
Don't want to be falling in
When I'm falling out
Didn't think I'd give for love
Every time I hold it back
Now there's lust in my head
I'm tryna find who I am
There's choosers, there's takers
There's beggin', heartbreakers
I don't wanna be that way
You will never hear me say
Come hold me, console me
When really I'm lonely
Even if I feel this way
I don't wanna feel this way
When I
Need someone
I don't wanna need no one
I'm not tryna let you in
Even if I fall, don't worry
Never had to wait for love
Always thought it'd come around
You come for me
But I'm nowhere to be found
Consolations with conversations
I don't need right now
I'm afraid that these relations
Are goin' to be tied out
There's choosers, there's takers
There's beggin', heartbreakers
I don't wanna be that way
I dont' wanna feel this way
When I
Need someone
I don't wanna need no one
I'm not tryna let you in
Even if I fall, don't worry
I don't wanna feel this way
When I
Need someone
I don't wanna need no one
I'm not tryna let you in
Even if I fall, don't worry
Algunas partes de la letra están mal.
btw, it’s ‘Meet someone’ and ‘Even if I’ve found the one’ :) in the chorus
@Asmr Fam I think it’s “even if I’ve found The one” 😬
I think it’s “never had to work for love” and the chorus is messed up too like the other person said
Asmr Fam You the Goat
This music video is gorgeous. It feels so cinematic and it just reels you in. Also, congrats on the Grammy nom Jorja!! If there's anyone who deserves that Grammy, it'll be you. Your music is on another level honestly
This helped me get over my toxic relationship when I realised I didn’t actually love him, he just made me feel like I needed him
i m glad you could do that
Love this comment
You did good sis👏🏼 proud of you
@@tandzilebhembe1255 thank you xx almost 2 years on and I feel so much better without him and have met someone who treats me so much better so never settle should be the lesson here
@@Ami-wt8fk awww I'm so happy for you, you deserve it 💕
This woman, her voice her body is everything !
infamous son her skin
@Vrishabh Sd apparently she has a really rigorous routine lol
The bass line & violin is such a satisfying combination, but the lyric make me want to cry... I relate to them too much
Jorja is the next great talent she’s just amazing and has so much potential I love her ❤️
think you'll find she's already there brooklyn ... this is london calling 🔥
Carlo But be real she’s angelic and will choose to dress herself however she wants, she has a huge advantage being an independent artist because ultimately Jorja will decide how provocative she will be and either way she’s stunning w/ sweats on or a form fitting dress so power to her she’s a beauty!! Her lyricism and band mates will get her so much further anyways
Carlo she’s on the right track! Nominated for a US Grammy today and she will only flourish more wether or not she looses or wins the Grammy she is growing to be her own icon without a record label ever since she broke out on SoundCloud and it’s only been her debut album so far. A broken industry full of conflict doesn’t qualify as success it’s the work being put out into the universe. Have a great day yourself and just enjoy what music has to offer away from a robotic industry that’s out of touch, artists will continue to break away from it too
@Carlo i totally agree with you unfortunately a lots of talentless people are popular nowadays talent doesnt equal to fame.Many talented singers dont get attention which they deserve.I dont think this girl will get attention.
Carlo I like how you continue to believe that all artists are only equivalent to how relevant they maintain, it’s honestly senseless music is consistently changing and allowing new artists to emerge and create something that resonates at a moment in time for those who listen and connect to it. She might not become an international powerhouse but she is sure leaving her mark with her music and best new artist nomination. The best thing about music is the variety and at the end of the day most of those you mention maintain a fortune even without being in the public eye it has to do with the work ethnic and of course royalties. Not what you perceive to be what prevails an artist to greatness, honestly get a life they are all entirely more relevant then you will ever be. Your just as easily replaceable by any other bitter materialistic person commenting online about values they know nothing of
My interpretation of this song is that you want to love someone, but you remember what happened last time. The pain that grinded you down when they threw you away. All of your love didn't matter as they abandoned you. You don't want that torture again. It's risky...
Yes, I guess every time she gave in and tried to make it work with the person, she just fell even harder in this self destructive cycle of push/pull... But I guess she made it in the end and closed the chapter.
And then you get hit by a 🚌
no guarantees my friend!
@@bellarisa9453 Yes, emotional neglect and abandonment wounds.
My jam how depressing is this
"I'm afraid of these relations/I can't be tied down"...Everytime she tries to let herself be loved, the tension builds, but then she doesn't let herself fall
not having the strength to leave because you don't want to leave a part of yourself
Yess best comment 👌
yes! yes..:(
I think it’s very clear that it’s more that she doesn’t wanna stay cuz she’s afraid of getting too close
I felt this...my God...
Would you hurt your self on purpose? I don't think so .. to stay with some who hurts you it's not your other half.
I feel this song so much I keep replaying it over and over again...
Sherline Siu ikr!!!!
She has a 90s soul
Maybe even a 70/80's one
The next bond singer. The next Grammy winner. The next big thing since sliced bread. Thank you, Next.
Why must people always compare a singer to other singers, she is her and solely her. Her amazing vocals and lovely appearance make her who she is. Love Jorja!
so true.. All these comments 😅 Read like 20 names.. But she's Jorja Smith
*a well deserved grammy nominee*
Her face is literally definition of perfection.. ik no ones perfect but her face is soo 😍
She’s literally so gorgeous
honestlyy
Yes...but does she smile sometimes ?
My ex and I love Jorja Smith very much.
I was in a toxic/abusive relationship for a very longtime and I recently ended it.
When this song came out I was still with him.
Now there's a video and we aren't.
This video is exactly how I have felt every-time I saw him.
Broken,lost.
I found myself though.
iamoldandfoxy lost and found ❤️
iamoldandfoxy SAME
iamoldandfoxy j
love love loving vibes to you
iamoldandfoxy Same
2:35 those strings totally killing me. So very tastefully arranged!
yes! Do you know which instrument that is exactly? It sounds oriental
I always come back to them, just so surreal
@@nimmha6708 isn't it a whole string section?
@@siphiwomhlongo3688 I think you are correct. Sounds to full to just be one single instrument.
In a world where we're constantly told that one of the great goals is to find your soul mate settle down and raise goldfish and kids, a lot of us dont feel content being alone. Like there's something missing. That's what I got from this song. I dont want to feel "lonely" and that I need a guy to fix that. I want to be me and content being just me and if that changes it changes
@Zaquoya Tinsley I get what you're saying. I'm not implying that its wrong to want someone cause that's not what I'm trying to say. I just dont want that to be all that I'm living for. I do want to get married one day but until then I want to focus on me and what I want to do and how to improve myself. I believe we should accept ourselves as God made us but we all have flaws that can be worked on to make us better people. I think we'll have to agree to disagree on being the same person tomorrow as you are today. I relate this to the song because it seems she kept going back to him and said "I dont want to need no one." Now idk what Jorja was trying to convey and what she means in the song but that's just what it means to me. It's art and we all interpret it differently. God bless🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤
We live today in exactly opposite world of what you wrote...They promote alone life as much as they can, it's all around us. And that's wrong. I don't know how people manage to see things otherwise.
I think I've listened to this song more than 10 times...
in one afternoon alone
@@natmakesthings8400 yeah
21 for today
Because I am her. That's it
The violins are haunting and Jorja is beautiful. One of the best singers from the UK
jorja should act honestly. she's so talented with singing and acting. ugh i love her
Yupppsss
She released this the day she got nominated for her grammy. Coincidence anyone? Lol congrats tho she deserves all the awards.
I feel like when she tries to leave, she's actually contemplating on seeing the person who she can't help loving. She doesn't want to be in love so she stays away from him, but in the end, she sucks up her pride and her fears and admits that she needs someone. It was like a longing or a magnetic pull drawing her to go out and break those walls around her heart.
I also think it’s as if she’s scared to open herself up to him even if she does love the person she doesn’t want to make herself vulnerable and reliant on them. When she’s walking then turns back it represents a part of her which wants to open herself up towards him.
spot on
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you can tell she's getting more ready and ready each time she leaves by looking at the way she dresses.
This is the comment I've been looking for. You're a genius 😭😭😭😭
💯
Her song gives me Amy's vibes off 😍love it
I was literally thinking the same thing!
Some Adelle too
the motel parts reminds me a lot of tears dry on their own video
@@MrThiaagoo yes, that's where i remembered amy first ♡
Yea right....she has a great voice but she will never be in the same lane as the Queen. Amy was way more talented than this girl.
This sounded like something from a James Bond movie...
Wow thanks for the likes 😍
Skyfall from Adele
Funny you say that I mean FUNNY! Every time I play this in my car I'm like, "Those are James Bond strings. This could be a James Bond track. SHE SHOULD DO A JAMES BOND SONG!"
Check this out: vimeo.com/308594878
They need to put it in one of the bond movies
It should be 😂
she better win that grammy!!
Ankzzz19 I don’t want her to get the new artist curse tho
@@cocanoharevan736 rightt
I feel this song. Everyday it's such a good reminder. I remember the pain love causes it's better to be alone.
1:47 the transition in that scene omg
*valentine’s day anthem*
One year later and this still applies.
Is someone chopping onions? I'm in my feels.
Hahaha same
“I don’t want to need someone”
“I don’t want to let you in”
I guess that’s what it comes to When you so tired of being vulnerable
Jorja needs to do the soundrack for the next James Bond movie
I agree !
I made an edit of the Skyfall opening credits with this song, check it out: vimeo.com/308594878
Her voice is like enchanting wow
Can we take a moment to shine some light on the fact that this music video actually required acting skills and how Jorja did not fail to deliver...sis can act.
I heard this for first time. it hit me like ton of bricks. I can’t stop listening to it. I am feeling emotions that I did not think I had anymore. Just beautiful lyrics and perfect delivery. u can really see the emotional anguish she going thru.
She did it again! Looks like the story of my life...
this is beautiful. this is art. this is perfection.
my favorite song in the album
Shanty 96 same
Same
gosh same jkhkhkjhokjj
I’ve probably commented years ago about this song but this is present / future me. For me this song has been such a representation on how it feels to not be able to be vulnerable Becuase it’s always taken as a weakness. No one ever making you feel safe enough to need. So do what you gotta do to survive. Not live but survive while still suffering and wanting love but not wanting to admit it. I don’t wanna feel this way when I need someone. I don’t ever wanna let you in even if I find someone. Idk can someone Also share their story and relation to it ? I’m not saying she sang this because of what I went thru. Much love my soldiers ❤️❤️
No words. She always creates masterpieces.
After all this crap that is being released these days, this woman gives us meaningful music, expressed through a voice that is out of this world, through words that hit you right in the most painful spot and for that I am so grateful. Not to mention she looks absolutely _I don't even have the words to describe._ This is beyond amazing.
I was in an abusive relationship for two years and this is exactly what I had to go through it was hard breaking up with him bc I thought he loved me like he said but he hurt me like really bad to the point where I went to the hospital twice and my parents were scared saying who did this and I had to lie and say I fell but I'm done with relationships for now I broke up with him three years ago and I have a restraining order on him and I'm happily single and recovering from all the scares he gave me but ..... And I can truly say that ........ I'm ok❤️
You will find a man who treats you like the queen that you are. Trust me
Im so proud of you!
Thank you so much god bless you all
Any man who puts his hands on a woman in my opinion is cowardly, weak, sad and pathetic. I'm glad that you are now ok and you are a queen and you will find someone who treats you like the queen you are, will love you like the queen you are and that person will cherish you value you and will never put their hands on you.
@@brgeneralthug225 I agree with you, however I must say that any male gender who tries to put hands on women ARE NOT MEN, they are either boys or immature but we can't call them MEN, as they need to deserve to have this title
Will always be my favorite jorja smith song 👌
So good!! O Brasil te ama..❤🇧🇷
This is the best song on the album. She just amazing. Voice . Beauty. Everything
Oh my god... I've just been crying in my bed and when I heard this song I felt like I'm in heaven
yndixb wbix mood
I lost my mum a couple months ago. This song in-captures how I have felt towards my external world. Just that feeling of loss and abandonment to self. This is so human.
The third time when she actually left , I felt that in my heart
Who else got that James bond vibe from this?
I think it’s the exact same key and she starts on the same note as Adele in her song for sky fall
JORJA SMITH FOR NEXT JAMES BOND SOUNDTRACK
I thought so too
I got that skyfall vibe
Sameee!!
How can someone be so perfect, she's beautiful, has an amazing voice, and makes deep music 😩😍😍😍
I really felt this.
Sometimes looking after yourself really feels well, but when you meet someone who attracts you in a deeper way but you've already got scars from love.. you just don't want this attraction to happen but it seems like the force is to delicate.
So I just want to run away.
Best R&B album of the year
Every music video that you’ve put out there is sooo aspiring & totally relatable you don’t go unnoticed ! Always going to be a fannnnnn💛 love you jorja Smith ! Your music is what got me through .. 🥀
What a song, what a video! Jorja is the FUTURE. She always had the potential and still does. She's gonna rule the music scene very soon. This song truly does belong in a bond movie. Love you Jorja! ❤
This song has explained my love life and social life too accurately for comfort.
Constantly seeking approval and reassurance, love and protection, peace and happiness.
But always to scared to leave when it's no longer beneficial.
Loved this song so much, I had to the album on vinyl. ♥️♥️♥️🎶🎶🔊👌🏽🙌🙌🙌😩😩😫😫
OMG! What is that enchanting background instrument? Violin??
Yep Sade inspo
violins are so beautiful, all string instruments in general
YUP!! ♥
Its an arabic vibe
Pearl Del ray yeahh same it feels like arabic. I felt that from the first sec🤷🏻♀️
Her voice is perfect, also, she’s literally one of the most gorgeous human beings I’ve ever been.She looks like a Greek goddess
namjoon has good taste in music, Jorja is insanely talented I literally can't explain it.
Never gonna forget this song… there’s a deficit of true musicians and she without a doubt has got it all
This song take me places I’ve been in the past yet it bring the future nearer. Idk if you guys feel me.
Nunca decepciona, perfeita! ♥️
This is a masterpiece oh my
I’m sad I just found this and it’s been out so long 💔 I love that each time she gets a little closer to leaving then the time before. I feel like it really represents the ‘lost the battle but not the war’ we have with ourselves when we’re trying to change within. She keeps resorting to old ways, but she doesn’t give up.. she keeps trying, building a little strength each time until she’s strong enough to finally make the change.
I have a question for people. Why do you think every time she went to leave and would look back and hope that he would come after her but he never did?
And why do you think he never went after her? Did he not love her or he feels the same by not wanting to need someone so he stays there.
And why do you think she goes back ? I know she feels lonely but why go back to HIM? Instead of finding someone else to fill that loneliness?
I know the song and video represents her not wanting to need someone but feeling lonely and he is the one she goes to. But then again she never had to wait for love because it comes easy to her because she’s beautiful and the person she is so she attracts people. Give me your thoughts 💭❣️ I love the song
Slayed ByJin everyone has their own emotions, beautiful or not
It’s based on how her & her boyfriend kind of were before they got together officially. There’s a couple articles where she talks about it
I think she does all that because she’s in love with him and it’s hard for her to leave him.
The male character in this is most likely a narcissist, incapable of investing emotionally in the relationship. She's in love, and feels it can be fixed and keeps forgiving him, hoping it'll get better. Classic toxic relationship that happens all the time.
Sometimes people stay with what they know bc they’re afraid of change. I’ve been in that vicious cycle where I kept going back to someone who doesn’t love me back as much as I loved them. But once you get fed up, you eventually leave. Just like she did in the end