Hey BEAT family! I hope and pray you are encouraged by this spoken word video. Please help me out today and share this video with as many people as possible if you believe they will get value out of it. Thanks so much!
Oh yes I know what it's like. I remember the tears and the online Christian dating sites. But one thing I never did was to compromise biblical standards. Stay pure!
Thank you, Mr. Parr! Not only is this so relevant for me, but as a highly-conscientious-creative person: I admire and respect the production value on this new type of video with your voiceover. Well done!
As a 26 year old single Christian man I can so relate to this. But also I think a lot of the time us Christian singles can idolize marriage and desire it more than God. I idolized marriage for many years and was so depressed in my singleness, but last year I finally started repenting of my idolatry towards marriage. By God’s grace these last eight months have been the most contentment I’ve ever felt in my singleness. If you’re reading this I want to encourage you that it is possible to be content in singleness while still desiring marriage! It’s a great and holy thing to desire marriage but let’s check our hearts not to be idolizing it!
But I guarantee if you stay just like that still single with 0 prospects for the next ten years you will be down in the dumps too. Some might call that idolatry but we are human and the Bible says hope deferred makes the heart sick
I was single for 28 years and intentionally didn't want to have any girl friend. I chose to devote that time to serve the Lord. In the end, God blessed me with a beautiful wife. If you are single and desire to get married, hang tight; don't rush it. Serve God faithfully, position yourself well, and I trust that He will lead you to your spouse.
My fears in my singleness: •Never marrying •Marrying late (in my 40’s) •Watching my younger family members get married before me •My parents passing before watching me walk down aisle
I agree, some days I could care less about looking forward to marriage and then others I wish my grandmother will be able to see that day. Marrying in the 40s is a hard one lol but I recently seen someone I know do so, and there is no doubt she is with the right man. They recently had a gorgeous baby girl too, by miracle, and in the midst of COVID. Every time I see her, my faith increases and I'm just in awe of God.
almost 35 and a virgin. The days just seem to get harder and harder. Thank you for transparency. I’m editing this 3 years later in 2024!! I really didn’t want to but I felt I should: I met my now husband in 2022. We were long distance but it was worth it because we had both waited and knew what we wanted. We got married in 2023, bought a house, just 2 months later found out I was pregnant. Baby is due in October! Don’t lose hope or perspective. I can’t promise this for anyone else but trust me, he and I both know how it feels to wait on God. Just keep pursuing Jesus, life goals, stay present, and cherish your relationships. There are many good things about being married and pregnant later in life (if that’s Gods will or course) Be blessed 🙏🏻
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I'm 40 and never married. I'm very encouraged by your honesty and your commitment to using your singleness in serving God. I agree, singleness can be really hard sometimes.
Thanku sarah for being honest. Am 39 single never married and serving in the ministry.It is really hard when people feel that we don’t understand them because we are not in their shoes. They have to see we are like this because are married to God’s ministry 🥰
i want to say thanks for comments--i am so glad, i am stay in single, but one problem, i am really so addiction to porn--- but today, until i watched this youtube-- and read comments.--- everyone pray for me-- i need to overcome that stupid porn-- i really want to serve our God--- i need God so badly. thanks, everyone.
Just what I needed. Been crying for an hour telling God how much my soul hurts cause I yearn so much for a soulmate who I can share my heart and soul with. Someone who can give me cuddles when I’m sad. Please pray for me. I just want to know God’s love and know how much he loves me.
Could not relate more. This video was incredibly timely and I plan to return to it during my loneliest times and when I’m tempted to give in and settle, just to feel beautiful and wanted. Brother Allen explained the battle so well. It’s a real and daily struggle. So thankful for him and his ministry and to know I’m not alone.
There really is power in prayer and I’ve personally found that if you call out to God for love and comfort then the Holy Spirit will comfort you and give you a sense of true love and peace of heart and mind. Maybe your loneliness is how God feels towards most of the human race right now. For me every night I always call out to God before I go to bed and ask that the Holy Spirit hold me and give me peace and love at night so I can sleep.
We do not need another person to make us complete. We can be happy being alone. Taking care of our health and upgrade ourselves. It does not mean we have to get a cert or something. . Not everyone is made for marriage. You may fail God once, it does not mean you have to stay there. I know there are many ridiculous people out there saying all kinds of nasty things. Let them say what they like. My life is not your life. We all have desires but it does not mean we have to fulfil it every time we have urge. God gives us strength to overcome. For those who stay singles, there is nothing to feel ashamed of. So do not give in to that kind of lie, it is not shameful being singles! I thought I need to get married but then when opportunities come, I just feel irk! Past experiences is not the deciding factor. I love my present life....but if you think you really need to get married, I am sure you will find your life partner one day. Do not have to be despair while waiting. Don't think it is always your fault when things do not work out, facts!
@@mday3821 How can we look when there are no options though? Its like everywhere I go I cant even get a prospect. There are no places to meet anybody and I have tried online dating so many times I have lost count and its always been like this. :(
This was so good. I am a 62 year old single woman. Never been married. I've been engaged and called off both. God said no. The first time I was not saved but went to church every Sunday. I recognized his voice and accepted Christ. The next day I called off that engagement. At my age I still want marriage, but have given up. My friends believe it will happen for me. Waiting for the right one who I can be honored to call him husband.
Soon to be 61 & never been married & no children. It's tough at this age when your siblings have children & grandchildren. And I often wonder where did my life go wrong? Perhaps it didn't. Perhaps at this late age, one must accept being childless & without a spouse & know that this is the course God had for my life.
I'm 46 y.o., no wife, no children, been single all my life. Lost all hope, live alone, been living on disability over a decade, seeing my former friends, other friends colleagues, married, or with a partner, sometimes I feel envy, jealousy, or even depressed. (Major deep depression at that). Many sleepless nights and/or many nights crying myself to sleep alone. I've already given up, but idk why, but watching this video, I've felt a little light in my darkest years of single life; drowned, dead in the water, but recesitate to life.
I know how you feel. I'm 45 and alone too. It pisss me off that I can't get anyone. I don't know why God chose to make some people really attractive and desirable and some not. Of course I gotta be the unattractive one apparently!!
I'm in almost the exact same boat my man. Disabled since 2008, poor as dirt, live in a dump of a home, all which will no NO APPEAL to anyone. Sadly everyone does not and will not lead a supper blessed personal life while serving the Lord. Look and all the servants in the Bible. Constantly on the road, constantly attacked, jailed, beaten, and even murdered. Jesus NEVER said serving him and the Father would be a bed of roses. Some peoples lives just suck weather they are a believer or not. DOESN'T mean God does not love us. I am thankful for everything he has blessed me with. An income, home, car, good food, and so on. MANY PEOPLE in this world don't have any of these things. Praying for you that the Spirit gives you the strength to endure!!!
This is my prayer right now, I understand why God kept me single all these years (41) I did not have the right attitude and would have chosen the wrong man I hope now I am born again my soul mate will find me. I wish you luck and will pray for you
I usually don’t post long comments but if you are struggling in being single please read I hope this can bless you in some way- I am single and al of my best friends are married and building families now. When they were getting married, I was losing the one I thought I’d marry to drugs (we’ve been split almost 5 years now) I was first angry with God for taking him away and blessing all my friends around me. In my season of heartache everyone was rejoicing. But then I learned what it means to really be with Jesus . The biggest thing that changed was having a prayer life. I’d pray daily and talk with God. I can really say in cultivating a prayer life my cup has overflowed and I treasure so much those moments with Jesus in prayer. I know that marriage is a blessing so I don’t mean to talk down about it at all, but I am just saying I am grateful for the sheer amount of time I have to be alone with God, time that you wouldn’t have as a married person. My prayer if you’re struggling with being single is that you would feel His love overflow in you and that the Holy Spirit would give you supernatural revelation of how loved you are by Him and that you’d be completely satisfied by the riches of his grace 🙏🏼
Thank you for sharing your testimony. It isn't so easy, but it is so worth it. I've been spending more time with God recently, not because I want Him to answer prayers, but just because I want more of Him. I left my singleness in His hands and trust Him because God knows best. I associate with the loneliness too, watching this video I saw the 2 getting married, my thoughts were about who I'd have as a best man, got to have friends first xD Be blessed and I hope you are completely satisfied in God as you leave your desires in His hands.
Right now I'm walking that way, I'm 36 and Single and ask God to fill me with his Love and Grace so I can be fully satisfied, no that I'm rejecting a person in the future only God knows if a person is showing up in the future, but at this moment is just me and my Lord Jesus. Beautiful message, God Bless you sister.
Thanks for the words. I was on the opposite side. I was heading down a path of alcoholism and didn’t know it and she left me. I have been single ever since and just have felt like I was being punished. I have chances to date but it wasn’t good for either person. I am starting to be alright with myself and have been sober for 15+ months but I don’t feel like I’ll ever find anyone as I’m extremely shy around females I don’t know and am terrified of rejection. Thank you again for your experience
Yes, I feel lonely at times. I'll be 44 in a few months and it hurts because I've never been married. I refuse to settle and will keep my standards high. In the meantime I'm focusing on my purpose and volunteering my time teaching dance fitness at a womens shelter. I feel happy when I'm giving back. Thank you so much for this message. 🤗
Amen, girl! Travel and enjoy your family and friends. I’m in the same boat but I stopped worrying about it years ago. I have a good time with my family and friends. I have several nieces and nephews that look to me like a second mom. Just last week my parents and I were n New Orleans and we had a good time. I just think of how awesome God is and if he could give Sarah, Hannah, Elizabeth children in their old age and if he literally spoke the world into creation I know there’s nothing too far gone for him to give to me. As a matter of fact, I was talking with my mom who says this lady she knows always wanted a baby but didn’t give birth until she was fifty. Her and her husband became parents for the first time. Another lady in India gave birth to twins at 73. These are beautiful things and reminds me that God is still in the business of working miracles. Keep your head up and don’t let this season of life rob you of your joy.
Never give up. I can empathize what your dealing with but don't let the Devil tell you your alone and you'll never find anyone I'm sure you will. I wanted more than anything to be married but it hasn't happened yet. If it had been then I wouldn't have become a missionary in Alaska and accomplished so much in the past 4 years. Everything is in God's timing whether we agree or not. Hang in there and don't give up.
Pray for all the singles who feel this way, as a woman who’s been abandoned by her husband; I know and understand this loneliness. God Is good, a God of justice, and wise. Have faith and trust in what he’s doing in the unseen reality. Amen 🙏🏼
It’s really hard when you have been married and now are single and have had the taste or intimacy and companionship and now it’s gone. Was married 26 years and was told by my husband he found someone new and wanted them instead.
I feel you. My husband took his life so I was left with my four year old. It's extremely hard especially when the church have their own views on things. Compassion and Jesus is so important in these times of loss.
@@LisaLisaCJ I am now getting divorced after 31 years of marriage after finding out my husband has been cheating on me with several woman, but God is with me all the way. ☺ God bless.
Allen...thank you. I needed this badly today. I’m 32. Yesterday, I got the “You’re an amazing guy, but...” speech, and I’m attending a wedding tonight. I got really depressed and angry with God last night. Thank you for your honesty and refusal to sugarcoat this issue. I know people mean well, but I get so sick of married people saying, “Oh, just have faith. It’ll happen!” People who got married at 22 are saying these things like they know and understand the struggle! Anyway, thank you for this. I’m desperately trying to trust God today.
Amen! I know exactly how you feel with the people who got married in their early 20s trying to encourage me through singleness. It can be so frustrating but it's comforting to know there's other people like us, who know exactly what we're going through.
@TheJeffhero No. Right now, I’m really focused on full-time ministry and grad school. If someone special comes along, I’ll definitely make time for them, but I’m not actively seeking to date (going out to meet potential dating partners, using online dating sites, etc) at the moment. I’m just too busy for that. If it happens right now, it’ll have to be through church or mutual friends or them finding me like a heat-seeking missile, haha.
@@ryanhoward8694 Is marriage a ticket for Heaven ? Is singleness evil ? What is the will of God ? To save everybody or to marry everybody ? If the person you love more than yourself never comes, what will you do ? Keep being loved and lovely imitating our Lord Jesus Christ, this is the ticket for Heaven.
@@itube2506 I believe you mean well, brother, but what you just said is incredibly dismissive. Yes, I know that singleness/marriage is not what determines anyone’s eternal destiny. That’s not the issue. I desire to be a husband and a father, and it can frustrating and painful to watch that happen for so many others as I continue to get older. I am allowed to feel pain and be frustrated with God even as I trust Him and cry out to Him. The writers of the Psalms sure seem to think we can do that. Saying what you just said to me comes off dismissive and insensitive, as if my emotional pain is somehow an affront to God. It’s the equivalent of saying, “Just have faith!” to someone struggling with doubts. It’s unhelpful and extremely frustrating for the person struggling.
32 is still a baby...I will turn 39 in January and Never even been in a relationship in my entire life. NO male ever liked me to this day. No man is around me and I don't see any hope.
What also needs to be said is that some people will never get married, even though they long for it. The lifelong struggle will be their cross to bear and Christ will be their reward - now and for eternity. Being single is hard. Being married is hard. Being divorced is hard. Being widowed is hard. Being without Christ... infinitely more difficult than any of the aforementioned statuses. Remember that this Earthly life, with all of its struggles, is not going to last forever. We're not even promised tomorrow. Keep things in perspective. The primary purpose for believers while on Earth is to share the Good News and to make disciples. Everything else is secondary.
You can still have a full life. In the meantime, cultivate your relationship with the Lord and enjoy your friends and family. Travel, try new things and foods and while you’re doing stop worrying and feeling down that you don’t have a mate. If you’re waiting to have joy in life once you have a mate you’ll never learn the beauty of being contented in whatever situation you are in. It’s all for a reason and a purpose. Stop crying. You can enjoy life at any phase it just takes an adjustment in perspective.
Been single over 4 years now, I'm starting to think my expectations are too high. 😑 but seriously though, why is it so hard to meet a guy who loves God more than you? And your family is super beautiful Allen. God bless y'all.
You know what's funny, I be saying the same thing..if only I can find a woman that embodies Luke 14:26 ' If anyone comes to me and does not hate father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters-yes, even their own life-such a person cannot be my disciple'. 😩🤷♂️ But all I mostly see are women trying to look all glamorous and live a comfortable Christian life. Like, where did the scripture 'take up your cross and follow me go'??? -Matt 16:25 🤷♂️ a Christian life isn't meant to be easy. The servant cannot be greater than the master. If only I could find a woman willing to lose her life for Christ's sake..when did the gospel turn into prosperity 😩😩😩😔 I want a woman on 🔥 for God!! Not me.
@@Bhuy5 🙌👏👍🏾🙏🏾👌🏽God bless you Bro, that's a good mindset. Our singleness time is used so that we can truly embrace the Cross, and be established in a real deny-self type of commitment.
I'm 30 and never been asked out. I can relate to everything in this video except for past relationships. I hope I don't have to wait another 10 years. One thing that really upsets me is it's impossible to completely avoid being asked about my relationship history and I hate talking about it. All I get is judgement and negativity, and I don't trust anyone to open up about that area of my life as almost everyone ends up using it to humiliate me. I really wish my life turned out differently than it did.
@@101runaways Paul became Christ-Sufficient! We can be too! We are children of GOD!!! And if you need a physical thing then learn an instrument. I learned guitar. You bend those notes, wack the strings with your pick, and cry without tears. It's a true comfort holding your cherished guitar. Or build your career! You have more than enough time and little responsibiltiy for others. Use that and thrive!
I’m only a little bit younger than you Charlie but that hurts to hear that. Especially how your in situations pushing for your history. There’s a really good concept I’ve realized in the last year and I wonder if you said this the next time someone is prying if it would help them to stop and think and consider things better. “Circumstances do not reflect (dictate/ determine ) preferences.” Choose the wording of your choice. I think it’s a truth that is hard to dismiss. Sadly real life matters such as those who experience abuse, for example, shows just because something happens to someone, that doesn’t mean they wanted it to. With that exact example I would also emphasize “just cause something Does happen doesn’t mean it Should.”
This made me teary. I am 55 years. I decided 4 years ago wait on God instead of trying to things my way. Sometimes it gets lonely but I will keep on persevering in Jesus Name🙏🏾
this isn’t just a philosophy, but it is the truth, and it’s reality (john 14:6). GOD came unto the earth in the likeness of man and HE took the lowly position of a bondservant (philippians 2:7), not to be served, but to serve, and to give HIS Life as a Ransom for many (matthew 20:28). we are not saved because of our own goodness/works, since no one is good (morally perfect), except One, that is, GOD (mark 10:18), but we are saved by the unmerited love and favor of the LORD through faith in HIM and what HE did for us (ephesians 2:4-5). every man is given all he needs to live a Godly life through the knowledge of the LORD (2 peter 1:3). each and every one of us must confess our sins to the FATHER, we must repent (acts 20:21), and we must strive to live our lives all to the glory of GOD in every aspect (1 corinthians 10:31). if we confess our sins, GOD is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us of all unrighteousness (1 john 1:9). when you’re a new creation in CHRIST, old things pass away and all things become new (2 corinthians 5:17)!
@@InitialPC We don't know the full story behind everyone here. How many people don't actually put God first in everything? How many are obsessed with and idolize marriage? Regardless of that point, the only thing that matters is that we exist to glorify God and spread His word. If we fail to do these things as someone who has accepted Christ, then there is nothing but despair. Not everyone is going to marry. God does not promise us a spouse. Being content with Him alone is what He wants. It just so happens that the byproduct of living your life for God means you become a very spiritually mature person who is happy regardless of your situation, and that is attractive to others who are saved.
@@585Courtney I struggled with self esteem issues for a long time ( plus a major introvert) and God began to to fix that in me just before I met my husband. Allow Him to work through that with you. You will be surprised how awesome God has made you
We need to stop putting marriage on a pedestal, as a single Christian you can still pursue purpose and be used mightily by God. I have been single my whole life and I have reached a place of contentment, God is all that I need.
Took the words right out of my mouth, that was well said. Relationships, marriage, casual hookups...all of it is being put on a pedestal and it's only getting worse. Stay content and look up to God always 🙏 Amen.
Not everyone is putting it on a pedestal though. Some people just simply want to have that person who would be their life long companion and intimate friend, beyond what you can have with your other friends.
@@anap1840 That's completely understandable, it's definitely something that we have to fight with to remain content being single. I think what we're getting at is mostly not letting it consume us like it's the main purpose of life, not just Gen Z that is being dramatic about it, a vast majority is acting like a relationship (romance wise) is the objective in life. I get what you're saying though, I even have my moments.
I literally just ache for that companionship and union. You can only take so many years alone and going home alone & waking up alone. Jesus is there - and it’s not always easy to fight to feel him with you - but I guess we keep pressing on till we see his face and don’t have to struggle anymore - his light will fill us fully and we will see him as he is in all his glory. But on earth waiting... it’s so hard
@@steflondon88 If it's fate then God will make it happen, i know it's hard though to sustain that isolation here on earth, it's only human nature to crave that physical connection and mental connection. Never settle and trust in God 🙏
One of the lines that he said that brought tears to my eyes is “not having a warm body to lay next to”. It feels so sad.. humans literally crave another’s warmth. I’ve warmed up a little heat pad and cuddled with it before because I really needed something warm to hold. Singleness can feel very lonely.. 28… still waiting on the Lord..
This made me cry. I will be 39 in a few months and I cry out to God all The time asking why I am still single? What is wrong with me. Why am I not worthy of all The happiness others have.
Wow, I'm 30. Born again when I was 28.I have never been in a relationship. Never even had a girlfriend. It has been a struggle to say the least. Society says I'm not a man because I haven't been with a woman. Thinking about this kept me back from growing in Christ. 2020 & 21 have been a blessing in disguise for me because the alone time has brought me closer to God. I will continue to walk in faith and serve the Lord during my season of singleness.Thank You for your wise words.
The world is headed for destruction, havibg sex doesn't define who you are. I'm single as well so I understand the frustration but wait on the Lord. I've been through heartache, getting into the wrong relationship aint worth it. God bless!
Brother... I was a virgin until I was 35 and God brought my wife @KenadyNash into my life. Don’t worry about society. Focus on your relationship with the Lord. Remember, God loves your personality brother and your future mate will love it also. Allow your personality will draw people to the Lord and everything will take care of itself. ~ Damien
This would've broke me if it was posted years back🥺 but now I've learned to be content and asked God to help me on this Wait still.single but at peace🙏🏿🙏🏿
@@ashleylester8270 it took a bucket full of mistakes wrong choices to get to this point, you know when you reach a point where you say I've tried it on my own and failed dismally now not my will but Yours be done... Thank you my dear sister 💓
Man this is on time for me. I’ve been really going through it. I’m about to be 30 and have never been in a relationship, had sex, or even kissed a a woman. I’ve shaken my fist at God regrettably. I’m seeing that my value first comes from him.
I think that's admirable. I may not be 30, but I hope to be in the same spot when I am 30. Trust me, it's better to focus on yourself and your own personal growth than to waste time on people who will drag you down. I'm sure you have dodged many bullets brother.
Pressure to get married for women is greater than men... I'm 36 single woman, and I feel like God is pushing me to verge of backsliding... Recently got cheated on and I feel so lost rn. Please pray for me and those who experience the same situation. Thank you brothers and sisters in Christ
32 and single, thank you for this word! Feeling lonely is the hardest thing, that you don't have anyone to share your thoughts, feelings, purpose in life to walk in Christ. I wish I could talk with someone about faith in our Lord.
I have been happily married for 35 years come Oct 21, but I truly wish that that such worthwhile messaging was available in my single days. So much encouragement.
@@thebeatagp Allen I am Born again 1991 and went Astray I think I was just too young leaving home to go off to school....my family HOLINESS and not once did I feel or sense Spiritual warfare or put on armor....I just want Holy Spirit and power and not be Depression and sick....from world I didn't understand I was open to lying demons and stuck career...I feel BACKWASDS and sick Miserable like something was taken from me trapped.... mentally sick and nerve attackes Spiritually Because I got saved and wasn't FightingSpiritually WARRING....WHAT CAN BE DONE ...I am not RIGHT anf feel Him leave ..THIS ANGER me because I should have gotten back up quickly and asked for help instead of toss off first LOVE....Satan took way more advantage Because of HOLINESS background. Took me down and and Inwant God back and be worth something purpose instead of His enemy when I was saved......lost everything....job house etc car....just threw it away living Ignorant for self...I am feeling Spiritually dead and trapped....
I had to repent because as I was driving home from work in the car athe Holy Spirit said to me "seek my face. My hand is a husband, my face is my presence. Seek my face." This spoken word truly reset my focus. Let him find me in Your Presence Lord.
At fifty I'm still a virgin. I no longer struggle with physical temptation but battle envy, resentment and bitterness. My best years are over. Not worth putting myself out there. Hopefully I'll be in Heaven soon. This life stinks and there's no hope for me here. This world really is a Vale of Tears. Christians need to acknowledge how ugly life below can be like they did a century ago. Our theology has become too shallow and unrealistic. Especially theodicy. Sometimes unhappiness, loneliness and suffering are God's will for your entire life.
I hear you. I'm a virgin as well. I get envy and bitterness around couples too. It's a battle everyday. Life is suffering. But remember that there's a lot more people like you and me. You're not alone. Find good fellowship with friends and also learn how to love yourself. In the grand scheme of things, keep your eye on the prize, Jesus. Life is pain, but pain is temporary. We won't have to worry about loneliness anymore in heaven. In the meantime, try to live your life and find joy in other things. That's what I've been trying to do.
@@pointbreak2811 no marriage of convenience to some entitled, doddering, senile old widower looking for a nurse maid in his declining years will have been worth the wait. Not the decades of loneliness and heartbreak. Some hideous, ancient "sweet widower" touted as my happy ending to look forward to ("God's best for you" but not God's best for normal people saying this patronizing crap) is not worth it. Someone else's leftover, rotting scraps. Just skip all the beautiful parts--cut out all the romance, passion, spontaneity, joy, affection, shared memories, and connection--and go straight to the sickbed where you will be his free nurse till he dies. And remember he thinks he's doing you a favor and all the church people will tell you how lucky/blessed you are and expect you to have a big, fancy wedding to celebrate becoming his free nursemaid and pretend it's a real marriage and that you have feelings for each other. He would probably smell bad and physically repulse me so horribly I'd struggle to kiss him without throwing up in my mouth. No thanks! I prefer to reject this "gift." Better stay alone forever. Bad as things are they could get worse. A loveless sham marriage to a "sweet" old widower would be far worse than staying unwed.
Me and my ex broke up a month ago, yesterday I started a fast to get closer to God and have him give me peace and reveal to me answers. This here was an affirmation that I am on the right path. I've surrendered to his will. Thank you so much Allen.
Allan, your video just made a 72 year old man cry. I went through all the same pains you did with some life twists. One failed marriage after another total of 4 wives, married 1 twice. I've been single for over 20 years now and haven't dated since the long distance email breakup. Don't feel sorry for me because I don't feel sorry for me. I'm alone most of the time but I'm never lonely . Years ago I read Matthew 19:12 and found peace because God sometimes says no when you ask for something. I asked for the right woman and just couldn't find her. Now go hug your wife and tell her I said you are the luckiest man in the world because she said yes.
I'm 36 years old and I've been single my whole life and it is a very tough pill to shallow. Every time this subject comes up I have to force myself to say "God let your will be done, not my own."
I’ve watched a lot of videos on Christian singleness on TH-cam and this is one of the few that actually bring me peace. Others feel like a lecture on “why you’re still single” or “just be content in Christ” as opposed to “I understand you, there’s hope.” And coming from Allen Parr and knowing his testimony, this just feels that more authentic.
Divorced for almost a year now. Still believing for God to reconcile my backslidden spouse. Waiting for Jesus to remove the veil of deception. This walk is lonely. BUT JESUS! Hes all I have and Im grateful that even if my flesh is hurting and alone my spirit is full and has a comforter through this difficult process.
@@ashleylester8270 I am 46 and a PK AND Total turned from God DECEIVED and I to world listen to lies on a career and just not focused not WARRING don't know God and was so sick and out here....lost everything house car job etc . living for myself and didn't understand or know ...no husband or child... poisoned and Seriously No nornal Feel I tried returning to God but was ATTACKED and just not well ... something damaging happened and distrustful so many bad issues and trauma....not sure what to do as I see GOF AND HIS SPIRIT WAS WHAT I needed most .. JUST. upset forget marriage...my entire soul body and life is DAMAGE from lies and saved People around me who said nothing....
PHENOMENAL!!!!!! I’m 43, never been married, no kids, and have wanted to give up several times. I have had several thoughts from the enemy thinking something is wrong with me. This video has really encouraged me. Thank you again, for your transparency and encouragement.
I am a straight woman who recognizes a beautiful woman when I see one!! Do not ever let Satan tell you there is something wrong with you. You deserve a handsome prince . Wait for him!!
It’s crazy because I literally was just talking to a friend about how hard it is for a Christian to find a soulmate in this day and age. All of the pretty girls that look good are all living for the world, while I’m living for the Lord.😞 It’s hard..
@@Wjeremiahh @Malachi I totally understand. It goes for both Christian men and women as well. But, I hope youre encouraged that God always came through for those in the Bible who were Single (Ruth, Naomi, Isaac (he was single until he was 40!) And Apostle Paul- all had a tremendous impact on God's purpose!! God's timing is always right! ✅
I think the key here is learning to be content in all circumstances, because it is REALLY hard as a single to be content, especially when you're a Christian who sees successful Christians in their ministries and almost all of them are married. So it makes it seem like you need that companion, you need that someone special to be an effective witness. But the lesson to be learn from this is that you are an effective witness when you yourself please God.
Just be happy and content with the fact of not having someguy cheat on you , not lie or secretive with you..talk crap about you to others,who emotionally, sexually, physically, mentally manipulative or abusive towards you.
@@585Courtney it seems like you may have gone through a lot. I don’t know you personally but I definitely will pray that God heals you and sends you the person who He intended you to be with 😌 I’m so sorry dear, my heart aches for you 😥
Man I so needed this I just turned 40 thinking will I ever get married? Gods ways are not our ways and as cliche as it sounds we definitely have to trust that HE is up to something good!!! So I’ll keep waiting 🙏🏽♥️
I just turned 40 last week been single/celibate for 4years. God has a plan for all is and whatever that plan is will be for our own good. We just need to wait patiently and trust him.
Being a single Christian in this world is certainly tough. Especially how society is rapidly growing more perverse. Stay strong and faithful brethrens!
To be fair, Society has always been perverse ...it was just behind closed doors. Now it's out in the open. I think it's actually better this way. Now, you have a quicker chance of knowing what you are dealing with. Back in the day, people were doing all kinds of dirt behind closed doors so you didn't know who you married. No, people do a better job of telling on themselves so you know to avoid them if you choose.
@@lisacox3750 It's not better because when it was behind closed doors, most of society looked down on perversion.. and it was easier to avoid temptations as well cause you never saw it. Now that's its out in the open.. it's becoming normalized in society and accepted slowly but surely by more and more people. Young people especially will be tempted more often and fall into the pit of sin. So I disagree it's far worse now that it's out in the open because it reflects societies descent into perversion.
This literally couldn't have come at a better time. Currently re-trying dating apps and feel even more discouraged than when I wasn't on them. It's tough dating as a single, and much more difficult when you are Christian.
yes... and my experience is that at my age (middle aged) the ones who are pursued by men are those who've previously been married (widowed or divorced..) aka women, who already 'proved' their desirability factor. Whereas a single. never married woman is seen as a strange and weird creature, who's shunned and ostracised (and played at by divorced men.) It truly is so crazy how the Church has come like the world in many ways.
I am 26 still struggling with my sexuality. I am a bisexual man but I am out of balance. For my whole life I have been emotionally attracted to women but mostly physically attracted to men. It’s a terrible divide within me. It saddens me that I wouldn’t be able to have both in a spouse. I feel like because of this I’m condemned to a life of loneliness and celibacy. But if that’s my cross I must carry then so be it. I would love to be married to a woman but I’m afraid my physical attraction issue would interfere with our marriage. Not because I wouldn’t be faithful, but because it would physically hurt to resist that temptation every day for the rest of my life. The physical attraction toward men is strong. It’s so strong. I have repented from all sexual sin over a month ago and my body is on fire now. I can’t sleep. It’s making me feel depressed. And I celebrated Easter alone at Church, while I was surrounded by other families and couples that love each other and have each other’s company. My family up North had to celebrate without me too, since I couldn’t travel up there. I am all alone, and I am on fire. I am at my breaking point. I am praying a lot but I don’t even know what to pray for anymore. I’m just sitting and praying. I have faith that God will part the Red Sea within me and give me a spouse that I am somehow physically attracted to and romantically attracted to at the same time, more than I have ever felt in my life. But that is something I simply cannot solve within me. It’s something He has to do. The battle has already been won and I thank Him for it. But I need to find peace in the waiting process and I just can’t. For some reason I just can’t. I’m scared that this is evidence my faith might not be strong enough, and that I’m being a brat and just complaining to God rather than celebrating. But it’s just so hard. Ever since Easter last week, something changed inside me and I just completely broke. And I’m going through all this alone. My mom doesn’t even know. Pray for me.
Sounds like you need deliverance to let go of your sexual attraction to me. You Ned to let that go before getting into any relationship with a women or you'll have some major problems. Check out the supernatural life with Daniel adams on TH-cam or Alexander pagani to learn about it
Hi Mike. I'm sorry to hear about your struggle. The truth is, we all struggle with something no matter how long we've been a Christian. But no matter what it is, the bible says that Christ empathizes with us in our weaknesses and invites us to come boldly to His throne of mercy to obtain grace for whatever we are facing (Hebrews 4:16). Do you believe this? The key is to trust in His word. Your faith in His word as you go boldly before Him will set you free. He'll help you overcome what seems too difficult for you. May you walk in total freedom, in Jesus name. Know that you are special and loved by a God who is advocating for you.
You know what puts into perspective the dangerous sin of lust ?because me being straight and single lusting after men makes no different thank a woman who lusts after another woman. I pray and ask God to see sin the way he sees it. Don't focus on your Loneliness focus on the lust issue in your heart. I'd advise good biblical counseling find someone who can walk with you through these thoughts. Kill the sin in your life, flee from temptation. You may be idolized a relationship. I'm single and sometimes wonder if I ever will be married but what I do know is that I need to work out my faith with fear and trembling at his word because he will set all right. My value is not fixed on being with someone but the blood of christ on that tree that conquered sin I'll pray for you.
Brother Parr, how refreshing to hear a Christian leader share the TRUTH about our struggles as single Christians. This was REAL and UNCUT! We are tired of hearing the empty rhetoric offered by well-meaning Christians who don’t have a CLUE! My prayer is that our MARRIED brothers and sisters will LISTEN to this video and seek to understand and stop telling us to “wait on God” because we are already doing that. Instead, show some compassion and listen to us. We aren’t necessarily coming to you for answers...we want and need to be heard and not dismissed. THANK YOU Allen Parr for a WORD IN DUE SEASON! You get it!
I'm 25 and I've been single all my life. In this day and generation, it feels almost impossible to find a woman who meets my God given standards. I have become content with singleness for the most part. When I'm suffering from it, I take the time to look at the world around me, and I realize that marriage is actually a very difficult thing. Divorce rates have never been higher and I know very few people whose parents are still together. With that being said, I try my best to stay content with where I am.
@@JrryThrdJnsFurth You say that, yet teenagers today are being bombarded with pornographic content, sexually suggestive ads/movies/games/whatever else exists, and your peers will have a problem with you for wanting to wait until marriage to have sex (as in they don't believe you and simply see you as a failure). If anyone needs to hear a message like this, it would be the younger people facing this stuff. As opposed to adults in their 30's, 40's or beyond who have yet to become content with God and God alone. Those of us who are single and "waiting" should be glad to try and help kids/teens through these tough times.
This was one proposal for me, but I turned him down because he was so controlling. I would rather be single, then be in a abusive marriage. I have actually learn to be content being single. There is a gift of being single. Paul was single and encourage others to remain single.😊😊
Hi Lovely Cat. :-) You're right about what St. Paul the Apostle wrote. Not only that, but also remember what the Lord Jesus Himself said: Jesus said that some men* are born eunuchs, some men* are made into eunuchs by men*, and some men* become eunuchs for the Kingdom of God. *"men" is how I remember it, and I suspect it means human beings in general, not just the, males. He also said that angels neither marry nor are given in marriage.
This is my position today....nearly 15yrs single, knowing there are several women who would like to date me but they dont know Jesus. It's not easy, lustful desires assault me , I'm in a battle but I will not be defeated because I hide under the shelter of my fathers wings. I trust God with all my heart and I know he will provide my wife. My dating guru is God and I can't wait for the lady he has chosen for me. 🙂🙏
@@kayleencoward2442 lol...why not? I was just thinking wow, right here all the singles are lamenting over the same issues - they might as well start talking to each other!😁 (just know some men don't like ladies to start 😉)
I know exactly how you feel, my main struggle has always been lust/sexual desire and I have had to turn down beautiful girls for God, and then when i dated a pure godly woman she broke up with me... So confused why God does things the way he does but hes the only hope sometimes
Having a super high moment having no one to share with. That's a killer. Failing sexually was more painful than it's worth. God help me never again but it's still a temptation. Thank you Allan, your testimony is a real one.
I was literally asking god to put a woman in my path last night in my prayers and this video comes in my recommendation the next morning God works in wonderful ways
As a single man separated from his child I thought I lost purpose but I know I have to be strong and hopefully be a blessing to my family and neighbors and strangers alike. Praise God! Long suffering is a fruit of the spirit
*You are whole in Christ* ✝️🙏 We need to appreciate the blessings of each season and make sure that our fulfilment always comes in Christ! Any relationship is for his purposes and glory! ✝️😊🙏
Literally sharing this with everyone I know. Single, married, we all need to hear this! This is about to hit 1M views, half of them from me lol. God bless you, Allen!
As a guy, being shy really hurts your dating life. With all that anxiety that was there for most of my life, it is no wonder I am still single. Now nearing 50 as a single guy, I still would like to date and get married yet to a Christian woman. Ok there, I said it.
women are not supposed to do the approaching in religious nor non religious societies, confidence is the one main factor attractive to women, so in order to make your dreams come true, you have to put in the work
Nark Mallinger u garden tool was there one christian thing in your comment? or was it just your bitter, resentful, angry flesh talking and submitting to a culture of abstaining from relationship out of hate?
Hey, just wanna let you know there is hope, I know a Christian woman who is 40 and has never been married. She is so sweet and nice. My only suggestion is tho, you do need to approach them, I myself will never go after a guy, it seems weird to me.. and most men approach me. Anyway, if it doesn’t work out or she rejects you.. don’t think about it ( or see it as you don’t have anything to lose). And i think at your age most women are looking for something serious. Also at least you tried and the right one will say yes and stay.
I was 5 years of chronic illness! I was Semi Housebound, lost my health, job, finances and my fiance left me. I couldn't even look at electronic screen for 5 minutes, or hold a 10-minute conversation. But God did an amazing work. I now have a Christian Channel where I encourage people and show them what God did in my life and that there is hope for you also. ✝️🔥😊 *Keep believing even when it's hard* 🙏❤️🔥 *All things are possible with God*
I also have a chronic illness and currently 'semi housebound' as well. I'm dealing with Ulcerative Colitis, not Lyme disease, but a lot of what you have been through has been identical to my experiences. I've had UC for around 3 years now, been on so many diets and medications/steroids, lost my job, been so worn out during the day, essentially out of money, living off of my parents, it's been really, really tough. Like both yours and Allen's videos touch on, there's a lot that I want to be able to do, to have, (like marriage) but understanding that this stuff takes time, a lot of patience, and discipline is the best thing for you. That God will reveal these things when we are truly ready for them. I'm definitely still learning my limits and what things affect me, but trusting in the Lord, being in His word... It's truly a difference-maker. I too have a certain amount of peace and new-found respect for the little things I used to take for granted all the time. God will get me through this, day after day and through Him, we can all do the impossible. We can heal, we can be in remission, we can get our lives back. To anyone who reads this, God hears you. He knows what you're going through. He is the Light at the end of the tunnel, He is the guide. We can get there.
I believe it was just last night or 2 nights ago that I was having a conversation with God asking him why I have this strong desire to be married and yet there's not even a hint of a prospect. He didn't answer that night, but I think he answered just now. The wait is hard, very hard, but I know it's worth it. Give us all strength Holy Spirit 🙏🏾. Thank you Allen!
Married with 4 beautiful kids, but sharing for all my single friends....so many struggle in so many ways The church needs to support them and fill the void of that feeling of being alone. I know friendship is not the same and we can't completely fill the void, but we can at least be there for them. I think this is especially important for Christians who struggle with same sex attraction.
I’m currently in a courtship with a beautiful God fearing man and I pray that God stays in the center of our relationship, I pray that it’s Gods will for us to be together. I know this feeling, but to wait for God is better.
I’m turning 40 in two weeks and I waited for marriage all these years, I still haven’t found him. And the ones who slipped away.... I have no regrets. You were not made for me and I’m at peace with that. I feel joy in my heart because being faithful to Christ all these years is a blessing not a curse. I feel lucky..... because that was my reason for waiting in the first place. To prove my commitment to Christ 1st and I accomplished that. Most people can’t do what we did even while they are married think about that. If you waited this long chances are you will be faithful to Him till the end. 👍 He made you this way, you are rare ❤️
Yes!!! Same!!! Committed to Christ is number 1. How can we truly commit to someone else if we can’t commit to God. Although I do still have the desire, I’ve come to realize that I’m actually content in my singleness... now. It took the Lord years to get me to this point but I’m good. Marriage is no walk in the park and if I’m going to be blessed with a God fearing husband then I equally have to be a godly woman. Congratulations on your walk with Christ. I pray nothing deceives you from your relationship with Him.
As for me, marriage is not for me, because I’d rather serve the Lord instead. For I know I am never alone for Christ is with me, and I meditate in his truth as much as I can.
Thank you for this :) 31 and single, and yes it's quite difficult especially when everyone around you gets to experience what you have been longing for. In my prayer and fasting, I was rebuked by God and He showed me that I only see marriage as a way not to be alone, He saw that if I am to be married now I will make that marriage an idol and will put my security there when instead it should be on God. Somehow, I come to understand that being married is not the end goal. This helped me put myself back to focus which is to love and serve the Lord and sharing His gospel. It's a challenging path to be single but Praise be to God for His grace and mercy that sustains us all every single day.
I’m 31 and single as well. I’m torn between not letting marriage become an idol while still making my request known to God. Sometimes I wish I didn’t want it at all and pray for the desire to be taken away.
See and what makes this harder for me.. it isn’t the fact I’m alone.. it’s the fact that I know god is around the corner.. it is so obvious that the rapture is closer than ever and I am barely 21.. since I was young I always thought of marriage.. but I’m afraid that I’ll never find my other half before gods coming and I know focusing on god is more important for eternal life but at the same time in the back of my head I still want to find her… pray for me y’all…
Thanks for this video! I’ve been single my entire life, and for a long time, I thought I’d never find anybody. I’ve been told my standards are too high by people who are in horrible relationships or those that lowered their standards because they were desperate for love. As I’ve grown in Christ, I don’t think about it as much anymore. I just want to grow in Christ and enjoy life as much as possible.
never had a girlfriend never had that many friends. struggled with temptations with pornography and fleshly desires. God continue to give me strength. i will wait on him God to give me the word. i will wait on her where ever you are beautiful if i never meet u i pray ill meet u in the heavenly gates
im sorry to hear...i mean fuck's sake, being cheated on is one of the worst things which can happen in a relationship. good riddance to that woman whoever she was!
I’ve been crying about this for months. I’m waiting until marriage to have sex and honestly no one understands my frustration with being single. It’s like people are constantly saying “you’re young it’ll happen, just be patient” but between social media, my peers, romantic movies, books, and music my yearning is stronger than ever. My longing to become a wife and mother feels unbearable at times. I’m only 24 and I know God will bless me with my person one day but it’s rare that people talk about the true suffering that this season can bring. The crippling loneliness, sexual frustration, and spiritual battle you constantly face trying to do things the way God expects you too. Thank you for making this because I’m just tired.
I know about frustration Jaylen. I sustained an injury that caused me to be unable to make love and consequently be unable to be married. Jesus mentions all sorts of reasons people will never marry in Matthew 19:12-14. But you can choose to serve him and others. Yes it is not easy, but Heaven is worth any price!
I'd drop the romantic books and novels. I notice that they are to women what porn is to men. And unfortunately porn is often consumed by women now as well. I think that the society in which we live nowadays has become anti-marriage, ego-centric, and its influence has been seeping into the Church to boot.
Every single Christian must watch this!! Worth watching. I'm a single christian too. Let's just be patient about marriage, it's better to WAIT than to FORNICATE!. God bless everyone❤
They certainly have. I like the church.im at now where people aren't pairing up one another so they can all be "married" by 30 and have kids by 35. That's not what the bible preaches about.
Literally needed this today. I'm 21 years old and I've been healed from so much insecurity due to the fact that I've never had a boyfriend...not by choice either (partially) but because guys I've liked have always rejected me, or when I got to college only wanted sex, and it's so frustrating at times because the guys who do seem interested are only ones I'm not interested in/attracted to. By the grace of God I've overcome so much hurt from rejection and feeling ugly and worthless because I recieve truth from God everyday and I know the truth but every now and then it just gets to me and it's hard not to fall into depression and hopelessness. God definitely sees and hears me. Thank you for posting this!
Beautiful testimony Sis!! I’ve literally felt the same way and have experienced this too!! I’m 25 and everyday it’s a struggle but God’s grace is sufficient! One day at a time it gets easier!
I'm in the same boat, also 21. Never been on a date, and it's been on my mind a lot lately that there's actually a whole mountain of insecurity there that I've just never addressed. Like I've always chatted and fantasized about my future life and husband (as most girls do) but lately I'm realizing how terrified I am of it all. I know God sees and hears the both of us...but it's difficult to feel that sometimes. I hear both the voice of scripture and the voice of hopelessness constantly, I just try my hardest to pay more attention to the voice of scripture.
@@jericawilson1484 It is super hard not to let negative thoughts overtake and make us fall into hopelessness. But from glory to glory what God says about us will become more and more solidified the more we spend time with Him and the more we replace the lies of the enemy with the truth. Don’t give up and keep believing! ♥️
Amen sir. Amen. I was married twice. Both unequally yoked marriages. God saved me and planted my feet on solid ground with peace not like the world. I am good. Praise God.
I am going through a lonely single season of life right now. In my culture (I am from South Korea), if you are unmarried until 33-34, chances are you won't be able to find a suitable partner for the rest of your life. At the age of 30, I have never been in a serious relationship and no man pursuing me which makes me feel like I am less than good women out there. But here I am, trying to get up again by listening to God's word. I will try to believe that God has arranged this lonely time so I can follow him and get to know his will.
I am 55 years young with no children and I love my life. As evil and lawlessness increases in our world along with the hard reality of distinguishing a Christian from worldly people uh I rather be single. I have seen it all and I do not want the drama in my life.
Man, it's like swallowing a rock to deal with being the only single adult male in church while everyone else is dating and married. I've been avoiding all church events and small groups because I feel so out of place and can't relate to anyone, feeling like I'm fighting battles on my own!
I just started avoiding the same this summer:( I want to be a part of my lovely church, but these have been my reasons to avoid. Thank you for mentioning that!
I have not been growing in my church at all and mainly because of this reason. I've been contemplating looking for a community where I can somehow find people I can fight and relate my current life transition. I don't know what to do.
I am waiting on the Lord for a spouse. I am young, but my desire is to get married. My low confidence makes me feel like I am waiting in vain. But I will continue to wait upon the Lord as that is the best thing I can do.
Anath maybe this is something God wants you to be working on before He sends a future mate your way. You must bring confidence into a marriage because it requires 2 WHOLES not 2 halves.
Single and at 29 I feel blessed to be closer to God. I was always dating someone and lost touch with myself and God. I have my days but overral I enjoy this new life. Waiting and praying. Using this season to fulfill my passions and career path. Thank you for this video! 💓
I'm 56 and still haven't met the right one. But God has me focused on my music for his glory with a Christian Contemporary Rock Band. He knows I want to have a husband someday. But this time I need to wait on him. I was happy for friends who married but I was still sad for me. It's one blessing I haven't received yet. But I know I screwed up and I don't want to do that again. I don't share anything anymore unless they ask. But I know God knows best deep down. If it's meant to be he will send me someone. For now I am focusing on serving God and pleasing him.
Sometimes I feel content on my own, other times I feel lonely. As I have become older I am more at peace with it. I know for a fact that I am over 'singles ministry' and Christian dating agencies...they are just too awful 😄
I think what he meant by singles ministry is not " meat other single Christians to find a spouse" but fellowship with other Christians who are not married and staying that way, at least for now. That I have never seen.
Preach it..!! No more.. the Christian dating sites are the worst horror freak shows :D Mostly a playground for divorced people finding happiness in each other, while a single never married woman (or men too) are shunned and mocked. Every time I gave them a chance, it was awful and just cost me so much mental sanity. God has to create some new, innovative channels for His people to meet.
I gave up and just asked God to leave me single. It’s been about 12 years or longer, I’m starting to get use to this single life. This world is almost dead anyway, now I just hope and pray that I’ll be with the Lord Jesus. That’s when I will finally be happy.
I've asked God many times to make me be not attracted to women and to not desire anyone. I can't get anyone anyways so at least if I didn't desire anyone I wouldn't feel bad....
At a singles conference I attended in Illinois in 1995, one of the pastors made this point: God is not calling you to look for the right person, but to be the right person.
To be fair, I see nothing wrong with that. This world is indeed looking very grim, and frankly I wouldn't be surprised if the end is in either our lifetimes or the next generation's. I mean at the pace things are going, how much more perverse and defeated can this planet become? I was born in 1989 and things have transformed multiple times in ways that have never happened in history. Anyway, point being that perhaps we are being told by God that we need to mentally prepare for possible persecution and that we need to spread the word before it is too late.
I'm a young, single, Christian man who has never dated or had a girlfriend before. At 24 years of age I'm learning to accept and be content in my singleness. For a while I felt as if I was in "incomplete" man because I had never been with a woman before. This is because secular culture programmed the idea in my mind as a teenager that part of being a man meant “getting laid” as much as possible. Fortunately, I’ve learned that a real, complete man is full of virtue, loves the Lord and his neighbor as himself, bears fruits of the Spirit, and is responsible, accountable, and empathetic. This helps me anchor my self-image, confidence and contentment in Christ, who is a stable foundation that cannot be shaken.
Thank you for this. I am just 2 months away from turning 18, never dated, and desire to be married one day and raise a family. I pray to the Lord many times a week to send me the right girl at the right time, in His will not mine. But it gets hard sometimes, I often times struggle with self confidence, and in alot of ways, a quieter individual. Which I worry will hurt and harm my future dating/courtship life. I've seen one of my closest childhood friends get married just last year and it was hard for me, yes I was happy and joyful for her and her husband but I couldn't help but overthink I am never experience that. The joy, happiness, love, looking into someone's eyes and saying "I love you". Sorry for the long read, needed to get this off my chest. God loves yall.
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Oh yes I know what it's like.
I remember the tears and the online Christian dating sites. But one thing I never did was to compromise biblical standards. Stay pure!
I am going to share with my community. Love and many blessings.
You've a beautiful family too ❤️
Thank you so much Brother Allen for this it does give me hope to not give up but keep trusting in God
Thank you, Mr. Parr! Not only is this so relevant for me, but as a highly-conscientious-creative person: I admire and respect the production value on this new type of video with your voiceover. Well done!
As a 26 year old single Christian man I can so relate to this. But also I think a lot of the time us Christian singles can idolize marriage and desire it more than God. I idolized marriage for many years and was so depressed in my singleness, but last year I finally started repenting of my idolatry towards marriage. By God’s grace these last eight months have been the most contentment I’ve ever felt in my singleness. If you’re reading this I want to encourage you that it is possible to be content in singleness while still desiring marriage! It’s a great and holy thing to desire marriage but let’s check our hearts not to be idolizing it!
Great point! Thank you 😊
Wow! You are right, you made me realize that I've idolized marriage, thank you for this comment! Have a blessed day. Stay safe!
Amen!
Great point!
But I guarantee if you stay just like that still single with 0 prospects for the next ten years you will be down in the dumps too. Some might call that idolatry but we are human and the Bible says hope deferred makes the heart sick
I was single for 28 years and intentionally didn't want to have any girl friend. I chose to devote that time to serve the Lord. In the end, God blessed me with a beautiful wife. If you are single and desire to get married, hang tight; don't rush it. Serve God faithfully, position yourself well, and I trust that He will lead you to your spouse.
Thank you
From what age are you calculating the 28 years ...Lol
@@JRM410 very good question
@@JRM410 What I'm saying becauuuuse are we going from birth or from 30 😂
I really need this
My fears in my singleness:
•Never marrying
•Marrying late (in my 40’s)
•Watching my younger family members get married before me
•My parents passing before watching me walk down aisle
So true. These are all my concerns.
🙏🏻✝️🕊
SAMEEEEE!
I agree, some days I could care less about looking forward to marriage and then others I wish my grandmother will be able to see that day. Marrying in the 40s is a hard one lol but I recently seen someone I know do so, and there is no doubt she is with the right man. They recently had a gorgeous baby girl too, by miracle, and in the midst of COVID. Every time I see her, my faith increases and I'm just in awe of God.
@@stephanieb5019 God is so good!
almost 35 and a virgin. The days just seem to get harder and harder. Thank you for transparency.
I’m editing this 3 years later in 2024!! I really didn’t want to but I felt I should: I met my now husband in 2022. We were long distance but it was worth it because we had both waited and knew what we wanted. We got married in 2023, bought a house, just 2 months later found out I was pregnant. Baby is due in October! Don’t lose hope or perspective. I can’t promise this for anyone else but trust me, he and I both know how it feels to wait on God. Just keep pursuing Jesus, life goals, stay present, and cherish your relationships. There are many good things about being married and pregnant later in life (if that’s Gods will or course) Be blessed 🙏🏻
Youre so blessed..I wish from the depths of my heart I had waited till I was married and honored the Lord's word.
Well lets ask allan to introduce a allan parr international christian dating site i feel u now 8 years div its the thought of growing old all alone that scares me....south africa
@@ravzrangasamy7828 You will find someone, don't lose hope brother. Be blessed.
What a blessing!!! I
@@narkmallingerugardentool6217 It’s possible. I was until I was thirty-three. My cousin is 31 and still is. Pretty girl, educated and well-traveled.
I'm 44 this year never married no kids. I came to Christ in late 30s.
Now I'm serving God in Church.
It's not easy journey to be alone.
I'm 40 and never married. I'm very encouraged by your honesty and your commitment to using your singleness in serving God. I agree, singleness can be really hard sometimes.
Thanku sarah for being honest.
Am 39 single never married and serving in the ministry.It is really hard when people feel that we don’t understand them because we are not in their shoes. They have to see we are like this because are married to God’s ministry 🥰
@@Musings82 we are in it together. Walking with God
@@assumptav we are walking with God. The best relationship status so far.
i want to say thanks for comments--i am so glad, i am stay in single, but one problem, i am really so addiction to porn--- but today, until i watched this youtube-- and read comments.--- everyone pray for me-- i need to overcome that stupid porn-- i really want to serve our God--- i need God so badly. thanks, everyone.
Just what I needed. Been crying for an hour telling God how much my soul hurts cause I yearn so much for a soulmate who I can share my heart and soul with. Someone who can give me cuddles when I’m sad. Please pray for me. I just want to know God’s love and know how much he loves me.
Could not relate more. This video was incredibly timely and I plan to return to it during my loneliest times and when I’m tempted to give in and settle, just to feel beautiful and wanted. Brother Allen explained the battle so well. It’s a real and daily struggle. So thankful for him and his ministry and to know I’m not alone.
Laura, God has someone for you. Don't give up and keep looking...he's out there waiting for you!💗💞 You'll be in my prayers!
There really is power in prayer and I’ve personally found that if you call out to God for love and comfort then the Holy Spirit will comfort you and give you a sense of true love and peace of heart and mind. Maybe your loneliness is how God feels towards most of the human race right now. For me every night I always call out to God before I go to bed and ask that the Holy Spirit hold me and give me peace and love at night so I can sleep.
We do not need another person to make us complete. We can be happy being alone. Taking care of our health and upgrade ourselves. It does not mean we have to get a cert or something. . Not everyone is made for marriage. You may fail God once, it does not mean you have to stay there. I know there are many ridiculous people out there saying all kinds of nasty things. Let them say what they like. My life is not your life. We all have desires but it does not mean we have to fulfil it every time we have urge. God gives us strength to overcome. For those who stay singles, there is nothing to feel ashamed of. So do not give in to that kind of lie, it is not shameful being singles! I thought I need to get married but then when opportunities come, I just feel irk! Past experiences is not the deciding factor. I love my present life....but if you think you really need to get married, I am sure you will find your life partner one day. Do not have to be despair while waiting. Don't think it is always your fault when things do not work out, facts!
@@mday3821 How can we look when there are no options though? Its like everywhere I go I cant even get a prospect. There are no places to meet anybody and I have tried online dating so many times I have lost count and its always been like this. :(
I literally prayed asking God to meet my loved one and I get this notification....there are no coincidences
Coincidence is God’s way of remaining anonymous.
@@jeffersonjacob2375 why should God remain anonymous?
Read The Bible.
Literally the same thing happened to me
I’ve been receiving a lot of these vids in my recommended, and I haven’t been searching them uo
Same thing happened to me
This was so good. I am a 62 year old single woman. Never been married. I've been engaged and called off both. God said no. The first time I was not saved but went to church every Sunday. I recognized his voice and accepted Christ. The next day I called off that engagement. At my age I still want marriage, but have given up. My friends believe it will happen for me. Waiting for the right one who I can be honored to call him husband.
Soon to be 61 & never been married & no children. It's tough at this age when your siblings have children & grandchildren. And I often wonder where did my life go wrong? Perhaps it didn't. Perhaps at this late age, one must accept being childless & without a spouse & know that this is the course God had for my life.
53 and never married, finally God gave me peace with my singleness. There are still times when the desire comes back but nothing like before.
Why did you and God call off the engagement, out of curiosity.
So proud of you sister 💕
60 years never married single no children but i have 21 living nephews and nieces. But not sad. I know God plan for me is true.
I'm 46 y.o., no wife, no children, been single all my life. Lost all hope, live alone, been living on disability over a decade, seeing my former friends, other friends colleagues, married, or with a partner, sometimes I feel envy, jealousy, or even depressed.
(Major deep depression at that). Many sleepless nights and/or many nights crying myself to sleep alone. I've already given up, but idk why, but watching this video, I've felt a little light in my darkest years of single life; drowned, dead in the water, but recesitate to life.
Hang in there bro I’ll pray for you 💗
@@liljmarian7327 thank you, but trying my best to hold on.
I know how you feel. I'm 45 and alone too. It pisss me off that I can't get anyone. I don't know why God chose to make some people really attractive and desirable and some not.
Of course I gotta be the unattractive one apparently!!
I'm in almost the exact same boat my man. Disabled since 2008, poor as dirt, live in a dump of a home, all which will no NO APPEAL to anyone. Sadly everyone does not and will not lead a supper blessed personal life while serving the Lord. Look and all the servants in the Bible. Constantly on the road, constantly attacked, jailed, beaten, and even murdered. Jesus NEVER said serving him and the Father would be a bed of roses. Some peoples lives just suck weather they are a believer or not. DOESN'T mean God does not love us. I am thankful for everything he has blessed me with. An income, home, car, good food, and so on. MANY PEOPLE in this world don't have any of these things. Praying for you that the Spirit gives you the strength to endure!!!
This is my prayer right now, I understand why God kept me single all these years (41) I did not have the right attitude and would have chosen the wrong man I hope now I am born again my soul mate will find me. I wish you luck and will pray for you
I usually don’t post long comments but if you are struggling in being single please read I hope this can bless you in some way-
I am single and al of my best friends are married and building families now. When they were getting married, I was losing the one I thought I’d marry to drugs (we’ve been split almost 5 years now) I was first angry with God for taking him away and blessing all my friends around me. In my season of heartache everyone was rejoicing. But then I learned what it means to really be with Jesus . The biggest thing that changed was having a prayer life. I’d pray daily and talk with God. I can really say in cultivating a prayer life my cup has overflowed and I treasure so much those moments with Jesus in prayer. I know that marriage is a blessing so I don’t mean to talk down about it at all, but I am just saying I am grateful for the sheer amount of time I have to be alone with God, time that you wouldn’t have as a married person. My prayer if you’re struggling with being single is that you would feel His love overflow in you and that the Holy Spirit would give you supernatural revelation of how loved you are by Him and that you’d be completely satisfied by the riches of his grace 🙏🏼
Thank you for sharing your testimony. It isn't so easy, but it is so worth it. I've been spending more time with God recently, not because I want Him to answer prayers, but just because I want more of Him. I left my singleness in His hands and trust Him because God knows best.
I associate with the loneliness too, watching this video I saw the 2 getting married, my thoughts were about who I'd have as a best man, got to have friends first xD
Be blessed and I hope you are completely satisfied in God as you leave your desires in His hands.
Right now I'm walking that way, I'm 36 and Single and ask God to fill me with his Love and Grace so I can be fully satisfied, no that I'm rejecting a person in the future only God knows if a person is showing up in the future, but at this moment is just me and my Lord Jesus.
Beautiful message, God Bless you sister.
Thanks for the words. I was on the opposite side. I was heading down a path of alcoholism and didn’t know it and she left me. I have been single ever since and just have felt like I was being punished. I have chances to date but it wasn’t good for either person. I am starting to be alright with myself and have been sober for 15+ months but I don’t feel like I’ll ever find anyone as I’m extremely shy around females I don’t know and am terrified of rejection. Thank you again for your experience
That was beautiful, thank you❤️
Thank you
Yes, I feel lonely at times. I'll be 44 in a few months and it hurts because I've never been married. I refuse to settle and will keep my standards high. In the meantime I'm focusing on my purpose and volunteering my time teaching dance fitness at a womens shelter. I feel happy when I'm giving back. Thank you so much for this message.
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Thank God
Amen, girl! Travel and enjoy your family and friends. I’m in the same boat but I stopped worrying about it years ago. I have a good time with my family and friends. I have several nieces and nephews that look to me like a second mom. Just last week my parents and I were n New Orleans and we had a good time. I just think of how awesome God is and if he could give Sarah, Hannah, Elizabeth children in their old age and if he literally spoke the world into creation I know there’s nothing too far gone for him to give to me. As a matter of fact, I was talking with my mom who says this lady she knows always wanted a baby but didn’t give birth until she was fifty. Her and her husband became parents for the first time. Another lady in India gave birth to twins at 73. These are beautiful things and reminds me that God is still in the business of working miracles. Keep your head up and don’t let this season of life rob you of your joy.
Your volunteer service sounds amazing, Andrea. Keep going!!
@@tennesseeminnissi2445 Amen🤗
@@angelt.5276 Thank you so much. 🤗
Today, I quit. I will quit trying to force it. I can’t take it anymore.
Never give up. I can empathize what your dealing with but don't let the Devil tell you your alone and you'll never find anyone I'm sure you will. I wanted more than anything to be married but it hasn't happened yet. If it had been then I wouldn't have become a missionary in Alaska and accomplished so much in the past 4 years. Everything is in God's timing whether we agree or not. Hang in there and don't give up.
I feel you sis. My ex wife cheated and left me for her ex. We have a son together. It's been 2 years and I'm still struggling with it
Sometimes it’s good to give in. Like how we gave into Christ. We have everything we need, if we get marriage then that’s a great gift
I agree you shouldn't "force" it. But there's a fine, blurry line between quitting and acceptance (for the time being, perhaps)
Same here
Pray for all the singles who feel this way, as a woman who’s been abandoned by her husband; I know and understand this loneliness. God Is good, a God of justice, and wise. Have faith and trust in what he’s doing in the unseen reality. Amen 🙏🏼
Thank you, God bless you ❤
It’s really hard when you have been married and now are single and have had the taste or intimacy and companionship and now it’s gone. Was married 26 years and was told by my husband he found someone new and wanted them instead.
I feel you. My husband took his life so I was left with my four year old. It's extremely hard especially when the church have their own views on things. Compassion and Jesus is so important in these times of loss.
@@LisaLisaCJ I am now getting divorced after 31 years of marriage after finding out my husband has been cheating on me with several woman, but God is with me all the way. ☺ God bless.
Lol
Allen...thank you. I needed this badly today. I’m 32. Yesterday, I got the “You’re an amazing guy, but...” speech, and I’m attending a wedding tonight. I got really depressed and angry with God last night. Thank you for your honesty and refusal to sugarcoat this issue. I know people mean well, but I get so sick of married people saying, “Oh, just have faith. It’ll happen!” People who got married at 22 are saying these things like they know and understand the struggle! Anyway, thank you for this. I’m desperately trying to trust God today.
Amen! I know exactly how you feel with the people who got married in their early 20s trying to encourage me through singleness. It can be so frustrating but it's comforting to know there's other people like us, who know exactly what we're going through.
@TheJeffhero No. Right now, I’m really focused on full-time ministry and grad school. If someone special comes along, I’ll definitely make time for them, but I’m not actively seeking to date (going out to meet potential dating partners, using online dating sites, etc) at the moment. I’m just too busy for that. If it happens right now, it’ll have to be through church or mutual friends or them finding me like a heat-seeking missile, haha.
@@ryanhoward8694 Is marriage a ticket for Heaven ? Is singleness evil ? What is the will of God ? To save everybody or to marry everybody ? If the person you love more than yourself never comes, what will you do ? Keep being loved and lovely imitating our Lord Jesus Christ, this is the ticket for Heaven.
@@itube2506 I believe you mean well, brother, but what you just said is incredibly dismissive. Yes, I know that singleness/marriage is not what determines anyone’s eternal destiny. That’s not the issue. I desire to be a husband and a father, and it can frustrating and painful to watch that happen for so many others as I continue to get older. I am allowed to feel pain and be frustrated with God even as I trust Him and cry out to Him. The writers of the Psalms sure seem to think we can do that. Saying what you just said to me comes off dismissive and insensitive, as if my emotional pain is somehow an affront to God. It’s the equivalent of saying, “Just have faith!” to someone struggling with doubts. It’s unhelpful and extremely frustrating for the person struggling.
32 is still a baby...I will turn 39 in January and Never even been in a relationship in my entire life. NO male ever liked me to this day. No man is around me and I don't see any hope.
What also needs to be said is that some people will never get married, even though they long for it. The lifelong struggle will be their cross to bear and Christ will be their reward - now and for eternity.
Being single is hard. Being married is hard. Being divorced is hard. Being widowed is hard. Being without Christ... infinitely more difficult than any of the aforementioned statuses.
Remember that this Earthly life, with all of its struggles, is not going to last forever. We're not even promised tomorrow. Keep things in perspective.
The primary purpose for believers while on Earth is to share the Good News and to make disciples. Everything else is secondary.
Wow my life l am 37 yrs old no kids never been engage never married l am single and lonely this is exactly my life lm literally in tears
I feel you i am 42 never been married and no children. Waiting on the lord.
remember wait on the LORD 😲
At least you have grandchildren
You can still have a full life. In the meantime, cultivate your relationship with the Lord and enjoy your friends and family. Travel, try new things and foods and while you’re doing stop worrying and feeling down that you don’t have a mate. If you’re waiting to have joy in life once you have a mate you’ll never learn the beauty of being contented in whatever situation you are in. It’s all for a reason and a purpose. Stop crying. You can enjoy life at any phase it just takes an adjustment in perspective.
@@vicepresidentmikepence889 You have nieces and nephews?
Been single over 4 years now, I'm starting to think my expectations are too high. 😑 but seriously though, why is it so hard to meet a guy who loves God more than you?
And your family is super beautiful Allen. God bless y'all.
Keep the faith sister. I am also in the waiting. You are not alone.
yeah
25 and been single all my life and no guy has ever been interested in me or creeps are and sucks....
You know what's funny, I be saying the same thing..if only I can find a woman that embodies Luke 14:26 ' If anyone comes to me and does not hate father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters-yes, even their own life-such a person cannot be my disciple'. 😩🤷♂️ But all I mostly see are women trying to look all glamorous and live a comfortable Christian life. Like, where did the scripture 'take up your cross and follow me go'??? -Matt 16:25 🤷♂️ a Christian life isn't meant to be easy. The servant cannot be greater than the master.
If only I could find a woman willing to lose her life for Christ's sake..when did the gospel turn into prosperity 😩😩😩😔
I want a woman on 🔥 for God!! Not me.
@@Bhuy5 🙌👏👍🏾🙏🏾👌🏽God bless you Bro, that's a good mindset. Our singleness time is used so that we can truly embrace the Cross, and be established in a real deny-self type of commitment.
32 and been single all my life, don't lose hope people you're not alone.
I'm 30 and never been asked out. I can relate to everything in this video except for past relationships. I hope I don't have to wait another 10 years. One thing that really upsets me is it's impossible to completely avoid being asked about my relationship history and I hate talking about it. All I get is judgement and negativity, and I don't trust anyone to open up about that area of my life as almost everyone ends up using it to humiliate me. I really wish my life turned out differently than it did.
@@101runaways Paul became Christ-Sufficient! We can be too! We are children of GOD!!!
And if you need a physical thing then learn an instrument. I learned guitar. You bend those notes, wack the strings with your pick, and cry without tears.
It's a true comfort holding your cherished guitar.
Or build your career! You have more than enough time and little responsibiltiy for others. Use that and thrive!
Me too, I'm even the same age. It's not easy but it's nice to see I'm not alone.
Yeah but i am 46. Not a good sitch this old.
I’m only a little bit younger than you Charlie but that hurts to hear that. Especially how your in situations pushing for your history.
There’s a really good concept I’ve realized in the last year and I wonder if you said this the next time someone is prying if it would help them to stop and think and consider things better.
“Circumstances do not reflect (dictate/ determine ) preferences.” Choose the wording of your choice.
I think it’s a truth that is hard to dismiss. Sadly real life matters such as those who experience abuse, for example, shows just because something happens to someone, that doesn’t mean they wanted it to. With that exact example I would also emphasize “just cause something Does happen doesn’t mean it Should.”
This made me teary. I am 55 years. I decided 4 years ago wait on God instead of trying to things my way. Sometimes it gets lonely but I will keep on persevering in Jesus Name🙏🏾
this isn’t just a philosophy, but it is the truth, and it’s reality (john 14:6). GOD came unto the earth in the likeness of man and HE took the lowly position of a bondservant (philippians 2:7), not to be served, but to serve, and to give HIS Life as a Ransom for many (matthew 20:28). we are not saved because of our own goodness/works, since no one is good (morally perfect), except One, that is, GOD (mark 10:18), but we are saved by the unmerited love and favor of the LORD through faith in HIM and what HE did for us (ephesians 2:4-5). every man is given all he needs to live a Godly life through the knowledge of the LORD (2 peter 1:3). each and every one of us must confess our sins to the FATHER, we must repent (acts 20:21), and we must strive to live our lives all to the glory of GOD in every aspect (1 corinthians 10:31). if we confess our sins, GOD is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us of all unrighteousness (1 john 1:9). when you’re a new creation in CHRIST, old things pass away and all things become new (2 corinthians 5:17)!
To all singles out there, don't worry, I am here for you. Stay strong and never stop praying my brothers and sisters.
Not waiting delivers temporary pleasure and guilt, but waiting makes everything twice as pleasurable TRUST THE LORD HE NEVER FAILS
Thus is very true 🥰🙏
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@Jesus_deserves_your_love I am blessed by your comment🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
if he never fails then why are the comments full of people in their 40's who have been alone and miserable their entire lives
@@InitialPC We don't know the full story behind everyone here. How many people don't actually put God first in everything? How many are obsessed with and idolize marriage?
Regardless of that point, the only thing that matters is that we exist to glorify God and spread His word. If we fail to do these things as someone who has accepted Christ, then there is nothing but despair. Not everyone is going to marry. God does not promise us a spouse. Being content with Him alone is what He wants. It just so happens that the byproduct of living your life for God means you become a very spiritually mature person who is happy regardless of your situation, and that is attractive to others who are saved.
I did not get married until I was 42! And the wonderful part was that there was no doubt that it was God. Be encouraged :)
I'm almost 25 been single forever and have no friends either...I'm not people's type to date or be friends with
...😒😔😫
Jeanette Daley I'm so happy for you!
May God blessings be on your family.
Your age gives me hope on my son who is getting on in age!!
@@mumidigbaro1317 Thank you so much! God's timing :) He will see your son through :)
@@585Courtney I struggled with self esteem issues for a long time ( plus a major introvert) and God began to to fix that in me just before I met my husband. Allow Him to work through that with you. You will be surprised how awesome God has made you
very encouraging!!
We need to stop putting marriage on a pedestal, as a single Christian you can still pursue purpose and be used mightily by God.
I have been single my whole life and I have reached a place of contentment, God is all that I need.
Took the words right out of my mouth, that was well said. Relationships, marriage, casual hookups...all of it is being put on a pedestal and it's only getting worse. Stay content and look up to God always 🙏 Amen.
Not everyone is putting it on a pedestal though. Some people just simply want to have that person who would be their life long companion and intimate friend, beyond what you can have with your other friends.
@@anap1840 That's completely understandable, it's definitely something that we have to fight with to remain content being single. I think what we're getting at is mostly not letting it consume us like it's the main purpose of life, not just Gen Z that is being dramatic about it, a vast majority is acting like a relationship (romance wise) is the objective in life. I get what you're saying though, I even have my moments.
I literally just ache for that companionship and union. You can only take so many years alone and going home alone & waking up alone. Jesus is there - and it’s not always easy to fight to feel him with you - but I guess we keep pressing on till we see his face and don’t have to struggle anymore - his light will fill us fully and we will see him as he is in all his glory. But on earth waiting... it’s so hard
@@steflondon88 If it's fate then God will make it happen, i know it's hard though to sustain that isolation here on earth, it's only human nature to crave that physical connection and mental connection. Never settle and trust in God 🙏
One of the lines that he said that brought tears to my eyes is “not having a warm body to lay next to”. It feels so sad.. humans literally crave another’s warmth. I’ve warmed up a little heat pad and cuddled with it before because I really needed something warm to hold. Singleness can feel very lonely.. 28… still waiting on the Lord..
I'm a still single 38 year old man hugging pillows at night.
This made me cry. I will be 39 in a few months and I cry out to God all
The time asking why I am still single? What is wrong with me. Why am I not worthy of all The happiness others have.
A lot of us are in the same boat. Stay strong. I really don't know what else to say.
Wow, I'm 30. Born again when I was 28.I have never been in a relationship. Never even had a girlfriend. It has been a struggle to say the least. Society says I'm not a man because I haven't been with a woman. Thinking about this kept me back from growing in Christ. 2020 & 21 have been a blessing in disguise for me because the alone time has brought me closer to God. I will continue to walk in faith and serve the Lord during my season of singleness.Thank You for your wise words.
The world is headed for destruction, havibg sex doesn't define who you are. I'm single as well so I understand the frustration but wait on the Lord. I've been through heartache, getting into the wrong relationship aint worth it. God bless!
Society is wrong. Gods word is right. A pure man (whether in body, heart or both) is a very attractive thing. Never be ashamed of that!
Amen brother!
Brother... I was a virgin until I was 35 and God brought my wife @KenadyNash into my life. Don’t worry about society. Focus on your relationship with the Lord. Remember, God loves your personality brother and your future mate will love it also. Allow your personality will draw people to the Lord and everything will take care of itself. ~ Damien
God bless you and keep you. You are a hero in the eyes of God. 👍
This would've broke me if it was posted years back🥺 but now I've learned to be content and asked God to help me on this Wait still.single but at peace🙏🏿🙏🏿
Is well dear God will turn things around for your good
@@richardoforiagyemang7510 thank you my brother 🙏🏿🙏🏿
That's awesome. It sounds like you've matured and grown and that's fantastic!
Welcome my dear sister
@@ashleylester8270 it took a bucket full of mistakes wrong choices to get to this point, you know when you reach a point where you say I've tried it on my own and failed dismally now not my will but Yours be done... Thank you my dear sister 💓
Man this is on time for me. I’ve been really going through it. I’m about to be 30 and have never been in a relationship, had sex, or even kissed a a woman. I’ve shaken my fist at God regrettably. I’m seeing that my value first comes from him.
Same here
I think that's admirable. I may not be 30, but I hope to be in the same spot when I am 30. Trust me, it's better to focus on yourself and your own personal growth than to waste time on people who will drag you down. I'm sure you have dodged many bullets brother.
Me too my friend, no need to worry though, God had a plan for us all
Keep positive and keep looking but keep your eyes set on Jesus, once you see him, you'll only want him.
@@brianpendez5340 period.
Pressure to get married for women is greater than men... I'm 36 single woman, and I feel like God is pushing me to verge of backsliding... Recently got cheated on and I feel so lost rn. Please pray for me and those who experience the same situation. Thank you brothers and sisters in Christ
32 and single, thank you for this word! Feeling lonely is the hardest thing, that you don't have anyone to share your thoughts, feelings, purpose in life to walk in Christ. I wish I could talk with someone about faith in our Lord.
I have been happily married for 35 years come Oct 21, but I truly wish that that such worthwhile messaging was available in my single days. So much encouragement.
Amen brother. Congrats on 35 years!
@@thebeatagp Allen I am Born again 1991 and went Astray I think I was just too young leaving home to go off to school....my family HOLINESS and not once did I feel or sense Spiritual warfare or put on armor....I just want Holy Spirit and power and not be Depression and sick....from world I didn't understand I was open to lying demons and stuck career...I feel BACKWASDS and sick Miserable like something was taken from me trapped.... mentally sick and nerve attackes Spiritually Because I got saved and wasn't FightingSpiritually WARRING....WHAT CAN BE DONE ...I am not RIGHT anf feel Him leave ..THIS ANGER me because I should have gotten back up quickly and asked for help instead of toss off first LOVE....Satan took way more advantage Because of HOLINESS background. Took me down and and Inwant God back and be worth something purpose instead of His enemy when I was saved......lost everything....job house etc car....just threw it away living Ignorant for self...I am feeling Spiritually dead and trapped....
I had to repent because as I was driving home from work in the car athe Holy Spirit said to me "seek my face. My hand is a husband, my face is my presence. Seek my face." This spoken word truly reset my focus. Let him find me in Your Presence Lord.
What beautiful words!
Beautiful and so true.
Wow. Good word!
I love this ❤️
At fifty I'm still a virgin. I no longer struggle with physical temptation but battle envy, resentment and bitterness. My best years are over. Not worth putting myself out there. Hopefully I'll be in Heaven soon. This life stinks and there's no hope for me here. This world really is a Vale of Tears. Christians need to acknowledge how ugly life below can be like they did a century ago. Our theology has become too shallow and unrealistic. Especially theodicy. Sometimes unhappiness, loneliness and suffering are God's will for your entire life.
I hear you. I'm a virgin as well. I get envy and bitterness around couples too. It's a battle everyday. Life is suffering.
But remember that there's a lot more people like you and me. You're not alone. Find good fellowship with friends and also learn how to love yourself. In the grand scheme of things, keep your eye on the prize, Jesus. Life is pain, but pain is temporary. We won't have to worry about loneliness anymore in heaven. In the meantime, try to live your life and find joy in other things. That's what I've been trying to do.
@@pointbreak2811 no marriage of convenience to some entitled, doddering, senile old widower looking for a nurse maid in his declining years will have been worth the wait. Not the decades of loneliness and heartbreak. Some hideous, ancient "sweet widower" touted as my happy ending to look forward to ("God's best for you" but not God's best for normal people saying this patronizing crap) is not worth it. Someone else's leftover, rotting scraps. Just skip all the beautiful parts--cut out all the romance, passion, spontaneity, joy, affection, shared memories, and connection--and go straight to the sickbed where you will be his free nurse till he dies. And remember he thinks he's doing you a favor and all the church people will tell you how lucky/blessed you are and expect you to have a big, fancy wedding to celebrate becoming his free nursemaid and pretend it's a real marriage and that you have feelings for each other. He would probably smell bad and physically repulse me so horribly I'd struggle to kiss him without throwing up in my mouth.
No thanks! I prefer to reject this "gift."
Better stay alone forever. Bad as things are they could get worse. A loveless sham marriage to a "sweet" old widower would be far worse than staying unwed.
Praying for all of my single brothers & sisters in Christ!
Me and my ex broke up a month ago, yesterday I started a fast to get closer to God and have him give me peace and reveal to me answers. This here was an affirmation that I am on the right path. I've surrendered to his will. Thank you so much Allen.
This is awesome!
Allan, your video just made a 72 year old man cry. I went through all the same pains you did with some life twists. One failed marriage after another total of 4 wives, married 1 twice. I've been single for over 20 years now and haven't dated since the long distance email breakup. Don't feel sorry for me because I don't feel sorry for me. I'm alone most of the time but I'm never lonely . Years ago I read Matthew 19:12 and found peace because God sometimes says no when you ask for something. I asked for the right woman and just couldn't find her. Now go hug your wife and tell her I said you are the luckiest man in the world because she said yes.
I'm 36 years old and I've been single my whole life and it is a very tough pill to shallow. Every time this subject comes up I have to force myself to say "God let your will be done, not my own."
Oh I’ve been there and it’s so tough.
You'll be fine dear. All is well.
I felt that... Because that is me too. 😔
36 years old from Costa Rica and I'm in the same situation, is though.
I use to have a list because I thought I could manifest the man of the dreams. Now, my list is gone and I ask for God’s will. I will wait for God.
I’ve watched a lot of videos on Christian singleness on TH-cam and this is one of the few that actually bring me peace. Others feel like a lecture on “why you’re still single” or “just be content in Christ” as opposed to “I understand you, there’s hope.” And coming from Allen Parr and knowing his testimony, this just feels that more authentic.
Been single for 28 years. But I learned to be content of where I am right now. Blessed to be single. My desire for marriage is slowly fading away.
Are you still looking?
@@TexRed1845 don't worry about him
God had tooken care of him
Divorced for almost a year now. Still believing for God to reconcile my backslidden spouse. Waiting for Jesus to remove the veil of deception. This walk is lonely. BUT JESUS! Hes all I have and Im grateful that even if my flesh is hurting and alone my spirit is full and has a comforter through this difficult process.
Trust God 🙏!
Yes ma'am! Give it to the Lord!
@@ashleylester8270 I am 46 and a PK AND Total turned from God DECEIVED and I to world listen to lies on a career and just not focused not WARRING don't know God and was so sick and out here....lost everything house car job etc . living for myself and didn't understand or know ...no husband or child... poisoned and Seriously No nornal
Feel I tried returning to God but was ATTACKED and just not well ... something damaging happened and distrustful so many bad issues and trauma....not sure what to do as I see GOF AND HIS SPIRIT WAS WHAT I needed most .. JUST. upset forget marriage...my entire soul body and life is DAMAGE from lies and saved People around me who said nothing....
@@TriciaRP I understand
PHENOMENAL!!!!!! I’m 43, never been married, no kids, and have wanted to give up several times. I have had several thoughts from the enemy thinking something is wrong with me. This video has really encouraged me. Thank you again, for your transparency and encouragement.
Stay strong sis. Never been married either and it is a heartbreak. Better alone than with an abuser and a manipulator. May the Father bring His best!
I am a straight woman who recognizes a beautiful woman when I see one!! Do not ever let Satan tell you there is something wrong with you. You deserve a handsome prince . Wait for him!!
@@NarnianLady Thank you so much!
@@overcomer4226 Thank you so much, sis!🤗
It’s definitely a battle. I’ll be 40 in may. Divorced for 20 years and haven’t re-married. Don’t lose hope. Praying for you!
Man this video was posted exactly when I needed it
Same
It’s crazy because I literally was just talking to a friend about how hard it is for a Christian to find a soulmate in this day and age. All of the pretty girls that look good are all living for the world, while I’m living for the Lord.😞 It’s hard..
Same here man. Gods timing is perfect!
@@Wjeremiahh @Malachi I totally understand. It goes for both Christian men and women as well. But, I hope youre encouraged that God always came through for those in the Bible who were Single (Ruth, Naomi, Isaac (he was single until he was 40!) And Apostle Paul- all had a tremendous impact on God's purpose!! God's timing is always right! ✅
@@ashleybeverly7328 Thank you so much Bev, means a lot😌
Nothing is too big for The Most High🙏🏽
Amen
I think the key here is learning to be content in all circumstances, because it is REALLY hard as a single to be content, especially when you're a Christian who sees successful Christians in their ministries and almost all of them are married. So it makes it seem like you need that companion, you need that someone special to be an effective witness. But the lesson to be learn from this is that you are an effective witness when you yourself please God.
It's interesting that my singleness has been heavy on my heart! Definitely, God!
Just be happy and content with the fact of not having someguy cheat on you , not lie or secretive with you..talk crap about you to others,who emotionally, sexually, physically, mentally manipulative or abusive towards you.
@@585Courtney it seems like you may have gone through a lot. I don’t know you personally but I definitely will pray that God heals you and sends you the person who He intended you to be with 😌 I’m so sorry dear, my heart aches for you 😥
@@Mori_Shands
I haven't been cheated on by my family has had bad experiences ...sooo
@@585Courtney True... yea so has mine! I can be in prayer for your family as well ☺️🙏🏾
@@Mori_Shands thank you ♥️
Man I so needed this I just turned 40 thinking will I ever get married? Gods ways are not our ways and as cliche as it sounds we definitely have to trust that HE is up to something good!!! So I’ll keep waiting 🙏🏽♥️
Im 40 too, same here
Me too Sister! I'm encouraged by this message.
I just turned 40 last week been single/celibate for 4years. God has a plan for all is and whatever that plan is will be for our own good. We just need to wait patiently and trust him.
Those who wait on the LORD...😎✊🏾👏🏾🙏🏾🔥
Absolutely!!!
Amen 🙏
Still wait...........
This brought me to tears... That's exactly me ...
Finally someone who understands how I feel. Thank you you nailed it all the way
I was crying last night my heart is broken
Being a single Christian in this world is certainly tough. Especially how society is rapidly growing more perverse. Stay strong and faithful brethrens!
To be fair, Society has always been perverse ...it was just behind closed doors. Now it's out in the open. I think it's actually better this way. Now, you have a quicker chance of knowing what you are dealing with. Back in the day, people were doing all kinds of dirt behind closed doors so you didn't know who you married. No, people do a better job of telling on themselves so you know to avoid them if you choose.
@@lisacox3750 Perversion has certainly gotten worse in today’s society. But it’s still nothing new under the sun, just has king Solomon said.
@@lisacox3750 It's not better because when it was behind closed doors, most of society looked down on perversion.. and it was easier to avoid temptations as well cause you never saw it. Now that's its out in the open.. it's becoming normalized in society and accepted slowly but surely by more and more people. Young people especially will be tempted more often and fall into the pit of sin. So I disagree it's far worse now that it's out in the open because it reflects societies descent into perversion.
This literally couldn't have come at a better time. Currently re-trying dating apps and feel even more discouraged than when I wasn't on them. It's tough dating as a single, and much more difficult when you are Christian.
yes... and my experience is that at my age (middle aged) the ones who are pursued by men are those who've previously been married (widowed or divorced..) aka women, who already 'proved' their desirability factor. Whereas a single. never married woman is seen as a strange and weird creature, who's shunned and ostracised (and played at by divorced men.) It truly is so crazy how the Church has come like the world in many ways.
i going through the sme thing recently
Omg same Ashley!
Look for and find. The Lord Jesus Christ said so. Invite me in your marriage.
I am 26 still struggling with my sexuality. I am a bisexual man but I am out of balance. For my whole life I have been emotionally attracted to women but mostly physically attracted to men. It’s a terrible divide within me. It saddens me that I wouldn’t be able to have both in a spouse. I feel like because of this I’m condemned to a life of loneliness and celibacy. But if that’s my cross I must carry then so be it. I would love to be married to a woman but I’m afraid my physical attraction issue would interfere with our marriage. Not because I wouldn’t be faithful, but because it would physically hurt to resist that temptation every day for the rest of my life. The physical attraction toward men is strong. It’s so strong. I have repented from all sexual sin over a month ago and my body is on fire now. I can’t sleep. It’s making me feel depressed. And I celebrated Easter alone at Church, while I was surrounded by other families and couples that love each other and have each other’s company. My family up North had to celebrate without me too, since I couldn’t travel up there. I am all alone, and I am on fire. I am at my breaking point. I am praying a lot but I don’t even know what to pray for anymore. I’m just sitting and praying. I have faith that God will part the Red Sea within me and give me a spouse that I am somehow physically attracted to and romantically attracted to at the same time, more than I have ever felt in my life. But that is something I simply cannot solve within me. It’s something He has to do. The battle has already been won and I thank Him for it. But I need to find peace in the waiting process and I just can’t. For some reason I just can’t. I’m scared that this is evidence my faith might not be strong enough, and that I’m being a brat and just complaining to God rather than celebrating. But it’s just so hard. Ever since Easter last week, something changed inside me and I just completely broke. And I’m going through all this alone. My mom doesn’t even know. Pray for me.
Sounds like you need deliverance to let go of your sexual attraction to me. You Ned to let that go before getting into any relationship with a women or you'll have some major problems. Check out the supernatural life with Daniel adams on TH-cam or Alexander pagani to learn about it
Hi Mike. I'm sorry to hear about your struggle. The truth is, we all struggle with something no matter how long we've been a Christian. But no matter what it is, the bible says that Christ empathizes with us in our weaknesses and invites us to come boldly to His throne of mercy to obtain grace for whatever we are facing (Hebrews 4:16). Do you believe this? The key is to trust in His word. Your faith in His word as you go boldly before Him will set you free. He'll help you overcome what seems too difficult for you. May you walk in total freedom, in Jesus name. Know that you are special and loved by a God who is advocating for you.
You know what puts into perspective the dangerous sin of lust ?because me being straight and single lusting after men makes no different thank a woman who lusts after another woman. I pray and ask God to see sin the way he sees it. Don't focus on your Loneliness focus on the lust issue in your heart. I'd advise good biblical counseling find someone who can walk with you through these thoughts. Kill the sin in your life, flee from temptation. You may be idolized a relationship. I'm single and sometimes wonder if I ever will be married but what I do know is that I need to work out my faith with fear and trembling at his word because he will set all right. My value is not fixed on being with someone but the blood of christ on that tree that conquered sin I'll pray for you.
Dude, I’ve been there. I completely completely feel that from my core. 110%! You’re not alone
@Mike Same exact situation. You’re not alone.
Brother Parr, how refreshing to hear a Christian leader share the TRUTH about our struggles as single Christians. This was REAL and UNCUT! We are tired of hearing the empty rhetoric offered by well-meaning Christians who don’t have a CLUE! My prayer is that our MARRIED brothers and sisters will LISTEN to this video and seek to understand and stop telling us to “wait on God” because we are already doing that. Instead, show some compassion and listen to us. We aren’t necessarily coming to you for answers...we want and need to be heard and not dismissed. THANK YOU Allen Parr for a WORD IN DUE SEASON! You get it!
I'm 25 and I've been single all my life. In this day and generation, it feels almost impossible to find a woman who meets my God given standards. I have become content with singleness for the most part. When I'm suffering from it, I take the time to look at the world around me, and I realize that marriage is actually a very difficult thing. Divorce rates have never been higher and I know very few people whose parents are still together. With that being said, I try my best to stay content with where I am.
25 and single too, it’s hard
Seems like the only way to be married is to work hard at it
25 and still single to Bro! Hang in there! We’re in this together!💜
Come to 31 and feel it.
Amen Battle Wolf
Thank you Allen, I am a 16 year old and I really needed this. God bless you Allen. Your reward is in heaven.
I needed to hear this, too
Buddy to be honest me and you are very young and this should be the least of our worries now.
Hey even if we are 16 we tend to understand the message. God bless the viewers.
@@JrryThrdJnsFurth You say that, yet teenagers today are being bombarded with pornographic content, sexually suggestive ads/movies/games/whatever else exists, and your peers will have a problem with you for wanting to wait until marriage to have sex (as in they don't believe you and simply see you as a failure).
If anyone needs to hear a message like this, it would be the younger people facing this stuff. As opposed to adults in their 30's, 40's or beyond who have yet to become content with God and God alone. Those of us who are single and "waiting" should be glad to try and help kids/teens through these tough times.
This was one proposal for me, but I turned him down because he was so controlling. I would rather be single, then be in a abusive marriage. I have actually learn to be content being single. There is a gift of being single. Paul was single and encourage others to remain single.😊😊
Same story here
You go Lovey Cat!! YOU GO 😭😭❤❤
Hi Lovely Cat. :-)
You're right about what St. Paul the Apostle wrote.
Not only that, but also remember what the Lord Jesus Himself said:
Jesus said that some men* are born eunuchs, some men* are made into eunuchs by men*, and some men* become eunuchs for the Kingdom of God.
*"men" is how I remember it, and I suspect it means human beings in general, not just the, males.
He also said that angels neither marry nor are given in marriage.
As a 32 single man who had a break up back in January, this is encouraging....thank you.
Siiiiigggghhhhh….😩 This was good though. I felt every.single.word…I just don’t understand what God is doing here but I guess one day I will. 🥲
This is my position today....nearly 15yrs single, knowing there are several women who would like to date me but they dont know Jesus.
It's not easy, lustful desires assault me , I'm in a battle but I will not be defeated because I hide under the shelter of my fathers wings. I trust God with all my heart and I know he will provide my wife. My dating guru is God and I can't wait for the lady he has chosen for me. 🙂🙏
Hi Simom. Im single 7 years mow and also struggling to meet someone that truly loves Jesus. Would be awesome to get to know you !
@@kayleencoward2442 lol...why not? I was just thinking wow, right here all the singles are lamenting over the same issues - they might as well start talking to each other!😁 (just know some men don't like ladies to start 😉)
Lady V absolutely agreed!
I know exactly how you feel, my main struggle has always been lust/sexual desire and I have had to turn down beautiful girls for God, and then when i dated a pure godly woman she broke up with me... So confused why God does things the way he does but hes the only hope sometimes
Been divorced but I always know God's is my companion. One day one sweet day, that fitting and perfect rib will walk into my life. Thanks Allen.
Having a super high moment having no one to share with. That's a killer.
Failing sexually was more painful than it's worth. God help me never again but it's still a temptation.
Thank you Allan, your testimony is a real one.
i know exactly what your going through, same boat here , Stand Strong your time will shine
@Roodi Graffoodi We are all made in his image.
If I believe that than I should represent him in all I do. Including in my sexuality.
@@eseven2547 Yes, amen
And stay strong too!
I read this and my heart broke for you. You'll be fine dear. God's got you. He's a God of mercy.
This is such a beautiful message. Thank you❤️
I was literally asking god to put a woman in my path last night in my prayers and this video comes in my recommendation the next morning God works in wonderful ways
As a single man separated from his child I thought I lost purpose but I know I have to be strong and hopefully be a blessing to my family and neighbors and strangers alike. Praise God! Long suffering is a fruit of the spirit
*You are whole in Christ* ✝️🙏
We need to appreciate the blessings of each season and make sure that our fulfilment always comes in Christ!
Any relationship is for his purposes and glory! ✝️😊🙏
Literally sharing this with everyone I know. Single, married, we all need to hear this! This is about to hit 1M views, half of them from me lol. God bless you, Allen!
Wow. You are so kind. I really do appreciate the shares. Thank you SO very much. I am very appreciative.
“It’s easy for them to say that when they all boo’d up.” 😂😂 Bro Allen you got me weak you hecka chuckling n throwing in little giggles. 😂😂
It's so difficult to not be impatient. God knows what's going on in my heart and my mind.
As a guy, being shy really hurts your dating life. With all that anxiety that was there for most of my life, it is no wonder I am still single. Now nearing 50 as a single guy, I still would like to date and get married yet to a Christian woman. Ok there, I said it.
women are not supposed to do the approaching in religious nor non religious societies, confidence is the one main factor attractive to women, so in order to make your dreams come true, you have to put in the work
Nark Mallinger u garden tool was there one christian thing in your comment? or was it just your bitter, resentful, angry flesh talking and submitting to a culture of abstaining from relationship out of hate?
As a man, it is your duty to take the lead.you need to get over your shyness and have self confidence. Women are not supposed to approach you.
Hey, just wanna let you know there is hope, I know a Christian woman who is 40 and has never been married. She is so sweet and nice. My only suggestion is tho, you do need to approach them, I myself will never go after a guy, it seems weird to me.. and most men approach me. Anyway, if it doesn’t work out or she rejects you.. don’t think about it ( or see it as you don’t have anything to lose). And i think at your age most women are looking for something serious. Also at least you tried and the right one will say yes and stay.
Women can approach men to show interest. They’re just afraid of rejection as well.
And just like that... God uses Mr. Allen to help those of us that needed this message today more than ever! Thank you for making this video 🙏
I was 5 years of chronic illness! I was Semi Housebound, lost my health, job, finances and my fiance left me. I couldn't even look at electronic screen for 5 minutes, or hold a 10-minute conversation.
But God did an amazing work.
I now have a Christian Channel where I encourage people and show them what God did in my life and that there is hope for you also. ✝️🔥😊
*Keep believing even when it's hard* 🙏❤️🔥
*All things are possible with God*
Love your channel!
@@AYYYLMAOOOOO bless you friend ✝️🙏😊
I thought this testimony might bless some on this video who have also been through heartbreak and loss!! 🙏
I also have a chronic illness and currently 'semi housebound' as well. I'm dealing with Ulcerative Colitis, not Lyme disease, but a lot of what you have been through has been identical to my experiences. I've had UC for around 3 years now, been on so many diets and medications/steroids, lost my job, been so worn out during the day, essentially out of money, living off of my parents, it's been really, really tough. Like both yours and Allen's videos touch on, there's a lot that I want to be able to do, to have, (like marriage) but understanding that this stuff takes time, a lot of patience, and discipline is the best thing for you. That God will reveal these things when we are truly ready for them. I'm definitely still learning my limits and what things affect me, but trusting in the Lord, being in His word... It's truly a difference-maker. I too have a certain amount of peace and new-found respect for the little things I used to take for granted all the time. God will get me through this, day after day and through Him, we can all do the impossible. We can heal, we can be in remission, we can get our lives back. To anyone who reads this, God hears you. He knows what you're going through. He is the Light at the end of the tunnel, He is the guide. We can get there.
Beautiful testimony!!
@@TheWayWalker bless you. Thanks for the encouragement.
I believe it was just last night or 2 nights ago that I was having a conversation with God asking him why I have this strong desire to be married and yet there's not even a hint of a prospect. He didn't answer that night, but I think he answered just now. The wait is hard, very hard, but I know it's worth it. Give us all strength Holy Spirit 🙏🏾. Thank you Allen!
Amen!!!!
Any updates? I’m currently still waiting but I hope God has blessed you
Married with 4 beautiful kids, but sharing for all my single friends....so many struggle in so many ways The church needs to support them and fill the void of that feeling of being alone. I know friendship is not the same and we can't completely fill the void, but we can at least be there for them. I think this is especially important for Christians who struggle with same sex attraction.
singlehood on the rise its a blessing in disguise. Hallelujah
I’m currently in a courtship with a beautiful God fearing man and I pray that God stays in the center of our relationship, I pray that it’s Gods will for us to be together. I know this feeling, but to wait for God is better.
Praying it works out great for you both ❤️
I’m turning 40 in two weeks and I waited for marriage all these years, I still haven’t found him. And the ones who slipped away.... I have no regrets. You were not made for me and I’m at peace with that. I feel joy in my heart because being faithful to Christ all these years is a blessing not a curse. I feel lucky..... because that was my reason for waiting in the first place. To prove my commitment to Christ 1st and I accomplished that. Most people can’t do what we did even while they are married think about that. If you waited this long chances are you will be faithful to Him till the end. 👍 He made you this way, you are rare ❤️
God bless you Jessica. I would not mind getting to know you.
Yes!!! Same!!! Committed to Christ is number 1. How can we truly commit to someone else if we can’t commit to God. Although I do still have the desire, I’ve come to realize that I’m actually content in my singleness... now. It took the Lord years to get me to this point but I’m good. Marriage is no walk in the park and if I’m going to be blessed with a God fearing husband then I equally have to be a godly woman. Congratulations on your walk with Christ. I pray nothing deceives you from your relationship with Him.
@@narkmallingerugardentool6217 who is looking for that? No gold diggers here lol
22 never dated.
As for me, marriage is not for me, because I’d rather serve the Lord instead. For I know I am never alone for Christ is with me, and I meditate in his truth as much as I can.
Thank you for this :) 31 and single, and yes it's quite difficult especially when everyone around you gets to experience what you have been longing for. In my prayer and fasting, I was rebuked by God and He showed me that I only see marriage as a way not to be alone, He saw that if I am to be married now I will make that marriage an idol and will put my security there when instead it should be on God. Somehow, I come to understand that being married is not the end goal. This helped me put myself back to focus which is to love and serve the Lord and sharing His gospel. It's a challenging path to be single but Praise be to God for His grace and mercy that sustains us all every single day.
I’m 31 and single as well. I’m torn between not letting marriage become an idol while still making my request known to God. Sometimes I wish I didn’t want it at all and pray for the desire to be taken away.
@@a5anointed705 same challenge here, praying that God will reveal more of Him to us as we go thru this calling.
See and what makes this harder for me.. it isn’t the fact I’m alone.. it’s the fact that I know god is around the corner.. it is so obvious that the rapture is closer than ever and I am barely 21.. since I was young I always thought of marriage.. but I’m afraid that I’ll never find my other half before gods coming and I know focusing on god is more important for eternal life but at the same time in the back of my head I still want to find her… pray for me y’all…
Thanks for this video! I’ve been single my entire life, and for a long time, I thought I’d never find anybody. I’ve been told my standards are too high by people who are in horrible relationships or those that lowered their standards because they were desperate for love. As I’ve grown in Christ, I don’t think about it as much anymore. I just want to grow in Christ and enjoy life as much as possible.
Finally I found this kind of comment😅😀🥰
never had a girlfriend never had that many friends. struggled with temptations with pornography and fleshly desires. God continue to give me strength. i will wait on him God to give me the word. i will wait on her where ever you are beautiful if i never meet u i pray ill meet u in the heavenly gates
Thank you. It is extremely hard out here in 2021 for single believers. Sexual sin temptations is on an all time high for us
I’m a 45 year Christian divorced old man that got cheated on. Starting all over and this had me weeping
im sorry to hear...i mean fuck's sake, being cheated on is one of the worst things which can happen in a relationship. good riddance to that woman whoever she was!
I’ve been crying about this for months. I’m waiting until marriage to have sex and honestly no one understands my frustration with being single. It’s like people are constantly saying “you’re young it’ll happen, just be patient” but between social media, my peers, romantic movies, books, and music my yearning is stronger than ever. My longing to become a wife and mother feels unbearable at times. I’m only 24 and I know God will bless me with my person one day but it’s rare that people talk about the true suffering that this season can bring. The crippling loneliness, sexual frustration, and spiritual battle you constantly face trying to do things the way God expects you too. Thank you for making this because I’m just tired.
I know about frustration Jaylen. I sustained an injury that caused me to be unable to make love and consequently be unable to be married. Jesus mentions all sorts of reasons people will never marry in Matthew 19:12-14. But you can choose to serve him and others. Yes it is not easy, but Heaven is worth any price!
@@hamilton9651 I'm so sorry for your injury thank you so mcuh for sharing that and encouraging me
I'd drop the romantic books and novels. I notice that they are to women what porn is to men. And unfortunately porn is often consumed by women now as well.
I think that the society in which we live nowadays has become anti-marriage, ego-centric, and its influence has been seeping into the Church to boot.
Just wanted to share we really have to watch what we take in through our “eye gate”. That’s the problem.
Every single Christian must watch this!! Worth watching. I'm a single christian too. Let's just be patient about marriage, it's better to WAIT than to FORNICATE!. God bless everyone❤
The churches has made marriage, and finding our life partner an idol within the church and now we can't seem to undo it.
*Free your mind* from churchianity doctrine and falsehoods 💯
YEP!
They certainly have. I like the church.im at now where people aren't pairing up one another so they can all be "married" by 30 and have kids by 35. That's not what the bible preaches about.
Literally needed this today. I'm 21 years old and I've been healed from so much insecurity due to the fact that I've never had a boyfriend...not by choice either (partially) but because guys I've liked have always rejected me, or when I got to college only wanted sex, and it's so frustrating at times because the guys who do seem interested are only ones I'm not interested in/attracted to. By the grace of God I've overcome so much hurt from rejection and feeling ugly and worthless because I recieve truth from God everyday and I know the truth but every now and then it just gets to me and it's hard not to fall into depression and hopelessness. God definitely sees and hears me. Thank you for posting this!
Beautiful testimony Sis!! I’ve literally felt the same way and have experienced this too!! I’m 25 and everyday it’s a struggle but God’s grace is sufficient! One day at a time it gets easier!
I'm in the same boat, also 21. Never been on a date, and it's been on my mind a lot lately that there's actually a whole mountain of insecurity there that I've just never addressed. Like I've always chatted and fantasized about my future life and husband (as most girls do) but lately I'm realizing how terrified I am of it all. I know God sees and hears the both of us...but it's difficult to feel that sometimes. I hear both the voice of scripture and the voice of hopelessness constantly, I just try my hardest to pay more attention to the voice of scripture.
@@briannamontgomery17 It truly is, slowly but surely is the only way!
@@jericawilson1484 It is super hard not to let negative thoughts overtake and make us fall into hopelessness. But from glory to glory what God says about us will become more and more solidified the more we spend time with Him and the more we replace the lies of the enemy with the truth. Don’t give up and keep believing! ♥️
21? You are still young.
Amen sir. Amen. I was married twice. Both unequally yoked marriages. God saved me and planted my feet on solid ground with peace not like the world. I am good. Praise God.
I am going through a lonely single season of life right now.
In my culture (I am from South Korea), if you are unmarried until 33-34, chances are you won't be able to find a suitable partner for the rest of your life.
At the age of 30, I have never been in a serious relationship and no man pursuing me which makes me feel like I am less than good women out there.
But here I am, trying to get up again by listening to God's word. I will try to believe that God has arranged this lonely time so I can follow him and get to know his will.
I am 55 years young with no children and I love my life. As evil and lawlessness increases in our world along with the hard reality of distinguishing a Christian from worldly people uh I rather be single. I have seen it all and I do not want the drama in my life.
Man, it's like swallowing a rock to deal with being the only single adult male in church while everyone else is dating and married. I've been avoiding all church events and small groups because I feel so out of place and can't relate to anyone, feeling like I'm fighting battles on my own!
Oh I’ve been there. I do know what you’re going through. That was me for sure. Hang in there.
You are not alone my dear brother, God is with you, keep focusing on Him
I've avoided church for the same reasons. Single for 22 years.
I just started avoiding the same this summer:( I want to be a part of my lovely church, but these have been my reasons to avoid. Thank you for mentioning that!
I have not been growing in my church at all and mainly because of this reason. I've been contemplating looking for a community where I can somehow find people I can fight and relate my current life transition. I don't know what to do.
I am waiting on the Lord for a spouse. I am young, but my desire is to get married. My low confidence makes me feel like I am waiting in vain. But I will continue to wait upon the Lord as that is the best thing I can do.
Know who you are in Christ: fearfully and wonderfully made; beautiful & so, so precious daughter of the King. You are the apple of His eye♥️👑🙏
Anath maybe this is something God wants you to be working on before He sends a future mate your way. You must bring confidence into a marriage because it requires 2 WHOLES not 2 halves.
Single and at 29 I feel blessed to be closer to God. I was always dating someone and lost touch with myself and God. I have my days but overral I enjoy this new life. Waiting and praying. Using this season to fulfill my passions and career path. Thank you for this video! 💓
Keep being loved and lovely imitating our Lord Jesus Christ. This is all what matters.
I'm 56 and still haven't met the right one. But God has me focused on my music for his glory with a Christian Contemporary Rock Band. He knows I want to have a husband someday. But this time I need to wait on him. I was happy for friends who married but I was still sad for me. It's one blessing I haven't received yet. But I know I screwed up and I don't want to do that again. I don't share anything anymore unless they ask. But I know God knows best deep down. If it's meant to be he will send me someone. For now I am focusing on serving God and pleasing him.
This helps so much. I am a single mother and it hard sometimes. God has showed me my future husband. But now I have to wait patiently for him
Sometimes I feel content on my own, other times I feel lonely. As I have become older I am more at peace with it. I know for a fact that I am over 'singles ministry' and Christian dating agencies...they are just too awful 😄
I think what he meant by singles ministry is not " meat other single Christians to find a spouse" but fellowship with other Christians who are not married and staying that way, at least for now. That I have never seen.
Preach it..!! No more.. the Christian dating sites are the worst horror freak shows :D Mostly a playground for divorced people finding happiness in each other, while a single never married woman (or men too) are shunned and mocked. Every time I gave them a chance, it was awful and just cost me so much mental sanity. God has to create some new, innovative channels for His people to meet.
I gave up and just asked God to leave me single. It’s been about 12 years or longer, I’m starting to get use to this single life. This world is almost dead anyway, now I just hope and pray that I’ll be with the Lord Jesus. That’s when I will finally be happy.
I've asked God many times to make me be not attracted to women and to not desire anyone. I can't get anyone anyways so at least if I didn't desire anyone I wouldn't feel bad....
At a singles conference I attended in Illinois in 1995, one of the pastors made this point: God is not calling you to look for the right person, but to be the right person.
To be fair, I see nothing wrong with that. This world is indeed looking very grim, and frankly I wouldn't be surprised if the end is in either our lifetimes or the next generation's. I mean at the pace things are going, how much more perverse and defeated can this planet become? I was born in 1989 and things have transformed multiple times in ways that have never happened in history.
Anyway, point being that perhaps we are being told by God that we need to mentally prepare for possible persecution and that we need to spread the word before it is too late.
I'm a young, single, Christian man who has never dated or had a girlfriend before. At 24 years of age I'm learning to accept and be content in my singleness. For a while I felt as if I was in "incomplete" man because I had never been with a woman before.
This is because secular culture programmed the idea in my mind as a teenager that part of being a man meant “getting laid” as much as possible. Fortunately, I’ve learned that a real, complete man is full of virtue, loves the Lord and his neighbor as himself, bears fruits of the Spirit, and is responsible, accountable, and empathetic.
This helps me anchor my self-image, confidence and contentment in Christ, who is a stable foundation that cannot be shaken.
Thank you for this. I am just 2 months away from turning 18, never dated, and desire to be married one day and raise a family. I pray to the Lord many times a week to send me the right girl at the right time, in His will not mine. But it gets hard sometimes, I often times struggle with self confidence, and in alot of ways, a quieter individual. Which I worry will hurt and harm my future dating/courtship life. I've seen one of my closest childhood friends get married just last year and it was hard for me, yes I was happy and joyful for her and her husband but I couldn't help but overthink I am never experience that. The joy, happiness, love, looking into someone's eyes and saying "I love you".
Sorry for the long read, needed to get this off my chest. God loves yall.
I want an amazing woman to say "I love you" to me