You were the only person I heard thank "mothers who played dad's role" on this Father's Day... I just needed to comment to let you know how deeply I resonate with that sentiment & how truly greatful I feel for that tiny speck of recognition. Even though we have never met and never will, that small moment of sincerity through the screen means more to me than you will ever know. Thank you 😢
A mother can NEVER take a dad's role. Im not trying to be mean, but a child without a dad is still dadless. A mother will just be there twice as much, but she is still the mother and not playing dad. Its a hole that a mother cannot fill.
Mothers have their own day, just because you're single, doesn't mean you get to claim fathers day. Not sorry, I've been the only parent and I don't claim fathers day, I claim mothers day.
I swear, giving Bobby a Father’s Day gift even though their not on good terms is so amazing and then letting her daughter give it to him is such an angel move. I love her SO much!💜
I was about to comment that exact same thing lol. I love her! She is transparent as possible while being on the internet. Also it’s nice to see the reality of a coparent relationship, not everything is sunshine and rainbows. Nothing is perfect and that’s okay. I don’t have a kid nor I am in a corps tent relationship. However my parents were co parents after divorce and it wasn’t perfect at all. Hope everyone has a great day!
@bianca-cd5up She does a great job of showing everything as it is. I admire the respect she has for Myla and Myla's dad. There are very clear boundaries, and she doesn't overstep from what I can tell.
Obsessed with your outlook on how to treat others the way YOU want to be treated, as a fellow gift-giver myself. I have given more gifts than I will ever receive back, but that feeling of getting someone something you know they will genuinely cherish and/or use regularly, that is enough of a gift to me! Love you so much Abbey. I’m so glad young adults like myself can have role models like you.
I totally feel you on the stack of cash situation. My husband usually takes me to buy my own gifts or asks me to send him a link. While it’s nice to get nice things and I appreciate the generosity, it just doesn’t hit the same as someone taking the time to go out, or get online, and pick something out themselves that they think you would like. It shows that they know you and what you like.
Before anyone says it, just because he would give her money all the time doesn't mean he was emotionally available. People usually use money and large sums to replace something they can't give and some people would prefer the emotional connection and work it takes to make a relationship work. I don't know anything about their relationship so I'm just speaking from what I know about those types of gifts/gift-givers. But for real I'm so proud of you girl 👏👏👏 your growth is inspiring, even when it's not a picture-perfect moment in your life you still share. Makes you so much more relatable but don't feel like you have to share things you don't want to. Hope you have a relaxing week ahead💜💜
No wait because why did this actually make me want to cry! ( In a good way!!) Gods working through you in so many ways and you being a light and caring and loving is all a gift from God! Your an AMAZING mom to your little girl! 🩷🩷🩷
Abby - related to your relationship with your parents, would you ever do a video with your dad discussing your addiction and how it was impacting him? I'd love to hear his POV. Although I didn't struggle with drugs, I've struggled/struggle with a life threatening eating disorder and I know it has hurt my parents. I still struggle and it really impacts our relationship (we have an okay one - not the greatest), but they've also called the police on me when I was 22, when I was threatening to hurt myself. Thank you! xoxo Stay strong!
So great of you to treat him even when y’all aren’t speaking ❤ hope y’all can come to a conclusion soon!! ❤️ meme is awesome for helping y’all communicate !! Love you!!!
It may be beneficial when things have a simmer down between the two of you to try and discuss each other’s love languages. Once I considered how other people do not love the same way that I do, and that there’s nothing wrong with that, my entire perspective on every relationship I’ve ever had changed.
Girl you give me STRENGTH! My BD left me at 6months post birth, 4 months ago, but is still active in his son's life. Its been so hard to constantly be the bigger person when he treats me like an ex, not the mother of his child but your videos help me every time!
Sweetie, please do not take this wrong, but you are the ex. The only thing that matters IMO in situations like that is the dad is still active in the child's life... my ex hasn't seen his kids in 5 years. Thankfully, they have my husband, who has been in their life for almost 8 years. I personally could have cared less about how he treated me, and it was awful, which he was awful to our kids as well.
@rumncoke420 she never said he didn't respect her. She said he treats her like an ex, and she is. As adults and parents at the end of the day IMO if the father is active in the child's life, that's all that matters. If they don't want a relationship with their ex, that should be respected.
I swear she makes me cry all the time. Fuck man. It’s so real. I have no one to vent to so I’ll verbally vomit here. HIS GIRL (now ex girl) txt me happy Mother’s Day and it was my birthday the same day so she said happy birthday FROM HIS PHONE. GIRL I WAS IN TEARS because I already bought his panda dunks for Father’s Day. I want my kid to see her mom so kind things for dad. I want her to see that we all have the same sneakers but fuck it was rough. When Abbie said she’s not guaranteed a happy Mother’s Day I felt that shit. We do SO much for our kid and “family” dynamic as single moms. ❤ love you girl. Happy Father’s Day to you, your dad and Bobby. It’s not easy coparenting but I do love watching you guys do it your way and it’s highly relatable to my way. ❤❤❤❤
My parents split when I was young and your videos heal my inner child even tho I’m in my early twenties and don’t have a child of my own. I appreciate your content so much, thanks for being you!
I'm the same way about giving. I love giving to people and seeing their reactions! And I always over do it! I think my friends finally realize that they don't have to give me anything in return. Their happiness or laughter or smile is my gift. I know it sounds cheesy but it's true.
I love watching you for so many reason. My mom and dad divorced at the age of 9 and while I was under 18 she never had a bad word to say about him in front of me or around me. I loved her even more for that. I love the way you co-parent and show it’s not always sunshine and rainbows.
I can tell ur such a selfless human you are amazing i love your strength i love that no matter how you feel towards bobby right now you still want out of your way! Your showing your daughter wonderful co parenting Abbey you should seriously give yourself a pat on the back mama
My son was born with a cleft lip, and cleft palate, and his father left when he was four months old before he even got the surgeries to help fix it. My son just turned two in May and he has never seen his real father. Luckily I am with a wonderful man, who is helping me raise my beautiful son. ❤
I love that you did this, I remember my dad buying small gifts for my mom for us to give her, they broke things off while I was a baby and even tho there’s a lot of bad blood he always tried for us. Mom wasn’t so nice, she’s really prideful I wish she would’ve tried for us but all he ever got was harsh words from mom. I called him today to have a little catch-up (we don’t live i the same country anymore) I encouraged him to get a little ice cream for himself. I felt bad because he said Father’s Day is not a thing and it doesn’t exist, I’ve never been able to gift my dad something not even for his birthday I also don’t remember any Father’s Day spent with him so I’m glad sissy gets to give him a gift and spend the day with him ❤️ abbey you are truly a beautiful person! You didn’t have to but you did and I know this sets a precedent for sissy and shows her that even though you have your fights you still respect each other and how hard you guys for her. Hopefully next year you get a gift for your hard work and a beautiful day with sissy ❤
You are truly and inspiration, seeing you with your kid just confirmed that I do wanna be a mom but also I wanna be the kind of mom you are. So fresh, respectful and loving.
Happy Father's Day Bobby, your a great dad. I hope you had a great day. Happy Father's day to your Dad Abby and happy Father's day to all the dad's and Mama's playing that role, paps everyone... I hope you all had an amazing day. It's your day you deserve it. Abby love the content. Keep up the good work Mama 💙💜🙏💪Much love, stay safe, healthy, happy, and, blessed!!! Back to the rest of the video!
I am 22. This is the third Father’s Day without my dad. He was addict but not the stereotypical dead beat. He was the most loving supportive dad but struggled mentally. I miss him everyday. I love when you say addiction can happen to anyone. I grew up in a nice suburban town. No one knew he was an addict. I didn’t know until I was 18. He hid his struggles so well. He was almost three years sober when he relapsed. Went through rehab again and then overdosed a couple months after. I will always regret not being there for him more in his last months here. Today is tough and always will be. I go back and forth on if social media is good or not, but your videos are really comforting. Wishing you the best💜💜
Thank you for being willing to share your story here, it brought tears to my eyes. I’m sad he suffered alone for such a long time, and so sorry that you didn’t get more time with him. I can’t imagine your pain, but I hope the universe blesses you with peace in your days and love in your heart. You sound like a great person, thanks for being here 💜
It’s not being petty to treat people how they treat you if things are not Reciprocated then you need to realize it’s probably something that you should stop doing not out of spite of them but for your own sake But I do understand getting the gift so then your daughter has something to give to her father as a gift
Thank you for being so transparent! Sometimes being on social media can be discouraging because most people only show the positive things in their life and situation or try to glamorize what isn't perfect in a way that makes it look so. It's nice to hear not only the positive things but also the negative things so that way we can work on them and have advice to do so. So coming from a mom who has no relationship with their kids. Dad, due to him not wanting to be involved but also being a sober mom as well and have to battle and choose to stay that way every single day. It's nice to see that I'm doing my best. Thank you so much! Exclamation exclamation
it’s so great to see the lengths you go to to keep your daughter happy! you’re an amazing mum! (just one thing, I suggest you get dog car seats, even removable ones, so you can drive safely with them, because accidents unfortunately happen more times than we can count in a day)
Ty for mentioning everyone's different. My child's father s still in active addiction and hasn't been in my child's life and she is 11 years old. It's extremely sad, he's now homeless. Keep up with your awesome content. We Do Recover 🔷️
I am not in a situation similar to yours at all, but I just love watching your videos. Your energy feels so healing. I just feel like you're such a beautiful, good person. So happy for the life you've built 🥰
I’m so inspired by you!!! You’re always working to do the right thing. I love your presence online it’s refreshing as fuck to see someone being so unapologetically herself!!!
This is deep! Keep your head held high and your mommy jeans tight and keep grinding because you are down to earth! As a recovering addict myself we come to appreciate life more becoming we have hit rock bottom and became more swear to life itself and how precious life really is for us and our children. If we have them, we’ve overcome our obstacles, and still overcoming the ones that are put forth. But we shall never give up.
0:09 hell yes! Playing both rolls for a while now and doing my best! Happy Father’s Day to all of y’all! 1:38 I was also free today, my dad died when I was 10, today is a bummer of a day for me. I didn’t have the energy to even do anything for myself. Blah.
My tattoo is an ambigram, it reads "love life" flipped over "live true". I strongly stand by and live true to myself as much as humanly possible! Yes girl!
You are an amazing mother and person in general i dont even have to spell it out anyone who watches you can see how far you will go to ensure a healthy relationship for your kiddo! God Bless!
I relate to y’all situation so much. Some days it feels were really cool very friendly then some weeks I’m in no contact while baby girl is with me. I didn’t buy him anything but i did write a letter on behalf of my daughter and a nice drawing too 😂 (she’s 3 so it was such a funny letter and an interesting drawing) he definitely got a smile out of it. She stayed with him that night also. My days are Thursday-Monday
What'd I miss? They were the best co-parents ever according to the viewers not too long ago!!! BTW this is not a dig towards them!!!!! She's showing the audience how there are bad days & good days & co-parenting takes work & energy.
Abby has always been clear about how rocky things can get between her and Bobby. The past little while has been one of those rougher times. Viewers saw videos of them getting along and got too invested in wanting them to get together. They still are good co-parents, but are just in a rough patch right now. Hope that helps! :)
Love you so much Abbey! I love how you mentioned everyone in the intro! You are such a strong mama like my single mom! Love you so much! Your the best❤️
I’m 32 today and don’t do anything for Father’s Day because my dad passed away in 2020 from lung cancer. I also don’t have kids yet (just got married) so my husband is not a dad yet. When my dad was alive maybe I gave him a card and told him happy Father’s Day. Nothing extravagant. Not sure what we will do when we have kids. For Mother’s Day, I would probably just like something from the heart the most.
Good on you!!! Always be you! Aaaand most importantly it’s for and from your daughter, that makes her feel good to have a gift to give him on Father’s Day! As he should do for her and you on Mother’s Day…. buuuut what are ya gonna do 🤷🏻♀️
For me, my dad is dead. But, I only met him again twice as an adult.. So... Also, my fiance has 4 children, 2 grown, 2 living with their mom that he doesn't get to see because of reasons. So, not the best day, but not the worst! I have plenty of other things to be thankful for! 😍
Abbey, you are beautiful! I absolutely was led to watch this video because I needed to hear your message! I’m striving to be the person that treat’s people in a way that’s based off my character! Thank you for being an inspiration this evening!
First of all, let me preface this. I feel like you're a real person in the sea of fakes, I've started to watch you recently and have been really enjoying your content. Just wanted to comment on one thing that I've noticed. If I were your friend and this was our realtime conversation I would totally back you up because I can relate and again, feel like you're being genuine and not skewing your side of the story to fit your narrative. But, this is public, everybody and their mother can watch this, including his mother, your family, friends and most importantly Bobby. And I presume he does because you talk about him frequently. Going back to what I've noticed. In the video dark side of co-parenting, you were talking about how you set up a boundry, and he didn-t respect it, and he blocked you even though he said he would use airplane mode, in this video you're talking about buying him gifts when he never does for you. I get it. And I'm not saying you're lying and that he's right or you're wrong. But I'm trying to look at it from his perspective and I think is very hard to "forgive" (if there is anything he should forgive you at all), or become less angry at you if you're here sharing his faults to the world, but not talking about things you did that have wronged him. Do you get what I mean? It feels like your confessionals about him probabaly drag out the argument more than it would usually last, because you also hit his ego in front of everyone. I don't know.. just wanted to say as an advice, that you, ofcourse, don't have to take from a stranger on the internet, but just to keep things a bit more vague, as to, who was at fault when you got into o fight or keep it more balanced by sharing what you did or said wrong in the moment. For the sake of your co-parenting status. Just my two cents, thanks for listening ❤
I think there’s a cultural element to this that you’re not considering. In some cultures, like what I’ve seen from my friends who are from Pittsburgh, you speak bluntly about people. No sugar coating. No beating around the bush. No pussy footing. She talks about the reality of the co-parenting relationship from her perspective. And that’s the perspective we’re all here for. Right, wrong, or indifferent.
I love that Abbey takes the high road and buys him gifts..but doesn't hesitate to throw in some digs about body acne and dandruff. I was just waiting for the hemherroid cream next 🤣🤣 I'm here for it!
Girl love your channel!! I found you maybe almost a year ago when you had 5k to 10k subs. Just love how fast your page has grown. I didn’t know you had any other platforms besides TH-cam. Keep doing you girl! ❤
You really do great work. Gifts sound like your love language, I’m so sorry he won’t speak that to you. You will meet someone great who WILL answer your language.
Definitely try the Cantu line it’s silicone free and i find it works better than head and shoulders they have new products for dandruff and it’s amazing ❤
I'm in a relatively new coparenting situation after 17 years. We have a special needs 4 year old. He cheated with a younger coworker and left us. Moved right in with her. My husband of 17 years 😢. Its been 2 months. He sees our child for 3 hours tops once a week. He's literally not even the same man I knew. Acts different. Talks different. I still got him a small gift from our daughter and did her handprints for him etc. Our relationship is not great. I feel like I am constantly bending over backwards and he always has some lame excuse. He'd rather care for his young gf and raise her 2 year old than participate with our daughter. Theres a lot more I'm not putting here but I sure could use some advice
Hi Angel, that sounds rough. I hope you're okay and I'm sure you will get the hang of the co-parenting. Time heals all. Sending you love and light beautiful. ❤️
Sounds like the i've moved on with my life move. My father did similar ended up supporting a girl younger than his daughters. I literally do not recognise him. It is like that person died or never existed. He says 'I have moved on with my life' expects me to entertain a filipino child bride. Honestly these sad men. I feel awful for you and your child especially given the special needs element. What is that girl thinking if he will do it with her he will do it to her.
@@cw9108 He says he's "literally starting my life over" and "wants a normal life" a "normal existence" and "doesn't want to be known as Angel and blank". We spent 17 years together. Lived together the whole 17 years. I completely understand what you are saying. Its like hes a complete stranger. Ive been grieving as if he's dead bc the man I knew is dead. The girl had a bf/husband as well. So this split 2 families. She doesn't like him having anything from our daughter bc "its her trying to sway you to come back". Which is pathetic and disgusting. Until April when this happened I had never once questioned his love and faithfulness to me, and our daughter. Even his own family is confused by this behavior. And Im so sick of hearing its a midlife crisis. A midlife crisis doesnt make you throw all your values away. Hes addicted to this girl, and literally chooses her and her son over our 4 year old daughter. He doesnt even spend 4 hours a week with our daughter. Im sickened over this. And a child bride? Good lord. Its absolutely terrible and disgusting that men do this shit to good. Honest. Faithful woman and loving children.
Take the high road baby girl always be the better person that's what I was taught when I was put away and then crazy places I say lol and I only have fur babies my husband does have two kids from previous we didn't do much we just said Happy Father's Day and that was about it but I hope your day goes well and everything works out for you and you are beautiful and inspiring and so strong so much love to you and your beautiful family 💪💞💞💞 and Happy Father's Day to Bobby 😸💕
Your so inspiring and amazing I’m so proud of you for conquering addiction being an amazing mother friend baby mother everything I love you so much and god uses you in my life every video❤
Im the same way I don't care it don't matter if someone got me anything or not I'm the type I'm still going to get you something. Like my hubby actually forgot to get me something for mother's day. And we're together. It kinda hurt but no biggie, my babies made me handmade stuff and I absolutely love that the most! But ya I still got him a watch but I was upset it's broke so I have to take it back and exchange it. But then our kids are 4yo daughter and 9yo son, they made him something today in church.. Other then that I made him a small breakfast that he didn't eat 🤦🤷 he usually don't eat much in the morning just coffee witch I also made, but I mean the breakfast was my fault lol. But it was just toast and sausage then I put gravy over it. I didn't have biscuit lol so made toast.. but I had one it was good. Other then that we just sat at home he relaxed. Our kids stay at their grams on weekends so they are there till tomrw. I usually get them today but they wanted to spend another night. But it was an altogether a good day I guess. You got Bobby some nice stuff. It's the thought that counts. 💙💜
The best way to deal with Hallmark holidays like Valentine's day, Mother's & Father's day...is to honor that person. Thus, honor YOUR Father and let your daughter honor HER Father...like a crayon Art work. Simple. You admit you went over board. Live & learn, babe❤
My dad passed away in 09 but I have a stepdad so I typically feel depressed. But then I feel guilty since he is a good step dad. I feel like I should be happy and celebrating him. But this was my second Father’s Day in a row with a migraine. As much as migraines suck they give me an excuse to be in bed and sleep through the rough day
Personally, my dad is not a good person. I've tried my entire life to make things work. But he's an abusive person physically and emotionally. I would love to be able to tell him happy Father's Day today, but it's not safe or healthy for me. Not having parents and being an only child is difficult at times. It would have been nice to have a sibling to go through life with me. But maybe that's being selfish.
I've watched your shorts for a while..I can't relate to you in anyway..hope that makes sense.. but, I just love your videos! You're you and not pretending. Subscribed ❤
Seriously people like this who motivate me and help me become a better person :) the selflessness in this video is real! Being a parent myself I could and have been in the same shoes as you ❤ and can resonate with you saying it makes you feel a lot better than the alternative route!
You’re literally the sweetest! These sunglasses are it! You’re such a caring & thoughtful person. My boyfriend uses the head and shoulders also I actually put him onto the new formula 2 in 1 with the almond on the front smells fire. Today, my dad was resting so I just bought him food and my boyfriend and I went to see flash, went shopping & went to Red Robin. Don’t go see flash it wasn’t that great
I was on the phone telling my mom that you and your baby dad are like me and mine...he currently has me blocked but its ok haha. He'll unblock me in 5-7 business days 😂 I posted a photo montage on snap and he didnt even watch it! Lol. We laugh this stuff off because at the end of the day, we are blessed to have the baby dads we do
I soooo AGREE with you a BILLION %......RE: bein "true to YOUR SOUL....." and behavin the way that shows a positive "moral" {for lack of a better word} personal code and knowing that you "CHOSE WITH PURPOSE" to behave in a loving kindness that is full of compassion....... I was not able to do so with my 2 grown daughter's "spermy" {the judge terminated his parental rights for all the forms of abuse that God pulled into the light....... BUT.....thankfully the 3 of us were Blessed to have my 2nd ex-husband ADOPTS my girls makin them "OUR girls} but it was a struggle and took a little over a DECADE to get my girls protected and safe and that same amount of time for me to actually get my divorce finalized *WHEW* 😂😂😊😊 And there were times that it was a struggle to do so due to me being born with 2 Rare Blood Disorders.... spend half my life in the hospital we lovingly refer to as my St. J's Bed & Breakfast....😂 First hospitalized at 8, first surgery at 12, so far have had 33 surgeries {and needin a large handful more Partialful more}, am nauseated and dry heaving half my life, am a walking MRSA Carrier due to having my Hernia Mesh being contaminated from the factory, kidneys have shut down 4 times, 3 mini-strokes, Temporarily
Honestly I just want to know what Bobby does for a living please lol. But I'm just so glad I saw this video today. I'm not part of this whole trending TikTok short type of vibe. Where is same age give or take and I don't know like I've always been a long form content kind of girl I mean I went to cosmetology school It seems like you did too? I went to your oldest videos first. And I'm out here in Philly I went to cosmetology school in Jersey so I don't have my license in Philly but I did hair skin and makeup for years before and after I got sober and I got into TH-cam during like the Man u MAA and Jaclyn Hill days so I'm just a long form kind of girl but I know life is going through short content trending right now anyway I just love the message of this video because I would say the last 5 years or so life has gotten so intense with these shorts and people treating each other the way they are treated and that's just a bad way to live because you end up keeping tabs on what people do for you and what you do for others and you end up keeping tallies and tabs and lists and anything mental in your head to keep track of everything and it's hard and it's sick and it's a bad behavior because it'll just make you stoop lower like you said and it's just not healthy for yourself. I'll speak for myself it's not healthy for myself to always keep tabs on other people's behavior. You end up wasting time and you end up making yourself feel toxic or at least you start to exhibit bad behavior so I'm so glad I watched this because a lot of people aren't talking about this type of behavior because other people aren't upset by it people are okay with slowly becoming more and more toxic and it's not good.
You were the only person I heard thank "mothers who played dad's role" on this Father's Day... I just needed to comment to let you know how deeply I resonate with that sentiment & how truly greatful I feel for that tiny speck of recognition. Even though we have never met and never will, that small moment of sincerity through the screen means more to me than you will ever know. Thank you 😢
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I hope you had a great day Hun 💪🙏💞 bless you and your family. I always say that and on mother's day I say to the dad's that play the Mama's role.
A mother can NEVER take a dad's role. Im not trying to be mean, but a child without a dad is still dadless. A mother will just be there twice as much, but she is still the mother and not playing dad. Its a hole that a mother cannot fill.
Mothers have their own day, just because you're single, doesn't mean you get to claim fathers day. Not sorry, I've been the only parent and I don't claim fathers day, I claim mothers day.
@@jessiewhitman8688 you know what assuming does, right? 💀
I swear, giving Bobby a Father’s Day gift even though their not on good terms is so amazing and then letting her daughter give it to him is such an angel move. I love her SO much!💜
I love that your content doesn't feel super scripted like some family channels. You're an incredible speaker!
I was about to comment that exact same thing lol. I love her! She is transparent as possible while being on the internet. Also it’s nice to see the reality of a coparent relationship, not everything is sunshine and rainbows. Nothing is perfect and that’s okay. I don’t have a kid nor I am in a corps tent relationship. However my parents were co parents after divorce and it wasn’t perfect at all.
Hope everyone has a great day!
@bianca-cd5up She does a great job of showing everything as it is. I admire the respect she has for Myla and Myla's dad. There are very clear boundaries, and she doesn't overstep from what I can tell.
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Obsessed with your outlook on how to treat others the way YOU want to be treated, as a fellow gift-giver myself. I have given more gifts than I will ever receive back, but that feeling of getting someone something you know they will genuinely cherish and/or use regularly, that is enough of a gift to me! Love you so much Abbey. I’m so glad young adults like myself can have role models like you.
I totally feel you on the stack of cash situation. My husband usually takes me to buy my own gifts or asks me to send him a link. While it’s nice to get nice things and I appreciate the generosity, it just doesn’t hit the same as someone taking the time to go out, or get online, and pick something out themselves that they think you would like. It shows that they know you and what you like.
Before anyone says it, just because he would give her money all the time doesn't mean he was emotionally available. People usually use money and large sums to replace something they can't give and some people would prefer the emotional connection and work it takes to make a relationship work. I don't know anything about their relationship so I'm just speaking from what I know about those types of gifts/gift-givers.
But for real I'm so proud of you girl 👏👏👏 your growth is inspiring, even when it's not a picture-perfect moment in your life you still share. Makes you so much more relatable but don't feel like you have to share things you don't want to. Hope you have a relaxing week ahead💜💜
I hope you and Bobby can reconcile your friendship soon! You're both incredible parents!
No wait because why did this actually make me want to cry! ( In a good way!!) Gods working through you in so many ways and you being a light and caring and loving is all a gift from God! Your an AMAZING mom to your little girl! 🩷🩷🩷
Abby - related to your relationship with your parents, would you ever do a video with your dad discussing your addiction and how it was impacting him? I'd love to hear his POV. Although I didn't struggle with drugs, I've struggled/struggle with a life threatening eating disorder and I know it has hurt my parents. I still struggle and it really impacts our relationship (we have an okay one - not the greatest), but they've also called the police on me when I was 22, when I was threatening to hurt myself. Thank you! xoxo Stay strong!
That would be nice to see if she would mind.
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So great of you to treat him even when y’all aren’t speaking ❤ hope y’all can come to a conclusion soon!! ❤️ meme is awesome for helping y’all communicate !! Love you!!!
So so kind. Thank you gf! 😘
It may be beneficial when things have a simmer down between the two of you to try and discuss each other’s love languages. Once I considered how other people do not love the same way that I do, and that there’s nothing wrong with that, my entire perspective on every relationship I’ve ever had changed.
Love this and I feel it's a very beneficial way of looking at our love languages. Thank you for sharing!
Girl you give me STRENGTH!
My BD left me at 6months post birth, 4 months ago, but is still active in his son's life. Its been so hard to constantly be the bigger person when he treats me like an ex, not the mother of his child but your videos help me every time!
Sweetie, please do not take this wrong, but you are the ex. The only thing that matters IMO in situations like that is the dad is still active in the child's life... my ex hasn't seen his kids in 5 years. Thankfully, they have my husband, who has been in their life for almost 8 years. I personally could have cared less about how he treated me, and it was awful, which he was awful to our kids as well.
@@bripearce45she’s not just the ex she is the mother of his child and deserves to be treated with the same respect
@rumncoke420 she never said he didn't respect her. She said he treats her like an ex, and she is. As adults and parents at the end of the day IMO if the father is active in the child's life, that's all that matters. If they don't want a relationship with their ex, that should be respected.
@@bripearce45 they are parents and they have a child together my ex is someone i dated in school, my babydaddy is the person i have a child with
I swear she makes me cry all the time. Fuck man. It’s so real. I have no one to vent to so I’ll verbally vomit here. HIS GIRL (now ex girl) txt me happy Mother’s Day and it was my birthday the same day so she said happy birthday FROM HIS PHONE. GIRL I WAS IN TEARS because I already bought his panda dunks for Father’s Day. I want my kid to see her mom so kind things for dad. I want her to see that we all have the same sneakers but fuck it was rough. When Abbie said she’s not guaranteed a happy Mother’s Day I felt that shit. We do SO much for our kid and “family” dynamic as single moms. ❤ love you girl. Happy Father’s Day to you, your dad and Bobby. It’s not easy coparenting but I do love watching you guys do it your way and it’s highly relatable to my way. ❤❤❤❤
My parents split when I was young and your videos heal my inner child even tho I’m in my early twenties and don’t have a child of my own. I appreciate your content so much, thanks for being you!
I'm the same way about giving. I love giving to people and seeing their reactions! And I always over do it! I think my friends finally realize that they don't have to give me anything in return. Their happiness or laughter or smile is my gift. I know it sounds cheesy but it's true.
I love watching you for so many reason. My mom and dad divorced at the age of 9 and while I was under 18 she never had a bad word to say about him in front of me or around me. I loved her even more for that. I love the way you co-parent and show it’s not always sunshine and rainbows.
I can tell ur such a selfless human you are amazing i love your strength i love that no matter how you feel towards bobby right now you still want out of your way! Your showing your daughter wonderful co parenting Abbey you should seriously give yourself a pat on the back mama
My son was born with a cleft lip, and cleft palate, and his father left when he was four months old before he even got the surgeries to help fix it. My son just turned two in May and he has never seen his real father. Luckily I am with a wonderful man, who is helping me raise my beautiful son. ❤
I love that you did this, I remember my dad buying small gifts for my mom for us to give her, they broke things off while I was a baby and even tho there’s a lot of bad blood he always tried for us. Mom wasn’t so nice, she’s really prideful I wish she would’ve tried for us but all he ever got was harsh words from mom. I called him today to have a little catch-up (we don’t live i the same country anymore) I encouraged him to get a little ice cream for himself. I felt bad because he said Father’s Day is not a thing and it doesn’t exist, I’ve never been able to gift my dad something not even for his birthday I also don’t remember any Father’s Day spent with him so I’m glad sissy gets to give him a gift and spend the day with him ❤️ abbey you are truly a beautiful person! You didn’t have to but you did and I know this sets a precedent for sissy and shows her that even though you have your fights you still respect each other and how hard you guys for her. Hopefully next year you get a gift for your hard work and a beautiful day with sissy ❤
Thank you for keeping it real and also for mentioning DV situations and other circumstances that change what a parenting relationship looks like!
You are truly and inspiration, seeing you with your kid just confirmed that I do wanna be a mom but also I wanna be the kind of mom you are. So fresh, respectful and loving.
It is my mantra: I treat others based upon who I am not who they are
Heads up: Dollar Tree ALWAYS for gift bags! They usually have most of the basic colors and they are cheap!
Happy Father's Day Bobby, your a great dad. I hope you had a great day. Happy Father's day to your Dad Abby and happy Father's day to all the dad's and Mama's playing that role, paps everyone... I hope you all had an amazing day. It's your day you deserve it. Abby love the content. Keep up the good work Mama 💙💜🙏💪Much love, stay safe, healthy, happy, and, blessed!!! Back to the rest of the video!
I am 22. This is the third Father’s Day without my dad. He was addict but not the stereotypical dead beat. He was the most loving supportive dad but struggled mentally. I miss him everyday. I love when you say addiction can happen to anyone. I grew up in a nice suburban town. No one knew he was an addict. I didn’t know until I was 18. He hid his struggles so well. He was almost three years sober when he relapsed. Went through rehab again and then overdosed a couple months after. I will always regret not being there for him more in his last months here. Today is tough and always will be. I go back and forth on if social media is good or not, but your videos are really comforting. Wishing you the best💜💜
Thank you for being willing to share your story here, it brought tears to my eyes. I’m sad he suffered alone for such a long time, and so sorry that you didn’t get more time with him. I can’t imagine your pain, but I hope the universe blesses you with peace in your days and love in your heart. You sound like a great person, thanks for being here 💜
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There is nothing worse being the child who doesn’t have a gift for there parent on Mothers/Fathers day , birthdays ect x
It’s not being petty to treat people how they treat you if things are not Reciprocated then you need to realize it’s probably something that you should stop doing not out of spite of them but for your own sake But I do understand getting the gift so then your daughter has something to give to her father as a gift
Thank you for being so transparent! Sometimes being on social media can be discouraging because most people only show the positive things in their life and situation or try to glamorize what isn't perfect in a way that makes it look so. It's nice to hear not only the positive things but also the negative things so that way we can work on them and have advice to do so. So coming from a mom who has no relationship with their kids. Dad, due to him not wanting to be involved but also being a sober mom as well and have to battle and choose to stay that way every single day. It's nice to see that I'm doing my best. Thank you so much! Exclamation exclamation
it’s so great to see the lengths you go to to keep your daughter happy! you’re an amazing mum! (just one thing, I suggest you get dog car seats, even removable ones, so you can drive safely with them, because accidents unfortunately happen more times than we can count in a day)
Ty for mentioning everyone's different. My child's father s still in active addiction and hasn't been in my child's life and she is 11 years old. It's extremely sad, he's now homeless. Keep up with your awesome content. We Do Recover 🔷️
Love your content... Currently struggling to get sober again after a recent relapse. You empower me to do the next right thing though, so thank you..
You are a beautiful example to me and a lot of people. Thank you so much! Your kindness is truly inspiring!
I am not in a situation similar to yours at all, but I just love watching your videos. Your energy feels so healing. I just feel like you're such a beautiful, good person. So happy for the life you've built 🥰
I’m so inspired by you!!! You’re always working to do the right thing. I love your presence online it’s refreshing as fuck to see someone being so unapologetically herself!!!
Love how deadly honest you are ❤😂. I have only been new to your page but it’s been good watching you guys!
This is deep! Keep your head held high and your mommy jeans tight and keep grinding because you are down to earth! As a recovering addict myself we come to appreciate life more becoming we have hit rock bottom and became more swear to life itself and how precious life really is for us and our children. If we have them, we’ve overcome our obstacles, and still overcoming the ones that are put forth. But we shall never give up.
0:09 hell yes! Playing both rolls for a while now and doing my best!
Happy Father’s Day to all of y’all!
1:38 I was also free today, my dad died when I was 10, today is a bummer of a day for me. I didn’t have the energy to even do anything for myself. Blah.
I hope you treated yourself today ❤️🔥
I also love gift giving and love the gifts you picked out for Bobby!
I’m totally buying that acne spray for my son’s dad!
My tattoo is an ambigram, it reads "love life" flipped over "live true". I strongly stand by and live true to myself as much as humanly possible! Yes girl!
You are an amazing mother and person in general i dont even have to spell it out anyone who watches you can see how far you will go to ensure a healthy relationship for your kiddo! God Bless!
I relate to y’all situation so much. Some days it feels were really cool very friendly then some weeks I’m in no contact while baby girl is with me. I didn’t buy him anything but i did write a letter on behalf of my daughter and a nice drawing too 😂 (she’s 3 so it was such a funny letter and an interesting drawing) he definitely got a smile out of it. She stayed with him that night also. My days are Thursday-Monday
I hope u and Bobby can get worked out soon I watch u every day 24/7 love u guys 🎉🎉🎉🎉
ugh. you are incredible. love and respect you so much! and you are gorgeous - never stop being you!
Love the honesty in your videos I feel so less alone
Exactly... Treat others the way you would like to be treated.... In other words😊❤
I also love how REAL you are. Thank you
I hope you and Bobby build a better relationship 🫶🏻
What'd I miss? They were the best co-parents ever according to the viewers not too long ago!!!
BTW this is not a dig towards them!!!!! She's showing the audience how there are bad days & good days & co-parenting takes work & energy.
Abby has always been clear about how rocky things can get between her and Bobby. The past little while has been one of those rougher times. Viewers saw videos of them getting along and got too invested in wanting them to get together. They still are good co-parents, but are just in a rough patch right now. Hope that helps! :)
Love you so much Abbey! I love how you mentioned everyone in the intro! You are such a strong mama like my single mom! Love you so much! Your the best❤️
Thank you so much for posting a lot lately. I have been loving it.
I’m 32 today and don’t do anything for Father’s Day because my dad passed away in 2020 from lung cancer. I also don’t have kids yet (just got married) so my husband is not a dad yet. When my dad was alive maybe I gave him a card and told him happy Father’s Day. Nothing extravagant. Not sure what we will do when we have kids. For Mother’s Day, I would probably just like something from the heart the most.
Good on you!!! Always be you! Aaaand most importantly it’s for and from your daughter, that makes her feel good to have a gift to give him on Father’s Day! As he should do for her and you on Mother’s Day…. buuuut what are ya gonna do 🤷🏻♀️
Happy Father’s Day ❤🎉
For me, my dad is dead. But, I only met him again twice as an adult.. So... Also, my fiance has 4 children, 2 grown, 2 living with their mom that he doesn't get to see because of reasons. So, not the best day, but not the worst! I have plenty of other things to be thankful for! 😍
You’re officially my new favorite channel to watch. Your authenticity shines through. Love your content. ✨
Abbey, you are beautiful! I absolutely was led to watch this video because I needed to hear your message! I’m striving to be the person that treat’s people in a way that’s based off my character! Thank you for being an inspiration this evening!
I love this. You are the sweetest! I agree with you, I treat people the way I would want to be treated. I love your videos by the way!! ❤
First of all, let me preface this. I feel like you're a real person in the sea of fakes, I've started to watch you recently and have been really enjoying your content.
Just wanted to comment on one thing that I've noticed.
If I were your friend and this was our realtime conversation I would totally back you up because I can relate and again, feel like you're being genuine and not skewing your side of the story to fit your narrative. But, this is public, everybody and their mother can watch this, including his mother, your family, friends and most importantly Bobby. And I presume he does because you talk about him frequently. Going back to what I've noticed. In the video dark side of co-parenting, you were talking about how you set up a boundry, and he didn-t respect it, and he blocked you even though he said he would use airplane mode, in this video you're talking about buying him gifts when he never does for you. I get it. And I'm not saying you're lying and that he's right or you're wrong. But I'm trying to look at it from his perspective and I think is very hard to "forgive" (if there is anything he should forgive you at all), or become less angry at you if you're here sharing his faults to the world, but not talking about things you did that have wronged him. Do you get what I mean? It feels like your confessionals about him probabaly drag out the argument more than it would usually last, because you also hit his ego in front of everyone.
I don't know.. just wanted to say as an advice, that you, ofcourse, don't have to take from a stranger on the internet, but just to keep things a bit more vague, as to, who was at fault when you got into o fight or keep it more balanced by sharing what you did or said wrong in the moment. For the sake of your co-parenting status. Just my two cents, thanks for listening ❤
I think there’s a cultural element to this that you’re not considering. In some cultures, like what I’ve seen from my friends who are from Pittsburgh, you speak bluntly about people. No sugar coating. No beating around the bush. No pussy footing. She talks about the reality of the co-parenting relationship from her perspective. And that’s the perspective we’re all here for. Right, wrong, or indifferent.
I love the moisturizing cream so good not oily and Lasts!
This is real life shit right here. Proud of you mama ❤
What about the Kay jewelers necklace myla got you for Mother's Day? I thought it was from Bobby 😭😭my heart breaks I thought it was from him
You’re such a great role model. I’m absolutely inspired by how you lead your life. First Father’s Day after I cut off my dad. So kinda tough.
Love how honest you Are about some things Abby ❤❤
I love that Abbey takes the high road and buys him gifts..but doesn't hesitate to throw in some digs about body acne and dandruff. I was just waiting for the hemherroid cream next 🤣🤣 I'm here for it!
Happy Father's day to YOU!! I see bobby is around but you are mama and daddy at this point.
That’s awesome you didn’t lump everybody together and Know each situation is complex 👏
That was so nice of you with the gift to Bobby and showing your daughter that. Also like how you and his mom are close. What’s Bobby’s take on that?
Girl love your channel!! I found you maybe almost a year ago when you had 5k to 10k subs. Just love how fast your page has grown. I didn’t know you had any other platforms besides TH-cam. Keep doing you girl! ❤
Babby is the best dad he deserves some treats xo
You really do great work. Gifts sound like your love language, I’m so sorry he won’t speak that to you. You will meet someone great who WILL answer your language.
Definitely try the Cantu line it’s silicone free and i find it works better than head and shoulders they have new products for dandruff and it’s amazing ❤
I'm in a relatively new coparenting situation after 17 years. We have a special needs 4 year old. He cheated with a younger coworker and left us. Moved right in with her. My husband of 17 years 😢. Its been 2 months. He sees our child for 3 hours tops once a week. He's literally not even the same man I knew. Acts different. Talks different. I still got him a small gift from our daughter and did her handprints for him etc. Our relationship is not great. I feel like I am constantly bending over backwards and he always has some lame excuse. He'd rather care for his young gf and raise her 2 year old than participate with our daughter. Theres a lot more I'm not putting here but I sure could use some advice
Hi Angel, that sounds rough. I hope you're okay and I'm sure you will get the hang of the co-parenting. Time heals all. Sending you love and light beautiful. ❤️
Sounds like the i've moved on with my life move. My father did similar ended up supporting a girl younger than his daughters. I literally do not recognise him. It is like that person died or never existed. He says 'I have moved on with my life' expects me to entertain a filipino child bride. Honestly these sad men. I feel awful for you and your child especially given the special needs element. What is that girl thinking if he will do it with her he will do it to her.
@@cw9108 He says he's "literally starting my life over" and "wants a normal life" a "normal existence" and "doesn't want to be known as Angel and blank". We spent 17 years together. Lived together the whole 17 years. I completely understand what you are saying. Its like hes a complete stranger. Ive been grieving as if he's dead bc the man I knew is dead. The girl had a bf/husband as well. So this split 2 families. She doesn't like him having anything from our daughter bc "its her trying to sway you to come back". Which is pathetic and disgusting. Until April when this happened I had never once questioned his love and faithfulness to me, and our daughter. Even his own family is confused by this behavior. And Im so sick of hearing its a midlife crisis. A midlife crisis doesnt make you throw all your values away. Hes addicted to this girl, and literally chooses her and her son over our 4 year old daughter. He doesnt even spend 4 hours a week with our daughter. Im sickened over this. And a child bride? Good lord. Its absolutely terrible and disgusting that men do this shit to good. Honest. Faithful woman and loving children.
Take the high road baby girl always be the better person that's what I was taught when I was put away and then crazy places I say lol and I only have fur babies my husband does have two kids from previous we didn't do much we just said Happy Father's Day and that was about it but I hope your day goes well and everything works out for you and you are beautiful and inspiring and so strong so much love to you and your beautiful family 💪💞💞💞 and Happy Father's Day to Bobby 😸💕
Your so inspiring and amazing I’m so proud of you for conquering addiction being an amazing mother friend baby mother everything I love you so much and god uses you in my life every video❤
It’s hard…. Your a good person!!!
I love my dad but I loveee my mom who has made up for his loss since ❤❤❤
Im the same way I don't care it don't matter if someone got me anything or not I'm the type I'm still going to get you something. Like my hubby actually forgot to get me something for mother's day. And we're together. It kinda hurt but no biggie, my babies made me handmade stuff and I absolutely love that the most! But ya I still got him a watch but I was upset it's broke so I have to take it back and exchange it. But then our kids are 4yo daughter and 9yo son, they made him something today in church.. Other then that I made him a small breakfast that he didn't eat 🤦🤷 he usually don't eat much in the morning just coffee witch I also made, but I mean the breakfast was my fault lol. But it was just toast and sausage then I put gravy over it. I didn't have biscuit lol so made toast.. but I had one it was good. Other then that we just sat at home he relaxed. Our kids stay at their grams on weekends so they are there till tomrw. I usually get them today but they wanted to spend another night. But it was an altogether a good day I guess. You got Bobby some nice stuff. It's the thought that counts. 💙💜
I really love this long vlog/face time type videos!
This feels like such a safe spaceeeee
Real question.. who buys necklace that Milah bought you for mother's day? Just assumed it was him. Ps love your videos❤❤
The best way to deal with Hallmark holidays like Valentine's day, Mother's & Father's day...is to honor that person. Thus, honor YOUR Father and let your daughter honor HER Father...like a crayon Art work. Simple. You admit you went over board. Live & learn, babe❤
My dad passed away in 09 but I have a stepdad so I typically feel depressed. But then I feel guilty since he is a good step dad. I feel like I should be happy and celebrating him. But this was my second Father’s Day in a row with a migraine. As much as migraines suck they give me an excuse to be in bed and sleep through the rough day
You’re so kind 😭 keep it up girl.
happy father’s day♥️
“I swear I’m sober” lol I love you Abby!
Personally, my dad is not a good person. I've tried my entire life to make things work. But he's an abusive person physically and emotionally. I would love to be able to tell him happy Father's Day today, but it's not safe or healthy for me. Not having parents and being an only child is difficult at times. It would have been nice to have a sibling to go through life with me. But maybe that's being selfish.
Hi Abby!! Happy Fathers Day ❤️🎉
I've watched your shorts for a while..I can't relate to you in anyway..hope that makes sense.. but, I just love your videos! You're you and not pretending. Subscribed ❤
Seriously people like this who motivate me and help me become a better person :) the selflessness in this video is real! Being a parent myself I could and have been in the same shoes as you ❤ and can resonate with you saying it makes you feel a lot better than the alternative route!
You’re literally the sweetest! These sunglasses are it! You’re such a caring & thoughtful person. My boyfriend uses the head and shoulders also I actually put him onto the new formula 2 in 1 with the almond on the front smells fire. Today, my dad was resting so I just bought him food and my boyfriend and I went to see flash, went shopping & went to Red Robin. Don’t go see flash it wasn’t that great
Such an amazing mother
I was on the phone telling my mom that you and your baby dad are like me and mine...he currently has me blocked but its ok haha. He'll unblock me in 5-7 business days 😂 I posted a photo montage on snap and he didnt even watch it! Lol. We laugh this stuff off because at the end of the day, we are blessed to have the baby dads we do
"So he can smell good for the ladies." 😂 Such a pure, non jealous statement.
I can sooo relate to you and I absolutely love that!! Keep being beautiful and amazing!!😊❤
Side note, I love your glasses btw😊 Where did you get them? Also, Happy Father’s Day😂
I soooo AGREE with you a BILLION %......RE: bein "true to YOUR SOUL....." and behavin the way that shows a positive "moral" {for lack of a better word} personal code and knowing that you "CHOSE WITH PURPOSE" to behave in a loving kindness that is full of compassion....... I was not able to do so with my 2 grown daughter's "spermy" {the judge terminated his parental rights for all the forms of abuse that God pulled into the light.......
BUT.....thankfully the 3 of us were Blessed to have my 2nd ex-husband ADOPTS my girls makin them "OUR girls} but it was a struggle and took a little over a DECADE to get my girls protected and safe and that same amount of time for me to actually get my divorce finalized *WHEW* 😂😂😊😊
And there were times that it was a struggle to do so due to me being born with 2 Rare Blood Disorders.... spend half my life in the hospital we lovingly refer to as my St. J's Bed & Breakfast....😂
First hospitalized at 8, first surgery at 12, so far have had 33 surgeries {and needin a large handful more Partialful more}, am nauseated and dry heaving half my life, am a walking MRSA Carrier due to having my Hernia Mesh being contaminated from the factory, kidneys have shut down 4 times, 3 mini-strokes, Temporarily
“Why do I want to make a cool craft? I swear I’m sober” 😂😂😂 OMG!! I’m dead! If you know, you know 😂😂😂
Girl, you’re started, cursing on camera but I still love you you’re the best
I’m kinda early so when I was like 5 minutes in it gave me the notification this was uploaded… I love your videos so much Abbey❤
Lmao I love how the gift was a little shady but still very helpful & meaningful!
Honestly I just want to know what Bobby does for a living please lol. But I'm just so glad I saw this video today. I'm not part of this whole trending TikTok short type of vibe. Where is same age give or take and I don't know like I've always been a long form content kind of girl I mean I went to cosmetology school It seems like you did too? I went to your oldest videos first. And I'm out here in Philly I went to cosmetology school in Jersey so I don't have my license in Philly but I did hair skin and makeup for years before and after I got sober and I got into TH-cam during like the Man u MAA and Jaclyn Hill days so I'm just a long form kind of girl but I know life is going through short content trending right now anyway I just love the message of this video because I would say the last 5 years or so life has gotten so intense with these shorts and people treating each other the way they are treated and that's just a bad way to live because you end up keeping tabs on what people do for you and what you do for others and you end up keeping tallies and tabs and lists and anything mental in your head to keep track of everything and it's hard and it's sick and it's a bad behavior because it'll just make you stoop lower like you said and it's just not healthy for yourself. I'll speak for myself it's not healthy for myself to always keep tabs on other people's behavior. You end up wasting time and you end up making yourself feel toxic or at least you start to exhibit bad behavior so I'm so glad I watched this because a lot of people aren't talking about this type of behavior because other people aren't upset by it people are okay with slowly becoming more and more toxic and it's not good.