As an Ace guy, fuck everything about that last story. The idea of Ace people being converted by the right/sufficiently “sexy” person is a common and utterly vile thing we have to put up with. I’d be out the door if someone did that to me.
@@azeplayt4546I mean the question is always, what meaning of "ace" you are talking about. Could be specifically asexual, could be umbrella for anything on the acespec, could also mean specifically asexual AND aromantic... that makes a huge difference. To go with your example, asexual + alloromantic could easily fall in love with someone, just wouldn't be SEXUALLY attracted to them. "ace" as umbrella for acespec would leave open the possibility of gray-/demisexual (to stick to the most commonly known labels for now) which means A) the same as the first case in terms of falling in love and B) under specific circumstances sexual attraction also would be possible (your example specifically - assuming you are using "asexual" as shortcut for "asexual & aromantic" etc - sounds like demisexual most likely). If "ace" in the context is supposed to mean specifically "asexual & aromantic", then there is literally no way the NPC would... I mean asexual doesn't mean sex-repulsed by default but that's going way too far and definitely not what OP there was going for.
im not even asexual but i like making characters with different sexualities than mine, and if i made an ace character and the dm pulled this shit i would NOT let that slide. im not about to stay in a campaign that activley disrespects other members of the lgbt
Same, I have an aro/ace drow and if anyone tried pulling that crap on them I'd be out, but honestly I'd also be leaving for worse reasons considering they are a minor-
12:56 I had a DM (and a couple party members) who were... *_disgustingly_* eager to do ERP. And they didn't particularly care whose characters they used. Every single day of the week, the DM and at least one of the others would be going into lurid detail of how their characters' relationships were progressing. My character Wash, a Rogue whose whole gimmick was being a hidden bodyguard, had a fiancee who he accidentally killed in a Spy vs Spy, Mr & Mrs Smith type battle (he didn't know it was her, she didn't know it was him, etc), so my character's motivation was gonna be all about either dying in glorious battle, or getting the gold to pay for a resurrection. The DM thought that was too basic and boring, so I created a younger sister and bedridden mom to Wash's life as the thin tether keeping him coming back home after each mission and not going full Deathseeker or committing Sedoku. The Paladin's player decided that his character was gonna get freaky with Wash's sister, and the DM made her a Divinely Chosen Oracle, and she was given a Godly Mandate to marry the Paladin (who already had six wives in his backstory). And that's how Luca, Wash's 9 year old sister, suddenly doubled in age, so she was no longer dependent on her brother as a source of income, comfort, or anything else. And then we had a Two Year Timeskip out of friggin nowhere and my Rogue was suddenly married to one of Luca's friends, a Priestess at the Sun Temple-oh, and she's pregnant with Wash's kid. That group was...a mess, to say the absolute least. We had good moments, but only had that one campaign last longer than three sessions. I finally quit the group and found a new one because the DM tried to force my Clockwork Bartender (basically, think FNAF or Sundry Sidney from Dimension 20's Starstruck Odyssey) Gunner into a sexual relationship with what I can only describe as a Borg-ified Aboleth, because the fact my agender robot character was ace meant its engine only revved for cyborgs and non-humans. 🙄
One of my players is ace and another pc wanted to “riz them up” and I just asked “is this character asexual ” the player said yes, and I turned to the one flirting and said “it wont work so no point rolling” or I changed the result of the roll to be “he seems like a chill dude” as a just general first impression.
You can't un-ace. “The rolls were just too good”. Mind control, that is mind control. Not Persuasion. Mind control. That DM effectively raped that npc.
That reminds me a bit grossly of the time when I told my best friend that I don't feel attraction for anyone and no need to do sexual stuff and wonder if I'm broken and she said: "No, you're probably just stuck up." ... I believe she meant well. I believe she doesn't know she hurt me to this day... I sometimes feel like sexual people might not understand the idea of 'not' being sexual. And it's hard to grasp for me. But it's what I came up with. Also she's not my best friend anymore. Not sure if she knows that.
Well, you CAN unace. Its not a sexual identity, its hormones, the default human state is erect or wet. But anyone forcing that would be the jerk because who cares about nature? Iphones don't grow on trees.
100% not even charm magic can override an individual's inherent nature. Only straight mind control/domination could, and then its just grape, even if of an admittedly imaginary person
"I rolled a nat 20 to seduce this character." "She laughs good-naturedly at your joke, says she's not into you, and offers to introduce you to one of her friends some time" It's not that hard.
Yeah, one way to frame it to show how absolutely fucked up it was would be to ask how people would feel about this DM doing that to a character who was a lesbian or gay. "Oh, the persuasion rolls were just too high" goes into some real dark places.
@jlaw131985 unfortunately many who think aces can be "fixed" are the same fuckers that think gay pepol can be "fixed". Nice idea tho try and make a character to "turn" them gay then reveal it was all an illusion/dream be a nice way to both teach the player a lesson and introduce a new big bad!
@@attieboersma8254 Yeah, nat 20s give you the best POSSIBLE results. If you roll a nat 20 while lockpicking, you pick the lock, you don't magically unlock every lock in the building, kill the BBEG, and get elected President of Lithuania. If what you're trying to do is impossible, even a nat 20 won't do anything.
Yep, especially on OP. It gave me flashbacks to other tabletop horror stories with problem players forcing fetishes, particularly ones where it's someone else's.
@@ArcCaravanThis is like the eighth story where someone tried to force piss or shit into a D&D game. Seriously, is that the only fetish the community has?
yea absolutely, and so often with others its not at all hidden just like that one. My partner and friends had to drop one dm from the friend group cuz he consistently split the lesbian couple (both character and irl couple) and try and get one or the others character to bed them or harrass them despite literally the entire group telling him to stop, like he was fixated on them to the point they quiet quit the group before everyone dropped him. They knew he was awkward so they didnt want to just kick him immediately so everyone tried every method they could to help him understand how uncomfortable everyone was but simply didnt stop. No ones gonna have fun with some weirdo, perverted, controlling person not allowing ppl to do what they want and assulting their character while self inserting their fetishes.
In the ACE story, it seems the DM didn't like the player much since he disregarded every big thing the player wanted to do. The DM had no issue with letting the Fighter get his big moment, but then denied the OP.
It is extremely obvious when a DM is playing favorites with players. They don't think the players will pick up on it, but we almost immediately do. It makes the game unbearable and hurtful. I hope that player finds a better group.
I feel like ace representation is really difficult to get right primarily because a lot of people focus on what an ace person DOESN'T do which will never be as compelling as what they actually do. I think the only time I've seen this done well was with Parvati from the game The Outer Worlds. She was explicitly ace for one thing, not just a fan theory, but was also depicted in becoming interested in people in ways outside of sexual arousal. She becomes flustered after admitting to the player that she stayed up all night exchanging engineering tips with someone.
The cake thing isnt a lie, im not asexual, but the point of being asexual is NOT about the lack of sex or arousal, but the fact that its uneeded because there is so much more about someone than if they like getting their rocks off, intelligence in varied subjects is honestly one of my favorites
That's a good point. I also think there's a lot of nuance to consider and when people push their own values on an ace character (even unknowingly) it can lead to ace rep with bad or wonky vibes. Someone who isn't ace may characterize an ace character as lonely bc to them, an intimate relationship with someone is the strongest bond they can form and without that, "what else is there?". I might characterize an ace character as lonely because when everyone around you prioritizes their intimate relationships, you lose common grounds to talk about and time spent with each other. It's the same outcome, but the road to it is completely different and that can really show in roleplay.
@@attieboersma8254 I'm always surprised about the lack of even trying to imagine an ace character NOT being lonely by default. I mean that would mean an asexual DM would literally EVERY damn NPC that's not acespec write as 24/7 horndog with nothing else on his mind. Basically, if an asexual DM wrote his allosexual NPCs like far too many DMs (and professional writers for all kinds of fiction really), their campagin would literally consist of a party, maybe an ace character here and there, and about 98% NPCs that'd put every stereotypical "horny bard" character to shame.
Before any context, that just made me almost want a campaign of Crispy and other tabletop horror story channels playing as their avatars with NPCs based on common elements of problem players and OPs.
As an ace person it's really frusting when people try to act like they can "change our minds" & magically not make us ace anymore. The same applies to any person's gender identity & sexuality because in my mind it's not only frusting when someone does try to do it irl but also if for any character the person's made. Also I find ur voice nice & good for when I want just chill while listening to some dnd horror stories/dnd stuff
Being ace is hard, especially when non asexuals think it's a choice. I find it really stupid that people can accept being gay (using it as an umbrella term) isn't a choice but still seem to think asexuality is a choice. It's not. Trust me. I am repulsed by sex, nothing any of my past exes did (even if some was consensual) changed that. It's really shitty that ace people are completely invalidated at pretty much every turn.
The only time I've seen such behavior is among the straight community. They tend to get really upset when you suggest that they become Bi to show you how easy it is to convert to some new flavor of Allo.
I've like, had several conversations with people who don't understand the ace thing, and its just, like, "the only way you're capable of showing love is through sex? That's really sad." That usually snaps people out of whatever funk they're in and has made more than one confused friend understand
Rick needs to get a reality check and a kick in the nuts. "It's what my character would do" is a slap in the face, "it's what your character would do" is an uppercut to the nuts! Don't uppercut people in the nuts unless you want someone to do the same to you.
When buckets of human waste were regularly thrown out of windows, there was both social expectations and legislation regulating times and procedures for doing so. (ex. having specified hours, looking to ensure no one is coming, calling out a specific phrase before dumping, or aiming for certain awnings or areas.) In some cities, remnants of these laws are still in place.
Fourth Story: That's a definite conversation that needs to be had with Rick, and if he won't or doesn't change, it might be time for OP to find a new group to play with. He could bring Seth to a group whose DM will respect him and his sister and give him chances to shine. What he did with Apollo is also pretty awful.
I honestly was more mad about Apollo being robbed of the revenge plot against an abusive parent, despite how much worse the asexual erasure is. It just reminded me how the only "revenge is wrong" story I thought was good was Neon White and how I enjoyed a Jojo's Bizarre Adventure character yelled about not giving up their revenge as they finish off a villain with no complaints.
@@ArcCaravan Yeah, don't get me wrong, not giving Apollo a good ending to his story and instead having an NPC kill his nemesis and then turn Apollo's arc into one of forgiveness rather than vengeance is totally awful. I was just making more of the point about Seth because that was more of the focus of the story. If OP has the chance to get to the end of Rick's plot and the villain is some irredeemable monster bent on destroying the world, and as the party is about to defeat him, a DMPC shows up to deliver the killing blow, I hope OP stops the DMPC and asks him to simply forgive the BBEG and let him go, if just to derail Rick's perfect story about his OC.
@@zixserro1 Oh, I know there's more reason to be concerned about Seth's portion of the story. Pretty sure DMPC didn't actually kill Apollo's father, that's just what Crispy had done in the skit.
I've had a somewhat similar thing to the ace story. Kind of. Except it wasn't anything in-character. My Aasimar character was ace but not aro and he fell in love with the Tiefling warlock. Said Tiefling was also ace but not aro. Their relationship is genuinely sweet and loving and even silly! But one player OOC would make rather sexual jokes about them a lot. Other players would now and again too but I could always tell they understood the true nature of their relationship and it wasn't at the same frequency as the one player. I'd tell them "both characters are ace, sure mine isn't repulsed and probably would if his partner wanted, but in this case his partner is also ace so nothing like that happens between them". Yet the innuendos kept happening. It was mostly just a pet peeve I could overlook since it only happened OOC but the whole group ended up having a huge falling out with that player anyway so...
I greatly appreciate your story for clearing up my confusion on OP's asexual artificer (an alluring alliteration) having a crush on another character. Whenever I here asexual, I automatically assume ace/aro unless quickly informed otherwise. That is completely on me and I hope to not make such mistaken assumptions in the future.
@@ArcCaravan it's an understandable mistake! I'm aroace myself lol. But I do love to live out and explore romance and more through fiction. Funny enough, my own characters are rarely ace
@@ArcCaravanThat's understandable, most people would assume that. Simply because outside of the ace-community, SAM (split attraction model, the idea that sexual and romantic attraction do not HAVE to align) is not really a well known thing in my experience. And as with most sexualities, I feel like sexual & romantic attraction aligning is the more common thing (most heterosexual people are heteroromantic as well etc, hell, most non-aces say "__sexual" and mean "__sexual and -romantic" becuse that just seems to be the most common thing). I'd say it's pretty ok to initially think of it like that, it only really becomes a problem when you refuse to accept that it's not like that after they told you so. Basically no asexual person would be offended if you were confused when finding out they are also panromantic for example, it's always the wording and attitude - it becomes an issue once you decide to tell them either they can't fall in love with someone because they are ace, or they are not ace if they fall in love with someone, but that's kinda just common sense I guess, I'd assume nobody likes it if they state there sexuality and someone comes and tries to explain their sexuality to them :D
@@cookie856 yeah, you don't, but as you yourself pointed out, you are not allo. Most people who are allo(sexual and -romantic) do not really differntiate between sexual and romantic orientation unless they know someone where the two do not align. And I'd argue the way society and school teaches us about it doesn't help at all. I mean, could you name me a single hollywood (or other pop culture stuff) character that happens to be something like let's say bisexual homoromantic for example, or basically any other combination of sexual & romantic orientation that do NOT align? (And let's not even get started on the idea of allosexual+aromantic=fuckboy/slut/etc or asexual+alloromantic=prude)
I'm ace with ace characters, and I can unfortunately say my characters sexualities have been erased because "the rolls were too good." The person responsible did apologize a while after, but it was still something that contributed to the fall of the campaign and the friendship. I feel for the person in that story.
It seems to be the case that all highly attractive, but geeky and fun, women get the lion share of weirdos. Back when That Guy with the Glasses (or Channel Awesome) was still a thing... Obscurist Lupa got that sort of attention a lot. . If I had to guess why... Because they are the sort of people weirdos feel they actually have a chance with.
I know you're not supposed to infer things about people based on what stories they write. But at some point, you have to call a spade, a spade , and say " that DM for sure has a piss fetish".
The skit in "You Killed My Father" just reminded me of how much I love playing NPCs that my players designed. It doesn't happen often, but it's such a treat to bring someone's idea into my world to interact with them!
I really love that Githyanki story. Its the kind of thing that will only work in a mature group of good friends and really speaks to what a great group this must be, a true glory story
Say it with me everyone, persuasion doesn't work that way. Rick needs to lose his table for being so overbearing. Seriously, persuasion is quite well defined in what it can do and how it can be used. People need to stop this crap, it's pointless.
All those "persuasion checks are mind control" players makes me wanna "persuade" them into servitude. Or offer a Persuasion check with the DC at 100 or a competing check with the opponent awarded a 20 portent from Divination Wizards.
Second Story: Man, this is a big fear I have about playing a character I've had in mind for some time. Their whole goal is to save their parents and town from bad guys, and when I get to play that character, I have the backstory written to include "her parents are both still alive". I'm worried I'll plug her into a game and get a DM who, upon us arriving at the town, will describe the heads of my character's parents on pikes outside the town for daring to defy the villains or something like that. If they're killed, I don't know what that character would do; she'd be pissed and want revenge, sure, but after that, then what? It's a bad thing to do as a DM; I just saw a video the other day giving tips to DMs, and one of the tips was, "Once the player give you their NPCs, they belong to you and you can do whatever you want with them, even if the player tells you otherwise", and that feels wrong. If the player gives the DM a character, they should at least have some say in how they act and other major aspects of their character, like if they're alive or not. The NPCs can die, but I feel like doing it offscreen or without the player there is cheap and bad; it doesn't give the player a chance to help that character they made and care about.
I think what you are doing with your backstory is very different from the OPs, and you shouldn't be afraid of experiencing what they did. Your back story includes NPCs (that clearly matter to you) from the beginning. The OP created an entire cast of NPCs for themselves MID CAMPAIGN. These are very different scenarios. Just take what happens to OP as an example of what not to do ie what's likely to piss off your DM.
I 100% had a DM pull the “all of your backstory characters are dead now” on me. My first character was a high elf cleric. At the time, I didn’t know anything about the lore of Faerun, so I was figuring out everything as I went and wasn’t necessarily looking too deeply into things. However, the biggest mistake came when I picked where her family was going to live. As I was making a high elf, I basically just wanted to pick “a big elven city.” My mistake, however, was picking Myth Drannor. My DM, much more knowledgeable about Faerun lore than I was, greenlighted my backstory and everything… But didn’t tell me until later that Myth Drannor had been destroyed by the time our campaign would take place. I had designed an entire family for my elf, since her relationship with them was a driving force for her becoming a cleric. Parents, grandparents, many other siblings, all with names and designs and established personalities. However, because of backstory reasons, she had been avoiding her family for decades. Before we ever got to interact with any of her family, my DM basically told me, “Oh, according to the official lore, Myth Drannor was destroyed in a war years ago by the time of this module. They’re probably all dead. But your character doesn’t know that yet because she never went back to check.” You’re telling me that an entire city flew up into the sky and came crashing down and that news hasn’t reached my cleric just because she’s been traveling?? WHAT. I wish he would have just told me that the city didn’t make sense and I would have picked a different one, but this was just one of the many awful things the DM did. He was notorious for making bad decisions and told us at the end of the campaign (after we’d all basically quit out of frustration) that he didn’t actually like when his players made in-depth backstories, he preferred when they just have him an “idea” and let him do whatever he wanted from there. Maybe I’m crazy but that feels like something you should tell your players BEFORE they make backstories and get attached to them 🙄
Doesn’t matter how many good qualities a DM brings if they have one glaring flaw. Dealbreakers are dealbreakers for a reason. Take care of this issue ASAP.
Sexual orientation in the games I play hasn't really come up in years. We don't get into relationships or try to seduce NPCs. The closest we get is occasionally flirting as part of a persuasion scheme.
With the 3 groups I play with, there is some element of romance in just about every campaign. This varies from my paladin mentioning she has a husband and 8 children to my noble wizard revealing she ran away from home to become a mercenary because she's gay and didn't want to be forced to marry a man for her family's political goals. We've also had romance arcs, and PC/PC romance
@@alexandraelizabeth8522 Hm, maybe my group is not the norm. Romance isn't a subject we've decided not to include in our games, but just not something any of us care to pursue in roleplaying. We're more of the look into mysteries, fight monsters, gather loot, fret over how to spend our loot type of group. Sometimes we also help the downtrodden and right wrongs, but that depends on the characters we're playing at the time.
Since my table has trans people and some gays and bi people, I tend to get a lot of infos about preferences and some flirts. But thats not a problem at all. I would say the mayor point is to be open about limits with every player and to accept a common ground. For us its a fade to black if one of the characters decides to hook up. But we do play flirt scenes since they could be a scheme to get something or open up a potential change with an NPC. But thats really changing from group to group. I have one where nearly nothing ever happens and another where 2 player try to get the next guy or girl in each town.
It made me facepalm, groan, cringe, and hate the fact I unironically used the word cringe. I have no choice but to respect the heck out of Crispy for earning that response from me.
The last story definitely has me appreciating each of my DMs more. I will give them npcs and they will stick to the key points I give them regarding them, especially if they are important to my character and their backstory or dynamic. I actually look forward to seeing how they take what I give them and transform it without losing what we discuss. It’s nice. I like collaboration. It’s why I joined the dnd hobby. That’s just something I personally like to do, collaborate over an idea and create something.
Ace no longer story. This is what I hate about skill checks. Some DM's/ GM's use them as mind control. Things like Persuasion are only supposed to nudge an NPC to your way of thinking IF they are on the fence about it. An example IIRC Guy at How to be a Great GM uses is a Royal Guard that has been ordered to let NO ONE into the throne room. It doesn't matter how GOOD your Persuasion roll is, that guard is not letting you thru that door. Some one who is dead set against doing or agreeing to something is not going to do so just because you made a good Roll on a Persuasion check.
I'd say with examples like the guard, if you fail the persuasion, you're suspicious to the guard and not getting in. If you succeed, you aren't suspicious and you're still not getting in.
The backstory destruction was really sad. I personally would've had it either be a random ship or have it be Bard's and have it where his crew isn't on there with a survivor that tells how they came across the vessel mysteriously abandoned and provides clues for the next bit. Also, you aren't a gremlin. You are adorable!
That last story was reminiscent of a horror story i went through with a DM that wanted to take a game of 2e and turn it into a fantasy dating sim. While i got away relatively free, one of the other players was railroaded into a relationship with a guy that was more than uncomfortably similar to her old abuser.
Had a GM pull that backstory culling trick, our party was put in magical stasis, 200 years of world progression ensured even the elven characters family was gone.
Support casters (of all varieties) will absolutely wreck the best-laid of DM plans in all the best ways. Even more than players generally. Some of my favorite moments as a DM ended with "let's run a bit of a side quest so I can completely rewrite the next arc before next week's session."
First story: Honestly, after the third time, I would've given the link to the GM to "Let me Google that for you" for 'OnlyFans, Golden showers', and then left. Second story: Man, this group looks awesome. Not just the GM investment and the player creativity, but those house rules about Doing a Thing are brilliant. Third story: Yeah, if you as a GM don't want a lot of background characters intro'ed via player backstories, that's something you need to communicate to them. Fourth story: Blerg. Ick. Fifth story (part one): Okay, this could be funny as hell in a comedic fantasy movie. Having the big confrontation suddenly get pre-empted by a never-before character who apparently also has some personal beef with the Big Bad would be a perfect subversion. Doing it in a game, unless you've laid a lot of groundwork, both in and out of the campaign, is just an asshat move. Fifth story (Part two): Okay, that's gross as always. Overriding a character's design with "persuasion rolls' is just wrong, and clearly way over the line. Fifth story (Part three): Yeah, no. I'm out.
no because I got so invested in Seth, the character of the last story and his sister, and the other dude absolutely destroyed so much time and effort put into those awesome characters I am so mad in the dude's behalf
The player outsmarting the situation and the DM accepting that is an epic win for me. Since when I DM I allways accept that and like it if my player are able to find a better solution. But since my group tends to find such things here and there I lernt to allways have a rough idea of the followup session so I can carry on in such cases.
As a Demi, i would have to have a deeeeeep connection as friends before ANY romantic relationship would form, this would be reflected in my characters too. romantic/sexual relations right off the bat is a huge NO for me.
God hearing these stories, I’m always grateful for the DM I have. He’s such a wonderful character, he’s talented, creative, funny, inventive, and just an overall great guy.
"Do The Thing" - that's utterly gorgeous! Glad everyone involved enjoyed it rather than it turning into a source of contention. Players are going to surprise GMs. I've done it to GMs, I've had players do it to me, I've been in games where one of the other players was the one to come up with the "game-breaking" wild idea. It happens. It's only a horror story when people get bent out of shape or it's done maliciously as a "Imma make this goddamn GM suffer" thing. And Crispy's dead right: all those things that were prepared can just turn up elsewhere, most likely with very little tweaking.
For that last one? I'd just take those characters and find a new DM who will treat them right and give your characters the story they deserve. Honestly I'd do that for the pirate one too. Then again, I've never had a D&D group that lasted long enough to see the end of a story, and I know campaigns can go for a LONG time, and people want to try new characters and ideas, but like, I guess what I mean is that if you have a concept you REALLY loved and it basically just got thrown in the trash, find a way to repurpose that idea- whether that's in a new D&D group, or just a story you write yourself, or whatever else. One of my FAVORITE characters I ever made was a D&D character I played when my brother briefly tried to start a group with my family- my dad was NOT into it, so I think we got through Curse of Strahd (which my brothers and I pretty much already knew cause we got pulled into D&D from listening to The Adventure Zone lol) and as we just barely started into the next arc, my dad dipped out, and then my mom figured she had other stuff she could be doing, which left me and my two brothers- one of whom was the DM. So that fell apart. But I REALLY liked this character, and I barely got to play her, so when my friends wanted to do a oneshot at a Friendsgiving party, I decided I'd bring her out. I had been fleshing out her backstory a ton, and started developing her family and all THEIR stories, and giving her character flaws and possible antagonists from her past I thought could be really interesting to delve into (more for a longer session, but when I was working on her I honestly didn't expect I'd have an opportunity to use her again, it was more for fun), so I was really excited. Unfortunately, while the story was fantastic, and our DM was amazing, the personalities of our PCs didn't really mesh very well- and then we ran out of time before ACTUALLY finishing the story. Like we fought the Big Bad and then had to end before any resolution. We'd planned on popping on Discord and finishing it up, but schedules didn't work and everyone just kinda dropped it. So I STILL have this character that I never got to utilize, and in the meantime I just keep working on her more and more. I'm not sure if/when I'll get another opportunity to be a part of a D&D campaign (I bought a set of VERY pretty dice that just sort of sit on the shelf) so for now I've toyed with the idea of just writing a story for her on my own, and when BG3 came out I decided to play her in a multiplayer game with some of my friends. It's not quite the same as getting to use her in a big campaign, but it DEFINITELY feels better than just seething over not getting to play her The Right Way.
I'm a player in a party that's pretty much the opposite of the 1st/2nd story. Like we're all dumb. We had to try to pry open a box and none of us had a knife on us and we failed any strength checks. We were desperate until the DM reminded us that we were in a kitchen, and there were knives lying around EVERYWHERE.
I would love to be a part of a D&D session with the Asexual Siblings. I'm oddly fascinated with the ace spectrum. It's because I'm Pan and I'm legitimately curious about my polar opposite. But I would feel weird about asking an actual ace person questions just to satisfy my curiosity. I have autism and ADHD, so I can sometimes miss social cues. The last thing I want is to make someone uncomfortable as I make them my new hyperfixation. Holding a clipboard and pen, noting down information like they're some newly discovered creature. Having the opportunity to explore my curiosity in a socially acceptable nerdy way would be sweet lol
Persuasion rolls means you can convince someone to do something they would be willing to do given the circumstances of the roll. You cannot persuasion to ask for the king to give up his kingdom but you can persuasion him to lend your father on trial mercy because you can convince him that benevolence is good for him. It's the persuasiveness of your argument, not your ability to ask for what you want and get it. You can't persuade an ace person to fall in love with you(or anyone for that matter, not just ace people), because that's both not something they're interested in and it's not a thing they're willing to do in that circumstance. You could maybe convince an ace or aro person to kiss you when they aren't attracted to you but that's not them being persuasioned into not being ace or aro and now having attraction towards you but a potentially unwilling or even assualting negotiation as a cost benefit equation. It's not love, it's manipulation. Or just reenacting friends with benefits in a fun way that you have to get both parties to agree to or else you are just engaging in sexual harrasment and possible assault.
It reminds me how I made ace bard. Once she had a strong bond of trust with her roommate, the DM would make remarks how weird their relationship is and she's no longer sce ever since she got married. 😢
I love having my players create NPCs for their back stories. it makes it feel more like they are a real part of the world and that we have created it together. I can't imagine just offing the whole lot of them or fundamentally changing them in a way that goes directly against what was created. I was running two campaigns with the timeline only off by a couple months between C1 and C2. C1 fell apart (that is its own story) but they had already uncovered some key information towards a world changing event. It was supposed to be the BBEG for C1, and since the campaign fell apart I decided to just let the events play out. C2 was running a few months behind, but they ended up moving in the direction of where the previous group had been. They started finding some of the same clues. However they decided to go off in another direction since they had their own goals, and didn't realize how big of an issue it would be. (I will add one player knew, as she played in both campaigns, but she didn't use that out of game info). Through this all I had seriously looked at every location that was important to them, every NPC they created or that they really liked and considered where they were, and how they could have survived. I looked at who was expendable as well so there was some loss but that it would not feel cheap having a beloved character die off screen. In the last session they just found out the mother of one of the npc love interests died and now they have created a quest for trying to find her body to ressurect her. I was still worried about even that. I cant imagine just getting rid of everyone!
“Can’t play Strahd without going to Barovia” reminds me of either here or one one of the other Channels, maybe Doge, about a Fallout game that the players refused to play. Now, by that I mean they refused to leave the Vault until the DM had Consequence smash in in the form of the Enclave (if you know, you know) and got *mad* at the DM for _playing the game._ If you know anything about Fallout, you know the game happens outside the Vault. You can’t stay there forever.
That second story reminds me of my players, they frequently come up with solutions that wouldn't have crossed my mind as a possibility. I try to have a couple of sessions roughly planned, or something I can pull out at a moments notice, just incase they completely avoid/defuse a situation I'd thought would be much more involved. I do say no to some things that wouldn't make sense, but by and large I roll with whatever they come up with/the dice favour.
In my short campaign, the only sexuality I had was either played for comedy (ie. the nudist lesbian gnome who was a high priestess for a dryad goddess & took ‘worship’ very seriously) or player directed (a kind half-orc NPC a named Forge that the Warlock was like ‘can I ask him out?’) Everything else was fairly aromantic and asexual because, Imma be honest, unless we talk about it, I don’t want to flirt with my friends too much. One of the other players were trying to push the Wizard into flirting with an NPC for information (twice) and I had to shut that down, first as the NPC (“I literally said I was looking for an item for my GIRLFRIEND”) and then the second OOC (“the lesbian gnome is here for comedy, if our wizard doesn’t want to flirt with her, don’t force her to. Her player and character are both straight, and neither her nor I want to roleplay this.”) I’m Bi but on the ace spectrum and the great thing about TTRPGs is the freedom of them. But goddamn let people have boundaries!
Story 4 does not surprise me. Personal space and feelings gets ignored in real life for ace/aro people like me all the time, why would it be any different in DND, since ‘it’s just a game’ excuse could be so easily dropped?
Your voice is great and I listen to you while I work. I love the skits, too, and often turn away from work just to watch them when they come up in a vid. :)
As an asexual. That's absolutely fucking disgusting. I don't like sex, I hate sexual activities. Someone being very persuasive isn't gonna make me want sex. Because I KNOW I do NOT like it. So why would it be any different for a character? Especially when the creator of said character said that the character wouldn't have sex.
No, it still makes sense that even an abused child would want to forgive their father. It is one of the most tragic things I ever heard of that yes some children do grow up resenting their abusive fathers, but many more still grow up still longing for some connection (or both). It is why I have a even stronger gripe against abusive parents.
Oh I can't stand the player's important NPC being killed "offscreen" like that! Just started a new 4e campaign and most of my players have given me amazing NPCs to work with. 💜These are indispensable tools in a DMs toolbox, not randomly disposable characters. >:(
I love the "Do A Thing" story!! I want to be a DM in the future, and what I've learned from stories like that, is you've got to expect the party to have outside the box ideas, and have backup plans. For a campaign I want to hold, the BBG will be a "I will only die to a worthy opponent!" type deal (inspired by the Spiderman 2 BBG) and if they kill them with stupid means, the BBG will get so angry, and curse whoever was the cause, out of spite. I don't know what exactly, but I'll save the curse for the actual thing.
As an Ace person, the last story brought to mind all the BS I've put up with due to being Ace. "You just haven't found the right person yet" "it's just a phase" "I bet I can fix you" Thing is, I'm married (I'm biro). I have met the person I want to spend the rest of my life with. But that doesn't change that I'm Ace. it doesn't magically "fix" my s*xual attraction. Ace is part of my core being. it doesn't change. And in D&D persuasion can't make someone do something that goes against the core of their very being. A nat 20 can't change whether a character is open to something they would never be open to.
On the ACE story: dump the DM, dump the campaign, and dump the boyfriend, too. The DM screwed up with that "the rolls are too good," but the boyfriend was the one rolling the dice in the first place. To which I would say why would he be doing that?
The easy way to save the story about dead crew of the ship is just to make them into ghosts that are hunting the ship the moment the player's character retuned to the ship. And create story from this.
2:27 "Gee, an epic RPG where you have to collect 4 treasures of the elements. Never heard that one before... *slowly picks up Final Fantasy for the NES*"
One time I got into an argument with my DM about my character who is asexual. I mentioned that the charm spell would not work on him because the spell specifically says that the person casting it has to be of a gender that the pc is normally attracted too. He didn't like that very much and said that if someone casted it on him he would have it work. After a few questions he specified that if it was a woman casting the spell it would work and if it were a man then it would not. I called him homophobic and he said that if I kept arguing with him then he would have it work no matter what the gender of the person casting the spell was. I stared at him in disbelief for a second before pausing to think and then told him that I wasn't comfortable playing at his table anymore. I was about to rip up my character sheet and everyone at the table freaked out and practically begged me to stay in the campaign. They managed to convince me. I wish they hadn't. Worst party I ever played with.
That was a lot of Concentration spells used all at once in the Gith story. That was a great plan, but not actually possible if the spells are following the normal rules.
...I immediately thought of the Jewel Shards in Inuyasha. LOL. But yes. Collecting parts of One Big Thingy is common in ficton. How 'bout them Infinity Stones?
It’s crazy how (and I know asexuality is more of a lack of sex drive and not being bad at romantic relationships) an asexual rat has more “know how” of how to be a good partner than other people, godDAMN that guy that guy that was posting his son story about how he won’t be able to date Gini was so incredibly cringe I can’t believe that shit 🤦♂️
Asexuality isn't as simple as a lack of a sex drive - many people don't lack a sex drive, but that doesn't mean they have an interest in actual bodily smashing. It's about attraction, not level of horny. Further, aromantic is split from asex so people can be romantic and partnered, but not want to or actively be turned off from booty slaps.
I'm still curious if that's a common thing, simply because for us aces, one thing that's a huuuge part of relationships for most non-aces just isn't that much of a thing and so there is quite the gap to fill in, which we fill in with non-sexual meaningful stuff usually
@@LucRio448I feel like in any GOOD relationship they don't look for sex. Friends I have who aren't ace don't look for someone for sex they look for someone that they can spend time with and get along with and that will validate them and listen to them. There's honestly not much of a difference in an asexual vs sexual relationship. (Other than sex ofc but I know for a lot of people sex isn't something they even do because they'd rather just hang out)
@@seafairyclipsOkay now I kinda hope if I ever date someone again, it'd be someone who is part of your friend group. Because while most people I know do not date just BECAUSE of sex, they still agree that sex is an important part of a relationship. And honestly, if it wasn't an important thing to most people, I doubt people would even discuss the frequency of sex in their relationship really. I've never heard anyone complain about not getting takeout pizza often enough in a relationship after all or their partner not wearing green shirts often enough for their liking.
Honestly, when I hear about LGBT characters or even non-LGBT characters getting manipulated or converted in some way by other characters , it just makes me want to hear the same thing happen to that player's character. " Oh, you're playing a straight character? Not anymore, the roles were too good, so your character got converted." like? HOW DOES THAT EVEN MAKE SENSE?! D&D is based off of a narrative, and game mechanics are just there to give it structure. Don't corrupt one by manipulating another.
H god, I've had a DM like Rick before. He's blatantly admits that his games "an excuse to tell his story and the players to follow along" and gets butthurt when we don't act the way he thinks our characters should act. I'm glad I've left and never looked back
Okay! So when you're running Curse of Strahd, and your party decides to "outsmart" you, by refusing to enter Barovia, just let them "win." Que up the outro music, blare it on full blast, and start narrating an "epic epilogue" for all their characters and the few NPCs they've interacted with.
More games need "the Red Rule" that Exalted uses. Any player may declare any given (or all) seduction to be "unacceptable influence" for their character, without needing to give a reason, and the GM can do the same for any NPC.
Considering that Berovia in curse of Strad. Is covered in a mist that you can enter, but you can’t leave. And all of the other horror aspects of it. I think it would actually work if you treated Berova like Silent Hill. You don’t necessarily have to go there you can just find yourself there.
@@emberfist8347 but if you want to make Berovia like silent Hill. Then you would have to destroy all evil creatures there and then absolve every citizen of their sins. At that point, I think it would be faster just to kill Strad
If a DM or player tries to force a strong charisma roll on you to romance your character, that is ace or not interested in their gender, ask them if they could be persuaded to make out with someone from agender they aren't interested in. And even if they don't get it, don't allow it. No DnD is better than whatever this is.
As an Ace guy, fuck everything about that last story. The idea of Ace people being converted by the right/sufficiently “sexy” person is a common and utterly vile thing we have to put up with. I’d be out the door if someone did that to me.
@@azeplayt4546I mean the question is always, what meaning of "ace" you are talking about. Could be specifically asexual, could be umbrella for anything on the acespec, could also mean specifically asexual AND aromantic... that makes a huge difference.
To go with your example, asexual + alloromantic could easily fall in love with someone, just wouldn't be SEXUALLY attracted to them. "ace" as umbrella for acespec would leave open the possibility of gray-/demisexual (to stick to the most commonly known labels for now) which means A) the same as the first case in terms of falling in love and B) under specific circumstances sexual attraction also would be possible (your example specifically - assuming you are using "asexual" as shortcut for "asexual & aromantic" etc - sounds like demisexual most likely). If "ace" in the context is supposed to mean specifically "asexual & aromantic", then there is literally no way the NPC would... I mean asexual doesn't mean sex-repulsed by default but that's going way too far and definitely not what OP there was going for.
im not even asexual but i like making characters with different sexualities than mine, and if i made an ace character and the dm pulled this shit i would NOT let that slide. im not about to stay in a campaign that activley disrespects other members of the lgbt
Same, I have an aro/ace drow and if anyone tried pulling that crap on them I'd be out, but honestly I'd also be leaving for worse reasons considering they are a minor-
12:56 I had a DM (and a couple party members) who were... *_disgustingly_* eager to do ERP. And they didn't particularly care whose characters they used. Every single day of the week, the DM and at least one of the others would be going into lurid detail of how their characters' relationships were progressing.
My character Wash, a Rogue whose whole gimmick was being a hidden bodyguard, had a fiancee who he accidentally killed in a Spy vs Spy, Mr & Mrs Smith type battle (he didn't know it was her, she didn't know it was him, etc), so my character's motivation was gonna be all about either dying in glorious battle, or getting the gold to pay for a resurrection. The DM thought that was too basic and boring, so I created a younger sister and bedridden mom to Wash's life as the thin tether keeping him coming back home after each mission and not going full Deathseeker or committing Sedoku.
The Paladin's player decided that his character was gonna get freaky with Wash's sister, and the DM made her a Divinely Chosen Oracle, and she was given a Godly Mandate to marry the Paladin (who already had six wives in his backstory). And that's how Luca, Wash's 9 year old sister, suddenly doubled in age, so she was no longer dependent on her brother as a source of income, comfort, or anything else.
And then we had a Two Year Timeskip out of friggin nowhere and my Rogue was suddenly married to one of Luca's friends, a Priestess at the Sun Temple-oh, and she's pregnant with Wash's kid.
That group was...a mess, to say the absolute least. We had good moments, but only had that one campaign last longer than three sessions.
I finally quit the group and found a new one because the DM tried to force my Clockwork Bartender (basically, think FNAF or Sundry Sidney from Dimension 20's Starstruck Odyssey) Gunner into a sexual relationship with what I can only describe as a Borg-ified Aboleth, because the fact my agender robot character was ace meant its engine only revved for cyborgs and non-humans. 🙄
One of my players is ace and another pc wanted to “riz them up” and I just asked “is this character asexual ” the player said yes, and I turned to the one flirting and said “it wont work so no point rolling” or I changed the result of the roll to be “he seems like a chill dude” as a just general first impression.
You can't un-ace.
“The rolls were just too good”.
Mind control, that is mind control.
Not Persuasion. Mind control. That DM effectively raped that npc.
honestly is someone claims they can seduce an asexual they're either lying or commiting a crime
Amen. Very gross.
Bill Cosby...
That reminds me a bit grossly of the time when I told my best friend that I don't feel attraction for anyone and no need to do sexual stuff and wonder if I'm broken and she said: "No, you're probably just stuck up." ... I believe she meant well. I believe she doesn't know she hurt me to this day... I sometimes feel like sexual people might not understand the idea of 'not' being sexual. And it's hard to grasp for me. But it's what I came up with.
Also she's not my best friend anymore. Not sure if she knows that.
Well, you CAN unace. Its not a sexual identity, its hormones, the default human state is erect or wet. But anyone forcing that would be the jerk because who cares about nature? Iphones don't grow on trees.
“The rolls were just too good”. Again Persuasion does NOT equal mind control. Why is that such a difficult concept to grasp?
100% not even charm magic can override an individual's inherent nature. Only straight mind control/domination could, and then its just grape, even if of an admittedly imaginary person
"I rolled a nat 20 to seduce this character."
"She laughs good-naturedly at your joke, says she's not into you, and offers to introduce you to one of her friends some time"
It's not that hard.
Yeah, one way to frame it to show how absolutely fucked up it was would be to ask how people would feel about this DM doing that to a character who was a lesbian or gay. "Oh, the persuasion rolls were just too high" goes into some real dark places.
@jlaw131985 unfortunately many who think aces can be "fixed" are the same fuckers that think gay pepol can be "fixed".
Nice idea tho try and make a character to "turn" them gay then reveal it was all an illusion/dream be a nice way to both teach the player a lesson and introduce a new big bad!
@@attieboersma8254 Yeah, nat 20s give you the best POSSIBLE results. If you roll a nat 20 while lockpicking, you pick the lock, you don't magically unlock every lock in the building, kill the BBEG, and get elected President of Lithuania. If what you're trying to do is impossible, even a nat 20 won't do anything.
The intro story's DM was DEFINITELY trying to push his fetish onto his players
Yep, especially on OP. It gave me flashbacks to other tabletop horror stories with problem players forcing fetishes, particularly ones where it's someone else's.
@@ArcCaravanThis is like the eighth story where someone tried to force piss or shit into a D&D game. Seriously, is that the only fetish the community has?
@@BrandonVout Far from only, but definitely a fetish that gets tabletop horror stories made easier.
"Dare you enter my magical realm?" 🙄
yea absolutely, and so often with others its not at all hidden just like that one. My partner and friends had to drop one dm from the friend group cuz he consistently split the lesbian couple (both character and irl couple) and try and get one or the others character to bed them or harrass them despite literally the entire group telling him to stop, like he was fixated on them to the point they quiet quit the group before everyone dropped him. They knew he was awkward so they didnt want to just kick him immediately so everyone tried every method they could to help him understand how uncomfortable everyone was but simply didnt stop. No ones gonna have fun with some weirdo, perverted, controlling person not allowing ppl to do what they want and assulting their character while self inserting their fetishes.
In the ACE story, it seems the DM didn't like the player much since he disregarded every big thing the player wanted to do. The DM had no issue with letting the Fighter get his big moment, but then denied the OP.
It is extremely obvious when a DM is playing favorites with players. They don't think the players will pick up on it, but we almost immediately do. It makes the game unbearable and hurtful. I hope that player finds a better group.
I feel like ace representation is really difficult to get right primarily because a lot of people focus on what an ace person DOESN'T do which will never be as compelling as what they actually do. I think the only time I've seen this done well was with Parvati from the game The Outer Worlds. She was explicitly ace for one thing, not just a fan theory, but was also depicted in becoming interested in people in ways outside of sexual arousal. She becomes flustered after admitting to the player that she stayed up all night exchanging engineering tips with someone.
The cake thing isnt a lie, im not asexual, but the point of being asexual is NOT about the lack of sex or arousal, but the fact that its uneeded because there is so much more about someone than if they like getting their rocks off, intelligence in varied subjects is honestly one of my favorites
That's a good point. I also think there's a lot of nuance to consider and when people push their own values on an ace character (even unknowingly) it can lead to ace rep with bad or wonky vibes.
Someone who isn't ace may characterize an ace character as lonely bc to them, an intimate relationship with someone is the strongest bond they can form and without that, "what else is there?". I might characterize an ace character as lonely because when everyone around you prioritizes their intimate relationships, you lose common grounds to talk about and time spent with each other. It's the same outcome, but the road to it is completely different and that can really show in roleplay.
@@attieboersma8254 Sexual* relationship, intimacy can come in many forms, especially platonic
@@muffinmuffin8946 True. It was more of a self-censor, but thanks for giving me the opportunity to clarify.
@@attieboersma8254 I'm always surprised about the lack of even trying to imagine an ace character NOT being lonely by default. I mean that would mean an asexual DM would literally EVERY damn NPC that's not acespec write as 24/7 horndog with nothing else on his mind. Basically, if an asexual DM wrote his allosexual NPCs like far too many DMs (and professional writers for all kinds of fiction really), their campagin would literally consist of a party, maybe an ace character here and there, and about 98% NPCs that'd put every stereotypical "horny bard" character to shame.
In this house we do not “un-Ace” our players’ characters♠️
WHY ARE PEOPLE BEING WEIRD TOWARDS THE ASEXUAL DND RAT WHO TELLS US STORIES.
Before any context, that just made me almost want a campaign of Crispy and other tabletop horror story channels playing as their avatars with NPCs based on common elements of problem players and OPs.
Oh no what happened
Because given a sufficiently large population sampling, that is somebody's fetish.
Envy? The hat on this rat is awesome after all.
WHAT HAPPENED
As an ace person it's really frusting when people try to act like they can "change our minds" & magically not make us ace anymore. The same applies to any person's gender identity & sexuality because in my mind it's not only frusting when someone does try to do it irl but also if for any character the person's made. Also I find ur voice nice & good for when I want just chill while listening to some dnd horror stories/dnd stuff
as a pan person i can't relate personally but people trying to change other people makes me angry as fuck
You can't un-ace. People have tried on me in many unpleasant ways :(
And your voice is fantastic and soothing :)
im sorry you had to go through whatever it was you had to go through. Hope you're living a better life now.
Being ace is hard, especially when non asexuals think it's a choice.
I find it really stupid that people can accept being gay (using it as an umbrella term) isn't a choice but still seem to think asexuality is a choice.
It's not. Trust me. I am repulsed by sex, nothing any of my past exes did (even if some was consensual) changed that.
It's really shitty that ace people are completely invalidated at pretty much every turn.
The only time I've seen such behavior is among the straight community. They tend to get really upset when you suggest that they become Bi to show you how easy it is to convert to some new flavor of Allo.
on today's episode: the writer's barely disguised fetish
More like "not disguised at all fetish" and eww 😂
Drow lore be like
A veil so thin it's just thick enough to EMPHASIZE how disgusting the writer is
Dude really went "ugh, I hate that you're more alert now, makes it harder for us other creeps"
I've like, had several conversations with people who don't understand the ace thing, and its just, like, "the only way you're capable of showing love is through sex? That's really sad."
That usually snaps people out of whatever funk they're in and has made more than one confused friend understand
Rick needs to get a reality check and a kick in the nuts. "It's what my character would do" is a slap in the face, "it's what your character would do" is an uppercut to the nuts! Don't uppercut people in the nuts unless you want someone to do the same to you.
Rick the Prick. You don't just change a character's behavior "based on a roll". It doesn't matter, if it's not part of who they are.
Yes, besides, we all know the real way to entice an ace character is with garlic bread
When buckets of human waste were regularly thrown out of windows, there was both social expectations and legislation regulating times and procedures for doing so. (ex. having specified hours, looking to ensure no one is coming, calling out a specific phrase before dumping, or aiming for certain awnings or areas.) In some cities, remnants of these laws are still in place.
Wow. The more you know...
I salute you.
Makes a lot more sense then people risking entire families’ worth of raw sewage being dumped on them every time they stepped outside.
Fourth Story: That's a definite conversation that needs to be had with Rick, and if he won't or doesn't change, it might be time for OP to find a new group to play with. He could bring Seth to a group whose DM will respect him and his sister and give him chances to shine. What he did with Apollo is also pretty awful.
I honestly was more mad about Apollo being robbed of the revenge plot against an abusive parent, despite how much worse the asexual erasure is.
It just reminded me how the only "revenge is wrong" story I thought was good was Neon White and how I enjoyed a Jojo's Bizarre Adventure character yelled about not giving up their revenge as they finish off a villain with no complaints.
@@ArcCaravan Yeah, don't get me wrong, not giving Apollo a good ending to his story and instead having an NPC kill his nemesis and then turn Apollo's arc into one of forgiveness rather than vengeance is totally awful. I was just making more of the point about Seth because that was more of the focus of the story. If OP has the chance to get to the end of Rick's plot and the villain is some irredeemable monster bent on destroying the world, and as the party is about to defeat him, a DMPC shows up to deliver the killing blow, I hope OP stops the DMPC and asks him to simply forgive the BBEG and let him go, if just to derail Rick's perfect story about his OC.
@@zixserro1 Oh, I know there's more reason to be concerned about Seth's portion of the story. Pretty sure DMPC didn't actually kill Apollo's father, that's just what Crispy had done in the skit.
I've had a somewhat similar thing to the ace story. Kind of. Except it wasn't anything in-character. My Aasimar character was ace but not aro and he fell in love with the Tiefling warlock. Said Tiefling was also ace but not aro. Their relationship is genuinely sweet and loving and even silly! But one player OOC would make rather sexual jokes about them a lot. Other players would now and again too but I could always tell they understood the true nature of their relationship and it wasn't at the same frequency as the one player.
I'd tell them "both characters are ace, sure mine isn't repulsed and probably would if his partner wanted, but in this case his partner is also ace so nothing like that happens between them". Yet the innuendos kept happening. It was mostly just a pet peeve I could overlook since it only happened OOC but the whole group ended up having a huge falling out with that player anyway so...
I greatly appreciate your story for clearing up my confusion on OP's asexual artificer (an alluring alliteration) having a crush on another character. Whenever I here asexual, I automatically assume ace/aro unless quickly informed otherwise. That is completely on me and I hope to not make such mistaken assumptions in the future.
@@ArcCaravan it's an understandable mistake! I'm aroace myself lol. But I do love to live out and explore romance and more through fiction. Funny enough, my own characters are rarely ace
@@ArcCaravanThat's understandable, most people would assume that. Simply because outside of the ace-community, SAM (split attraction model, the idea that sexual and romantic attraction do not HAVE to align) is not really a well known thing in my experience. And as with most sexualities, I feel like sexual & romantic attraction aligning is the more common thing (most heterosexual people are heteroromantic as well etc, hell, most non-aces say "__sexual" and mean "__sexual and -romantic" becuse that just seems to be the most common thing).
I'd say it's pretty ok to initially think of it like that, it only really becomes a problem when you refuse to accept that it's not like that after they told you so. Basically no asexual person would be offended if you were confused when finding out they are also panromantic for example, it's always the wording and attitude - it becomes an issue once you decide to tell them either they can't fall in love with someone because they are ace, or they are not ace if they fall in love with someone, but that's kinda just common sense I guess, I'd assume nobody likes it if they state there sexuality and someone comes and tries to explain their sexuality to them :D
@@LucRio448 I want to say if I'm hearing ace I don't think the person is aro too but... *Gesture at the flag in my profile picture*
I'm not allo!
@@cookie856 yeah, you don't, but as you yourself pointed out, you are not allo. Most people who are allo(sexual and -romantic) do not really differntiate between sexual and romantic orientation unless they know someone where the two do not align. And I'd argue the way society and school teaches us about it doesn't help at all. I mean, could you name me a single hollywood (or other pop culture stuff) character that happens to be something like let's say bisexual homoromantic for example, or basically any other combination of sexual & romantic orientation that do NOT align? (And let's not even get started on the idea of allosexual+aromantic=fuckboy/slut/etc or asexual+alloromantic=prude)
I'm ace with ace characters, and I can unfortunately say my characters sexualities have been erased because "the rolls were too good." The person responsible did apologize a while after, but it was still something that contributed to the fall of the campaign and the friendship. I feel for the person in that story.
“Confess my love with my right hand..” my brain just went to the gutter 😂 sorry Crispy
Yeeeeah....mine too
😂😂😂
Pray for Ginny Di. Nothing is wrong with her, weirdos just flock to her videos.
Who?
its a risk of being a conventionally attractive femme in this hobby.
It seems to be the case that all highly attractive, but geeky and fun, women get the lion share of weirdos. Back when That Guy with the Glasses (or Channel Awesome) was still a thing... Obscurist Lupa got that sort of attention a lot.
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If I had to guess why... Because they are the sort of people weirdos feel they actually have a chance with.
I know you're not supposed to infer things about people based on what stories they write. But at some point, you have to call a spade, a spade , and say " that DM for sure has a piss fetish".
The skit in "You Killed My Father" just reminded me of how much I love playing NPCs that my players designed. It doesn't happen often, but it's such a treat to bring someone's idea into my world to interact with them!
You're not a dm, you're a angel!
Having our ideas used by the gm is so rewarding
I really love that Githyanki story. Its the kind of thing that will only work in a mature group of good friends and really speaks to what a great group this must be, a true glory story
Say it with me everyone, persuasion doesn't work that way. Rick needs to lose his table for being so overbearing.
Seriously, persuasion is quite well defined in what it can do and how it can be used. People need to stop this crap, it's pointless.
Exactly. Persuasion is not Mind Control.
All those "persuasion checks are mind control" players makes me wanna "persuade" them into servitude. Or offer a Persuasion check with the DC at 100 or a competing check with the opponent awarded a 20 portent from Divination Wizards.
@@ArcCaravan Yeah, that behavior is just total crap. It really needs to stop.
@@davidtherwhanger6795 Indeed, right you are.
Second Story: Man, this is a big fear I have about playing a character I've had in mind for some time. Their whole goal is to save their parents and town from bad guys, and when I get to play that character, I have the backstory written to include "her parents are both still alive". I'm worried I'll plug her into a game and get a DM who, upon us arriving at the town, will describe the heads of my character's parents on pikes outside the town for daring to defy the villains or something like that. If they're killed, I don't know what that character would do; she'd be pissed and want revenge, sure, but after that, then what? It's a bad thing to do as a DM; I just saw a video the other day giving tips to DMs, and one of the tips was, "Once the player give you their NPCs, they belong to you and you can do whatever you want with them, even if the player tells you otherwise", and that feels wrong. If the player gives the DM a character, they should at least have some say in how they act and other major aspects of their character, like if they're alive or not. The NPCs can die, but I feel like doing it offscreen or without the player there is cheap and bad; it doesn't give the player a chance to help that character they made and care about.
I think what you are doing with your backstory is very different from the OPs, and you shouldn't be afraid of experiencing what they did. Your back story includes NPCs (that clearly matter to you) from the beginning. The OP created an entire cast of NPCs for themselves MID CAMPAIGN. These are very different scenarios. Just take what happens to OP as an example of what not to do ie what's likely to piss off your DM.
I 100% had a DM pull the “all of your backstory characters are dead now” on me.
My first character was a high elf cleric. At the time, I didn’t know anything about the lore of Faerun, so I was figuring out everything as I went and wasn’t necessarily looking too deeply into things. However, the biggest mistake came when I picked where her family was going to live. As I was making a high elf, I basically just wanted to pick “a big elven city.” My mistake, however, was picking Myth Drannor. My DM, much more knowledgeable about Faerun lore than I was, greenlighted my backstory and everything… But didn’t tell me until later that Myth Drannor had been destroyed by the time our campaign would take place. I had designed an entire family for my elf, since her relationship with them was a driving force for her becoming a cleric. Parents, grandparents, many other siblings, all with names and designs and established personalities. However, because of backstory reasons, she had been avoiding her family for decades.
Before we ever got to interact with any of her family, my DM basically told me, “Oh, according to the official lore, Myth Drannor was destroyed in a war years ago by the time of this module. They’re probably all dead. But your character doesn’t know that yet because she never went back to check.”
You’re telling me that an entire city flew up into the sky and came crashing down and that news hasn’t reached my cleric just because she’s been traveling?? WHAT. I wish he would have just told me that the city didn’t make sense and I would have picked a different one, but this was just one of the many awful things the DM did. He was notorious for making bad decisions and told us at the end of the campaign (after we’d all basically quit out of frustration) that he didn’t actually like when his players made in-depth backstories, he preferred when they just have him an “idea” and let him do whatever he wanted from there. Maybe I’m crazy but that feels like something you should tell your players BEFORE they make backstories and get attached to them 🙄
Doesn’t matter how many good qualities a DM brings if they have one glaring flaw. Dealbreakers are dealbreakers for a reason. Take care of this issue ASAP.
Sexual orientation in the games I play hasn't really come up in years. We don't get into relationships or try to seduce NPCs. The closest we get is occasionally flirting as part of a persuasion scheme.
With the 3 groups I play with, there is some element of romance in just about every campaign. This varies from my paladin mentioning she has a husband and 8 children to my noble wizard revealing she ran away from home to become a mercenary because she's gay and didn't want to be forced to marry a man for her family's political goals.
We've also had romance arcs, and PC/PC romance
@@alexandraelizabeth8522 Hm, maybe my group is not the norm. Romance isn't a subject we've decided not to include in our games, but just not something any of us care to pursue in roleplaying. We're more of the look into mysteries, fight monsters, gather loot, fret over how to spend our loot type of group. Sometimes we also help the downtrodden and right wrongs, but that depends on the characters we're playing at the time.
Since my table has trans people and some gays and bi people, I tend to get a lot of infos about preferences and some flirts. But thats not a problem at all.
I would say the mayor point is to be open about limits with every player and to accept a common ground. For us its a fade to black if one of the characters decides to hook up.
But we do play flirt scenes since they could be a scheme to get something or open up a potential change with an NPC.
But thats really changing from group to group. I have one where nearly nothing ever happens and another where 2 player try to get the next guy or girl in each town.
There is no correct way to play DnD. Your campaign isn't required to have romance or anything as long as everyone that's playing is happy.
That "and I eat aa potato chip" reference killed me 😂
It made me facepalm, groan, cringe, and hate the fact I unironically used the word cringe.
I have no choice but to respect the heck out of Crispy for earning that response from me.
@@ArcCaravan that was a long hidden core memory getting dragged out into the light lol
I f*cking LOST IT 🤣 on the Death Note reference
The last story definitely has me appreciating each of my DMs more. I will give them npcs and they will stick to the key points I give them regarding them, especially if they are important to my character and their backstory or dynamic. I actually look forward to seeing how they take what I give them and transform it without losing what we discuss. It’s nice. I like collaboration. It’s why I joined the dnd hobby. That’s just something I personally like to do, collaborate over an idea and create something.
Ace no longer story. This is what I hate about skill checks. Some DM's/ GM's use them as mind control. Things like Persuasion are only supposed to nudge an NPC to your way of thinking IF they are on the fence about it. An example IIRC Guy at How to be a Great GM uses is a Royal Guard that has been ordered to let NO ONE into the throne room. It doesn't matter how GOOD your Persuasion roll is, that guard is not letting you thru that door. Some one who is dead set against doing or agreeing to something is not going to do so just because you made a good Roll on a Persuasion check.
I'd set the DC at 100+. With disadvantage. And a Divination Wizards portent forcing the roll to fail.
I'd say with examples like the guard, if you fail the persuasion, you're suspicious to the guard and not getting in. If you succeed, you aren't suspicious and you're still not getting in.
The backstory destruction was really sad. I personally would've had it either be a random ship or have it be Bard's and have it where his crew isn't on there with a survivor that tells how they came across the vessel mysteriously abandoned and provides clues for the next bit.
Also, you aren't a gremlin. You are adorable!
That last story was reminiscent of a horror story i went through with a DM that wanted to take a game of 2e and turn it into a fantasy dating sim. While i got away relatively free, one of the other players was railroaded into a relationship with a guy that was more than uncomfortably similar to her old abuser.
I feel so bad for her, I hope she left
Had a GM pull that backstory culling trick, our party was put in magical stasis, 200 years of world progression ensured even the elven characters family was gone.
The DEATH NOTE SKIT!? I’m dead
Support casters (of all varieties) will absolutely wreck the best-laid of DM plans in all the best ways. Even more than players generally. Some of my favorite moments as a DM ended with "let's run a bit of a side quest so I can completely rewrite the next arc before next week's session."
First story: Honestly, after the third time, I would've given the link to the GM to "Let me Google that for you" for 'OnlyFans, Golden showers', and then left.
Second story: Man, this group looks awesome. Not just the GM investment and the player creativity, but those house rules about Doing a Thing are brilliant.
Third story: Yeah, if you as a GM don't want a lot of background characters intro'ed via player backstories, that's something you need to communicate to them.
Fourth story: Blerg. Ick.
Fifth story (part one): Okay, this could be funny as hell in a comedic fantasy movie. Having the big confrontation suddenly get pre-empted by a never-before character who apparently also has some personal beef with the Big Bad would be a perfect subversion. Doing it in a game, unless you've laid a lot of groundwork, both in and out of the campaign, is just an asshat move.
Fifth story (Part two): Okay, that's gross as always. Overriding a character's design with "persuasion rolls' is just wrong, and clearly way over the line.
Fifth story (Part three): Yeah, no. I'm out.
no because I got so invested in Seth, the character of the last story and his sister, and the other dude absolutely destroyed so much time and effort put into those awesome characters I am so mad in the dude's behalf
Not even 5 seconds into the video and the stories are already super weird, I think we have a new record.
The player outsmarting the situation and the DM accepting that is an epic win for me. Since when I DM I allways accept that and like it if my player are able to find a better solution.
But since my group tends to find such things here and there I lernt to allways have a rough idea of the followup session so I can carry on in such cases.
I’m going to assume that the sorcerer was playing an earlier version of DND, because that’s a lot of spells that require concentration.
I’m pretty sure it was mentioned in the story that they were playing 3.5
I was thinking the exact same thing!
Yeah, that part had me wondering about concentration spells until remembering it's not 5e.
That random death note skit that just showed up in the middle of the story, oh my GODS. XD
It was the best lmao😂
As a Demi, i would have to have a deeeeeep connection as friends before ANY romantic relationship would form, this would be reflected in my characters too. romantic/sexual relations right off the bat is a huge NO for me.
The full body cringe I got when you said GOT season 8 was the pinnacle of storytelling even though I am fully aware that it was a joke
It’s the pinnacle of storytelling….gone wrong
@@charminsi Beating the bell curve is like that.
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God hearing these stories, I’m always grateful for the DM I have. He’s such a wonderful character, he’s talented, creative, funny, inventive, and just an overall great guy.
The death note reference had me dying
"Do The Thing" - that's utterly gorgeous! Glad everyone involved enjoyed it rather than it turning into a source of contention. Players are going to surprise GMs. I've done it to GMs, I've had players do it to me, I've been in games where one of the other players was the one to come up with the "game-breaking" wild idea. It happens. It's only a horror story when people get bent out of shape or it's done maliciously as a "Imma make this goddamn GM suffer" thing.
And Crispy's dead right: all those things that were prepared can just turn up elsewhere, most likely with very little tweaking.
dude your channel is BY FAR the slickest reddit-reading channel i have ever seen, keep up the good work
For that last one? I'd just take those characters and find a new DM who will treat them right and give your characters the story they deserve. Honestly I'd do that for the pirate one too. Then again, I've never had a D&D group that lasted long enough to see the end of a story, and I know campaigns can go for a LONG time, and people want to try new characters and ideas, but like, I guess what I mean is that if you have a concept you REALLY loved and it basically just got thrown in the trash, find a way to repurpose that idea- whether that's in a new D&D group, or just a story you write yourself, or whatever else.
One of my FAVORITE characters I ever made was a D&D character I played when my brother briefly tried to start a group with my family- my dad was NOT into it, so I think we got through Curse of Strahd (which my brothers and I pretty much already knew cause we got pulled into D&D from listening to The Adventure Zone lol) and as we just barely started into the next arc, my dad dipped out, and then my mom figured she had other stuff she could be doing, which left me and my two brothers- one of whom was the DM. So that fell apart. But I REALLY liked this character, and I barely got to play her, so when my friends wanted to do a oneshot at a Friendsgiving party, I decided I'd bring her out. I had been fleshing out her backstory a ton, and started developing her family and all THEIR stories, and giving her character flaws and possible antagonists from her past I thought could be really interesting to delve into (more for a longer session, but when I was working on her I honestly didn't expect I'd have an opportunity to use her again, it was more for fun), so I was really excited. Unfortunately, while the story was fantastic, and our DM was amazing, the personalities of our PCs didn't really mesh very well- and then we ran out of time before ACTUALLY finishing the story. Like we fought the Big Bad and then had to end before any resolution. We'd planned on popping on Discord and finishing it up, but schedules didn't work and everyone just kinda dropped it. So I STILL have this character that I never got to utilize, and in the meantime I just keep working on her more and more. I'm not sure if/when I'll get another opportunity to be a part of a D&D campaign (I bought a set of VERY pretty dice that just sort of sit on the shelf) so for now I've toyed with the idea of just writing a story for her on my own, and when BG3 came out I decided to play her in a multiplayer game with some of my friends. It's not quite the same as getting to use her in a big campaign, but it DEFINITELY feels better than just seething over not getting to play her The Right Way.
I'm a player in a party that's pretty much the opposite of the 1st/2nd story. Like we're all dumb. We had to try to pry open a box and none of us had a knife on us and we failed any strength checks. We were desperate until the DM reminded us that we were in a kitchen, and there were knives lying around EVERYWHERE.
You can't un-ace.
Also, I love your skits. They're hilarious😂
I would love to be a part of a D&D session with the Asexual Siblings. I'm oddly fascinated with the ace spectrum. It's because I'm Pan and I'm legitimately curious about my polar opposite.
But I would feel weird about asking an actual ace person questions just to satisfy my curiosity. I have autism and ADHD, so I can sometimes miss social cues. The last thing I want is to make someone uncomfortable as I make them my new hyperfixation. Holding a clipboard and pen, noting down information like they're some newly discovered creature.
Having the opportunity to explore my curiosity in a socially acceptable nerdy way would be sweet lol
Persuasion rolls means you can convince someone to do something they would be willing to do given the circumstances of the roll. You cannot persuasion to ask for the king to give up his kingdom but you can persuasion him to lend your father on trial mercy because you can convince him that benevolence is good for him. It's the persuasiveness of your argument, not your ability to ask for what you want and get it. You can't persuade an ace person to fall in love with you(or anyone for that matter, not just ace people), because that's both not something they're interested in and it's not a thing they're willing to do in that circumstance. You could maybe convince an ace or aro person to kiss you when they aren't attracted to you but that's not them being persuasioned into not being ace or aro and now having attraction towards you but a potentially unwilling or even assualting negotiation as a cost benefit equation. It's not love, it's manipulation. Or just reenacting friends with benefits in a fun way that you have to get both parties to agree to or else you are just engaging in sexual harrasment and possible assault.
Honestly, the more I watch crispy, the more I want to chill in destiny with them
It reminds me how I made ace bard. Once she had a strong bond of trust with her roommate, the DM would make remarks how weird their relationship is and she's no longer sce ever since she got married. 😢
I love having my players create NPCs for their back stories. it makes it feel more like they are a real part of the world and that we have created it together. I can't imagine just offing the whole lot of them or fundamentally changing them in a way that goes directly against what was created.
I was running two campaigns with the timeline only off by a couple months between C1 and C2. C1 fell apart (that is its own story) but they had already uncovered some key information towards a world changing event. It was supposed to be the BBEG for C1, and since the campaign fell apart I decided to just let the events play out.
C2 was running a few months behind, but they ended up moving in the direction of where the previous group had been. They started finding some of the same clues. However they decided to go off in another direction since they had their own goals, and didn't realize how big of an issue it would be. (I will add one player knew, as she played in both campaigns, but she didn't use that out of game info).
Through this all I had seriously looked at every location that was important to them, every NPC they created or that they really liked and considered where they were, and how they could have survived. I looked at who was expendable as well so there was some loss but that it would not feel cheap having a beloved character die off screen.
In the last session they just found out the mother of one of the npc love interests died and now they have created a quest for trying to find her body to ressurect her. I was still worried about even that. I cant imagine just getting rid of everyone!
“Can’t play Strahd without going to Barovia” reminds me of either here or one one of the other Channels, maybe Doge, about a Fallout game that the players refused to play.
Now, by that I mean they refused to leave the Vault until the DM had Consequence smash in in the form of the Enclave (if you know, you know) and got *mad* at the DM for _playing the game._
If you know anything about Fallout, you know the game happens outside the Vault. You can’t stay there forever.
That second story reminds me of my players, they frequently come up with solutions that wouldn't have crossed my mind as a possibility. I try to have a couple of sessions roughly planned, or something I can pull out at a moments notice, just incase they completely avoid/defuse a situation I'd thought would be much more involved.
I do say no to some things that wouldn't make sense, but by and large I roll with whatever they come up with/the dice favour.
Omg that sketch with the potato chip was too good😂😂😂
Imagine metanarratively cosbying an NPC critical to one of your players' backstory and then trying to imply that it wasn't your fault.
In my short campaign, the only sexuality I had was either played for comedy (ie. the nudist lesbian gnome who was a high priestess for a dryad goddess & took ‘worship’ very seriously) or player directed (a kind half-orc NPC a named Forge that the Warlock was like ‘can I ask him out?’)
Everything else was fairly aromantic and asexual because, Imma be honest, unless we talk about it, I don’t want to flirt with my friends too much. One of the other players were trying to push the Wizard into flirting with an NPC for information (twice) and I had to shut that down, first as the NPC (“I literally said I was looking for an item for my GIRLFRIEND”) and then the second OOC (“the lesbian gnome is here for comedy, if our wizard doesn’t want to flirt with her, don’t force her to. Her player and character are both straight, and neither her nor I want to roleplay this.”)
I’m Bi but on the ace spectrum and the great thing about TTRPGs is the freedom of them. But goddamn let people have boundaries!
I'm Ace, and and if a DM or storymaster tried that with me, combat that doesn't require dice would begin immediately.
You can't un-Ace
Story 4 does not surprise me. Personal space and feelings gets ignored in real life for ace/aro people like me all the time, why would it be any different in DND, since ‘it’s just a game’ excuse could be so easily dropped?
You can't un-ACE!
Your voice is great and I listen to you while I work. I love the skits, too, and often turn away from work just to watch them when they come up in a vid. :)
As an asexual. That's absolutely fucking disgusting. I don't like sex, I hate sexual activities. Someone being very persuasive isn't gonna make me want sex. Because I KNOW I do NOT like it. So why would it be any different for a character? Especially when the creator of said character said that the character wouldn't have sex.
The Death Note potato chip reference was great 😂
Fr i was laughing so hard😂😂😂
No, it still makes sense that even an abused child would want to forgive their father. It is one of the most tragic things I ever heard of that yes some children do grow up resenting their abusive fathers, but many more still grow up still longing for some connection (or both). It is why I have a even stronger gripe against abusive parents.
Oh my God, the Whizzard meme as the intro story.
dare you enter his Magical Realm?
So glad my party (players and dms alike) is made up of ace-spec people; makes me feel like I really dodged a bullet sometimes, hearing these stories 😅
That first story has some *powerful* "writer's poorly hidden fetish" energy
Oh I can't stand the player's important NPC being killed "offscreen" like that! Just started a new 4e campaign and most of my players have given me amazing NPCs to work with. 💜These are indispensable tools in a DMs toolbox, not randomly disposable characters. >:(
I love your skits sm 😭 They are so good lmao
I love the "Do A Thing" story!! I want to be a DM in the future, and what I've learned from stories like that, is you've got to expect the party to have outside the box ideas, and have backup plans.
For a campaign I want to hold, the BBG will be a "I will only die to a worthy opponent!" type deal (inspired by the Spiderman 2 BBG) and if they kill them with stupid means, the BBG will get so angry, and curse whoever was the cause, out of spite. I don't know what exactly, but I'll save the curse for the actual thing.
As an Ace person, the last story brought to mind all the BS I've put up with due to being Ace. "You just haven't found the right person yet" "it's just a phase" "I bet I can fix you"
Thing is, I'm married (I'm biro). I have met the person I want to spend the rest of my life with. But that doesn't change that I'm Ace. it doesn't magically "fix" my s*xual attraction. Ace is part of my core being. it doesn't change. And in D&D persuasion can't make someone do something that goes against the core of their very being. A nat 20 can't change whether a character is open to something they would never be open to.
On the ACE story: dump the DM, dump the campaign, and dump the boyfriend, too. The DM screwed up with that "the rolls are too good," but the boyfriend was the one rolling the dice in the first place. To which I would say why would he be doing that?
The easy way to save the story about dead crew of the ship is just to make them into ghosts that are hunting the ship the moment the player's character retuned to the ship. And create story from this.
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"Gee, an epic RPG where you have to collect 4 treasures of the elements.
Never heard that one before... *slowly picks up Final Fantasy for the NES*"
One time I got into an argument with my DM about my character who is asexual. I mentioned that the charm spell would not work on him because the spell specifically says that the person casting it has to be of a gender that the pc is normally attracted too. He didn't like that very much and said that if someone casted it on him he would have it work. After a few questions he specified that if it was a woman casting the spell it would work and if it were a man then it would not. I called him homophobic and he said that if I kept arguing with him then he would have it work no matter what the gender of the person casting the spell was. I stared at him in disbelief for a second before pausing to think and then told him that I wasn't comfortable playing at his table anymore. I was about to rip up my character sheet and everyone at the table freaked out and practically begged me to stay in the campaign. They managed to convince me. I wish they hadn't. Worst party I ever played with.
@Thatsnotgonnawork You're right the argument was over love potions not the charm spell I remembered wrong.
That was a lot of Concentration spells used all at once in the Gith story.
That was a great plan, but not actually possible if the spells are following the normal rules.
...I immediately thought of the Jewel Shards in Inuyasha. LOL. But yes. Collecting parts of One Big Thingy is common in ficton. How 'bout them Infinity Stones?
Unrelated to any of the stories but I am loving your lipstick
It’s crazy how (and I know asexuality is more of a lack of sex drive and not being bad at romantic relationships) an asexual rat has more “know how” of how to be a good partner than other people, godDAMN that guy that guy that was posting his son story about how he won’t be able to date Gini was so incredibly cringe I can’t believe that shit 🤦♂️
Maybe because they're not interested in sex they look for other thing important in a relationship.
Asexuality isn't as simple as a lack of a sex drive - many people don't lack a sex drive, but that doesn't mean they have an interest in actual bodily smashing. It's about attraction, not level of horny. Further, aromantic is split from asex so people can be romantic and partnered, but not want to or actively be turned off from booty slaps.
I'm still curious if that's a common thing, simply because for us aces, one thing that's a huuuge part of relationships for most non-aces just isn't that much of a thing and so there is quite the gap to fill in, which we fill in with non-sexual meaningful stuff usually
@@LucRio448I feel like in any GOOD relationship they don't look for sex. Friends I have who aren't ace don't look for someone for sex they look for someone that they can spend time with and get along with and that will validate them and listen to them. There's honestly not much of a difference in an asexual vs sexual relationship. (Other than sex ofc but I know for a lot of people sex isn't something they even do because they'd rather just hang out)
@@seafairyclipsOkay now I kinda hope if I ever date someone again, it'd be someone who is part of your friend group. Because while most people I know do not date just BECAUSE of sex, they still agree that sex is an important part of a relationship. And honestly, if it wasn't an important thing to most people, I doubt people would even discuss the frequency of sex in their relationship really. I've never heard anyone complain about not getting takeout pizza often enough in a relationship after all or their partner not wearing green shirts often enough for their liking.
Honestly, when I hear about LGBT characters or even non-LGBT characters getting manipulated or converted in some way by other characters , it just makes me want to hear the same thing happen to that player's character.
" Oh, you're playing a straight character? Not anymore, the roles were too good, so your character got converted." like? HOW DOES THAT EVEN MAKE SENSE?!
D&D is based off of a narrative, and game mechanics are just there to give it structure. Don't corrupt one by manipulating another.
H god, I've had a DM like Rick before. He's blatantly admits that his games "an excuse to tell his story and the players to follow along" and gets butthurt when we don't act the way he thinks our characters should act. I'm glad I've left and never looked back
Okay! So when you're running Curse of Strahd, and your party decides to "outsmart" you, by refusing to enter Barovia, just let them "win." Que up the outro music, blare it on full blast, and start narrating an "epic epilogue" for all their characters and the few NPCs they've interacted with.
I love how the occasional feel good story is squeezed into these episodes.
You can't un-ace, you can't un-gay; you can't un-straight. Just respect people.
More games need "the Red Rule" that Exalted uses. Any player may declare any given (or all) seduction to be "unacceptable influence" for their character, without needing to give a reason, and the GM can do the same for any NPC.
You can't un-ace - and OP needs to stop playing with Rick
The real life TPK: Scheduling conflicts.
Considering that Berovia in curse of Strad. Is covered in a mist that you can enter, but you can’t leave. And all of the other horror aspects of it.
I think it would actually work if you treated Berova like Silent Hill.
You don’t necessarily have to go there you can just find yourself there.
@@emberfist8347 but if you want to make Berovia like silent Hill.
Then you would have to destroy all evil creatures there and then absolve every citizen of their sins.
At that point, I think it would be faster just to kill Strad
love your content , as a new dnd player i found these videos very helpful!!
If a DM or player tries to force a strong charisma roll on you to romance your character, that is ace or not interested in their gender, ask them if they could be persuaded to make out with someone from agender they aren't interested in. And even if they don't get it, don't allow it. No DnD is better than whatever this is.
Halfway through the story, but that sorcerer cast every single concentration spell in his arsenal at the same time, didn't he 🤣
I love your videos so much!!! The takes you have are so spot on that it keeps me on the right path as a DM
11:00 "Hello, my name is Inigo Montoya. You killed my father. Prepare to die."