He says he just wants to be friends

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  • @DatingLogic
    @DatingLogic  3 ปีที่แล้ว

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  • @lazulihills2901
    @lazulihills2901 5 ปีที่แล้ว +170

    Men go after and attach to who they want. If they really like you and are ready for a relationship they don't say that kind of crap.

    • @bosa5315
      @bosa5315 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      a lot of people get sulationship confuse with relationship. A relationship is something you build.

  • @blitzkrieg6872
    @blitzkrieg6872 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    He says he "just wants to be friends" because he is not afraid of taking that risk. It is a risk he took by saying that to you. He has openly rejected you and he knows it. He was not afraid to reject you, because he is not interested in you the way you want him to be. If he was, he would not openly reject you and thus, risk losing you. He doesn't mind losing you, because you are not and will never be what he truly wants. I am not saying this to be harsh or hurt you. I am saying this, because you need to know the truth and stop wasting your time. "I just want to be friends" if a euphamism for "I am not attracted to you".

    • @Goodwillwinoverevil1984
      @Goodwillwinoverevil1984 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I wish men were less judgemental and picky. Especially over things I (or we as people) cannot control!! Such as race, age, disability, economic status!, etc. I wonder how they would feel if WE did those things to them!

  • @lazulihills2901
    @lazulihills2901 5 ปีที่แล้ว +83

    Too much energy is spent trying to figure out "what he meant," a man worth his salt will be clear about his feelings and won't let you be left feeling insecure or unsure. So don't waste energy guessing what other people mean.

  • @johannalittleman7495
    @johannalittleman7495 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    It's best to move on. Don't waste time. This would be another waste of time. If a person is looking for a relationship this is not the one. I would move on.

  • @kashmere533
    @kashmere533 6 ปีที่แล้ว +110

    I give up I’m not waiting on him I’m going to get the chance to get an actual relationship if he likes me he shouldn’t do this to me

    • @prettynatural1973
      @prettynatural1973 5 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Kashmere exactly I blocked mine now he has zero access. They are looking for something better but want us too with no commitment. Act like we in a relationship but friends get the fuck outta here

    • @ranip7644
      @ranip7644 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @amanda kenya You're kind of a jerk huh?

    • @alvaniquegaitor3709
      @alvaniquegaitor3709 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@prettynatural1973 its so annoying i dont have time to waste i already have friends and aint want no more..

    • @goodra999
      @goodra999 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @Kenya Girly then why would they lead the girl on?

  • @Lanayabb
    @Lanayabb 6 ปีที่แล้ว +85

    He’s probably just not interested and don’t know how to tell you without hurting your feelings. He cares because he suggested that you guys should be friends because if he didn’t then he’ll continue to string you along and give mixed emotions.

  • @Sage_marie_acpc
    @Sage_marie_acpc ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Doesn’t want to lead me on to hurt me.
    Bc he knows I’m a good person.

  • @jjamez6151
    @jjamez6151 6 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    Every men i have been with said in the beginning that he just wanted to be friends. But it always end up in a relationships.

    • @stephaniehylton7428
      @stephaniehylton7428 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Do you feel because the pressure was off and you were cool and calm has the friend?

    • @victorialsaint9046
      @victorialsaint9046 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Let's see on my situation. After 1 year he told me hes not ready for some reason in his private life. I told him I can't be friend. He beg for to keep Comunication on friendship level. I pull back.. I'm. Sick of his attitude 🙄. Hope I. Over this soon

    • @badfairyy
      @badfairyy 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @J Jamez 💯💯

    • @Goodwillwinoverevil1984
      @Goodwillwinoverevil1984 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Wow you're lucky. I could never get a man who just wanted friendship to lead into more. You must be someone special. Good for you.

  • @Weird_Trick_0302
    @Weird_Trick_0302 11 ปีที่แล้ว +122

    so basically, the guy isn't interested in you and he doesn't want to hurt your feelings so he says "let's just be friends?"

    • @underxratedxrage
      @underxratedxrage 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @Miss Jay Leigh are you guys still friends? Or has anything changed? I don't know if I should remain friends with him or not.. I started to really care for him. I think he's honestly just not ready

    • @1MikuFan
      @1MikuFan 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      @@underxratedxrage Don’t be friends with somebody you secretly wish to be more than friends with. If you hope he’ll change his mind, you’re being friends for the wrong reasons.

    • @adrianchico8886
      @adrianchico8886 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      In other words what that typically means he’s not interested in the girl romantically

    • @xaveragekid
      @xaveragekid ปีที่แล้ว

      ​@@underxratedxragesame

  • @gabriellecarlson2021
    @gabriellecarlson2021 7 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    This really helped me understand his point of view

  • @Sage_marie_acpc
    @Sage_marie_acpc ปีที่แล้ว +5

    We don’t have to be anything serious okay, I’m here as a friend okay. Life happens.

  • @successfulblack5396
    @successfulblack5396 9 ปีที่แล้ว +73

    U should make longer videos u have a lot of good points. i was just upset it was over to soon.

  • @nuenuebadd
    @nuenuebadd 8 ปีที่แล้ว +52

    What if he say's he wants to be friends first and see how things go, wanting to build a relationship on friendship first. I feel like you can become friends and date at the same time.

    • @Joy_M507
      @Joy_M507 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      That’s the boat I’m currently in 😖 So hard to understand what he really wants.

    • @priyankamarriapm5282
      @priyankamarriapm5282 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      ​@@Joy_M507 first he want relation then when i agreed he pull back wanna be frnd saying blah blah stuff what is this i did not get a closure

    • @Joy_M507
      @Joy_M507 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@priyankamarriapm5282 Hi! The exact same thing happened to me! He ended it with me after I asked “what are we?” We had been dating almost four months so I naturally asked. He had been treating me like a girlfriend, saying he sees all the qualities he wants in a wife in me; so when I asked when would we become official, he said he wasn’t feeling it and just wanted to be friends! Of course, he never remained friends with me and went ghost. I have absolutely no idea why he did this! His past reflects he has commitment issues and fear of missing out, so that may be why. No closure is closure for me. I just look at it as I dodged a bullet with him. I hope you’re doing well! 😊

    • @hellomellow4265
      @hellomellow4265 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Joy_M507I just want things to go back to the way they were smh I’m the one that messed up, I let my feelings get in the way and was acting hot and cold and very childish for the third time. 😫 it’s been five days but we have talked for all those days it’s just that we went from waking up talking to going to bed talking, and now he only talks to me when I’m at work smh I really wanna talk to someone I really really like him and I really really miss him I don’t want to loose him.

  • @NoMoreTears64
    @NoMoreTears64 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    OR he never really wanted a relationship in the first place but wanted just sex. I met a guy online. We texted a few days getting acquainted. We seemed to be on the same page until day 3 when every other text was a physical nature. "Did you wear a bikini at the pool today" (Im 64 and he is 69!)
    "You have 3 things i like :you're pretty, have boobs, and have hips.
    When i said I wanted to continue to get to know each other as people first his immediate response was
    "I dont think we are right for each other, but we can still be friends ".
    That caused me to question in my mind "define friends ", but instead I just blocked him. He was correct. NOT what i am looking for. A man who is almost 70 years old should KNOW how to get to know a woman respectfully and date her. We are from a different generation so that makes this even MORE disrespectful.

    • @Anonymissus
      @Anonymissus หลายเดือนก่อน

      that is a disrespectful old man, I've seen people be respectful and disrespectful, respect and disrespect isn't something defined by age (upbringing has to play a part in this)

  • @melinademinova5417
    @melinademinova5417 5 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    He thinks he can do better and until he finds someone he thinks is *BETTER* he will say. lets be friends.and then he can keep you for entertainment to cry over your shoulder discuss his gf problems. Is that what you want??? SAY NO. die but say NO.Id rather die from pain than accept his friendship.how yill you women feel after he starts mentooning about his current gf or exes. If thats ok with you then go with it. I cannot trust.

  • @jazlynlo9207
    @jazlynlo9207 3 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    So basically im too much women for him💀

  • @Sage_marie_acpc
    @Sage_marie_acpc ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I’m here as a friend okay- don’t worry about texting me. You have your life to focus on and all the things you are dealing with.

  • @cfacia6045
    @cfacia6045 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    You are a wise man!!!!

  • @nattybaby2009
    @nattybaby2009 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    What you're explaining is exactly what just happened to me...I can't be friends

  • @kingfreedom1863
    @kingfreedom1863 5 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Means he don't want to date her

  • @heather4089
    @heather4089 5 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    That is exactly that one of my friends (male) told me. That he got scared.

  • @feLdct
    @feLdct 5 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Ex came back🙄 but he says hes not ready.

  • @kayleecole4512
    @kayleecole4512 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Why does he wanna be friends and talk to me if he knows I love him but he doesn’t feel the same way? He says he really cares about me but why doesn’t he just block me? It’s so hard for me to let go, move on and forget about him. It’s been over 6 months since I started having a soft spot for him and he’s my best friend

  • @AlexLaIndia
    @AlexLaIndia 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My daughter step dad walked out on us he said he just wants us to be friends and if I can let him still be my daughters daddy...she said no until he can be nice and treat us both the same way love and care for us both she doesn't want him around if he can't do that

  • @pujithavelivela7429
    @pujithavelivela7429 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    So like there's this guy who was really nice to me and like really did seem romantically interested in me for like the first two to three weeks. He would tell me about his day and asked me questions about myself and all the signs. Then all of a sudden he stopped texting me and acting interested. So like I started getting anxious and eventually couldn't handle it anymore and told him. He said he wasn't ready for a relationship, and he said that he wanted to keep the friendship since we really didn't have a good dynamic. But then he just stopped trying to engage with me much anymore, does he want to keep the friendship or not?

    • @Anonymissus
      @Anonymissus หลายเดือนก่อน

      I think he's trying to keep his emotional distance (for some people they need physical distance to do that) so he'll be able to keep the friendship and not risk feelings (maybe he's trying to keep himself from getting too attached?)

  • @RobboYTQ
    @RobboYTQ 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Or maybe he just wants to be friends, because he sees you as a friend and not in a romantic way, lol

    • @playwithyobih-x2x
      @playwithyobih-x2x 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

      False! Men dont need women as friends when they hVe female family members and male friends 😂

  • @underxratedxrage
    @underxratedxrage 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Do you have a video explaining more so about a guy not being ready. I heard that "not being ready" is just an excuse and not really what's going on.

  • @asmaal9972
    @asmaal9972 6 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    This Always happens to me

  • @musicgirl999
    @musicgirl999 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thanks for making this. I just got rejected by a guy I’d met twice and had been chatting with for about 2 weeks or so. I have a feeling he coulda pulled away and called things off because of me coming off a little heavy with the texting rather quick. But at the same time, I can also tell you that when he and I first met in person, physical affection developed quickly and we did have our first kiss at the end of the night. We also met a couple nights later.
    So when he texted me yesterday calling things off, he was of course very honest and genuine, and strongly offered friendship and to hang out platonically.
    So maybe apart from me coming off heavy and strong with the texting maybe at the same time he felt like he began to develop affection too hard too fast and got scared? I know I didn’t know him for long but I really feel we could have had so much potential.
    Let me know your thoughts.

  • @johannalittleman7495
    @johannalittleman7495 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I just got a text message and this guy said, "I want a relationship where we are friends." He said before he likes me and now I get this message. I'm confused🤔

    • @johannalittleman7495
      @johannalittleman7495 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @Kings dominion enthusiast exactly true. I don't know if this guy has a girl or not. I'm not sure

  • @cierradunbar435
    @cierradunbar435 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This guy and I we're friends in college. We hung out a couple times then he texts me and says "Don't take this the wrong way, but we're not going to kick it anymore, we're two different people?" Yet, he still follows me on Snapchat after I deleted him and watched my story.

    • @myyoutubechannel3161
      @myyoutubechannel3161 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      omg im going thru the same exact situation you are going thru, any update? ?

    • @1MikuFan
      @1MikuFan 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Watching your story isn’t the same as courting you.

  • @khuizaliz7335
    @khuizaliz7335 8 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    so what is the next step? do we remain friends and just slowly/casually lead him into a relationship, or do we just give it up totally?

    • @Bacchante
      @Bacchante 6 ปีที่แล้ว +39

      Walk away.

    • @mcgil8891
      @mcgil8891 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      😂

    • @thejoshsings9280
      @thejoshsings9280 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@Bacchante
      And go on with your life.

  • @denicecaballero1231
    @denicecaballero1231 9 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    I've been inlove with my guy besfriend for 3 years now. He treats me like his girlfriend tho. but when i confessed to him a month ago, he said that he just wants to be friends and that he doesn't feel anything for me BUT he really care for me. And then last week, he confessed to me that he really like me since the day we met until now. i know he's not lying. i just don't know if we can be more than bestfriends. Can you help me? thanks so much in advance!

  • @tem4029
    @tem4029 5 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    When he says "let's just be friends."
    *He hates me*

  • @sitha9667
    @sitha9667 8 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    Hi, Your video really helps me feel a lot better. A few days a go my boyfriend asked me to be just friends after we have been in a relationship for only 3 months. He told me that he was scared that he would hurt me one day, but I just do not get it why he feels that way if he loves me. He said sometimes he was excited, sometimes scared and confused because he doesn't know what he wants. He does not want to break up because he does not want to lose me, but he also does not want to continue the relationship. In this case what should I do? Please give me an advice. Thanks

    • @K-latte711
      @K-latte711 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      srey pov Ou same thing happened to me Im curious to know what we should do.

    • @livkoorbs7163
      @livkoorbs7163 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      srey pov Ou same

    • @jennnnilee
      @jennnnilee 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      srey pov Ou Same. 4 months in and happened today.

    • @aralina007
      @aralina007 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      7 months later same things happened to me

    • @reetasharma119
      @reetasharma119 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      srey pov Ou to

  • @diamond280ww6
    @diamond280ww6 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    But the guy I liked said "I can't say I feel the same things would just be better off as friends you know?"

  • @msdjones30
    @msdjones30 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Nothing wrong with being friends. Friends make the best lovers 😍🥳🥰

    • @lupsy54
      @lupsy54 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      What do you mean? Lol

  • @thlove205
    @thlove205 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Well he wants to be friends after a year of intimate encounters but still calls me babe, says we’re identical and tells me to cover up ‘cause its hard to control himself

    • @pacifist_SA
      @pacifist_SA 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      He's just using you

    • @1MikuFan
      @1MikuFan 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      He’s a loser! Friends don’t disrespect or use you.

  • @Ketee25
    @Ketee25 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Just love you sis

  • @meggdavie8811
    @meggdavie8811 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I dates this guy we broke up twice he messaged me and it seemed like we were going to get back together he said he still loves me.. and THEN he hit me with HE JUST WANTS TO BE FRIENDS FOR NOW the fuck is that meaning

  • @LunarMarie
    @LunarMarie 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    You actually did a good job with this. Everyone else on TH-cam just assumed the guys an ass without any logic on his side of the story.
    What should you say or do when a guy says this though?

    • @DieynabaNduwayo
      @DieynabaNduwayo 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      same thing lets be friend

    • @viennala2528
      @viennala2528 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@DieynabaNduwayo lmao 😂

    • @DieynabaNduwayo
      @DieynabaNduwayo 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@viennala2528 i swear that what i told him too period

    • @johannalittleman7495
      @johannalittleman7495 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      He friend zone you. I would move on. It's a waste of time. No time to waste on someone who just wants to be friends. It's a lost cause

  • @MsChantae
    @MsChantae 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    good video. you went easy on us LOL

  • @jessicaduran9131
    @jessicaduran9131 8 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    hi @datinglogic, my exboyfriend got scared, dumped me, returned a month later. when he returned he said he wanted to be "above the friend line but below the boyfriend line". i ended things but now i have second thoughts. did i make a mistake by letting him go?

    • @daluckyprincess
      @daluckyprincess 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Jessica Duran sounds like he wants to be friends with benefits

    • @jimin6597
      @jimin6597 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Maybe you should ask him " for what?"

    • @Bacchante
      @Bacchante 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      He just wanted to use you and he thinks he can get away with it.
      Walk away and do you, boo

    • @viennala2528
      @viennala2528 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I agree, he returned cause he wanted sex

    • @nathbaklawa5304
      @nathbaklawa5304 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      No you were right

  • @MsGodwitness
    @MsGodwitness 11 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you so Much Wow True talk

  • @candacenewman3902
    @candacenewman3902 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    that's basically what my boyfriend said. he is not ready, he dont like being tied down lets be friends for now.

  • @jojohanna217
    @jojohanna217 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    +he asked me to please fall out of love with him....
    How can I do that so easily..

  • @kiamiller5589
    @kiamiller5589 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Great video..!!!

  • @KimoSpice
    @KimoSpice 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great video but the feeling still kinda sucks

  • @michaelmyers4429
    @michaelmyers4429 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I told my crush today that I like him and he said I think we could be good friends I don't know how to respond to that because idk if he ment it or he will like me in the future..

    • @1MikuFan
      @1MikuFan 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Men are actually pretty simple… if he says he wants to be friends, it just means he wants to be friends. I’d say don’t go through with the friendship if you’ll secretly want it to turn into a relationship. That could crush your esteem if nothing changes.

  • @jojohanna217
    @jojohanna217 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    He told me this because of his religion and I don't know if I can believe him..

  • @natashafarid5584
    @natashafarid5584 10 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Hy boyfriend just told me that they I take care for him so good like cook clean his clothes and am always there for him In good time and bad time to yesterday's come home and told me you are just my friend not my roommate or my wife you take care of me so good and now I want to have space of my on i don't want to break up with you we can huge out sometimes Wat dose he mean or want should I live him and start my life or I need help please.

  • @rachelfrazier3861
    @rachelfrazier3861 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you...

  • @yolandabrooksqueenofsevens
    @yolandabrooksqueenofsevens 7 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    that actually happened to me I met a guy online back in September of last year and we hung out constantly and then you know he would text me all the time we would text you know a lot and then he told me that he didn't want to be anything more than my friend we never kiss you know or anything like that either we still see each other sometimes and it's already I think 9 months and he still doing it no his text her slow down we did not see each other at all last month and it's June and his texts are still slow down what do I do

  • @imanicoble573
    @imanicoble573 ปีที่แล้ว

    Sometime we see red flags. So we friend zone them. (2 many babies)

  • @minnaevoloko7106
    @minnaevoloko7106 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    He doesn't want to have a relationship living in the flesh guys who are Christian and some who are not just wants to break up and be friends

  • @manitchamanitcha1954
    @manitchamanitcha1954 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    He is scared, why do I have to do ?

  • @Flavorsbyroma
    @Flavorsbyroma 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    What are you going to do when he is scared then

    • @manitchamanitcha1954
      @manitchamanitcha1954 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Same question

    • @Luna-rf2nz
      @Luna-rf2nz ปีที่แล้ว

      Walk away i reckon. That’s his issue he needs to fix on his own

  • @manitchamanitcha1954
    @manitchamanitcha1954 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Does he like me so ? ...

  • @abladeofgrass1003
    @abladeofgrass1003 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    String and whip.. string and whip.

  • @ilykali
    @ilykali ปีที่แล้ว

    this video is feeding into my delusions 😢

  • @spearmint4093
    @spearmint4093 8 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    So good to hear it doesnt have to do with the girl.. as in he is not into her.. just that he is scared, something came up (ex) or that he is not ready for me.. so he still wants to be firends at least.. but does that mean there is a chance for him to want more eventually?? PLEASE ANSWER

    • @mp345373
      @mp345373 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      i was dealing with the same thinggg

  • @margaretmccafferty2215
    @margaretmccafferty2215 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    We were close but not dating. We work together. everyone was talking about us so he backed off now he says he just wants to be friends. How do I deal with this when we work together?

  • @beatricedalisay2299
    @beatricedalisay2299 7 ปีที่แล้ว

    only friend but break up with me too late.

  • @royalbluesapphire218
    @royalbluesapphire218 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Hi I'm a boy

  • @rosemariemerzlak3856
    @rosemariemerzlak3856 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Waste of my time

  • @miss.charlene
    @miss.charlene 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    SPOT ON!!

  • @Joycelang2495
    @Joycelang2495 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Walk away

  • @redfather5342
    @redfather5342 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    What's wrong with just being friends

  • @myangelasha102
    @myangelasha102 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    He's dusty 🤧

  • @graceb5448
    @graceb5448 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    yes today 2019 Aug.11 he told me we are friend😭

  • @kristinajackson5862
    @kristinajackson5862 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You are describing weak, scary cat betas. They need God and women need God's guidance too, to know how to behave and not entertain flakes.